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Rantdepressed_divorce/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 08:47 PM
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Rantdepressed_divorce/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 03:58 PM
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Need Supportdepressed_divorce/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 02:06 AM
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Rantdepressed_divorce/r/Divorce_Men08/09/25 08:54 PM
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Thank you very much for that. I appreciate the thoughtfulness of your comment. I need to start applying those bullet points to my own life.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/26 04:19 PM
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I feel like I can barely articulate what I’m feeling right now, but thanks for reading through all of that, I am sorry for all you are going through as well. Thank you for the kind words.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 04:05 AM
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My mom was alive at the time of of my STBXW decision to get divorced. I don’t know your relationship with your mother, but she was my biggest cheerleader.my STBXW and I have never separated. We have lived and currently live in our same home during this process. The same home we bought with the sale of our first home together. After 3 apartments. She makes double my salary and wants to keep the house. I am in no position to fight her on that request nor do I want to.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 03:41 AM
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Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 03:30 AM
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Have you addressed these issues with your wife? Have you exhausted all possible avenues trying to improve yourself or improve your lives as a married couple? Is it only lack of intimacy that’s making you think of divorce? Talk to your wife and don’t get divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 02:50 AM
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I think I’m looking for that. That was a little motivation for me, so thank you. I’m 45 and all I want right now is to hug my mom.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 02:31 AM
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These two simultaneous hits have me pretty shaky honestly. I do need a therapist. For me and for my kids. Thank you for taking the time to read and reply.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/26 02:29 AM
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It’s been almost a year. I don’t recognize myself. A fucking tip-toeing, timid, cry at the drop of a hat, stagnant, unproductive and pathetic excuse for a dad.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/26 11:25 PM
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This was a very promising read. I can only dream of a similar outcome. Best to you and your child.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/26 11:14 PM
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I feel for you, man. Not looking forward to Christmas.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/25 09:05 PM
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Thanks for telling me about your day. I would have left already if we didn’t share children. I hear you. Night walk sounds nice. Cheers.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/25 06:17 PM
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I’m from out of state so I have no family near me. Her family has been my family for over a decade. They’re still awesome. They still love me. I still get hugs. I feel like they don’t know how to react either. My wife is the only one who wants out of this. I hope you have a good day today.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/25 06:12 PM
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Today sounds awesome! Have fun making memories with those kids!
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/25 06:10 PM
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I was thinking more whiskey and hardcore but get where you’re at. 😭
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/25 06:07 PM
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That sounds like an ideal day. I hope you continue to have a good rest of your evening.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 10:16 PM
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Definitely challenging. I hope you have a good rest of your night.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 10:14 PM
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Thanks for the kind words. Not feeling like I have it. At all. Trying to get my shit together in the upstairs bathroom.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 09:58 PM
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Glad you moved out why? Just pick one of those and focus on that for the evening. What did you make for dinner? Yes I have two children. Do you have kids?
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 09:54 PM
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I feel for you too.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 05:25 AM
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Hey. Maybe I’m in shock or denial still. Maybe it’s because nothing is really different than before the talk was had. Maybe I don’t want to accept that I’m not going to be able to see my kids everyday. Numerous comments and DM’s telling me not to move out no matter what. Just lost and venting, thank you for the input.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/25 09:53 PM
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Thank you, I have been as best as I can. Someone else here mentioned doing a spreadsheet. I am going to do that as well. I left my career out west to move to the Midwest to be with my STBX when she told me she was pregnant. She was working retail at the time and going to school for what she does now. She makes great money. At least double what I make. With our oldest being in multiple activities and our youngest starting to develop their own interests and wants, I have spent the last year just t…
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 11:43 PM
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Hey, no but I should make a spreadsheet. I have been detailing daily life journal-like into a notepad I keep on me. Kid time, fatherly duties, descriptions of conversations and screen shots of all texts. Thank you again for the advice.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 11:28 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. I think this is what I’m most struggling with at the moment. Not being able to see my kids everyday. One selfish person gets what they want and everyone else fucking suffers.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 01:07 PM
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Thank you for reminding me of this. I feel like my life is being deleted.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 10:15 PM
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It is. I won’t just leave our home and abandon the family so I’m making this difficult.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 10:04 PM
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Thank you for your perspective and advice. She did not tell me to pack my truck, more along the lines of “get the fuck out of this house”,“pack your shit and leave”, “people separate when they’re getting divorced, so gtfo”. She wants the divorce and wants me to be the one to leave. I just want this to be as close to fair as it could possibly be. I know that realistically will not happen.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 10:02 PM
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Thank you for trying to spin this into something positive. I appreciate your outlook and advice.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 09:55 PM
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She makes double what I make. She has told me she doesn’t want any of my money. She has more in savings than me. She just wants me to leave with nothing but my savings account.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 02:06 PM
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We both still split bills right down the middle. I venmo her my half with a description.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 02:05 PM
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We have always had separate bank accounts. We split all bills and expenses 50/50.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 12:25 PM
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Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 05:38 AM
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Last date night and sexy time was mid February. Our fifth wedding anniversary would be in a few weeks. How much of a hurry? And I have been waiting to see what transpires. But it seems more and more that I should be the one to make the first move. I have never felt immobilized until now. I feel like my life has been deleted.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 04:55 AM
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I see that from an outside perspective. And I hear you. Our daughter has been the victim of SA from a member of her school district that is now currently in prison. She had to testify in court and it made her grow up way too fast and learn about sex and predatory behavior way sooner than I and her mother had ever anticipated. She feels safe with her dad. I truly feel like this would never become an issue because of her maturity and how she has had to explain more than uncomfortable circumstances…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 04:50 AM
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That’s the thing. She has her network of family and friends here. If she hates this then why not go? I feel like I am the woman clinging and she’s the man who is done and wants me the fuck out. But why should I? This is also my house. Why should I have to leave and pay for some overpriced apartment due to the fact that she wants to give up? So my kids don’t get displaced? Potentially have to change schools weeks into a new school year? I am not forcing her to stay. She is trying to force me to l…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 04:39 AM
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Very true. Never thought I would be a divorced dad. Here I am. I see that more and more every day.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 04:35 AM
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Thank you for re-iterating what strangers on the internet and true friends have been telling me. I have been doing some of this. I should be doing it all. One way or another. Thank you for reading and thank you for the advice.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 02:38 AM
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We take turns sleeping with our kids nightly. One with our son in our bed and one downstairs with my daughter in her room. Our daughter has always slept with us from the time she was born because it just became easier to breastfeed her during the night for my wife. She will be 11 soon and still needs to sleep with one of us unless she has a friend staying the night. I like the silver bullet theory. I could be Corey Haim. What is AP?
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 02:31 AM
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Always a possibility. She is kind of a man hater/people hater? Maybe another woman? I don’t fucking know. I know I need to talk to more. I have not and will not move out without a court order. We bought this house with the money from our last house. I am not abandoning my home and family. I moved across the US to try and make this work and form and function as a family. It is very hard to stop romanticizing about my situation. Venting here is actually helping me tremendously. And it’s free.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 02:27 AM
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Hey. I have tried to talk to her several times since May. It’s a varied mix of her being apathetic, frustrated or just plain bitchy when trying to get any solid answer out of her. I am becoming increasingly done and giving up on the idea of what I thought my life and family would be. I think we both rely on shitty survival techniques learned from our childhoods and non growth as adults. I am/was/am willing to work on me. And us. But for months she has been telling me there is no us. How long am …
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 02:24 AM
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I don’t rule that out, I am not naive. That being said, she has never been affectionate or even sexual. She has never had a high sex drive or any sex drive really. She works with all women. I know they man-bash. I found texts of her and an old “friend” from high school. Flirty. One gym selfie. I don’t even think that dude is a prospect. I honestly think it’s crazy we have two kids. First one was created after years of chasing and lust. Second conceived during Covid. We did everything backwards. …
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 02:15 AM
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Thank you. I am leaning more towards just filing myself. I have said everything I could possibly say to her to no avail. She told me straight up that she doesn’t love me anymore. She isn’t passionate about me. Our 10 year old is currently seeing a therapist for an unrelated issue. I feel like our kids/family can’t get a fucking break. And with school starting and new schedules to get used to, let’s stir a divorce into the pot? Fuck. I have seen two therapists in the past 2 months. I need to keep…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 01:54 AM
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Hey. I have had two consultations with lawyers in my area. One male and one female. I know I should talk to more. I see all of these horror stories 10,20, 50 thousand spent on divorce and children. My wife makes more than me. Has thrown it in my face more than a few times. I watched our newborn and worked full time while she studied and went to school for her current occupation. I have an illogical hate for ChatGPT at the moment because a few months ago she accidentally sent me a text that was i…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 01:52 AM
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