Is This Really The Ultimate Solution To Approach Anxiety In Clubs?

harrisonwhiskey · 2019-04-15T10:09:17+00:00

Thank you very much for sharing this. I've been battling AA so long, my ego don't wanna get hurt. I'm definitely going to try this but the problem is where to go, I can only think of 2 places my University campus which is a very small one and the Mall.

TiberZurg · 2019-04-15T12:50:04+00:00

Try it! This whole pickup thing is all about experimenting and seeing what will work for you. I started out by going out by myself for like 20 minutes, and by travelling a lot. When you stay in hostels it's very easy to meet people so it's a good intermediate step. It's all about baby steps. Don't set the bar too high, just go out consistently and progressively make things harder for yourself. You can start out by just saying hello or giving a compliment like 'nice shirt!'. But the thing that really got me over AA in clubs was going out with guys that are already approaching a lot. Check out RSD Inner Circle groups on facebook and find wings there, or go to a seminar event (RSD free tour) and meet people there. You can try letting them approach first and if they're nice they will push you and challenge you. If you go out by yourself eventually you'll notice that it'll be on a whole different level though and it might be a bit hard again at first. But just show up and eventually you will approach.

I did this method after being out of the game for a long time. I moved to Barcelona (big city and quite cheap haha) for getting better at pickup and once I was settled I started going out every night. My only criterium was to go out. The first night I didn't even enter a club, I just spoke to a drug dealer and a homeless guy that was smoking weed and playing guitar and they started talking to me. I went out a few nights with other pickup guys followed by a few nights alone. Every night became progressively better. One night I would just go to a bar and walk around aimlessly and just talk to some guys. But on the 7th night I felt quite comfortable in the club environment and I could just approach who-ever I wanted. I was watching Netflix until 2:30 AM and then I decided to go out. I went to a bar which closed at 3:00 AM and then I approached a group of people on the street (with many girls) who took me to a SICK underground techno party. I felt great. After that I quit going out though because a girl I met in a hostel wanted to spend more time with me. I don't regret spending more time with her but my original plan was to go out every night for a month. I think it would've been a lot of fun and I think I would've reached a pretty high level at the end of that month. I plan to do that one month challenge some time soon. Maybe in the summer. My game is actually not that strong, but I'm convinced that going out every night for a month will improve my skills tremendously.

Anyway, yes I can attest that going out every night is a great plan. Think of it like learning how to play guitar. If you practice just once a week you'll never get good at it. Learning guitar required consistent daily practice. I don't think it matters much whether you go solo or with wings. Both have benefits. I also don't think it matters much how long you go. Set low standards for yourself. If you don't have much time some nights then just show up for like 20 minutes. Talk to one person. Even the bouncer of bartender will do. Just make sure to go out for a long time at least like twice a week. The most important thing is consistency and letting your brain adapt to the environment. And yes, not drinking alcohol is really important. It will make it harder, but eventually it will make you way sharper and way more comfortable in a wide range of situations.

geeered · 2019-04-15T11:38:49+00:00

To some degree I've tried it - I've often gone out a lot alone or ended up on my own. Even more so when you consider festivals where I'll easily hit 5 days x over 4 hours wandering alone and not drunk. (Booze doesn't help me unfortunately.)

Hasn't helped me.

Haven't done it intentionally for the purpose of tackling that, but have gone to lots of events I've enjoyed and told myself to approach women and haven't for the most part.

Of course a lot of this is a numbers game and if you put yourself in the position of having more chance for more easy approaches, you will be more likely to find some you're comfortable with.

BetterBeLuckyThanGud · 2019-04-15T12:51:41+00:00

If you have time to go out 7 nights in the row , you have nothing going on in your life , and by this you aren`t attractive at all.

beat AA , by starting slow ,and by talking to everybody you meet on daily base : cashier , etc

bugxter · 2019-04-15T13:38:23+00:00

4 hours a day? Really? Is this for people without jobs and nothing else going on for them?

zincSF · 2019-04-15T17:32:04+00:00

I think its silly, myself. Going out and being alone for 4 hours in a bar isn't going to help you. Notice that it wasn't until he TRIED SOMETHING DIFFERENT at the club that he had "success". Not promoting exactly what he did, but generally, YES: he started APPROACHING. Wasting 4 hours in a club not approaching is only going to drive you mad. In my opinion. I guess his claim is it will drive you so nuts you'll finally break through. Maaaaaybe.

realrandom2018 · 2019-04-17T06:22:48+00:00

anyone else has thoughts?

Brobuscus48 · 2019-04-15T05:23:59+00:00

To expand on this method which I think could easily work. To make this go faster I'll ask this question. What do you enjoy at the club other than the girls? For me, I genuinely enjoy dancing so as long as I get caught up in the moment AA isn't a thing for me. I can't dance, but I don't give a shit because it's fun. It's the confidence in my movements that seems to attract women and the fact that I try harder when dancing than other guys.

realrandom2018 · 2019-04-16T17:51:00+00:00

does anyone else have any thoughts?

BuckFuddy82 · 2019-04-15T08:34:34+00:00

I can attest that this method works. I (M-36) have ALWAYS went out with other people and couldnt imagine going out alone. I am usually very nervous even with a wingman when it comes to talking to women in clubs. One Saturday night when all my friends cancelled on me I decided I was gonna go out by myself just to see how it felt. Went to one club and sat there for a few hours looking stupid. Then I said "fuck it" and just started talking to people, something I dont do when I go out with friends. Met some nice people, flirted with some women (this was easier then I expected) and left and went to another club. Now little this point I admit I was a little drunk and REALLY came into my own. I ended getting about 3 chicks numbers and the bartender and owner of the bar loved me and begged me to come back. I have never had this kind of reaction before. I now go out alone regularly and when it comes to hooking up with women I am FAR MORE SUCCESSFUL when alone then with friends.

Title	Is This Really The Ultimate Solution To Approach Anxiety In Clubs?
Author	realrandom2018
Upvotes	17
Comments	28
Date	April 15, 2019 5:00 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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