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You are the chatelaine of the household regardless of stepchildren. They ought to respect you in this role. Maybe this switch of perspective helps
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/24 04:42 PM
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I have assembled quite a few recipes per season, so Winter, Spring Summer Autumn and the in-season vegetables are accounted for. For each season 8-11 recipes (main dish) I can rotate through. Takes a ton of pressure off. And then additionally a few recipes I can do to pre-prep meals. Makes for a healthy rhythm. Maybe you can do something similar.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 09:22 PM
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Join a Support Group like AlAnon. Learn how you can deal with his addiction in a healthy way, learn how to healthily let go.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 02:34 PM
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Yes. There is a reason differently yoked relationships often fail.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/24 08:58 AM
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YourSO should feel honored t have such a wonderful person at his side - even at the worst of times keeping a level head. Hopefully he is able to show his gratitude!
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 02:31 PM
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My DH and I used to frequently visit interesting exhibitions (ok, his job basically makes it a given and very very very cheap), attend theater shows or other culture events of the free/autonomous culture Szene here. We always put aside a few €s for it each month. If he cooks, you could make a special cake? Or some 🤤 dessert? My DH and I to this day is sending each other the weather forecast, I always call if the train is running late so he does not need to worry, he gets a lunchbox each day (lef…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 05:53 PM
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My Husband cheated on me. Years ago. He shows me that he turned a new leaf. I might yet grow old with him if he keeps it up!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 02:55 PM
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Words are cheap. He did not help with the dishes when she was doing them until early next morning!
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 05:56 PM
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He did not even try Apparently! Nor did he help in the aftermath!
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 05:55 PM
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him having space and permission to say no if he doesn’t think he can actually follow through. True. But he should have told her he was unable to do so. Instead he got cranky and let her do the dishes!
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 05:54 PM
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But did he help washing up? Did he do anything in the aftermath apart from being angry and spoilt?
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 05:53 PM
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Your Husband - did he at least try to do it? Did he help you once dinner was finished? Did he apologize? Did he thank you/showed gratitude? If no he just did not deem your and effort valuable and I would totally tell him! Your opinion is valid!
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 05:52 PM
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My Advice is to really sit down and write out your strengths and weaknesses and then start mapping out your next steps. Allow for time passing but have a sequence of next steps/goals and aggressively tackle them. It will also ease your SO‘s mind and burden.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/24 01:40 PM
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Only weak minded/willed women are hypergamous! It is a bad excuse!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/24 11:07 AM
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Do the Covid test. The current strain seems to do a lot of taste-altering. Chocolate does not normally go bad.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 10:26 PM
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Do the Covid test. The current strain seems to do a lot of taste-altering. Chocolate does not normally go bad.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 10:26 PM
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Read Astrid Lindgrens Robbers Daughter. You will find a good model in Lovis.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/23 10:43 PM
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Depending on how old you/your mother are, a deep look into books about trans-generational trauma could be beneficial. It could very well be that your mother is mirroring her own upbringing and „survival“ strategies she was taught/she learned.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 06:31 PM
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If you feel nervous about your lower half, why not put the attention on a carefully styled updo/hairstyle/statement necklace?
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 06:20 PM
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We went through a lot with our child being born, traumatic labor, birth injury, and injury to me as well. Have you / your Doc ever considered post-partum depression? ​ I will openly admit that I have a lot of anxiety, I have a short temper, and I really am terrified of being alone. Yes, that sounds like something worth investigating/bringing up at your OBgyn!
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 04:37 PM
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You are quite generalizing here. Generalizing is easy, but easy is not always the right thing.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 06:21 PM
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First observe yourself, is it true? Or does he miss your signals? It is so easy to assume the worst about the person across you. If it is indeed you be gentle with yourself. Change is slow if it is to succeed.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 06:18 PM
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It is now on HIM to show you how much he values and cherishes you. He has to do the heavy lifting, always mindful of your insecurities. You just focus on selfcare and becoming even more awesome! One step towards that is AlAnon. Look - there are many many people like you and you will benefit from the support.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/23 07:48 AM
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Why do we assume he did not also keep a plate spinning during the time? Why not assume he went for ego stroking as well? Most men do! !
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 09:50 AM
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Cotton Underwear does come with lace as well ;) my SO was quite sceptival of non wired bras, but once I found some nice lace ones he was quite on board ;)
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 08:31 PM
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What is it to you? But yes, my SO got to celebrate his M.A. on my Birthday and took over my celebration a few days later.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 12:56 PM
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Men are wired to put a job before wife. That is the cold hard truth.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 12:07 PM
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Hartzer=receiver of Social Subsidence
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 02:17 PM
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Hopefully. But never be sure - being too trusting means becoming a hartzer….
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 02:17 PM
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Sounds so cynical but has a lot of truth to it. Still, I will do my PhD. and I will not give up my name and academic success to feed some man’s ego!
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 01:38 PM
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Sounds like it is not possible for him to set aside work. Is his job headed by boundary stomping bosses? If not - it falls on him to make the changes.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 10:40 AM
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Clean up your eating. I am currently doing a „seasonal/regional + whatever is cheap diet. I am eagerly awaiting all the pumpkin, cabbage and beetroots. You can bake casserole dishes that can be bulked up by carbs or kept quite vegetable heavy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 12:59 PM
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He sounds like an addict so - no, not HER problem. He is just an addict.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 06:48 AM
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Audiobooks for the win. I hate washing dishes so listening to audiobooks is nice.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 08:02 AM
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I am in a partnership. We currently work through a hard phase.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 10:01 AM
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Some men have not earned us ! I know red pill sees them as prizes but your SO seems like a consolation prize! Why is he demanding this? Which are his internal wounds that he can not adress and care for without putting you down? I would reconsider his worth as a partner.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 06:12 AM
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Wise People will listen to other people’s perspectives without feeling disrespected. They also accept good counsel to improve their thinking. A man that feels disrespected when he is asked to understand a woman’s perspective/listen to her is not wise!
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 05:59 AM
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My father is vegetarian/pescatarian so I never learned how to cook meat. I can do fish - but meat I will not touch with a three foot pole. My SO sometimes does meat, but as it is so pricy we rarely have it. His family is „extreme worker“ - eaters and prefer meat, carbs and fat to produce.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 09:14 PM
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Oatmeal. The traditional breakfast my SO insists on. Or he eats porridge….. I used to bake bread for myself, I love good German bread but sourdough is beyond me…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 09:10 PM
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Either with red tomato sauce or yoghurt sauce. I despise mayonnaise as it fattens you up with nothing and does not keep. With yoghurt I can do a noodle salad that yields a meal for two days easily. (Refrigerated of course) I love corn, and sweet carrots in it and of course Paprika and tomatoes!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 09:06 PM
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I would tell him. HE has to improve himself as HE is the one who DECIDED to cheat! It is a GIFT that you are considering reconciliation! What makes him deserving?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 06:03 AM
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Noodle Salad! And Fish. Baked or cooked does not matter.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 04:59 PM
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My SO has cats. I grew up with a cat, I knew how to read cat, just not his. Because all cats are slightly different in reacting to stimuli/situations. It took me a few hours until cats curiosity won and I got my initial inspection. I passed - cat wanted to cuddle and play. Then I had to defend my workspace. And my seat on the sofa. Gentle but strict. SO shot a few nice photos of me trying to get the younger cat off my keyboard mid-zoom. ;) I think being willing to read up on cat/dog/bird specifi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 10:32 AM
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I am shocked by how most women in this forum here view their mothers as either „narcissist„ or degrade and talk badly about them in a way that is so SO toxic! Without any reflection, introspection or empathy! Not one bad word about the fathers though! Do you even know the specifics of their marriages? If one of them cheated or resorted to violence? If there was unhappiness and melancholy? Well, this judgmental tone is deeply upsetting and unbecoming! My mother was not perfect. But despite that a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 08:47 AM
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Noodle or potato salad. Not with heaps of mayo but with yoghurt!
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 08:03 AM
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He needs to find out why he was able to excuse his abysmal behaviour and the deceit. It is on HIM to heal himself.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 07:56 AM
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I am unable to respect my SO who lets his brother do the thinking for him. If brother is weary of me - ok, maybe it could be communication. But to blindly follow His Opinion? Makes SO weak and not trustworthy!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 05:18 PM
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A nice salad with baked nuts, fresh berries and the most flavorful salad makes a great side dish!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 02:44 PM
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He is projecting the worst case on you. Every woman and her body react differently to pregnancy and childbirth. That is a fact. Sure, you can influence things but there are factors you can not control. I would tread carefully.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 12:00 PM
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SO and I visited a lot of Museums. We took advantage of University offers (free theater, highly reduced music/concert tickets etc.) Sometimes I made chocolate rolls, or brought some savory snacks. When we went to eat traditional cuisine we both paid - usually him for food and I for desert ;)
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 11:56 AM
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Look up AlAnon for yourself. Expecially the three C‘s.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/23 02:05 PM
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Full of themselves a bunch of angry men fantasize about things they never will have. A loving relationship with a wonderful partner who loves and respects them. Do not take this as fact, take it as an incentive to show them just how awesome you can be,
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 07:55 AM
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Are you taking/using hormonal birth control? Because that is another thing I would watch carefully. Not all are created equal and the right fit might be what is missing.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 02:33 PM
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It was always the woman who kept stock. The ones overseeing the cellar and cupboards as well as the purse. They knew what was there, what was needed and what was needed by who. And they made little work well in the long run. My mother taught me how to lead a House when I was young, we lived on the remains of a farm that was being reformed. It was not until Money got the power that it does today that men want to control the purses. I learned math with practical examples early. The financial aspec…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 02:30 PM
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For anyone with a good command of the German language, the Dr.Oetker Kochschule Is a wonderfull Cookbook. The old versions are better thanks new!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 05:11 PM
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I have some Water Color Pictures which I laminated and use as Placemats. Just three Colors, wet in wet. Very nice. Is it quirky? Yes, but in a good way. Another thing I made in school is my copper cake ladle.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 04:42 PM
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If the return is true gratitude - yes, then serving our men is good. Unfortunately most men lack the gratitude!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 11:50 AM
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A fancy-cut Oven Potato with a rich Salad and a nice herb-Joghurt sauce…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/23 12:09 PM
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Are there resources on campus? Is he actually talking with the prof/mentor? I know it is scary but expecially his prof/mentor is being paid to give advice! Gently guide him to take advantage of those.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/23 11:38 AM
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Any boys will be taught gratitude. (Girls will learn it from anyone else and be expected to be overly so anyways). Girls I will teach -no work =lazy-.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 07:48 PM
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From observing Friends and Family: 1) If Father takes the baby let it be his decision where he goes. Sometimes places like a museum, a brisk walk along the river, the hardware store, the Tonhalle etc. are great places for children. My Uni Mate takes his daughter when he visits museums. (1 year old) LO sleeps like a stone 99% of the time ;) 2) The bag of essentials is always stocked. Nothing important is missing, nothing used up. That makes it less daunting to go out. 3) Build a Network to time-s…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 08:47 PM
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I am not a seamstress but I managed an a line skirt from a thick wooly fabric. And I love the culottes I found on a yard sale. The most luxurious velvet/curdroy fabric. I pair them with thick fleece tights…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 08:17 PM
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I wish you peace with the wonderful children you gave birth to. Nothing will change if you give birth to an heir, it will be your girls that will suffer and most likely turn feminist to spite him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 09:14 AM
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I wonder how many relationships between western and Arab people fail because of different dispositions / lack of respect for respective cultures. And with cultures I mean certain big books…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 08:19 AM
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Well, he did basically kill them. Let’s not sugarcoat it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 08:07 PM
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https://www.spendwithpennies.com/easy-homemade-lasagna/ my SO‘s favourite, another one of his is https://www.daringgourmet.com/rouladen-recipe/ my SO‘s favourite, another one of his is https://www.daringgourmet.com/rouladen-recipe/
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 07:09 PM
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Be prepared to fail. Meat is difficult, you really have to hit the right thoroughness. I love the easy Lasagna Recipe, meat but the easy kind. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 07:06 PM
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I work with our cultural Heritage. It is a job that requires passion and fire - because competition is fierce. You really have to burn for your topic . I do not work outside in the field but more in the bureaucracy.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 08:59 AM
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I paid for my big Salad and when my SO asked if we could share a dessert he paid this in full.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 06:38 AM
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I see it almost the same - with the slight deviation that many men do not think about the impact of their plans on those around them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 10:54 AM
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Spread your wings beyond university. Go to local festivities, volunteer. Maybe try some blue collar men? If they notice that you are not arrogantly Academic they will be quick to flock.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 04:03 PM
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I keep my nails short-ish and well taken care of but rarely apply color to them. Part of it is my job where I need them short and low maintenance. On the other hand, I like the 5 things rule. And to me nails rank lower in importance than a nice pair of earrings or a nice necklace. My SO dislikes nails that are too long. He sees those wearing them as lazy + flashy. Only one voice though. make sure it is your napkin you drop;) something that is genuinely you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 03:21 PM
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Sometimes I think this forum is only seeking the flaws in women’s behaviour. Sometimes there are genuine problems in the surrounding circumstances or just things that need to be looked at without making it a big thing.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 03:06 PM
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Why are we trying to put blame on someone? Why not just acknowledge that often it is less about other matters than the simple what do we eat? ? I have 50 tried and true recipes from my Home Economics classes from school. I improved o many of them, ingredient wise. I love to choose from these. Sometimes I might just cook my way through the book - or I look for bargains and skip some recipes or rearrange the order. But I always know that if my SO wants something specific that he will ask for it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 01:03 PM
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You have his best interest at heart. Unfortunately his mind is set. He will either notice problems on his own or not at all. And he might suffer in silence. I would just provide a listening ear and respect the hell out of people who downsize/change career in front of him!
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 09:06 AM
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It is your Husbands job to stand up to his daughter. Because HE tolerated this inexcusable behaviour! YOU ARE THE WOMAN OF THE HOUSE! Ashe is his daughter, at 15 still a CHILD.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/23 10:52 AM
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The main annoying thing with this though is often he wont clean up after himself and it annoys me which makes me not want to clean (ie. Beard shavings all over the sink and floor left for a whole week) That is low. A sign of immaturity and no education by his parents.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/23 01:48 PM
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Ms. Moneypenny. Get smart financially.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/23 01:44 PM
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Find a good, trustworthy doc. You might have to search a bit but it is worth it. Not many docs truly care for non hormonal….
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 05:24 PM
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Same here, the copper ball is awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 05:23 PM
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Or are you just jealous?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/23 07:32 AM
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Ask her if he ever had home economics in school. Either she will answer yes or no, maybe telling you if she showed him. If not maybe ask if she could show BOTH of you how to tax. In regards to searching for a flat, ask her to share her wisdom, tale what you need and ignore the rest,
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/23 07:35 AM
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Important skills like budgeting, housekeeping, taxes etc. are not even mentioned in most schools. Here, maybe Hauptschule might have a lesson on how to talk to your Jobcenter but that is it. In your position I would talk with his mother. Tell her that he is not knowing how to approach XX. Here the catholic women’s education center offers „House-Economics for men“. That might be a good start. And what is wrong with approaching searching for a flat/house together? If it is you who gently steers it…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 07:20 AM
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Housework keeps pound off! - at least that is what one of my Aunts say. And I found it to be true for me. I work in another town and purposely Exit the tram a few stops before my goal to walk. grocery shopping is done by walking and using a grocery-stroller.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 07:08 AM
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Gender Reveal and to a lesser extent baby shower are mostly about bombarding the new parents/mothers with advice and stuff. Most of the stuff is not necessary.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 10:41 AM
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Look into transgenerational trauma as well!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 09:45 AM
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Joining a rock climbing gym for exercise and socialization I would postpone that until after birth and postpartum. But that is just me. On frugality: Look at what Baby things you will really need. It is less than anticipated. Sometimes gently used baby clothes are resold at children’s flea markets.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 06:50 AM
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GYN. ASAP!
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 10:53 AM
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The true gift of love is caring and nurturing someone without any expectation of recognition. We do it silently, discreetly, and without complaint. We don't call attention to it. We don't expect recognition. If recognition is received, we're likely embarrassed by it because that isn't the intent of our actions. Yes. Caring and nurturing. Giving him space to breathe, supporting a productive environment and dealing with meal preparation. Not running interference for someone not able to self-Organi…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/23 08:04 AM
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If I have to run around because „xy is urgent and I forgot could you please fetch it - you are nearby„ or „I need xy drive me„ I expect at least a thank you. Better yet - he tries to organise himself better I am not his servant.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/23 07:42 AM
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Thanks. I will reflect on your post. Do you mention "even more since we are not yet even engaged" often? No. I do not mention it. Throughout your relationship he believed that you supported him because you love and care about him. And it is this belief that generates gratitude, strengthens relationships and motivates men to reciprocate and make their relationships permanent. However, in the last 6 months, this belief has been challenged. One of the reasons I scaled back my support (spoiling him …
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 07:20 PM
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I will - as I did before- reflect on this very enlightening post.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 07:01 PM
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I just need him to not assume I will cook, keep the house and drive him around. I need him to show me his love and treat me with respect. I told him today, after cooling down and with the intend to stay calm and collected. He left without a word, already Late for whatever.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 01:45 PM
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Did you tell him that you wanted to celebrate your birthday today? Did you remind him that your birthday was coming on the same weekend as his graduation celebration? I told him that I would gladly let him have the Saturday and celebrate my birthday one day later. On Thursday and again on Friday. Does he have a history of forgetting your birthday and have you ever communicated that it bothers you? No. And he deliberately forgot. Did not have a gift for me either. My Family is very very skeptical…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 01:41 PM
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I am sad because I asked for a simple birthday after celebrating his successes. I wanted flowers and a gift. Normal things. He did not even congratulate!
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 10:39 AM
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My Opinion of that man just took a nosedive.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 01:20 PM
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All the reasons you listed are valid reasons for ending the marriage /relationship. But not for cheating. Cheating is never ok.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 05:46 PM
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People who cheat are flawed. Cheating is a series of deliberate acts - and as such ALWAYS the fault of the person who cheats.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 05:43 PM
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I dye my hair something that closely resembles my natural color, just a tint more true brown.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 07:47 PM
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My Mother is a prime example of aging gracefully. She had dark hair and quickly tanning skin that wrinkled early. She now has a mix of grey and dark hairs which she keeps long and in spectacular buns. (Over the top bun cages, sticks etc.) She dresses appropriately but never old. Bold colors and patterns for the win;) But it is also her demeanor. Feminine yet strong. Her garden is her pride and joy, does wonders for strength and stamina. My Papa and Mama are still totally in love with each other …
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 07:45 PM
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Here I see very very few men that attended university with a woman that does NOT at least attended the Gymnasium as well. Realschule is pushing it. Women who attended a Hauptschule would need to be a solid 10 in looks for any man with Niveau to date them.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 09:21 PM
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Only do it because it calls you. Or you feel the pull. Otherwise you will most likely struggle. My father told me that had I been a boy - if I chose to become military I would have been on my own from then on.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 10:11 AM
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Giving fields like philosophy, fine Arts or History your all is not less hard. It just yields less financially secure jobs. If you give any of those fields your very best - you will succeed though. Because they make excellent part time/side jobs for when you need them if you keep current and at the pulse of science.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 09:04 AM
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Loose this shirt, not your color at all, makes you look washed out and gaunt.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/23 12:58 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂😂🤣🧐
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/23 06:20 PM
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Theoretically we could. But we would be last in line everywhere else/everyone else would be considered before us. And 2023 is a very in-demand year and there is still backlog from the corona-years. Most also expect, if not outright require you to at least have a connection the town.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 05:29 AM
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Food for thought. Thanks. I will certainly talk with him again. SO has one big flaw, he is unable to say no if people ask him to help with/do something.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 08:11 PM
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Wedding as soon as possible after he gets the papers. Which should be in June/early July. We should have reserved a time-slot for the wedding at the courthouse about 3 months ago. (Town only has so many open slots per month)
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 01:33 PM
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Cloak of Invisibility ;)
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 01:24 PM
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Ok, maybe I am very much mistaken but the symbol of a solid Wall just does not work for me. To me it is like a Cloak making us less and less visible to men. Maybe even a sign to avoid us. But it comes slowly and some manage to still be seen and appreciated with it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 01:18 PM
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​ It brings with it a political/feminist statement, no matter who you are and creates a dilemma for naming your children. Yes, I know. I know. I spend quite a time researching other possibilities but none will truly work for me. Laws/Regulations here are pretty insane. Please refrain from assuming things about my academic merits. But I can not put my whole life on hold waiting on him. I need to earn money and my academics are important to me. First generation Academic/Workers Child. My parents a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 12:59 PM
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I did my own masters degree last year. While managing the household and supportinghim through his Bachelors degree. Ok, my topic is more theoretical and text based but that does not mean I do not know about the Workload.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 11:10 AM
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He can’t help that you suddenly want a secret, uncommunicated alteration to that agreement. ​ agreed was wedding directly after his degree. That would have meant reserving a slot around 3 months ago.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 11:10 AM
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is there away way you could just put the whole idea of marriage/proposal out of your mind and continue to make yourself the best version of you that you could be? Yes. I will most likely go ahead and register the start of my Ph.D - Endeavour in June, with my last name. Hyphenating after marriage will be necessary now. The gift of taking his name as my only last-name is one I can not make anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 11:08 AM
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Thank you. I read your comments and appreciate them. I will carry the advice with me. Please look at what I wrote for clarification.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 11:04 AM
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Many asked for clarification: He stated the „we get married the moment I have my Masters.“ As in signing the papers. Getting married in a courthouse needs to be booked at least 6 months in advance. The deadline for this already passed in January. There are no more free slots. Here I have to give the official last name when registering my intention to do the Ph.D. , no nome de plume allowed. As it stands now with the delay, I will need to hyphenate, which we wanted to avoid. ​ he is probably bogg…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 11:02 AM
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You are 5 month after giving birth. That puts things into perspective. I think making small effective changes is smarter then trying do be 100%. Prepare breakfast the evening before. What time does he get up? you are parenting a baby. Therefore keeping order in the flat needs to be easy. Ask Someone to watch baby for you and do a deep clean. Hire help if you must. Then spread chores over the week. If your SO is home he has to clean up after himself/make sure versteine is put back where he took i…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 09:09 AM
1

He better not interfere with my hobbies! Makes him loose value very fast!!! If his hobby escalates again I will point it out to him. My hobbies are not as intense and time consuming.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 08:41 PM
1

Well, then a practicum / work?experience is in order! He also needs to look at job-fairs.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 05:55 PM
2

I find that men usually are the ones with unrealistic expectations! Expecially when paired with the inability to stay monogamous!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 07:47 AM
1

He has no finished education? Or Trade-Journeyman status? I would be very concerned!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 07:45 AM
8

Respect his schedule and timing. — I am giving him so much of my own time and I get very angry if he wastes more then that on frivolous things. My time is valuable too and I respect him less and less the more he wastes my time.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 07:06 PM
1

I love the band Clannad, their Album In a Lifetime is wonderfull.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 02:42 PM
0

Why always black or white?all or nothing? Could you set out the tools and ingredients for breakfast so he just needs to assemble his lunchbox? Or cook big meals on Sundays so he can warm it up during the week.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 07:29 PM
5

At the university here many doctorate candidates are pregnant or with young children. Why not look for a partner and study at the same time? If you balance it well it makes you more flexible.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 04:32 PM
1

Would a tiny house work for you? I lived in my Uncles Schrebergartenhaus during a summer when my flat had to be renovated.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 09:06 AM
1

The question is - is he full of appreciation for the effort she makes? Or does he not notice?
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 07:51 AM
1

Ok, I live in Germany. High Risk Area. I always have a scarf when being out there alone. A headscarf. It affords me invisibility in certain areas. Generally try to pack smart.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 07:40 AM
3

My SO can absolutely stay at his friends homes, but I expect him to tell me BEFORE. He starts drinking about staying there. It is basic respect to inform your spouse of you not coming home!
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 07:35 AM
14

I used hormonal birth control. The first was ok, I had no appetite and lost weight. But my Hair fell out in bundles. I switched. Next one one gave me nausea, made me irritated. I switched again. I felt great, but gained weight and stored water. Making me feel horrible about my body. But I was mentally healthy. It was not until I came across the copper ball that I switched to non-hormonal. BC. 3 years out and my cycle is just now stabilizing. As is my weight and psyche. I feel beautiful and conte…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 07:31 AM
1

It is HIS quest to battle his insecurities not yours. Be yourself and communicate your intentions.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 05:51 PM
3

Unfortunately this means if it was not modeled he is unlikely to know how to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/23 09:32 PM
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This is an area where he is struggling. Man supporting his Partner is something he never knew or grew up with. Most Women in his life were only supporters but never got supported. So he does not have the knowledge on how to be supportive, he often makes tone-deaf comments and tends to compare or have standards that are basically insane.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/23 09:32 PM
1

How about a good audiobook on bird songs and how to recognize them?
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/23 12:03 AM
1

Even if it is pricy, good knives, stable and even pots and pans and wooden stir spoons are a must. Spices are something that you need to familiarize slowly with. As for good beginner recipes, try noodle or potato salad, red beets and baked potatoes, cabbage with cheese… A good starting point are home-economics books. (I loved my big „Dr. Oetkar Kochschule) Those show you not only how to cook but also how to do it efficently.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/23 12:01 AM
1

Get proactive, shop around for a good, open minded OB/Gyn and discuss aiding your circle with herbal teas, or gentle plant based medicine. If you do counseling ask if he/she can recommend a OB/Gyn, many women suffer from side effects / long term effects of HBC.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 02:17 PM
1

Nothing. I gift myself Me—Time.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/23 05:52 AM
2

A Masters Degree can be useful. France seems like a pretty academic focused country.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 08:30 AM
2

I am working all day that day. My SO is also at work and since there is a mad carnival season here we use the „non-carnival thermal bath fun“ — discount and spend the evening relaxing😎.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 11:51 AM
6

What if he takes baby on long walks? Is baby swimming with dad an option? Addictive hobbies are a thing, fishing is closely related to gambling in its lure. Same element of uncertain luck. Give AlAnon’s three C’s a chance! You need consult with your midwife/doc. Men too can suffer from post baby depression.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/23 06:21 PM
1

Get your hormonal status checked out! Your thyroid might be off. Do you prevent via hormones? This might be a contributing factor but consult medical advice! Get secon and third opinions!
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 08:44 AM
2

And the reverse is true as well! Many men were never taught to appreciate all the things the women and expecially their woman does for them!!! Gratitude comes natural to women, we are socialized to be gratefull and appreciate. We need to teach the boys to raise grateful men!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 09:00 PM
22

Women are not zombies on hormones and Neanderthal DNA! We Humans are beings with free will and self control! I hate the whole „All Women are like that!“ „Nothing you can do about it - accept it!“ To me it is our responsibility to employ our brain and fight this false belief that is so frequently used.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 09:41 AM
2

The pant problem is easy to fix with inserting stretchable into the seam when it becomes necessary! I love drinking water with real, freshly pressed citrus. And a pinch of salt. Expecially during summer, in a hurry water with a tablespoon of vinegar also works. That is, by the way like the Roman Legions kept hydrated!
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 11:38 AM
5

Urinella — my Answer to urinating in outside environments and dirty sanitary rooms. You do not need special hiking pants, loose pants with good fabric work just as well. I second good, insulating but breathable Everything. Also, the backpack should be for females because we are build differently and need other support. Keep hydrated.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 08:03 AM
3

I choose my clothes. But I do take into consideration the fact my SO loves cashmere. Soft to the touch, expensive looking and so so so warm. I love it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 06:31 PM
1

The fact is HE MESSED UP. NO Amount of sugarcoating helps. If he behaved maturely he would have either gotten milk when she reminded him or told her he would not.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 03:09 PM
2

Encourage a Work stays at Work Attitude. No phone on and no work calls beyond paid on-call duty if there is any. You are allowed to bite down on this one!!!
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/22 06:48 PM
12

If he considers you as a low ranking priority that happens. Use those days to become awesome! Educate yourself, socialise, enrich your life with culture Or adventure.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 01:44 PM
4

AA and therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 12:44 PM
2

Alcohol is the culprit. So he should get sober - he might in his own time.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 12:43 PM
3

Remember: I DIDN’T CAUSE IT I CAN’T CONTROL IT I CAN’T CURE IT Alcohol is his Problem - not yours! It just affects you but you are powerless. So keep doing what YOU can do. Sex is something that works if both are happy, so do not feel bad if you can not be intimate while he is drunk.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 12:42 PM
3

I love ikea for long lasting candles. They are very well made and burn even.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 07:20 AM
2

I set SO up with leftovers from evening meal. He expecially loves the soups.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 08:22 PM
2

Summer weather — I love my linen pants! They are so versatile and can go from business appropriate to festive without much ado! They are cooling and comfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 07:00 PM
1

Amazon is a hard workplace. But checking in this early is extreme.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 09:11 PM
1

My father did the overseer at bath time on saturday evening. Mama used this time as a opportunity to vacuum without having me underfoot.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/22 09:25 PM
1

Unfortunately many fabrics are just weird these days. I buy second hand designer brands - for SO at least as he needs reliable shirts that withstand frequent washing. At which temperature do you wash the items? And if he buys “disposable shirts” he will ALWAYS GET disposable quality!
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/22 11:52 AM
-1

Him being afraid for his vehicle before you would raise a big red flag for me. If my SO did this I would reevaluate my relationship based on the fact he does not care if I am ok.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/22 11:48 AM
1

Do NOT disregard medical advice and push too far now! Use the time by improving through other means.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 08:07 AM
9

Plenty Aerobic Dance for women…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 04:55 PM
2

Respect. A big thing here as well but here it is him who made me loose face in front of my work partners. And our bosses. I am now considered a weak, pushover woman who is dependent on her man. Considered a weakness in business as I am a negotiator and my skills are important.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/22 09:01 AM
1

Are you vegan? I find soy milk makes me PMS so bad… soy anything in fact.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/22 04:56 PM
2

See, we do invest the money wisely and keep our home well. I hear you on the fridge, ours is full of SO’s “work ran over” meals. I sometimes freeze excess and SO takes it to work with him after defrosting overnight.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 01:56 PM
2

I am soo glad to stI’ll have fresh salad growing in the garden. And we are drowning in tomatoes so I asked my SO to help collect glasses for preserving. (He is quite good for collecting preservation-glassware ;) )
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 12:15 PM
2

Walking is good, I have run errands by foot and Public Transport today. I rarely go just walking, I need to entertain or enrich myself by music, audiobooks etc.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 12:13 PM
1

With my SOs crazy work schedule (Changing shift system) we sleep in seperate rooms three nights a week. We have a healthy sex life and sooo much quality time that it does not matter though!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/22 05:01 PM
1

I greatly respect his sense of solidarity and compassion but also his righteous anger when it comes to workers rights. Many families here even with a specialist income fear the winter - yet my man is busy rallying them for change! He is also very talented with organising and teamwork whereas I tend to lone wolf at work.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/22 04:59 PM
1

Your man should boast about you caring for him when he is overworked and with low energy to his peers.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/22 04:57 PM
2

Here men from Slavic countries are seen as more uncouth and primal then our native men. I do not doubt there is a kernel of truth to it. That being said, vet vet vet! A man sees himself as a prize - if he is a consolation prize you might not want to compete!
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 10:12 PM
2

By our Christian dominated upbringing (all the book religions really) we have a set of morals and tabus. Men coming to orgasm is ok, necessary for reproduction. Women coming to orgasm happens mostly with extra work. It is considered unnecessary and hard on the man. Your post is a stellar example of how these views shape our thinking even today.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/22 05:53 PM
1

That is the employer dividing you, setting up expectations and demanding you all go above and beyond to keep your job. I worked in a field that also has a very competition oriented flair around it while being a care job first and foremost.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 10:21 AM
3

The key is the sorting. Sort the laundry in the bedroom into several baskets so no one has to dig around in the dirty laundry for too long. I refuse to iron. Unless it is work clothes that need to be ironed to be presentable. If I have to I listen to audiobooks or watch TV.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 10:15 AM
2

Gently, I would never buy something like this for my SO because I do not know his preferences. Scent is one of the most difficult things to consider with gifting.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/22 05:20 PM
1

My SO knows he cheats he looses everything. I do not accept adultery.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/22 09:27 AM
6

Well, most suffer from toxic positivity and perfectionism. Also, parenting always gets complicated because well, not every child and parent is acting the same.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 03:03 PM
1

I just believe that I do not deserve to be manipulated by my partner so — he strays he pays.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 02:59 PM
1

We should be aware of the manipulation to counter it in a healthy manner.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 12:48 PM
1

Men and Bathrooms… seriously, my personal experience pointa to men becoming blind to the necessary evil. No, once a week is minimum.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 10:51 AM
1

Men manipulate with dread. So the female is free of manipulation — the male variant not!
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 10:48 AM
1

Is there anything that threatens your marriage? Is he attending AA? Are you attending AlAnon? To me this is a huge yellow flag!
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/22 10:45 AM
1

You sound like me. I need an official work schedule even when I work from home. Showered, brushed ready. Also: why not get up earlier and do breakfast together?
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 08:50 AM
4

I do not like that advice from L. Doyle. She negates boundaries which are essential for the health and well-being. Ideally Husband/Wife does not need to be told those Personal red lines as there should be mutual respect!! Some people are just sooo energy draining and I think one should always reflect if it is a the case as well.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/22 06:45 AM
2

Not career but work for money: freelance work for a museum as a guide. I love my job!!!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 08:04 PM
8

Your relationship is over. He will never trust you, maybe he is even cheating on you with your „Friend“. Become amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 07:59 AM
4

You need to look at your dark side, for yourself, not for your spouse. Put your needs first and take care of them. Live an amazing life, grow as a person, find good hobbies.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 07:56 AM
1

Being not impressed and being grateful to receive delicious food and appreciating the thought behind it are not mutually exclusive!
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 11:18 AM
1

A word of caution, does he share with his buddies about sex? Most men like to brag or vent.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 06:45 AM
1

Contact lenses are not forever! I am unable to wear them because I got dry eye syndrome and the doc told me to stop!
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/22 07:57 AM
1

ONCE an addict Always an addict no matter the substance! I would seek a support group to get perspective and encourage him to attend 12 steps meetings!
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/22 07:55 AM
2

I just bought a massively oversized linen shirt. (All the rage here at the moment). I will pair it with cute shorts.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 08:37 AM
1

You did the smart thing, gathering evidence. Next time secure the site as well.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 09:47 PM
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