How soon to cook?

Deliaallmylife · 2023-07-17T18:24:59+00:00

Don't overthink it. If you want to cook for him then you should.

I know I know people say doing do wifey stuff without being a wife but that's stupid. Dating is a trial run for marriage. If the person doesn't do the things you want in a spouse then you move on to someone who does.

If you are concerned about giving too much too soon, then check out the post about Incremental Reciprocation which basically says that you give and then you see how he responds and returns, then repeat.

SunshineSundress · 2023-07-17T18:23:35+00:00

I made a meal for my man around the 5 date mark too to thank him for taking me out and helping me with something I was working on. He absolutely loved it and it definitely took our relationship to the next level. I would say that was the moment that he started to “catch feelings”.

Some things to clarify though:

I didn’t start ROUTINELY cooking for us until we moved in together. Before that, it was usually for a semi-special treat, like a date night or a thank you or a surprise. I feel like at 2 weeks in, it would be WAY too soon to start making all of his meals in an effort to win him over.
I had already known him for around 3 months, and then he asked me out for the first time. So really, I didn’t start cooking for him until around 4ish months of knowing each other. However, we were both just college students when we first started dating, whereas you guys have much more life experience, so it makes sense that things will go a bit faster for you!
Wanting to do something nice for him is FANTASTIC! It definitely signals to him that you are on the same page with what you want in a relationship. It’s also a good opportunity for you to see if he is willing to invest in you as well. He already shows great potential by all the things he did on these first few dates.

Sounds like you both have a good thing going here. Wishing you all the best and good luck!

Aromatic_Ad5473 · 2023-07-17T18:32:03+00:00

It’s just cooking - what’s the concern?

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2023-07-17T19:20:23+00:00

I don’t think you should make him dinner tonight if you already don’t have plans to see each other until tomorrow. Maybe suggest it next time he has to drop off his daughter before work. But my problem is doing everything too fast and rushing to start taking care of the guy before I even know if he’s worth it so I’m really trying to curb that impulse lol.

VGIrises · 2023-07-17T18:17:44+00:00

Whenever you feel like it is. There’s nothing saying you can’t cook at a certain stage of dating . You can plan a home date and cook. You can prepare a picnic for a date outside. You can prepare a dish or treat he likes and just drop it off to him as a just because gift.

jackie_tequilla · 2023-07-17T18:29:21+00:00

Cook anytime you want and because it gives you pleasure but…

Don’t you think it is too soon for him to be talking marriage when he is not even divorced yet?

And to your points:

1- nothing to do with you, just a father being a father

2- take anything he says about his ex with a pinch of salt - you don’t know each other properly yet - two weeks only

3- paying for a car ride and being patient with physical intimacy is basic behaviour not something that should be seeing extraordinary

flower_power_g1rl · 2023-07-17T18:45:29+00:00

You can order food for him and his kid to his apt when he gets home from work, without going to see him

desikittyy · 2023-07-17T18:04:12+00:00

Dude, just start cooking for him immediately. Make him tea or coffee, bring small snacks to him, try to ask what type of foods he likes, and learn recipes in your down time. Cook for him tonight.

Did this man really just pay for your car and home and you’re out here asking “should I cook a meal for him?”

… really?

AutoModerator · 2023-07-17T17:49:54+00:00

Title: How soon to cook?

Full text: Hi everyone,

Dating (five dates over two weeks) a new guy who is separated (he lives in one state and she in another) from his wife as he goes through a divorce. I’m divorced myself. He shares a four year old with his soon to be ex wife. We had some serious conversations about what we’re looking for in a relationship and we’re on the same page -marriage and children- so we agreed not to see anyone else, be exclusive. We haven’t been intimate yet because I want him to be divorced first. Given all this I’m feeling an overwhelming urge to cook for him especially since 1. He was super busy with his daughter last week and just got back from dropping her off after a one-hour drive going and coming back 2. He mentioned he wants a SAHW/M and his ex wife really dropped by the ball by not wanting to cook or do anything maternal…seems like a great way to score points with him 3. I really like him and he’s paid for everything including my car home along with being patient on physical intimacy so I’d like to do something nice for him

We have plans to see each other tomorrow but I was contemplating making him a quick dinner tonight assuming he’s really tired from his drive this morning followed by work, hence this post. Let me know what you think!

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immaculate108 · 2023-07-17T18:46:48+00:00

What type of meals are you thinking of cooking?

Title	How soon to cook?
Author	chrissycash
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Comments	27
Date	July 17, 2023 5:49 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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