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| 6 | You are not a courtroom. You do not owe men the presumption of innocence.This post is spot on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 02:53 PM |
| -3 | Polyamory only favors men and when it DOES favor women it is generally frowned upon97% of all Muslim marriages are monogamous. So saying in Islamic nations (what does that even mean) that it’s common to have a harem of women is kind of Islamophobic on your part because that is simply divorced from the reality of the situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:39 PM |
| 2 | ✩ FDS FOR TEENS ✩ PART 1: LITTERALLY ANYTHING ELSE > MENCan confirm, if I could change anything about my 20s at all I wish I never dated men. I am still successful in my own right but I’m well aware how much I lost out on too. Don’t ever make exceptions for a man. If he actually loves you and is actually good for you he wouldn’t expect you to ruin your life for him anyway | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 02:21 PM |
| 5 | How long did you wait before being proposed to?In my culture if you’re seeing a man for a year and he hasn’t formally asked your family permission to propose to you then it’s a problem. Even in western culture, if it takes him longer than 1/2 years you need to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 02:16 PM |
| 8 | Time to focus on me after breakupMen project their feelings about a woman to the rest of the male population. I’ve been proposed to more times than I’ll admit, by men a lot more eager to wed than I was, the only reason he is telling you NO men want to get married is because HE doesn’t want to marry you. Don’t internalize his bullshit because that’s all it is - bull shit. You did the right thing, there is better out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 12:44 PM |
| 46 | Male entitlementWhen I got to the bottom of your post and saw that you’re 18, it made me happy because you’re on the right track if you’re realizing this now and not ten years later. One piece of advice I will give you is when you go to college and start meeting new people and having experiences, that’s when I felt like men were gaslighting me about my standards the hardest. When you’re a college girl you have to worry about sleazy college boys as well as older predators that seek out college girls. As long as … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 10:58 AM |
| 16 | If men here are so bothered by educated and careerist women, why don't they date someone from a lower class?So weird for men to sit and talk about whether things I did for myself (my education and career) are attractive. I didn’t get a degree so someone could put their dick in it. Nobody cares what insecure men want | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/21 01:32 PM |
| 72 | Even the men on Twitter are defending FDS over Dominque. Regarding the whole Vice article, this was one of the responsens on the Vice twitter. Meanwhile not a single person has been patting her on the back and told her she did a great job- quite the opposite.Men know how they are like and how other men are like. I can get men I know to agree with me about the fundamentals of FDS before a Pick Me ever will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 10:47 PM |
| 4 | Marriage is a scam for women in the USI agree with this a thousand percent and have been saying it all my life. I’m from west asia and the bride and her family aren’t expected to pay a single thing. The idea of a man having a bachelor party and cheating on you the night before the wedding also doesn’t exist in my culture. Several things about American dating culture and marriage culture absolutely terrify me. American women are expected to go 50/50 on dates and bills for the rest of their lives while also getting CZ engagement rings… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 07:22 AM |
| 99 | *MBTI TYPES IS NOT AN EXCUSE FOR LOW VALUE BEHAVIOR* Has anyone else noticed an influx of men who label themselves “INTJ” absolutely shitty, and leave you with a funny feeling?Most of those men aren’t actually INTJ they just wish they were because of misconceptions about the personality type. I’m an INTJ and I’ve come across some INTJ men before and they’re more romantically clueless than they are master emotional manipulators but do tend to be painfully arrogant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 04:11 AM |
| 2 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseI guess not the ones you talk to? I don’t know what to tell you besides hang around better circles and meet better people? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 09:34 PM |
| 4 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseLmao you’re the one berating your own ethnic group for karma online instead of thinking critically about the men you pick. That along with this response to me makes it pretty clear that you don’t have enough insight into the world or yourself to properly vet a suitor. At the end of the day, I’m a strategy coach in this sub and you’re a newbie, maybe humble yourself and listen to other people | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 07:13 PM |
| 8 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseThat street harassment behavior has less to do with their race or culture and everything to do with economic and social status. Here I get harassed in the street by Hispanic or white men, I don’t take it to mean anything about that group of people just that most men are either white or Hispanic here. But there is a larger Hispanic population than MENA over here, MENA are a very small minority. I’m arab American and live in a nice area. An Arab American man that meets all my standards wouldn’t be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 05:19 PM |
| 5 | Witnessed NVM behavior at grocery storeYeah this is important. Feels like OP rushed to make a judgement over an entire culture based on observing one situation she doesnt have the full story to. It’s a Common theme on this sub for them to look for opportunities to bash MENA culture and Islam in general so unfortunately OP hasn’t been the first to do this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 03:59 PM |
| 6 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseI am arab lol , vet your men better habibti | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseMENA men that were born and raised in the west usually have different mentalities than that. I date mostly MENA American men and im not a virgin, it’s never been an issue, I’ve been proposed to several times, it really depends on the man. Also I’m sure our ages have something to do with it too, but I’ve had better experiences with MENA American men than any other ethnic group. I have met men of other races that were more insecure about my past than the Arab men I dated. You can find good and bad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 03:13 PM |
| 287 | Say no to easy men 👀Cant turn a hoe into a husband | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 11:54 AM |
| 2 | How to spot a cheating manGreat post, thanks for sharing with us | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 03:05 PM |
| 8 | Am I bugging or is this a real thing? The first thing I thought was “sounds rapey to me” I’ve had this happen to me, but idk how the person could really be sleeping. A lot of folks in the comments agree that it’s a thing.So the condition is actually real but i think he is lying about having it. When someone with the condition is having an episode, you can tell they are actually still asleep...and if you interact with them you can wake them up...if she couldn’t tell her husband was still asleep then he probably wasn’t asleep. I haven’t heard of someone with the condition actually have an episode for two minutes or long enough to be climaxing either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 05:08 PM |
| 39 | Wait...isn’t Torey Lanez the guy that shot Megan? (I don’t even follow pop culture that closely) Why do I feel “crazy” right now?Yes he shot her then released a song trying to blame her for what happened and lying on her name, he is trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 01:36 AM |
| 18 | How does dating multiple people work?Men are deranged and lie for fun, that’s the only way I can rationalize it. I think they get off on deception. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 04:35 PM |
| 38 | How does dating multiple people work?It’s none of their business until they directly ask you. If they do, calmly tell them that he hasn’t offered you commitment yet so he has no reason to expect it out of you and then change the subject. Don’t make a big deal out of it If a man really likes you he should be expressing that kind of interest and intentions early on, if you aren’t sure how he feels about you after 3 dates then drop him. Exclusivity is on your terms not theirs, you can expect it and take it when it’s right for you. If … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 03:31 PM |
| 61 | FDS made me quit my Dollar Shave Club subscription! Here’s why you should cancel yours, too! — #DSCHatesWomenThanks for the heads up, I’ll be canceling mine as well immediately | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 12:42 AM |
| 12 | "I'm a broke loser so I stole these flowers for you." 🤮The sad thing is this is literally how they think too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 05:38 PM |
| 3 | IT'S HERE!! WE'VE LAUNCHED THEREALFEMALEDATINGSTRATEGY.COM WEBSITE! SIGN UP ASAP IN CASE WE'RE BANNED!Yeah I did the same with the eight digit code, hopefully I messaged the right person this time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 01:54 PM |
| 9 | Need advice on gift givingDon’t buy him anything, even if he gets you a tennis bracelet for your birthday. No Father’s Day gifts for just boyfriends that don’t have kids with you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 03:34 PM |
| 2 | My mom always gets so upset when I tell her, I won’t marry a Muslim dude even if my life depends on it. I’m sorry if I offend anyone, but as someone who spent years studying the religion, the whole thing is super misogynistic when it come to women.You are a dumbass. The Saudi Arabian government commits sins regularly, any Muslim with a brain knows that Saudi Arabian government is the anthesis of Islam and it doesn’t matter what they claim. Just because the westboro church is based on Christianity doesn’t mean they represent it. Again, stop harassing me you uncultured swine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 12:59 AM |
| 1 | My mom always gets so upset when I tell her, I won’t marry a Muslim dude even if my life depends on it. I’m sorry if I offend anyone, but as someone who spent years studying the religion, the whole thing is super misogynistic when it come to women.You’re again a dumb ass. I’m from a region in the Middle East where male guardian ship isn’t a thing. You are again obsessing over literal quotes from the Quran taken out of context and the fucked up cultural traditions of a few cherry picked countries that DEFY ISLAM CONSTANTLY in everything they do and stand for. Again, I told you to leave me alone and shut the fuck up. Go away; and stop bothering someone who clearly has no respect for you. Cease your incessant harassment and stop responding t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 12:57 AM |
| 2 | My mom always gets so upset when I tell her, I won’t marry a Muslim dude even if my life depends on it. I’m sorry if I offend anyone, but as someone who spent years studying the religion, the whole thing is super misogynistic when it come to women.No actually they don’t. SAUDI CULTURE, GULF CULTURE does. You don’t know anything of what you are talking about and you are so desperate to be right. Get a life lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 12:53 AM |
| 3 | My mom always gets so upset when I tell her, I won’t marry a Muslim dude even if my life depends on it. I’m sorry if I offend anyone, but as someone who spent years studying the religion, the whole thing is super misogynistic when it come to women.Again THE GULF DOES NOT REPRESENT ALL MUSLIMS OR ALL MUSLIM CULTURE. THEY ARE A SMALL PERCENTAGE OF THE TOTAL MUSLIM AND MIDDLE EASTERN POPULATION. Lol the south is full of bull shit laws and restrictions that are pushed primarily by bible thumpers, have you been to Alabama? Try harder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 12:53 AM |
| 3 | My mom always gets so upset when I tell her, I won’t marry a Muslim dude even if my life depends on it. I’m sorry if I offend anyone, but as someone who spent years studying the religion, the whole thing is super misogynistic when it come to women.The part that makes it hypocritical is the hyper focus on Islam over all other religions, again pretending like it’s for the benefit of the Muslim woman when it isn’t | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 10:54 PM |
| 3 | My mom always gets so upset when I tell her, I won’t marry a Muslim dude even if my life depends on it. I’m sorry if I offend anyone, but as someone who spent years studying the religion, the whole thing is super misogynistic when it come to women.Good for you, Christianity literally endorsed beating wives, it revolves around worshiping a literal man and two pieces of wood. I sound just as stupid saying stuff like that as you sound thinking it makes you progressive to criticize a faith you don’t understand because you can’t even read the original text to begin with. I’m not trying to shame you, I don’t give a fuck about you, I’m just letting you know that Muslim women see through your hypocritical bull shit and don’t care for it. SJW? Gro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 10:00 PM |
| 1 | My mom always gets so upset when I tell her, I won’t marry a Muslim dude even if my life depends on it. I’m sorry if I offend anyone, but as someone who spent years studying the religion, the whole thing is super misogynistic when it come to women.Again as a Muslim woman you yourself know the image you posted was fake propaganda, where again in the Quran does it say our heart chambers were made in fours for four wives...what the fuck lmao? Your dad and uncles were a little mean to you so now you just make shit up online? I’m sorry but that’s your experience. Saudi Arabia and the Gulf do not represent all Muslims or the Middle East and im frankly tired of people in this sub acting like it does. Allah yesamhik | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 09:58 PM |
| 1 | My mom always gets so upset when I tell her, I won’t marry a Muslim dude even if my life depends on it. I’m sorry if I offend anyone, but as someone who spent years studying the religion, the whole thing is super misogynistic when it come to women.And I’m allowed to comment about your dumb post as I please. If you can’t handle the backlash don’t post it, habibti | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 09:52 PM |
| 2 | My mom always gets so upset when I tell her, I won’t marry a Muslim dude even if my life depends on it. I’m sorry if I offend anyone, but as someone who spent years studying the religion, the whole thing is super misogynistic when it come to women.It is white feminism lol, where are you when there are literally any other discussions going on that concern Muslim women? The same political party obsessed with denouncing Islam “for the benefit of the Muslim woman” will literally spit on that same Muslim woman’s face if she comes to them as a Syrian refugee. A lot of your concern stems from ignorance and cherry picked knowledge curated from a series of google searches. You’ve never been to the Middle East. I live in the southern United States,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 09:51 PM |
| -3 | My mom always gets so upset when I tell her, I won’t marry a Muslim dude even if my life depends on it. I’m sorry if I offend anyone, but as someone who spent years studying the religion, the whole thing is super misogynistic when it come to women.This post is fake....nowhere in the Quran does it say our hearts are separated into four chambers for this purpose...are you dumb? This isn’t even real lol. What’s the point of this post? I didn’t ask you about which races and religions you aren’t interested in, nobody did, nor do I care. Keep that shit to yourself. Middle eastern and Muslim women also don’t care about you or your fake concern for them. The only time you pretend to care about Muslim women is to shit on Islam and Muslim men, pret… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 06:58 PM |
| 6 | Do you let your boyfriend follow girls who post sexual pics that he thinks are attractive and doesn’t know who they are?Agree 100% Like many others have said I won’t control him but I’m not going to commit to a man that another woman can turn around and say “oh yeah, him? He follows me on Instagram and likes my bikini posts all the time”. I hate it when men in committed relationships interact with me on social media. It makes me view them as trash and I pity the women in their lives. They’re also in my DMs, but with so many PickMes out there that’ll want to fight the woman because her boyfriend won’t leave the wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 01:48 AM |
| 5 | Hahahahhaha he genuinely thinks this is trueThey also under estimate how many men are all ready established and making good money in their careers before the age of 30. Why would I, a woman in my 20s, bother with a 48 year old attorney when I can have a 29 year old one? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 01:37 AM |
| 8 | Many of you girls decided you’re fine with being single forever. But how do you feel fine with never having a family / biological kids?Finding a HVM isn’t a guarantee that we will have biological children. Fertility issues happen, not everyone can have kids. Settling for just any man, for a future that isn’t guaranteed, is never worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 03:28 AM |
| 29 | Is this a LVM?You shouldn’t be noticing how long he takes to respond to you and whether or not he has been online, too much focus on this guy too soon. Keep an open roster open so you don’t fixate too much on one person until someone proves themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 03:26 AM |
| -6 | Respecting religions that degrade women.Make posts about the Bible then. No religion is above criticism so why is it only one religion that you criticize here? Your issue isn’t with the religion it’s the race of its primary followers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 12:30 AM |
| -6 | Finding a Muslim HVMNobody threatened her. I also never labeled her as crazy. None of that was a personal attack, glad that you felt like it was though. I guess the shoe must fit. Feel free to lace it up and take it for a walk, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 12:27 AM |
| -6 | Finding a Muslim HVMYikes, on a public forum where anyone can screenshot? That’s not very high value woman of you. Whether you like it or not, you just bashed a prophet for the second largest religion in the world. That’s a lot of people you could possibly deeply offend. Just because you won’t date a Muslim doesn’t mean one can’t be your boss one day, or be in another position of authority over you where comments like these could come back to bite you in the ass. People get canceled over far less offensive old post… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 10:24 PM |
| 4 | Finding a Muslim HVMAny self respecting woman lmfao, don’t you dare. You are confusing culture with Islam, like a lot of people in those cultures do when they commit violence against women or mistreat women “in the name of Islam”. I’m sure you come from a culture and believe in a religion that I could pick a part and find equally as stupid. But doing so would reflect poorly on me just as your comment reflects very poorly on your character so I won’t. Y’all do too much in the comment section anytime Muslim or Islam … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 10:18 PM |
| 68 | Finding a Muslim HVMI’m a Muslim woman, it all depends on finding a man with the same halal/haram ratio as you. That’s going to mean different things for different people. There are certain characteristics that are haram, that I won’t see as a red flag, that another Muslim woman would. It’s all relative, so the stuff you look for and questions you ask would also change accordingly. Make sure you see eye to eye on what’s important to you. If you’re vehemently against alcohol, don’t date someone who drinks hoping you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 08:09 PM |
| 280 | "FDS isn't a good dating advice". Any thoughts about this post and its opinion about the FDS ?Never settling down is actually the better alternative to both settling down and finding a HVM. Even the highest value man is still a man at the end of the day lol. I see commitment as something men have to convince me to do for them, not something that I have to convince men I’m worthy of. I’m in no rush to put my career on hold to spread some man’s seed lmao. This person is a LVM so of course he doesn’t get it. He is seeing it under the lense of finding a man being the ultimate prize by any me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 07:10 PM |
| 12 | AlcoholicsWith alcoholics it’s easier to tell than other addictions. Looking back at alcoholics I’ve been involved with, the signs were there, I just listened to the stuff they’d tell people and themselves to cope with their addiction and thought they “weren’t that bad” Things I ask to figure it out: Are you a drinker? How often do you drink? What do you usually drink when you drink? Is it social for you or do you find yourself drinking alone sometimes to unwind? Have you ever had a DUI/DWI? How long have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 08:04 PM |
| 10 | How many other NVM phrases can you think of ?Unpaid internships are legal only if the intern is the primary beneficiary of the arrangement. Therefore the intern is still receiving a benefit, even if not compensated financially, as they are primarily benefiting from the arrangement they are in. In regards to working half a shift unpaid as a trial, that’s actually illegal if you performed productive work. If they had you work a trial as part of an interview process but they didn’t generate any revenue from your work that’s fine. It has to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 07:57 PM |
| 17 | How many other NVM phrases can you think of ?I’ve never personally encountered that. For independent contract work they may want to see samples or operate under a milestone payment method but an employee (w2 entity) working for a period of time for Free before receiving a paycheck? I am not sure that’s legal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 04:48 PM |
| 79 | Why SHOULDN’T we kink shame? When did we all decide people’s sexual preferences were separate from their actual values?I think if those people got the mental health help they needed, they wouldn’t be into perverted sexual acts. Society shouldn’t encourage people to indulge in their kinks, they should encourage them to seek help to figure out what happened in their childhood that leads them to find sex like that as ideal and how to heal that wound. Instead of encouraging people to beat each other up in bed like it’s normal, maybe people should ask each other why they even find that pleasurable to begin with. Whet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 12:37 PM |
| 186 | How many other NVM phrases can you think of ?That’s like saying a professional that won’t come work for you for free doesn’t eventually deserve a job offer from your company lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 12:30 PM |
| 4 | Looking for Pro FDS music/ girl/woman power anthems (non misogynistic music)Cover girl - BIA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 03:43 AM |
| 10 | Stop mistreating you female friends, especially over a fuckboyShe expects them to do that because she is mentally ill and wasn’t making progress in therapy, it was never portrayed as an excuse. This isn’t real life it was a TV show, and that wasn’t the point of the show at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 01:24 PM |
| 24 | Stop mistreating you female friends, especially over a fuckboyI liked the show, I think Devi is mentally ill so I didn’t take the creators of the show as saying her behavior was admirable or anything. Devi reminds me of myself when I was at that age, brown, nerdy, and suffering from BPD. A lot of stuff about that character reminded me of BPD. I think her fixation with that boy and hot/cold behavior with her friends wasn’t praised, I think the show did try to point out that Devi isn’t okay and she acted the way she did due to misplaced grief. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 11:24 AM |
| 51 | If your man seeks space like this most of the time and gives the same attitude about it, give up and move on sis. It’s boring being with a moody, non-conversing, inconsiderate, stone-walling man child. He doesn’t want to spend time with you so leave itI lived with a man like this before, horrible for my mental health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 12:47 PM |
| 2 | "Starter Wife" - Justine Musk talks about the realities of her relationship with Elon. Note the red flags and familiar-to-all-of-us experiences!Thank you for sharing this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 04:23 AM |
| 23 | “Men sleep with who they can but women sleep with who they want. Men marry who they want but women marry who they can” Thoughts??Men seldom marry the woman they loved the most, they marry whoever is there when they are ready to settle down. In essence, most men are not married to the woman they actually want to be married to and never will be | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 05:54 AM |
| 173 | “Men sleep with who they can but women sleep with who they want. Men marry who they want but women marry who they can” Thoughts??Men sleep with whoever they can, aka whoever is willing to say yes to them. Men also marry with whoever they can, as they end up with whoever is willing to say yes to them. That quote is something men say to make themselves feel better about their beer bellies and receding hair lines | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 11:31 PM |
| 60 | The Myth of the Male Bumbler: how men take one of our culture's most muscular myths — that men are clueless — and weaponize it into an alibiMen are not as clueless as they want us to think they are, great post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 03:56 PM |
| 2 | I would change this to say “how to vet a guy to see if he really likes you” versus “how to get any guy to like you” (convincing someone to like you is PickMe behavior) but the overall message otherwise is in line with FDSangel_dreamz | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 12:38 PM |
| 40 | What would you do if your boyfriend called another girl hot/cute in front of you?“Yeah she is beautiful, but you’re not hot enough to act like that” and then deal with it later in private. I wouldn’t make a public scene over something small. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 01:51 AM |
| 35 | One of my personal dating rules:Never date a man who states he is looking for a woman with "a sense of humour"Flirting with men 101 is laughing at his jokes even if they aren’t funny. Making a man jealous 101 is laughing at any other man’s jokes around him even if they aren’t funny. Yes, men like the rest of us can feel one way or another regarding humor or when humor is involved. These feelings aren’t exclusive to men and they don’t automatically make someone low value. How they respond to it is, so I wouldn’t be so quick to write humor off as a weapon. It’s a tool. I don’t really agree with this post … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 01:05 AM |
| 31 | Mentality of LVMs in one song: French Montana - Famous. They want you to stay down.This is a great post because I was thinking about this the other day. If we listen to men’s lyrics in music in regards to women they frequently tell us exactly how they think about us - loud and clear and what their tactics are. This is a great example of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 12:31 AM |
| 79 | I would change this to say “how to vet a guy to see if he really likes you” versus “how to get any guy to like you” (convincing someone to like you is PickMe behavior) but the overall message otherwise is in line with FDSThat’s a good point and true, it’s effective for her target audience which would be other young women that need to hear this advice. I just couldn’t bring myself to type out “how to get a guy to like you” in the title on it’s own lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 08:39 PM |
| 45 | Is jealousy a pickme trait?Yes it is a PickMe trait. They see other women as competition and their man as a prize that could be snatched away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 06:24 PM |
| 7 | Pathetic... Yet another way for “men” to absolve themselves of responsibility for their actions.Sounds exactly like my dad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 05:59 PM |
| 32 | Did you ever experience true love?I don’t think so. They claimed they loved me I just don’t believe it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 12:09 PM |
| 29 | How to gently let a man down who you are not physically attracted to?Always ask how tall they are immediately. If all they had of you was photos from the neck up, best believe they’d try to figure out what your weight is. Don’t feel bad, men are way more ruthless with women. If he asks why just say “the vibe felt off”. You don’t have to tell him much. He is getting rejected regardless, the “why” doesn’t matter so much. Most of the time though men have enough self respect to not interrogate you as to why, they’ll usually pretend to be tough/not care and keep whate… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 10:10 PM |
| 14 | Men who are threatened by your beauty.Yeah I experienced something similar before, down to him always wanting to compete against me rather than with me in life. It’s definitely due to insecurity and him knowing you can do better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 09:43 PM |
| 52 | I think the title says it all. I can't be the only one shocked and profoundly sad and upset.This is true, it’s the majority. I have far more stories of friends getting cheated on during tragedies in their lives than them getting cheated on during other times. There is something about a LVM seeing you down on your luck that makes him want to add to the pain as much as he can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 09:41 PM |
| 68 | How to gently let a man down who you are not physically attracted to?You don’t owe him any money lol consider the wine a gift. If he even expects money back for it or the wine back that’s pretty low of him, in my opinion. He didn’t give you the wine as part of a transaction for a service (a date). He just gave you the wine. Let men waste their money on you if they want to. Just tell him you aren’t interested, men get rejected all the time. It isn’t new to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Don’t be a fanYeah I keep my social media (one app) with very minimal content mostly related to work and I use it for that initial lurk where I gather my information then after that I’m usually not interested in seeing more of their content. I’m fine with requesting them when they have private profiles so I can see what they have on their page but I won’t stay following them for long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 02:20 AM |
| 19 | Don’t be a fanSometimes you have to follow them so that they know what your account is to follow you back. Never initiating dates and contact is important but social media it’s ok to initially follow them so they follow you or follow them for a period of time for some purpose but I end up unfollowing them in a few days or a week. For the reasons you mentioned, i hate the way men use social media. I also do notice that the ones that are interested step up their game once they notice that I unfollowed them. Thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 07:21 PM |
| 27 | Have any of y'all ever exposed a man to his gf?Yes I did and the chick started threatening to fight me for some reason so I don’t do it anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 12:56 PM |
| 13 | I paid $12 to cringe constantlyWow I’ve had this happen to me too, glad to know I’m not alone. It’s very strange. Like of course I don’t need you, I should never need you...you shouldn’t even want a woman that NEEDS you...but their egos are too fragile to handle it I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 12:46 PM |
| 55 | Men aren't the gatekeepers of commitmentEvery female in the animal kingdom has males fighting over them. Every female in the animal kingdom gets to choose which suitor is best for her. This x100. Men PROPOSE marriage to women, they are supposed to present themselves to us and ask us for the final decision on whether or not a wedding even happens. Yet women have been manipulated to think we have to work for the commitment or earn the "honor" of a man asking you a question...that you still have the ultimate power to say no to. We are th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 08:29 AM |
| 8 | I really wish I could’ve seen this thread earlier.... I didn’t know we shouldn’t tell men we’ve been in abusive relationships. A guy friend of mine that I’ve been talking to for 6 months knows basically everything about my exes ... there’s no going back now....There is no going back but there is always room to improve moving forward. Men literally masturbate to images of women being beat and degraded. Our emotional scars only turn them on and give them something to aspire to. All men want to top every man in your life. The thing with a negative value man is he also wants to top the negative experiences too. He wants to be the new topic of your therapy sessions going forward. They see it as a win. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 07:10 AM |
| 15 | FDS: How do you deal with gossip at work?Keep conversations surface level. You’re there to play a mental game of chess to further yourself in life, you’re not there to make friends. Be nice to everyone, say good morning, have basic manners around the office. Smile to people, be seen as someone charismatic and trustworthy. If you have a solid reputation people will doubt anything negative they hear about you. I’ve seen some people get away with a lot of questionable shit due to the strength of their reputation alone. You are a sales per… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 07:04 AM |
| 102 | “ 5’8 “I used to entertain 5’8” guys until I realized how insane they are because of the complex mostly other men give them about their size. Even though I’m short myself, 5’10” is the lowest I’ll go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 06:53 AM |
| 5 | My mom always brings up the fact that back when my great grandma was young, if you didn’t marry before 25 you were “an old maid”.Yeah my family is very involved but that’s how our culture is. How would your mom take it if when she brought the subject up, you pretended like you were interested in what she had to offer? “Yes mom, you’re right. I need to start thinking of my future. Do you know any eligible marriage minded men? “ Even if she says no, if you respond in a similar way every time she will get tired of having that conversation with you. Make it like talking to a brick wall. “Ok I’ll get married, find me a husband… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 06:49 AM |
| 40 | Ladies, #1 what’s the meaning behind this bs? #2 why would a guy actually like this?It doesn’t mean anything. To some men, simply dating and talking to several men makes you a hoe. Any beautiful single woman existing on her own terms is a hoe. Or maybe he is a LVM that thinks every woman out there is a PickMe, and that there are no “good women” . The shallowness in what they attract is a reflection of who they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 06:43 AM |
| 12 | A hilarious conversationMy age range is like 27-33 so its prime age for both having had a serious relationship in the past yet still being emotionally immature enough to use photos like that on a dating app | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 06:37 AM |
| 19 | My mom always brings up the fact that back when my great grandma was young, if you didn’t marry before 25 you were “an old maid”.What’s your ethnic background? I’m just asking because I live through the same thing. I’m in my late 20s and had that same mindset for awhile that I was going to “expire” at 25 too. Mostly from having my family push it into my head that I had to be married by then. A lot of that is what you said, cultural and misogynistic. Some people may disagree with me, but at this point I’ve stopped arguing with older female family members that have that mindset. At least not directly, I try to change their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 06:28 AM |
| 24 | A hilarious conversationOh yeah those are the worst...you can always tell which pictures another woman took of them, probably in a loving/intimate setting and it’s such a turn off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 05:48 AM |
| 31 | A hilarious conversationI know that men who post photos of themselves with other women on dating apps do it for that purpose. It’s so obvious, and an immediate left swipe for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 05:46 AM |
| 21 | Rescue Mission!!!If you try to educate her it’s only going to make their relationship stronger. Now they have a common enemy to focus on, whoever is sending those messages. She won’t believe you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 05:39 AM |
| 100 | An ex contacted me out of the blue today... I’m almost insulted that he thinks I’m this stupid.Wow that is not long ago at all to forget anybody, especially not an ex. Men would rather drag their balls through a field of glass shards before they ever allow themselves to show true emotional vulnerability. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 05:38 AM |
| 14 | Just ewSouth Asian and West Asian women come from just as oppressive cultures that breed “submissive” women but yeah they exclude the entire rest of the continent. I think it definitely has a lot to do with the anime obsession | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 05:34 AM |
| 53 | Just ewYeah it’s become a red flag for me when a man exclusively only chases Asian women. Number one, I’m not Asian so it would make me wonder wtf he wants from me. Number two, fetishizing an ethnicity is racism with extra steps | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 08:03 PM |
| 14 | The reason you've been negged explained hereYeah this is spot on. I actually had a LVM admit to me that this was his tactic, never tell a beautiful woman that she is beautiful because she hears it enough and will wonder why this guy out of everyone else can’t see it or refuses to acknowledge it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 08:00 PM |
| 5 | Pussy is Power. The only thing standing between you, a high value woman, and an inbox full of blue check marks begging to pay your bills is the low value man in your life convincing you that you aren't worth it.Some on OLD and some through work and some through the neighborhood. Moving to a nice side of town has made a big difference on my dating life! I find it’s easier to find HVM if you live in an area more likely to have some Im also a working professional and have made a name for myself in my industry so other working professionals like lawyers and such are what I would say my league is, I’m surrounded by them. I won’t bother going out on a date with a guy who isn’t a professional of some sort it’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 03:04 PM |
| 5 | My sister just sent me this 😂It’s SO HARD to find clothes! I thought getting smaller would help but it hasn’t and I realized it’s just my shape. And because my body has fluctuated so much I still have signs of old stretch marks. Getting fit and to a low body fat percentage didn’t take away all of my cellulite. Men love the IDEA of the full figured woman but they hate everything that comes with it that doesn’t fuel a sexual purpose to them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 04:25 AM |
| 51 | Quick Question Ladies... Is it ok if the person you're in a relationship constantly checks out other people when you're in public?Men who over do creepy stares to the point that their partner notices do it by choice. I dated someone who did this until I nearly left him over it then he stopped (still didn’t end up working out) but men can definitely lower their gaze lol. I notice hot men too I don’t leer at them the way these men with girlfriends do at women who don’t care about them. And the women they are checking out notice and can tell too which is uncomfortable. Every time a man with a woman checks me out I always hold… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 12:06 AM |
| 10 | How much does it really matter if you’re not his type physically?When I was in a college I went out with someone knowing I wasn’t physically his type and nothing he ever did or said to me made me forget it, it was a miserable experience, stick to people that want what you have to offer completely | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 11:43 PM |
| 18 | I have an avoidant attachment styleI’m avoidant and I’m trying to read into it and work with a therapist to be more secure. It’s tough though. Part of me enjoys keeping men at such an arms length. then there is the other part of me that cries every time I have to block someone for getting too interested in me because I can’t reciprocate the emotions. Really random but I was thinking about this just now because a TV show got me in my feelings. Some man was mourning his dead wife and I thought wow, I’ve never felt real love like th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 07:36 PM |
| 13 | My sister just sent me this 😂Yeah I’m in the 6 percent and it’s still not enough. Ass and boobs will never be big enough for their ugly, skinny fat asses | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 07:29 PM |
| 14 | My sister just sent me this 😂Yeah it’s so stupid!! I do squats but they refuse to comprehend that my ass physically cannot be as big as it was when I was a larger size if I wanna wear smaller clothes!! Like the ass is gonna shrink a bit it’s common sense even squats wont get you a size 12 ass on a size 0 frame but they hate to hear it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 07:28 PM |
| 56 | My sister just sent me this 😂Lmao when I reject men they still call me a fat bitch and I’m a size zero. Their audacity knows no limits | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 05:08 PM |
| 24 | My sister just sent me this 😂Yup lol hence why I said my ass is just okay lol. I mean it’s nice!! But these men expect me to have hit the genetic lottery 3 times over and do make comments that it’s not big enough. Like sir go to hell..it is very absurd and nobody is immune from it. You could be very close to perfect and it still won’t be enough | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 05:07 PM |
| 136 | My sister just sent me this 😂It’s so god damn true. The thing is I AM skinny, I DO have a flat stomach, big boobs, my ass is okay, bla bla bla. Yet men still get so angry at me for having physical preferences of my own! Like dude I work hard for my body, why the hell would I let someone with Dorito stains on his fingers touch it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 01:41 PM |
| 23 | I was beaten for having confidence last night.He almost killed you. I had an ex attempt to murder me once in the same way. I didn’t call the cops, idk why I didn’t. Now, I’m far removed from it all...and I wake up at night sometimes with nightmares about it, deeply regretting that I didn’t call the cops when it happened. I have to live with the memories forever and he got away with it. Regardless of how you feel now, Call the cops. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 01:06 PM |
| 10 | does anyone else have this loneliness that never really goes away?I’m not encouraging you to self diagnose or anything but you may find r/BPD relatable. Have you talked to a therapist about the lonely/empty feeling? I think everyone can benefit from therapy, whether or not they have a mental illness or past trauma or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 02:27 AM |
| 9 | Don't let LVM approach you or waste your time...ANY OF ITI tell them “I’m sorry, I don’t have any spare change” and keep it moving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 02:17 AM |
| 76 | Professionally ambitious women really only have two options when it comes to their personal partners — a super-supportive partner or no partner at all.I think men resent my career in a way because they can tell I’ll always love it more than I love them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 02:13 AM |
| 12 | The Femme Fatale Trope, Explained...This was a good watch, thanks for sharing it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 06:00 PM |
| 27 | Why attractive women are single?I say I’m single because none of mankind’s offerings have proven worthy enough yet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 12:55 AM |
| 22 | Are friends of LVM also LV?Simply low value men? No, sometimes they can be valuable in other areas of life like as a professional reference or something. A negative value, abusive man? Absolutely. I definitely do judge people that are close friends with and provide emotional support to men they know consistently mistreat women. I cut those people off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 10:14 PM |
| 131 | ‘Most of these people are men in their mid -30’s’ Man kills entire family because he wanted outI don’t understand why men are in such a rush to go back to living in general filth and squalor on their own, with no bed sheets, no head board, and an inbox full of women leaving their messages on delivered or read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 08:41 PM |
| 6 | Dating and looking low maintenanceThe Kaja Beauty Bento Eye Shimmers. Works good to add some very quick color to the lid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 07:27 PM |
| 13 | Dating and looking low maintenanceI don’t think you have to do those things to look high maintenance. That’s kind of what I mean, I feel like I’m still low maintenance because my routines outside of skin care don’t take long but I look high maintenance. My makeup routine takes 15 minutes because I paid attention to what I felt like I was “correcting” with makeup and then tried to find a time saving fix so that I only “need” a little to enhance my look. There are some nice eye shadows by this one brand you can literally apply wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 05:26 PM |
| 45 | Dating and looking low maintenanceThe guys who say they don’t want a model looking woman say that because they don’t understand what natural beauty really looks like. Also, they will still masturbate to that woman’s photos and have sexual fantasies about her. From what I noticed guys say that to make themselves feel better because women like that don’t want them. As soon as they elevate themselves though those are the kind of women they start to chase. Men love gold diggers, they just can’t afford them. I changed my style. I was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 04:25 PM |
| 63 | Is anyone else repulsed by men's double standards about what counts as "shallow"?Its all insecurity about themselves, in reality men would fuck a chicken sandwich if it had enough mayo and the bun looked thicc enough. Their standards are actually pretty low, they are ingrained by the media to believe they have to have high standards for women that they know aren't attainable. They live in real life with the rest of us, they have mothers/sisters/cousins/etc. They've been in relationships with other women before. They know what is realistic and what isn't by the time they are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 04:10 PM |
| 42 | Staying friends with an ex?I’m not friends with any exes. If I already established I’m not compatible with him I usually don’t want him in my life as a source of confusion any longer. As soon we finish tying loose ends they’re blocked. Harsh, but fair. They could have treated me better when they had me if they wanted to maintain some kind of access to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 12:30 PM |
| 22 | Sexual On Social Media: LVW TraitI don’t post any of that stuff, I rarely post on social media at all, mostly because if men are thirsty they’ll see any photo you post of yourself as a thirst trap. I made a lot of weight loss progress last year and posted a before and after picture I was proud of, just to have some dude tell me he masturbated to the after picture. Like sir, go to hell. I even had a guy I was dating tell me he once masturbated to my profile pic which is just a selfie of my face. Seems like any image you put out … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 12:24 PM |
| 18 | What do you think of guys who follow a lot of models on Instagram?Gross, hell no. I stay far away from men who proudly and publicly display their thirst. It’s like telling the world “THIS IS WHAT I WANT TO PUT MY DICK IN, IF ONLY SHE KNEW I EXISTED LOL” so pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 12:17 PM |
| 6 | Was talking to a guy friend of mine and he said "that alpha men don't want relationships", so I should give up on looking for someone with an alpha personality.Oh my gosh, are you me like 9 years ago? Literally had the same exact convo with a guy friend that became a bf and was thinking about it today. Back then I was applying FDS principles, always had, until my best friend at the time started trying to convince me that all these great men in my life were beta. I wasn’t married already because I fucked with betas, I couldn’t handle an alpha, etc etc yet he was an alpha and he knew what alpha men wanted bla bla bla What they mean by alpha is a mentally… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 08:54 PM |
| 33 | When it comes to sex, make your specific needs clear from the start and if he fails when the time comes, dump him IMMEDIATELYThis whole post is on point but I love the last few sentences especially. There is no greater feeling than already being out the door while he is still sitting in his bed butt naked and confused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 12:38 PM |
| 69 | Get commitment or get movingExactly this. They know they’re being slimy. They would never try this at work with another man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 11:33 AM |
| 146 | What would you have said to a guy who told you this?I was one of those 14/15 year olds that had older men constantly telling me like I looked older than my age, that I seemed more mature, etc. I thought it seemed reasonable because I hit puberty at 11 and was more developed than my peers - which is a common excuse that men use when they get caught with a minor...that she seemed/looked older. As an adult, looking at those pictures now...I looked like a fucking child. My "developed body" at that age actually did not stop developing for several year… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 11:44 PM |
| 10 | Advice on how to cope with a breakup when you were dumped by a HVMyeah i remember how i felt when i was there too, and it sucks feeling like you were the reason you lost a good thing. but if it was a good thing, it would still be here. i saw a couple posts lately about losing a HV man and figured if other people are battling the same demons this post might be helpful at least for me to link to other posters seeking advice from a significant breakup. he will pop up for sure its just a matter of when, spend this time working on yourself so he regrets it when he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 11:33 PM |
| 32 | Serious question about meds, plz helpI have dated men who were self aware enough to admit they have a problem, and man enough to seek out help... ...and men who probably needed to be medicated but were convinced they were neurotypical. I'd choose the self aware man over the other man every time. In my opinion, I feel like even if you aren't mentally ill everyone could benefit from therapy. If you are a human being with a childhood and human relationships and a past, no matter how great you think all those things are, you could stil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 11:21 PM |
| 13 | When a relationship you thought had a real future ends, and the man comes back after the fact realizing how much he messed up, apologizing, etc, how do you ladies keep it moving?i went back and forth with someone like that for awhile and was so convinced he was HV but I realized HV don't go back and forth like that and risk losing a woman they really value. they don't make stupid gambles, they make calculated decisions. but if it makes you feel better...put it in your head that he has not changed and he is not realizing anything. even if that is not true it does not matter because you aren't taking him back and need to get your heart,mind, and spirit on the same level. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 10:54 PM |
| 24 | When a relationship you thought had a real future ends, and the man comes back after the fact realizing how much he messed up, apologizing, etc, how do you ladies keep it moving?so it looks like you genuinely thought there was a future because you were your genuine self in this relationship from the start, but he clearly wasn't. so this relationship did not have a future, it had potential for one sure....but we can't go back to potential, or lose sleep over something that was just potential. truthfully, we all have potential - potential alone is not enough. I know how it feels when it feels like you lost something real, but the more you reflect the more you will realize… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 09:34 PM |
| 10 | Spot the things in here that are /men’s/ fault.What do they mean by BBB? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 05:24 PM |
| 23 | Why do men always keep ghosting me without a answer?Are you being too accessible and available? Do you respond too fast, share too much, reveal your cards too soon? Is there anything you could be doing or saying consistently that may come off as a red flag? The only time I notice guys going out of their way to do that is if I’ve consistently been leaving their messages on delivered for very long periods of time and they weren’t too interested anyways so the trash takes itself out. Could it just be impatience on their part due to something like th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 10:28 AM |
| 94 | Couldn’t crosspost. NVM wanted to abandon child after his wife passed. What the actual fuckgreat way to put it, they replace us like its an assembly line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 06:58 PM |
| 10 | Who are some female villains who you think are actually empowered?Came here just to say this r/DanyTDidNothingWrong | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 03:59 PM |
| 36 | Why Amazing Women get Rejected by Men Who Can’t Match ThemNever flat out tell a guy you like him, high or low value. You can show interest non verbally but don’t ever say it. Kills the mystery | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 11:33 AM |
| 4 | Empathic women of FDS... how do you radiate that bad bitch energy despite being quiet, reserved, and/or influenced by the feelings of others?You can’t save everyone, not everyone deserves your help either. Just because you have the capacity to understand someone’s pain doesn’t mean it’s your job to fix it or tolerate how their pain affects you through their behaviors. This is what I personally had to learn as someone that’s highly sensitive/empathetic. I am quiet and reserved that’s part of what I think makes me a bad bitch. Adds more weight to my words. In real life and in my real world relationships, I make my expectations known an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 01:17 AM |
| 8 | One of the biggest lies about men that women were made to believe is that they lack originality, creativity, and time management skills. When dealing with an educated man with a fulfilling career, understand that this is usually bullshit. This is how you get them to tap into that energy with youExactly. If your man has a college degree and a job he knows what it takes to pre plan and organize when needed. He has to be capable of those fundamental things or he wouldn’t even be where he is right now. Doesn’t mean he is the best in the world at it but the point is they are capable of doing more than what we get out of them. They don’t want us to realize it but it’s true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 12:23 AM |
| 3 | Quarantine Date ideas I’ve experienced so far from men I’m currently vetting as HVAll the guys I date are thoughtful, I haven’t dated anyone that was consistently lazy in that regard. If they get lazy it’s towards the end when they stop caring, even the low value men at first can step up the plate for awhile. Men like the chase and I give them one hell of a chase. I’ve also been out in the dating pool for long enough that two of them already asked me to be their girlfriend before, I’m just not done vetting yet and also with the lockdowns going on I don’t think now is the righ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 12:21 AM |
| 1 | A story of the worst PickMesha I ever met in my life and how her behavior made her life harder and life harder for women around herLike I said, she brought out the low value that was already there. I said that in this post, the other post, and several comments to this post. It’s not that we aren’t seeing eye to eye, it’s you are literally refusing to comprehend that there was an entire post about the men already identifying them as low value and how it was brought out and why. The why actually has nothing to do with her, it’s the Cain and Abel analogy I used. Referencing this situation. This post is long enough without me h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 11:46 PM |
| 2 | A story of the worst PickMesha I ever met in my life and how her behavior made her life harder and life harder for women around herAgain from the woman who refuses to click a link and read the original post. You seem oddly invested in a situation you refuse to even read about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 11:34 PM |
| 2 | A story of the worst PickMesha I ever met in my life and how her behavior made her life harder and life harder for women around herAgain I am elaborating on how her behavior lead to them being exposed as LV and how it lead to me to come to the jealousy conclusion I posted about in a whole ass different post. Read before you comment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 11:31 PM |
| 3 | A story of the worst PickMesha I ever met in my life and how her behavior made her life harder and life harder for women around herBecause I had an ENTIRE POST DEDICATED TO THEM DAYS BEFORE. Did you even click the link before you resolved to tell me how much I wrote about the men versus the women? Of course you didnt. Under the post that’s about men specifically I talk about them. This is elaborating on how that situation played out. Had you even read my last post you would have a little more insight than to make baseless judgements like that about how I feel about my own situation. My realization about how low value they w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 11:30 PM |
| 3 | A story of the worst PickMesha I ever met in my life and how her behavior made her life harder and life harder for women around herJesus Christ I made a whole post days before this where one of my points was literally this situation where I completely blamed my ex and his brother. I said in this post that my ex was always low value and this only brought it out. Me thinking like you and giving her the benefit of the doubt constantly made it much easier for them to gaslight me. I completely blame my ex and his family, I made a whole post on how the men that enable a PickMe are the main problem NOT THE PICKME entirely. Which I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 11:13 PM |
| 12 | A story of the worst PickMesha I ever met in my life and how her behavior made her life harder and life harder for women around herI made a whole ass post on how it’s men more than women or anything else that can influence your man and the relationship and even admitted in the past I entirely blamed PickMesha women instead of realizing it’s men all along. Additionally, I stated in my post here that my ex was always LV and this situation only brought that out. Protecting PickMeshas does nothing for you or anyone. When this situation happened I was in my early 20s being harassed by a bunch of people in their mid 30s, and I ke… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 07:29 PM |
| 16 | A story of the worst PickMesha I ever met in my life and how her behavior made her life harder and life harder for women around herThis girl was exactly how you described, a very dangerous PickMesha. A lot of us can attest to being young and naive, or manipulated by a bad guy into behaving in PickMesha ways. This woman really went out of her way to do the most, I could think of several more points honestly but I had to put a stop to the post at some point. She earned the title for worst PickMesha I ever met for a reason! Highly manipulative. Digitally stalked me the entire time I was involved with that family and apparently… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 06:35 PM |
| 17 | One of the biggest lies about men that women were made to believe is that they lack originality, creativity, and time management skills. When dealing with an educated man with a fulfilling career, understand that this is usually bullshit. This is how you get them to tap into that energy with youYeah i definitely understand being overwhelmed and tired right now, which is why I make myself not very available to these guys to begin with. It has to be worth it for me to turn my brain on when I am not on the clock and being paid for it right now. If they are sincerely so overwhelmed with life that they can't step up to the plate, then they don't need a woman in their life and shouldn't be dating. Point blank, they do not deserve a good woman that will lower her standards to match his effort… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 05:28 PM |
| 45 | How can a woman be happy single when they have mental health issues and hardly any friends?Being lonely affects your life in less insidious ways than a toxic man will. I was once in the same boat, and once I had to be alone I realized how much better this is. Now, it is going to take a lot for a man to convince me he is worth the stress of a relationship because I know I am fine without one. I am better off alone than with the wrong man, we all are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 05:12 PM |
| 13 | Quarantine Date ideas I’ve experienced so far from men I’m currently vetting as HVIt’s a skill I use throughout life not just with men, I’ll make a post about it sometime today | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 02:48 PM |
| 29 | Quarantine Date ideas I’ve experienced so far from men I’m currently vetting as HVStraight up say no. I’m in video calls all day for work, the last thing I wanna do when I’m off is get on another video call just to talk. I want to do something fun or entertaining, or else I’d rather not waste more of my time tied to another webcam. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 12:52 PM |
| 19 | Quarantine Date ideas I’ve experienced so far from men I’m currently vetting as HVThese are all guys I dated or knew for weeks or months before all this started, they’ve picked me up from outside my apartment before to go on dates in the old world. They already knew where I lived. Like I said this isn’t a time to be meeting fresh strangers and I’m only talking to people who already invested in me before lockdown started. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 12:47 PM |
| 36 | Quarantine Date ideas I’ve experienced so far from men I’m currently vetting as HVThese are all different guys and dates over the course of a month and a half. I mentioned I liked those things or said if we could go out I would like to go to the gym or a spa or mentioned I was supposed to be painting with friends at the time but our plans were canceled so that’s kind of where they got the idea from. The one with the cooking meal kits was completely his own idea, but he is always thoughtful/creative like that. Edit: it also helps to pit men against each other since like I ment… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 12:24 PM |
| 88 | Finally realized some of the LVM obsession with body counts...Spot on. It goes back to how they view themselves and other men. They’re all crabs in a bucket pulling each other down and anyone in their orbit goes down with them. That’s why we must rise above their BS I’ll never tell a man my real body count and I will probably stop talking to him if he offers his to me because I don’t want to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 02:52 AM |
| 42 | I think the reason men move on so quickly as if they never cared is because they never actually invested themselves into the relationship or their partnerYup it’s because they were not as invested and do not care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 06:15 PM |
| 8 | Protect your energy and pay attention to the messages you consume via the media. Especially the music you listen to on your way to a dateYeah that’s the rough part is it’s hard to find stuff that’s completely in line since males and PickMes make up so much of the market. If I like the song enough I try to reframe what the lyrics mean to me. Some of y’all ain’t never had no real bitch and it shows = reminds me of how I feel when I meet a man and can instantly tell he has dealt with nothing but PickMes before this He’s the only thing that’s been getting me through it = I saw it more as like a sarcastic jab at the ex sort of, like y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 06:07 PM |
| 24 | Will I ever have an orgasm with a man?Every man I’ve been with has been overall a sexual disappointment. I’ve orgasmed before and had good times but it’s because I know what I want and direct them beforehand. Some guys are good at following directions so I’ll orgasm but they struggle with getting or maintaining an erection for long enough, or the after care is nonexistent. When guys try to act cool and nonchalant after sex I love to remind them that we both know they can’t keep it hard so they’re gonna have to change their tone and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 03:58 PM |
| 7 | If he pays you a compliment with any reference to porn. AT ALL.Men think every skinny middle eastern woman with big boobs and glasses looks like Mia Khalifa | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 02:58 PM |
| 32 | Inside the mind of a misogynistI think they’re all true and in line with what I’ve observed as well. Especially number 1, as I will always say pussy is power. Knowledge is power, money is power, but men can have those things too. It’s not enough though, they’re still so weak because everything they do centers around us, being a woman is the ultimate power move. Which is why they tried to flip the script and create a culture of PickMes to make them feel better but it’s not enough. Men have oppressed women for centuries out of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 02:11 PM |
| 24 | You can’t make a man learn to appreciate you by offering him more of what he refuses to appreciate.That’s exactly what FDS is trying to teach women. When you become your best self you will attract everyone, good and bad. Then we help you figure out how to filter your options down to someone who values you the most. Whereas in the manosphere it’s all about how to manipulate and devalue another person into thinking they like you, with very little focus on true self improvement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 01:48 PM |
| 10 | You can’t make a man learn to appreciate you by offering him more of what he refuses to appreciate.That last paragraph is spot on. I was in a similar situation too with a narcissist. Nothing was ever enough even though I improved my life more than he improved his in that time, he hid behind the excuse of wanting to make us both be better people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 01:03 PM |
| 10 | Protect your energy and pay attention to the messages you consume via the media. Especially the music you listen to on your way to a dateI love some of her music on the new album.,. some are way to Pickmeisha like you said but some songs like B.S are great. But Jhené Aiko herself is a total Pickme. You won’t catch an FDS woman getting a mans face tattooed on her arm like she did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 01:01 PM |
| 25 | Women sexualizing other women for the sake of impressing men...As a bisexual woman I find it really pathetic. There is nothing cool about it, and as someone who has been sexually harassed and assaulted by other women probably just as much as men it’s degrading and actual chicks who like chicks can tell they do it for male attention which is so cringe. There is a huge difference between empowering and complimenting another woman in a healthy way, even being able to acknowledge another woman’s strengths in front of your man with security. There is nothing coo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 02:53 AM |
| 21 | What is everyone’s opinions here about SO liking other girls photos?The guys who like my pics are in my DMs. If he is liking pics he is also responding to stories. I’ve had guys in my DMs complaining about their girlfriends feeling upset like you feel saying she is just being insecure or crazy for no reason, within the same breath tell me I have a nice rack or thirst in some other way. I call them out in it, it gets exhausting. A lot of their girlfriends are PickMes, I’ve had it backfire on me anytime I’ve tried to make a woman aware of her mans behavior. Chance… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 02:38 AM |
| 5 | Doctors and LawyersI also work for a professional firm and since I graduated grade school and college early (and progressed through my career fast) any medical professional or lawyer within my age rage even if they make a little more than me arent in as high of a position with their employer as I am since my career is longer. I feel like for that reason and also just my overall demeanor I don’t get that vibe from them at all, they already know I’m above their bullshit. Actually they’re my favorite type of people t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 02:28 AM |
| 6 | Manipulative men learning about healthy communication skills and types of abuse to shift the blame and use you.The middle one with the emotional abuse, yes. It was pretty traumatic for me actually as I spent so much of my life advocating for victims of abuse/violence/war and the accusations from him and his flying monkeys about me were hard to deal with. Thankfully for my strong female friends and therapy I realized I wasn’t ever emotionally or mentally abusive, he was the abuser from day one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 02:21 AM |
| 7 | Are moms welcome here too?In my personal experience with LV and HV, family/community had everything to do with it...HV had families that held them accountable and treated women they brought home with respect both during my time dating their son and even to this day. They were just raised right. They were brought up to have good respect and character. The LV men have families or other role models that are echo chambers for their worst behaviors. They encourage them to only seek comfort and happiness at the expense of grow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 05:22 PM |
| 11 | When a guy sets a vague time to callI wouldn’t say anything more to him about that plan. Don’t pick up the phone when he calls on Saturday either. The next day when he asks why say he didn’t set a concrete time so you weren’t expecting a call at the hour he chose to call. Afternoon is way too vague and a huge block of time for him to expect you to be available for him. Then going forward you’ve now trained him to set concrete plans with you if he wants your time. I have a busy schedule so I l have to be ruthless in showing them ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:40 AM |
| 60 | Has anyone received hatemail from commenting or posting in this sub?I get hate mail a lot. Here on Reddit from being here but also sometimes just for existing as a woman with an opinion on the internet. When I get a lot after being on this sub that’s how I know my posts/comments are hitting a nerve in the manosphere. I see their hate as a good thing, I don’t want to be like the type of women they praise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 02:22 AM |
| 46 | Are moms welcome here too?I love this. I love that you also want to help your son be a high value man too! There are so many mothers out there that turn a blind eye to their son’s abusive behaviors towards women because “it’s their son” as if his girlfriend or ex isn’t someone’s baby too. High value men aren’t made by us, they’re made at home by the people/community that raised them. I definitely think moms should not only be welcomed but encouraged to join. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 01:58 AM |
| 5 | Men are crabs in a bucket when it comes to healthy, monogamous relationships. Other men in your man's life are more capable of sabotaging the relationship than other women are, and here is whyYou’re right about that. Men will listen to their friends/brothers tell them they think they’re so lucky, openly lust after their women, and then for some reason think that same man is giving them good relationship advice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 09:36 PM |
| 8 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.This is very important and should be printed out and posted in every woman's bathroom until the lockdowns are over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 08:35 PM |
| 14 | Don't Date Much Older Men!!! My Story of Dating my ProfessorThis is spot on and it highlights why men encourage each other to seek these arrangements out. Its a lot easier to abuse an 18 year old girl as a 40 year old man than it is to build a healthy relationship with someone around your own age for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 06:46 PM |
| 6 | Men are crabs in a bucket when it comes to healthy, monogamous relationships. Other men in your man's life are more capable of sabotaging the relationship than other women are, and here is whyFuck yes that is such a good point...they literally give each other bad advice on purpose to reduce their own competition. The example you gave of them telling each other to wait till 40 is so true too, and so false. even the best looking 40 year old man still aged bad and looked better when he was 25-30. I have too many hot men in the 25-30 age range that are doing well for themselves and are successful that I would rather spend time with than a 40 year old man that looks worse but makes a litt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 02:20 PM |
| 37 | Only depraved men insult women and then claim its harmless teasing as a way to show they like you.It’s called negging and they do it because they know it hurts you. Exactly true, I’ve never been insulted by a high value man in my life. It only comes from questionable creatures | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 05:02 AM |
| 21 | Pussy is Power. The only thing standing between you, a high value woman, and an inbox full of blue check marks begging to pay your bills is the low value man in your life convincing you that you aren't worth it.Working on my mental and physical health first and foremost, that gave me the clarity and energy I needed to put all my other ducks in a row. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 04:57 AM |
| 16 | Men are crabs in a bucket when it comes to healthy, monogamous relationships. Other men in your man's life are more capable of sabotaging the relationship than other women are, and here is whyYup jealous trolls is exactly it. In some cultures/religions Cain’s motive for killing Abel was jealousy and lust. Whether you see religion as the word of God or a means of population control, either way the most well known story of the first murder on Earth could have been about anything. Yet, a man murdering his own brother because he wanted to run off with his wife won as the best way to relay the message/lesson behind the story. Men are still doing it to each other to this day. Modern day Ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 04:47 AM |
| 29 | Pussy is Power. The only thing standing between you, a high value woman, and an inbox full of blue check marks begging to pay your bills is the low value man in your life convincing you that you aren't worth it.I live in the neighborhood in my city where they normally live and make myself seen I guess. There are certain lowkey lounge type clubs in the neighborhood that a lot of people don’t know about but celebrities/athletes go there when they’re in town so I go to those too. I’ve met a handful just being their neighbors or getting our donuts at the same place on Sunday, going to the same gym, etc. Also met some through work and from the ones I met through work they introduced me to a lot of people. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 03:50 AM |
| 26 | Pussy is Power. The only thing standing between you, a high value woman, and an inbox full of blue check marks begging to pay your bills is the low value man in your life convincing you that you aren't worth it.Amen! I’m sitting here eating boiled shrimp and crawfish from my favorite place as we speak in the comfort of my own home, by myself. Delivery and food paid for by a sweet well to do man who won’t even get the chance to see me in person for weeks/months at best. If my ex were here he would have expected me to cook him a meal with groceries I probably paid for, if I didn’t feel like cooking a lot of times (or didn’t stop by and pick up food omw home) we literally just didn’t eat lmfao....it’s cra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 03:25 AM |
| 30 | Men are crabs in a bucket when it comes to healthy, monogamous relationships. Other men in your man's life are more capable of sabotaging the relationship than other women are, and here is whyOh man there was definitely a time in my life where I asked someone that exact question unfortunately lol...just wondering what the logic is but there isn’t one. They don’t think that far ahead in the future. If you really make them think about it what it boils down to is arrogance. They value the woman they are with and the relationship so little that they are absolutely convinced that they will be able to replicate it or exceed it with ease on their own terms in their own time whenever they de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 02:17 AM |
| 49 | Pussy is Power. The only thing standing between you, a high value woman, and an inbox full of blue check marks begging to pay your bills is the low value man in your life convincing you that you aren't worth it.Yup! They cope with the sense of inadequacy we make them feel about whatever it is about us in comparison to them makes us out of their league by trying to find fault in literally everything else. It’s ironic kind of that pleasing men has diminishing returns after a point. If you make a man too happy and please him too much more than he deserves you will get to the point where nothing you do impresses him anymore. You no longer satisfy him, you aren’t good enough all of a sudden. That’s what hap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 01:14 AM |
| 58 | Pussy is Power. The only thing standing between you, a high value woman, and an inbox full of blue check marks begging to pay your bills is the low value man in your life convincing you that you aren't worth it.I definitely am! I went through a long process after that experience to level myself up physically, mentally, financially, socially, spiritually, etc. I improved every aspect of my life which took about a year, everything is better than it has ever been. Like even my skin hasn’t been this clear or radiant since I was 11 years old lol. Through doing that I naturally leveled up romantically too, from focusing on myself. I was out of my exes league back in my worst days, and at this point I’m so fa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 12:48 AM |
| 3 | Men are crabs in a bucket when it comes to healthy, monogamous relationships. Other men in your man's life are more capable of sabotaging the relationship than other women are, and here is whyI just realized my numbering was way way off, my bad, the HV 4 and 5 are supposed to be 2 and 3. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 12:28 AM |
| 58 | Pussy is Power. The only thing standing between you, a high value woman, and an inbox full of blue check marks begging to pay your bills is the low value man in your life convincing you that you aren't worth it.very true. when i realized the disparity between me and the women he has had before and after me i honestly did feel bad for coming to the realization, it felt kind of low value to sit here and compare myself to these poor women that didn't do anything to me besides getting manipulated by the same man that I did....but its also not my fault that it happens to be objectively true. exes dont "downgrade" they just go back downstairs to play in their own league again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 11:43 PM |
| 5 | 🚨Warning to all my immigrant/cultural/ethnic sisters in the western world: FOB men need to be strictly VETTED🚨This is really spot on. I mostly avoid FOBs overall and try to stick to other first generation guys | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 10:28 PM |
| 48 | There is nobody sweeter, more thoughtful, or attentive than a man that wants to have sex with you but hasn’t had the chance yet.Nah lol if his dream girl was in front of him he would know how to act. If it were Bella Hadid she wouldn’t have to ask him to buy her flowers. Never give men the benefit of the doubt or make excuses for them. Things do not get better for the woman after the man gets what he wants in the most low effort way possible. The men I see shower me with nice dinners, flowers, gifts, etc. a lot of times I’ll hear from their friends or family that they’ve never seen them this giving and attentive before. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/19 06:13 AM |
| 62 | There is nobody sweeter, more thoughtful, or attentive than a man that wants to have sex with you but hasn’t had the chance yet.Yup! They even have their own word for it. Post nut clarity is real | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 11:45 PM |
| 311 | There is nobody sweeter, more thoughtful, or attentive than a man that wants to have sex with you but hasn’t had the chance yet.Hate fucking is a genuine thing that men do. I have “friends” that have told me they’ve had sex with people they actually hated and weren’t attracted to just to feel like they “conquered her”. Especially if he has her consent to abuse her during the act. A man could want you dead, hate you down to your core, and still want to have sex with you. Sexual attention from men means nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 10:08 PM |
| 6 | You could be the coolest woman in the world, but if you are ugly you are fuckedIt’s exhausting to be approached all the time too. Big difference I’ve noticed from going between extremes is people talk to me a lot more often in general. Sometimes I just want to run in and out of a store without dealing with small talk or feeling like most of the guys there are staring at me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 10:02 PM |
| 22 | You could be the coolest woman in the world, but if you are ugly you are fuckedLa suerte de la fea la guapa la desea. The pretty woman desires the luck of the ugly woman. Being more attractive doesn’t guarantee that men will treat you better. Quite the opposite. It makes them act like desperate, bumbling fools and it’s hard to figure out who actually likes you and who just likes the way you look. When you’re conventionally attractive the majority of men that approach you and chase you only like the way you look and you can tell that otherwise they don’t really care about y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 09:09 PM |
| 23 | I truly don’t understand how me showing I’m interested in almost any male , makes them automatically not interested?Because men aren’t like us and they aren’t rational animals. Hence all the violence and horror their gender causes. But to break it down for you, men are hunters. They are the natural chasers. It is their natural habitat to be chasing ass. Think of them like a hunter in an open field and you are the deer. Men wouldn’t enjoy going hunting as much if the animals just walked over to them and let them know they’re ready to die. They enjoy the chase. They like hiding, sneaking, hunting. The thrill is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 08:06 PM |
| 16 | Should I give up before even starting?You completely lost me at sleeping with someone that either had a girlfriend or some other situation going on with another woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/19 09:11 PM |
| 14 | How to overcome a crush / oneitisIf I feel like I’m developing a crush I’ll go out with another man to reset my brain. The more options there are the harder it is to get stupid for one man in particular. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 01:47 PM |
| 5 | How Can You Tell If A Man Will Be Good In Bed? (MEGATHREAD)I wish I knew, because I get it a lot, and I’m always very surprised by it. When I ask them their answer is just as vague as mine is about big dick energy...that it’s a vibe/feeling they can see in the way I carry myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 02:21 AM |
| 46 | How Can You Tell If A Man Will Be Good In Bed? (MEGATHREAD)Big dick energy. I’m in the camp that it “takes one to know one.” So I can kind of get a feel for a man’s energy and make decent enough guesses based on that. Someone that is confident, super self assured, doesn’t feel the need to advertise or brag about sex life (guys who do that are compensating for something), gives head but isn’t obsessed with giving oral (usually sign of small dick or ED), moves his body well (dancers, martial arts, those kind of hobbies can be decent indicators), having an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 05:08 PM |
| 17 | How to show interest, but not overdo it?Look good and be in his view, that should be all you have to do. If he is interested in you, he should notice you to some degree already. Make prolonged eye contact with him for slightly longer than normal (count to like 4) give him a playful smile, then look away. If he doesn’t do anything he is either too shy, can’t take a hint, or not that into you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 04:31 AM |
| 12 | I got video dumped this morningYou shouldn’t try to get revenge on him. It’s just as much your fault that you’re in this situation as it is his. A coffee date should have been your first indication that he was low effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 03:09 PM |
| 15 | Married fboy tries so hard to get me to believe his shit.Why didn’t you block him the moment you found out he was still legally married? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 03:06 PM |
| 103 | OLD Men and Lies About HeightI’m short so with my favorite high heels on date night I’m about 5’6 or 5’7” (3-4 inch heels). It’s shocking how many men I meet that claim to be at minimum 5’8” come out to be exactly my height with heels on. One guy told me he was 5’10” and I was actually taller than him with those heels on. I gave him a hug, realized I was looking over his head, then just went home. Being a short man isn’t the issue. Being an insecure liar is. Insecure men are dangerous and deadly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 02:26 PM |
| 21 | I royally cucked myself (how to recover)?I leave my wallet at home and carry a little bit of cash in my bra for emergencies so I don’t get caught in a situation like this. A man can’t pressure you to pay if you don’t have any money on you. I have had someone try something similar with me. I flat out told him I didn’t bring my credit card with me because I thought I was going on a date with a man. They’ll shut up and pay when they have no choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 02:04 PM |
| 8 | Black Friday is coming up and I'm stocking up on perfume - what perfumes get you guys the most compliments & smell super sexy?Men compliment me the most when I’m wearing La Vie E Belle from Lancôme. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 02:00 PM |
| 8 | Does anyone have advice for a newbie!!I second this advice. If I had to go back to my 20 year old self, I’d tell her not to fall in love, not to try and build a man, don’t date anyone in a committed way until you and the men you are into are more established. Stay away from post graduate losers that keep trying to relive their prime glory days by hanging around college campuses and messing with girls 10+ years their junior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 01:42 PM |
| 6 | This man looks like he dived head first into The Wall at least 15 years ago but still has the misplaced confidence to talk like this online. What is it with men on OLD advertising red flags like it’s something to be proud of?That’s my issue with it too! He wouldn’t behave this way if it hasn’t worked for him in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 01:26 PM |
| 38 | This man looks like he dived head first into The Wall at least 15 years ago but still has the misplaced confidence to talk like this online. What is it with men on OLD advertising red flags like it’s something to be proud of?Lmao I cropped the little girl out!! He had a photo posing with a young girl on his profile and I didn’t want to attach her face to this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 05:14 AM |
| 44 | Disrespect me and eat aloneThat really is some queen shit! Nicely managed, well done! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 05:12 AM |
| 12 | What to do if guy shows up unprepared?When you accepted the date, what did he tell you was going to happen? Did you agree to meet him without figuring out whether you were going to dinner, coffee, drinks, etc? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 01:50 AM |
| 47 | What do you think about dressing provocatively?There is a big difference between playing up your sex appeal in a classy way and looking for validation by objectifying yourself in a trashy way. I work hard in the gym so I definitely want to show my body off. I go for form fitting clothing that covers a decent amount of skin. Some cleavage but not much. The clothing being form fitting and flattering to your figure does more for your appearance than simply flashing skin at them. Leave a little bit to the imagination. It still looks sexy, but I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedI do think they still work on American men, foreign men are just easier. They’re already willing participants in a lot of the ideology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 03:25 AM |
| 39 | Can you date a man who has a female BFF?If you feel uneasy about it, just dump him. Explore on your own what about that made you uncomfortable. Trust your gut. Don’t give men the benefit of the doubt. Or, if it’s just an insecurity thing, work on that. I think dumping him is the way to go. Life is too short to spend it in situations that make you uneasy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 03:03 AM |
| 25 | Thoughts on how to answer “how many people have you slept with”?I don’t want to know how many women any man I’m with has slept with, if they ask me I just remind them that: 1. I don’t care about their sexual past 2. I’m not going to let them care about mine. If he asks me the question twice, I’m done with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 02:37 AM |
| 28 | I genuinely don't enjoy sex, what does this mean to me in FDS?A high value man isn’t worth anything if you aren’t compatible with him. Compatibility is key. If for you, compatibility means a low or no sex drive then try to seek that out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 09:39 PM |
| 7 | Let’s dissect what “pick me” actually meansI agree. Especially for younger women, it could help you decide what attributes are the most important to you. Maybe you always thought all you needed was someone rich and handsome, but then you realize you like another one of the guys more because he makes you laugh in a way rich handsome guy can’t - even if he isn’t as rich or handsome. That realization that the funnier guy ranks higher for you, can help influence your behavior going forward. You can value different things about different peop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 08:05 PM |
| 57 | This is why we make them wait. Eventually even the most cleverly contrived mask will fall off. My name isn’t Sheby.Yeah it felt so fake and forced..very out of character for this guy and I’ve been seeing him for 2 months. A lot of people can’t fathom making a man wait 2-3 months for sex but you have to make them wait to figure out who they really are. You’re dating their “representative” those first few weeks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 06:57 AM |
| 49 | This is why we make them wait. Eventually even the most cleverly contrived mask will fall off. My name isn’t Sheby.I didn’t give him a chance to respond. Immediately blocked and went on to make other plans. Then proceeded to have a great evening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 06:52 AM |
| 38 | This is why we make them wait. Eventually even the most cleverly contrived mask will fall off. My name isn’t Sheby.I blocked him as soon as the gif was delivered so I’ll never know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 06:51 AM |
| 8 | Should a woman date a man that earns less than she does?It’s true. I knew women who were in those mismatched income dynamics and they bank rolled a man in the prime of their professional careers that ended up leaving them for a waitress that made him feel like a man/provider. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 02:36 AM |
| 183 | This is why we make them wait. Eventually even the most cleverly contrived mask will fall off. My name isn’t Sheby.Quick run down: This was someone I thought was probably the most or second most high value man in my rotation. Never hesitates to pick up a check. Educated. Good career at work. Total gentleman. Respects my physical boundaries. Has taken me out many times and never complained about the check. Literally called me yesterday to discuss exclusivity. I told him I needed more time and a few more dates to figure it out. He tells me he is into me, seriously, and isn’t seeing other women. I told him I’m … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 01:48 AM |
| 18 | "Women are so crazy man"This is so on point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 12:30 AM |
| 21 | Ladies, what are your general thoughts and views on platonic relationships with men/buddy buddy friendship types?The moment after a breakup of a long term relationship, or the moment I get into a new one, is when my “guy friends” show their true colors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 11:25 PM |
| 57 | Ladies, what are your general thoughts and views on platonic relationships with men/buddy buddy friendship types?I have plenty of friends like that and I consider the situation platonic, but I know they’re not really my friends. Most men can’t even fathom showing basic decency towards a woman they find unattractive. I know for a fact, every man I’ve ever been friends with would have sex with me if given both opportunity and freedom from any consequences. So take those friendships as they are, and their “advice” as friends with a grain of salt. Especially when it has to do with other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 10:58 PM |
| 30 | Should a woman date a man that earns less than she does?Men that have less money than you don’t respect you or admire you for being the primary bread winner, they resent you for it. Always. At least a little bit. Even if entirely subconsciously. Men are the most stressed and dissatisfied in marriages where their spouse out earns them. It is literally not a situation worth getting into. In situations where there is an income disparity with a couple, the following situations happen. Either: 1) couple lives within the means of the lower earner 2) higher… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 10:50 PM |
| 10 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedI’m more into turning a man into a fiancé. I use the engagement period to do any left over vetting that I didn’t get enough of during the courting period. The timeline I’m looking for is a 1.5-2 year engagement. If you were dating a guy for at least 6 months before engaged, I think that’s more than enough time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 10:39 PM |
| 8 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedThey’ll wait, i date American men everything from college athletes to men in their early 30s and they all wait. The ones that refuse to wait are a waste of your time, and probably bad in bed, impatient men aren’t good lovers. I think the guys willing to wait are out there you just have to be strategic about what you say to them to make it seem like this is something you do and it’s weird that You even have to explain it to him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:59 PM |
| 48 | In regards to not paying for dates...Ignore it completely. Don’t even pretend that I wanna reach for my purse. I just sit there smiling at him until he does what he has to do. After he puts his card down and the waiter brings it back I thank him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:52 PM |
| 7 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedyears of self reflection and research into psychology and sociology. Lots of meditation, hypnosis, therapy, etc. being a high value woman takes work | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 05:08 AM |
| 36 | Post-First Date Struggles. KEEP ME STRONG!You have oneitis right now. You need more men in your rotation. Get back on the app you met him on and swipe around anytime you feel tempted to text him. Delete the text thread so you aren’t tempted to text him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 04:26 AM |
| 19 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedI’m a firm believer that my sexual history is nobody’s business. My answer if someone asked me something like that (which they have before) if I were sleeping with anyone whether i was or not I would say I was not, and say it would be none of his business even if I was because I am single, that I don’t care if he is sleeping with other people and to keep it to himself and never ask me a question like that again. If he asks you the question again, just cut him off. It’s literally none of his busi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 03:58 AM |
| 14 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedI treat it as a first come first serve basis. Whoever asks me out to dinner soonest will get his pick of the options for that week on my calendar, which is usually hectic and busy with other things outside of men. They realize quick that if they don’t prioritize getting time on my calendar early on that week they won’t get to see me for awhile. By Monday or Tuesday I’m booked till Sunday. Dates sometimes get scheduled weeks in advance because they don’t have much to work with and I don’t make an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 03:48 AM |
| 23 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedMen don’t appreciate it when we tunnel focus on them. Instead of appreciating the loyalty they assume you have no other options and he has you all to himself without much effort on his part. It’s messed up but that’s just how they are, they don’t think like we do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 03:23 AM |
| 16 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedYeah I like some of them, I love one of them, I’m not sure how I feel about some of the others. None of them know that, and I don’t let how I feel dictate too many of my decisions. Love is important but it’s not enough on its own unfortunately. Also I’ll have sex outside of a relationship and a ring. I can’t wait until I’m already engaged to know how his dick looks like. It depends on investment and the value they bring to my life overall. Usually takes me months at minimum to get to that point … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 03:19 AM |
| 20 | Guy asking to be in a relationship = not a good thing??I did a recent post about this topic, in my opinion there is no benefit to being in a bf/GF relationship at this point in my life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 02:40 AM |
| 20 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedMen find me a bit intimidating. If not for my looks, then they do when we get to talking and they find out more about my background. I’m at a place in my career most people get to in their mid 30s, all my colleagues are almost a decade my senior, and I’m in my late 20s. They already know I’m busy and not to waste my time, that weeds out a lot of low effort men on its own. So the personality that got me here in my career is the same one that gets me where I need to go with men. I don’t ever dumb … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 02:14 AM |
| 27 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedI never had a problem catching a dick whether I was a size 12 or a size 2. I had men beating down my door even when I looked my worst, I had a bad haircut, acne, and was over weight. It was so bad I had to quit a job because I was being sexually harassed so much. That was me at my WORST. The looks maxing probably helped a lot in terms of how far these men are willing to go to impress me. I think the attention was always there regardless because of how I carry myself, they’re just more desperate … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:49 AM |
| 23 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedHe isn’t getting any pussy so he ends up weeding himself out by date one or two. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:38 AM |
| 22 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedThe strategies in this sub in general in my opinion work best on foreign men because of their culture. They WANT to be providers. Offering to go dutch on a date offends them. They are just as horny as the next guy but really respect you if you don’t have sex with them right away. they are also willing to wait a lot longer than an American guy will. American guys try to have sex and push boundaries a lot sooner on average. There are always exceptions though. Biggest difference for me with America… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:37 AM |
| 22 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedYou could probably use faith and family as a cop out in general. For example I think an American girl from a conservative southern town or midwestern town that grew up in the church could probably get away with it as an excuse too, even if your family doesn’t care that much. When a man meets you, he has no way of knowing otherwise. 99% of the men you date will never meet your parents, but 100% of them will try to trick you into easy low effort sex if they think they can. One of my friends is Ven… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:32 AM |
| 20 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedI’m sure most of them beyond the few super infatuated are probably getting sex elsewhere, and I don’t care at all. The ones paying bills are the very infatuated, and are really trying to prove their worth. I think men are really drawn to emotional unavailability. They’re all under the impression that I was treated like a queen in every previous relationship. Since it’s under the impression that every previous man I committed to paid some of my bills, it’s an unspoken expectation they feel like t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:00 AM |
| 28 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedI usually go for MENA guys because this is normal to them and they are easy to convince, but it still surprises them a lot since we are more Americanized and live in the west. My rotation right now is evenly split between Mid East and American men, the American guys don’t take much convincing either. Since it’s something normal for my culture they respect that and see it as an opportunity for them to keep their options open too. Which is what they think they want until they start to get jealous.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 11:37 PM |
| 60 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedMen THRIVE as “PickMeishas” it’s their natural habitat to be chasing ass. Sometimes I wonder who is having more fun here, me or them. It’s almost like they get off on seeing my phone blow up while I’m ignoring it during our dates, knowing it’s all other men I see on other days during the week, but today is Wednesday and I’m all “theirs” for now and it’s their turn to put on a “Pick Me” show. They’re like peacocks flaunting their feathers. It honestly feels great, like this is the natural order o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 10:41 PM |
| 33 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedoh yeah i fell victim to limp dick with fiance #2 because i didnt try him out until i already had the ring and yeah...that was a disaster lol. at some point, i'll have to toss them some ass to make sure i actually want them, but i dont think any of the guys in my rotation earned it yet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 10:04 PM |
| 35 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedI was kind of in the same boat last year! I blamed myself a bit for his cold feet....he wanted to get engaged years ago, when I was still in that mindset of wanting to take things slow and I did not want to be married in my early/mid 20s. Suddenly I was more stable at work by the time last year rolled around, but he was going through something and did not think us getting engaged at that time was a good idea even though he kept telling me everyday he knows he wants to marry me he just can't do i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 10:03 PM |
| 65 | Underrated Strategy - Single to Engaged, no Boyfriends allowedI never ever ask a guy where this is going or what he thinks we are because as long as I am having fun I don't care what he wants (lol - sorry not sorry) especially since he is one of plenty. When they start catching feelings and ask me what is going on or where we are as a couple, I tell them all basically the same exact thing "I have the same philosophy with every man, so it is not just you, but I am not into the boyfriend/girlfriend concept. I am either single or engaged to be married, that i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 09:34 PM |
| 15 | Rotational dating how-to?I do this, I am either single or married - no inbetween. It works on men that *want* to put up with it, honestly. If a man finds a problem with me not willing to be his GF, I dont waste time trying to convince him why I like this sort of arrangement. I just replace him with someone more eager and appreciative of my time. Most men though do get excited when they find out they dont have to worry about you wanting to tie them down and make them a boyfriend. Until a few weeks in when they will reali… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 08:01 PM |
| 11 | Am I supposed to be having fun dating?Dating should be a fun, stress free experience for you as a woman. If not, it may be either the expectations you are putting on the situation (desiring a specific outcome) or the people you are going out with. The most stressful part of dating for me is the time it takes to plan an outfit and do my makeup. Otherwise, its a blast. Handsome strangers fighting for my time just to have the opportunity to take me out to a 5 star restaurant for dinner? For free? AND I don't feel like I have to suck an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 07:49 PM |
| 7 | The most dangerous thing you can give a man, is the benefit of the doubtME men treat me very well. Why would you comment something racist on a post by someone from the ME? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Helpful tips to navigate dating in the modern world for the modern MENA womanIn Islam you aren’t obligated to tell your spouse your dirty laundry. I can’t remember exactly where it’s quoted, but you never have to answer those questions honestly. I don’t tell them anything about my history. I keep throwing the question back at them and their double standard until they get tired of asking. You don’t have to reveal anything that you don’t want to reveal. In terms of the men negging you, that’s a common red pill tactic that men do all the time. It’s not your fault that it ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 05:14 AM |
| 20 | What are your thoughts on sexual compatibility?Sex is like air, it’s not something you obsess over until you aren’t getting any. When you’re stuck with someone long term in a monogamous relationship that can’t or won’t engage with you sexually, it can take its toll on you. Even if you still have sex but it isn’t fulfilling. /r/DeadBedrooms is full of people going through it. It may be easier if you have a low libido, but as someone with a high libido that’s been in this situation it is torture. It ends up souring everything else in the relat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:37 AM |
| 15 | To confront or let go?Block him. What could he possibly say to you? Another lie good enough to make you settle? Nah, he isn’t worth the effort it would take to read his response. There is nothing he could say to you now that would matter or change the situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 01:57 AM |
| 29 | Why I learned not to settle. I’d rather keep my standards than take the short boost.Nothing hurts quite like giving an ugly guy a chance just for him to start acting like you’re the ugly one. The unfortunate truth is when we give men chances they don’t deserve they don’t step up to the plate or appreciate it, they resent us for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 01:55 AM |
| 94 | Pro tip: it’s usually AFTER you’ve moved on/cut him offWhen he decides to act right, after you’ve already moved on, as soon as he finds out you’re seeing other people | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 12:11 AM |
| 35 | Anyone else gets turned off by picky eaters?Yes it’s a huge turn off for me, which is why I usually prefer if they pick the restaurant we eat at in the beginning so I can gauge their taste. And I definitely ask food related questions to make sure I don’t accidentally end up with one of those. Like what do they like, what do they not like, what’s their favorite dish to cook, eat, etc. I also don’t like men who can’t cook. I love to cook and I love trying new food. Someone with an open mind and palate is a must for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 12:10 AM |
| 41 | Observation about dating sites. It’s basically all the same guy! Agree?I feel like that as well, even when I meet them in person.....this is usually how it goes: Date begins, He orders a whiskey drink, either neat or an old fashioned. Spends a little too much time talking about a specific ex or relationship, I realize that this is the "one that got away" for him and he clearly is not fully over it yet even though it has been 2,3,6,8 years since she left him "Your body looks really nice in that dress" (or insert other male compliment that is entirely appearance rela… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 07:50 PM |
| 32 | At what point is it okay to 'make the first move'?Dont make any first moves. If he is so oblivious that he cannot tell you are interested, then you are going to have to deal with him being tone deaf for probably the rest of your life. Would you prefer a man that can read a situation and be assertive? Or someone that needs his hand held everywhere he goes? If you were a super model, like Bella or Gigi Hadid, making things awkward at school would be the last worry on his mind, he would be doing anything he can to get your attention and gauge your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 07:35 PM |
| 52 | And they say women are catfishing on dating apps...Men catfish all over the internet but project it onto women. They catfish by using pictures of them that are a decade old, back when they were relatively athletic but had a head of hair. I met an amazing dude using OLD about a month ago. In almost every way I think he would have been ideal for me, until we met in person and I realized his pictures were all at least 10 years old. He was over weight, his style sucked, and he had no hair left on his head. His personality IRL was even better than on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 07:32 PM |
| 9 | How to respond when a guy asks you to pick the date spot?“Surprise me, I love an adventure” “I gave you the time and date, now you pick the place. I’d hate to make this too easy for you” “I’m not a picky eater so you just pick a place nearby and I’m sure I’ll find something I like on the menu” “I’m bad at this part, I’ll let you decide where we go for dinner” —- I usually say something playful along those lines. Sometimes i won’t mind picking if there is a specific nice restaurant I really want to try. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 07:23 PM |
| 10 | I need advice on ex-fwb who is just a friend nowDo not try to turn a hoe into a husband. I know its tempting when you fall for a FWB, but remember you categorized him as an FWB and not real BF/husband material for a reason. The red flags you ignore in the beginning become the reasons you leave in a few years. He is not doing these things because he genuinely feels romantic feelings for you. He is trying not to lose a sexual conquest. In his eyes, this is all he has to do to string you along to ensure he still has you available for whatever hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 04:13 PM |
| 4 | Helpful tips to navigate dating in the modern world for the modern MENA womanexactly - i cant catch a MENA or south asian man acting personally victimized because i expect him to pick up the check, for example. I never get to even SEE the check when I go out with MENA men, there is no opportunity for me to even offer to go dutch even if I wanted to. Even if I wanted to, I don't think they would let me pull my wallet out. Yet I read all these posts here everyday about the supposedly higher value males from the west with their more superior culture crying over $20 entrees … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Helpful tips to navigate dating in the modern world for the modern MENA womanAgain, your mileage may vary, but I’ve had the best experiences with men that share my background. The ex that caused me the most harm and was the most misogynistic, was actually an atheist American guy. Religion, or lack thereof, isn’t going to be a good indicator for whether or not a man is low or high value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 12:01 PM |
| 6 | Helpful tips to navigate dating in the modern world for the modern MENA womanYou’re totally right, Persians have their own thing going on and I’m not too familiar with it all. I have dated Persian men and noticed a lot of the stuff you mentioned, especially about them not being religious which was something I liked. I see my approach as an east meets west thing too. I’m not a virgin, I don’t plan on waiting until marriage to have sex again either. I enjoy dating men of all races and religions. I don’t want to live with someone until we are engaged or married though eithe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 01:27 AM |
| 9 | Helpful tips to navigate dating in the modern world for the modern MENA womanThank you! I’ll be the first to admit that there is misogyny in our culture, but it exists in every culture and is just packaged differently. The key to not getting trapped in one of those situations with a misogynist is to simply not pick those men, regardless of ethnicity! There are plenty of liberal MENA American men out there that would LOVE to meet a woman that checks the boxes their parents want, but won’t mind that he enjoys the occasional glass of whiskey or had a LTR with a Russian girl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 10:20 PM |
| -13 | Don't fall for it!Also Muslims don’t worship a man....you are absolutely ignorant and full of hate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 08:05 PM |
| -9 | Don't fall for it!I’m Muslim and I don’t wear a hijab. The men I date are almost all Muslim men as well. Why haven’t I been stoned yet? Or does that not fit your islamophobic narrative of the Middle East and middle eastern people? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 08:00 PM |
| -19 | Don't fall for it!The Muslim countries bit is a harmful generalization. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Really confused please helpI think his response showed his character and you dodged a bullet. I respond the same way to men I date, I’m not gonna sit here and act smitten over some guy to stroke his ego, and they don’t block me over it. If that’s what did him in, he is terribly insecure. He should see that as a challenge to win you over, not a reason to give up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 03:47 PM |
| 9 | How to start dating after abuse?Key here being a committed partner. When someone demonstrates value, effort, and commitment first then you can open up to him in a broad enough way that doesn’t tell him too much. The guys you’re just dating in the meantime though, don’t tell them anything. I personally still wouldn’t discuss it because it’s none of their business. Past relationships and what happened with other men shouldn’t concern them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 03:44 PM |
| 29 | How to start dating after abuse?Don’t EVER MENTION PAST TRAUMAS. Don’t ever hand a man a loaded gun full of things that he will either use against you later or use as a tool to manipulate you. It is 100% none of their business and your past relationships set a precedent to men on what you’re willing to put up with or what your expectations are. All they need to know is all the amazing things your exes did for you. Brag about the good stuff. They need to think you’re a prize that’s used to being treated like one. Oh why didn’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 03:31 PM |
| 8 | Really confused please helpHe doesn’t want to continue so forget about him and replace him with someone else. He seems impatient and isn’t worth it. Don’t even respond to his text | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 03:20 PM |
| 9 | Should I wait for the spark?Just be honest with him and let him decide if he wants to stick around and be patient. A high value man will be okay moving at your pace if he really wants you. If GiGi or Bella Hadid let him take her out on a few dates, then told him she is interested in him but needs to get to know him better before she decides how she feels about him, he wouldn’t mind continuing to put in the effort to impress her. Keep your options open in the meantime and if he wants to keep taking you out, let him and see … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 03:01 PM |
| 20 | Bisexual Women and FDSI’m bisexual and it’s a lot harder to get women than men. You have to do some chasing with women, these tactics don’t work on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 02:54 PM |
| 3 | How to tell a man you won’t sleep with him until exclusivity?“No, I’m not sleeping with you, or anyone right now. I only have sex when exclusivity has been established.” That’s it. You don’t need to explain too much. The more reason you give them the more information they have to use to craft a lie to get you in bed. No is a complete answer on its own. I personally cut sex convos very short, even this one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 02:07 PM |
| 15 | Rules of engagement?I do the whole “single to engaged” thing mostly. I’ve had several marriage offers and have been engaged twice already. After seeing someone for a few dates, if he brings the topic up of commitment/relationships/expectations (I never do) I explain to them that I’m not interested in a boyfriend. Any man that wants me to commit to him has to put a ring on my finger first. And they do, it drives them crazy that I’m open about the fact that I’m going on dates with other men and keeping my options ope… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 04:00 AM |
| 2 | FDS Strategy: OLD and drinking dates.“Honestly, I’m not much of a drinker outside of the occasional glass of wine. I’m down to meet you for dinner though.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 03:29 AM |
| 3 | Reasons why we aren’t gold diggers for looking for money and investment.Bill Burr mentioned something about this in a stand up, and I love quoting it to guys like that, it usually makes them realize how pathetic/low value the behavior is “you’re willing to bet half of your life on a loser with dorito dust in between her titties that did nothing with her life but sign up for a few waitressing shifts in a crop top.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 03:57 PM |
| 32 | Does anyone else have that feeling of being too comfortable independent again and is afraid of getting out in the pool?Yeah but it doesn’t change my desire to be in the dating pool, it makes me not want to commit. I live in a nice high rise by myself, have pets that I adore, and a busy career I spent almost a decade building. I think committing to one man is like giving him a bomb he can use at any time to blow everything up. I like dating and having high value men around me, and benefiting from them..but I don’t want to be their girlfriend or wife. I haven’t met a man amazing enough to change my mind yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 03:54 PM |
| 5 | As an objectively ugly woman how can I avoid being used for sex when dating?Reddit was a super helpful resource for me. I spent a lot of time on /r/1200isplenty and other similar subs. It helped with meal ideas as well as snacks or other tips. CICO made the biggest difference along with buying a food scale and measuring everything to the gram (cheap one from amazon works well for this doesn’t have to be fancy). I used the free version of myfitnesspal and ate 1200 calories a day. I didn’t start working out and lifting until I already lost 50 pounds, it was really all die… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 02:06 PM |
| 7 | What do y'all think of coffee dates (for a first date)?I have curly hair so outside of wash days, it’s low maintenance just wake up and go. At most I may need to tame some frizz but I usually keep my hair natural. I decide what outfit I’m going to wear for a date when the date is originally planned, which saves time the day of. The hour is mostly just doing my makeup. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 06:36 AM |
| 25 | What do y'all think of coffee dates (for a first date)?Makeup is expensive, it takes me at least an hour to get ready for a date in total...a $2 cup of coffee is a waste of time. I see a $15-30 entree as the bare minimum a guy can do...for every guy offering me drinks or coffee, there is always someone else asking me out to dinner. I’d much rather spend the effort getting ready for the guy making the effort to take me out on a real date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 02:58 AM |
| 42 | In my past relationships I tried to be the perfect "bob the builder" girlfriend and men never appreciated it.We have all been there. I’ve been there, and learned my lesson the hard way too. You have to forgive yourself though. You did what you thought was the right thing at the time, you were being a loving and generous person. You were younger and didn’t know better. The fault is on the man who took advantage of all of your gifts. Be kind to your past self, and grateful for the growth you’ve experienced to bring you to the mindset you have today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 12:42 AM |
| 26 | In my past relationships I tried to be the perfect "bob the builder" girlfriend and men never appreciated it.They think that they can either find a woman to do all of that for them willingly, or they’ll take everything they appreciated about you and try to “train” the next one. At least that’s what a lot of them think they can do. You’re absolutely right though, they don’t ever appreciate it because they feel entitled to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 12:39 AM |
| 18 | How do you like to dress on dates?I prefer pants. And sneakers. That’s not going to get me taken to a five star steak house though. So dress for the occasion. Some people will argue that you should just “dress comfortably.” But why If dressing up is so much more effective? When we go to work we dress according to the business professional dress code whether we like it or not. That’s why I have a “date dress code” too. I tend to go with dresses and skirts that are knee length or longer. Some cleavage but not too much, and always … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 10:38 PM |
| 68 | “It’s ok man, trust me, women will be lonely, depressed, and worthless after hitting the wall at 25. We have it better lives in the end hahaha”I look so much hotter now in my late 20s than I did in my early 20s. Mostly because I have the money now to spend on my appearance and clothing that I didn’t have when I was younger. I spent my whole life believing in 25 being the wall and it’s such BS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 10:32 PM |
| 50 | After posting here, received a DM from a man trying to "help" me XDI haven’t had to apply for a job or compete for one in years. The firms that want me to work for them make me offers and start bidding wars with each other. I don’t even chase a check anymore, why the hell would I chase a dick lol. This man is an idiot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 07:47 PM |
| 4 | PointsThey don’t really deserve to know that about you. Why do you assume even the good guys are being honest to you? They’re probably not. If you feel comfortable sharing it then do you, but you’re better off keeping more mystery to you I can show a man I’m financially his equal, as soon as he finds out what I do for a living. I make more money than most men I meet. So yes, they need to pay for the date or else to me it’s a waste of time. I make my own money, I don’t need their money, but I’m not was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 03:37 PM |
| 38 | Reasons why we aren’t gold diggers for looking for money and investment.I make a generous salary and live a comfortable lifestyle and men STILL get angry and start to riot when I expect them to be able to keep up with my lifestyle. It’s not gold digging if I already have my own gold, yet they get mad that money is definitely a factor with a man I go out with. I’ve dated men who made less than me and it was not fun. Never again. Money matters, not more than anything else, but it still matters. I actually can’t even find myself sexually attracted to a man that has no … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 03:20 PM |
| 36 | As an objectively ugly woman how can I avoid being used for sex when dating?Came here just to say this. OP , I recently lost 60 pounds, and had a little glow up. More men want to use me for sex now than they did back then. It’s hard to figure out how many of these guys are actually interested in me and would have still liked me 60 pounds ago. The better you look, the more unwanted attention it’ll attract. Your luck with men and whether or not you get used for sex has everything to do with your mentality and personality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 01:12 PM |
| 22 | Those Who Don't Want A Relationship But Want to Benefit From MenMiddle Eastern. I feel like the more hate we get in the media, the more often I come across men fetishizing me for my ethnicity. Majority of the men that have approached me like that have been ex military and served in Iraq or Kuwait. It’s like some weird forbidden fruit thing to them I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 11:27 PM |
| 47 | Those Who Don't Want A Relationship But Want to Benefit From MenI do this right now! It doesn’t bother me and I see nothing wrong with it. I find no moral qualms with it. Most men that approach me are either trying to manipulate me for sex, think my ethnicity is a fetish, or approach me because I have big boobs. I’m aware of this, and have no problem adding them to my rotation if it benefits me even though I have no intention of entering a committed relationship with them. All the men in my rotation know I don’t want to commit, they know I’m not emotionally … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 11:08 PM |
| 34 | Being Genuinely Not A PickMe vs. Covertly A PickMeI think you are making some valid points. I get where you are coming from, and I think the difference lies in where your mentality is, genuinely. I do not care to be picked. I’m actually not here to find a boyfriend or a husband. I think I’m better off single, but I enjoy the company of high value men and dating is fun/stress free for me since I use FDS tactics. To me, the tactics I’m using are genuine and I’m not forcing myself to act any sort of way. It’s my natural inclination when I’m dating… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 09:58 PM |
| 10 | How to avoid time wasters on Tinder?Stop responding as much. Keep some mystery to you, make him want more. I’ve never had this problem but it’s because my notifications are off and I barely check the app. I’ll have a nice conversation with someone, then get busy with life, and come back to see that they already asked for my number/asked if they could meet in person. The trick to not getting stuck in long discussions with people on tinder that don’t end up going anywhere is to not engage in long discussions at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 05:19 AM |
| 3 | Advice: Reliable Attachments without a Boyfriend or Husband?This post was so on point, I could have written it myself. I hope you find some comfort at least in knowing you aren’t alone, and there are other single women out there that sit and have the same thoughts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 05:14 AM |
| 5 | A very common negging technique: Men "forgetting" your nameYou don’t know me, that’s how I talk. But think whatever you want and good luck to you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 03:26 AM |
| 16 | A very common negging technique: Men "forgetting" your nameDid he decide it was time to make a move because you had options or because of how you handled the situation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 09:24 PM |
| 36 | Why does it traumatize men so deeply when we don’t say 100% nice things about them?For the same reason spoiled rich kids act out when someone finally tells them No. They are used to living in a world that told them they were the stronger, more logical gender. They could be anything they wanted to be their entire lives. There was never a time where a man couldn’t logically say he could be the next president. Women still haven’t broken that glass ceiling, amongst others. They grew up seeing messages in the media that built them up while we were being torn down. So when men are b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 09:19 PM |
| 9 | What is your opinion on cheating?I don’t cheat because being a woman of integrity when I finally do commit is part of what makes me high value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 09:15 PM |
| 23 | Should I let guys know how single I am?Absolutely not! It is NONE of their business, first of all. Second of all, read up on mate guarding. They will try a LOT less hard if they think they barely have any competition and you barely have options. Brush the question off in the most coy way you can, laugh it off, then change the subject. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 09:11 PM |
| 8 | Tinder date is freaking me outRight of course, her feelings come before any man always. It’s just something that’s pretty common with Arab men and it does make them come off as creepy to non Arab women. Whereas for me, I expect that level of effort from an Arab man but I would find it creepy if the guy wasn’t Arab. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 08:03 PM |
| 57 | A very common negging technique: Men "forgetting" your nameI kind of like it when guys try to neg me....because I will punch a lot lower than they did. I am NOT nice to low value men. I had someone pretend to forget my name once, and you can tell when someone legit had a brain fart or is negging so I knew what he was trying to do. I quickly changed his name in my phone to "Bald Ass Bitch" (yes, he was bald, and I could tell it was an insecurity because he tried to 'hatfish me') then responded along the lines of : "Lol Sandra!! Thats HILARIOUS, but thats… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 07:20 PM |
| 21 | Weight Loss and FDSYes I did!! Some background: I had FDS dating strategies all my life until I made the mistake of falling for my best friend, which led to him basically taking me for granted and hurting me for 5 long years. The last year of our relationship, I knew we were going to be over soon, I saw the writing on the wall, so I started to take better care of myself. I got a promotion at work, several raises/bonuses, dropped a lot of bad habits, started eating right, then when I dropped enough weight I started… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 05:30 PM |
| 38 | Does anyone else think a lot of women subconsciously don't mind that practically all men are porn addicts, because it keeps them sedated, and essentially makes their wallets easier to loot?I definitely think it is the opposite. I have met women who pretend they do not care but secretly would be thrilled if they managed to find a guy that wasn't so depraved and porn addicted. Porn addicts are a disgusting, entitled, group of people and their problems go far beyond ED and dead bedrooms. The problem is women have been manipulated to believe that we are the problem if we have a problem with porn, and that "cool girls" shouldn't mind. Unless you are married to someone you aren't attrac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 04:38 PM |
| 31 | I Broke It Off W/ Frenchie ; He Put His Hands On MeSis, CHASE A CHECK, NEVER CHASE A DICK. Doesn't matter if that dick is hurt, crying, begging, or pissing pure gold....let that man go. It is not your fault he put hands on you, that is on him, don't be too hard on yourself. You now know for a fact you did the right thing by dumping his ass. Also it helps to always assume every man you meet is capable of the worst until proven otherwise. Don't put any faith in these men that haven't earned it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 03:52 PM |
| 27 | Tinder date is freaking me outI have a really unconventional point of view here, but I am also from that region of the world and I try to seek out men from that region as well almost exclusively....this excessive and unusual level of effort is not uncommon for Arab men. The whole story screamed RED FLAG! RED FLAG! until I read the part about him being Syrian and new to the country and then it made sense. If you can't make it do not feel bad about having to abort. It is not your fault he went through those lengths. Seeing how… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 03:18 PM |
| 22 | If a guy exposes you to danger in some way - say by bringing you around his misogynist, hateful, friends - he’s human garbage, right?Absolutely trash. He should be trying to impress you right now. This should be the honey moon phase. I can’t imagine what him and his friends would expect you to put up with down the line, once they’re all even more comfortable with you. Dick is abundant and of low value, get rid of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 03:46 AM |
| 22 | Being too sexual too soon when datingTheir dick is not the prize. You are the prize, so keep that in mind before you get too sexual too soon and give the guy everything he wants (to see how you look like naked, to gauge how much of a freak you are, to have sex with you) before he has demonstrated any value to you. I also don't do sex casually or one night stands with people I am seriously dating, but I also include anything sexual in that bucket too. They are not the prize no matter how much you want to get laid. I understand where… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 06:41 PM |
| 3 | When you ask a guy “what are you looking for”, what response is acceptable if you want a relationship? What are some red flags?As long as you have a good time and a free meal don’t see it as a waste, just practice. Yes I would ask in person to see body language. Or you could ask via text, wait a few days or week until the first date, then ask again in person and pretend you forgot the original answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 12:26 PM |
| 25 | When you ask a guy “what are you looking for”, what response is acceptable if you want a relationship? What are some red flags?It doesn’t matter what he is saying because he is probably lying anyways. Asking him first is a good idea that way he doesn’t have a chance to pepper his response with whatever he thinks you want to hear (unless you met on OLD and you had that mentioned anywhere in there). But keep in mind a lot of men are fed to believe that a relationship is ultimately what all women want, so a lot of them have been taught to dangle that possibility over a woman’s head like a carrot just to get laid. When in r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 03:53 AM |
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