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| 3 | Meeting girls for the first time in college. Should I throw compliments their way to establish interest? Or focus more on just being friendly.No man. Forget telling them they are cute. soooo, I got a question. I'm REALLY bad at explaining things. Like I'll see a girl and be thinking "damn, she is cute" but if you where to ask me why, I wouldn't be able to tell you, at most I might be like "well, her glasses make her face look cute" , last time I checked "hey, I like your glasses" isn't really a turn on you know? So what if I legitimately can't think of something to complement her on? Its not that there isn't something, but my brain ju… | /r/seduction | 21/08/14 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Do most women just wait for a guy to show interest?Try half smiling or smirking. That is what I would do as it displays the most confidence. Half smiling is much easier to do genuinely. haha I'll try to do that more, but in the past ive always felt like I came across condescending or something when I did that, But I'll give it another go! | /r/seduction | 04/08/14 02:34 AM |
| 1 | Do most women just wait for a guy to show interest?so, then.....how do I say something, without saying it? (I'm sorry if this sounds really dumb, I'm honestly asking) | /r/seduction | 04/08/14 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Do most women just wait for a guy to show interest?you're not fake smiling, you're smiling because you've said something you find funny. while true keep this in mind, I'm a VERY reserved person. While on the up side it mean I very rarely loose my temper or cause a scene, it also means that I'm not very good at showing happiness. Ex: I remember when I was younger one christmas I got some gift from my parents that I absolutely loved and I was so excited to get it, but my parents were all like "do you like it" cas apparently I looked unhappy :/ . I… | /r/seduction | 04/08/14 12:26 AM |
| 1 | Do most women just wait for a guy to show interest?haha I give it a try, I really do, problem is I pretty much have the male version of bitchy resting face. (that said I tend to be attracted to girls who have bitchy resting face, for lack of a better term) so smiling in general is weird for me. Don't get me wrong I can fake smile, but lets be honest you can almost always tell when someone is fake smiling at you, like every cashier ever. So thats probably why :/. | /r/seduction | 03/08/14 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Do most women just wait for a guy to show interest?haha Ive tried it but I just get funny looks, I should probably add that I don't have a very good sense of humor (very dry) so they probably think I'm serious | /r/seduction | 03/08/14 10:37 PM |
| 4 | Do most women just wait for a guy to show interest?Now consider the friendly banter you'd have with closer friends. "The supermarket? sounds awesome bro <Rolls Eyes> <Cheeky grin>" ...... This is just how I talk to everyone, | /r/seduction | 03/08/14 10:29 PM |
| 11 | Do most women just wait for a guy to show interest?. >Flirt with girl > she flirts back > flirt more > she flirts more > Not op, but what exactly constitutes flirting? I never know, I just TALK when talking to a girl, just hold a conversation, I don't have the slightest Idea how to make it "flirting" instead of just 2 people hanging out talking. I like to assume most people (and women) like me, but honestly I'm probably wrong in that assessment so there is no way I know of to tell if a girl is flirting with me. | /r/seduction | 03/08/14 09:52 PM |
| 1 | What do you have that makes your interesting and gives you value that others don't?nothing :/ Actually I have a few things I like about myself, I just don't feel I'm good enough at them to merit bragging about them (play multiple instruments, majoring in composition, skateboard, I'm brutally honest, I want people to be brutally honest to me) | /r/seduction | 29/07/14 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Not sure if this goes here, but I need help, I have no social life at all.You might want to spend time closer to work. Like change jobs? Nope, just got a promotion, could possibly lead to something after I get out of college, and the work is SO much better than sitting in a shitty register or working customer service (been there, done that) The only solution I can see I go farther. Surrounding areas or cities. I don't have the gas, the closest city is over an hour away, and I'm in the biggest town in the area. | /r/seduction | 07/07/14 09:24 PM |
| 2 | Not sure if this goes here, but I need help, I have no social life at all.you might have to find a less toxic environment to meet people. Such as? There isn't much to do in my town. I float in this weird area where I really don't fit into any "cliques". What I mean is I really like playing video games, but can't stand gaming culture, I like shooting guns and stuff but don't have anything in common with the other people ive met doing that. I'm pretty religious but most of people my age in churchs in my area I tend to get along with, but we have NOTHING other than churc… | /r/seduction | 07/07/14 07:56 PM |
| 2 | Not sure if this goes here, but I need help, I have no social life at all.Have you tried dance lessons? Not any in my area that I can find (little college town of 60,000) I'd recommend going to parties, but not drinking I tried to find some parties to go to a while back, but I can't even find them lol, the only ones I ever know of are basically just excuses for people to get wasted. I really hate being around people while they are wasted. | /r/seduction | 07/07/14 07:16 PM |
| 2 | Not sure if this goes here, but I need help, I have no social life at all.several. I skate at one and rock climb at another. Though honestly none of them are in good parts of town, like "one guy got jumped for absolutely no reason by a mob of 20 kids " bad part of town.I go there ONLY when I know other people I skate/climb with are going to be there, but there is almost always someone there. | /r/seduction | 07/07/14 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Not sure if this goes here, but I need help, I have no social life at all.Wanting a girlfriend is not as important as being good person, being a good man, having integrity, bettering yourself. You can't find an external solution to an internal problem. Ive BEEN focusing on this, Honestly outside of the whole "i don't have a social life" thing I'm pretty happy with who I am. I know what I believe, why, and I stand up for it. I'm decently kind, but fuck with my friends and you will make an enemy. Start off with the basics! Ive been reading this sub for years. I honestly… | /r/seduction | 07/07/14 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Not sure if this goes here, but I need help, I have no social life at all.Clubs, events, community groups At the risk of sounding CRAZY. My college SUCKS in this regard. The entire "community" events is a joke. My first semester I was like "i want to find some clubs" so I found the list they had and started contacting people. EVERY SINGLE ONE had been disbanded for YEARS. I found some related clubs that wern't on the list though the people I talked to, but didn't get very far with that. My college basically has 3 types of organizations. Greek, professional, and little… | /r/seduction | 07/07/14 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Not sure if this goes here, but I need help, I have no social life at all.Ive been doing, what Ive been doing, for over 2 years. SOMETHING isn't working. I feel like I'm just spinning my wheels. I don't even MEET enough women. I never know what to say to people. If there is SOMETHING I can comment on I usually do, I mean she knows its a bullshit excuse to talk to her, I know its a bullshit excuse, so It doesn't really matter what. But I just can't think of anything and then she is gone. This summer is HORRIBLE because I don't even see people I usually see on campus. T… | /r/seduction | 07/07/14 06:22 PM |
| 1 | How important is having things in common with women?Some of my best friends have radically different views than me; Oh trust me, I have a diverse group of friends, but dating, I'm looking for a long term deal (eventually marriage?) so I think its pretty important that on big issues you agree. I mean, for example If one person is 100% against alcohol, and the others favorite fun time is getting drunk with friends. That just doesn't seem like its going to work out lol | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 04:41 PM |
| 1 | How important is having things in common with women?Please don't talk about politics (or religion). It's boring to a lot of people, and is likely to start a fight and engender bitterness for people who are really into it. Honest question, if your looking for a relationship, and shared views are important to you, would it not be better to early in the early stages talk about that stuff? That way you know? Seems to me it would be better to not agree/get in heated argument with a girl you hardly know and never see her again, than it would be if you … | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 04:12 PM |
| 1 | How do I find people to do stuff with?My own personal hell, also known as the south . Sigh | /r/seduction | 26/04/14 12:42 AM |
| 1 | How do I find people to do stuff with?not a single meetup within 2 hours of my home....sigh.... (and I live in a FREAKING COLLEGE TOWN) | /r/seduction | 26/04/14 12:05 AM |
| 1 | How to become ok with silence?Ok, soooooo, how? | /r/seduction | 24/04/14 05:56 PM |
| 1 | How to become ok with silence?haha maybe I should, I kinda went off on a tangent, I was more talking about the times when neither person has anything to say. | /r/seduction | 24/04/14 04:24 PM |
| 4 | If you could boil down seduction into one sentence what would it be? Here is mine.Ok, this is going to sound REALLY sad, but HOW.HOW can I be happy. Ive tried everything, new hobbies, talking to everyone I meet. Smiling, "faking" it. I'm going to go to the club for the first time every soon, try my first beer ever soon (Ive always been staunchly against both, judgy even. I'm trying to stop that) , and actually trying to talk to women Instead of just letting life happen. I'm trying to get away from my parents and make my own decisions (I'm 21 but living with them because I'm i… | /r/seduction | 17/04/14 02:28 AM |
| 0 | Going to the club for first time, what do I need to knowWhat to wear: dark colors are good, black fit shirt, jeans, you're not a woman so you can stick with simple shit Would jeans, and a V neck work? I'm not a very built guy but I do work out, for some reason when I were a dark V neck I don't look fat lol (I'm not "Fat", I'm just a little hefty, but Ive got a little muscle on me as well, I'm 6'1 so i'm not short and fat or anything like that) Or should I go with a button up? I will need to go buy one (the ones I have have to be tucked in :() How man… | /r/seduction | 15/04/14 07:37 PM |
| 0 | Going to the club for first time, what do I need to knowThanks man, I'm a musician so should be able to feel the beat, though honestly I have a lot of problems"geting into" pop music, but I know people that hate the stuff but still enjoy going and dancing to it, so I figured I would give it a try. I'm to try not to be a walflower, though ive never been and I probably will be just trying to figure out the place. I got a buddy I'm going to go with and he is trying to get some people together (he has a SHIT TON of HOT female friends, seriously, he is th… | /r/seduction | 15/04/14 07:32 PM |
| 1 | How can I find a party/social event to meet people at?if drinking is not a problem for you Loaded question, I can't drink due to stomach issues, or at least I think I can't, I'm going to try some alcohol here sometime in the next few weeks and see if it lays me out like some foods do, point being, for all practical purposes, I can't drink. | /r/seduction | 15/04/14 01:36 AM |
| 1 | How can I find a party/social event to meet people at?haha I'll try lol, I got to find a time to go! I'm semi busy end of the semester and all, but I want to go before all the hot college girls leave! | /r/seduction | 14/04/14 10:05 PM |
| 1 | How can I find a party/social event to meet people at?K, I will lol. | /r/seduction | 14/04/14 10:02 PM |
| 1 | How can I find a party/social event to meet people at?K I'll try to go later this week, though I'll be honest, Ive NEVER heard good things about it.EVER. And since I don't drink, and have never danced...yea..... I'll give it a shot but I honestly don't expect much to come from it. I got a buddy who is phenomenal with women (he isn't THAT great looking, but girls come to HIM looking to dance, which is weird cas he is a super nerd, like pokemon in the student union nerd.) I'll try to rope in to coming with me, but in the past he hasn't really wanted … | /r/seduction | 14/04/14 09:58 PM |
| 0 | Picking up girls at a concert?Whats wrong with doing game between sets? There's nothing to do but stand around talking to people anyway? Besides, its a local show with no big names, My friends band is headlining and they are more rock than anything. not that genre really matters. | /r/seduction | 05/04/14 06:06 PM |
| -2 | Picking up girls at a concert?That paragraph hurt, you don't know anyone who likes metal do you? | /r/seduction | 05/04/14 04:23 PM |
| 1 | How do you not look for validation? I mean its simple, but I can't seem to not do it.go out where lol? I don't really go out and drink/party/club/go to the bar. I just don't like those places. That doesn't leave me a lot of places to go to meet people. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 09:34 PM |
| 1 | How do you not look for validation? I mean its simple, but I can't seem to not do it.haha, I mean I'm not crazy, but if someone pisses me off and I did whatever wanted I would probably get in a fight, if I though a woman was hot I might just try to grab her ass or something. I mean, those are natural human reactions, just saying that if anyone , not just me, did whatever the hell they wanted then it would be bad lol. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 08:25 PM |
| 1 | How do you not look for validation? I mean its simple, but I can't seem to not do it.You might not need help lying, ??????????????????????????????????????????? need help caring less about what others think of you. I wish I could, I really REALLY REALLY want to. But all my life I have this strict parents telling me I have to "act a certain way" and its fucked up the whole not caring thing. I don't want people looking at me as some kind of weirdo. I mean, I still do stuff sometimes, but I can't just turn it off. Which is kinda why I posted here in the first place. At that point, w… | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 05:28 PM |
| 1 | How do you not look for validation? I mean its simple, but I can't seem to not do it.I wont lie, I have pretty high expectations of myself, both socially and nonsocially. I have my passions, I also have some medical problems, which make me feel people deserve a friend/partner who isn't sick :/ That said, I'm not sure what I said in my post that would make you think that. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 05:00 PM |
| 7 | Because if you're not happy with yourself, you won't be happy with herhaha, my problem is that most of my unhappiness stems from my lack of social life. And my social life sucks because I'm not the happiest person to be around. don't get me wrong, I'm actually pretty happy with the rest of my life, but you can only be so happy when you are so lonely. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 01:36 AM |
| 2 | So, I think I have the male version of Bitchy Resting Face syndrome. How do I fix it?Oh, I do ,and I CAN make a friendly face at a moments notice, thats not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about when I'm sitting in the library studying, eating lunch, walking to class, ect. If I'm not ACTIVELY thinking about it the ENTIRE time, then I look like I'm about to go apeshit, or passout. One of those 2. | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 05:34 PM |
| 1 | How do I keep abundance mentality? When the truth is I just really want to go on a date!:(. I try to talk to everyone I come across, I don't know, Most people just give short little answers and obviously don't want to talk to me. Every time Ive ask a girl out its not gone well. I mean they are nice about it, but they either flake, or straight up say they arn't interested (I prefer the just tell me upfront). I don't have a lot of male friends either, honestly my whole social life sucks, I never miss a chance to meet people, but people just don't seem to like me, which sucks, but the… | /r/seduction | 30/03/14 09:27 PM |
| 2 | How do I keep abundance mentality? When the truth is I just really want to go on a date!I want relationships, meet people with similar interest who I can explore my ambitions with. Composition, metal, screaming, singing, I want someone to share in my life, and for me to share theres. maybe I'm a romantic, but thats just what I want. I don't care about getting laid, I mean I do, but I'm kinda oldschool about waiting and stuff. | /r/seduction | 30/03/14 08:41 PM |
| 1 | So, I think I have the male version of Bitchy Resting Face syndrome. How do I fix it?sounds like me, mine is really weird, I have some chronic medical problems and they came up in conversation once with some people I just hung out with once or twice. I was told they couldn't believe it because of how happy a person I was. Couldn't believe it. I'm really good at faking it in conversation with people but for just sitting around by myself? Can't fake it worth shit. | /r/seduction | 30/03/14 07:01 PM |
| 1 | A girl said one sentence to me tonight which changed my perspective:Why should you care? funny enough most of the time I don't, I end up on stage in front of anywhere from 20-300 people probably 4-10 times a semester, I write music and when that gets played its like they are literally judging my soul lol. The problem is fear of being embarrassed, its some weird combination of that and rejection. Plus just the other day I was hangout with some people and this girl was talking about how some guy ask her out, how horribly weird it was, yada yada. Thing is this isn'… | /r/seduction | 16/03/14 12:40 AM |
| 4 | A girl said one sentence to me tonight which changed my perspective:I know it doesn't make sense, but take last week. I started a new class and we are all sitting outside on the first day waiting for the teacher to show up. There are some cute girls so I try to make conversation with everyone there (at this point only like 3-5 other people), well no one really wanted to talk so I just gave up trying. Then more people came to wait and there were about 20 people in the hall, all of them just staring at the wall in silence, yea, I didn't exactly want to start up a … | /r/seduction | 15/03/14 06:09 PM |
| 15 | A girl said one sentence to me tonight which changed my perspective:I'm not so much afraid of rejection, as other people seeing/finding out I was rejected. I mean it sucks, but 20 people watching you bomb out... that REALLY sucks | /r/seduction | 15/03/14 01:35 PM |
| 1 | Just realized how valuable my new job could be to me learning seduction, any dangers here I'm not thinking of?baby steps man, baby steps | /r/seduction | 13/03/14 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Just realized how valuable my new job could be to me learning seduction, any dangers here I'm not thinking of?Well I wasn't going to hit on people WHILE on the job, but like when getting lunch or spending time in the town between stores. | /r/seduction | 13/03/14 01:06 AM |
| 1 | My Favorite Way To Approach During The DayWhere do you go running? I mean my town doesn't really have anywhere, there is the lake, but it has a sketchy reputation for what goes on in those woods lol, its not the place you want to run up to ANYONE and start talking to them. | /r/seduction | 13/03/14 12:14 AM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/11/14This times a 1000. I met a girl a few weeks ago, SHE initated conact with me first via facebook, like added me and started talking to me, then a few days later when I going to message her again she beat me to the punch again and we talked I got her number. I ask her out a day or so later and she was down for it but flaked the day of, then the next week she see's me, runs up and hugs me, we talk for a few min, and text me kidding around when I go sit with the friend I came to eat with. Then we co… | /r/seduction | 11/03/14 10:54 PM |
| 54 | Just approached a girl. .I feel like I need this tattooed on the inside of my eyelids. I always asume no one wants to talk to me, talk up to some scars from bullying when I was younger, I just have a horrible self image, actually scratch that, I have a decent self image, I just generally think people are to dumb/self absorbed to notice how cool I am (the fact that I think a lot of people are dumb is something I'm working on lol) | /r/seduction | 11/03/14 03:06 PM |
| 1 | How can I remember people's names better?I get at least 8 hours every night, when I can 9-10. If I don't get at least 8 hours I actually get sick lol, its weird, but forces me to have a good sleep pattern. | /r/seduction | 10/03/14 12:47 PM |
| 1 | Where good places to meet people in generally, not just girls, on saturday, by yourself, that don't include clubs, bars, or parties?ennui? And rock climbing IS a good idea, I'm just saying ive been there done that, and as far as a place to meet women, in my town, its worse than gamestop. | /r/seduction | 08/03/14 09:52 PM |
| -2 | Where good places to meet people in generally, not just girls, on saturday, by yourself, that don't include clubs, bars, or parties?i actually tried that a while back, the gym in my area is super small, and there arn't but maybe 8 regulars, only 1 MAYBE 2 regular girls. It was fun but I couldn't really get into it. | /r/seduction | 08/03/14 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Where good places to meet people in generally, not just girls, on saturday, by yourself, that don't include clubs, bars, or parties?but what do you do at those places, just walk around the nature walk? walk around walmart? I mean, I guess its just me, but when I go out I want to DO something, just walking around, I dunno, it seem more boring than sitting at home lol. I'm not trying to make excuses , but actually understand what your saying. | /r/seduction | 08/03/14 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Where good places to meet people in generally, not just girls, on saturday, by yourself, that don't include clubs, bars, or parties?eehh, I spent about 2 hours at the mall yesterday chilling with a friend, I really don't want to go back out there lol, but I guess its better than sitting at home in front of the computer. | /r/seduction | 08/03/14 06:28 PM |
| 1 | How can I tell if this girl is actually interested or just being nice?Sadly when I met her I was hanging out with a friend and 4 other people, and she was across the table. Then she messaged me on facebook later in the day and we talked for about and hour. There wasn't really a chance to :( | /r/seduction | 27/02/14 02:01 AM |
| 1 | How do you find parties and stuff?Like I said, Ive never been to so much as a school dance before, I want someone to at least go with my my first time so I don't look like a lost little kid lol. | /r/seduction | 22/02/14 01:14 AM |
| 1 | How do you find parties and stuff?you should find a mentor. I would love to find a mentor, but I don't know how to go about it. I got a buddy who is freaking amazing with women, I mean he has a bunch of women friends, women come up TO HIM, he more or less has his pick. His advice is that I just need to talk to everyone, which you know, is great, but he doesn't really like going to our only club so .... yea... I don't want to go by myself, at least the first time since ive NEVER been to any kinda club or party before. | /r/seduction | 22/02/14 12:49 AM |
| 5 | How do you find parties and stuff?I still live with my parents due to money issues while in college, its out of the question :( | /r/seduction | 21/02/14 07:04 PM |
| 1 | First time to a club, never even been to a school dance, what should I expect? can you give me some tips?Don't worry if you don't get a number or getting laid or any of that jazz. This is actually the entire point for me, i'm not even TRYING to get either of those. I have a simple goal, talk to girls in a non platonic way,flirt. Thats it. If I can accomplish that goal, I'll feel like the night was an accomplishment. | /r/seduction | 08/01/14 03:51 PM |
| 1 | First time to a club, never even been to a school dance, what should I expect? can you give me some tips?there is only one club in my town lol, | /r/seduction | 08/01/14 03:58 AM |
| 3 | First time to a club, never even been to a school dance, what should I expect? can you give me some tips?I'm not worried about my height, I'm around 6'1ish, fairly broad shoulders, though I have a little bit of a gut. I'm more worried about knowing how to act | /r/seduction | 08/01/14 03:58 AM |
| -1 | How can I become less of a judgmental asshole and relate to people better? (LONG?)Stop being such a spaz about vices like booze. No, I have watched alcohol destroy the entirety of my mothers side of the family, save my mother, who had problems when she was younger. Alcoholism can be genetic and I already have self control issues, and I know that if i drink it, and like it, I wont stop. I don't really care if other people around me are having a drink unless they are just hammered, in which case its fine I'll just leave. | /r/seduction | 19/11/13 01:35 PM |
| -1 | How can I become less of a judgmental asshole and relate to people better? (LONG?)answers you get to be "wrong", because your post "may belong in another sub" not really, I know I need help in this area and since what Ive tried has obviously failed my opinions are wrong, otherwise I wouldn't be posting. I posted here because I knew while It might not be the right sub, I would get good answers from people here. autistic-like traits, or at the very least, ask that person to tell you a bit about the autism spectrum When I was younger there was question, but turns out I'm just a … | /r/seduction | 19/11/13 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Fear of Success - You are unconsciously scared to get resultsTheres nothing unconscious about it for me, yet I still do it. | /r/seduction | 04/11/13 01:46 PM |
| 10 | Remember to give the unattractive ladies attention too!I may not be great with home, but I don't think he was saying that at all, I think he was saying he isn't very attracted to the attitude of women who have immature reactions. Nothing pedestally about that. | /r/seduction | 24/10/13 04:09 AM |
| 0 | Lurker for 2 years. This crippling AA's got a hold of me.ere's your diet plan: (Very simplified semi-paleo, no, don't go researching paleo, this is your plan, right here, right now) Cut out fast food and frozen foods -- you can have only 1 of these per week. Cut out chips, french fries, and other high fat, high salt junk food. Cut out grains that have been processed to hell (white bread, "wheat" bread, pasta), and cut out things high in sugar (soda, fruit juice, candy). Try to eat things that look like something The Lord made -- you know, plants and a… | /r/seduction | 20/10/13 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Long look and quick look.I think you miss understood my, I in no way actually approach in the gym, I just wish that I COULD without it being rude/whatever | /r/seduction | 11/10/13 12:02 PM |
| 1 | Long look and quick look.This kills, because at the gym I feel the most confidant, I don't know why cas I don't life huge amounts or anything, its probably got something to do with the fact that I'm pushing myself to the absolute limit. Plus I find girls who are working out really hot, just the fact that they are working out. | /r/seduction | 10/10/13 10:25 PM |
| 1 | I don't know what to do next?whoops, I put it up over there as well I just forgot thats what it was for | /r/seduction | 10/10/13 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Can't get comfortable around girls! Any good life hacks or advice?its not so much that I won't do ANYTHING for them, but I don't do more than anyone else, and I'll generally help someone out if they really NEED help, if they just WANT help or are being lazy i'm probably not going to help. | /r/seduction | 08/10/13 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Can't get comfortable around girls! Any good life hacks or advice?do everything they ask you to, am I the only person who never had a problem with this? I mean don't get me wrong, I'm HORRIBLE with women, and fall prey to almost every other bad mindset, but Ive just never been one to do something for someone just because I find them attractive. | /r/seduction | 07/10/13 09:44 PM |
| 3 | I'm not shy but I tend to stick to myself. How can I make friends?I'm in the same boat as you, I'm naturally independent, if I want to go do something I may call someone to see if they want to come, but if they say no I'm not bummed out, I just go anyway and still have fun. I have 2 close friends and a couple people I hangout with on campus, sadly this attitude has left me with a extremely small social circle, thats absolutely devoid of women. I look forward to seeing some of the answers in this thread! | /r/seduction | 26/09/13 11:39 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 9/23/13bullshit that you're in a city with 10,000 college students and there are "NO music venues". Why the hell do you think I'm currently in the process of making one. There is a country venue and a couple bars with open mic nights, to I guess technically there are music venues. it doesn't sound like you actually ever do ...anything I go to several church things during the week, rock climb, do various things I have to for my major, and study. What student organizations are you in? What do you and you… | /r/seduction | 25/09/13 09:46 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 9/23/13I have a really big problem problem finding people who have the same "mindset" as me. I'm not a goofy person, I will never be a goofy person, its just not part of who I am, I was taught not act like an idiot in public when I was younger and I don't now that I'm older. I'm perfectly ok with that, i still have fun, I'm huge into music but there are NO music venues in my town, so its hard to meet people through that. I rock climb when I can find the time as well. I don't party because I just don't … | /r/seduction | 24/09/13 08:26 PM |
| 1 | How do I "open up" so I can meet more people?You have to know who you really are and what you value about yourself and in others. Know what you believe and why. know what youll stand up for and why. Know where your lines are and know what you'll do if someone crosses them. Write this stuff on a piece of paper. These Are your core values. I know these, ive stood up to people before who have challenged me, I have my lines I don't cross (example I WONT pirate albums, I just wont, I'm a musician and its hard enough without people not paying yo… | /r/seduction | 04/09/13 10:08 PM |
| 1 | This video is worth a watch. Too often this community feels like they NEED to force alpha status, but you can own other aspects of game whilst being introvertThis is completly and utterlly wrong on every level. Extrovert= you "recharge" around people, after a hard day at work and you are super tired, you want to go hangout with people because it makes you feel better. Introvert= you "recharge" by having time away from people, social interactions drain you mentally/physically and you need some time by yourself to rest and relax and recharge. Being introverted does not mean you are socially anxious, or shy. It means at the end of the day when your tire… | /r/seduction | 28/08/13 03:39 PM |
| 0 | How can I go about enlarging my social circle, when I have very few and polarized people currently in it.not excuses, explanations based on TRYING them. | /r/seduction | 22/08/13 12:46 AM |
| 2 | How can I go about enlarging my social circle, when I have very few and polarized people currently in it.yeaaaa. playing metal doesn't really get you laid, and we need a few more members. I was in a gun club for a while at school but it WAS expensive to shoot, now after all the stuff that has happened prices are up3-4 times what they were. So its REALLY expensive to shoot, and I'm broke. That said I do meet quite a few people through music stuff on campus so hopefully I'll get something going soon and meet people through that. | /r/seduction | 21/08/13 09:20 PM |
| 4 | How can I go about enlarging my social circle, when I have very few and polarized people currently in it.you need to develop into an interesting person You know, I consider myself a pretty interesting person, I mean I'm a musician, Ive played in a few bands and I'm starting a new one, I compose symphonic music, Ive been a screaming vocalist in a metal band, I keep up to date on politics and love talking about them with people, I love taking new people to the gun range to teach them how to shoot/safety, I'm working on starting up my own business. Its not like I sit at home by myself ALL day long. | /r/seduction | 21/08/13 07:56 PM |
| 1 | How can I go about enlarging my social circle, when I have very few and polarized people currently in it.As far as I know theres no allergy to outside food so whatever food you are allergic too/making up you can find a place that will serve food your way. I have Ibs, so certain foods/ingredients literally can put me in the fetal position from the pain. I can't have anything with glutten(wheat), dairy, High fructose corn sirup (its in EVERYTHING) and several spices. So yea, I actually CAN'T eat out, because its not worth the risk of a little cheese from the grill getting on my meal and making me dou… | /r/seduction | 21/08/13 07:47 PM |
| 0 | How can I go about enlarging my social circle, when I have very few and polarized people currently in it.Getting a simple part-time job will leave you plenty of time to do club activities and study to keep your grades up When was the last time you where in college, seriously, maybe wherever you went there was an abundance of stores looking for people, but in my current town places want to hire people for 15-20 hours minimum and I TRIED that, it wasn't an issue of me "managing time" well, it was an issue of business owners by and large in this town don't want to work around peoples scheduled because… | /r/seduction | 21/08/13 07:40 PM |
| 1 | How can I go about enlarging my social circle, when I have very few and polarized people currently in it.Tell your parents that you are an adult and need your own space You live under our house so you follow our rules. thats what they will say, we have had simlar conversations bout other things before nothing to be embarrassed about living at home so you can educate yourself I'm not embarrassed at all but I have to deal with my parents and thats proven to be a pain in the past. | /r/seduction | 21/08/13 07:33 PM |
| 0 | How can I go about enlarging my social circle, when I have very few and polarized people currently in it.I WAS working retail, most of them were dumb highschool kids(can't realy complain I was in highschool when I started there) that I really didn't have anything in common with. Plus my major has a ton of after hours stuff I HAVE to go to or I fail, its REALLY hard to work around, its the reason I quit my last job. | /r/seduction | 21/08/13 12:01 AM |
| 1 | How can I go about enlarging my social circle, when I have very few and polarized people currently in it.coworkers are instant social circle members. wasn't true of my last job, my school doesn't have a lot of clubs, my freshman year I actively looked for them, joined one or to but my job got in the way of doing stuff and when I quit my job I didn't have any money. | /r/seduction | 20/08/13 11:35 PM |
| 2 | How can I go about enlarging my social circle, when I have very few and polarized people currently in it.Ive thought about but I have serious allergy so long time outdoor stuff screws me over (I'm not trying to make excuses, just being blunt here) It sounds like you need to get away from home I want to but I'm stuck, I'm at a place in my life where If I moved out of my parents house I wouldn't be able to support myself AND be in school. If I have to work retail the rest of my life then I'll just end it with a bullet to the head now. | /r/seduction | 20/08/13 11:07 PM |
| 0 | How can I go about enlarging my social circle, when I have very few and polarized people currently in it.My parents are VERY conservation (hell I am to) but to the point that I can't have a girl in my room, if we are going to be totally honest (YA for internet ) its part of the reason I never dated in highschool, i just didn't want to deal with their drama. But here I am in college and having no experience with dating so, I guess you could say it was a bad choice. | /r/seduction | 20/08/13 10:48 PM |
| 1 | How to get rid of your approach anxietyThe problem is that there is NOTHING, Most of the time I pull a, "Hey I don't think we have meet" (stick out hand)" I'm anewman1993". Doesn't matter if ive seen them around or not as long as we haven't been introduced, if I currently have a class with someone but haven't "meet" them before I'll say something along the lines "do I know you from somewhere"/"arn't you in x/y/z with me?". Those generally do the job but sometimes those won't work, and when they won't then I'm kinda stuck. I guess I c… | /r/seduction | 20/08/13 12:34 AM |
| 2 | How to get rid of your approach anxietyHonestly I don't think this would help alot of people (Like me), personally my problem is NOT talking with women, supper hot women, or even drop dead gorgeous women. My problem with approaching women is the same problem I have just talking to guys, I don't know what to say. I'm not sitting in my head but I have not know what to say before words leave my mouth. For example today was the first day of classes on campus and there was a girl a 2 of my friends knew and she came over and gave one of th… | /r/seduction | 19/08/13 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Tips for IntrovertsIn short, be Bruce Wayne. best line ever | /r/seduction | 04/08/13 09:33 PM |
| 3 | Why you should never think “She’s out of my league”What if my problem isn't so much that I think I'm out of her league, but that I'm scared she will think I am. let me explain (Sorry if its a little long winded). When I was younger in jr/high school I was tired of people expecting so much of me, so I started playing down my intelligence, Using the rational that I would rather surprise someone by being a little smart than disappoint them by not understanding something. It sounds dumb but thats actually what I did, when people ask me a question I … | /r/seduction | 25/07/13 09:39 PM |
| 2 | I'm a college student and school is out, where can I meet people/girls. Ive always kinda been a loner and don't even know where to start.I wouldn't say I'm miserable, but sometimes I do get lonely, and I would REALLY like to meet some girls. I since apparently what I normally does doesn't involve interacting with ANYONE I need to find places to go | /r/seduction | 17/05/13 01:04 PM |
| 1 | I'm a college student and school is out, where can I meet people/girls. Ive always kinda been a loner and don't even know where to start.Last summer I barley left my house other than for a class I was taking, I would be totally content to be on my own without seeing another human for a solid week or 2 before I want to leave on my own. What I "normally" do isn't working. | /r/seduction | 17/05/13 04:26 AM |
| -1 | I'm a college student and school is out, where can I meet people/girls. Ive always kinda been a loner and don't even know where to start.I'm going to the public library today (broke college student) so I may try starting up a conversion there if I see anyone cute. Ive been to bookshops but they are always vacant when I go there. I'll try coffee shops soon. most twenty something girls I'm not most guys, I don't want "Most" girls. | /r/seduction | 16/05/13 07:03 PM |
| 1 | I'm a college student and school is out, where can I meet people/girls. Ive always kinda been a loner and don't even know where to start.I live in a city of 50,000 and meetup.com doesn't have events for my city :(, been there, tried that. I may try coffe though I think it would be weird just sitting somewhere doing nothing drinking coffee. | /r/seduction | 16/05/13 07:00 PM |
| 1 | I'm a college student and school is out, where can I meet people/girls. Ive always kinda been a loner and don't even know where to start.These places are probably more enjoyed with your friends Yea, Ive always been more of a loner, not in that creepy guy in the corner kind of way but in the "i preffer to have 1-2 good friends than 50 people I hardly know". I use my campuses gym and I don't think they have any classes. Ive tried the mall thing but most of the people there seem to be either highschool kids or in there 30's, maybe I'm just going at the wrong time. I done though of some of that stuff thats why I posted this question … | /r/seduction | 16/05/13 06:53 PM |
| 1 | I'm a college student and school is out, where can I meet people/girls. Ive always kinda been a loner and don't even know where to start.When I say parties arn't my scene I'm talking college parties,clubs, ect. I don't drink and I'm underage so bars are a no go and metal shows in my area pretty much rare and at least an hour and half to 2 hours away. | /r/seduction | 16/05/13 06:50 PM |
| 1 | College FR: "Hey, could you watch my things for a minute? I'll be right back."This is the thing that keeps me from actually practicing pickup. Ive been reading this stuff for almost a year (not hardcore mind you, maybe once a week reading some) and saying "i'm going to go pickup women" Ive even gone out a few times. I always chicken out though. I think I'm more scared of them saying yes than I am of getting rejected lol. | /r/seduction | 24/04/13 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Any way to kick fight of flight in the balls and ignore it?the problem is I know all this, it actually surprised me to realize that I'm a good head height above most girls. (I'm 6'1). I KNOW there is nothing logical about my fear. I guess a lot of it comes from the fact that I haven't had a lot of good social situations. Bullied alot when I was younger ect. I don't really trust people and I HATE people talking behind my back. Thats actually my biggest fear. I bit the bullet durring the summer, there was the cute girl I talked to a few times, I was walki… | /r/seduction | 07/03/13 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Any way to kick fight of flight in the balls and ignore it?that starts soon lol, like end of this week when i start meeting some people I know. I have some medical problems that have left me week over the last year so to be honest I'm not sure if working out is going to help or harm me | /r/seduction | 07/03/13 04:22 AM |
| 2 | How I seduced a girl without intending to & If you have a crush on someone, read this!My problem is I don't approach AT ALL. Like I have a huge problem with it. When it comes to meeting girls I have the fight or flight kick in and the only way around it is find a way to put myself in a situation where it will look WORSE to leave BEFORE fight or flight hits. If I can get past the first 20 seconds of interaction I have NO problem, I'm totally relaxed, and I can carry on a good conversation. The biggest problem is the approach for me. | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 11:26 PM |
| 36 | How I seduced a girl without intending to & If you have a crush on someone, read this!saved, actually it really hit home with me, I need to approch more girls and I'm going to start talking to girls I have little attraction to, maybe that will help me get over my AA. | /r/seduction | 06/03/13 05:41 PM |
| 1 | The Sherlocks Holmes Method to Always Having Something to Say (x-post from /r/socialskills)or like me you notice something, and make a joke about it because no one else noticed it. It could be that I'm just not funny though...... | /r/seduction | 05/02/13 08:15 PM |
| 3 | How do i grow Balls?if I had money, you would have gold right now | /r/seduction | 21/01/13 10:40 PM |
| 1 | sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it)?????????? | /r/seduction | 19/01/13 03:37 AM |
| 1 | sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it)I would rather be friendless the rest of my life, then be friends with people who force me to embarrass myself to be included in there little circle of friends. Thats not a friend, friends are people who KEEP you from doing stupid stuff, not the ones making you do it to "prove" yourself. | /r/seduction | 19/01/13 03:37 AM |
| 2 | sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it)Tell me about yourself I'm a majoring in music composition to write movie scores, I play guitar,piano,vocals (normal and metal screams), and record music out of my home. I love talking to people who believe differently than me so long as they know how to have a civil conversation. I can't stand hypocrites and have a habit of calling people out on stuff(not really in an asshole way but a "didn't you say the other day____(whatever they are doing that they said was bad/they hated/ect.)I really don'… | /r/seduction | 19/01/13 03:32 AM |
| 1 | sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it)haha I know THAT but what can I use as an excuse lol | /r/seduction | 16/01/13 03:12 AM |
| 2 | sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it)just saying ive watched frat people leave the frat, and only have 1 person in the frat still talk them them. | /r/seduction | 16/01/13 03:12 AM |
| 1 | sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it)if you read it you would know that nofap is what has helped usher in the desire to change | /r/seduction | 16/01/13 03:10 AM |
| 1 | sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it)I don't like the atmosphere.... I'm don't drink or anything like that, and I prefer not to be around it( I don't have problems with people who drink, I have several friends that do, I just don't like to be around it). There is a history of alcohol problems in my family, and lets just leave it with that. | /r/seduction | 16/01/13 03:09 AM |
| 2 | sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it)haha thats a really good reply, I regret that I have but one up vote to give. | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 01:24 PM |
| -6 | sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it)lol any group that forces me to be to act like an idiot and embarrass myself and pay for friendship, isn't worth a dime. I ask a girl out this summer ( know a long as time ago and she said no but at least I ask, first time I ever point blank ask if a girl want to go out) , I was talking to 2 girls but one of them had a kid(sorry that just kills attraction for me, I don't look down on them or anything they have a lot on there plate) and one had a boyfriend. | /r/seduction | 15/01/13 01:21 PM |
| 1 | sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it)haha thanks, Ive actually read most of the stuff.......Ive been doing nofap/pornfree for the last few months and It actually helped me be VERY alpha, I talked to everyone , made people laugh. But during the break I binged and I don't think I interacted with more than 3 people outside my family for the whole month. Now I just finished my first day of class and I'm pissed it didn't go like I wanted..... I'll read up on those some and hopfully make progress. fuck at this point I'll settle for frien… | /r/seduction | 14/01/13 09:08 PM |
| 1 | sick of being single, lonely, and spending all my time by myself in college. What can I do to change this.(not sure if this goes here, but fuck it)haha I can't do the lunch thing do to medical stuff that has me on strict diet ( :/) but this is when I ask people to hang out, what exactly am I asking them to do? Like Just chill out and watch tv? I live with my parents (though I have a dorm room, long story). What the hell do I DO, I mean when someone ask "hey you want to come hangout" my first response is normally ,"sure, what you want to do"........... | /r/seduction | 14/01/13 08:55 PM |
| 1 | How to gain social capital in collegehow do your break the clique mentality, Ive been to several clubs on my campus and I always show up to find groups of people talking but I know no one in the room. Even if over time I get to sorta know them they never become more than aqantances | /r/seduction | 14/01/13 03:34 AM |
| 1 | How the conscious decision to be "fun" completely changed my game.Judgment or critical thoughts and "fun" cannot coexist simultaneously in my opinion. Thats interesting Ive never looked at it that way, I'm a very critical person by nature, of myself and not others I don't expect what I don't do. I have friends on campus that all drink ( a lot lol), and they know my position on it, it doesn't change anything. If I was out with them and they were drinking I probably would be uncomfortable for about 5 min and then be fine so long as no one pressures me to drink. … | /r/seduction | 07/01/13 03:08 PM |
| 1 | What are you currently doing to make yourself a more desirable man?as someone who was that way, getting a job in retail forces you to learn some basic social skills, I had none, I'm still not great (or even good but I'm working on it) | /r/seduction | 07/01/13 04:17 AM |
| 1 | How the conscious decision to be "fun" completely changed my game.This is one of my biggest problem. I live on a college campus though and most of the time when I see people "having fun" it equates to (in my eyes) just being immature or acting like and ass. I like to kick back and relax and have fun that DOESN'T involve getting drunk out of my mind and acting stupid. Its not even an issue being worried people will judge me, I'm a musician who plays a REALLY unappreciated genre in my area, If I wanted the masses approval I wouldn't do what I do. That and come t… | /r/seduction | 07/01/13 04:13 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Simple Strategy for Overcoming Approach Anxiety- Now I know why it's called The GameI don't get carded much but I look completly diffrent on my school Id thats less than a year old.. I lost a LOT off my face. | /r/seduction | 04/12/12 06:23 PM |
| 1 | First quarter of college is the worst experience I've ever hadIf at all possible, try to get into the dorms next year. They are, at least in my experience, an incredibly social atmosphere They didn't help me AT ALL. My dorms were literally just people slept the first year. The second year (this year) there is no lobby or anything, so dorms literally mean nothing. | /r/seduction | 04/12/12 02:01 PM |
| 2 | I want to be more outgoingelaborate ? | /r/seduction | 04/12/12 01:59 PM |
| 0 | Schools almost out for winter break,I don't have a social circle AT ALL, and I would really like to meet women. Where are some good places to pickup women.I'm not big on meditation, I spend enough time in my head reflecting on everything I do lol | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Schools almost out for winter break,I don't have a social circle AT ALL, and I would really like to meet women. Where are some good places to pickup women.I'm not going around sayin "who can I be friends with here", But I done acknowledge that I need friends and so I'm very open to meeting new people. | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Schools almost out for winter break,I don't have a social circle AT ALL, and I would really like to meet women. Where are some good places to pickup women.your social issues are your problem I won't argue to much with you there, though I'm a completely different person than I was this time last year, and a completely different person from the year before. Im pretty good with one on one conversations, most people like me when they get to know me. Those who don't generally can't stand people who think differently then them, and I don't generally like those people anyway :p What could you have possibly done to alienate all your friends, including you… | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Schools almost out for winter break,I don't have a social circle AT ALL, and I would really like to meet women. Where are some good places to pickup women.I'm trying but the all already know it other really well so I'm kinda the odd guy out, I'm working on it though. I'm really bad at going into situation were I know NO ONE, at least I know a few of them now. And college worship (aka were to meet girls) is canceled till school starts back. | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 09:53 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Simple Strategy for Overcoming Approach Anxiety- Now I know why it's called The GameI COMPLETELY understand, I meet a guy who I sorta knew but was never close with, walked up said 'whats up man, havn't seen you in a while" he had NO idea who I was, when I finally told him his jaw literally hit the ground. I could never even IMAGINE a girl liking me, at least I can imagine that now lol. | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 09:52 PM |
| -2 | Schools almost out for winter break,I don't have a social circle AT ALL, and I would really like to meet women. Where are some good places to pickup women.haha, I have interesting things to say, most people though my comments just fly over there heads :(, I think sometimes I just notice things that other people don't. | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 07:29 PM |
| -7 | Schools almost out for winter break,I don't have a social circle AT ALL, and I would really like to meet women. Where are some good places to pickup women.haha I KNOW thats why I'm single, what kills me is I KNOW I would make a good boyfriend, and I also know that I'm not the kinda guy to be whiped. | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 07:29 PM |
| 0 | Schools almost out for winter break,I don't have a social circle AT ALL, and I would really like to meet women. Where are some good places to pickup women.the sidewalk? I just don't get how that would work,I know when I'm going somewhere the LAST thing I want is some random person to stop me, when I go to a store I want to get my shit and get the fuck out, Not because I hate being there, or Hate people, but because I have better things to do. Plus on campus most people are on there way to class and don't want to be late. | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 07:08 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Simple Strategy for Overcoming Approach Anxiety- Now I know why it's called The GameYea I'm a pretty good conversationalist once I get it going, its just opening, and not just to girls but to anyone at all. Ive started talking more, and its helping, I'm improving, slowly, but surely. | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 06:45 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Simple Strategy for Overcoming Approach Anxiety- Now I know why it's called The Gameto be fair in highschool I was that shy guy who barley talked and sat by himself, Had long greasy hair, and weighed 270-280 pounds at a little shy of 6 feet. If i was in her position I would have probably acted disgusted too. Now I'm at like 180, about go get a haircut cas its getting long again, taking care of hygiene, TRYING to wear close that fit and look decent on a budget. Ive caught a girl every now and looking at me, so my confidence is up. I just need to get the balls to approach the gir… | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 06:28 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Simple Strategy for Overcoming Approach Anxiety- Now I know why it's called The GameI'm still stuck in this mindset a lot of times, I still have a hard type making eye contact with girls on the street cas when I was younger and did this they always got a disgusted look on there face..... | /r/seduction | 03/12/12 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Top mistakes newbies makehaha I'm about as far from a good person as you can get man....I guess I should re-frame my statement though "the bible is full of people who are FAR from perfect" haha.... heck the guy who wrote most of the new testament, you know what he did before becoming christian. He went town to town killing any Christians he could find....yea..... | /r/seduction | 30/11/12 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Top mistakes newbies makeDidn't many important religious figures have many wives? Solomon, David, etc.? They did but the thing you have to remember is that none of those guys were perfect. The bible isn't full of stories of perfect people, its stories of messed up broken, normal people who good choses to use. David also watched a women while she was bathing, decided he liked her and put her husband on the front lines of war so he could die and david could have her. Not his best moment, previously he was known as the man… | /r/seduction | 29/11/12 01:37 PM |
| 1 | Top mistakes newbies makeIts both, For its a religious thing but its also logical, I was lucky in my life and had people who didn't just say "don't do it" they explained why. There are the obvious things like avoiding std's and getting pregnant. But one reason is that we believe the god gave us sex, for pleasure as well as procreation (want proof read "song of Solomon" in the bible, thing reads like an erotic novel in parts). However he intend for it to be between one man and one woman for life. I've meet several people… | /r/seduction | 29/11/12 03:10 AM |
| 0 | Top mistakes newbies makeHaha I'm completely fine with getting out there and meeting as many women as possible (why else would I be on this sub ), I just don't want to end with sex. | /r/seduction | 28/11/12 08:48 PM |
| 3 | Top mistakes newbies makeI'm not saying never, I'm one of the rare people that want to wait to i'm married, Maybe its old fashioned but its my choice and I'm not judging people who live differently. Buts I want to wait and Ive know several good couples who waited till they were married and it was way more than a friend ship. | /r/seduction | 28/11/12 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Top mistakes newbies makeSo what if we are looking for a LTR, and not sex..........these whole thing just seems to be about getting sex as quickly as possible. | /r/seduction | 28/11/12 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Personal Protection While Sarging [x-post from r/BayAreaSeddit]god no, so much mess involved with that...god.......... | /r/seduction | 28/11/12 04:12 AM |
| 2 | Has there ever been an established pick up "guru" that was truly introverted?damn that list describes me to a letter, always knew I was a little introverted but DAMN. It explains alot about me lol. | /r/seduction | 26/11/12 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Scientific proof showing cold showers REDUCES testosterone."or will in the future" Can't know if it will or wont if we live in the present | /r/seduction | 26/11/12 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Just speak your mind.Yea I try to just rip the band-aid off real quick when it comes to politics and religion, I actually love talking to people who have diff rent views. So if they seem down for it I'll generally talk to them and they gain a LOT of respect from me if they can have a honest none heated conversation. Likewise they have none if they throw a bitch fit about it, mainly cas I'll call them out on it, I can be an real asshole when someone makes me mad. (which doesn't happen often). | /r/seduction | 19/11/12 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Just speak your mind."Speak your mind, say whatever that is on your mind. Be truthful about it" My problem is I don't really care if I'm politically correct or anything, while I have no problems talking to people who believe differently then me Ive found that a lot of people just want to yell at you if you believe differently. | /r/seduction | 18/11/12 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Beginner thoughts - Approach Anxiety, or could it actually be Success Anxiety?I'm not very good, I haven't ask that many women out, but I think it times I'm scared of sucess. Like I've realized when I started reading this stuff that I couldn't Imagin a girl liking me. Now I kinda "assume attraction", Im a long way from being able to "just approch" but I at least notice when a girl looks at me, turns her head, that goes for a second look. I always assume its good :p. That said while I would LOVE to have a girlfriend, I think if I got yes I would shit my pants on the spot, … | /r/seduction | 12/11/12 02:24 AM |
| 2 | Question on Plowing"You never run out of things to say with your best friend." actually, some of us do. Soooooo, where do you go from there? | /r/seduction | 04/11/12 12:45 AM |
| 5 | Does all this stuff actually work on "nice" girls who arn't into casual sex, one night stands, and going to the club to party.I didn't mean I that way? I know that there are people substance that party and people who arn't at other places. However since I have absolutely no interest in partying/drinking why would I go to a place to meet people, that is full of people that way. Does that make me a dork? I don't want to waste time somewhere were the odds of meeting someone with similar values are slim to none. Maybe I came across a dork, but The last few months Ive been trying to be generally more social that I have been… | /r/seduction | 28/10/12 10:07 PM |
| 3 | Does all this stuff actually work on "nice" girls who arn't into casual sex, one night stands, and going to the club to party.haha maybe I am, or maybe I'm looking for people of substance in my life? | /r/seduction | 28/10/12 09:27 PM |
| 0 | My small college is dominated by frats, what can I do to get more popular without joining one?I see hundreds of people a day, I don't need to see any more just because its "cool" or whatever | /r/seduction | 26/10/12 12:45 AM |
| 0 | My small college is dominated by frats, what can I do to get more popular without joining one?I'm not going for the merit. I'm going so I can get good at what I want to do. I know were I'm going and its a competitive field and I have to be the best to get hired. I plan to be the best. I plan to eventually get a doctorate degree. People who spend 1000s on class and then EVEN more money to meet people in a frat even though they are surrounded by hundreds of people a day are the ones doing college wrong. | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 09:11 PM |
| 1 | My small college is dominated by frats, what can I do to get more popular without joining one?I'm not paying to meet people at uni, I'm paying to get and education so I can get a good job. meeting people is a bonus. | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 03:58 PM |
| -6 | My small college is dominated by frats, what can I do to get more popular without joining one?yep there is nothing wrong with buying friends | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 01:23 PM |
| 1 | So today Ive decided that I'm going to stop being a pussy and just start talking to girls, here is the plan. Any tips?I don't want a reputation as a player, or that desperate guy who talks to all the girls. I'm not looking for sluts. | /r/seduction | 22/10/12 11:16 PM |
| 12 | So today Ive decided that I'm going to stop being a pussy and just start talking to girls, here is the plan. Any tips?This is so accurate to what happened that I think you may have been watching me 0.o. though to elaborate the friends didn't know that I was going to hit on girls, 2 they decided not to get coffee. I don't really get the high heart rate thing thing endless I'm not just attracted to them, but wanting to act on it. Ex: today in class teacher made groups, hb10 sits down beside me. So I talked to her as much as I did anyone else (and yes I talked to everyone else plenty). No fast heart rate, no sweat… | /r/seduction | 22/10/12 11:14 PM |
| 2 | So today Ive decided that I'm going to stop being a pussy and just start talking to girls, here is the plan. Any tips?Thanks, well onwards to making a fool of myself, tallho | /r/seduction | 22/10/12 03:58 PM |
| 3 | So today Ive decided that I'm going to stop being a pussy and just start talking to girls, here is the plan. Any tips?Problem is that I'm.not that interesting, I mean I'm i in my firstnterested in the things I like but something tells me most girls don't like metal music, video games, non sitcom tv shows, and guns. I'm having some major aa right now. Which is wierd because in my first class I got put into a group with a hb10 and had NO problems talking to her and another girl on the group. It's the damb approach. | /r/seduction | 22/10/12 03:46 PM |
| 6 | So today Ive decided that I'm going to stop being a pussy and just start talking to girls, here is the plan. Any tips?Haha I'll try, Ive always had trouble meeting girls eyes on the street, the last few weeks ive tried to fix that. Today I'm going all out. | /r/seduction | 22/10/12 12:10 PM |
| 1 | New to approching women, and My biggest problem is, you guessed it. The approchLike I said, I don't want to come off as wanting in her pants (cas truth is, I don't, I actually want to get to know girls) | /r/seduction | 21/10/12 06:06 PM |
| 1 | New to approching women, and My biggest problem is, you guessed it. The approchI think if I was going to cold approch someone at the mall or something I would just ask them if I knew them from somewere to get the ball rolling. Going strait up and tell a girl I like the way she looks feels like I'm just trying to get in her pants. Which I'm actually not. | /r/seduction | 21/10/12 02:25 PM |
| 1 | New to approching women, and My biggest problem is, you guessed it. The approchwhile I'm not scared to approach in general, Doing something like this, scares the hell out of me. | /r/seduction | 21/10/12 12:34 PM |
| 1 | New to approching women, and My biggest problem is, you guessed it. The approchI think you misunderstood the question. Its not really a confidence issue, I can and have approached women before. Don't get me wrong, I was scared to death, but even when rejected it didn't just destroy me and Obviously I want to continue. My problem is I don't know what to say when I approach a girl, Like if I see a girl setting on a bench at school or something. I think it would be a really creepy just walk up and start talking or tell her I think she looks good or something. | /r/seduction | 21/10/12 12:33 PM |
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