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| 1 | Some Website Forum Upgrades Happened! .... Is It Better now?Seriously. Reddit needs more women. Whether we like it or not it's a social media platform that does have a serious impact on the culture. The reason "men's rights" type of stuff has been growing like wildfire the last few years (and bleeding out into the culture) is because men spend so much time online in spaces like reddit, radicalizing each other. Misogyny is growing and growing. The more time you spend online the more likely you are to be exposed to it and the more you're exposed to it the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/22 10:29 AM |
| 159 | How can I know if someone is truly nice to me?i believe that most women have the gift of having incredible intuition, but most of us throw it away instead of properly learning how to tap into it. we're all motherless when it comes to learning this stuff in our men-centered culture, so we make the mistake of dismissing it as being silly. and it's hard not to do that when people around you (mostly men) mock women's intuition as being woo and "crazy". whatever. the truth is that it's real. and they're probably A: afraid of how accurate it is a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Is anyone else getting reminded of their ex narc during the Heard Vs Depp trial?I don't get why women are down voting you but I guess it's as you said: people don't understand unless they've experienced it. or maybe they just want to side with amber in solidarity with women? I have that blind spot too, because my default is to side with women as well. But then i watched some of the trial and this is a unique case. Not because johnny Depp is the good guy in this (he's not 🤢) but because the physical abuse allegations that she made really do appear to be made up at this point… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 10:41 AM |
| 1 | Is anyone else getting reminded of their ex narc during the Heard Vs Depp trial?The trial isn't about whether or not johnny depp is a gross old man tho (but yep he is ⚖️ 🙃) or if he is a bad person in general. Who cares really, most men are (and we don't need trials to uncover what our eyes are seeing lol). But this isn't about that. it's about abuse allegations. Which is much more serious. She claims he physically beat her. Black eyes, broken nose, BEAT her. And he says he didn't. So far the evidence we've seen points to her making it all up. In which case, who cares about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 10:11 AM |
| 235 | Red Flag Of The Day: Grown Men Referring To Adult Women As ‘Girls’…..🤮I feel like they use "girl" to talk about attractive women. They'll use "lady," or "woman" and "female" when referring to either unattractive women or women that they hate. A lot of men LOVE girls (small, sweet, naive, easily impressed - ideally teenaged or maybe early college aged) and they dislike women (confident, independent, intuitive) so it makes sense that subconsciously they would default to that language. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 11:22 PM |
| 118 | Men's enthusiastic support of sex workers is the only unified pro-women effort from men I've ever witnessed in my lifeOh they DEFINITELY hate these women. They absolutely regard them as sub-class and are repulsed by them. But they LOVE and support the movement because it's their fantasy come to life. They love the idea of women willingly being reduced to sex objects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Feelings of loneliness is realSomething to consider: Loneliness that comes from within is an emotion and emotions are fleeting. The feeling of craving company and companionship is healthy and normal and human. Loneliness that comes from being around the wrong person on the other hand? That loneliness is chronic, debilitating and can make you sick. everyone is doomed to feel loneliness at some point whether you're in a relationship or not. (I can't tell you how many times I've felt lonely while laying right beside a man or lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/22 09:28 AM |
| 46 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.When my brother was in middle school and had BO he sprayed it around his room instead of cleaning. Not sure if the guy who made this thinks the little boy stink cover up method is a flex though... 🤔 so maybe he's just implying that his apartment is "clean enough" with just some febreeze? Like, without a pesky woman wanting it to be liveable-clean he is free at last? I honestly don't even know 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 08:01 PM |
| 26 | Taking “breaks” before holidays.I know that you're right (because it's CANT be a coincidence that so many breakups happen right before holidays) but I never put it together that it's men breaking up with their gf's just to avoid buying a gift, being nice or visiting her family or something. That seems so childish and ridiculous. And yet entirely too plausible. And then trying to get back together after the occasion is over??? 😂 So funny to me. On a serious note though, please listen and re read this post a thousand times until… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 07:04 PM |
| 225 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.The febreeze, 5 pound weights and processed food seems accurate tho 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:31 PM |
| 197 | Warning ⚠️ Some red-pill guys have started adopting FDS lingoWhat amuses me most about RP guys is that what they consider to be a "high value man" is literally the exact opposite of what a hvm is. Like... "high value men are always gonna go for the feeemales who are 20 yrs old, they're not gonna want you if you're older than 24" "what females don't understand is that we high value men don't care about your ambitions or education, we are happy with a girl that works at McDonald's as long as she puts out" "as long as you maintain your appearance during preg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 10:59 AM |
| 39 | Pickmes really need to shape up and get a clue 🤢I'm a FEMALE 👀 My bf uses porn to "take care of his NEEDS" 👀 I totally need porn too when "I have to take care of it myself" 👀 "I don't think it's fair to say that MEN have an addiction when they watch porn" 👀👀 Since when is it okay to body shame men?"👀👀👀 Pickmes adopt the language of their pupper masters but this "woman" is definitely sus | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 10:03 AM |
| 21 | Pickmes really need to shape up and get a clue 🤢For something they can't control!! 🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 09:48 AM |
| 50 | 🤮🤮🤮🤮don’t do this!!! Have some self respect. No thank you.But but but...it sounds it's his kink to make women cry and be sad! Props to him for communicating this 🥰 /s Poor woman 🙁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:24 PM |
| 15 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬I have 40 something chat requests and people keep linking this post too. But where's the lie? They think I'm making porn induced ED up? It's just a silly coincidence that young men are experiencing a phenomenon that men before the internet never suffered from? Some of them know I'm right, they're just pressed because I was supposed to sugar coat it. We forget to think of the sensitive lurkers here. 💔 But what I don't understand is why are all these men here anyway? Why are they doing this to the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 06:35 PM |
| 60 | Is it really worth trying to help PickMes?Sometimes it’s not worth it for your own personal mental health and it’s okay to step away. You can’t help people who don’t wanna be helped. But typically it IS worth it because helping to liberate women is a worthwhile cause and although you might think you haven’t been successful it’s entirely possible that you’ve planted a seed. When I was a pickMe in my teenage years some older women warned me about my bf at the time and about my own behavior and I dismissed them as bitter and jealous 🤡 but … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 12:17 PM |
| 22 | Harbouring resentment in future relationshipsMy advice is listen to women a little older. If you listen to women our age (you and I are about he same age) there is a lot of dread and fear mongering about dating and aging. Even though logically we of course know that our peers do not have the life experience or wisdom to back up these fears, it's still unavailable and therefore hard to dismiss. So don't be too hard on yourself for buying into it. The culture we live in heavily conditions us and it's hard to just girl boss your anxieties awa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:20 AM |
| 87 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphsI looked at his post history because someone in the comments recommended the ride. He had some posts on weed subs holding joints or something in his chubby little hands and his fingernails looked like those of someone gardening without gloves. That right there solved the mystery 😆. He also had/has a porn addiction, wants his ex back and is mad at tinder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:41 AM |
| 182 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬😂 seriously tho. I have never heard of such a thing outside of Reddit where it's evidently...🌟normal🌟 But omg it's SO far from normal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 08:57 PM |
| 352 | Cheating husband wants advice... My advice for his wife is "be less forgiving"Affair partners ALWAYS think that they have a unique special bond and that their cheating story is actually super duper sad because it's real love 🥺🥺🥺 Hes trying to avoid the inevitable ending to this story which is: his incredible wife will finally set herself free and go fully no contact. He will get an apartment alone and quickly get depressed. Next he'll get way into the gym and gym culture. he'll get ripped but...only his upper body (lol idk what the psychology of a lvm cheater is but for s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 12:11 PM |
| 93 | Men are threatened by EVERYTHING. Why??So embarrassingly fragile. No wonder so many men are insecure. I would be too if I were that weak inside 🙃 Reminds me of how non profit organizations for single mothers attract men who show up to whine about "where are the programs for single daaaaads"?? And women's shelters are seen as unfair because "what about the men"?. But they never remember the part where these organizations are set up, run and funded by women who saw the disproportionate need for women's aid and made it happen. And it's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:06 AM |
| 1069 | How are men so obsessed with sex and yet still SO BAD at it??They don't like sex. They like masterbation though. They masturbate with women's bodies and call it sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 12:47 AM |
| 4 | I had a dream about my ex boyfriend getting married…Hey this actually a really big deal!! ❤️ I had a similar experience and i remember being excited to share with people but their response was "it sounds like you're not over him" 🙄🙄 People don't always get it. But it's a marker of healing. A gift from deep within your soul. Waking up one day knowing that you're fully moving on is so freeing and empowering when you feel it. Getting over an ex can be a long process. You've clearly done a lot of work and have come a long way. This is something to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 12:47 AM |
| 54 | What do members of FDS think of the idea of love at first sight?It's objectification. I saw some comments calling it lust. That's way too generous. The truth is way worse. When men see a woman from across the room and fall in "love" with her, it means she is an object to collect. That's all. The ego protects us from seeing incredibly hurtful truths for what they are, so we twist things like this into being something romantic. It's really hard for us to accept that there are men who see us this way. As sex toys. We're desperate to be flattered instead of insu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 12:30 AM |
| 342 | I can’t stop thinking about this question I saw this question on TikTokYep it's a lot of power. Men deeply covet that, even though they cannot handle it. Power is incredibly corruptive to men. Nature gives power to women. Men steal it. We all suffer. There's another layer of inherent power within the fact that mother's bond with their babies very deeply too. That deep, lifelong formation of loyalty and alliances is chemically produced like magic so it's not within anyone's control. Again men see that power and want to interrupt it and funnel it to themselves. So we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 11:45 AM |
| 105 | Low Energy Men - How men steal women's energyThis whole post was great, but wow the greedy touch part: "a low energy man will touch women with the intent to gratify and energize himself, and we can feel it" that's sadly something I needed to learn about, so thank you articulating it. 🖤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 11:21 AM |
| 94 | The idea that men peak in their 30s is a male fantasyThey don’t peak physically (obviously) but LV men DO acquire power (to get women) as they age. As they get older and have enough life experiences they finally start to understand women. They know what women like to hear, how we like to be treated, etc. Do they use this knowledge and wisdom to foster powerful relationships with women? Nope. They use this information to manipulate. They fake sincerity. They say the right things and do the right things. And that’s it. It works. The only catch is th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 12:40 AM |
| 46 | Men's ability to make everything about themselves is astounding but also the fact that the same features celebrated on men are shamed on women. Men were telling her she SHOULD get a nose job but saying her hypothetical son is a God. 😐Beauty is subjective as far as features go, but the truth is that health and happiness will always be the most beautiful. That isn't a trend. That'll always be true, and remains true across all cultures. Beauty TRENDS on the other hand change wildly. And the beauty standard for women is just... conformity. Being submissive to the powers that be. It makes men feel powerful when women scramble to appease them, and it gives pickmes dopamine rushes to be validated at conforming properly. They get un… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 02:20 PM |
| 152 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.I'm in my late 20s and it's an interesting time because i have friends ranging from 25 to 40 something. So I have a window into both brand new happy marriages as well as failing marriages that are just beginning to crumble. And then obviously I am exposed to tons of miserable marriages as well (usually older couples though, like past their 40s). To me it seems like this: women love being married in their 20s and early 30s. Sincerely. They really push it on you during those years but it's not bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 10:21 AM |
| 83 | Age Gap Gross OutYep ive been in similar situations and I've known friends who have gone through it too. Given a choice between a decent looking man our own age and an extremely hot but inappropriately young guy, most women will choose the man their own age. But the reverse is true for men. They would pass up a beautiful, more attractive older woman for a chance with a homelier young one. When they say they like youth they're not kidding, they really find it attractive. And if you start to look you'll notice tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 08:28 PM |
| 79 | As funny as this sounds it's really hard to find men who actually like sexWhen I was young I was one of these pickmes 😳 I can see how it would make no sense and I don't even know how to explain why I did it. I guess maybe I liked when it was over because I liked the validation I got from it??? Not even sure. But when I got older I realized that I hated it before AND after. At that point (when i no longer felt any sort of validation from it) I actually thought I was asexual (because I couldn't relate to women who enjoyed sex). Despite this I still didn't want to drop t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 04:16 PM |
| 83 | As funny as this sounds it's really hard to find men who actually like sexThis was my EXACT experience too 🤦🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 03:12 PM |
| 47 | Was wondering if any FDS ladies on here have lost interest in dating after finding a job with a healthy environment and/ making more money?This might be controversial but i actually think most women eventually reach this headspace. The only difference between you and them is that you figured it out early while it takes most of us an entire lifetime. Because of social conditioning it seems like most women don't snap out of it until they're like 50+. I'm in my late 20s and I'm struggling with letting go (of limerence). But I've come to learn that happiness is a fleeting emotion, (and if men are involved you have to sacrifice a lot ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 01:31 PM |
| 10 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERNo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 12:53 PM |
| 78 | Criticism & MenHistorically it’s always been dangerous for women to criticize men. Always. So, for forever, women have coddled men to avert danger. If a criticism HAS to be made, a woman can’t just tell a man this information and expect a neutral reaction. She has to deliver the news gently otherwise she’ll be perceived as aggressive or argumentative. Even if she phrases her critique warmly she’ll still be seen as nagging or nit picking. All this is because, like i mentioned, generations of men have been handl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 05:17 PM |
| 440 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭Lol the sex robots are coming 🤖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 08:25 PM |
| 60 | Guy dumps his GF over not enthusiastically having oral and not doing anal, and gets hailed as an upstanding guy for doing this in the commentsLmao @ the comment praising him as though he's some kind of patron saint of anal. 🤣😂 She's hurting now and I get that she's too embarrassed by association to tell her family the reason for the break up, but she'll look back at this one day and laugh. No matter what reddit tells you, foundations of sustainable relationships are not built on performative blow jobs and anal kinks and high value men do not discard women their own age in pursuit of younger sex dolls (and there is no such thing as a h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 07:29 PM |
| 293 | Another FDS hate post on the frontpage of LV males frothing at the mouthAre you talking about the thing where they compare fds to scientology, incels and cults? They do this pretty often. They are so dramatic 😂 😂 Their main point is always that we use "lingo" (like HV, LV, pickme) and I guess that's just sooooo spooky and cultish to them (and something totally unique to this scary sub 🥺) But do they not see the irony that they're doing the exact same thing? By their own logic anti-fds redditors are in a cult too, since they use identical lingo (some terms you'll hea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 06:59 PM |
| 177 | Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away?Oh ew, men who buy women disgust me. Imo he doesn't really quite count though because to me escorts still kind of fit as back up women (since his fantasies about escorts are probably how be found his motivation). Side note but i swear, sometimes men go to therapy (female therapist only) not in a genuine effort to get help but to get validation lol. Like they aren't even honest with these therapists, they just omit enough details to manipulate them into giving them undeserved head pats. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 06:31 PM |
| 90 | Check your male relatives; they might not support you in your time of needMen are loyal to each other. It's the ONE thing men have that I'm jealous of. It's the foundation of their power. Women still lack solidarity as a collective and it puts us at a constant disadvantage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 06:20 PM |
| 54 | Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away?Yep 🥲 I didn't know how to phrase it but I meant it in a like....loooow bar, cautiously optimistic kind of way 😆. You'd have to definitely read between the lines, use some intuition and pay close attention to what he's saying etc. This is all hypothetical for me personally because I've literally never met a man who has done this 🙃. Ever. They all either got broken up with or left to be with their "best friend". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 06:08 PM |
| 142 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?Some topics I noticed that are NOT allowed: not finding sex work empowering, questioning "sex positivity", anything perceived as "kink shaming", anything to do with porn being bad for women as a human rights issue (criticizing porn is allowed if it's about how it hurts relationships, causes insecurities, causes ED in men, causes depression, etc) but speaking about trauma, torture and exploitation of sex workers is a big no no. Also linking to this sub will get your comment deleted at the very le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 02:44 PM |
| 5 | AITA cringe age-gap but the comments are telling her to wake up, dump him, grow upI feel like I didn't articulate it well either 🙃 there's just something REALLY OFF about it, even though it's hard to pin down the psychology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 02:27 PM |
| 23 | Scrotes have no idea what they're doing when they shame us as "female incels"Witches, spinsters, crazy cat ladies, toxic feminists, female incels...Women who don't submit to men have always been given spooky labels 🙃. The act of choosing liberation and independence means you're not being "feminine" anymore in the eyes of men. Regardless of what you look like or feel like or define femininity to be yourself, men see it differently. "Feminine" to them boils down to: craving male validation, degrading yourself, being submissive to men and sacrificing yourself for mens pleas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 12:36 PM |
| – | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?A lot of them get deleted by the mods! I've noticed the same thing (that there are lots of good posts) but eventually, when they start getting big they disappear. I only see the good ones when I'm logged in because they don't often make it to the front page. More have been sneaking by lately though, like this one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 10:33 AM |
| – | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?Over Christmas I stayed at my friend's house and she had wedding pictures from her little brothers wedding day. I missed the wedding in person so I was excited to see the pictures. Eh. I wish I didn't even look. It just made me sad. The bride was SO happy. The joy on her face was absolutely beautiful. You could feel her happiness just looking at her. The groom? Fake plastered smile. Disinterested expressions. Every picture. So many pictures were of them kissing or walking away, probably because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 10:21 AM |
| 20 | As I was reading this... I was thinking "He must be significantly older than her." But she handled it perfectly. 💅 👑Sometimes compliments are insults 😆. When I notice that older men are "complimenting" me a lot I literally switch up my look (chop my hair off, reassess my wardrobe). For one thing, men have bad taste when it comes to aesthetics. But mostly, the implication that I'm approachable and that I'd entertain their interest is insulting, idk how to explain it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/21 12:29 PM |
| 31 | As I was reading this... I was thinking "He must be significantly older than her." But she handled it perfectly. 💅 👑I noticed that when older men cheat on their wives and the affair partner is much younger (by ten plus years) it's almost always a case where the wife is much more objectively beautiful (nice bone structure, body type, etc) and the affair partner is not particularly beautiful or pretty in comparison. In fact I can't actually even think of one instance (outside of movies lol) where the young affair partner is prettier than the wife. theyre usually just kind of ...a younger (but less pretty, kinda… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/21 12:22 PM |
| 10 | AITA cringe age-gap but the comments are telling her to wake up, dump him, grow upI read it that way too, but I don't like the idea of equating short with child though. It really weirds me out!! Especially when it's short women themselves who are implying it. I feel like it's from age play kink 🤢 and/or their LV partners triangulating or from pick me culture or a combination of all. It's just...a weird thing to say and think about 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 10:36 PM |
| 30 | Do older ( 40+ ) HVM exist? And how do I find them?Of course!!!!!!!! Think if it this way: you exist 🤷🏼♀️ so why wouldn't a male counterpart exist to match you? It sounds like you have hesitation about divorced men? But imo divorce has a really silly stigma that shouldn't even exist. The divorce rate is high. And there are all kinds of reasons for divorce. HVM may have gotten married young and they or their spouse changed drastically over the years. Or maybe their spouse became an addict. Or was abusive. Or cheated. (LVW exist in droves). Or ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 10:28 PM |
| 88 | Saw this on Twitter and it felt discussable/appropriate to share hereAnd to add to the mentoring thing - a lot of older women have severe internalized misogyny and suck as mentors, so it's not like we can just lean on older women either. Many of them have been support beams for men their whole lives and are clueless when it comes to being proper role models. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 08:21 PM |
| 72 | Saw this on Twitter and it felt discussable/appropriate to share hereFrom what I've seen of taylor swift she seems particularly smart. So if I had to guess I'd say that even at a young age she outwitted him in the same way a woman his own age would. Which he probably wasn't expecting or wanting and it very likely emasculated him lol. So yep I'm pretty sure she just wasn't the "right type of young" (love that wording btw). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 08:16 PM |
| 26 | Don't fall for the "I was planning to/going to do xyz...for Christmas"Oooh posts like this (that challenge complacently) is why I love this sub. I personally needed this part in particular: "I really see this as a form of future faking". I've dismissed this behavior so many times as like....aw it's the thought that counts. But ugh. No. You're right. It IS a form of future faking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 07:19 PM |
| 52 | AITA cringe age-gap but the comments are telling her to wake up, dump him, grow upYep, pickmes come in all shapes and sizes so I definitely didn't mean to imply it's only short ones that do this game. I know tall women who do the "I look like a model so short girls are jealous" thing 🙄🙄🙄🙄 lol. It's so cringe. They all operate from the same pickme playbook, I swear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 07:01 PM |
| 71 | AITA cringe age-gap but the comments are telling her to wake up, dump him, grow up😂 nooo I'm sorry but that's soooooo ridiculous. By that logic a woman who's tall would have a "valid fear" of short women shanking them or biting their legs or something. Just because she's tall doesn't mean she's stronger or could beat her up. Claiming tall women are scary is misogynistic and offensive honestly. Her quote is "I guess she didn't expect me to be short or look the way I did? From the face, she gave me I knew this was gonna be interesting". That's not fear. Thats pick me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:54 PM |
| 134 | Saw this on Twitter and it felt discussable/appropriate to share hereI used to genuinely believe that men were stupid, that they just couldn't see what we see because they lack empathy and emotional intelligence. But I'm learning that...they know. They have known all along. They just play dumb. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:00 PM |
| 185 | AITA cringe age-gap but the comments are telling her to wake up, dump him, grow upOk the way she brought up the height thing is...😬...idk. I'm not quite as tall as the daughter but I'm tall enough where I've learned that there's a very specific type of pickme who have convinced themselves that we (average height and taller women) disapprove of them because they are small. They have this idea in their heads that we're secretly comparing them to children and that we're jealous of how tiny they are. It's a reaaalllllllly weird shared fantasy. And if you trace it back it almost a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 05:56 PM |
| 38 | Can we hear your LVM break up stories?The actual break up moment is a boring story and the events leading up to it is just the classic tale as old as time story of him cheating and gaslighting (and me unraveling his story). But what’s interesting is that now (years later) he’s utterly romanticized me and regards me as the lost love of his life (even though I’m an actual stranger to him now lol). I would feel bad for his wife but I’m suspicious that she was the ‘other woman’ when he and I were together so 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:07 PM |
| 35 | Can we hear your LVM break up stories?Lol, same. Almost identical wording too, but with tears in his porn sick eyes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 09:41 PM |
| 15 | It’s just me or you also find man cave a bull$hit ?My dad has a “man cave” 🙄. Actually tbh when I lived at my parents my siblings and I were so grateful for it. And my mom probably doubly so. It was necessary for our peace. Hes the stereotypical grumpy old man and he creates so much tension whenever he’s around😬😬😬 i suspect a lot of man caves were made my wives who needed to protect their mental health. It’s reallly hard being around grumpy men. They drain your energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 09:30 PM |
| 179 | RANT: aDvEnTuRoUs guysOoooh I can translate this one!!!! When I was dating I fell for this, but for those who don’t know yet: What they mean by “adventurous spirit” is “A girl who will do anal” 😂. it’s a little similar to the guys who say “fitness” is important to them (and yet when you meet them they look like dough and have to catch their breath mid sentence just from speaking). In the same way they use “fitness” to weed out fat women, they use “adventurous” to weed out the women who don’t want shitty sex (by shitt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 05:50 PM |
| 164 | What is it with men and being greedy and wanting open relationships?EVERY SINGLE TIME I've known open relationship couples the man is UGLY ugly. Like big big ugly. And the woman is gorgeous. I think it has something to do with him feeling inferior beside her and wanting to prove that he's her equal (attractiveness-wise)and/or could do better. I wish I could save all these people the trouble and just tell them :you ARE inferior, you ARE ugly and everyone feels bad for your wife/girlfriend and you CANT do better. But they insist on learning the hard way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 12:02 PM |
| 149 | Does anyone feel there’s increased pressure today to be a “cool girl” about trying the craziest stuff? I feel as if men today just get off on degrading women.Kinky girl is the new 'cool girl'. I swear Jennifer Lawrence ended the 'cool girl' era. When she got mocked for doing the act publicly, people caught on that all the hyper chill, pizza and beer binging size 2s in their lives were acting too. That quote from gone girl had a face, a public example. It really made it click for everyone. Cool girls got called out and had to drop the act overnight. I was one of them. 😬 I didn't even realize I was doing it until I saw Jennifer Lawrence being called ou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 11:51 AM |
| 25 | Was anyone else CONVINCED they were asexual?From what I understand true asexuality is thought to be somewhat rare and has an equal chance of including males as it does females. So...it's either a huge coincidence that I've known so many asexual people irl (and they have all been women) 🙄 or it's....SUSPICIOUS lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 02:00 AM |
| 231 | Was anyone else CONVINCED they were asexual?Omg I honestly suspect that a lot of the behavior (like being unhygienic, being gropey, etc) is intentional sabotage. I think they deep down WANT to be rejected because they're self centered and emotionally immature. When a monogamous relationship loses spark (which is normal) both parties have to have the emotional iq to readjust and work on the relationship. It's difficult but VERY doable. But these "deadbedroom" pity partiers are incapable of this. So instead they shift all the blame onto the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 12:43 AM |
| 102 | Was anyone else CONVINCED they were asexual?😂 when I accepted that I was "asexual" I was fine with it, and actually kind of proud in a way lol. I felt like the silver lining was so beautiful - that I didn't have to bother with men at all. 😍🥳🥳 I ended up falling hard for a few men since then which is when I discovered I was mistaken. But even with my currently good sex life I still think sex is overrated. Or at least, not worth the tradeoff of tolerating a mediocre man. I could live without it. I suspect that most women would be just fine … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 12:21 AM |
| 164 | Was anyone else CONVINCED they were asexual?Not finding sex jokes funny or having my mind in the gutter was another indicator of my "asexuality" too. Sometimes I see people online talking about their "low libidos" (or their partner's) and I wonder how many of these people are just going through what we went through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 12:10 AM |
| 128 | What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?He needed me to acknowledge his "outfits" that he put together. It started because I gave him genuine compliments when he looked nice. But eventually he started rolling in wearing jorts and an enormous t-shirt every day and expected me to compliment his choices. If I didn't say anything he'd passive aggressively pace around trying to get in my view until I made some kind of comment. It was a struggle to come up with something to say but I always tried, even when he swam into view looking like he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 01:08 AM |
| 48 | single womeni am currently soul searching (contemplating breaking up with a bf of two-ish years). i don't want to put too much info online here, but what i liked about myself before my relationship can be boiled down to: independence, freedom, and the ability to spread my love and attention around more freely. i sacrifice a lot of myself in relationships. even good relationships. i enjoy solitude and i miss my own company | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 06:32 PM |
| 700 | Woman sees tornado and frantically moves her kids to safety. Husband questions her sanity, slights her for “scaring the kids,” and foolishly goes outside.Now that my friends are having babies I see this play out irl so often. Usually it's like: a mom is handling some situation with the kids and needs dad to help so she gives him instructions. And instead of just following her lead and matching her competency the dad will be like "okay calm down, just relax jeez haha" 😎 and do that stupid cool relaxed guy act. They act as though their wives are neurotic or high strung or something. BUT THEN whenever something happens to inconvenience HIM, (like if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 12:09 AM |
| 109 | Inspired by the Anne Boleyn post, what other women in history were done dirty by men?This one makes my blood boil. There are entire college courses and books written to “debate” her involvement in his work. But they all know. They KNOW she was a huge contributor to “his” work, they’re spending all this energy trying to debunk her clear involvement to supposedly protect his legacy but it’s obvious. She was involved. The world would be so different if we wouldn’t have imprisoned women into motherhood and burried their legacies under their husbands. She is one that drives me nuts b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:47 PM |
| 34 | Inspired by the Anne Boleyn post, what other women in history were done dirty by men?Yeah it’s really well documented and absolutely awful. The combination of propaganda mixed with her nickname spiraled into her having this legacy as a crazed blood thirsty power hungry maniac. In reality she was ill and had a horrific life. :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:39 PM |
| 68 | Inspired by the Anne Boleyn post, what other women in history were done dirty by men?Also part of the reason her nickname blew up is because it was a joke to people at the time. She had severe endometriosis and it’s documented that her periods were incredibly bloody and painful from the time she was a preteen. She had special blood letting procedures frequently because that was their version of healthcare and she had a special diet to adhere to so that she wouldn’t bleed so much and be in so much pain (it didn’t work). But she was basically in misery her entire life from debilit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:29 PM |
| 73 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?Ok I just did a dive into it and it’s such a strange sub. most of the comments and posts are encouraging each other to cheat, basically justifying it and validating each other. Like one right now is saying she has sex 3 times a week but it’s too vanilla and she loves her husband, they have a bunch of kids but she feels unloved and unattractive but she doesn’t want to divorce him. She responded to one of the many comments suggesting she get into an open relationship or find an “AP” (“affair partn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 04:06 PM |
| 11 | This is considered a success? Guy never initiates giving oral sex, only wants to receive, then presses his junk against her mouth, she needs to keep asking for him to go down on her and he laughs at her and calls her demanding WTFladies! these guys aren't douchebags, they're just super stupid. 😍 /s i hate this assumption that men are stupid and don't know better. "they just don't know what ladies want". bullshit. sure they don't know what YOU specifically like, because each woman is different, but they're fully aware that sticking their dick in your mouth without communicating with you, finishing, and then moving on without even attempting to get you off is not what you want. they are not that stupid omg. they just don't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:58 PM |
| 74 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?Love bombing!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 09:40 PM |
| 72 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.It's such a compliment ❤️ Reacting in fear and basically labeling us witches is always an indication of women's progress. Clearly fds is a slice of feminism that is actually making a dent. And that is so cool! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:03 PM |
| 48 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.😆😂 for real why are they so dramatic lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:50 PM |
| 19 | Sexual issues in a HV relationshipHealing from trauma cant really be rushed, so therapy + time is really the best path forward. In the meantime I would suggest meditation. You can search for things like tantric meditation and/or sexual healing meditation. Ideally try to commit to it for a few weeks, even if you feel silly doing it, because sometimes it takes a bit of time for it to click. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:25 AM |
| 8 | Anyone Else Tired Of Sexism In The Gym/Fitness Culture?I strongly relate. I do my own thing, but I do want to learn more about fitness. I just hate the ASS ASS ASS part of gym culture so much. It's gotten so old. Also, I'm happy with my body type, but I have a naturally thin frame. I'd like to fill out and strengthen my body more, but since i'm not at all interested in developing a huge ass there really is nothing out there for me (it feels like). When a huge booty is low on your priority list there are not that many fitness accounts to choose from.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:09 AM |
| 122 | "women's value is looks, men's value is resources"It's all they have. And it's slipping away. More and more women are waking up and finding men's validation unappealing. We're social creatures so we do crave validation, but we're collectively learning a more healthy balance of internal vs external. And when we do seek it externally we value the praise of other women and quality men. The LVM are being left behind | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 10:12 PM |
| 150 | "women's value is looks, men's value is resources"They are all wealthy in ✨fantasy✨ resources. They really convinced each other that they will collect these magical resources 🌈 once they age into their "prime" 😬😬😬🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 10:06 PM |
| 55 | The Media Hates Women: TV Title EditionThe use of "girl" isn't always irritating, like when it's self aware or tongue in cheek (mean girls for example, or golden girls) But I hate how common it is in titles where it doesn't have a purpose like: "2 broke girls". 🙄 Ugh "Gossip girl" is another one. I've never seen it so maybe it has a meaning, but by title alone I hate it. I'll also add "Gilmore girls" because from what I understand (without having watched it) it's about an adult mother and daughter, so the term 'girl' is obnoxious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 12:23 PM |
| 42 | Think twice before you get into a long distance relationshipI have another con to add. I dated a musician who toured most of the year. People always commented about how we seemed so in love and they couldn't believe how long we'd been together. Lol. We WERE super happy and in love. But it's because we didn't even know each other. Not really. Not in the way couples with similar timelines knew each other. So what happened is when we moved in together it felt weird. We felt uncomfortable but tried to downplay it. I got depressed. We broke up later for diffe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Thanksgiving blues..💔 the older I get the more I hear similar stories like this from friends of mine. The root of the problem has a common denominator and it is aging parents. A lot of parents have outdated ideas and unless they've made the effort to adapt to the changing culture they're just SO out of touch. But they still deeply believe that they're right and that they know what's best for you. So this IS their way of loving you. The love part doesn't translate. At all. But unless your mom is a narc or something … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 12:17 PM |
| 205 | This is it. I've found the neg to end all negs.I think his entire point was a roundabout sneaky way of saying that I don't fit the beauty norm because I don't have a big butt, and he wanted me to appreciate the charity work he was willing to do for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 04:33 PM |
| 143 | This is it. I've found the neg to end all negs.Right? These men are so charitable to look past our disgusting faults like tear ducts and height. It's funny you mention gay men btw because he also told me that tall+thin was only a popular body type because gay men ran the modeling industry back then and liked the "androgenous" look of those women 🙄 I was always proud of that as being the most preposterous neg I'd ever heard until I got to read yours this morning 🥲 and some of these other ones in the comments. Idk if you saw the big belly butt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 04:19 PM |
| 597 | This is it. I've found the neg to end all negs.A man once "complimented" me by saying that my "victoria secret body" would have been hot in 2008 but it's not anymore. He so kindly reassured my by saying HE still finds it attractive, it's just that other men don't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 03:22 PM |
| 4 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.Get a grip. I say that with love. First thing you need to do is stop with the pity party. Life is hard. For a lot of people. Not just you. Going "woe is me, I'll never be loved again" is entitlement talking. You sound co dependent, fearful of solitude and incapable of independence. Which means you are currently at a low level. That's not an attack. We've pretty much all spent time on that level. It's not a good place to be. You need to do better. Deep down you know this, which is why you're post… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:28 PM |
| 92 | From the recent Keanu Reeves feature in Esquire. Men of value are thoughtful and generous. Be like Keanu.😭❤️. We don't know him obviously but from everything I've seen about Keanu he seems sincere. High value men are guided by authenticity, so they don't follow any kind of script. It creeps me out and gives me red flags when a guy is PERFECT, like charming and attentive in all the right ways. They can fake being hv by just following the script (saying the right things, making the right moves). So it's a green flag when their actions are genuine like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 11:54 AM |
| 112 | Men don’t have sexual needsOmg this is the first I've heard this but I totally agree. Women like actual sex (the intimate connection, sensual pleasure of bodies working together). Men just like masterbation, but call it sex. They use your body to masturbate. And they want you to perform so that they have something to watch/listen to, in the same way they like to watch porn while they jerk off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 11:38 AM |
| 10 | disillusionment is so painfulPlatonic female relationships arent nearly as risky as romantic relationships because hormones and sex are such huge factors (so you probably won't mindlessly surrender your entire self to a friend in the same way that you do with a sexual partner). But the part that's fantasy is the idea that someone - male or female - will be there forever no matter what. It's a lovely thought. But it's foolish. Even with the best intentions people change, life happens. That doesn't mean that you can't have li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 11:30 AM |
| 451 | Pick me gf and pornsick bf vibesI had an ex who watched porn of a particular body type (not going to say which one bc it doesn't matter). it was the exact opposite of my body type. So I got upset and told him it upset me and be explained that he prefers my body type in real life and considers it the most beautiful, but he doesn't respect women with this particular porn search body type. He so graciously explained "If I respect the woman I can't get off to her" Should've broke up with him over that dreadful insight 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 10:33 PM |
| 15 | disillusionment is so painfulExactly! It's well worth the suffering imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 10:23 PM |
| 86 | Tropes I’m tired ofA married man pining for an old flame, but it's romantic tho because she was the true "love of his life" and he lost her. 😭 She is so goals 🙄🙄🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 07:11 PM |
| 18 | Famous HMV?Brenden Fraser's character from the mummy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 11:56 AM |
| 63 | "Being economically dependent on a man leaves you in a vulnerable position." - This is what the handbook looks like IRL. being tossed out like a rotten piece of meat while he goes out to groom someone your daughter's age.Young happily married women (in their 20s, 30s, early 40s) swear up and down that marriage is hard but wonderful, that they made the right choice and that their man isn't going to pull the rug out from under them the way other men do. But older women scare me. They pretty much ALL say that that was them once too. And there's nothing wrong with enjoying happiness while it lasts. But men rot. They won't be there for you when you are old. So marriage is a HUGE risk. If you do it, you have to be sma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 01:03 PM |
| 16 | [deleted by user]I totally completely agree that it is an absolute delight dating handsome men, but I don't know how to do the "don't let it blind you" part. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:44 PM |
| 34 | I feel like there are no good menI used to feel this exact same way and working through it was one of the hardest times of my life. It took YEARS for me. It was so depressing reflecting back on all the "love" and "friends" that were fucking fake the whole time. It was like the whole world changed and became a different color. The hardest part was when I learned how pedophilic MOST, yes MOST men are (and the way they're able to justify it). That was the final line. I felt like I didn't even want to participate in "society" ever … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:19 PM |
| 20 | I think being intimidating is a good thing.I've always been called intimidating. It used to really bother me because I thought of myself as a warm, soft person so it felt insulting to be seen as "cold". But...it's true. I keep a distance with strangers. I don't do the customer service voice. I don't coddle or enable people. I'm competent, authentic, and confident. I'm also pretty tall and in shape which I'm aware really emasculates or shames a particular type of man and protects me from negging. Now I love it to be called intimidating. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 12:08 PM |
| 121 | Men will date/marry women they aren’t even attracted to/like, if their appearance brings them status.The recent aversion to boobs is a really weird trend for me to wrap my head around. Like I'm a straight woman and even I find boobs uniquely feminine and attractive. But men swear up and down that they suddenly don't like boobs now. I have a "p shaped" younger friend who is flawless but she absolutely HATES her body because she has boobs. It's insanity. And they're not even THAT big on her frame, probably d cup. Anyway for a minute I thought she discreetly had breast reduction surgery because on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 07:29 PM |
| 266 | Men will date/marry women they aren’t even attracted to/like, if their appearance brings them status.women's bodies are trends to men. I work in music. I first got into the scene when I was still a teenager. At that time all the big musicians were dating cookie cutter models (they all looked identical. Tall. Very thin, but with big boobs). Back then TALL and THIN was THE beauty standard for women, with not much deviation. Boobs were accepted but any other curves were considered "fat", especially big hips. Women under 5'6 were pitied. In fact, when I was 16 even though I was already 5'8 or so I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 06:58 PM |
| 626 | Men cannot be trusted with an idea like polyamory and its popularity shows how naive and desperate women have becomeI don't know if it's quite the same but I know a married couple with an open marriage. I've heard him brag about how goals their relationship is and how cool the arrangement they made is. But what I've heard through gossip is that he's actually miserable because she immediately found lots of men who were willing to date her or be fwb, but he found zero prospects. So he got jealous and bitter and demanded his wife stop and wait for him to catch up. 🦗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 12:34 AM |
| 28 | Be careful out there ladies: Comments under a tic tok about most dangerous people you’ve met- man kills wife, justifies it claiming infidelity. Men need to hold one another accountable, not justify violence and in this case murder.I remember people sympathizing with Chris watts after he killed his wife and children because his wife was bossy and posted a lot on Facebook, or was in a MLM or something, as though any of that is even close to being worthy of murder. I also remember that his new girlfriend was super grating and a dramatic downgrade from his wife, but since she satisfied him sexually she was defended by these people. Their ability to justify and sympathize with other men is astounding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 07:29 PM |
| 74 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.Last week someone here also pointed out that it's also sometimes a form of negging, which I thought was a brilliant observation. I have it saved because I like the way she worded it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 12:45 AM |
| 14 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.i set aside time every day to meditate! at first i had to really make an effort to stick to it (told myself that every day, no exceptions, i HAVE to set aside quiet time and meditate for at least 20 minutes). the first few times i followed youtube guides lol. but eventually i learned how to do it myself. it's a much healthier habit and fulfills that part of my brain. eventually, that turned into a combo of yoga and meditation, and then recently it has morphed even more (now i do a form of medita… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 04:52 PM |
| 29 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.Lol well it's better to stay single for life than to end up with someone gross. Ideally, you're okay with being single. If that's the case then there is no rush and you can wait for love to happen by chance. A perfectly fine strategy for life honestly, and one that I personally am happy to fall back on if my current relationship doesn't work out. But for some people, a man would add value to their life and it's what they really really want. Maybe they want to start a family. And in those cases y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 11:15 PM |
| 15 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.Omg I would always fall into doing the same thing (just treating men like women). It's so hard to not do that! But I learned that it's a mistake to get too deep into conversation on a date. Getting straight into deep conversations with women is lovely, but with men it can be dangerous. I used to think it was romantic or a bonding experience to get into intimate conversation right away on a date but that's a mistake that leaves you vulnerable to manipulation and love bombing. Dating convos should… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 10:40 PM |
| 6 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.Well my brother is a big nerd about the environment/the outdoors, so I know that in the past he has emailed the conservation district and asked if there were any volunteer opportunities. I dunno if that's helpful though (I am way too lazy to do what he does). He's constantly doing random stuff through volunteering with the forest service and conservation district. I know that there are websites that list volunteer opportunities, but also just good old fashioned asking around is probably smart. O… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 10:30 PM |
| 29 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.Exactly! Dating made me become comfortable in my power because I learned how much power women hold over men in general (it took way too long to learn that WE are the ones doing the choosing, NOT men). So I learned that every time I went on a date I was the one with the upper hand. I knew I didn't really need a man, because I was content on my own. I was just looking to add value to my life. Most of the men I dated had a very different outlook. They NEED women and are desperate for connection. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 10:14 PM |
| 7 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.I totally agree (that the best groups are people who found each other without going online)!!!! Everyone is different but for me, yeah, the internet meet ups are not my thing. In her case it was organic because it started with just her going to the same spots on her days off to sincerely enjoy her time (she loves fishing), but over time good mornings and hellos from familiar faces turned into conversations. I'm lucky in my hobbies because there were always lots of single people who had a similar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 09:56 PM |
| 35 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.I met my bf desert island style (by chance) long after I gave up on dating. So I fully understand where you're coming from. BUT I'm convinced that if I wouldn't have developed my dating skills by the time he and I crossed paths I would have blew it. I would have been way too shy, out of practice and awkward (I used to be really intimidated and uncomfortable around men). After all, hvm have standards too. So being rusty would have been detrimental for me. Dating taught me how much power I actuall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 09:41 PM |
| 48 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.I no have idea what my numbers were (I wasn't online dating) but my experience was VERY similar. I met A LOT of men before I finally met one decent one. And it didn't even work out with him lol. BUT through him I ended up meeting another decent guy. So in maybe six months of active dating I met two men that I was excited about. Suffered through dozens of weirdos. Met a few sweet or fun guys who were ultimately duds. But grew a ton. I met my bf by chance long after I gave up on dating, BUT I'm co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 09:29 PM |
| 76 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.Just do it! Even if it doesn't yield any results, you can still grow from having tried. I used to have the stupidest habit of daydreaming instead of doing (about everything - planning trips, fitness goals, even little things like meal prepping). It got to the point where it became addicting, like instead of doing the activity I could just daydream about it 🙄. Ugh i wish I would have snapped out of it sooner. I wasted soooo much time in that headspace. No one to blame but myself and it's maddenin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 09:22 PM |
| 35 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.Ikr, sometimes this sub goes a little heavy with the bad. It's hard to watch because I've been in that headspace myself (believed I hated all men). When you're in that headspace it's really hard to remember that there are some (very few) men who can add value to your life. We can't let lvm sabotage us. Giving up on all men is giving power to lvm. I hate it! Anyway I joined running and biking groups in my area and went to events whenever there was one that had a social element to it (like if a bi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 09:09 PM |
| 90 | Men don’t always marry the woman they love the most: a n insight from an OLD convoOmg how did I go my whole life without realizing this. You're so right. I'm in a unique situation where I'm aware that I'm the one being romanticized by an ex. And what annoys me when I hear about him doing this is that I actually know the TRUTH. I know that we weren't compatible, we fought a lot, we faked a lot of our "happiness" when we were around other people and on social media. I always thought it was a little weird but assumed he was just stirring up drama to get attention from friends bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 09:11 PM |
| 86 | "We decided" - Was it REALLY a joint decision or did you just go along with what he wanted out of fear of losing him?"Relationships are all about compromise" makes my skin crawl and although I've seen lots of insightful posts like this one here about it I still cant help but feel like the gravity of it has still never been fully articulated. The closest I can describe my frustrations is to say that it feels like when "just compromise" is told to women "sacrifice" is almost always a better fitting word. And when "just compromise" is given to men it really means "just manipulate". It's just such a scam. Of cours… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 08:55 PM |
| 286 | Men don’t always marry the woman they love the most: a n insight from an OLD convoThis is something I never wanted to bring up on this sub because it's disheartening to talk about, in the same way cheating stats and cancer abandonment stats are depressing. But yes. In my life I have seen over and over again that men do not marry the one they love. They marry the one who wants them the most 😬 and who will play the wife/mommy role best for them. And then they spend their entire lives romanticizing the past and daydreaming about the one that got away. 😬😬😬 I hate this phenomenon … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 08:21 PM |
| 54 | Porn is going to have major implications on the future and no one is talking about itMostly in the west i believe it'll just lead to higher depression and suicide rates in men later in life. I'm optimistic in (maybe foolishly) believing that we will get a better handle on sex trafficking within the next ten years. But if I'm wrong about that (probably am) then it'll mean more sex trafficking, more pockets of violence, and more scote-justified pedophilia (like lowering the age of consent to 16). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 08:08 PM |
| 76 | 10 Vetting Questions for Your First DateTELL ME ABOUT YOUR BEST FRIEND. apologies for the dramatic all caps 😆 but I'm passionate about this question. It lets you know soooo much about a person (what they value in a relationship, their ability (or inability) to sustain relationships, what they actually enjoy doing, loyalty, passions, tastes, the list goes on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 07:58 PM |
| 17 | having and defining your own standards is a great first step, but keep going!!! don't stop there.your phrasing about men making "women's preferences and desires into hate crimes" made me literally laugh out loud. i hate how accurate that is lmao what's even more freeing than accepting our own shallow preferences (which we all have and it's okay) is being fully honest on a larger scale. those truths actually unnerve men MORE. for example, men seem to believe that if they just acquire enough wealth they can meet the standards of women who pursue wealthy men. but if those women are self-aware … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 01:08 PM |
| 12 | having and defining your own standards is a great first step, but keep going!!! don't stop there.This is great advice!!! I'm hoping other women here have "homework" ideas to share too because I love learning new ones. It can feel a little silly or even awkward to be sitting there doing dating homework 🤓 lol. But honestly it's a fantastic thing to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 05:39 PM |
| 31 | having and defining your own standards is a great first step, but keep going!!! don't stop there.ooh that's an interesting one. i'll have to think through that one myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:54 PM |
| 7 | This post will probably be removed.i'm someone who has had posts removed by mods before, but i've learned that there is definitely a method to their madness. i started to understand WHY they delete the things they delete and the reason is really boring and undramatic: it's because the content just doesn't align with the sub. so it doesn't bother me when they delete THOSE posts (including my own). they have an eye for what fits and what doesn't. the thing that bothers me is when they delete criticisms about the sub instead of just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:53 PM |
| 13 | The lack of attractive men out there is so dishearteningI have the same type. I once had a friend get mad at me because I wasn't attracted to our mutual friend. He was cute but his hair line was receding (and his dad's was really bad) so I got spooked lol and i just couldn't feign attraction for him. My friends literally tried gaslighting me by telling me I was probably just a lesbian because it wasn't "normal" to find most men ugly. Told I was being shallow for being (involuntarily) repulsed by balding. It's rough our there, I can absolutely sympath… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 04:40 PM |
| 99 | Remember the ex you wanted to marry? Let’s all laugh togetherLol love this thread. Mine: believed drinking a lot was a personality trait Hygeine sucked. Sweat through his clothes daily, smelled bad. Could not shave properly and left patches. When I pointed any of this out he'd say I was "criticizing him". Poked me with his dick as "foreplay". Sometimes pointed at his dick or gestured to it. He'd act like a teenage boy and his voice got really high and whiney when we argued. Was insecure about his height even though he was pretty tall, threw fits when I wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 04:16 PM |
| 32 | Sex without intimacy is boring and low value.I even feel this way about kissing. It is soul crushing to only be kissed for the purpose of initiating foreplay and sex (rather than spontaneous acts of intimacy and affection) and I got so sick of it. What is the point? They're just going through the motions to get to the sex part. They don't give a shit. I'd sit at the dissertation too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 08:16 PM |
| 25 | When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid?Musicians (front men specifically) who are popular enough to tour. I work in music, dated a musician and have toured with bands. So not only have I heard the stories, I've also seen it with my own eyes. I'd say the chance they'll cheat hovers around 98 percent. Every wife and girlfriend thinks they are the exception to the rule. The big thing these women don't understand is that the problem isn't when these guys are young and popular. They actually might NOT cheat on tour during those years. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 09:36 PM |
| 13 | Can we consider changing this sub to Female Survival Strategy?There is a sub called female level up strategy that you might like!! I personally like the DATING part of this sub. I've written a post about it before here actually, but I'll try to summarize. I'm a little sleepy so this might not make sense but basically: even though many of us are in relationships (or choosing to be single) we still come here because we feel a sense of empowerment that's hard to put a finger on. I believe it's because dating (sexual selection) is an arena of power for women a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 09:06 AM |
| 32 | Sis needs help✨oh to be a sex toy again✨😢🥺⏳ My fav is the part where she just happened to be there (silently staring from across the room 😳) in time to catch his friends repeatedly praising him lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 10:58 PM |
| 39 | Sis needs help"She" is always shockingly emotionally stunted for a grown woman lmao. Always longing to be a young sex toy again 🥺🥺 because ✨those were the days✨😢. Her ex is always extraordinarily happy and always has a young new gf. "35 yr old woman" will always emphasize that young hottie is super duper beautiful and very cool. "She" will also add the detail that all their friends and family are very happy for him and not creeped out at all. It's no wonder "she" is turning to the internet for advice. She has… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 10:48 PM |
| 587 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?The energy in the room is sooooo bad, no happy heartwarming music in the world can cover up those vibes. First of all, all the boys are smiling. You tell me what's more likely: that these college boys are smiling with joy to see their friends girlfriend? 🙄 or smirking because they think the situation is funny? Meanwhile the women are SO nervous looking (the girl in the gray literally pulls her hoodie up to hide and fidget). Her boyfriend doesn't even stand up to greet her!!!!! He looks shocked a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:15 AM |
| 71 | I just learned that one of the biggest catalysts for men leaving their wives is having a child with special needs (the divorce rate climbs to 80 percent).This is my biggest lesson I've learned over the past few years (largely thanks to this sub honestly). You can only really trust yourself. It's a huge mistake to assume that a man is going to be there for you during hardship. Having a child is a huge sacrifice no matter what (even if the kid is perfectly healthy) and women who want kids need to mentally prepare for the very real possibility that you're going to end up going it alone, no matter how "hv" you think your man is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 05:35 PM |
| 3 | I just learned that one of the biggest catalysts for men leaving their wives is having a child with special needs (the divorce rate climbs to 80 percent).Yeah I saw that too, but I wonder why though? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 05:27 PM |
| 22 | I just learned that one of the biggest catalysts for men leaving their wives is having a child with special needs (the divorce rate climbs to 80 percent).I agree, it's inhumane to force women into that role. More often than not women's experiences with forced birth reads more like torture and imprisonment more than a story with a happy ending. I don't mean to imply that having a special needs child is easy or anything like that. I'm just sensitive (I'm always sensitive about this topic 🙃) because a lot of people who don't know anyone with special needs project pain onto us and it feels invalidating because no matter how much we try to explain our… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 05:26 PM |
| 51 | I just learned that one of the biggest catalysts for men leaving their wives is having a child with special needs (the divorce rate climbs to 80 percent).absolutely a great point about abortion, especially considering that in some cases those children need life time care when they become adults; a lifelong commitment that will obviously fall on the mother more often than the father. but i just have to say (because i'm sensitive about stigma); one of my siblings has severe disabilities and we are all genuine and sincere when we say she is a blessing and a light in our lives. she has a huge community of support that took decades for my parents to b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 03:12 PM |
| 257 | I just learned that one of the biggest catalysts for men leaving their wives is having a child with special needs (the divorce rate climbs to 80 percent)."the mother is blamed and the father is pitied." sums it up so devastatingly well and expletives are absolutely appropriate. actually in general, mothers don't bail and 'fathers' do, and yet in those situations the single mothers have a stigma attached to them whereas single fathers are praised. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 02:55 PM |
| 15 | It screams LVM to me, but my friend argued that it's actually a HVM behaviour. What do y'all think?🤣🤣🤣 literally one of the most LV things I've ever seen. I want to put up a bigger billboard right next to it. Don't you dare, Sierra. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 11:24 AM |
| 56 | I will stop “generalizing” men when THEY stop using, abusing, and killing women. When THEY stop treating us like disposable source of labor. I will stop when MEN start ruthlessly policing & holding OTHER men accountable for all the shit they do to women.Men, in general, are horrible. So I'll keep "generalizing" 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 11:19 AM |
| 19 | For those who don’t want to marry/live together, (esp over 35), how do you apply FDS?i don't mind! we spend time together after work (we both get out in the early afternoon) and yep on the weekends. we have keys to each other's places, but neither of us show up unannounced. he shows up here at the same time every day after work and it's just become our routine. there are days when we stay in touch all day with facetime and texting, then meet up, then split, then meet up later again. i've lived with my boyfriends in the past and i just really don't like it. i NEED alone time and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 06:22 PM |
| 45 | For those who don’t want to marry/live together, (esp over 35), how do you apply FDS?My bf and I are a little younger than you and this is our relationship (monogamous without cohabitation). I have a lot of concerns and hesitations about marriage and I'm not interested. So I was told similar things (not by fds, but by people in my life) about how this type of relationship isn't possible or sustainable, or that I'll only draw in fuckbois. I just ignored it and did the exact same thing you're doing (used FDS to vet) and it was the perfect path for me. He's exactly what I wanted at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 03:03 PM |
| 33 | Pervert pretends to film wife at the beach but is actually recording woman in bikini behind her. Trash. Things like this are why I thank my lucky stars everyday that I never married or reproduced with a scroteBesides the obvious divorce worthy disrespect it's fucking creepy to film strangers like that. To ogle is bad enough, but to zoom in and record is next level creepy and invasive. It's possible she's a minor!!! But even if she's an adult. You shouldn't be legally allowed to violate someone's body like that without their consent. She's at the beach. It's not like she's a stripper on a pole or something. She's not there to be exploited. I swear there are so many perverts who think that just because… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 11:19 AM |
| 22 | Very weird pre-date invite condition/terms given. Thoughts? Anyone else come across this before?"as long as you're open to connection" is manipulator speak for: "DTF?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 11:05 AM |
| 66 | I don’t even desire sex with a man anymoreThe way "fuck you" is a universal insult tells us all we need to know about how most men view sex. It's all about power and domination (and leaving the "fucked" with suffering and shame). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 10:59 AM |
| 34 | I don’t even desire sex with a man anymoreI've gone through phases like that and I think it's healthy to take a break. You're absolutely not alone. I've had good sex and I get why people are excited about it. It's like when you hear a good song or eat a good meal. It's a fleeting joy in life that you want to pause to appreciate. But that's all it is. It's such a tiny fraction of what makes life enjoyable. And when I break it down I can see that the things I enjoy about sex are: affection, intimacy, fun, pleasure and bonding. But those a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 10:48 AM |
| 33 | Everyone's talking about Gabby Petito. But they're having the wrong conversation, experts say.Thank you for this insight!!! I have been so frustrated and honestly couldn't figure out WHY people are being so stupid and weird about this. Before she was found I was following all the threads trying to understand the full picture. Everytime I had suggested that maybe she broke up with him and he reacted violently, people acted so appalled. They've all been concocting all these convoluted fantastical theories about Brian being a criminal psychopathic serial killer mastermind and Gabby being "j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 10:24 AM |
| 177 | Arches Park Ranger Warned Gabby the Relationship Seemed ToxicThat's what I've been saying. She broke up with him. For some reason every time I suggest it around reddit people attack, except in this sub. I honestly have no idea why. But anyway. Gabby was afraid of traveling alone. So even in their lowest moments she might've been unwilling to break up with him. BUT. On the 29th (which is the day I believe she was murdered) she had plans with her friend to discuss meeting up in Yellowstone So she was hours away from a familiar face. It would be the perfect … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:13 PM |
| 339 | Avoid the YT comment sections on the Gabby Petito dashcam footageThis is exactly what reactive abuse looks like, fyi. People are literally calling HER the abuser because of her reaction to his gaslighting. It's disheartening to see those comments but it's important to bear witness to it because we need to educate ourselves and other women about what REACTIVE ABUSE is. His defense team will attempt to paint him as the victim and try to claim he murdered her in self defense. And there will be people who buy it. If the cop who responded that day testifies he mig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:06 PM |
| 31 | Gabby PetitoHe still might. They might try to paint him as a victim acting in self defense. Outrageous and ridiculous as that sounds, I've seen plenty of people online who sincerely believe she was the abusive one after watching the body cam footage, and the cop on the scene that day could double down on his assessment and testify that SHE was the abusive one. So it could actually work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 10:38 AM |
| 30 | Gabby PetitoHis lawyers are going to use this. They're going to paint a picture that he was abused by her so that they can claim that he acted in self defense when murdering her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 10:34 AM |
| 26 | Gabby PetitoHe's 23. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 10:29 AM |
| 1 | Bad... But not unexpected... 💔It's not a misnomer, you're just misunderstanding it!!! It's a very real form of abuse where the abuser provokes the abused into having a reaction." It's real. It's not invented by pickmes and men. That's dangerous misinformation!! Women need to know these terms and understand that what they're experiencing is abuse!! I am not saying that she was abusing him, I'm saying she was reacting. The abuse tactic is to make her have a reaction (scream, cry, hit something) and to look or feel crazy. After… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 10:17 AM |
| 61 | Bad... But not unexpected... 💔Literally just got a comment reply from another sub in my inbox from a guy who says Gabby was clearly the agressor in the body cam footage. It's a comment sentiment being echoed online. Brian's lawyers will almost certainly use that to fight their case. They'll paint her as the aggressor and claim Brian acted in self defense. As ridiculous as that argument is, it'll still win over misogynists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 02:19 AM |
| 297 | Women need to stop pathologizing themselves and start listening to their intuition with menI am not doing well emotionally after following this story, so after this last vent here I'm going to step away. Even though Gabby is obviously a stranger to me I can't help but mourn her. She deserved so much better. Women deserve so much better. They deserve to know the truth about the ABUSE tactics that men use against us. Women all over are abused and gaslit by their shitty boyfriends like this and then failed by our misogynistic culture (and police force in this case). And we get labeled "c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 01:09 AM |
| 139 | Bad... But not unexpected... 💔That footage was so sickening. Clear case of reactive abuse. (Editing to explain that "reactive abuse" is a form of abuse where the abuser provokes the abused into having a reaction, so that the abused looks or feels unstable. Upon eliciting a reaction the abuser will switch to a calm state.) If you had cast a bunch of actors to play a scene displaying reactive abuse you couldn't have written a better script. And yet the cops totally missed it (and actually, far worse that just missing it, they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:41 AM |
| 167 | Bad... But not unexpected... 💔💔 a friend of mine participated in the search so ive been following the events and checking reddit periodically because they had the best source of live updates. It was so frustrating because people had all these crazy theories about HER being the abusive one, or the boyfriend being some criminal mastermind (in reality he is just an average, cowardly, gaslighting abusive loser) The police cam painted a very clear picture of a reactive abuse and gaslighting. And misogyny amongst the police too. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:26 AM |
| 53 | My gripes with dating menSimilar phenomenon is witnessing it in other couples. Every time I ever admire one of my friends relationships and feel inspired to have hope their husband or bf cheats on them. Whenever it's men doing the cheating it's always the seemingly "in love" couples. Whereas when women cheat everyone could see it coming a mile away because the relationship looked miserable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 07:46 PM |
| 97 | We are taught that dating and life in general is easier for conventionally attractive women. I think they have it worse.Yep. Being objectified is taught to us as being the ultimate goal in life. But what do we "win" when we achieve it? LVM. That's the prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 01:09 AM |
| 8 | Ladies!! I have a question and in need of advice 💕HEALING INVOLVES GRIEVING. It's such a sad feeling when you become aware of the contrast between current "you" and past "you" because it's this devastating awareness about how the younger version of yourself deserved better too. It's not fair that "she" (past you) is out there in the dark while "you" (current you) are carrying all the light. But that grief can be healthy when it's part of healing. It can be a marker of growth. It suuuuuucks to navigate through that in the beginning but it gets e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 07:07 PM |
| 28 | FDSers who are married to or dating HVM, what brought you here?I remember that when I first started dating my bf I googled something like "is it a red flag if my boyfriend doesn't like other men". Bunch of results from quora or reddit that were loosely related, but they were all the standard "nooo there's no such thing as a red flag, give men a chance" advice that the internet is full of. But one of the results was a random unrelated post from here. I had actually already heard of this place at that point but didn't really "get it". But I was subbed and my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:26 AM |
| 98 | Reasons why exes come backMy ex comes back from time to time. When I was a suffering pickme I found it vindicating. But with FDS lens I learned what it is and I learned how to be properly annoyed and disinterested with it. This is what it is: It's when he's fighting with his wife, (or they're going through a dry spell, or he's on the road and disconnected with her, or whatever...they're not getting along for whatever reason). That's when he appears. What I learned is that he does it because he romanticizes the past, and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 12:33 AM |
| 18 | FDS is not the place for you if you’re not willing to examine your own attitudes, beliefs and behavioursI wrote a post the other day about the types of red flag cloaked men that short women can attract. Short pickmes got offended, and my post was removed. So I assume enough people reported it to make their case. Any other sub and I wouldn't have cared but tbh it was disappointing to see here because most of the time it's true that we don't have to sugar coat here. But there are some weak spots (for example, tall men are held in waaaaaaaay too high regard, to the point where they are almost beyond … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 08:47 PM |
| 47 | Don’t be fooled by pickmes who seem to attract a bunch of menWomen are harder to win over than men. You can "befriend" men by just saying you're friends. But in order to remain friends with women you have to actually be decent. It's much harder. We also require certain things in friendships (like respect, reliability, good character) and so we're only drawn to people who have at those qualities. Plus, things like personality, sense of humor and genuine connection matter to women. A lot of pickmes and young pickmes in particular get caught in the "only mal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:47 AM |
| 2 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.This sub has a huge blind spot for tall men. It's really misaligned with the goals of the sub. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 09:14 AM |
| 6 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.You have a huge advantage, which is that you are aware of the depravity that exists in men and you aren't naive or sheltered. You have that power. It's a big deal. So keep doing what you're doing. keep questioning and vetting and prioritizing your safety. And just know that you're not alone in that. We pretty much ALL feel like we have to be constantly vetting men. I'm pretty tall so my questioning is different than yours. But it's not any better or worse. i'm still suspicious of most men too. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:33 AM |
| 4 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.Just learned about that in another comment. This is the reason I'll never get conned into thinking attention from men is flattering or validating, ever again. Men are controlled by porn and their idea of "beauty" is always so insulting if you prod enough. And what makes it extra sad is that there are plenty of men that aren't just looking for human sex toys, but the waters are so muddied with the depraved guys that it's hard to figure out which is which. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:13 AM |
| 6 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.So a human sex toy. What I can't understand about that though is why would any women accept that? It's so fucking insulting. Millions of dollars isn't worth the soul damage of "matching" with a guy who just wants a warm sex toy and you body fits the requirements. It's even worse than a typical shallow guy because at least a typical shallow guy finds you beautiful, which is on some level at least flattering. But those types don't even care about your aesthetic they literally just want to be able … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:02 AM |
| 12 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.I'm not really built that way, (I'm more scrawny than voluptuous), but I have long legs and have absolutely been fetishized for my body in the past. It's not a flattering feeling at all :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 12:42 AM |
| 615 | Destroy the concept that your teen years are supposed to be fun and once you hit 25, you’re old and it’s over. Some of us had to heal from trauma during our teen years and our 20s (30s, 40s, 50s and so on) and would like to begin a good life without constantly being told it’s too late.26, didn't feel fully awake until I was 25. As a general rule of thumb don't listen to people who are living lives that you don't admire and want for yourself. But in this particular case: Don't listen to men!!! Listen to women. Notice that the "you expire at 25" stuff comes from mostly men (and some pickmes) and women with miserable lives?? Meanwhile the majority of us (women) agree that life gets better for as we get older. Listen to us!! Either we're all lying and participating in a global co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 12:21 AM |
| 90 | I can't get over how society shames women for expecting men to pay for dates but they never shame men for using women for sex.They also use us to boost their careers and make all that "gold" in the first place. They're the real "gold diggers", women are just the tools which do the digging. Some of us are tools that manage their household for them, some of us are shiny tools that they use to impress their bosses, some of us are tools they use to extract ego boosts. The full version of this is a long, painful story but basically AFTER my ex and I split he helped me buy a house. He insisted that it was "fair". His reasoni… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 10:41 PM |
| 40 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.Whoa, I've known pickmes like that too!! when men are around they are suddenly so dramatic about how tiny they are. it's really weird! It's not a flex to get quantity over quality, so all it really accomplishes is passive aggressively making your tall women friends feel uncomfortable. Whenever they did that around me (I'm 5'10 so it happens) I just assumed they are really insecure and needed the confidence boost so I hyped them up. But now that I see it as clear pickmeism I have less tolerance f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 10:22 PM |
| 22 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.Someone just pointed out to me that it's probably just men pretending to be women and now I feel stupid because it makes perfect sense. But yes!!! Smart men, hot men, kind men, talented men, etc can be some of the most dangerous because the rose colored glasses we wear around them can be blinding. It sucks to learn but it's truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 10:13 PM |
| 13 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.Love this comment because i love the way you talk about yourself!! I'm a big believer in utilizing power in whatever hand youve been dealt (short, tall, whatever), so I appreciate your point about using what you've got to your own benefit too. You've gotta do what you've gotta do sometimes. And actually, I didn't want to derail or get too off topic but one of the painful things I've learned from FDS is that men fetishize tall women for our legs, looking like models, and status symbol bullshit. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 10:07 PM |
| 29 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.I'm so glad that you see what I'm trying to say with my post! Some short women with tall bfs are coming for blood because they're offended. But I'm just like, wtf, how could you miss my point that badly? But yeah, my brother is probably about a foot taller than his gf as well. Seeing the way he values her has given me so much insight into the difference between a typical lv height discrepancy relationship and a quality hv one. And green flags are just as important to learn about as red ones!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 09:04 PM |
| 117 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.😬 ew. It's not even just a problem that is reserved for petite woman. It's a height discrepancy problem. But also ultimately just a LVM problem. I'm 5'10 and I've managed to get a glimpse into it because one of my exes was 6'6. He loved to say stuff like "don't worry you still look little on my lap" 🙄 or "you're so cute down there, you'd be even cuter on your knees" 🙄🙄🙄 uhh am I supposed to swoon at that stuff? That is supposed to be hot to me? I have zero desire to look "little" or "cute". My c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 08:44 PM |
| 63 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.Thank you so much!!! I was just googling after reading your comment and I found one really sickening example right away about how crash test dummies have the mimicked bone density of men but not women. So basically when they make female dummies they just take a few inches off and call it good enough instead of actually computing the actual human anatomy of a woman. Also, this is a tangent, but it makes me sick that part of the reason men are injured less is because they are the ones doing the in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 07:19 PM |
| 42 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.Is this true?!?!!! And do you have a source? You're getting downvoted but I'm assuming it's by the same creepy lurkers that are in my DMs telling me in "jealous" and not because you're wrong. But it just blows my mind (and enrages me) if that's true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 07:02 PM |
| 40 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.Yeah it made me laugh when I read your comment because it seems so unfathomable that they don't see that irony when they say that stuff about height standards being shallow. But it's like. No. Hold up. For real. Maybe they really DON'T see it. Their delusion and denial of double standards continues to amaze me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 06:43 PM |
| 174 | short women. be extra careful about men's "pReFeReNcEs" for your body type.Lol at man sized. But I just wanna say; there is a pretty big difference, so it's not actually the exact same thing. Because women seeking out tall men aren't being predatory. Men seeking out small women are...a mix. Some of them are predatory and want to use them to feel (falsely) superior instead of equal. But some of them are just deeply drawn to "feminine" stature the same way women are drawn to a masculine one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 06:20 PM |
| 56 | Anyone else thinks advices from tradwives are terribleA lot of woman crave security and they try to force it. But the idea that you have control over a man staying and making you happy is delusional. You can be the hottest, classiest, most faithful and doting bangmaid in the world and he'll still cheat and leave if he chooses to cheat and leave. Or he will become complacent and lazy and neglect you emotionally if he chooses to do that. Or, if he chooses to work on his marriage and make you happy, he will do that. It all just boils down to HIS chara… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 10:04 PM |
| 147 | Ladies of Reddit, what’s the sexiest thing an overweight gamer in his 30s can do to make you have sex with himNo jokes there was a man at work who was obsessed with me and asked a co worker about me. She said that he was super depressed when she told him I was 25 and that his exact words were "I didn't know she was that old" 🥺. He sulked for like 3 months around me after that. He was in his mid 30s and literally looked like Shrek. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 07:27 PM |
| 181 | Ladies of Reddit, what’s the sexiest thing an overweight gamer in his 30s can do to make you have sex with himUnfortunately I'm in my late 20s, so I'm too old for those guys. 🥺 But one of the hottest things is their post histories. Reading through the sweet comments they leave on gonewild posts is SO hot because I just love a man who supports sex work like that 🥰. One of my fantasies is that I send one of these guys my nudes and we fall in love when he comments back. In my dreams they can see past my lack of value 🧑🦳😳 and still settle for me. I know it's delusional of me to think they can look past the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 07:15 PM |
| 188 | Ladies, we need to talk about this...I'm extra disturbed over the "bounty" part. As though it wasn't already dystopian and hateful enough they really had to make it even more disgusting by giving hateful people a financial incentive to hurt women. The "texas bounty hunter" sub on Reddit was shockingly banned this morning. But they've just moved elsewhere online. They're celebrating the idea of collecting money off the suffering of women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 05:27 PM |
| 5 | Ladies, what are some of the worst examples and common trends of LVM and pickme’s giving advice on the dating subs?This is a good topic! Hopefully I remember to check back later and see what everyone comes up with. The most obvious trend I see is age gaps. Most of the more horrifying scenarios in relationship subs are from women who are trapped in age gap relationships that have soured. The OPs have finally begun to wake up and snap out of the grooming haze and are starting to question their lives and make sense of their abuse by reaching out anonymously on Reddit. And it's really sad because they're definit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 12:00 PM |
| 414 | True Crime DiscussionI have a friend who is really into true crime, like WAY into it, to the point where he literally helps find missing people. So my friends love talking about that stuff with him and I HATE it. It makes me feel some type of way when everyone gathers around in excitement to discuss real life murders. BUT I am going through a little bit of a mindshift over it lately because he has met tons of people over the years who are interested in true crime and he said that the "true crime entertainment" audie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:44 AM |
| 48 | Why are Jordan Peterson’s views problematic to FDS?I mean I personally just think he's really annoying and that his fan club is idiotic. He rambles in circles about common sense things. But he has a unique (obnoxious imo) speaking pattern so it always feels like he's about to say something profound and interesting. He never does. But his audience is extremely stupid, so they get hoodwinked by the showmanship or charisma or whatever and take his generic insight as gospel. The same words could be in writing or coming out of the mouth of anyone els… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 05:27 PM |
| 73 | too trueIt's true, but it's temporary and deceiving. With time (without maintanance) the house of cards that was built for that men collapses. Meanwhile, with enough time, that "damage" that women suffer from does heals and turns into a glow up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 10:45 PM |
| 49 | I used to date ugly men because I was tired of being called Shallow for only dating attractive men, but I don’t care anymore.Unbearable is the peeerfect word, he made my life hell. But yeah he's between 6'1 and 6'2, which you would think would be a height to feel good about. But he has always been extremely jealous of men taller than him, he's explained that being with short women makes him feel 6'5. It's embarrassing even typing that out because it's so lame. But in my experience a lot of tall men are actually really insecure. I think a lot of it's dick related. He had dick insecurities as well. But they were based. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 09:28 PM |
| 75 | Why do so many women still want to get married?Every once in a great while I meet a goals couple. It's rare let's be honest. But I've known a few who built a happy life together and maintained it. It's SO beautiful when you meet those people. So of course I want that myself. It's kind of like buying a lottery ticket though. Most people won't end up in that ultra lucky group but we long for it because the (few) successful examples are really appealing. We all think we're going to be one of those lucky ones. Most of us aren't going to be. It's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 07:55 PM |
| 188 | I used to date ugly men because I was tired of being called Shallow for only dating attractive men, but I don’t care anymore.My ex is this shitty type of guy. Before we got together we were just "friends" and he admitted to me that he had a crush on me but couldn't date me because he only dates short women. It was spun to me as this tragic star crossed lover story. He was over six foot. I'm 5'10. all his exes were around 5'1 but he was exclusively attracted to and obsessed with tall women. Drooled over long legs and the stereotypical "model" look. Literally every girl he was attracted to, in real life and in movies or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 07:16 PM |
| 29 | Don't get plastic surgery just to attract menWe exist in a patriarchy and conforming to beauty standards (including getting plastic surgery) makes your experience in it easier. Fitting the beauty standard gives you advantage of perceived competency and good character (even if you have neither of those things). Which leads to massive perks (like higher salary, favors, etc). The thing is, what happens when you conform to the standard is YOU WILL ATTRACT FELLOW PATRIARCHY PLEASERS. And you WILL get swept up in that lifestyle because you'll be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 01:03 PM |
| 230 | Never be a fangirl/stan/groupie for musicians, actors, or pro-athletes.They ALL cheat on tour. Rare exceptions exist. There are some of them who truely love touring because they love music and art, and they hate the "party" side of it. But they're uncommon and sometimes even more depressing. For example, one tour I was on the front man (a grown man in his late 20s at the time) was crying, like sobbing hysterically, and being consoled by his band mates. So of course I went over there to see what was up. Turns out his sobbing was because a hot girl wanted to fuck him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 05:43 PM |
| 41 | What's coming next? Do you think things will get better or worse?Sure! Just Google manosphere peer reviewed research and that should get you started. But buckle up, it's a depressing rabbit hole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:07 PM |
| 139 | What's coming next? Do you think things will get better or worse?That's an interesting take. I think you're right. The rise of women's rights birthed panicking men. It's interesting to think of it that way because that loosely means that their rising depravity is a measure of our successes. Which is encouraging. But it's also depressing because omg what a long road we have ahead of us if that's the case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:05 PM |
| 211 | What's coming next? Do you think things will get better or worse?The way they have gotten hyper protective over their porn is something else. Maybe it started with generic defensiveness and claiming it's healthy and normal. But it's become something else now. I swear that whatever part of the male brain is supposed to be chemically driven to love and be protectors has been hijacked by porn. Like men won't love or protect actual human women and children anymore, but porn? That's a hill they would be willing to die on. There is something wrong with their brains… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 01:10 PM |
| 30 | Mental health and datingI have to add: if you are going through anything traumatic (a loss of a loved one, a life changing event) take some time off of dating. You absolutely cannot see clearly when you're in survival mode, when you are grieving, or when you're under tremendous stress. It's okay (and necessary) to take a break for healing and self care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 12:51 PM |
| 25 | Gone with the Wind - both Rhett and Ashley are LVMWhen male love interests are unrealistically dreamy and crush worthy I can't suspend my disbelief enough to get into the story because of it. So I remember when I read gone with the wind I felt almost validation. Rhett and Ashley were unfortunately so accurate to my personal dating experience at the time I read that book. Anyway, very interesting character analysis through the FDS lens! I'd love to see more of that kind of stuff here. It's interesting to rewatch and reread things with FDS glasse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 10:55 PM |
| 326 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceFr it almost makes me want to cry and I don't even know exactly why. I've noticed a lot of women stuck in these types of marriages try to see humor in their situations, but it seems like a coping mechanism that's not working. It's just so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:36 PM |
| 15 | Getting hit on by gross old men is so bewildering to me. Do they really think I'd ever f*ck them?The delusion of middle aged men runs DEEEEP though. They can effortlessly translate "dad" into "daddy" and walk away taking it as a compliment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:05 PM |
| 11 | “Why did he marry her and not me?”Getting a man to marry you is also a lot about just stating your desires. I was always the "cool girl" who didn't care about a ring. Then I noticed that ALL my married friends had given ultimatums or had serious talks with their boyfriends about wanting marriage. So I followed that path too and told my ex that I wanted to get married or I was done. He proposed maybe a month later. It deeply bothered me back then and I couldn't put my finger on WHY. Now I know it's because "if he wanted to he wou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 11:06 AM |
| 150 | LVM wanting to be coddled when doing simple housework is so widespread they even pitched it on Shark Tank as a business🤢 It's not cute and funny to have a man that acts like a child. Being a parental figure or adult figure for your partner is so unnatural and honestly just repulsive. How can these women even have a healthy libido around men (boys) like that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 05:24 PM |
| 27 | woman calmly dumps and kicks out cheating bf (as she should)Seriously!!! The dynamic was very...mother scolding their child? I couldn't do it. So happy for her that she is free from that now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 11:28 AM |
| 11 | "In my head, girls are clean"😒What a strange man. My dad always scolded my sister and I for cursing, but he couldn't care less when my brother swore. We called him out on it once and he gave us "advice" that women using foul language is really unattractive. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 06:41 PM |
| 86 | Old,' M. Night Shyamalan and Hollywood's horror of aging women This source of terror persists because it reflects society’s misogynist fear of mature female power.Men have run media forever and try SO hard to push this narrative that women's beauty evaporates over night while men's grows. And yet it didn't really work. Despite all the effort we can still all just...see with our own eyes. Like they can be here online typing away all day and making subreddits about women aging poorly all they want but at the end of the day the fact remains that we can still literally just walk outside and see for ourselves what reality looks like. I can vividly remember the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 06:28 PM |
| 48 | Link Between Widespread Attraction to Minors and Eating Disorders?Don't be thinking like that though. There's nothing wrong with your body. I have short friends who swear that they attract a disproportionate amount of LVM, abusers, and pedos. But my taller friends and I always swear that OUR height attracts more abusers; like trophy wife and social status chasers, creepy "breeding material" weirdos, and disgusting older men who grew up with tall women as the beauty standard and basically fetishize us. We've gone back and forth in debate about it but the actual… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 08:43 PM |
| 13 | This need to be sharedWell it didn't work, she divorced him. He was married and divorced multiple times and he very clearly didn't respect women. He had a life long obsession with his first girlfriend who he only knew as a teen but stayed in "love" with (he did that classic lvm thing where be put her on a fantasy pedestal to compare his poor wives to and insisted she was his lost true love). He was also a dead beat/absent father. Lvm come in all types. Artists, musicians, geniuses, philanthropists..anyone can have po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 05:06 PM |
| 31 | This need to be sharedEinstein actually made one of those lists that men make when they are unhappy with their marriage. Here's a copy paste of it: "You will make sure: that my clothes and laundry are kept in good order; that I will receive my three meals regularly in my room; that my bedroom and study are kept neat, and especially that my desk is left for my use only. B. You will renounce all personal relations with me insofar as they are not completely necessary for social reasons. Specifically, You will forego: my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 11:05 AM |
| 354 | This is nothing but truth.This is so good. I wish someone had told me that in high school too. Where were the women with actual good advise when I was a kid? Instead of stuff like this I got encouraged to be a "cool girl". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 11:03 AM |
| 42 | Rejection is a ScamLove this so much. I'll take it a step further and say men's rejection is a compliment. Most men have really bad taste. And that's putting it kindly because let's be real; they prefer childlike women. They are impressed by women who are very young or very naive, broke, uneducated, submissive and as physically small as possible. If that type of man rejects you it's because you've emasculated or intimidated him. He has basically surrendered to you in admitting that you're above him. I've gotten a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 11:36 AM |
| 2 | I found dating to be really empowering, and I wish other women would experience it that way too.Aw thank you! I'm in a relationship at the moment, but i still check here almost every morning because it's uplifting to be amongst women who are woken up. And of course I want to help wake the others up too. But what keeps me coming back is that core message. The truth that women have this power is some ancient wisdom that has barely survived through the generations and has become a whispered secret now that we have to help spread in places like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 11:04 AM |
| 42 | Eye-OpeneningI heard this sub was "toxic" and full of "female incels" in a thread where a young woman commented that she was sick of middle aged men hitting on her. What followed was a long chain of men justifying middle aged men being vile because wOmEn PeAk aT 20 and mIdDlE aGe MeN aRe iN tHeIr pRiMe therefore it's not delusional and creepy for older men to sexually harass girls. Every woman that disagreed with counterpoints was called misandrist and told to go to female dating strategy with the rest of th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 11:07 AM |
| 21 | Thank you FDS for giving me courage to take care of my needs and wants.I've never traveled solo, I always find it inspiring when other women do ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 11:16 AM |
| 4 | Filter questionsLove those! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 11:12 AM |
| 37 | Filter questionsYes! Just letting them talk they'll tell you. I have to be honest though i have a really hard sometimes if they're handsome or checking other boxes because I don't notice red flags in normal conversation. If the conversation is too loose my stupid brain puts on rose colored goggles and I miss everything I should be looking for. I like to have my prepared questions so that I can stay in control and be paying attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 11:12 AM |
| 29 | Filter questionsI'm not a cat or dog person but I do like this question/theory because i think it's more like, if he specifically says that the reason he likes dogs is because they're loyal and make him happy bla blah bla it shows that he likes how that animal makes him feel. It has nothing to do with respect or admiration for animals. It reveals that he likes others who can make him feel good about himself. Whereas if he's a cat person it's like, chances are cats don't stroke his ego. So his love for cats must… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 11:08 AM |
| 23 | Filter questionsWell just listening to someone talk about their parents always draws some info. So there's that part. But also it just tends to pull out their worldview on gender roles and relationship priorities. Like one guy for example told me how he was really close with his dad and his dad would take him hunting and it was really special, so he went off about that. But I specifically remember him being like, my mom was just a stay at home mom and my dad worked really hard. He phrased it like that. He said … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 10:59 AM |
| 80 | Filter questionsAdding to the music or artist one; if they don't have any women in those preferences it's soooooo creepy to me. I've met men who rattle off long lists of male comedians and musicians with zero women making the cut. It's so off putting. But yes I agree with you, sometimes I swear they just "can't" list them because they're waiting for you to list yours so they can manipulate you by claiming to like the same stuff. Also I didn't realize "what's your story" was fuckboi talk until literally just rig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 02:02 AM |
| 165 | Filter questionsAnother favorite of mine is to ask which family member he's closest with and why and/or which parent he's closest with and why. In my experience that tends to draw out so much information along with any lingering misogyny | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 01:58 AM |
| 0 | Posting Low Effort Memes and Screenshots makes you a LVW [Controversial]I agree, the paradigm shift budding here is a unique one and some of us are naive 🙋🏼♀️ and grow from that dismantling. OPs claim that posting memes and screenshots makes someone a low value woman is such a childish declaration. Honestly everyone needs to relax on the "lvw" button here. Most people here are using alts, so it's not like they're farming for clout and karma. So we know nothing about each other and have no authority to deem each other high or low value. We're just trying to contribu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 11:00 PM |
| 24 | Do you think men who are into petite women are creepy lvm?Ok this is not as bad as it is going to sound at first. But... Yes. Petite women do attract more pedos and lvm. That's a controversial thing to say, I know, it's horrible, but we have to be honest. Clearly it does happen. You'll also attract more insecure about height types. But ultimately: who cares?! It doesn't in any way mean that those are the ONLY men that are going to be attracted to you. Normal hvm will also find you attractive and love your body in a healthy way. Your body doesn't preclu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 10:49 AM |
| 12 | I know most of us know the pitfalls of pursuing age gap relationship, but would you pursue a friendship with someone in an age gap relationship?My advice is that you should follow your intuition. And don't ever dismiss that feeling as overreacting!! ❤️. It's totally valid to be uneasy with her lifestyle. You're young and building your life. You probably just (intuitively) don't want to be surrounding yourself with people who are building theirs on shaky foundations. It can be distracting and uninspiring to be around people who make messes for themselves. There's nothing wrong with being selective about who you're friends with. And hones… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 08:37 PM |
| 32 | Young celebrities, their boyfriends, age gap relationships, and the cultural impactThe majority of celebrity marriages end in divorce and the average celebrity marriage lasts a little over five years. So they're not healthy models for relationships. But it doesn't matter how much money is involved. Money is irrelevant if both parties have money. Life experience holds so much more "power currency" than money ever could. And Hollywood is swarming with men who know that and exploit it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 11:34 PM |
| 330 | "there's a darkness inside me"Lol ooh that's a dramatic one. Demons! How ✨mysterious ✨and frightening. Those poor, poor good, well intentioned souls being infiltrated by mean ole spooky demons, so unfair. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 12:22 PM |
| 260 | "there's a darkness inside me"Lol exactly. And notice how when "the darkness" takes over the only cure is pOsT nUt ClaRiTy? Which they get down right philosophical about, teary eyed while clutching that mug in the rain trying to explain it to women who just can't possibly ever understand the complexity of darkness they experience before ejaculating themselves into enlightenment every day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 12:17 PM |
| 119 | "there's a darkness inside me"Yeah I find this to be an interesting insight into depression, especially when depicted in art. And I think that's where lv men actually picked up the lingo in the first place (from art). I think they can fool depressed women easier with "darkness inside me" confessions because depressed women might assume that these guys are describing the same experience they're having and not question it. But it's very different. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 12:10 PM |
| 43 | What makes boys become violent narcissistic men?It sucks because peers and media have a big role in how kids grow up. But i would say just think of how girls are raised vs boys and go from there. The main difference is entitlement. So don't do everything for him. Don't let him get used to (or expect) you cleaning up after him, bailing him out of difficult situations, even cooking for him, etc. He should have to participate and you shouldn't have to "nag" or even ask him to do it. We learn to be responsible for ourselves and considerate to oth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 11:30 AM |
| 64 | do men just turn into complete POS when they hit 50 or is it that generation?Or older. If "age is just a number" and they can't help falling in "love" then by that logic they would be helplessly falling for older women as well, and aggressively defending the choice to date older women. Their lies make no sense because they're lies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:20 AM |
| 194 | do men just turn into complete POS when they hit 50 or is it that generation?The psychology of middle aged men who are obsessed with youth could be a college course. There is so much to discover. How is it that they feel so emboldened? Why are they so confident? Where does the delusion come from? Do they REALLY not see how repulsive they are? Why do they have mid life crisis's where they burn it all down? How are they ok with their kids hating them? Do they really just not notice that people find them pitiable? Are they self aware that they're creepy? Here's what I've le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 08:21 PM |
| 157 | Guide to: Being a High Value Woman❤️ You kind of touched on this in multiple bullets. But I just want to add my strong opinion that part of being HV is having a personality and/or good character. That looks different depending on the unique woman. But way too many women (who build their lives around men) lose themselves and make compromises with their own integrity. I hate to see that!!!! A HVM works to maintain her individuality, moral fibre and sense of self! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 11:00 PM |
| 8 | you can 3d print a key and all you need to do it is a photograph of said key. Keep your house keys hidden when you're on a date with a stranger.I know 💔 And as tho it's not creepy enough they don't even need a clear pic to do it. A blurry quick pic is enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 10:29 PM |
| 222 | I have no words for this...Does anyone else feel like pOsT nUt ClArItY isn't real? LVM are misdiagnosing themselves with "post but clarity". In truth what they're experiencing is just a symptom of something else (porn addiction, hatred for women, poor character, personality disorder, etc) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 01:48 PM |
| 48 | Why men and women cannot be "just friends"There's a secret to friendships with men. You can be friends with men. The secret is to keep an emotional distance. Male friendships should be surface level, fun only. You can still have deep meaningful discussions, and be important figures in each other's lives, but offer no deep emotional support and expect none in return. They DO sexualize you. But you can demand mutual respect by keeping clear boundaries. Men have insatiable desire for women. It's obnoxious and can be really unhealthy. But i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 02:58 PM |
| 13 | How to get over fear of men?I swear they can sense it. Narcissists have a nose for people with low confidence. As far as your efforts at improving that goes, you might be doing negative self talk and not realizing it. So maybe you start off feeling confident but then as you're standing there negative self talk starts swimming through your brain like "they're so loud, I'll never be able to get a word in" or "I don't have anything to say, it'll sound stupid if I speak". You don't have to be the loudest, smartest most charmin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 09:21 PM |
| 13 | How do you end a date early?🤢 nooo I don't want to imagine. Well honestly a similar scenario happened recently. I grabbed lunch with a woman I don't know well. We walked to a little bistro and the seating was a bit tight. It was no problem until we sat down and the front door closed. When I tell you she reeked like smoke I mean it like, it was unbearable. My eyes were literally watering. I took a lot of breaks, got up and pretended to look at the menu on the wall for like 5 full minutes 🙃 and took my time "finding" the bat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 04:04 PM |
| 7 | Let’s Talk About LVM Exes and When They Come Back After A BreakupMine did. But it's a boring story and one that seems to be pretty common. It was 3 years after our split and a year or so after his marriage when be confessed he was in "love" for me (I'm literally a stranger to him so his "love" is absolute bullshit). We work together occasionally (few times a year) and I was so content with our professional (non) relationship. Then he imploded it by getting weird. I told his wife, but she knew already because he had told her. He's a serial cheater, so it wasn'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 10:53 AM |
| 67 | How do you end a date early?When I was dating I went on a handful of dates where at some point he became unattractive to me and I knew in that instant I wasn't interested in a relationship. For example, one guy opened up about his history of depressive episodes and implied that another one could hit any moment. That doesn't make him a bad person. But it is incompatible with me. I still finished the date and did my best to enjoy the night (even though I knew it was over romantically, it was still fun to socialize). I find i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 10:46 AM |
| 55 | How to get over fear of men?Is this a confidence issue? Or are you nervous because you feel unsafe? Or a combination of both? My advice would be to figure yourself out. What makes you feel your most confident? For example, I have learned that I feel most confident in either a quiet intimate setting or outdoors, and a loud bar or loud restaurant makes me feel meek and disoriented. So when I was dating I avoided dates in places that made uncomfortable. Because I knew I couldn't be on my a-game in those places. I've also lear… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 10:27 AM |
| 5 | The type of gold digging never talked about: men will date you to boost their careers, status and ultimately to make money.🤦🏼♀️ fixed it, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 02:26 PM |
| 33 | From Bo Burnham's poetry bookYep you're not wrong. I completely understand what you're seeing. I'm seeing it too. But as far as anti-fdsers, I feel like...whatever. Let them make fun. We're healing and if they feel the limp dick need to analyze it and mock it instead of getting a life then let them. Stupid hobby imo but whatever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 12:30 PM |
| 78 | From Bo Burnham's poetry bookA lot of women here have only ever experienced "that guy" (the dismissive, performativly woke, "classic me" manchild), so their lens on the world is really warped. One of the beautiful things about this sub is that we're helping each other clean that lens and see beyond the patriarchy. But a lot of women are stuck stewing in that negative space for now. That's part of the healing process (I was there at one point myself). Years ago, after a bad break up I was one of the women stubbornly missing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 11:22 AM |
| 19 | A Case for "Vanilla" SexThis is my favorite post ever on this sub because it's so validating. I can't talk about sex with my friends any more because i'm so bored by "kinky" people. And listening to them just makes me feel sad. For a while it was hard to put my finger on why though (it seems like such a ridiculous thing to trigger a sadness response over) but then I realized...it's because I'm sad for women in general. It's not fair that women have been robbed of one of life's best experiences and manipulated into thin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 10:29 AM |
| 367 | From Bo Burnham's poetry bookHe gets it. But what sucks is that his fans don't. The satire and art behind stuff like this is lost on them. They don't know how to read it, so they see this as just relatable misogyny and laugh. I saw a thread on reddit about the white women's Instagram song. People in there literally said that the "give a hug and kiss to dad" lyric was the "funniest joke" in the special because it meant the actual "twist" was that the girl hadn't lost anyone, they were alive and well. She had just moved away … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 09:58 AM |
| 71 | Men do not form meaningful friendships with other men. It is not your job as a woman to fill in that void.You can be friends with men, but unfortunately it's true that you do have to keep an emotional distance. It cannot be the same as it is with women. Because if you leave the door open even a crack men will wiggle on. All my successful friendships with men are the ones that are very surface level. That sounds a little sad but honestly I do really enjoy it that way. We don't talk in detail about personal burdens or help each other through working things out beyond a sympathetic "that sucks" every o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 01:47 AM |
| 112 | I'm devastated. TW Caroline's murderer was her husband.I wrote a posthere once about this, but the summary of it is that my friend (who is very into true crime) claims that there is a serious correlation between age gaps and murder. His hypothesis is that incompatibility with adult women is an indicator of deep rooted fear and ultimately hatred for women. What I learned after posting that was that there are A LOT of women here who - despite all of our warnings, despite the higher rates of divorce, despite the pleading from loved ones to learn from t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 11:24 PM |
| 76 | They finally made a Handmaids Tale for Men. I'm screaming with laughter!"Before I was a senior vp. Now I'm a senior vp with some female colleagues." The horror! Lol. This entire thing is such an accurate representation of how I see MRA but that line in particular speaks volumes 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 12:48 PM |
| 31 | I am so sick of hearing how men don't care about heightSo that video was fake and obviously completely staged. I get the point they're trying to make though. Anyway, i'm 5'10 and I wear heels most days. In real life I've never had a problem with being undesirable for my height, but online it's pretty constant to hear that it's a bad thing. After online dating was popularized and women showed preference for tall men, the inevitable response was to try to convince us that it's not short men who are undesirable, it's tall WOMEN who should be the insecu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 11:08 AM |
| 20 | What's with youtubers and their hate boner for women? And as women, why do many of us seem to brush it off?I watched it. The song "white women's Instagram" wasn't misogynistic, but the response absolutely HAS been. Men love that song and celebrate bo for it, and yet the response to the song about obnoxious white men has been...crickets. One of the biggest themes of the special was about dissociation and the things we all do to comfort ourselves, escape and detach from reality. I didn't know he had a history of misogyny and that's disappointing, but that particular song wasn't misogynistic. It's just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 08:25 PM |
| 69 | «If you think the current conversations about women’s safety don’t affect you...» I thought a lot about this, and its trueI hate this fact so much. We were all so young (I was 10). It boggles my mind. And every man I've ever known has acted like they hate pedos and predators. They all laugh at shows like to catch a predator, seem supportive of serious sentences for sexual criminals, and make fun of losers who seek out kids to prey on. But it's like, hmmm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 08:55 PM |
| 133 | This is super sad — but scrotes say it’s just a “preference” right? Porn does sick things to the brainKinda weird to say but my mom has basically a perfect butt. And she's gotten so many compliments over the last few years from young women but she ignores all of us. She thinks our advice to accentuate it is ridiculous. She lived her whole life trying to hide it, wore really unflattering clothes. So that's her comfort zone (hiding it). She accentuates her boobs and wears things that make her look like she has a hourglass figure eve though she's naturally pear shaped. But it was just not a beauty … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 08:35 PM |
| 50 | Do you believe in Pretty Privilege? Why is it that society, including women, dismiss the devastating loneliness of UNATTRACTIVE WOMEN while simultaneously doing everything possible to avoid BECOMING those unattractive women?I'm conventionally attractive and it makes it easy for me to exist in the patriarchy. People assume I'm a trustworthy, kind person of value just because of my looks. So navigating through this disgusting, valueless system is much easier for me than it would be if I weren't attractive. I'm aware that i get the benefit of the doubt. That I get more second chances and opportunities. And I'm aware that people are gentle with me in a way they aren't with other adults (it's a bit like being treated li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 06:52 PM |
| 122 | Men always talk about natural selection and animals. Well here is proof of their 'nature'.It's so funny to me how they celebrate apes and aspire to be more apelike. They marvel at how "natural" and biologically sound it is to mate with as many "young and fertile" females as possible because that's what are ape brethren do 😍. And they yearn to apply that to human social dynamics because it's natural and just sound biology. But why not dive in fully if you like the lifestyle so much? Like there are baby primates that suckle on males nipples, not for milk but for comfort. Why isn't stuf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 11:49 AM |
| 32 | Straight men are faking their deep voices 😂Whenever my ex was defensive or throwing fits his voice got so high pitched. i had to fight my instinct to laugh sometimes because his voice changed so much in those moments. Now I'm wondering if it's because it was his authentic voice breaking through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 11:34 AM |
| 6 | QUEENS, How Have You Found Your HVM?Too early to call it, but signs looking good. It was pure and complete luck, we were working at the same random gig together, had a lot of down time to talk and had incredible chemistry. I almost didn't go that night, and if I wouldn't have we would have never crossed paths. So just luck. But I also attribute it to being wise enough to stay single and stay away from lvm for years. Staying away from lvm took away so much stress, bitterness and negativity from my soul, and literally changed me as … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 06:26 PM |
| 2 | This is Lilith from the FDS Podcast. I'm deleting my Reddit account because I'm tired of misogyny and harassment on Reddit.I get it. Every once in a while I delete all my posts that trigger creeps too. It gets exhausting to log in and sift through evil before ever seeing the content you subscribed to see. I honestly avoid reddit for chunks of time for mental health. It's a really disgusting website and a really disgusting world. Your decision makes complete sense. I really appreciate the mods here, but I can't imagine having to log on basically every day to this depressing site. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:52 PM |
| 7 | A man will insist it’s “not all men” until he has a daughter. Suddenly it’s ALL men he wants to protect her from. Which is it, scrotes?Those types of fathers give their daughters a very small window of temporary love and respect. It only lasts while she's a girl, still moldable by his influence, a trophy to show off. As soon as they turn into teenagers and have their own agency and opinions suddenly these dads lose all respect for them and can't figure out how to get along with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:46 PM |
| 24 | Shoutout to r/FemaleDatingStratPros for doing our outrage marketing for us and bringing us more members 😂What's offensive about it is that it's not even funny. It's just lame manosphere "humor". And what's with the black womem emojis? The "joke" being, what? That they don't like black women? Even for reddit, that seems racist and hateful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 09:28 AM |
| 151 | Men threaten us with "you'll be forever single" while our dating pool is THIS....no thanksThey should just stay single then. They can watch their "ideal girlfriend" doing porn all day. Why do they "need" both for their sExUaL hEaLtH? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 10:36 AM |
| 18 | Performative love (what men want) vs the real thing (what women want).Lol omg I love this sub and the women here, and the wide range of personal standards. I feel like you're probably breaking a lot of hearts because the fact that this can happen in the reverse is unimaginable to me. Men I used to date were always SO full of shit and the smallest moments of sincerity made them uncomfortable, so when I started dating "boring" men I felt so much more fulfilled. From my vantage point there are a lot of men on the same page as you. Which is fortunate because if that's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 03:26 PM |
| 14 | Performative love (what men want) vs the real thing (what women want).We agree with each other though. I don't have words for it, but real love is more beautiful than what I'm calling performative love, so I don't think it's over after 16 or anything like that. If anything, I almost feel like I shouldn't have had a committed relationship until I was past 25 or so because the quality of men and relationships improved so much as I got to know myself. It makes me wonder what I missed out on while I was wasting my time on a LTR destined for nowhere. But still, what I'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:52 PM |
| 8 | The bigger a dude, the nicer he tends to be. I don't even care about height from an aesthetics standpoint, but I don't date short men because they usually have a Napoleon complex and terrible personality.Short women aren't going to understand what you're talking about. I'm 5'10. When short men are insecure with their height I can feel it. Literally sense it. It's the most obvious thing in the world. It's a very particular flavor of misogyny, so my misogyny radar goes off. Meanwhile my shorter friends are like, what sirens? I don't hear anything. When you are a tall woman you have the height filter on. It's kind of like when a fat friend tells you that a guy who's kind to you is a jerk to her and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 10:26 AM |
| 40 | Is Internet Misogyny Seeping Over IRL?I've noticed it too. It's getting worse. I used to think it was just because we're getting older and finally seeing what was always there. But it's definitely escalating. But it's makes sense. They are not going to go quietly into the night. So whenever they react it means we have made a small dent. It's like when women started joining the work force back in the day and the response from men was all that 50s housewife propaganda. So much panic. It unfortunately worked, but a dent was at least ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 10:26 AM |
| 26 | The guys who get the most mad about "generalizing men" are the ones where the generalization 100% applies to them 😂For sure. This is why I'm so creeped out by all the guys who "don't believe" rape victims. It's because they've done the same or worse to women. Same with the overly defensive pedophile defenders who make distinctions over how tOTaLlY dIfFeReNt it is if the victim is 14 rather than 8. Men get defensive over things they're guilty of. It's a tell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 10:52 AM |
| 8 | Women have been conditioned to always put themselves last and not rest- so self care is ESSENTIAL ❤️Needed this, thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 11:38 AM |
| 48 | Less TikTok and more reading books by Bell Hooks, Andrea Dworkin, Naomi Wolf, and many othersWait. I have to defend genz. I can see how someone could get the impression from tiktok that they're hopeless, but the young genz women I know in real life are impressive. They're dressing gender neutral because they hate the male gaze. I love them for that alone. I admire that they're not feeling the pressure to get married asap. they know how to straight up call out perverts who hit on them. The only thing that worries me about them (and it's a huge problem) is that they're being groomed into … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 10:59 AM |
| 297 | Since some people seem to think we mean “very wealthy” when we say High ValueCompetency is attractive. The reason wealthy men are attractive to women is because it's a signal that they're competent. This doesn't always hold true, some men inherit their wealth or cheat lie and steal their way to wealth. And some competent men choose not to pursue wealth at all. But at a bare bones level, it's competency that's attractive. And it for real irks me how many pickmes and men on Reddit think that when we say "high value" we're talking about rich old men. I've seen so many guys … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 03:25 PM |
| 27 | WE ARE HUMAN FEMALE AND THEY SEE US AS SUCHThere's research where they used brain scans on straight men to see what's going on in there when they're looking at women. There is a part of the brain that fires up when you are seeing another human. That part of their brains WAS activated when looking at women. So they literally do recognize us as human. Low bar, but they almost cleared it. HOWEVER, they discovered that when women are dressed in less clothing (in bikinis, in the studies), the areas of their brains that light up are the same o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 11:07 AM |
| 29 | The Utility of Gaslighting and How It Covers Up Weak CharacterYou know what's funny is I was thinking it gives them too much credit to assume they're smart enough to pull that off 🙃 BUT I do agree with you and I know what you're saying. That's why I think it's a mixture of both. They know they're pulling the wool over your eyes to some degree, but they're too thick skulled or emotionally stunted to see it as abuse. OPs point is that gaslighting can look like that. I think the reason she's pointing it out is because it can be very different from the more ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 02:56 PM |
| 120 | The Utility of Gaslighting and How It Covers Up Weak CharacterIt's both; they "know", but they aren't master manipulators with an end game. They're not motivated by a grand plot, they're motivated by the pathetic desire to just escape from an uncomfortable conversation. They want to think of themselves as good guys no matter what, so gaslighting also helps them escape from facing the truth of their character too. So instead of listening, self reflecting and repairing they derail and gaslight. It's to protect themselves, not necessarily to hurt other people… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 02:34 PM |
| 77 | Did you hear about John Mulaney's divorce? I'm shocked.Sacha baron cohen and isla fisher have been married a long time too, and seem to like each other. Who really knows though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 10:45 AM |
| 68 | It's just a myth that attractive people have terrible personalitiesSimilarly, there is this narrative that when people cheat it's because they found an irresistible hottie and "upgraded". But in reality when people cheat, the affair partner is very rarely more attractive than the person getting cheated on. Very rarely. I've known good looking married men that got cheated on by trashy, sloppy losers. And I also know many women who have exes that cheated on them with the same "type": always younger, but much uglier. Or even weirder just an uglier, plainer version… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 12:28 PM |
| 50 | Tricking women into sex work is the Patriarchy's new strategy for keeping us out of the workplaceWow. I've always just dismissed men as simple perverts for not being horrified alongside us when we see teenagers being groomed into sw. But they're not necessarily perverts. Maybe deep down they feel relief, and a flash of power. As though a balance is being restored. Maybe they've felt emasculated watching the power dynamic slipping away, so now that they're watching it slip back to where it was they subconsciously enjoy the feeling. It's no wonder they're so blindly supportive of women when i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 11:37 PM |
| 126 | Why do men LIE like this? REALLY? You've NEVER heard of any sex based slurs for women? "Scrotes" is BY FAR THE WORST? This is why I cannot take Redditor critics of FDS seriously."twat" too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 11:12 PM |
| 186 | I wish I would have known to act like this when I was a teenager. Genx is self taught. You love to see it.And yet he looks shocked when she calls him old. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 04:13 PM |
| 90 | I wish I would have known to act like this when I was a teenager. Genx is self taught. You love to see it.They do a better job than I do. I made a typo in the title (meant genZ not genx) but I'm in my mid 20s so i grew up in a time where the suggested tactic of dealing with older men was to do the customer service voice (be nice and polite in case they are aggressive). It didn't work then and still doesn't. I have so much respect for the young women who are teaching each other (and the rest of us) how to handle these guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 04:13 PM |
| 33 | I wish I would have known to act like this when I was a teenager. Genx is self taught. You love to see it.Thank you! I did mean genZ 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 04:08 PM |
| 6 | Tell me about the HV people in your livesThe most HV people I know are all older and are: women who are single and men who are married. But as far as my own age group, my brother, my closest friend, my boyfriend and his friend are all seemingly high value to me. I'm still very suspicious and on high alert about my boyfriend and his friend because I've only known them for a year or so, but some common traits are that they are all socially conscious, always trying to be better people, when they joke they punch up (instead of bullying and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 10:36 AM |
| 91 | Size matters. Men need to stop shaming women for preferring big dicks.I normally keep this to myself but you're right, this is possibly the only place where you're "allowed" to even say this. So I'm going to say it with you. It matter a lot. Sometimes when I see dead bedroom situations with a bunch of detail about both of them being fit, having a good relationship and all that, I wonder if the woman in question is just repulsed by his dick but is just not "allowed" to say anything. Because it's like the one thing that we have universally agreed to never speak of. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 09:52 AM |
| 53 | The myth that young women will lust after 45 year old men in their apparent ‘peak earning potential’ 🤪All the tips and tricks of the manosphere is so unnecessary. If you want a young person when you are old then here's all you need to do : be a bad person. Lower your morals, be able to justify your selfishness, be willing to put your personal sex goals over another human life. Insecure lost young people will always be there. They are sitting prey. But there is no secret formula that dude bros on Reddit need to teach you to prey on them. No magic amount of money or resources you have to collect. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 06:38 PM |
| 82 | Message to female lurkers"don't listen to women, men aren't attracted to any of that stuff. That stuff doesn't matter to us. We don't care about your education level. You can be a high school drop out. In fact (better yet) you can still be IN high school. We don't care about your career. We don't mind if you're broke or have no credit. That's not what you should be worrying about if you want to be a high value woman. What you should focus on instead is being hot and keeping things interesting sexually 😎. That's what men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 03:55 PM |
| 166 | Message to female lurkersIt's the "burn the witches at the stake" mentality. When women know what's up we get villianized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 02:52 PM |
| 241 | Message to female lurkersSuch a good, good, good one. They'll see it as ✨toxic✨ though because we've all been conditioned to compromise in order to maintain a "healthy" relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 01:36 PM |
| 21 | misandry isn't real and men who say it IS are more likely to be dangerous.They will (with a straight face) say those DO exist and are real problems. Their emotional social intelligence is non existent and every fleeting ounce of empathy they might have only gets directed towards other men. The only time they are able to perceive (miniscule and ultimately harmless) prejudice is when it's directed at men, particularly men that look like them. If a group of women are uncomfortable because a creepy older man is hitting on them during "ladies night" at a college bar, and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 05:00 PM |
| 26 | What the actual fuck. 🤡Wait what am I missing?? How can you tell he's cheating, what's the weird little giveaway? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 10:14 AM |
| 8 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantMen totally do perform for other men and seem to prefer their company. When you combine that with the way they hate and are repulsed by grown women (stretch marks, pubic hair, cellulite) it makes you wonder how many true heterosexual men even exist 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 10:47 PM |
| 10 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantI'm confused. Written text without cues can be interpreted wrong, so I'm going to clarify: I have zero animosity, toward anything you said, I'm not taking anything you're saying really personally, and none of those comments about animals/humans swayed or bothered me in the slightest either. I realize the use of the word "mindlessly" was my own, I know you didn't say that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 10:35 PM |
| 14 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantOh they're big mad. Theyve been sending me messages all day after failing to comment here. What's funny is their messages are almost identical. Which leads me to believe it's propaganda that they're regurgitating from whatever radicalism birthed them. Probably red pill, but I'm not familiar enough with neck beard armies to properly trace it (nor so I care). But the formula is like this: first they call me an incel 🙃 and then they tell me I'm "toxic" (whoever is in charge over there needs to upda… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 08:32 PM |
| 30 | Stay away from deadbeat dads even if your child freeMy BIL is like that. He bitches about his neglectful childhood and can spot the problems with his dad. But I've seen enough of his (lack of) interaction with his own kids to see that the cycle continues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 06:22 PM |
| 20 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantDunno if that is directed at me specifically, but no one "keeps swaying my opinion". My opinion remains exactly, concretely the same. Drawing attention to our animal biology CAN be used as an argument for hedonism, and I don't want to contribute to that argument or unintentionally spread that message more than it already is. In fact, "it's just biology" psuedoscience is a huge pet peeve of mine. I've written posts about it on here before. So I appreciate the people who brought that up. It doesn'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 06:02 PM |
| 13 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantLol thank you "who cares tho" is a thought that swims thru my head everytime i I listen to men bla bla blaing about their dating preferences. Because it literally does not matter what they prefer lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:49 PM |
| 25 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantYeah finding a HVM is largely luck. But FDS isn't really about teaching us how to find a HVM though. The strategy part is to weed out the LV men that may have slipped past your filter and are wasting your time, and to start building safety nets for YOURSELF instead of building for or with a man. Traditional advice guides women into using our youth and beauty to "land" a man by fulfilling his needs and giving him commitment and loyalty. But that's short term thinking. Men can (and do) just leave.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:42 PM |
| 94 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantI'm getting them in my inbox and i imagine it's about the same. Here's an example from mine: "if you want nature then men have the right to r*pe plenty of male animals get to do that. In fact we should remove laws." They're all pretty much repeats of that sentiment (that they should "get to" rape and "mate" with young "fertile" women) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 02:43 PM |
| 157 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantEw thank you for shielding us. ♥️ You should see my chat inbox of scientists telling me about their biological need for fertile women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 02:23 PM |
| 28 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantYou're a thousand percent right that men can (and do) use "humans are animals" into justifying hedonism, violence and immortal behavior. I didn't even think to address that, so thank you for pointing that out. I might edit it in real quick. I didn't think to make the disclaimer since this is FDS and women don't romanticize the stone age the way men do. But I forgot about all the male lurkers, so yeah I'll add that: we live in a civilized society. We're not in the jungle. We don't partner JUST to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 02:05 PM |
| 81 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantThank you for making my day by telling us about the birds of paradise mating dance. So cool!! It's sad that an actual bird has just impressed me more successfully than a human man has lately. But that just kind of proves our point I guess 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:22 PM |
| 31 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantI see your point and it's a REALLY good one, but my argument is that both ideas are correct. Women ARE the evolutionary gatekeepers, but men hijacked it. I don't know much about Jordan Peterson, (he just seems like a generic overly confident middle aged man) but his message that men should wipe their asses (aka: women are sexual selectors so men should do better) is one I agree with. My personal belief is that women can take back the roll (this time without men interfering with it) but maybe I'm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:19 PM |
| 8 | True crime and age gapsFor sure. But most of them are obvious with their hatred. We can see it a mile away. What's scary is the ones that know how to masquerade as normal (even though they really see us as just objects from the very start) and one of the ways they can do that is by starting relationships with us when we're young, inexperienced or naive. With extra life experience they know exactly what to say and exactly how to act to manipulate us. Plus, power is corruptive, so after a while they get addicted to the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 09:08 PM |
| 11 | True crime and age gapsWell I'm 26 myself so I'm still taking my cues from older women and learning. Age gaps always come with an elevated risk, but it gets less problematic with age. 29 and 37 seems reasonable to me. I still personally would never do it again. I never want to be with a man who doesn't find older women attractive, ever again. But it's hard to generalize. If he has a history of ONLY dating younger women though, then scream. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 08:37 PM |
| 66 | I’m sick of pick me articles claiming their husbands infidelity made their relationship ‘stronger’It is so stupid. You never hear men saying their wives infidelity made their relationship stronger. Just pickme things. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:03 PM |
| 213 | True crime and age gapsI saw a post about how I guess back when Ted Bundy was active the media portrayed him as good looking and seductive. ??? The implication being that he was just so irresistible to young women that they went and got themselves killed by being lustful or promiscuous. In reality, he was ugly. Like I always heard Ted Bundy was good looking. But yeah when I looked him up I was like, this? This guy? in reality, the girls and women were very young, and he kidnapped them by exploiting their naivety and d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 04:54 PM |
| 47 | True crime and age gapsI just looked it up and found that 60 percent of women murdered are killed by a current or former partner. That seems wrong. Seems way too low. I would have guessed 90 percent as well. They probably just get away with it, or I didn't dig deep enough | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 04:44 PM |
| 46 | True crime and age gapsIt's probably higher. But a lot of times they have really good alibis, or the evidence goes in a totally different direction and it takes forever to prove it or generate enough interest to even reopen cases. Nm I just looked it up. It's supposedly 60 percent of women that are killed by a current or former partner. ? Way lower than I would have guessed, but who knows how many men get away with it and how many women just stay "missing" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 04:42 PM |
| 120 | True crime and age gapsThat makes perfect sense. They see us as objects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 04:37 PM |
| 14 | Quality men appreciate it when the women they’re into have high standards of behavior they can meetThe only men I like are the ones in LTR with HV women. So many times when I enjoy a man's company it will eventually be revealed that everything I like about him can be traced back to his wife or girlfriend who is clearly influencing him. Women make men so much better, but it's rare that men make women better. That's also why I really can't stand single men. Single women, however, are usually the fucking best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 09:27 AM |
| 16 | No, it's not 'tacky' to call out old men for their obsession with chasing much younger women.Absolutely. Also the low percentage of women who are older is because women aren't nearly as depraved as men. I'm 26. If I dated a 19 year old I would have non stop guilt about it. I'd be embarrassed. Id wonder how much I'm interfering with his trajectory in life by putting my own ideas in his head during his crucial formative years. I'd worry about stealing his experience of youth by exposing him to mundane adult life way too early. To me (and a lot of women) it just feels like a sickening idea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 01:18 PM |
| 10 | That sounds more like having a child than a marriage. I'm glad to be single rather than deal with something like that.Nightmare. Every word. I don't know her so who knows what her mental health story is. But PSA, if you have depression you should get help for it, especially before making big decisions like getting married. One of my closest friends has depression and when unmedicated can adapt to literally living in filth, but with combination talk therapy and medication those low bar living conditions quickly lose all their appeal and don't feel so normal or acceptable. When you're brain isn't healthy you migh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 11:24 AM |
| 29 | No, it's not 'tacky' to call out old men for their obsession with chasing much younger women.Pervs are predators always point to the same handful of examples (like Leo) to prove how "common" it is. Or more pathetic, they pull examples from our great grand parents abusive generations. And they always throw that number around ("30 percent of women marry OLDER men") but no one ever points out that those "older" men are mostly 3 or 4 years older, not 10 or 20. Theyre clinging to delusions. And to a past when women had much less freedom. Turns out, when you look at the actual data women want… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 11:13 AM |
| 29 | Why is waiting 3ish months to have sex seen as such a deranged/controversial thing?There are a lot of LV people with LV priorities. They think of and treat others as disposable, and they allow themselves to be disposable as well. I swear a lot of people just go through life in auto pilot and are barely awake. They treat themselves and each other like that and then wonder why they're miserable. I've known men who agree that waiting 3 months is a good rule for both men and women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 10:45 AM |
| 18 | Billie Eilish and the teenager to Sex Symbol pipelineI love her, so there's my disclaimer. But I HATE that it's called empowering. What a fucking joke. She was empowered BEFORE when she was out there in hoodies with her zero fucks. It was empowering to women of all ages to see a undeniably pretty girl getting praised for her talent and unique personality instead of her looks. Despite how pretty she is we were all forced to put her looks on the back burner and actually SEE her (her character, personality, talent and mind). Then when she was hounde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 11:09 AM |
| 68 | Creepy men taking pictures of young women will never be okay.YES and it's not just to shame them, it's to protect yourself. They could be scouting you out for human trafficking. So be loud, cause a scene. Make sure you watch him delete it AND that he deletes it from his recently deleted folder too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 10:22 AM |
| 51 | Words men use to insult us that are actually compliments? Let's get a list going!From men but also from kInKy pickmes: "vanilla". We (vanilla people) are having better sex than whatever it is they're even doing, so the attempt to shame or insult us isn't the burn they think it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 05:14 PM |
| 30 | The single demographics in the US and why young men are angryI did. And this is a pet peeve of mine because the real data is really not that controversial. Real data shows that most couples are the same age. Followed by couples in which the man is older by 3-5 years. Then the next group is couples where the woman is 3-5 years older. Waaaaaaaay down the line is age gaps where the man is 10-20 years older. Like waaaaaay down. Meaning it's uncommon. Less uncommon than women being 10-20 years older, yes. But still not surprising considering women are way more… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 04:07 PM |
| 19 | The single demographics in the US and why young men are angryLmao no. Look up census data. Literally the rarest relationships in the western world are if large age gaps. 4 to 5 years, absolutely. But those are pretty much peers. 20 years older?! Doesn't happen. The only way you can make that statistic work would be if you factor in places like sub-Saharan Africa where the (non consensual) age gaps are massive. But even if you factor that it globally, there is still is a very small percentage of large age gap marriages. It's extremely rare. Most people mar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 03:52 PM |
| 30 | The single demographics in the US and why young men are angryLol it doesn't mean that. It doesn't mean the missing people are in a relationship. I can see how you're looking at it though, but you're mistaken. It's data primarily drawn from online dating singlehood. So no, 65+ men are not paired up with the 20 year olds. That still remains VERY rare. Most couples are pretty much the same age (men being A LITTLE older, but by less than 5 years, so...pretty much peers). It's much more likely that at 65+ they're literally dead lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 03:34 PM |
| 34 | Banned from other subs just for being a member of FDS?Banned from 2x. They say we are "misandrists". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 01:30 PM |
| 79 | Imagine a service existed where people can purchase men to degradeThe logic is that old musty men using our bodies for sex is in our wheelhouse because we're attracted to men. Therefore it's not that big of a deal to get paid for what we "enjoy". And yeah we're all conditioned to objectify (especially young) women. It's sickening how deep rooted it is in almost all of us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 12:55 PM |
| 30 | Imagine a service existed where people can purchase men to degradeLmao exactly. Extra pats on the back for helping someone empower himself, good for you. Super woke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 12:51 PM |
| 267 | Is Bill Gates LVM?The strongest indicator of a LVM is if he preys on woman in her early 20s while he is over 30. It's the strongest red flag. When they got together she was 24, he was 34. Case closed. That's all I need to know to call it, he's LV. There is no such thing as a HVM over 30 who dates 24 year olds. Age gaps that start when the woman is in her early 20s have high divorce rates, so it's shocking it lasted as long as it did. But extreme wealth and PR probably played a major factor in that "success", so a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:17 PM |
| 18 | Men on unemployment think that this applies to them - at least it was an unemployed man who posted this. It doesn't matter how many hours some scrote works, a strong woman will NOT settle for this!!"Quality time" with him? Meaning...sex? He works such craaaazy hours that he only gets one ten minute break of free time every day? And he so graciously gives that to his girlfriend, but it can only be spent in bed. And remember he's soooo tired, so don't expect him to put any effort into it. In fact, she should just be grateful for a "quality time" blow job. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 07:37 PM |
| 128 | Once again, from the horse’s mouthOr right in the middle of having children. A lot of examples people use to point out women "aging poorly" are women who literally just birthed humans and are nursing them, staying up all night with them, skipping showers and wearing comfty post-surgery clothes, etc. Imagine if a man was recovering from a big surgery or something and people put up pics of him sleep deprived and in sweatpants to start a discussion over his sudden decent from hotness. NEVER happens. Only to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 05:34 PM |
| 46 | Once again, from the horse’s mouthWell they just assume she is 20 something and that he is 40 something but aging REALLY well, and kudos to him for scoring a young hottie. 🙄 In my line of work I see a lot of couples. I've yet to see a man age better, but I keep hearing about it from men and pickmes on the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 05:15 PM |
| 65 | A great way to vet for LV behavior is loudly and enthusiastically complimenting another woman. Then just watch how everyone reacts.This is GREAT advice, thank you! I'm starting to start vetting women (friendships) lately and this seems like a great way to spot pickme energy early on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:20 PM |
| 65 | Men are most attractive in their 20sI'm in my mid 20s but I think men and women are equally their most attractive in their early and mid 30s (with the caveat that the men still have all their hair). What's weird is a lot of women have children in their 30s but they're still lumped into the hottie debate. Men are so pressed to find actual examples of men aging better than their wives that they have to point to new moms as evidence of women who "hit a wall". New moms are not supposed to be judged for worlds baddest hottie right now,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 11:17 AM |
| 101 | Most men these days are homiesexualTrue heterosexual men are rare. A lot of men find women repulsive. They are repulsed by womanly things like cellulite, stretch marks, "mom bods', sagging boobs, pubic hair, eye wrinkles, wisdom, intuition, feminine strength (the list goes on). The are only attracted to GIRLS. I don't think these pedosexuals are this way by nature, they've been conditioned by porn and media to be this way. But when you meet an actual heterosexual man who is into WOMEN there's a big difference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 10:49 AM |
| 21 | Why women hate porn: it harms and objectifies women. 🤡 Why men hate porn: 🤡They all think they're ascended to another plane of existence just because they haven't jerked off in two days. You'd think that in this enlightened state of being they'd have something profound to say, but they just have epiphany after epiphany about their balls being vessels for magic. It was only a matter of time before that deep thought developed into conspiracy theories. My brother and I were talking about sex trafficking in porn once and his friend told us to stop because we were ruining i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 10:41 AM |
| 39 | He's 48, she's 19. They met when he was her tennis coach at 13 YEARS OLD. I'm disgusted and outraged for her and at him.One of the most shocking things about growing up as a woman is that day you wake up and realize that your age gap relationships were predatory. Coincidentally, the day this happens is the day we become "jealous bitter old ladies". Our warnings get dismissed away as "jealousy" and "hate". I always try to warm younger women about predators because it's kind of your duty as a victim of age gap abuse to warn the next victims, but I don't think they're even reachable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:30 AM |
| 79 | He's 48, she's 19. They met when he was her tennis coach at 13 YEARS OLD. I'm disgusted and outraged for her and at him.I remember seeing malala yousafzai interviewed when she was around 19. She really WAS wise beyond her years and mature for her age. But when the interviewer commented that she was so mature she laughed and looked confused and said no I'm not. And then she exchanged looks with her dad who was laughing and they started talking about how much she liked to pick on her brothers, be lazy, giggle with her friends, etc. Actual mature young women respect themselves and are aware of the world. It's only t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:06 AM |
| 35 | The phrase "SWERF" is corporate propaganda. The porn industry is attempting to shield itself from scrutiny by hiding behind the very laborers that they exploit. Sex workers are a class of oppressed, marginalized, exploited workers, not human meat shields for protecting industrial interests.I don't have a problem with sex work or sex workers. They can do what they want. But I hate that we're calling it empowerment. It's not only insulting and ridiculous it's also GROOMING. And that's the part that drives me insane. Most efforts normalizing and celebrating sex work is directed at kids (teenage girls). Meanwhile women who have to turn to prostitution out of desperation are likely suffering because the woke "empowered" privileged women are flooding the market. It's a clown world to ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:09 PM |
| 16 | The reasons behind the myth of short men having a “hard time” dating is other men, their own insecurities and how vicious they are to a taller woman who dares to show any interest.Lol imagine if they treated each other that way (like if he demanded that obama wear flats and idk maybe hunched when standing near him). Why is it only women? But sadly a lot of women are just used to it and have no idea that it's not okay. They treat it like it's just a quirk their husband or boyfriend has and they look over it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 03:44 PM |
| 14 | The reasons behind the myth of short men having a “hard time” dating is other men, their own insecurities and how vicious they are to a taller woman who dares to show any interest.Me too, but those are just the short men who aren't insecure about their height. You're just blissfully unaware of a whole big demographic of insecure short men lol. But trust me, those ghouls are out there, we just don't see them because they're chasing our shorter sisters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 03:21 PM |
| 37 | The reasons behind the myth of short men having a “hard time” dating is other men, their own insecurities and how vicious they are to a taller woman who dares to show any interest.I'm 5 10 and I've never minded dating short men who are cool, but the insecure ones are repulsive. Quick flex though: I've literally never had to ever interact with one in real life. My height intimidates them or repulses them, not sure which but I'm into it. I know about how pathetic they are because of my shorter friends who have allowed them in their dating pool and have stories, (many revolving around not being "allowed" to wear heels). They also have dealt with way more pedos and porn addic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 03:12 PM |
| 27 | Oh Look, Another Murderous Rapist Radicalized on The Reddit ManosphereYeah :( ugh they are associated with multiple acts of terrorism at this point though, so you'd think the fbi (or whatever) would at least keep an eye on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 09:31 PM |
| 70 | Oh Look, Another Murderous Rapist Radicalized on The Reddit ManosphereSo sick of these senseless tragedies and so sick of the "manosphere". Why won't reddit step in at this point and ban the places where they literally radicalize? I've heard it theorized that they don't ban those subs like mgtow because the fbi wants them open (basically that they're hot beds to track pedophiles and potential shooters, etc) but obviously that theory is junk, right? Because real life violence from them happens way too much. So again, why won't reddit ban them? Too much of their use… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 08:40 PM |
| 6 | On the idea that being intimidating to men is a lie women tell to justify their failure to bag a manI love meeting people who are smarter, funnier, better educated, more interesting, better looking, fitter, more fun, etc. It's energizing and inspiring to meet people like that. They add such value to my life instead of draining me. So I'll never understand why people insist on surrounding themselves with people who are less "iNtImiDaTINg" than them. Women do that way more often with friendships, which is bad, but men do it with relationships and when choosing a partner. And then they complain a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 11:11 AM |
| 82 | Just sharing my favorite gem from a scrote (before I disabled my chat) Their definition of HV cracks me upIt's amazing how even though they're obsessed with us and spend more time here than any of us, they still have no idea what we mean by HVM. His list of what makes a woman her best is: being young, fit, friendly (the only personality trait), attractive and kinky. Yeah. That's the dream girl of a LVM. Men who only like us for those qualities (most men) are LVM. That's what we're trying to avoid. I don't get how they don't get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 10:50 AM |
| 3 | On the MRAs, TRP, MGTOW and IncelsI don't know how true this is a, but a friend of mine swears that the google algorithm routes men to mgtow and redpill if they frequently google about balding and divorce. His hypothesis is that they comfort and coddle men about aging anxiety (by telling them they great news that they're prime is in their elder years lol) and that alone hooks them because it's a huge insecurity. Once they've been sold that comforting lie they don't want to give it up, so they double down on all the extreme stuff… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 10:43 AM |
| 2 | The sad truth.found it!: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wV-NcNwXqcA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 10:21 AM |
| 55 | Homeless men: an example of how men twist the narrativeI've seen them whine about women's shelters and resources for women. But they fail to notice that WOMEN make, fund and volunteers in them. And the reason we need to do that is because women get raped, beaten, impregnated and murdered by men. And not just by fellow homeless people but by all types of men including male volunteers at shelters. So if MRA actually cared they would take a page out of our book and do some actual activism. They have the numbers. On reddit alone they have the numbers to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 06:40 PM |
| 21 | I still don't understand other women putting their worth into how much pleasure a man can get out of their vaginas.I notice there's a lot of women who brag about how a man couldn't last for more than a few minutes because the PuSsY wAs JuSt ToO gOoD. Girl. You're one of many. Look around. He doesn't like you or worship your pussy. If he did, he'd try hard to impress you by lasting longer and pleasuring you, not failing you in 2 minutes. Goes to show that men's cultural gaslighting is sadly effective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 10:35 AM |
| 88 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)Whenever men complain about the "annoying" things their wives or girlfriends do I've always said things like, wow. what a great problem to have. I wish I had wife or gf problems. Not to mention, imagine being with someone SO much better looking than you too, but knowing they are loyal and don't see it that way. My first boyfriend was extremely good looking but it wasn't fun because his ego about it was out of control, he flirted with girls constantly, and made tons of comments about how I should… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 10:24 AM |
| 49 | The sad truth.I forget who it is but there's a woman stand up who has a bit about how women watch true crime to take notes. 🙃 Sadly kinda accurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 03:16 PM |
| 10 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wildThat's why I put it in quotations. Most people identify themselves as "kinky" but they're basic. I don't really have an interest in the kink world. But actual kinky people are rare. And my philosophy is, do you. If it's genuine, if it's actually an honest preference and exploration I'm all for it. But a suspicious amount of people are suddenly way into the same stuff and I just don't buy it. I think a sickening amount of women are socially pressured into pretending to like it and performing for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 03:02 PM |
| 22 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wildIt's the same old advice where it's not so much about how to seek them out, it's about learning to filter without compromise. You have to stay true to your standards and "Next. Pass. Nope." your way out of the trenches. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 01:48 PM |
| 175 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wildYou DON'T like it? Omg you're so vanilla. Okay guess im vanilla then, oh well lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:06 AM |
| 412 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wildAnd you know how I can tell that that's not their true, raw sexuality? Because they're ALL the same and they all showed up "overnight" (like within the last five years). Just hoards of sex posi kinky bdsm girls. It's like the basic bitch trope on steroids. And it's sad because they claim they're liberated but their sexuality is not coming from within. They're just following a cultural trend. Discover what you actually like instead of feeling pressure to conform. For me, it's "vanilla" sex where … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:02 AM |
| 26 | I'm seeing a lot of comments like "I hate that FDS thinks they're feminist"I wonder if women who have being doing sex work out of desperation have had to plummet their prices because of the market being flooded by privileged "empowered" girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 09:18 AM |
| 51 | I'm seeing a lot of comments like "I hate that FDS thinks they're feminist"I was banned from twox for linking to this sub because it's a "hate sub". They apparently look at fds and see it as random hate for the sake of hate. As though all these women are just twisted and targeting men to be hateful to, just out of thin air. You know, like how men do. Yes there's a theme of hatred here, but it's because we're absorbing it and reflecting it back. Men hate US. And men hate other men. That's what we're sharing and warning each other about. So many of these "women's" subs a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 09:13 AM |
| 10 | For those of you torn about prioritizing beauty and avoiding the male gaze, I wanted to share my solutionI struggle with this too. It's complicated and you're definitely not alone. I'm a work in progress myself. I think women get subconsciously put off by "hot" girls but it's not necessarily out of jealousy or insecurity. It's more like, seeing a woman who has successfully perfected the conventional standard invokes a deep rooted but subconscious reminder of our own (perceived) inadequacy when it comes to conformity to beauty standards. It's a byproduct of the male gaze. We are pitted against each … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:55 PM |
| 66 | For those of you torn about prioritizing beauty and avoiding the male gaze, I wanted to share my solutionExactly. And they don't have good taste. They just want whatever porn is telling them to want or whatever other men are impressed by. Long legs and big boobs are in one decade then big butts and tiny perky boobs are in the next. So they prefer whatever other men admire so they can impress each other with their shiny objects. They don't know anything about anything. They legit turned themselves into pedophiles over the past how ever many years. So, like, no. We don't need their tastes in our live… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:36 PM |
| 7 | For those of you torn about prioritizing beauty and avoiding the male gaze, I wanted to share my solutionI love reese witherspoon's style lately too! Her breezy and comfortable style frames her natural beauty instead of distracting from it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:30 PM |
| 4 | For those of you torn about prioritizing beauty and avoiding the male gaze, I wanted to share my solutionMe too! I hate when women shame other women for this stuff. The irony is that they're the ones letting men have power over THEM by letting them ruin the fun of beauty. Beauty is one of the things that makes life wonderful. Why let men ruin it? There is nothing inherently wrong with admiring beauty or chasing it. And humans crave validation. But again, nothing wrong with that. That can be such a good thing. It feels amazing when women hype each other up and admire each other. Yeah men have ruined… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:27 PM |
| 65 | For those of you torn about prioritizing beauty and avoiding the male gaze, I wanted to share my solutionYou're a female!!! What do you find pretty? Sometimes I'll be looking at what men find pretty and it's all so boring. Just a whole lot of childlike qualities and cookie cutter bland generic insta model looks that blend together after a while. What I find pretty is unique facial features (and when they get played up instead of hidden), interesting style chocies like homemade dresses or unique pieces. Women who have fun with their make up or tattoos. And the way some women carry themselves with co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:21 PM |
| 13 | For those of you torn about prioritizing beauty and avoiding the male gaze, I wanted to share my solutionNever said that. And I don't think that. At all, at all, at all... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 02:58 PM |
| 12 | For those of you torn about prioritizing beauty and avoiding the male gaze, I wanted to share my solutionExactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 02:37 PM |
| 35 | For those of you torn about prioritizing beauty and avoiding the male gaze, I wanted to share my solutionI so so so disagree. Denying beauty is not a life I'm interested in. I love beaity. It doesn't have to be about objectification. I find babies beautiful. Animals. Women are beautiful. It feels good to find beauty in others and to cultivate it myself. I love art and self expression and women are better vessels of self expression in my opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 01:51 PM |
| 89 | For those of you torn about prioritizing beauty and avoiding the male gaze, I wanted to share my solutionI'm on mobile right now, but honestly it's hard to explain! I think basically you have to put in the work to tap into your inner childhood self, find your own tastes and undo the social conditioning that has pushed you toward conforming to men's tastes. As far as famous examples Kristen stewart is at the top of my list but I also like styles with witchy vibes (there's one youtuber in particular called mintfaery who is really unique) so I'm all over the place. When you're at a party and see 80 gi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 01:45 PM |
| – | For those of you torn about prioritizing beauty and avoiding the male gaze, I wanted to share my solutionI didn't mean to offend. Did I? And I didn't say anything about "real" femmes. Here's what I think as a straight woman. We cater to men. Subconsciously. And men above all men like women who are upholding the status quo (by conforming to whatever beauty standard is current). Example. Right now (to men) natural looking makeup is "in" and they hate make up when a girl is dolled up in bold colors. On the surface it might seem innocent but if you date enough men you realize it comes from a motivation… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 01:20 PM |
| 10 | I'm so proud of you ladies for sharing and normalizing FDS concepts on tiktok, Instagram, and other social media 😂As someone who makes them and made friends off there I can confirm, there's definitely a low-key "secret" fds side of tik tok, we just all know to stay discreet about it lol. Love it. And we're growing btw. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 10:39 AM |
| 58 | PSA about hormones and hormonal birth control when dating and selectingThis is so shocking and scary to me, even though I'm not personally on hormonal birth control myself. I don't even know how to articulate it but it's like women are already spending extra energy fighting off being manipulated and controlled by mainstream culture, and now we're also being "controlled" chemically as well?! How are you supposed to fight THAT? It should be talked about so much more. I'm so happy you made it out of the fog, but I'm sorry that you were ever in it. That sounds like a n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 01:21 PM |
| 37 | PSA about hormones and hormonal birth control when dating and selectingOmg! How did I never hear about any of this before?I'm blown away by some of the anecdotes I've been reading. So happy you're off it and sharing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 01:11 PM |
| 22 | PSA about hormones and hormonal birth control when dating and selectingLol how does this sums up exactly how I feel about it? I don't know her well enough to get the full story, but my "this has to be bullshit" radar was going off at some points BUT it's complicated because I can tell there's definitely some truth to it as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 01:09 PM |
| 73 | It’s so life-affirming to hear a man publicly calling out NV red pill men on their misogynistic bullshit. Video title: “These "Alpha Males" Were Banned From TikTok”I didn't watch this one yet but I love that curtis conner consistently calls out and makes fun of LVM. I swear a lot of creators are afraid to because the audience on the internet is mostly LVM. But I love to see it because men are way more receptive to him than they are to women who say the same things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 05:50 PM |
| 25 | From that thread about sex workers' most emotional experiences. Such a sweet, poor lonely old companion ready to pay to use your body 💖💖💖 the cognitive dissonanceA horror film maybe. But tbf, "sweet" lonely old man "falling in love" with a 20 year old has been a romantic movie staple since forever. So at least with the twist that she's a prostitute we could suspend our disbelief enough to not get too distracted by the absurdity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 08:53 PM |
| 12 | From that thread about sex workers' most emotional experiences. Such a sweet, poor lonely old companion ready to pay to use your body 💖💖💖 the cognitive dissonanceLmao clown world | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 08:36 PM |
| 3 | They Will Come BadkI just trusted the wisdom of older women in my life who promised me that if I went no contact enough and focused on myself that time would be healing. And that's what it was, mostly just time. Dating and crushing on new men helped A LOT too, once I learned how to weed out the LV ones from the HV. My current bf is so much better in literally every way it makes it kind of a joke to even compare to my ex. So time, going no contact as much as possible, and replacing him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 11:14 AM |
| 101 | Beautiful WomenI never fully understood what people here meant when they said most men are attracted to femininity, not women. But you just made it click. Yeah. That makes sense. I also still think a scary majority of men are attracted to girls, not women. Which kind of fits with what you're saying. They like "girlish" behavior like being meek, being easy to impress, being insecure, conforming. But they fear "womanly" things like confidence, emotional intelligence, intuition, having ambitions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:32 PM |
| – | I love being tall. There I said it.I love it too. I'm still not used to being able to openly discuss loving it because back when i was in high school it was still a conventionally attractive beauty standard (like 8 years ago) to be tall and thin with big boobs (my body type). So it would be weird to brag about it. But now the new standard is petite with a big booty, so I think I'm meant to feel ashamed now. Nope! Not falling for it lol. My mom talks about how when she was my age it was the greatest body sin to have a big butt. Sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:20 PM |
| 20 | Anyone who knowingly interacts with pedophiles cannot be trusted. Pedophiles routinely exploit their social networks to access children. Their judgement and motivations will always be suspect. Thoroughly vet everyone in your life and DO NOT IGNORE RED FLAGS.Same with people who have commited sexual assault or are predators. I hate the boys club thing of staying loyal to friends or family despite their evils in the name of friendship or "it was in the past". Like david dobrick staying friends with dom after repeated cases of predatory behavior. Disgusting. People normalize it as though that's just what friendship is. But it's not. When my boyfriend's former friend started dating a 19 year old (he was 28 himself) it was "consensual" but my bf and his… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 11:23 AM |
| 8 | Really Sick of Men Killing PeopleI hate that every other person says "it's a mental health issue. We need to give men more mental health support". What a joke. Men have so many outlets available to them. Access to therapy, a quadrillion mental health for men podcasts, online communities and support groups, hotlines, all kinds of free material for mental health like music targeted to them, meditation, exercise apps, free tutorials on how to learn an instrument or build a house or fix a car. They have so many outlets at their fin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 11:09 AM |
| 35 | Men that do chores wrong on purposeI'm convinced it's genuine incompetence. Over quarantine I watched a bunch of true crime stories and there are so many murders where the guy leaves nine million clues behind because he literally can't clean. The investigators are always in disbelief about how sloppy the guy is. It's hard to wrap your head around just how incompetent and lazy some NVM can be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 10:32 AM |
| 119 | When men have one bad experience with a woman it's thousands of upvotes and an echo chamber of "women are just as bad as men". When a thousand women have bad experiences with several men it's "not all men".I saw a thread where men were talking about times they've been creeped out by women. Some guy's big traumatic story was about middle aged women at work sexually harassing him by making inappropriate comments. Everyone was so supportive like oh my god that's so horrible I'm so sorry that happened to you, see this happens to men too. But honestly? Nearly every young woman has dealt with middle aged men sexually harassing us at work. But if we dare complain on a platform like reddit the comments ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 02:22 AM |
| 25 | Selective reasoningLol ALL MEN is so bendable, they use it any which way they please. Ive seen it bended into being used as a justification shield as well. When there is something men feel (deep down) personally shameful or inferior about. they just throw up the old: ✌️ALL MEN✌️ Example, attraction to minors after years of porn consumption and conditioning becomes "well ALL MEN are like this, totally normal, just biology". Any shortcomings or failures are "but...but...all men are like this..." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 11:07 AM |
| 73 | If you ever need a laugh, just remember that ancient Greeks spread the rumour that having a small D is a sign of intelligence and self control.Wasn't the powdered wig trend started because so many men were balding and scabbing over because they had syphilis? In our lifetime theyve been really pushing hard that women love a nerdy dad bod having old man. That's what they want to convince us peak attractive. One person's gaslighting is another's fashion I guess lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 09:59 PM |
| 92 | If you ever need a laugh, just remember that ancient Greeks spread the rumour that having a small D is a sign of intelligence and self control.Trending right alongside dad bods is beards that cover their entire faces lol and we're told we all love it because it's so manly. And don't forget "women prefer very old men" too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Week 2 of dating myself. I'm the best partner I've ever had because I always buy my favoriteAwww I love this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 09:40 PM |
| 8 | Question about men on reddit, are they particularly low value, porn sick and sexist or they represents the general male population in the west?They're worse on reddit. I watch my boyfriend scroll reddit and he's combination repulsed and amused by all the neckbeards. And he's flabergasted by the wanna be pick up artists. My brother and i used to live together and the way he and his (male) friends talked when they were together was more HV than conversations with most of my friends. In my opinion the "all men" propaganda is just as insidious as the "not all men". LVM and pickmes try so hard to convince themselves and others they they're … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 12:25 PM |
| 94 | 👑 Listening to this on repeat! It’s valid for me to happiest single. Marriage and babies don’t have to be my life goals 👑This woman is a lovely palette cleanser after that tik tok of the lady shouting about money lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 12:10 PM |
| 32 | I’m on woke tiktok again and the comments section are full of women who all admit their man left/cheated when they got cancer or any illness.She missed it though. She missed the lesson. "Make sure you marry a rich man" is a horrible takeaway and horrible advice. It should be replaced with "make and save your own money". Make. Your. Own. Money. Don't rely on a man; rely on yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 03:13 AM |
| 44 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inYep. 🙋 This was me. At the height of my frustration with dating i was venting to my brother, who I consider HV, and he pointed out to me that if you act insecure and uncomfortable men will swarm you but YOU DO NOT WANT THOSE MEN so just be happy that you're confidence is acting as a giant filter. And he was right. Men flip like a switch when you act insecure. That's what hooks them. That's what a lot of them are searching for. So it's not you. It's them. They're intimidated. And you dont want th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 11:35 PM |
| – | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI just got banned from twox for linking to this sub. Someone said we are "misandrists". It's so silly how much everyone fears this place. Just goes to show, we must be doing something right 😅 It seems like there is pressure at twox to put "not all men" disclaimers in every post and comment and tip toe around men. They think they're in a womens sub but they're not. I wish they'd just make the switch over here but we get banned for suggesting it? So annoying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 11:11 PM |
| 5 | I’m new to this community and this way of thinking, so I’m wondering. What are your thoughts on the kind of music we listen to? Do you ladies actively try to avoid music with lyrics that are disrespectful to women/sexualise women?Thats a good question. I do. 🤷 But music has always been unlistenable to me when i hate the lyrics, so I'm not sure how much of my distaste can be attributed to effort vs just genuine annoyance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 10:34 PM |
| 63 | So many videos like this on TikTok. Why is this being normalized? Absolutely disgusting.It's way worse than normalizing sex work. It's grooming of literal kids. :( When i was a preteen I got lectured about the dangers of predators. At school. At home. By adults. By peers. The message was clear to my developing brain: older men seeking out teenage girls are predators. They are dangerous. Be careful. Be safe. Girls growing up right now have a totally different backdrop. The adults in their life are confused parents and teachers who are socially forced to be "woke" and say sex work is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:39 AM |
| 110 | “What you fear, you will want to destroy”This is so beautiful. Some people see women as having inherent power because we create life, but that's not really IT. It's beyond that. It's our level of ability to bond, nurture and feel. Some women dont even realize: our level of what he's calling "sacred knowledge" is just not achievable for men. They can kind of mimic, imitate and learn it from us a little bit. But they don't really have it. Not the way we do. That's what we have that they don't have. So what ends up happening is we have a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 07:27 PM |
| 30 | Even in death, our value lies in our looks.In school i remember learning about the real pocahontas her actual non-Disney story. But the big reveal was that she was "ugly". Our teacher was so excited to shock us with that. Similar experience with Cleopatra, except this happened outside of school. She is referenced as being charming and beautiful in historical records, so when they made a facial reconstruction of her everyone was at the edge of their seat waiting for their boners to arrive. They were disappointed because she wasnt Angelina… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:13 PM |
| 68 | Please talk some sense into me *age gap*I had a huge crush on a man in his 30's. since he was an actual HV man he full stop refused to date me because of the age gap. He tried to get it through my head that it's predatory and sad for older men to date young women (he was right) and that I would look back on it one day and find it hilarious and embarassing that I ever crushed on him (like i said, yep he was right). At the time I was hurt because i had never been rejected before and then when he got with a girl his own age i was so insu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 11:53 PM |
| 36 | All the comments saying how sweet this is have me PUKING...count the ways this is wrong.Wow really makes you believe in true love huh 🙄 what a beautiful love story /s. He wrote out that novel and yet we know nothing about this "soul mate" of his other than her huge ass, tiny waist and perky "boobies". True love, that. And he's patting himself on the back because he hasn't stopped wanting to have sex with her because of aging. But they are like 33 years old? His shock over that alone says a lot about him (porn rotted pedo brain/neckbeard). From the way the story was going you'd have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:51 PM |
| 18 | FDS women don't have high standardsThat list is literally my "high standards" list lmao to see it written out sends me because it's so low bar. My current bf and the last few men i dated met these "impossible" standards. I've learned that the people who say those men don't exist are a.) LVM themselves and b.) women who are with LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 11:51 AM |
| 142 | Confirmed: We are the product.Why do they think we dont know what LV men want? We know. They want a young, inexperienced, easily impressed, kinky, pretty girl with low self esteem. DUH. To have "market place value" at the LV shop you just have to have those things. Let's say you are 20 yrs old and take that advice. Clown yourself up and play your cards right so you can land yourself a "provider". You have a small window of playing bang maid until your "provider" replaces you with a younger, kinkier, prettier girl with even l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 12:22 AM |
| 130 | "Dr." Emily Morse advertises herself as a "Doctor of Human Sexuality" and Sex Therapist...but is not actually a Doctor or therapist.....of ANYTHING. Is the entire sexology industry a SCAM?"kinky sex posi girl" is the new "cool girl". a mainstream trope that was created by men but that impressionable women try to emulate. The irony is the harder they try to conform to the trope the more truly "vanilla" they become. It's gotten to the point where EVERYONE calls themselves kinky and they carry so much pride in their choking hitting spanking daddy dom anal "kinky" shit. But they're all the same. So hows that "kinky"? It's getting boring and dull. Like at some point they're going to h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:37 PM |
| 469 | I want to share an eye opening conversation i had with a guy friendThe fact that multiple people are in my inbox and commenting concered that I'd still be friends with him or that he's still in my life is both sweet and depressing. I felt like in this sub when we share insight learned from LVM there is an obvious implication that OF COURSE WE'RE NOT friends/married to/dating these guys. I appreciate the concern from women looking out for other women but yes of course i cut him out 🤢 omg he literally is disconnected from women's humanity. imagine just brushing t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:08 PM |
| 208 | I want to share an eye opening conversation i had with a guy friendBecause we care about other women and want to warn each other. If you've never been in relationships or friendships with a LVM consider yourself crazy lucky. But if youre ever blindsided by one you'll want to share your story too. There is so much value in sharing these stories with each other. You're sick of hearing about it. Okay. Well we're sick of living through it lol. 🙃 But we share because it gives insight and perspective into the reality of what men are actually like. Before this convers… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 06:45 PM |
| 387 | I want to share an eye opening conversation i had with a guy friendYEP. I want nothing to do with him anymore. It was a turning point for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 06:26 PM |
| 126 | “But all men watch porn -“ “Not all men!”"All men" Wait... "Not all men" Guys. Just pick a cope and stick with it. I saw a comment thread where a guy was doing the thing like "all men prefer teenage girls because we're biologically predisposed to be this way" and a bunch of men called him out as a degenerate. But there was another bottom tier guy in there being like "it's true. all men are like this and anyone denying it is lying". And they say WE hate men. They hate themsleves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 12:38 PM |
| 3 | “It’s fine if she’s legal.” This is so problematic.Lollll i love her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 03:57 AM |
| 185 | What is something a man did that he thought was cute and romantic but was gross and insulting?He made a big deal about giving me "birthday sex" on my birthday as my big gift. I was open minded about it like damn what is birthday sex this sounds great. It was just regular sex but with a wet heavy "happy birthday" breathed in my ear at some point lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:48 PM |
| 101 | “It’s fine if she’s legal.” This is so problematic.I always thought that was meant as sarcasm though; poking fun of the way girls consider themselves bad ass when really they're just clowning themselves. It never crossed my mind that she was sincere and literal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 04:18 PM |
| 399 | Your Future in an Age Gap RelationshipI cringed my way through that thread too. Painful. People were calling her out as a troll so i looked at her post history. In the past she's said that the thought of doing anything sexual with him makes her want to jump off a bridge, that she feels shes trapped in an unhealthy marriage, that she is repulsed by him, etc. But blames it on her period. And after her period shes able to convince herself that their marriage is totally better than everyone elses. She obviously hates him at her core but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 04:31 PM |
| 66 | So glad to see women actually standing up for themselves. No means no.I don't mean to be gross but honestly that's probably the reason he wanted it. He liked the idea of how degrading and painful it would be for her to give head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 12:12 PM |
| 27 | I shoveled my neighbor’s steps today for Valentine’s Day. She’s another single lady with kids and this sub has taught me how important it is to help out other women. Tomorrow I’ll get her sidewalk cleaned off.I love this so much! You're so lovely! The urge to be sweet has caused me a lot of hurt in the past because it was always wasted on entitled boyfriends who would barely notice, could not care less, or worse - expect that treatment. It's hard not to get resentful or lose some steam when the reaction is one of entitlement. I love the idea of channeling that expression of love toward women instead. Not just friends and family but everyone. Women appreciate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 11:52 AM |
| 20 | "it's just biology" is psuedoscience that LVM gravitate to. In the past it was used to justify slavery and racism. And now it's used to justify mistreatment of women.😂 yeah they're really out there giving their best shot at mental gymnastics but their attemps are weak lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:59 PM |
| 6 | Not even if Dean provided me with everything I've ever dreamed of in life.Tattoos like these are common in sex trafficking. Hope im wrong and that she is ok. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 03:16 AM |
| 105 | "I love you too much to use condoms"LOL ewww thats a new one 😂 I notice that for many men "Love" means "i want to fuck". "It was love at first sight" translates to "i wanted to have sex with her" at first sight. ❤❤Actually a lot of their displays of "romance" and "love" is being just oversharing about how horny and thirsty they are. It's embarrassing lmao. I know a man who left the mother of his children at 50 something because he "fell desperately in love" with a 20 yr old. My dad is really close with him so one night we were hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 06:05 PM |
| 13 | Is anyone else childfree because of misogyny & hatred towards mothers?I respect that and totally get it. But i look at it very differently. I'm very open to being a mother one day. Love between mothers and their children is one of the most beautiful things in life. Most people love their moms deeply. The love and bond from your mom is lovely and unconditional. I didn't fully grasp that until my mom died. She was so so so loved and cherished by my brother and i. Her place is our world was everything. Evem though shes gone her power in our lives is evident. Motherho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 04:02 AM |
| 435 | FDS has been saying it all along and women are catching up. Men do not love women like women love men and that's why we need to start demanding more and holding back the energies we give out for freeA lot of men like girls, not women. the rare adult women they like are women who havent shaken girlish traits from childhood yet (like being "sweet", being easily impressed, being people pleasing, not having confidence, having some level of wide eyed inexperience, easily excited, etc). And bonus points if you LOOK childish and girlish too. They love girls. 🤷 when they say "but i love women". They mean girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 09:15 PM |
| 150 | That’s some ice water level refreshingHonestly as much as i love them i low key get a little defensive and annoyed that guys like this and like kurtis conner, pop culture detective, and just any guys who speak up alongside women get such positive response. Even to the degree of making social media careers off of it. while women saying the same things are dismissed, mocked, told we're just post wall, or bitter, or bitches, hags, whatever. Then we get stalked, harassed, doxxed, ostracized. Like I'm grateful these guys exist and i seri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 01:45 PM |
| 80 | The Tea ☕️Never see this passion for hustle outside of telling GIRLS and young women to do sex work. Why not "panhandling is empowering"? 🙄 or "selling plasma is work!" I'm so worried about girls who are like 14 and exposed to this "empowering hustle" brainwashing. Theyre told on social media (specially tik tok) that you just have to wait a few years and you can be a cool totally empowered sex worker 🙄. I could cry thinking about it. There are few things as dangerous, traumatic and life altering for young… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 11:40 AM |
| 256 | "Men don't care about your career, all we want is a woman who is young, reasonably attractive, and with a tolerable personality"Be pretty. Be young. Be passive. Fantastic advice for women who are seeking a very specific qualities in men: Be shallow. Be pornsick. Be abusive. It amazes me that they apparently don't know this, but unexceptional men who want pretty young women are abundant. Within the hour i could flag down a car with a pudgy delusional loser in it who would beg to date me. They are everywhere. And this is the life story for most of us here. No one needs advice on how to find MORE of those men lmao. We are s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 12:04 PM |
| 14 | Most of the comments are praising him for COmMuniCatINg.This happened to me. I was blindsided and couldn't believe how sick he was to choose sex over a person he loved. All our friends and family praised him for being so mature (for being upfront with me). They were all flabergasted when, after a year of "getting it out of his system", i didn't want to get back together. He spent years professing his "love" trying to court me back. Totally fake. He never loved me. Never respected me. And now he's married and cheating on his wife anyway. Despite suppo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:07 PM |
| 16 | Anyone else find it odd that men are posting women's entire profile on reddit for upvotes?Isn't there a way to report that? That's so creepy and dangerous. I looked it up, you can report it here: reddit.com/report Except I honestly believe reddit hates women so they probably won't care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:39 AM |
| 9 | LVM love to say that women hit the wall by the age of thirty, but this is Katy Perry at 36.Mostly it's because it's the age that women grow out of insecurities and find true confidence, have their own money, and have enough dating experience to know the difference between LVM and HVM. Also that's around the age most men see physical changes in THEMSELVES (balding, ED, hair in disturbing places, prostate pain, weight gain, muscle loss) AND for the ones obsessed with sports they watch their favorite same-aged athletes have to retire because they're past their peak. So they find comfort … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 05:29 PM |
| 31 | Age gapsYeah when you hear the words "Mature for your age"...run lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 09:00 PM |
| 47 | Age gapsA similar phenomena is young women who participate in calling older women bitter, unattractive, jealous or whatever. You see it all the time with young girls who seek out married men. They get a sick self esteem boost at the idea of being "better" than another woman. So when they see LVM saying things about prefering or wanting young women they love it. Social gaslighting is way more common than i used to think | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 08:58 PM |
| 38 | Age gapsAnother thing that helps snap out of it is when you meet an older couple with the same gap. I knew a woman at work in her late fifties who kept dropping down to part time and then asking for more work. It was frustrating but we knew she was stressed and later found out she was overwhelmed because at home she was caring for her husband. We assumed it was because he was recovering from surgery or something. Nope. I ended up meeting him. he was in his early seventies. He just had a lot of age relat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 08:47 PM |
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