Hi everyone,

I’ve been dating a man for the past month going on two now. We talk often about what we are looking for and we’re on the same page about wanting marriage and kids. He is going through a divorce (I know, I know) and has filed but this marriage did a number on him. He was hoping to get a supportive wife and a big family with her but he says she was more focused on undermining him. They live separately now and their divorce should be finalized in six months. In the meantime whenever I talk about wanting to be a mom he lets me know it’s a serious job, and how my body and mind could possibly change for the worse after the pregnancy because it happened to his ex wife (she doesn’t seem to have any attachment to her child), etc. I understand he is trying to prepare me but it also feels like he isn’t sure about me, has doubts, or isn’t sure if he wants more kids…I don’t know. Am I thinking about this wrong? I can’t really prove him right or wrong without getting pregnant so I’m not sure how to deal with this situation if it happens again although this is our second having this conversation. Please help and thank you!

Edit: if it helps, we are holding off physical intimacy until we are sure about each other and he told me he loves me. I haven’t said it back yet and when I asked him about his declaration of love he agreed it was early but he had a wonderful time with me so it slipped however we should circle back in a month.