boston_nemmy Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
111	3 second rule: I think I finally understand the reason for it, and why it is so important.	Beginner Advice	boston_nemmy	/r/seduction	05/11/12 12:18 AM
69	My response last night to "Is this seat taken?"		boston_nemmy	/r/seduction	07/10/12 05:59 PM
27	Suddenly, almost every girl I talk to "has a boyfriend"?		boston_nemmy	/r/seduction	08/10/12 08:09 PM
5	Seddit, how does one go about learning to dance?	Outer Game	boston_nemmy	/r/seduction	16/10/12 05:04 AM
3	Tactfully leave a set after getting a number, when you didn't use a FTC?		boston_nemmy	/r/seduction	24/11/12 11:38 PM
1	K-closing not leading to escalation? Should I avoid K-close?		boston_nemmy	/r/seduction	16/09/12 06:04 AM
1	How long to wait on a date-flake before scheduling something else?		boston_nemmy	/r/seduction	28/10/12 05:03 PM

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22	Lets compile a list of bar games that are simple, fun, kill time between conversation, and attract attention from girls. AMA Game. Works best if you're with a wing in a 2 set, so that there's an equal number of people meeting each other for the first time. Rules are simple. You go in a circle. Whoever's turn it is picks someone else from the group and makes a statement. E.g, it's your turn, you pick your target's friend and say something like, "You're an only child." If you are wrong, you have to drink; otherwise, they drink. Really easy way to tell if the other person is interested in you, and what their level of…	/r/seduction	26/12/12 02:14 PM
2	Wing find post is dead/old as fuck, can we have a new one? Boston	/r/seduction	30/11/12 10:01 PM
2	Wing find post is dead/old as fuck, can we have a new one? massachusetts	/r/seduction	30/11/12 10:00 PM
6	3 second rule: I think I finally understand the reason for it, and why it is so important. Really good point. The "getting out of bed in the morning" part, especially. Everyone knows that feeling - every second you stay in bed just adds to the "I don't want to get out" feeling, and then when you finally get out of bed, it sucks. But if you just jump out of bed right when you wake up, you haven't had a chance to build up that resentment, and it's much better.	/r/seduction	05/11/12 06:53 PM
3	3 second rule: I think I finally understand the reason for it, and why it is so important. Thanks - fixed	/r/seduction	05/11/12 11:33 AM
1	As a long time AFC, how do you permanently remove the "out of my league" mentality you experience when you see a very gorgeous girl? This. Just re-learn to get over your AA, but at a higher level.	/r/seduction	01/11/12 11:53 PM
9	18 and recently found Seddit. Had my first real approach yesterday. That feeling of "why the hell didn't I get her number??" sucks, doesn't it... I think we've all been there when starting out (I know I have). The best advice I've gotten on that is to go for the number every. damn. time. Even if you don't think you're going to get it, try anyway. Going for the number (after a somewhat successful interaction, obviously - don't ask for a number if a girl tells you to screw off) should just be a natural step for you when you exit an interaction. The good news is th…	/r/seduction	28/10/12 05:20 PM
4	Seduction thoughts 6 months in One thing you'll always see, if you watch in-field footage of PUAs on Youtube, is that their approach is strong. People develop first-impressions within seconds, so a strong, dominant, alpha approach is important. It's easier to go in strong and dial it down a notch, than to go in weak and try to ratchet it up. There's an analogy from one of the RSD guys, that goes like this. You have to be the Kool Aid "Oh Yeah!" guy. Basically, say you approach two girls talking to each other at the bar. You d…	/r/seduction	14/10/12 05:48 PM
4	So, I'm laughing because I get flaked on so much. More inside. My overall numbers are not as high as yours, but my flake rate is lower. I usually ask with "What's your schedule like next week?" This gives her the opportunity to pick a day which works for her. She'll usually give multiple options, so it still works if you have a busy schedule. I also wonder if this kind of makes it feel like her idea, since she's setting the date of the date. I spend quite a bit of time in sets, so I build a lot of attraction/comfort, which makes dates easier. I find that wh…	/r/seduction	09/10/12 10:29 PM
1	Suddenly, almost every girl I talk to "has a boyfriend"? Good advice! Thanks centurijon.	/r/seduction	08/10/12 10:04 PM
0	Suddenly, almost every girl I talk to "has a boyfriend"? What I meant by that is, she's either leaving, or I am 'committed' to an exit. Granted, now that I actually think about it, neither are a good reason - especially the second. I think a good way to learn/develop from this is to simply keep going for the number when this comes up.	/r/seduction	08/10/12 09:28 PM
2	Suddenly, almost every girl I talk to "has a boyfriend"? I'm curious why you think the evolutionary DHVs are related to this problem. In any event, this is good advice for improving game in general. Thanks!	/r/seduction	08/10/12 09:21 PM
3	Suddenly, almost every girl I talk to "has a boyfriend"? You, sir, are correct. I'm hoping that this turns out to be a temporary/fluke thing, so for now my plan is to just keep going, use it to work on my game, and plow through whenever I hit this problem.	/r/seduction	08/10/12 09:20 PM
0	Suddenly, almost every girl I talk to "has a boyfriend"? For #3 - this has always been at the very end of the interaction when I'm going for a number close, so at that point the dynamics are tough. I've plowed through once to get the number, but I've been so surprised that I get caught offguard and don't force through it.	/r/seduction	08/10/12 09:18 PM
1	Suddenly, almost every girl I talk to "has a boyfriend"? Actually, follow up question for you. Regarding #2, what's your method of determining whether or not they're taken? It seems like a bad idea to ask directly. Indirect (but telegraphing a lot of interest) could be something like "how is it that a girl like you isn't already taken?"	/r/seduction	08/10/12 09:17 PM
9	Suddenly, almost every girl I talk to "has a boyfriend"? I don't directly ask "do you have a boyfriend" - my assumption has been that if a chick is kino'ing back, then she's single. But, poor assumption. I do think you have a point; one thing I need to do better is sexualizing the conversation. Thanks for your read on this!	/r/seduction	08/10/12 08:37 PM
24	My response last night to "Is this seat taken?" I hadn't ordered yet; she got the first round, I got the second.	/r/seduction	07/10/12 11:51 PM
1	is it unheard of for a 30 years old guy to be with a 22 years old girl? Do it. Just don't expect them to be on the same level as you are, in terms of social/career/financial/etc state.	/r/seduction	06/10/12 12:29 AM
2	How does one approach a set of girls when you're only interested in one of them? / Dealing with regret. The only comment I have here is that "never ask for the phone number" is not a hard-fast rule, as you seem to say it is. There are girls out there that won't give their phone number until prompted. I've tried applying the "don't ask, they'll give it" rule, but it's wound up with situations where the girl is just staring at me, basically saying "ask me for my friggin' number" with her eyes.	/r/seduction	06/10/12 12:28 AM
1	Worth a try? By the way, the purpose of the joke here (in part #1 of my comment) has two purposes. First, it makes them more comfortable with your hand, since it shows that you're comfortable with it. Secondly, it'll make them laugh and relax, just like any joke. Work it into your routine, and use it to your advantage. I've got an amputee friend (above the knee) and he gets some awesome pulls using his leg as a conversational topic. It works because he's comfortable with it, which makes others comfortable wi…	/r/seduction	20/09/12 03:24 PM
1	Worth a try? Dude, go for it. I agree with the other points here: 1) Don't hide it. When they look at it, you can (a) joke about it, and then (b) follow it up with a softly told version of the truth. "Nah, I'm kidding, it's just a birth defect." 2) It's a good reverse shit test. Girls that aren't interested in you because of it are shit. I wouldn't want to be with that type of girl either. It's probably more difficult for you, since you're in the position of, "She doesn't want to talk because there's somethi…	/r/seduction	20/09/12 03:21 PM
1	What do you guys do to get in state? I don't day game much, but indeed this is a bit of a problem. I get blown out of my first set every. damn. time. I've come to accept that the first girl I approach will always be a rejection; after that, I'm good. It doesn't phase me anymore, it's like my night hasn't started until I get that first rejection under my belt.	/r/seduction	19/09/12 07:22 PM
2	Why is there such an emphasis of working out in this subreddit? By the way, if you have a naturally small body type, 'bulking up' will be a bit difficult. If you work your ass off, you'll be able to build muscle definition quickly (low body fat + growing muscle) but you won't suddenly turn into the hulk. Don't get frustrated if you work out for months and seem to hit a wall with your physical growth. Google "hard earner" - it sounds like your body type fits that description (mine does).	/r/seduction	19/09/12 02:49 PM
2	Why is there such an emphasis of working out in this subreddit? I think there are two things of importance here. Working out makes you look better, which is a plus, but it also increases confidence. My understanding (I could be wrong, a quick google did not provide anything definitive, just people making the same assumption I am making) is that strength training increases testosterone levels. Increased testosterone levels literally force you to be more confident - it's a biochemical reaction.	/r/seduction	19/09/12 02:46 PM
3	K-closing not leading to escalation? Should I avoid K-close? I think you guys (Wolfazz and Smooth-Operator) are both spot on. Last night I kept it short and sweet, and today I got a quick response back with a setup for later in the week.	/r/seduction	16/09/12 06:00 PM