Did anybody read The Queen's Code?

2024-11-27T20:49:49+00:00

The Queens Code is why I just joined this subreddt hahaha.

zaftig_stig · 2024-11-28T08:56:14+00:00

Finally!!!! Someone else to discuss this with.

She’s so good, after the Bible she’s had the 2nd or 3rd biggest influence on my life.

Her site is having a GREAT sale right now. 45%off a lot of stuff. I’ve taken or read most everything that’s on sale if anyone has any questions!

I want everyone to know what she teaches. But then I’m always worried when people hit the big time too.

I figure if a Searcher comes across her, then they’re worthy of her information.

sunflowergirls85 · 2024-11-27T16:20:09+00:00

I read it years ago and forgot about it but I just bought the audiobook and I’ve been listening to it the last couple days to listen to while I’m cleaning. It’s really making me re-think how much I know and understand about men. It’s like we speak completely different languages. Maybe that’s what’s been the cause of all the little arguments I’ve had with my husband over the last 20 years.

goldenperiwinkle · 2024-12-12T03:06:34+00:00

I feel like I’ve found the holy grail with this book. It’s so good - now I’m wishing there were some secret legion of women teaching this gold to every young woman 🤩🥹

Historical-Active684 · 2025-01-06T22:02:55+00:00

I am obsessed. I am new to reddit and literally just searched "Alison Armstrong" to see what came up. SO HAPPY to find this sub

FastLifePineapple · 2024-11-27T23:17:39+00:00

We had a recent discussion on Alison's Frog Farming theory/advice.

I would encourage anyone in the community, who resonates with the books/techniques, to write a field report or perhaps a book summary similar to the one's we have in our subreddit wiki for Fascinating Womanhood and For Women Only.

Why? It'll encourage more women to read the books and open more discussions threads for everyone to join in on and chat.

Downtown_Fix3285 · 2026-01-15T01:28:07+00:00

Im a man and reading the book brought tears to me. I felt so touched to be seen and understood in ways that i didnt even know. To know there are other women who appreciate this gives me hope cause all those social media platforms mostly serve to propagate the louder people, and the louder ones are usually the angry ones with their wounded perspectives.

The_Gilded_orchid · 2025-02-08T10:38:22+00:00

Adding this to my kindle right now!

Antique_Strength_488 · 2026-01-19T19:41:59+00:00

I really want someone to discuss this book with because I’m listening and find myself furious about parts. I’m struggling to not see Claudia as part of the problem here.. if you’ve read or listened, I’m hoping you’ll know what I’m talking about.

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Pristine_Boot3979 · 2025-01-14T13:45:59+00:00

A couple of days ago, I was on the verge of breaking up with my boyfriend of 5 years. Then I came across The Queen’s Code (via an Ellen Fisher podcast), and it’s completely shifted how I view my relationship dynamics.

I’ve always felt I was a bit too harsh with my words, especially toward my partner. I also hold him to a much higher standard than I do others, which I thought was normal, but now I’m questioning how that might have affected him. He often says, “Not even Superman would be good enough for you”, which hit hard, so the book’s message about honoring men has really resonated with me.

I do have a few worries that I would like some insight for:

I did a brief credentials check on Alison Armstrong and I couldn’t find much on her formal credentials. She claims decades of research, but it’s unclear what that entails. Does anyone have more details?
I asked ChatGPT about the idea that men are "single-focused" and women have "diffused awareness" and it said that this is a stereotype that oversimplifies the complexities of human behavior and biology. The book mentions masculine and feminine brains, though, meaning that women can also have masculine brains and exhibit single-focused behavior, and vice versa, which seems most realistic. I personally feel I have diffused awareness when it comes to household chores, while showing more single-focused behavior when it come to my career, for instance. How does that work? How am I supposed to recognize what kind of awareness is my partner exhibiting in different areas of life?

Keep in mind I haven't finished reading the book, so I might be jumping to conclusions, but I'd love to her your perspectives so I can keep going with an open mind. Thanks.

Ecstatic_Big_8290 · 2026-03-17T21:48:39+00:00

Just read this and while I can't say I've incorporated a lot of the advice yet I'm working on it.

Something I found fascinating is that just by stopping to apply the lessons to my own life I've changed a lot of how I view the men in my life. I've been with my other half for 9 years and have struggled so much the last 4, thinking it was all him.

While my friendships started to lean towards friends who genuinely adore their husbands or seem to at least be better than I am. I never understood the right questions to ask them either but was seeking advice so I could heal.

I'm about 2 weeks into the book. Just about to the end and wanting too re-read it again to apply everything again. It's made me realize I've been stepping on his toes but I didn't know how to articulate what I needed any differently without it going unanswered and making me feel more alone and resentful.

😂 also dying to have more conversation around the book and what people changed or didn't. What they noticed worked out or didn't.

Sweaty-Ad3114 · 2026-05-05T21:06:42+00:00

This book is terrible. It's basically a permission slip for toxic men to make excuses, blame women, and take zero acountability for their behavior.

WeAllLetUChoke · 2026-06-02T22:25:06+00:00

Alison suggested listening to the audiobook rather than reading it and it is more immersive. I agree her information is golden. Not only for relationships but to help us relate to the important men in our lives as a mother, a sister etc. I saw many bad reviews for the queens code. They said she was blaming women for men’s bad behavior. These people obviously didn't get the point. Alison isn't using broken men as examples. Alison knows some people are broken and/or still on a healing journey. Nor is Alison advocating women make excuses for abusive behavior or men who don't have care for your heart. Alison is shedding like on the average man’s thinking and motivations. Most men are whole, happy, high value individuals of honor.

Title	Did anybody read The Queen's Code?
Author	flower_power_g1rl
Upvotes	34
Comments	39
Date	November 27, 2024 9:44 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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