aznpandaboii Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
43	2 Years Post-Separation (1.5 Years Post-Divorce Update)	aznpandaboii	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/25 05:55 PM
26	~7 month Separation Update	aznpandaboii	/r/Divorce_Men	28/11/23 05:34 AM
21	Updates after 2 months of Separation	aznpandaboii	/r/Divorce_Men	19/06/23 07:08 PM
12	What did you do?	aznpandaboii	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/23 06:27 PM
8	Advice during divorce	aznpandaboii	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/23 02:52 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	2 Years Post-Separation (1.5 Years Post-Divorce Update) thankfully no kids, just pets. made the separation so much more easier. it would have elongated the recovery process to have an open line of communication for the sake of other responsibilities such as kids. people who are going through this process with kids have my respect because they have to have more discipline to not fall off on their boundaries.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/04/25 11:59 AM
2	2 Years Post-Separation (1.5 Years Post-Divorce Update) Jesus, hopefully having the kids around helps in some way and keeps you occupied in a positive manner? As for the ex, sounds like she does not respect or care about crossing boundaries. Not sure if you've sent her a message indicating that you will only respond if its communication about the kids, otherwise to not expect a response and if she keeps disrespecting that then she will get blocked. She needs to know that this behavior is not tolerable. I am sorry to hear that it sounds like you don't…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/25 08:08 PM
1	2 Years Post-Separation (1.5 Years Post-Divorce Update) Ah yep, definitely annoying and discouraging. I've found that switching up my approach and trying new openers has been helpful. I feel like women see the same thing over and over again in their messages so having something different is going to grab more attention than anything.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/25 06:50 PM
1	2 Years Post-Separation (1.5 Years Post-Divorce Update) You got this! Go at your pace and reach out to friends, family, loved ones when you need it :)	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/25 06:43 PM
2	2 Years Post-Separation (1.5 Years Post-Divorce Update) Why do you say that? I hope you have a support system helping you through these difficult times brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/25 06:42 PM
1	2 Years Post-Separation (1.5 Years Post-Divorce Update) Around the latter timeframe of the 1.5 year mark of separation is when I started dating multiple women in a span of two months via the apps (Hinge, Tinder, Bumble. 99% of my success is from Hinge). I wasn't in an official relationship with any of them but going on several dates and seeing where things go. I am now back on the apps after my last situationship ended recently. But oh man believe me it's a numbers game. I think I've messaged like 40-50 women and managed to go on dates with like 5 or…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/25 06:41 PM
3	~7 month Separation Update itll take time for sure and its going to suck a lot in the beginning. keep in touch with loved ones, family, friends. take the time to grieve. side note, for running look into seeing if your nearby gym has a woodway treadmill or something that reduces impact on knees. wish you the best of luck on your journey!	/r/Divorce_Men	28/11/23 10:33 PM
3	~7 month Separation Update Gotta do what you gotta do. This new chapter in my life is going to help me grow as an independent	/r/Divorce_Men	28/11/23 10:31 PM
3	~7 month Separation Update For sure, but if anything, involving kids requires more self discipline to not fall off on your boundaries and sticking to your word. kudos to you brother you got this	/r/Divorce_Men	28/11/23 10:30 PM
2	Updates after 2 months of Separation Thats good man, you're taking initiative. I'm proud of you for taking the steps and acknowledging that you didn't deserve any of that negativity. I know its easier said than done, but you got this and you'll get through it all and be a happier person in the end.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/23 02:31 PM
2	Updates after 2 months of Separation You got this man. Trust me when I say the beginning part isn't going to be the hardest part, and I won't sugar coat it when I say it will probably get worse, depending on your situation. However, once you get through your worst it can only go up from there. During that super shitty period, you're going to need support and someone to help you through it. Maintain connection with a support system (ie close friends, support groups, therapy, family, etc.) have someone you can talk to whenever you ju…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/23 02:57 AM
1	Updates after 2 months of Separation I'll have to add that to my list of books. I have so many self improvement books that I have on my to do list. I haven't read a book since freshman year of college so its good to get back on it.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/23 02:52 AM
2	Updates after 2 months of Separation Stay tough brother you are going to get through it!	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/23 02:51 AM
3	Updates after 2 months of Separation Thats how it has been for me too especially in the beginning. Trust me you're going to go through a lot of hell before you see any glimpse of heaven. It took a lot of therapy, discussing with friends, and overall reflecting on her behavior (as well as mine) to see that this might be the best thing for my life. There are several amazing divorce podcasts on spotify that I've been listening to that are geared towards men and they have been super helpful because I'd say like 70-80% of men have simil…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/23 02:50 AM
3	Updates after 2 months of Separation For sure, its a huge talking point in my therapy sessions that I lack boundaries. It is currently something I am working on and it has been getting better. As for the missing/handsome aspect, I didn't really care and was just trying to be civil (don't want to make things worse and bring in multiple legal battles that aren't necessary). The only thing is that those moments threw me off and then she would say something out of pocket afterwards, for example, when she asked if I missed her I was hon…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/06/23 02:32 AM
1	Trial separation in home or move out? i read somewhere that relationships with trial separations have a high percentage of ending if someone moves out of the common living space.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/23 05:18 PM
3	What did you do? ive been working out a lot more (sometimes two a days) but havent this week because of food poisoning (bad burgers and brats from memorial day lol). therapy has been incredibly helpful but i still feel unsatisfied/unhappy with how I'm feeling. just want this to all go away asap	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/23 09:14 PM
1	What did you do? Fair. How long did you wait during your separation/divorce before you went for it?	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/23 07:59 PM
2	What did you do? How were you mentally able to go fuck other women? Right now unfortunately the thought of having sex is my lowest priority	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/23 07:57 PM
5	Advice during divorce makes sense. i guess i'm just optimistic because of our long history, but then again i wouldnt be dealing with the divorce if that was always the case lmao	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/23 03:32 AM
5	Advice during divorce no kids. were both young and both agreed that we dont want to lose contact after the divorce and continue as friends. but not sure how realistic that is. i only know one couple like that and its one of my friends parents	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/23 03:23 AM
9	How to kill all “Hope” of reconciliation? im currently in the process of going through with a divorce. the wife hit me with the intent of separating a month ago. how i was able to move on was to talk to peers and others that observed my relationship and told me that they noticed poor behavior from my spouse that i was blindly ignoring. it helped me realize that i dont deserve that treatment and that i dont actually miss her specifically, just the idea of a companion/bestfriend that i could go to at any time. therapy also helps man. i en…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/23 02:57 AM