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#JustLVMThingscannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:54 AM
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SCROTES MADcannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:21 AM
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cannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:48 AM
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NAH, SIScannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:48 PM
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RANTcannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:14 PM
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cannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:51 AM
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Muh PENIScannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 10:46 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTcannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 06:20 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEcannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:20 PM
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cannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:23 AM
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cannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:41 PM
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cannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:00 AM
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LEVEL UPcannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:39 AM
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cannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 01:35 AM
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cannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:18 AM
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cannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:24 PM
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cannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:19 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEcannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:20 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEcannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:20 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEcannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:47 PM
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Story time ☕cannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 11:40 PM
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cannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:34 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEcannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 04:36 AM
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cannedboelyn/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:08 AM
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I stopped eating fast food for now. Definitely feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:56 PM
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Exactly. Saw a video of a man doing exactly that. Many people pointed it out in the comments too. He stated he wanted a girl version of him, he was nerdy. There was a girl similar to him there but he went for the model who was there. She rejected him btw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:06 AM
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The main advice I see on men dominated forums is to find a nerdy girl who doesn’t know what she is working with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 04:29 PM
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Why can’t they actually go their own way? Seems more like they’re hoping women follow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:58 AM
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The MGTOWs use to message me last year. They are definitely not going their own way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:41 AM
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Lol nope never was an incel. I have no problem getting sex and dates I just don’t sleep with everyone. Can’t relate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:37 AM
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That’s awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:49 AM
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😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:40 PM
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Who are these men? Never met a guy like that. If anything they brag about using women for sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:43 AM
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Plenty of men see sleeping with married women as something to be acquired. I heard once of a young man bragging about dating a married woman, he mentioned it as if it wasn’t a big deal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:27 AM
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It’s funny and sad at the same time because it’s true most of the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 04:04 PM
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Well of course. We see it all the time celebs will cheat on their wife with a woman who is not as “pretty” as his wife. That doesn’t change the fact that he chose to cheat though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:18 PM
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There is this guy who I use to have a crush on in high school. He’s still handsome and he’s a nice guy but I realized he might be a lvm when he posted on his Facebook story, that if a guy can cook he deserves bj for life. I’m paraphrasing here. I believe it was a repost from a girl though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:11 PM
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To be fair I did message her back from a different account, so I don’t blame her for being defensive. I probably should’ve explained why I was messaging her from a different account. But when I first messaged her she attacked me from the get go after I thoroughly explained since she asked for detail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:00 AM
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Can’t you bring up the money he owes you every time he contacts you? That would make him disappear real quick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:34 PM
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Yes I have. Those guys are going to be much worse because they’re desperate to get laid now that some states are opening up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:31 PM
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PSA: I’m never telling a girl about her man doing shady stuff again. Long story short, I told this girl her man was trying to talk to me while he was in a relationship. I messaged her on Facebook before(last year), recently a few days ago I messaged her, she tells me she is now engaged and & pregnant, and living with this guy who use to talk to me. For the record SHE told me she was engaged, pregnant and living with him AFTER I told her that he asked me for nudes and asked me to come over AFTER …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:26 PM
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He b probably watch too much porn and thinks women actually will fall on his dick 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 06:04 AM
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I lurk male forums and have seen men brag about selling dreams to women in order to get sex. I’ve also had men try to sell me dreams. They justify doing it to women they consider don’t have money. They assume she is a gold digger, real dirty LVM stuff, which is why I don’t tell men certain things especially during the talking stage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:31 AM
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They’re creating their own false narrative to help them feel better about themselves and look for more reasons to blame women. I use to get chat requests from the former mgtow subreddit. I made a mistake and accepted one and the guy kept saying women don’t work over and over again. Dude kept asking me if I work, as if I was the one with the mental problem. Yet many men believe FDS is the problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:57 PM
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Therapy really helped me with this issue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:28 AM
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He was on a break but his gf probably didn’t know it. 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:24 AM
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Unfortunately yes. This is why so many men think they are the prize
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:21 AM
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This is so true. When I use to take public transportation, I had random men get angry at me because I rejected them. Like dude really, you’re angry a stranger rejected you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 03:13 AM
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“She has to be able to bleed like a human but not have any veins 🤦🏼‍♀️” lol Or my favorite part is when they find out a girl they like had plastic surgery: “I don’t like fake boobs or butts. I prefer natural”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 03:06 AM
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Oh but men call us gold diggers if we go for the best mate possible, and we’re shallow thots if we enjoy a muscular body. Sad that if you’re not on the dad bod train you’re automatically a Thot or shallow these days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 05:40 AM
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I told a guy online that women care about looks too and he pulled out all the stops to try to make it look like men weren’t shallow. It was like watching him die inside as I read his replies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 05:39 AM
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You may not want to drive but this is obviously a big insecurity for you. Would you date a guy who doesn’t drive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 11:01 PM
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Exactly. Move on because he’s going to lie to others and say he’s the victim anyways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 01:06 PM
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Eww 😷 But if it was the other way around women be called shallow or gold diggers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:15 AM
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That’s what I want to know. He shouldn’t even have their numbers to begin with or he should block them if they are his exes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:52 AM
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Same I’m single and I enjoy buying lingerie for myself and getting my hair and nails done for myself. Also the lingerie I use to get would be free or at a discount at Victoria’s secret because I use to be a member
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:25 AM
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I died when he smacked the camera
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:56 PM
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Exactly, all they will do is try to make you look bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:55 PM
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What did you mean by multiple lives?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 07:23 AM
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She was pretty before but this is an amazing glow up. I’m so inspired to glow up even though I don’t have her financial resources but I know it can be done because many others have done it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:05 PM
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There are white American girls who have names that would be seen as black girl names that are not Ebony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:41 PM
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Exactly, or if she has kids with her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:01 AM
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That’s a definite way to get them to stop bothering you 😝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:56 AM
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Good don’t waste your energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:55 AM
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I think this is from America’s next top model and no Ebony is not racist. Any girl of any race can have that name
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:54 AM
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There would be men’s beauty ads, gyms packed, men’s clothing stores packed, men’s salons open 24/7 and dudes smelling like fresh soap all day. Just kidding ya’ll 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 08:40 AM
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Imagine how different the world would be if all women were as ruthless as men are with cutting off potential romantic partners 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 06:29 AM
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I was lurking askreddit where a recent question, at the time it was recent, and someone said if they reveal they masturbated they hope they could get laid. The question was about guys who masturbated to women online So just saying he might’ve saw the advice on reddit and thought it would work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:07 AM
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Yep this one attractive verbally abusive LVM I use to talk to is BLOCKED on my phone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:33 AM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:32 AM
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I keep seeing memes about not getting some on reddit and Facebook, but women are the needy ones smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:31 AM
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I haven’t gotten any which means they found other pickmes time to waste, so I must be doing something right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:30 AM
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I’ve seen men do this on Facebook then complain on their status when certain women inbox them. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:15 AM
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The post that I commented on that was deleted that was about Shallon didn’t even mention Selena Gomez though. Also I commented that I rarely watch her videos. I didn’t even know she made a video about Selena. I don’t know how one post of her that had to do with FDS makes it harassment? Or a witch hunt? I’m reading through the comments now and I don’t see it. Also where in the post was called a pedo? Or bigot? Or racist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:28 PM
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Then why is the post that mentioned Shallon that I commented on deleted? She didn’t even mention Selena Gomez.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:09 PM
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I know what post you are talking about. I didn’t create the post, but I commented on that post and I was not dragging her at all. Wtf seriously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:06 PM
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Where are the posts of Shallon getting dragged? I browse this subreddit almost everyday now and I have not seen any
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:03 PM
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And old sugar daddies with strange complexes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:49 PM
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Wow 😮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:48 PM
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It seems like the only way to prevent getting hurt 😞 is removing emotions They can’t hurt me if they weren’t there to begin with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 09:37 AM
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The white men that I went to high school with are in their 20s and they look like this, even the fit ones. Their hairline is receding. I know 2 guys who went to my high school who are now fat that look 35 but I know they’re not in their 20s. They just look old even though their hairline isn’t receding But I think guys on OLD are lying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:01 PM
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I’ve done worse. Last guy I talked to I never told him I liked him but I told him last year that I wouldn’t mind if a relationship develops even though he said he thought we aren’t serious. I had agreed to what he said that it wasn’t serious but he mentioned this only after we hooked up. I chased that guy like a cheetah. Became obsessed with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:25 PM
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There are some men who can afford to spend $300-500 but it doesn’t mean they’re necessarily committed. I would look at his actions. A good example would be if he bought you a birthday gift but all of a sudden was late and told you at the last minute. Or if he takes you out somewhere you find special but he says he’s got a block of time and he needs to go there first thing shows up as if it was no big deal. Idk I watch too much true crime these days lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:25 PM
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I agree I mean if a guy said that to me about threesomes (and one guy did before, I would find that disrespectful) that’s definitely LV behavior. Also when a guy tells you his feelings believe him. A lot of women (myself included in the past) will ignore when a guy tells them how they feel up front then be upset when he doesn’t want a relationship even though he showed it and said it from the get go. I’m no FDS strategist but I definitely would keep dating multiple men. It’s no fun being attache…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:20 PM
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I knew a guy who posted few pics of his gf, he would take her places and he would post the destination. He rarely posted pics of her but he did post one of her while in Italy on their vacation. But he messaged me on Facebook trying to meet me in person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:55 AM
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A lot of LVM see themselves as the prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:27 AM
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It’s like they’re all getting advice from the same book or something. Weird
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:48 AM
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Those are just passages that stood out to me. In the article Mark says that she knew he wasn’t for her. In context to the article he came over to move his things for 2 hours and told her a bunch of stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:41 AM
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The problem is some users come here to vent so they may post things that show their feelings at that time with their emotions. Other users who see that who take those comments as truth is what bothers me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:24 AM
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It’s referring to dating hence the subreddit name. No offense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:23 AM
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Lurkers are downvoting this. I just clicked and it was 430 now it’s like 424 😂 But it’s true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:22 AM
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I know I just feel like some people are getting the wrong idea about FDS. Like I keep seeing a lot of users take one opinion as truth and it really is starting to bother me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:19 AM
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When I lurk the subreddits with guys giving each other dating advice, most of the advice I see from men is- and I’m paraphrasing here: Are you nice? Girls don’t care about looks just as long as you have a good personality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:13 AM
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They just evolve
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:07 AM
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You shouldn’t let one comment on here steer your behavior and take it as gospel. Everyone has different opinions and different situations here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:58 AM
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I don’t discriminate with height but I’m about to because the cute guys who I liked who were shorter than me gained some huge complex and inner struggle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:06 PM
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“But.. but I am older which means I have more experience and I’m more mature. Younger girls like that.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:24 AM
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Yep 👍 I learned this the hard way plenty of times. It’s the definition of insanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:18 AM
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It took me to feel humiliated about a situationship for me to realize that he wanted nothing to do with me. He told me bye and said there is no need for us to message each other. Not going to lie it hurt my feelings because I apologized to him after he apologized to me. He didn’t care at all. Was a complete waste of time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:42 AM
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Especially when men are being praised by some women for doing the bare minimum. He took a shower, he actually combed his hair, he put on deodorant, he washed the dishes, he actually cleaned his own laundry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:18 AM
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He said you were tall for a girl at 5’4.5”? Some men will use any excuse to blame a woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 05:25 PM
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I noticed this in 5’8” guys too. They seem mad at the world 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:38 AM
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They seem to use the word high maintenance for any girl that doesn’t want them or has preferences like them these days 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:03 AM
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I’m the same height as you and guys who make no effort on their appearance that are 5’8” will want a girl who is 5’2” He is allowed to have a preference but I notice men will lie and say they’re ok with height but act like they aren’t weeks later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:47 AM
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I stumbled upon her videos but I didn’t really watch them enough. And I do remember her mentioning something about going to a strip club on a date. I also remember her hating on her friend for getting in shape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:11 AM
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That’s interesting because she’s actually listed as one of the FDS approved youtubers according to the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:02 AM
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Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:49 PM
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I experience this too. I don’t know how it started but I do know I have low self esteem. It must’ve came from my childhood. Good question and I hope you find the answers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 01:46 AM
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I have this problem. I get attached to a fantasy or potential. I started realizing this guy that I can’t get over showed red flags at the beginning which I ignored. And I took his fibers of effort and turned them into imaginary solid effort ropes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:23 AM
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What’s worse is he post about sensitivity and crap on his Facebook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:37 AM
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Had a guy I hooked up with lie and say he would text me. He ghosted me right after. Never contacted me for like a week. Being a pickme I even told him to be careful after he dropped me off. And at the time I believed him when he said he would text me 🤡 Clown gods were with me because I believed him when he told me like a few weeks later that he wanted me to meet his friends. Then he tried to ask me if I wanted a threesome He forced himself on me by the way. Then he sent me a message saying his e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:14 AM
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If he’s saying they’re single then she’s just a fwb until he finds someone he wants a relationship with. He just likes the perks and is keeping her as a placeholder. I don’t support doing fwb whatsoever. If the girl gets pregnant she deals with all the consequences while the man can just walk away and say it’s nothing serious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:42 AM
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And if a woman posted this WW3 would’ve started
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:39 AM
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People are not going to stop being sexually attracted to others just because they’re married or in a relationship. I assume each couple has their specific boundaries on this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 09:09 PM
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I’m in therapy but I have been miserable and seeing this tweet on this post and the other tweets is really helping me feel less crappy about myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 09:41 AM
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It’s funny how quick LVM change it up when they’re met with no interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 08:29 AM
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I honestly wouldn’t even know what to put on Twitter. I use Facebook regularly though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 08:26 AM
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Yea I don’t use Twitter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 08:14 AM
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Love this quote but can you post a link of a version that’s not cut off? It’s looks like a letter is cut off Edit I created a Twitter and I found her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:44 AM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:56 AM
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I’m trying to get on this level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:28 AM
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A world without low value men (for any male lurkers)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:53 AM
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It’s not a troll? Sadly I’m hoping it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 03:28 AM
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I would have blocked. Replying only gives them ammo and they don’t care anyways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:10 PM
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I use to see men in their 50s dressed like rappers in my old neighborhood, it was ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:01 PM
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They do that in my neighborhood when they see me me walking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 09:53 PM
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I noticed society gives men excuses as to why they can act immature. Have you noticed in western society there is that saying that “girls mature faster than boys”? Or “boys will be boys” Notice if a grown woman is labeled as having issues. Daddy issues It’s a huge double standard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:23 AM
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My mom is a nurse so I understand what you are going through
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:52 AM
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That’s so creepy. I hope you made sure you had an exit and a way to protect yourself. There are so many old guys like that. I have seen a lot of young men more mature than the older men. The LV older men act like they’re going to be 19 forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:50 AM
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Oh wow I wasn’t expecting that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:39 AM
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He’s married to another woman? And good she dumped him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:18 AM
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I think I just 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 12:04 PM
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Of course he makes it look like it’s her fault
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 03:55 AM
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That’s true. I found that odd in the movie as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:43 PM
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Don’t be surprised if you get a random message request from a guy telling you they have more experience which younger women love. I’m a young woman and I don’t find that attractive at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 11:51 AM
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I watch Chinese dramas and they’re always full of LVM and pickmes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 11:44 AM
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I agree with everything except for Tom Holland. He is handsome and fit. He’s been rumored to be dating Zendaya. They were caught at the same store together by a fan even though they didn’t walk in the store together. They just so happen to be in the same store.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:18 AM
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It’s ok when he does it but when I do it all of a sudden I am not following the rules 😂 They act like a kid 🧒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:29 PM
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I ignored a guy’s messages who ignored me last year and he’s going insane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:23 PM
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That sounds great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:38 AM
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BuT GuRlZ dON’t cARE AbOUt LOOKz
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:45 AM
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Therapy is not an option for many at this current time, and it’s a needle in a haystack for some people who can’t afford it. Hell even finding free therapy was a struggle for me. There is a waitlist. I tried to get my depression medication today and I couldn’t get it simply because my insurance the clinic gave me won’t allow it to go to CVS which is next door I don’t even have insurance FYI
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:22 AM
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This post is not just for me it’s for others feeling that way. I don’t see how it’s lazy. It mentions how it effects my self esteem and dating, that’s why I put it in FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:18 AM
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I for one would love to get my hair and nails done. Even if I have to learn to do it myself I keep seeing Facebook friends repost this and it’s sad. Most of them are married too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:08 AM
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Exactly and most of these men were never planning on offering anything to begin with. They don’t have anything to offer anyways because those women invest in themselves physically and know the game
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:05 AM
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Thanks. Well growing up I was always fat or overweight so I don’t think it started off as emotional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:01 AM
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I’m currently going through this. He blocked me but I went full stalker mode and created different FB accounts to contact him. This was recently too. It’s not like I wanted to be like this. I’m not blaming him but it’s obviously a deeper issue which hasn’t been addressed. I honestly don’t believe women choose to get attached. It’s just a result of a deeper issue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 10:30 AM
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You about to get a lot of perverted messages
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 07:55 AM
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I also saw the comment from a guy saying how he admired a girl approaching her first but didn’t think of her much because she was alright looking. And how the other guy said a girl approaching earns her a date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:27 AM
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I told a girl long ago that her man was messaging me and she still stayed with him. She even has his baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:03 AM
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Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:01 AM
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😷 Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:00 AM
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I saw a post on a subreddit, I think it was dating or something and a guy said he was planning to live in a van but wanted to make sure he got a gf first before doing it Either someone advised him or he did All I know is the reason was the same on the post, it was stated because he didn’t want to be alone I wish I could find the post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:11 AM
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I’ve had guys ask me to repeat myself when I said no, as if their world shattered
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:49 AM
8

Sounds like an Aries ♈️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 07:35 AM
3

I saw the original post and I saw that they posted a question on a different subreddit about their boyfriend being disorderly. I’m paraphrasing because I saw it last week but it was pitiful I didn’t realize so many women put up with so much things from men in relationships until I joined FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 08:44 PM
62

I see this all over Reddit all the time. Yet guys will have a field day and say a woman smells a little and say her hygiene is bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 04:21 AM
16

Could be a troll. You’d be surprised if you check their account
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 04:18 AM
12

That’s great but you shouldn’t have told him about FDS. It just gives him more ammo. And you made the decision to dump him, not FDS. You just used your knowledge and did what you thought was best of the situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:28 PM
2

Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him? Looks don’t last long. As long as you don’t resent him for it and as long as you are engaging in stimulating conversations I don’t see an issue. I have seen plenty of stories of women resenting the guy after the relationship ends while the guy just moves on with a new girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 01:35 PM
12

😝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:31 AM
35

So the only reason a guy has to treat a girl nice is to sleep with her? He can’t do it because she’s human just like everyone else? Good to know 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 09:41 PM
7

Well I just got a direct message of a guy sending me his dick pics 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:39 PM
33

I would occasionally get a comment from male lurkers on my post but it was usually one or two. But last time I got about 5 or 6
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:25 AM
64

I have been seeing an increase in male lurkers posting. Especially with people having more time on their hands it might get worse. A lot of them were commenting on my post because I changed my settings where they can’t message me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:09 AM
39

~Him not feeling good enough for me ~He mentions other women in an attempt to try to get me to compete in the early dating stages ~He’s too busy with work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:15 PM
30

LVM blame the world around them HVM kick shift it into gear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:50 PM
20

That was my ex boyfriend’s excuse for ghosting me before dumping me through text. He’s now married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 04:04 AM
2

Playing devil’s advocate here. How do we know she’s not doing “wifey stuff” (cooking,cleaning, by wifey I mean putting in lots of effort to make him happy) and she is fed up and has deluded herself into thinking he’s a HVM perhaps? Is there a third party missing she may have left out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:30 AM
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I’ll take a wild guess and say they just want to hook up. Will suggest anything that doesn’t involve them paying, probably will ask if they can come over. They may escalate things and get sexual fast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:41 AM
5

This reminds me of when Scarlett O Hara from Gone With the Wind had sex with her first husband Charles Hamilton. She was crying out of heartbreak from not being able to be with Ashley. But Charles thought she was crying because he was leaving for war. She made him sleep away from her but she was too sad to push him away so she let him comfort her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:14 AM
35

I seriously thought this picture was photoshopped
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:06 AM
3

I don’t go over their house for a first date but I haven’t used online dating in over 4 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:46 AM
2

A guy just replied to my original comment. And the reply was creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 11:41 PM
9

I don’t do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 09:29 PM
1

Congratulations! Could you post some strategic advice?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:36 PM
2

Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:28 PM
2

Why do guys send more messages when they see you read it? This guy ignored me when I was interested but when I ignore him he sends me like 4 more messages. He has a gf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:23 PM
68

I always see posts like that from men. Like seriously wtf. I wouldn’t even do that on a fourth date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 06:58 PM
9

The men in my area only marry women who have money. The men themselves don’t have much they just borrow things from the girls. I see this a lot where I live. There are no huge age gaps though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 08:54 AM
18

.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 10:37 AM
119

When she actually moved on he didn’t want to be friends with her. Sounds like little Timmy realized he couldn’t get some on the side anymore. But then he throws a tantrum like a toddler. It’s ok if I get my way but you can’t get your way. At the end it’s always about how he feels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 10:32 AM
52

It kind of makes me wonder if these guys are homoerotic (I don’t think that’s the right word) and secretly want Chad all to himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:40 AM
28

LVM will do anything to get sex, even if they don’t have a chance in hell they will shoot their shot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:38 AM
62

You should keep all the screenshots and report it. The messages seem to be becoming increasingly violent and I wouldn’t be surprised if he hasn’t tried to find your other social media accounts. He’s most likely an incel too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:53 PM
18

I don’t understand how they can compare this to a subreddit that promotes terrorism. Also what’s with all the comments of guys praising women they dated who made less than them for paying half? That’s not something to brag about. Also I get plenty of guys from all walks of life and all types of looks and body types trying to talk to me. The few violent oriented members who may be on here always get called out when they express their views
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:50 PM
5

I agree with blackishcat, take what you want and utilize it. No one is forcing users to agree with every single little thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:40 AM
48

Anything that allows them to pull their dick out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:47 AM
48

So basically he infected people on purpose. What an asshole. You could practice a hobby. Watch a series. Write
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 03:05 AM
1

Awful idea, because once the quarantine is over the lvm will just drop the girls who pursue someone who they feel are “worthy” of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 01:58 AM
39

A lot of men use that career excuse. When I use to use online dating I saw every guy with no picture use that excuse. They only do it because they’re trying to cheat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:22 PM
27

That’s why I don’t waste my energy anymore on my old friend whenever she messages me about her relationship. I plan to tell her to not bring it up because if you don’t set boundaries they will. Also she doesn’t want to change she just wants someone to vent to, she even admitted it. Not very different from a LVM. They just want to be told what they want to hear and not do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 04:34 PM
46

You’re right. They could be using that time to self reflect but they won’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 02:21 AM
1

But if a girl is a pick me she’ll probably go out of her way to come to the guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:12 PM
44

I have been seeing a lot of similar posts. One I saw was a meme about guys contacting all the girls who said they wouldn’t date them unless it’s the end of the world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 08:32 AM
9

Unfortunately some may resort to rape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 01:41 AM
26

They’ll turn to cam girls, and the ones who can afford prostitutes will turn to them. The guy who recently stopped talking to me who blocked me has made 0 effort to reach out to me. He’s in a relationship but there are single LVM who I use to talk to that made no effort to contact me. Most likely they’ll remain in their own delusion until they start taking accountability and actually take a shower and stop blaming women for the reasons why they can’t get laid😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:11 AM
4

Need more context, but from what you told me so far it sounds like apathy and he no longer cares about you, or he never cared to begin with. Sometimes we project our own expectations on guys we really like More obvious signs would be him blocking you on social media. Also if he’s talking to you less that means he’s not interested
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 09:37 PM
4

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:45 AM
3

Sounds like you’re just self projecting on him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 04:14 PM
12

And he’s not in the least bit remorseful at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 04:00 PM
2

Unfortunately I’m always seeing stories online about girls doing this to their friends. Some will even accept them back into their group again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:55 PM
5

Yes I was surprised to notice it was common
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:53 PM
7

Is this guy the same man as this one in this article? https://www.foxnews.com/world/japanese-woman-contracts-coronavirus-after-contact-with-man-who-wanted-to-spread-it-report It just says bar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:47 PM
8

This is the article I found but it has nothing to do with a man licking anything: https://www.foxnews.com/world/japanese-woman-contracts-coronavirus-after-contact-with-man-who-wanted-to-spread-it-report
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:46 PM
17

I never heard of this before, can you link the article? That’s messed up on so many levels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:43 PM
4

Did you read the wiki and search the sub? I found a lot of posts about this with advice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:01 AM
29

Also the eww factor. Not all guys take care of their health and bodies. I understand some men go bald due to age, but a lot of men let themselves go and don’t bother to eat healthy, exercise and take care of their skin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 04:09 AM
78

I’m not looking for one. I’m in my 20s, but I can’t believe guys think young women are anticipating sleeping with a guy in his 40s and 50s for the sole purpose of carrying his baby, gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 01:27 AM
0

Heart react means nothing. There is this guy who heart reacted to a picture I uploaded on Facebook and I never hooked up with him at all. I never even kissed the guy. In fact he likes some other girl. I never pursued him. We all make mistakes. I don’t think he wants anything beyond a hookup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 04:10 AM
4

Things were going well in terms of leveling up. I started applying to jobs every week I didn’t feel good enough for. Now that every thing is being canceled because of this virus my anxiety and depression are trying to hang out with me. I got a call from an employer( wasn’t an ideal job) but I called back and left a voicemail but I haven’t heard back. It’s the HR department and I personally don’t know of any HR departments they close on Thursdays!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 04:02 AM
22

Omg yes! So many men will be quick to blame women when they can’t get a date. It must be the girl’s fault. Then every women is evil
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:53 AM
1

I wouldn’t know but there is some great advice here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:51 AM
4

Also how would you feel if your bf had a girl friend who he came over her house a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:35 AM
107

I’m going to take a wild guess and say the girl he wanted wasn’t taking any of his BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:29 AM
35

This explains why so many bitchy women I know are in relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:03 PM
2

Wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:10 PM
1

That’s what I was thinking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:47 PM
36

I never heard of europeen females before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 05:32 AM
4

Maybe he’s into a weird fetish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:40 PM
4

Any messing around where you work is a big no no, that can really come back to bite you in the ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:02 PM
10

Not trying to be funny but how does he know every detail without knowing the number? Genuinely curious. Because I have dated multiple people but I never had sex with them, and in the United States at least it seems that the word date and dating has become synonymous with “had sex with”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:16 PM
6

This reminds me of something stupid my friend did last week. She text her guy friend who didn’t respond. So she tells him about a serious issue she has with some girl. He tells he has her back She lives with her ex. So apparently she ask him what turns him on during sex. I think she did this when she realized it was obvious he wasn’t into her like that She told me he would like her posts but not respond to her texts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 09:44 PM
1

Great post, will save for later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:40 PM
9

It’s because they actually weren’t looking for a relationship, just to hook up. They probably said they were looking for a relationship though. Perhaps their methods made them get laid easy and since it didn’t work on you it hurt their ego. Just a theory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 08:05 PM
2

I haven’t had any guys message me so far and my number hasn’t changed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 08:03 PM
52

If he stops showing interest, don’t keep contacting him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:17 PM
53

It looks like he tried 3 different methods to get your attention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:59 AM
39

By she was on... I’m assuming he meant period?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:44 AM
15

Yep it’s like they expect the plain girl was supposed to be the “door that was already open”, only for them to discover it was locked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:40 AM
17

I think if a girl they find plain and unattractive turns them down they will take that as an insult and keep trying or get aggressive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:38 AM
1

He claimed I never gave him a chance but when I pointed out he never asked me out he was stunned. Then he makes up an excuse to not talk to me anymore. That’s when he starts posting on Facebook about how women don’t appreciate a good man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:59 AM
3

Sounds like he was just killing time for some other event
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:53 AM
58

I think these guys wanted to cheat but also the women they wanted didn’t want them. They probably were shooting for Jessica Albas when they were in Danny Devito territory. Nothing against him. They probably could spot their low effort from a mile away. In their heads they probably expected it to be easy like it is in movies and porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:41 AM
3

This; he wants to try to bang other woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:21 AM
8

I once had a guy lie to me that he was getting back with his ex and that she was pregnant, then he posted on Facebook that same week that women aren’t loyal. Turns out his ex wants nothing to do with him, he just made that shit up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:42 AM
80

He knows most women his age can see right through his bullshit, even the ones in their 20s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:42 PM
6

Ha ha the audacity. And no, most older guys are not better looking than younger guys. There are rare exceptions based on self physical care. And more experienced doesn’t mean better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:41 PM
5

These are also the same dudes that complain when a gay dude hits on them but have no problem smacking a girl’s ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:34 PM
75

He is also on other subs that are female oriented. Even though he’s married I wouldn’t be surprised if he could be a psycho or a rapist. There have been studies that serial rapists have normal sex lives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:44 AM
20

I scrolled past this post but I never commented, I didn’t know it was a guy but it just didn’t sit right with me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:32 AM
7

Based on the username I wonder if it’s a troll used to target FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 11:17 PM
7

Yep, my friend complains that her live in so called ex boyfriend doesn’t want to to have sex with her anymore. She caught him talking on the phone to his girl co worker yet she still is somehow clueless as to why he doesn’t want to have sex with her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:06 PM
2

His dick called but no one answered apparently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:35 PM
2

They think it makes them seem less desperate therefore more valuable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:33 PM
5

You dodged a bullet. It’s possible that his gf/fiancé caught him in a lie and in order for him to keep up that lie he blocked your number to make him look innocent I have no doubt that no matter what happened, his goal was to make you look like the bad guy, and he was probably going to contact you later on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:30 PM
8

I wasn’t bullied but the main guys who talked shit were also short and below average
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:16 PM
5

It’s really weird. There are lots of us women everywhere. Then when called out on their shit they try to blame the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 04:50 AM
6

I’m tall for a girl and I meet weirdos all the time that try to talk to me. I had guys try to follow me into stores. One guy followed me into a restaurant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 04:04 AM
7

Yesterday I was walking home from the store and this guy in his car turns around and makes a u turn into the empty clinic parking lot. Then he stops at the stop sign to try to talk to me. My instincts activated quickly and I walked behind the car, I guess he thought I was going to wait for him to go It was scary as hell. Wonder if I decided to walk into the clinic parking lot instead of staying on the sidewalk. I heard a voice come from the car. I didn’t even bother to see if it was a guy or a g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 04:03 AM
1

That really sucks that they have better skin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:14 AM
21

Or tell us they smell like fish yet they take pride in not washing their ass and genitals or at least having basic hygiene
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 11:31 PM
1

The mods told me the post was removed but I can still see it. I already created a new post over 2 weeks ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:46 PM
2

The OP said only LVM act like that in the post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 07:48 PM
8

In society, well at least in my side of the world. There is no pressure for a man to be in a relationship. The way I see it, LVM will ride this like a horse. Once they get the “girl” they take that as a stepping stone that they can conquer Mt Everest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 07:46 PM
21

Exactly what I was thinking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 08:46 PM
87

Those guys probably still send her thirsty messages
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 08:44 PM
89

In PUA men are taught that insulting a woman will get you laid. Also I use to lurk the seduce sub and I kept seeing men encourage men to keep trying even if a girl is not interested or if their method is not working
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 08:44 PM
38

She looks like a Thai actress and model. I use to watch lots of thai dramas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 08:42 PM
3

Yes I do have this habit I’ll zero in on the most recent guy I apologized to numerous amounts of times. He treated me bad but I was the one apologizing to him a lot of times. He was the one who ghosted me and led me on. All I did was message our mutual friends the truth about him and they didn’t really care, but yet I was the one feeling like the bad guy He was ignoring me and ghosted me after we hooked up. When I was younger there was this gay guy who I use to be friends with who thinks I owe h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 08:40 PM
14

But will get mad if a woman does the same with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:52 PM
6

I had an ex offer to pay for my Plan B after we had sex. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:29 PM
20

I consider the possibility that the guy is in lust, she’s very attractive, but he thinks he’s in love. Also a HVM who has low self esteem will settle because he thinks he has no other options
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:26 PM
48

They start so early. No accountability even though it was him who took a picture of her butt without her permission
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 01:22 PM
4

I also think that just because a guy is respectful doesn’t mean he still does not see a woman as just a placeholder. That’s why it’s important to look at actions. I say this because that’s just how some guys are, but unfortunately this trait makes women think she should waste effort and hope trying to get into a relationship just because he wasn’t abusing her. So unfortunately these girls waste their time on potential
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 09:01 PM
9

Oh he’ll be back on Reddit next year asking why she went out on a date with a guy who actually clarified the label
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:53 PM
9

True, because some guys feel they don’t have to keep up with their looks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:50 PM
2

I think it’s because you maybe wanted what you couldn’t have after he rejected you. I know men and women who are like this as well. My female friend will pursue a guy after he doesn’t show interest, I use to do this a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:45 PM
5

Probably because you weren’t chasing the guy and he felt he was not getting the upper hand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:43 PM
4

The last guy I slept with (I wouldn’t even call it that), wanted to cuddle but I found out it was only because he wanted a blow job. So occasionally they’ll want to cuddle if it benefits them sexually As a person who use to FWB, I can attest to this being true. He could be respectful to you but you will still remain in the FWB category.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:39 PM
21

I really messed up on that one when the last LVM was talking to me. I told him I was unemployed and had no car. And this was like the first of second day when he messaged me. I knew him from high school but I told him that before we even met up to “hang out”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:55 PM
18

I’m grossed out by guys I have met who looked sweaty on top of being overweight. I don’t expect Fabio but it’s obvious when a guy is trying to improve himself. Most guys I have seen while out and about don’t even bother to put on a decent shirt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:17 PM
19

It’s not happening to me fortunately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:49 PM
11

I bled after I had sex with a guy who also fingered me and I was not on my period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:12 PM
48

His response fair enough just shows he knows what he was doing yet these types of men will find a way to put the blame on the woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:29 PM
3

He’s having an entire conversation with himself in your inbox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:52 AM
31

If Gabrielle conceived while they were separated he would not have taken her back... Men expect women to stay after cheating but when a woman does it he will not hesitate to leave her. Don’t get me wrong cheating is bad period no matter what gender
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:29 AM
4

I’m not gay but I have lesbian acquaintances who have the same issues us straight women have with men. This one lesbian girl(well lipstick lesbian) verbally abused her girlfriend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:45 PM
30

Is this from Black Dahlia?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:42 PM
44

You handled it well. How the hell does Connor go from homeboy and pizza to kiss you on the cheek and necklace? Wow. He mad but he can’t just go get a girly girl like he said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 07:39 PM
1

thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:45 PM
6

And women are expected are look on the inside, which is something which only benefits men those women find unattractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:46 PM
2

I don’t see the option on the app
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:43 AM
7

He compared it to a girl ditching him for not having a big penis. He seemed to either not understand my comment or was looking for a negative reason as to why I wouldn’t be entitled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:29 AM
12

I did and I regret it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:25 AM
131

“But at least I got a man, you’re all just jealous!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:42 AM
3

No problem. I would just lurk the subreddit and see what other members have said that could help you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:41 AM
5

Sounds like he wants to be exclusive but doesn’t want to pressure you too. I’m not sure what you should do. My exes were shit, but it sounds like he’s happy with the way things are and things seem well between you two I mean him talking about things is one thing, but behavior is what I would look at in your situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:37 AM
4

Does his behavior show he wants to be exclusive? Maybe he doesn’t want to be exclusive since you let him know you don’t want to. If this guy still wanted to be exclusive his actions would show it, but I’m sure he doesn’t want to pressure you. If he wants you to be exclusive wouldn’t there be signs like planning things together, meeting family and friends? Perhaps he’s happy with what you two have now and doesn’t want to change it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:26 AM
11

I have been attracted to many men shorter than me, but from what I have seen the girls they liked in the past were petite and I never complained about it to them. I just stepped aside, why can’t men who complain do the same instead of whining about it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:46 AM
27

The paper thing is not a good idea, I did this my junior year of high school. He never responded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:37 PM
35

I was lurking askreddit and saw an old post about women who work at places like Hooters. A girl said she gets a lot of IT customers and one of the questions was asked that she ask them out. Another comment was followed by, “we make great boyfriends” Just thought it was funny because this waitress was expected to ask these guys out as if they were a catch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:36 PM
2

The main ones I have seen while watching YouTube is eating healthy, exercise, learn a new hobby, spend time on friendships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:33 PM
4

One pattern I noticed before guys who put no effort into after I wasted my time would ghost me, and then weeks later pop up with telling me they’re in a relationship or they moan about their ex Another thing I noticed is that these men will whine about me not liking them, but at the same time never ask me out at all. And they always would persuade me to go to them, not the other way around They also would hesitate whenever I asked them a question about where they worked, or anything that’s non-s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:26 PM
3

Definitely a troll most likely who is trying to troll this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:23 PM
16

Why does it feel like the only thing I have value to men is my looks? I’m struggling to get out of this mindset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:41 AM
48

“Choose better, but only when it’s convenient for me to toss you aside and have control of the situation”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:16 AM
30

It’s like they’ve been conditioned to think they’re a rare prize
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:27 AM
12

That’s a different situation but there is a study that says you lose friends every time you fall in love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:24 AM
58

It’s always the LVM who are married. It’s like they’re not satisfied enough with putting in no effort with their SO so they have to try to find another girl to put less effort into as well. And the ugly guys are bold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:24 PM
1

He probably has a family historian. My family has one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:00 PM
4

Maybe he plans on selling it online. If it was in a Manila envelope it could be. If he was planning on proposing as a surprise then it’s not much of a surprise anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:59 PM
8

My friend was in an abusive relationship in high school and after she graduated. I was still friends with her. We drifted apart and she wanted to reconnect. I find out that not only is she in another abusive relationship with a different guy but she has 2 kids by him. I knew about the first one. She had to go home because of her boyfriend while we were hanging out, it wasn’t even an emergency it was because he wanted vape. She seems confused on what their relationship is. They live together with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:41 PM
10

First thing that came to mind was it was another woman’s. But I’m no expert in these situations. I’ve never lived with a guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:34 PM
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I wouldn’t welcome her back. She may try to reconnect just to see what OP might put up with or just to use her in some way. If I were OP we would have a hard talk before I would even consider having her as a friend again because she might think it’s ok to do that to OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:30 PM
8

I would just move on and date around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:48 PM
50

If a friend cuts me off because of a guy, I’m not taking them back as a friend. Especially if we discussed things. If I do that then I’m saying it’s ok for them to come in and out of my life and use me. It’s the same with LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:23 PM
20

I can never understand why exes want to make things work after the relationship ends. They were supposed to do that while in the relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:45 PM
16

I have seen this crap a lot too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:11 PM
37

He has no shame in stalking you either, but if it was the other way around and you were stalking him he would be calling you all kinds of names and trying to clown you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:10 PM
28

I like how I can apply FDS to every aspect of my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:51 AM
10

I wish I would’ve known about this sub a decade ago before I lost my virginity to a LVM in high school
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:41 AM
6

Playing games. They want to get your attention but they want you to come to them this time, so that they don’t feel rejected and don’t have to put in much effort. It’s easier to create a new account than message others because eventually people will start asking questions. Also it is a form of revenge and control. You can’t control whether or not they create a new account every time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:25 AM
13

Same, and weed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:12 PM
1

You made a great decision. Happy you are doing so well in college. I use to waste my energy on guys like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 10:40 PM
4

A lot of guys do believe we should be flattered. I always see comments like, when you’re older you’re going to miss being approached
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:15 PM
2

I hope you kept your room door locked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:43 PM
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In the PUA forum trying to make a woman feel jealous is one of their rules to try to get laid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:40 PM
14

The rest of the post here: 1. https://imgur.com/2j2rtXR https://imgur.com/DvfMBMZ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:09 AM
19

The last guy I talked to would contact me, invite me out, then when I showed interest he told me hours later that they canceled at the last minute. I only found out because I asked, if I didn’t he wouldn’t have ever responded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:30 AM
13

Had a guy in 2018 whine to me about me not wanting him. When I pointed out that he never asked me out he seemed shocked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:17 AM
9

Yes I want to be spoilt when I’m in a good relationship with the right person. I think every woman wants this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:51 PM
9

No exes or past fwb have tried to contact me yet. They use to do that all the time. I remember the walks of shame and the low self esteem of my already low self esteem. It was a nightmare and I don’t wish to go through that ever again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:49 PM
15

I refuse to make myself look pitiful in public or online on this day. I don’t want any weirdos in my Facebook inbox or any guys in real life trying to use anything against me. They can’t have any ammo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:45 PM
59

“He even cut off one of his side chicks!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:39 PM
2

I have seen many women lose money and effort over guys by giving them things. If they’re in a relationship more power to them but I use to let men borrow money. I’m not giving out money or trying to give gifts again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:19 PM
3

It’s strange, it seems weird how men want a woman who has someone. I had this guy keep pursuing me in college even after I told him I have a boyfriend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:15 PM
4

As a women who has used a lot of rage to try to get even, it WAS NOT WORTH IT! When a LVM or any man hurt me I went out on a limb online to be petty It was a waste of energy and I only ended up wasting more of my time after. Any type of violence or energy towards these type of men is SO NOT WORTH IT. I felt drained after trying to do it and most of the the time I looked stupid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:08 PM
8

Because a lot of women are posting things online like “I don’t care what he looks like as long as he treats me well” there are even popular songs by women that are dedicated to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:02 PM
5

I had a guy in 2018 tell me his ex is pregnant. I found out this was a lie. I should have taken the hint though. He was trying to get back with her and she was not having it. Last year I met a guy who just didn’t message me after I hooked up. I should have cut him off as soon as he ghosted me but I was in denial
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:23 PM
4

I wish I was like this. I wouldn’t have any issues at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:17 PM
6

The old me would have rushed to their aid, but the current me doesn’t see the logic in wanting a relationship with a man who is so broken that he is too broken for a relationship. I never understood why I got attached to these dudes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:11 PM
11

How are we supposed to verify these things when we ask for tests? Men like this don’t even care about putting lives at risk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 12:23 PM
2

I noticed that men on Reddit are very desperate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:18 AM
10

Seeing this screenshot is like looking into my past. Literally all the guys I chased started off with this kind of BS. First they would ask me what I’m doing, wait a day, claim I didn’t mention that date. They would turn it around and make it as if I was putting pressure on them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:27 AM
32

How did you find out he did this? Does he brag about it? That’s so messed up. Why do they even lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:21 AM
54

I agree. Also I didn’t realize how disgusting some men are. Lying about taking a simple STI test? He could be carrying something and not even know it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:20 AM
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Yep I hooked up with a guy “friend” Old high school acquaintance. And before he dropped me off he told me he’ll text me. I believed him. I waited days, he never messaged me. If I would have dropped him then, I would have spared myself the humiliation and wasted effort. But I didn’t. I messaged him. I told myself he works so he’s busy, but he never responded for over 3 days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:40 AM
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That’s what I don’t get. Lots of guys find her hot and there are lots of men who are wealthy who wouldn’t mind dating her. I’m sure she meets guys like that in her career all the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:37 AM
33

She’s attractive. I don’t understand why she can’t leave Jay Z and get another man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:28 AM
53

Jay z lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:49 PM
22

Yes keep them out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:45 PM
10

I see a lot of women who aren’t even married on reddit asking about joint bank accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:50 PM
2

Currently dealing with this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:48 PM
0

GiRl ByE YoU JuSt MaD I sAiD yOu CaN’t ReAd 🤡 Thanks for the laughs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:18 PM
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I’m not trying to argue I asked a question and you just got mad 😂 You are the one trying to argue with me. I’m over here laughing at how pissed off you are Lack of reading comprehension, I read exactly what you wrote and I even quoted it in my comment. Instead of huffing and puffing read it again. Go sit down somewhere and stop trying to create imaginary arguments 😆 🌈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:02 PM
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Wow I didn’t realize asking a simple question would make you jump to that conclusion that I’m on my way to being a LVW. 👏 👏 I never said telling a man to die was ok at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:29 PM
2

I agree I use to be that woman. Not this specific situation though, the guy in my situation was an asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:06 PM
1

How does this tweet encourage women to be bitter and go on a rant?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 01:03 PM
18

That’s exactly how I felt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 12:50 PM
19

The last guy I was with asked for anal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:48 PM
82

Guys complain about not wanting girls with daddy issues but freely express how their girlfriend needs to be their mom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:43 PM
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That’s creepy you are getting messages. I have posted on here and I haven’t received any messages. Those weirdos sure have a lot of free time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:51 PM
13

If it was this easy for every woman then this sub wouldn’t exist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:12 PM
2

I think an abuser would use marriage as a tactic of manipulation. That would be a red flag for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:15 PM
1

I have an ex guy friend who had a series of long term relationships. He started dating this girl and he married her in less than 6 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:14 PM
3

“My ex was evil, please sleep with me” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:08 PM
3

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:06 PM
5

This is what I don’t understand. I keep seeing men online say women are h*es these days, but in the same breadth these men complain about not getting laid?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:05 PM
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Being nice Liking things because a guy I liked liked them Dropping my goals, plans and dreams for a guy Putting in effort And hooking up has NOT BENEFITED me at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 03:56 PM
77

A lot of men always assume that it’s Chad that treats women like this but in my experience there were more guys who were fat and unattractive doing this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 03:44 PM
20

A lot of guys post old pics but what I don’t understand is why women get crucified for it when women weigh more?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 05:34 AM
8

So women are not supposed to defend themselves against men like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:13 AM
2

It’s driving me crazy literally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 03:00 AM
6

I may have to get a minimum wage job, which I don’t mind, but I have to go back to the possibility of being thrown in a cycle of poverty. I can’t go back to school unless I pay $3K and even when I do, I still need to work while in college
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:59 AM
5

Same, my life is already bad with me being unemployed and having clinical depression. The last thing I need to risk is possible pregnancy or an STI that I can’t even pay medication for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:10 AM
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I’m completely failing in this department
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:01 AM
7

I’m pretty sure if his wife told him she fucked all her guy friends but it was just the past he wouldn’t forgive her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:35 AM
1

I tried to fix it but I’m not able to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:48 AM
1

FDS is more than welcome to take it down if they want
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:44 AM
5

Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:19 AM
14

My concern would be STIs and pregnancy. I use to have casual sex but I can’t afford to put my health and my self respect respect at risk. I was already losing my dignity before I found this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:18 AM
2

LVMs will still think they can find someone younger and better looking, especially the fat and unattractive ones
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:15 AM
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It seems like casual sex and a guy who is polite don’t go hand in hand. I use to have casual sex with a handsome guy long time ago and when I would message him he would act like I was invading his personal space They assume we all want them until the tables turn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:13 AM
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Made me so angry too because I know now that’s exactly what the last LVM I hooked up with thinks of me. He’s back with his ex. He has a little daughter. So his karma is set up. He is younger than me but His hair line looks like it’s receding If I knew he had a daughter I wouldn’t have bothered with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:35 PM
37

I saw this while lurking in a men’s forum too. It was something about the guys telling each other as long as they get something out of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:30 PM
2

My friend’s boyfriend did this when she caught him talking on the phone to another woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:29 PM
4

He sounds very disturbing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:28 PM
12

These comments are in response to the OP who is also interacting in the comments that are blurred out, to a man who says guys never post about their girl want to give women relationship advice These 2 men are out of the “game” and in relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:25 PM
3

😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:22 PM
31

Probably told his new girl that he use to buy her flowers but she didn’t appreciate it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:41 AM
35

He cheated but she’s toxic? He’s crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:40 AM
14

Wow he thinks he can just use her like a toy. I had a guy do the same years ago. He would contact me in between girlfriends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:39 AM
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Have the same issue. I kept getting used. Last guy I hooked up with ghosted me as soon as he dropped me off but I was in denial. I kept putting in so much effort. I even sent nudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:30 PM
6

He was really ugly. She can have him on a plate for all I care. I would have given her two plates if she asked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:18 AM
11

Everyone has their own preference but in my experience I would rather keep dating and not lock myself down with one guy. I mean actions speak louder than words. A guy can say he’s serious but that don’t mean he is. I learned that the hard way long time ago when my ex ghosted me and got married. Luckily I never slept with him and it was a very short relationship but I refuse to be someone’s forever girlfriend A guy not wanting to rush things is a red flag for me because with the right woman a man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:00 AM
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I’ll list some. When I use to wear makeup on the train I had guys give me a piece of paper with their number on it and just walk away without saying a word When I went to a community college in downtown I had this happen to me while I was on the computer too. I always threw them away. In text: “What you doing?” I had a guy ignore me for days after I responded to that question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:24 AM
12

Your response was good but it’s also very funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:12 AM
20

This makes me angry for the effort I have put into guys, and for this woman in the book. If he called her a simple b***h for doing something nice imagine what he would’ve done if he slept with her. I knew men could be entitled but I didn’t realize it was this awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 12:59 PM
1

Will do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:36 AM
3

Same; been to therapy for over 2 years off and on, been on meds for over a year. Meds not helping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:26 AM
31

Old men seem to have the most nerve. I had an old men on the bus tell me I didn’t have to reject him the way I did, even though I only said no when he asked me to lunch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:19 AM
1

“Hey I see you’re hot now. That means you must cater to me so I can drink and smoke weed at home all day as I question if I deserve better.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:14 AM
1

If it’s a relationship then the assumption is that the woman already did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:02 PM
6

I met a lady in her 60s with no wrinkles. She told me her secret is smiling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 01:34 AM
7

This sounds similar to my ex. He would make indirect comments about me needing to go to the gym, but his wife is bigger than me. He also dated her after me and he married her. He’s ugly as sin, I don’t know what I was thinking when I decided to get into a relationship with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:13 PM
5

Exactly. We have to look out for ourselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:10 AM
13

I too realize I am a LVW as well; ignorance can be bliss but I’m glad I got the wake up call. I honestly can say I have no idea what I’m going to do about it. Not only did I exhibit pickmeisha behavior, but in the past I was the girl that had no shame in talking to another girl’s boyfriend I also don’t have my financial life together. I’m overweight, broke, unemployed and living with my mom and my life seems to be going nowhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 10:11 AM
2

By setting dates can you elaborate on that? Because I thought I would be married over 5 years ago and I have never been engaged. And I’m still struggling to get a job. I’m completely broke it’s not even funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:39 AM
2

By setting dates can you elaborate on that? Because I thought I would be married over 5 years ago and I have never been engaged. And I’m still struggling to get a job. I’m completely broke it’s not even funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:38 AM
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Then he’ll be like: “I don’t trust her anymore” then whine and play the victim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:12 AM
19

I bet he wants a Jessica Alba look alike
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:42 AM
8

I’m glad I discovered this sub. I’m tired of BS, ready to level up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:41 AM
10

I honestly feel I am sex traumatized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:26 AM
47

When they can no longer control the situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 09:21 AM
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I felt that in my soul because I did this all the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:39 AM
11

Or a LVM who actually gets a taste of his own medicine from a woman and all of a sudden every woman is awful because she had the audacity not to put up with his mess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 11:29 PM
1

This is my mom’s boyfriend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:13 AM
17

My ex seems to be doing pretty well. He was an asshole LVM. He’s married and he’s got himself a full time office job. When I met him he was working at Game Stop
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:07 AM
9

Jenna Marbles has a video on being weird when you don’t want a guy bothering you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 05:07 AM
17

I see men complain about this shit all the time. It’s always the broke guys or the ones who are unattractive talking about they can’t trust if a woman has a real ass these days. These women won’t even blink at you if they had dust in their eyes But for real though why are the losers always complaining as if they have a ton of options?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:37 AM
3

This guy on Facebook told me in a message that we could have kids together and move in only if I get a job first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:33 AM
6

He gets upset if he even suspects she’s talking to someone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:21 AM
9

She says he is bipolar and laughs it off. I hate to say that but she may end up seriously abused or worse, killed by her spouse if she keeps this up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:17 AM
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No I don’t think so. I have no idea why he won’t move out. It’s her parents house. He’s using money as a means to control her. I don’t understand why she continues to let him treat her like this. He won’t even make it clear that they’re in a relationship He was texting her asking if she’s still mad after she discovered him talking to another girl They were supposed to have sex but he didn’t want to anymore after he got off the phone with the girl. She’s in denial, even a bat can see what’s going…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:08 AM
3

I sent nudes to the last LVM I dealt with, I didn’t show my face but I am never doing that again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:20 AM
2

Yep I had this issue. I kept repeating the same mistakes. Not fun. Ladies don’t do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:57 AM
4

This is great advice. I wish I would have blocked the guy I was talking to sooner. Instead I continued to waste my energy on him when he had me blocked on Facebook already. At the end of the day I was the one who was hurt more because I was messaging our mutual friends and still trying to get his attention. I felt like a fool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:14 AM
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I’m not one to give advice as I was recently trying to get a loser’s attention, but think about it this way: do you think he would be doing the same thing for you? Also, it helps to write down in a journal your behavior and how it made you feel. Did posting on social media make you feel great? At the end of day, you are faced with your feelings of what you do. Also you guys were fwb and he called it off. Do you really want to continue to waste energy on a guy trying to get his attention? Is he p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:10 AM
2

Reading your post almost made me cry. It just reminds me of all the dumb shit I put up with from LVM. I like you, don’t want to ever feel drained of energy or used again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:54 AM
2

Saw this post yesterday. Complete godsend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:36 AM
5

Even if I want to I have shitty financial issues and my own mental health issues that I actively have to go to the clinic for. Also I am unemployed so that makes it even much harder for me to do things with the addition to my depression
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:29 AM
6

It would be nice to get some resources on this sub on how to develop these social skills
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:45 AM
32

Its like those men who trash talk those Instagram girls but will be the main ones messaging them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:35 PM
31

I use to approach guys...take a wild guess how that turned out for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:05 AM
1

I use to sleep with a guy who was handsome and great in bed but I found myself always wanting more and always chasing him. I thought at the time that I had something good. At least he was attractive. But then he was a drunk and he would put me on the back burner and come back to me once he stopped having a girlfriend and he would go on dates but he never took me on one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:03 AM
3

Thanks. Im glad someone understood the reference 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:00 AM
5

Thanks. I couldn’t write anything these past 2 months but now I found I could, it was hard but I found myself writing two paragraphs today in my novel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:21 AM
11

I use to have casual sex but I have decided not to do it anymore. It never benefited me at all! I always left the situation feeling used and drained of energy. It wasn’t worth the psychological issues I got from it either I always met guys who were selfish in bed and some were even verbally abusive. I say don’t do it at all but that’s just me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:18 AM
1

I saw my therapist twice this month. i had a job interview yesterday and I blocked that guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 11:11 PM
8

When a guy I like ghosted me after we hooked up it was a huge flag, but my dumb ass just assumed me was busy. He ghosted me for 2 weeks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 04:42 PM
3

Same, I’m not 29 but I just now realized this stuff in my mid 20s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 04:41 PM
5

This is true but not everyone will experience true love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 04:33 PM
8

I learned the hard way that we have to look out for ourselves especially when it comes to sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 04:32 PM
6

Ok I thought I was the only girl who use to do this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 12:56 AM
7

Most of the guys I was with were extremely selfish in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 09:34 PM
15

Sadly I have done this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 09:27 PM
18

Had a guy few days ago message me trying to hit on me with Whitney Houston song lyrics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 09:20 PM
5

What are some things that helped you improve and change bad habits?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:35 PM
1

Get a job and keep it Lose 50lbs Eat healthier (less dairy, less meat) Workout Save for a car Pay off debts Practice makeup skills Improve hair skills Become a self published author
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:13 AM
2

Also I don’t know what to eat. I keep seeing meal preps but I can’t do that because I live with my mom and we don’t have refrigerator room. So far I have made tuna salad because I have two plastic containers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:02 AM
2

I want to go but I don’t know what to do at the gym and last time I went it was so intimidating. It was really busy and I went alone but I was lucky to get help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 09:54 PM
16

I wish I could print this out and frame it in a little card and take it with me everywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:16 PM
1

Even though I can’t afford to go the gym at the moment I admit even when I do get the money I’ll be too scared to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:59 PM
4

I did this last week unfortunately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:58 PM
1

I’m not sure when I’ll be able to see a therapist again. I am trying to see one Monday but I may have to wait until after Christmas. I contacted my previous therapist but she probably won’t respond until Monday since she’s off on weekends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 04:25 PM
2

I remember he was fingering me and I kept telling him to slow down but he ignored it. It felt uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:45 PM
3

I haven’t told my therapist small details but I admit there are things I left out because I only wanted to provide the big picture of my issues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:44 PM
4

I was seeing a therapist for free, but I stopped because I was running short on bus fare. I can ask my mom for help since I live with her, but I just don’t want to burden her with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:30 PM
3

We just hooked up that’s it. And I wouldn’t even consider it a hookup tbh. He was very pushy and it was a very short yet uncomfortable experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:27 PM
3

I don’t mean to blame him, I mean I am trying to improve my reaction to these things. I am upset at my reaction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:23 PM
1

I was reluctant to block him because he said we couldn’t mess around because he said his ex wanted to work things out. I told him I understand but later I started to feel like he used me and tossed me aside at his disposal. He is in a relationship now. He was single when we hooked up but it was only once and he never hung out with me outside of his bedroom We only met up in his room that one time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:22 PM
1

Ok I just realized that technically he has my cell number. You know that Uber he talked about? Well he offered to send me money through the cash app so I sent him my number. He didn’t send the money though. & I don’t know his number. What a disaster
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 07:30 PM
3

I finally blocked him from Facebook completely but it was so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:37 AM
1

Thanks; sent you a PM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:37 AM
1

Tbh I don’t think he’ll even notice that I blocked him. That’s how little he cares about me I realize. Since I didn’t respond to his reply he definitely won’t notice since he has no problem ignoring me now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 01:47 AM
1

I’m tempted to block him out of the blue. I know it needs to be done either way, but I can’t think of a better opportunity than now, but what happens is I usually wake up needy and regretting it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 01:38 AM
1

I got a call from a potential job but I missed their call and I have been eating fast food ever since. I called them back too. Seems like the more I want to work the longer it takes for me to get work. So far I have only been able to get gigs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 01:28 AM
2

Is it normal that I feel that I don’t want to block him on Facebook, because I want him to see that I am happy without him and improving myself? I feel this is the only way I can get revenge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 12:14 AM
2

Well part of me feels angry and guilty because a few weeks later after we had sex he tells me that he thought I just wanted casual nothing serious. I agreed because at the time I thought it would scare him away if I said something else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:08 PM
3

I’m going to try to get back in therapy. I contacted my therapist yesterday but I might have to see a new one since they aren’t replying. The therapy is free it’s just I may have to put off therapy because of transportation cost since I’m almost broke and I’m not working.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:55 PM
-2

I told him I want to hang out in public and he agreed. Does that count
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:50 PM
2

I’m also dealing with trying to lose weight, which makes it harder with the fact that I don’t have a car so I have to get a ride to the grocery store in order to eat healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:38 PM
5

I’m unemployed. Stuck in my mom’s apartment. I have my own room but her boyfriend lives here. I’m almost completely broke. And for some reason my Facebook inbox is being flooded with random guys asking me for my number because they knew me from high school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:37 PM
2

I told him how I felt but I really put myself out there for him to hurt me more when I did because I told him the entire truth. I told him I went to therapy because of him and I told him how I felt suicidal because of him. Then I was upset when he ignored it. I told him months ago how I felt it was disrespectful for him to ask about threesomes and he didn’t care. He told me in November he can’t talk because he’s with his gf. So I’m not sure what I would tell him now and I know he won’t respond. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:34 PM
0

I was trying to see a psychic or someone similar but I can’t afford it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 04:30 PM
5

I blocked him from messaging me once, but it was unsuccessful because I unblocked him again. Idk what made me unblock him but I felt I was so close to cutting him off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 04:29 PM
7

I see now that I can’t do damage control based on the wiki
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 04:19 PM
2

No I haven’t read the group wiki. I just read the ideology link a few minutes ago after seeing this comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:54 PM
-8

A different guy asked me to hang out but I know that word based on my experience is sex, because previously the guy said some shit about wanting to see my room
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:47 PM
23

I met a guy recently who wanted me to meet his friends the same day (they were having a party), then he messages me after I ask him about it, he says “my bad they canceled at the last minute” then he did it again a few months later, he invited me to go over his house and he claimed he fell asleep. And he ignores my messages on purpose even the ones with questions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:12 PM
5

Literally was waiting for a guy to message me on Facebook who I knew was ignoring me. Why do I keep doing this to myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:49 PM
34

Or: “I lied to all these girls and my ex left me ...because reasons” then they tell everyone that all women are liars and thots
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 01:53 PM
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