Saying that the women (who aren't dead) are the primary victims of war when men who are killed in far greater numbers are somehow lesser victims isn't sexist? Me, I think I would prefer to be not dead.
And in places where abortion is not legal? What then? You consider leaving the child in the foster system to be a good option? The foster care system in America is fucking atrocious. ... last I checked abortion is still legal in the US.
LPS isn't particularly fair in places where abortion is legal, that's true. Outlawing abortion and not having LPS at the same time is reasonable: both father and mother are screwed. Allowing abortion but not having LPS isn't reasonable. It is unfair. If the father leaves after the child is born and he already agreed to support the child, then child support may be justified, based on the custody arrangements.
Unfeasible. If the father can just opt out, then the child has to rely on its mother's ability to both raise the child 24/7 and somehow earn money. Then SHE can fucking opt out before the child is born with the knowledge that the father isn't going to be there to support the child. Which the person you're replying to has already said. Or were you not paying attention?
It's defensible. Child support is not a mechanism by which the state punishes a mother or father If you believe child support isn't used to punish people, you're wrong. Also look what happens when men refuse to pay it: they get thrown in jail. Women that refuse to pay don't get thrown in jail nearly as often.
Title 9 is federal law, dumbass. Schools face the threat of losing federal funding if they don't handle sexual assault the way the federal government wants them to. It isn't a "private institution" if it gets federal funds. It is at best partially private, partially public.
Title 9 is federal law, dumbass. Schools face the threat of losing federal funding if they don't handle sexual assault the way the federal government wants them to. It isn't a "private institution" if it gets federal funds. It is at best partially private, partially public.
And by the way, you really don’t have a grasp of what scientific objectivity means as the definition you’ve cited makes absolutely crystal clear. I don't know what's going on in your brain. I don't know what specific, narrowly-defined area we're talking about here when you talk about your definition of "objective". Objective has lots of possible meanings. But even so, saying that 2 things are objectively different when they are different physical actions, committed with different goals in mind, …
You implied I said or thought things I've never even considered saying, and then laugh when I get pissed off that you put words in my mouth? You are an asshole, and a troll, and I'm going to stop feeding you.
This stuff can be intimidating to girls Then they need to get over their intimidation on their own. Do you think I wasn't intimidated by the idea of learning all this stuff? Do you think I enjoyed being socially ostracized and called a "nerd" for daring to be interested in computers? Because that wasn't uncommon at all when I was learning this stuff. I got over all that crap. Women can, too.
You're joking, right?! A Gender Studies Degree is as worthless as the paper it's printed on It is worth less than that. That paper could have been used for something useful, like a science textbook. Now it can't be unless you recycle it first.
Plenty, to protest it and commit violence against any men that showed up. Oh, you meant to actually participate in the event, not protest against it? Then ... probably zero.
She needs to see that men are ready, willing, and able to support women. I'm able, but not willing or ready. Women can support themselves. They can get jobs now and everything!
I wonder if a strongly-worded letter to the editor would help? ... I'm continually amazed at how oblivious most people are to how unashamedly biased articles on sexual assault by women are.
It isn't just grouped with father's day, but yes, feminists would like to ban both. And they fight against institutions actually recognizing international men's day. They made a big deal about IMD at a university last year.
I've encouraged sexism to avoid getting your ass fired. Do you like having a place to live and food to eat? I like those things too. It isn't about sexism, it is about protecting yourself.
Yes. I like meritocracy. Still, I wish people would take me seriously when I say "you people of the other gender owe me free shit just because I'm $GENDER!" like they do when women do it. Who doesn't like free stuff? Of course, then reality intrudes, and I remember why why can't give everybody everything they want: non-infinite resources, or at least the ones we can get to easily aren't infinite. The question of if we have infinite resources available in all the universe is better left to physic…
Yes. The rule at work is: Never, ever, ever talk to a woman co-worker about anything other than work. At all! EVER! Things to avoid in particular: Anything about her appearance, her clothing, or her body. This includes comments about her clothing, hair, shoes, eyes, etc. Saying "you look nice" isn't allowed. EVEN IF YOU WOULD SAY THAT EXACT SAME THING TO A MALE CO-WORKER, don't say it to a co-worker that is a woman. Also, never be alone in a room with a woman co-worker, especially if the door is…
Saying "You do good work" is probably sexual harassment now. There's a reason that managers having meetings with women leave the door open and try to have other people there (meaning they never have one-on-one meetings with women employees). The power women wield in the workplace is truly terrifying, and I'm explicitly NOT talking about their ability to be taken seriously when claiming harassment. What I am talking about is their ability to then use these claims of harassment and then, with no c…
If you can't make a statement that is undeniably true where you work Yet most men work in places like this, and can get fired on a woman's say-so. No evidence needed!
Right. Just like any other single dad if the mum decided to ditch him and leave him with nothing, or if she was abusive to him and he needed out, or the mother died. Same deal. I guess what I'm getting at is, she says she did this to get a baby, but her attitude screams that she did it for free money and free housing. She's treating the father like shit, which isn't nice either, and she doesn't deserve free shit for trying to game the system.
Hey, it was super nice of you to completely ignore all the evidence where I showed that men aren't the favored gender. I guess dying in battle to protect women is just men's privilege, right?
Men, as a group, are not in charge. Neither are women. I have less say in public policy than any random woman I pass in the street. POWERFUL men, RICH men are in charge, but so are rich women. And the women that sleep with those rich and powerful men are every bit as in charge as they are. And if you think politicians are going to favor men over women, you have not been paying attention to any political discourse for at least the past 15 years (and probably more like the past 60 years). That's t…
She thinks [men] aren't a factor at all that they're merely a instrument to get her what she wants Seems like that's how men are usually treated these days.
"My baby doesn’t need a father, I don’t want anything from him and I am so excited about being a single mum. I am going to speak to the local council about getting a house and some benefits. I deserve them like any other single mum.” Oh yeah, you really deserve a free house because you managed to get some guy you didn't want to fuck get you pregnant. Good job, you totally deserve free money for just existing. Also, what a shitty thing to do to that guy and to their kid! I'd say she's gonna go af…
Agreed, it was to illustrate the absurdity of requiring the ex-husband to pay to keep her in the lifestyle she has become accustomed to, when he doesn't get anything out of it other than the privilege of giving away his hard-earned money.
You know, I've heard rumors about her beating up Bill, but I've never seen anyone present concrete evidence for it. There's plenty of real reasons to dislike Hillary - we don't need to invent ones.
*Update: We've disabled comments on this post because they were getting out of control. We have also changed the name of the woman in the story because people were taking it waaaay too seriously. You mean men were getting pissed about being used by women that were only looking for a free meal when he was out looking for a potential life partner? You don't say!!! As for the leech from the article I was talking about: McGonagall seems to have retired for good—she currently has a boyfriend. Well, I…
male is the favored gender OK, prove it. How are men the favored gender? Point out all the laws that favor men over women. Hey, that reminds me, did you know that selective service is male-only, and that not signing up for it can have some pretty bad side effects, by law? Also, did you know that roughly 99% (probably more) of all combat deaths ever, in the whole world, are men? Did you know that Hillary Clinton once said that women are the primary victims of war? Yes, she actually did, and do yo…
Huh. I've never seen Hillary get bashed for her body. Who gives a shit about her body, anyway? But I'm not going to vote for someone that pulled the shit she did with that email server, or for someone that basically says "You know why you should vote for me? Because I have a vagina." and I'm definitely not going to vote for someone that's so deluded that she believes women are the primary victims of war.
Also, isn't it great how nydailynews has pictures of the boys that are actually the victims here, but no pictures of the perpetrator? And nothing about how it was statutory rape? Also, this, from the article: The woman was initially combative, refusing an EMS exam and hospital transport, the source said, adding she also tried to leave the ambulance and bit a police officer.
men foot the bill All working as intended: Traister agrees. "Huge numbers of women are saying...We are a changed nation and we require a different relationship with our government." Which I'm interpreting as women saying "Marry me, government!"
More importantly, it was written by a senior stock market & economy writer for CNN Money. For someone that has a job that's all about knowing how money and the economy works and professionally writing about it, she sure is shit at writing, facts, and logic.
http://she-conomy.com/report/marketing-to-women-quick-facts So which part is hateful, the part where women control more household spending, or the part where women as a group earn less than men as a group? Or the part where I say that they're spending money that isn't theirs (which logically has to be true if they're doing most of the spending but earning less money)? Or is it the part where men love their wives and want them to be happy? Or maybe the part where women buy more expensive versions…
Plus, while women earn less (which is distinct from being paid less), they also spend a lot, lot more than men do. Meaning, they're spending money that's not theirs, to buy more expensive "for women" versions of the same products, and the men providing the money for it let them do it because they want their wives to be happy. Funny how that works, isn't it?
When women are judged by their earning power like men are, things will change. Not before. So, basically, it won't change until either humans believe that all humans are intrinsically worthless without some sort of accomplishments they've done on their own, or until humans believe that all humans are intrinsically as valuable as all other humans. Women are treated as intrinsically valuable because they're the bottleneck in reproduction, but even if that were fixed tomorrow, our instincts are sti…
Of course he would. But a single father is a man, so who gives a shit about him, right? It's one of those stupid double standards that usually come back to male disposability. Also, are single fathers more likely to have jobs other than "Starbucks barrista" and "McDonalds fry cook" ?
The Republican presidential candidates. Hard to understand why their policies aren't more female-friendly. Oh, I guess they conveniently forgot about how Carly Fiorina tried to run, didn't they? Not that I blame them, I'd like to forget that she ruined HP, too.
Also, this was in the article: A major reason is childcare. It's a huge expense for a single working woman to bare. You're a professional fucking writer, for god's sake. The word you're looking for is "bear". Dumbass.
You don't get the startup funding that men do ...and ? A lot fewer women are trying to found startups than men. Plus, there's this: http://www.nuwireinvestor.com/articles/women-owned-businesses-and-federal-benefits-58621.aspx Women-owned businesses have some pretty ridiculous advantages: This program now authorizes contracting officers to set aside certain government contract opportunities for competition exclusively between qualifying women-owned entities. These set-asides are for contracts in …
You might pay more for disability insurance Insurers argue that they are right to charge women more because historically women have filed more disability claims. Oh, you mean like how young men get charged ridiculously more money for car insurance? Oh, it's so unfair! Obviously men should get charged more for insurance all the time!
Childcare is expensive Almost a quarter of America's children now live in a single-mother family. Single mothers are extremely likely to be low-income or living in poverty. Yeah, and? What excuses do you have? Women have all the options for birth control, they can get an abortion when birth control fails, they can put their kids up for adoption, they can go after the father for child support. If they have a shitty job and want to be a mother, maybe they should work on getting a better job before…
College debt takes a bigger bite out of your paycheck While many applaud that women are earning more college degrees than men, the fact that female college grads typically make less money than their male counterparts is a problem when it comes to paying off student loans. Women devote a much higher percentage of their income to their monthly student loan payments And why do you think that is? Could it be that ... You are more likely to earn the minimum wage Two-thirds of minimum wage workers in …
Singles pay more for car insurance Not being married is a major strike when it comes to getting car insurance, especially in your 20s. Both unmarried men and unmarried women pay higher premiums than their friends who have tied the knot, according to InsuranceQuotes.com. Yes, and you conveniently forgot to mention that unmarried young men pay significantly higher car insurance premiums than women.
Women face a double whammy financially: they get paid less but they often have to pay more for basic items like shampoo, razors and jeans. The phenomenon has been dubbed the "pink tax." A recent study by the New York City Department of Consumer Affairs found that haircare products for women cost on average 48% more than the same items marketed to men. THEN BUY THE STUFF MEN USE !! THIS ISN'T OPPRESSION!
Before and after being the same is not equal to making it worse. /rant It is if you're a feminist and you're talking about women! I wish I could put a /s on that, but sadly, it seems to be true. Logic isn't their strong point.
This was a crapload of bull when gay people said it, and it's still crap when men say it. Oh yeah? Paid attention to, well, basically any television advertising lately? Or sitcoms?
Might as well give it a shot. You probably have a better chance of them not deleting it there than you would at /r/feminism. Eh, who am I kidding? They'll delete it there, too, probably.
Ah, so the solution is to require people to carry around a piece of paper that they have to present before being allowed to use the restroom or locker rooms. That isn't ridiculous at all, forcing an extra requirement on trans people just because they are trans. Then what do you do about masculine-looking women or feminine a looking men that aren't trans? If they get challenged in the bathroom do you expect them to just show the challenger their genitals? I don't understand how you think this wou…
Thats a nice, objective standard that can easily be enforced. Yes, because asking people to show you their genitals before allowing them into the bathroom is definitely not going to get you in a shitload of trouble.
What about a male that wishes to transition but cannot afford it? Does he deserve to be told he can't change in the changing room that's more comfortable for him, just because he has no money or health insurance? Also, why is it bad for a man to be in there while girls are changing when it is okay for women to be there when boys are changing? If you think I'm kidding, see how our prison and juvenile detention centers in the US handle this when there are male children and female guards.
calling feminism the enemy So ... calling that are actively making things less equal, and making things worse for men, the enemy is bad? When we actually are fighting for equality? Huh.
So perhaps the takeaway from this AD and resulting discussion is that people should act like the adults they are and negotiate as a couple to agree a work share at home that is both sane fair and sensible? That's always been my position. The other part of that, of course, is that whatever balance of work has been negotiated by the couple is absolutely not the business of the in-laws and other nosy busybodies.
Sure, but there's also a big difference between working 60 hours a week and working 30 hours a week. In situations like that, obviously the person working 30 hours a week needs to do more of the work at home. Splitting the chores at home is fine, but it needs to be a "fair" split, and splitting them right down the middle when the people involved are working a different number of hours and contributing much different amounts of money to the household isn't fair.
you're begging for the pussy in the most pitiful manner I don't see how you can possibly think that way based on what has been said in this comment thread. Calling out women that sexually assault men is somehow begging for pussy? You fail at logic. In conclusion, go away, troll.
Powerful Ad Urging Husbands To Help With Chores Goes Viral No, fuck off. Asking the guy working 50-60 hours a week to do all the nasty hard chores while his wife stays home, does some laundry now and then, runs the vacuum, and picks up around the house, then watches TV the rest of the day while the kids play in the yard or take naps isn't what I'd call "fair".
No, but I can tell you what a lot of mothers would say about that time with their children: "That time is worth more than any price you'd care to name."
Makes me wonder why she thinks men should pay the bills and then come home and eat her out. Why wouldn't he be going "What am I supposed to be, your father?" when she expects him and him alone to pay the bills? Oh, I forgot, it's okay to have only one spouse paying the bills as long as it is a man. And then they resent him anyway, for not doing his "fair share" of the housework because he's working 60 hour weeks to pay for her new lexus!
AH yeah.. I guess I wasn't paying attention. That way doesn't work so well, either. Women already (generally) have lower sex drives than men, so what's the solution? Give her multiple husbands? That doesn't seem like it works, either. I mean, in theory, I'm not necessarily against people having multiple simultaneous relationships if they want, but I don't see how we could have a stable society with either large numbers of angry single men or large numbers of angry single women. Or both. This isn…
wouldnt then bigamny by reducing the pool of males to females increase the value of men, there y resulting in even better outcomes for men? No. You just end up with a system where the rich and powerful men have harems of "wives" and a bunch of angry single men.
It really isn't. Comparing going out with friends and expecting them to pay for their own stuff to ... going out on a date and expecting your date to pay for her own stuff is a false comparison? Nope. Pretty similar. Expecting someone to pay for their own food at a restaurant is not in any way equivalent to asking someone over for dinner and then expecting them to cook for you.
Theres so many options but youre so focused on I have to pay the first date. Right, I'm focused on that part because "whoever asks has to pay" combined with "men have to do the asking for the first date" means that men end up paying for a lot of first dates that don't go anywhere. Women aren't entitled to free meals. They can (and do!) work for a living, just like everybody else. They should have to pay their own way, just like I do. And like I've already said, if someone asks you out on a date …
No, but I wouldn't say "let's go to the movies" to my friends and pay for their movie tickets, popcorn, drink, and parking garage fees, either. If you're going on a date with someone, BOTH PEOPLE have to agree to go on it. Being prepared to pay for both yourself and the other person is a good idea in case they decide to run out on you, but really, this is simple: Pay for you own meal. Pay for your own ticket to <event>. Pay for your own parking. If someone asks you on a date to a place you can't…
I'm with you, dude. Imagine having a friend that never hangs out with you unless you buy dinner for them. Now, are they really a friend, or just some jerk that's hanging out with you because they like getting free food? Why would you treat dating any differently?
Isn't it funny how demanding fairness makes people think you're sexist? In fact, there was a study about it a while back: When men treat women like they treat other men, without benevolent sexism, they are seen overwhelmingly as sexist by both women and by other men. - https://uwspace.uwaterloo.ca/bitstream/handle/10012/6958/Yeung_Amy.pdf?sequence=1
As I outline here: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/48182r/thats_rich_women_decline_to_date_men_who_earn/d0gtvm7 That's a de-facto "men always pay for the first date" rule. Which is completely unfair to men, because of the number of times that things go nowhere after the first date (meaning the woman has no opportunity to pay for the second).
We all know women like guys with resources. That will never change. It is going to have to if they want women as a group to earn just as much (or more) than men do as a group. Women can insist that they want to be paid just as much as men do while refusing to date men that don't make more to them if they want, I'm just saying that it'll result in a lot of lonely cat ladies and a lot of lonely undateable men, unless the women lower their standards or turn lesbian/bi. What I don't get is why women…
Imo, if you initiate the date, you gotta pay. Nah, that's bullshit. Men nearly always have to do the initiating, so a "if you initiate the date, you gotta pay" rule is basically the same as a "if you're the man, you gotta pay" rule. There are exceptions, of course. Some women take the initiative to ask for the first date, but it is exceedingly rare.
Well, sure, but you most likely wouldn't go to jail for trying to stop a woman from beating a guy up. Not that getting your ass kicked is fun, either ...
[W]hen I'm sometimes asked when will there be enough [women on the Supreme Court]? And I say 'When there are nine.' People are shocked. But there'd been nine men, and nobody's ever raised a question about that. Nobody's ever raised a question about not having enough women on the Supreme Court? Nobody's ever said that there are too many men on the Supreme Court? Bitch, let me repeat something I already quoted above! [W]hen I'm sometimes asked when will there be enough [women on the Supreme Court]…
You can’t be what you can’t see Fuck you, yes I can. You think people people can never step up and do what they want to with their lives without having role models? Also, what about blind people? Ableist as fuck.
Right. Trying to physically restrain a female attacker is a good way to end up in jail yourself. Also, a whole bunch of white knights would most likely try to stop you anyway. Another woman could probably physically intervene without getting the book thrown at her, but still...
A feminist group managed to overturn the law such that men were removed and only child victims of rape by women were included. The excuse they gave? men are physically stronger than women so no forced sex against a man by a woman can be considered rape. Because an unconscious or incapacitated man can fight back, right? Oh, and men's unfathomable strength allows them to break all bonds, including handcuffs, ropes, and any other devices used to restrict movement!
I called it a while back: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/46sp7n/video_of_california_girl_beating_up_boy_goes/d081o0s ... Alright. Fine, I'll quote myself, if you don't want to follow the link: Alright. There are 4 possible combinations here: girl beats up girl: people laugh and yell "catfight!" until it becomes clear that the attacker is deadly serious and the victim isn't fighting back. Still not treated as seriously as if a boy had beaten up a girl. Attacker gets yelled at by the…
“He rubbed me wrong,” the relative said, noting that Chamblin’s height made him extra self-conscience. “I think he has a Napoleon [Complex]. He’s a short little guy. She’s no bigger than she is,” he said of the 5-foot, 2-inch Buckingham. Oh, fuck you, asshole.
Well, there is, but it is illegal and highly dangerous surgery. So generally, yes. If you're short, you're stuck that way. Which is why people giving a shit about your height is such bullshit.
she did it for the benefit of her child so that her son wouldn't have to spend so much of his time in a car. Yes, of course that justifies attempted murder! /s Dumbass.
One needs sufficient evidence to prove beyond a reasonable doubt it happened. Actually, in civil cases, the most common standard required is preponderance of the evidence.
Basically, activists want to recharacterize prostitution as trafficking, so that not only will the woman not be held responsible for breaking the law, but you can put a man in jail for a much harsher crime than pimping. Well that's nice of them. I still think the best way to deal with the whole thing is make prostitution legal, tax it, and regulate the hell out of it. Use those taxes to fund the regulation and to stop people from coercing others into joining the sex trades and to prevent sex tra…
I'm just waiting for lesbian divorce cases (with or without children being involved) to start becoming commonplace. I keep hoping that maybe then we'll start seeing some equality, but the pessimist in me thinks "well, they'll start treating lesbian divorce fairly while still allowing men to be screwed."
Holy crap. I missed that part. Wow. I guess the cops already thought he was guilty and were going to let him just sit there in jail, huh? Powdrill's attorney provided a statement to the grand jury saying, "the attack was the other way around as multiple independent witnesses- who, inexplicably, were not contacted by the police and video recording prove." Dallas police did not respond to attempts for an interview. LOL I wonder why?
She attacked him, she hasn't even been charged, and he was held in jail for a month because the lazy bastards didn't watch a surveillance video? "When I first saw the video it was a WOW, moment,” said long-time private investigator Fred Daugherty, who found the video two weeks later. "Found" ?? Seriously? WTF!
If it was guy on guy, would you expect any different? Alright. There are 4 possible combinations here: girl beats up girl: people laugh and yell "catfight!" until it becomes clear that the attacker is deadly serious and the victim isn't fighting back. Still not treated as seriously as if a boy had beaten up a girl. Attacker gets yelled at by the principal, a strongly-worded letter to her parents, and after-school detention for a couple of days. girl beats up guy: Everyone laughs and makes fun of…
Harassment that doesn't involve physical violence does not deserve this kind of response. Block him, call his parents, tell the school, report it to the police? Sure, all of those are perfectly fine steps to take. Beating the shit out of someone for saying "ha ha, you're bad a school!" is not acceptable, and it certainly doesn't qualify as self-defense!
Smith said "the lesson to come out of this is to think twice, and if it's not nice, don't post it." THAT'S NOT THE FUCKING LESSON! The lesson is "don't commit violence against people unless it is in self-defense!"
"It's a well-known pattern. There's still a significant reallocation of labor that occurs at marriage -- men tend to work more outside the home, while women take on more of the household labor," said Frank Stafford, of the university's Institute for Social Research (ISR), who directed the study. "And the situation gets worse for women when they have children," he added in a statement. Nobody's forcing women to get married. Nobody's forcing women to have children. Nobody's forcing women to work f…
You do know how false allegations work, right? And how they unfairly destroy the reputations of innocent people? Now, we don't know if he's innocent. We don't know if he's guilty. Even so, something here stinks. Even so, I'm not ready to declare that either side is in the right here. I'm waiting for real, actual evidence. Your "I heard about his bad reputation" stuff doesn't count as evidence.
Sure, but even now active-duty military women get pregnant to avoid deployment. I'm guessing what would happen is - those who didn't manage to get out of being drafted and that don't want to serve will do their best to get pregnant so they can leave before they get sent into a warzone.
It’s fascinating to observe changes in behaviour in the face of very good-looking men. If they’re senior to such a man, there’s a kind of (sexy) motherly attitude that comes out; if the man is senior to them, there’s lots of trilling laughter, arm touching etc. ...and if a man did the arm touching thing, HR would be firing him for sexual harassment. and if a man complained about a woman doing that to him to HR, he'd be laughed out.
It is just one of those laws that makes it so that everyone is guilty - since practically everything can be construed as "controlling" in the right context. Buy your girlfriend clothes for her birthday? OMG you're trying to control what she wears! Buy takeout on the way home without asking her what she wants? OMG, trying to control what she eats! Ask her to take out the trash? OMG, controlling her behavior! While I'll admit those are a little ridiculous, think about it - if the law requires sust…
There are plenty of non-combat roles that would need filling if we actually had a draft. ...and there are branches other than the army. The air force, for instance. No reason women can't fly planes.
At the time I wrote this comment, the comment /u/Meatsim1 added explaining the context is at +5, so I'm not sure how that counts as "hiding anything that doesn't fit our agenda". I've noticed that your flair on AskFeminists is "feminist". Did you know that feminist subs are notorious for censoring opposing views, mods deleting comments containing opposing views, and for banning people for daring to disagree with feminism (especially when the disagreement has peer-reviewed studies to back it up)?…
"Really bizarre," MaryAnne Sato said. "I can't imagine why they would want to do that anyway!" Tell that to all the women that insist on using the men's restrooms!
People cost a lot of money to train. If you throw their lives away, you just have to waste that much time and money training up someone new to replace them. A business would factor that into their costs, and so does the military.
Kathi exists to expose and exploit misogyny and mansplaining across the vast recesses of the interwebs and beyond. Her blog, Birth Anarchy, attempts to connect reproductive injustices across the full spectrum – from contraception to abortion to birth. She's been called a Cuntsplainer, a badge she wears with immeasurable pride. Well, she certainly is a cunt. Nice of her to cover a "full spectrum" of reproductive rights.... except for the male half of the population. What an evil bitch.
Well maybe they should let men retire early, so they get to enjoy their retirement for as long as women do. Or maybe we could spend some more on men's health care... or is prostate cancer not as sexy as breast cancer?
Yes. Other things included in "everything": ice cream, cats, cars, pizza, diseases, other planetary systems .... Apparently those are all sexist, racist, and homophobic, too. I wonder how a whole solar system can be sexist?
Nobody is saying that it is a good contract, but it is one. One where the state gives you certain benefits like tax breaks, etc in exchange for the right to insert themselves in the middle of your relationship, and, more importantly, into the middle of the breakup. The terms of the contract are enforced by the state (and if they aren't enforced, they can't really be considered part of the contract). So yeah, it sucks. It also sucks that the state can change the terms of the contract any time the…
Nah, it was Harald Hoerwick. He created The World (or at least the precursor to it): http://dothack.wikia.com/wiki/Harald_Hoerwick edit: fixed a typo (thanks, /u/agent_of_entropy).
Which is more dangerous, someone throwing a sharp, relatively heavy object at you, or someone that punches you? Women's violence is sometimes different, yes, but it is no less harmful. And research has shown that getting women to stop abusing their men is more effective at reducing violence against women than telling men not to hit women. Men know they shouldn't hit people, and tend to only respond to defend themselves after they've been attacked or if they've been provoked over and over again u…
/ r / feminism is a joke You'd think so, but it isn't actually funny. It is more of a mix of "oh god how did I ever have faith in humanity" and "these people might actually have a point if they could for ONE SECOND see things through a man's eyes instead of looking a everything through patriarchy-colored lenses." Neither of those are particularly funny to me.
As a man, I suspect that if you claim to the mods that they're discriminating against you in that sub, they might actually listen to you. Me, they just sent me their usual HOW DARE YOU ASK WHY WE BANNED YOU?!?!? NOW WE'LL MAKE IT SO YOU CAN'T SEND TO OUR MODMAIL FOR SEVERAL DAYS INSTEAD OF ANSWERING YOUR PERFECTLY REASONABLE QUESTION! copy/paste crud they send to people that they banned for daring to use their brains for 3 seconds.
Whether or not she looks evil is irrelevant. Whether or not she is evil should be the question. Too bad our judges, juries, and law enforcement don't do things by that standard.
Their ad networks aren't. Everybody uses third party web advertising nowadays and you can't control what goes on on their servers. See the recent Forbes incident.
Making a joke at your friend's expense is hatred when you're male and your friend is female. Didn't you know that? They teach it in all the gender studies brainwashing classes in college now!
"The lesbian community needs to deal with its misandry problem." Somehow I doubt that one would get published, even though I've seen way more evidence for it than for woman-hating gay men.
In tech circles, every time her name is mentioned, there is a seething, blistering need to eviscerate her to everyone within earshot. To be fair, she earned every bit of it.
I don't think I'm a unicorn. Maybe not, but they did make a whole game about rescuing you. Even though there are days I still like to pretend that Chrono Cross never existed. Especially after what they did to poor Robo.
You aren't familiar with the "if you fuck my daughter, I'm gonna beat the shit out of you" meme? It shows up all the time in movies, books, sitcoms ...
I think the reason they think that women are more oppressed than men is because they only care about women. It isn't just that. It is also due to hypergamy and the apex fallacy. The men at the top are the only ones they can "see", and those men are clearly more privileged than your average woman. Even though the majority of the homeless are men, nobody cares about them, because men are valued by what they can do and the resources they command. Men are not inherently valuable, but women are (sinc…
Not exactly. Those gold diggers will just move on to the next victim, and there are more than enough thirsty dudes out there to take them up on it. There are big differences in average sex drive between the sexes and men are not the ones with the advantage here. All that not giving gifts on that day would accomplish is making the guy have to start the dating and wooing process on someone new. Which is a pain in the ass.
Any man that has rejected a woman that is clearly into them before knows this. The absolute shock, disbelief, and hatred on their faces, the way they will often refuse to admit they were ever interested in you in the first place (which is better than the alternative, where she turns into a stalker)... Women generally don't have to deal with being rejected. More of them really need that experience too, because the ones that can't even imagine being rejected are often the most cruel when they are …
I would say, let's fix sexism in general, not just one group's experience of it. Agreed. If only feminists could admit that men face sexism! No, saying the sexism men face is due to the patriarchy, and therefore men don't deserve help because they brought it on themselves does not count as "accepting that men also face sexism".
They can probably help you with it, yes, though it isn't strictly necessary. Also, don't tell her about the lawyer or the restraining order until after you have both...
As soon as possible. Also, start recording interactions with her on your phone, but beware two party consent states (check to see which yours is). You might want to apply for a temporary protective order as well, because she might apply for one and kick you out of your house. You need to ask for one before she does. The usual disclaimer applies, I'm not a lawyer, this isn't legal advice, etc.
Stop pretending you know what she thinks. Sound advice, friend. Perhaps you should have considered that when you wrote your message where you pretend to know what she thinks?
That's not a bad thought. I've always wondered why people think she's funny. At best she has made me cringe, at worst I've been sitting there thinking "what was that? Was it supposed to be funny or was it supposed to make me mad? Because I think I'm more mad than anything."
So here's what I want to ask you. Is there any truth at all to the incessant feminist whine today that men in tech companies today don't want to hire and work with women and only accept them grudgingly in order to avoid lawsuits? Absolutely not. In fact, most tech places nowadays prefer hiring women over men so that they can meet diversity quotas. I've seen women that were hired straight out of college, had no leadership skills and couldn't code their way out of a wet paper bag get promoted to m…
These women are just forever aloners who get too much sympathy from aging spinsters in the media. Funny how women get sympathy with the "forever alone" thing while men get mercilessly mocked, isn't it?
You want to find someone to date? Lower your standards or stop complaining about it. Their insistence on having their potential partner be at least or more educated than they are, and that he makes at least as much money as she does, just makes their intentions clear: they want a provider so that they can let him be the breadwinner once she decides this whole "work" thing isn't all it is cracked up to be. If you want to be so picky in the dating game that there are almost no available men that m…
In some schools, teachers said the large number of female educators, especially in lower grades, had a positive influence on students. “We have a more intuitive sense of children’s needs,” said Li Yue. Oh, god. Not this shit again.
I do not want to change my views. Really? Why not? Are you that convinced that you couldn't possibly be wrong about something? You've come here to try to change our perceptions of feminists without being willing to change your own perceptions about us and about feminists? How does that make any sense?
As for giving up financial responsibility, neither parent can do that. That's not really true. There's at least one state where only the mother can drop off the kid in the first few weeks of its life, no questions asked.
According to the lawsuit, the teen was 14 years old and living in Colorado at the time of the incident. Can you imagine what sort of shitstorm would have happened if the TV station had done this to an underage girl instead?
WE WERE NOT DESIGNED TO DO THE THINGS MEN CAN DO!!! We were made to love, nurture, and care for others, not to kill and destroy!!! Welp. That's certainly a healthy view to have of both women and men, isn't it?
Okay so here is what I have to say about the wage gap: Women are taught by society to be less assertive, so they do not ask for raises or a higher starting salary as much as men. They are taught to be submissive and not to negotiate for higher pay. Do you know what we say to men that are too submissive to not negotiate for higher pay? We say "Either get over your fear and negotiate, or stop complaining about it." Tell me, why should we treat women that are too afraid to negotiate on their own be…
Yes, rape is illegal. Rape still happens. Yet in the UK, legally only a man can be a rapist. Women cannot commit rape, because of their legal definition of rape. When we say that "women have more rights than women" that's one of the things we're talking about. Women can and do rape men in the UK. (Just like women can and do rape women in the UK, and men women, and men men). The difference is that when a woman does it, it isn't legally rape. That's all kinds of fucked up, don't you think? That is…
Women are called "crazy" for showing their emotions, men dont have that same stigma. Ah, yes. I must have completely imagined that "lol male tears" thing feminists have been going on and on about. Or the fact that a lot of women get "uncomfortable" when their male partners talk to them about their problems, emotional issues, or lack of self confidence. Seriously, the only emotion men are really allowed to show is anger, and people don't like it when they feel that way, either.
If anything, i think its wrong to have that benefit over men, if we are talking about having equality here. Agreed. I can think of any number of times I've had to cover for people with kids or that flake out or insisted on having weird flexible schedules. Like I'm the one that has to have no fucking life just because they decide to go to a concert on a whim some Saturday night. You think I don't want to have a fucking life too? But no, it doesn't matter whether or not I want to have a life. I do…
Yup. When she says to herself "Oh, he just stays at home and play video games, if we open up our relationship I'll get to fuck whoever and he'll just have to stay and home and be faithful to me", she makes it very clear exactly what she thinks of both herself and her boyfriend: She thinks every guy wants her and she deserves to be able to get some of that attention, while thinking that her boyfriend is a loser that could never get a woman (other than her?). It makes you wonder why she was with h…
However, female rapists are not "guaranteed to receive extremely lenient sentences". Doesn't change the fact that they often do receive extremely lenient sentences. When they get sentences at all.
You can take on many labels, they are not mutually exclusive. Some labels literally are mutually exclusive. If you try to adopt both anyway, that's still a contradiction. George Orwell called it "doublethink" in his book 1984.
Women haven't gained political power as often as men That's only true if you think the lovers and wives of politicians have no influence over their political lives.
Really? I thought getting shot at by enemy soldiers and trying to avoid losing limbs to IEDs was one of the most difficult jobs on the planet. I guess being a mother is harder, right? Of course, Hillary's response would probably be that being a mother that got to leave the war zone umolested is far, far worse than getting drafted into the military and getting body parts blown off. After all, women are the primary victims of war, right?
It is really more nuanced than that. Sex is only bad when men enjoy it or initiate it. If a woman enjoys it or initiates it, then obviously that sex is good. At least, that's how most people seem to see it.
Sure. We just need to undo decades of societal programming telling people that all men are rapists, pedophiles, and murderers. I wish we had some better ideas on how to fight against that narrative. Challenging people's preconceptions in arguments online with statistics and studies is one thing, but we really need to get some politicians and rich businessmen to join the fight. Sadly, those types are often too busy getting rich on people's suffering to want to help ...
Ah, of course. so let's do away with the Americans with Disabilities Act, because "pandering" to people without 2 functioning legs or without 2 functioning arms (often through no fault of their own) would be such a terrible crime. Making reasonable accommodations for disabled people isn't "pandering". I will admit that it is a bit different when talking about a video game vs a wheelchair ramp at the grocery store, but still, you specifically said: Disabilities do not necessitate any form of pand…
If a n employee man is fired divorced then they he usually did something wrong to entail a firing divorce. There. Sounds just like a feminist, doesn't it?
Some cream puff feminists like to pretend in some Orwellian way that being a woman is more dangerous than being a man Yet who is more likely to be attacked by some random stranger when walking in a bad part of town at night? Hint: it isn't the woman. edit: Just makes me mad that their fears are taken seriously, yet when men, who have a greater chance of being assaulted, talk about being afraid, nobody wants to listen.
Sure, feminists may not feel as free as they would like to be (whatever that means) They don't have the power to kill all men with no consequences yet. Obviously not free enough. /s
Someone posted above that ~40% of GWST graduates can find work in that field. While pitiful, that's pretty close to half, and it would be a shame to just cast them aside. I'm not going to shed a tear for a bunch of hateful misandrists that can't get jobs.
Source? Assertions one way or another are clearly getting us nowhere. (to be clear, I have no relation to Philarete, but I'm interested in whether or not contracts signed while drinking/drunk are valid). I suspect that the real answer is more nuanced than "it is definitely valid no matter what" or "it is definitely not valid if you signed while drinking".
But as it is right now is basically saying "waaaah we deserve more pay because of hardship!" I read it as "men earn more pay because they work harder and longer, in higher paying (and more dangerous and stressful) jobs".
If you just say "the "wage gap" is at best misleading statistical manipulation and at worst outright lies" you just look like an uneducated sexist. Saying the truth makes people think I'm an uneducated sexist? Huh. I get what you're saying, but saying it is "at best misleading statistical manipulation and at worst outright lies", followed by a mile high stack of references proving exactly that, should be enough to convince the people that would say "you uneducated sexist!" ... Unless they decide…
When someone masculine walks into the room, he (or a butch lesbian, apparently) possesses a kind of invisible mind-control halo-emanation which causes everyone's knees to go wobbly and offer them more pay. Hypergamy and the apex fallacy are things, yes.
"Yes it's different choices, but that's the point!" Aha! So they admit they want to force women to make different choices so we'll have the feminist-desired outcome!
Relevant forbes article: http://www.forbes.com/sites/meghancasserly/2012/09/12/is-opting-out-the-new-american-dream-for-working-women/ and here's the relevant quote: But it’s true: according to our survey, 84% of working women told ForbesWoman and TheBump that staying home to raise children is a financial luxury they aspire to.
It is ridiculous, and men face this prejudice every day. Ever seen what happens to men that try to become teachers, especially for grade school and preschool? It is ridiculous. Also, someone's going to say it, so I might as well do it: this might be more appropriate for /r/mensrants.
The Mormon church banned polygamy in 1890 but some breakaway enclaves still practise it. They solve the problem of surplus males by expelling teenage boys from their isolated communities for minor infractions. In southern Utah your correspondent met Kevin (he would not give his surname), who was thrown out of such a sect at 17 for playing video games. He said it was odd how the elders almost never expelled girls. Yes, how incredibly odd. I wonder why they would do that?
Aah. Figures. SJWs did invade Sekpticism a while back. Remember the Rebecca Watson elevator incident, and the Dawkins post about it? Dear Muslima, Stop whining, will you. Yes, yes, I know you had your genitals mutilated with a razor blade, and...yawn...don't tell me yet again, I know you aren't allowed to drive a car, and you can't leave the house without a male relative, and your husband is allowed to beat you, and you'll be stoned to death if you commit adultery. But stop whining, will you. Th…
It makes me wish that marriage as a concept was ... a bit different. Since legal marriage (as opposed to religious marriage) is really just a contract between 2 people and the government, where the terms are mostly non-negotiable. Prenups can modify them a little bit, when the prenup isn't thrown out. Instead, I'd like to see a system where marriage as a concept is thrown out altogether, and if 2 people want to live together for a while (or forever), they have to negotiate a contract between the…
Whatever you do, don't admit to possibly being the father. More specifically, don't sign the birth certificate. Don't do any of that unless you have a paternity test and it comes back naming you the father. If you do have a paternity test and you are the father, then she can get child support. In fact, the state may come after you for child support even if she says she doesn't want it from you (this is much more likely if she's poor enough to not be able to pay her bills).
We should turn this into an action opportunity. If it gets 75k more signatures, they'll consider it for debate in parliment. Of course, it would be a good idea to get some MPs on your side first.
He shouldn't be having any interaction with her at all if she has a restraining order against him. Still, if the temporary restraining order expires without becoming permanent, any interactions after that, you should record, for sure. Check the laws in your jurisdiction. You may legally need the goblin's permission to record your interactions. Then again, maybe you don't. Then again, you have to figure out whether or not the cost you might have to pay for recording is higher than the cost you'd …
Some of the comments were pretty funny: The author of this piece is not a feminist. She's a lackwit who lives with her head up her ass. Don't conflate the two. At least this guy knows what's up: Sorry but every single time a feminist speaks a man is accused. The world has had enough of you lot. The article is on a feminist website, supported by feminists, written by feminists and promoted to feminists. It's been up for more than 2 hours and still hasn't been taken down. The site supports it. You…
I still think that all these TV shows and advertisements that are all "har har, boys are stupid, and fat, and ugly! They'd put their shirts on backwards if us smart, beautiful women weren't around to fix things for them!" can't be good for the self esteem of the boys that are being raised on this junk. Combined with the "boys are just damaged girls" attitude of our schools, I don't how males that have gone through our school system in the past ten years or so could possibly have a healthy amount…
Basically, if they could make a game that Anita Sarkeesian blessed and said was okay, well, that would be what "women" want to play. Except it really wouldn't, because it couldn't have any characters (objectification!) or combat system (violence! violence against women, if your character is female!), or a story (because she'd point out that, like all video game stories, it would have some vague similarity to some other video game story), and so on.
it seems as though the gender role of "male" is still incredibly rigid in many ways. It really is. Yet things are getting worse, not better. Even the people trying to change things for the better are making it worse. Our schools treat boys that want to act like boys as if they're problems, tell their parents "I think he might have ADHD" and get an overzealous doctor to give him drugs so he'll sit still in class. At least in the US, preschool and elementary school teachers and administrators are …
To us MRAs it seems that feminist actually make some issues up, while ignoring womens issues that are actually relevant. Other good examples: Explaining something while being male (mansplaining) or sitting while being male (manspreading).
Personally, I found the text written by the OP to be very confusing, disjointed, and leaving out most of the important bits I'd need to understand whatever he's talking about. I'm making no assumptions about any of it.
there will be no effect and can be no effect Well, other than any physical damage she may have done to the boy, like giving him herpes or some other STI/STD.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3407118/Student-22-stabbed-man-eye-Christian-Louboutin-stiletto.html Student, 22, who stabbed a man in the eye with her Christian Louboutin stiletto so hard that he had to pull it out avoids jail I've seen dozens of stories like this of women that have committed horrific crimes and yet they either get no punishment, or far, far less punishment than any man would get for committing the same crime. Seeing a woman that gets a punishment that is actually about…
For the same reason younger kids need a babysitter: the parents don't trust them to not do something stupid like stick a fork in the electrical socket or burn the house down.
this dress code is actually fairly sexist. The Topeka Capital-Journal reported that Holmes’ rules don’t include any restrictions on men because, according to Holmes, men don’t need instructions on how to look professional. Yes, that is pretty sexist. If you have to have a dress code, make it exactly the same for everybody. No exceptions based on gender at all, and the entire dress code should just be a list of what men have to wear. Then watch as the women complain about how awful it is to have …
I'd go further and make it so nobody can see the plaintiff, witness, or defendant, and use one of those voice manipulation things so that whenever they talk, everyone sounds like they're male.
As long as the laws favor them unfairly, they'll be okay with them. The instant that the laws as they are unfairly favor a man instead, they'll dislike them. Women that earn more than their spouse dislike the laws, because they'd be the ones paying alimony. Women that earn less than or equal to their spouse are in favor of them, because who would turn down free money? Of course, not all women (or people in general!) are this way. Still, it is difficult to turn down free money, even if it the rig…
The equality and difference argument is banal. Equality would be cruel to men if they were treated equal to women: men’s genitals would be sliced up, What rock has she been living under for the past several thousand years?
Feminists think men owe them "niceness" without even being nice at all. Lots of people think others owe them niceness without being nice in return. Most of the people that seem to think this way are women. Anybody else remember that study that showed when men treat women the same way that they treat men, both women and other men thought it was sexist toward women?
I wonder what Rose Sexsmith would have to say about those women-only events in California where people have been calling out for violating the Unruh Act?
Yes there is. There was a disgusting article a while back about how women should have the freedom to choose who fathers their children and who provides for them, ignoring the fact that maybe a man doesn't want to raise a kid that isn't his and maybe the real father might like to have a relationship with their child... It made me so angry. DNA tests do remove or at least reduce the uncertainty a lot, which does remove a (highly immoral) freedom women have been accustomed to since our species bega…
women pay more than men for x because they are able and willing to Which is funny, since as a group, they make less than men. Hmm, I wonder where they get all that extra money from?
We usually don't delete stuff like that here. The mods are awesome. I mean, what's the point in trying to have a discussion when opposing views aren't allowed? Never made much sense to me, but you could ask the mods of feminism and twox why they hate all unapproved opinions.
No, fuck off. People should be able to decide how to divide the work in their own households however they like. The government's role should not be to legislate how much housework is done by each person inhabiting a given residence. If they ever did put laws like this in place, it would just be used by women to pile up even more charges against a man she's decided she doesn't want anymore. What, you think men would be able to use it to make complaints against women that aren't doing their fair s…
Oh, the acid attacks that feminists keep saying only happen to women (when the facts clearly show that this isn't the case?) ... and now I'm mad again.
AAAH STOP WITH THE FUCKING GLAMOUR SHOTS FOR FEMALE CRIMINALS! She isn't the victim here! Also, maybe put women in jail for as long as a man would be, if he'd committed the same crime? That is all.
I agree. The thing that feminists keep pushing for is no male-only spaces allowed, but female-only spaces are fine. There's a word for that: hypocrisy. It is also seriously anti-equality. Either we all get to have our own exclusionary clubs or nobody does. None of this crap where it is okay for women to exclude men but not okay for men to exclude women.
Yes, they're using it to sue people that are intentionally creating events that exclude males. In other words, they're using it to fight for equality. How terrible!
By not differentiating between the awful kinds of fgm and the not as bad ones, yet saying fgm is "the worse moral crime without a doubt", you did say that. Maybe it isn't what you meant, but it is what you said.
You need to do some research nlon what fgm is. The worst forms, which are the least common, are what you describe. There are far more common forms that are pretty similar to MGM. In fact, even making a tiny pinprick to take a drop of blood from the female genital area is considered fgm and is also illegal. You can't in good conscience claim that a tiny pinprick is worse than permanent removal of foreskin and frenulum. Go read up on it, then come back and we can have a real discussion.
They pull that shit all the time. Doesn't seem fair that you're not even allowed to ask why you were banned, especially if you don't break any of their (admittedly ridiculous) rules.
