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flower_power_g1rl/r/RedPillWomen02/12/23 12:20 AM
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DATING ADVICEflower_power_g1rl/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 09:10 AM
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DISCUSSIONflower_power_g1rl/r/RedPillWomen27/11/24 09:44 AM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTflower_power_g1rl/r/RedPillWomen07/02/25 11:09 AM
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FIELD REPORTflower_power_g1rl/r/RedPillWomen09/09/24 03:00 PM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTflower_power_g1rl/r/RedPillWomen14/01/25 12:02 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEflower_power_g1rl/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 11:56 AM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTflower_power_g1rl/r/RedPillWomen09/03/25 06:45 PM
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FIELD REPORTflower_power_g1rl/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 11:35 AM
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He is an alcoholic. Period. Plus he smokes and gets high several times a week. There is no such thing as a person who is not influenced by alcohol, that is called a 'functional alcoholic', and there is no such thing really, he is just an alcoholic (an addict) who is good at lying convincing and hiding because of his addiction. This will start to get worse as you live with him and see how it DOES affect you, your family, and everybody and everything around you. The fact that he has somehow convin…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/26 08:28 AM
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He would not be loving with another woman <3 he loves you
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/26 09:13 AM
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All men are like that. He can't be very romantic or present with you probably because you two have had a lot of arguments and he feels on edge, or emotionally numbed. It's okay - really - you two are only human. I would refer you to Laura Doyle podcast, her website, The Six Intimacy Skills, or The Intimacy Roadmap. These can explain to you simply why he acts that way and what you can do to restore fun and intimacy into your relationship. In other words, to achieve your goals of becoming secure, …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 10:14 AM
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My first love is similar to my last love, except that the latter is slightly more worthy of my respect enough to upgrade to Husband + I had learned through RPW (and through my mistakes over the years) how to even respect a man.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/26 09:13 PM
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I've noticed that my older sister always changed partners and they weren't good for her/she wasn't good for them. It made me believe that love is not real since childhood, and I had to work with a psychologist in my late teens to change my views. Finally I entered relationships and the psychologist helped me understand that each relationship is different. It made me worry for my sister tremendously at times, lose respect for her at other times. Now I mostly pity her but wish her well.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/26 12:56 PM
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24 and 27
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/26 09:45 AM
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Thanks! This is so helpful and illustrative. You've made powerful progress identifying your mistakes, patterns, accepting your feelings, and turning tow to your strong support sources & working deeply on stopping your patterns.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/26 12:33 PM
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What advice did you learn/apply? What is stepping on his toes? Please share :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/26 12:27 PM
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They want both, at different times
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/26 08:56 AM
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Thanks! I've said these things last few days and he thanked me and since then he's been really happy. I guess, we all sometimes want a reminder that we are cared for.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/26 08:39 AM
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Yes, a person can be "too sexual" (for you). In my personal experience the high libido/fetish guys secretly don't value women, but this might vary in culture, feel free to express opposing views on it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/26 03:00 PM
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Hey Bean, what do you think about these questions? "I noticed you haven't eaten - is everything alright?" "I'm noticing you had trouble getting out of bed - are you okay?" "I'm noticing you are quiet - do you need something?" (When he says something rude) "I hear what you say, you seem really upset. But what do you mean when you say this?" "I'm noticing you seem stressed/sad/quiet - do you wish to talk about it?" These sentences read very feminine, unfortunately, it feels so icky to me to think …
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 03:30 PM
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Thanks! Your advice is always wonderful <3 He's been down for the past few days. He failed an important and difficult exam. I don't know what emotional labor is - I usually avoid asking him 'how are you' because I kind of expect him to come up and tell me. Maybe this is something I am doing wrong. Can you see yourself in either position (me or him)? I love what you say about guiding him into learning what he needs. I will try this tonight! Do you have any more specific advice on this please? I a…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 03:22 PM
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I guess he was always like this. I have an ex who had the opposite, as you said, not sensitive enough. And I have another ex who was very sensitive. Both of them go through their personal and relational struggles, but overall, there is a way to exist 'healthily' with either 'type' of personality. I think that the benefit of sensitivity hugely outways the cost of it, relationship-wise. So I appreciate his good sides of this and I am learning how to tolerate the bad sides of it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 03:20 PM
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I don't feel responsible for his emotions, but sometimes when he gets mad, he guilt-trips me and tells me how much I am responsible for his emotions, and his actions, and I would like this to stop (but can't figure out a way to get it to stop). Specific support - he would like me to sense when he is upset and to figure out that he needs me to offer help, but I don't see things that way. I believe a person who needs help should be the one to step up and ask.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 03:16 PM
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That sounds great, but I can't (and don't want to) 'get him' to do or to consume anything. He does a lot of community-based volunteering and teaching roles to other men, which is a huge source of his self-esteem (giving to the community) unfortunately when he can't make it/isn't in the mood for a day he beats himself up about it and this manifests as stress within the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 12:56 PM
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I don't know... I come home late and usually go straight into my hobbies or leave to meet my friends? I just want to be happy.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/26 11:51 AM
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What kind of marriage do you dream of?
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/26 07:42 PM
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Your behavior is not the problem, but your inability to distinguish is the problem. Many times you stood up for your mother and siblings, and this is blessed behavior. But when you met men who yelled or threatened, your brain was unable to distinguish whether you are the problem, or them. And this is the problem.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/26 11:21 AM
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It's not weird, but it's sad.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/26 11:19 AM
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So what's the problem?
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 04:31 PM
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He seems nice. What are your thoughts on his religion?
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 10:24 AM
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Model respectful behaviors towards yourself, him and others, and he will start copying you.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/26 03:15 PM
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You just sound like you have a negative mindset about a lot of things
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/26 03:13 PM
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Stop reading news and then he will realize that bringing these conversations to you is futile. Ask questions to learn about him through his opinions, but then get bored or change the topic.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/26 03:12 PM
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Sounds like a mess, but please do not put your bf on videos where he is exposed to hate
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/26 10:47 AM
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Radical Responsibility
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/26 11:21 AM
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Rages are not normal. Even with bipolar. Does he take medication? More importantly, does he ever come up to you and apolgize?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/25 01:44 PM
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I'll be honest - I engaged in this practice for almost a year - and it was the best and most significant decision I have made in my whole life. It taught me SO MUCH about myself, G-d, boundaries, the human body, and human relationships. And now I have a good marriage, so in summary, my opinion is that this choice will improve your and his lives tremendously.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/25 12:03 PM
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"I want to be home, but I also worry if I stay home, that would end up unhappy." Can you clarify? Who do you worry would end up unhappy?
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/25 03:31 PM
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Make sure you are consolable. No matter what he says, after 2-3 sentences, once you feel (a tiny bit!! better) say "Thanks! I feel better now." To wrap things up, always always say: "Thanks for listening." And if you feel you didn't get the things from him that you need to hear, talking with a girl friend or therapist is often a great idea.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/25 01:38 PM
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I was very picky, due to a history of abuse, I had to make sure he was a good person first and that there were zero red flags, and once I was sure I followed Laura Doyle's advice (Surrendered Single) "If you meet a nice man and you trust him, just marry him." So for me to trust someone, this takes a lot. I can expand more on that and how we decided to get married. But I did not 'know' quickly, I was not infatuated and in fact I did not have any strong feelings about him except that I slowly came…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/25 03:47 PM
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How is your marriage since then?
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/25 03:14 PM
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Rewiring attraction takes work. Forcibly stay away from any man who gives you alpha vibes, and force yourself to sit longer in dates with the men who are 'boring' = safe. After a while you will feel a shift in all of the things you asked above, including self-worth, attraction and world view.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/25 02:01 PM
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A lil tooshy grab
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/25 01:46 PM
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Right. That's a tough place to be in. And it's all his fault not hers or yours...
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/25 09:04 AM
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I have never been through this, so can't comment. But your sensitivity to her sounds very genuine and kind. If I were you, I would pray about it, and let her know when you have prayed. Hopefully the boss gets some punishment and she finds a much better environment.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/25 08:47 AM
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This
/r/RedPillWives31/10/25 08:02 AM
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I think it means nothing. Does he have siblings? How does he react when you set boundaries?
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/25 11:44 AM
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To the title: Yes and yes.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/25 02:37 PM
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After one month, exclusively
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/25 09:13 AM
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A few months into doing this strategy there was one man who made me feel calm & safe (boring even) plus he checked my relationship boxes. This was man #15. I did not touch any of these men, and I did not get too interested in them. I did it for me! Man #15 let me keep all the space and distance I needed without pressuring or even asking me why. I felt relaxed around him, like a slowed nervous system, which says a lot about him, given my history of abuse. I dated him parallel to another. After a …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/25 02:45 PM
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Through doing an online course 'New Man Manifesto' by Adrienne Everheart, I learned how to accept invites, dates and 'arrows' from all sorts of men. I accepted first dates with them all and sat until the end of the date, mostly listening to my own body, and barely revealing a word about myself. This opened my mind to understand that is a large range of feelings that men in this world can make me feel: Calm, bored, cherished, ignored, respected, objectified, and so on. After coming back from each…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/25 08:49 AM
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I am so sorry. But, it doesn't matter what he's doing and why. Unfollow him and block him so you won't see your posts. You must be an amazing wife, take your time and trust in yourself that you have done the best you could.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 03:59 PM
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The Bible says (in my religion at least) that is it the obligation of the man to pleasure his wife, as bringing another person pleasure is more pleasurable than extracting it
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/25 09:41 AM
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Thank you deeply for using your first marriage experience to point our early red flags of violence for the other women in the community. I feel it
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/25 09:39 AM
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I am sorry to say this but from personal experience, if you have any fears or reservations regarding an upcoming wedding, then you shouldn't get married with that person
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/25 09:39 AM
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Can you specify please what you don't like about him? No sugarcoating. Then let's turn those negatives into a positive.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/25 04:17 AM
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It's ok, be easy on yourself. You're going to have an amazing future. This man entered into your life for a reason right now, but you don't know what. You're going to miss him, and you're going to miss feeling loved. But he just gave you an opportunity to love yourself kinder.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/25 07:12 PM
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Gambling addiction is an enormous red flag. Ew ew ew ewwww
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/25 05:12 PM
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I think that you're fine. AuADHD means you are passionate and it is great that you have so many passions! Maybe try to find a girl friend or two who make you feel comfortable, even if it's hard, you need irl outside perspectives/people to refer to when he is busy.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/25 01:25 PM
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You could ask him "Am I doing too much/too little?" He sounds sweet and he'll be honest with you. Listen to your intuition as well.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/25 01:21 PM
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He works a stable job, what else do you want?
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/25 01:19 PM
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DM me what country is he from?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/25 01:49 PM
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You can turn anger into energy. You forgive yourself by loving yourself, even at your softest.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/25 06:59 AM
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How did you know that he didn't want you?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/25 03:51 PM
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Why did you and him divorce?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/25 03:48 PM
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What made you low quality?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/25 03:41 PM
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I don't know, but that's one of the things my social worker advised me not to do!
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/25 01:19 PM
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"I find it strange that neurotypicals often believe we should lie, perform, be in transactional relationships to afford food and shelter, pretend to enjoy intimacy, talk in squeaky high-pitched trad baby voices, etc." One of the most beautiful things about autism is that they show up authentically and expect others to do the same. Through this post, your opinions shine, and they reveal your nature which is sensitive, fair, sensible, thoughtful and caring towards others' needs - which are all val…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/25 01:17 PM
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This is beautiful! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/25 09:30 AM
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Thanks for your consistent support ! <3
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/25 04:53 PM
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Spend a lot of hours not on your phone, not doing anything. Talk to yourself in the mirror or journal
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/25 04:38 PM
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Thanks for your encouragement!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/25 03:19 PM
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Dating time: <4 weeks. How we met: At chabad. How often we meet: Only on weekends. Our dynamic: He is respectful of me and plainly explains to me how he needs me to respect him back. He stands up for me and for weak people in front of others, without being asked or signaled to do so. He is in tune with his and with my own emotions. He respects my and others' boundaries and holds up his own, so far I feel we have a mutually respectful, but also light and playful, dynamic. He makes me feel seen, d…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/25 06:12 PM
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Thanks sweetheart! I love your comments on this sub. Very deep and practical.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/25 06:11 PM
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I am one of those who was abused by a controlling man and learned submission regardless. Nothing fixed him. It is important to note that a man who abuses and controls others will do so regardless of how his surroundings, including his partner, behaves. Very rarely do they recover. In other words, the woman's behavior can neither prevent nor fix a man who is abusive to begin with. I like the distinctions here about a man who is masculine and (healthily) leading, over a man who pressures others to…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/25 04:29 PM
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My kind/loving/rational thought on the situation is… he saw me put effort and love into myself, and it inspired him to put effort and love back into our relationship? Maybe seeing me as a “damsel in distress” after surgery re-enlivened his caring/protective side? Maybe me being vulnerable and willing to change encouraged him to make positive changes? I think it's this. You helped yourself and now he loves you more. Keep up with the self-care!
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/25 09:40 AM
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You can definitely have a conversation with anybody, to gain new information. See what your gut says before vs after the conversation. If I were you, I would seek someone who pursues you more than you pursure them (similar level of gestures/sweetness like your ex) for now.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 07:45 PM
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Oh, I am glad to hear about your positive perspective but also sad to hear that your positive experience had to end. I am not judging, but what makes you want to pursue something/somebody which is totally different?
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 07:43 PM
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I don't like the sound of this new guy. What didn't you like about your last relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 05:31 PM
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I think he's not interested in you
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/25 03:08 PM
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Agree
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/25 10:32 AM
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You can't have anything healthy with an addict
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/25 09:15 AM
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You did great. Now please keep yourself strong and don't go back to him ever
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/25 03:53 PM
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Even if he did he will never ever ever tell her that
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 03:03 PM
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What has he done that makes him disloyal? Sounds like he's in the wrong and knows it
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 03:02 PM
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That's such a great way! For me I love gym classes, volunteering and attending my local chabad :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/25 04:13 PM
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That's such a great way! For me I love gym classes, volunteering and attending my local chabad :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/25 04:13 PM
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Always having it
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/25 04:12 PM
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Acute stress disorder
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/25 04:11 PM
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Every man you love and lose is just bringing you closer to the final one <3
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/25 10:42 AM
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You're thinking too much about what they want and not about what you want.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/25 01:46 PM
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Ask him what he'd like to see you do regarding these specific issues, tell him "You know you can trust me like I can trust you. I just want to do what's right for our family". He might be able to come up with some solutions which do not invove quitting or changing your job. Simply letting him know that you are aware + you care about his concerns might be enough to make him relax. And definitely everyone here is telling you to not quit your job, I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/25 12:27 PM
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You are right that he doesn't respect you. You are an awesome teacher and human being. The right man will see that.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/25 10:33 AM
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Were you able to focus on work for the next month or so?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/25 03:15 PM
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How did you heal?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/25 11:49 AM
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Indeed my ex was arrested as I submitted a police report, and I was present when he arrived, and I heard the police officers ordering him around like 'Bring the rapist downstairs' 😧 It's been a lot for me to take in.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/25 11:47 AM
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Hi, the social worker was indeed fired and the man is in jail now. It just took me some time to gather courage to submit a report. I'm simultaneously terrified yet relieved.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/25 11:44 AM
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Hi sweetheart, it's not a troll post. It's the biggest trauma of my life. The social worker was fired the next day without me doing anything. I reported the ex as soon as I was ready. He's arrested now, they told me he's lying left and right, so he's not going to be free for a while.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/25 11:43 AM
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I am 24 and you? <3
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/25 06:30 PM
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What you said is exactly what they described to me but I did not type all that out. It was a lot for me to learn all at once, but I'm trying.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/25 10:21 AM
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Thanks. I went to the psych ER a few days later and i realized this is more than just singlehood or nunmode.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/25 06:16 AM
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Thanks Ark ❤️ It's gonna be okay
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/25 06:15 AM
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Thanks. I was released and they told me it's acute stress disorder, and it should fade within a month or two, but if not I should get psych pills
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/25 06:15 AM
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Thanks. I didn't know this and I am now in the psych ER for PTSD
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/25 05:31 PM
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goals
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/25 03:29 PM
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How did you ask him to wait and how did he wait?
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 02:25 PM
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Hey, I called to report her then they just told me she had been fired and set me up with their most senior one instead.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/24 12:23 PM
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Hi, she was fired the next day :) I didn't even have to do anything!
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/24 12:22 PM
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Nope nope and nope ❤️ Love this. I'm leaving him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/24 07:57 PM
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Thanks. Yes I am involving this into my schedule as well
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/24 07:56 PM
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Thanks, I will do it as soon as I can.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/24 07:55 PM
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I live by myself. I will try to visit family and friends more often. As for plan, I mean also emotionally. I feel somewhat in love with this man. We had a tendency to break up and get back together. But if I don't see him face to face, this emotion can fade, right? It's going to be hard. But a safer life is waiting for me, right? I am currently looking for a job. Maybe I will focus on finding a job which is not close to where he works. I will open up to more friends about what happened. My docto…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 07:35 AM
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Thanks. This is the first time I have abuse in a relationship. The verbal and emotional abuse is there for sure. I thought I was good at shutting it down but I guess he escalated. He did apologize, but I can't trust him with my body or soul ever again. Indeed, something can happen again. I think I will have to move on. I don't want to be in a relationship that requires a social worker for my protection.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 07:28 AM
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Yes you are right. No I wouldn't want him. I would want somebody much safer to be around. I have an appointment with another social worker soon.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 07:24 AM
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Thanks. This is exactly what's going on. I was in fear for a few weeks, far too long. I know I can't lower my guard again with him. I have told him I feel he doesn't respect me and he admitted it. I will plan a breakup but confused about where to start.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 07:21 AM
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Team Hannukah! Wonderful holidays to all
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/24 10:26 AM
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What's this temperament thing?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/24 02:13 AM
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It works with my guy
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/24 06:52 AM
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Thanks! We have discussed all about the second paragraph. I was wondering about the first one, and the idea in general
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/24 02:14 PM
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Yes, they do. He survived through full scholarships. His parents are farmers and did not pay for his education. This happens in developing countries, not France.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/24 10:12 PM
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Thank you so much! Why isn't this stuff taught in school lol?
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/24 02:32 PM
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Thanks! That's really good advice. I'm excited for it all and hope it works smoothly!
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/24 12:13 PM
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I will get one in place. How do I go about it and how early should I do it before marriage? Especially as we plan to move countries
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/24 11:44 AM
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Thanks. I didn't know that. By the way, what is your opinion on the idea above? How do you and your spouse do it?
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/24 11:19 AM
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Move out. Or, here's an alternative option: After dinner, go out and have fun by yourself or with your friends. Don't mention if he didn't do the dishes. Just smile to him and mention how much fun you had had. Try to really connect with him. DO NOT do the dishes. When he does them, thank him for it! Tell him how good it makes you feel to see a clean kitchen especially so you can cook in it... Personally, I can't cook until the dishes are all done. It's gross! You can adopt this and let him know.…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/24 05:51 AM
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I see. I think you are uncomfortable to allow yourself an evening alone because your boyfriend isn't understanding of it. Maybe try to give yourself more of what you want and need, even if it's hard sometimes to hear another's reaction!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 01:58 PM
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What exactly have you sacrificed? I'm not judging, I'm rooting for you. But from his perspective, you're just spending time with him, and cooking/cleaning/sleeping over were all your ideas too, so be careful not to let him feel as though he has done you wrong (because he has not). From a relational perspective, you have not sacrificed - you were nurturing a relationship because you want it to last. I suspect there is somthing else that you need. My question for you: where are you lacking in your…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 01:06 PM
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Make stuff go on. Do all the stuff you would want to experience before you can't anymore
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 12:59 PM
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If I were you, I would start by not cooking or cleaning at his place. He is hosting you over. Feel free to ask him to cook you something tastey, with a big smile on your face. Slowly transition to where he can do things for you instead of you doing things from him. Also, when do you want to get engaged or married? Do you want to marry him at all?
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 12:58 PM
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I listen to whatever my fiance finds appealing and find ways to incorporate it. I'll usually just throw in one such element at a time ( + he notices). For the rest of my outfit I listen to what others have told me looks good on me. And if I'm not sure, I aim for a feminine silhouette and stick to my color season.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/24 07:30 AM
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I was able to exercise with ease. I felt more confident. That's about it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/24 04:00 PM
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I read this book "Surrendered Single" which helped a lot. Also having as much self-love as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/24 10:52 AM
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Spend a little time analyzing girls who are more feminine than you. Take notes, apply them. Everything from their nails to their water bottle brand to the way they arrange their stationary on the desk. The stationary itself, might even be cutesy. The way they react when others call them. Little quirks they say that sound girly and things that they never say. Notice how these girls do not start acting boyish simply when they want to socialize with boys. They remain fully within the feminine realm…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/24 06:28 AM
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Physical touch is the easiest way to express affection. It also tends to be the top way in which men understand and need it. Hold his hand whenever you walk side by side, rub his back, cuddle him to sleep. Find ways to touch him whenever you can (unless he is working or asks you to stop). You can also smile at him frequently. Letting him know that his presence and effort makes you happy is more effective than affection. Next time you do something with him, let him know how much fun you are havin…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/24 12:21 PM
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What do you recommend for a couple who argues a lot? Communication issues. I want a program which I can do by myself :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/24 10:18 AM
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You completely squeezed out all his juice by being a controlling wife. He already does everything you ask him to do, except this one thing.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/24 02:42 PM
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I think it's individual. Some people are willing to change for others, but other people just want to be accepted as they are. It can also depend on the time or place in life. For instance, my bf told me that once his ex asked him to put on more muscle, and he found that offensive. He felt that he looked fine. He was more interested in being accepted. Turns out, he'd been biting his tongue to ask her to lose some weight. She was insecure about her weight, and he knew that, so he avoided asking he…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/24 07:16 PM
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Men can have a "type" but will still be most attracted to you, who may not be the type. If anything, men are attracted most to confidence (isn't everybody?). If I were you I would rock what you've got, thank him for the compliments and suggestions but say that it's not easy for you to gain weight, or that you don't want to do it. He feels open enough to tell you his tastes, which is a good sign, but if you don't fit them then it won't have much effect on your relationship. HOWEVER he has ASKED y…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/24 07:03 PM
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Dear Peachie on YouTube has all kinds of tips and tricks. Her vid about face shapes helped me to find the right eyebrow style and makeup shapes for me.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/24 07:54 PM
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Only him
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/24 08:44 AM
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I was not aware of my desire to submit until I met a man who awakened that within me. It was challenging and it took a few years for me to discover, trust, and honor my preferred role. For me, it can only work with a man who I see as more powerful (mentally) than myself. That means that he has to meet my requirements first. And I have only met one such man before, who is my partner.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 06:35 AM
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By getting him to agree to not talk about a certain topic, you are the one enforcing silent treatment. You are literally telling him "Stay silent about such and such topic." When you told him "I don't wanna talk about it", that is literally silent treatment. You are telling HIM to be silent. For some reason, men need to talk about politics. They just air out frustrations this way. Brace yourself, just nod and listen. Once he's done, THEN think about what to say. This takes mental work but it's h…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/24 05:07 AM
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What is 'killing you' is actually letting you live even better than before! It sounds like being with a man who is more laid back than you can be anxiety-provoking when things break down. But you are doing an excellent job! Be sure to show him his appreciation when it's all over <3 And we here at RPW are happy and hoping for you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/24 08:07 AM
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Good luck and congratulations! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/24 05:24 AM
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2-3 times a week means one day in, one day out at max. That is high frequency for some couples. I could also do it every day but - why don't you meet more friends? Why don't you go out to exercise? Fill your empty hours. You are engaged to a man and still thinking about your last relationship? You are stuck in the past. Being sexy and beautiful and looked at by coworkers means nothing about your purpose and fulfillment in life and in marriage. What fulfills you spiritually? What activities can y…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 05:12 PM
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Every 2-3 days is good. He sounds like a good man. Do you ever flirt with him?
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 05:03 PM
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You are pushing him to be everything that he is not. Indeed you are suffocating his air
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/24 10:35 PM
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I don't know about books, but see Adrienne Everheart's YouTube videos where she talks about high conflict people/relationships. I'm not saying that you or your husband are high conflict, but she discusses these tips and why they work.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/24 10:07 PM
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So he lives life in high stress. You need to know how to melt his stress away. It will become infectuous. Develop slower speech, breathe, gait and movements. Give him an understanding smile when he speaks, even as he speaks with impatience. Breathe deeply and do some meditations before he comes home. Keep your beautiful goddess-like calm, which you created through your habits, WITHOUT letting his stress or naginess (likely from work) affect you. Do not blame him or ask him to make changes in his…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/24 03:46 PM
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What do you see as her shortcomings? And what things does she point out in you? Sorry if this is intrusive, just suddenly I am interested in all the relationships being described here in this thread. Haha.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/24 03:39 PM
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I am so sorry that happened to your family. How do you avoid experiencing fear of being cheated on as well?
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/24 03:37 PM
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Oh, the strong Soviet mother! Are you at least friends with her? I have some friends who were raised by that stereotypical mother but after a certain age they were able to connect with them greatly through their sense of humor.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/24 03:36 PM
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My mom is really comfortable with expressing her femininity. She never gives into being shamed over her doubts, insecurities, or feminine habits like caring for her appearance or changing her mind. She speaks all things on her mind, and she acknowledges the feminine strengths of herself and of other women. She is comfortable with crying and with seeing others cry. In my country, men and women are pressured to behave almost uniformly and masculine-leaning, but she is a fresh breath of air in that…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/24 03:31 PM
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I agree with your comment. He sounds like my mother in a bad mood.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/24 03:20 PM
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Do you have any reason to believe he has been getting into the redpill/manosphere space through online content or groups?
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/24 03:18 PM
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You start by doing a 180 in YOU. You need to love yourself like you are your own gilrfriend. You need to get yourself into your Queen energy. Nobody else will do that for you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/24 12:59 PM
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Sure! I found my 'Feminine Archetype' (The Lover) and started to act and dress accordingly. I followed everything from this video down to the very details. I took my time with it https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9xByh3s0FMI&pp=ygUaQWRyaWVubmUgRXZlcmhlYXJ0IGJyZWFrdXA%3. I fasted on Yom Kippur, which I have never done before. When I succeeded it was such an amazing realization of what I am capable. That day gave me so much spiritual power. I committed to exercise classes 2x a week instead of 1. 5. I …
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/24 07:28 AM
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Adrienne Everheart's "500 Ways to talk to a man" online program and ebook give you scripts in a way that a man can more easily understand and connect to your speech. It is based on things she studied in communication. Read "Emotional Intelligence" by Daniel Goleman. Read "How to listen with intention" by Patrick King.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/24 07:01 AM
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That sounds terrifying!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/24 07:52 PM
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Hi, absolutely. What I did was I took a month to focus on my own needs and avoided discussing this issue with him unless he brought it up. I had worked so hard at CBT that I realized just how many of my ideals for the future are actually protective cases, which are built upon control and fear-based thinking. As such, they do not reflect the best outcome for me or for my future. By the time my fiance brought up our issues again, he had already proposed a fair solution. It involves compromise on b…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/24 07:24 PM
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Great observation as usual Zaitzev! Hehe...
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/24 07:14 PM
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Food aversions does this mean to specific foods or to food in general?
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/24 01:27 PM
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I used BetterHelp and found an awesome conservative therapist from Texas. She's around 60 years old.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/24 11:39 AM
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Ok, I see. I have been in the same boat as you. What worked for me was eating more meat and doing ab exercises occasionally (1-2 times a week). Just trying not to eat until over-full. A little light cardio. I always put my recovery and health first place above weightloss or my appearance because I don't want to get osteoperosis.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/24 10:10 AM
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You have had an eating disorder. It is likely that how you see your body is still warped. If you have gained weight within the last year, it can take time for it to balance out. Given your history you won't always look that way. Best luck in your recovery and please do relax and move forward to an ED-free future.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 11:43 AM
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It's a point of pride for us to feel like we are the only one our partner has eyes for. More significantly, if the man knows that women are sensitive to this, if he is able to fool her that he indeed only has eyes for her - then she feels special, and this increases trust and flattery. I am lucky to be with such a guy. He makes me feel like the only girl in the world (thanks Rihanna for setting the standard!).
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 01:55 PM
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Perfect reply!
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/24 08:30 AM
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Inspiring! <3
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 04:26 PM
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Thanks very much!
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 11:42 AM
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What are some good examples of submissive body language?
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 09:05 AM
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Oh, I understand. I am from a culture which is similar to your bf's (in that regard). He probably shows you love in other ways. And, in three months, you still cannot consider it love. He will learn to love you as time goes by. It sounds like you and him have different love languages. If you google love languages, a lot of useful information will come up. You'd better read those before deciding whether a break is really necessary.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/24 04:05 PM
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What is your purpose in life? What lights you up?
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/24 10:33 AM
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What cultural differences are you afraid of? Being in an intercultural relationship requires an immense amount of bravery. Especially long distance. That's on you to discover, identify, and to face your fears.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/24 10:28 AM
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Oh, this is amazing! You broke it down so clearly with the pros/cons. I realized I lean True Madonna!
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/24 09:09 AM
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All the benefit goes to the man who is seen with her in public.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 02:14 PM
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I think it is all exactly as you said here.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 01:04 PM
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Probably he got together with you for attraction, but this core aspect of your personality (extravertedness) awakens in him a lot of discomfort. He froze with fear and dumped you on impulse. It's not worth it for you to try to analyze him about why that is. Let's focus on what you can learn from yourself about this, instead. You were in a relationship for less than two years. Let's be real, he barely knows you. This is only the transition phase from forming a connection to discovering one anothe…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/24 08:19 AM
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I think he knows that he is in trial mode. However, you are in trial mode, too. That he didn't learn your language or look for a job in your city shows that he isn't convinced that the effort is worth it. You don't need to convince him, but perhaps this all stems from a lack of trust to begin with. Aside from guys DMing you, did you give him any other reason to believe that you are too friendly with other men? If not, the lack of trust could be on him - due to past experiences, future anxiety, o…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/24 07:49 AM
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I am sure your ex didn't want to live with the guilt of 'forcing' you to change for him. I am curious, at any point did you consider to convert? And if so, for which reasons? Why did it have to end in a heartbreak? I think there were other reasons, or there was a huge misunderstanding between you and your ex that could have been avoided. He misunderstood his assignment, got stressed and pushed you away. As a Jew, I apologize in his name. He chickened out, and as a result unnecessarily broke a pe…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 07:00 AM
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Of course 'blood' doesn't matter! It is all about the soul.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 06:19 AM
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He feels stuck, so he wants to put on a suit of armor and go 'save the world'. This emotional cycle will come up every now and then in a man, and we have to 'let' them. Now, let's analyze logically what it is that he wants to do. Does he want to go to Israel? There are plenty of places you and him can stay, completely safe. I know couples, families and individuals who came here to volunteer over the last year and they don't regret it a bit. They jumped out of their comfort zone for a greater goo…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/24 08:39 AM
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So how do we as women deal with the jealousy when we find out about our man's polygamous tendencies? A lot of us here are blessed with a man who is very loyal, mentally and physically, and that is wonderful. But the occasional outside attractions or fantasies can happen to even the most loyal of men. That's all it is, it just 'happens' to them naturally. But (according to this post) it does not happen to us as naturally, so, how are we dealing with that realization here? RPW, what are your bound…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/24 05:29 PM
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Oh, I see. So he's a man with some mission now and he's encountering an issue. Treat him like you trust him and it will come true! In most cases.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 07:38 PM
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He sounds sweet. Can you think of any particular concerns about him? About yourself? The relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 02:32 PM
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Ask him for his opinion on some thought-provoking topics. Then, listen and try to learn something from him.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 02:17 PM
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Yes, you are absolutely right. I am thinking I have been in some sort of psychological break. I am trying to find a counselor now. This is definitely a 'me' thing and not an 'us' thing.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 07:30 AM
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Are you ok if he converted knowing the central core of who he is wouldn't change, and that it would be a conversion in name only to make it kosher for you to marry? Yes, absolutely. But in this current moment, I don't know what to do. He said he would convert 1+ year later, because he loves me. I believe him. But, I'm afraid he just won't like it. It's tough and he doesn't like those kinds of meticulous things. I don't want to drag someone into something that they don't like. Furthermore, it's g…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 03:01 PM
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Yes, you are right. I'm not the type to change all the sets of cutlery, and I'm not looking for a man who does, either. But I do keep basic kosher laws. He's okay with the way things are, but I am not. This pressure from my side is not good for us. He is currently sitting in my living room and it's hard for me to not touch him lovingly. I don't know if this is sustainable.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 02:18 PM
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Hi! Thank you so much for taking the time to write out your beautiful family stories. I will answer your questions. I am Jewish, he is atheist and from a very atheist part of the world. Does your faith require your partner to have the same strength of faith? - No. Does it require the same level of commitment, or is he willing to help you in your journey while not needing the same for him? - If he is my partner then he should be Jewish, no matter how much or how little he believes, we need to be …
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 01:33 PM
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Guy #1 is no-go territory, but with guy #2 you can kindly (even flirtatiously!) explain to him your ideals.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 11:07 AM
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See videos of the current white house press secretary, especially when she answers questions. She has a gorgeous voice. It's addicting for me to listen to. I think that her voice is one which is feminine, comforting, but doesn't induce sleepiness or invite disrespect.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 06:38 PM
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In my opinion, you should stay put where you are. Every few months, ask him about this issue. Make sure that you ask him in a way which clarifies that you love him and your relationship, you just want to know where you're going (so you can better plan a future together, of course). Ask him in a calm and loving way. Let him clarify to you what are his thoughts on marriage. And then, accept what he says. "Well, okay..." without throwing a fit. Watch this video - it works!! https://www.youtube.com/…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 02:57 PM
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Be aware that if you speak in a feminine way while doing speeches, people might disrespect you more, fall asleep, or fail to listen. I have an unexpectedly girlish, soft, feminine way of speaking and whenever I gave talks, people reacted this way unless I forced out a 'masculine' way of speaking (ouch at the throat!). I am sure that there are professional ways to change the way that you speak that can avoid either extremes.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 02:53 PM
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Sure! "If your goal is to get more compliments from him, then have a conversation about this." There are some in this sub who have said that having a conversation with your man about his habits can be somewhat emasculating, because it implies that the very best that he is giving you (assuming that he is a good man => he is trying his best to please you) is not enough. Essentially, talking with him about this issue will trigger a sense of failure in him, which is something that you want to avoid …
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 02:46 PM
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If I can see myself wearing it, then I'd do it. But if I try to imagine myself with whatever change that is, and I simply cannot see it or it doesn't feel right or even doable, then I wouldn't do it. Thankfully I don't have any such differences of opinions in my relationship, but I can think of a few friends who do in theirs.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 02:28 PM
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From a redpill perspective, I don't agree with anything that you have said, except your last paragraph which is full of questions that are very valuable for her to think about.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 07:19 AM
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Some men are just like that. They don't know the value of compliments to a woman's appearance especially when it is their partner, obviously they find her beautiful, so they just assume that she knows. Next time you're getting dressed nice, or just curious about his thoughts on how you look, ask him "How do I look?" He will say something nice and you will feel temporarily better. It is not fishing if you ask directly when you are genuinely curious. The rest of the time, don't try to manipulate i…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 07:16 AM
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Do go out more. Even study at cafes or local libraries.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/24 03:41 PM
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Fitness: You can enroll in an exercise class or go the gym. Start with 1x a week. If you already exercise, add in an additional session. Don't take something that is much more advanced than how you already know how to do. In the beginning it will be hard to get used to the habit, but that is all the difficulty in it. If you have found the right class for you, it will become enjoyable after a few sessions. That will help the habit stick. Take the stairs. Diet: Increase your protein intake in ever…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 08:29 AM
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You are not wrong, but he is right. What happened on those last two mothers day?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 08:11 AM
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You shouldn't have grabbed his hand to stop. Do keep an eye out if he ever hits, shoves, grabs your hand etc first without you doing it first. And definitely don't do those things.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/24 02:40 PM
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Well, let him go. If something happens, that just shows you who he is.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/24 02:20 PM
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Maybe your nose and your lips look unnatural. Or maybe you get all sorts of compliments, but you are more sensitive to comments about your nose and your lips ever since the procedures, which is why you remember them more.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/24 07:56 AM
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Your perception of the world and how people behave is starting to be altered by those apps
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 03:10 PM
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You can speak fast and speak a lot. In a ditzy, happy-go-lucky manner. That's the only way I could rebrand your speech style as feminine. I think that one does not have to change too much or force themselves to be only one 'type' of masculine or feminine, but it helps to look at different archetypes. Listen to what men say they find feminine, not what women say. Are you spending a lot of time on social media? Using tiktok? Those things are bad for you regardless.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 02:25 PM
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I'm young and engaged, so not of the audience you are addressing. But I will give you an example of a young man who aspires to be a husband who provides. It is not about how rich the man is, but rather about how well they plan and execute generating steadily increasing income, while consistently proving loyalty and devotion to you and their family. You can divide their behaviors into "they manage money well now" vs "they are working towards providing in the future." For someone as young as you, …
/r/RedPillWives20/05/24 09:56 AM
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You cheated on one another and were verbally abusive towards one another? In my very humble and non-expert opinion, there is no way to improve if you two stay together. Your relationship has become unhealthy.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/24 01:21 PM
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You sound like an amazing girlfriend (wife) and mother!
/r/RedPillWives17/05/24 12:09 PM
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Reading her posts from 10 months ago until now, there is a concerning increase with how much she is willing to put herself through just to avoid a breakup. I really want to help her but we probably cannot (she does not want to receive criticism of her bf).
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/24 12:05 PM
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What I am hearing from this is that you suffered and wasted tears unnecessarily on something that is going to harm you deeper and deeper in the long run. It doesn't matter what he says. You were the one crying, not him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/24 09:25 AM
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Living alone, paying all your bills and being independent do not make you masculine. Reading your comments, I think the problem is that you run away from softness (your own and others). How long was your longest relationship? This one is definitely salvageable, but you need to go into a deep dive into redpillwomen to figure out exactly what you want + how it can materialize. Meanwhile please do not utter a word of this to your boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/24 09:21 AM
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Not the one who watches porn. It is harmful especially from a spiritual point of view.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 10:14 AM
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I started eating more protein, less sugar, and going to more exercise classes. It was a slow and gradual change. I lost 15kg in 2 years and kept them off. What made you gain weight? Don't try any fad diets.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 09:32 AM
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She is an attorney yet she cooks for him at his apartment almost every night. I am sure she can find time to practice at least some of these tips!
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/24 06:50 AM
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Please update me and let me know what ended up happening!
/r/RedPillWives29/04/24 01:01 PM
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That's awesome! Great work and fitness progress. Where do you live that you love it so much?
/r/RedPillWives29/04/24 12:58 PM
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After writing this, it really puts one in a mood to be grateful! I didn't realize how many wonderful things happened last week. Now I see there were so many!
/r/RedPillWives29/04/24 12:57 PM
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OYS Number: 1 OYS Comment Preference: (3) Demographics: 23f newly engaged to 27m Gratitude list: My hair grew out, my work is going well, no friends were lost to war, the weather is nice, God is great! Things I Did for My Present: I took pain medicine for a period instead of letting it hurt. I insisted to practice physically separating from my partner, a ritual called 'niddah' which is from Jewish religion, during this period, which is done in our religion. Last month I did this and it gave me a…
/r/RedPillWives29/04/24 12:55 PM
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Don't get caught up in the 'doing' too much! Sense his mood upon his arrival, and be sure to go with his flow for the rest of that day. Welcome him according to how he wants to be welcomed in that very moment, which might be completely opposite to what you have planned. By that I mean - you might have set up all these nice and entertaining things to do, only for him to come back and want to sleep the day through! Or you might be prepared for him to come home and focus on some alone time with you…
/r/RedPillWives29/04/24 12:31 PM
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First of all, start to spend more evenings away from his house and out with your girlfriends/ by yourself doing something fun. But for the evenings that you are at his house: For at least an hour before he comes home, get yourself in a relaxed, receiving, feminine mood. Listen to sensual music and do some physical self-care - face mask, bubble bath, beach walk, dance to music. Stop ALL work and housework, including cooking (this is a good time to let the stuff on the stove at low heat, and make …
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 09:14 AM
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By planning much, you are taking the lead, although you are not aware of it. If you truly trust the man you are sleeping with, you won't need to know what's next. It's okay to be adamant on planning ahead several aspects of your life, but sex is the one thing men would want you to truly go with the flow with. That means that, in most cases, you make yourself attractive but otherwise wait for them to initiate. At every stage including the initiation, be sure to give feedback on whether what he do…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 08:52 AM
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With a man like yours, 12 months is much too short. You might only get to know him after 2 or 3 years. Take it slow - he could be great! Or not... Better to find out before engagement than after.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 08:39 AM
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Don't waste your energy on trying to analyze this man. Get your focus off of him, and onto you. How do you feel when you are around him? How do you feel when you are not? Trust his actions. The more confident and stable you are in your own relationship abilities and in his, the more that attitude will rub off on him. Don't tell him what to do, give him advice, or make him seek therapy. Instead, tell him how good of a boyfriend he is despite what he's seen/been through, and he will believe it and…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 08:37 AM
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Did you and him just want it more when you were in your 40s/50s than the decades before?
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 08:30 AM
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I've heard from women who are the main caretakers and providers that at the end of the day they feel exhausted, not having enough help, and not desired anymore. It's because they allow themselves to work too hard and are afraid to ask for help.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 08:26 AM
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This is so true. When I'm in the mood, I like to tell my fiance how seductive he is, even while he does nothing. This then makes him actively try to seduce me. It works every time lol. It's easy to just tell a man that he is something good and then he becomes it (in a good way).
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 08:22 AM
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You encourage the better parts of him. "Honey, you work so hard, I am sure you'll be great one day." That's all you do. He will do the rest.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/24 08:34 AM
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You should watch her videos on walking away, why a man doesn't commit etc. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0rX2bVSLCSM It's not necessarily the end for you and him. You can still get what you want.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 09:01 AM
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I had the same situation. I took up baking, and making jam and pickles. Now my bf makes the 'main food' and I make the 'extras'.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 11:36 AM
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None of those.... A silk nightie
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 10:30 AM
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This guy needs to be single
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 11:58 AM
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This thread is amazing!! I can't wait to marry my boyfriend one day. He cooks my every meal.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 07:53 AM
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Schedule some interesting activities with your friends. Dress up nice to go with them. Focus on getting a better mood, and getting the most out of your free time! At home - cook him a nice dinner with a surprise dessert and even a little wine. Try it on the weekend. It's about those little extra things.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 11:48 AM
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This is all so true!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/24 07:25 PM
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DM'd you :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/24 02:49 PM
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I want to ask you a question. I've seen your comments around and your good advice. I have a man who does not like to be controlled by others. He is very independent-minded, has a strong frame, and he is usually healthy about it. However, recently there are a few things I personally want him to submit to. It's a few lifestyle habits or communication ways to show me respect. Me and his family would describe him as 'stubborn'. He says that he won't do what others ask him unless it aligns with his w…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/24 09:34 AM
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So take a bit of (mental) distance. Draw a (mental) line between you and him. Now, repeat to yourself that he is a good man and therefore his advice to you is not going to take anything 'away' from you. In fact, as you are optimistic about differences between people, and free-spirited, imagine that his teachings to you are only adding more possibilities to your soul and mind. If you're comfortable leading but not used to being led, your man is actually bringing a new challenge unto your soul, wh…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/24 09:27 AM
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First of all, he is not a Christian man. Second, what's he doing with someone as young as you? Third, some people are simply not monogamous, and this is legitimate and has a biological basis. Long-term, he is not a right match for you, although the chemistry was great. You don't need to take it as an ego blow, because God is bringing you someone better sooner.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/24 08:06 AM
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Wear it when you go out with friends
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/24 07:12 AM
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I have small ones too! Treat yourself to some lace bralettes. Very sexy no matter the size! To feel feminine, wear dresses which look flattering for flat chests. Search Kibbe's body types.
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/24 01:20 PM
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Your friend doesn't understand romance. If you cook for your husband, he will be heartwarmed and grateful. Same if he takes you out on dates and pays. Nobody is taking advantage of anyone. Furthermore, you are NOT a man nor like a man. Any normal man will see you as a woman even if you have minimal femininity. Your friend is belittling you. Nurses are extremely important - don't let him belittle you by calling it just 'work'! You sound smart, and you're doing a good job planning your future at s…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/24 10:09 PM
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This video is exactly what you are looking for. She says everything in a way which you could never read on a reddit comment. Truly an angel https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Sm9XbRNFt2U&pp=ygUjQWRyaWVubmUgZXZlcmhlYXJ0IHdoeSB3YWxraW5nIGF3YXk%3D .
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/24 10:01 PM
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In my opinion, he sounds totally fine. Green flags apart from 'alpha' comment; may be yellow. Give it a few more dates and keep your awareness up. You're good at guarding yourself! :) Wish you luck x
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 12:39 PM
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Red flag
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 12:33 PM
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"In the same way a man may sort of demonstrate their commitment wavering, a woman might create the perception that her emotional dependence is wavering. If I noticed this in my own relationship, I would feel a sense of urgency to regain that back." This is so true! However it depends how he betrayed her in the past. If he mentally or physically wanted out of that relationship, he might not have that healthy protective instinct for her anymore. Why is he not active in child care?
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 05:24 AM
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Tell him he is a great husband and father. Tell him that he is a great son to his parents. Tell him how much you admire his piety. And then, take some time to access your emotional state. Be in a state where you're speaking from your feelings within your body. Be soft. Once you get in that spot, tell him, "To be honest, dear, I've been thinking about it but I'm worried about moving to X, because Y. I am afraid that...I worry that..." Use "I feel" statements. Without an intent to make him change …
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 06:48 AM
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This is a cultural thing here. It's very important in those cultures for the son to come back and be around their parents when the parents grow old. I argue that when she married him, she should have known this from the begining. In a sense, it did not need to be mentioned. Her best option is to move with him and actively make the best out of it. She can stay in Canada otherwise, but that is less ideal especially regarding their child.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 06:36 AM
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I originally wrote a comment about how OP should understand his culture, but reading the rest of the comments I see she is from the same culture. OP, what specific things are you worrying about in regards to moving there? Could you write a list to yourself, please? Meditate on the list for a few days. See if any of those worries find answers.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 06:32 AM
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Zero chances. All the proof is in front of you. You just need time to stomach it - you've been through a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 06:14 AM
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Your boyfriend is exactly like your ex-step dad.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 10:58 AM
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Maybe you are always in a hurry or on edge emotionally. Do you struggle with patience?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 01:05 PM
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"Be his servant and he will be your slave" well-said!
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 07:45 AM
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He learned a whole new language, assimilated into a new country, survived a war and is earning his masters' degree in that new language. Relax! He's going to be amazing. He took a good step by seeking psychiatric options, and it sounds like he understands his own emotions well. But, therapy opens a pandora's box and he may struggle an even darker period during therapy (notwithstanding its benefits), which may affect you in a longer term. When you push a man too much to look into his emotions, th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 02:14 PM
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You don't need science. Absolutely please do see a psychiatrist for body dysmorphia and suicidal thoughts.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 11:32 AM
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In this particular case I do agree she should leave him
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 07:09 PM
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No, there are people at that age who go to university, try to provide, and don't blow their money on weed.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 07:52 AM
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I don't like this either. Do not talk to him about it. You'll risk making him defensive or feel bad. Instead, take initiative to silently set a personal example. Start making yourself more busy, schedule cool things early, go out more often. Plan events and/or invite him to interesting things where the focus is not upon yourself. Talk about all your plans and how you become more confident when you fill your schedule with possibilities. I did this in my last relationship and it led him to be more…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 01:36 PM
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Thanks! I'll try those. I forgot about giving opportunities (asking his advice, plans etc, etc). I'm about to go for a run then tell him about it so let's see how that goes.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 05:09 PM
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He runs outside. We cannot afford gyms at the moment. I am thinking to start running, too, and then tell him about how much fun it was. That will make him crave it again.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 04:31 PM
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Hi! We moved into a new space together. Instead of exercising he started watching movies. I'm not mad and I know he has the right to relax. I'm just wondering what I could do to get things back to before.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 04:11 PM
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We should hold everybody to a higher standard. OP was asking about how to change her own behavior, and not what her husband should do differently. If we went down that route this sub would look a lot different.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:55 PM
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He doesn't say hurtful things anymore but he still maintains honesty. He remembers every thing I like down to the details, such as how I like my cutlery placed on the table, or which seasoning with what food. He remembers everything I tell him, too, which was not like before. When we are together, he runs from task to task to task just to please me or attempt to. He does open every door and even speeds up his steps to be able to get the handle before I can. I asked him about it once, he said he …
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 02:08 PM
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Yes.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 01:36 PM
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he’s a great man. Takes care of me, provides, he also tells me all the time how much he loves me and is still so excited that I’m his wife, and spoils me. ​ Say these more to him and the jokes will disappear.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 01:13 PM
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Oh, I've been in this situation before. 100% choose the guy you love.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/24 08:15 PM
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While it's good that he is dependable and likes to help you, he also has his limits. It sounds like he wants to let you fail a little, so that you gain more independence along the way. The real submissive thing to do is to listen out for his boundaries, such as unwillingness to help you after a certain point. Thank him for what he has done, then don't be afraid to try things on your own. You can always Google or ask your parents for help if the thing is very important for you and your bf is unwi…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 11:04 PM
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Yes, you cried and called him a little girl. You even wrote that if you would go back in time you wouldn't be with him. You do not respect him, and he feels that. What about your own responsibility for lack of respect, and pushing gender expectations through shame?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 10:30 PM
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The issue for him is that if he walks away, he will likely only find women who did similar things. Why? Because that's what's acceptable in our society now. A valuable lesson he will have to learn in any relationship is how to see the ugly of a person, then how to forgive and to forget. Yes, it is hard to do, but you changed your half, now it's his turn. Please see my other comment and tell me what you think might happen if you say such words.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 01:02 AM
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He is holding you hostage for things you have done in the past and do not do any more. This is emotional manipulation. He can now make you feel bad for things at any time - things you have apologized about, things that have no effect on him, things that you haven't done for years. Next time this comes up, tell him patiently that you understand that your past makes him worry all kinds of dark worries, but that you've learned and that you're happier now. Tell him that you only want to be with him,…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 12:58 AM
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That is exactly what I meant.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 03:36 PM
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Thank you for your input. I love your writing and how you described your relationship! If I get a bunch of these comments, I'll change that section of the post so as to not be misleading. What I meant is about those times that we are the most sad, like 8-10 on a scale of 1-10, and in ways that are triggered by identifiable cycles. After he is done comforting you, does he look for some space to do his own things/chill out? #2 is written mainly based on the Men Are From Mars book where the author …
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/23 02:56 AM
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'He has a different standard ' So what? That's redpill. He lets her know he is attractive to others, and her best bet is make him feel admired for it. But if she does the same thing, it makes him feel she is showing off. That's just red pill. Relationships can be a improved once you say what men want to hear vs what women want to hear.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/23 11:53 PM
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I don't recommend this. This sounds a little mean and controlling. You admitted you are not jealous nor insecure. So, my advice is to compliment him when he brings up this topic. "You are so attractive!" and leave it at that. It's totally okay to build up your man's ego, in fact, it might be his way to mask something he is insecure about. But, pretend you don't know that. If you say the right things that build up your man's personal ego, it will make him want to be around you. I believe this is …
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/23 11:49 PM
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It's not only for sexlessness! I don't have any such issues, but my bf does 'dread' sometimes by telling me details of his past relationship or almost-relationship experiences. It's exciting for me and makes me see him as even more attractive. I compliment or tease him a little bit as a response, but he always follows it up with "...but you're the only one I'd be with!" which is a sweet way to close it up.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/23 11:46 PM
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I respect your opinion. I did not share my personal opinion. It was what the professional family therapist with 20+ experience and research told me. I did not ask the reasoning. He just said that a person should defend their partner in front of their own family, or their family in front of their partner, and never ask your partner to defend you against your own family.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/23 11:40 PM
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This advice goes around easily (ask your partner to defend you in front of YOUR family) but I would like to warn that I went to a professional family therapist who said that a person should face their own family. He said that research shows that asking your partner to intervene, even in the smallest ways, starts toxic dynamics. OP needs to talk to her family directly and not make it her husband's worry.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/23 03:09 PM
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This 🙏
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/23 03:02 PM
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Sorry to break it to you, but literally we all do this. You will never find a person who 100% matches your expectations, and we struggle to change either them or ourselves. OP has realized this and most importantly she has realized her wrongdoings.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/23 03:01 PM
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We criticize others for what we really lack in ourselves. If it comes up again, apologize to him that the criticisms you have passed upon him (life experience, ambition) are actually things you are afraid of becoming. You have probably been taught in the past that you have to be very productive, or else. You need to work on yourself. Find those teachings, where they came from. Just let him know that your criticisms reflected your inner thoughts about yourself and nothing more.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/23 02:57 PM
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Oh, I am so sorry to hear about that. My bf hasn't said those things in a very, very long time (over a year). When he said those things I remember taking a moment of silence (STFU), breathing in so as to calm down, and telling him "I am not selfish/cheap/narrow-minded/inconsiderate. In fact, I find those words hurtful. Please find a different way to describe what you're thinking." You have to hold up a backbone of high self-respect and self-esteem. He will follow. On the other hand, the words yo…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 08:25 PM
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You are going through a mourning period. We all go through changes. Physical changes of our loved ones are some that take very long time to adjust to. So, first of all, all your feelings surrounding this are normal. He will remember you as the most beautiful you've ever been. That is the best thing that happened from your looks. And now, you are free to present yourself as you like to other people. You can do more daring looks and not worry what he'd say. In this aspect, you gained a sort of sec…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 04:52 AM
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You're working on it. That's good! Work on calming yourself down in your daily life. Make calming rituals. It's good. You'll do fine and get better at it. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWives20/11/23 09:58 PM
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You can follow some YouTube channels like Jasmyne Theodora to get the same mommy feeling
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 07:22 PM
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You change, first.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 12:02 AM
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It's not ugly , it's simply out of your comfort zone. You can try it. You must be stunning. Give yourself grace!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 10:50 AM
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Makeup - I got my eyebrows microbladed, and I do high frequency treatments for my skin. Those save the most time in my makeup routine. You literally won't need foundation or to draw your brows. A tinted sunscreen is a 2 in 1. In the morning, after I do my outfits I choose a lipstick then smudge it on my cheeks as blush. Curl your lashes and apply mascara and you have a full face. Outfit- choose the night before. Accessories/jewellery - wear before makeup. That way, you might see that sometimes t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 10:48 AM
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Hi, you are welcome to pray. I'll pray back.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 08:27 PM
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This is totally what I need! I have female friends, but we all struggle with worries and anxieties. Such worries rub off easily between women. Maybe I just keep making friends with that type of woman? I am not sure how to attract a new type of friend.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 08:26 PM
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Hi, I cannot find the chapter you are referring to?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 07:24 PM
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Thanks darling! These tips are so creative. I love 'counting back from some ridiculous number that I know I'll feel better before I hit zero.' I love the idea of uplifting music. I usually listen to sad music when I'm sad. I will try the opposite.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 07:23 PM
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Thanks! You are spot on! The tension is when he comes home. Firstly, because he did not tell me when he will come home, so that left me guessing. Before we move I will ask him to tell me when he comes home as that will help me prepare. When he comes home, he's usually excited and seeks me out to talk with me. That's why he absorbs my moods when he comes home. During those hours usually I want some quiet and I prefer to get in some more work. So, reflecting on this with the help of your comment, …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 06:47 PM
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Hi! I appreciate your concern, but I do not want to take them. I've seen a psychiatrist already and I do not have an anxiety disorder.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 06:34 PM
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He is already going through lengths to save up for you. You see that. Please, don't ask for more at this stage, it will become taxing on him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 06:11 PM
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Don't. If he offers, accept it and thank him. But don't ask for this.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 05:18 PM
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I have ADHD. Don't do anything. Literally. His life, his consequences, his actions. Don't make him feel bad, either. ADHD is a just difference in cognition, it's not an intellectual flaw or anything. Compliment his small and big successes and build him up. Listen to where he tells you stories of successes and struggles and say "I'm proud of you." If he wants to take medicine, he will. Don't bring it up first. It will make him feel like there's something wrong with him, which there is not.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 06:56 AM
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I know a guy like this. He's a great guy, type A academically and athletically, but he's a mama's boy and emotionally immature. Of course this is just my impression of one person like this.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 06:46 AM
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Hi, please read my comment.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 06:42 AM
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Yes, my partner was like this for the first year. But, he changed, and is now so sweet and thoughtful in his words. Here's what I did: You must wait a while before saying anything about it. Sometimes, some times passes, and you realize his words don't bother you anymore. If it still bothers you, wait a little more then softly tell him "When you said xyz, I know you meant well, nevertheless I wished you said it like abc." Try to see the good side of him every time he says such things. Tell yourse…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 06:38 AM
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100%
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 03:08 AM
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Ouch.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/23 04:31 AM
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Unpopular opinion, I do think it's unreasonable. But this is just my honest opinion and you don't need to change your life course or dreams after advice from internet strangers. There will always be people who disagree with our ideals. So as long as you're not hurting anyone, I say go for it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/23 05:11 PM
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We both have a high drive. Spontaneity and collaboration drive me crazy. When something happens out of the blue that forces us to work together to solve it, I feel I want him very much. It can be very exciting. Especially eye contact.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/23 03:23 PM
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Do self-care even if you don't 'want' it. You need it!
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/23 07:56 PM
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I understand you. He told you what to do, so just do it. Men especially young men are constantly conflicted between making breakthroughs in their career, and making their girlfriend happy. Sometimes their focus cycles and it can become very confusing. Let him work during those hours instead of calling you. If you feel so sad, just cry. If you feel lonely, call a friend. On a separate note, time alone is a blessing. Use it widely. What he will admire the most from you is that you trusted him and …
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 06:22 AM
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Your last two posts weren't very clear on the situation of cheating. Here, you admit that he didn't cheat, but came close to it. You've built up resentment and lost trust for one another. It is still salvageable. You wrote a very long post describing the things you should do/want to try out - this is an excellent first step! Although it's scary, and way too many habits to adopt at once, I commend you for this brave step. You're going to get there, if you put effort, but it can be a slow and conf…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 06:18 AM
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It sounds like a case of losing attraction to him. But when I read the possible reasons for that, it doesn't make sense. You lost attraction for him because he works a full time job? I don't understand. A richer man won't turn you on. In fact, someone who earns more might be even more busy and stressed. Your husband wants to be desired exactly as he is. You are too much hovering and nitpicking into his life. It's excellent that you are healthy. Why don't you start taking yourself out? Rekindle t…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 06:23 AM
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That's just how he is. It's not fair to make him do things he is uncomfortable with. You can find a friend who has that personality and ask her to take you out often.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 06:18 AM
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You are right! I gave him a few days of space to consider it. He said, he never considered leaving me. He just wanted to fix our issues and examine himself. That was a relief, but I focus on letting go of control. What happens, happens. I'll keep being myself and a good girlfriend. If he's the one or not, time will show that, and my life will work out.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 07:00 AM
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This is scientific! Look up negativity bias. It's also a little reversible through practice.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 06:57 AM
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Thank you sweetheart! I think this goes to show that regardless of theory, life throws at us unpredictable situations. RPW made me love myself and my femininity which allows me to accept and adjust to outside situations. So no matter what will happen, I've got my own back. Star back to you!
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 06:56 AM
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Thanks! ⭐
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 06:54 AM
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Thanks, Ad. This is also a possibility. I'll just give it time, love myself, and stay strong. The truth reveals itself in time.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 09:40 PM
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It's the first time something like this ever happened. That's why I was confused
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 09:29 PM
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Goddess of fun and light!! LOL! Golf
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 09:28 PM
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He is usually self-intuitive in his thoughts which is why I was confused by HIS sudden confusion lol. It's possibly just a doubt before commitment. You are right it is a good sign. I was also thinking of that. It means he's serious. Doubts can hurt me because I felt them before, but not about him. I will be mindful. About my boyfriend, I am his first. He has planned an engagement, set a date and is working on wedding planning. He is definitely the leader - recently I overheard him telling that t…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 09:27 PM
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We are in early 20s. He has been reading gender-specific relationship advice (like we do on here!) and read such a few comments saying that ladies feels disrespected when viewed sexually by their partners in non-sexual situations. He grew up in an environment where sex is really taboo, I'm his first. He usually tries his best to treat me well and doesn't bring me such questions lol that's why I was confused. Lack of communication I agree is a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 09:13 PM
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Hi! He didn't dump me. We are in early twenties. He was raised in a completely different society where sex is taboo, sex education does not exist, and premarital sex is frowned upon. I do think it's a bit bizarre, but he's usually not a person who ruminates on stuff like this - that was asked by another commenter. So, I allow him this freedom to have these questions about what is love etc. I'm his first.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 09:09 PM
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It's different for everyone, but there is an RPW guide (see Lychee's post). First bf 5 months because I was young and scared. Second bf 2 months in when he first initiated it and I let go of that fear and had fun.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 06:04 PM
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I think you can wait longer, and don't tell all your people all at once. Maybe tell your closest friend within a week or two so they keep tabs on you, tell your distant friends months later but only if they ask. Etc. Tell your family when you and him become more serious and discuss meeting family.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 06:01 PM
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Right!! I was starting to get sooo scared...and sad! But see the edit for a good laugh of relief XD
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 05:59 PM
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Right!! Thankfully everything is fine. See the edit for some silliness!
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 05:57 PM
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Hey, look. I'm middle eastern. My bf is east asian, and our families are of different religions. If I tell you my mom was disappointed that is an understatement. She cried and couldn't even choke out words. But, I had to tell her. If you have a very good relationship with this man and love him, he might become your family. If he has a good heart, your mom will accept him eventually. She will grow fond of anyone who makes you happy and has a good heart! You need to be brave. If she's disappointed…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/23 10:35 PM
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I've been told I'm cold and reeaaalllyyyy really stoic. I improved this by spending more time away from people who I find put me in that cold and stoic mood. But if I start to feel 'it' coming up again, I breathe in, and imagine that I'm about to treat others how I'd want to be treated. Then, naturally it occurs. The first step is to notice which feelings are coming up inside of you. The second step is slowing down, the third is imagining possible outcomes of a change.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/23 07:53 PM
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Wait....what?? Yes, he has many good qualities, and you have loved one another. But he is already 21 and still has high levels of anxiety and listens to his parents above his own or your own decisions. An ideal redpill man would listen to his own decisions, which benefit you, meanwhile trying to sensitively explain or bargain with his parents. You could have a wonderful relationship with him but only on the condition that he truly pushes past his fears and his parents control. This is very hard,…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 02:23 PM
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If you're both committed to make it work, it will work. Be brave and create a wonderful love between you two. Don't listen to what others say.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/23 06:14 PM
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To answer your first question, it definitely does. But then again there are many people who do it unknowingly because they get attached too fast/idealize you/don't know any better.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/23 06:32 PM
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Thanks for this info, but - huge disclaimer alert! Are you Chinese? I'm with a Chinese man and he definitely took it slow, with a long talking and "we're not boyfriend/girlfriend yet" stage, and the 'DTR' conversation after 2-3 months. It seems the Chinese people around us also date in this way. If anyone does like OP described it's absurd and people will think they are rushing, or the man is cheating. And the norm in China is that it can take years before meeting one anothers' parents.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/23 01:26 PM
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Okay, that makes sense. You need to do a thorough googling and see how much this relationship/culture is suitable to you. It's wonderful to be in an intercultural relationship (I am!) especially when you're redpilled and it opens your mind to submit to another's culture. HOWEVER I would advise you to read online as much as you can, from reputable but also from "trashy" sources on dating/marriage in Japan, to get as much info possible. Also be aware that some men who come from abroad are still in…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/23 01:23 PM
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Yes, but you said he's from overseas, so this may amount to cultural differences.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/23 07:12 AM
1

Exactly. That's why it's an illusion that it's recoverable...
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/23 05:25 AM
3

I've been there, it's irrecoverable
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/23 12:44 AM
1

Oh, it was very easy. I know that if someone stops loving me for no reason then that's just a sign that we're not meant to be.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/23 09:36 AM
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I didn't see it coming. I was so romantic and pursuing him as always. Then, I started working. When he'd come back from work he'd cook dinner for himself and eat by himself at the tv. He wouldn't talk to me first and if I'd kiss him, he's say, "You're bothering me." This went on for many months. But every time I asked him about his distance, he gave me a different reason. So, for those months, not one answer was consistent. One day I came home from work around 4pm. I decided to see what would ha…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/23 05:23 AM
2

Some will, some won't
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/23 05:17 AM
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I have a positive attitude, I'm pretty and keep fit, I love to cook and clean for and please a good man, I'm mentally independent. I'm looking to have and create a wonderful romantic marriage which is a heaven for my man, and in turn for me, so I put in that work (and manifestation) to do so!
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/23 10:36 AM
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This. After 4 years, my ex stopped putting in effort (like what OP described). Then out of the blue he told me he's not in love with me anymore
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 08:17 PM
2

Love
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 11:18 AM
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Maybe you don't want to hear this, but...if he insists he is right in your field of expertise, if everyone describes him as prideful but he never admits to being wrong, if he says toxic sentences like 'You'll leave me for another man' then I have the feeling that he is deeply insecure and pulling you down to his level... This is not something you can fix or need to tip-toe around. It sounds like you're doing great being wary of his needs and fixing your femininity. My advice is to mirror how you…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 11:13 AM
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My bf does these sometimes (he did them more in the past when we were having issues!). Now it's easy for me to spot, identify , and navigate. I've learned so much about them. I'd love to tell you some personal experiences if you need to see more to write about it, just DM me!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 06:15 AM
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Of course you can be sexy! But, this doesn't sound like a problem you need to fix. Outwardly, check out a classy but sultry style; turtlenecks and pencil skirts in winter, fitted silk dresses in summer. Consider smokey eye liner or a dark color in the waterline. Try defining your lips with lipliner, and top with gloss. High heels can make you sexier with any outfit. If you wear lingerie under any outfit your boyfriend will find you sexy no matter how cute you were with the clothes on. Inwardly, …
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 08:41 AM
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Yes. Anything he asks, I say yes. Anything he offers, I say yes. Clarification: not married, dating. I would only say no if something hurts or really irks me, but he doesn't make such requests as he knows me now.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 08:31 AM
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If I'm in an overwhelmed or sour mood, I go for a walk to cool down. If it doesn't work, I watch YouTube videos. If all else fails I go to my boyfriend asking for cuddles and comfort.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 04:54 AM
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I think he likes it very much! Just be sure you're doing it while you are happy, relaxed and actually free enough to do it. If you start to cook/clean when you are overwhelmed/busy/in a sour mood, that's when you'll start to come off as a lady doing motherly sacrifices rather than girlfriend favors.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 04:41 PM
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What did she do?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 08:29 AM
1

So helpful! I'd love to see the compliance test post.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/23 08:28 AM
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Your description is amazing! I hope he knows that this is how you think of him ❤️. It's inspiring to see love all around us. By the way...your username... do you like Hua Chenyu?
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 11:48 AM
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You are a wonderful and patient friend! I hope everything is fine with you. And, I hope everything will be fine with her and with her other friend.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 05:08 AM
2

Right!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 05:08 AM
2

Countless sexual harrassment, three cases of irl stalking, and twice sexual assault. It all stemmed from fear really I had a phobia of men and RPW helped me overcome my phobia.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 05:07 AM
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He still has something with his ex. It's better for you to start something with someone who does not
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 08:40 AM
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I used to be her. It was a coping mechanism for sexual trauma. Maybe that's what happened to her? You can distance yourself from her, but it's pointless to try to make her change what she says. You an point out that you don't agree, but it won't change her views. Or you can try to understand where she's coming from and start from there. If you're able to, you can gently help her to feel more safe. Especially if she has been through sexual trauma.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 08:36 AM
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Thanks! This helps a lot!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 06:35 AM
1

Wait... your bf is friends with this guy who did 'bad things', and says his girlfriend is insecure? Of course she'd be insecure. What did he do? I'm a little concerned your bf is friends with him and thinks little of what he did
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 07:02 PM
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Thanks!!
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 06:49 PM
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How did you learn that this works for you? If I simply say "I am annoyed" or "I am insecure" then my bf asks for more context so as to understand me more.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 06:48 PM
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Scout? What does that mean? The army? In my country we all do military service from ages 18-21. I did it! Your boyfriend sounds very chivalrous and independent!
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 09:36 AM
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This depends on the man. Some men would never let you carry a heavy load. Others would let you if you insist, but gladly help if asked. I think it depends how they were raised? Next time just check these things when you're dating.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 09:32 AM
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Are we dating the same guy?
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 09:28 AM
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That sounds so frustrating! I do want to say however that in most modern relationships people assume that women take the lead. I don't think these assumptions are unique to you and him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/23 04:38 AM
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It's interesting how some men prefer natural appearance others prefer altered! I'm curious if there's anything behind this
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 06:34 PM
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Wow I'm sorry they didn't do a very good job... WITHOUT anesthetic? Omg.... you are...superhuman! Do they go over the lipline, by the way? Cool you do gel by yourself! I still have questions lol. How do you know what you want to do? Like, I see myself, I know there are things I can do but I don't know what they are or what I want. How do you decide, "This is something I will put on my to-do list" when it comes to enhancing your beauty?
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 01:14 PM
1

I'm in love with black dyed hair! What's your natural color?
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 01:07 PM
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He called you slacking for not being able to pay on beauty treatments (which are a luxury by the way)? On top of all that, it sounds like you don't enjoy these treatments very much. It's more for him less for you. Omg.... you did that all for him. He should be paying for your beauty treatments if he likes them so much.* *You can get this to happen in an RPW way and even with manifesting. Very hard to do. I tried to manifest my bf paying my manicures and it took 4 months before it started happeni…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 01:05 PM
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Wow! It's awesome you get education for free! And you sound smart with your money in saving up and doing things yourself. I do not live in the US. I am from a very wealthy family. But it's old wealth, this means we are very very stingy. It took me years to get comfortable with spending money on anything, let alone myself. Of course ortho work is expensive. I hope they did a great job and handled you with care! Another thing stopping me is that I'm too scared. Lip blushing is painful and can caus…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 01:02 PM
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Wow, that's a lot of money. Can I ask how old are you? I want to do similar things but I'm a student. Do you get more compliments since you started your glow up journey? It's so fun to go the gym!
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 12:33 PM
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What's your glow up plan?
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 05:42 AM
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Yes. I love long nails and take pride in them. But, when I started dating my boyfriend he says he much prefers short nails. After asking me several times to cut them short, I now keep them short. He is happy when I come back from a manicure and they're on the shorter side. Obviously I still like long nails, but it wasn't worth him asking me several times to cut them. I love red lipstick. I used to wear it almost daily. But my boyfriend told me he detests it. He prefers natural makeup. At first I…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 05:35 AM
2

Love this! So ready!
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 05:32 AM
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I've been in this situation. Don't express sympathy nor empathy. Just listen to his words and look in his eyes as if he were talking about anything else. When he mentions doing something by himself, tell him you're proud of him. But never say, "I'm proud of you for doing this despite your mother leaving." Simply say, "I am proud of you for doing this." What happened didn't necessarily affect his relationship with the feminine. You don't know that, and you need not assume that. And even if there …
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 06:45 AM
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No. He knows that I read relationship advice, and our relationship has improved over time. He doesn't know what I read, though. And the best part is that he started following his own sources of relationship advice, from his home country so I don't know what they are. But, they seem to focus on helping men improve themselves meanwhile understand women. I don't know what sources they are however I also feel he's been treating me better since watching them. Every now and then he tells me what he le…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 06:08 AM
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If I'm not mistaken he cheated on her
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 04:12 PM
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You've written a lot here recently. Your relationship with him is toxic. He can't forgive and he is holding things against you to not move forward, and that is toxic.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 10:01 AM
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Hey!! You are a huge asset on this sub. Your comments have helped me and others more than you know! Sweetie,I remember about two months ago you made posts about not being wanted. I think there was an issue with porn, correct? I'm really sorry what you're going through. I kept reading the comments, and you said infidelity. Your marriage had been over the moment he contemplated infidelity. If you take a few days living elsewhere, like with a friend or family or even in a hotel, you will come to th…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/23 04:39 AM
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Oh gosh, I was in this situation. I chose the one with a healthier lifestyle and more independence because that's what I'm attracted to. I ended up chasing him!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:36 PM
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It's okay not necessary Absolutely a priority
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:33 PM
1

It matters
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:23 PM
2

Yes. As a woman I love that feeling of being crazy about someone (physically)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:19 PM
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Oh, interesting! This explains why I'm attracted and attached to my man so much. Immediately all of those things came to mind. "A woman will work harder to keep you" And so I have!!! Confidence must be somewhere up there, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:18 PM
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Yeah, this is true. If you're not sure about someone then they're not it
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 10:04 PM
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My fiancé consistently tells me that time is not on our side, He believes that what he says are the truth, so currently he is unable to see how he is adding to your stress instead of taking it off. I don't really know what you can tell him at this point - he will just insist that he is right, and you will start to believe him. Just because he says something as if it is the truth ('time is not on our side', 'you must get a degree in x', 'you must get yourself established first',etc...) it does no…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 03:11 PM
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Hey girl, I am in STEM. Regardless, I believe you shouldn't risk changing your career just because your partner is not supportive of it. The only reason I would encourage anyone to chose STEM is if they are absolutely obsessed with science. Otherwise, people tend to drop out. When I kept reading, I found you said you were depressed and burnt out. This is absolutely an SOS. Now is not a time for you to consider doing even what others expect you to be doing. You need to take care of your mental he…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 09:09 AM
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I have heard all kinds of opinions on this! For example, there are people who claim that 100% vulnerability is what strengthened their relationship. There are others, like you, who think that <100% vulnerability creates mystery, and that that mystery fuels passion. For me, nothing breeds sexual longing more than respect. From what I have seen, if the first type of couple experience respect from one another in all other aspects, then the full transparency/vulnerability does not dampen their mutua…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 08:58 AM
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Thanks! When he is right it's no problem. When I am right then it becomes like this.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 12:48 PM
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I think I felt this with my ex when we were both in a state of depression, a bit codependent we lost attraction to one another. Do you ever feel you're losing or forcing attraction to him?
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 08:57 AM
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Thanks! Actually last night I tried the first one but he felt like I was "teaching" him and "stubborn"; he ended up giving me bad feelings then we both had to cool down. I took a moment to sit outside, access my 'inner girl ', get into the feelings of my body (Adrienne Everheart method) and I realized that I felt hurt because I felt rejected that I am giving him the absolute best of me (my knowledge wrapped up in careful explanations) as an intimate gift of love, but he judged my entire characte…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 07:39 AM
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Wow! What an analysis! I'm not sure if I am able to imagine what it feels like for such people as you described, but your description shows me you are a deep thinker!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 07:32 AM
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If you had actually read the post, you would know that I never say "I told you so"
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 07:30 AM
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Wow!! Thanks, I love love love this! You are right, he is absolutely delivering a heart message behind bringing up information that he may not be sure about. The question is, what is that message? Maybe he wants approval for his unique way of thinking!
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 09:06 AM
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I love this! It's hard because masculinity literally has more value in most of the workforce. But, I need him to respect my masculinity. We can't eradicate it, yes? In most cases, he does respect and even admire that side of me. But the takeaway here is I just can't compete against him. Even when I am passing knowledge, he will see it as a competition. I will sit on this. Maybe I should just say less of such things, and keep letting him tutor me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 07:57 AM
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Men who care about you just feel this way. First of all, men want to know you are happy. But secondly, they see themselves as responsible for your happiness. If you show that you are unhappy, even about things that they didn't do, they somehow feel responsible for your unhappiness. This is why some toxic men only want to be around women who seem happy, and why most healthy men have the reactions you described above. It's not something you can expect a man to change but I hope this comment helps …
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 05:18 AM
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"Let's agree to disagree." He says this. It can be very relaxing, actually, in the case of opinions no matter how strong. It shows me I am allowed to have my opinion and he his. Then we feel closer and stronger. BUT in the case that we are talking about facts I am certain about, I get second hand embarrassment again and again when he says "Let's agree to disagree", then fact-checks, and I end up being right! I don't see any emabrassment in him but rather admiration of me in such moments. But why…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 05:09 AM
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You're right!! I don't want him to see me as a know it all even in my field!! But neither of us act like a know it all! I do start a lot of conversations asking about things he knows. In fact, he tutors me in math 2x a week. So where did it go wrong? Why does he often not believe me and have to try to prove me wrong and fact check when I'm saying things I am sure about? Sorry, it's just annoying. I don't want to be 'right'. I want him to BELIEVE me when I know I am right. If I'm not certain, I w…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 05:06 AM
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Thanks so much for your amazing answers as usual, Kiwi!! Yes, he is very smart! The only times the information was important was when we were noticing and discussing health issues in ourselves and loved ones. Then in my opinion, my minimal but academically-sourced knowledge of diseases was a better start than observations and culturally-accepted misconceptions (we all have) of said diseases. I just wanted him to listen to me. Because I knew I was right. But every single time that we fact checked…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 04:56 AM
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Thanks! Maybe I explained it wrong. I do not say "I told you so." But he says "You told me so!" Then I feel uncomfortable, because it's good for my feminine ego to be right. But I don't want to have that situation. I definitely want to be the submissive one. He should be in his ego not me. I am sorry that happened to you with your friend.... I do acknowledge his comments. But, it feels fake at times. First of all I am native to this country in which we are living but he is not. So one of the thi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 04:32 AM
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Adrienne Everheart
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 03:02 PM
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You sound like someone I'd like to be friends with! The only reason I have deep knowledge about some things is because I am (a nerd) passionate. Good job on recovering from the know-it-all attitude! I understand what you mean. My ex was bright but insisted that I'm smarter, it's not true, it's completely his insecurities talking. And insecurities are unattractive. Alternatively, a guy who outright says he is smarter than you is just danger! Ideally, the 'smart' of you and your lover or friends c…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 11:40 AM
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Does anyone want to add more to this list? This concept is very important. Even though I didn't hear any of the above myths except for 4, this post deals with your experience, and there must be more. Men like a boss babe Men are intimidated by you because you are too successful You need to be (model-level) skinny to be attractive Just take some pain killers and get back to work
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 11:25 AM
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Lmao I know where you're coming from but I didn't settle anything. We are good. He has set a date for engagement during a fancy travel he is planning himself this winter, and we have a date for a wedding next year. The cooking tip is a very old and VERY basic RPW tip for couples at any stage.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 11:19 AM
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I didn't mention but I study biology. Biology degree covers everything about the living world, so basically human body, health/diseases, food, nutrition, everything about coronavirus and the mandate etc, environment.... Biological questions and misconceptions come up a lot when discussing household things like cooking, gardening, raising children, health etc.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 10:54 AM
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He has given me a timeline for engagement and marriage
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 10:21 AM
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Legit. Why am I sad? Oh, bleeding. I'm not sad anymore
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 10:20 AM
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I have never heard any of these myths except for 4, but 4 is not true for every woman individually
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 10:20 AM
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Let him do the things he says he will do. This makes him feel like a man. Otherwise, you can sweetly offer to help. But if he refuses your help, don't push the offer a second time. Hope this helps!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 06:20 PM
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Text him when you're cooking alone
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 05:26 AM
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Definitely ask him for tips! He'd love to help you out with something he's knowledgeable about
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 03:16 PM
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If you know you have nothing to hide, just breathe deep and focus on something else like how cute it is
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 02:43 PM
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You can do it slowly, on your own terms, with medical health professionals and professional trainers rather than listening to his baseless and dangerous advice. You can do it for yourself while still staying in a relationship. Or you can do it without him, and become fitter and have better chances with a less controlling man. He should be giving loving advice and healthy motivation, not limiting your happiness as punishments
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 08:33 AM
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Okay. I don't think I should be saying this but your partner sounds overly controlling. If he loves you he'd want you to be happy to travel and of course get married regardless of your weight. If he wants you to lose weight, it's for health and attraction, but his expectation of your eeight loss is dangerously fast and that will compromise your health.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 08:30 AM
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You shouldn't lose that much weight in that short time. 50kg could be underweight depending on your height. You shouldn't eat only meat and veg, that is unhealthy
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 06:11 AM
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Thanks. But it wasn't terrible. I told myself that if they wanted two girlfriends at once, at least I couldn't be one of them. If the relationship was built upon lies then it wasn't really a relationship. I am now with a loving, loyal man.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 01:47 PM
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Much easier said than done. You know I kept composed in front of the men, but when I was on my own I cried and grieved for several days.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 01:43 PM
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2 years but I first found this tip one year ago
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 01:41 PM
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For my first two boyfriends, I have been 'the other woman' without knowing. The first was engaged and two-timed on her with me. I literally did not know he was engaged let alone in a relationship. When his family member reached out to contact me and send proof, I was in shock for a few days and then I broke it off. I can't imagine how his fiancee would feel if she knows. I have no contact of hers so I couldn't notify her even if I wanted to. It was revolting and I can't believe the amount of eff…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 01:04 PM
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I wouldn't stay if I was cheated on. I'd just leave. If he asks, I'd tell him that I know. But I wouldn't give more details than this or cause any drama. That he did what he did is enough for me. That he knows that I know is enough for him. I would not stay a day longer than knowing.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 12:59 PM
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Dear mods, I want to tag this post as 'field report' but I am on mobile therefore cannot tag! I really appreciate whoever tagged my previous post as field report also 🙏❤️
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 01:04 PM
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First of all in PMS it is normal to experience insecurities about yourself. This post sounds more like you are experiencing insecurities with yourself together with general life changes/frequent changes of mindset. You have a lot on your plate, you have recently started therapy, give yourself a pat on the back! Especially when you're having insecure thoughts. "You are enough." You are beautiful enough for him, you are hardworking enough for him and for your viewers. I think he is serious about y…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 08:53 AM
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Omg that excerpt is sooo true!! I said it first and my bf only started saying it after he was committed to me. I feel like I put in a lot of work to win his heart, I feel good!,
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 10:30 PM
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Oh honey!! It seems you found yourself the more sensitive one in the relationship. This is usually the case of us women. Between two people there will always be one more sensitive, and this time, as opposed to your previous relationships, it is you. It's hard, right? But it's only hard if you let it. While it's always worthwhile to look into your traumas, and it seems you've done the work, inferring that your sensitivity is a flaw caused by trauma implies that his 'lack' of sensitivity is the pr…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 10:05 PM
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I only care about my and my bf's opinion. Not engaged. I wrote this for other girlies who are less experienced in dating and openly wanting to know what men like (there have been some posts like this + I got some DMs asking me this particular question)
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 05:04 PM
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A lot of single women here want to know what men find attractive so I'm trying to help out by recalling personal experience
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 12:48 PM
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Maybe it's fast, but every person and relationship has their own pace. You will know if your pace is right if both you and him are comfortable. My bf takes things very slow. I had to accommodate him. At 10 months I felt like I barely knew him. Now it's been two years and we are quite close but still do not live together and spend a lot of time apart.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 11:58 AM
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"Due to the difficulties of academic couples getting jobs at the same universities" what are these difficulties?
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 07:36 AM
2

I think he wants you to do the same as he does
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 11:40 AM
7

We knew you can do this!!!
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 12:27 PM
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Hello, thank you again for your input! I think my bf is feminist in that he wants women to equally work and achieve success in their careers, but in our relationship he needs to be 'the man' and secretly he likes to be pampered the way women traditionally do to their men. He said he'd love if I'd clean everything for our space but he understands that that is not a realistic request, especially if I am working outside of the home. I try as best to practice cleaning and cooking my own space so one…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 03:13 PM
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Hi, thank you very much for this long and comprehensive reply! I have heard of Chinese moms sacrificing but from what I understand the newer generation is increasingly feminist and such ideals are coming to an end. I might even have a free pass to sacrifice less, because I am not Chinese, and so others can understand. My hope is that if I ever do something culturally inappropriate others can pull the "She's a foreigners, foreigners are just weird like that" card. Would it work? About the fertili…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 11:19 AM
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It's impossible to be relaxed when you have insomnia or anxiety. These are huge mental and physical hurdles. I had insomnia for three years, so I get it. The type I have comes and goes, but on 'off' periods, life is different. If you are anxious a lot and you can't sleep you might need to meet a psychiatrist first to invest in your health above all. Other than a psychiatrist, you need to spend your time towards healing not dwelling. There might be songs or YouTube videos that make you feel heale…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 06:46 AM
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Right, he absolutely needs to have a degree or certification or work experience or something to even consider proposing to a RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 09:13 AM
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Is he working on it at all? Electrician is a wonderful job of course assuming he stays safe. But has it been all talk or is he doing courses?
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 09:09 AM
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I think you are more compatible than you realize. Although your mind has a fantasy of the dream man, the grass is not greener on the other side. A man who fishes might take long weekends away from you, and come back smelling like fish. A man who chops wood may get severely injured (like my dad). While I secretly believe that people should only marry the one they are crazy about, you can become crazy about him. Here's how: as a religious woman, imagine God gave you two to one another. You were me…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 05:37 AM
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Why can't he start a career here unless he gets married? Red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 05:25 AM
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Snapping means losing patience with the person's habits or behaviors. It stems from judgement, contempt, resentment or generally being judgemental or controlling. Big fights are often what occur when releasing tension during difficult conversations. Of course, nobody wants fights. But after fights there should be a period of self-reflection, resolution, forgiveness and then a much deeper understanding of one another. Understanding your partner is going to help melt that judgement and contempt aw…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 08:48 PM
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Oh, this is hard. I used to be like that. Anger is just the time where a person expresses where they were wronged. Listen to what your husband says underneath the anger. Anger is very transient, so allow yourself to stay calm when a person in front of you is angry. It will pass very soon. It's not much different from sadness.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 08:13 AM
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How long have you been together? In my experience, 'snapping but no big fights' relationships have more problems than 'big fights but no snapping' relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 08:08 AM
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No such thing as pure vs dirty. I disagree with many of your points. It could be that he doesn't ask, because he wants to respect you. A lot of men don't want their girl to feel like she's only being used for sex so they avoid initiating unless they're absolutely sure that she wants it. Personal question, does you being the initiator make you feel insecure? You should talk with him about this in a non-accusatory way. Bring up the conversation topic of initiation. "Babe, is there a specific way y…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 10:07 AM
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This is highly iffy. Insults can stem from a wide range of causes. The person is used to hearing insults in their family or culture, the person was verbally abused in the past, the person is angry temporarily, the person speaks lowly to themselves in their head, the person has low social awareness, the person is under the influence of drugs or alcohol, or the person is sadistic or looking to hurt others for attention/domination. All of the cases except for the last two are issues of communicatio…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 06:54 AM
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Oh damn, I'm following. What did he mean by give more? I also need a lot of alone time and can't see myself living with my bf unless we had two houses or two floors.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 05:50 PM
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Adrienne Everheart
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 05:28 PM
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I don't know. I don't live together and I don't share finances or pets with my bf. He plans to propose soon, then we plan to move in temporarily just to see what it's like ( we both actually like to live alone! ). We have some travels together coming up and he suggested to combine finances, but I said no. I said I would only combine finances towards marriage such as saving up and spending together for our wedding.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 03:40 PM
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She doesn't sound insecure in herself!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 03:23 PM
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It's simple. Just don't date someone you don't feel comfortable around.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 02:04 PM
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The Ken's on the other hand, have no identity outside of being a bf to Barbie. I don't agree. Simu Liu Ken was a gymnast and he had a sense of identity surrounding gymnastics, being cool etc and he wasn't even a boyfriend. He was the supporting role for Ryan Gosling Ken so we see him building him up at times. There was also Allan who was quite different, and I didn't even remember seeing an Allan doll in the stores lol, but he was an outlier of the Kens. The only Ken which was strongly attached …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 08:08 AM
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SPOILER ALERT!!! ------- I didn't like it. Even when one understands feminism pretty well, the feminist message of movie was weak and cringy. The movie was not relatable at all despite that they pushed it to be. When the Barbies starting serving the Kens and seemed quite happy about it, I was thrilled. Because even if I'm a 'career Barbie', serving my man brings me so much relaxation and fulfillment at the end of the day. I like what doctor Barbie said about "It's like a spa day for my brain, ev…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 08:04 AM
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Can we not make negative generalizations about a certain generation and post them?
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 08:04 AM
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Hi! Thank you very much for your time and effort. Fortunately I know all of these already. I am white not ethnically Asian. I do speak Chinese but of course I could always improve. Obviously I need to be independent. As for working, I am a researcher in STEM. Are you certain that a marriage visa prevents one from working? I work for a professor in my home country but the professor himself is on a staycation. He'd be ecstatic if I keep working for him from China; all of my work is done with a com…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 04:52 AM
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This is abuse. You don't need to heal from his comment, his comment tells you everything about him that you need to know.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 07:46 AM
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🤔 Now this really got me thinking. You are right. I struggle greatly with giving up control. It's because, in my mind, the alternative is always scarier. In this case if I comply with his request, it is in fact a loss of my control, which is scary. I will do my best to take note in other instances when I am following this thinking and I will remember your comment. 🙏
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 05:18 PM
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Thanks! Will do. It's the same, he asks for my advice on his fashion but I don't want him to lose his aesthetic sense of self and see fashion through my eyes only.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 05:17 PM
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Hi! He wants me sometimes to help him with fashion, because he's not sure how to get into fashion. But, I don't want him to depend on me. It's not attractive, right? He asks my input on things often, he has said I am his leader, so this is why I refer to RPW to see what I can do. I realize I can help him with this one request, then avoid controlling him elsewhere.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 05:16 PM
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Hi! Thanks! I will do as you said. We have been together for a long time, we have just waited before meeting parents (as is done in his culture.)
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 05:14 PM
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Thanks! I'm just worried sometimes he will become dependent on my opinions. But, I realize I should answer this request, then avoid giving unsolicited advice otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 05:13 PM
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I spend a lot of time on my appearance. I guess I am vain. But, it's also a hobby. It's relaxing and fun. I mostly feel secure in my appearance unless I am having PMS, then I start to have insecure thoughts. But again it's only during that time. I'm on the opposite spectrum of you. I'm wondering if I'm too vain and if it's causing me any harm.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 12:08 PM
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You can order food for him and his kid to his apt when he gets home from work, without going to see him
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 06:45 PM
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Whoever opens it can do a quick background check before letting people in
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 04:46 AM
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Wow that's weird, I'm 5'7 and I've dated taller men but was always attracted to the 5'5-5'7 range men idk they just give me heart butterflies
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:28 PM
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Thanks for your amazing comment. I read your username and I remembered who you are. You always take the time to help other ladies out, but I must ask, how have you been? How is your health? I hope you're taking care of yourself like you deserve. Thanks for the link! I will read it. I appreciate it greatly. I like your idea about keeping things special just for him! I do try to think of myself as 'his', but that often makes me very affectionate to him when I can feel the proper thing to do would …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 09:48 PM
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Oh! The woman who I want to befriend is an unmarried student, like me. She has plenty of female friends. I guess she's just not interested in me? I am in my 20s and the married couple are in their 30s. It's a strange age gap with which to have friends. Although I don't see anything in common with me and his married friend's wife, I will take your advice and see how it goes.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 06:57 PM
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Can you tell us a little bit about your boss?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 06:47 PM
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Thanks! The most difficult part is letting him lead, actually. I hope I don't get downvoted, because in RPW nothing makes sense if he isn't leading. But he recently told me: "You are the leader of our relationship. Firstly because your ideas how to make our relationship healthy always work, but also because when we fight it's because you're mad, and when we stop fighting it's when you forgive me, not when I forgive you." What can I do about this? He gave me the advice to be more formal in public…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 06:43 PM
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Hi! Thanks. I never thought about this. He has one married friend in my country, but they are a decade older than us. I tried to befriend his male friends back when I was feminist but I realized that that is not the way. He has one male friend who I do not like and I voiced this, but my bf doesn't really like him either, he just keeps him around. I've been trying to STFU about this friend or only say respectful things about him, and I actually noticed that my bf hangs out with him much less beca…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 06:04 PM
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I am not tradcon. Tradcon does not work well with my ideology, environment or personal life goals. Redpill just works wonders in my romantic relationship and helped me to be less afraid of men (I had a phobia).
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 02:59 PM
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If he initiates it, he wants sex because sex is a way to make men feel accepted/reassured. But over time the issues might come back.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 04:44 PM
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Not every man is sex focused. In fact, it sounds like your man is not. You don't have to worry about not being good. It's men whose experience significantly improves their skills at bed. For women, of course experience helps, but not much experience is needed to make him satisfied. This is just due to the physical aspects. For a woman to be good in bed she has to be emotionally expressive, and basically you just have to do the things that make him feel good, it can be minimal and he'll still lik…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 01:31 AM
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Baby, honey, cutie, sweetie, lovely
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 12:59 AM
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You don't want to date a guy who is very insecure (believe me)
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 12:58 AM
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He is not interested in you
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 12:57 AM
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This is beautiful! You should write a book!
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 12:55 AM
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Bad sign
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 09:08 AM
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26 is not really that mature for a man. Woman mature earlier
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 07:06 AM
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Perfect! That's the age of me and my bf. But yes this highly depends on the couple! I was with someone 7-8 years older than me and it did not sit right at all
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 07:05 AM
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It really depends on the couple and the ages. In my personal experience, 7 years was too much older for me, 8 years was too disconnected, 2 years the guy could have been more mature, 4 years just right.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 04:22 AM
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Hey, I'm not sure if this is possible, but ... Is it possible you can change your job? It just sounds like the job is not a right fit for you honey and it's no wonder you are feeling so bad after work. But you really deserve a better job
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 04:06 PM
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I don't even need to read the post to tell you from my personal experience it is devastating and ruins relationships, yet nobody talks about it
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 12:42 PM
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I studied biology. Biology is becoming more of a female-dominated field, and I love that. The environment kept me feeling safe and welcome. Now I do my ecology research from home, flexible hours, straight from my plant-filled office right next to my dog. I believe what makes a career RPW is that it makes the woman happy and energetic to start her day, but is also flexible. In my case, I deal with my true love and passion every day (biology!) right next to my dog so I am extremely happy with my c…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 12:37 PM
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I am a researcher in ecology
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 12:31 PM
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Hi, I really love all what you say. I too try to follow the advice from Laura Doyle. You are right he did not do anything wrong to me, I admit I reacted strongly because I am afraid because I was stalked and SA before by my ex. If you read the updated part of the post, it might make sense more. Also, somehow the argument was worth it. We had a long conversation and it ended up with us opening up about how much we love eachother and how we complement eachother, making more future plans, general o…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 05:29 PM
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Oh! I know nobody can come between me and him. He's head over heels for me! I really like how he worded the trust vs understanding, it was beautiful. However I have this very strong opinion and the reason was that I was stalked and SA'd before by an ex. It is important for me to see that my bf thinks it's wrong regardless of whose relationship it is. I want to have children with him, and I do not want the children's father to defend stalking of exes and pass this moral onto them. I'm going to ha…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 03:41 PM
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Yes, you are right! It was important for me to see that he does not defend the ex, because I had been stalked before and the stalking escalated to SA. I told him this and I reminded him then he understood and he takes my side. But finally it was all a test just to see whether I'd have compassion for this ex or not.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 03:38 PM
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Hi! I wasn't able to message you, could you please message me? Thanks
/r/RedPillWives10/07/23 01:59 PM
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I agree
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 11:27 AM
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I think she is very intelligent and that's what he's looking for long-term
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 09:01 PM
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He does not. That's cute!! In my case, he gets genuinely upset if I mention 'other girls' as a joke. He wants me to take it very seriously that I am the only one for him ❤️. He says, "How can you say that, I am hurt you even think of this possibility!" The kind of things we bicker about are little language mistakes, ways to arrange house things, or really mistakes in anything here and there. He goes 'tsk' or he gives me a light slap (jokingly), and he gets horny when I am angry....🤣🤣 Then when h…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 04:24 PM
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Yes, it is rare in the US but not where I live. They were asked to defer! Wow... maybe getting married or having kids is taboo for US in med school or graduate degrees, but it's the norm where I live. Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 01:07 PM
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What's wrong with him? I paint, write songs, poetry, record and edit music, make cosmetics, and tend to my dog and garden.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 01:05 PM
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I have my man, I have my ideal, and I have an idea of high value man. But they are not all the same. Does that make sense?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 06:37 AM
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Sounds like you're describing my boyfriend, except he's short (which I love) and in the begining he was not very empathetic. Now he's much better at it, but he's still "my way or the highway" at work and very rarely with me. I think stubbornness is just a masculine thing - evidently it serves him at work. If I feel he's too stubborn, and if I don't like it, I know what to do - I just fight back. Fighting isn't typical RPW advice, but it's okay to deviate as no relationship is the ideal of RP or …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 06:26 AM
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"do not date men at the beginning of their PhD program" excuse me miss I highly disagree! If a woman is passionate about education, like me, she would be really happy to learn all about the PhD journey through her man. And my country is highly educated, and many people get engaged, married or have children during med school or PhD. If they want to then they will. Also a PhD can be anywhere between 3-7 years. And they can take breaks, like a whole year or more, if needed.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 06:08 AM
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My man was decisive about me, and I was very shocked. He said he was sure about me after one year. Whereas I was with my ex for four years and we didn't say we were sure. So it took me a long time to digest, and now after two years I am certain about my man, too.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 06:04 AM
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You share bills? He is getting the feeling you don't need him. But the employment issue is really worrisome. If I were you, I would tell him "Hey listen baby... In the past 1.5 years I've worked 3+ jobs and you know it's too much for me ... I'm going back to my mother's as I need to rethink about our relationship. Please let me do so." While you're gone, you should truly think about the relationship but also think about yourself and how can you recover the lost joy and rest from overworking? Try…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 05:57 AM
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Yeah my bf occasionally 'lashes out' and I labelled him aggressive. When I went to therapy, my therapist said he is expressing anger and that I need not be afraid. It took me a long time because I am very sensitive to words and tone (yay self awareness!) but once I realized that I have nothing to be afraid of - he is a sweet soul, gentle to the very core , and anger is a temporary emotion - I now face his anger with braveness and calmness and it calms him down.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 10:14 AM
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He was angry. In some households it's okay for people to express anger by raising their voice, in others, it's not. If you are very scared to people's anger then likely you will be sensitive when he expresses anger in such ways. But once you express this to him, he apologizes, and shows some kind of effort to communicate in a way that's more comfortable for you, that's a green flag. I think he was not in the wrong. You two just have different communication styles. ​ He says he loves you, but you…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 10:13 AM
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I think that she is truly just a friend, and it's understandable you are insecure because of what you went through. Give yourself time. He will either prove to you that he does have a female friend or two and that he is trustworthy, or time will show you in other ways why you don't need him. ​ If I were you I would trust him until proven guilty.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 10:09 AM
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I'm sorry if this is rude, but... when you were a housewife with no kids, doesn't this just mean you were unemployed?
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 10:06 AM
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It happened to my dad. His first fiancé was in a horrifying car accident, she woke up from a concussion, and since has had some kind of psychosis and difficulties functioning. He stayed with her but he felt her losing touch with reality. He broke it off after much sorrow and regret. It took about 20 years for the right psychiatric medicine to even be invented. She is functioning now and happily married.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 05:21 AM
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I'm not married but dating. I just know he is the one. I was with a man for 4 years but kept wondering. Yes, it's bad that you are still with your boyfriend but not in love. I believe your best move is to break it off, so he can find someone who is in love with him.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 05:10 AM
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It sounds like he doesn't want kids
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 10:56 AM
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You might just not find him attractive
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 09:01 AM
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Of course it's worth to try talking to him. Why don't you initiate?
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 11:37 AM
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Based on the description he doesn't sound avoidant. But yes she is anxious and she would benefit from personal therapy
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 08:54 AM
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That sounds good! It's going to take a long time before he notices or even changes. Please be patient. What do you mean by passive?
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 08:22 AM
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How's it been going?
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 03:12 AM
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Let him do it. Trust him even as he fails, dislikes it, and changes his mind. These are normal in life and necessary at his age. You said he had strict parents - he needs to get out and find himself. He couldn't do any of this when he was younger. Please understand. It's not about crypto, it's about a life journey in which he finds himself. And he wants you to be there with on this journey. If you encourage his plans instead of making him feel you don't believe in him, he will love you more and …
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 03:07 AM
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He should confiscate her phone for 24 hours. It's a real harsh punishment for a teenager because phone is a great component of her socialization. "Until the next morning" is too easy... She can sleep it through.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/23 06:44 AM
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Oh Jesus, she sounds like my sister. Yes she will likely grow out of it by her early 20s. But the only thing that worked with her was taking away her privileges. This is something your partner needs to do. She will take it harshly, especially if she is used to having her way. It will be hard for him as well, he is too soft for her. Next time she is rude to you, don't say anything, just look at your partner to establish this eye contact and she will see it. But once she sees that her behavior had…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/23 06:39 AM
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You really know well the hobbies and interests of people around you! This made me smile, especially when you said he bought a bronze oven. Your family sounds special and talented. Heart react
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 01:21 PM
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Hi, unpopular opinion but I don't think he needs to pay for any of those things for you. I don't think it's ok you asked his brother for money. If you currently do not have a job, it is better to ask your parents. Based on his behavior and his answers, I actually suspect the opposite. I expect the value of their family business and inheritance possibly is very high, and he is not telling you directly. He wants you to get your own job to pay for your own expenses currently. He is reasonable. You'…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 10:36 AM
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Could you write a book please?!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 01:02 PM
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I am loving your growth in your self image compared to your last post!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 05:17 AM
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Awesome! What's your kibbe body type and color season? I'm dramatic classic and bright winter
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 05:16 AM
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"-Men (usually in the sciences) who tried to get into med school but failed. Recipe for disaster. Trust me." Why is this?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 04:38 AM
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I think he wants to marry you! He just needs a little more money first, or something. Are you also showing your efforts towards marriage? Such as making money or long-term plans of self-betterment.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 04:05 AM
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My (male) therapist told me the best way to improve your bfs self esteem is to set personal example. Show him how having high self esteem makes you healthy, happy with yourself, and allows you to achieve more things. Make your self esteem unbreakable by criticism and he will follow step by step, over lots of time, and non-linearly. I was with an insecure bf and eventually I kinda resented him and left.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 03:46 AM
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When my bf asks me what I want (say, between two options), I give this big cheeky smile, say nothing and patiently wait for him to guess. It makes him ultra curious what I want, so he keeps guessing and stays on edge for my microexpressions. When he finally guesses correctly, I raise my eyebrows ever so slightly, enlarge the smile s little, and this expression combined with the silence & release of tension is so funny that we both have a good laugh. By that time he remembers what I want and asso…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 03:07 AM
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I knew a man with a terminal illness who took much pride in writing books, until he was paralyzed and could only say the words and his nanny wrote them down. My dad has an illness which presents him from doing physical work, but his piano-playing has only improved throughout the years and he has been composing more than ever. He too was devastated and grumpy for the first two years since diagnosis. Your husband's physicality is limited and he is experiencing a lot of emotional difficulty which g…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 02:54 AM
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You might want to talk to him about this and hear his suggestions. He is likely to be understanding and suggest a new system which works for you. Hopefully your relationship is stronger than job changes, and hopefully he is compassionate enough to suggest a fair plan.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 02:41 AM
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As a person who has been in love thrice, I can elaborate. ​ The first time, you think they're perfect for you, no matter what your friends say. They were not what you expected or dreamed of in a partner, but you find yourself so willing to change your original route so as to keep you and them together. This is because they give you things you cannot give yourself. You find yourself asking, "How do I know if this person is right for me?" ​ The second time, you fall in true love. You know it is tr…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/23 06:47 PM
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I am not talking about alpha, I am talking about normal men we meet on day-to-day.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 03:17 PM
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A lot of men act confident at first only to later be revealed as insecure
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 03:06 PM
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"A lot of times he just says “I don’t know” to things that I want him to make a decision for us. So it’s really confusing and frustrating to me. He knows I want him to be the leader of our relationship, am I being too harsh?" I don't think you're being too harsh. In fact, he probably likes when you are knowledgeable and able to help out where he is not. To balance this out in an RP way, try to not make a big deal out of him not knowing something, and make an effort to compliment him when he does…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/23 06:17 PM
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"So when we went to the museum today and he didn’t take the time to figure out what we wanted to pay to see like I asked him to beforehand I told myself he is doing his best. When he didn’t have time to view a link I sent him I told myself he is doing his best. When his clothes were on the floor instead of in the laundry I told myself he is doing his best. When I had to say the same thing over three times before he heard me I told myself he is doing his best" ​ Excuse me as I tear up a little...…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/23 04:20 PM
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Ok, my bad. In my country and language Orthodox includes the Hassidic stream
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 02:44 PM
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What's that? Fascinating Womanhood? I can't find the book online :(
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 08:01 AM
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Oh, you're Jewish? This changes the picture for me. Orthodox Jews will expect you to be the primary caretaker of the children no matter what you did before having children. So in your case, I wouldn't worry about what the men think. It's quite the opposite - it's very difficult for Orthodox Jews financially, because a large portion of them are dedicated to the Yeshiva and similar activities of study which don't bring in much income. So, what you should be checking instead is whether the man you …
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 07:53 AM
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I don't think you come up as a "boss bitch". Most men will highly respect that you reached this level of success on your own. You are neither married nor pregnant, so I advise against changing your career or hiding your career from men to secure one. I think the best thing for you to do is to tell a man on a date the truth about your goals, including what you do for a living, and that you want to be more present when you will have kids. That will allow the man to consider whether he has any plac…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 07:49 AM
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I think this is a Muslim thing. The more religious ones don't date for long, nor have sex before marriage, so they get engaged early into the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 07:45 AM
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Which languages are you learning?
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 11:22 AM
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I am sorry... but it sounds like he's not in love with you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 07:55 PM
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For style, have you tried Kibbe wardrobe and color analysis? What are your social goals?
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 06:47 PM
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you can't take the eating disorder out of the girl You can, and you must. I'm sorry. Eating disorders end in one of two ways: recovery or death.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 06:46 PM
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Love these! How's it going for you?
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 06:44 PM
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I love how you listed it out! I've been learning such skills myself in therapy. As for my boyfriend, his emotional intelligence has improved immensely during the time that I knew him. It's almost like he has transformed into a different person. He's always been caring, only now he can finally show it with words not only actions. I won't show him that list because I don't need him to know about my reddit life, and also, his own way is effective enough. His way is really interesting. I'd like to t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 02:30 PM
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Thanks! I have since read those resources and grasped a much better understanding.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 01:36 PM
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Hi! I've been loving your comments on this sub. Keep going. I read the book recently. I didn't agree with it at first, but it seems to be true in my current relationship. I keep realizing how often I expected comfort and was let down when he did not deliver it perfectly. Yes, it requires two people to learn and listen to one anothers' needs. You and your wife learned to each play a part. It is true, kind words and hugs are literally all I need when I am feeling down. Now I am trying to fill my o…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 01:21 PM
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I guess you are right! I should make decisions of control/relinquishing after determining what would contribute to my happiness, and not the other way around. I cannot be happy if a person returns my car with more scratches than before, so I musn't give up that control. I will, however, be happy if he cares for my dog while I take up my second job. It's simple and he's good with her; besides, he likes to cook so I am certain I will come home to a warm meal every once and a while. My parents' mar…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 06:42 PM
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I guess this would make more sense to you if you read the book
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 06:19 PM
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Where I live, we don't need cars. Furthermore, he is an exchange student. That means he will only be in this country for a short time.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 06:14 PM
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We are not in the US. I will not provide more info, it's not like what you described.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 06:04 PM
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Not every man is built for this type of thinking and lifestyle. What does this mean? Upon rethinking the matter, I've decided it would be best if we each have our own car and keep it that way. I think he wants to share a car because he wants to share life with me, in general.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 05:52 PM
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Sorry, my English is not great. By nothing in common, I mean we share no duties. Of course we have mental interests in common. Before him I lived with my ex with whom I shared duties like cleaning, groceries, paying bills, etc. I am asking because this was the first time I ever saw something offended him. So I am wondering why/if it's important.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 05:43 PM
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" like you aren’t actually willing to relinquish control to him at all." He is responsible and helps me greatly when I ask. I'm just afraid of intimacy, and try to 'do everything by myself' even when it would have been better to ask another for help. It's something I got to work on. I feel a constant need to be in control; this is why I'm reading the book. Daydreaming = personality trait? Cannot be helped. Minor car accidents = everybody, me too. I'm talking about small scratches from narrow par…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 05:40 PM
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That's an interesting way to put it. I told him he can practice on his own car, when he gets one, I don't want others touching mine. He seemed upset by this answer but I guess it's nothing RP can solve; it's a matter of common sense.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 05:37 PM
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Oh! I didn't know there was such a thing. I will look into it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 05:36 PM
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Sorry.... he is a STEM doctorate student from an extremely unprivileged background. He doesn't need a car currently, he is a foreign exchange student and lives on campus. Every person has a 'history of minor car accidents'. We can't learn without mistakes, right? He doesn't have experience driving a car because he obtained his license shortly before moving countries to continue education.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 05:34 PM
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Sure. I won't let him drive it. ​ Maybe I explained wrong about shared tasks. We've been together for 1.5 years and we each live alone. We want to get married, yet currently 'share' nothing in common. I do, in fact, need somebody to take care of my dog as I recently got a second job. I want to give him things to do for me because it makes us more connected and he feels good when he knows he is helping. I am also afraid of intimacy. So I need to dip my toes this water of 'sharing responsibilities…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/23 05:29 PM
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You can see this phenomenom in China. Google "leftover women" and "leftover men", have fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 11:56 AM
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More and more women around me are preferring to be single than settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 11:47 AM
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Thanks! It's cute that you decided to write about the foods. How does redpill affect your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 04:43 PM
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Hi, I am sorry to hear. What made you feel the connection wasn't special enough?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 04:42 PM
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As an Ashkenazi, I must tell you what you described about his family is coming from his Yeminite side for sure!
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 04:40 PM
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Right, every word of this is true. What are your different assumptions of what a relationship should look like? Does redpill mend any of these assumptions?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 04:38 PM
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When you're alone, you can think about the deeper aspects of your life and changes you need to make to help yourself obtain the relaxation you deserve. But when you are in somebody else's presence, say, your partner - who is also busy and stressed - sometimes I find that cuddling to sleep and acting silly is enough to counteract the seriousness of life. Simple but effective.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/23 01:03 PM
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Excellent point!
/r/ExRedPill03/02/23 06:37 PM
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That's interesting! My bf's friend "Z" said sexual things about me, and the bf got insecure. Bf and Z are still friends. I just asked bf to never talk to me about Z. They can still be friends but he is dead to me. I don't trust Z anymore.
/r/ExRedPill03/02/23 06:23 PM
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To be specific: some of my female friends feel flattered, others feel disturbed, others think it's natural and therefor feel neutral about it, and some are hypervigilant and afraid. So there is no one answer to this question.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/23 04:27 PM
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If someone blatantly too old/too young approaches me for flirtation, it's disturbing! On the other hand, there were men of appropriate ages who approached me and insisted to be friendly. I say, sure! I do believe in opposite-gender friendships. Later I heard from mutual friends that they said explicitly sexual things about me.... And then there are those guys who talk with you a lot, insisting to be friends, until you mention you have a boyfriend and they disappear and act like they don't know y…
/r/ExRedPill02/02/23 04:16 PM
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Same. I don't like to be approached if a guy is too old/too young or hiding his intentions. If he is within the reasonable age and is smiley or cracks a joke, I might consider it. Also, to make the intentions clear - "I was wondering if you are single... if not, then sorry, have a good day!/ if not, then we could be friends." Just don't pretend to be 'friends' first then get sulky when we want an actual friend, not a date (happens countless times).
/r/ExRedPill02/02/23 02:53 PM
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Absolutely yes
/r/ExRedPill01/02/23 12:27 PM
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Insecurity
/r/ExRedPill01/02/23 12:24 PM
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Realize that they probably think there is something attractive about you, too! Remember some compliments people gave you <3
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 07:26 AM
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