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REMINDER 👑GlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:20 AM
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REMINDER 👑GlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:50 AM
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GlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:10 AM
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QUICK TIPGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:21 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 06:21 PM
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REMINDER 👑GlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:17 PM
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REMINDER 👑GlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:29 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:35 AM
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LIES MEN TELLGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 06:52 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:58 PM
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STRATEGYGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:25 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨GlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 01:58 PM
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DISCUSSIONGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 10:03 AM
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GlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:24 PM
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#JustLVMThingsGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:07 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨GlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 11:28 PM
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GlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:56 AM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF FAMEGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 11:02 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:57 PM
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#JustLVMThingsGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:58 PM
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GlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:27 AM
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NAH, SISGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:19 PM
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Story time ☕GlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:13 PM
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PICKME CULTUREGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:00 AM
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GlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:29 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:36 PM
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LVM LOGICGlamorKiss/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 11:23 AM
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me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:41 PM
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Also instead of convoluted euphemisms “bit more meat on the bones” could we just say a heavier or fatter woman I mean… tip toeing around what we mean is just confusing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 09:18 AM
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But the thing is people definitely call Scarlett Johanssen curvy and she’s very slim with large boobs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:00 AM
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It can mean a defined much smaller waist and it can also be when your boobs and butt are big
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 11:59 PM
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yes they do, also a woman with the body lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:03 PM
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curvy means large boobs and butt but small elsewhere, as women get older we’re actually more likely to become just simply larger and more apple shaped, not curvy Curvy doesn’t mean fatter or heavier, you can be skinny with curves too but agree that shallow men can never be happy with one woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:01 PM
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Sorry !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:56 PM
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Also being more or less attractive, doesn’t make you catcalled more or less lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:55 PM
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Such an informative helpful post wow 😮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:08 PM
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it’s worthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:44 PM
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That girl who made that comment “your dumb anime gf” sounds like she thinks if you get catcalled you just need to become more confident so it stops. It’s not my fault when it happens to me tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:33 PM
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Why do some of them want us to look like glamorous models on hikes I can’t with them… What did he say that indicated he expected this beauty standard of you ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:00 PM
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this made me realise when men said “You’re the hardest girl to understand that I’ve ever met” this is what they meant. 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 11:50 PM
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But girl honey, men are never this “fair” on us. If the genders were reversed, men would be calling the woman in the story a gold digger and he’s better off without her. In this case, they’re too saying he’s better of without her because she’s treating the relationship like a business deal. As long as it doesn’t disproportionately benefit men, men will always claim everything it’s misandrist lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 09:11 PM
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that first man could play a greek god in a movie the second man is exceedingly handsome too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 09:03 PM
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i dont think so and the girl in this tiktok is just drop dead gorgeous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 11:13 PM
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this is the same thing I would say, I don’t see anything wrong with it. It’s not a controversial thing to say lol and it pretty much sums up why pretty honestly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:54 PM
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ughhh you’re living my dream girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:51 PM
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If this was true, why were balding men in their 40s and 50s with beer bellys asking me, a woman in my early 20s to have casual sex online dating? Are men in their 40s and 50s out of my league? Do I have to go for men in their 60s and 70s?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 07:46 PM
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suuuper cute in second photo but he does look too young in mens book’s theres no such thing as too young 😒😒🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:09 AM
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sooo cute oml
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:03 AM
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he’s adorable and nice looking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:00 AM
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the rating thing bugs me the most and how he basically lowkey boasted about paying the bill like its a big deal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:54 AM
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The reason why she talks about teaching men is because if it’s just biological then that means the issue is helpless and hopeless. So is raping a social issue or biological issue? Well like personally I believe it could be both social and biological. So that’s why they talk about “teaching” men so that the social aspect that encourages or okays rape can be reduced. If there’s nothing we can do about it and some men are just born monsters then there’s nothing that can be done to change the curren…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:52 AM
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i love kind, loyal romantic men who are very handsome like him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:49 AM
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perfect, his efforts don’t match my needs is much better and less misogynistic than “he’s not into you”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:35 AM
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“Maybe he’s just not that into you” assumes that women are ALWAYS into the men and desperately clinging onto the belief that he must like her despite his behaviours that show the contrary (his behaviours show that he isn’t into her, but the woman is ALWAYS into him and is trying to make excuses for his behaviour). So then this “He’s just not that into you” is to “wake us up into reality” to stop us women from making excuses for men so we can desperately cling to the belief that he is into us eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:34 AM
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Exactly my thoughts! Just because men only think of women as “how hot” they are they literally think women themselves only value ourselves from that one quality too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:25 PM
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Hmmm I’d love an explanation from OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:24 PM
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wait so its wrong to look for love after age 40? I’m not understanding. I’m in my 20s so nowhere near 40 but just wondering why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:01 PM
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The male 5 is a bit less attractive than the female 5 and Ryan Gosling shouldn’t be as high as an 8 on that scale but do you really see a discrepancy anywhere else? I find the girl 5 prettier than the man but I think societally they’d be considered a good match Also this scale is so wrong, I’d be placed between a 5-8 depending on how I look that year, how healthy I am etc and as a 5 or 8 it’s never been as easy as they said. I know I’m objectively better than 4 etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:57 PM
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they blind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:43 PM
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can u send it to me it got deleted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:40 PM
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I’m not sure if I agree with this, I think a child can grow up wonderfully with a loving single parent? I’m willing to try to understand this perspective though. I mean a single, healthy and loving parent is better than a LVM dad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:33 PM
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Angelic face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:25 PM
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ok he’s attractive 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:21 PM
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woahh he’s just gorgeous his face is so perfectly sculpted, he’s angelic to look at omg if i ever had a hvm boyfriend who looked like that id feel like my life was complete (i’m normally not the type to feel a man can complete my life i know only i can do that)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:17 PM
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ooohhh hello handsome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:12 PM
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i love men with full lips (they match my own natural full lips too)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:08 PM
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omg he’s actually so cuuuuuuuteeeeeeeeeee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:06 PM
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I didn’t think of it like this, but you’re absolutely right, that’s selfish disgusting behaviour. You shouldn’t have to care for your parents in your teens that’s abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:12 AM
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Oh They did change a lot. Now men want online dating stranger sex only whereas before they had to pretend to be relationship minded to get any
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:33 PM
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They’re not for me if they’re not dating to marry then :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:54 AM
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The accent seems so normal and basic to us as Aussie girls lol. I can see the appeal of like Chris Hemsworth with his cute voice if you’re from another country though lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:53 AM
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Thank gawd its not just me. When I use like my best photos where like idk it makes me look my absolute best from my absolute best angle and it literally looks better than I do irl then they do suggest more effort and act lucky but tbh in my photos with extreme high effort i cant even look like that irl, and it’s an impossible standard pretty much. Its like they’ll only show respect and a real date offer to you if you’re an impossible standard and spend like 5 hours a day just on your looks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:50 AM
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omg same i can’t forget that one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:10 PM
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That little ahole caused her to fall into the train tracks these teenage men could cause death... If I was that girl who fell onto the train tracks I would actually have PTSD like this is so serious, not a joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:59 PM
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private message it to me, im curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:58 PM
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I’m so jealous of your high libido, but I think part of my level up journey might be to unpack any sexual traumas and health imbalances that don’t allow me to have a high libido (I used to have a really high libido as a teenager so hopefully i can get it back)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:12 AM
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I would love it if all of the above and I had the libido of a man, I dont
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:53 PM
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sometimes it’s like 6 leagues above, ive had a friend do that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:08 PM
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omg Aaron needs to stop... I’m so sorry girl this must feel sickening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:38 PM
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She said that female sexual empowerment is charging the highest cost for sex, which is commitment and care. I think women will always want commitment and a truly caring partner to feel good about sex. I know I do. So this would go against your idea that in an ideal world women would love to have casual sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:00 PM
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I love makeup but sometimes when I put it on it doesn’t look how I wanted and then I feel more insecure then I have to wash my whole face off. It’s sad. Sometimes I think I looked cuter without any on too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:41 PM
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It’s not really a choice if we’re getting harassed like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:40 PM
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she’s so cute and right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:24 PM
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Found this funny and smart! Cool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:37 PM
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Ew... he said he’s “turned on” by women who “treat men like equals” by “offering to pay on a date” What in trash hell! Any man who says this, doesn’t understand the greater beauty burden cost women carry in life, women are the ones who go through labor and childbirth, and just no. No we do not pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:17 PM
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He’s probably done this before it sounds like some rehearsed lines he’s definitely said before. I mean he had no idea what was going on and he was that drunk he didn’t realise it was his gf there and he said this to her, nah he’s definitely groped girls and said this before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:35 PM
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Aww i hope it works out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:44 PM
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this is what we’ve been conditioned to do as women it’s sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:23 AM
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5 years sounds like a long time to date without a marriage proposal, but I guess I have to remember not everyone has the same goals as me (marriage and kids once I’m in my 30s)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:09 AM
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I once knew a guy who kind of had a typical bro personality so a bit of a jerk, but he was actually quite good looking and tall and he had a good high paying job. But he was struggling with women anyway I think maybe because of lack of large social circle, and he told me his friend told him that he should just accept this particular woman’s advances, apparently she was a good woman and she had a similar high paying, good career as him but she just wasn’t good looking enough for him to want to be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:53 AM
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She’s worth it (I also like tiktok in general )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:14 AM
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My mum tried to raise me in my later teen years as an enmeshed young woman and it’s really hard to undo.... But at least I am aware and working on planning to go to therapy, being aware of my own decisions etc The main thing I have an issue with is boundaries and saying no causes anxiety and terror in me, I literally can’t say no to anyone, especially if I sense they’ll get upset with me, as it causes great fear and anxiety in me. I usually catastrophise saying no and I anticipate the worst case…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:14 AM
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BOOM you got it girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:29 PM
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Scrotes: “I’Ll rEfuSe to waIt MoRe thAN 3 daTeS beFOrE exPecTInG sEX buT I don’T wAnT GirLs whO’vE sLepT wiTh mOrE thAn 2 MeN in thEiR lifE!” Do they think we ONLY date them in our whole life? like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:19 PM
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take all of my upvotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:27 PM
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Sorry, I was basing what I said based on how you said that men will not like a girl who sometimes pays for the guy. Apologies if I took it wrong. To ME it sounded like you were saying a high value man will be put off if a woman doesn’t pay a huge chunk of the bills!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:51 PM
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Girl that’s different. What you’re doing is okay. The other person is basically arguing to go 50/50 with men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 08:20 AM
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found the LARPing man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:57 AM
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why does it have upvotes if it’s DARVO? wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:02 PM
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I’m seriously not sure what the ladies above mean! If they could explain themselves that would be good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:45 PM
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What? So when your friend asks you to do something, if you don’t want to do it, you’re supposed to say yes? And your friend is supposed to understand what you really mean is you don’t want to? and then it’s your friends fault that you said yes you want to go? Im sorry what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:34 PM
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what? OP messaged her friend and asked like 3 times “Do you want to do it and are you able to?” and she said yes What’s this got to do with men? Why is it unreasonable to expect someone to follow through with plans they insisted that they want to do I’m not understanding you at all. Maybe if you explain what you mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 02:28 PM
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But the friend insisted and confirmed 3 times, why not just say no or something I agree that the friend seemed to have been inconvenienced by the babysitter cancelling and was grumpy about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 02:16 PM
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Wait why did you miss the meteor shower?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 02:13 PM
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I find handsome men most attractive in their mid 20s to mid 30s, some men even look hot to me at 40 or 50 but it’s rare. A good looking man with good genes can look his hottest at 40 but it’s rare Most men just aren’t good looking; even in his 20s, Whereas truly hot men can stay just as hot if they put in effort Eg, Ian Somerholder, got better with age and he was at his peak at 40 However the average 20something man looks bad and looks old for his age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:17 PM
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I already know that I am a people pleaser, I just need to try to fix that for myself. My mother is trying to condition me to sacrifice myself for her even more so and I honestly blame her for a lot but all I can do is try to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:16 PM
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Do you know exactly what he does or says to make it feel that way or is it too subtle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:57 PM
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Can you explain what you just said? So anyone not pretty would obviously be partaking in this level of pickmeism right? Due to stress and ill health I look way less pretty than I did last year and I don’t want people looking at me and assuming I’ll do anything just because I used to look hot and now I look less pretty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 10:58 AM
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If he was good looking other scrotes would probably blame her like “It’s your fault for being with a. good looking Chad, we told you they’re good for nothing!” Or they’d say “Should’ve chosen a guy who’s not good looking as they will treat you right.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:28 AM
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Omg this just shows me how important it is to be careful with what man you choose to be involved with. The police won’t and can’t help you even when your scrote is about to murder you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:31 AM
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“I hate liars/I need an honest woman” Means they want to lie to you all day long but make sure you’re being as honest as possible so it’s easier for them to lie to you I learned this from Sheraseven1
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:03 AM
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It proves a man loves and is committed to you enough to do that. Especially important if you want children one day. Guys are baby daddies to multiple women and have no respect about it, if they get married they excercise a bit more caution about getting women pregnant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:15 PM
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Ohh yuck I’ve heard this term before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:13 PM
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I never watched it thank god but it was marketed as the most epic drama of the time when i was a child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:14 AM
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Oh I’m glad to know :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 02:02 PM
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If she’s selling nudes on OF she should’ve known better but where do we draw the line for it being women’s fault? Like women might send multiple boyfriends her nudes, then they might send those nudes of her around and she ends up feeling suicidal. I’d be curious to know your thoughts if and why one of these women is more at fault than the other and whu
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:36 PM
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😂 that’s just sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:32 PM
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I’d never alter a child. First they can’t consent to it and also children are often so perfect already, they have perfect skin and adorable baby features why would they ever even need to be digitally altered
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:31 PM
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My parents didn’t tell me I was pretty when I was a child excessively at all, they didn’t need to tell me that, other people told me I was and other people told my parents I was. I had no concept of appearance as a child at all and that was great for having an innocent, confident childhood! I knew I was adventurous and loved books and my friends (I was very intelligent). When I grew up, that’s sadly when societys message that beauty is the most important thing for women really started to be taug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:03 PM
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She looks incredible! Gorgeous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:25 PM
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EW! No! This is rapist LVM scrote logic! You don’t seem to understand consent It’s equal to saying “This woman used to be a pornstar, why does she object to being raped by any old man on the street now?” You’re literally having a dangerous mentality that could put any woman at risk. Most terrible thing on FDS i’ve ever read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:06 PM
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I had a boss at a job gaslight me. It confuses me so much to this day like does he actually think he did the right thing when he lied in my face like what was he thinking? Do you think he probably gaslights those close to him or only people he sees as vulnerable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:55 AM
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yes update us please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:10 AM
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maybe they were trying to tell you how they think you look my mum does the same she was like “OMG this man is wayyt too young to be with my daughter” and he was only 1 year younger 😊😂😂😂 and to me he looked ugly and older than me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:56 AM
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No I don’t want to date someone who finds me ugly 😂 Also guys who will admit that usually cheat and blame you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:53 AM
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Men on reddit: Is this violent, dangerous misandry that needs to be stopped?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:51 AM
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Once in public I was walking and some man started following me, I tried walking in opposite directions and he kept following me in circles so I know he was definitely following me... Then he whispered to me “You want some drugs?” I said “No and why are you following me?” and he followed me for another minute before giving up and walking away I don’t remember it very clearly but I know I’ve been followed in public besides this too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:28 AM
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It’s 3 and 4.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:04 AM
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i can’t wait to listen to this when i can Ok I listened I love this message ... also his jawline could cut it’s so beautifully defined...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:03 AM
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Horrifying ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:02 AM
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OMG! I can hear it and it’s hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:53 PM
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i’d be interested too, like an attractive HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:54 AM
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but they will give up a seat for a 10/10 girl. Not the elderly or pregnant tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:45 AM
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One man once spoke up and raised his voice at a man in public at my defence which was so nice of him! The man who defended me looked/acted as if he might’ve been gay (but he was a total sweetheart either way and I feel bad if I mischaracterised him!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:38 AM
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what are 40 year old men going to give you? nah sis. Unless you met a 40 yo guy you find attractive, who’s kind to you and HV and actually is someone you want then no! wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:55 AM
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wow why are they like this? are we only worthy at age 25 then we expire? According to them I mean. Tbh maybe they would’ve acted the same even if you were 21 or 23. Don’t worry about them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:39 AM
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This had nothing to do with the point I was trying to make. I was saying even in a world where men committed significantly less violence, it still wouldn’t be a smart move or something I’d want to do, to pay on dates. I didn’t say I choose being feminine over safety against violence 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:49 AM
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It sucks! I feel like when I’m around 30 that’s when I’ll be fully ready to date but 30 year old guys already look so old and out of shape and older than me yet they still won’t want me ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:34 AM
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I only want to date men 0-2 years younger or older than me, men anything above 2 years older than me, most of them look like dinosaurs. Literally even though they’re only 2 years older they look 10 years older
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:31 AM
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yuck 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:29 AM
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Good. Don’t allow crusty old mens access to us young fresh girls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:27 AM
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I look v.early 20s, even younger some say (some call me high school baby face) and men even up to 40/50 will try it. Men are sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:26 AM
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I hate talking to uber drivers. The more I answer them, the ruder and more intrusive and annoying their questions become Also I have a low rating simply because I don’t like talking to them and answering their rude questions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:23 AM
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How about when they ask me if I live at the pick up address or drop off address? Then can I tell them no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:21 AM
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They always ask me if they picked me up from home, or if my home address is the drop off point lol I ignore them or lie. Why do they need to know where my house is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:19 AM
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I have an extremely low uber rating just because I don’t like to engage in their pushy conversations! I don’t even really like to use these rideshare apps, if I can avoid it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:29 AM
3

No one has sent my nudes around before but I’ll never send one anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:58 AM
6

most men WOULD rape? MOST men??!! just if they could get away with it? wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:23 PM
30

even then, still no. It doesn’t make me feel feminine and desired
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:12 AM
4

my underrated love!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:53 AM
76

Even then, they’ll never birth children so I still won’t pay. Maybe also add in when women also start being the ones to propose and be taken seriously. Except I would not feel feminine anymore if I did that so I never would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:11 AM
27

me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:11 AM
4

the married ones would probably still bang if you asked! At least half of them with no hesitation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:58 AM
59

Men who are definitely, definitely uglier than me have asked me to show up at their place. This was when I had a sexy super flat tummy and a cute/pretty young face (Im still young and pretty but working on getting my flat tummy back). Idk I was treated more like a 1-6 usually though on OLD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:11 AM
14

I know people who know her irl, i’m proud to be able to say!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:39 AM
116

I watched part 2 she said that he tried to snatch her from behind but when he saw her on a call with 911 he ran away. 911 said they can’t help her unless she has his exact license plate details, even though she had a video of his face and car and what direction he went...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:40 PM
17

I understand but I already deal with hordes of creepy men and attention and sexual assault on a regular basis. Tbh I get the same amount of attention from dudes as the women around me considered most beautiful but I don’t get the benefits of the halo and confidence. Some women like to tell me it’s because I fit a certain “stereotype” men like and I am very pretty just not yet considered a 10 (but I’m working on it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:12 PM
28

I think he was just trying to make you feel better. The girls considered most beautiful that I knew would have the most confidence and leadership skills and know that they are the most “seen and valued” or something societally. Also many people would strongly favor them and they can literally get away with everything. I would rather be a smart and cautious 10/10 than lower, I’m not dumb enough to get tricked by LVM trying to pursue me as a trophy (also I get lots of harassment already that I’m u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:00 PM
2

My thoughts exactly while watching this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:17 PM
1

hmmm my close family friend members would possibly send things like that to be nice if this issue was discussed i still think he just wishes in his dreams he could 😂 dont worry i definitely didn’t downvote you i actually upvoted! men downvote everything we write
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:37 AM
7

I agree totally showing your body is not the ONLY way. However I’m proud of my body and what’s right for ME is wearing cute and revealing clothing when I want to. But if it feels bad and wrong for you (you or any other woman I meant) personally then you shouldn’t have to do it and she’s a great role model for this choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:29 AM
12

Be careful... guys like this can turn into stalkers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:27 AM
5

in his dreams
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:08 AM
1

She looks gorgeous like in the thumbnail I agree that she seems like she has or had substance addiction issues and not a life to aspire to :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:40 AM
9

I had a dark triad friend who did it and she was doing it because she wanted to show off that “men spoil her” and try to show all her friends she can get the most free dinners of all her friends or something...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:13 AM
14

He wasn’t old yet either, especially not for a man! hmmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:54 AM
2

Maybe she means she naturally feels jealous, she’s been taught to be a pick me and these people are pulling her apart Sigh it doesn’t sound like she’ll listen maybe she’ll just continue to let her bf break her heart She deserves a chance for freedom tho!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:43 AM
15

Oooh I’m thinking of flipping this scenario into a mans and see what responses I get
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:40 AM
5

wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:34 AM
16

what if it wasn’t for money or a place to live or access to children? what’s other reasons as someone tried this on me a while ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:23 AM
8

same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:23 AM
13

Yeah my mum is trying to do this to me and it’s disgusting...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:22 PM
7

Ewww why even risk getting caught and fired or looking shameless in front of everyone? Technical mishaps can happen like yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:55 PM
5

Girl! E cups are never small I have friends of all different cup sizes so I’ve seen all different sizes, E is definitely quite large. I’m starting to think it’s impossible to have a “good” breast size because my friends with a natural G cup have been made fun of for their large breasts and asked to get a reduction in order to look better! Honestly you lowkey sound like a bombshell with your proportions anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:11 AM
7

yes girl i have amazing boobs. They used to be a perky C cup (and that was medium size, big enough for me). Now they are large at a DD cup, they’re perky and large but pornsick men still think they’re just “not big” because they probably think fake H cups are the only valid boobs, like supersize implants seen in porn lol They’re perky and big and everything but they’re still not good enough for random guys (who’s opinion I never asked for anyway). Like random men will comment on my photo things …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:07 AM
41

informative & interesting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:52 AM
4

Do you mean like a woman who has is very pretty with immaculate grooming and a toned fit body? Or do you mean a successful famous rich celebrity like Beyonce? Like wdym when you say on her level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:51 PM
43

You shouldn’t pay for future dates but ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:43 PM
17

It’s only against us women there call vile!! they’ll turn a blind eye or support other men every time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:00 PM
15

yes, men treat me like i’m gorgeous when thin and some men really hate me when I gain a bit of weight. It’s hurtful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:49 PM
2

wow!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:26 PM
15

Hmmm that’s not always true I knew one guy I dated a while ago who would go on and on and drop hints about his oral skills and he had a big one. I never slept with him but saw it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:32 PM
13

A while ago, on a night out with some “party friends” one of the young guys in the friend group we didn’t know that well, a friend of a friend kept asking me if he could pay me $500 to sleep together, and he asked me this like 3 times drunkenly. Like I’m just trying to enjoy a night out with friends and this young drunk (and probably high on drugs too) was asking me this totally crazy question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:22 PM
4

Women on here brag about being hot all the time though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:43 AM
5

You can get zero attention from men in public and still be raped by a stranger I feel like being THIS controlled by how much attention you get from strangers and you don’t even want to lose weight because of that? For me it’s like I used to be prettier in the face when I was skinny, so I got more attention than now. But now the weight went to my tits and ass so I have a huge ass and tits so I still get creepy attention that way, the attention just is in a more creepy manner than it used to be...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:43 PM
16

She works out hard and only eats super clean too, that also helps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:31 PM
3

Besides, Carrey looks absolutely beautiful to me. and I don’t just think that about alll people. She’s photogenic and stunning, I don’t get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:48 PM
9

that’s a beautiful adorable friendship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:12 PM
6

got?! He starts off at extremely annoying in this video
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:28 AM
3

OOOH thank you I was really v curious!! To me, these women just look like how I’d expect them to look without heavy, colorful makeup!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:55 AM
6

Yeah a majority of men do actually hate/criticise plastic surgery. Who cares though. “Would it really be for YOU?” Idk as humans, we are innately born with beauty standards, then society shapes those beauty standards to become even more specific. (Flawless, smooth glowing skin has always been in style, same with skinny toned arms and a skinny toned stomach and perky boobs - they’ve always been in style and we’re born with most of these beauty standards, but some are just fine tuned by societal i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:50 PM
5

oooh where was this slideshow can you reply with the link or dm it to me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:44 PM
3

which video? I might have missed it but I’m interested to watch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:31 PM
16

I’ve even had one guy call my boobs “tiny” as a DD cup (they’re literally so, sooo not tiny they’re deffo somewhat large) and people are always nitpicking women’s bodies so I understand why women want them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:01 PM
8

If even ONE female incel committed murder, I don’t want to even imagine what the incels would say. They’d probably label ALL female incels as murderers etc. They’d probably say she was the only “incel” to murder anyone yet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 07:52 PM
46

It’s the BIGGEST insult they can think of because it’s literally THEIR own worst fear. Some low value men are just all about projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 07:50 PM
38

Yeah one time at the beginning of the date, the man asked me “Would you like to pay for your own meal or do you want me to pay?” I didn’t want to be there anymore, after he asked me that. Basically he was saying, I don’t think you’re worth it to pay for your meal. I didn’t order food but he had ordered while I was in the bathroom, I texted my friend to about it and she said she’ll come help bail me (out of the date). She came and made an excuse that we have to leave right now so we left him ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 07:42 PM
3

i would buy the color is stunning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 07:34 PM
24

Most men say they would never date a woman/ dump a woman for having a boob or butt job anyway, if they can tell you had it done. So if our intent was to attract men it wouldn’t work anyway as it would seriously limit our dating pool. Seriously, I’ve read and seen so so many conversations from men about this. At the very least he would not be in a serious relationship with her because apparently men think fake body parts mean a woman is “shallow and stupid” for being shallow to the point she risk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 07:30 PM
30

I had a partner like this but wanted me to get “my boobs done” yet complaining to me about his insecurities wanting my validation... I had a C cup back then when he said that to me and now have I DD boobs which are already big enough, no thanks I don’t want impossibly large anime boobs that will break my back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 07:25 PM
11

I’m happy I’ve never ever done this but this just shows me how deeply society conditions us to be a pickme!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 07:19 PM
32

Yes but this is why we do better, no sleeping together on the first night and don’t let someone sleep over overnight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:36 PM
124

Many men are like this but you’ll never know as they won’t admit it to their own children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:35 PM
21

I’m guessing this also means no male housemates?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:31 PM
99

Yess. Let’s influence men to actually choose women they actually like and value highly, by making it actually worth some effort to be with us!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:20 PM
2

Oooh good point. Asserting yourself doesn’t always have to mean swearing. We can be effective and confident communicators without it too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:17 PM
6

Good to know, your examples are useful and definitely serve a purpose. I definitely thought the boyfriend example was a bit ineffective, some disrespecting you to this degree won’t just knock it off so easilu
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:07 PM
38

I just realised that society telling women that men is totally propaganda for old men to try to make younger women date them Men are actually taught how to manipulate women since they are teenagers (learning PUA and redpill tactics), so much for sweet innocent dumb angel boys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:42 PM
7

I wasn’t expecting to love this message 😍😍🥰🥰 Thank you for posting, this should he mandatory viewing for everyone. Even back then, it was the same as now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:33 PM
20

I look 21 and have seen some icky 30 yo men like... are you sure you’re only 30? Why do you look like 15 years older than me and fatter, lazier and worse off than me though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:16 PM
13

I secretly feel kind of validated when other people, men and/or women find me beautiful too but like I admit it up front not be like “Oh I hate it” eye rolls “but it validates how beautiful & youthful i am, but i definitely hate it tho” Also I look young for my age and I totally believe I’ll be one of those women who look early 20s when I reach my 30s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:14 PM
3

Ooh stunning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:57 PM
299

Imo, if they can’t respect bi women and see them as human they also don’t respect any woman. These kind of men just put bi women in this “box” as a sexual freak down for anything and non bi women in this “box” as a conservative wife type and neither is a compliment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:20 PM
102

Opportunistic and insecure sums up these types of men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:14 PM
163

Imagine if we talked about men the way they talk about us. I wonder which man I should date so I can access all of his man “stick and holes” with “no restrictions”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:13 PM
4

I know, that’s why I said there’s nothing wrong with saying it girl! I also need to learn better to let men get “mad” at me, but also men can get dangerous/violent so it’s a fine line to tread lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:47 PM
2

Oh no obviously, I figured that much out! I even predicted this would probably happen before she said this. I was just wondering what she said because she said she was very “harsh and direct” or something and I was wondering if he got in his fee-fees lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:47 PM
2

What did you say to him? I’m just curious like why he wouldn’t reply
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:32 PM
10

Tell us how it goes!! I think like most of the time when guys offer a coffee or lower value date, he only plans to use you for low effort, but I think in like a smaller amount of times maybe the guy can actually put effort with a subtle hint or nudge!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:27 PM
2

working towards leveling up to this level of fitness!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:10 PM
10

UGH. Romance sounds dead there! It sounds all 50/50 bangmaid life It’s because of all the pickmes/or just the cultural shift of women now insisting “I can pay my OWN half because I’m an independent woman who can pay for my own meal” It’s not about being able to pay it’s about romance, it’s about the guy showing to you that he appreciates your time and he understands women risk violence everytime they meet a new man, he understands that many men “spin plates” and want to sleep with as many women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:06 PM
17

I don’t understand what’s so strange or unique about our ideas anyway? We’re just women who like to talk about cultural misogyny, share our bad experiences and dating experiences with men and share tips on how to avoid abusive men or men who don’t like us/want to “spin plates”. I don’t see anything insane or incel about wanting to discuss our experiences as women or with dating. I guess it’s not good to speak about it irl too much because if we tell men we know how they play us, they might get s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:00 PM
14

Omg! This is so cute and funny You girls have no sense of humour 😤 This is clearly light hearted and showing his carefree jokester ways! Teehee Why are you women so uptight it has 13,500 likes and 39 awards /s Ok but srsly Omfg how does it have 13.5k likes... what is wrong with people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:44 PM
9

Which culture is this?? Even in this culture, men know. Men don’t want to let the woman pay if he actually cares about upholding his respect in front of her. I’ve seen guys in comments sections of a youtube video of a first date where a young man went on a first date with a pretty, smart and classy young woman (who was more beautiful than him, a little bit out of his league although he looked fine too, maybe average) and she paid for her half of the date. Men in the youtube comments section were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:49 AM
22

Omg I can tell men would get so angry at your boundaries! “I don’t drink with men I don’t know.” Men on OLD would get so in their feelings about this line even though there’s literally nothing wrong with you saying that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:02 AM
8

Mine doesn’t look anything like me and I am Caucasian However, even my own mother barely recognises me in photos and everyone says I look extremely different in every photo vs in real life (IRL people think I look the same everyday but photos make me look different).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:09 AM
28

Yeah. We know and they’re not happy about it! And aww blushes thanks for mentioning me☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:05 PM
57

I think this is just a way for men to look good and give excuses sis! Reee I don’t accept. Video calls before a date are a THING, okay? If guys are that concerned they can opt for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 07:31 PM
14

Your poor mother. Slaving away to pick up after her husband, who has to act all to miserable, only to also not get along with her children either. I was so naive before I found FDS, I thought MOST families were essentially happy behind closed doors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:23 PM
3

wow, very good to know. I KNEW most of these men were not serious but this confirms it beyond doubt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:39 AM
42

... (Sounds like) She needs FDS We don’t teach grown men how to take basic care of themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:03 AM
0

Sometimes people tell me they think I “seem rich” and I do have some money, and I never want to be expected to pay for peoples surgeries etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:03 AM
0

I personally think she was just bringing awareness to the situation which isn’t a bad thing. I guess the reason I care is I personally don’t want people trying to freeload off me/expect me to pay for expensive things just if I gain some money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:01 AM
-5

I completely disagree. Just because you’re rich doesn’t mean you have to pay everyone for everything. Apparently she posted a story and she said she isn’t in contact with this person anymore, and the goal of the gofundme was only 10k anyway and once she gave 5k they didn’t need anymore money? So what if you’re rich, if I had a friend I didn’t speak to anymore who needed $1,000 and I contributed $100 towards their surgery and I also brought attention to the cause I’d think that’s generous and I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:35 PM
-4

If you have $50 and can just give it and make it back in an hour are you obligated to give it to your friends whenever they need it? Nah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:34 AM
4

ooohh tea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 08:30 PM
74

wow tragic i’m sorry ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 08:29 PM
10

He degrades, insults and humiliates women (imo this is a form of abuse but that’s my opinion) for wanting men to pay on dates. By this I mean he compared women to children and called women “selfish, ridiculous and entitled” for women wanting to have dates paid for. He’s a POS and I hate him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:45 PM
3

can i have a code?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:11 PM
7

When my dad said something kind of vague but inappropriate to me that made me feel really creepy and I complained about it to my doctor and mum, my mum said “That’s MY husband!” I was under 18 at the time still and my mum said this... I tried to keep my distance from my dad as much as possible since I was a teenager and now I don’t even speak to him yet my own mother had the nerve to tell me “That’s MY husband.” I’m sad my mum turned into a pick me in her 30s and she still is now (she wasn’t a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:00 PM
7

They only took action once called out... and the action was taken somewhat late and delayed and mostly after criticisms and backlash... doesn’t seem like a genuine apology to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:37 PM
9

I never thought about this before, but you’re right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:33 PM
5

I love this, men can change the world by punishing bad behaviour like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:10 PM
2

Hmm interesting, I’ve had one girl tell me that guys will only like me for being “baby faced” but tbh men almost never compliment me on looking “young” and she told me that they only call me “beautiful, gorgeous, and sexy” because they don’t know what else to call me but what they actually want to call me is young and adorable and they don’t mean any other compliment. Idk I kind of think she was a pick me for telling me this, like why is she upset and bothered by the fact that she witnessed many…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:06 PM
63

for me it’s been age 24, I definitely got zero attention at 13-17 so I consider myself lucky that I didn’t get inappropriate attention. The point of my comment I guess is showing that women can have different experiences, nothing bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:42 PM
5

Ooooh I love this but what did it mean originally?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:49 PM
1

Wooh this is rude. FDS TELLS women to not care about their appearance but comments like this prove to me that EVEN by FDS women, to get respect I need to look pretty and spend that 1-3 hours per day making myself pretty (excercise, eating well, makeup, grooming etc). Even by FDS women to not be made fun of I’d need to be pretty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:23 PM
26

how is she not conventionally attractive? Please! She’s so cute and neotenous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:18 PM
28

He knows he perves and drools and mentally undresses at women dressed “revealingly” the way you dress currently all day everyday, and he feels threatened and insecure by other men doing it to you. POS! POS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:44 PM
8

this girl is incredible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:20 PM
30

I love her account she’s incredible! Please follow her and show her love and support it seems like she’s been getting a lot of male hate :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:19 PM
9

omg lovely story ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:07 PM
15

omg 😆 lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:56 PM
155

they tried calling her a femcel too 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:36 PM
8

I don’t want to believe that other men really said that to him... so all men really are rapist apologists...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:25 PM
12

I’d never heard of this but it doesn’t surprise me one tiny bit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:27 PM
128

men would start riots
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:23 AM
4

Don’t say this type of thing to a man, don’t compare yourself to other girls, it makes men have an ego trip like this he’s insane...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:05 AM
59

I like to look genuinely beautiful for myself, but if it decreases my safety it makes me worry, but then again women who are nowhere near considered beautiful are also attacked so I don’t know what to think??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:08 PM
9

because so many men relate, that the men eat it up and pickmeishas like it because as women weren’t taught to be “humble”. “You’re probably not going to be the best or prettiest woman so what? Get over yourself! Grow up” That’s what scrotes say to women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:53 PM
26

only the first 2 times of getting caught
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:26 PM
9

I wish civil discussion could really change them on a meaningful scale If it were that simple unfortunately I don’t believe they’d still be plotting against us with violence and lies the way they do Edit: if you downvoted me, please tell me why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:36 PM
21

uhm like about what? why would you have “civil discussion” with men who plot on how to trick us out of sex everyday?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:02 PM
6

They really have to stoop to making up lies about how someone here said they’d kill their neighbor for refusing sex? I wouldn’t be surprised to see that on the male incel sites. Reddit protects incels because they are men, but women aren’t allowed to breathe without harassment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:11 AM
93

But men do do this to pickme wives, I’ve seen it. It’s normalised, if we don’t put up with it then we are “insecure and jealous”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:52 PM
13

All men are like this. This is how women they hook up with “deserve” to be treated according to them. Us women are SO STUPID, that we must be tricked on dates while he pretends it may turn into a relationship, but he tricks us into sex as well as part of the dating process except HE knows he just wants to bang lots of women. Also when men decide they want to marry a girl, she must be a pure near virgin. But he has tricked many women into sex with false hope of a relationship, but he refuses to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:20 PM
6

Most of them are don’t be fooled. Sweet summer child How I wish I could be as naive as you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:13 PM
6

They don’t think!! They call women who want sexual attraction “shallow and only about the looks”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:00 PM
2

No, I said they SHOULD be mad at him. I’m saying it doesn’t make sense that on TikTok there’s boys with MILLIONS of followers who post terrible, violent, cruel content towards girls and people love it. I’m saying all of it is bad. No where did I say we should’ve support his content did I? I literally just said I’m confused that people on tiktok fully support other terrible male content
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:03 PM
-5

So I looked on tiktok and apparently what Happened is that this boy posted this video with lyrics of a song where he’s trying to sing but keeps getting distracted saying “damn” intermittently. It was in relation to girls who “don’t wear bras in public” and he gets distracted by it Like also men are posting WAY worse stuff than this on tiktok and no one bats an eyelid, men are posting about how it’s ok the cheat, rape, lie to girls, break girls hearts but THIS is what everyone gets the maddest ov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:44 PM
37

I’ve experienced it more than once, I would’ve thought it was at least half of all women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:57 PM
65

At least the comments on the original post are quite reasonable and they did advise her to leave and that this was financial abuse! PHEW! Although one person did try to suggest couples counselling, but thankfully one person pointed out that in an abusive relationship, couples counselling is actually more DAMAGING than it is helpful!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:16 PM
13

he shouldn’t ONLY ever think you’re cute. That’s a neg. He can find you cute too but if he ONLY finds you cute it’s probably a neg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:35 PM
16

cute is an appropriate compliment for a pet or a baby or child. and some friends call each other cute it’s fine. your romantic partner should see you as beautiful, sexually attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:01 PM
22

I always wondered why Marilyn didn’t date a handsome man in her own league, she only dated not attractive men and she kind of explains it in this article, the men who were attractive Hollywood stars had so many fans that they were very narcissistic and stuck up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:59 PM
2

I want to give birth, seeing adorable babys just stirs something special inside of me. The dream is to do it with a loving husband, but maybe even as a single mother if I don’t find one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:40 PM
3

I’d rather say “Your dick is bigger, so it must be pretty small” Because the dick is definitely small but the forehead is even smaller lol?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:18 PM
49

yes, time to dump him when he says that “cute” is not an acceptable compliment our boyfriend or husbands should give us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:14 PM
15

bUT iT wAS juSt A harMLeSs jOKe / s i’m not being serious, just repeating what some man might advise you (men’s advice always benefits other men you see) I’m so proud of you for walking out on a serious note
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:12 PM
9

I’m so glad that at least he was jailed for 11 months at least and that his name was on blast publicly as a sexual assaulter. He deserved more punishment but at least there was that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:38 PM
37

SO true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 03:20 PM
11

where has this happened?? in fds ive never seen people cheer on the mistress where? I feel sorry for cheated on wives :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:53 PM
153

Men rarely do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:22 PM
1

agreed!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 12:09 PM
6

terrifying 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:35 AM
26

Exactly, they want “dirty” women to sleep around with easily They’ll literally go insane and start riots if there’s no “dirty” women to sleep with but also she will never be worth settling down with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:47 AM
6

woAh 😦 that was a roller coaster
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:51 PM
2

“foToS”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:31 PM
5

wait why were they lovers and not boyfriends i feel sad :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:11 PM
30

they didn’t want you to find out they were using 15 year old photos or hat fishing or something or they don’t want to invest time unless they can get p*ssy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:51 PM
6

is cheating a super bad and fucked up situation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:43 PM
15

It’s the same reason they want FDS gone. They don’t want us coming together to talk and realise that when they don’t want to pay for dates it’s usually because they don’t really like us etc so on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:39 PM
9

The only “boyfriend” I’ve ever had was generous with me and wanted to provide for me and paid on all dates, no questions. The only other man I agreed to seriously date was happy to always pay for the date. This was before I found FDS and I didn’t really tolerate disrespect but I’m still glad I found FDS so I would be reminded to never let my standards slip and why it’s so important
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:32 PM
15

not sure if i ever will either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:19 PM
9

thanks for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:18 PM
2

husbands can too tho 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:30 PM
7

we’re literally smooth skinned, clean gorgeous goddesses who give birth, we create life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:08 PM
8

I didnt say anything about a very high sex drive, I said marrying a man JUST for sex seems kinda... dumb or pointless to me? Why not a long term fuck buddy then if it’s ONLY sex? You fuck him then say bye and he won’t bother you except for the sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:02 PM
14

I mean, I’ve always been shamed on other subs for thinking sex in relationships is important and been told that I’m wrong for wanting it. So really I’m all for it, let’s normalise women wanting sex in relationships too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:24 PM
5

I’ve never heard a woman say she only wants to get married for a supply of sex I didn’t say anything about wanting sex, I do too... Also I thought FDS was strictly against sex work so technically your comment is “not allowed” by the rules or something idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:11 PM
11

I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:37 PM
65

This is harassment and I literally feel sick and violated when it happens. The worst thing is when you say no and they keep pushing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:30 PM
-27

are you actually a woman? sorry, never heard any woman talk like this before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:50 PM
43

I am the same as you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:16 AM
36

No words... men are terrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:51 PM
70

oh my god 😱😓 my condolences
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:27 PM
17

Wow... I’m so moved by this. I’m so sorry!! This is a note to myself to Never let yourself get pressured by a man to have a baby or more babies before Im ready or want to (even though I want to be pregnant one day)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:20 PM
12

Yeah many people have said to me “No way you’re single” etc but if I don’t meet someone worth it I wouldn’t settle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:27 PM
25

I used to be a very sexual young woman like when I was a teenager then my first ever sexual partner was emotionally abusive (not physically abusive) towards me and I think he contributed to me becoming asexual I was a very sexual and turned on, high libido girl but yet I didn’t get crushes on many guys at all (but I was straight). I wish I could go back in time and tell myself to not F up my sexual libido for this not worth it man :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:24 PM
1

I hope one day I do too 🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:21 PM
93

I mean if they don’t want to get married to us fine we aren’t forcing them lol 🤣 Let them be sceptical and lonely if they want to jeez
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:19 PM
6

What qualities do you have that he loves that made it possible for you to ask him this? Really curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:53 PM
9

I’ve definitely known one man who tried to act all HV, donating to charity and all wonderful things and still cheated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:11 PM
6

I believe that maybe 65% of men cheat? I think some men actively seek it out, and some men can be convinced, and some men don’t cheat But even if say 70% of men were loyal (I don’t think that many men are loyal, I think more cheat but even men themselves could admit that AT LEAST 30% of men do cheat) and 30% are not... why would you want to worry about a 30% chance he’s out cheating anyway, I know not all women are loyal either but I know that most men seem to be easier to convince to cheat and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:09 PM
3

This is what the 50/50 is leading to, doing all the work with less thanks for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:06 PM
16

He wouldn’t make a girl he’s amazed he’s even out on a date with, pay. If she’s his 10/10 she’d never pay, don’t let the “smartest” and most stingy, penny calculating men tell you otherwise. He doesn’t mean it, even the most frugal man will be too lovestruck not to pay for his favourite crush
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:01 PM
20

Just throw the whole relationship out then? Tbh I think trying to split 50-50 on gifts is a whole new level of stingy even surpassing the stinginess of going 50/50
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:55 PM
11

You shouldn’t get married if he doesn’t already have a ring for you (right?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:41 PM
18

It hasn’t stopped people from blaming women even now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:27 PM
4

how dare they put you down and support the affair partner SOME men out here live double lives tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 08:52 PM
1

As long as the man is being punished too, and the mistress was not an unknowing victim of the lying cheater...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 07:59 PM
3

I feel like allowing the wife to sue the mistress again puts this women against women fighting thing Some women always blame the other woman and not her husband and allowing her to sue the other woman would just encourage this Obviously I don’t feel sorry for anyone but the wife and kids involved but wives forget to blame their own husbands first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 07:40 PM
38

But the part that’s wrong is how they say “rape is about power, not sex” So are they trying to say that men do not rape out of desire and sexual impulses? I think it’s power and their sexual impulses Apparently the most harassed and assaulted group of people is women age 18-25 so just that fact alone makes it obvious it is partially desire that fuels assault from men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:51 PM
15

Well... if the mistress had no idea why should she be in it? 25% of people on dating sites are already in relationships apparently and some men but out here living double lives and women having no idea she’s not the only one but of course, sue the cheating scrote why not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:38 PM
6

Hmm i suppose so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:56 PM
6

i have even read on this sub of women meeting bfs there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:56 PM
9

so do HVW, which you and me are 👑🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:43 PM
44

“any man who stays on them is hardened and/ or has gotten to prey on women successfully. “ yikes!! shivers down my spine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:42 PM
11

why do i keep hearing of women “meeting her husband or boyfriend” on it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:39 PM
25

nah i don’t agree, a 50 year old has way more life experience than a 30 year old woman etc. The brain only finishes maturing fully at 25, so that’s only 5 years with a fully matured brain vs 25 years with one Also if I was 35 and still looked quite youthful/healthy I wouldn’t want to be expected to date 55+ yo men or even 50 yo men, and even there there’s STILL a maturity age gap too 😐 I’d say the maturity point is maybe 40+ can date anyone, but why would anyone really want to date someone more …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:44 PM
10

l’m glad I don’t drink much at all and even when I do I pace myself so slowly like one drink per few hours lol don’t get me wrong, it’s not your fault at all not even 1% your fault, and not drinking hasn’t protected me from all kinds of sexual misconduct , but I’m sure it’s saved me from even more things happening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:09 PM
2

Awww, poor man only wants sex 🥺🥺 It’s not HIS fault aww 🥺🥺 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:34 PM
3

this is why we don’t give them clues on how to misbehave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:27 PM
35

Thank you, I never intended to live with a boyfriend anyway but this sooooo solidified why not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 08:02 PM
17

I understand this point. Why do we always have to be so polite and bend over backwards for men? They make fun of our appearances shamelessly But personally I won’t engage in making fun of peoples appearances especially if they are kind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:19 PM
90

he’s lying to expand his field of women to trick into a ONS that she didn’t know was going to be a ONS but he lied to her into having one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:06 PM
17

I don’t understand how some women can find their lovely partners online, but some women really struggle! And I don’t think it’s just looks, I’ve seen average looking girls have success finding a great partner too as well as average girls struggling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:45 AM
19

queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:35 PM
135

It’s true they respect strippers and hookers more than the free hookups they get. They think anything their dick touches is sullied lol They will also view strippers and hookers as being “hotter” than free hookups but you could have the exact same looking girl in either position, men imagine one is hotter I’m not saying this out of cope I’m saying this as someone who saw how one my former friends was treated in sex work vs casual dating, she was the exact same girl but guys “worshipped” her in s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:15 PM
2

Feel butterflies around your friends and want to kiss them? No, you’re bisexual or a lesbian
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:29 PM
11

FDS doesn’t even teach this and the scrotes will reeee scream and whinge about FDS all day long when we don’t even do anything manipulative or bad like them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:44 PM
1

Can’t believe this is an upvoted comment on FDS Then don’t date at all if you think dining is too dangerous right now. Don’t degrade yourself by going on an unsafe, walking aimlessly around park “date”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:07 PM
3

What the hell? Sounds like this ad is targeted towards women because for mens goal is not even for dates it’s for sex lol. And also why would they think this would appeal to women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:06 PM
24

“He was laughing about it, it was a good vibe,” she said. “I had just done my hair – I was trying to make a good impression. The weather completely annihilated all of that.” This lady is talking about this like it’s so cute... it’s not cute... she did her hair to look cute and the man LAUGHED at her when he wouldn’t even take her on an actual date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:33 PM
1

I doubt that would ever happen or be true, there’s a reason makeup is the standard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:59 PM
1

For real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:58 PM
2

Yes this is so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:58 PM
13

agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:51 AM
3

Not really the same thing at all, in a restaurant date you’re meeting in a set public place and can tell your friends where you’re going On a walking date you are walking around into unknown areas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:20 PM
1

exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:18 PM
1

😂😂🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:18 PM
2

agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:22 PM
11

Some guys genuinely are more sexually attracted to faces than body parts, I don’t understand how this is seen as sweet. Some guys care more about a “hot face” than a “hot body” but they still sexualise and rate women, just more on their face than body lol Oh and most men “require both face and body to be hot” too 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:51 PM
14

WTF I just realised how weird this sounds when a woman says it and how we don’t dissect mens ageing looks like men do to us lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:47 PM
0

sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:15 PM
-6

Idk I agree with her that the pickup artists are disgusting but idk dislike something about her I didn’t know it was rude not to like someone idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:22 PM
-19

i don’t know why but i dislike this woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:19 AM
7

Is that a voiceover it doesn’t seem like her voice to me for some reason?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:34 PM
66

👆👆👆Spot freaking on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:31 AM
3

But most reality stars have that filler look where their lips look ridiculous, deformed and puffy why would you even feel less happy after seeing that?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:53 PM
2

is it being with a good friend if you’re not attracted? Is it like trying to force yourself to kiss a friend you have no feelings for? I’ve never dated anyone I find unattractive and am wondering
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:28 PM
2

yes i also noticed how she is gorgeous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:22 PM
5

She’s stunning and hilarious and smart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:14 PM
408

this is what 50/50 is coming to literally. Not even joking Such a shame 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:14 PM
34

She is joking I looked up her tiktok page
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:45 PM
17

She’s so pretty 🥺😭 And she looks expensive I love this energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:39 PM
5

She needs to stop being immature and grow up, but meh but we all learned and started somewhere!! Talking exclusively for 6 months is laughable I mean she looks between 22-29 right? That’s too old for this high school stuff She’s freaking gorgeous like I’m not just saying that or anything what the hell she’s so naturally pretty even in sweats howw tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:37 PM
76

She seems so beautiful she’d probably be naturally GORGEOUS and beautiful but her boyfriend probably likes this polished girly look and he’d claim she was letting herself go without it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:34 PM
72

She needs to dump him and side note she seems GORGEOUS and sweet Lord all the tiktok pretty girls slay with their charisma and looks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:33 PM
2

ooooh good point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:25 AM
1

Maybe men are the ones who aren’t “smart enough to choose their own partners”. After all it’s men who talk about divorce rape exploitation isn’t it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 05:07 AM
1

Don’t ever rate your own daughter out of 10 again sir... 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 05:02 AM
1

very attractive women already know everyone finds them attractive. That’s why they don’t mind their husbands listing other qualities. Very Attractive women would also be bothered if their husband genuinely didn’t find her sexually attractive but she will assume he already does
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 02:20 AM
1

my mum subtly asked me if im gay and im not even 30 in my 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 01:18 AM
4

i’ve heard this from a 50 something! they’re crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 08:35 PM
26

But she was severly ill and he didn’t leave. He clearly deeply loves her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:32 PM
3

Well not everything some dumbass says deserves attention or paying any mind to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 08:15 AM
13

Sweetie I get a lot of attention but so many guys giving me attention are not really viable options so it doesn’t mean much 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:02 PM
140

they’re asking too much. Pure joy to be around? Women aren’t one single emotion we aren’t “joy”. We experience a range of emotions and sounds like they want someone with no boundaries. Also yes they want someone hot, but let’s be honest. Guys won’t really respect or take her seriously if she doesn’t have a college education degree right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 12:55 PM
1

I’d wear covered up clothing to a lecture if I have to build professional rapport with a professor etc but at my leisure I’d wear shorts with my booty hanging out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:02 PM
4

i will wear a crop top just slightly larger than the size of a bra on a hot day. But never a literal plain support bra. If I feel it’s cute fashion and flatters me I’ll wear it, what’s your deal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:00 PM
3

sooo correct i’m impressed by your eloquence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:12 PM
17

Men always change the narrative to suit themselves... I saw a post made yesterday where men were saying that if you have sex with them on the first date and expect anything more than a one night stand then it’s your fault as a woman for not being aware Maybe it’s because you want a serious relationship, not a one night stand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:02 PM
6

To be honest, I think she’s probably a naive and confident girl. Assumes guys who are being nice towards her genuinely like her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 01:38 PM
8

I honestly don’t think it’s for a “specific brand of femininity” I think it’s just that you disagree on this one point, you think women should be able to approach men then vet him as a HVM. The problem is when a woman asks a man out, she has essentially agreed to pay for him on their first date (according to modern dating tenets), breaking ANOTHER FDS principle. Do you also believe that women should pay on first dates for both parties?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 01:11 PM
1

I didn’t learn from my mother, I learnt from society that it was cool to accept porn use from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 11:11 AM
2

can you please send me the link
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 10:53 AM
9

Look in modern dating standards “whoever asks someone out is the one to pay on the first date”. If you pursue him he may assume you will pay for your first date. He may pretend to be HV because he thinks you will be an easy lay. Why are you advocating for a strategy that will get us wasting our own time most of the time? It’s not about being submissive at all. You’re making excuses for men like “He might like you he was just off his game that day” Nah sis most of the time if he noticed and likes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 10:46 AM
2

so true. Even if he keeps it up hes still a lvm. Hvm don’t treat people in their past like shit. He’s been a LVM to other women at least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:31 PM
2

exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:30 PM
16

They’re not saying assertive women are incompetent AT. ALL. Full stop Literally it’s because men won’t turn down a woman he doesn’t even like Even if he doesn’t get sex from her for a long time he may stay because she was the only and easiest gf option
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:22 PM
10

Did you read the article?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:19 PM
12

But I also saw a post today that said having sex on the first date means as a woman you’re telling the man “This is a ONS” and blamed the woman for not knowing that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:12 PM
3

yes exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:37 AM
11

yes plus is his the only available dick in the world?? no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 06:32 PM
6

Most importantly you probably won’t get beaten or murdered or sexually violated (as in raped anally when the escort only agreed to vaginal penetration or something) as a retail worker or cleaner. You won’t get raped or stolen from either (men sometimes don’t pay escorts either or steal the money they paid her with, which counts as rape). You can acquire stalkers too as a sex worker With escorting girls can probably feel shocked/shamed or violated that she is sleeping with many, many men who push…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:45 PM
2

I liked my parents equally! Maybe mum slightly more tbh!! My parents were actually equally good, attentive and loving parents when I was a child but when I grew into a young adult was when my dad turned from HVM into a crazy controlling person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:21 PM
8

Wow my eyes are so opened, I never even thought about your point 3!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:43 PM
21

I know right? It’s so unfair it’s maddening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:42 PM
1

That’s exactly what he was doing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:02 AM
1

perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:51 AM
4

Exactly and I feel women as a collective have “lowered” our price like allowed men to believe it’s “cheaper and easier” than it really is to have us. I would swipe for men who weren’t attractive at all (looks 10 years older than listed age, overweight, not great hair etc) but I’d give a chance to if he was kind to me, we got along well and career minded. Even some of the not attractive men thought they could easily order me to come over to their house like ordering some cheap pizza except I cost…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:22 PM
2

😂 spat out my tea I was drinking You’re unironically correct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:16 PM
2

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:15 PM
3

omg stop 😂😂🤣🤣😅😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:10 PM
1

They honestly do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:05 PM
0

it sounds equally dangerous to me whether you’re an escort or tinder date! Why is one more likely to harm than the other, both have equal opportunities to harm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:54 PM
2

I laughed so hard 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:47 PM
1

5”5 is average - slightly tall for a woman but short for a man lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:46 PM
2

haha true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:42 PM
2

haha ohh man you’re right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:41 PM
1

The years pass by so fast though. Honestly any 20 year old woman WILL be 30 in the blink of an eye and she can’t hold onto her “value” to men as hard as she wants to try, no one is 20-30 forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:40 PM
1

men with charm and looks also benefit from pretty privilege from society lol, if they’re mad that it’s a pussypass thing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:26 PM
4

If you don’t like it only go as far in the bedroom as you’re willing to and if you don’t want to do anything or see him again make a polite excuse up and leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:30 PM
5

I enjoy it immensely but only with an attentive lover. When they try to severely curl their fingers upwards I feel bad for them because I know they want it to feel good but it doesn’t for me it just is painful. Also I think they do that because they’ve been told it’s the trick to making a woman squirt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:10 PM
9

OUCH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:02 PM
3

Omfg I teared up! You lucky girl 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:22 AM
15

I say “thank you I agree” and I’m not trying to be a bitch, it’s just that I agree with him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:04 AM
44

I usually say “Thank you, I know!” or something if a man compliments me and just a simple “Aw how sweet, thank you” to a woman lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:04 AM
4

I once had a woman get offended at me for me not wanting to share some private detail about myself and I was just talking to her as a work colleague. I can understand why it comes across as though we’re not willing to let that person into our lives but I feel like we have to be careful with men we don’t know well yet and men should have the maturity to accept that we won’t tell them everything. Also why does anyone need to know the exact place that you work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:13 AM
4

true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:06 AM
13

good point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:38 PM
10

What?? How does it make a difference who makes it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 05:02 PM
5

I deleted it because I was worried it came across bad, I just meant like I’ve even been told that’s all I’m good for as a white woman and I know other girl friends of mine who are white and actually attractive yet honestly struggle to find anyone but manipulators or guys who only want sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:27 PM
10

good i hope not!! Idk I’m pretty and so are many of my friends but only my friends closest to actual conventional perfection get treated like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:23 PM
15

Yesss you’re a queen so accurate and eloquently said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:58 PM
9

lucky her but hopefully he’s not only doing it for her beauty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:54 PM
28

Only women are gold diggers/s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:44 PM
10

it was cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:26 PM
1

Yeah I’m 26 and people think I’m barely just 18 to 22! I hope I stay looking 18-22 for another 10 years if possible 😝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 09:19 AM
3

I have never done this kind of behaviour before but mainstream culture encourages women to make the first move to enter relationships with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:53 AM
1

Exactly, it’s not fair but I want to win too! And I do win at work and I know looks are one big aspect why I win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:51 AM
7

I’m sorry but I feel this is normal behaviour for women who don’t know about FDS, they’ve been brainwashed by guys telling them to make the first move and that maybe casual sx will lead to a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:12 AM
14

Yeah I’d probably be more in demand until men found out my actual age. I don’t know why they’re so obsessed with extreme youth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:05 PM
13

yeah i wasn’t super impressed even reading the original post. This is normal for a lot of men to believe and say this stuff about plastic surgery being immoral but if a woman is made conventionally “sexier” or more conventionally beautiful by plastic surgery trust me will he and any man treat her better . They can’t help it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 07:31 PM
24

The men commenting that know perfectly well it’s probably not a good idea If the man has no other options and doesn’t want to lose sex he might say yes. If he feels she is amazing and he doesn’t want to miss out he would’ve asked her himself to be more than a hook up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 07:11 PM
30

Ha I’m 26 but looking at me most people place me at barely 18 to 22, so what’s really the difference between me and someone younger? I mean even if he finds someone 19 years old she will eventually be over 26 and then he’ll want to discard her for the new model...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:52 PM
29

maybe they need to lose them first before they realise it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 09:51 AM
44

i thought this was obvious since incels exist, who form their entire identity around their lack of success with women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 09:48 AM
2

Why does it matter what happened to Beyonce maybe some FDSers are more conventionally pretty than Beyonce? I don’t feel we need to compare ourselves to anyone like that. I agree with the rest of what you said though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:28 AM
2

wow swoon 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:32 AM
11

People say they want women to be confident and love themselves. People say it’s sad to see women who don’t think of themselves as beautiful. When we actually love ourselves and see ourselves as beautiful they hate us for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:47 PM
11

why would she not judge him on looks... like that’s one crucial part of decision making in if we desire someone sexually or not....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:39 PM
15

ewww seems desperate i could never
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:24 PM
24

Aww some people can’t help having a flat chest and no curves, I feel bad for her a little bit that guys attracted to her are called pedos (I have big womanly curves, but just imagining if I had no boobs or ass I’d feel bad about people calling men who like me pedos)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:23 PM
7

wow 🥺 i wish this was me i hope it’s amazing and he’s amazing to you ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:19 PM
2

I wouldn’t say I’m starting from a low point in general at all, just that we always have more work to do (no one is ever done growing or perfect) and I’m still learning how to respond to LVM and LVW negging
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:20 PM
4

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:10 PM
3

🥰😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:08 PM
2

😂😂 That’s truerateme and it’s actually out of 9 But still, that would make Nina Dobrev a 7/10... which means a regular beautiful woman... sorry I don’t see women as beautiful as Nina on a daily basis Liv Tyler a 5/9 though... that’s whack... did they really say that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:05 PM
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That’s what I hate the most, they think that THEIR score of a woman, is the ONLY universal and accurate score of her. They think the woman herself and everyone else on the planet must agree with his “rating” of her. Even ugly to the point of looking damn near deformed looking men can be like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:03 PM
4

He’s just so plain and forgettable I didn’t even notice him! I only noticed the nice looking ladies with amazing style
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:01 PM
5

You’re right they were too nice to this negging clown!! He doesn’t deserve that respect tbh Imagine how this clown treats his girlfriends, he probably tells his pretty dates that they’re “realistically a 5 or 6” LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:00 PM
2

Aw really? It just inspires me to see funny, confident women ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:53 PM
49

yeah exactly like she has to support and raise the children if there are children Plus this was a marriage contract he knowingly got into and yet he cheated on her anyway knowing the consequences
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:53 PM
20

i don’t think that’s what it meant sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:52 PM
3

I thought the girls in the video were queens but you’re an even higher calibre queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:26 PM
3

I loved the way these beautiful queens responded in general. They seem confident and like they love themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:19 PM
1

thanks, will do 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:15 PM
6

Why was he doing all that if he only wants to attract a “plain girl” anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:37 PM
3

I’ll have a read of some of the recommended literature, thanks! I do look at the levelup strategy sometimes already
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:55 PM
2

What if I don’t find the other woman absolutely beautiful though? lol. I’ll say something along the lines of what you said but instead of pretending to find her absolutely stunning instead I’ll just try to be uplifting about being confident about ourselves or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:52 PM
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believe what they do not what they say! They want to look at “sexy, out of reach, glamorous” womens’ boobs and ass!! Having to pay makes the men think of the women as being more glamorous and out of reach too by the way, guys seem to be easily tricked into thinking a woman is 10x more sexy and out of reach and glamorous for the pure reason that he’s having to pay for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:44 PM
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thank you! you’re right, I 100% do!! Do you have any advice for not letting LV people opinions bother me? If you can’t think of any it’s ok, I’m learning to care less on my own
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:00 PM
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Thanks! I noticed it’s usually insecure women who don’t like others to have confidence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:08 PM
3

Don’t forget she needs to also look the hottest version of herself too or he’ll whinge how she let herself go and doesn’t compare to other women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:04 PM
3

Even he did do the housework who cares? This is still a gross hobosexual I feel like he’s offering to do housework in exchange for a sugarmummy basically and that’s yuck to me And it would 90% chance end up the way you’re saying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:52 PM
6

Sis noo.... see through the bullshit fakeness of his words!! He doesn’t have a career he wants to leech off a womans money Your situation may be ok with a good man you’re already in a relationship with but not a man who asks for this right off the bat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:50 PM
20

OMG THIS is what the pick me choose me love me meme is from?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:43 PM
8

same 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:35 PM
11

people are defending this yet if a woman dared to say she wants this she is an awful gold digger...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:31 PM
15

“Real” as in a doormat. A doormat who won’t demand any more than a free or $5 date. That’s why some men say they only like plain looking “real women” they mean doormats with no confidence lol Some men go for women they find less attractive because they think less attractive girls are “real” and less demanding or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:14 PM
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Is it ok if other women try to neg me and I respond in a confident way like these women do? If I act as confident as these women when someone talks about or asks me about my appearance would I be hated? I would also be close to a 10 for my own self but other women might not think so, so am I still allowed to say it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:43 PM
21

men love to defend their rights to go to a strip club! it makes me wonder why always like he’s clearly desperate to look at sexy new girls and doesn’t get excited by his wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:36 PM
2

yeah i think my boobs are the perfect size anyway i love them! i wouldn’t mind a D cup either though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:25 PM
3

Men NEVER talk about hobosexuals... only gold diggers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:43 PM
1

I’m very confident and accept and love my looks but I’d do plastic surgery if it guaranteed looking even more beautiful than I am now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 07:04 AM
3

yuck at pick mes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:17 AM
2

The article says not to focus on beauty and makeup though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:06 AM
7

FDS saying that we shouldn’t focus on looks too much actually gave me so much confidence and room to breathe and feel good in myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:04 AM
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Yes of course, it says being more beautiful may increase how attractive the men you will attract and it may increase the amount of men you have to choose from but that doesn’t always protect you from LVM abusive treatment and it can mean a larger amount of crappy men to choose from But what I mean is why have articles like this but then brag that most FDS users are actually pretty looking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:29 AM
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i normally do treat myself like this, July has been a terrible set back month for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:34 AM
15

But the thing is that you say this, but then in other posts you will boast that you’ve “seen FDS users and they’re not femcels, many are model gorgeous” and that men do want them. So is it that womens looks do matter or they don’t and there is a such thing as looking like a femcel or there isn’t because I’m kinda confused
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:03 AM
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yeah i think a good reply would be “If I was Angelina Jolie theres not a chance in hel I’d be here with you” lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:33 AM
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his wife is pretty, enough so she could easily have not wasted her life married to a clown who’s obsessed with negging her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:29 AM
2

This inspired me to write my own post about him Is your reason for feeling that way the same as mine because he negs her appearance? Or is it because he does other things bad towards his wife too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:22 AM
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He calls his wife a”7/10” but he deleted that part, but he gaslights her by telling her and the world it’s better to have someone average looking because “hot girls” never develop a good character. He seems extremely bitter about not being able to get a “hot girl” with beautiful character because they do exist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:15 AM
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This dating coach Evan Marc Katz constantly talks about his wife not being “the hottest” girl out there. He tries to rationalise it by saying that he wouldn’t want a “10” anyway because a combination of personality and decent looks is more realistic. In this article he talks about how his wife doesn’t hold a candle to Angelina Jolie. According to him beautiful women don’t have good personalities only average looking ones. He called his wife a 7/10 in looks on his blog but has since deleted it. L…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:13 AM
2

is it Evan Mark something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:00 AM
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i’m actually so confused... what is this... must be a publicity stunt or he needs mental help Sad thing is if he “divorces” his doll wife he will have no shortage of pick me girls willing to date him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 11:54 PM
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i haven’t had this kinda treatment in years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 11:42 PM
13

dating coaches just teach men how to target the most insecure pickmeishas and using those “tricks “ they don’t deserve a healthy relationship anyway so they get what they deserve
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 11:41 PM
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If he wants it on the first date it’s usually a bad sign. Even the second date is pretty soon and third date, that’s not really enough time to get to know someone before sleeping with him Some girl said she doubts the 3 month rule which in case I will say that do it when you feel that he’s got a strong connection outside the bedroom and he’s really gotten to know you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 11:37 PM
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attractive men are all masculine? Can you show me one hollywood celebrity male who is not masculine, yet still handsome? Also my dad is pretty masculine and my mum is super feminine but overall the first thing people say when they look at me is that i have a really feminine face lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:57 AM
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He doesn’t look particularly attractive to me either way but I actually think his former nose was more masculine/harmonious on HIS face. Hmm tbh I agree, I don’t have my parents faces 100%, but in general I got good cheekbones and light colored eyes and nice lips and nice smile because they both did I personally don’t think surgery can make a 4 into a 10 or anything drastic but I think it’s fine for her to ask to see him before. Maybe if he had serious deal breaker features before the surgery sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:16 AM
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NAH sis Parents don’t always have child clones of themselves which you are assuming I don’t look exactly like either of my parents or have their exact facial traits Many supermodels in Hollywood had unattractive parents
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 02:20 AM
15

You’re better than the other girls will quickly turn into insults instead from this kind of a guy. Because he has no problem putting others down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:32 AM
6

They are so cute 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:18 AM
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This kind of “compliment” usually comes from a man with disgusting petty character, speaking from experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 04:34 AM
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Unless he offered her money lol Or unless she was giving a fake number to try to make him spend On very rare occasions if a guy is SUPER hot maybe she would but i doubt it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:45 AM
7

She’s inspirational
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 11:33 PM
7

i don’t know what that’s code for but im not from your country (im guessing America)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 11:11 PM
6

OMG I was gonna post this haha Then I decided she could’ve said what she did more tactfully, so I decided not to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 11:09 PM
2

I think they’re blissfully unaware of their own responsibility tbh but wouldn’t put lying past them either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:57 PM
1

I hope no one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:52 PM
2

No I do understand that but I just wanted to make sure Just because a woman has had more sex doesn’t mean she is worth less as a person, it wasn’t stated anywhere here so I wanted to check if everyone agreed on that part I never said that escorting is a good healthy career, I said the opposite. Just wanted to make sure all women are seen as equal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:45 PM
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I thought that the women here have admitted that their boyfriends or husbands have seen escorts or paid for onlyfans? Why do assume all of the most awful men society has to offer are all married with children? lol I’m sure guys that visit strip clubs and escorts range from young and single to old and single and old and married with or without children. But yeah I agree relying on the sexual whims of men who are potentially dangerous to you as a woman, that doesn’t sound to me like it’s a really …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:57 AM
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I agree like as an escort seeing Johns you’re basically opening yourself up to being abused, like raped and catching stds and stealthed or phsyical violence or whatever basically as your source of income. That’s not glamorous, that’s something that would cause the majority of well adjusted women serious mental problems. I don’t think anyone is trying to say that it’s anywhere near a “safe” career or that it’s not exploitative of women. Many women who do it probably suffer PTSD from it or somethi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 07:11 AM
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Imagine if you find out your daughter is a sex worker should you disown her because you find out about it? Or if someone is a sex worker, will you see them as less of a person or less worthy?? I won’t. In the media in the past, sex worker deaths are laughed at and made fun of. This isn’t right. Ladies if we laugh at sex worker deaths, we laugh at ALL of our deaths as women collectively. If we see one type of woman as less than a woman, we devalue ALL women. With that being said, sex work is dang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 07:04 AM
6

Great post it could be in the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:00 AM
1

Touché!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:04 AM
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Well he can’t even control his anger and bitterness on his main profile on an app. Maybe he’s not physically abusive but he’s clearly bitter as heck about dating in general Glad he’s displaying all of his 🚩🚩🚩 off the bat. Any aware woman will realise it straight away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:05 AM
5

I see! It’s good you had fun anyway and I get it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:01 PM
3

Men swipe right on everyone. Then when the girl messages him, he swiftly nopes out unless he’s desperate for a ONS or something lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:31 PM
1

😂😂 omg you made me laugh out loud
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:30 PM
5

she’s cute lol and yeah no! We want dates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:14 PM
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i just would feel sad if i got in a fwb with a man like, why is he not dating me? is it because other girls are beautiful and not me? Guys are happy to do fwb with girls who they find not beautiful enough (which for them is the same thing as worthy enough) to be in a relationship with, I’m glad you broke it off hope you find someone who commits to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:08 PM
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omg i was not paying attention when i read this and saw the last part as women boy cotton line dating. lol But I agree, this should absolutely be a thing and what you wrote is very well said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:37 PM
5

hundreds of men sheep followers hail him as a genius
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:33 PM
3

How does it work at all? it’s so obviously just a pua tactic it hurts lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 07:25 PM
9

Why does his skin color look GREY?? Like not just pale but literally grey color. Like he doesn’t see sunlight or have proper dietary nutrition And his facial expression is like a thousand yard stare like lifeless lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:01 PM
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Can you imagine if a single woman ever said she has slept with hundreds of Chads in a bragging tone like he does? Men would start to slag off the entire female gender even more than they do now. Actually I’m not sure it’s even possible that men would insult women worse than they already do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:53 PM
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Hopeless 🤦‍♀️ Surely they don’t think Porn and IG are real do they!! Porn stars get mandatory plastic surgery that can be dangerous, then there’s flattering studio lighting on top of that... Ig is full of photoshop which can make almost anyone a bombshell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:12 PM
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He starts the video by saying most men don’t get the matches they deserve and most men would never sleep with or date most of their matches under any circumstances. Then explains how write a profile to act like a bad boy fckboy to make attractive women chase him. His profile starts off by saying “Don’t match with me, I’ll ruin your life” or something like that. So now boys on OLD are all going to start using this . Thank gosh I’ve never been a pick me in my life, and this kind of thing would nev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:03 PM
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yeah don’t prove yourself to someone who doesn’t deserve your thought your own happiness is the best revenge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:16 PM
4

Ok personally when I look like a slob, no one bothers talking to me or looking at me. And I’ve never felt physically harassed by people on the street but I probably live in a more courteous, safe city
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:05 PM
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Some are ok. At least they’re not catfishing lmao I really think men should be taught to value their appearance and to glow up just like women are. We care too, we want to be attracted to our man. There is. a better looking version if every single guy and girl out there if they just make effort I honestly think some people look worse on dating apps than irl, and irl you can sort of see their body language and height and figure and how they act, all so important for attraction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:03 PM
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wait he’s really a sex criminal like this?? and she’s pregnant with his child?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:00 PM
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I’m sorry but sometimes the least attractive men were the ones asking for sex quickly. Sometimes theyll just shoot their random shots out Sometimes I almost feel like they are just having a laugh, saying ridiculous shit that they know will never happen because they know they don’t have a chance anyway and nothing has ever worked for them in onlinedating. Because legit trolls would ask me for sex straight away Also like I said I also opened a blonde supermodel account once to see how men would re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:57 PM
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i’m honestly wondering when and what situation are guys supposed to approach us? I’m not saying cold approaching is good, I get cat called a lot and I don’t talk to men who catcall me. It’s not a way to get to know me. But just wondering where and how to meet men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 10:44 PM
2

can you explain how? i’m curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:58 PM
6

same here but maybe even one year
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:41 PM
9

when the woman suggests marriage the man always claims he was forced into it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:41 PM
2

this puts things into such perspective for me thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:39 PM
1

oh really? no man looked at me at all until i was 20 then i got attention and the attention has only been increasing each year i grow into my early 20s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:38 PM
2

She is married with children, she should cherish this! I don’t get why the looks are her concern atm but she might be suffering self image problems after pregnancy Plus if she turned heads in her 20s I’m sure once she has some more time she could always make herself look good and turn heads again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:37 PM
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i’ve been on dates before but personally for me it’s been about over a year since my last date so i feel very out of practice and lots of men from online dating are lazy and pursuing sex it’s true, but there seems to be a few guys out there actually interested in pursuing more if you can be patient through the many low value ones
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:31 PM
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But like how does this work? Most high value women still want an attractive man so how can every man manage to pull a woman out of his league
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:29 PM
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Sounds like all the whinging men on reddit are lvm then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:26 PM
2

that’s true it’s different for everyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:09 PM
1

great point. it’s not that there are more hvm at a certain age, a good heart doesn’t change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:11 AM
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Men wish all beautiful women like her thought of herself as just average looking. So they’d be easier knock down a peg to settle for someone lower than her. Men don’t like it when women know they’re beautiful and demand better treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:28 PM
2

but how has anyone been going out recently anyway?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:49 PM
1

is it because she’s less pretty now ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:22 PM
3

wow thanks for this this is why we do not go for 5050 men! NO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 09:32 PM
4

people always defend men for shit like this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:48 PM
1

I meant the guy paying all expenses in a relationship is that something only bombshells can pull off? Because I have to work really hard on my appearance to get back to how I used to look then (before quarantine I was a bombshell). On a first date he should definitely pay no matter what obviously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:15 PM
2

Is there something a woman needs to be to deserve being paid for? I kinda let myself go in quarantine and I no longer look like a bombshell I just look cute and everyday.... or maybe I should just wait to date until I can get myself leveled up again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:06 PM
1

They will say that they don’t care about how much time you spent and that you wasted your time and money, yet men don’t even want to look our way unless we do all that. They won’t admit that though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:29 PM
2

so these women are ok with dating men who think paying for a date owes them sex? Why not weed out men who think this way by letting them pay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:03 PM
1

Men say they hate strippers but will pay and treat strippers yet not girls they take out on dates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:56 PM
25

You make a great point. His comment was pretty disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:26 PM
-8

Well plants are technically ALIVE so you are taking away their life to eat it. If you ethically and painlessly kill an animal you are also painlessly taking it’s life to eat it. If PAIN is the difference, you can painlessly kill animals as well as plants I don’t know, why don’t people should start getting offended about eating plants too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 11:15 AM
25

I know this man who says his wife gave him an ultimatum when they were bf/gf: he marry her or she will leave. He says he regretted settling down so soon and not sowing his wild oats lol. He was actually decent looking and maybe had somewhat of a chance of hooking up with girls but still, no one forced his hand Imagine your husband feeling you forced him into it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:39 AM
-14

Plants live too, they have a life just like animals... You “kill” them by eating them... maybe we should only consume water and oxygen...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:35 AM
149

Some man in the comments was saying “When will women ever take responsibility for what they do? You’ve been a porn actress [for 20 or however many years and still work as one]” Like as if this cancels out the fact that she BEGAN as an abused teenage child and makes it ok that she was trafficked at 16 basically?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:32 AM
3

i have always found facial features more important as long as he is taller than me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:45 PM
7

She’s so put together and gorgeous head to toe Looking that put together takes effort and work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:27 AM
5

I literally didn’t know this until like today tho lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:12 AM
1

I don’t hook up with men who don’t invest in me, so it wouldn’t be relevant to me so no it wouldn’t make much sense to say that about me and it wouldn’t bother me I’m not trying to argue, I think her point was men on Tinder tend to see it as an app for sex. I’d assume men looking for relationships would tend to be on a different app, but that’s not *always the case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:03 AM
23

that is cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:33 AM
18

We need more men like him around that’s for sure. Sad it’s so rare that he actually has me shook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:25 AM
38

It is and men will unfortunately listen to other men. I’ve realised that for a lot of men online, they only respect other mens opinions. No matter what we try to say, they will ignore us and dismiss us as “insecure” or “jealous” or “trying to take away mens pleasure”. Lots of men online literally see us as some screeching annoying enemy or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:25 AM
0

She has a point and is only trying to help When I was mainly getting hookup offers on Tinder men and women alike blamed me saying what did I expect when I’m using TINDER If some women actually find relationships on Tinder that’s great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:16 AM
5

ooft im sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:25 AM
12

I mean tbh it’s your choice. Personally I can’t handle the fact that a man might settle that’s why I try do hard to avoid it The FDS way would be to not use bumble
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:53 PM
1

ok i never knew this, im igoing to google it now Either way she’s showing herself to be a clown by allowing him back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:39 PM
-16

but was he with jordan at the time she was pregnant? i know a girl who had a baby and she was no longer in a relationship with the man, that’s why I’m asking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:35 PM
-15

hey, we don’t know the inside story. Yes he had a baby mama but was he still with her? I don’t think so/ I don’t think there’s enough info on those timelines But if a man has a former baby mama he tossed aside and doesn’t treat right assume he won’t treat you right either! Also Khloe is a clownnn for having him back again now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:18 PM
26

Why do some women write no hookups then will hookup anyway? They kinda ruin it. Not that writing no hookups is a good idea anyway. I will hookup with a boyfriend after weeks of him investing and committing and getting to know him. My bfs in past have been ok with that I have truly never hooked up with anyone because I require commitment and investment first, but I have always had good self control too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:04 PM
58

Why do they all want supermodels? I’d be happy with an attractive boy next door type who I enjoy the company of but they all want the hottest supermodel Do they not realise that like less than 1% of women are supermodels? There’s not enough for every man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:47 AM
24

Hmm maybe it’s a little too bleak but it is true that men will sleep with women they don’t respect. They can know she is evil and if she’s at least average they still will (well the trashy men I knew would).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:31 AM
60

Yes and who he truly likes best is subjective. Every one of us ladies is someone’s “10” (who they realllyyy like and want) I promise. Keep that in mind keep your head high and your standards high
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:42 AM
35

Even if men don’t “number” us even every old, obese, not attractive male I’ve spoken to at least categorises into “stunning girl” or “average girl” Is there really a huge difference between that and specific numbers since it means the same thing And yeah I’d prefer someone who likes my profile first because there might be a better chance he values me and something he saw in my profile and hopefully that’s not just looks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:29 AM
40

Yeah this is true and unfortunately I know, makes it hard to fall in love with men when you know this about them lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:14 AM
24

I loooove this comment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:55 AM
1

All things I knew, but still a well written view. Also about putting women in the fuckable and unfuckable category I disagree, every woman fits the fuckable category, it’s the effort and what circumstances the man will do it with her in . I didn’t think all fathers think of their daughters naked and that wasn’t a nice thought but cant say I’m shocked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:52 AM
9

Wait what was the red flag? I thought you said you were happy to go dutch on the first date so wondering what the red flag was Also I’m wondering what it means that he didn’t even pretend to pay how can we know if a man is happy to pretend to pay or not lol, bc if be doesn’t want to pay I’d rather just know that so I never go out with him again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:15 AM
52

Doesn’t this say enough? No woman should be listening to him. Mysogynistic PUA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:59 AM
26

He’s a disgusting mysogynistic man. He could at least have stated his opinion respectfully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:57 AM
-17

You’re right but I’m not the mean girl type, I’m usually the one defending other girls who may not have the perfect makeup/eyebrows/style whatever while others make fun of her. But if you partner was overly hairy you wouldn’t want him to groom it? I honestly feel like it’s comparable. Either way if women want to do it or not I feel personally for me I feel more feminine removing hair. I’m not sure how much of a hassle it is though to do full body hair removal, I only get hair in my underarms and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:42 AM
81

100% true. When they whinge about it being confusing and dangerous to be around women because of me too or whatever they’re angry that they can’t assault women anymore Fuck dating men like that, we have so many red flags in men to watch out for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:23 AM
3

behind a dumpster 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:18 AM
24

I don’t understand how they can sit around saying disgusting things like “a vagina is a vagina even if she’s ugly” Yet they will complain about “attraction” and how hot a girl is. Why can’t they pick a struggle and be an asshole in one way not both contradicting ways?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 11:55 PM
41

they want to sleep with something new everyday it’s never enough so it’s easier to call their gf/wife ugly and blame her for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 10:53 PM
14

he won’t find anyone else which is why he decided to realise he was lucky to get her at all source: pics of himself on his profile, i looked so you don’t have to 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 10:27 PM
52

They want to be able to degrade us on MGTOW but if we do it too all hell breaks loose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 09:59 PM
13

Is he ok? She’s a bit prettier for sure or at best equal... He’s not particularly attractive he’s decent but she would have lots of men desiring her. His arrogance and how delusional he is makes him look uglier too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 09:40 PM
7

Omg ladies I wish I had not clicked on his profile... just don’t do it 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 09:05 PM
84

It’s because we deserve it. Did they ever put incels on wall street journal? MGTOW? I don’t think so... because they’re toxic We’re empowering and inspiring Reddit men hate us because this sub raises our standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 07:23 AM
3

What do you mean the first thing they said to you was a neg? If you really are considering procedures want you can send me your photo I’m sure you’re cute. FDS honestly taught me NOT to care what men think of looks. Love is not about looks if a man wants the best looking woman he can find that means he is looking for something to possess like a trophy, which isn’t what anyone really wants is it. Also the blonde supermodel account got deleted after 1 day and I didn’t have a chance to even turn gu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:46 AM
3

No negging yet but I’ve never been negged anyway using my own pics, I know it’s a bit emotionally uncontrolled of me but I used to reject and get mad at guys and I’d insult them that they aren’t all that/aren’t good enough (I only did this to guys asking for hookups only who weren’t very good looking) and guys would just say “ok thanks for the honesty” or “sorry I offended you” This was 2 out of maybe 8 men I spoke to using the blonde supermodels photos and mostly it was just very boring high th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:25 AM
14

Agreed, but when I used my own photos and had a lot of it happening and it was hurting my confidence, when I asked people online , men AND women online (including women here) told me it must be because I’m ugly. Idk why they’d say that when it can clearly happen to ANYONE lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:15 AM
13

Lmaoooo can you share any of your funny/enlightening experiences when you did this experiment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:34 AM
11

I am personally a current model and unsure what you meant but I totally agree and was the point of my post, men will treat everyone like this including top supermodels so we shouldn’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:34 AM
34

It’s not just the fact that a solid 4.5/10 men (and men themselves would agree on this score) would go for a 10/10 woman, its the fact that they even ask her to come over tonight for a “root”. And they still ask her to do netflix and chill/ coffee dates. I see people on here say so often that men won’t ask their dream girl for a coffee date or just sex but men do still do that! To be treated as a girl we just need to hold ourselves to that standard and not be offended when men try to ask us for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:25 AM
1

yesss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 11:42 PM
4

Nah they like milf porn too A good looking woman of any age is more attractive than a not attractive one of any age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:07 PM
8

no it’s an embarrassing pickme in the wild, she’s not ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:38 AM
1

yes they do 🤮🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:36 AM
1

100|% accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:34 AM
3

100% true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:34 AM
6

yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:31 AM
3

Wow there’s more to life than just being sexy I’m just saying as men grow older, their preferences for women get older too. Not all men are only into early 20s women There are hot people of all ages
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:04 AM
3

Same here! Now I know it’s their delusion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:03 AM
3

That’s how they are, don’t take it personally. I used to but now I know its just how they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:12 AM
4

Um well the men I spoke to I mean are also in their early 20s, like me. Some men stay in their lane, there’s definitely men in their late 30s + who won’t mess with any girls in their early 20s anymore because that’s not in their age league anymore. Some men are just most attracted to women their own age and they feel they would only get along with another woman his own age. In general, as a man ages his attraction to older women his own age increases and the age range he’s attracted to increases…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:09 AM
12

💖💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:40 AM
44

same i would definitely miss the sub and girls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:38 AM
1

No I didn’t think it was blaming women per se, just wondering if the reason there are less male college students is because they don’t need it to get laid anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:54 PM
9

i’m gonna cry!😭🥰🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 09:46 PM
31

It’s only when something damages them personally does it matter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 09:41 PM
2

Well I know for a fact I’m not and that’s just laughable to me. Also lots of women on here sound smoking hot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 09:37 PM
3

Wait are they saying it’s because men used to have to have a career to get a gf/wife to have access to sex but now that they don’t need to put as much effort in to get sex they don’t bother having careers?? Or did I get something wrong?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:39 PM
3

Jolene ”Eyes of emerald green” 🎵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:35 PM
27

so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:07 PM
13

Willing to bet he is a wrinkly old man or otherwise below average looking.... Also he wants a girl with IG model looks who doesn’t try to monetize that on IG Why do they think OLD is a wishlist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:37 PM
11

I wish I could get a man to pay for everything and I’m pretty beautiful but it seems kinda impossible to me to find a man with a HVM personality, who fits my physical attraction requirements, and pays for everything. That is my dream but I would slightly compromise on the physical attraction somewhat as I would really love to start a family one day. I wouldn’t compromise on someone genuinely interested in me and a kind man though who at least pays during the courting process
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:33 AM
80

Woah. They look like methheads and I can’t believe what some women put up with to keep a man I am speechless... defending her bf hitting on an underrage girl and saying its her fault? I can’t even begin to explain what’s wrong here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:40 AM
1

so if you don’t like it then don’t date attractive women with high self esteem There are plenty of women out there who are not attractive or do not have much confidence and they will be happy to accept. why hate on women who expect to be treated like a desired woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 04:19 AM
1

omg unbelievable! I had an ex though who pointed out a very obese woman once and said she had a sweet thick bum?! I look nothing like her, makes me wonder if sometimes men hide their fat gfs they’re attracted to because they care too much what others would think
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:36 AM
5

What post about the nurses, can someone link it for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:17 AM
12

There was an absolutely LOVELY and respectful guy once online who said that for valentines day he planned an elaborate fun date filled with her favourite activities for his new girlfriend and bought her jewellery. All the other men were calling him a simp saying they stayed at home with their gf and drank beer and watched tv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 12:53 AM
18

they don’t have women wanting to go out with them that’s why they’re incel-ing on reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 11:11 PM
24

not all men are like this honestly, i have actually spoken to men who are normal and decent. be very vigilant in cutting men off at the first red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 11:07 PM
45

I was honestly thinking to myself why do we care what reddit incels even say? He has a good point though we shouldn’t go out with men who won’t pay for us because it means he sees us as a “2/10” and he reserves paying for “9/10” women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 09:11 PM
3

And he would still be one of the men complaining about facetuned women, male entitlement knows no bounds It’s only ok when MEN do it to us to try to trick us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:52 PM
53

Well this is why a man sleeping with you is not validation of your beauty at all. I still hear women saying that they know they’re decently attractive because most men she wants to have sex with will do it on drunken nights out, I wanted to explain to her that really means nothing but also didn’t want to sound like a bitch You tell your own self if you’re beautiful or not, not a man sleeping with you. Men literally agree that the female version of friendzoned is “fuckzoned”. Men sleeping with yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:18 AM
12

Wow this reminds me of the time some guy told me that he dumped his last girlfriend because she wasn’t hot and he’d even be happy to pay for a really hot escort but he couldn’t afford it as they’re too expensive. And he even said he knows he’s not extremely hot himself. I also have spoken to one man in my life who would be happy with someone attractive in an everyday, regular way too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:00 AM
14

yeah they pretend you’re just they’re type because they’re slick to the fact that a beautiful confident woman wouldn’t settle for any less then they try to insult you once they get comfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 02:58 AM
2

🥰 Wow You are so right and spot on with everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 12:30 AM
46

I wonder how many men think like this? jeez it is gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 12:16 AM
4

I’m so using this line haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:17 PM
27

can you send me the original source im really curious to see what the other men commenting said etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 10:46 PM
8

I bet you were the prize! 27 is young tbh but it sounds like he’s not hot and girls ignore him anyway lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:15 PM
47

I’m going to check them out lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 06:44 AM
-7

Um no offence I think you’re taking it too far lol He should care about personality and physical attraction, I’m sure the majority of us do too. But LVM will be LVM whether they claim to care about personality or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:13 AM
7

Exactly. Thank you for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:13 AM
9

The girl shown above is also pretty anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:26 PM
49

wow they really think we have to put up with their bs while they wail and cry if we do it back once
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:00 PM
34

People say not to care about what others think or looks too much but then we need to have the same perfect brows, hair, skin and tasteful makeup to be seen without being mocked by everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:45 PM
2

But the FDS guidelines say that we should aim for men to pay at least on first dates. Men can and will act beholden to sex whether they paid for anything or not. My friend and I went out with an insane man and she went 50/50 because she hates people paying for her and he pressured her for sex, I let him pay and he pressured mefor sex too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:21 AM
17

Sorry but comments like this makes me feel like if I do not make myself look gorgeous I don’t deserve to be treated right. Nothing against you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:13 AM
2

I have had a couple of Black men private message me too like “Ever been with a chocolate guy before? ” Like yes I have been interested in a cute, smart black guy before but he seemed very sweet and nice and we had a normal conversation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:09 AM
5

I agree, there is no lack of trash women you could date out there too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:03 AM
1

I thought it was my fault and I was a slut somehow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 12:30 AM
8

Yeah my point is there definitely is a problem with men in their 20s being pedophiles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:42 PM
17

um yeah when i was 16/17 I had a 26 year old male teacher trying to sleep with me. I had a crush on him but I was a naive virgin student with no experience with boys Also he had a girlfriend at the time. I never slept with him but he tried to for the entire year basically
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:05 PM
15

Wow I am so happy the comments are calling them out! Like you said, really shows a glimmer of hope for us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:03 PM
-2

I’ve seen tons of people lying and making up stories online you never know what to believe online, I thought you meant it like as in immediately prior to coronavirus quarantine I believe you now tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:12 PM
-13

dont you have a husband and expecting a baby? Why were you turning down dates before corona anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 09:21 PM
20

They didn’t outright “insult” me but I do agree it’s insulting to be only asked for sex I have above average looks either way so I don’t get why they’d think that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 08:30 AM
6

I don’t care what happens for saying this but I literally agree with you, it’s why I stopped posting regularly a while ago. I do agree men in general tend to be more promiscuous on the average yeah I have said that before and I do think we need to be careful so we don’t get used for sex but besides that I do want to believe there can be good men out there. (I did get a bit emotional at some people who insulted me in my last post but that’s neither here nor there or got anything to do with this d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:20 PM
2

I get that, but I feel like I have to be the perfect looking skinny version of myself to have anyone want to take me on a proper date. Even not the hottest guys, even just the guys who are less attractive I didn’t realise this but fine, I’m making myself skinny again now so I can have the best chance in life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 08:22 AM
0

But why does it make me insecure to state the facts of what happened? Guys only wanted hook ups with my current slightly out of shape (but still normal and cute looking) photos and those men were mostly not super attractive either When I use my best pics from when I was super fit and slender I get better looking guys, hot guys saying they want relationships and the more average looking guys also asking to take me to dinner instead of just sex I’m making myself healthy, fit and slender again to g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 08:19 AM
1

Well they did, the women on this sub did say I’m ugly because I’m not doing well on online dating. So I got rated to prove that’s not why. I don’t see how it’s still my fault. Whatever I can see that you will never win no matter what you do with people online who criticise you no matter what and you can’t do anything right. So I’ll just do what I want even if I get “downvoted” on reddit. Bc reddit downvotes doesn’t really matter, I don’t have to prove myself to reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 08:07 AM
1

Yeah it is too frustrating for me at the moment and I have stopped trying for the time being. Also I was getting downvoted by people on here for saying I’m not going to show a face pic, which is like upsetting to be honest. I thought if you haven’t read the rules you’re meant to be banned?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:51 AM
1

I do believe that it partly determines worth as a woman but like a lot of women do, it’s not easy to change that. Also last time I said OLD wasn’t going well literally so many women here said it’s probably because I don’t look good in photos so I don’t know what to think tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:49 AM
2

Some guy I thought was pretty hot today he said he wants to get to know me and is after a relationship but you never know with OLD a man’s true intentions until you’re actually together. Tbh when people attack me for saying I’ve been rated as beautiful, I got rated only because women on here were saying I’m probably ugly when I said I don’t do well on OLD last time. So I wanted to make sure even though I already knew I wasn’t I just literally can’t win, if I don’t get rated you all call me ugly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 06:56 AM
5

Yeah I agree tbh I need to do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:45 AM
-2

Why would I show my face like you want me to be in online danger and humiliation or something why are you downvoting me for not wanting to show my face because you all want to doxx me and make fun of me? Wow. I can’t be bothered with this bullying and negativity anymore. If I’m going to be bullied for not showing my face in a place where it’s advised to stay secret for privacy reasons then Im fucking done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:43 AM
2

online dating just wasnt going how i wanted and i guess i dont have the patience you need to wait for a good guy because i get frustrated? I guess I need to get less upset when it doesnt go well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:11 AM
2

I don’t know that my experience has been any different. With my current photos it wasn’t good but with my photos from when I was skinny it was good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:38 AM
3

Well it might be more like 20 pounds tbh. The thing is I used to be slender and very fit and had a very good slim weight, and now am slightly out of shape and 15 or 20 pounds overweight with a higher body fat %. Yeah I’m not tall tbh, but not extremely short either. More avg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:48 AM
2

Also, I’ve heard some reddit girls say they are average (and they have photos up and actually are around average) and they still do really well online even with attractive guys, maybe I just have bad luck and don’t know how to talk to guys online. I think I’m smart and pretty good at messaging them with OLD but maybe I am not doing enough idk But I have the impression that men will ask you out or not based on looks when it comes to online rather than personality, but idk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:46 AM
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They haven’t said anything overly sexual yet but tbh I mostly just matched with them and only wrote one reply or a couple replies, since I’m not going to meet them as it is catfishing to pretend I’m skinny when I’m like 15 pounds overweight atm so I didn’t go in depth with talking to them I can have more of a conversation and see what else they say and see if the hot guys would ask me out too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:43 AM
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they truly are beauty diggers. The guys trying to ask me out to dinner would probably be rated like a 5 or 5.5 ish on truerateme so significantly less attractive my pics still, but some guys i match with are actually quite good looking now but nothing model tier (model tier is what I was rated online). I still don’t even get many likes or matches (but some people have told me I seem like a catfish and people on online dating have even reported my account for it in my best photos so that could be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:33 AM
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No nothing is going on, except for you being a bitch to me and saying without FDS i’d have desperately gone on a walk date. Which I never have before and you’re being a bully bitch. That’s why I defended myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 07:46 AM
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What advice did you give that I’m meant to read and digest huh bitch? Is it the part that without FDS I would’ve gone on a walk date which I never have even without FDS? That’s not “advice” so fuckoff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 07:45 AM
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Yeah so it will be for everyone else too right? I did not saying my life has been hell trying to date. That’s your fault if you spent 3.5 years “ in hell” as you say Why come on a sub called FEMALE DATING STRATEGY and tell me I’m desperate and have no self respect for wanting to DATE? Call it WGTOW instead at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:16 AM
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Nah you’re literally just being bitchy, and trying to project emotions onto me that do not exist. That’s why I’m mad because you be judgemental bitches. I forgot about the boy the next day literally. It’s rude and bitchy to call someone desperate when I didn’t show I was in any way that’s what I don’t like ok? You can literally fuck off if you don’t agree, weirdo bully How do you know what the fuck I’d be doing without FDS you weirdo bitch? The only first dates I’ve been on before FDS were to re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 04:13 AM
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Others are calling me desperate because I continued speaking to him AT ALL after he asked me to go on a walking date you realise that right? Just fucking lol I didn’t ask him for a dinner date, HE mentioned it. I just said no to walking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:35 PM
1

💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:33 PM
1

I agree I forgot completely about the dude by today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 10:32 PM
1

i’ve never dated someone i really like before will continue to look for someone nice just because i wanna date doesn’t mean i have no self respect what a drastic thing to say 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:15 PM
2

Ok but it ended in 2 sentences after I realised he was not being serious about upgrading the effort. In the handbook it literally says to suggest a different date if the one he suggests is too low effort, which is what I did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:51 AM
2

Yeah, I clearly said no to the walk. There’s no part in here where I ever said I agreed to it. There was even women in my last post saying a walk first date is not a bad idea and I did what I wanted to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:49 AM
1

I wasn’t desperate. It’s not a case of me being a pickmeisha, I just wasnt being desperate. Spell it out for me how I was then? If I was I turned him down. People on here gave me upvoted advice to agree to a date with him if he changed it to more effort. Then I’m desperate for following yalls advice? thats bitchy. get out fr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:48 AM
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I realised he was being sarcastic after he unmatched me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:45 PM
1

Because I wasn’t being desperate at all. That’s why I didn’t need help not being desperate here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:43 PM
1

I’ve read the entire handbook. Which part did I not follow it, please tell me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:31 PM
3

Oh good I honestly didn’t know if I did something wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 08:16 PM
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Well they said I’m desperate for him when I declined his invitation, even though I followed the FDS handbook, but whatever I’m done arguing and caring about it And no, not everything everyone says on reddit is correct and said to help me grow lol. Plus people gave conflicting upvoted advice too, so how are you really going to tell me I’m not listening to other people enough? FFS i have literally not done a single thing wrong and I’m really annoyed now. I declined his offer then he argued with me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 08:13 PM
1

He genuinely didn’t show any red flags before this, this was the first red flag that made me not so keen to see him anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 07:46 PM
0

idk but others are attacking me and misunderstanding me heaps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 07:46 PM
5

I did not realise it was THAT passive aggressive although I could tell it was slightly begrudging when he said that. I didn’t actually say yes I’ll definitely go on the date. I said I was feeling unsure about it, even after he “upgraded” the plans. I wasn’t sure I was going to go at all anymore, just evaluating how he’d act after to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 07:09 PM
4

i’m just telling the story of one confirmed low value man lol i thought he couldve been cool and he turned out to just be a fool lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 06:47 PM
0

I won’t even remember this guy next week, maybe even in a couple days time. It’s pretty normal to be a little disappointed when something doesn’t work out with someone you thought was cool. Overall I’m cool with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:55 PM
1

i didn’t even suggest dinner, I just declined the walk date HE brought up dinner then unmatched me. Very dramatic weirdo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:59 PM
1

i thought he suggested it because he meant it, but when be unmatched i realised he never did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:49 PM
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lol i know right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:27 PM
1

I was honestly about to unmatch him and I think he didn’t want me to do it first and thats why he said about dinner so quickly lol Even after he changed what he said something definitely seemed off and I was feeling unsure about him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:22 PM
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I completely agree, I think a “walking” date is bs. A walk is not a date. On my last post I had some girls trying to convince me that their first date with their boyfriend was a walk and I actually said if you start off so low effort how are you going to get him to ever see you as someone worth effort lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:20 PM
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I agree, he really didn’t. If he was honestly interested in me he would not have been so triggered by me wanting a nicer first date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:17 PM
0

I was disappointed because he was the only guy I felt attracted to/interested in from the app. I literally don’t care WHY he only wanted a walk date all I care is it doesn’t match what I want. I’m not even worried or thinking about how much value he gave me or any of that The way he offered the dinner date was really weird and passive aggressive anyway and even after he offered it I was feeling a bit weird about it and unsure if I was going to go, but he made the decision for me by unmatching I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:14 PM
0

He did change the date idea to a more high effort one then he blocked me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:10 PM
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I didn’t want to change him ffs, once he suggested that low effort date I had decided I was way less interested. Everyone was telling me the right thing to do would be to tell him no to the low effort date and see if he steps up his game, so that’s what I did. Personally I think any man who suggests a walk date is honestly not worth trying with at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:08 PM
1

Yep he was passive aggressive and I was feeling unsure about him after that, and he actually unmatched me after suggesting that anyway Weird but the trash takes itself out I suppose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:49 PM
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How was I desperate? You’re literally so rude and wrong. I was about to unmatch him then he said about dinner instead. I was OPEN to dinner not desperate for it wtf I said I was still considering saying no bc the vibe seemed off, but people were telling me since he made a better suggestion I should go for it Omg I can’t win, if I cut him off then people say I cut him off for no reason and if I was hesitating but keeping my options open then I’m desperate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:42 PM
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That makes more sense and now I understand where you’re coming from! There was other girls saying walk first dates are fine etc, that’s why I gave him a chance to correct the date idea haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:33 PM
15

Sure I was attracted to him, but I was still going to unmatch him when he kept talking about the walk date. Then he asked me to go to dinner which I was hesitantly more open to, then he basically blocked me after asking me to dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:31 PM
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How was I desperate wtf? He suggested a walk date and I told him “No thank you” and was about the unmatch and block him. He’s the one who stepped things up and suggested dinner instead and I was open to dinner, but after he suggested dinner he unmatched me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:25 PM
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I said that sounds better! To him after he said dinner He said “You like more traditional dates” I said “Not necessarily I just don’t see a walk as a good first date” And he unmatched me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:22 PM
3

I agree that a walk is an ok idea for the first meeting if you’re worried the first date could otherwise be really uncomfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:49 AM
2

I totally get the logic behind this, being stuck on a long dinner date with someone you aren’t comfortable around would suck. I think the point is though that he suggested dinner and you said a walk would be better then dinner next time if you both had a nice time meeting. But I don’t think he should be calling walking around a “first date”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:46 AM
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I told him “No, thank you. Our idea of a date does not align” I was going to unmatch, and he said “Ok fine, we’ll go for dinner to a nice restaurant then” I’m unsure what to do now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:45 AM
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I asked him is that your idea of a date? He said “Yep, walk around x area near to us look at all the beautiful scenery” I told him “No, thank you. Our idea of a date does not align” I was going to unmatch, and he said “Ok fine, we’ll go for dinner to a nice restaurant then” I’m unsure what to do now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:14 AM
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https://reddit.app.link/JOVyKu9CN6 Don’t worry I’ve seen the post about how to suggest a better date idea but I agree with these comments that say this sets you up for a relationship where you’ll always have to try to push for effort all the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:15 AM
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He said to me let’s wait until after lockdown is over THEN go on a date walking around so he meant after not now lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:04 AM
3

I was really into him actually but I agree I’m insulted now and probably not interested anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:03 AM
4

lol i like this answer tbh, that’s the way i see it too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:41 AM
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I understand this point but I feel like a walk isn’t super safe for a first meet and also if he only is willing to take you on a walk the first time, usually effort goes down as the relationship goes on, not up. once you settle for walk dates it’s less likely he’ll want to step that up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:40 AM
3

ok but how is a walk around even a romantic date that you accepted i don’t get it im not being mean to you just honestly trying to understand you and maybe expand my perspective
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:29 AM
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my instincts tell me that a walking around date means he thinks it will be an easy way to get sex or he doesn’t think im worth a romantic dinner or at least lunch instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:28 AM
6

that’s what i’m leaning towards for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:15 AM
1

hmm well he’s interested in getting to know me seemingly because he thinks im pretty but my attraction towards him is honestly half/half his personality, his looks and because he’s pursuing me. but asking to go on a walk seems like a big red flag, but am I wrong tho? If im being unreasonable i’ll reconsider besides the date idea no red flags tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:04 AM
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Would you girls give him a second chance to correct the date idea to a better one? Or would you just forget him bc he seems low effort and after a hookup (I think guys who ask to go for a walk on a date are after hookups)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 11:39 PM
3

I have super fine super light almost invisible bodily hair and there’s really not much of it, but I also weirdly have fine long brunette hair from my head lol. But idk if blonde people have lots of bodily hair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 12:21 AM
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Oops plus naturally hairless, except for thick full long natural blonde hair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 07:12 AM
18

yikes. So 90% of them are upfront with me they only want sex but the other 10% I have to worry about pretending to want more? I’m tired
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:26 AM
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I think they’re waiting for their 18 year old petite supermodel with huge curves on an otherwise tiny petite short body who’s also rich and works as a doctor or some large family inheritance. Then they’ll happily settle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:29 PM
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Is it just me? I feel like 85% of the guys I spoke to just wanted sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:19 PM
10

Agree with you 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 11:42 PM
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You’re still only 26 lol you’re young and you’re not 30 yet wdym wasted all of your 20s Leave now so you don’t actually waste all of your 20s on him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:38 AM
3

And then dump him I hope, I don’t want this kind of game playing back and forth bitter relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:14 AM
3

Exactly, spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:10 AM
2

This was my point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:05 AM
15

Yeah they have a right to be as safe as possible. At the end of the day we were all given autonomous bodies to make a choice We don’t have to agree with any type of work but we can all agree everyone is free to choose what they want to do and be safe while doing it But right now an industry I’ve heard a little about like porn, the pornstars are abused and mistreated. Maybe some girls go in for the fame and glory and maybe some are desperate. Maybe some enjoy it but I’d say most women in it proba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:31 AM
3

I have a pretty face and nice body before quarantine I got cat called (I don’t really get sexual comments just compliments about being pretty) everyday but I’m on reddit because I was a bullied, not pretty when I was younger and it kind of hurt my abilities to make friends and honestly when guys ask me out on dates irl it just hasnt turned out well
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 09:02 PM
3

Aw I so want this to be good for you it sounds like a dream! I agree with others though, don’t let his looks cloud your judgement and proceed with caution because it sounds like it could be lovebombing potentially. Listen to your gut instinct as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:42 PM
11

These men are our enemy, literally. They gaslight us into being raped. I saw so many comments on that thread from men saying that they don’t expect sex from women if they come home with them. It’s like they want women to read that and get raped. They seem like they want to lure us alone and then coerce us They’re the ones who give us reason to be against them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:12 PM
5

same i don’t judge girls for it but i’m just kind of disappointed that soo many girls do it like i wish dating was more for love i don’t know if my point is making sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:09 PM
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For a lot of women that could actually be traumatising though... And I heard sugar daddies have control issues and love to mess with girls I heard that a friend of mine had a friend who had a sugar daddy and got kicked out out onto the streets and left her basically homeless because he loved the power play. Because she relied on him for rent for a while or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 07:54 PM
15

It’s becoming this normalised? I feel like sugaring is a stepping stone into prostitution though. What happened to finding love. I feel like the culture is becoming all like sex work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 07:35 PM
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What I don’t understand is how so many men can use the services of these women like strippers for mens birthdays or buck nights but then the men will turn around and also say these girls are less than human beings. Do they not realise they’re the demand for the supply of this service lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 07:32 PM
2

Maybe I will have a look at OKCupid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:21 PM
24

But what if their dreamgirl future wife read this and tarnished herself by following their advice, then what will they do... (I’m kidding sleeping with men does not = tarnished. I’m just joking about their perspective)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:53 AM
13

Yeah it just doesn’t work for me like that, never has lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:10 AM
37

Thanks, I awarded you because your story really inspired me and empowers me to remember in future if a man is ever to do something like this to be an absolute queen like you and walk out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:02 AM
25

Wow even your girl friends think that way.... huh I think I’d be willing to wait a little less than you but 2-3 dates is just way too quick for me. And even if these guys won’t admit it I don’t think they respect you for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 07:58 AM
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Why would they even try to say this!! Ok I believe you guys now, men give advice for their own advantage even if it could even potentially endanger girls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 07:22 AM
20

Thanks for the insight and you seem to be right I wouldn’t have sex with someone on the first date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:35 AM
16

I’m insecure because men made me by doing the above
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:59 AM
11

For me what she said is basically the same thing as complimenting someone cute lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:57 AM
13

same He’d probably feel disrespected and confused like... why are you embarrassing me like this?? 😤😤 And not even realise or care he did the same thing to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:56 AM
27

Definitely sounds to me like he brought it up without anyone asking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 01:55 AM
35

I agree with you I wouldn’t want to. Why do so many women say they are fine with this and even point out hot girls to check out with their boyfriend/husband? wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 01:55 AM
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Die inside. I am slightly insecure. I understand if he must have celebrity crushes but why tell me about it I used to have a male friend I rejected and when I hung out with him he used to call every girl that walked past beautiful, and I realised he was a psycho and stopped being friends with him. He definitely did it to try to make me insecure. Your boyfriend may or may not be doing it for that reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 01:54 AM
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he’s extremely cute but I’d obviously swipe left... shame Edit: Oh it’s Oedipus I feel dumb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 12:48 AM
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I get your point, she does announce to women not to make the first move on men a lot. She also reminds us that if he’s not completely into you then he might as well not be at all, don’t let a guy be hot and cold or only mildly interested with you. She was laughing about Selena Gomez’s imaginary early death that she predicted out of nowhere in her video. She doesn’t seem like a role model overall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 09:27 AM
6

What?? She said it like 3 days ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 07:44 PM
2

interesting!! I want to post this again to hear more opinions like this but i dont wanna make people upset by posting it lol someone thought i was trying to defend the incel by this post and i definitely wasnt! I’m saying he’s treating women like OBJECTS and he’s mentally ill for calling himself an incel when he’s had girlfriends. The only part I defended him on was saying that he doesn’t owe anyone to be attracted to them but he should stop using girls he doesn’t like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 05:13 PM
1

No it came out wrong, and thats why I edited it. I do demonise the fact that he thinks he’s an incel, I think men like him have stooped to new lows and I even think he’s mentally ill. I honestly think he needs to stop using women. What I meant was if he really doesn’t like someone, that’s fine and he should leave the girls alone bc no one is forcing him to be there that’s what I meant about not demonising him not liking someone. Like I said I didn’t meet him on the incel site, I met him from a d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:27 PM
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The only reason I even posted was because I find it alarming that men have even stooped to using women in this way today. I don’t want to end up with someone who considers himself an incel even though he’s with me and I don’t want any other girls to either. I think he’s honestly mentally ill I meant that I’d rather he stays single bc no one is forcing him to be with certain women. All I meant with that is that no one is telling him he is forced to be with or attracted to anyone in particular. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:09 PM
2

How am I empathising with it? I’m saying it’s ridiculous that he’s had girlfriends but considers himself an incel. I think it’s wrong as hell and I think he needs to stop calling himself an incel. I think it’s disgusting that he uses women as “gfs” knowing full well he doesn’t even like them. I don’t empathise with it, I posted because I find it ridiculous and I wanted women to be aware that guys like this still get into relationships. I’m saying he should leave women ALONE if he doesn’t really …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:05 PM
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At the very least I just think if he’s not really into a girl he should just leave her alone, he already knows what he can’t be happy with I only posted this bc I couldn’t believe how toxic and mentally ill these “incel men” can be, I don’t want myself or any of us girls being with one of these guys and I only posted it so we can be aware. I honestly think its a new low that despite having gfs a guy could call himself an incel. If no one likes the post I’ll delete it but I just thought it was go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 01:04 PM
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That is a real man. We want our husbands to love us for who we are as a package, looks are just to initially interest him and for sexual attraction. That question is rude too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 12:39 PM
1

He looks not slim himself! What’s the point of being rude like this, why can’t they just message girls they like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 08:37 AM
2

This is what scares me about being kind to creepy men Plus this particular scary old man would say “I HATE it when women tell me they have boyfriends or aren’t single! WHO ASKED?! It’s not like I’m HITTING ON YOU.” Right, he hates being told women have gfs so then he can’t be predatory towards way younger, out of his league women. They weren’t always younger just always way out of his league
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:58 AM
2

how many men are really like this? I thought your looks was what drew them in, then if he is a HVM he will consider your personality as well? Let’s totally not lead girls astray please. If you’re at least facially average or better, at a healthy BF% and healthy weight, you do at least cardio and groom yourself well - then yes you’ll probably have a decent amount of choice because then the HVM will find you at least acceptable looking and consider dating you based on personality Some HVM only go …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:01 PM
13

I was only his acquaintance and he tried insulting me, probably angry he would never have a chance with me. Definitely stay away from creepy looking obese old men, they will try to take you down with them any chance they get
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 01:49 PM
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Definitely. The 50 year old acquaintance I’m talking about thought multiple young girls would give him a chance and even though I was only a friendly acquaintance he was insulting and complimenting me all the time. Sorry but that is the last time I give a creepy looking old man the benefit of the doubt and even talk to him. If there’s ever old men in my life I’m gonna avoid them as much as poss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:46 PM
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Yeah I had a 50 year old acquaintance roughly 30 yrs older than me and he told me he thinks this waitress really likes him and he’s thinking of asking her out... Turns out this waitress was like ONLY 20 years old or something, a slim and cute or adorably average girl and then she got her first boyfriend ever, also a 20 year old man. This man was one of the most obese people I’ve ever interacted with irl, he was of ill health, his face was way below average, and he thought that him and this young…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 08:33 AM
3

I would never plus it’s not true, I get approached irl a lot, it’s just that they’re mostly not my type or sleazy guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 03:21 AM
5

Same I get a fair amount of attention when I’m out too I kind of forgot about that too since I’ve been in quarantine and also I gained weight in quarantine too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:59 PM
4

I was very confident before I tried online dating lol. I pretty much had the self contentment of a 10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 10:19 AM
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I asked honest people based on my photos and they were genuinely surprised, like they said I am definitely good looking enough. Like most people said I’m above average, although those words are so overused and cringy I think it’s necessary for me to use them to explain here. I know I’m definitely not below average looking and I’m most likely better than average as well. I have asked for genuine opinions on my photos, I have a range of pics some are super honest photos (I still look super pretty …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 09:37 AM
3

When I said I didn’t post a body pic, I meant that I don’t post super sexy body photos. I have posted body photo in a dress, and I’m nowhere near overweight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 08:32 AM
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To be honest after thinking about things I’ve seen in my life I totally disagree, I had a friend who was mentally unstable and narcissistic and played games with literally everyone in her life and I remember she was able to get cute boyfriends who truly cared about her. Edit: she wasn’t even prettier than me just skinnier and my point is sorry no life isn’t fair, being a kind person doesn’t always get you what you deserve
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:35 AM
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idk I think because most people prefer to be coddled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:45 AM
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To be honest I agree with not ditching someone just because another youtuber make an “exposé”. I had my own reasons for thinking she’s not FDS appropriate, for example she went to a strip club on a date with her ex very recently and said she really enjoyed it and she sounded like she’d be willing to do it again. It also seemed like she said men following instagram models is fine. It also seems like she has an obsession/hatred for Selena Gomez, even predicting her drug overdose death this year. J…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:00 AM
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Hmmm yes I’m sure you do run into more guys who will say anything to get into your pants. There’s probably more opportunities as well though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:32 AM
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I find it really hard to believe that it’s because they think they think they can get someone more beautiful, it must be because they’re not looking for something serious and think women actually want them for sex badly. If it’s about my beauty then damn, these boys are delusional and have extremely high standards bc I’m already really pretty. Also the boys aren’t model Chads to be expecting better than me. It’s still highly offensive for men to think that they can treat you like you’re a piece …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:29 AM
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Guys always always do this to me and it’s happened so many times I’m scared to even continue trying online dating .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:24 AM
2

Ok thanks. Isn’t this true for a majority of men though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 02:16 AM
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ohhh... i thought this was about to be a really happy toktok but by the end i wanted to cry with her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:41 PM
3

Is it weird that i literally feel angry at him after watching his video of him laughing at women for expecting men to pay on the first date? He can have his own opinion but he doesn’t have to mock and shame women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:24 AM
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There’s a video of Matthew straight up mocking women who want the man to pay on first dates. All the men in the comments degrade women and say that we’re all entitled brats who expect everyone and everything in life to cater to us, we can’t pay our own way, etc https://youtu.be/71o3hq6iSPM Matthew said well if you expect a man to pay, so then you’re supposed to have sex with him whenever he says. Fuck Matthew. That’s basically rapist logic enabling imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:17 AM
2

Some girl on that video commented that if a man is with you and still has to follow all these instagram accounts and like them, that he’s just with you as a placeholder. He’s waiting and hoping for his dreamgirl, that’s why he has to follow all these girls. Imagine he got a chance to date his favorite dream instagram girl would he still be scrolling other instagram girls right to her face? Nah he’d be preoccupied with the lady he has and try to impress her He may never be able to attain her in h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:25 AM
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ha thank you. If the woman was the one who got sensitive about it then she’d have been labelled by him as controlling, “it’s just a fantasy babe you agreed to watch it together”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:52 AM
1

Yeah I don’t like pickmes with a platform and the mainstream agrees with them which sucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:35 AM
2

Lmao you’re right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:45 AM
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Exactly, fantasies in your mind are different to showing what porn (that’s what men use instagram as basically) you like publicly to the whole world? At least men used to keep their porn private and be ashamed of it, now they’re becoming brazen to show their porn use to the whole world by publicly liking barely covered ass and titties on instagram It’s not even a fair comparison to make
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:45 AM
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This makes me feel sick, people are really taking advantage of this situation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:40 AM
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Also about hating on her freind for getting in shape, in one of her recent videos she talks to her followers like “i’ve lost weight during quarantine, don’t hate me for achieving that!” total projection. She’d be jealous and mad at her friends for improving their looks so she thinks others would be too. Personally I don’t get jealous at all if other women improve themselves, rather I get really happy and proud as transformations are rare and take heaps of effort, so I’m happy for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:20 AM
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She was hating on her friend who dresses beautifully - saying she’s extremely beautiful and always wears beautiful fashionable outfits and attributing that to the reason why this beautiful friend was the one who was single the longest. First she called this friend overdressed and a trend follower, then later backtracking and saying “she just dressed beautifully she is a trendsetter she sets the trend, she just is too much for men sometimes”. Do you even want jealous friends who mock you on her y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:15 AM
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She says in a recent video that she went with her boyfriend on a date to a strip club, said she really enjoyed it and she talked about why she’s so cool with going to strip clubs on dates. She said in a video that we should dress down in leggings and a tshirt when meeting new men because being dressed in beautiful clothes scares and intimidates men - regardless if you agree with that advice or not, it’s still pickmeisha advice. Then there’s this video today, of her defending men following instag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:08 AM
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Well I think it turns into PickMe advice when someone is telling you to be less intimidating so you can attract men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:38 PM
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This was a very recent thing for her that she still defends, so there’s that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:36 PM
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I got it just fine We should look casual like we don’t try to be fashionable or like we’re trying to look particularly good if we don’t want to intimidate men. It’s literally that womans words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:24 PM
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nah, she said dressing nicely intimidates men and sends them the wrong message about being high maintenance so if we want to look good for men we should wear leggings and a tshirt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:17 PM
11

She went to a strip club with her last boyfriend on a date before he cheated on her. I wouldn’t call it queen energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:16 PM
8

She suggested going out in leggings and a tshirt. That’s what you have to wear to attract a good man? She said her friend just dressed beautifully and was a very good looking girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:06 PM
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I’d rather not minimise myself and end up with someone insecure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 03:05 PM
1

The few I’ve come across in the past year who have hit on me turn out to have girlfriends so I block them instantly. They’re the hot ones who’ve offered to take me out on a real date though but are fuckboys. Other than that I don’t really come across guys I want socially who’ve wanted me back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 11:06 AM
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If I’m not attracted to anyone does that mean I’m not good enough for men I want? I don’t need a perfect model with abs, I’m attracted to handsome men with nice smiles though. All I get is ugly lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:49 AM
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good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:45 PM
8

Is it wrong? I would absolutely do what this girl did if any man did this to me. I’ve never had it happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:44 PM
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Being an actress is one of the things I got paid for a job after she said this anyway so she was just talking shit for whatever reason. It’s just a hobby and way to make money while I’m young, I plan to study a degree later this year or next yearn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:34 PM
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Sure but people completely misunderstand this study, it’s not about being overall average looking, it’s about having “average” proportions. If you see the mathematically average face, the lips, the nose, they eyes are in perfect proportion to one another, it can’t be said that any feature is too small or too big or asymmetrical or wonky. That’s what they mean by “averageness” being beautiful. When you look at Jessica Alba she kind of does have a very average face mathematically, nothing is too b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:17 PM
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Miranda Kerr is more beautiful, better eyes, lips and bone structure whereas Alex clearly has that lip filler look but I guess Alexis has that super skinny, blonde, basic Cali girl look that guys love now? They’re both pretty though, Alexis is also very pretty but Mirandas face is truly striking, really well defined and truly model worthy Yeah I had a friend who many people told me her actual face is less pretty than mine, but she keeps her body extremely thin with a big bum, and dies her hair a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 07:42 AM
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Same here, if he was lukewarm about you or unsure, then I cant really see him truly valuing me or being sure about me. You’re either 100% interested and sure or you aren’t in at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:18 AM
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They’re so cute, I love vintage style!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:59 PM
21

I get your point, but tons of guys will accept an offer they would never be interested in themselves and would never go for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:38 PM
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I’ve heard many girls talk about themselves like that though The “postnut clarity” and “hotter guys than I should’ve had the right to bang” makes me think man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:36 PM
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Yeah, what woman have you ever heard use the term postnut clarity like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:21 PM
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oh it may not be a lie that men like to be approached by women i’ll give you that doesn’t mean it’s really an effective way to get a guy who’s interested in us and seriously wants to get to know us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:17 PM
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He rejected her multiple times before finally saying okay and she became a forever girlfriend for her entire 20s Also he said when he first asked her to ever hang out he wanted to say no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:51 PM
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Agreed, but I can see cute features on her face and she does her hair and makeup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:13 AM
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I get that but I don’t want girls to think going to someones house on a first date for him to cook her a meal is safe, especially if she’s not ok with hooking up on the first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 10:22 PM
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Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 03:43 PM
13

He used to look average, he really declined for some reason. Maybe being a rat inside transferred to the outside?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 03:42 PM
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Wow... so it was never about equality, it’s just men bitching and moaning If this was a male celebrity getting done over by a woman it would be all, “Here we go again, woman robs man of his whole livelihood, all women are like that, heartless witches” bla bla bla
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 03:15 PM
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Yes and hot guys have tried to offer me money before for sex (and I said no), but also if I am on a dating app or if I am on a date with the men, they will suddenly act like I owe them or am dying to have free sex with them. This is my point trying to say that the girls they will pay for are not necessarily any different to girls they expect to take on a date, not pay and think/hope/expect she will be giving him a bj or sex at the end of a date. It’s the context he meets you in that will make hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 03:01 PM
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Effort is important and more important than the amount of money he has, but if I want to raise a family with him it’s different he should have earning potential at least enough to support a family. Also if you go to his house alone on the first few dates it’s really not safe and he will expect sex whether you want to or not, and you could get raped going to his house alone Also the whole point of this post is that men will pay for sexy content or sex, but those same men might take you to dinner …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:54 PM
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omg ❤️ im literally so envious and yet at the same time my heart swoons with joy for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:42 AM
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I know right men complain that some women want someone to financially support us while other species out here with the man getting killed in the mating process
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:17 AM
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I thought a 7/10 was above average and very pretty? And only the hottest celebrities/hottest models are a 9/10 and the absolute hottest girls next door are an 8/10? Some people use a 7 as a same thing as a 5/10 I think, meaning dead average. Whatever I will never refer to myself as a number out of 10 again, I’m beautiful looking and I take care of myself, that’s all I need to say. I would never ever refer to myself as a number out of 10 on Tinder that’s just degrading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 04:37 AM
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I don’t think that a large number of men rape helpless children and animals. I think men do this at a way higher rate than women, but women have done it too. Also it’s not like 20% of men rape animals and children it’s a small percentage. This isn’t to say its not a problem that they do it and way too many men do it, they do but I’m not really talking about that. I’m just trying to explain it’s not “men” as a collective all doing what you said. Like yes male violence is high, and way too high bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:40 PM
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Wtf is she his partner or parent? This is some shit you do for your kids to incentivise chores. Not our partners. Now I see what women mean when they call their husband their last child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:58 AM
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oh sorry lol 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:54 AM
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I really want a good man for myself and I don’t want to be alone. I think having a good social life with some truly caring friends and close family is even more important maybe though, maybe more reliable? Sorry to be crass but like on some level our whole purpose as animals is to reproduce and I feel like having a good mother and father, and on some level I am a failure if I don’t fulfill this. Also I just love romance and sex and I don’t want casual sex. I’m never a sucker or let falling in lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:53 AM
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This is the look men claim they like! “Natural” It’s something men call me a lot, a “natural beauty”. I just assume it means I don’t have plastic surgery in a world where surgery is very common, I still wear a moderate amount of makeup and do my hair and wear super cute clothes qeveryday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:45 AM
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I don’t have this issue and never have The grass is always greener on the other side though, I wish I was more like everyone else here and could fall in love more easily Being detached helps you have clarity and rationality but if you can never fall in love with your partner you’ll feel alone even with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:44 AM
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no it’s sweet and cute and beautiful unlike what you are talking about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:39 AM
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I totally understand where you are coming from, and obviously if I had casual sex which I never will I’d also be focused on what I’m getting from it. But still, I couldn’t do it, sharing my body intimately even if for a short while, even if for a night with someone who finds me gross or ugly or underwhelming. I couldn’t do it as it feels like I’m cheapening/degrading myself but I guess it’s good for you that you are so unfazed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:37 AM
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These spider males are more evolved than most human ones
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:27 AM
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sorry sometimes its only as simple as them having way less options
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:25 AM
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That one trait can literally be the fact that she has sexual organs and is willing. It doesn’t even have to be a physical trait he likes. I’m sorry it upsets you :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:05 AM
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So disturbing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:43 AM
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That’s exactly what I’m saying, I said there’s no woman too ugly for men to sleep with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:20 AM
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they will honestly even sleep with any woman even if they do find her repulsive. Like maybe not all men, but a good amount do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:52 AM
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Oh that’s true! I originally thought you were trying to say they’re only like that now lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:42 AM
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I’ve known since I was 15, since way before I was ever sexually active. I’ve always known And yes I do find it disgusting and degrading that men will literally think a woman can be the ugliest human that walks the earth, yet her “holes” can be of use to him and he won’t even respect her. Obviously I wish guys were more caring than that Even if I think a woman is “ugly” or whatever, and I rarely even think that of women, I wouldn’t look down on her or treat her any different and I wouldn’t want t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:40 AM
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Part of your text is repeated. If men have options... why? The men seem disgusted by the women they sleep with, yet have such a high sex drive that they will do it anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:29 AM
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It’s so disgusting I wish it weren’t true :( I thought people would be too offended by me posting this, but what your brother said is equally offensive and we know men are actually like that so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:13 AM
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But theyve been this way since the beginning of time though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:01 AM
5

Maybe it’s a person problem in general. If a relationship wasn’t working for me I would be honest and break up, I would not cheat I don’t understand it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:56 PM
5

Hmm but men will shame women for cheating even if he himself has cheated, I’ve heard that too many times to take those stories as evidence that they wouldn’t themselves cheat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:53 PM
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I tell boys I don’t want to add them to insta, no i won’t add them to snapchat and a lot of them disappear the moment you say that. I take it to mean they’re taking out the trash themselves, if they can’t handle getting to know each other on the app first and get angry or give up when I won’t give them my private number/ snapchat/ insta then I don’t need to know them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 02:44 AM
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😒 They want the lack of freedom and all the roles and jobs of tradwives from the 80s and earlier but they also want to take on the added responsibility of a full time 9-5? They want to make things that hard for themselves. Like they want to take on all the things women used to have to do plus work a full time job... what
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 10:09 PM
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Wish I was 18 again so I could even have shot with a distinguished 60 year old man... that’s their prime yknow.... too bad I’m too old for them now I’m around 22, there’s probably too many girls who are still teenagers that want them for me to compete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 02:17 PM
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No I saw his picture online a few times recently due to the covid19 news. I now know who he is, but not before covid press coverage Ok maybe 50s is a bit young of a guess for him but he looks like he could pass for a healthy looking 60-something And no I’m not saying she’s lucky to have him, I’m just saying good for him, hes good for 79 I’m in my early 20s, sorry if I don’t exactly know what 50 somethings look like And at 79 he shouldve learned all his life lessons and be relaxing... not still b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 04:27 AM
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They don’t even like the girl on the left (they roasted her and said she’s not even the same person without makeup on)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 04:24 AM
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I feel like he looks good for 79 compared to some 50 something men I’ve had as acquaintances. I’ve also known some handsome silver foxes who were 50 something as well though to be honest so it’s not all men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 04:16 AM
2

I hear you and I feel it too! I guess all I and all we can do is take it day by day, I have my sad days and my happy days and that’s all I know. I don’t think it will last 2 years as our economy can’t take it, but I guess we have to be adaptable to our new lives Sad that my prime youth and beauty isn’t spent outside, I am kinda mad about that. Sad that I can’t get out and try to make connections and friends, but I will try to do that virtually if possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 03:38 AM
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No, being his age doesn’t mean you’re grotesque, plenty of glamorous women in their 50s out there I just meant with attraction, is he really enough for her to be attracted to him If she actually loves him and they love each other that’s great, he comes across in this video as someone who isn’t abusive, isn’t mean, not that you can tell from a video
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 03:47 PM
13

Sure she is pretty young and thin at the moment, so why does she need to be with someone grotesque and old just to be treated with kindness?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 02:52 PM
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Me neither
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 10:59 AM
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Hahahahha oh lord I was going to agree with OP now I agree with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:12 PM
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I don’t ever understand when people say, “She was so pretty, she didn’t deserve that!” There’s really no explanation for it besides that people notice her more/sympathise with her more/care more because of her looks. Like that is clearly just true It’s implying that the more looks you have, the better treatment you deserve in life. People care more about you, people root for you. People don’t care as much if you don’t have the looks Shouldn’t it be, “as any person on the planet you are worthy an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:01 PM
2

It makes me feel so ugly when guys say that! I don’t have to put up with it anyway, tons of guys think I am beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 01:03 PM
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What if the girls he likes are similar to you but he still thinks you’re absolutely hideous? Has happened to me. One of my exes types was just “hot”, white, brunette or blonde, especially blue eyes (but any eye color is ok), pretty feminine face, girly style, slender body with T & A and his fave models were a similar type to me. Ugh even thinking about him makes me doubt myself. Just because you fit the general “type” - similar eye color/hair color/skin color and general style/face features does…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 09:20 AM
5

He got to have at least oral sex or sex with you as he describes in the story lol. Men will hold on to one successful attempt at sex and keep trying for years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:37 PM
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I’m glad you weren’t hurt! I guess you were lucky and maybe he just thought he was too ugly to use his real photos or he was married or something? But girl you could’ve gotten hurt, a man who can lie that big could turn out to be a real psycho! I’m sorry I can’t help being a little mad at that behaviour, he scored with you so he’d keep doing it and is maybe still doing it to this day. I just wish you hadn’t worded it to him like you were cool for doing it, like you could’ve let him know it was h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:25 PM
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Sorry but you were not “cool” enough to give him a chance despite him sending a fake photo, you were stupid enough to. Harsh but sometimes it’s true, you basically endangered yourself and encouraged his outrageous, deceptive and dangerous behaviour. He also stole someone else’s identity. At best he was extremely selfish and immature and desperately trying to get laid and at worst he could’ve been an absolute raging dangerous psycho. I am not saying this to upset you, argue with you, I’m saying t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:15 PM
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This is so true When men hint that you are not his type then he gaslights you, “But I chose you, even if I look at prettier women” it’s like did you really have that choice though? And even if he had, don’t let some man tell you that you’re not the prettiest, it’s meant to make you feel less than so you’re always trying to beg for his approval. If he doesn’t always uplift you, forget him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:57 PM
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Aw I’m sorry! Thats why I posted this its harsh to hear, but isn’t it better to learn about it rather than have to go through it to learn it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:09 PM
2

I’m glad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:07 PM
2

Thank you! I’m very happy for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:00 PM
2

LMAOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:51 PM
4

True, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:26 PM
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I thought she was 43 or 40 something. Either way that is still what some immature men (and women) online will say is past the point of beauty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:25 PM
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Not everyone hits the wall. The better you take care of yourself the longer you can stay attractive looking. So many young men think for example Meghan Markle is stunning and she is in her 40s so she should have hit the wall 10+ years ago. Everyone always says “But celebrities have access to this and that” well almost anyone can eat vegetables and meat and avoid eating sugar and excess alcohol and exercise if they want to be hot badly enough, and I do want badly enough. You can save up for cosme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 01:51 PM
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No one has said this to me, thank god I like to think it’s because I don’t allow people to speak to me like this/ because I don’t swipe yes for morons
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 01:44 PM
11

Chads don’t have to do all this,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 01:01 PM
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I wouldn’t say it makes it hard to trust any man, he’s just one fuckboy type If a man said this to me that he doesn’t feel good enough I would take it as a red flag, he either means he doesn’t like you enough and is trying to “release you” without hurting your feelings, OR he has low self esteem and this can be exhausting in a relationship so I would be cautious. Or I guess now a third option is that he’s a game playing, compliment fishing dumbass I suppose if someone said that to me I’d say “So…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 01:00 PM
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Idk to be honest I take it as a compliment that they think I come across as a beautiful looking along with having a lovely temperament woman. They think you’re a beautiful girl and seem normal and like a good person as a first impression. First impressions are important and hard to change. Then again I’ve never had any of these people be really pushy so I never had a reason to be bothered. Also people have never tried to set me up with someone ugly so also it didn’t bother me The funniest was a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:51 PM
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Poor Hilary, she seems like a sweet woman and plenty of people think she’s more sexy/beautiful now than she was in her Lizzie McGuire days so she could totally do better (I mean every woman deserves better as well)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:16 AM
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He looks like a creepy controlling asshole from the pic, it’s just the gut feeling I get looking at his face. Sorry (I also rarely say that about guys, I’m on a dating app and I don’t even think that about any of the guys I’ve seen on there recently)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:10 AM
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Something about the fact that he posts so many of these unflattering photos of her just seems kinda off to me. Like it’s embarrassing and offensive and at worst he seems controlling in a weird way and at best just immature and not realising it’s embarrassing for his wife Maybe it’s just me and I don’t get the light hearted humor in it I get that in a LTR you have to have a sense of humor and not always be uptight but I don’t get how you can post pics of your spouse making super goofy unflatterin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:03 AM
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What a lovely way to describe it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:50 PM
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Aww that is so sweet, hope I have a hubby one day 💗 I have a couple of questions if you don’t mind? 1- was he attractive to you from the get go? There’s just so few guys online who match all the criteria - respectful, interesting and proactive too so I’m curious if he also looked good to you instantly 2- did you have to sift through many, many unsuitable men for you? Was this selecting mostly done online or in person dates? And did it take a long time? 3- did you have any kind of strategy? I can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:46 PM
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A lot of the times if you make an excuse for him that he’s shy you could be deluding yourself and seeing signs of interest from him that just aren’t there. A shy guy might be even more likely to just accept your offer and settle for you for the timebeing, because being shy limits your opportunities for new romantic encounters. You’re less likely to flirt and meet new bfs/gfs as a shy person. Him passively saying yes once you pursue him doesn’t mean he really likes you. And yes also sometimes shy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 08:42 PM
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It’s concerning that she posted that, like with no context of a warning against domestic violence. It shows that she thinks it’s cute/sexy/a sign of dominant love or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:40 PM
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Oh I worked with a guy who showed his wife to everyone like that and he seemed to mean it, bless him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:08 PM
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That’s why I said even in my main text post above that one mans beauty isn’t going to be another mans. It’s honestly very subjective, if you take care of yourself you’ll be some mans beauty and you can never be everyones beauty they’d go for, no matter who you are. I’m just trying to point out why we should require effort, men admit it’s when they’re not particularly excited about a certain girl that they won’t put in an effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:54 AM
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What you said is exactly the whole point of why I made this post and is so spot on. My whole point is that if he is excited and sees getting to meet you as something valuable and worth his time he’ll make an effort. A lot of the times for men how much he values the first date and the beginning is a lot about how beautiful a girl is to him which is very subjective, but a lot of the times there’s other factors coming into play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:44 AM
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I’m not saying it’s only about beauty though. I’m saying men are talking about they’re only willing to put in the effort to take a woman on a date who they truly value and are excited about. For men with options, they probably look for more anyway. I said myself, they might be attracted to other things about a woman from her photos and not even realise it. There could be other things factoring in to how “beautiful” they see her as in the pics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:48 AM
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This and if you make the first move on him (which we DON’T do here anyway) is he always passively saying okay and just seems to be going along with it. Or even if he makes the first move does he speak to you like hinting he had to settle, talking about “stunners”/“hotties” out of his reach to you, etc. I think you’ll be able to tell if a man is into you or not, unless you’re extremely insecure and think everything means a man is not into you. Then you need help before you date at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:45 AM
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The men in the post admit themselves that they match with women they find “ugly”. I am not trying to put the responsibility on our beauty at all. Even online I think what a man is drawn to can be more than just looks it can be the vibe in a photo and him not even realise and attribute it to “beauty”. I’m trying to say if he values you and is excited about you, he’ll put in the effort and make you feel beautiful. If he maybe isn’t into you he won’t be able to be bothered but may accept your advan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:36 AM
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But I’m not really talking about how beautiful we are out of 10, I’m talking about how if a man deems the opportunity to meet you as exciting and valuable to him from day dot, he will actually be happy to put that effort in. For men who can choose from many beauties who are just his type, yeah to him he will need more than looks to choose who he values most. I meant that with online dating it is all about looks and his first impression of you based on photos. I mean with online dating especially…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:30 AM
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Honestly most men I’ve met don’t do anything to their eyebrows, His moustache isn’t good agreed, but his beard genuinely looks fine to me. He looks clean and a normal amount of grooming to me, but he just looks obese which is a no and his facial aesthetics are just slightly below average which is why I don’t get that he thinks he’s a prize women should be so glad to get attention from
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:28 PM
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to be fair he doesn’t look unkempt or unclean or anything, he just looks obese and low leaning average looks and is acting like women are soo blessed to have his attention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 04:18 PM
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Hmmm actually not really I got harassed and bullied and tormented the other way, for being too ugly, it’s actually worse because it made me hide and shrink and made me nearly silent with no self esteem. A lot of girls may get harassed for being hot but I didn’t hear of any girls besides me having it for being ugly so it was like I was dealing with it all alone. I get “attention” for being hot the past 2 years, and being harassed for being ugly was the worser of the 2 by far. I work on my self es…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 01:10 PM
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Why does he think he’s a prize or someone most women would go for anyway? Is obese the new normal or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:37 PM
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They treat us as much like sex dolls as we put up with. Their treatment might be as detached as it is but we’re the ones who allow it or stop it and demand more. I feel like pickmeishas all over the world are just letting themselves be used like that girl above and like... doesn’t it just make you feel cheap and ugly? I’m not saying casual sex is bad if a woman actually enjoys it and its worth it for her and she doesn’t get upset over it For me personally if I’m having casual sex that means I li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:35 PM
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For me it was 19! Late bloomer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:26 PM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 12:25 AM
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He needs a wake up call, he is about as appealing to an 18-25 yo as a 85 yo would be to him The age gap is the same amount lol So yes, a 30 year old age gap is unnatural shouldn’t be dating. At any age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 11:01 PM
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I think of exes the same way, but I had a creepy colleague/acquaintance who physically looks monstrous (that wouldn’t bother me if he wasn’t creepy) I used to think he was harmless, but I realised just how creepy he is and became more aware of the tactics he used after FDS better. Also on OLD I’m way quicker to cut someone off. Even before FDS I never have entertained hook ups/ sex only things but now I cut them off quicker, I don’t bother to chitchat just to pass time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 08:18 PM
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I just meant that if a 55+ yo expects to date slim attractive young girls he better be an exceptional man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 06:52 PM
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Laugh as though you are soo unbothered and leave instantly, block, show yourself somewhere they will see you with a hotter man looking amazing. If you try to insult them back they think they got under your skin. Or maybe say something that communicates that you know you are clearly a dime and move on. The worst loss should be losing you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 05:11 PM
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Thank goodness for that man setting a good example for you! Thank gosh there are some men with good morals who put others before their dick out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:08 PM
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Well yeah, I’d rather be a married to one older man who financially takes care of me, sooner than I’d ever be in a relationship with just any 55+ man. I’d rather love with a man my age though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:55 PM
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“hot hobby”? This reads like a fucking parody Girls do those hobbies for ourselves not men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:51 PM
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He probably swiped on some hot sex worker out of his league and now he thinks he can get girls on that league
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:51 PM
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just “not ugly” isn’t good enough either. He says he prefers “absolutely smoking, smoking hot”girls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:39 PM
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When he was 25, the woman he wants to have be his gf didn’t even exist yet... I’m under the age of 25 and I would never be with a 55+ yo unless I got desperate, he was extremely good looking for his age (rare af), healthy fit (not overweight and no huge potbelly) body for 55, wealthy with savings, nice clean big house and he pays 100% of expenses AND gives me an allowance AND lavish gifts. Sheraseven1 only advocates for relationships where the man will pay for you to not have to work and stay at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:31 PM
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At least for once a man admits it’s all about if you’re “hot” and nothing to do with personality because they only care about your looks. He said he doesn’t care about your hobbies, your friends, your pets, or your personality only about if you’re “hot or not”in pics. And if you have something written about “sex” even better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 09:36 PM
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My initial instinct for a man saying this would be to assume he wants to keep things open for now If by the second date he wasn’t so impressed by her and sure he wants to try to impress her I don’t know if I think it’s a good idea to continue anymore I don’t want to jump the gun but he sounds like a fuckboy to me, if he just offered that info himself without her even asking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 08:18 PM
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Thanks how kind! I don’t drink either and I eat lots of fruit and veggies and use skincare!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 08:13 PM
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Guys 5-6 years older than me already look like middle aged fatties/ decrepit corpses for the most part. I have to swipe no on about 99/100 men. If you saw the men you’d know what I meant. Wrinkles and all. Also they don’t realise that I’m out of their league and should be ecstatic I even matched with them they still ask for that casual relationship bs Yeah yeah it’s mean and harsh the way I worded it but all of these men would look better with a skin care routine, if they stayed out of the sun, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:12 PM
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I hear a friend taking pics of you is good, it shows you out and about and that you have someone to take a pic of you. It shows that you don’t just sit at home taking selfies. I got this from Shallon Lesters videos, btw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 03:56 PM
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yay you make me believe i will be a bombshell at 43 and look forward to that age too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:30 PM
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omgggg this soo much if you aren’t crazy attracted to the man then during the hard times its hard to care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:49 PM
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That’s 100% true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 09:46 PM
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I read a mans comment on a different sub on a different post about pornhub donating and when some user was using this example of child exploitation, he retorted that all the clothes and items we purchase also use child exploitation through child labor so we’re basically hypocrites for pointing it out. It’s all deflect, deny, evade. It’s like they don’t care but cant say that outright or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:17 PM
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They refuse to realise it because they hate to think of the pain of weaning* themselves off of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:12 PM
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I’m a few years older than you and also have very limited dating experience and would like to know how guys would take advantage of a girl who hasn’t dated someone yet. Basically I’d just say if you see any red flags/ you think he’s being mean to you take the first warning sign to leave. Everytime I haven’t left after a warning sign or one bad incident, it ends up worse and leaving me with emotional scars. I would say don’t be all alone with a boy in a park, somewhere dark, alone in a room, etc …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:31 PM
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I’ve heard so many men say “It’s women who judge other women based on their appearance! Men don’t care if you wear makeup, do your hair or what you wear! There’s no pressure from men only pressure from other women!” and then all these women and men will agree in the comments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:18 PM
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It sounds like exaggerated satire until even on FDS just a couple of days ago a wife said her husband always calls his work colleague hot and even jokes and asks the wife if he can fuck her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 01:54 PM
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If you tell him then you’re “nagging”. He might gaslight her and make excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 09:17 PM
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Oh yes I just went on their sub and saw that, I never realised they don’t want people to link their sub I haven’t joined it was just passing through, so I didn’t know I will delete the link A different FDS user mentioned it before and someone asked for the link above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 05:21 PM
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I went on breaking mom as someone linked it in a post here and saw a couple of moms were realising that their husbands are being very negligent towards the kids because of the covid-19
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 04:45 PM
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What did the deleted comment say? I didn’t see it before it got deleted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 09:19 AM
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FDS advises us to be financially independent in the handbook so I don’t know where you got that from. FDS is completely against relying on a mans income for your income, they want you to have your own income. Relying on a mans income can put you in a vulnerable situation and FDS doesn’t advocate it. Also FDS very much encourages us to be with emotionally supportive men who are enjoyable for us to be around and who are thoughtful towards us so I don’t know where you got the idea that money is all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:41 PM
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“Humour”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 06:44 PM
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Whenever I hear this and hear women and men say that we should be approaching, I think well why is that the man gets down on one knee and does the proposing for marriage, one of the most huge milestones in a relationship? Because there are certain roles for a man in relationships whether people can accept that or not. Women are laughed at if they propose and men are put off or feel “trapped”. I often hear men say “She wanted to trap me into an engagement or she’d leave, she gave me an ultimatum …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 06:43 PM
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Wtf I seriously can’t understand why people would expect you to not want a man who has achieved at least as much as you have. That’s absolutely fair for you to have this standard Personally I also am more attracted to men who have a degree but I am trying to now consider any man who has a good work ethic, ambition and is smart even without a degree because I feel like I could be eliminating good guys like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 06:31 PM
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When I say no I dont want to they disappear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 03:14 PM
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hmm it didnt sound like that to me but with men when you are unsure, if you guess it means sex 90% of the time you’ll be right what else goes on in their heads honestly they all know it’s true just hate us saying so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:50 PM
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Yes. Some guys ask me to quickly go on a different website and I never do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:36 PM
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We’re not allowed to ask for financial stability either reMEmbEr? Otherwise we’re gOLddiGeRS All we need are niceness coins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 02:08 PM
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That’s because for most women they play themselves, if you’re being 100% honest with yourself can you say you don’t begin to like the guy and hope for more than just a hook up? If you really can you must be in the minority. If a man can actually get me aroused to the point that I’d be into casual sex, I would have to find him attractive physically and with his behaviour/career motivation and at that point he’d also be the type of man I’d fall for if I slept with multiple times. Men will put in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:59 PM
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I think sex with no strings attached is the definition of being treated like a sex vending machine. For both parties. I will never do it unless I literally don’t care, he’d have to just be sex on a stick to me I can’t see myself ever doing that btw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:52 PM
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He doesn’t sound like the kind of man I’d expect to be able to get 2 of 50 women to agree to this If he’s 43 and average... imagine the women he gets, must be below his league.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:51 PM
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That girl looks just like me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 10:40 AM
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Someone else said it’s because he can’t meet the standards so he tries to say no one else can, to make himself feel better. That could be a good theory to explain why some dudes say it. Idk sometimes I think it’s just well meaning but misguided tbh. They think they’re looking out for us but it’s up to us to keep our standards, we’re grown adults so we choose our standards not them. I’ve had guys try to ask me what I like in a guy and when I admit I want attractive men with a good personality guy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:23 AM
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No it’s your life, you’re not making anything “worse”. If it works for you and it truly does and you’re not lying to yourself then do what makes you happy Like I said I’m sympathetic towards you and I hope you dont think I’m being mean, it’s just that I would feel and react a completely different way than you Honestly I’m probably too idealistic and romantic for my own good and hope for too much of a romantic and monogamous attitude from my man. Because men like that are hard to come by
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:19 PM
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If he needs a reminder, I wouldn’t feel the need to be his wife lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:04 PM
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Maybe he’s not cheating but if she threw herself on him I feel like 98% he’d go for it fully. Which is very bad Tbh I wouldn’t want to sleep with or be romantic with my husband, at least not until he apologised and swore to never say it again, grovelled, showered me in gifts... but it doesnt sound like he’d do that. He sounds like the type who’d say whaaaat I didn’t do anything wrong stop nagging me. TBH even if my husband apologised and groveled I’m not sure I’d forgive it I do feel sympathetic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:53 PM
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But doesn’t it sound like he’d definitely sleep with her the second she wanted? He’s not even worried to basically tell his wife he would This is even worse than following insta models
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:45 PM
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I’d be jealous too. I think I’d rather be silently cheated on than have a guy talk like this (not that either is ok) Edit I think I made that sound wrong, what I mean is physically cheating is horrible and worth breaking up over but I feel like it’s even more hurtful for your husband to stand around talking about who he would fuck at work. Both are despicable and unacceptable Tbh I wouldn’t be surprised if he already cheats or would the second she wanted to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:44 PM
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If my husband said something like this I’d just die inside. I wouldn’t want to be with him at all anymore He lets me hear him call her hot then jokes to me about sleeping with her? Ugh forget it Maybe I should just be with a man who can be a decent father to children not someone I “love” beginning to think romantic love with men doesn’t exist. Just seems like a way to torture myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:26 PM
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Could we say that at age 28 and beyond this is a thing? Coz dating a 30 yo at 23 or 32 yo at 25 seems like a significant age gap and life experience/personality gap! Maybe that’s just me though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:15 PM
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How is a slap on the ass a reward?! What in fresh hell have I just read lmaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:10 PM
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It’s because this with any random strange woman would excite a man and get him off, but men can’t wrap their heads around the idea that it’s not like that for us. For women we don’t get excited and turned on by dirty sex talk with any stranger man. For us the suggestion is an annoyance because it does nothing for us. (Majority of the time). It’s just how things have always been. That’s why men have to pay for that, they have a way higher drive for it and lower threshold for what and who can turn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:07 PM
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I would tbh find it easy to apply FDS even to guys I like, I’d prefer to date one guy only but I would get too disappointed and hurt if I was dating one guy and he was still plating several women, which is why I would definitely keep my options open in the early dating stages
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 09:05 AM
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Omg lol 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:56 AM
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I love being a woman. Can’t ever imagine being a man, I’m a woman through and through and fully enjoy being one. Although I’d make for a pretty damn competent man tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:28 AM
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You don’t have to take the words of the FDS handbook for gospel, you’re a person with your own autonomy and thoughts. For me FDS is really good at making us take accountability, we have to have whole lives and if we’re asking for a catch of a man make sure you have the same qualities too. A man is a good addition to our lives, we don’t need and cling onto a man if he’s detracting from our lives (eg abusive or otherwise detrimental). It’s great reminder. For me, FDS really validated me because fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:07 AM
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I see nothing but the facts here Imagine being this wreckless. I will block anyone who does this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:51 AM
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Omg wasn’t expecting to see my post. Thank you for reposting haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:04 AM
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Agree completely, I see no harm in offering his number. How the conversation goes next is what’s important
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 07:30 PM
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Clever and illuminating points, love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 06:45 PM
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What are acceptable situations for men to approach us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 06:23 PM
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I won’t be meeting anyone anytime soon due to this quarantine aha Tbh no this particular man isn’t “special” to me, just a potential
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 06:12 PM
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LV good looking guy (imo) haha Would not want
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:48 PM
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Your idea is good, I think that’s what I’ll do if a man ever hits on me like this again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:39 PM
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Oh I didn’t mean that I want them to come back. I just meant that they won’t stay away, whether we want them to or not lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:21 PM
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Tbh if they would prefer to fuck dolls than women, then sure they can. I’m not threatened or bothered at all lol. For one it’s a good thing because men who would rather fuck dolls than humans are literally removing themselves from the gene pool. But I don’t think they’ll stay away because men like “variety” and the dolls will get “boring” so they’ll also want real women lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:13 PM
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That’s totally true, there is totally a difference between warning your friend about fuck boys and telling her she’s not good enough though. And they were doing the latter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 05:04 PM
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I actually agree with this from now on Another insecurity I had stopping me was that I had some friends/family telling me guys would only want to pump and dump me but tbh I think some are just bitter, jealous that I’m pretty or if they’re not jealous just don’t want me to be happy. I don’t really spend much time with those family and I don’t see that friend anymore so thats not as much of a concern anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:50 PM
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That’s a great suggestion for the future! If this covid19 stuff even allows for that to happen this year :( I’m not the type to get easily hooked! That’s why I didn’t message him after he gave me his number at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:47 PM
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I actually agree with you from now on. I get where everyone else is coming from but this could actually just be a very gentlemanly act from him. What he does after you message him is what proves what he’s actually after, then he can pursue you if he wants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:38 PM
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Oh shoot, I should’ve just messaged him. Not so that I could be a pick me, but just to see what he’d do next
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:32 PM
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I agree that after the first wave of corona there will be a lot of depravity from men aha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:23 PM
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He seemed so friendly and fun, I liked his personality and he was super cute too so yeah It was mid to late January And of course, I wouldn’t do anything else besides just say hi and see what he does after that. I wouldn’t pursue him or anything It’s not like he and I can even see each other in person though now, with covid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:20 PM
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Maybe I should’ve just messaged back to say something and let him do most of the pursuing. Now I just regret never messaging him, is it too late and weird if I messaged him now? :/ I mean tbh there’s no point, with the virus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 04:17 PM
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Again! It grows again! Amazing, hope us women of the world collectively raise the standards for men so there’s better ones for us all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 03:59 PM
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When I was new I looked at both subs, but in general FDS stuck with me more in the end. I don’t agree with everything on FDS but I agree with most, way more than I agreed with on the red pill Also on TRP woman the general objective seemed to say like “women aged around 25 are the best and we must get married under the age of 30 otherwise we’ll be left over”. Like they had this idea you must be married and it must be by age 30, it just buys into this idea that our value lies in a short span of ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 03:59 PM
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🧐 I feel like it’s to make sure we like him so much that we’ll agree to a hook up situation, or if not that then he just needs validation and us to chase him. Idk it just didn’t give me good vibes overall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:28 PM
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Why do men always try to say its a good idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:19 PM
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What I don’t understand is the majority of men telling us to do it and that it’s good for us to do this. I know a guy who really admired and liked me though but was taken, and when I said I was single to him (he asked) he said that’s a shame because I seem approachable and guys should try. Like the fact that this man thought highly of me and thought I was gorgeous looking with a good personality a great catch, and he didn’t try to advise me to approach men. This makes me think. Also another man …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 12:07 PM
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good thinking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:07 PM
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Yet if you go and get raped it’s your fault for going to his house alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 08:07 PM
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They’re trying to take advantage of them! Those Johns don’t care about those ladies, they just want sex at the cheapest price they can get away with! That’s why girls looking for regular dating should also look out for parasites, men looking for sex at the lowest cost possible, except this time it’s at an emotional cost. If he barely cares, barely puts in an effort, barely notices you but wants to have sex don’t put up with it! I’m sure there are some generous, decent Johns who treat their fave …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:11 PM
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He messaged me after one of my very first comments! I guess I fit right in straight away lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:46 PM
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Aww I’ll let a man take me on this kind of date during this time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:42 PM
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What? He said that? It’s unfair to try to make someone feel insecure because of their race. There’s no salvaging that relationship after he said that, nope no way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 04:00 PM
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If weight is that important to him why was he with her at all? Is he really unable to find anyone else that the one person he could get he needs to try to mold?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 04:00 PM
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Me and all my friends know Come over to my house = sex Doesn’t matter what he suggested doing at his house I’m sorry but it’s a good way to get raped. Guys will argue that “Oh you knew what it was, why else would you go to a mans house for a date?” And blame you for the rape too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 03:30 PM
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Idk, personally I am sad that I may never be in a good relationship. I’m trying to work on myself first and be whole first and discover what else there is to life, so when I am ready to date it will be good and I won’t be feeling like I need a man. Partially it’s me, damaged from my life experiences. I’m trying to work on myself but who knows if I can ever be at the level to be in a good relationship. Are there truly not women and men out there who are both good and healthy and find each other a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 10:17 AM
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The looksmatch is so subjective don’t worry about it l
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 09:04 AM
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I think the part about him not really being convinced about dating her at first but caving in because he’s never had a girlfriend before sounds pretty true. The fact that he speaks in this immature and hurtful way about his ex is definitely rude though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:43 AM
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It’s not acceptable. If women do anything like this to men, we’re shedevils and scum of the earth to them. I will never understand the double standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:38 AM
22

To be honest I hear plenty of men talking about their ex or current partner being average looking/not the most conventionally beautiful but they were with her because of her personality etc. I don’t want a relationship like that, I want someone who gushes about me inside and out. I don’t want someone who settled for my looks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:07 PM
5

That’s a tough one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 11:00 PM
12

Your coworker would catch my eye! He sounds like a good opportunity but idk much about coworker dating and I know it’s advised against
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:47 PM
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He’s not really a Chad himself either, but idk looks are very subjective. I wouldn’t date him myself unless I was settling on looks for personality lol. He looks about average to me, but he says others think he’s above and he might be right idk. I’m not going to really speak to this coworker again, I only befriend people who are high quality and he doesn’t seem it haha. I’ll just keep a friendly distance/acquaintance-ship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:31 PM
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Aw thanks! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:25 PM
44

This guy was saying he truly was in love with her then, but after she broke it off he was talking about how he’s glad because he’s better than her and now he can move onto better girls. Maybe eventually it would’ve been him breaking it off since she was his first gf and he would’ve wanted to eventually see what was better out there. Imagine a man even speaks to you like this while you’re breaking up. I’m sure that somehow his attitude would be apparent and make her insecure, even if he didn’t re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:12 PM
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Honestly you can do all this for a boyfriend because you think he will stay because you let him be free and do whatever he wants, and he can still cheat behind your back or leave you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:32 AM
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Same, I’m normally quite strong but at certain points of the day I’ll find myself buzzing with mild anxiety and fear, and the feeling threatens to compound if I don’t distract myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:54 PM
20

Thank you! I’ve seen the news about the dolphins returning to Italy and the clearing water canals, but I didn’t know about the deers in Japan and the reduction of pollution in China. That’s beautiful news and a nice distraction to focus on in these trying times!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:53 PM
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How can men so vehemently deny this when it’s a public health crisis? Well I mean we know why but how can the majority of men be so unaware about themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:18 PM
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I was thinking this straight away when I read this. Kinda sounds to me like he’s setting it up so he can blame the exgf for him cheating with her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:45 PM
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This makes me realise how dangerous porn addiction can be. If a man has porn addiction I’m not going to try to stick around to fix them. It makes me realise how important it is to make sure young boys aren’t watching porn! It’s very hard to regulate this because kids can really get around the internet, but I think at 8 years old it could’ve been avoided that he’d find porn. We need to be good, whole, aware parents and good people ourselves with good ideals and morals so we don’t raise more broke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:37 PM
14

And not one person was surprised
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:06 PM
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I assumed by the average woman he just meant the quantity of women, like trying to say there’s not enough incredible men to go around for just every woman out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:16 PM
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My heart warmed reading this, this is the type of action in a man that makes me notice him and feel attraction now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 10:49 AM
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That really helps to know that the comments had positive karma and were popular! Yikes that is sad. :( I think they’re monsters I’m so glad FDS found it and changed it phew I can’t believe people hate FDS yet we have never defended or promoted violence against men or anyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:58 AM
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I’m really glad to hear this, I hated to think of this poor lady blaming herself for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:51 AM
11

Same here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 07:08 PM
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I feel like it doesn’t accurately show the community opinion if you don’t show the upvote count on a comment. Because sometimes some comments are heavily downvoted as everyone thinks it’s wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 06:18 PM
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A weekly basis or more would definitely rule a man out from being considered a very quality man, because this means he is addicted, and people who are mentally healthy are not addicted and do not depend on drug use. I feel like FDS in general would consider regular party use would rule out a man from being considered a man of high integrity because it’s still not a safe/healthy habit to have. I feel like having it at parties sometimes is personally okay, but what if a man lies to you that he onl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 06:12 PM
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Thanks, I’ll keep that in mind next time! Tbh with this asshole I think if I even bothered saying something like that, he’d think he had gotten to me because I’m trying to defend myself or whatever! I guess you just laugh it off and look unbothered and don’t talk to them ever again if some ahole does it to me again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 05:37 PM
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I meant putting firm boundaries up with people (friends) is a sign of confidence and not being too much of a giver, is a sign of confidence. And yes being able to take gifts graciously or accept a man paying a on a date, IS a sign of confidence. I don’t take that back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 05:12 PM
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What I meant by me striving to become more of a taker isn’t to mean I want to become exploitative, just that I want to allow men to treat me and for me to accept it and enjoy it and feel like I deserve it Yeah I cut that friend out, she asked for a loan once and I said no and she called me a meanie, after that she never asked me for a loan again but did other toxic things to break the friendship down. Also there will be times I want to lend someone something, help people with their problems, but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 04:39 PM
20

I lean more towards being a giver, but I consciously try to make the effort to be more of a taker. I’m hoping to change the narrative for myself, I would rather be a taker than a giver and I need to train myself to be able to do this more. I’ve definitely slowly become more and more comfortable and enjoy the idea with being a taker! I’m proud of myself on the progress but have a fair ways to go I can confirm that I’ve attracted takers, you will give obvious cues to people that tell them what you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:45 PM
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Omg this is so sweet and kind. I hope I can find this kind of love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 09:47 AM
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He truly is worth 5,000 of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 09:46 AM
13

Oh my gosh this is so sweet it warms my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 09:42 AM
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I feel like this was made by hobosexual leech men who want to encourage one another to keep their meal ticket/sugar mama for as long as they can. Or it’s meant to be seen by pickmeisha and she’ll be convinced men will never let her go and really value her for this behaviour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:52 PM
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But they don’t respect or truly desire women they do this to? Once they “come up” they find the women they truly want. Look at men prior to and after success if any kept their prior gf or wives, particularly ones who were really kinda struggling before. Pretty well none. Who is the intended audience for this message, pickmeishas to be encouraged to keep doing this stuff? If this isn’t a message actually intended for the pickmeishas then what do they mean? The “bros” know that pickmeisha the buil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:44 PM
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u/greenteaapplepie Omg you speak my mind. They always say “just communicate”, like in the instance when the woman said that she had clearly told her husband she was completely against and would never do anal, but he kept talking her into it and she caved. She already spoke to him. He already knows what she wants and doesn’t want, but he chose to pressure her until she caved anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:40 AM
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Same experience here Some ugly man who is not really even rateable on the 10 scale because he’s too horrible to look at. Honestly any person who laid eyes upon him would agree that he ranks in the negative scores. Trying to neg I guess? Said I was average and the only nice thing is my body. Well I know for a fact I have a pretty face and nice body, and in future I vow never to care about comments like this again But honestly let’s be such queens we don’t even remember or let comments like these …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 11:15 AM
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I love these stories ahh thanks for sharing 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 04:41 PM
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I love these stories about your kind, loving generous Chad boyfriends. I can’t wait to get one of my own soon ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 04:40 PM
2

I guess your friend recommended staying off there as the men who are only looking for casual sex really think that will help their chances
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 04:35 PM
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I wouldn’t say I’m 10/10 but I’m still extremely attractive and guys still do this on online dating! The only girls who I think are 10/10 are the absolute top instagram models/models in general anyway so they’re quite rare. I agree I don’t know what a 10/10 experiences, but still irl all kinds of good looking boys are super kind and flirtatious and idk generous towards me, online dating just seems to unveil their laziness!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 01:14 PM
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And THIS is the secret main reason men are mad in my opinion. They all want us to say yes to this, so they can collectively put in as little effort as possible and all have free hookers. That’s why they hate women discovering FDS. They know all this Chad chasing stuff is fake because not all women want handsome men, some ladies do want an attractive man who is also a respectful, kind man with a good personality, some women want that package but without the good looks. They call us gold diggers b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:11 AM
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You didn’t even say anything about safety when he started going off on his rant How about if you want to get to know him a little bit to see if you get along well? Dating isn’t only about looks. Well you got to know him, and he’s a gaslighting pushy man you wouldn’t want to meet anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 08:31 AM
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I had a couple of guys ask to go on “nature walks” or “beach walks” together on OLD as a first meeting. I never went on them. I was slightly offended at the low effort but now I realise how little they value you if they suggest this. Cosmopolitan magazine has an article though, it goes something like, “Why walks are a great first date idea! Cheap (free!), fun and wholesome! See beautiful nature. And you get to workout!” Well for one reason not to accept is the safety factor. It isn’t safe to go …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 08:20 AM
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You’re so lucky
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 06:33 PM
22

I’m around a similar ish age and same The only 40 year old I’d match with is Johnny Depp when he was 40. Guess what percentage of men in OLD resemble him by 40? 0% lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:45 PM
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Omg 😂 you’re right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:43 PM
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Some women can get lucky but I think she has to be at the 100% right place in her mindset and life and also she has to strike gold lucky lol. It’s usually not worth the hassle of sifting through a million sexually forward or sexually harassing messages a lot of the time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:42 PM
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lmao it’s almost homoerotic how much thought they give to “Chad”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:40 PM
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You should be able to put your bf as an emergency contact, he should care about you that much I thought a boyfriend was someone who you love and have a friendship with, so he would care about your safety? The fact that this is even a question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:39 PM
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Meh why we giving him the attention he craves so bad? Let these men scream into the void desperate for our attention lol I am at least 30 years younger than that and he doesn’t appeal to me no matter how wealthy/accomplished so 🙅‍♀️ Delusional is as delusional does 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:36 PM
7

Yeah men are roughly 7* times more likely to leave according to those stats
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:23 PM
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Haha I don’t hate anything I demand a supply for. Must be confusing, living with that cognitive dissonance. No wonder they’re such a confused lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:06 PM
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H Y P O C R I T E S
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:04 PM
11

This! Too bad for them negative comments get a block, no engagement and I forget about them the next second haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:03 PM
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Too true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 05:03 PM
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