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Hey,Getting back with the BF wasn't the sensible option seeing that he did cheat on her. What would have been a "sensible" option is exploring other men who do not have 5 children from 4 different women? The fact however that he was able to seduce her (without much effort - if you watch the movie you'll see what I mean) in spite of circumstances that you would expect to be HUGELY negative was simply that she was attracted to him. It goes to show the power of attraction, and how it defies logic. …
/r/seduction10/01/19 01:34 AM
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Added a spoiler alert
/r/seduction10/01/19 01:29 AM
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oops, my bad brother, did not think that through haha
/r/seduction09/01/19 10:33 PM
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while that is correct, easy in or not, I did not believe I'm entitled/deserving of a woman like her. That's the main spirit of the post.
/r/seduction03/01/19 10:02 PM
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Great tips man. We have a lot of latin dancing in Austin. I'll check it out. I agree about cold being tough.
/r/seduction03/01/19 10:01 PM
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Possibly, but the point of the post is about feeling like you deserved a beautiful woman. Not the difference between a warm and a cold approach (the former is always better!)
/r/seduction03/01/19 10:00 PM
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yup good point
/r/seduction03/01/19 09:59 PM
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How do you let her know you find her attractive?
/r/seduction03/01/19 09:57 PM
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I definitely felt like something in my brain changed. I now feel like I deserve the women I am actually attracted to. No more settling.
/r/seduction03/01/19 09:55 PM
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So true man. What goes on in her mind when you do that is 'Oh, if he's just dancing with me, or talking to me in a relaxed manner, this must mean I'm his usual "caliber", which means we're in the same league"
/r/seduction03/01/19 09:54 PM
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I gotta print and frame this quote. Gonna share this with all my buddies in Austin.
/r/seduction03/01/19 09:53 PM
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It's almost like we've conditioned ourselves to just assume they're either seeing someone or aren't interested. There's only one way to find out though.
/r/seduction03/01/19 09:52 PM
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Thank you ! happy new year man:)
/r/seduction03/01/19 09:52 PM
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Too true. And they sense that so strongly. If it's obvious that we're walking on egg shells to not miss on this once in a lifetime opportunity, it sends her the obvious signal that this doesn't happen to us often, and thus, that we are not a man she should be interested in at all. That's why, whether we like it or not, teasing works beautifully. Teasing shows the willingness to lose, which speaks volumes about value.
/r/seduction03/01/19 09:51 PM
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Sometimes when a woman is simultaneously gorgeous and classy, even the creeps tend to stay away :P
/r/seduction03/01/19 09:49 PM
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That sounds accurate. When I was at that bar, I saw so many guys who were staring at her in disbelief, and then just going on about their nights, not even considering saying hello.
/r/seduction03/01/19 09:48 PM
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This is the worst piece of advice I've ever read. How did it get so many up-votes? Following this advice we'd all be eternal orbiters gravitating around our crushes forever while they tell us us about their Chads - but hey, that's OK, because we can maintain a sense of mystery as to what our "relationship" is? That sounds like , forgive my french, mental masturbation at its finest. It would simply lead to the guy thinking something might be going on, whereas the girl knows right away that nothin…
/r/seduction03/04/18 01:50 PM
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So this is a story about being friend-zoned by the girl next door? Jokes - amazing post man, thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction10/08/17 08:26 PM
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Thanks, I like the positive spin. Ultimately, 99% of us on here are looking for that girl that we are wholeheartedly crazy about, and who is crazy about us too. Due to lack of confidence (or whatever other obstacles), we've either been single, or have had to 'settle' for a long time. Settle for a girl who wasn't quite right. Unfortunately (or fortunately - depending on how you look at it), we have to go through A LOT of approaches and dates to gradually reach where we want to be. This also comes…
/r/seduction07/07/17 03:01 PM
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Interesting point, I'll give you that. BUT - there is a hidden lesson in that video, regardless of her predisposition to buy: in some cases, getting laid is merely about SHOWING UP. 99% of men won't. It's as though she was thinking 'Man...I really feel like getting slammed by the first man who acts like a real man, and interacts with me in a relatively confident/smooth way'. 99% of men won't do anything - the 1% that does (i.e. the ones who approach) will win. I agree that there was no visible r…
/r/seduction07/12/16 04:38 AM
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Yup - it's a defense mechanism. How else would they cope with the possibility that by putting in the work and mastering discomfort, their lives could drastically improve. Keep up the great work with your channel!
/r/seduction07/12/16 12:37 AM
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Can someone please explain to me why not only is this getting very negative comments, but those comments are also being massively upvoted? I understand that we can all go through sexual frustration and that approaching/dating can be tough, but why not use these videos as a reminder of what is possible, instead of automatically shutting down when you see someone doing well? If you had a look at this guy's Youtube channel, and saw the back story (he used to be severely overweight, and he's been do…
/r/seduction06/12/16 06:54 PM
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You find it ludicrous that people who are dedicating their lives to perfecting this 'craft' and teaching it to others expect value in return for the sake of their livelihood?
/r/seduction23/11/16 10:15 PM
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That butcher character is the prototype 'Nice Guy'. This story could be titled : The "Nice" Butcher.
/r/seduction07/10/16 04:05 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VRBed0iMX-A
/r/seduction07/10/16 04:00 PM
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Haha, group pics are fine, but solo travelling is pretty badass. Shows you're adventurous.
/r/seduction22/09/16 08:26 PM
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The travel pics by themselves are enough to convey your coolness
/r/seduction22/09/16 06:54 PM
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Do share story#1 (plane)
/r/seduction18/04/16 06:56 PM
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The Shrodinger of Pick Up.
/r/seduction30/03/16 01:45 PM
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sup
/r/seduction02/10/15 02:22 AM
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did you end up getting those 'hotter and hotter'girls?
/r/seduction29/09/15 05:05 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/seduction29/09/15 03:13 PM
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I like this attitude. What typically happens with me is that when I get horny, I end obliterating my standards for a bit to get a lay or two until I realize that I'm not being true to myself. I'm also more of a cold approach kinda guy - resonates better with my personality and my long-term growth goals.
/r/seduction29/09/15 03:02 PM
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Been trying to avoid Online. I do a fair bit of cold approach, and in fact, have gotten most of my lays from it. I guess I have sociopathic tendencies then!
/r/seduction29/09/15 02:22 PM
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How did you meet them?
/r/seduction29/09/15 02:13 PM
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Everybody in this sub should watch this, thanks for the share man.
/r/seduction15/09/15 07:12 PM
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The bitterness's not gonna help you in life, not here and definitely not with women. Lighten up bro, life is beautiful :)
/r/seduction01/09/15 04:09 PM
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Lol he's the reason you're here
/r/seduction01/09/15 02:53 PM
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What happened here?
/r/seduction29/07/15 01:39 AM
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for the same reason that cocaine makes men more attractive to women - it makes you more direct, upfront, and thus manly. You can replicate this while sober. Observe how you behave differently while on adderall, and transfer those behaviours into your sober life
/r/seduction09/05/15 05:39 AM
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So many women out there, if you are forced to rely on the ones that are handed to you on a silver platter (i.e. a customer), you may wanna focus on getting out of comfort zone and approach!!
/r/seduction26/04/15 07:41 PM
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opportunity? you create the opportunities, son. Every-FUCKING-where
/r/seduction26/04/15 12:06 PM
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geez look through his channel you're welcome
/r/seduction26/04/15 12:06 PM
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Great, sounds like you got your shit together. So focus on approaching. Daily approaches. like 3 a day.
/r/seduction26/04/15 05:20 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/user/willybecktv
/r/seduction26/04/15 05:01 AM
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Personally - don't do it. It's a slippery slope, and can easily become addictive/compulsive, especially if you're not finding success IRL. Focus on not only Self-Improvement (e.g. gym 3-5 times a week, reading, no-fap) but also on approaching approaching approaching. Do it for yourself.
/r/seduction26/04/15 04:57 AM
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Glad to know I'm not the only one with these situations! I understand flakes due to lack of connection or due to too short an interaction - those when I've CLEARLY connected with a girl can be a mind-fuck. But you are right....abundance = not giving a shit
/r/seduction23/04/15 01:58 PM
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Amen. Been thinking this for a while - it is possible to improve every single aspect of your life (health, wealth, hobbies etc.) while still having very limited success with women. Success in a particular domain comes from...domain-specific practice and experiences. While there are some overlaps between domains (e.g. better body and lifestyle will inevitably make you a lot more attractive), if you don't grow a pair and approach approach approach - it don't mean shit. In fact, maybe the self-impr…
/r/seduction23/04/15 02:17 AM
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try meetup.com, great resource
/r/seduction22/04/15 10:34 PM
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Could be but not necessarily. If It's a public speaking club for example, not a brilliant first date.
/r/seduction22/04/15 06:17 PM
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Spend less energy/effort into cricitizing others and their life-decisions, and a lot more on improving your own life. You wrote a massive post to insult the no-fappers - that's a lot of pent up energy that should be used otherwise. Some people have addicitive personalities, and they know that fapping (and/or other behaviours) don't go well with them because they become very compulsive and obsessive. Others (like yourself perhaps) have the ability to control themselves without letting a pleasure-…
/r/seduction20/04/15 08:27 PM
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You gotta approach groups sometimes, high risk but way higher rewards because your 'target' sees you interacting with her friends RIGHT AWAY, what a better way for her to gauge sanity/confidence/charisma?
/r/seduction17/04/15 04:03 PM
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No point in being butt-hurt and thus aggressive about it (as several others are suggesting here). Handle the situation as a confident male with plenty of options (whether that is true or not is irrelevant). You're slightly excited that she's potentially back in the loop, but neither too excited nor vengeful. There's always a reason - the cat died, too much school work, on and off with an ex, feeling self-conscious and unattractive etc. No point in guessing that. Just accept that for whatever rea…
/r/seduction02/02/15 05:13 AM
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Loving the vibe man, and as a man reaching his 30s soon, I'm glad to see proof that the fun won't stop then! Keep on doing what you're doing. A few pointers -When talking to 2 (or) more women, try to figure out the situation in terms of whether one doesn't live here and whether one of them has a BF. You can can ask simple questions to probe that - e.g. So how long have you two been living here? (to see if one of them doesn't live here, and so useless #) and So what do you do for fun on weekends?…
/r/seduction30/01/15 11:49 PM
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There are no awkward situations in life - only awkward people. And as I said, I wasn't feeling it, so I figured why not. Plus I live in a big city, not a small town or college campus - slim chances of bumping into her again.
/r/seduction24/01/15 03:41 PM
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there's always....THAT guy
/r/seduction24/01/15 07:31 AM
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tips on how to ....date a lot? :)
/r/seduction23/01/15 02:08 PM
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By hungry - do you also imply you weren't fapping?
/r/seduction14/01/15 03:23 PM
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TL;DR: Bros Over Hos.
/r/seduction14/01/15 03:15 PM
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Hundreds? I think you need to do an AMA.
/r/seduction14/01/15 02:55 PM
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so much negativity wow
/r/seduction28/12/14 10:53 PM
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It is, but the way I see it, learning game is (mainly) for guys who didn't get it right in high school and/or college (I know I didn't) and who want to accelerate the learning process to avoid missing out on their 20s and early 30s. If you however focus on the things I mention above rather than specifically working on ways to improve game, you'll benefit infinitely more. I was shy and didn't know the first thing about escalating. I had frequent crushes, would let the girls know, but wouldn't do …
/r/seduction27/12/14 10:41 PM
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Didn't read the whole thing, but just a word of advice from a guy 10 years older than you - if you're 16, you have (more) time to build natural game and confidence, which can come from being very athletic (do sports a few times a week), well-read, have many hobbies (including mastering a musical instrument), work hard at school to get into cool colleges (possibly with scholarships) and lastly work on socializing as much as you can with people at your school. If I could say things to my 16 year o…
/r/seduction27/12/14 10:11 PM
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Cool thanks, good stuff. About only going for a close when 100% certain - I agree that going for it when it's obvious she's not interested is just self-damage.
/r/seduction25/12/14 06:55 PM
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1-Someone starting to bang a chick a month at the age of 16 would be a natural and would probably not find himself in a forum such as this. 2-Nighttime venues are accessible for people over 18 or 21 depending on where you are, so again that 16 argument is shaky. 3-100 women is a very impressive number, regardless of any consideration. Surely there is something to learn from this. I'm not one to bash posts, but yours had no value added - on the contrary, it was critical for no reason. Wait and le…
/r/seduction25/12/14 06:07 PM
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Ah, now that's a cool x-mas gift. this one should be interesting! I'm 25 myself, been with around 20 so I'd definitely have a lot to gain from your insights. The first obvious question would be....what is your system? haha.
/r/seduction25/12/14 05:57 PM
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Ask yourself whether you'd be into that if your initial preferences had been met. We are evolutionarily programmed to seek fit women, so chances are, you have a type A, but got turned down by them, and thus are resorting to this plan C as a source of 'feasible' and (in your mind) 'achievable' pleasure. I know that in my case, unusual kinks such as this come up when I'm not doing well with women - when I am however, I look back and think ' what was I thinking?'. Just some thoughts. Not judging.
/r/seduction21/12/14 09:23 PM
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LITERALLY a smile will do. If he's interested, he'll approach you. Men are so (evolutionarily) programmed to seek cues of interest in females, and females are programmed not to display them inadvertently (unless they're drunk obviously).
/r/seduction13/12/14 12:06 AM
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Dude, SHE invited YOU to watch a movie at HER place. She did most of the work. It's very obvious she's interested. This isn't even forum worthy haha. Just escalate physically during the movie, go for a kiss at some point, and considering she wants to do it, it should be organic and easy from there on. Good luck
/r/seduction09/12/14 02:01 AM
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When it looks like you are busy, and going for definite A to point B, that looks attractive to people. Also reassures them (subconsciously) that you have only a few seconds/minutes before having to bounce, and so it makes them less afraid to invest/socially commit and test the waters - knowing that if they don't like you, you'll be gone in a few seconds anyway. Contrast this to a guy who's lurking around, without sense of rush, no suit, not even a backpack or shopping bags - that's the look of s…
/r/seduction19/10/14 05:49 AM
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-Enhance your genes -Come from a wealthier background Jokes aside - as far as looks are concerned, your score is fairly set (although you can probably go up 1-2 points by working out a lot, dressing well, grooming etc.) Otherwise, it's all about hobbies and replacing bad habits with good ones. good luck
/r/seduction19/10/14 05:40 AM
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It ultimately depends on what you were really feeling, deep inside. If you desired her but chose not to pull the trigger for the sake of not potentially ruining an agreeable afternoon and to preserve the harmony, that's when my arguments make sense. If however you were feeling neutral about it, and fairly but not overly attracted to her physically and mentally - then I DEFINITELY don't advocate hooking up for the mere sake of it. I have had times before when I knew deep down that I wasn't suffic…
/r/seduction30/09/14 10:56 AM
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I realized part of me didn’t want to close. I could have quite easily kissed her, and without much persuasion taken her home – but I stopped myself. Sounds a bit cheesy, but all I really wanted was the connection and I got it. All the other sequelae were a bit frightening. She wanted more. Poor girl was looking for anything to try and stay another 5 mins with me – why don’t we drop into this café etc OP made some bold speculations about having been able to close if he wanted to, and her basicall…
/r/seduction30/09/14 07:09 AM
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You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Sounds like a lovely afternoon, BUT in my view, you got your ego stroked without taking the ultimate risk of rejection (i.e going for the kiss or more). You invested in a low-risk/low-yield stock, and got just enough to feel content with yourself. I have had plenty of "mental masturbation" episodes before...during which I felt all fuzzy and glow-y in my head...but until you pull the trigger, it's exactly just that: IN YOUR HEAD. That said however, amazi…
/r/seduction29/09/14 09:12 AM
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Haha, a white stud in Math or Engineering is one in a million :P And yes, research has proved that "opposites attract" doesn't apply that much to reality.
/r/seduction24/09/14 06:42 PM
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Tell us about how you got that 10!
/r/seduction24/09/14 05:17 AM
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Very cool. How did you deal with the "childhood trauma"? I've been meaning to get into daily meditation... PS - not sure i buy the robbins stuff.
/r/seduction02/08/14 07:08 AM
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Any tips for a guy with a severe stutter? I have had my fair share of success of women (slept with around 20, to quantify), I am quite social, and I meet people spontaneously - BUT, when I start blocking, I still get nasty/confused stares and a lot of women are immediately turned off. I generally make it a point to mention it, which helps tremendously. What's your take on it? PS - I do work on some techniques to improve my speech.
/r/seduction31/07/14 09:15 PM
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A better rule is = be so busy that you won't have the time or energy to check your phone. If she happens to text back, great - it's a bonus to your day. If she doesn't, then no biggie, you're engaged in so much shit anyway. I speak from experience - I used to (and sometimes still do) stare at my phone when I'm expecting a text from a girl I really like. Then I snap out of it, and think "dude...this is the vibe/attitude that probably explains why she didn't text back". As long as we are needy, th…
/r/seduction20/07/14 12:24 AM
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Some good points - but, I sometimes see rejection as indicator that more self-improvement is required. If I'm getting rejected all the time, I'm the common denominator. Maybe there's something about my vibe and/or lifestyle that is inherently attractive, and that ought to be addressed. If I fall in the trap of 'I'm perfect the way I am', then the caliber of the women I end up attracting may be very discrepant from my true desires - which leads to settling and rationalizations ('she's not that ba…
/r/seduction13/07/14 12:45 AM
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I'd argue it would be more likely for a popular kid turned loser to have a one night stand at one of these events than a loser turned successful. So true
/r/seduction07/06/14 11:47 PM
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Quite interesting, you and another posted have raised this point. I hadn't considered the fact that there is so much 'baggage' in these relationships. We're talking over a decade of experiences engrained in their minds.
/r/seduction07/06/14 06:01 PM
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Ouf, super good points man. This guy (not THAT good looking) indeed has some major leverage due to his past status in the high school ecology. I focused on the most 'flagrant' case. It was also two other guys.
/r/seduction07/06/14 05:59 PM
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What I'm trying to convey is that in spite of the self improvement I've achieved (in many aspects of my life), I felt the exact same social dynamics yesterday when with my high school friends. And this one guy who would always get the girls, once again, was naturally attracting the cutest girl - whereas my only improvement (in this specific situation) was talking more.
/r/seduction07/06/14 04:33 PM
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I slept with this one check a few times last summer, and it turned out she was Bi. I then slept with another chick, and she was super curious. Both were down. It didn't end up working because the latter chick had some issues with an ex, but I understood that that's how threesomes are best constructed. The way it's portrayed in movies or porn happens too I'm sure (i.e. guy hanging out with two chicks, and escalating with the help of alcohol or relentless virility) but it's definitely not as commo…
/r/seduction07/06/14 12:32 AM
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Fellow hung here. I actually thought of this recently. I wouldn't mention it. Don't hesitate to wear tight or jogging pants/shorts, and the women that are looking for that specifically will pick up on it easily. Worry not.
/r/seduction28/05/14 07:27 PM
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Sounds very familiar,and on top of it, I don't fap. I'm way happier now (and I haven't gotten laid in 8 months) then I was the year before (I got with 12 women) because I've been working on myself in various ways (gym, yoga, cool hobbies etc.). Life is not a Vagina after all. Self Improvement is about planting the best seeds, and perseverance will allow the germination to be sweet - which includes not settling for any hole that comes your way for the mere sake of primal gratification.
/r/seduction17/05/14 07:19 AM
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So many times I would think "B...But we connected emotionally, share many of the same hobbies and had a cool time together. Why did she end up sleeping with that brainless dude instead?". Now it's clear as day that it's all about exuding a certain vibe of confident yet relaxed dominance, and the content of the conversation is almost irrelevant to the sexual outcome. This reminds me of a scene in parks and recreation, in which two men go to have dinner with one woman. One of the men is good looki…
/r/TheRedPill20/02/14 09:09 PM
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Ash Conformity experiment http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asch_conformity_experiments
/r/seduction08/02/14 08:28 AM
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Definitely read Models. He even talks about the importance of being well read, and encouraged me to make 2014 a one book/week year =)
/r/seduction01/02/14 11:07 AM
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Way more than 10k. Abundance!
/r/seduction25/01/14 08:33 AM
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What if it happened that she actually has plans (that can't be changed) on that day too. If she wants to see me that she will suggest something else?
/r/seduction21/01/14 10:51 AM
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