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curiouszm/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 11:30 PM
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curiouszm/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 09:41 AM
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Success Storiescuriouszm/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 07:52 PM
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curiouszm/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 02:39 PM
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Living Situationscuriouszm/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 02:39 AM
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Dating After Divorcecuriouszm/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 11:21 PM
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Living Situationscuriouszm/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 05:14 PM
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curiouszm/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 03:27 PM
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curiouszm/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 12:40 PM
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You will never regain the trust and you'll keep suffering if you stay. I see my divorce as dodging a bullet because my ex was a liar and was never gonna stop cheating. Protect yourself from future pain, plan your exit, she won't stop.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 10:50 AM
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Very unlucky mate, wishing you all the best...
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 12:28 PM
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Nothing to regret here, you'd have lost yourself staying in a toxic relationship and that'd affect your relationship with your loved ones and goes a long way ruining your life experiences. She didn't cooperate on multipleoccasions, she's out. When women decide they're out, no amount of begging will make them change their mind, they'll gladly go to the new guy and expect you to act normal or still have a connection with them(probably as a backup) - there's tonnes of stories here that point in tha…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/26 08:39 PM
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Relax mate...
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 08:55 PM
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You will suffer for a while, don't hurt yourself, better yourself instead. It's a long process but eventually you'll get through it. Remember every step counts during the suffering, a short walk, an activity, isolation is one of the worst things you'd do to yourself... I suffered for a couple of months, out of work and major knee surgery all at once, a couple of months out I'm now good.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 01:43 PM
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I'm (32M) my partner was a few months older, we dated for 3 years which was great, she waited for me to finish all projects I was working on so we could travel to her country together just after getting married. September of 2024 we travelled, 7 months after the marriage she cheated, at that point I was ready to leave as she didn't want to take accountability. My money was tight, I was only going to get a flight back home and remain with nothing, plus the time it takes to complete a divorce I wa…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 04:59 PM
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Well done, I'm happy for you and best wishes...
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 12:28 PM
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That's so true. Just signed an hour ago, we're done, all went as planned, nothing lost and we move on as independent humans.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 09:05 AM
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Fortunately we didn't have kids. Just finished an hour ago, all went well.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 09:02 AM
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If you want kids, they can be made without signing a contract that's designed to destroy men. There's nothing in it for us, only for the females. Check out John Griffin Life2.0 on YouTube.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 08:14 PM
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The person you were with for almost 13 years no longer exists, time to learn being single and enjoying it. When you aren't in that sad state it might be helpful to sit quietly and ask yourself "what did I really like about her/being with her?" I realised I was miserable for somebody that mostly gave me a difficult time to be around her, never appreciated anything I did... That got me enjoying my solitude quicker than I thought. Best of luck bud.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/26 08:10 PM
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I've also failed to understand their perspective, seems like an addiction.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 01:54 PM
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Exactly, my friend has 2 kids but he has a strong feeling she's planning to leave him...
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/26 02:17 PM
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He's 43, what's trt?
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 07:29 PM
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Hell no... What sort of family is that?
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 01:17 PM
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Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 11:18 AM
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😄 seems it only applies to them.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 11:16 AM
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I'm sorry about that, thanks for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 11:16 AM
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An absolutely selfish move from her. We'd get ridiculed if the same request was the other way round, but we're disposable so it's all good.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 10:23 AM
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I've heard them say that 😄
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 10:20 AM
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That sounds about right.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 10:19 AM
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😆 that's what they say.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 09:59 AM
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It's better to jerk off mate. I'm not sure how the saying goes... Fool me once, twice? 😄😄😄 but it's true.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/26 12:11 AM
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You got this bro...
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 03:36 PM
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😄 I'm not gonna tell them a thing, but I think their time will definitely come though.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 03:10 PM
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Nothing more to contribute, please listen to all the boys here. Don't ruin both your kids' and your life.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 03:04 PM
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😄😄😄 I've been thinking about it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 12:02 PM
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Thank you, I'll definitely not allow the isolation to become a habit. We'll be fine 🙂
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 08:23 AM
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Good you spoted the negative shit. My ex brought up the idea of opening up our marriage after she met someone and her closest friend who's been left by a couple of men who suddenly disappeared was encouraging my ex saying "yeah, he seems like a negative guy" — the same girl who told my ex a couple of months ago "he is a nice guy and smart" This girl is a heavy drinker, parties more than a day weekly, has no control over drug use offered by strangers at parties, zero ambition and entirely depende…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 10:10 PM
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Shit, that must suck man... Hang in there and I hope things get better soon.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 02:18 PM
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What sort of lie worth divorcing for got to the 20th?
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/26 01:11 AM
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How does she know when you're having an event? If it's through social media, maybe block her on all accounts that might share the event?
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 06:57 PM
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I also started with anger, then transitioned to sadness and fear of the unknown future. This rollercoaster went on for almost a year. I'm now way better and feel good about splitting, but the sadness still kicks in every now and then. When these emotions are really intense, I take a walk, go swimming, simply just to preoccupy my mind with something else after realizing staying in the house, alone, abroad with no close friends that are frequently available made it worse. I'm not a parent, so mayb…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 08:16 PM
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John Griffin (Life 2.0) helped me feel better about myself during these dark times. She decided not to tell her family and we hid the bullshit for months. A lot of good advice has already been given. It feels really long waiting for the conclusion of all this, take care of yourself and you'll be fine.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 11:00 AM
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Best of luck bro...
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 11:51 AM
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I totally understand, I'd escape too... All the best.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:29 AM
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Obviously my situation isn't as bad as yours, but sounds similar to what I'm going through. Girlfriend of three years, living in my country. Those 3 years were fun, we played sports, traveled the region, all good. She had the idea of marriage, we did it - then traveled to her country for the first time together. Her stress level sky rocketed, verbal abuse on a regular basis... she had blamed the financial imbalance for that, but even after I got my work permit and found a decent job, the bullshi…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 09:42 AM
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I don't know your story, but if she left for someone else and you still believe these things you're telling yourself "she's my baby" "she's mine..." You'll suffer so much while she moves on with her current partner. I was going down hill fast and stopped caring for myself, till I realised the person that caused my suffering doesn't give a shit and is enjoying life with her new partner. I discarded the person I married off my head, that person does not exist anymore. I'm focused on stabilising my…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 11:02 PM
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Well done bro, thanks for sharing your perspective. I've been down for a couple of months but the past month I really noticed and began to enjoy the piece and quiet without her. In a month we'll be done and I cannot wait.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 08:59 PM
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Interesting... How long have you been divorced and did you lose a lot?
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 08:36 PM
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Congratulations, life shouldn't be that painful. Happy for you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 10:17 PM
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Mine wanted me to be friends with her and her current partner after exiting the marriage cause she was requesting an open relationship. There's no way I'm doing that. I can talk to her with a ton of boundaries of course but I'm really not interested in hanging out with the guy that still went ahead pursuing a married woman. Both of them are at fault, but my ex helped me a lot before messing up, so there's still a bit of room in me talking to her.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 07:16 PM
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Try checking out John Griffin Life2.0 on YouTube, I think he's played a huge roll in my recovery. I'm still working on myself for sure but I'm in a better place than I was a couple of months ago.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 12:20 AM
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To some extent I've lived with a similar expectation on people due to some hard betrayal situations in my professional life. I feel you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 09:08 PM
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I'm glad you found somebody you've been happy with for such a long time. Best wishes, thanks for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 05:47 PM
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😄😄😄
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 05:45 PM
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Love them dude, I also love that you have something for both genders. Best wishes...
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 03:57 PM
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It's so much work I feel.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 03:54 PM
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😄😄😄 that's a creative way to tackle the bs, love it. Yeah, you've got to be there for your kid but either way, you're no longer under the same roof with the crazy one, that's good for growth.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 02:12 PM
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😄😄😄 can't really understand guys who go for a third or even a fourth. What are they looking for?
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 12:39 PM
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Yep, my momma is super religious and believes once divorced you can only date if you ex is no more 😄 So with that sort of thinking in the people close to me, my partner probably won't be introduced to the family and she has to be okay with that and not signing the govt contract.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 11:47 AM
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Exactly...
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 11:43 AM
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There's a few comments here of guys who've been out for a couple of years. That's what I was actually looking for as I'm currently in the heat of the chaos I needed to hear from those guys.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 11:43 AM
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Me too bro, the government contract didn't do me any favours.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 11:40 AM
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This is exactly my thought, the contract doesn't help most men for real.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 11:38 AM
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That's the way brother, thanks for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 11:37 AM
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😄😄😄 maybe that could change the plan.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 01:28 AM
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How long have you been out?
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 12:17 AM
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I wish you all the best brother, I'm drained going through all this crap, there's no way I'll let this happen again.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 12:17 AM
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Don't sign the papers bro. Easy to dive in but very costly to get out when it isn't working out. Best wishes... How long have you been out of the second one?
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 12:15 AM
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Oh nooo, 25 years is so long only to be destroyed in an instant. I'm sorry about that, hope you bounce back stronger. I'm drained, I don't think it was worth it. Hoe long have you been out of that marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 12:14 AM
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That'd be great, signing the documents just adds more chaos to an already complicated thing. Easy to dive in, very costly to get out.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 12:07 AM
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Me too bro, I travelled, took part in my hobbies without anyone saying shit to me — I had the usual hurdles of life back then, once in a while dealing with a difficult client, a small family issue... Non of those come close to divorce. It was her idea, and it caught me unawares after a while we got it done. After a year, she tells me she'd like an open relationship. How long have you been out?
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 12:05 AM
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I truly understand, kids are the main difference... I've been mistreated too and at some point she got a bit physical and I stopped that bad behaviour instantly. I still get very sad, but when it comes to defending myself I do stand for myself as I have realised she never takes any accountability for all she's done to me.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 08:32 PM
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Tough times bro, we'll get through this... Mine picked up her shit last week and brought up the topic of becoming friends one day, me hanging out with her and her new boyfriend. WTF would I do that? I turned that bullshit down and she began to complain that I'm too hard on her, in addition saying "my old ex was ready to visit us with his current partner last year and that was fine with me" I had the same thought too... The current partner knew we were married but still had the balls to go with a…
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 07:43 PM
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😄 funny but true.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 07:15 PM
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You aren't alone, mine cheated 7 months after our wedding and other big decisions like changing country. I was ready to leave, she pleaded I stay... The following year, she wanted to open up the relationship after meeting someone, I turned down the offer and asked for divorce. Yeah, even though I didn't trust her that much anymore, it still crushed me and later I realised most of my suffering was just fear of change. I was in an uncomfortable place, foreign country, with very little love and som…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 04:45 PM
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Exactly, he needs this truth right now.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 12:59 PM
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You'll lose this game, she'll win.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 12:36 PM
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I've heard this multiple times from women, my stbxw says the same too. But I think it all depends on your relationship. Mine pulled me from depression and hardships, we stayed 5 years in total, 2 of those married. Lately she's been lying and crushed me by cheating and now claiming she's not monogamous and would like to open up the relationship as she met someone she'd love to be with. During separation she got more irritable towards me, even attempting to kick me out of our apartment. On some da…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 12:46 PM
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I did, but she had to make all the phone calls as I'm abroad in her country and I don't fluently speak her language. She wanted to open up the relationship after meeting someone she was really in to, being together for 4 years, married 1 year which was mainly her idea, she knows me well that she doesn't stand a chance for me to accept that.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 06:27 PM
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All the best bud, hope everything goes fairly.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 01:49 PM
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If i remember well, the guy she tried to pay to get rid of him turned down her offer on two different occasions.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 05:06 AM
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Mine checked out after a year of marriage which she really pushed for after 3 years of dating, she claims marriage is too serious for her and limiting, these were her words "I'm pretty sure I'm polygamous, if you'd like an open relationship we can stay together" I turned down the offer, she moved to her new boyfriend who's about to suffer as she has told him she's polygamous but he's against that. The past couple of months have been a roller-coaster but I can now get a pair of shoe I love or my …
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 10:48 PM
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After what she said, I can only say never buy in on this friendship bullshit. She told you those words knowing there was a huge chance of her stripping everything off you as most women do. I don't know the kids' age, but when they're at an age able to understand a bit about life you can tell them in a mature way without making them hate their mother.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 08:43 AM
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You'll never trust her again and you'll live a painful life moving forward, I'm not just yapping, I've been through it. Coincidentally, John Griffin(life 2.0) just shared the perfect video for our situation, go have a look. https://youtu.be/v8B1tVS5DN4?is=qavBLhF3r7Tx04uc
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 08:21 PM
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That's a trap, don't fall for it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 05:29 PM
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I'm currently going through it and this crushes the soul, my wife asked to open up the relationship twice after cheating, with the first one she accepted to cheating, the second one she denied cheating but said she was really interested in this guy but she still loves me so she'd like to open our relationship. I didn't hesitate or checked her phone because I know her well enough to not even bother. I asked for divorce just to have back my peace. We're very close to finalising and fortunately we …
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 04:22 PM
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Probably not, yes I have grown and improved in many ways during the past few years, but the pain and emotional roller-coaster leads to a bigger setback.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 03:03 AM
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Run these chats as a podcast
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 06:37 PM
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42 is still young and the fear of being alone is usually due to the length you've been with your partner and most probably you a loss of identity, you aren't sure who you'd be if not her husband. I don't think you should rush to dating already, I think you'll need to spend some time with yourself, it can be terrifying but that's fine, get to know yourself, what you enjoy... If you do that long enough and stick with it, the next woman you'll allow into your life should fit your lifestyle without …
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 09:47 PM
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That was exactly my thought, I haven't seen/heard him mourn his recent divorce at all.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 08:16 PM
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Currently in the thick of it. Mine cheated and got angry at me for being upset 😄 So I told her "I'm leaving, you can't own your shit," next day she was crying and asking me to forgive her. Decided to try again but at that point my trust was next to nothing, either way I continued to try and rebuild. A couple of months ago she went on a trip, after her return she was always glued to her phone and easily got irritated with me, so a few weeks later I sat her down and forced her to speak... She told…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 08:08 PM
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I will 🙆‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 02:49 PM
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I think so too, let's watch...
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 01:49 PM
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Yeah, lately I've been thinking "I just need to focus on saving myself by leaving this place ASAP" whatever she's done is her problem and not mine to focus on. Thanks...
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 09:21 AM
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😄 It's still Germany, what's the meaning of that?
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 03:42 PM
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I feel you brother. I don't have a kid but we're in a somewhat similar situation. Living in a foreign country where I speak very little too, my last contract came to an end in December and till now I haven't yet found a job, so finances are really tight, ex has moved to her new partner while I wait for d day. It's been a heavy couple of months, the two friends I have are kind of disappearing after one of them recently met a girl and the other recently had a baby. I really feel alone and last nig…
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 11:38 AM
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Thank you, totally agree with all of your advice. And about making friends, I had two close friends, one also recently divorced but has recently met a girl and he's gone a bit cold 😀 his life is now divided into work and the new girl. The other guy recently had a baby so he's spending more time with his young family.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 11:45 AM
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Thank you, I've survived this crap for almost 8 months now. Can't wait to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 09:07 PM
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You're absolutely right, thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 09:06 PM
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Thank you... a fortnight ago I signed up at the local swimming pool and trying out new hobbies mostly alone. Can't wait to leave this place.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 09:04 PM
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😆 that's right bro, and the clubbing mates are mostly male... I'm out of this shit.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 07:28 PM
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I can't help on the assets, but about the differences of interests I'd say there's more to it. My marriage I'd say ended after 7 months after she cheated, I was ready to leave but being abroad and already sorting out the documents I couldn't leave at the time and she casually begged me to stay without really owning her flaws, I really couldn't trust her after that. In the second year, I noticed a change in behaviour and forced her to explain what's going on, she told me she's fallen in love with…
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:28 PM
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I think that happens to a lot of us, these days I'm catching myself missing all the bike rides and trips we had together, the thought instantly brings some sadness. Then I really have to remind myself what sort of person she is, zero respect and lack of empathy on my feelings that she constantly cheated and denied she was wrong. Maybe at times the positives simply overshadow the cons. After that I'll get angry, then a couple of hours later I'll tell myself "you cannot keep living in pain because…
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 07:31 PM
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I caught mine distracted by her phone, she said she is currently chatting with someone she has an interest in and she's been struggling being with a single person and told me if I'm interested in an open relationship I can stay. I turned down the offer and we'll be finalising divorce in about 2 months. Luckily no kids.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 01:16 PM
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Oh shit! I've heard of this one before, it doesn't end well.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 10:28 PM
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👎👎👎
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 01:23 AM
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A colleague I worked with on a part time job is currently going through a very similar situation as you. He once invited me to meet his family and everything looked great, happy pets, happy grown-up kids, all smiles and for sure you could feel it wasn't pretentious. A few days ago I met our employer who's the guy's uncle and I told him about my wife cheating and moving to the other guy's house, then he told me the nephew's wife a few months ago said she isn't happy and wants to be alone, the guy…
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/26 12:37 AM
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I'm 32, getting divorced abroad, haven't shared with my family as my mom is currently heartbroken after the loss of my father 4 years ago, then my brother 3 years ago. Our marriage lasted only a year, or 2 if you consider these waiting months to finalise. I feel a bit of shame, but most importantly I feel relieved that this crazy woman has won't be part of my life anymore, during this time I've began to notice each time I think of buying myself something simple like a pair of shoe, my inner voic…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 07:57 PM
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We're in a similar boat, I'm abroad with no friends or family closeby, living in her parent's property, recovering from surgery and job hunting. She has moved herself out of the house to stay with her new partner. It's been this way for a couple of months, I'm getting stronger, divorce is getting closer(I don't know what the parents will decide after that) going back home with no money at all will be more bigger problem so that's not an option. Fingers crossed I get employed and hopefully find a…
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 03:43 PM
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Sorry you're going through this tough period, I don't think she'll change and that pressure of having a joint account or selling your property is a plan for her to exit later on when she's fully aware her pay off will be huge. She doesn't love you, the church will force you to stay in an abuse marriage... My mom and one of my uncles are very religious and when I got married the only thing my uncle focused on is "whatever you do, no divorce" so I'm currently going through all the chaos and almost…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/26 10:14 AM
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I wish you well brother, hope you stabilize ASAP and enjoy life woth your son. In May I'll be divorcing one as well, it's been a heavy 5 years and I cannot afford to waste anymore time so when she confirmed the current affair, I immediately told her I want out and she agreed. Later begun telling herself lies about me to the extent that she actually started to believe what she came up with and later spread to her friends who've struggled four years to have a stable relationship due to their bulls…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 06:52 PM
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I'm sorry to hear the tough times you're going through. I'm also going through divorce and I was bedridden a few months ago, while abroad, where I've been abandoned by the person I trusted with my life, I've been with my ex for 5 years and no kids so I'm fully aware your situation is a lot worse than mine. You've been with this person for a while and probably shaped your life around her, that's normal for most guys, but at this point she's gone and most likely she's been planning her exit for a …
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 02:10 PM
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Some days suck but I'm looking forward to my physio session post ACL surgery and will probably return to swimming as a part of my recovery 💪🏽
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 12:16 AM
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Well, then I guess every case is subjective and if staying friends works for you, then go for it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 09:56 PM
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If you don't have kids or family in that city, try finding a job far from her and do not tolerate this friendship bullshit. I'm in a similar situation, still in her family's apartment due to financial issues. She isn't trustworthy, why would I want to have a friend like that? I've also gone through a lot with her, but that's the past and the present is her fucking someone else while we're still legally married, the past 2 years she's been emotionally toturing me, if it was the other way round I'…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 09:06 PM
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Thanks bro. It's hard and so I've got to fight to survive this shit. I've gone through a lot of pain and now I really don't care about her moves, I'm simply looking to stabilize and live my best life with less drama.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 08:05 PM
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Mine's currently fucking her new bf and now living with him, left me in her parent's city apartment while i search for a new job and a place to stay. I'm living in a foreign country and I've become numb to her bullshit as I have been suffering for months while the nut job seems to be enjoying life with her new group of friends. I'm taking care of myself and looking forward to May as we sign the final document. Take care of yourself mate.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 06:05 PM
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This doesn't hit well the first time you hear it. I was there a couple of months ago and we'll be finalising the divorce this May. It's gonna suck, but you'll have to stay strong for the kids. You'll be struck by sadness a couple of times, cry it out if you need to but with time it gets better and you'll probably feel like thanking her for leaving you. Take care and don't fall into any substance use, I wish you well.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 04:17 PM
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Mine cheated in the first year after marriage(together for 5yrs, married for 2), couldn't leave as I had travelled to her country and was trying to stabilize financially but when she couldn't admit she was wrong I said "fuck it" I'll head to my embassy or borrow some money from a friend back home to leave this b*tch, she fake cried and fake apologies followed. Can't say I trusted her again but stayed anyway... So in the 2nd year she did it again with somebody different from the first and told me…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 02:37 PM
6

Damnnn!!!
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 01:56 PM
5

😆😆😆 this is insane...
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 07:02 PM
2

Thank you, the past week I've mostly been indoors working so I haven't been out much. John Griffin's videos have really helped me understand a lot about relationships, I first came across his content when my marriage collapsed a couple of months ago, those were really tough times...
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 06:59 PM
1

It's a client project about a nature reatreat in the wilderness of Southern Africa. I had zero energy today, going to bed early and hoping to recharge for tomorrow.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 06:15 PM
7

Why on earth do you have to marry thrice? Take care of yourself man...
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 08:53 AM
2

I'll be fine, thanks. The suffering is totally normal, but don't let yourself stay in that dark place. There's a better life we all deserve out there. One step at a time 🫶🏽
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 10:50 PM
4

She's basically manipulating you and can easily hurt when she wants to. I'm currently going through divorce, I loved her but cheating is a personal choice and so when she did it I straight away told her we're done, luckily there's no kids involved but either way I suffered so much in the first couple of months while she's funking someone else and I caught myself getting depressed as I was also down after a major knee surgery, the knee is now getting better, I feel good and I've dropped all the f…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 10:20 PM
1

Constant headaches, early December I had an ACL surgery and healing is taking long my physiotherapist had to add a couple more months to my sessions as I've been missing personal home workouts. Wife began going out with another dude, claiming she's polygam and can't go on with this monogamous relationship(marriage) For a couple of weeks I haven't been sleeping well, I'm alone in a foreign country, the previous project I worked on hasn't paid me for a couple of months... If you watch John Griffin…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/26 05:11 PM
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