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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 98 | another one from the online dating worldI’ve been reading the comments and I am surprised! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:03 PM |
| 89 | Awww, this poor baby! Let’s guess what actually happened.BOB battery operated boyfriend Never your fault. It’s always your ex-wife and evil sinister Bob | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:01 PM |
| 136 | Being disrespected at workEven your manager is on your side knowing they’re not supposed to do that. I would also say that the manager should have told them to stop as well. That’s good leadership in giving you the support you need and halting workplace bullying Most of all, fuck them grody co workers. Who needs them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 08:44 PM |
| 6 | [deleted by user]I would say he would wait | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 07:47 PM |
| 53 | [deleted by user]Well it is a good idea to break up over sexual incompatibility. I would advise you to break up with someone who is not looking for the same thing as you Compatibility is important for the longevity of a bond. How to protect ourselves? My neighbor has a low libido so she married a guy with low libido. They are intimate that way once a year. Their love language is quality time together So short answer is committing to someone who is sexually compatible. Even then people change and break ups can st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 07:28 PM |
| 28 | Insecure has a lot of examples of LVM, HVM, and the women that love them. SPOILER HEAVY, read at your own risk.Yes! I was so not happy when Issa chose Lawrence. Not that Nathan the ghoster was any better. She has so much going for her yet she chose on again off again Lawrence pfft And was it just me, but did the show end with Issa looking sad instead of content. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 05:36 PM |
| 256 | This lady is PickMe Hall of Shame personified 🤡 She "outsourced sex" with her boyfriend to another woman🤡 She said it didn't go as planned 🤡 No shit, SherlockPeople are so ridiculous. My neighbor has a low libido as well. Her solution was marry a great guy who is also low libido. Their love language is quality time and they just spend a lot of time together doing hobbies. People set themselves up for this failure. Polyamory is a scam 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 08:29 PM |
| 4 | Forever GF finally done after being forced to care for BF's stinky slobbering furbabyIt’s okay to not wants dogs as pets but she’s out here calling this puppy dumb etc as if the puppy is the cause of the issues She’s channeling part of her anger at the puppy when it should be at the scrote 100 percent It’s like when people blame a kid for who their parents are in life And she’s a pick me who blames the ex wife and the puppy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:48 AM |
| 127 | Forever GF finally done after being forced to care for BF's stinky slobbering furbabyShe did the right thing but the puppy here is innocent. Not the puppy’s fault dad is a scrote | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 12:41 AM |
| 99 | US-based women who are actively dating/in relationships: Protect your wombAn HVM would not drop you like that over genetic abnormalities. Someone who does that is not an hvm but a Scrooge | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 09:58 PM |
| 30 | Drama Queens podcast discussing popular 2000s show one tree hill. They discuss the episode when hailey discovers nathan's porn...very interesting. Surprised by their take :) Starts at 29:45 to 49 ish minutes.I love the show and the actresses but they put up with too much. I was happy Haley stood up for her view and hated how her friends were like it’s normal. “Give the guy a break if this helps him not pressure you for sex” and he had nude pics of Peyton on there! And told her “I always have feelings for you” during boy toy auction night All the oth guys are super lvm with Dan being king lvm Maybe Jake is the one that makes it out of that lvm pool | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 02:28 AM |
| 46 | This is what happens when sex workers demand respect. It’s almost like selling your body teaches men you are an object to be used! Who woulda thought!?That’s why I found OPs comment off base too “This is what happens when you’re a sex worker” Uuuuuh what? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 06:25 PM |
| 96 | This is what happens when sex workers demand respect. It’s almost like selling your body teaches men you are an object to be used! Who woulda thought!?That dude is an asshole. I’m against sex work but also against people who treat or speak to sex workers like that. Says a lot of someone’s character | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 05:50 PM |
| 45 | Never answer this question. Ever!I interpreted maintenance as it’s their job to meet the standards. And I think women should feel proud being high maintenance. It’s a sign of strong self worth. Another way of saying a lot of effort is required | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 09:10 PM |
| 47 | PickMe here, left another idiot. Was I right?Also never tell someone why you’re dumping them (unless it’s something “you” related like not a good time for you) because they’ll just lie to the next lady and not tell her that his ex was much younger etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 02:51 PM |
| 85 | I hate talking about my abuse to my friends with boyfriends because it makes them look goodWho cares about that? It’s about how one consoles her friend. Not everything in her head needs to be vomited out especially not when consoling. “Hey look my partner is better than yours!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 10:36 PM |
| 353 | I hate talking about my abuse to my friends with boyfriends because it makes them look goodIf my friend was telling me about her abuse, I would never rub it in her face and say “Phew my husband isn’t like that” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 09:35 PM |
| 39 | Pickmeisha is not like the other girls, so she’ll only befriend men when they only want to be her friend so they can fuck herAhhh another self hater | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 06:43 PM |
| 61 | Example #141203 of why you should PROTECT YOUR WOMB! Even the guys who seem nice can be full on scrotey sperm donors. Does he have kids? Does he keep in contact with them? Does he abandon his children and then throw pity parties about it?I’ll bet he deleted her comment too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 02:59 PM |
| 214 | Methods they use to stealth unsuspecting womenYeah I always thought it was weird when someone said condoms break here and there. I’ve never seen it happen to me and just assumed it’s what happens to other people | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 02:48 AM |
| 86 | I just remembered something my Nex said at the beginningMay I ask why you’re stuck with him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 07:52 PM |
| 120 | I keep having to delete posts I make on other subs because creeps look through comment history and find out I'm on FDS.I’m an ex Muslim so I use that sub as well. I got death and hell threats. So I use Reddit purely for fds and ex Muslim for the most part because they’re two very stigmatized groups. Muslims are marginalized. Now take me who is an ex Muslim. That’s makes me an even more marginalized group inside another. People hear my experiences with fds and say I’m sexist pfft and then call me an Islamaphobe for criticizing religion | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:02 PM |
| 157 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?Never changed it! Never wanted to do so not even as a kid. In my culture, boys get their dads last name and girls get their moms last name as our last names are also feminine or masculine like a first name | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:14 AM |
| 253 | The audactiy knows no bounds.Is this satire? Sadly this sounds no different from the average relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 03:58 AM |
| 15 | 5’2 with an attitude and audacity.The delusional one is thinking that attitude will keep him happy or attractive 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 06:09 PM |
| 94 | Another reversalLmao This is it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 10:32 PM |
| 232 | Another reversalThe vagina gives birth and is elastic yet they think it gets loose from sex How dumb can you be my manz? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 08:57 PM |
| 27 | Even the CDC is promoting 50/50 😅I’ve never went halfsies. During my pick me days I once paid the full bill. Just once in my pick me days. All the other times, the guy insisted paying even if I said I’d get it. Shit even in my pick me days, only one guy accepted that I can pay. Granted he was broke and drowning in debt. He stressed me out about money so I had to let him go. I was pick me though who let it go in for one month too long! Plenty of other guys too. Ghosters who’d come back saying they were going through depression. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 06:55 PM |
| 748 | Ummm...yes? And?If that’s the way to keep him, no need to keep him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 06:11 PM |
| 449 | So close...Isn’t it usually other guys that make of guys for being virgins? 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 03:49 PM |
| 474 | I told a man he needed therapy last night.That’s the kind of energy I want. Telling you early on how the relationship is gonna be stunted so you can’t be mad because “I told you on the second date.” In the future: “I’m being cruel to you. It’s not my fault though! It’s because of my trauma. I’m gonna punish you for that past trauma. It’s your fault I’m being cruel to you because you put up with it” The earlier they tell on themself the better. No thank you, undear sir. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 01:24 PM |
| 28 | I came back to Reddit just to post this meme I mentioned in this week's FDS Podcast. Enjoy 😊When people try to justify why their prophet married a child | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 03:36 AM |
| 560 | It's not him being turned off, it's meLmao “don’t use complicated words he won’t understand” As in dumb yourself down? Boooooooo what terrible advice That’s called not being a vocabulary match | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:39 PM |
| 18 | I need help finding an article that was posted on this sub.Damn we can’t have anything nice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 05:44 PM |
| 35 | I need help finding an article that was posted on this sub.Why aren’t we doing this!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:23 PM |
| 79 | The victim blaming pickmeisha. Could it get any worse?Because men don’t have control! Women don’t harass attractive men so that’s why men can dress however they like but women are still inferior though despite having more self control so don’t get that part wrong | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 03:29 PM |
| 14 | Accurate.I hate threesomes but I don’t get it. The woman on the right isn’t inferior just because she has an unconventional witchy taste in skirts or because she has purple hair or has a cat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 03:27 PM |
| 182 | The victim blaming pickmeisha. Could it get any worse?Oh no it’s not men’s fault. That’s the fault of homosexuality. Only straight men are free from fault though! Not all men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 03:23 PM |
| 99 | The victim blaming pickmeisha. Could it get any worse?I’ve heard women say that in my Islamic communities of what happens if you don’t wear hijab and you tempt men with your hair. No different from when a girls mom asks her to change her clothes because an uncle is coming over | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 02:11 PM |
| 7 | What age range should I be dating in?I used to do plus or minus 2 years based on what my cousin told me. Said he felt icky if someone was younger than that and told me to watch out for that. He was in his mid 20s then so that might of changed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 12:45 PM |
| 22 | What age range should I be dating in?Our brain actually never stops developing until we die. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 12:43 PM |
| 56 | How has FDS made you reevaluate how your father/brother(s) treat you?I always knew my father is misogynist. “Women should speak sweetly” whenever I would stand up for myself. He follows Islam too so that doesn’t help with the misogyny. My brothers are thankfully better. One is atheist and the other is non practicing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:17 PM |
| 120 | Do single women really want to take dating advice from guys like this?Uhm I don’t want my love for life to rub off on you. You should be doing that on your own. How do they always make it about leaching? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:05 PM |
| 18 | The "Western Feminism.” Yes, glad she is addressing this! All women deserve bodily autonomy. This idea that women in Afghanistan “don’t need western feminism” is so damaging in its own way.And then on top of that, depraved US soldiers who rape middle eastern civilian women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 04:54 AM |
| 203 | A Pickme's LifePack your own lunch then fucka. If you really cared about fruit snacks Damn I’m tired of the ungrateful fucks out there and their accommodating mothers and partners Working hard to normalize this bullshit and then look to us to continue these atrocities | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 09:31 PM |
| 238 | Guy that I went to high school with (I'm 31 now) still trying to sleep with me till this day. He's freshly married with a toddler. Mind you, these "talks" consisted of him saying pervy stuff while I tried to get away.I say send it to his wife. She deserves to know | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:30 PM |
| 422 | Why didn't we get banned yet?We get compared to incel subs that promote violence against women. For what? For having standards. I don’t even consider our standards high. It’s the bare minimum Let that resonate. People are mad at us for wanting the damn bare minimum! We should make our standards higher | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:16 PM |
| 304 | I don't like women with stretchmarks!And they have control over hairy booties. Stretch marks are out of our hands | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:13 PM |
| 178 | Oh btw…she mentions in the comments that she’s caught him chatting with other women, too. Also that he makes her feel crazy but that she is mentally ill so it might really be her.Maids get paid and they get to go home usually. Not to glamorize the hardship maids face But This worse. This is indentured servitude | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 04:25 AM |
| 361 | Oh btw…she mentions in the comments that she’s caught him chatting with other women, too. Also that he makes her feel crazy but that she is mentally ill so it might really be her.I got exhausted just reading this. Boyfriends out there really treating their partners like they’re robots with limitless energy and with superhuman thick skin | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Children being taken as wives in AfghanistanI’m from a Muslim background. The prophet married a 6 year old named Ayesha whilst he was around 52ish So are we even really surprised? exMuslim If the world still followed abrahamic religions like it did in previous centuries, the whole world would still be like the taliban | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:15 AM |
| 23 | I wish his wife sees this 😔The thousands of people who upvoted this post 🙄 People out here without morals | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 08:16 PM |
| 579 | Anyone else notice this? How come men's convenience is put above womens health & comfort? If you're not making him wrap it then you're playing yourself.Never mind the life altering impact synthetic hormones have on our bodies Fuck our health. Right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 07:41 PM |
| 9 | Suddenly oppression is cool now?Pleased to meet you sis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 07:36 PM |
| 12 | Suddenly oppression is cool now?Just another reason I’m ex Muslim. Women in Abrahamic religions are treated less than pets. Polygamy, child brides, marriage rights, sex slavery in the holy books Huge dumpster fire | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 07:33 PM |
| 3 | What do you all think of this story? Full description in the comments.“No I did not know her never met her in my life.. but I know she had my mans heart before she left so with that being said I support whatever it is he wants to do. He asked me to go with him to place some flowers at her grave for her birthday. I said yes of course ... but me being me (extra af) I said ummm she need balloons too in her favorite colors. When he bought her the flowers and balloons I said to myself you know what I don't even know you but happy birthday b****😂 I'm buying her some bal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 01:13 AM |
| 15 | “Cheating” is only thing that’s concerning him?She was drunk and was assaulted by a guy pretending to be nice wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 07:01 PM |
| 81 | The American Taliban weighs inYeah Christianity and Islam are very similar in their rulings. Christianity has had the luck of becoming more modernized but looking at the bones of it, same boat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:10 PM |
| 191 | He’s dumb af if he thinks we won’t be able to pick him outThe comments on his post tore his idea apart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 05:32 AM |
| 188 | What do you all think about this?I was wondering that myself. I understood the intention but also was worried about the legal aspect. When men press charges, they are likelier to be listened to. Yet, they get away with domestic violence over and over | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 07:46 PM |
| 1 | QueenTell me more about her. I have no clue who she is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 07:38 PM |
| 23 | Bar set too damn low. Help you with something? No thanks, that turns into lifetime years of servitudeWow didn’t even invite her. Like she can’t decide for herself if she wants to go. He decided for her that she would be bored. Doesn’t he even want to show people his partner? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:32 AM |
| 53 | Breakfast first date?I don’t what to make of this but I once had a first date at 6 am. It was bright outside and we were both early birds. It was a Saturday morning too so could’ve slept in, but decided to meet for breakfast instead at the only place in town that opens at 6 am. It’s a cute little Jewish place with delicious food and prayers on the menu. Neither of us were Jewish nor religious though. I was surprised because I thought they would close on Saturday for religious reasons | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:27 AM |
| 25 | The accuracy !LOL “don’t you live with your mama!?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 08:31 PM |
| 18 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleOh wait I thought all of women end up leaving the guys. One gets divorced. I thought only Rachel anistons role ends up with her 10 year boyfriend and her sisters are married to lvm men and just merely appreciates him because he did the dishes Like really!? Dishes! That’s the standard now That makes me sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:49 PM |
| 45 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleThe movie “he’s just not that into you” highlights this Many pick meishas in the movie hoping to be the exception | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:36 PM |
| 19 | All of the amazing podcast hosts are now on Twitter! Let’s show our support and give them a follow! ⭐️Doing my Powerpuff Girls right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:30 PM |
| 59 | Today I found out that quora can be as bad as RedditThe pick me who said “I won. Not them” What did you exactly win here? I’d really like to know If I have to win someone, I’d rather they have them and save my victories for self fulfillment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 01:12 PM |
| 116 | A supportive motherSomeone did mention that seems like zoomer wrote it but I still see it as a nice message behind it regardless | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:25 PM |
| 158 | A supportive motherShe does refer to herself as a country mom on other posts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:07 PM |
| 79 | This girl gets it. Dinner dates ensure a man thinks you’re worth the effort no matter how you look or feel about yourself.I wish her username didn’t say Asian Bimbo 69 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:34 PM |
| 8 | I love FDS philosophies but the hate towards pickmes is turning me away from this communityYou’re right! I need to check myself on this It’s okay to feel angry about the actions though especially when these actions harm us collectively | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 11:46 PM |
| 25 | Can age gap relationships stunt the mental development of the younger person?The brain actually never stops developing. It develops cradle to grave (more accurately conception to grave) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 11:40 AM |
| 12 | Newly engaged man "jokes" about a sex circle with his 2 other male friends infront of fiancé! Why?! Says ALL MEN joke like thisThat movie is demented! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:50 PM |
| 53 | Doing wife duties for your boyfriendWin win yet they still will dump and dismiss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:08 AM |
| 170 | Doing wife duties for your boyfriendOh he’s gonna find a guy and be fine doing his own share of his housework because “only for men” Doing it for your girlfriend? Noooo that’s lowly Worst case scenario, neither of the guys do housework and their place ends up a bigger dump | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:07 AM |
| 296 | Just telling on themselves 😂Ahhh he described the petty jealousy of scrotes. Good on him for spreading the word and for exposing their gospel | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:45 AM |
| 25 | Thank you to all of you for helping me to escape my “relationship” before it was too late!Oh please, he is the definition of drama! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:41 AM |
| 18 | This makes me want to Vomit.This man has been divorced numerous times. I wouldn’t take his advice. This is coming from a divorced woman on my second marriage. And of course vetting him for life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 10:46 PM |
| 59 | A thousand splendid suns was such a heartbreaking book. Full of LVM galore. The author Khaled is aware of the wretched state of our communities.It’s realistic in showing that not every woman gets a happy ending and that’s wretched nonetheless | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 08:20 PM |
| 91 | In sickness and health.It’s heartwarming to see something like this happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?I was not pulling whataboutism. I simply stated one shouldn’t justify striking a disobedient wife because it’s written in a holy book Unless people do something about it, Muslim women will continue to face domestic violence with the idea that “God said so” Being complacent in this should put no one at ease | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 07:15 PM |
| 3 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?Would say that an 18 year old with 52 year old is still appropriate for a spiritual leader and prophet? The verb daraba ضرب means “To Hit” but can also have non-literal meanings, just like the word “Hit” in English can have non-literal meanings, (I hit upon an idea, Hit the road, Hit the sack, Hit it off, etc…) In the case of 4:34 there is no such qualifying particle or mention that it is a parable/similitude and so it can only mean “Hit” and simply cannot have a figurative meaning like “Avoid t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 07:10 PM |
| 13 | This was on a post about a man having dinner with a blow up doll.Yes “every man’s dream is that women can’t turn down sex” because consent isn’t attractive. Keeping telling on yourselves so we can protect ourselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 06:18 PM |
| 277 | Yes I’m sure he “deleted” the video 🤡He wants her to trust him with her nudes and videos, but he does not trust her with his nudes and videos. Could be because he’s doing something shady with them and doesn’t want her to do the same to him. This is similar to why cheaters are always worried about their partner cheating, too. They worry that their partner is like them! Because “how dare you treat me the way I treat you!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 06:15 PM |
| 8 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?Even in the Quran, there’s lot that disturbs me. I’ve tried everything even progressive Islam as well. But there’s only so much of 7th century misogyny can be explained away | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 06:11 PM |
| 3 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?The verb daraba ضرب means “To Hit” but can also have non-literal meanings, just like the word “Hit” in English can have non-literal meanings, (I hit upon an idea, Hit the road, Hit the sack, Hit it off, etc…) In the case of 4:34 there is no such qualifying particle or mention that it is a parable/similitude and so it can only mean “Hit” and simply cannot have a figurative meaning like “Avoid them” “Set forth for them a parable” etc… There are examples in the Qur’an of daraba used in a non-litera… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 05:55 PM |
| 7 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?That’s understandable. It depends on school of thought. For example for Sunni Muslims, there’s Hadith that he stuck Aisha in the chest for eavesdropping. Yes it gave more rights to women in the 7th century. But in the 21st century, it falls very behind. Which is why so many Muslim women are suffering today. And if Islam is relevant today, then it needs to stand the test of time including being compared to modern day morals. Especially when modern morals and standard are exceptionally better for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 05:53 PM |
| 9 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?Also funny thing I went down the libfem route too even while I was a devout Muslim. I agreed with libfem but didn’t practice it because I’m conservative in my sexual behavior. Then reading stuff women said about Islam here as well as the ex Muslim sub really opened my eyes about both my religious and feminist values | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:45 PM |
| 12 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?Religions do start off as cults after all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:42 PM |
| 7 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?I commend your courage! And I was happy to read your story of change. I am agnostic now with a Muslim background. I do some Muslim practices like a few fasts and giving people salaam, but I reject a lot of stuff in Islam as well as things that the prophet did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:39 PM |
| 10 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?Yes and what do the scholars say on the matter of the Quranic verse that says strike your disobedient wife? It means tap her gently with a tooth stick? Does that really solve marital problems? And if it means that, why didn’t the Quran just say that instead of saying strike your disobedient wife (as last resort) Also majority of Islamic scholars say that feminism is destroying religion and the family structure. So forgive me if I pass on them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:18 PM |
| 10 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?Excuse me, expressing my viewpoint isn’t attacking you. Religious people need to understand one can disagree with an ideology without taking it as a personal attack. No one is shoving anything down your throat. You fail to address my concerns with polygamy and child marriage etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:17 PM |
| 9 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?Same goes for you. You wouldn’t be so adamant that it’s okay to hit women if you truly believed it was okay | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:13 PM |
| 5 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?Yes you do have the freedom to believe women can be hit because “God said so” but holding this belief causes harm to many women. Promoting violence against women is a absolute no always | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:08 PM |
| 7 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?I also want to ask you, would you truly have wanted to be one of his wives? The answer for me was a resounding no | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:03 PM |
| 6 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?Also want to clarify that I was in the same boat as you and tried to just say it’s all culture. But I found that saying this required me to lie to myself. I had to finally admit to myself that reading many of the things the Prophet did, I found distressing and contrary to my values | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:02 PM |
| 9 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?To hit women at all, whether immensely or rarely or lightly is against my values and against FDS. Do not lay a hand on women ever. There is no justification. Hence why I am now agnostic with a Muslim background. Also he had sex with all of them including the child bride so I dunno if there was no lust involved. He married Aisha at 6 and consummated the marriage at 9. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:58 PM |
| 3 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?I understand your struggle! Good luck For myself, I would simply tell them I disagree with these concepts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:53 PM |
| 7 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?I don’t agree given that the prophet had 9-11 wives so many that the exact number is debated), one of whom was a child bride. Quran verse about striking the disobedient wife etc So I don’t see how differentiating culture and religion would help in this case. Unless I say to them “our prophet is someone you shouldn’t emulate in these ways. But in other ways, yes” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:46 PM |
| 37 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?The fear of hell overcomes any logic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:15 AM |
| 45 | Ladies who are in Muslim communities or in other very religious communities: how do you protect your children from patriarchal indoctrination?I know that some may say simply move out, but that may not always be an option. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:05 AM |
| 2 | Are gay men more likely to be HV than straight men?Gay men have said dating is hard for them as well because men have very high expectations for looks and want to only date “a 10” in their own eyes. Those who want commitment have a tough time finding loyalty. So gay men may deal with the same dating issues that straight women come across. Aka dating LVM On top of that, they’re dealing with religious and legal persecution. Where I’m from, you get killed for being gay. The patriarchy is a disaster for gay men in that regard as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 02:11 PM |
| 14 | Oh no, baby. What is you doing??I don’t understand how you can look at your struggling and drowning partner, and not take care of them out of the love you have for them. Without being asked at all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:43 PM |
| 120 | HVpartner, but no attraction after many years - advice wanted!I don’t have advice on your situation specifically, but I think the general rule of thumb is that even an HVM might not be the one for you. Because not every HVM is compatible with you specifically. I would also say taking care of health is a must. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 01:51 PM |
| 106 | Opinion: surrogacy is on the same transactional spectrum as porn and prostitutionOn a side note, it used to bother me that people would only consider adoption if they have fertility issues. Making adopting seem lesser because it’s seen as an afterthought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 03:49 AM |
| 29 | It's better to be single & work on yourself than strain yourself with a LV entanglement (My Story)Wow that is amazing! Can you share your stock and crypto tips as well? Even in private chat? I’ve been getting returns as well but my returns at the average rate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 03:05 PM |
| 17 | Once comfortable with a vetted HVM, would you share some of your personal problems, traumas/health-related issues with him?My mom said it’s best not to. She said if I need to vent I should just go to her or a friend. I’m sure there’s wisdom and life experience behind those words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 01:44 PM |
| 102 | Ex-LVM didn't want to contribute, but was more than happy to take creditIt’s the opposite for me. For Mother’s Day my husband will buy a gift for his mom, and he’ll give me credit even had me be the one to hand it to her. Because in my south Asian culture, things get rough with in laws. Especially for the Daughter in law due to deeply rooted misogyny. So he’s doing well navigating that. I know this is in law issue is universal but with us there’s different cultural nuances that some may not relate to. Hence, it’s not always possible for women in our community to fol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 01:35 PM |
| 0 | Great TV shows that will undo damage to the minds of scrotesWhat do you think of Erdogan? I feel he is undoing the work of Ertugrul | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 02:55 AM |
| 2 | I need advice please. *pregnantI never understood how a narcissist can be a good father like you stated. It goes against what the personality disorder means | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 12:23 PM |
| 2 | FDS has changed my life. I spotted Pickmeisha here in just a few sentences. Thank you for being here.His living room? Whaaaaat He’s already taking over | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 12:00 AM |
| 30 | Anyone watch Indian Matchmaking on Netflix?Preach it sistaaaaa | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 04:47 AM |
| 88 | Anyone watch Indian Matchmaking on Netflix?As a south Asian myself, our culture promotes a lot of misogyny and pickmeisha. Moms worships their sons and then marry them off to us to replace them as moms smh I hope I broke that cycle for the next Gen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 03:52 AM |
| 369 | Disgusting scrote sought out SA survivor to fulfill his “kink.” Reason #485949 to NEVER reveal your trauma to a man when you first start dating. ALWAYS vet for this behavior! I hope she leaves his ass for good!Omg this lady in the comment really said this is kink shaming and he was sweet enough to wait year before consummation. Thankfully all the others commentators say leave | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Yes, you’re a bad mom…Based on Watzoo’s comment, I take back what I said | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Yes, you’re a bad mom…I didn’t even think of that. In that case, I should be less judgmental especially when financial well being is at stake. I take back calling her a bad feminist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 05:21 PM |
| 13 | How to avoid falling back into old pickmeisha habits?I definitely do have the concern here and there but working on my confidence has made the biggest difference. I did therapy, I go to the gym and go biking on a schedule, so taking great care of both my mental/emotional and physical health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 04:36 PM |
| 3 | Yes, you’re a bad mom…I hear what you’re saying. But because she does have a mom and does have an option, she should be able to use that fortune. Whether it be use it to make this place better or if it’s to just say this is against boundaries | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 04:34 PM |
| 15 | Yes, you’re a bad mom…And a bad feminist. She already knows she is and that’s why she titled it that way. The responder did a disservice by validating her with a “no you’re not a bad mom” yeesh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 03:54 PM |
| 198 | This is the most laughably pathetic thing I've seen in a long time.She hit all the fetishes from incest to cheating good loooooord | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 02:56 PM |
| 28 | One of the Benefits of Living Together... Splitting the RentYou’re right! I am very appreciative of this man. And I feel terrible about your friend of a friend. It hurts my heart to see what women deal with. My first marriage was to a terrible man so I can definitely relate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 03:15 AM |
| 183 | One of the Benefits of Living Together... Splitting the RentThis is why my husband pays the bills because he appreciates all that I do even though I work full time myself. I also work fewer hours and my job leaves me a lot of down time. A good balance I say. But I say this is the bare minimum. He doesn’t say dumb shit like “you woRK FuLL tiME so PAy 50/50” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 02:06 AM |
| 39 | Could there be a more dumpster fire LVM tinder profile? I need to unpack with the FDS ladiesDoesn’t sound like a unicorn to me. Sounds like a regular mule to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 03:25 AM |
| 108 | Absolutely not. Negging gone wild.I’m glad she had the right response. She left and worked on herself with therapy so comments like his can have a lesser effect | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 01:48 AM |
| 133 | I'm going to have a nude sculpture of you in the living room even if you don't like it.Yeah even her therapist doesn’t know how to set boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 12:44 AM |
| 118 | Imagine your boyfriend telling you he won’t hesitate to hit you because he’s afraid you’re a psycho...If a guy said that to me, I’d fear for my life and go no contact. Now that I know better of course. Why are they turning sometime terrible into something to strive for? Shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 08:13 PM |
| 10 | Girl what?? Almost a 10 year age difference and she really has to question this??He’s a bad person. How do people like this even have friends. It disgusts me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 06:58 PM |
| 240 | I'm done 😪Miss me with that bullshit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 07:29 PM |
| 21 | Wonder if she got picked at the end of the day 🤡I realize that now better late than never. I truly believe we’re gonna make a change so things can be better for us all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 09:02 PM |
| 9 | Wonder if she got picked at the end of the day 🤡Oh yes I have those too. What about you? Are you free to dress as you please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 08:45 PM |
| 35 | Wonder if she got picked at the end of the day 🤡Amen to that! I used to try so hard to swallow those words. It required a lot of mental gymnastics given that I was so damn devout. Like the wife beat verse. They’re like no it means poke her with a stick. What person in their right mind says poking your wife with a stick will solve martial problems? They’re straight up lying because the verse clearly means discipline your wife with a beating as a last resort. There’s no way around it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 08:44 PM |
| 11 | Wonder if she got picked at the end of the day 🤡I’ve seen hats and bonnets out there if that’s what you mean . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 08:22 PM |
| 61 | Wonder if she got picked at the end of the day 🤡It’s because the alternative right commits violent hate crimes on Muslims, which is terrible. But that makes people think criticizing Islam means you hate Muslims, which isn’t actually true. That’s why Islam gets a free pass whereas with Christianity, people feel safer to criticize since Christians in general aren’t persecuted in USA. You can criticize the religion without committing crimes against its followers, though. It’s very odd when a liberal calls an ex Muslim an islamaphobe, when in rea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 08:21 PM |
| 60 | Wonder if she got picked at the end of the day 🤡I feel for you! And I hope one day too. It is not mandated by law for me. I feel forced by family but maybe I’ll try your denim jacket method instead with a hat that I can take off later | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 05:19 PM |
| 21 | Wonder if she got picked at the end of the day 🤡Thank you so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 05:19 PM |
| 443 | Wonder if she got picked at the end of the day 🤡I feel bad for my Muslim pick me sisters. I think in religion, it was a coping method. I became an ex Muslim because of so many of the women’s rights violations. And I’m not picking on just Islam. I see this in religion in general. Right now I’m forced to wear hijab. And before someone says it’s culture not religion. Well the book mandates hijab or else you’re sinning against God so that doesn’t sound like much of a choice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 04:11 PM |
| 8 | Books written by women ab religion?Let’s be real. Religion seems to be a huge scam and the lazy way to state the meaning of life without having to search for answers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 02:26 PM |
| 39 | Books written by women ab religion?This was my same attitude towards Islam. The mistreatment of women and the mental gymnastics I had to go through to force myself to believe otherwise. The sadistic nature of hell to force you into believing so that you don’t question nor can you freely think | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 03:20 AM |
| 21 | A cheating man 100% wrote this. By making these unpopular opinions popular and giving them a wide reach it makes women with a HEALTHY mindset doubt themselves and feel as if something is wrong with them for not wanting to be with a cheater. Do not fall for it.Great a Muslim pick me. Another reason why I left Islam but I have to be closeted for my own safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 10:10 PM |
| 50 | The Five Love Languages and Books of this NatureMy husband said physical touch is his love language (mine is too) , but he didn’t even talk about anything sexual until like 4 months in. I was like finally, someone who is not a pervert. And that’s not even a high standard I know. When he says physical touch is his love language, he was referring to forehead kisses, hand holding, and hugs. I won’t say he’s hvm, im still waiting on that verdict. We get married too quickly in our culture. To be honest, I don’t think I’ve personally met a verified… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 09:06 PM |
| 156 | After Bill Cosby's release from prison, Mickey Rourke shares frightening allegation on Instagram | PhillyVoiceThey need to free Britney. Not a rapist who confessed to rapes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 05:23 PM |
| 7 | the audacity of men...She is with a deadbeat. How did she do it for so long. I feel so exhausted for her 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 04:59 PM |
| 124 | Mainstream UK magazine casually glorifying age gap relationships...“Just leave your judgment at the door, okay?” Couldn’t roll my eyes any harder. Almost got a headache. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 02:38 PM |
| 6 | Recommended by my sister. Based on title alone, gonna be a no from me, dawg.I laughed. Imagine if the title said PICK ME | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Recommended by my sister. Based on title alone, gonna be a no from me, dawg.Taryn Moore is young, beautiful and brilliant...so why would she kill herself? When Detective Frankie Loomis arrives on the scene to investigate the girl's fatal plunge from her apartment balcony, she knows in her gut there's more to the story, especially after the autopsy reveals that the college senior was pregnant. It could be reason enough for suicide-or a motive for murder. To English professor Jack Dorian, Taryn was the ultimate fantasy: intelligent, adoring, and completely off limits. But… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 09:45 PM |
| 132 | My MIL is Leaving my FIL After 30+ YearsWith a FIL like that I had to make sure you were okay | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 02:51 AM |
| 116 | My MIL is Leaving my FIL After 30+ YearsWhat’s her son like? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 02:46 AM |
| 220 | VOX recruiting on reddit for more libfem bullshit. Tell us how you split the bill 🤡🤡🤡 Also bonus for age gaps, poly, and throuples! 🤡🤡🤡I wonder why this person had to mention the gender of the age gap so they’re looking for specifically old men and very young women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 04:27 PM |
| 3 | Coming from a Muslim community, I’m so sad to see sisters saying things like this. This came from a Muslim meme page where a woman agrees with the man that we’re not equal.In Islam, God is genderless too. Still has misogyny. Men are required to take care of women. Still has misogyny because being provider gives them the authority Let’s not pretend Judaism is different | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Coming from a Muslim community, I’m so sad to see sisters saying things like this. This came from a Muslim meme page where a woman agrees with the man that we’re not equal.It’s because Islam is the youngest one and it has the least reform. You’re right though that the other religions have similar evils. And also Muslims shouldn’t be discriminated against because there is more to them than their religion and lot of them are victims of the religion | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 03:38 PM |
| 6 | Coming from a Muslim community, I’m so sad to see sisters saying things like this. This came from a Muslim meme page where a woman agrees with the man that we’re not equal.Well I come from a Muslim community where misogyny is pretty heavy. It’s like saying all lives matter at a BLM event. That’s how I interpreted your comment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Coming from a Muslim community, I’m so sad to see sisters saying things like this. This came from a Muslim meme page where a woman agrees with the man that we’re not equal.Uhhh I hear Muslims and Christians say the same thing that “orthodox communities perverted things” but they’re all rooted in misogyny including Judaism Starting with the creation myth Adam and Eve. Where Eve is always second to Adam. I think the story was ripped off from an earlier story that predates abrahamic religions | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 02:23 PM |
| 37 | Coming from a Muslim community, I’m so sad to see sisters saying things like this. This came from a Muslim meme page where a woman agrees with the man that we’re not equal.Also good on you for leaving. It takes a lot of courage and strength to do so. And many get death threats and killed for doing so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:04 PM |
| 23 | Coming from a Muslim community, I’m so sad to see sisters saying things like this. This came from a Muslim meme page where a woman agrees with the man that we’re not equal.Yeah the Hadith you mentioned is an even worse one because it encourages martial rape. There are Muslims who are good despite religion and I hope they grow in number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Oh my, this just so terrible. He does not love her. She was doing all the child rearing and working 2 jobs, meanwhile he was hiding his luxuries. Always stay vetting.They deleted it before I could read it. Can you tell me the gist of it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:33 PM |
| 50 | Coming from a Muslim community, I’m so sad to see sisters saying things like this. This came from a Muslim meme page where a woman agrees with the man that we’re not equal.I live in America where the divorce rate for Muslims is 30 percent. I wish my sisters abroad had the fortune of divorce rights. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 05:41 PM |
| 24 | Coming from a Muslim community, I’m so sad to see sisters saying things like this. This came from a Muslim meme page where a woman agrees with the man that we’re not equal.That’s why we have to be cautious and protect ourselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 05:29 PM |
| 22 | Coming from a Muslim community, I’m so sad to see sisters saying things like this. This came from a Muslim meme page where a woman agrees with the man that we’re not equal.Amen to that We can work to let these kinds of systems die. But one bad war, and people will become super religious again. Back to square one. The state of humanity going back and forth. Making progress and then regressing over and over | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 05:28 PM |
| 49 | Coming from a Muslim community, I’m so sad to see sisters saying things like this. This came from a Muslim meme page where a woman agrees with the man that we’re not equal.Not genuinely, no. I think a lot of religious folk don’t know what their religion entails. A lot of mental gymnastics also. So either they are Muslim or Christian or Jewish or another identity in name only. Or they’re very sexist or in denial about what holy books say. But religion for the most part is patriarchal and anti-feminist no matter how much reform occurs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 05:19 PM |
| 58 | Coming from a Muslim community, I’m so sad to see sisters saying things like this. This came from a Muslim meme page where a woman agrees with the man that we’re not equal.Oh no we got married after a year and a half. you have to keep vetting because people and circumstances can change. If someone becomes mean, you can’t think “they were so kind before so this mean version doesn’t count.” And then spend another 20 years being mistreated because you keep thinking he’ll be nice like he used to be | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 05:16 PM |
| 61 | Oh my, this just so terrible. He does not love her. She was doing all the child rearing and working 2 jobs, meanwhile he was hiding his luxuries. Always stay vetting.Let’s be real. Is she gonna leave? When she’s already put up with working 2 jobs and being the primary caregiver. I wish she would so she and the children could have a better life. It’s unfortunate that her attachment to him is hindering her judgment and life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 05:14 PM |
| 98 | Coming from a Muslim community, I’m so sad to see sisters saying things like this. This came from a Muslim meme page where a woman agrees with the man that we’re not equal.There’s a Hadith in Islam. If it wasn’t a sin to bow down to a human (prostrate), then I would have women bow down to their husbands. Hearing that as a late teen hurt my feelings so much. I don’t want my husband to see me like that. Thankfully there are Muslim men who are kind despite these teachings because their personal values contradict with the religious one. Although they can’t admit it because it’s blasphemy. I’m still vetting my husband but so far he views us as equals and makes me happy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 05:12 PM |
| 21 | Woman asks men who are into exploiting their wives sexually for other men (wife sharing etc) why they enjoy it, gets this response. Imagine seeing your wife as a sex toy that’ll earn you brownie points with The Boys.That ain’t no man. My partner would be hurt if I involved another person in our bond. That is a sign monogamy and care and love. Swinging ain’t it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 04:54 PM |
| 25 | Unless he waxes his butthole, men are not allowed to complain about "impossible male beauty standards"Thankfully in my culture, it is mandatory to wash your ass with water after peeing/pooping using a container called lota/bodna. So I have never come across this with the hairy either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 12:52 AM |
| 58 | Unless he waxes his butthole, men are not allowed to complain about "impossible male beauty standards"Booty hair just reminds me of dingleberries | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 09:10 PM |
| 117 | His reaction was scary 😳I hate that Loud angry clapping thing they do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 09:09 PM |
| 140 | A man who only values you for your fertility and beauty is no HVM: never give up studying, advancing your career or your financial security for a manHey he told on himself publicly without any shame | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 01:45 PM |
| 1 | A couple adopts 2 daughters and I just find this moment with the youngest daughter, her father, and big puppy so heartwarming. I’m glad the father didn’t push his daughter and let her take her time warm up to him. I really hope it’s a warm home for both of these little girls.Oh shoot I removed it in the first part but forgot to in the second one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 02:44 AM |
| 3 | Opinions on anime?I hope they keep progressing and pedo crap decreases. There’s so many shojo I’ve read and even if the girl is strong and not pick me, the guy can end up being an lvm. You might like Kare Kano. The couple is really academic focused. I didn’t finish so I don’t know if the guy stayed good but I hope he did | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:33 PM |
| 6 | Opinions on anime?I wonder if those in princess jellyfish or attack on titan are hvm. It’s easy for me to pick out lvm, but hard to see if someone is hvm because I continue to vet anime characters too 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 01:08 PM |
| 30 | Opinions on anime?I do enjoy anime myself especially josei for mature women but the LVM are annoying. I dunno if anyone watched parasyte but that was one I enjoyed recently. You just gotta dig through for the gems. Princess jellyfish was one that was funny and developed plot too. My first anime was Pokémon in 1st grade. I learned how to tell time just so I would know when it’s on. My cousin said when the long hand is on 6 and the short hand is between 4 and 5, it’s Pokémon time. That ones is geared towards little… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 12:59 PM |
| 16 | Opinions on anime?I gotta be honest though. Inuyasha, Miroku, and Koga are lvm. I’m not sure about Sesshomaru. He’s a villain but I remember he adopted an orphan child and he doesn’t speak so I don’t remember much else about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 12:54 PM |
| 75 | An infuriating example why we dress to impress only ourselves and NOT LVM/NVM!!I hope he does break up for her sake. Imagine a guy gave you the silent treatment over your hair color. Let him throw himself in the trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 10:51 PM |
| 76 | Apparently I need to lower my body standards of men now 🥴Yeah... I’ve never thought to myself “I’m gonna swipe left because attractive men are bad” Never | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 01:01 PM |
| 273 | Men never wanna talk about that though 😂Hell, even if he provides all of that, he still shouldn’t be saying I belong in the kitchen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 05:30 PM |
| 18 | Moral of the story - NVM wants her to give up on her future to be a mom. PATHETIC!What is y’all’s opinion of a stay at home dad in this situation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:20 PM |
| 35 | The Truth About Women in the BibleI dunno. Telling SOME women to be quiet is still misogynistic. This is a lot of mental gymnastics. I did the same growing up in the Muslim community trying to justify that abrahamic religions are actually feminist. When in reality, it is quite the opposite. I mean i thought the same thing as you. Real Islam is feminist. Men corrupted present day Islam. Then I thought: Well why did god let such a thing happen then? If he cared about women? So now I don’t think that anymore. It’s always been anti … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 03:15 AM |
| 78 | Gov. Andrew Cuomo sexual harassment case. Another lesson in not speaking about your trauma no matter how HV they may seem..It’s better to not tell them about your parents as long as possible. Bad ones will use this info to take advantage and think “she has no support system. I’m gonna go in for the kill” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 04:48 AM |
| 3 | Don’t let men leech off of you to meet their needs & feed their egoOh I’m not the best at catching sarcasm. I’m on the literal side so I fail to detect 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 04:02 AM |
| 17 | Don’t let men leech off of you to meet their needs & feed their egoI wouldn’t say it’s their biology because that will lift them from accountability. And that happens often enough | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 03:25 AM |
| 30 | Imagine thinking rape and necrophilia are perfectly hilarious material for your shitty bumper stickers. Someone please tell me this is edited.The parody stickers come off as jealous hating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 03:29 AM |
| 134 | Women are better parents even when they aren’t the parent.Wait the twins mom doesn’t realize either. They had dumb parents. Who doesn’t tell their kid they have a twin? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 03:23 AM |
| 166 | Your eggs are worth THOUSANDS of dollars and sperm is almost WORTHLESS!Just in addition, any of us who are infertile, you still deserve better than the low standards out there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 01:04 AM |
| 25 | LVM tears make me more powerfulI think because the average standards are so low that’s it’s low value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 08:32 PM |
| 35 | Not only is it totally not listening to her but he’s also a complete Neanderthal and the women in the comments saying “he’s just being comfortable/My BF does that too lolz” make me sad that so many women settle for this. 🤮Yes! I just realized that. He didn’t want to bow down to an LVM like Adam who can’t resist a simple apple haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 06:53 PM |
| 90 | Not only is it totally not listening to her but he’s also a complete Neanderthal and the women in the comments saying “he’s just being comfortable/My BF does that too lolz” make me sad that so many women settle for this. 🤮Well hail Satan then because it seems that Satan has more value than ZVM. Satan goes against the patriarchy because religious people keep talking about how feminism is Satan leading us astray. In that case hail Satan | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 05:07 PM |
| 68 | Twirling for the patriarchy. More in commentsSo basically marriage is slavery. Is that a step up from when we were chattel being sold by our father to marriage? Doesn’t seem like progress -sighs- Now I know what is meant by the bar is in hell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 10:30 AM |
| 7 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.That’s lovely to hear. My mom said her birth were relatively smooth as well so I hope I got her genes. My dads sisters though had a hard time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 12:48 AM |
| 6 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.I appreciate the reassurance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 12:07 AM |
| 21 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.Testing is a great idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 11:20 PM |
| 31 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.Oh I definitely ask every mother I ever befriended. So many horror stories whether you do epidural, c section, natural. I’m thinking water birth at birthing center. Not just that, the mental aspect The power is with us We’re getting a part time nanny so I hope that helps some -sighs- I just find kids so challenging yet just so sweet. They’ve put a spell on me like no man ever could | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 10:24 PM |
| 95 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.Why did a Child free man just randomly change his mind on a whim with no further thought? Ugh Also I do want kids. Does this mean I’m risking chronic pain? And the poor woman has post partum depression too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 10:19 PM |
| 38 | Found the guy with weak chin in antifeminist group lmaoDumb example. Cardi B looks good without make up too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 07:14 PM |
| 45 | Governments should pay women to be single mothers 💅Always wondered why we don’t get compensated for birth and child rearing. Like what is this scam | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 07:03 PM |
| 113 | "A high value man won't wait 3 months for sex"also hvm are willing to wait because that’s not their main goal in a relationship. They value actual commitment and getting to know a person much more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 12:40 AM |
| 228 | "A high value man won't wait 3 months for sex"Why is he begging if she already said she’s waiting? Already he’s not high value then. Delaying what heartbreak? If he’s gonna break your heart, then he’s not it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 12:32 AM |
| 43 | Applying standards to friendshipsI have a friend from childhood who naturally has FDS qualities without ever hearing about FDS. When I was a pick me, I thought her standards were too high and now I totally understand her standards. She picked a good major and is making good money and she has great friends and great job and bought a home. All the works I also had a friend who was flakey and didn’t show up on time or would cancel so I stopped being friends. So FDS helps me see I deserve good friends, too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 01:09 AM |
| 71 | This is why it’s so important to have financial independence and a career as a woman, so if your partner runs out on you one day, you won’t be blindsided like this poor mother of 3 young kidsYes absolutely file first and get support for her children. She went to college so that helps too for getting a job I hope. I know unemployment history will make it very tough | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 01:38 AM |
| 21 | Only high effort men can keep up with high maintenance women.Came here to say just that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 01:17 AM |
| 141 | Why “50/50” is so often still unequal...It’s nice seeing men finally address this content. It’s also sad that other men only take it seriously when men point this out, but if we point it out, it’s nagging or irrelevant. So kudos to progress | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 04:22 AM |
| 18 | How do women in developing nations adhere to FDS given that women’s rights are basically non-existent and laws jail women for walking outside without a headscarf or for dancing in public?I changed wording to developing nations and read that this is the more appropriate terminology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 04:06 AM |
| 22 | Making a man wait to have sex is a vetting strategy that has NOTHING to do with "purity culture"Exactly. Miscreants don’t deserve what we have to offer. It has nothing to do with purity culture and everything to do with weeding out the ones with evil intentions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:43 AM |
| 28 | it’s so embarrassing that women will put down other women for men’s attentionGF should ask her bf why he’s following her. He’s the one who did it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 10:52 PM |
| 3 | I tried matchmaking services within my Muslim community and it backfiredI’ll keep you updated. I suggest never stop vetting a guy. You never know when one will change. And apps in general are dumpster fires. But you want a man who makes things happen and actively pursues you. There should be no question thats he’s totally invested and interested. But no obsessed or creepy stalkers either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 06:19 PM |
| 22 | The rabbis have had ample time to use their sharp minds to nullify a Jewish husband's ability to exploit his power to chain his wife to an unwanted marriage. They just haven’t done anything since it doesn’t benefit men.Yeah and unfortunately most of the world is religious so most of us do fall for these man made systems that rob us of our lives. That’s so sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 05:21 PM |
| 64 | The rabbis have had ample time to use their sharp minds to nullify a Jewish husband's ability to exploit his power to chain his wife to an unwanted marriage. They just haven’t done anything since it doesn’t benefit men.We have the same issue in Muslim communities. Islamically, husband can get divorce for any reason by saying the Arabic word for divorce 3 times. That’s it. For a wife, the Islamic court has to grant her divorce but the court can reject her request if they don’t see her reason as valid. This includes getting beat because there’s a Quranic verse that allows men to beat a disobedient wife as a last resort. So we’re really screwed especially in countries that implement shariah law. I wish there was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:52 PM |
| 2 | I tried matchmaking services within my Muslim community and it backfiredHe was on minder. He found me his second day on there. Haha I knew he was for real because his parents knew he was on apps for his search so he wasn’t on there messing around. We are getting married soon it’s been about a year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:48 PM |
| 14 | This kind of pickmeisha behavior. It’s so sad. Coming from a Muslim culture myself. My biggest issue with religion being polygamy.Then God shouldn’t have allowed such debauchery to take place if something is sacred. That would’ve been a miracle to talk about. I tried the progressive Islam route but I found out it’s a lot of sugarcoating and lying. And it requires turning a blind eye to what the prophet did like lying about how he married a child Bride saying Ayesha was 18 not 6. Or how he had 9 to 11 wives at once himself. How he banned adoption so that he could marry his adopted sons wife etc These reprehensible actions c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:56 PM |
| 18 | Even in death, our value lies in our looks.People who think like that are just plain pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:55 PM |
| 23 | This kind of pickmeisha behavior. It’s so sad. Coming from a Muslim culture myself. My biggest issue with religion being polygamy.That’s terrible. What garbage. I’m glad you branched out! Be safe still. You never know what trash will pop out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:24 AM |
| 38 | This kind of pickmeisha behavior. It’s so sad. Coming from a Muslim culture myself. My biggest issue with religion being polygamy.Yeah hoors is what started it and also sex slavery. All sounded carnal and not very heavenly So nice to meet a like minded person in regard to this subject! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 03:46 AM |
| 73 | This kind of pickmeisha behavior. It’s so sad. Coming from a Muslim culture myself. My biggest issue with religion being polygamy.I feel you. I found a rare one who is very much into monogamy. He doesn’t even want the “hoors in heaven” which is basically poor creatures created just for sex. Like damn, how much more objectification. Imagine telling young boys they get sexy women in heaven. How would they view women? Disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 03:29 AM |
| 2 | This kind of pickmeisha behavior. It’s so sad. Coming from a Muslim culture myself. My biggest issue with religion being polygamy.She’s a pick me. When he said he wants 3 more wives she said “just tell me when so I can do a casting and they can join our team.” https://www.instagram.com/reel/CHG9RajAxiP/?igshid=fzsfgpci9k0c | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 03:16 AM |
| 69 | For American FDS'ers : This Won't Even Hurt His Career.Even then, they’ll say the women are lying to get fame/money. Look what happened with other famous predators with countless victims. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:59 AM |
| 47 | Steve Harvey Claims ugly men will make all your dreams come trueHe considers himself an ugly man which I find odd as he’s not ugly. He’s regular. Also, I don’t like the title of his book “act like a lady, think like man” as if the way a man thinks is superior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:58 AM |
| 15 | Trying OLD if for no other reason than to confirm that it's a cesspool. So many horrible profiles, it's like these guys aren't even trying...but this one from "Jacob" took the cake.The small, thankfully dying voice inside me that’s a pick me was like “that some good cursive/penmanship” smh The real me that overpowers all the voices said “that’s absolutely disgusting” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 11:59 PM |
| 34 | The misogyny of MAFS.It’s my guilty pleasure watching it because I don’t support any of it but it’s still entertaining. I just wish it was fiction because the fact this is happening to real women makes me very sad. But also what happens in fiction ends up impacting women too and how we’re viewed -sighs- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 07:27 PM |
| 33 | I tried matchmaking services within my Muslim community and it backfiredThis is just like rishta auntie on Netflix and how she kept shaming women potentials for having standards. And yes apps like minder/salaam and muzmatch (minder is like tinder for Muslims) are dumpster fires. I found a gem 💎 after years of patience and keeping my standards high. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 07:15 PM |
| 52 | Even in death, our value lies in our looks.Half the comments apparently are about how she looks unattractive. That’s all you have to say about all of this? Wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 04:45 PM |
| 27 | Pick up artist tries to tell other young men that there’s more to life than picking up girls... no shit Sherlock. The same thing we keep trying to repeat to you guys but you don’t listenFirst of all, the brain continues to develop from cradle to grave. What is this bullshit that the brain stops developing at 25? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 04:42 PM |
| 6 | Please talk some sense into me *age gap*To me, even I’m the only much younger person he dates, I’m done. Because it only takes one time, and that one time isn’t gonna be me. He was in 8th grade when OP was born. It’s a whole other generation! Think of the future as well. Being in different places in life. Those who marry much older men end up being is caregiver the way his child would become his caregiver. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 10:22 PM |
| 29 | "Would you punch a woman in the face for 1 billion dollars?"a good south Asian man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 04:55 AM |
| 160 | No trousers.Yes, I agree. Please do make it clear on the first date. So we don’t waste our time and the trash takes itself out in the very beginning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 03:08 AM |
| 3 | Our favorite guy just dropped another gem 😂He looks just like my cousin. Both adorable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 04:23 AM |
| 380 | On a question about why old men hit on 13-18 year olds. I am absolutely disgusted and frightened.The surge in testosterone hits the male at puberty resulting in a sudden and extreme sex drive which reaches its peak at age 15–16, then drops slowly over his lifetime. In contrast, a female's libido increases slowly during adolescence and peaks in her mid-thirties. So I doubt his libido matched an 18 year old 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 03:30 AM |
| 128 | Someone please tell herThis is a huge struggle in the south Asian community. My ex spouse put me through hell along with his parents whom I lived with. I did not last even a year. Holy shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 08:14 PM |
| 103 | My Male Friend of 15+ Years Just Asked Me if I'd Ever Tried Only Fans. Screenshot Speaks for Itself.I hope you mean ex friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 06:55 AM |
| 15 | Choose you every time - until it’s not even a question in your mindYeah I think Red liked Donna and saw her as way out of Eric’s league. I won’t defend him though because he’s got is own issues haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 11:06 PM |
| 29 | Choose you every time - until it’s not even a question in your mindRemember when she kept calling Donna a whore for moving on? When her son was the one who left. My goodness, what a train wreck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 10:58 PM |
| 42 | Choose you every time - until it’s not even a question in your mindAnd because kitty said “those feminists. I’m all for equal rights but wear some lipstick” I was like oh no she did not go there. Also kitty worked as a nurse and still did most of the housework even when red is outta work (I’m talking about laid off and not the time after heart attack). Red is also very unromantic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 10:55 PM |
| 220 | Choose you every time - until it’s not even a question in your mindSometimes it seems Jackie didn’t know her self worth when she repeatedly would go back to a cheater (kelso) and stayed with Hyde (who cheated once and was cruel to her), and ultimately chose Fez (peeping Tom and desperate) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 08:45 PM |
| 84 | Choose you every time - until it’s not even a question in your mindShe kept going back to Kelso who cheated and had a relationship with Hyde who also cheated by kissing the nurse. She went back to Hyde too who was also mean to her. Then she ends up with Fez, a pervert who has the nice guy vibes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 08:43 PM |
| 281 | “It’s fine if she’s legal.” This is so problematic.Let’s not forget about my little pony. Can’t have anything nice because of Miscreants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 01:21 PM |
| 499 | Yes porn indeed hates women“We do not discriminate at exploitedTeen.com” Do people hear themselves when they speak? Dear lord | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 11:19 PM |
| 76 | Wonder Woman wisdom.I wish I was Wonder Woman in college! I was such a nerd in high school but at least I didn’t care about being cool. That changed in college because I wanted to “get picked” after I was single all of high school. Single was just great! Getting picked felt fleeting and meaningless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 02:42 AM |
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