"dating for a free meal"

FabledAngryVillager · 2021-04-11T21:35:55+00:00

Same dudes who expect sex for coffee lol

DontAskTwice-A-Roni · 2021-04-11T21:39:18+00:00

They’ll deny that they use women for free pussy, but swear you used them for a $15 plate at Sizzler as if you don’t have a full time job yourself. 🤡

Mcccy · 2021-04-11T21:22:01+00:00

Also when they have that kind of mentality they placebo themselves.

They think "She only wants me for a meal, she's not into me", so they subconsciously act according to that thought. They try to act like a stRong AlpHa maLe, aka. lowkey rude and uninterested so they don't look desperate.

She notices he is either way too different from his texts or that he isn't that interested in her, so she logically doesn't want a second date.

AnniaT · 2021-04-11T21:18:37+00:00

Who are these mythical creatures that go on dates with men going through the time and trouble of grooming themselves (which can often even be expensive), driving or taking transportation and risking their safety and spend time with someone they barely know just to have a free meal?

Even if the guy pays for the date, it's cheaper and safer to just eat home. Or if too poor getting food from associations that help people in need lol Or even ask a friend or family friend for food.

I'll never understand this "she just used me for a free meal".

BasieSkanks · 2021-04-11T21:16:56+00:00

If I wanted a free dinner there are so many ways to get one that doesn’t involve getting dressed up for a scrote. Ask a friend. Ask a family member. Go to a food bank. Ask a random person off the street. We don’t need shitty men to eat.

ItsFreezen · 2021-04-11T21:52:32+00:00

If you ask someone out on a Date You Pay. And You Wouldn't invite a guest over to your house and ask them to pay for the food etc...

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-04-11T21:23:31+00:00

Imagine thinking a woman can’t afford her own diner casual food or coffee and would waste her time and risk her life just to get a McDonald’s tier meal. Like they must legit think we’re improvised or something

kortiz46 · 2021-04-11T23:03:41+00:00

I legitimately think it's always the broke or under-earning dudes who complain of a 'gold digger' over paying for one meal. Apparently $15 was make or break for their budget after they spent all their money on weed and video games.

_mooness · 2021-04-11T23:47:59+00:00

Why are broke men so paranoid of being hoodwinked by gold diggers? Ummm, sir. You’re pants are from old navy and you’re wearing adidas slides as you step out of your 2009 Toyota Corolla...trust me gold diggers ain’t lookin at you.

FDS-GFY · 2021-04-11T21:28:00+00:00

They have nothing to offer so they’re convinced it’s their money. It freaks men out when we don’t NEED them because they have been conditioned their whole lives to think otherwise.

This is the absolute best argument for getting an education and career before seeking a mate. It’s astonishing how not needing men reveals their character so quickly.

MadamLeFay · 2021-04-11T21:50:01+00:00

This "free meal" stuff cracks me up. I'm sure many, many, many of us here can order anything we want from any restaurant we want, pick it up, take it home and eat it in the peace and quiet of our own company.

It beats having to endure their self-centered (and more than likely creepy) monologues about how their ex-wife (supposedly) took everything in the divorce, their freaky kinks, their mommy issues and how wonderful they are and then throwing in some negging about us.

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2021-04-11T22:15:02+00:00

There was some research that showed that women who go out with a strange man for the sole purpose of getting a free meal with no intention of dating him or ever seeing him again, have “dark triad” personality traits. That’s a very small percentage of women.

BUT. Let’s suppose an unsuspecting woman agrees to a date with a man in hopes of making a connection with him and that there’s a possibility for a future relationship and he ends up being the one with “dark triad” personality traits. (More men have this than women so the odds are higher it will happen to us rather than them.) Instead of being used for a meal, we could end up being raped, beaten, killed, choked, stalked, and harassed... but by all means, Brent. Let’s all talk about the $11 you spent on chicken wings that one time and it didn’t work out that you got sex at the end of the night, you poor thing. 😔

pretty_kill · 2021-04-11T22:08:21+00:00

If I wanted chipotle that bad, I’d order it and save myself the trouble of having to make small talk with a stranger. I love eating alone.

EclecticBarbarella · 2021-04-11T21:47:07+00:00

“Women keep blowing me off after I take them to lunch” = women couldn’t even stand sitting through one lunch with me before bouncing

seraphinelysion · 2021-04-12T00:15:29+00:00

It's easier to tell his friends that the woman he took out on a date didn't want to see him again because "she was a gold digger just using him for a free meal" rather than "I fucked up" or "I suck at dating" or "She didn't like me". Notice how none of these men ever take responsibility for a date going badly.

Bubbly-Risk-3758 · 2021-04-12T00:11:26+00:00

No one digs for gold in a dumpster.

GreatOrchidAmbition · 2021-04-11T22:02:44+00:00

brent you have 800 followers and negative net worth she isnt gold digging you or using you for clout.

Platipus6 · 2021-04-12T00:51:27+00:00

If they were using you for free food... and you're a guy who paid for food.... she'd go on another date for more free food because you're a good victim, right?

These logical, predatory men are so fucken dumb at their own game.

deep_faked_beans · 2021-04-11T21:59:53+00:00

Meeting up with a new person just to get free food sounds like a lot of hassle, I guess it's just what they want to believe, and not that they could have done something wrong. The only times i've heard about women leaving mid-date was because they guy said something really gross or misogynistic.

nomaki221 · 2021-04-11T23:07:26+00:00

I assure you her eyeshadow palette cost more than your Chipotle combo

mostdefinitelynturs · 2021-04-12T01:23:02+00:00

I bet they have NO problem asking for free sex either. So yeah, open that wallet boy!

AyemHerself · 2021-04-12T00:16:33+00:00

As if I would get caught in public with someone I didn't like for free food.

whatevertoton · 2021-04-11T23:06:04+00:00

I’d much rather pay for my own meal any day than go on a date with someone who sucks.

WorkaholicParty · 2021-04-11T23:35:57+00:00

I can't even bring myself to have free food with the nice side of my family - for whom I don't have to wax and at least I know they're not going to rape or murder me - who gave them the audacity to think I'm enjoying food with mediocre to terrifying company.

bodysnatcherz · 2021-04-12T11:41:51+00:00

I have yet to meet a guy worried about gold diggers that actually has resources to attract a gold digger.

In my experience guys with wealth flaunt it and are more than happy to use it to attract women. If anything, they're thrilled that there are women who can be bought.

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-04-12T08:32:10+00:00

They need to stop saying golddigger, and say gasdigger, mealdigger, coffeedigger. Bro, you haven't got any gold, any kingdom, or any title. You have 10's of dollars and are sitting on a pile of dirty laundry, not gold. Get the fuck outta here.

The positive is at least if some scrote dumps a girl for being a "golddigger" then happy days she didn't waste another moment on a LVM and he did all the leg work and removed himself. win win

msssst · 2021-04-12T09:14:33+00:00

I recently went on a date with a guy who was boasting about living in an affluent area (turns out he lived with his parents). He kept telling me he was very much into cars and asked what brand of car I drive (turns out he drives a broken down Audi with paint (internal) peeling off). Despite this he was scared of “gold diggers”.

For FIRST DATE he asked me to a tennis club for dinner only to say he had eaten beforehand but ended up ordering food in the end. The quality of food was equivalent to a pub / family restaurant. I had never been asked to pay on a first date in all my years of dating so I was shocked that when it came to paying the bill he had the AUDACITY to ask “Would you mind if we split the bill?” accompanied by the hand gesture of cutting something in half (CRINGE). Even the waitress had a look of pity on her face!

So I took out my black AMEX and was about to pay my half as just wanted to get out of this embarrassing situation but thought you know what? Screw him. I said “I’ll just transfer you instead”. Then I left, blocked, deleted him.

I had been to the beauty salon that morning for a facial which cost a lot more than his measly meal. If a guy can’t even pay for a first date pub meal then sorry it’s not going to work.

djfrankenjuice · 2021-04-11T21:50:27+00:00

👏👏👏

HeavyMetalLobster · 2021-04-12T14:08:23+00:00

Couple years ago a guy asked me on a date. I chose the place, a restaurant I love and frequent alone or with friends. It is NOT a cheap place, but that doesn’t matter because I personally can afford it and so I bring myself.

Guy says he is cool with the place and price and compliments my taste.

Day of, I arrive early and order myself drinks and oysters

Dude arrives and seems off. Complains about parking costs, price of the restaurant

Immediately I’m not feeling it. I tell him I’ll pay for myself (leaving out that we will go our separate ways). He lightens up.

I order myself: 6 oysters, 2 drinks, expensive entree + sides (sides don’t come with it), dessert to go

He makes a joke about “you know I’m not paying for this!”

I said something snarky like “yeah dude I told you at the start I’m paying for myself. What did you not understand?”

He got all upset and claimed I was trying to make him pay by saying that. 🤡

At this point I’ve already blocked him on my phone

He asks where we will go next

I tell him next stop is not his business, thank him for the company and wish him the best

Cue confused pikachu face

I dropped 180$ cash to pay for my meal + a good tip, not being coy about hiding my wad of cash (I had about 600$ on me. In hindsight this was a very dumb move because he could have tried to rob me afterward. I just wanted to annoy him)

I left and he was just shaking his head trying to get the people around him at the bar to “take his side” and console him or something? It was so awkward and weird

MyWorldMyTravels · 2021-04-12T06:54:19+00:00

Umm, YES you have to pay for my time and it looks like your time is up.

catsuramen · 2021-04-12T21:51:32+00:00

No women wants to spend 1hr getting ready to put on a face of makeup and tight clothes, with the NERVES of meeting a new person, just for a chipotle dinner.

Not even for a $100 dinner. Good company > good food. Too bad he just wasn't a good company. It's a cope

endorphins_ · 2021-04-12T23:40:35+00:00

Men need to understand that the amount of makeup, hair products and outfit I’m wearing is easily valued at over 10x both of our meals

Title	"dating for a free meal"
Author	Frogspocket
Upvotes	1413
Comments	131
Date	April 11, 2021 9:10 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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