Destroy the concept that your teen years are supposed to be fun and once you hit 25, you’re old and it’s over. Some of us had to heal from trauma during our teen years and our 20s (30s, 40s, 50s and so on) and would like to begin a good life without constantly being told it’s too late.

top_of_the_stairs · 2021-09-09T00:16:31+00:00

One of the best parts about getting older is giving fewer & fewer fucks about others' unnecessary & fruitless opinions (such as anything related to being too old for whatever the fuck I want to do 🤷‍♀️😂).

...Not to say that I've become less empathetic; that's the cool thing about maturity - I'm more empathetic than ever, but I'm discerning about who to give away my empathy to.

Frogspocket · 2021-09-09T00:21:17+00:00

26, didn't feel fully awake until I was 25.

As a general rule of thumb don't listen to people who are living lives that you don't admire and want for yourself. But in this particular case: Don't listen to men!!! Listen to women. Notice that the "you expire at 25" stuff comes from mostly men (and some pickmes) and women with miserable lives?? Meanwhile the majority of us (women) agree that life gets better for as we get older. Listen to us!! Either we're all lying and participating in a global conspiracy to give you false hope or...drumroll ..the men are lying, projecting and trying to manipulate you. Which one feels like familiar territory??

Kitty_Pompous · 2021-09-09T00:02:44+00:00

I’m 25 exactly and I feel like my life just started. Just this year I got a job that actually pays my bills instead of taking thankless, difficult, minimum wage jobs and falling back on LVM just to get by. I spent the last 24 years of life depressed, worthless, and profoundly afraid and I’m just now learning how to heal. If my “prime” age in life was 19-22 or whatever arbitrary age weirdo men say it is, I say good riddance. Come get me, “the Wall”

leadmemories · 2021-09-08T23:56:45+00:00

yup!! thinking back on it, i think i started truly enjoying life around age 26.. and it’s gotten better every year 😊

NotUrAverageBoo · 2021-09-09T01:26:10+00:00

Couldn’t agree more op. Mid 50’s and CPTSD going back to almost birth and added trauma of a life lived badly due to this. Finally got the help I needed and life is getting better literally every day, ands that’s during lockdown in Melbourne. I’ve been doing many things I couldn’t healthily do in my younger days and I’m not dead yet. My life isn’t over so bring on the living. It is truly possible to heal and start living at any age.

AntiqueGhost13 · 2021-09-09T01:34:30+00:00

All of the HVW I know in their 40s say the 30s were the best years so far. They say they look and feel better than they ever have, are financially stable, and give less of a crap about others' opinions. It sounds much more liberating than the years of young adulthood when you're so self-conscious and caught up in what everyone else is doing 🤷‍♀️

PinkBlair99 · 2021-09-09T01:39:14+00:00

42 and here to report that my life has been getting better every year 🥰🥰🥰

whiskey_and_oreos · 2021-09-08T23:59:19+00:00

Early 30s here and I feel like my life is just beginning. In the first year of the pandemic I was finally able to cut contact with my family of origin and get divorced from a LVM. I'm finally living for myself.

extragouda · 2021-09-09T02:37:51+00:00

I lost my 20s and 30s to the general pressure from society to be a certain type of person and have a certain type of lifestyle, and also a couple of terrible men. The last one, in my 30s, was the worst man, and I am confident that he will be the worst man I will ever meet. To say that I am confident he has been and will be the worst I have ever met is really positive. This is because I am assuming that I will live the rest of my life in relative physical, emotional, and financial safety, albeit with a paranoia of men that comes from over-correction.

I started over in my 40s. I started every aspect of my life over: friendships, jobs, money. I sometimes feel like I have not gone far enough to start over again... and that I need to go to a different country and change my name, just so the former LVM will think I am dead... and I will never have to worry about him trying to contact me again.

In my 40s, I feel like I am embracing aspects of myself that I had never had the confidence to in my earlier years. I wear what I want and DGAF. I think and say what I want and DGAF. I walk away from people that do not treat me with respect.

I used to think separatism was unrealistic, because society really tries to sell use the idea that in order to have security (financial, social and emotional) we need to be in marriages. In essence, these are sexual relationships with financial bonds sanctioned by the state, which if you think about it, is really weird. The roots of this go way back to when we were living in huts and trading women for cows. Your marriage partner is someone who will make decisions if you become incapacitated, they will inherit your wealth, and they will raise your children with you. It's such a risk to get married, I wonder why I ever took the chance with a person that I was never 100% sure about. I didn't think (or ignored the possibility) that my ex would be the person who would try to isolate and incapacitate me, make me destitute, and waste my fertile years.

The narrative that I hear from society is that I'm "too old" to ever find love again... unless it's with a balding man with bad habits and 3.5 kids with an angry ex-wife. Or I'm "too old" to be attractive (because I must try to look 25). Or that because of my "age", I must be financially secure, having spent my 30s having a fabulous career and raised children, so now I have all this "free time" to swan around in feather boas. But this is all bullshit. Imagine being imprisoned for most of your 20s and 30s only to escape and be told that there's no place outside of jail that wants you there... as if there's no place that isn't a jail. That is what the "too old" narrative feels like.

I may be older... but I fought for this.

I am now a free woman.

crapeescape · 2021-09-09T00:54:03+00:00

That’s why I’m happy I never had a super long term relationship. I hate the thought of women giving up 10-20 years of their life trying to please a man while forgetting about their own happiness and life goals. Put yourself first always ladies, nobody else will!

TigreImpossibile · 2021-09-09T02:00:53+00:00

My grandma and several other older people, in fact, had told me that their 40's were the best years of their lives and when I was a teenager, I thought that statement was whackadoodle, but you know what? I can see why it might be true, haha.

I'm 42 and loving it!

Also, my 30's were pretty fantastic, I had a great lifestyle, great friends, incredible travel experiences. The two black marks were dating and men, I really despaired over my experiences there and the deaths of my beloved grandparents, who were in their 90's and were both in prolonged care in hospital in the final years of their lives.

I had some fun partying experiences in my 20's, but overall I was extremely insecure, I had bad relationships (again, shitty experiences with men) and very little money. I wouldn't go back to being 20 or even 25 for anything. And I legitimately think I look better now, if I have to choose. If it didn't cause me to dox myself, I'd prove it, haha.

Your life is nowhere near "over" because you didn't have certain experiences by the age of 25. Don't let marketers and more recently, the toxic manosphere gaslight you to believe their total horseshit.

ceilingkatwatchesus · 2021-09-09T02:18:20+00:00

Oh when I turned 30 a light bulb clicked in my head. Now 34 that light bulb has turned into the sun. I’m much more aware of who and what I want in my life. My goals, business, family, friends, cats, soy candles and some unsolved mysteries. Lol! My level of giving a fuck about someone else and how they feel about me is on level unbothered. It’s beautiful to grow into our womanhood however, society wants us to stifle that.

Determinedblonde · 2021-09-09T00:08:04+00:00

My teen years weren’t anything special. I plan to be more selfish and have more fun past the wall than I did standing before it. Maybe crushing the wall altogether and forgetting about the marriage and babies milestones is the way to enjoy life!

bubblegumsparkles · 2021-09-09T00:19:16+00:00

I love this post and I wholeheartedly agree. To those who faced trauma at any age; you are always worthy of love, healing and health. 🌺🌷💐🌼🌻🌹🌸 Cheers to a better future! 🥂

AbbyDean1985 · 2021-09-09T02:12:41+00:00

My life started at 33 when I got my divorce, shaved my head, started wearing wigs, got therapy and figured out who I was, without a man in my life. I love my 30s, and I'm looking forward to my 50s and 50s and beyond. It's a beautiful life when you make it your own.

FeliciaHatesMen · 2021-09-09T00:19:09+00:00

If you grew up in a chaotic home, you know that "your teens are your best" was baloney all along.

I'm an adult. I can have a drink. I can get laid. I go to bed when I want to. I drive. Teen years sucked

ivesynthed · 2021-09-09T02:14:28+00:00

Yes. This. Was thinking about this concept a lot during my solo trip to the mountains that I just got back from.

During my trip I was reading The Body Keeps the Score, and it’s really astounding how much trauma affects our overall lives and essentially all of our actions. If we are holding onto trauma then we don’t have room to hold anything else.

Only now in my mid-20s do I feel like I’m actually starting to live. This comes after a year of intense self reflection and confrontation. Before that, I was living life on autopilot.

It’s not entirely fair to compare ourselves to the successes of people who did not experience what we did. Some people get a leg up early in life, and that’s okay. So we need to be easy on ourselves and demolish these senseless timelines

Toodleshoney · 2021-09-09T02:53:39+00:00

I will say that moving to a city definitely helps with this. I'm 43 and I still go out regularly. One my best friends is a super gorgeous 52 year old and he goes out multiple times a week. Back in my college home town, I was considered a cougar at 26. This was even though I looked 15! It was wild. I'm so glad I moved away. All of my friends back home seem like they are living their lives as if they are 75 with one foot in the grave.

GDSBatch · 2021-09-09T01:57:19+00:00

My teen years were full of trauma, my 20's married to a LVM and pumping out babies, my 30's divorcing, going back to school and getting a career and raising those babies attached to another LVM, and now as it see 50 on the horizon, I'm FINALLY free of all LVM in my life, getting all the shit from those past decades dealt with and finally focusing on healing those traumas and moving forward to a better life for me.

My 50's will be Magnificent!

sofuckinggreat · 2021-09-09T02:08:00+00:00

We’re told to idolize those years because we have less money and confidence and it’s easier for shitbags to prey on us.

Nothing beats getting older and not giving a single fuck and gettin’ fuckin’ PAID.

Give me 33 over 19 any day of the week, except for maybe when it comes to back pain. But I can afford fancy massages now, so that’s fine too. 🤷🏻‍♀️

TheNightWitch · 2021-09-09T13:11:23+00:00

I am here to tell you all your 40s are so fun. Like, seriously fun. You have a bit of money, it’s likely you are settled in a career, and every mistake you made in your 20s is fixed or ancient history.

Men push the idea that women should feel awful about turning 40 because they know that women step in to some serious power in their lives in that decade, and if we feel powerful they can’t control us. But 40 is so freeing!

karabnp · 2021-09-09T02:24:13+00:00

Males aren’t solely after younger women for their youth, as much as they’re after them for their naivety and lack of knowledge/lack of boundaries.😏

You ~best believe~ many more males would be parking themselves in the homes of 30+ yr. old women to be “kept”, if more older women would allow them to bum about.😏🤣😭

Older women often put up with FAR less or no shit, because we’re wise to the game and know our worth.

And it really is never too late to turn your life around, and make it what you want to be.💕

East-Willingness513 · 2021-09-09T02:45:28+00:00

My teen years were filled with insecurity, eating disorders and naivety. My early 20’s were filled with toxic drug addicted men and manipulation. When I turned 25, I was healing from trauma, met the man of my dreams and now at 29 I’m at university and on track to get my dream job with a healthy and happy two year old son in a lovely house. I don’t take anyone’s shit and I genuinely love who I am. I’m SO excited to see what my 30’s have in store, hopefully another baby, some animals and more exciting times with my husband. Oh and I’m way hotter than I was when I was younger, and with modern beauty treatments I believe I can keep getting hotter so fuck your “wall” 🤣

FUBARfromLSA · 2021-09-09T16:06:41+00:00

Oh hon, I’m in my late 50’s and it’s never too late.

I have a better quality life now including with HVM boyfriends that I ever had in my 20’s.

This is nothing more than the patriarchy’s propaganda to try to keep you in line by marrying early and ending up barefoot and pregnant.

Set your goals, create a plan to achieve them and ignore societal expectations that aren’t in alignment with what you want.

misandryisnotreal · 2021-09-09T01:16:23+00:00

THIS. Most women have been so conditioned into putting everyone else’s needs first that it takes the time and space that we finally find in our twenties to unlearn all of the toxic bullshit.

To any teenagers or twenty-somethings who are reading this or lurking on the sub: you are a beautiful bundle of untapped potential, and don’t let social media, or your friends, or any of the shitty men you’re finding on dating apps EVER tell you otherwise. There is nothing more terrifying or intimidating than a young woman who lives for herself and is willing to put in the work to create her dream life, and LVM et al KNOW it.

fizztaa · 2021-09-09T01:46:05+00:00

I just turned 25 yesterday and honestly my childhood- early 20s (23) were terrible. I look better now than I ever did. Funny enough I met my friends today and one of them who happens to be a pick me (didn’t know she was and she’s 22 soon 23) told me that ‘leonardo dicaprio dumps his girlfriends when they hit 25 which I found to be a shady comment of hers… and then she proceeds to condescendingly ask me ‘so how does it feel to be 25 now?’ I replied with ‘well same as the other when I was 24’ . It’s funny isn’t it how these girls think they’ll remain young forever ? I mean why would you want a man to pick you based on your age ? And when you turn 25 you don’t think he will throw you away or cheat ? Stupid women. I’m very happy with my life now. I’ve overcome some serious trauma and will be starting a great university in two week. I’m getting into shape too :)

Endermiss · 2021-09-09T03:45:16+00:00

Say it with me, gals:

Your worth does not lie in your youthfulness, or your sexual availability.

Maude2010 · 2021-09-09T02:43:23+00:00

I was my happiest, hottest, richest and most content at 43.

VgraceD · 2021-09-09T02:33:43+00:00

Still coming to terms with this truth.

I (35f) promise my future self and children I will never hold myself or them to this dated narrative! I am one of the ones that had to heal from trauma in my 20s and have plans to go back to school in the spring and the best part is I’m majoring in Horticulture and NOT fashion merchandising and art which is what I was made to believe was my only option!

Young ladies you can do whatever you want and the timeline of your life is your own.

FDS-GFY · 2021-09-09T03:15:31+00:00

Mom said 20s<30s<40s<50s

So far she has been right!

meeroom16 · 2021-09-09T10:52:11+00:00

In my 40s and I have to say life just gets better- I have more money, freedom, friends, travel. My husband and I have hit a rocky patch but we’re working through it and we may or may not decide to stay married but we’re still best buddies. The only thing that sucks is you start to lose people more. Some of my friends have lost their parents and mine are starting to slow down. I started to really feel great about myself in my 30s. I wish I could go back and have the body I had in my 20s (which at the time I hated), sort of for looks but more for health, but I’d never trade in my 45plus brain!

JillyBean1973 · 2021-09-09T11:16:00+00:00

Thank you!!! <3 48 y/o woman here who is still healing from childhood & adult relationship trauma. There's still plenty of good years left!

codeering · 2021-09-09T12:03:24+00:00

This is why I never reveal my age to men. Nthey either despise you or see you as potential prey. What does my age have to do with anything? Beware of men who are constantly obsessed about your age

TheDoinksAreBack · 2021-09-09T01:40:54+00:00

Oh my god I needed to hear this

OnlyPaperListens · 2021-09-09T04:38:48+00:00

Never accept criticism from someone you wouldn't ask for advice.

snowwy28 · 2021-09-09T03:04:12+00:00

I never quite understood why the male population said we "hit the wall" at 30, or that we suddenly start losing our value once we approach our 30s. I'm just starting to figure myself out and actually enjoy myself and I'm 29...

I mean if it's too late at 30... Wtf do we do for the rest of our lives until we die at 90 or 100?!

shockingupdate · 2021-09-09T03:23:49+00:00

Early thirties now. I didn’t feel self-sufficient and whole until 29. Now that I’m happy with my trajectory in life, I can see men’s pleas to make me consider “ThE FuTuRe” for what they are — sad, lonely bleats into the void, imploring me to sacrifice MY future for their convenience, happiness, whims, etc. Why are they still whining for my attention if I supposedly “dried up” years ago???

Octopus_puppet · 2021-09-09T03:40:19+00:00

I had my daughter at age 45. I was unpartnered and terrified that I had waited too long. It took some effort, but I had my beautiful, healthy daughter one month before turning 46. Its *never* too late.

IwantyoualltoBEDAVE · 2021-09-09T05:22:55+00:00

I started learning piano aged 33. Completed a diploma in electronic music production aged 36. I’ve had several songs on local radio and life continues aged 38. It’s never too late. If you’re breathing you can do it.

ThrowRA_08t · 2021-09-09T01:17:43+00:00

35 and starting a new life now

mimiandthekeyboard · 2021-09-09T01:20:15+00:00

Thank you for this remind!!!

AffectionateStudio9 · 2021-09-09T01:43:35+00:00

I found out I have CPTSD this year, at 25. I feel like I haven’t started living yet.

smilodon91 · 2021-09-09T16:10:59+00:00

Life is over at 25 - WTF???!!! In the modern world, that is patently false. Life and real adult fun (eg. travel, sports, theatre, art, dining, etc.) require money, time, knowledge, and a certain degree of choice/freedom which is JUST STARTING at 25 for most people.

Teen years are for LEARNING.

Protoetype · 2021-09-09T03:48:50+00:00

In my teens I was a psycho. I was aggressive, domineering, impulsive and manipulative. I lacked fear and I controlled everyone in my social circle. My mood swings were stuff of legend. I had absolutely no authority figures and I did anything I pleased. I used men for absolutely anything of value they had to offer, whether this was vehicles, money or specialized info. The best thing I ever did for myself was never take drugs/drink and never have sex with anyone (why would I? It wouldn't benefit me any)

Around age 25 I started changing. I developed amazing self control and a deep sense of empathy. I began forming healthy relationships with other people, especially women. In my 30's now and it's the calmest I've ever been in life. I don't miss those years.

Love_life_bisou · 2021-09-09T07:44:15+00:00

How fun can you realistically have when you live on allowance from your parents?

Some even say that life begins at 30.

Thanks to many things, especially iata, relationship advice and fds (RED FLAG!!!), I am now finding my inner voice and becomming more assertive. When I was young, even up in my twenties, I was like a servant for others, If someone asked me a question I would answer and be "polite". I don't have any problems questioning why someone wants information about me today.

It's embarassing, but I always identified with the supporting characters in movies, and never the main character. Some even told me "be the main character in your life" and "stand up for yourself, or people will walk over you".

Teenage years is about studying, finding yourself and getting to know the world, and this continues well in to your twenties.

As a millenial I see how hard it was before, and how things are changing. Just that it's not cool to shame someone, when I grew up the teachers could bully children, and everyone shut up about it. Kids are supposed to be seen, not heard. Boys will be boys, be available for them.

I have hope for the future.

Hot_Procedure1648 · 2021-09-09T10:09:42+00:00

Actually your teen years should suck, you're constantly harassed by porn sick teenagers (They constantly get told it's okay it's just "hormones". But somehow it's still okay for someone's gross ass dad to still harass you too). You pretty much can't do ANYTHING without a legal guardian, you can't make your own money etc. You pretty much have to solider through the worst years of school, and are forced make important life choices way too damn early.

wallet_rinser · 2021-09-09T11:11:23+00:00

I cannot begin to tell you how much hope this gives me

fingernmuzzle · 2021-09-09T13:51:18+00:00

Omg my 40s??? Easily the absolute best so far!!!! 😃🥳😘👸🏼☄️😎👏

BlackThummb · 2021-09-09T08:55:45+00:00

I’ve never felt more seen in a post. It always felt so supremely unfair that I struggled with so many traumas as a teenager, and as a result suffered through a lot of severe depression and anxiety all through high school and most of my 20s.

It’s always been one of my biggest regrets in life that I “wasted my young years” being a sad, neurotic mess, and letting so much of life pass me by. Am I not allowed to do the things I always wanted to when I was young, because now it’s not age appropriate? Do I have to just miss out on a lot of experiences that most people have?

A few years ago, I would have been very depressed, and say “yes”. Everyone around me is getting settled, making huge strides in their career, getting married, buying a house, having children….and I feel like I’m just starting my adult life now in my late 20s.

I’m in a lot more of a happy and functional place these days, and FDS has helped me along the way to say “fuck it.” I’m going to go to all the fun concerts I want to, I’m going to go to the dance clubs and bars on the weekend, I’m going to backpack across the world and stay in shitty hostels, I’m going to prioritize hanging out and having fun with friends, go volunteer abroad like I always dreamed. I’m going to live the young carefree life I always wanted, and everyone else’s opinions be damned.

Everyone says life is short. They’re wrong. It only feels short, when we live the same day over and over again. Life is long, especially when you enrich it with new experiences, and never stop learning and being open. So fuck the timeline everyone puts us on. Fuck the pressure to be married and have your whole life set up before the age of 30. Men SURE AS HELL don’t have the same short timeline women do. So go live your life, and don’t let anyone tell you your dreams are selfish.

Turbulent_Trifle · 2021-09-09T05:15:35+00:00

I thought life would be over at 25 when I was 18. That was further compounded by the fact that I stumbled across incel forums which traumatized me.

Now that i'm 25, I look better than I did at 18. I live better than I was living at 18. I'm more confident, less naive, and have more money to pick and choose life experiences.

Glad to see this sub fighting against the toxicity.

Anna_Kissed · 2021-09-09T01:58:49+00:00

42 and it still hadn't started until just now.

I didn't choose the abuse I just chose to put in the work healing from it and not doing everything I could not to pass it on

Sorry that enormous accomplishment took so long.

hedwighedgehog99 · 2021-09-09T02:01:18+00:00

Every decade I know myself better, and take less bs from others. The last ten years have been pruning away severely toxic relationships and curating my awesome friends. I wish my 30s could have had the peace of mind I have now. FDS and books recommended on this site has helped me reframe a lot of nonsense from the past.

cml678701 · 2021-09-09T00:17:46+00:00

I needed to hear this. I have gotten into the trap, with pandemic isolation, of thinking I am just too traumatized by my twenties, and am damaged goods. I had a relationship with a narcissist, followed by being used by a string of LVM. I did eventually meet a good guy, though it didn’t work out. I’m 33 and feel as if my life is beginning, and there are great things on the horizon. In my darkest times, though, I feel like my bad relationships and traumatic experiences have ruined me past the point of repair.

Supracabre · 2021-09-09T04:51:53+00:00

This mindset when combined with a childfree lifestyle really broadens your potential for worldly experiences! I fully indulge my younger self with things that I wasn't able to experience when I was younger, especially when it comes to aesthetic choices.

Out here living my best life at 36. 💜

un8roken · 2021-09-09T05:31:18+00:00

Healed from trauma during my teens and early 20s and built my career and financial stability as from my mid 20s with very infrequent but significant pay rises. Not only do I not feel like it's 'over', my life feels better than its ever been in many ways.

Tldr: my life didn't finish at 25, thats pretty much when it started.

ConsistentTip6508 · 2021-09-09T08:14:30+00:00

Teen years were lame and boring for me. In my mid-20s I experienced started experiencing career growth (working in film and media) and now have great career goals and interesting friends (powerful and famous) in the industry.

Of course there will always be assholes who hate you, but it's not a big deal. The good thing about being an adult is that you don't have to interact with anyone whom you don't like.

NotSoSmartChick · 2021-09-09T12:56:31+00:00

Enjoy life when you can, no matter the age! I really had a great time ages 18-30. Then I married, had a child, and my husband developed serious health issues. Those years weren’t bad, but I was left feeling like things were on hold. My husband passed when I was just shy of 50, and now I’m back to living my best life, and I plan to ride this wave until I drop dead.

Livia_Drusila · 2021-09-09T16:37:40+00:00

I got serious about study/work, left my pickme habits, stopped using OLD/having random sex and became more confident just this year at 27. Mentally and socially speaking, I was still a child for most of my 20s, and spent ages 20-23 "dating" a much older scrote who almost derailed my life while I had constant panic attacks and insomnia. I would only go back IF I could go back with the knowledge and realizations I have today, so I could do things differently. Otherwise, hard pass.

thelynboi · 2021-09-09T04:56:34+00:00

I'm 25 and only now I feel like a woman - not a child. I love this feeling and can only roll my eyes at scrotes saying I'm 'old' now. I barely started being an adult!

CNhuman · 2021-09-09T05:27:27+00:00

I was reading another comment that mentioned "standing before the wall" before 25, and my immediate association was of being backed closer and closer to a wall, and escaping over it.

That's very much what it feels like to turn 25. An escape. Then you keep going further from the wall, and it continues to get better.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-09-09T05:49:49+00:00

Exactly! I'm fact, my trauma started in childhood and escalated through my teens and 20s. So according to the assholes that say that after 25 the fun is over, I would have been deprived of this fun from the very beginning.

Yeah, question everything!

Defiant_Error_ · 2021-09-09T09:03:36+00:00

I turn 26 next week and I'm buzzing.

I feel so confident, so more about myself then I ever have, it's amazing. I feel I get better and better each year both mentally and physically.

Had a Scrote try to explain to me how "we all lose our youth and beauty" after he saw how confident I am. I told him, maybe for you, you bald fat tw*t and he instantly blocked me. Feels amazing, don't let them drag you down with their receding hairlines. 😘😘

duhyouknowthevibes · 2021-09-09T01:52:00+00:00

To be honest I have never heard any normal person say or even think that 25 is old lmao

Risas1239 · 2021-09-09T04:01:06+00:00

My thirties is where I get to ride unicorn 🦄 inflatables in the pool with a margarita in hand! 🍹

s_slayer · 2021-09-09T05:03:47+00:00

47 and happier than ever and happened to find my HVM last year after sifting through several LVM. I was already in a good place on my own when I met him and he's never taken me for granted because he knows I'll be perfectly fine without him. But life's been really fun with him.

Ok_Geologist_5500 · 2021-09-09T00:40:47+00:00

I agree so hard. I had to heal from anorexia, get lots of therapy, knee surgery etc and I had to work right out of high school with no parents paying my bills or letting me live with them. So I graduated at 24 and life is really getting good here at 26. I sometimes look with envy at these beautiful 21 year old girls but I almost have a sisterly fondness, not envy. Like yeah sis I'm glad you have good parents or a good life, but in reality 26 and 21 are not that far away and I already have a higher income and a great car and none of the stress of my early twenties. I'm solid in my identity. Things could change, but you know I am no longer a raw exposed nerve. I'm stronger now and wiser and that makes me feel ten times better on a day to day basis. When I was in my late teens and early twenties I was obsessed with myself and what others thought of me.

My top advice is to pursue a career path (for now, you can always change) that provides the money and stability that you need to do your hobbies and events. It's not going to be fun to be a starving artist at 30 or a chaotic unstable job (hello, recession/COVID/any other market disruption). We don't need any more white women with marketing degrees. Sorry, that sounds harsh but I am glad I chose accounting rather than marketing because my land lady said you can always go into marketing or start your own business with an accounting degree. You can't go into accounting and it will be more confusing to start a side business with just a marketing degree.

My sister got a $150k psychology degree and works at the grocery store at age 30. Money isn't everything but I have a lot more security and respect for myself since I'm contributing to 401k, can afford a SAFE car, am not starving etc. Life is chaos, so I appreciate a "boring" day job. And you can always do art or whatever your creative hustle is on your spare time from your stable job. You can do both.

xfelugirlx · 2021-09-09T03:17:33+00:00

It’s never too late, we have the power and dedication to survive trough all these things, i’m 21 and i still think that i need a lot of learning and healing to do and i’m on it. Eveybody is different and it takes time to wake up and treat all these

HumanAdhesiveness360 · 2021-09-09T03:24:42+00:00

Holy hell, thank you

she_is_munchkins · 2021-09-09T09:21:39+00:00

I only really found myself at 29. I'm 31 now and still learning things about myself.

Life is even more fun than it was in my 20s. I actually have money to travel and try out cool things now. Also, because I know and love myself better I've been making more authentic friendships than I had in my teens and 20s.

I also think I'm overall higher value than I was then, and it shows in the way I carry myself. Due to this my milkshake still brings many boys to the yard, even though I don't look like my 20 YO self. I also have the resources to take better care of myself physically now than I did then, so I look like a fully formed meal now (much better than the snack I was back then 😁)

redsunruby · 2021-09-09T05:16:18+00:00

I'm 18 and this post gave me so much hope lol i thought i wasted all these years with little socializing and reading books and articles but now i understand these things have helped me heal from traumas and depression and finally i get to live from now on

lhcm_ · 2021-09-09T13:15:42+00:00

I've had more fun in the last six months (25/26) than I ever had before. It is never too late to live your life

LaTaina87 · 2021-09-09T16:12:09+00:00

I’m 34 and my life has never been better! I had a lot of childhood trauma, an eating disorder that started at 10, became a single teen mom at 17, post-partum depression, had to give up college to raise my daughter etc. And now I feel free! Single, have a great job, a yoga career, excellent health, positive mindset, I do, say and look how I want, and I literally have the most fun I’ve ever had! I’m soooo loookinf forward to my older years honestly, bc the older I care the less fucks I give about anything but being happy, fulfilled and living to the fullest my life!

PicoPicoMio · 2021-09-09T21:19:54+00:00

I’m in my late 20s and I don’t feel like I am in my final form yet. It takes time.

Gorilla_girl17 · 2021-09-09T00:49:13+00:00

Literally my 30s have been the best so far and I know it will just keep getting better. Problem is when my body won’t be able to keep up 😭 youth is wasted on the young

grasscastle999 · 2021-09-09T04:28:20+00:00

This makes me want to spit in the face of anyone who tells me this. Yuppp so much trauma when you are in HS and in your 20s, you don't even start living and men just fucking take advantage of it. Fuck them. I spit in their faces. I'm not even lying makes me want to take a bat to that person's face. You have no fucking clue shitlord. (╯‵□′)╯︵┻━┻

Icarusgurl · 2021-09-09T01:48:57+00:00

Couldn't agree more

vraimentaleatoire · 2021-09-09T01:45:50+00:00

Thanks for the edited version-- the original had me rolling my eyes (implying life starts and ends after your 20s)

fak_beauty_standards · 2021-09-09T08:24:56+00:00

My life started at 23 when I was finally making my own money.

BlueAima · 2021-09-09T05:54:29+00:00

Who said that? 25 is the year I only just started having fun. 30's are when I really found myself and started genuinely enjoying life. 36 now and yeah I've had to deal with harder shit in my 30's but I have the tools to deal, better support, and have a lot of fun. Too old for what exactly? Is this message your voice and feelings or others? What kind of people are saying this... Peers? Parents? Partners? Etc.

NoOrdinaryLifeXO · 2021-09-09T13:38:48+00:00

I love myself more the older I get. I am in my early 30's and I have never looked and felt better in my life.

VanessaViews · 2021-09-10T12:29:02+00:00

I'm happier healthier better looking and richer in my 30s than I was in my 20s.

dkwantsdk · 2021-09-12T22:46:52+00:00

I would go further and destroy any and all sexist, dichotomous thinking about your value and worthiness. Virgin vs whore, jezebel vs virtuous, victim vs empowered, maiden vs maid, the list goes on. This thinking strips us of our humanity, agency, and complexity, pits us against each other and our selves, and distracts us into chasing impossible goal posts (for the honor of having our humanity) rather than rejecting patriarchy out right.

When it comes to your age, there is no beginning or end or too late. You are exactly where you need to be right now.

shaddupsevenup · 2021-09-09T06:18:17+00:00

My life started getting good at age 30. It’s just gotten better and better as I’ve healed emotionally from the trauma of my youth. This world is so hard on young women. I don’t take shit from anyone now and I’m at an age where I’m invisible to most men and it is soooooo nice.

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