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Points 1&3 I can agree with but point 2, I did share in my post how I was attending both my church and his church on Saturday and Sunday. Would joining his church mean I need to forgo mine?
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/25 02:44 AM
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Agree with everything you’ve mentioned. Deleted my online dating profiles and sent lots of text messages letting men know I am unavailable. One guy wants to talk about it. Will continue to vet the new guy
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 05:33 PM
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Ready to marry this guy… I don’t know but I am super excited about him! He crosses off a lot of my boxes so he does make a great candidate for marriage. Time will tell of course but in the mean time I don’t want to scary him off Edit: often times the men I meet are successful but not Christian, Christian but not successful, or not attractive. It’s really exciting to meet a man who is a few years older than me, Christian, successful, and I find incredibly attractive
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 07:50 PM
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Yes agree behavior speaks far louder than words but I will have to wait a bit to see how his behavior lines up. He did mentioned the idea of how paying for dates when sex is being had can feel transactional but ultimately I think he wants to avoid feeling used, like women only like him for his money. Will keep your comment in mind
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 05:11 PM
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Hmmm I appreciate your perspective on this. When I shared wanting to be a stay at home mom for a few years he seemed open and supportive especially since he was homeschooled until high school. Time will tell
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 04:58 PM
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Hijack away. I read so much about the effects of porn on relationships and it breaks my heart. Always want to learn more about how people are navigating the issue
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 03:08 PM
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Excellent point. Open to revisiting this conversation at a later point with him maybe a not so direct question on my part. What’s the best way to cultivate an open and honest environment?
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 11:49 AM
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I like the idea of treating him like I can trust him but it still doesn’t help my anxiety of being in a state of limbo on whether we are exclusive along with his timeline for engagement and marriage. When I tried to ask him timeline for starting a family he said soonish. I would love to be engaged before the end of this year and married by next year
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 07:47 PM
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Sadly… there is this part of me that feels like maybe I can give him an extra three months for a total of six months but I have this fear where it doesn’t matter because the end result is the same. However there is the possibility where the story has a happy ending at six months
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 05:25 PM
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This scares me naturally but as we approach three months, clarity is so important and I don’t have time to waste with a guy who isn’t sure about me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 05:13 PM
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I was married before and I waited then… but also it’s not that I don’t want to have sex. I’m following the Bible and I am choosing to wait until marriage for sex with my husband so if a baby happens it’s a huge celebration not me wondering if he wants to be a father or I’ll have to raise the baby myself. Sex outside of marriage has gotten so complicated I’d rather not engage.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 05:12 PM
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Born again. Well I wouldn’t want a baby to just happen without marriage happening first
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 04:18 PM
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He is a guy in his 50s…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 04:17 PM
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His job. He doesn’t seem to gel well with his manager and I get the sense the downpayment he would use to close on the house would come from his job
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 04:16 PM
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Thank you! I would love to be engaged before Thanksgiving so we can spend the holidays with family / friends as financé. Can I share that with him? Mentally I told myself give him six months max which is November. Lastly, I definitely wouldn’t quit my job until I was married.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 02:10 PM
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I didn’t catch the joke lol would you explain?
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 12:25 AM
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Yeah, likely enjoys my company but just didn’t see me as a serious option for possible girlfriend to wife.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/24 01:45 PM
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I had a feeling maybe he wasn’t as interested as I liked but I thought maybe I was reading the signs wrong. Glad I took the advice from the group and when on a fifth date with him. By then, I had a pretty clear idea he isn’t into me.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/24 01:13 PM
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Ohh I like how you phrased it. You’re right. Let me focus on my career goals because I’m not in a relationship or married. When we are in a relationship we can figure out to make LDR work for us.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/24 01:10 PM
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You know what’s funny. I’ve never really had an issue with being myself -maybe I could be warmer- and guys still initiate the first contact (hugs, kisses, exclusive conversation). Meanwhile when I press this guy to find out why he hasn’t tried to kiss me he tells me some BS like he wasn’t sure I liked him when honestly he isn’t all that interested in me
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 07:59 PM
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He has to figure out his schedule. He plans to visit me
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 07:54 PM
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It all depends on how the job interview goes. It wouldn’t be too much effort to move back home and be closer to friends and family. I moved to the opposite coast for possible job opportunities. Guy 2 is bicoastal with one coast as base for him, a dream goal of mine.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 05:44 PM
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I love hearing about how focusing on what we can control instead of other people benefits us all
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/24 07:52 PM
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Hi everyone, I wanted to provide an update. We had the fifth date. I hinted at wanting to be exclusive with him. Initially the conversation started off with me letting him know I saw his location (done so manually) had updated on his dating profile to be the next state he plans to travel to for vacation. I asked him what he was looking for and he confirmed he is looking for marriage and kids, like me. He also let me know he hasn’t had much luck in his current state so he is open to meeting other…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/24 08:27 PM
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I’m 34f and he is 41m. I am a former rules girl so old habits of not showing too much interest are hard to break but I want to break those habits. It’s been awhile since I’ve liked a guy and honestly with him -although it feels early- I don’t want to date anyone else
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 06:33 PM
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I did not tell him I had rearranged my schedule to be free for a date. I told him I could be free to get together. In subsequent messages he didn’t acknowledge what I said about meeting so that evening when it was becoming clear to me we would not likely meet I told him again I can be free to meet but now I wasn’t sure he wanted to meet. He didn’t respond that evening. I texted him the next day asking to chat and over the phone I admitted to wanting to see him to which he responded he wasn’t sur…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 06:12 PM
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Thanks for sharing. How do I salvage this relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 05:12 PM
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Thanks for sharing! I am open to feedback. I was sharing what my friends had suggested to me, his actions might be a red flag. However their feedback was conflicting with my gut feeling that he might think I want to be just friends. I decided to share the situation here to get more clarity on the issue. I really do like him. I reached out to him to let him know I want to see him today before his trip. Let’s see how he responds. I admit a part of me wanted to go to his house but I was also scared…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 04:58 PM
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Thanks for sharing your perspective. I am holding off sex because I don’t want to rush things. I need the emotional connection first and more security. In the meantime I would like to build the chemistry.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 03:19 PM
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Let me know where I should clarify myself but I don’t believe I have canceled a date. I declined to meet his friends early but we still saw each other for dinner and a movie. Tell me more about negative body language.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 02:50 PM
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Folks, you don’t think it’s a bit of a red flag he didn’t try to communicate with me about how he isn’t sure about my feelings for him? He just decided to back off? A part of me wonders if he backed off and his lack of communication is a result of him playing the field.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 02:16 PM
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I did not know he thought I was not interested so when I made myself available to see him last week and the date planning fell flat I was sad. At the point he was slowing down the dating but I had no idea. That part still confuses me even when he later told me he wasn’t sure I was not interested so he backed off. Nevertheless I am still interested in the guy. Short of having sex (not trying to rush this part), what else can I do to let him know I like him?
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 01:18 PM
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When we chatted on the phone I let him know I was interested in him kissing me. He is doing some traveling so I’ll just have to wait and see if he follows up with another date when he is back Tell me more about negative body language.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 01:04 PM
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If you’re stood up, no big deal. Take yourself out to a nice restaurant or bar / lounge and see if you can meet someone else. Don’t waste the pretty! How did the date go?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 02:52 PM
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If you all the date details (day, time, and location) I would go
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/24 10:32 PM
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It hasn’t been more than a month for us so it might be too soon to be introducing us as a couple to friends and family yet
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 08:25 PM
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I’m not sure what you mean by enough mutual interest expressed to be invited to the holidays or be exclusive with Guy B.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 07:33 PM
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The other thing worth mentioning is the other guys who I chose over Guy A I was excited about to become exclusive with them but it seems like I didn’t vet them enough because I was disappointed in the end. I would definitely like more guidance there.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 07:19 PM
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Wouldn’t closing my options now be premature since none of the two men have asked me to be their girlfriend?
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 06:29 PM
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I’ve always dated other men while the relationship is not yet defined. I don’t believe in closing my options before a guy asks me to be exclusive/ his girlfriend. Guy A currently wants us to date before becoming exclusive so it feels like I should be dating other people in the meantime. I do enjoy the comparison I can perform while dating men. However I’m trying to choose wisely this time since I want kids.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 06:10 PM
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We haven’t been dating for very long 😅 but I did make a mental note he didn’t ask to spend the holidays together
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 04:51 PM
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Guy B is an entirely different guy but at one point I did chose the “don’t want to be a dad again” guy over Guy A
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 04:43 PM
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The other guys were definitely more exciting but ultimately disappointed me in the end. Trying to chose wisely this time and give Guy A a real chance because I actually like him
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 04:35 PM
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Funny I was thinking about this question as I wrote the post. The first time I chose the other guy over Guy A, I was following some dating strategy (the Rules) and I thought the other guy was doing better as a result -very silly when I look back. Ultimately why I chose the other two guys over Guy A is because I felt the other guys were more masculine. Guy A initially gave me friendship vibes but since reconnecting most recently and being intimate my perception of him have changed a lot and for t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 04:27 PM
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I would strongly suggest therapist who has traditional / Christian values to help you with your transformation while also addressing your trauma
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 11:45 PM
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Hmmm where and or how do women of color fit in here? I feel like given my religion and conservative upbringing I wouldn’t fit into the Bay Area and I use to live there before moving back to the east coast. Curious to hear your thoughts
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 04:17 AM
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No one is perfect so I think we all have slipped and did unintentionally shit testing. For example, you mentioned being late as a shit test. I’ve definitely been late before on dates, not intentionally as a test but because I was running late. It’s always interesting how guys handle it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 10:02 PM
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You can’t change people and any attempts to try change people leads to unnecessary hurt feelings, dying romance, and arguments. Is she really going to through a decent man because he gets silly before sexy time? Laugh and roll with the punches. It’s not worth cooling his feelings for something that’s a part of him. However she doesn’t have to listen to me. She can follow your advice and report back.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 08:58 AM
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It’s part of your husband charm. Accept him for it
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 07:34 PM
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An excellent point you made. I think Fascinating Woman made a video on this subject. Being supportive and understanding about his schedule so you can better enjoy the time you share together. This is probably a better or the best attitude for me to have especially since he is a dad juggling a lot in his life, like a handful of businesses along with his daughter. We see each other at least once a week and sometimes two or three times when he doesn’t have his daughter. We’re also always in contact…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 07:41 PM
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Thank you! I’ll definitely ask whether he wants my advice or comfort with reassurance. I don’t mind dating someone going through a divorce because I myself dated while going through a divorce. The marriage was dead long before it was finalize and I didn’t want to wait to start my life with a better partner. I never thought being feminine meant being clingy but I was hoping there might be a feminine way to share feelings. I definitely need to get back to living a full and happy life with or witho…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 05:51 PM
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For examples best way to handle my mothering urges. I’m not a mom yet but sometimes I can’t help sharing tips and advice when maybe he just wants me to listen. Sometimes he seems to enjoy my tips and has used them like when he asked for my honest opinion on his lounge espresso martini and I shared the ingredients of my favorite espresso martini. When he talks about his legal troubles and says his life is a mess I’m not always sure what to say and I can’t help but read into it like should I be br…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 03:56 PM
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I thoroughly enjoyed this post. I can’t help wanting to know if there are more concrete ways to apply this knowledge in day to day life in a relationship
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 11:53 AM
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My boyfriend always says I look great when we meet up and especially when I’m dressed modestly / conservatively but when I spend the night and he sees me without makeup he says I look beautiful. I am working on wearing less makeup in general and around him but it’s really hard for me to go without any makeup. Most of it goes on my eyes as mascara, eye liner, and eye shadow with a small amount of concealer and blush
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 09:22 AM
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You’re confusing me now. I never said he would be a great father and husband for me although he has amazing qualities. It’s been a month of dating so far and he does seem enthusiastic about me. Most of his free time is spent with me. He told me he loved me and we haven’t rushed the physical intimacy. My post was about his comment when I saw I want to be a mom which is “being a mom is a lot of work, managing the house is a job, etc” I have these feelings that come up and I want to make sure I’m p…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 02:05 PM
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Do you also feel after a month he should be a lot more sure about me being his future wife and mother of his children?
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 12:42 PM
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It’s all a little confusing because he does seem enthusiastic about me but his status as a separated man does gives me pause. After the above conversation he later followed up with “you’ll know soon about being a wife and a mom” I can’t tell if he means in a general sense or specifically with him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 12:33 PM
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Please elaborate lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 12:11 PM
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The papers are signed and are waiting approval by a judge. The last part will take some time, maybe six months and that’s the stage I’m in now. What’s a long time? I do want him 🙂
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 10:13 AM
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I’m on the east coast. You?
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 10:10 AM
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He told me he wanted to do this relationship right because he likes me and respect me so let’s hold off on rushing physically intimacy. Could be until his divorce but sometimes I find myself wanting to possibly wait longer, like engagement.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 10:09 AM
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We fooled around while making out and I’ve spent the night a few times
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 11:16 PM
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Thanks, I added more context if it helps
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/23 10:49 PM
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You have to tell me about all the other efforts to please men so I can apply it to my guy 🙂
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 07:24 AM
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Thanks for suggesting this, I can’t wait to buy it!
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 09:32 PM
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Thank you! He actually had conflicting plans that he forgot about but rescheduled those plan to make sure he was on time for his home cooked meal ☺️ I’m looking forward to making more meals for him
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 05:52 PM
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Time will tell if what he’s saying are actually true but it’s promising so far. I haven’t changed my life in the least bit based on his words but it’s better he talk about a possible future than no future at all. If he did the latter, I would walk. I did ask him if he had an agreed timeline with his soon to be ex wife on when he could introduce his daughter and he said six months.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 06:40 PM
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I am planning on holding out the physical intimacy until he is divorced. Would love to hear your thought on this. I was also planning on capping the relationship to the end of the year or six months. At the start of 2024, we would have gone through all the major holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, and NYE) along with my birthday and then his a month later. If he isn’t divorced yet and or I’m not engaged, it’s probably best to cut ties. So far he has been saying some promising things like letting …
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 07:39 PM
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We do have plans to see each other tomorrow
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 07:21 PM
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I was planning on cooking salmon and white rice with avocados
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 06:47 PM
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It’s all the talk of don’t do wife actions before engagement or marriage. It something I once believed but I’m trying to train myself to see it differently moving forward. Additionally I don’t want to tempt myself by being along in his apartment or have him get lazy and not plan nice dinner out
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 06:36 PM
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As a divorced person myself I knew I wanted to remarry before my divorced was final because my then husband was such a disappointment so I don’t think it’s too soon. I am trying to be mindful of what he shares about his ex wife.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 06:32 PM
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I edited the post for clarity, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 06:18 PM
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Congratulations on your engagement!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/23 11:10 PM
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I made the mistake of suggesting an alternative way to get a relationship to a coworker I thought was also a friend. Big mistake. Now we avoid each other in the hall way.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 08:25 PM
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I would ask for help and as he’s helping laugh and smile a lot. If you’re feeling bold, lightly touch his arms and shoulders
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 02:05 PM
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Curious to know what kind of effort is required to trap the HVM
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 03:20 PM
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I know we live in a world where most ladies have sex first and ask questions later but it’s really important for a man to offer exclusivity in a committed relationship prior to having sex with him. While you wait continue to watch and observe him in addition to dating other people. Otherwise you find yourself in that anxious position you are in now and good for you on noticing that feeling! Your gut/intuition is telling you something valuable! At this point I would pull back on the sex. Continue…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 03:03 PM
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Whatever you do, please don’t stay in the relationship of pity for him. It’s better to break his heart now then twenty years later with a divorce while being two kids and mortgage deep. Trust me, with your knowledge and experience today your choice of men get better with time. If you got him once (your type of bf) you can get him again but better. Don’t sell yourself short.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 02:50 PM
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Love reading this! I’m so proud of your accomplishments
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/23 04:52 PM
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May I suggest reading Not Tonight Mr Right?
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 06:38 PM
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This guy sucks and I would walk away. I caught my ex husband liking this one lady on IG who looks nothing like me including race. When I broke into his phone not only was he cheating on me but he was inviting this lady to our bedroom. Hard next. Send him a simple “sorry but this relationship isn’t working for me” text message before you block and delete. Never look back. Don’t have a deep conversation on the phone or try to meet up to explain why otherwise he’ll cry again to guilt you into takin…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 03:55 PM
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My boyfriend knows it takes me hours to do my thick curly hair and he loves my vanity. Personally any guy who tries to talk me out of spending time on my skin, hair, and makeup under the guise of “you’re beautiful just the way you are” is trying to keep me underneath his thumb as a back up option while he attempts to pursue the vain ladies he really wants but can’t get.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 11:32 PM
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Although I’m not a single mom I’m always conflicted on the best time to let your date know you have a child or children. If you’re dating online as a mom I would not say you’re a mom on your profile to avoid attracting certain weird people. Maybe it’s best before the date is finalize or possibly before the relationship gets serious (after a month) to break the news.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 03:10 PM
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I agree and would also add OP should consider staying at hotels and using taxi/Uber to get around for additional security and peace of mind.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 05:30 PM
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I recently cooked for him and he was very happy and appreciative, gave many compliments about how good everything tasted. How often should I cook for him? Apologies if it has taken this long for me to cook for him but I didn’t want to be those girlfriends who turn into maids for their boyfriends
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 12:49 PM
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I think he would like verbal affirmations. For example I like his sense of style but I’m not sure how to compliment him. I hear compliments for women are different for men…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 12:31 PM
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Not when the man in question doesn’t have OP’s best interest in mind. Men who want zero to little effort when it comes to women don’t have serious intentions.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 05:41 PM
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Besides not everyone wants notifications to be shown for dating apps. Not surprisingly a guy wants ladies to make the first move. What are you doing in this group?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 05:27 PM
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You’re welcome to write your own comment on how to date instead of trying to change my stance on how I date. My method works for me and I dated many men who were my type so I’m sharing it with OP.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 05:18 PM
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I’m not changing my stance but I appreciate your comment. OP will decide what works best for her.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 05:15 PM
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Tinder won’t even show you their profile if the person says he only wants to be seen to ladies 10 miles away so you would only see the profile if you’re within 10 miles
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 05:10 PM
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You’re assuming all men on the apps have the best intentions. Some men are happy to chat forever on the apps without moving things along. Also dating apps are different from SMS. Not everyone checks the apps often for messages but everyone gets text message. The goal is to inspire the man to ask for your number or a date when he sees you’re not readily available on the app. Again I can attest this method works for me and I never had any problem getting men to ask for my number and plan dates. I …
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 05:07 PM
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Well I can attest I never had problems getting dates by not sending the first message. Men know what they like so if he likes what he sees on my profile he’ll initiate. Before I agreed to be exclusive with my boyfriend I had a date every night/day and even up to a few weeks in advance.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 05:03 PM
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Join all the dating apps: Tinder, Hinge, the League, OKCupid, Match, and FB Dating. Post two clear and recent photos. One headshot and one full body. No selfies so either get a friend to take the photos or hire a photographer. Look glamorous but conservative. Wear your hair down, nice makeup, jewelry and a dress with heels. Smile! Your About Me should describe where you live, what you do for work, and activities you enjoy that men can provide for you on the date ex I enjoy exploring new restaura…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 03:59 PM
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How would you suggest putting a sense of urgency?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 12:12 PM
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Thanks for the comment. I definitely wouldn’t want to move in with him before marriage. I don’t believe in it and have never done it. I don’t agree that he’s stringing me along (yet) because the relationship is only six going on seven months now, not two years long and counting. I do like like your advice on showing him the potential danger of losing me. How can we tweak your advice to account for me not wanting to move out of my place though? I love my apartment and would rather sign a longer l…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 03:53 PM
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So you think being respectful is about being perfect?
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 02:56 PM
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He is Japanese living in the US on a work visa as a Managing Director of a bank. I’m Christian and when I told him I want kids he proposed three. I told him I was fine with one, max two.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 02:54 PM
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I still practice my religion on my own, it’s how I live my life today. The only thing I’m being flexible about is dating a man who isn’t already in the faith but is willing to convert. In the end when I marry, I marry a man of the same faith which is part of my religion. Thanks for your comment
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:09 PM
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You dodged a major bullet by leaving him. He is extremely controlling and it would only get worse. I sense he wants to keep you on the back burner by making you unattractive and insecure while he searches for a better deal.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:25 AM
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Thanks for sharing your experience. My boyfriend is very similar to your guy. He spends a lot of his free time with me and does buy groceries for me to have in his apartment. His mom passed away so only his dad and brother remains. When he was married he chose his ex wife over his family so I have some hope he’ll chose me over his family. From my research online and one American friend who married a Japanese it seems like it’s normal not to meet the family until you’re engaged.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 10:44 PM
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Oh wow I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this in your marriage. I do appreciate your husband’s honesty. Most men would say nothing and jerk off in private to porn. Personally porn is a no for me. If this is a man who has more pros than cons I would want to get my marriage back on track so we can have a healthy sex life again. I were in your shoes I would want to sit down with him and find out what needs to get done on both ends to make the marriage work. Read surrendered wife and the rules for ma…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 07:50 PM
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How so? He didn’t exactly phrase it as disrespectful but I did to keep this post brief. He said it’s important we treat each other well, be nice to each other. Anything less is a dealbreaker. His first marriage was very difficult and he felt like his ex wife didn’t treat him well.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 07:41 PM
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I wouldn’t want to move in until marriage but I would like to know if I should sign a two year lease or something less because we plan to marry and move in together. How would you suggest I phrase the conversation?
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 06:57 PM
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I haven’t been meeting guys of my faith who meet my qualifications so I decided to be more flexible about who I date. He’s been coming to church with me. It might be more cultural then…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 06:19 PM
3

I kinda see but not really as well. Dominant and leading kind of men are still willing to do things for one special lady that they won’t do for all other ladies. The Rules is all about falling back so the men are rightfully responsible for letting you know through their actions and words whether you are their special lady or Ms Good For Now. Space is created for the dominant men to make the first move (they have options so they know what ladies they want), plan dates, move the relationship throu…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 02:44 PM
2

How does the rules take a masculine outlook on dating and self selects hood / decent men out leaving you with doormat men?
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/23 07:45 PM
3

Such is life. Until the deal is signed it can always fall through
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 02:15 PM
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Get on all the dating apps: Tinder, OKC, Hinge, Facebook Dating, the League, etc. The Reddit Female Dating Strategy has lots of good books to give you ideas on how to date. My personal favorites are The Rules (read all of them). Be strict in the beginning and then play around with what works for your personality. Less is always more with men. Look your best (hair, makeup, and hygiene) but always appropriate when you leave the house. This guy doesn’t sound very promising so put him on the back bu…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 01:58 AM
3

I feel like weird guys always give off signals to show they must be avoided if you’re really looking. Sometimes you don’t have to look and the secret slips out in his words or actions when he least expects it. My ex husband was into paying for sex while we were dating and into our first year of marriage. The signs were there but some I chose to ignore and others I didn’t understand yet. You dodged a bullet OP! Get back out there and let Mr Right find you. Onwards and upwards!
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 01:51 AM
2

If he’s too timid to approach me then he’s probably not my guy. Way too many available men who will approach me with the first move to fixate on the few who don’t for reasons I’ll never know.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/23 01:45 AM
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How did you meet? Did you ever meet his friends and family? Did he ever talk about marriage, kids, proposal? Did he bring gifts during special occasions like your birthday, VDay, Xmas, and sometimes just because he thought of you? How often do you see each other? Is he affectionate with you?
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 06:11 PM
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I am so sorry to hear about the breakup but glad you broke up with him. You deserve much more! How did you find about the sexting? Where there any red flags and if so, what?
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 05:58 PM
4

I’ve made peace with the fact that men have a type of women they like when it comes to romantic relationship. Either he likes my look and approaches or he doesn’t for any number of reason. I don’t need to make the first move. My job is simple really, look my best and look approachable. Works for me in real life and online. Before I decided to be exclusive with my now boyfriend, I had one date every day up to a few weeks in advance.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 03:47 PM
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Nothing and pray to God I did my hair and makeup. Either he notices me and approaches or notices but doesn’t approach me for whatever reasons ie has a girlfriend, I’m not his type, etc
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/23 04:28 AM
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When my boyfriend was seeing his family for two weeks in Japan he literally sent a Google calendar invite scheduling our twenty minute FaceTime everyday he was away. I would let this guy go and focus on dating other men. Get on all the dating apps: Tinder, OKC, Hinge, FB Dating, and the League. Mr Right is still out there!
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/23 06:20 PM
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