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| 28 | [FR] Night at a club and one dumb habit I realized | erect_sean | /r/seduction | 14/02/16 09:05 AM | |
| 8 | What are your plans for self improvement during quarantine? | Lifestyle | erect_sean | /r/seduction | 13/04/20 04:09 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Solo night game - not being loud enough | erect_sean | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 12:21 AM | |
| 2 | [FR] Night club and the belief that's holding me back | erect_sean | /r/seduction | 30/09/18 07:10 AM | |
| 2 | [Mark Manson]5 Ways to Build Resilience and Conquer Adversity | Resources | erect_sean | /r/seduction | 26/05/20 01:15 AM |
| 2 | [FR] New year's beach party - an uphill battle | erect_sean | /r/seduction | 01/01/19 11:07 AM | |
| 1 | [FR]Beach party with mixed results with a persisting issue | erect_sean | /r/seduction | 23/04/19 03:05 AM |
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| 0 | Paid coaches or bootcamps worth it?They are part but they don’t guarantee anything | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 03:18 PM |
| 8 | What is a good way to meet a lot of women?Yep same here. Learned salsa and started going to salsa parties and met lots of girls. It’s an easy way to at least expand your social circle. | /r/seduction | 05/01/22 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Seduction and being short - my personal experience and adviceCongrats on your success it’s great to hear these stories. The only thing I’d disagree with is not going to bars or clubs. Personally I think those places can be great to practice your social skills. It may not be for everyone but at least you should be open to trying it | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 06:47 PM |
| 6 | Here is what I did to stop developing crushesIt depends, if you’re chill about getting rejected and it won’t affect your work then go for it. But I’ve been in office jobs where dudes couldn’t take a no and acted weird at work then HR has to step in and shit gets messy | /r/seduction | 02/01/21 11:45 PM |
| 14 | The Best Thing to Do for Your Dating Life is Probably Leave This Subreddit (An Oxymoronic Guide)It’s a clickbait post. He’s not gonna answer people contradicting him because he doesn’t have an answer. It is funny that the advice he gives has been posted here several times | /r/seduction | 30/12/20 09:07 PM |
| 0 | Shouldn't you just look for signs of attraction instead of trying to spit game?Forget puas and youtube and think about your experiences talking to girls. Has a girl reacted negatively at first but the she warms up to you? If you have been out there talking to girls (maybe not in the current situation lol) then you inow what I’m talking about. | /r/seduction | 26/12/20 09:06 PM |
| -1 | Shouldn't you just look for signs of attraction instead of trying to spit game?You should do both. Just because a girl doesn’t find you attractive right away doesn’t mean everything is ñost. This is where game comes in and you should be able to turn it around. | /r/seduction | 26/12/20 07:05 PM |
| 4 | Shouldn't you just look for signs of attraction instead of trying to spit game?Looks do matter but it is not the deciding factor. I have seen good looking dudes have very little to no social skills and lose attraction from a girl. Similarly I have had cases where when I start talking to a girl she’s really not that into you but by “spitting game” I’m able to turn it around. I guess my point is to not use attractiveness as an excuse for not talking to girls | /r/seduction | 26/12/20 07:02 PM |
| 1 | get this stuff right and it might just work out for you.You can do both at the same time. I agree you should put yourself first but not working on your socisl/dating skills while working on yourself is just missing out on experiences. OP has good advice but I always highly disagree on “waiting for the right situation” before talking to girls | /r/seduction | 24/12/20 03:09 PM |
| 1 | what to do when approaching women gets old but you still feel lonely?Why are you getting rejected? How are you approaching? We need more info on some examples of your approaches to truly know what’s going on | /r/seduction | 20/12/20 12:46 PM |
| 22 | My ex broke up with me saying that I texted him too much. I decided to write a program to analyze our text and using hard data to show him wrongLol so this post will probably appear on a few other subs. She’s promoting her content I guess. Gotta respect the hustle | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 01:20 PM |
| 4 | I've been approaching women since 2009 and have yet to have any kind of success, hundreds of approaches later. I feel immense self-hate and need someone to talk to.Meditation can help OP, there are some apps that offer tons of free guided meditations (I recommend Insight Timer) it’s definitely not as powerful as therapy sessions but it can be a starting point to improving your mental health because it seems to me you’re really harsh on yourself | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 01:35 PM |
| 1 | There's really only 1 method that truly works and you don't really need to know anything else.No worries, it’s still a great post because it highlights one of the major things that guys need to work on. Once you’ve truly accepted yourself, practising and improving your social skills is much easier. | /r/seduction | 02/11/20 03:47 AM |
| 0 | There's really only 1 method that truly works and you don't really need to know anything else.Yes being comfortable with yourself is important, very important. No it’s not the only thing you need to know. I know you’re clickbaiting but pushing people “only do 1 thing” can be just as harmful as red-pill guides and other bs. Truth of the matter is you need to work on yourself but also improve your social skills. Doing only one of these will get you nowhere. | /r/seduction | 02/11/20 03:16 AM |
| 1 | How to not seem needy when you kind of areThe best approach would be to talk to girls at bars, coffee shops or wherever. This can be a bit tricky with corona but it can br done. It will give you the best chance to interact and flirt with women. Online dating can also be an option, if you work on having a decent profile you will be able to get some dates. The idea is the same though, to get experience interacting with women | /r/seduction | 25/10/20 02:02 PM |
| 19 | You guys got it all wrongLoving the clickbait title lol. This isn’t new advice posted here but bears repeating especially the part about beliefs. Many guys have low self worth and don’t really know what to do about it. Therapy is one way, books are another. | /r/seduction | 20/10/20 11:55 PM |
| 7 | If you arent very attractive is your only hope is to be good socially? How much of an obstacle are you facing?Nah maybe it’s just what I’ve seen but I have seen fat guys with a lot of charisma pull hot girls. I agree with your points looks do matter but you’re not limited to a certain group of girls | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 01:46 AM |
| 3 | I have no idea how to be anything more than just platonic friends with girlsLol don’t do it then and watch how someone else asks her out and ends up being with her. Your choice, man up or lose her | /r/seduction | 15/10/20 01:42 AM |
| 6 | Don’t approach a girl like you want to date her, approach a girl like you want to meet her as a friendHe prob came in with good intentions. The problem about dating advice is that unless you have tried it out a couple of times then it doesn’t have a lot of value | /r/seduction | 14/10/20 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else here deleted Instagram?Not playing the game with their rules? If you’re talking about validation that happens on instagram and off. Girls get simps everywhere they go. To bring it back to dating this makes it easier to stand out by just not bring a simp and working on yourself. Insta isn’t the issue here | /r/seduction | 09/10/20 01:51 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else here deleted Instagram?Hopefully your take gets attention because this is the right answer. Insta, FB and all apps can be a timesink but at the end of the day they are just apps. You have to own up how you use them. I can see how these apps fuck you up mentally but you’re not fixing your anxiety by deleting those apps, you’re just running away from a source of anxiety. If you find yourself comparing your life to others when looking at insta posts then that habit will probably continue outside of the app. TLDR: social … | /r/seduction | 09/10/20 12:45 PM |
| 3 | Guys don’t forget, the girl also has to attract you.It really depends on a lot of things, the environment in which you meet a girl (bar vs coffee shop) and mainly the girl herself. If a girl has had bad experiences with men then expecting her to open up and show attraction may take a long time. That's why I think you should focus on the things you can control, like showing attraction in a non needy way, and judge where you want to take the interaction based on how she reacts to you. | /r/seduction | 20/09/20 02:31 AM |
| 1 | How expensive is tyler?It sounds like you're trying too hard to have Tyler's game when you should focus on developing your own kind of game. As far as resources to get rid of negativity, meditation is a good way to start to get be comfortable with your own skin. As for books I'd recommend "Break through your BS" - "What to say when you talk to your self" - and "fundamentals of female dynamics". That last one was written by some dude who worked closely with one of the RSD instructors | /r/seduction | 20/09/20 02:26 AM |
| 2 | Should I have waited?You're still being needy though. Being silent on purpose to not appear needy is just as bad. Keep it simple, set up another date and start from there. Don't pretend to act like you're not interested in her when you actually are.Just be self-aware enough to not be overbearing especially in a work environment | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:43 PM |
| 1 | How do you know if a woman is looking at you because she wants you to approach as opposed to just random eye contact?I think a better solution is to find out why you feel you're creeping women out and work on that. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:21 PM |
| 1 | How expensive is tyler?What are looking to get from him?Are there any other alternatives like books, free videos? I'm not saying to outright throw the idea of coaching out the window, but those sessions can be expensive, if you're starting self-development from scratch there's better (and cheaper) resources out there. Don't fall for the hype right away | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:19 PM |
| 3 | Should I have waited?You seem needy right now. If you're going to see her at work then just go about your regular day, if you feel like talking to her then do it. If you're interested in this girl then set up another date for some other time and actually show some interest. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Hit on everyoneYou don't owe anyone an explanation for what you do. If you believe what you're doing is right for you and not harming anyone then that should be good enough. If someone calls you out on it, make a joke out of it. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Trying to score a winMy advice would be DMing him from your real account, commenting on his stories. Try to start a proper conversation and go on from there. Don't worry about getting rejected, as someone who's gotten rejected 1000x times, you get over it. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:10 PM |
| 3 | Finally breaking the approach anxiety barriernice GJ on the open, make sure to keep that momentum going and posting more Field Reports to show other guys here how it's done | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:06 PM |
| 17 | Guys don’t forget, the girl also has to attract you.You have the right idea, you shouldn't settle for someone who isn't into you and is interested in you but not every women you meet from the get go will show an initial interest in you. That's kinda why the popular advice is to approach often. YOU have to take the first step, talk to her and open up. Girls have a bigger dating pool so they may have their reasons why they don't initially show a lot of interest. As you spend more time with a girl you have to see whether she's as into you as you are… | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 10:02 PM |
| 1 | There Are Too Many Women Out There To Be Stuck on One GirlYes but you have to build up towards that feeling. Initial attraction towards a girl will be mainly based on her looks. After you get yo know her, if she's attracting you then you will get that feeling of getting swept of your feet AKA in love, basically you have to spend time with girls which also means being open to getting hurt because a) A girl you were initially attracted to isn't really a match b) she may reject you. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 09:56 PM |
| -1 | I am a girl and I am confused about this subredditI don’t understand the point of this post. Are you looking for help for a particular situation you’re going through? Are you here to give advice? Or is this another of many posts in which “all the advice sucks” and you just want attention. Look like any sub there’s good posts and bad posts, if you’re really interested in help then you habe to look through a couple of posts. Personally I’ve seen some great content here but I’m going to guess you saw a couple of bad posts and made up your mind. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 09:36 PM |
| 2 | Is RSD Dead ?I think Todd is still doing dating vids. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Things a learnt from a very successful guyAt the very least hostels are the easiest place to talk to people. Everybody is open to conversation. | /r/seduction | 13/08/20 10:51 PM |
| 4 | LPT: If ur talking to a girl and some other dude approaches to hit on her just interrupt and say “I’m sorry, is this a friend of yours? Hi nice to meet you”Have you actually tried this out in a conversation? If so what happened. | /r/seduction | 13/08/20 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Is 28 too late to start hooking up more?Reading something inspiring and aporoaching can work. It seems you’re mad about it? Maybe you can share what you did, there is no one right way to improve. Everyone can do their thing without others hating on it for no reason | /r/seduction | 08/08/20 08:02 PM |
| 65 | Is 28 too late to start hooking up more?Take ghosting as a rejection and move on. If she is interested she would try to contact you, saves you the trouble of being hung up | /r/seduction | 08/08/20 07:58 PM |
| 7 | Personal recommended books for reading. I've read each of these books (and some on ebook format on my phone) and will give you a condensed recommendation in the comments.I agree it’s a great read but Manson’s style of writing can be very snarky. His latest book even more so lol. But if you can get over that then you will find a lot of value in what he writes | /r/seduction | 04/08/20 12:16 AM |
| 2 | Focus Less On Pick Up Techniques And More On Building The ManI agree with you, men should focus on becoming more attractive overall. To me, "game" or social skills are part of that package. You can have your life in order and be confident, that doesn't always mean your social skills will be on par. I guess "game" has such a bad rep that it can get confused with unhealthy shit like manipulation tactics or w/e but social skills are definitely needed if you want to be attractive overall. | /r/seduction | 26/07/20 10:21 PM |
| 3 | Focus Less On Pick Up Techniques And More On Building The ManYou need both. Now how much do you need of each will depend from person to person but saying that pickup techniques/ social techniques are not worth focusing on can be misleading advice for some people. Again throwing blanket statements can be a bit tricky at the end of the day everyone recommends what works for them. | /r/seduction | 26/07/20 08:12 PM |
| 3 | Saying BeautifulIf she's attractive then she's probably getting that line from a million other guys so it's kinda lame. You have to stand out and say something different. I have no idea the context with this friend of yours but you would be better off trying to joke around with her. | /r/seduction | 24/07/20 12:51 AM |
| 5 | Okay seriously wtf is wrong with me.It's gonna be the painful reminder to: A)not chicken out B) stop getting wasted when talking to girls. It will help you out in the long run | /r/seduction | 24/07/20 12:48 AM |
| 2 | What advice do you give to an intelligent serious introvert?well what are your current problems? Are you talking to girls but aren't getting their attention? Are you not flirty enough? Some context could help | /r/seduction | 24/07/20 12:46 AM |
| 4 | Have a life and they will flock to you, insane how fast it worksShare something about your day that exciting/interesting to you. With the pandemic I've been doing this with cooking, I just send of picture of a dessert I made or post it on my story. That has helped me start conversations with girls in social media. It gets the conversation going in a topic that you're interested in. I think the mistake guys make is going for the typical question: How was your day/ wyd /etc" | /r/seduction | 24/07/20 12:42 AM |
| 2 | Spitting good game isn’t about always being flawlessly brilliantBoth of you are correct. The thing is it will depend on the personality of the person learning game. Some people have a harder time socially and game will help them get a better grasp of what a good social interaction looks like. Someone who is already an extrovert or even just comfortable in his own skin will get very little out of game. | /r/seduction | 24/07/20 12:35 AM |
| 2 | am I the only one who finds it easier to talk to women face to face than through texts?It's easier IRL because you get to see people's expressions and tone when saying things. When texting you don't get all of this so there is a lot room for misunderstanding texts. | /r/seduction | 24/07/20 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Rejection.It’s not its a random ass post | /r/seduction | 21/07/20 10:47 PM |
| 1 | One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 46 Progress ReportAre you still only talking to girls walking around? Have you tried any different environments? Also at this point it seems you rely way too much on your opener. My guess is that you’re not seeing any progress because you’re still doing the same things | /r/seduction | 13/07/20 01:38 PM |
| 3 | Does height matter?Yes 100x. You're young and maybe over thinking this but as long as you have good self esteem. It should be able to translate into a great personality because you're not dependent on others giving you value. You know who you are. My advice, focus on getting better in different areas of your life and look into socializing more through your hobbies. There's tons of books as well to read on how to have a better personality. Stop being a victim | /r/seduction | 11/07/20 10:03 PM |
| 1 | What to actually do if you have a "type" but women of that background are not receptive to men like you.I mean more like this story, about a kid who was so upset that girls didn't like him and blamed it all on them that it took him to an extreme where he ended up killing people. Granted, these are really extreme cases but if you're not mentally in a good place then remaining in victim mode can lead you somewhere dark. BTW I'm also 30, you can turn your life around at any time, if you've been trapped in victim mode for so long then I'd highly recommend therapy or at least reading a book on the subj… | /r/seduction | 03/07/20 12:42 AM |
| 5 | Most seduction books are pure s**t, what you need to be doing is working on fundamental social skills and dealing with your inner demons.Yeah pickup has it's place. It's not the magic bullet that will solve all of your problems but I'm willing to bet it helps a lot of people. I guess it's just a meme at this point to hate on PUA for the sake of hating it. But to each their own | /r/seduction | 02/07/20 02:49 AM |
| 0 | Jobs/Activities you can do to make yourself more social? Lacking social skills due to sitting infront of the Computer all day, even my ability to talk has deteriorated.If you’re willing to try out salsa classes then go for it. You get to meet a TON of new people with the benefit of also hanging around really hot girls | /r/seduction | 30/06/20 08:13 PM |
| 1 | How to date in today’s world?with all the quarantine stuff going in it will depend. People who take it more seriously may not want to talk to some random person for fear of being infected or whatever. If you live in an area where people don't care then yeah that opener would be more than enough | /r/seduction | 30/06/20 02:32 PM |
| 27 | If you’re still single, you should never cut ties with any woman unless she explicitly says she’s disinterested.I agree with both your POV and OP. I do think there is a balance to be found, but at some point you have to judge the level of interest/attention she's giving you and see if you're willing to wait it out. If she's not putting any effort in contacting you or getting together then yeah it's better to leave | /r/seduction | 30/06/20 02:30 PM |
| 37 | Live with 2 attractive bartenders, here are my thoughtsI agree with this, OP has good intentions with this post but the thing with dating skills is that everyone starts at a different place. That's why I believe that PUA techniques can't be completely written off because for total newbs who lack skills and are below average looks, these techniques will help them to start taking action. The typical "just be yourself" advice does work, if you've got good looks but for everyone else, they need to take the long road | /r/seduction | 30/06/20 02:22 PM |
| 1 | What to actually do if you have a "type" but women of that background are not receptive to men like you.Victim mentality is dangerous mainly because you stop taking responsibility for your life and focus too much on external things that are affecting you. On the dating scene you can see this in guys who blame their circumstances, their genetics or anything as the reason they can't get into a relationship. A bigger level of victim mentality can lead you towards depression because you actually believe that you are not in control of your life and that there is nothing that you can do about it. You lo… | /r/seduction | 30/06/20 02:13 PM |
| 2 | What to actually do if you have a "type" but women of that background are not receptive to men like you.From the looks of it, you have some self esteem issues, the fact that you consider yourself low value tells me working on this should be your no1 priority. If possible work with a therapist if not I'd recommend this book. It's written by a therapist and it goes deep into mood therapy, I personally prefer it over random self help books. At the same time you could also try having small interactions with women, not with the goal of getting dates, but to prove to yourself that you are able to intera… | /r/seduction | 26/06/20 02:32 PM |
| 5 | What to actually do if you have a "type" but women of that background are not receptive to men like you.Latins hate middle eastern people?? That’s not true, I’m Latin and I’ve known tons of girls who have slept with middle eastern people. I don’t think avoiding an entire group is proper advice. Every girls is different some will be more attracted to you so talking should be easier. Some don’t and the result will be dependent on the interaction. No need to go overboard | /r/seduction | 25/06/20 06:25 PM |
| 42 | This sub in a nutshellYeah, really weird post, I think there's a growing group of people who are just hate subbed here. If you don't really like this sub then why join at all? If you got your dating life in a good spot, why not share would you did to help others? Hate to call out the mods but these are the type of posts that don't add anything to the discussion and should be removed. | /r/seduction | 24/06/20 02:12 PM |
| 5 | Approached a girl - worst experience everIt sucks that she reacted like that but she probably had her reasons, don’t take it personally and move on. Also you coyld probably give us more details on how you approached maybe you did something that appeared threatening. As a final note, I see you’re getting downvoted for no reason lol ignore the nouse here, unfortunately there are people who have never approached or don’t really know what this sub is about. Stay strong, keep trying and post your interactions to get feedback | /r/seduction | 24/06/20 12:00 PM |
| 4 | Being Single During COViDIt sounds like dating is more than a hobby if your confidence is dependent on it. You’re right, the situation sucks and not being able to meet women is not ideal but this is the perfect time to work on yourself. This will help you grow more confident with the added bonus of being more interesting for future dates | /r/seduction | 24/06/20 11:46 AM |
| 2 | I don’t think it takes that long to get good at game/seductionField Reports basically a summary of your interactions you had. The idea is to get feedback from people so that you can improve | /r/seduction | 23/06/20 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Cold Approach - Some SuccessGj on your approach, remember the more you’re in your head about it the harder it is. Also go for the number, you pretty much got in your own way | /r/seduction | 23/06/20 01:02 AM |
| 3 | The key to attractive personality (both for men and women)I don’t really understand if OP is dismissing the idea of cold approach but if you want to improve your conversational skills and confidence it’s the best way to do it. The idea is you approach and learn how to interact and as you get better you express your “true self”. It may not be the only wat to improve your convo skills but I would just be careful on giving some sort of excuse for guys not to take action and practice properly | /r/seduction | 23/06/20 12:57 AM |
| 4 | I don’t think it takes that long to get good at game/seductionYou’re creating this image that no one likes you based on your results from approaching. The first step I’d recommend is to stop basing your value on who accepts you or rejects you. Instead be proud of every approach and learn from every interaction to get better. That’s also how you get an abundance mindset, when you realize you have the skills necessary to talk to girls, you’ll realize that no girl is “out of your league” and you can have a chance to talk to any girl. Also post your FRs here t… | /r/seduction | 23/06/20 12:41 AM |
| 1 | A line that drastically increases sexual tension... for meI understand the point that you’re trying to make but I disagree with the last statement. In my experience I have been able to attract girls that were initially not attracted to me because of Game. I agree that game isn’t meant to make you attractive to every single girl, but you can definitely make yourself more attractive if you do it properly | /r/seduction | 21/06/20 12:45 AM |
| 4 | Do you feel the concept of modern dating is working/fair?Dating is not easy, even if you do know how to approach and talk to women you'll still get hurt. But confidence, at least when it comes to dating, is knowing that you''' be alright and that a girl's opinion of you whether it's good or bad, doesn't really define you. I'm curious to know what you've actually done and more importantly if you've gotten any feedback. I've used this sub to post field reports and thanks to other guys here who are much more experienced I've realized things about my inte… | /r/seduction | 18/06/20 04:16 AM |
| 2 | Do you feel the concept of modern dating is working/fair?totally agree, PUA tactics or whatever you want to call them, won't help guys get into relationships. But it does give them a starting point to try and improve their dating life. I believe (after going through all of this) that a proper mix of PUA and working on yourself gives you a much better chance when dating. | /r/seduction | 18/06/20 04:10 AM |
| 1 | Where to find wingmen in smaller countries/areas?In some situations a good wingman can help out, mostly scenarios where there are several girls. At least in my experience. HOwever a shitty wingman can be just another cockblock on your night out so might as well go solo | /r/seduction | 18/06/20 03:16 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys deal with ghosters or girls who aren't straight up with you?honestly I don't think there is. It might sound harsh but just take the L and move on. Every girl is gonna have different reasons why they ghosted you but it really doesn't matter. Hopefully you're self aware on what you're doing in those interactions, and then you may realize some sticking points. Maybe you're being too pushy or your conversations are too friendly. Whatever it is, you're the only one who can actually be aware of this. | /r/seduction | 18/06/20 03:14 AM |
| 26 | Do you feel the concept of modern dating is working/fair?What is even the concept of dating nowadays. I bet people don't really know. The majority of guys really stumble into a relationship and stay there because they're too afraid of being alone. Dating can be hard because each girl is different, some girls will go for the stunt that your dude pulled on the DMs others wont. My advice, stick to what works, focus on yourself and your self esteem to have that core confidence and to prevent from being the typical needy/simp/nice guys. Also work on your "… | /r/seduction | 18/06/20 03:05 AM |
| 1 | Over confidenceI guess we need more examples of actual conversations maybe you're saying something that in your mind doesn't sound cocky but it actually does? Or you could try to make fun of yourself for something to be more relatable? | /r/seduction | 17/06/20 02:53 PM |
| 2 | How to Start AnythingThe book is Everything is Fucked, it's actually a really interesting read about hope and how we misplace hope on bad things and how we can grow out of it. I'd highly recommend a read if possible | /r/seduction | 14/06/20 10:58 PM |
| 8 | How to Start AnythingThis reminds me of a part in one of Mark Manson's recent books where he described how we depend too much on our emotions to do something and if we don't feel like it then we end up procrastinating. His advice was similar to yours to just start with the smallest thing as possible and negotiate with yourself to give yourself some kind of reward for starting out and doing something. Great advice hopefully ppl apply this to all areas and not only on seduction | /r/seduction | 13/06/20 09:02 PM |
| 2 | One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 13 Field Report ( Push Pull and Calm)Great job keep going strong. I'm jealous we're still under heavy lockdown lol | /r/seduction | 10/06/20 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Stalling convoThere will always be 3 things you can talk about: yourself, her and your environment. When I'm in a situation like this I just make a comment about anything noticeable about this 3 to get a conversation going. Not everything has to be serious and logical, feel free to joke around | /r/seduction | 06/06/20 10:03 PM |
| 3 | How do I make it happenIt seems like you're going through your share of personal problems, luckily for you she also wasn't in the best spot because unloading your personal issues on someone else you just met can be a bit much. I'm guessing the reason why you enjoy exercising is because it takes your mind off the problems you have and you know you're doing something to improve, so might as well focus on getting in your head in the right space and focus on yourself. It's a vague suggestion I know but I don't have much t… | /r/seduction | 06/06/20 10:01 PM |
| 6 | Besides bars and clubs, where are some solid places to meet women?I used to work on an airline and I can vouch for the flight attendants scenario, they usually have 1 or 2 days off and if they are far from home then they get bored quick. I eas able to go on a lunch date with one from a quick conversation as the plane was landing. | /r/seduction | 03/06/20 03:07 PM |
| 2 | COVID = Cold Approach Dead ForeverDaygame may be the first option, coffee shops and parks, I would guess, are places where people will still hang out . | /r/seduction | 27/05/20 09:39 PM |
| 1 | How do i deal with physically agressive cockblockers??Great point in exchanging numbers or social media while your in the interaction in case shit like this happens you can just continue the conversation and try to meet up in the DMs | /r/seduction | 27/05/20 09:37 PM |
| 1 | How I can turn a "how was your day" in a "romantique way?I've seen girls post memes about conversations like these that end up with leaving messages on read. I personally wouldn't recommend doing it too often. If you are willing to send her a picture then you could try sending a funny picture or you sharing something interesting from your day | /r/seduction | 27/05/20 09:30 PM |
| 2 | How direct is too direct?If you're doing it to get a reaction then it's needy. If you're saying it as a joke or just as an observation then it's alright. | /r/seduction | 27/05/20 09:19 PM |
| 3 | 6 dates now. Do tactics change?Excuse for what? He got the date, he got laid and the girl is now all over him. I'm aware that we're trying to help out and shit but sometimes we set weird standards like having to fuck before date 3. Every girl is different so outer game and rules like this are a good framework but we shouldn't be strict about them. I do agree about the insider friend. You shouldn't rely on that at some point that will blow up in your face. I'd also ask OP why is he going MIA is it because he's actually busy or… | /r/seduction | 27/05/20 09:02 PM |
| 5 | How to date - Do you feel unprepared? Just remember this simple structureI feel like this guide is a great guide when you're about to talk to open a girl for the first time, especially with the examples given. On a date there is already some familiarity because you've already met. However I do agree that points 2 and 5 are critical in dates and would guess that a lot of failed dates happen because there wasn't enough intent (interaction is too friendly) and because there was no physical escalation. At least early on I suffered big time from those two. Quality post 💪 | /r/seduction | 27/05/20 08:52 PM |
| 1 | How to reject men nicelyI feel it's a shitty thing to say but you shouldn't be responsible for how another guy feels. My opinion is that girls should reject in any way that lets the guy know it's over and guys should learn to be able to not take that rejection personally. | /r/seduction | 26/05/20 02:01 AM |
| 2 | Overcoming AA [advice?]In my experience I can tell you that you don't really kill anxiety, you just care more about interacting with a girl and trying to make something happen rather than remain scared. You get the idea that it's more painful to live with regret about missed opportunities so you go ahead and take a chance and open. So first off don't worry about the amount of times you approach but the times that you do, make it count. You're not giving a lot of details about your interactions but you mention you go r… | /r/seduction | 26/05/20 01:26 AM |
| 1 | How do you all do it?Ok I understand and sorry for your situation. Still don't let a situation define you. I knew a guy in college who had to have his leg amputated and still had a very active dating life. You're right I don't know what you're going through but there are men in shittier scenarios who were able to get laid/married whatever. I can't remember this guy's name but he lost both his arms and legs and is married and travels all over the world being a motivational speaker. If you reinforce your belief that e… | /r/seduction | 21/05/20 02:56 PM |
| 2 | People here dont appreciate the wisdom and stuff you learn of game.You're right everyone has their own experience when opening. Not everyone will have a confidence boost. In your case every time you talk to a girl you get to face your own problems straight up and do something about it. So you can work on your mindset and go back to talk to girls and see if the thoughts you have are still there. The great part is you're still taking action and not letting some belief get in your way | /r/seduction | 21/05/20 02:50 PM |
| 1 | How do you all do it?And what are you doing about that? Have you gone to some doctor to get that shit figured out or are you just gonna remain a victim forever. If you just care about getting laid then open girls that are even below your standards. Maybe you wont get the hot models but you will be able to hook up with girls that you find somewhat attractive | /r/seduction | 21/05/20 04:10 AM |
| 62 | People here dont appreciate the wisdom and stuff you learn of game.One of the things that helped my self esteem a lot was constantly doing things I was afraid of. In this case cold opening. I remember the first couple of times I went int direct, I was so proud that I was able to do it that I was just happy for the rest of the day. I found it funny how getting rejected boosted my confidence. I think people underestimate the power of doing something you're afraid of doing constantly | /r/seduction | 21/05/20 03:03 AM |
| 12 | This subreddit changed my life for the betterHopefully I'm wrong but I'm starting to think that people just like to shit on the idea that this sub doesn't work and wants to remain in a victim mentality. You'll see this because this post won't get as much discussion as an outraged post claiming this sub is full of shit. Still I think the best thing to be done is creating Field Report posts or at least discussions in which we talk about our experiences as opposed to only theory. That way people can have an idea of actual examples where cold … | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 09:20 PM |
| 4 | If "work on yourself and women will come to you" is advice that works for you what the fuck are you even doing in this sub?So people like to comment how this sub is cringy or it should burn or whatever. Why are you still subbed though? Your TLDR sums shit up perfectly, you need both inner game and actual conversation skill. But I'm guessing people who don't practice the conversational side tends to think it's some sort of evil manipulation | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 09:13 PM |
| 2 | This community fucked me up. Fuck this place, just get out there and focus on being the best guy you can be and girls will come naturallyI never understand why people blame this sub so much like if it was responsible for killing their puppy. Yes there are bad posts from people who are inexperienced or come from a bad place but great advice is also given here about self development/working on yourself/ whatever you want to call it. If people are so upset with this sub and if it bothers them so much, then why not just unsub? Why make such a statement about it for absolute no reason. | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 09:10 PM |
| 1 | How to get into a flirty/playful mindset?Well it does depend on your delivery. In my experience it has worked out, girls don't give me negative reactions. But to each his own, you probably have your own way of doing it which I'm sure someone will disagree with | /r/seduction | 19/05/20 09:02 PM |
| 1 | The 'spark' was missingI would guess so. The spark she talks about was flirting woth each other, teasing or creating some sort of sexual tension. From what you mentioned very little to none of that happened during your date. I guess you just discovered something to work on: learning how to flirt with both your conversations and your body language | /r/seduction | 17/05/20 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Flawed mindsets Part 2: "Just focus on yourself"It's a balance, you have to do both. The tricky part is how much practice and how much should you work on yourself. I think the answer will be different for everyone and that's why there's a lot of confusion in this sub at times. | /r/seduction | 17/05/20 02:43 AM |
| 1 | The 'spark' was missingCan we get more info on what was the conversation like? Did you flirt with each other or was it just interview mode? There are a lot of variables, maybe the conversation wasn't as solid but maybe it was nothing related to you and she was just not in the right headspace. In these situations the best thing to do is learn from the things we actually control and move on. | /r/seduction | 17/05/20 02:36 AM |
| 3 | First approach in a while. Kind of froze up but at least I got to hold a ferretHey good effort with the approach, don't feel bad about not keeping the conversation going be proud of the fact that you did it. However, also plan out what to do next time you're in a similar situation. When I go through a similar situation I just shift to another point of conversation usually cold read what a girl is doing. | /r/seduction | 17/05/20 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Seduction Mindsets 101 - A Full List To Improve Your Mental Gameharsh lol but you have to understand some people don't come from the self development/pickup background and all the info they get from is here. So I guess some examples would help if you're really all about helping people. If you just want to shit all over them then go ahead as well lol either way great list every guy should make their own mindset list at some point and try to live their dating lives by it. | /r/seduction | 17/05/20 02:25 AM |
| 3 | Guys remember, after quarantine girls are going to be extra hornyIt's going to be interesting how face to face interactions work. I imagine some girls will be eager to talk to guys and get the attention they used to get. I also imagine some girls who will take social distancing more seriously may present a bigger challenge. Still, looking forward to getting out and see what the situation is like. | /r/seduction | 17/05/20 02:21 AM |
| 21 | How To Be An Attractive Man (4 Key Tips)My reason as to why I'm still here is to help out. I'm no seduction expert but I've been through my share of experiences and whenever I can help someone with a situation that I went through then I'll go for it. Posts like the one OP made are perfect material for those new here. | /r/seduction | 17/05/20 02:19 AM |
| 2 | I just wanna ask the experts here. how to make the girl invest in your conversationAre we taking about a girl you just met because you walked up and talk to her or a girl you already know? This matters because from my experience when talking and meeting someone new you are going to be leading the conversation and at some point she has to invest. A good way I’ve applied is to just ask basic questions about what she likes or does and joke around with that topic. | /r/seduction | 15/05/20 04:02 AM |
| 1 | Just a bit confuse!You’re overthinking it. She has a life and from what it looks like it she still answers so that means she is interested on a level. Be careful about your attitude though cause it sounds your a bit needy. | /r/seduction | 15/05/20 03:53 AM |
| 5 | For ping texts. What if she responds right away? Read is checked. I find the whole texting thing a waste of timeI did this some time ago when I had a bad habit of checking my phone for messages. I scheduled a set of time to do all the “social messages”. So for example I started working at 8am. I took a break at 10 and replied to whatever messages came from my friends/girls for 10 minutes. Then I repeated this at some other time maybe another 10 minutes at noon. As far as girls complaining, well the good news is that means they’re interested, dont stress too much about leaving people on read and if they ge… | /r/seduction | 15/05/20 03:51 AM |
| 1 | How to get into a flirty/playful mindset?Balance it out, try to give a playful/ flirty answer when being asked a serious question at first. So for example if someone asks you what you work in, you may joke by saying something completely far out from what you do. Thr main idea is to start getting into the habit of not being 100% serious during conversations | /r/seduction | 15/05/20 03:39 AM |
| 4 | How do I acquire this “Game” that men haveLol you just mentioned 3 very interesting topics you just need to reword them: How much you bench: fitness in general, gym routines or exercises. Basically a topic to talk with every single girl that’s serious about fitness. Home remodelling: interior design maybe or at least anything involving creativity with houses. I’m sure there are a bunch of groups where people and girls share things they are working on. Jordans: sneakers in general you can talk to any girl and jokingly judge her sneakers … | /r/seduction | 15/05/20 03:36 AM |
| 38 | There is a "blind leading the blind" belief in this sub that's hiding in plain sightThe idea of not being friends with a girl you're attracted to applies to a certain group of guys. Mostly the ones that are needy and that are lying to themselves thinking they can win a girl over by being their friend. They are lying about their intentions because a girl has made her intentions clear that it's a friendship while needy guys while use this friendship to continue hitting on a girl. To these guys, the "belief" you mention definitely applies. To guys who are a bit more experienced an… | /r/seduction | 14/05/20 10:59 PM |
| 2 | Whenever you’re wondering what you should text, ask yourself whether she’s wondering the same thing. If not, her value is higher than yoursIt's a good initial tip to get out of a needy mindset, however you have to be careful because it's only a better version of the same problem. You're still overthinking but this time every time you're texting a girl you're wondering if you about value. My advice would be not to take texting too seriously. It's not the best form of communication. I've met some girls who respond with a couple of words by text but in person are very chatty and sociable. | /r/seduction | 14/05/20 02:58 PM |
| 3 | The Brain is the biggest sex organ! Female here sharing my own experience— what has been extremely effective with me.Great tips, this is the type of content we need, actual dating experiences or interactions. This is why I always advocate for more Field Reports. Your tips end up being the basics of how a confident guy behaves, the opposite of all of this is being needy which kill your chances with any girl | /r/seduction | 13/05/20 11:10 PM |
| 2 | Need the TruthAt the end of the day it’s all about what you believe. If you think being a virgin means you’re a loser then you will always act afraid when you’re getting closer to a girl and it’s probably why you haven’t been able to seal the deal when you had the chance. Think about other first time experiences with girls that didn’t make you this anxious. Your first kiss for example. It’s probably because they weren’t such a big deal but getting laid is. Once you do it you’ll find it less important | /r/seduction | 07/05/20 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Sharing my experiences of the past 2-3 months ( Inner and Outer Game )Gj on working on yourself after a breakup. Shit can be hard if you don’t know how to handle it. As for your points you mentioned some great ones regarding the interaction with women. Things like looking at a girl’s eyes and talking like you would to a friend but also flirt are key points. The fact that you’re able to do them shows me you’re way ahead of the game. Guys struggle even with basic things like this. Keep up the effort and keep posting FR with your sets. This is the type of content thi… | /r/seduction | 05/05/20 07:33 PM |
| 45 | I am extremely good at picking up women, here's how I do itYou need to be able to escalate. Basically getting closer physically and have her be comfortable with it. Small things like holding her hand and taking her somewhere can be a good starting point. Of course you have to be aware that she’s comfortable with it. The idea is to build up those smaller actions that should lead to bigger actions of physicality (ie kissing) | /r/seduction | 05/05/20 07:23 PM |
| 5 | I am extremely good at picking up women, here's how I do itI’m guessing this post will get a lot of hate but at least you’re bring straightforward that your point is to get laid no go into relationships. I do disagree on not approaching, it’s good that you can bring people into your party but you’re limiting yourself by whoever decides to approach your group. If you’re too afraid of getting rejected then thats an issue that you would need to work on. Also the text message part is great for a guy who’s incredibly needy when texting because it gets him ac… | /r/seduction | 05/05/20 07:18 PM |
| 1 | How to Start A Conversation with Women on Social MediaGreat post OP. I’m guessing since this are FB examples that you knew these girls beforehand. Still great post. In my experience the only that helps me out is not going for the number too quickly. There is a balance between having a loong conversation and never asking for a number and asking it within the first message. | /r/seduction | 05/05/20 03:39 AM |
| 3 | Finally got laid, push and pull technique was the best.Congrats on taking action and identifying your needyness and working on it. I think being needy is what destroys guy's chances with women when dating. So you were able to take the first step and stop being needy and moved on to... being needy on a smaller scale lol. The way I see it all of the actions you took came from a place to try and "push" her away. It was still about her. It's a step forward but there is still a long way to go. As you gain more experience you will figure out that pushing … | /r/seduction | 04/05/20 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Fukbuddy dating frequencyDont take any advice especially from youtubers as word of god. Just dont be needy and open and honest about the situation. Hurting soneone because you want to fuck around is a shitty thing to do | /r/seduction | 04/05/20 03:44 AM |
| 3 | Unshakable Frame Control - What Having Your Shit Together Can Really DoIt’s because people love to argue, that’s why twitter threads about dumb arguments are the ones that get to go viral. Everyone wants to be right about their beliefs. The best thing we can do us upvote and discuss the posts worth talking about and ignore the rants. The only suggestion I’d give OP is to squeeze in some examples where he has applied his lessons in his own life and talk about the results. It would have a bigger impact because now it’s not just some random theory he’s discussing but … | /r/seduction | 04/05/20 03:38 AM |
| 10 | PatheticI agree with this. I think there are levels to learning to flirt with women, the goal is to get to be a guy with an attractive lifestyle but part of that involves being able to talk to women and personally I find that cold approach/ talking to girls at bars works best. Having said that at some point you have to let go of that when your social skills are good enough and focus on other areas of your lifestyle. The process won’t be the same for everyone because as you said everyone is different and… | /r/seduction | 04/05/20 03:26 AM |
| 2 | What are alternatives to what's the time now to kill an approach anxiety?What you start a conversation with doesn't have to make sense, the idea is for you to get started with a conversation. If asking for the time makes you scared then even more of a reason to do it. You won't get deep conversations from this but you will go out of your comfort zone even by a little and that's the point of this. | /r/seduction | 26/04/20 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Jealousy And Paranoia - A Sign That You Lack Game And Emotional StrengthEmotional control is key in game and if you're going for the extremely attractive women then you need to have this down in order to not screw things up. But there's also this weird balance where you also don't need to feel bad about feeling sad. Having emotional control doesn't mean not feeling anything. You will have girls leave you for whatever reason and if that makes you feel sad or whatever it's alright. However you do need to have the clarity to not act based on those feelings. You need to… | /r/seduction | 26/04/20 02:21 AM |
| 1 | What does it mean when a girl changes plans at the last minute? Asks if you want to go work out instead?I would be a bit careful about the first part on changing plans. At the end of the day it depends on the situation but girls do have shit going on in their lives and if something comes up she might want to change plans. In this case however I don't really think it is. I think OP needs to pay extra attention to the second part of your post on not acting needy because unfortunately the way he's going on about it is a bit needy and might ruin the date hopefully he pulls. | /r/seduction | 26/04/20 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Masculine Mannerisms/Carrying myselfIt's a great list, I'd suggest take one recommendation at a time. If possible try to apply the one that would have the biggest impact, your posture from what I gather. Then would you have it down, move on to the next one. | /r/seduction | 26/04/20 02:07 AM |
| 3 | Whats you secret weapon when chatting in text?Avoid interview mode. Don't rely too much on boring questions like "how was your day?" or "how are you?" it sounds stupid but it's ridiculously common. In my experience that helps me out in my texts | /r/seduction | 26/04/20 02:05 AM |
| 1 | One exercise to boost your comfidence to another level.From what I understand in a visualization you really want to try and live out the moment, how you would feel, what you would hear and so on. I'd recommend using guided meditations specifically targeting visualization to get a good idea of what you're supposed to be doing | /r/seduction | 26/04/20 02:02 AM |
| 4 | As my game has gotten better i have also noticed that I have become more of an asshole. Is that normal?From what I understood you're not really being an asshole you're just being more playful and willing to tease them as opposed to being afraid of making fun of them. I was once way too polite and was afraid to tease but as I got better I went through something similar like you were I teased girls and they loved it. | /r/seduction | 26/04/20 01:59 AM |
| 34 | Difference between conversation and seduction? Give me examples of what you would say when seducing.Great point about subcommunication and body language at the end of the day what you say doesn't really matter but how you are acting totally does. There's this great book called Fundamentals of Female Dynamics which goes deep into subcommunication if OP is interested in learning more | /r/seduction | 26/04/20 01:53 AM |
| 3 | How stupid questions helped me finally get laid (and could help you too!)GJ taking action to get over you approach anxiety. Openers are weird in that they don’t really matter but a bad opener can make the interaction weird down the libe. I remember when I tried getting conversations going after “asking for the time” but it rarely took off because once they answered they had no reason to keep on talking. Still, if it helps you get over your fear of opening then more power to you. Would’ve been great to know more about the interaction once you started talking because i… | /r/seduction | 23/04/20 12:44 PM |
| 2 | Balance between self improvement and datingSo I read your post and it looks like you have a crush on this one girl but you aren't really taking any actions towards it. Something that a lot of people could work on, especially young people is self confidence in social situations so maybe take small action steps to put yourself out there in small doses. Things that you would regularly shy away from, try doing them. For example taking to a stranger or just giving out a compliment. One of the things that is constantly being said here is to wo… | /r/seduction | 19/04/20 02:29 PM |
| 2 | How it is really doneI agree that luck plays a factor when you're talking to a girl, sometimes it helps you out, sometimes it doesn't. Still I think there is value in having FR posts here. If it's done right then guys may have a better idea what to do or not do in certain situations. Sure they is a risk that someone may lie in their FR for the sake of bragging but a good FR isn't necessarily one where someone gets laid, it might be a beginner explaining what action he took on a night and looking for advice. | /r/seduction | 18/04/20 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Balance between self improvement and datingSure I can try to help you out. What have you been doing to take action? Before the whole quarantine issue, did you go out? Basically I would like to know your experience interacting with women | /r/seduction | 18/04/20 01:34 AM |
| 6 | How it is really doneIt was discussed in another post but what really needs to make a comeback (after the quarantine is over) are Field Reports. Actual accounts of people taking action looking for feedback to see where they can improve and to help/motivate others into taking action. | /r/seduction | 17/04/20 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Balance between self improvement and datingIt depends on your situation. What is self-development to you? Is it working on your career? Or maybe working on your fitness? You will have different areas, one of them will probably be dating, and you need to prioritize based on what you want to achieve. For example at one point for me I wanted to focus hard on dating because I was way too inexperienced, as I started to get better I backed off and dedicated more efforts to other areas. You have to be aware of what your current situation is and… | /r/seduction | 17/04/20 07:09 PM |
| 1 | I can get women to approach me, but I don’t understand how to take it to the next level.As long as you have a fear for rejection, you will always be dependent on a girl making a move. You should work on finding out why are you afraid of being rejected (funnily enough it's not the same for everyone). I would recommend reading books on self confidence, as far as something more practical you could try doing things that you that give you that fear of rejection. Approaching women and starting a conversation would be the best one but because you can't really do that right now maybe calli… | /r/seduction | 14/04/20 06:07 PM |
| 5 | Reddit's system might be one of the reasons you still struggle with seduction.I think inner game stuff is needed but it won't get you results, that's where you need the "tatics", outer game whatever you want to call it. However if all someone does all outer game and no inner game then you'll just be putting u a front, pretending to be someone you're not. I remember there was a time where FRs were common and I think that's when you saw the best part of this sub. Maybe it's all about promoting FRs and personally giving less priority to posts trying to promote a channel or f… | /r/seduction | 14/04/20 05:55 PM |
| 2 | Dating During Quarantine: How to keep a connection until Social Distancing is OverI agree that moving the interaction forward with facetime def. makes you stand out. I've personally have had great conversations with girls but with facetime and regular phone calls. I think part of what makes the conversations more fun is that I'm less focused on "setting up a date" and just focus on having fun in the conversation so that's cool. | /r/seduction | 13/04/20 03:59 AM |
| 3 | Is it fair to expect a hot girl to like you or sleep with you just because you're self confident?You're probably aware of this but a girl owes you nothing. You can have the best interaction with her in the world, that doesn't mean she has to sleep with you. This mindset can fuck you up because you'll be getting frustrated over this expectation. I'm aware that there are hot girls and naturally you're attracted to them and want to sleep with them just don't make it an expectation. Also if you're "rejected" by a hot girl then you shouldn't dismiss her completely. If she has a great personality… | /r/seduction | 13/04/20 03:53 AM |
| 3 | BEING PRODUCTIVE IS BEING ATTRACTIVE. When I've been busy and had more important things than girls, I did a lot better with girls. When I had too much time and thinking too much about girls, I did worse. This may not apply to everyone, but I discovered for me my best results are when I'm productive.I totally understand, I'm also doing home workouts and it's not the same as hitting the gym but at least I know I'm not losing progress on that front. Can you do anything to gain new skills that help you at work? A course on some site or something? Or even better can you teach something about what you do at work and maybe make some money off that. Personally I've been putting out free guides on programming topics and I'm looking to put out a course that makes me some side money. I've also been p… | /r/seduction | 13/04/20 03:33 AM |
| 3 | My plan to use quarantine effectivelyGreat plan hope you're able to fulfill all of your goals. Right now it's really the best time to work on yourself. Something that would help a lot of people here would be a guide on how to set goals and be disciplined enough to take action because one of the things that's bound to affect anyone is procrastination. All of that free time can also lure you into spending too much time on things that don't really help (Netflix, games). | /r/seduction | 12/04/20 06:19 PM |
| 3 | Seduction in coronatime, thoughts?Personally I wouldn't do it, the risk is getting corona is way too high. You've probably seen a million posts about it but right now is the perfect time to just focus on yourself. That doesn't mean you can't talk to girls, but just don't really go in with expectations of hooking up. The way I also look at it is this:focus on myself as much as possible right now, when this is all over everyone will be eager to socialize and talk to people, talking to girls should be even easier because they will … | /r/seduction | 12/04/20 06:14 PM |
| 2 | Facetime? Are you kidding me?I wouldn't even call it practice, right now it's the only way to socialize with people. I agree with OP that setting up dates right now is a fool's errand. However, girls do really appreciate someone who is able to talk and have fun with them through the phone, facetime or whatever. So maybe we shouldn't focus on setting up dates but just generally being a fun guy to be around and talk in these times. | /r/seduction | 12/04/20 06:07 PM |
| 25 | BEING PRODUCTIVE IS BEING ATTRACTIVE. When I've been busy and had more important things than girls, I did a lot better with girls. When I had too much time and thinking too much about girls, I did worse. This may not apply to everyone, but I discovered for me my best results are when I'm productive.It’s even more relevant during quarantine because you have time to only focus on yourself, hobbies, projects, etc. | /r/seduction | 12/04/20 02:35 PM |
| 2 | I notice bars/clubs/parties/hobbies/friends of friends have been completely replaced by internet dating, and I think that's dangerous.To each their own I guess? I mean I dated girls by meeting them online and in person and it really just depends on the girl you’re meeting. What I’m trying to say is that you can meet a great girl through many channels. Just because I met her at a party doesn’t mean she’s going to be amazing. | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 08:25 PM |
| 3 | Does not having social media make me appear creepy?It’s not creepy at all, it’s just weird to some people who live in some form of social media. Having said that I find no harm in habing an insta profile for the sake of dating. I also started one and following the few friends I had but it was something that helped me talk to mre girls later on. My suggestion would be to open one as there is no harm in doing so. | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 08:19 PM |
| 5 | Haven’t dated in almost 10 yearsThe tough part is the lockdown as you said. You really can't go out to bars to talk to women. The good news is you recognize some points to work on. As far as meditation goes I;d recommend Insight Timer app. It's free and the best thing is that it has guided meditations to help you get started and creating a habit. As far as "seduction" material, I would probably recommend only 2 things, one the book Fundamentals of Female Dynamics and the second one is to find RSD infield videos to look what ta… | /r/seduction | 09/04/20 12:57 AM |
| 129 | How to text girls [Guide + Personal tips]Great guide I would only be careful not to take a seen text as loss of interest. I have had a couple of cases were girls saw my messages but no response for a couple of days. Then they would respond and apologize because they were going through busy moments (exams, work). Don’t forget that girls also have lives be aware of their situation as well before dismissing them as having no interest | /r/seduction | 01/04/20 09:05 PM |
| 2 | How to keep things “warm” during lockdown / quarantine?Yeah the first weekend after this is over should be awesome. Every place packed and people looking to socialize | /r/seduction | 01/04/20 07:15 PM |
| 15 | How often should you text a girl?Agree with this. If there is one rule I would stick to is not to be needy when texting. Actually it applies in whatever way you are interacting with a girl but I've seen it with my friends who sometimes go way overboard and being too sentimental when texting. | /r/seduction | 28/03/20 09:22 PM |
| 0 | The Power of Sexual Energy (and how to harness it)Thanks for the post, there are some good points here like eliminating porn but there’s a looot of stuff that’s just rambling. I guess you want to promote your channel at the end of the day but w/e. | /r/seduction | 19/03/20 01:38 PM |
| 10 | How do you go to the club alone?When I’ve done this I’m going in with the mindset that I’m going out to have a cool experience, kinda like going on a roller coaster and be open to possibilities. Maybe I make new friends or maybe I end up taking a girl home. I think it’s all about you believe. Right now I think you believe going to a club alone is only done by losers, unless you change this belief, you will be stuck | /r/seduction | 06/03/20 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Preferred Methods Of ClosingBased on my experience I get more consistent responses by number closing and then texting them through whatsapp (where you can also share stories) the main problem I’ve experienced with Insta is that it’s easy to get lost in the millions of stories girls watch from ppl she follows. Regardless the best way to make sure you get a response is a strong interaction | /r/seduction | 01/03/20 05:11 AM |
| 5 | Ever since the PUA landscape changed on YouTube, this sub also changedYeah it was an unfair video because no context was provided, people judged based on what they saw at face value. As another poster mentioned, as a PUA you have to show all of your infield results both good and bad to show your audience the different types of interactions you can have. | /r/seduction | 24/01/20 08:43 PM |
| 112 | My #1 rule of seduction: Never fucking chaseAgree with this. If you never chase then you will end up losing some opportunities because you didn't follow up. Girls have lives and sometimes shit gets in the way. I think the message OP wants to make is not to go overboard chasing. | /r/seduction | 20/12/19 03:50 AM |
| 4 | Dating as a Depressed MillenialGood luck on your journey bro and congrats on not letting your past define you hopefully you post stories where you crush with girls 💪🏾 | /r/seduction | 06/12/19 11:27 PM |
| 2 | Tell the story of a successful approach(es) you've made?Girl at a coffee shop, she was on her phone opened her about her bracelet started from there, ended exchanging numbers. Girl at a mall sitting: went up to her and opened direct she was a bit nervous, I was also a bit nervous at first too tbh. Kept talking eventually exchanged numbers. We kept seeing each other for a while | /r/seduction | 06/12/19 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Please help - flaked by 14 different girls in a ROWI think a detailed example of some of your face to face interactions would help | /r/seduction | 06/12/19 09:28 PM |
| 4 | How many of you would respect a girl/woman saying ANY of this to you - in order to turn you down - and you wouldnt turn into a "nice guy"???this also happened to me. Went on a couple of dates with this girl and we were making out hard. After a while she tells me she doesn’t feel comfortable making out. I’m guessing she was already in another relationship but w/e it ended after that | /r/seduction | 21/11/19 12:41 PM |
| 2 | First Night Out Alonesome pointers that have worked for me... -Is she focusing on you, making eye contact, smiling, not focusing on other things -Is she making some sort of physical contact with you -How is she reacting when you are escalating physically (don't mistake this one for being too "touchy") hope that ehlps | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Balancing 'having fun' with goal-setting?your long term goals are the ones that will have a bigger impact on your life so there should a greater focus to them. Try to make your short term goals help you build up towards your long term goals. My personal example: long term goal: getting married be in a great relationship short term goals: have fun and have lots of experience dating so I know exactly the type of woman I want to start a relationship with and not be needy. There is a balance that you have to achieve and it's not easy but i… | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 05:20 PM |
| 3 | looks do matter Stop lying to yourself.Looks do matter, but they are not the deciding factor, I'm guessing you know this. The real question is, what are you doing to improve your looks? If you aren't doing anything then you're evading responsibility for something under your control. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Men Who Chase Women Get Women, Men Who Work On Themselves Keep WomenI agree with the title of the post, the content however does not apply for everyone. If you're just starting out, then part of "working on yourself" is learning how to interact with women. Even if they find you attractive, that attraction can be lost if you don't have an interesting personality or you aren't able to show it. That's why usually when someone is starting out they are told to practice a lot. Eventually when you get good enough, when you have some experience then you can pull back ch… | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Just laid some good pipe what nowYou just said it yourself, work on not being needy, that's how you get to keep those type of girls. That's what I'm working on right now myself and it's probably the hardest part about "game" | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 04:58 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Cold approach day game from a noobCongrats on the approaches, try to be less hard on yourself and be proud of every approach. Set 2 seems like your best set and you should try going in for a number or fb/instagram. Anyway good job and keep approaching/posting your results | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Dumb question: should you shit-test girls?I agree with this right here. Qualify to see if she aligns with the type of girl you're interested in. Based on this you can make a decision on how much time you want to spend talking with her. | /r/seduction | 11/11/19 04:49 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Festival weekend fail; lesson learnedHey man props for taking action. I also recently went to a festival although only for one day and I took very little action. As you said it looks easy to start conversations but I froze when the time came or just made small talk that les to nowhere. I had one good interaction but I was completely off that night so congrats for taking advantage of the opportunity you had | /r/seduction | 09/08/19 10:47 PM |
| 3 | Should I Get A Dating Coach? Does Anybody Have Any Dating Coaches To Recommend?What exactly have you been doing? Are you talking to girls at bars or are you doing daygame. If you're not doing any of that then there's your starting point. If you are then let us know what exactly are you doing so you get feedback on how to improve. Also I'm assuming you're also working on yourself physically and mentally | /r/seduction | 20/07/19 05:12 AM |
| 4 | Can you guys give me tips on getting motivated to day game?I've done my share of day game sets and the interactions have a bigger impact. To me that's one of my main motivators, sets are more fun because girls aren't really expecting it. Also the results are much better, like if I get a number from day game it's less likely to flake than a number I got at night | /r/seduction | 20/07/19 05:03 AM |
| 5 | 8 months inGreat post and congrats on all the work. I see that you've been exclusively been going out at night but have you tried daygame? I think your results might change up a bit if you tried daygame. BTW I also went through a similiar situation where a girl tells me she's not interested in dating anyone but she's hitting up guys on insta, it kinda sucks but just don't take it personally and move on. | /r/seduction | 19/07/19 02:01 PM |
| 5 | 7 Daily Habits That Make It Easy to Talk to GirlsPardon my take is such a great podcast, PFT and Big Cat are witty as hell and they can make interviews with random people from sports interesting. I thought it was funny that they popped up in this vid. | /r/seduction | 12/07/19 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Fuck learning "tricks" or "tips". 99% of the time they dont work and just make you look stupid. Just learn about building self worth and the very basics of attraction and everything else will follow.I think that if you're a complete newbie you have to learn some "techniques" (from the right sources, not from a random reddit comment) to get you started. As you get better and more confident then you can just "be yourself". Working on yourself and building self worth is important but at the end of the day you need to practice. | /r/seduction | 05/07/19 03:22 PM |
| 6 | Approached two girls together 8/10 & 9/10 in Pakistan cold approach works worldwideTalk about whatever, if you can't go direct because it's too intimidating then baby step your way to a proper conversation. Try opening with an observation either of the environment or something you notice about the girl. You will probably feel it's a bit awkward but the more you repeat it the more you get used to it. | /r/seduction | 03/07/19 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Depressed virgin. I am typing this right now inside my parents' house. I am socially isolated and having moderate amount of FOMO. It is another Saturday night and I have no plans or anything. What would you suggest?Salsa classes. You get to learn to dance and meet tons pf people | /r/seduction | 23/06/19 05:17 AM |
| 1 | In general am I allowed to be direct when approaching a woman?Yes you are allowed to be direct, you will get rejected several times because you're being upfront but that's ok. If you're beginning then it's even recommended to be direct just to get into the habit of approaching properly. However, once you get better you don't have to be direct on every single open. | /r/seduction | 11/06/19 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Is it a must that there is flirty, erotic vibe when approaching a woman?You have to flirt in the interaction yes. Usually you try to do this as soon as possible, it will depend on the girl you are talking to though. You need to be able to read the interaction to especially to know when she's comfortable with what you are doing. | /r/seduction | 11/06/19 12:56 AM |
| 7 | So I was thinkingLeave it, move on. | /r/seduction | 17/05/19 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Is This Really The Ultimate Solution To Approach Anxiety In Clubs?Here’s something else to consider. You’re not supposed to “solve” AA. You still get anxiety no matter how experienced you are the difference is that you take action despite your feelings. I think you’re getting stuck on the wrong thing but at the end of the day it’s your journey. | /r/seduction | 15/04/19 09:46 PM |
| 3 | Is This Really The Ultimate Solution To Approach Anxiety In Clubs?This guy basically tried going out solo and gave you his results, what are you really looking fir. Your best bet is to experiment and try it out then come back to tell us your experience | /r/seduction | 15/04/19 05:14 PM |
| 2 | I just can't do it captain, I don't have the power.This right here is the right process when you’re flying solo. Interact with a bunch of people in small ways and build it up from there. Don’t beat yourself up and try again | /r/seduction | 14/04/19 09:27 PM |
| 1 | I'm doing well, but I want to improve my game. What are some tips for starting and holding conversations, as well as getting numbers, and ensuring a second meeting?What are you doing right now? Are you going to clubs to practice or talking to girls during the day? Whatever it is keep taking action and post here how your interactions both good things andbad. People with a lot more experience will give you feedback to get better | /r/seduction | 09/04/19 01:04 AM |
| 2 | How to not give a girl my 100%Its good that you’re working in other areas of your life. If possible try to find small moments throughout your day to step out of your comfort zone. Maybe giving someone a compliment or asking a group of girls their opinion on something. If the idea of doing this makes you nervous then it’s something that puts you out of your comfort zone. Also try to go out to bars to practice actually talking to girls. Go out there and crush it | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 12:38 PM |
| 3 | Help with AA misconceptions pleasePersonally I get AA from time to time but the point isn’t to get tid of it but to act regardless of it. Thoughts and emotions will come up, you can’t really control that. You do however have control over your reaction to it. For me the more action I take, the quicker I get over AA for the next interaction. | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Need help, too few approachesI think you’re looking at it way too extreme. Sure spend some time if you want on to go to places where you can talk to girls. I bet you know a bunch of places in NYC where this can happen. But don’t stress out about it or think that you have to do it every day as a chore. Do make sure that when you take action you have fun and make the most out of the situation to improve. Good luck | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 04:11 AM |
| 2 | How should I handle a situation when I’m out at a party talking to a girl and a guy tries to fight me?Has this hapoened to you before? Personally it has never happened to me but if it ever did I would just walk away. Getting into a fight over a girl doesnt seem to be worth it. Otherwise I wouldn’t worry about it | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 04:07 AM |
| 1 | Anyone tried DMSI?Just be careful, there is no silver bullet to magically get better at game. At the end of the day it comes down to taking consistent action. If it helps you though then go for it | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 03:57 AM |
| 1 | RSDThey’ve personally helped me a ton. It helps that they have a huge library of free vids. I can see how the personalities of some of the guys teaching can turn people off as they are waay put there. But whatever helps guys get better | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 03:55 AM |
| 3 | How to not give a girl my 100%The way I see it you’re putting girls on a pedestal and it happens to everyone so don’t sweat it. What has helped is just taking more action. Talking to more girls, even if it ends up in nothing puts me in a mindset that there’s tons of girls out there not to be obsessed with one girl. Good luck and go crush it | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Anyone tried DMSI?Honestly I don’t know what it os but there’s a ton of free content put there you really don’t need to pay for anything | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 01:52 AM |
| 1 | RSDHow so? | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 01:51 AM |
| 1 | Is there any CONCRETE technique that you could give meCan you post some interactions you’ve had to know what you’re doing right now? What are the things that are hard for you? What can you do easily? All of these things help you get better advice | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 01:50 AM |
| 2 | If I were a PUA Coach: Part 4 - "Fishing in the wrong pond."; Understanding Your Brand Appeal and your targets.I agree with the general idea to have a type of girl that you like. Especially if you’re looking for a long term relationship. However if you’re looking for something more casual then I think you shouldn’t limit yourself. Also I would take action and open regardless if a girl is my type simply for the experience and to practice while also having fun with whoever it is your talking to. | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 01:48 AM |
| 2 | Is it creepy to approach a girl at the gym?In my experience, I have approached girls at the gym and the difference is that I take it as social circle game and not be direct right off the bat. Also there is context involved, you don’t want to interrupt your workout nor hers. Anyway you don’t lose anything by trying so go for it. | /r/seduction | 04/04/19 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Advice for getting out of a rutField Report, it's a breakdown of the interactions you had throughout the night that you post here to get feedback. What you did right, what you can improve on. People don't post them as often but it's the best way to get an idea on how to improve. | /r/seduction | 01/04/19 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Advice for getting out of a rutStop comparing yourself to your friends, we all have ups and downs in our dating lives. What problems are you specifically having? A FR of your next night out will probably help you. | /r/seduction | 01/04/19 02:52 AM |
| 2 | You don't need gimmicks! Just be a better person.Yep, at the end of the day this is the game plan. Work on all areas of your life, don't expect that just because you have a good career, health, education that you are now qualified to talk to women. You will still struggle. | /r/seduction | 01/04/19 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Can anyone enlighten me their best tips for their text game? Anything will doThe general idea is to use texts to set up dates and get to meet IRL. However you don't have to do much. What has worked for me: -posting something on my story: they eventually comment, move on from there -make a reference to an inside joke, something you have talked about. -tell her something cool about your day and exaggerate it to be funny. | /r/seduction | 01/04/19 02:42 AM |
| 3 | Gaining Back Self-ConfidenceFrom what you described it seemed college gave you an easy environment to both meet new friends and girls, but now that you don't have that environment it makes meeting people much harder. The good thing is that you are working on improving yourself so you're not standing still watching life go by. I'd recommend to go harder on that whatever it is that you're doing, career or fitness or whatever. As far as your approach anxiety, don't be too hard on yourself, it's always gonna come up. he point … | /r/seduction | 01/04/19 02:29 AM |
| 2 | Complete beginner looking for people to go out and approach with! Also interested if you have any tips for beginners! [TORONTO, CANADA]Good luck finding a wingman, it helps out a lot. However if you can try to go out to a club alone and just focus on approaching as many people as possible. This is because the biggest obstacle for me as a beginner was a lack of action. The more you approach the more you learn. Don't worry about results yet, just focus on getting used to the anxiety of approaching and getting over it to actually talk to someone. Good luck | /r/seduction | 01/04/19 02:19 AM |
| 3 | Struggleing with life game balanceWell it depends on what your goals are and how your dating life is right now. For me, when I started I went out hard mostly because I had a non existent dating life and I wanted to get that fixed. As I started seeing improvements I slowed down and focused on other areas of my life. I guess my advice is don't take anything to the extremes, make game part of your life but don't let it be the center of your life. Also remember some people may hate on you because you're being proactive. It happened … | /r/seduction | 01/04/19 02:09 AM |
| 16 | It's been so long I might as well have gotten my virginity backStop focusing on the past and focus on the possibilities that lie ahead in the future. The fact that women think you have experience means you're on the right track because they're comparing you to the millions of other guys who don't have a clue what they're doing. As to what to do next... after every night out record the things you did well to congratulate yourself and the things that you could improve on. You can post the FR here so that others may give you feedback. Then go to youtube to see… | /r/seduction | 01/04/19 02:05 AM |
| 1 | Advice on approachWell I guess that because of how long the relationship lasted it;s gonna be harder to let go of her. You can try to get her back into your life but I would suggest you ask yourself why? Why are you working so hard over this one girl and why aren't you exploring your other options as well as creating new ones? Granted I'm biased and would lean towards letting go of the past and meeting new girls but you have the experience of being with that one girls that maybe was special for you. | /r/seduction | 29/03/19 04:32 PM |
| 1 | FR: physical escalation (too much or too little?)Well you kissed her on the first date and she didn't complain so I think you did too little on the second date maybe led a bit more (if the new seating place was not good you should've said something). I'm guessing you were way in your head in that date but that's alright it happens. Go out again and try to lead more and escalate throughout the date. You've got this. | /r/seduction | 28/03/19 02:01 AM |
| 4 | Wait for signals or just approach?Go for it. If she gives some sort of signal that's cool but I'm not depending on it. The success of the approach depends on a lot of things but at the end of the day the important thing is that I took some sort of action. | /r/seduction | 28/03/19 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Just want to vent about this.. maybe get some advice.I feel like when I can make new friends in person, outside of work/tinder/etc, then I can be truly happy in myself. I've achieved things I never thought I could in all other areas of my life. Spoilers, you won't. Be proud of the things you've done and the struggle that you're in but don't depend on others for happiness, that's gonna bite you in the ass later on. It's good that you recognize to work on yourself, I would advise to still take action and do small approaches even if they don't lead t… | /r/seduction | 26/03/19 02:28 AM |
| 1 | (43m) How do keep going when everyone else is better than you?I don't know what your situation is but do try to minimize the amount of time you spend with people who complain. Also find new people, new social circles. Any hobbies or interests that could get you to know new people? | /r/seduction | 26/03/19 02:23 AM |
| 7 | Rejection after rejection. 99% of them have boyfriends. What am I doing wrong?So you're cold approaching which is amazing because not many people actually do it congrats on that. As far as pointers go -I don't drink much, or at all some nights and I still go out with friends (or solo) to bars or clubs. At the end of the day it's the best place to actually approach because there's so many girls to talk to. You can probably find a FWB through daygame but there's a higher chance going out at night to bars. -Going in direct is great because it builds confidence and you're act… | /r/seduction | 26/03/19 02:21 AM |
| 12 | My issue with acting aloof/not overly invested/acting like i don't careThere's a balance to everything, you have to care about a girl otherwise you wouldn't be talking to her. However what I'm gathering from your post is that you care way too much. I've been in that position, waiting for a girl to text me back and responding almost immediately. It's weak as hell, it shows you're needy and drives girls away quick. My advice to stop focusing so much on texts would be to schedule a 5 min. session to check on your messages every 4 hours (or any long period of time) jus… | /r/seduction | 26/03/19 02:06 AM |
| 2 | I envy beautiful women so much..I don't think this is the right mindset to have. Sure, beautiful women have privileges but don't get too caught up in that. Focus on the effort that you're putting into improving yourself as it will pay off big time. | /r/seduction | 26/03/19 01:52 AM |
| 1 | So what really attracts women?It’s never too late to start. My personal suggestion is salsa lessons. You make friends really quick and get into social circles filled with hot girls | /r/seduction | 19/03/19 10:50 PM |
| 2 | How I overcame approach anxietyCongrats on taking action, the most important part on this journey. Hopefully you keep going and post FR on your interactions to show what you’ve done and get feedback on whatever your sticking points may be | /r/seduction | 19/03/19 10:49 PM |
| 7 | Finally made my first approachFirst off, congrats on your first approach its a huge step that lots of guys struggle with. Pat yourself on the back that you were able to do this. Don't beat yourself up over the interaction, just acknowledge the things that you need to work on and focus on them on at a time. For example if you struggled with keeping eye contact then focus on having 10 interactions and keep strong eye contact. Do this consistently and your game will improve a shit ton. | /r/seduction | 19/03/19 02:19 AM |
| 2 | So what really attracts women?I would highly suggest you start approaching, taking small steps. Just for the sake of getting better and stop focusing on theory and taking action | /r/seduction | 19/03/19 02:16 AM |
| 2 | My Golden Rule of pickup and how it helped me overcome approach anxiety.The way I see it when you're approaching you can give value by having a fun interaction with whoever it is that you're talking to. One example I have encountered many times are girls at bars that are just sitting around checking their phones. Usually opening and being fun with these girls is easy you make their night a bit better by just having fun with them. With a girl that you're dating you can give value by simply not being a needy guy. It's amazing how often girls have a needy guy orbitin… | /r/seduction | 19/03/19 02:12 AM |
| 5 | The Approach Anxiety Manifesto (why it exists + plus 5 exercises and 5 mindset shifts to kill it)Great post, your #1 action is key for me when doing daygame after a long day of work to get into a groove and slowly start doing more meaningful approaches. I highly recommend focusing on this if you're struggling to gain momentum. Another great mindset to have that I got from RSD is that every approach there is only upside for you. If you get a good reaction the great you have a chance to have an interaction with a girl. If you get rejected then you get to experience and get over the awkwardnes… | /r/seduction | 19/03/19 01:59 AM |
| 2 | How can I get over this incredible pain of knowing I've wasted my life (and will continue to do so?)I think the fact that you acknowledge that you have had a great life and that you're young as fuck means that deep down inside you know you're blowing this way out of proportion. It's time to change that mentality, if you're truly serious about it then I'd recommend you read "No More Mr.Nice Guy" and "Break Through Your BS". Also start doing small approaches just like saying hi and giving small compliments to girls. This won't get you laid but it will put you in action taking mode and you will r… | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 03:48 AM |
| 2 | Why do girls choose other guys over me?The majority of guys out there have problems with women, even those who are in relationships. I know a bunch of friends that are in totally shit relationships but are too afraid to leave because they would have to go out there again into the dating scene again and they don't know what to do. Luckily you already recognize that you want to fix something. I'm going to guess that you don't approach much basing on how you are so hung up on one girl that didn't give you attention. My suggestion woul… | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 03:43 AM |
| 1 | How do you not be a pussy in the club?Start out with small actions and work your way up from there. Don't worry about having amazing interactions from the start. Begin with small things maybe just saying hi to someone or asking them what they're drinking. The words don't matter, what does matter is that you take so much action that you slowly start gaining confidence and have better interactions. Try it out | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 03:31 AM |
| 1 | When is a guy too old to go out and pick up/sarge etc?Ignore those stats and do what you want to do. I'm 30 and I go to clubs from time to time. Pickup is the best shit, you get to improve and when you get to have great experiences with girls. There is no downside. | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Why do guys think muscle matters with girls?Being muscular gets you attention, if you have shit game though it won't really matter. I've seen big dudes be awkward as fuck around hot girls. My opinion would be to work on your fitness because you want to but don't expect it to be THE solution to get good with girls | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Feeling like I’m not enoughWe need to know more about you to know if its a bigger problem that needs therapy or just anxiety in general. I can tell you that the feeling/mindset of "not being enough" is total BS we only believe it because the feeling is really strong. Luckily by approaching you can feel a sense of accomplishment regardless of the result. If you take massive action and start giving yourself props for every approach that you actually do. Try it at least for a week to do 10 approaches a day, make a field repo… | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 03:14 AM |
| 1 | Dear seddit I've been drinking and have done 1000's of approaches and coach in my down time... here are some harsh truths for you allYou have to be more pro active because this is not really easy. If you don't know where to start there are a bunch of books on this matter. Everyone here recommends Models feel free to start there or do your own research. | /r/seduction | 25/01/19 05:41 PM |
| 17 | Being outcome independent, projecting high status and not giving a flying fuck.I think the whole "not giving a fuck/outcome independent" mentality is to counter the usual mentality that guys have when seeing a girl that they are attracted to: putting her on a pedestal and making the interaction a big deal. It's the proper mentality to have at first when you open but eventually you have to balance it out with giving a certain amount of a fuck because you want that interaction to go further (another date, sex, relationship, whatever). | /r/seduction | 20/01/19 12:24 AM |
| 4 | How do I move on from my ex?Getting over an ex is never an easy process and it’s painful but it seems you have to do it. Cut her off from any form of social media, I’d go as far as closing your insta/fb or whatever for a while to prevent you trying to contact her or check on her. Focus on you, your interests, career, studies. Lean hard on this to work on yourself. You should do this regardless of wether you are on a relationship or not but it helps to keep your mind busy. If you’re not reading any good books to help you ge… | /r/seduction | 01/01/19 10:18 PM |
| 1 | What should be my next move?Because she moved on. Playing hard to get can work well when you first meet a girl because it’s the opposite showing needyness and putting her on a pedestal. I don’t understand why you did it the second time though and that probably killed your chances. Still try talking to her on insta but don’t be surprised if she doesn’t answer back. | /r/seduction | 19/12/18 06:38 PM |
| 5 | how do you stay positive when people looks-shame youYou need to be comfortable with who you are. Recognize the things you can improve on (weight, style,etc) and work on those but don’t let others dictate your value | /r/seduction | 19/12/18 06:31 PM |
| 3 | Seduction is making me depressed.Learning to dance salsa can be an amazing hobby. You get to do something physical and meet a looooot of women | /r/seduction | 05/12/18 10:28 PM |
| 22 | [FR] A Newbie's First Lay ReportI can't remember who made the comparison that same night sex are like scoring home runs, they don't really happen very often. Anyway I think the way OP did it (multiple dates leading to sex) is the usual way that ends up happening | /r/seduction | 28/10/18 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Sex Will Only Ever Be A Temporary HighI’m not sure I understand your point correctly. Are you getting that good feeling because girls gave you love or sex or validation? I’m not sure I understand how you can love yourself more this way | /r/seduction | 25/10/18 11:58 PM |
| 4 | Unable to approach despite not feeling usual approach anxietyThere's something in the back of your head that stopped you from approaching. It's not anxiety in the usual way that's discussed here but you were afraid of something happening otherwise you would've approached with no hesitation. Have you had any experience doing actual approaches as opposed to practicing on normal conversations were there is no pressure? | /r/seduction | 24/10/18 02:53 AM |
| 1 | [FR] very first twoGreat job, you went in and also had the balls to go for a close. I don't see a lot of details in the interaction so it's kinda hard to say what you could improve on. I agree to a certain point with the other guy suggesting being more subtle, usually newer guys are told to go direct because it helps them man up and do an actual approach (this was my case) However you seem comfortable to showing that you like a girl so work on more subtle openers. | /r/seduction | 24/10/18 02:48 AM |
| 3 | My Daygame Experience So Far. Statistics and LessonsAnazing post, very detailed. Quick question, what venues did you choose to do daygame? Any places that were much more successful than others? | /r/seduction | 15/10/18 06:05 PM |
| 3 | This shit is so fucking hardEveryone fails, it doesn't mean that you should give up. Personally it took me around 3 years since I started to get some results, my dating life has improved but I know it can still get better. My recommendation would be to keep on going and when you come across a sticking point, then watch (free) videos only based on those sticking points. It takes work but it can be done. | /r/seduction | 12/10/18 02:06 PM |
| 1 | This shit is so fucking hardI'd suggest to watch other RSD instructors, Tyler is good but his videos are usually about improving your life in general. Also they have so much free content you don't need to buy any of their products. | /r/seduction | 12/10/18 01:15 PM |
| 3 | This shit is so fucking hardI understand this but at the same time, you would feel much better when you complete the game on hard mode. I guess when it comes to dating, the majority of guys who have a tough time don't give themselves props for their advancements in game. I know that 2 years ago I had a hard time starting a conversation, but now I'm much better. | /r/seduction | 12/10/18 01:13 PM |
| 1 | This shit is so fucking hardRunning is great, i'm a runner as well and there's the added bonus that you are able to meet lots of women through training groups. | /r/seduction | 12/10/18 01:09 PM |
| 2 | How do you get a smart brain and smart mind?Have you read any books on topics that interest you? In terms of dating I will recommend what everyone else will probably say and that's Models by Mark Manson. Personally I would also recommend the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey because it shows you a step by step plan to get your life together. | /r/seduction | 05/10/18 01:00 PM |
| 1 | seddit's r/100sets is a total failureI have a post up there currently with 50 sets documented. I’ve done much more but they have been so meaningless that I don’t think they are worth documenting. I can tell you this much, ever since I started logging in sets I feel some sort of accountability. So in my case it does help me have better sets. If there is one point to improve is the lack of feedback. I’m guilty of this as I haven’t posted on any other post other than replies to mine but it would help the sub be better | /r/seduction | 04/10/18 10:52 PM |
| 7 | Do you guys approach on girls at the gym?I guess he means don’t try to correct girls on whatever exercise they are doing. I’ve seen it happen and it looks weird because nobody was asking for advice and there is usually a trainer to ask gym related questions | /r/seduction | 04/10/18 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Went Clubbing Solo Yet AgainFirst of all props for trying solo night game, I've done it a few times and I know it's gaming on hard mode. Here are a couple of pointers from my experience: don't open asking girls to dance, you're asking way too much out of a girl and it's basically the opener of every guy out there. If she says no you're in this weird position where you start the conversation getting rejected. My first couple of openers are canned, basically just to get a conversation going and get out of my head. It's stupi… | /r/seduction | 23/09/18 02:56 AM |
| 20 | Shit. How do people actually manage to change their lives?First off good job for recognizing the things that you need to improve on, that's a massive first step that a lot of people don't take. I think there's this misconception about what "being confident" actually means. At first, I also thought it was all about being this alpha guy who was completely secure about himself but then I heard (from RSD Max I believe) that it's all about being perfectly fine with yourself, insecurities and everything. It doesn't mean that you shouldn't improve but more li… | /r/seduction | 22/04/18 03:27 AM |
| 1 | Im hitting the clubs solo. Give me your best last minute adviceI've gone solo as well and it's I feel there's a lot more pressure on you. My advice is to have small interactions with people as soon as you get to the club, I find that this helps me relieve some anxiety. Other than that go out there and have fun because it's even a bigger adventure to game solo. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 22/04/18 03:11 AM |
| 11 | PSA: Read "How To Be a 3% Man" & 99% of your questions will be answeredOne of the key lessons I got from this book was a comparison he made about how women are like cats and the more you chase them around the more they will run away. Its a really good book, personally the only thing that bothered me about it was how much he kept linking to articles in his blog instead of actually explaining things, especially in the audiobook it was annoying at times. Still its a great book. | /r/seduction | 01/04/18 07:35 PM |
| 2 | 3 months ago, I posted about being the funny guy to being a Man who's funny. Today I want to share my tips for Inner Game and Life.Totally agree with this, personally I'm switching it up to approaching to get a bit out of my comfort zone. Also I really like the mindset about the PUA you mentioned. Was that in an AMA? | /r/seduction | 22/02/18 03:30 AM |
| 1 | What to do when looking very young ?I also have this, girls usually think I'm 5 years younger and I embrace it because it's an easy way to stand out. I found that it's all about embracing it and not being ashamed of it. When girls gave me shit I eventually learned to have some sort of witty comeback. | /r/seduction | 03/02/18 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Going to the club after a professional formal event in which I don't know anyone there. Need some advice on what to do.It takes balls of steel to go out alone at night so props to you for taking that risk. I have gone out alone to clubs as well and it is really scary, apart from the usual pressure of approaching there's the additional pressure of being alone and feeling judged because of this. The method I have applied in my case is to have small interactions with anyone as quickly as possible and build it up from there. For example, I usually start out asking dumb questions like what are people drinking or how … | /r/seduction | 01/02/18 02:03 PM |
| 6 | The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Players Part 2Great post the only thing I would add is a link to Pt. 1 for anyone new reading this. Personally I spend at least 45 minutes to practice cold approach after work, the problem I've found is that I rely too much on low risk openers (asking for directions/time/etc) that lead to meaningless interactions. My goal right now is to get over this and be more vulnerable when approaching. | /r/seduction | 01/02/18 01:29 PM |
| 2 | How Do You Spend Less Time Thinking About Women Between Dates? Why Do You Think I Spend So Much Time Thinking About Her/Them?From what I understand you seem excited because you actually went on a date with this girls you really like and you're putting all of your hopes into this one girl. I guess its alright to be excited just dont create any expectations based on this one date. Also you need to find other activities which you are truly passionate about, remember your life does not revolve around her so be careful making her the center of your life. | /r/seduction | 15/01/18 02:45 AM |
| 2 | Snapchat, insta stories, I think they're more of an hindrance than a toolI find it as a different way to start interacting with a girl for example, if I go on a trip somewhere and put up a story, some girls will send me a message commenting on the story. Personally it has helped me a lot and I use it as a compliment to my text game | /r/seduction | 15/01/18 02:37 AM |
| 1 | The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Players (Pt. 1)Love this post. I just recently finished reading this book and I could also relate it to game. The 3rd principle (put first things first) is where actual planning starts to happen and its where I have found it the hardest to balance your "regular life" with pickup | /r/seduction | 15/01/18 02:32 AM |
| 7 | Any audiobooks you guys recommend?If its books in general I'd recommend what everyone else usually would recommend and that's "Models" by Mark Manson, unfortunately the audio version isn't really good because I think the author narrates it and does a poor job. One great audiobook though is "What Women Want in a Man" by Bruce Bryans,its a very quick listen (around 2 hrs) and hits some really good points. I also liked the narrator because I felt he was really encouraging when reading the book. | /r/seduction | 13/12/17 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Gaming in Mexico CityNot from Mexico but I am from El Salvador and yes that is the main problem. Because girls live with their parents they are a bit harder to take home because they have to go back to their parents house so screen for that. Sometimes you get a situation in which a girl is staying with her friends so that's a good sign. Other than that, getting girls' attention should be easy because you're from abroad so don't be boring and you're good to go | /r/seduction | 07/12/17 01:04 AM |
| 2 | I feel like being successful with girls has too much work involved for me.I see you're being really harsh on yourself. I would recommend going to a therapist to help you out bri. Also some book recommendations that have personally helped me: no more mr nice guy, feeling good and rejection reset | /r/seduction | 07/10/17 11:31 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Newb FR - Very short solo night out working on approachesThanks for the advice, this makes sense. Sometimes I think that I have to be opening everything regardless of the situation but for some reason tables are a problem for me | /r/seduction | 25/09/17 12:49 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Newb FR - Very short solo night out working on approachesGreat stuff you seem to have opening down. Quick question, how do you open groups sitting at tables? For some reason I struggle with this. Any tips would be appreciated. | /r/seduction | 22/09/17 12:32 AM |
| 2 | Positive Experiences with online programsI've purchased Max's previous program, the Natural and I loved it, There's a lot of great content and its structured in a way that you can understand the principles and also see examples of these principles applied. However all the videos in the world don't matter unless you take some sort of action. So the value that you get out of these programs depend on how often you go out and practice the content. In the case of RSD they sometimes give you exercises so you can work on a specific thing. How… | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 08:21 PM |
| 6 | How a One-Night-Stand with a Model gave me a Glimpse into the True Lives of Beautiful Women.I've read the book and its pretty good. Basically the stuff RSD teaches (I believe the author worked with them at one point) I dont think it's fair to dismiss a book based on one paragraph, As it does contain some great points. | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Stop Giving A Fuck About What Other People Think of YouI think he meant it's obvious when someone is pretending to be someone they're not, women are really good with their bullshit sensors and sooner or later they will find out. From personal experience, I broke up with a really hot chick because I was faking it all the way. | /r/seduction | 26/01/17 05:40 PM |
| 3 | I read Models and SAONGAF by Mark Manson and I'm fiending for more. What other books do you recommend?I liked parts of this book although it kinda pissed me off that he was often linking to articles in his blog instead of just putting the information there. | /r/seduction | 25/11/16 06:55 PM |
| 5 | I read Models and SAONGAF by Mark Manson and I'm fiending for more. What other books do you recommend?Fundamentals of female dynamics by Michael Knight. Great book thats a quick read but has tons of info on body language and ways to communicate. | /r/seduction | 25/11/16 06:53 PM |
| 2 | First date question tipsYeah, completely agree on the stepping back part, apologize but don't be overly apologetic if you offended her in some way when you're escalating. About the boyfriend thing I remember seeing a video where the guy makes an assumption on the type of guys a girl likes based on a random comment she made and the segways the conversation into relationships from there. Haven't personally tried that out but it seems like it could work. | /r/seduction | 14/11/16 03:55 AM |
| 53 | Describe your most fun dateShe told me she liked museums so we went to one, thing is it was closed of because they were giving a private tour to some canadian officials that were visiting. I told her we should pose as their translators, we walked up to the group and walked in with them. We were stunned lol. We left after 5 min because she was too worried. Still was hella fun, great date overall | /r/seduction | 13/11/16 01:04 AM |
| 2 | Don't let this take over your lifehmm its weird because with girls that I have dated and have some sort of trust I tell them about this, they actually respect this a lot and think its better than being the needy guy who blows up their phone. | /r/seduction | 25/09/16 07:45 PM |
| 1 | I'm not an expert by any stretch, but I have a method that I've found useful for "getting in the zone".Im guessing OP got the tip from the book Presence by Amy Cuddy, she also gives advise to force your mouth into a smile by holding a pen in your mouth for a while. | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Cynics and Doubters of Seddit. A Powerful Thought Experiment For Your Inner GameI personally use trello its the shit for lists | /r/seduction | 02/07/16 02:34 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Night at a club and one dumb habit I realizedWow thanks for the breakdown, I'm going to try to take it a step further next time. I want to get out there and practice more, unfortunately the night life here is really bad, limited basically to weekends. I'm also trying daygame as well but it can be hard fitting it in with my work schedule. | /r/seduction | 15/02/16 04:33 AM |
| 2 | Need help with day game mind set and approach critiqueThe opener is fine it really doesnt matter. The scenario you made up in your head though prevented you from opening that girl. You need to realize that your scenario probably wont happen. Approaching, especially during the day is usually messy, you willl have to get in her way and other people will notice you but you shouldnt care about them. When I do day game I first warm up by opening anyone with random questions like directions to a place, but do it in different scenarios: to people walking … | /r/seduction | 13/08/15 02:27 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop feeling so crushed when I get rejected?The problem I see is that you are making up the story in your head that it was you that fucked up the interaction. Is this really true? Do you have any evidence to support this? Also you have to realize that all of the interactions you have are part of a larger process to get better with girls. You need to get different responses from girls in order to get better, and yes this does include getting flaked. I'd recommend you hard look at your interactions, try to learn something from them and then… | /r/seduction | 10/05/15 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Why does it all feel like deception?Im shorter and it shouldnt affect your interactions as long as you are fine with it. | /r/seduction | 02/05/15 08:27 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Only non-Cypriot on a Cypriot eventSo you went out all by yourself, and you still approached? Thats seems pretty ballsy to me. As far as the girls flaking on you again, it really doesnt matter, you shouldve taken the friend who seems like she wanted to have fun or just approach other girls. | /r/seduction | 01/05/15 02:36 PM |
| 4 | RSD Tyler: The TRUTH About "Gaming Girls": Good Pickup Is Like Good Plastic Surgery, You Can't Tell! (+Infield)I cringed when he was asking for the time to that one chick mainly because I've done that. Right now I recognize im acting like in the second example and it looks awkward as hell This vid was a wake up call for me | /r/seduction | 09/01/15 02:29 AM |
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