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I have nothing to add that hasn’t already been said. I love this community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 09:42 PM
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I bet it was also because he was incredible stingy with money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 03:20 AM
218

Sex without abuse is awesome - more people should try it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 12:04 AM
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Even Courts recognize the distinction between fungible goods and unique goods. LVM audacity knows no bounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 11:19 PM
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I was onboard until she said men who don’t want to do BDSM with their partners out of respect are suffering from the complex as well. Idk maybe he just doesn’t want to inflict violence upon something he loves…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 12:54 AM
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I love the women bonding and pissing the boy off. It’s my favorite type of story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 09:56 PM
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I mean... you did only use him for rides to school as per your agreement. He was the one who thought those rides meant you owed him more than gas-money and politeness. He used his car to try to buy you (but not even its gas lol) ​ Edit: to be clear I don't mean she led him on in anyway or did anything wrong when I say she "used" him. The word is so loaded when its directed at women *using men* but if I were to be like "my dad used me for an extra pair of hands" no one is thinking anything untowa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:17 AM
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Oh dang! Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 03:06 AM
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I want to be able to download all the videos that get posted here to share on Instagram- they’re too good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:23 PM
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Y’all think any Queen in European history was cooking? Edit: I love the gratitude/criticism portion. There are so many things men ruin because they act entitled to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:56 AM
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I read somewhere that every century the only one short man can get all of the…I forget how it was phrased… like big dick energy Anyhow the 1800s napoleon was the man. 1900s prince got it. 2000s is up for grabs (but I would bet on Zelensky there as he’s 5’7) It’s really sad that men know short men can be the pinnacle of manliness & achieve everything they want but they cannot get over their heights. Great film analysis work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 11:06 PM
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Guys trip over themselves to neg you about your height - even men taller than me! - makes for a great filter (I don’t even have to do blood in the water, they just assume)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 10:59 PM
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Whenever someone posts online (especially Reddit) this level of “my relationship is great” post, I am immediately suspicious it is not that great. This could be a happy person… or this is a woman trying to convince herself of what she’s saying. idk I have a gnawing feeling all of her insecurities sprinkled throughout and his “blind spots” might be a glossing over of instances of manipulation/gaslighting. People forget there’s a cycle to abuse that includes love bombing. Maybe she’s just at the p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:15 AM
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Are women not trying to succeed? How is she supposed to go 50/50 on dates if she doesn’t work? 🙄 Edit: obviously a joke about 50/50 on dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 01:00 AM
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Hidden Brain had an episode that touched on this (I want to say "When did marriage get so hard?") basically the idea that a partner should meet all your needs is incredibly new. Most of human history marriage was a financial arrangement (from the nobles inheritance lines to the common farm operator who needs more hands) so there was never an expectation your partner meet all your needs. This idea of your partner meeting all your needs popped up in what, the 1980s? 1990s? It's just bs. Like you s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:39 PM
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I came here to post this 😂 Idt it has anything to do with him being “Muslim” it’s him being LVM & looking for a woman to masturbate into. Muslim is just the excuse. LVM always have an excuse & a culture that justifies it (much like abusers always feel justified) Edit: as the comments on the original post point out, under Islam he is very explicitly responsible for supporting the baby. So it’s definitely not him being Muslim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 07:07 PM
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Well he was hoping to masturbate into that body later so what do you expect him to think of her? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:15 PM
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There is a setting where you can stop people from searching for you by number; I was having people show up as a suggestion even when I could not search for them by number. As if Facebook might be mishandling data or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:41 PM
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Lundy would point out: is he like this with EVERYONE or just you? Because it sounds like it’s just to get his way with her. “Doesn’t even remember” yea right, he remembers, and he acted with intention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:11 PM
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Aren’t people supposed to have some…embarrassment (if that’s the right word) about a) being broke and b) not supporting their children I’m really sick of men crying poverty & gold digger - go earn some money bro
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 10:35 PM
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…they could put the design on other objects they happened to be discussing a t-shirt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 10:31 PM
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I realized years ago (back before Facebook was a boomer haven) that with the Facebook app allowed to see my contacts, once I added someone’s phone number to my phone (not to Facebook) it took a refresh or two for their profile to pop up as a “friend suggestion” even if I couldn’t search for them by their phone number or see it on their profile. I’m sure the same thing happens in most of the social media apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 10:07 PM
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I do feel like reddits policing of porn should be something this sub cares about. Like banning child and involuntary porn seems like the barest minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:00 AM
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Omg. Before we even get into the pregnancy of it all: turn off the lights as you head upstairs - that’s not something that should be a prescribed job. Now onto the berating and what a mother has to do comments, To quote Lundy - “abuse grows from attitudes and values, not feelings. The roots are ownership, the trunk is entitlement, and the branches are control” bro just showed you his entire hand. Things are going to get worse. BTW how did this boyfriend become an authority on motherhood? Has he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 10:37 PM
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The video is satire right? Right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:04 AM
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Every doctor I have had will order the array of blood tests but asks if I have noticed any symptoms and when I answer no they'll exclude a herpes test because "I would have noticed" (I've thrown it in periodically for good measure) I have also heard that in the UK herpes is considered more of a skin issue and less of an STD Just saying even if he does test with you... he absolutely still could be hiding something and convincing himself its ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 07:30 PM
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I miss the derbs so bad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:58 PM
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Oh there is so much more going on than he’s telling us (people note the therapy and household work already) My dad is recently semi-retired and working from home. It can drive my mom insane for a million stupid reasons that are born out of “I’m used to being home alone all day and now you’re here” For instance my dad asks my mom where she’s going every time she leaves the house (he’ll call and ask if he sees her drive away). He has no ulterior motive, he’s just curious. Meanwhile she’s going up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:19 AM
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It reminds me of a post I saw recently where a mother let her daughter (16/17) sleep over at her boyfriends place (age appropriate boyfriend, living with his parents) and the daughter came back with a bruise on her face. Turns out the daughter had requested he hit her during sex. Everyone was giving the mother accolades for how she handled it (by being nonjudgmental enough to get the daughter to confess) Meanwhile I was like: address the reasons why your daughter thinks she should be hit during …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:19 PM
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Next time you’ll end it sooner and not have to tolerate some creep trying to kiss/bang you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 11:18 PM
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Well said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:50 PM
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How is encouraging rape and pedophilia remotely the same as “here are red flags & resources in case you’re abused” 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 01:00 AM
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I find in a lot of older men (who have been married most of their life) when their wife’s die they move on quickly in part because they don’t really know how to take care of themselves. My mom and I were just discussing the menopause change in women that was posted here earlier and we pretty much went straight into this topic. If she was single tomorrow, she’s fine. She might need help with random technology but she has adult children that help her with those minor things and it’s not worth a wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 09:44 PM
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Vanilla is one the most commonly used flavors for a reason - not only does it stand on it own but it’s a building block for other flavors Almost like your sex life should be an aspect of your relationship and not the end all be all of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 04:11 PM
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To be very clear, in America there’s a “defense” for murder called “heat of passion” which in general is a two part test - a) was there adequate provocation where a “reasonable person” (historically man) to commit the murd*r and b) did the defendant not have enough time to emotionally calm down from this. A man walking in on his wife in bed is the textbook scenario for the heat of passion defense. It’s on nearly every bar exam. (They don’t even bother with women perpetrators) (it’s deeply rooted…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 05:31 PM
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The horrifying thing is these people are probably censoring opinions that make them looks worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 07:48 PM
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It’s hard to tell people things they’re not ready to hear. I just try to be happy for them when they’re happy and if they’re not happy I still tread carefully about what I say - no one wants to hear negative things about a s.o. - I try to focus on validating whatever they’re feeling and perhaps add some FDS color to those feelings (try to stop the self gaslighting that happens)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:49 PM
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I think engaging is different than giving a platform to (such as putting on a podcast) I think a huge part of the concern (having read other posts about it) is that conservative women tend to have more of their fair share of internalize misogyny. Yes it would be great to help free them from those shackles - no we shouldn’t be giving them a platform to perpetuate beliefs founded upon said misogyny. We should be giving the platform to women who have so aggressively shed their internalized misogyny…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:23 PM
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I feel like part of the issue is that it’s more than not being validated - it’s frequently having those beliefs attacked, undermined, belittled by others, media, culture in general. That’s why FDS is such a good resource as it is a space where standards aren’t just allowed (because frankly most cultures don’t want women to have standards) they’re encouraged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:49 PM
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Don’t listen to people who standard shame. We get enough of that from the rest of the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 03:59 PM
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Yea I wouldn’t be interested in dating someone who is looking for a second job. I want someone who is established in their career. I have made the mistake many times of thinking I could help a LVM establish a better career. Never works. You can hand it to them on a silver platter and they’ll shit on it. My career stuff is set. I have goals to continually improve my position but at no point in time do I need to improve things (I just want to keep making more money). And I want my partner to also …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 03:50 PM
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Court is the way to go! No unstable person is capable of negotiating a straight exchange without a cascading attack of emotional manipulations and just nastiness. Court cuts through that. Here’s the evidence of what they owe me and I owe them this - please make a legal record of this having been exchanged so they have no ammunition to come after me again. Small claims court is literally built for this. Also always presume everything is headed to court. Keep receipts and texts that indicate who o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:14 PM
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God I spent so much time in my 20s thinking hook-up culture was where it was at. I would set my sights on a guy and the hook-up was me winning. Eventually I hooked up with my celebrity crush and it was like ok… what do I do now? There’s no mountain left to climb wtf was all this for? I’ve been abstinent for awhile now and I realize I just want a deep meaningful emotional connection (and that I didn’t particularly enjoy the sex I was having, orgasms aside it was all so performative that I never f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:25 PM
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This is disgusting. I am super concerned about the future of porn. Porn is problematic enough already but wtf is with all this VR stuff?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:37 AM
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Exactly. OP had really given her father a second chance and he used it to trash OP’s mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:51 PM
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It may be worth considering contacting the FBI. This sounds much bigger than a school is equipped to handle. Glad to see the school is doing what it can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:43 AM
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Kudos to your friend for standing up for themselves and others. F*ck everyone who is attacking them. Hopefully an organization with experience dealing with this sort of retaliation reaches out to help them. I wonder if the FBI should be involved due to the threats they are receiving?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:00 AM
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Go into any public setting in the world where women aren’t forced to be covered in a Niqab or Burka… the amount of attractive women is ridiculously high compared to the amount of attractive men… it’s almost like men just don’t try. I point it out all of the time like at a festival or something nearly every woman is gorgeous or at the very least well put together and thoughtful in their appearance and then there’s just like a sea of men just existing around them. If a man wants to complain about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:44 PM
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Well said. I personally spend a lot of time reminding myself that there is more than one way to have a family - I don’t have to have a husband and a white picket fence. I make an effort to consume media that depicts atypical families or women with full lives (30 Rock is great for a strong female lead looking to have a child while her love life flounders as a background story) it’s a reminder that my life can still be complete without fulfilling a cookie cutter image of suburbia I’ve met people w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:00 PM
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Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 11:27 PM
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Agree with everyone who is saying this isn’t a good friend. Discussing the most painful and vulnerable parts of your life shouldn’t be met with gloating…. Even if her boyfriend was the most HV of HVM that is a completely inappropriate response. As he is a LVM, all she is doing is inflating to herself his worth at your expense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 10:49 PM
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Btw this is exactly the conversation I needed today. I just had a girls trip with some friends and the ones who appeared really giving and fun to hang out with switched in a second to attacking me because I noticed someone stole from me. Like ok y’all aren’t good people. Taking my lesson and moving on. (Why would you verbally berate someone for noticing someone stole from them?!) Edit typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 09:35 PM
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This was my first thought too. LVW/pickmeishas are super common - it’s very easy to feel like relationships with other women are toxic and unfulfilling unless you spend the time getting your female friends to make sure they’re HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 07:48 PM
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THANK YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 03:46 PM
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That’s how I do it! Frankly the human trafficking and rape vibes of porn don’t do it for me. No one’s orgasm is worth someone being trafficked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:27 PM
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Preach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 11:37 PM
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Well said. It is jarring how few men are willing to put in the most minimal effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 12:28 AM
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What a baby. How did he manage to lock her out but needed her help with the remote? He was home and bored and wanted attention and the damn wench was out earning money to support him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 07:30 PM
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I want to see the rest of the videos without downloading tiktok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 09:35 PM
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He’s made comments about drugging her before but she wasn’t alarmed “because everyone has fantasies” no girl runnnnnn 🏃‍♀️ Edit: holy f*ck balls she might have been ok with the drugging so he can have sex with her while she’s asleep. Omg. This poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:25 PM
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No no no… writer is 63, husband is 13 years older = 76 Two years ago he was 74 talking to a 17 year old I hope the 17 year old is a catfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:56 PM
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God I love option A. Even with pandemic and WFH, you know what my favorite thing to do after work is? Not interact with other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:52 PM
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I’m always flabbergasted at the expectation of sex after someone pays for a meal. Like ok I spent $10-20 Ubering here, same back home, I spent time and money on my hair, make-up, clothes and general upkeep to look presentable here (my gym+hair is a small fortune) but nahhhh you paid $20 for some mediocre tacos so I definitely owe you sex now. Mathematically, at that point have I not just gotten a rebate on how much I’ve spent? Why the hell would I owe him anything? Also based upon the $ cost, an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:36 PM
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You can avoid eye contact all you want. You will still get a random guy tapping you on your shoulder asking you to take your ear bud out while you’re carrying crap to tell you “you’re beautiful.” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:09 AM
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I love that perspective! I wish I grew up thinking that! Kudos to child you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 07:52 PM
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the situation sucks but your fortitude of character is straight up inspirational! Queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 03:23 AM
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It’s technically not a gift but more of a contractual exchange - it’s a promise to marry. He reneged on it, she gets to keep the ring (he breached the contract, not her).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 02:43 AM
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That’s just factually wrong. She was writing lyrics as a member of destiny’s child- her ability to breakout from the group was predictable based upon her ability to write lyrics (just like JT from NSYNC); “bootylicious” was just a thing she was singing to herself (Not saying she writes all of her lyrics just that she does in fact write lyrics for herself)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:43 PM
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Anytime I see anyone who advocates for proportional sharing of the expenses, rather than 50/50…. It’s a relationship where the woman makes more 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 06:47 PM
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This is so well put together and so on point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:57 AM
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Society created the circumstances where she felt intervening would be detrimental to her wellbeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:10 AM
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🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:10 PM
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And he clearly enjoys the clout he gets making the porn (showed her his Twitter followers) This doesn’t sound like “I want to do animation and my first gig out of college is embarrassing” (which based upon the age it really could have been); it sounds like “I enjoy making animated porn and I am kinda internet famous for it; need my gf to accept it”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:09 PM
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Deleting the flight information out of it kinda makes it hard to ensure the woman will ever learn about it 😂 Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 11:15 PM
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I think the inclusion of the queen as being a victim here underscores its not merely prostitution or human trafficking it’s just misogyny. Misogyny is the tradition and it effects the lowliest most vulnerable girl and the woman who “has it all” I love Halsey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:44 PM
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😂 love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:06 PM
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Right????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:52 PM
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I can’t believe you could engage with this scrote for so long OP. I tend to get one or two responses back before I just block the scrote with an agenda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:52 PM
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🔥🔥🔥 So on point. LVM make every excuse for men crying “assumptions” while all of those excuses are literally just making assumptions about the women. Like the assumption that the boyfriend didn’t know she didn’t want a threesome after a “long time” of dating and at least one explicit conversation… y’know because the girlfriend isn’t a good communicator and sexual communication requires it’s own doctorate degree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:51 PM
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Why can’t men ever reprimand each other? Why is it always women’s fault? Idk any woman who has ever made fun of someone for being a virgin. It’s a common thread in American media which last I checked has a strong history of being controlled by men. The backpedaling against women is just a shocking turn of the post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:20 PM
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LVM don’t understand that they’re not competing against other men for me they’re competing against the comfort and joy of being alone The pandemic has really made me realize how much I enjoy my free time and spending it judiciously with select people. Dating just seems like a distant nightmare at this point. And no, I am not interested in having sex without emotional connection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:51 PM
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Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:47 PM
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Is this a rick and morty reference in FDS? This makes me so happy (I mean the fan base is toxic but I quite enjoy the show)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:15 PM
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Thank you for this! Financial abuse is not discussed nearly enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:53 AM
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I find Unf*ck your brain to be pretty good - she’s a life coach discussing various ways to improve your life and addresses the patriarchal influences that keep us stuck where we are. (It’s like 83% FDS)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:54 PM
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Even when they aren’t particularly smug it’s still impossible to engage them in an actual conversation or get a word in edgewise to ask them a question about themselves- or the moment you do they’re evasive and immediately begin questioning you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:09 PM
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The number of times I’ve bought bedding for male friends and LV-exes is so ridiculous. Bedding is a basic necessity and it’s like $30 for a whole cheap set. WTF Edit: to be fair to my one male friend he had immigrated to a new country and was renting living room space so the $30 might have been a budget stretch. He’s done extremely well for himself since then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:23 PM
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I read a description. He goes to the laundry hamper to smell the underwear (so thankfully it doesn’t sound like he maybe physical contact with the child) and after saw the nanny cam and mouthed “goddamnit.” Scumbag has done this before - there are other allegations against him. I’m still not watching this video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:58 PM
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I am of the stance of the sex work industry is bad but sex workers deserve support (as they are traumatized, marginalized, and sell their bodies to make a living). My biggest concern here is that OF was a safer place for sex workers to exist than whatever alternative there is. I would love to be more enthusiastic about a business dropping sexual content so I am 100% open to opposing view points on the ban. (Maybe there’s a really great alternative or OF was even more exploitive than I thought)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:05 PM
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Let the *ssh!le die. Edit: i do hope this is some fantasy post by some guy thinking about a woman pining for him to the point of doing degrading sex acts with strangers on the internet. … and if not she needs to contact the FBI.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:19 PM
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Yes. She’s been raised her whole life hearing about this women who promised to take care of her and abandoned them & “their lives would be so much better if she didn’t betray us” from the dad as a justification for his NV behavior and crap parenting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 10:18 PM
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Can I just say how tragic it is that men have us questioning whether or not we screwed up by asking about the relationship/for commitment? That’s the whole point of dating for all of human history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 05:01 PM
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I think he accidentally made an incredibly damning point. No decent guy would do it and most men are garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:30 AM
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It’s important to remember all of Handsmaid’s Tale (book) was inspired by real world events which had already occurred. This is not the first time nor the most drastic change of a society granting women “rights” and then drastically stripping them away. Handmaid’s Tale is a cautionary tale which is reminding us of the depths of human depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:43 PM
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Preach 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 12:15 AM
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No no no see that’s just “rape play” and it’s natural & healthy. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 05:00 PM
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🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:38 AM
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She’s acting like playing video games is an hour of yoga/meditation in the morning. Nah sis, it’s the only way he’ll stay in the house with you and the kids around. Please talk at him and feel fulfilled at his reply grunts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:15 PM
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The weirdest part of this fan fiction is that he points out that IRL the demands of someone on the sub are rather agreeable and easy to get along with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:00 PM
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When you’re trying to find a solution to a problem and the other person is denying a problem exists, it’s extremely easy to feel like you (the solution seeker) has actually created the problem. Because in husband eyes the problem is that the wife is bothering him, everything else is perfectly fine. So now she feels like an AH for suggesting things are not ok. (And as women society has conditioned us to not speak up about problems)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:11 AM
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Society really has been brainwashing us for hundreds of years. Those shackles are not light or easy to throw off. Love the support I get from FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 10:49 PM
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🍿🍿🍿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 05:18 AM
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I love when their Hail Mary includes a detailed description of what they think is wrong with you. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:13 PM
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Pretty much. My life is a pretty full plate. I thought I would dip my toe in the dating waters after getting vaccinated but decided I wanted to use that energy to focus on getting back into skating (a college/law school hobby). I would rather spend my time/energy doing something I know makes me happy than sifting through dozens/hundreds of guys who cannot hold a normal conversation. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 04:07 PM
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God that really is useful information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:29 AM
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I love this. I hope you make a whole series.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:11 PM
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Their upset that we suggest they are less than god’s gift to women. That we have the audacity to have wants and desires and openly acknowledge them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 08:58 PM
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His laughing in the background is like nails on a chalkboard to me. He sounds like a adolescent hyena watching his mom make jokes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:00 AM
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Total success story! Well done lady!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:00 PM
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That was my first thought too - she’s pregnant with HIS child. Those medical bills aren’t paying for an injury she got out partying - they’re paying for the health and welfare of HIS (and her) future child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:56 PM
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Men on OLD for free prostitutes is soooo ridiculously common it makes OLD unusable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:38 PM
202

Women are not rehabilitation centers for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:56 PM
34

This is so well said. Love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:23 PM
15

Ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew 🤮 Omg hard no. Run honey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:50 PM
187

The Bachelorette is entrenched in so much male gaze that it’s hard to remember it’s made for a primarily female audience. That’s one thing I’ll never understand about media “for women” why is it so clearly made for men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:50 AM
73

There’s a front page post of AITA today that totally sounded the alarm bells of financial abuse to me. 100% watch out for these 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:29 PM
45

Holy crap that is terrifying! Glad you are safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:45 PM
740

I’ve watched quite a few datelines where the husband killed the wife because he didn’t want to be married anymore and had just literally never even contemplated a divorce as if he had forgotten they existed… Men commit like 95% of society’s murders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:29 PM
14

He’s clearly decided that putting something on his skin will damage his self image & self worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:23 PM
10

Suggesting a specific skin care product to your partner: normal Your partner not taking care of their skin at all and having a giant list of things they disapprove of (culminating in the sense that they will not use any product at all) & still attempting to find a way to take care of said partners skin = pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:22 PM
218

“Oh hEyYyYy gIrL; wIsH yOu WeRe DeAd. GoOd LuCk FiNdInG sOmeOne LiKe mE.” Very confident the goal is to find someone who isn’t like him. (Not to mention he’s sad that his girlfriend’s attempts to make him happy aren’t as good as her attempts? Making LVM happy is not a woman’s job. Y’all are responsible for your own happiness.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 08:57 PM
14

Lol thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:39 PM
161

Friend probably cracking up at the perceived emasculation of the husband. It’s just ridiculous. How manipulative is “you’ve ruined the memory of my sons birth” 🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:47 PM
58

For humanity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:00 PM
37

God the mental load is exhausting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:24 PM
10

I appreciate the recurring reminder that my value doesn’t evaporate past 25 years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:48 PM
17

I’m watching now. I’m very impressed with all the programs set up in Columbus Ohio; definitely want to work to establish more of those across the countries (I’ve been eager to start a women’s nonprofit for awhile)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:59 PM
47

Love it! (The outcome not the threats)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:05 PM
29

I think the number goes up if you limit it to cases where the victim knew the perpetrator
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:01 PM
254

Isn’t it the husband/boyfriend 85% of the time? I say it for every dateline episode and I’m rarely wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:10 PM
14

Ugh I know that exact feeling. You are no where on her priority list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:14 PM
14

Ugh I hate that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:38 PM
38

I don’t get why people get mad about it... I never see anyone writing out a sentence using emojis it’s always just like end punctuation to give context. 💁🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:07 PM
83

I was confused by the use of a kitchen appliance... he looked downright productive. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:50 PM
148

I love that I can use emojis here; in the Reddit wild you’d get crucified... but everyone uses emojis IRL 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:48 PM
10

I have nothing to add but support! You seem to have a good head on your shoulders. You got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:05 PM
58

Your the girlfriend accessory. Did you not come prepared to socialize as arm candy ought to? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:04 PM
46

The sense of betrayal and abandonment I’ve felt in situations like this is unparalleled. I think because it happens with guys who don’t necessarily have a lot of red flags. It also really pushes my button on being insecure about socializing... I can put on the social butterfly mask but I really have social anxiety. So when I’m going into a social situation with my boyfriend I expect to have a rock/safety net of boyfriend (not like I need hand holding but someone I can lock eyes with when somethi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:02 PM
39

Yes absolutely. In my pickme days I encountered more than one man who was not interested in porn and I was completely confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:17 PM
35

compatibility as if sex changes you into a different person. The parts are compatible... if he’s not pornsick and chemistry exists and “good sex can be learned” what else is there? I feel like this is code for “make sure you can tolerate his misogynist kinks!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:19 PM
13

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:50 PM
943

I saw men in college loss their shit because their partner got an abortion without telling them (toddler temper tantrums are scary on full sized men)... and I’m like... this is the alternative... you wouldn’t be able to pout about it at your fancy frat party; you’d be home alone with a kid. Edit: started getting harassing messages for this. Men should be more careful with their ejaculate if they have such emotional attachment to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:45 PM
11

My mom and I were laughing about my dad who’s diet plan has been “stop eating ice cream, start eating sugar free pudding” and he has gone back down to his svelte college weight. All the testosterone and muscles makes losing weight so easy for men it’s ridiculous. I have never known a woman who’s gone on a diet with her male partner who has not struggled with the fact that he can lose weight much faster than she can
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:43 PM
156

It is so hard to find a male that cares about their own physical appearance it completely blows my mind. I enjoy liking what I see in the mirror and feeling like clothes fit right. How do so many men not care at all? Aesthetics aside, you only get one body. I am not signing up to be anyone’s caregiver. my grandpa stepped in when my aunt got engaged to an obese man and told her she was giving up her life to be a nurse to him... it’s really stuck with me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:37 PM
26

Meanwhile, it was just expected that you’d cook dinner. I’ll never forget the LVM who I dumped (for showing me zero consideration in the relationship... he was far more focused on his cousin’s wants) went on a rant about how I couldn’t even cook and how that would never work out in a relationship- it would be far too much work for him to always feed the kids; “you can’t get Uber eats for them for every meal!” (We dated for two months and I think I once suggested ordering food with ubereats) Mean…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:01 PM
63

That’s why the “show” nature of this puts me off (the video is funny of course) but all these overt “mi’lady” gestures tend to be very transactional from the LVM POV. It’s not actually being considerate of the woman; it’s more selfish thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:32 PM
85

I had the same thought!!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:30 PM
11

Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:07 PM
38

I read that one and was like “by George I think he’s got it!” 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:34 PM
19

SAME. Come to the dark side (FDS). Free yourself from the internalized misogyny and the quest for male validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:40 PM
34

I think garbage men can be fairly well paid. Like in the world of jobs... not the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:02 PM
5

Noted. My legalese & research re: sex work legislation is subpar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:21 PM
28

I support sex workers rights but the industry is absolutely disgusting to women. For me it’s a lot like drugs... I think stuff should be made legal and regulated and the sex worker should be empowered so they have resources for assistance and an ability to leave the profession when they chose to do so. No one wants to be a sex worker but those who are sex workers deserve to be part of society (which is the best bet for them to be able to elevate themselves out of it) Edit: see below comment & do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 09:29 PM
3

I don’t think they’re great with consistency. (Sometimes there’s a message and sometimes there’s not apparently) Feel like Reddit should really increase follower transparency when it’s so common for it to be men stalking women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:34 PM
4

There’s a notification when the first start following you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 01:46 PM
15

I feel like every time I post I acquire a follower who I immediately block. But no attempted contact. (Or my block and move on skills are so strong I’ve just completely forgotten anything else?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:20 AM
39

I have not heard of Jordan Peterson
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:16 AM
48

You said it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:33 PM
36

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 10:04 PM
28

Goblin Market is a great poem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:29 PM
63

She’s great! Hope she’s on Instagram too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:57 AM
87

I agree ... typo: Janet Jackson
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:39 PM
14

That’s really semantics... I wouldn’t actually say I’m sorry I caused that. Like “oh I’m sorry I caused the bottle to fall over” it’s “I’m sorry I knocked the bottle over” Replace “caused” with whatever I actually did or said. Edit: I wrote it that way purely to cover the breadth of things that could happen and to attached it to the fake apology initially discussed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:01 PM
81

But they expect 24/7 maid, chef, personal assistant, sex slave for free. Unpaid housework is slavery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:59 PM
32

I understand “I’m sorry I caused you to feel that way” because there’s plenty of (non romantic social interactions) where I have inadvertently hurt someone’s feelings. It’s the combination of what I said (however innocuous it might be) and the reaction of the person (perhaps they are particularly sensitive to a specific thing) The point is I am genuinely sorry I caused another human being to hurt - that was NOT my intention. I apologize for my faux pas and file away in my mind the pertinent info…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:32 PM
132

Run female you beautiful Queen. Unpaid housework is slavery! (Both from a libertarian perspective and from second wave feminism)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:05 AM
85

I appreciate that the male commentators recognize how this LVman sucks. LVM hate a) women not being “fun” with them (don’t be too serious ladies! & learn to take a joke! /s) and b) women having any fun without them (no friends allowed!) Edit: “you now know what picking poorly looks like” I like these guys Edit 2: we don’t want wimpy men; we want empathetic men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:12 PM
110

No no no. See men can have sex without being prepared to have children; women have to be prepared to have children to have sex (but should never mention it out loud). /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:51 PM
12

I would not engage with this person at all. When the “what about men” comes up in other situations, I gladly note that men need so much help... we should have institutes dedicated to teaching men about being a human, respecting others, regulating your own emotions, and all of the things that we prioritize teaching women as they grow up. Help teach them to be part of a community without assaulting someone who didn’t find them sexually appealing. ...you know... home ec and therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:30 PM
24

Where is there a matriarchal society in the world? He basically says “If they establish something that has never existed and is not even fathomed as a possibility... they will lose male followers. “ ok, we will cross that bridge when we arrive. What he’s really means is “if males lose the dominant upper hand, then clearly women have taken over and that’s not fair. I don’t understand the concept of equality.” Edit: word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:23 PM
80

Omg yes! What is this??? I recently cut off all my hair for a pixie cut (ala Audrey Hepburn) because I was sick of maintaining long hair. Everyone says it’s fabulous but I constantly catches my self thinking “ugh I look like such a lesbian!” I know it’s the most ridiculous thought and completely derogatory/prejudice. But I’ve just had so many years of people saying to me that “men like long hair blahblahblah” I hate it. Who cares??? (I also remind myself of the long list of women who have had sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:16 AM
8

Worth noting the harassment started in May 2020 and they arrested him in January 2021 They had not met in person! He was only arrested when he showed up to have sex (and he stood her up the first night!) He had three cell phones in his car. At this point no idea if he share the photos online (...why wouldn’t he though? She’s just a sex toy to him)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 08:24 PM
20

I am shocked! SHOCKED /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:38 AM
37

Can we put a NSFW flag on that? Reading it was not ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:20 AM
73

Check out the male on female murder rate vs the female on male murder rate. Idk but it seems like men tend to be more violent towards women than vice versa 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:54 PM
51

I’m surprised ten said something beyond “hey,” “sup,” cheesy pick up lines, or comments about your looks. Edit: I would have thought less. OLD is horrendous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:10 PM
8

Ah yes, I remember growing up dreaming about my first abortion... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:17 AM
32

I’m ashamed at how long it took for me to even begin to realize how bad porn is. So many men prove themselves LV to me by being infuriated by the idea that we’ve dated for 2-3 weeks and haven’t had sex (FDS aside, because I was not ready to trust them in that way) ... and I always wonder how different it would be if they weren’t all conditioned that pornography style sex is a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:59 PM
218

I think you solved “the case of the completely unappreciated girlfriend”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:27 PM
104

You forgot unattractive/ugly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:39 PM
3

IMMEDIATELY? Geez. At least follow up with verifying you are strict vegetarian or allow exceptions for seafood (the specific dietary name escapes me presently) Then scrote just crazy escalates. “You cannot expect me to listen.” Well scrote, you cannot expect anyone with any self respect to engage in a relationship with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:25 PM
36

Because society at large has conditioned us to view women as inferior. “Not being like the other girls” is supposed to indicate that we’ve overcome the pitfalls of our gender and have ascended to the level of “acceptable human” in that specific male perspective. I have a version of the waiter rule (the standard operating procedure where if someone is rude to wait staff they’re a bad person) about men who speak demeaningly about women... the only thing keeping them from seeing me in that demeanin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:19 PM
67

He sounds very supportive! Love the amount of empathy demonstrated here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:10 PM
78

Look tall dark handsome & well groomed is a timeless classic. No one is looking at Henry Cavill or Jon Hamm and is thinking they’re unattractive But what’s really special is the attractive male red head. I find it’s usually a red that is close to brown (Michael C Hall) or close to blonde (prince Harry) and less of a strong red color. Cameron Monaghen is the most true red head I can think of and he can be a little “uncanny valley” looking to me. .... I am 5’10 and a guy has to be 6’2+ before I fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:18 PM
71

Who is this? I love her energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 10:56 PM
23

advice: don’t date during lockdown Don’t neg yourself for being aspie. You’re still capable of being a queen. Work on being and feeling like that queen first and dating will fall into place after that. (Once your concern is about whether or not he is good enough for you not whether or not he will like you enough a lot of the anxiety will dissipate) What your personal journey to queen hood might look different because of being an aspie but everyone’s personal journey is different. I am pro maskin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:38 PM
28

Good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:52 PM
1

Ahahahahaha I didn’t realize there were multiple pictures and at first was thinking eh, that’s cringy but that seems like a pretty typical “joke” Nope. There was more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:46 PM
25

The FBI will shut that down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:00 AM
109

What could he possibly be thinking to decide to write that on his own post of his own wedding photo? “Give them a reason to stick around.” Ok, seems reasonable enough. “By giving them reasons to leave. Just make it clear to them that they should leave. Works like a charm.” Uh.... congrats to your wife? Edit:typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:10 AM
50

So you did finally completely block him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:28 PM
14

Low effort critique aside: “walking” is about the only thing I’m interested in doing outside; as a joke I would be amused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:26 PM
9

A significant other who does not currently intervene with their family on your behalf never will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:45 PM
1

Don’t sink to their level. Block and end contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:13 PM
47

His numbers support why men should work harder; they’re less likely to be selected by a mate. Is that... not how all mating works?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:27 AM
5

It sounds like she has more money than him... I wouldn’t be surprised if she was actually spending more on the relationship than him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:19 AM
32

There definitely was a time where you could not comment without flair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:14 AM
134

Dinner is “too serious” for a “date” 🤔 Wonder how blue feels about sex on a first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:41 PM
21

There’s the choice of not dating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:33 AM
16

Ahahahahaha love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 11:05 PM
25

Same. But WASP family. My favorite is when they tell me to be nicer to a guy after we break up - like we broke up? He has a mother he can cry to about it. It’s not my job to make him feel better. That specific break up was like 6 years ago and the guy had Facebook messaged me to tell me something was going on with his phone whatever. I already wanted to break up with him and was legit waiting for his phone to be fixed or whatever to do it via phone call. A week later, after the second or third “…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:03 PM
5

But you did reply 3 times. LVM basically end up with an emotional Rolodex of women they will text to appease their blackhole. Any reaction puts a little check mark next to your name in the Rolodex of “this person has emotions about me!” Good, bad, doesn’t matter... what matters is the indication that their existence in some way effects you: you thanked him, hoped he figured things out and wished him the best- the blackhole sees that as “the door is open; try again later!” The previous comment is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:34 PM
61

Stop replying. Any reaction feeds the emotional black hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:43 AM
3

So, Nog or Rom?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:08 PM
5

Nothing about this posts suggests to me there’s an incel writing it. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:04 PM
7

The way she described it I was positive there was an actual health issue for the pain ... but no... she saw a doctor... he’s an asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:00 PM
10

I’ve called male acquaintances out about this (and I think they have improved because of it.) men call women crazy when women ... are more invested in the relationship? Take it more seriously? I had a coworker who, to me, clearly did not want to be in a relationship with this woman he was seeing but he also did not think he was going to do any better (it was legitimately sad; he really had very low self esteem). He would complain about her being crazy and I would tell him to identify the behavio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:31 PM
45

Ugh he sounds exhausting. He definitely spins a biased narrative that makes him an undeniable victim. What’s most off putting is the clear lack of any self reflection. No, she should not have hit him. She should have ended the relationship instead of getting caught up this crap (the looking at other women, liking their Instagram accounts, disregarding her feelings...) I’m highly suspicious he’s the type to egg on jealousy because it gives him a ego stroke and then be completely “blindsided” when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:01 AM
44

🤷🏼‍♀️ I think this is all fine. Maybe don’t come back with the second thing you said - just cut to “I am looking for someone more marriage minded” Honestly I bet you get a lot of contradictory feedback. But you gotta filter out the 99% of OLD just looking to “vibe.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:17 PM
76

Girl Interrupted made the argument that BPD is largely coming of age for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 02:09 AM
3

As an American I’ve dated men from the US, Israel, and France. How have I dated 3 out of 4 on your list and no one else. (Though the Israeli I dated was actually pretty decent.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 01:28 AM
28

Damn poor Victoria
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:13 PM
23

Read the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:10 PM
23

It’s easier to dismiss a problem than to attempt to understand it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:32 PM
18

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:30 PM
16

The song Bent is about the toxic love where you think the other person should fix you (or that you can fix your partner) and how it brings the other person down too ... which is why it “end(s) with you and me bent.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 02:51 AM
27

I have described OLD apps as “free prostitution service” before because that is how so many males treat it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:18 PM
534

By the time you ordered you already down graded from the thing you explicitly wanted to something cheaper - by then you knew this guy was no bueno.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:29 PM
88

Meanwhile on reddit: YTA. As dumb as mud crab? That was very childish. Did you even try to understand why he uses a nest? He’s clearly dealing with trauma and you should be more considerate. Why not calmly discuss on the nest smelled - maybe he never realized it. You could offer to wash it for him. My skin crawls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:41 PM
138

Be perfect sun bleachers manic pixie dream girl, bring spontaneity and adventure into my life and giggle when I make fun of you. Also provide massages, cooking, cleaning, and any other comfort I might expect. If he were to get the woman he describes - her aspirations would be the reason he ends up hating her. She would be dedicating too much of her energy away from him. Also can we talk about how LVM have this anti-Instagram thing? It’s not like women and men really use the app differently. I ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 02:22 PM
8

I’m with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:44 AM
158

You should leave him immediately. Let’s put the respect issue aside (which btw is a huge & primary issue), who uses a stuffed animal for masturbation? Does that not suggest some ridiculous sick perversion? Is he a furry? (Is it a doll and he’s a pedo?) ... he seems to be finishing on the face... that’s not a rag... that’s something he’s using in the masturbation..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 01:56 PM
16

It’s also possible this is a bunch of venom (spun as a joke) he’s spewing because of his recent separation - and prepare to hear how awful/crazy his ex is. Your ability to assuage him that he is superior to his ex/ex’s new boyfriend/men will be the cornerstone of the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:14 PM
28

Yea I have to agree. He seems to be joking but... I don’t see the humor of it. Strap on in for laughing at his lame jokes (with him paying no regard to your comfort level with them) or him getting irritated with you for not putting on a performance of being entertained.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:10 PM
19

I think there’s a likelihood of mixed gender groups having an unhealthy dynamic. I think the age, culture, and setting (social vs. professional) of the group all impact the likelihood of the group having unhealthy dynamics. I do not believe “men and women cannot be friends” but I believe it is rare and usually requires a back group of another commonality between the two (ie I have had many happily married male work friends or school friends) it’s also possible to have a mixed gendered friend gro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 12:58 PM
41

If your gut is telling you the dynamics are “weird,” you should listen to it more than any response you get from strangers on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 12:48 PM
2

Short of the daughter being very crippled by an injury, I can’t imagine this is a real story. For reference I fractured my skull severely and spent a significant time in a hospital (concerns about becoming paralyzed from the neck down) and then another month pretty much in bed (they had me walk around the hospital before I left, I could get up to go to the bathroom and such). My first week out of the hospital, my mom left town. She had been planning on visiting her mother before her mother under…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:12 AM
82

I want to be her friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:48 AM
43

I’m actually impressed at how forthright he is about not being interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 11:39 PM
25

Gold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:35 PM
22

2 months? Use restraint. Seinfeld has the concept of “hand” in a relationship. An expensive gift this early on is giving a guy hand - even if the gift is NBD to you. Either a) he’s LVM and an expensive gift will make him see an opportunity to take advantage and things will drag out and eventually you’ll regret the gift, b) he’s a LVM and an expensive gift will somehow threaten his ego or make him think you’re desperate (eye roll), he’ll bail, and you’ll regret the gift. Or c) he’s a HVM and the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 10:53 PM
50

I barely skimmed. So many frustrations so early on... not a good sign. And it seems like you’re starting to contort yourself to create excuses for him. It also seems you did explicitly tell him what you wanted and (based on the length of the post) he has not fulfilled what has been directly asked of him. If you’re apologizing or repeating excuses for other people’s behaviors WHILE being frustrated by those behaviors - I doubt you believe the apologies or excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:38 AM
25

When things become physical, most recent STD screening. Once you get in the practice of not discussing your sexual history you’ll see more and more that your sexual history is in the past and has no bearing on your current relationship. Sharing it only makes others see it as a current reflection of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:33 AM
17

Of course he’s LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:30 AM
6

Relationship ended and the guy spewed venom at me that I never helped him do the dishes (after he cooked at his apartment)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 08:15 PM
116

Pretty sure “involuntary” is a key component of “incel” My life doesn’t revolve around having sex and “catching” a good man? My bad? 💁🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:59 AM
2

I got 5 once I mainly was wrong the first try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:12 AM
166

If only it had more pixels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:23 PM
6

There’s a difference between telling the truth and being callus to the effect you have on others I was taught you always apologize for hurting someone’s feelings, because (all else being equal) you didn’t intend to hurt their feelings. Whatever you said, whether or not it was true, is a completely separate issue. Yes, I would cut and bail quickly on someone who is more concerned about bEiNg tRuThFuL than demonstrating any empathy in their interpersonal relationships. It is emotionally immature. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:33 PM
26

I presume he’ll be doing all the cooking now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 01:30 AM
3

Definitely solid points.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:59 PM
23

Be selfish. Have fun. Don’t take things too seriously. Dating is a lot about figuring out what you like and what you want in a relationship. It’s like trying on clothes, if it doesn’t suit you, move on to the next thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:21 AM
3

Really the fact that he says “congrats you got yourself a maid” at the end is when you go... oh ok ... strict divide of household chores along gender lines. Your masculinity is threatened by the idea you would proactively do “feminine” chores around the house But also... don’t waste your time with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:32 AM
3

He cleans when she tells him too. Poorly. So she doesn’t ask again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:25 AM
19

Ugh I saw this earlier and just felt sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:22 PM
1

That’s not what this sub is for. Asking the question tells me you’re insecure in a way that will attract LVM and you’re less likely to effectively filter through them. Focus on loving yourself first. Once you do that, this sub can help you filter out the LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 02:11 AM
2

I feel the same. The idea of being alone shouldn’t be scary. Even if it’s for the next several years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 08:10 PM
59

If a behavior is making your cringe... that’s probably a sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:25 AM
26

Basically red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 11:25 PM
21

yOu sHoUlD bE fLaTtErEd! What else might the LVM echo chamber say... “a lot of guys don’t really have a chance to talk to women - you should give him a chance!” “It was meant as a compliment! Why are you so hung up on what he said and not the intention behind it?” Ugh I feel dirty just being able to come up with all of that. It’s disgusting. Our men need to be taught better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:50 AM
43

At least it seems YTA was the consensus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:35 PM
95

While my wife “choose” to do household chores. Did not get past the title. Unless she’s OCD cleaning (which is not “household chores”) yea you’re the asshole for sitting around and not helping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:32 PM
56

This^ I also find it condescending and judgmental. (Maybe not the precise feelings, but it does rub me the wrong way.) it would be like me saying I prefer men who do “x” when I have no knowledge about it... it’s an arbitrary “preference” that allows men to rank women above each other. (When said positively to a woman) it’s akin to “you’re not like the other women” as if there’s something inherently wrong with “other women” and you ought to feel special and validated that you are different from t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:30 PM
2

“A” vs “the” ... the article used in the sentence does not imply other measures do not exist. To be clear: “article” as in the grammar term and not the written publication term (or other possible uses of the word)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 11:51 AM
32

To add on to your comment: being a human being involves many more things than just physical attractiveness. I cannot begin to enumerate the facets of “personhood.” Some would argue that there’s more expectations out on women to be “desirable” than their are put on men. In America we’re only a few decades past “he doesn’t hit me” being a legitimate measure of a man being a good husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 03:38 AM
14

Yes- there’s certainly a difference between calling about an item or two and calling for every single item. Most of my calls to my mom have centered around oddly placed items (she starts a new diet and the rice crackers are in different places in the two close by stores) which I have no history of purchasing (I only visit here) (also sometimes the one grocery store carries an item the other one does not carry... like fresca... and I don’t expect it) or because I’m baking/cooking something and I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:53 PM
17

My parents have also been watching Everybody loves Raymond reruns- there’s a plot line where Raymond tells his brother (Robert) to make the wedding invites badly so that his fiancé with do everything. Too on point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:36 PM
98

My father recently failed to find shredded mozzarella cheese. Mom had sent him to get a few things from the store for dinner. Over an hour later he finally returned - we were all wondering what the hold up was. (I’m an adult quarantining with family.) He said he had a hard time finding things and that’s what took him so long. He really had not gotten the few things asked for. He said could only find ball mozzarella cheese - which given the timing of things we thought perhaps they were actually s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:48 AM
33

Totally irresponsible to not be aware of someone’s age. It also shows how quickly you’re jumping into bed with someone when you can’t learn anything about the person to put together... oh you’re still in middle/high school. Then to bring it up as a story demonstrates they haven’t matured or changed since that encounter. To me telling the story is a (subconscious) gauge to see how low your bar is. Devil’s advocate, 14 year olds exist that are not quickly identifiable as a minor. Firstly, they sti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 11:44 PM
7

Just reverse it. If you were liking men’s photos of the same nature, who he have a problem with it? (Or whatever gender is appropriate) And if your SO had a problem with it, how would you respond? Respect is a lot of treating others how you want to be treated. Even if something is innocuous, if it bothers your SO, you’ll stop doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:09 AM
0

You’re welcome to not take my advice. That’s all it is:advice. There’s a risk when you ask for advice you will not like the response. You are free to take it or leave it. I also did not dismiss OLD outright... I dismissed trying to start a relationship during a pandemic as I have done many times throughout this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:15 PM
2

Don’t waste your emotional bandwidth. LVM are great at faking investment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:58 PM
-5

It was a blanket statement. Not an accusation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:52 PM
11

Right now? No. Being on OLD and using OLD are two different things. Develop your passions and hobbies. Develop a social life with other women. Develop yourself. Let your social life expand and HVM will find you. Going out specifically looking for it will never work. This sub isn’t about how to catch a guy, it’s about identifying LV/HV value behaviors and bettering ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:39 PM
25

HVM aren’t dating during coronavirus restrictions. LVM are all about building fake emotional connections in order to stroke their egos especially if they are bored. He’s LVM. Keep him around for his work connections. Don’t waste emotional bandwidth on him. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:35 PM
24

This^ Deliver the message as factually as possible. Just send screenshots honestly. Say “I thought you had the right to know about this.” And then completely bow out of the situation. Many women are going to respond by attacking you - it has nothing to do with you, don’t get sucked into the drama. You have information that you think is important to share and that is the entirety of your role in this. Unless you have some other existing relationship with her, block everyone and go back to your ow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:32 PM
34

Perhaps that should tell you two things: a) HVM aren’t dating during the coronavirus b) even in normal circumstances, you’re unlikely to meet a HVM OLD “Unlikely” is not “impossible;” the antidotal stories of someone meeting a HVM OLD shouldn’t be taken as proof that it’s a good method.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:21 PM
2

This one here^ Also most males (especially LVM) will decide they want a relationship and then be interested in the next acceptable female to enter into their lives. Regardless if it’s shiny- it’s new! And that’s the thing they will pursue and want. Literally think about how easy it is to distract a dog with something new - that’s all it is. They aren’t rationally assessing anything. They have not even thought about the qualities of the people in their life. Don’t compare yourself to her - it has…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 02:13 AM
56

That’s Michael Bublé? I thought he was more... vanilla...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 02:31 AM
20

It was actually r/jellybeantoes - photos of cat paws
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:25 AM
42

I go to reddit meetups in my city (back in the before time) met multiple fellow female redditers (it is a coed setting) can say I have literally no idea if any of them are in this sub. One guy asked me my favorite subreddits and I said I spend a lot of time in FDS and explain a film plot badly- zero recognition or judgement. His response was more “have you seen the jellybeans sub???” So yea, IRL people aren’t talking about/don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 09:04 PM
80

It’s not a communication gap. It’s yet another case of a man failing to be a competent human being. LVM always say it’s a “communication issue” right until a women gives them a point by point of what they want (the only way to make the LVM understand anything) and THEN the women is just a bitch. She has a classic husband-child here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:59 PM
93

Surround yourself with women who value themselves the way you value yourself! I was scrolling through Instagram (and staying with my family during coronavirus stuff, normally live on the opposite coast) and said absentmindedly something about my sorority sisters being married and having kids. My mom’s response was, “Yea but would you want to be married to any of their husbands?” I basically laughed “no.” Probably a reason I’ve never asked any of them to set me up with someone... almost without e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:24 PM
22

Ahahahaha truer words have never been spoken
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 11:09 AM
8

I tend towards it being a red flag. my profession/company does tend to have a lot of out of the office communication and is a very collaborative process where you could text someone like “omg where were you? I needed you today! Everyone else suxkkkkks” (across gender lines, but it is a male dominated field so I am the only female on my specific team - I talk frequently to women on other teams as well) - but during business hours or maybe an hour after. Sometimes we text because everything we say…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 04:19 PM
18

I’m also annoyed that they used “or” rather than the proper “nor.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 11:14 PM
3

But imagine thinking this is a lie worth telling. Being so preoccupied with sounding like you get to have sex with women that you don’t even fathom how awful you sound. (Also the poster is repeating what someone else said so possible the poster is honestly repeating what someone else lied about)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 03:58 PM
13

Original post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:32 AM
64

“Pickme and I will value your Prime LVM dick over the life of my children” 83% chance she has her children call every boyfriend she has dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 11:41 AM
15

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. LVM will be crawling out of the woodwork faking some sort of emotional intelligence during quarantine in an effort to make themselves feel better. They’re lonely, they want attention and validation. Do not fall for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:02 PM
30

I love how “she stopped having sex with me as much as she initially was” is always the only thing LVM care about. How hard is it to figure out someone is failing? Also my libido fluctuates and it’s not always just “on” if you’re acting like an asshole chances are I’m not interested in having sex with you. They just want their sex on demand without having to give any thought to the human on the other end. The moment he thought someone else would touch it he’s on to the next one. Guarantee that’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:56 PM
10

Is it possible to just ... ignore her relationship and maintain the friendship? If the relationship dominates her life & it’s all she talks about, I understand why you would want to take a step back from the friendship. Stepping back from the friendship might be the healthy choice for you. Maybe saying something - as nonjudgmental and as supportive as possible- that you don’t find her relationship healthy and would love to be there for her when she has moved on from it. It’s not your relationshi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:20 AM
30

OLD standards are so low - he read the paragraph I’m allowed to have and managed to regurgitate a fact from it to me. I noticed I kept getting virtually the same message from men on OLD - it doesn’t take a HVM to realize that showing signs of “emotional investment” will yield better results. On my post about not dating during coronavirus restrictions I also commented about being skeptical of “just talking” to men during restrictions. I advice an abundance of caution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:40 PM
13

I’ve literally never noticed a bulge on any man in a work environment. I’ve dated well endowed men and have never witnessed them having a bulge while going about their day to day life. I’ve seen bulges with men in sweatpants/at the gym and I just avert my eyes. But for it to be a constant thing at work... that seems weird. Most replies are telling OP she’s being ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 03:22 AM
7

Original post here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 01:40 AM
5

It seems a little bit like gaslighting. It’s definitely emotionally invalidating. But it’s almost like... whatever you’re upset about just doesn’t exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:45 PM
3

My comment here pretty much addresses that. I have no thoughts about leaving a profile up just about being active on it. It’s a great time to focus on ourselves and to look inward. There was a great post in the sub recently about ways to level up while being home bound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:38 PM
35

Not only did he forget her birthday ... he forgot it while I presume on coronavirus lockdown. I have acquaintances who remember my birthday from putting it in their google calendar years earlier. If you care about someone... like at all... you’re itching to get that happy birthday text to them BEFORE they have a chance to say anything to you about it. In addition to whatever else you might have planned for them. He didn’t have a chance until 9 pm? Is he a doctor? He better be a doctor who has be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:10 PM
5

Yea ... that’s not a fetish... that’s run... and hide ... and verify if you need to report this to anyone...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:50 AM
4

I was using bumble bff and having moderate success with it prior to restrictions being implemented. Still in contact with the people I met and liked through it but obviously we’re not going out so the relationship is kind of stagnating. The other way I’ve met people has been through a subreddit specific to the city in which I live. There used to be semi regular meet ups announced on it (again not really a functional option at this time). So I don’t have any great advice during this restrictive t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 07:42 PM
4

Well. I don’t know what that is and I am happy to immediately forget those terms and never investigate further.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 05:32 PM
5

Asking the real questions. I hear the two worst and I think... scat (poop) and snuff (murder). I am not well versed in the fetish world though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:00 PM
10

Oh. Oh god. I wasn’t wearing my glasses when I read this. The horror.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:58 PM
8

...I have no idea... I hear foot fetish and think like Quentin Tarantino who has lots of shots of feet in his film which is fairly innocuous. I... just have no idea. Pretty sure we don’t want to know. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:33 PM
13

Link to original here Edit: it’s a FOOD fetish. I can’t edit the title (I wasn’t wearing my glasses when I read it and my mind was trying to protect me)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:18 AM
77

That was my exact thought. Make it a woman with two lovers and see what happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:01 AM
78

I don’t really even see it as a dating strategy. It’s just a reminder that I deserve to be happy in a relationship and am more than just playing the “role” of a girlfriend to someone. I’m only going to be in a relationship if I have the space to be a full fledge individual within it. How many years did I take it as normal that a guy’s eye would glaze over whenever I talked about my job or interests? How long did I internalize that and think to myself the problem was that I dare think my romantic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:05 AM
16

Just leaving this here If anything his refusal to see you is a good sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 10:27 PM
19

I would still be skeptical. The fact that there isn’t an expectation to meet anytime soon leaves a LVM able to carry on fake/pseudo relationships long distance to pass their time and stroke their egos. I wouldn’t be surprised if they appear great over the phone & messages and as soon as circumstances change and restrictions are lifted that they just disappear. There’s a joke that “women fake orgasms, but men fake whole relationships” (queens don’t fake orgasms) without even the expectation of me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 12:32 PM
5

It was a discussion. What’s surprising is that you read hostility into it. Frankly, this kind of turn in a conversation- accusing the other party of being “hostile” or “emotional” - is a super common trait of abusers, people in toxic relationships and LV individuals. I’m over it. You do you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:59 PM
27

My gym loaned out its free weights to members, has created workouts easy to do at home, and has begun doing classes over zoom. I am super lucky and so happy I found my gym (I was unable to pick up any weights). I have been slaying my exercise routine with all of their help (what else am I doing?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:43 PM
14

He’s demonstrated poor judgement and is forcing you to be the adult. If you want to be mothering him for the rest of your days, enjoy your LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:38 PM
31

I’d probably call it right then. “He’s just shooting his shot” is a great way to justify a variety of LVM behaviors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:49 PM
192

Any guy who is trying to start a relationship right now is LVM. A HVM is not putting themselves, their housemates, other people at risk by going out and socializing in any capacity. Stop trying to date right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:39 PM
74

How do you twist that conversation as being ok? “You tried to sleep with another woman, again... aw, it didn’t work, LVbf is so cute when he embarrassed” What???? Just how?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 08:28 PM
4

Everyone in this story sounds like they deserve each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:14 AM
18

Even then... dating can wait. What’s your rush? Spend this time doing stuff for yourself you usually don’t have time for. Indulge your interests more than usual. Continue your development as an individual. I understand getting cabin fever and itching to get out of the house; I don’t understand being concerned that you won’t get to go on a “date” soon. I presume any male trying to “date” during this time (of recommended social distancing) is a LVM and you might as save yourself the effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 04:29 AM
17

I think the male counterpart to the pickme is the nice guy. There’s plenty of other toxic/derogatory terms to describe men who show empathy or display any “feminine” attributes. I don’t think the behaviors those terms describe are, themselves, toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 06:42 AM
23

I love her music. I am finding it harder to relate to as I get older. I support the “music is music” and the idea of separating the songs from the person. The songs are very... pining for someone... which is very much not FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:36 PM
0

someone else answered this elsewhere
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