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4

Seems like bait to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 06:05 PM
5

Yeah I mean the situation is plausible in general but the way it's written isn't really coming across as a genuine woman to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 06:04 PM
40

Is this real? Why would anyone post this question in this sub?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 04:55 PM
62

I've dated a chef, and all I got was a completely trashed unusable kitchen from all his experiments he'd never clean up after and a steak once in a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 06:03 PM
45

Go get yourself one. Professionals are great at it. Men who are using it to get in your pants? Not so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 02:59 PM
35

Except foreplay is supposed to be enjoyable and they never even know what they are doing and half ass it anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 02:59 PM
871

Lingerie is a ridiculous gift for a woman. A massage is nothing but a lie. If he liked the purple so much he should have bought her that and something pink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 08:29 PM
-1

Again, homeless women are more likely to be murdered or sex trafficked, which culls their numbers, which is relevant to the comment I replied to. Your point has no bearing on what I said other than to distract from it. However, if we're just spouting random statistics and you didn't mean to reply to my statement with anything relevant then here's mine: The percentage of left-handed people is said to be between 10 & 12.
/r/AntiFeminists10/04/22 09:23 PM
0

Women are more likely to end up murdered or sex trafficked, which will lower the numbers for them.
/r/AntiFeminists10/04/22 03:57 PM
1

You should have framed your post that way then. The way it reads I'm not buying this was only speaking to your personal preference. You're stating that these qualities are a no go across the board. I can get behind stating across the board it's not ok to be with someone who eats very poorly, restricts your access to food simply because they "eat like a man" and won't touch anything but beef and potatoes, or openly mock your choices in food. The rest? A step too far. It's great that you love cook…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 11:37 PM
26

Gotta say, never been a fan of dried fruit, and I grew up with a health nut mother who would purchase these kinds of things regularly. I don't think it's "gross" but any sort of trail mix or the ingredients fall flat with me. If I'm hiking and starving and someone offers? Sure I'm in. Otherwise I do not understand the draw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 11:32 PM
76

If he's about to gain freedom why the hell can't he just cut ties now and let her know he was using her whole he was chained down by parenthood. God forbid he spend one day living with the results of his own choices. Best to just lie and use people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:08 PM
112

This one got me right in the gut. They really all do have the same tired excuses 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 05:07 PM
78

If they consider themselves intelligent then anything they believe in must be correct because they are intelligent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 12:31 PM
31

Jesus Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 09:17 PM
389

Men never seem to tire of pushing women to do the opposite of what they want. Why find someone compatible when you can crush the soul of someone you tricked into thinking was compatible with you by forcing them to change the things you once told them you loved about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 08:50 PM
1

I am pretty sure it's not because he doesn't trust her, but still doubt I'd enjoy being in a relationship with someone this on top of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:32 PM
6

As a hetero woman your only options are to be single or to date horrible men until you get fed up and date other horrible men, because men treat women horribly as a whole. Until men admit they are the common denominator and therefore the problem there's no point in telling them anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 05:01 PM
37

Sure but even then I don't want a baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 02:49 PM
86

Yeah I feel like the only thing this should be used for is men's peace of mind that they are controlling their reproductive health. I would never trust someone else not to impregnate me and would always provide my own protection, but I'm totally on board with men wanting to feel more secure themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 02:47 PM
65

Oh my God am I tired of the weak men who just agree with everything but then do the opposite/lash out/resent women. If you don't speak your mind and straight up lie to women no matter the reason that is on you. Don't cry about how you don't feel valid. That is not her fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 09:41 PM
11

Thank you. I thought that was the obvious issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:57 PM
10

Mm I don't fully agree with this take as it's based on assumptions about the human race and it's history that I don't think you can fully confirm. However, yes you should always make sure you are watching out for you in a relationship and that you don't ever give all the control and planning to someone else. Things happen so no matter how good of a person you choose you should consider what you'd do without them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 07:26 PM
9

A very dark bruise with bite marks that's almost 2.5 inches diameter, or about the size of the cross section of a lemon, would still be pretty noticeable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 06:57 PM
11

I've heard men talking about women behind their backs calling them disgusting for not washing their long well styled hair daily. This was in a high end trendy Chicago bar full of beautiful people, of which the target of the comment was one of. This guy doesn't have a leg to stand on as far as gripes and unfair beauty standards. If you can't shower daily for legit skin issues or if you have genetically inferior teeth then the statement wasn't about you. Not every possible nuance should have to be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 04:54 PM
19

Because men deserve what they want when they want how they want at all times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 04:39 PM
24

Any time a man threatens postponing marrying you simply because you've asked him when he will do so after he's promised to do so that's your sign he DGAF about you. What kind of sadistic shit is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 04:34 PM
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Maybe these aren't the best posts for this sub but I do appreciate that they are being posted somewhere that they can't be attacked and downplayed. I think it really is that bad for women and always has been and I see this sub as one way of opening the eyes of women to the horrible treatment we've endured throughout history. It absolutely is a defeating feeling seeing this type of behavior repeatedly, but it's not going to disappear and we need to continue to name the problems and push back agai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 03:05 PM
17

Cumslut is really on to something here. Words of wisdom 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:25 PM
12

I mean plenty of men will be upset about things and not just simply move on given they are not all unfeeling robots, but that isn't a good reason to continue interacting. It's best for your sanity to move on regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:13 PM
120

I naturally have a thin frame and round smaller face. If I work out and eat healthy I end up very thin lacking any real curves and am called a little boy or childish and told I need to eat more. I am also in a pissy mood since being taught and muscular is only something I can achieve through cutting back on calories in vs out. If I become laid back on these things then I end up being very soft and "undesirable" for a different reason. I do gain weight in the "proper" areas for a female but not w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 04:04 PM
127

Yes he's going to be real grateful when he finally has all his money to himself and is off the hook for any responsibility. He totally won't just rationalize why he deserves this and you really don't need the money. Totally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:04 PM
51

Honestly I just assume this is what is going on in reality every time I hear a story like this. Gloss over all the faults of man and put them on any women he's encountered instead. Par for the course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:44 PM
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I've had many male friends and can think of only one that never was inappropriate. We initially met casually and drunkenly hooked up casually maybe twice, as we were all wont to do at that time, then became friends basically right after. It was clear from day one that there was no intent on his end to ever go anywhere in the future and that he was only looking at me as a friend which is all I wanted. He also had many other female friends that went off without a hitch. Nice guy, very depressed an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 10:40 PM
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$1000 a week isn't really that much in the grand scheme. Hilarious that anyone could think that piddly amount could justify the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 04:58 PM
6

The man is dangerous unhinged and disturbed. Rational human beings in a modern society don't act like this. There are far too many people in need of serious consequences for their actions that never receive them. On the contrary, they are rewarded because this type of personality is what is desired until they fully snap. Even then it's not treated as the severe social problem it needs to be. We need to get a handle on our violent dangerous men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 04:53 PM
2

Exactly. An incredibly common occurrence unfortunately. I swear the majority of the complaints on this site are from men who don't realize they can't see past their own entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 02:55 AM
2

Absolutely couldn't agree more. This is why I find it so unlikely that I'll ever be happy living with a man. Most of them just do not have the same standards for their homes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 02:36 AM
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I am going to have to fully disagree with your damning sentiments. I'm not joining the witch hunt over doing women being pressured into things they aren't proud of. That's all you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 01:23 AM
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I'm aware of the point of the sub. I disagree with your take on the situation. I do not have to agree with your interpretation of something like tickling simply because I am a member of this sub, and I don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 01:15 AM
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I grew up with a lot of male friends and in mixed friend groups and, yeah, learned very early on how shifty dirty and hateful males are to females. I spent my time with them really listening to what terrible things they would say and understanding the universal negative attitude towards women. Knowing the truth has 100% colored my perspective on men and dating. I've always known more likely than not I will be interacting with someone who doesn't really see me as human the way he considers himsel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 09:07 PM
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Yikes, wouldn't go that far with the tickling analogy given so many believe it's an acceptable thing to do after one says they don't like it. Still shitty. Still wrong. Still something that needs to be left in the past along with so many norms. Just don't think the majority of people are tickling anyone to see if they can rape them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 09:00 PM
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Except this happened many years ago if at all and if she did do this intentionally it sounds like she's no longer in that sphere and most likely regrets it and has changed her mind on the topic, which is why she's not said anything about it. That is nothing like a man who actively consumes content. Damning any woman for having ever been conditioned by society to act against her own self interest at any part in her life is ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:23 PM
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I had a man try to argue with me that it would be worse for him to have an only fans than it would for me to. His background is in cooking/DJ/factories/small business food related companies full of alcoholics and addicts. I work in healthcare. I also have a child. His thought is that all his buddies would make fun of him and think he's gay, and that everyone would support me and think I'm cool liberated and subversive. I cannot even with these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:11 PM
93

I've had one very toxic relationship with someone in need of good mental health resources that he couldn't afford. That's about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 09:43 PM
16

Fuck everyone feeling bad for Mark and shaming her. Typical bs. This is why I have no sympathy for men who wine about how false accusations are something so bad we need to prioritize them over rape victims. News flash, we already fucking do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 06:09 PM
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Sounds to me like she is the one doing most of the labor while he sits home smoking pot mostly ignoring the daily needs of the household. "Dishes can be done later. Who cares if some crumbs are on the counters. A little jam on the cupboard handles won't hurt anyone. Why does it matter if the socks are in the hamper or in front of it." Men are already bad enough about keeping up a home, but if he's also a pot head I'm going to assume it's worse due to this. Stay away from these types unless you t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:25 PM
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He tried to get her high to distract her from what most likely is a stoner pad that she's stuck living in. Sounds a lot like she's carrying the weight while he relaxes and gets high and he feels that his very relaxed views on housekeeping should be good enough. As someone who does partake, I have known enough dirty pot heads in my life to have a vivid picture in my head of the sort of dingy lifestyle he likely finds acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:20 PM
180

It does discourage public interactions, so then we're only approached by the kind of people who don't adhere to the understood rule that you leave people alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 01:02 PM
2

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 12:09 AM
98

Every time I've been honest about being happy with and looking for casual men end up agreeing to it at first then soon after push the relationship angle on me even though it is clear we are in no way compatible for one. I truly feel it's not as enjoyable for them if they don't think they're tricking and using me for sex by stringing me along because I'm desperate for their love. It's so pathetic and exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 07:43 PM
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What a tool. I hope she becomes comfortable enough with leg hair in public or finds some appropriate pants for nice dinners though, because they are fun, if you're going with someone who isn't only taking you to force you to shave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 02:06 AM
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A few years back I dated a man for about 6 months who did so much "right" (not to FDS standards given we did have sex since I wanted to and wasn't even sold on dating him long term, but it was fun and he lives near a group of my friends I was always visiting anyway so it worked logistically for me.) and still ended up telling me at the end he was only with me temporarily on purpose. We met on tinder, had great rapport, he was understanding of the fact I didn't have time to meet right away due to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 05:02 PM
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I would hope someone that married me would be willing to do this for me. Yes the statistics regarding male vs. female reactions to health issues are... pretty shit, but it is an impressive thing to save someone's life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:41 AM
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Yesssss 👏👏👏 leave this man that doesn't believe if he's not the provider he needs to hold up his end. We are not here to take over responsibilities for men who cannot contribute enough to pull their own weight. Grandpa may have paid for grandma to do all this shit but this man is expecting you to pay the bills AND thinks he can lounge about all day while the household needs keeping up? Oh hell no, work is work and this man is skipping out on all forms. He is not too good for housework and is fuc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:37 AM
28

I once dumped a guy in HS because his breath smelled like Burger King when he showed up for our date. He also has those Cream Savers candies they used to make. Was a movie date, so of course the make out aspect was implied. The memory will never leave me 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 09:16 PM
9

I feel your pain. Have dated my share of autists. I understand my reasons behind this and why I prefer their company, and I also realize that means I am likely doomed regarding finding a man who I find intellectually stimulating and whose general demeanor I enjoy who also is a decent partner. The two really do not mix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 09:08 PM
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I lived through a situation like this, only with a much more volatile and cruel man who was verbally physically emotionally you name it cheating plotting abusive narcissist. Years later I dated a NVM that was an absolute disorganized slob who thought things didn't need to be cleaned until they needed to be used again (whatever you're thinking, it's worse), constantly was job hopping and using his "hard" work as an excuse to not contribute at home since my work was "easier", had a short fuse and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 04:05 PM
50

These fucking hypocrites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 12:01 AM
38

I would totally stop wearing makeup if my lashes were dark and visible rather than short sparse and hardly pigmented, my skin was pigmented enough to not be translucent exposing all my blue veins and red capillaries (I have multiple times been asked by concerned acquaintances whether I'm being hurt at home due to the severe massive uneven blue veins under my eyes) and if my brows were more than a few dirty blonde sprigs scattered above my eyes (again repeatedly asked why I plucked all my brows, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 09:43 PM
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I once dated a guy who told me right away how abusive his exes were to him and how hard he'd had it, leaning towards saying he's had it worse than women do. After watching for exactly what you said it was clear that he'd instigated much if not all of his own problems with women and everyone else. His mental leap included the fact that these women were unhinged, and I'm sure they were given the circles he was in in his youth, but so was he and his aggressive attitude was something he couldn't rec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 09:19 PM
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I personally do not care for sharing photos of children online. I'm sure that's not why he isn't given the situation you described, but I do wish people would scale back on broadcasting every photo and detail about their minor children on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:33 PM
8

Yeah so he's totally not the right kind of person for you at all. He needs some stoner girl who wears cookie monster pajama pants to Walmart. You need to find someone more like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 09:53 PM
53

This right here 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:42 PM
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This "whoops" happened to me the first time I had sex. Thankfully my rapist's penis was so small it was nothing more than a quick shock to the system. Given my already abysmal view of males at that time (not from anything other than being exposed to teen boys every day at school and being harassed by grown men whenever I dared go outside since I wasn't actively online researching anything feminism and this was almost 20 years ago now) this seemed par for the course. I didn't view it as rape per …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:53 PM
15

Stores have suspiciously been "out" of things they never normally are when I ordered with Instacart. I've given up on using it because I had a feeling this was the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:20 PM
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I know in this sphere it's completely unacceptable to date someone with no money or in the stages of dealing with any kind of personal crises, so obviously regardless she is going against what this sub stands for. Outside of that context though even if we're talking about people who do think it's ok to date unemployed or struggling people he still fucking stole her credit card. The audacity 🤦 Regardless of what your stance is on dating people in financial trouble it should be a given that you sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 10:04 PM
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Thank you! I hate all these posts that come off as capitalist propaganda. Women need to stay woke regarding all life choices, not just the one regarding a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 08:14 PM
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My ex that baby trapped me as I was about to graduate HS tried to tell me that the car I bought using student loans as money down and took out a bank loan for the majority near the end of our horrible abusive relationship was rightfully his because he "supported me" so was owed money back. He made it impossible to work at the beginning given we were broke, had no reliable childcare, and he'd constantly come home late "from work" leaving me with having to call in, not to mention the abuse and jea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 07:37 PM
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Sex work is work but it's horribly problematic work within a horribly problematic system. I can't blame her for grabbing onto a chance in this hellscape of an existence where most people will never get out of debt and indentured servitude. I do wish that this wasn't her best chance though. All work is inherently exploitative and all of us who are working more desirable roles are only able to do so due to the hard labor around the world of the many who must complete the hard dirty thankless work.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 11:07 PM
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Unless men are also legally forced to cover their chests I am all for women doing as much as they can to push past archaic sexist bullshit. Of course men will be gross about it, but they are literally gross about everything. Really at a certain point we'd need to be covered from head to toe, and I don't think that's something that's proved to be beneficial for women. I personally think certain styles of exposure are tacky and wouldn't do it myself, but I hate bras and am glad they are not as req…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 10:29 PM
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Basically don't date an addict. I think there needs to be some serious work done to counteract the addictive qualities of video games and how much of an effect it has on people. Children start playing them totally unaware that they may end up with an addiction. I really think gaming should be treated like any other addictive substance in that it be taken more seriously as a risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 10:20 PM
1

I feel like this is often the case with men looking to make sure their woman doesn't expect too much from him or want to spend too much time from him. It also seems to correlate with men who don't want to have to support a woman too much who use "passions" as code for well paying career. Either "leave me alone while I game all day and night" or "you better not expect me to pay for anything and you better plan to chip in half on all finances (while also doing all the domestic labor)" Just my obse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 11:49 PM
54

They'll even be yelling at you then when you raise your voice to be heard they get on you for yelling. Somehow it's different. Have even been told by a man "I'm just loud all the time so it's different" as well as "you voice is shrill though so it carries more" All boils down to toxic evil little men who just want to abuse you unfettered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 01:03 AM
7

Oh my God why would you give him money. Call the police to get rid of him if necessary. Don't buy him a room. I'm certain dude had money and just didn't want to spend it. He has to know that his plan wouldn't have been a guaranteed success so he had to have a backup plan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:46 PM
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Obviously this is her own fault. But if this is all true at least seeing how he apparently put on a great show for a stranger when he never has for her, didn't show her any attention during, and is now texting this stranger which clearly anyone with half a brain would know is completely not acceptable means that he's shown himself for who he is. Even when being treated to the male fantasy that they (mostly) all dream of instead of being grateful and remembering she exists he tossed her aside. He…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:54 PM
1

I didn't realize I had to be at the ready for replies. Projection is a trendy term for combating differing opinions. Couple that with complaining about my getting back to you too late I'd say you really showed me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 04:19 AM
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I very much appreciate your contribution to this topic. It's an important message to keep in mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 03:47 AM
0

In your personal experience is all I needed to hear. You don't need to name them. They have no bearing on a societal issue of this magnitude. You believe that your feelings on a topic are objective truth. Your knee jerk reaction of anger and outrage at my disagreeing with you and your subjective opinion on whether the post should have been understood is a bit much. OP agreed with my interpretation of the subject. I think you should be less reactionary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 03:45 AM
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100%, just do not like how many posts I see about forgoing community ties and replacing them with capitalism. Obviously history has shown that male partners are a shit bet, but community of some sort of always a necessity because pure capitalism will chew up and spit out a great number of people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:51 AM
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Lol well technically men can give you cash too, but I get your point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:48 AM
3

Yup. I lived with one woman who owned a cat and it was a world of difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:24 AM
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100% on all counts. Men already know everything so why should they have to do this "reading" you speak of?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:21 AM
69

My LVM ex tried to stop me from having an epidural because a friend of an uncles cousin's dog had a tragic reaction to it (as if that's the most dangerous part of giving birth) I told him I'd give it a shot to shut him up and as soon as those pains got more intense I told them to hook me the fuck up. Miss me with that male entitlement shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:17 AM
14

After having dated multiple lazy terrible cat owning men this to me outlines how their inability to do the additional work of caring for their pet and keeping it from becoming disgusting led to me being disgusted with them. Well done lol Male pet owners are a lazy lot and like men with children they would love for some female to come take care of the boring gross work for them. If you can't even clean up your own crumbs and drips then why the fuck do you think owning a creature that can't clean …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:38 PM
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It's almost like dating an addict is a bad idea 🌚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:48 PM
114

Jobs do not care about you. Capitalism doesn't care about you. Men also can never be guaranteed to care about you. Both will toss you aside with the quickness if it becomes beneficial. Stay vigilant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:28 PM
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Because the greater cost is not immediate. Men typically are very short-sighted when it comes to health in general. If it's not an immediate problem it just isn't going to be taken seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:25 PM
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Maybe he should have taken the usual make advice when women are unhappy and communicated with her that he doesn't want it happening in front of him. What a knob.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:30 PM
8

Sounds like mom just divided up all the human traits and assigned the good to men and bad to women because she was taught women are inherently bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 11:03 PM
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The post is pointing out another way men have inaccurate assumptions about women. It seems you also have those inaccurate assumptions, since you're refuting a study with your personal beliefs about what all other women have sex for. I think it's appropriate to say that while within this sphere casual sex isn't promoted, that those who do have casual sex don't deserve to be mislabeled and shamed based on patriarchal assumptions and standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 09:38 PM
69

So it's ok for this man to pay for nudes and use only fans but it's not ok for this woman to sell nudes and use only fans. Totally makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:15 PM
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You can drop "in the industry" completely. Men in any industry think they are better than they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:14 PM
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I agree with you that it's in essence the same thing. People are just more careful around talking about mental health than other issues which leads them to treat them differently. At the end of the day though, yes if we're saying testosterone is supposed to be causing these two things to lessen then your comment means the same as OP. Men are bolstered by their genetics to be less prone to both things. Must be nice, if they were able to grasp what lottery they won.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:08 PM
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"Yes I believe that women are of equal status to men" If they press any further I'd say that's a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 08:06 PM
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Deceased. I have one of those across the hall from me in my luxury apartment building. He had a sign on his door that he's a hearing disabled vet so please knock if the dogs are too loud. Easily the worst people in the building. He spends all day shouting at video games and can be hard from the hallways and the vents in the other units. The dogs would bark like mad every time he and his partner were out of the apartment, for hours on end, which again goes through every vent and is inescapable wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 02:52 PM
17

This right here 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:03 PM
11

First of all, no. Second, this is reading like he got off on his being dirty. Totally out of the blue he's approaching middle of the night stuff completely differently to where he's not allowing consent specifically when he's filthy. Yeah he's into that shit. What filth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 09:35 PM
45

I cannot stand when people do this. It became painful to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 12:38 AM
59

So another word old guy who doesn't care who knows that he doesn't view women as people. Cool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 11:26 PM
36

There most definitely is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 04:25 PM
1

Still not enough time for me to go to that stage, but that's my preference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:25 PM
2

I do this fairly regularly and mostly am out past 10. Just an odd stance to have that act activity part 10 is verboten for women. Sure don't accept dates only for late at night, but I'm not turning into a pumpkin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 08:42 PM
42

They have one kid together. I don't understand your statement. He had more kids because he is a man and doesn't consider the kids he didn't want his responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 07:52 PM
-2

Guess I better not go to that concert I got myself tickets for tonight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 07:22 PM
7

100% yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 02:43 PM
63

This is what always gets me. It's hilarious but also infuriating because they do not deserve to feel this self important for one second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 02:10 AM
167

I read it as the 150k was a salary so therefore her wage. Unless salary meant allowance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 02:03 AM
75

As someone that likes nerds and sad bois because I always enjoyed their personalities. This has ruined all my dating attempts. Things were fine when I was young and just would be friends with them and talk about interesting shit. Try to date these men though and they will ruin you, take out everything that's ever happened to them on you, and once you've bolstered their ego for choosing them they will treat you like you're not good enough for them and were the one using them all along, when they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:57 AM
103

Yeah she's a victim of abuse. That tends to happen unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:28 AM
54

This is why I stopped reaching out to men on OLD right after I started on it. It was clear that they match with everyone and will message you if they're actually interested. Such a waste of time trying to message men when I had so many others initiating with me. That in itself was already overwhelming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:41 PM
51

Yeah I'm not interested in coupling after two weeks though. I'm most likely not going to die soon and I personally need way more time than that. I get you're making the point to counter the issue of men excusing having to decide to commit after a reasonable amount of time though. Just saying, both situations sound shit lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 04:52 PM
368

The blanket is still on the floor, just like her standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 01:08 PM
76

What kind of debt is this guy in when he has someone else paying most of his bills and can't afford one cake for a birthday... I mean I get if you're broke you don't get to have fancy cake, and growing up I always had homemade, but just seems odd that he went from doing well on his own to not even being able to scrape by when someone else is picking up the slack for him? Suspicious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:55 PM
28

Reminds me of getting gifts late for holidays because he had to "wait until he got paid". Didn't realize apparently people only get paid a day or two before each holiday with no other checks to save from 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:51 PM
46

Also, video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 01:42 PM
63

Yes and he's a self loathing self absorbed covert narcissist software engineer. He can barely take care of himself or manage daily activities, had me make phone calls for him, but to him his ilk truly are the elite members of society. If only everyone else would understand that he and Elon are really cool good guys, then they wouldn't have to destroy us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 02:48 AM
1

I wrote a paper on atheism when assigned the task of writing about a minority, and though my professor was taken aback when I informed her of my choice and many of the people in my (Midwest) class were religious and had some pretty off the wall negative assumptions that we talked through, I was still headed fairly. Can't say what will happen in your case but their job is not supposed to be to only grade you well if they agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 10:34 PM
23

My latest experience with an LVM culminated with my telling him his actions and attitude towards me led me to believe he was just sticking it out for the benefits I bring. Of course he came back at me saying "Why would I ever do that. I could get someone else easily if I wanted to" to which I replied that since in all aspects of life he is too unmotivated to do what needs to be done to improve a situation, why would he do so in this one? He promptly escalated the argument and halted any more rat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 06:22 PM
26

Men are simply not accountable for anything. If they don't use a condom it's still not their fault because they don't want it to be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 10:04 PM
102

Men will break their backs trying to explain how women aren't "objectively funny" meanwhile men make jokes mostly found funny only by other men. Hard to see outside of yourself when you are considered the default human and you think the other half of the population is "niche" in their humor and thinking. Couldn't agree with your point more. Their jokes are fucking awful and exhausting and how many times can one really find the thing humorous. It's like playing peek a boo with an infant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:31 PM
10

On the flip side I've dated a man who after the first few months of newness wore off effectively cut off any affection for me and only cuddled with/was affectionate to his cat, to where he'd talk about cuddling with her and napping when I wasn't there even though he'd never do that with me and would cuddle with/pet/hold her in front of me while I sat alone on the other end of the couch. She was clearly his outlet for this and if I wanted any myself he did not want or need it and started calling …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 07:25 PM
14

"Ackchyually you just haven't heard/read/tasted/seen/tried the right kind of x" write it on every man's gravestone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 06:44 PM
13

Yes the amount of time they spend doing underhanded shit that they will call you crazy for calling out and even suggesting they would be petty enough to do while also typically calling women the passive aggressive ones. Real pieces of work they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 06:37 PM
5

I really don't understand why not settling means you'll be alone. If there's one constant in life it's available men. No matter what there are plenty willing to spend their time with you. I'm not worried at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:08 PM
24

To be fair many are mentally ill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:24 PM
6

I have said this to exes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:40 PM
10

And maybe this isn't coming across correctly in my initial comment, but I agree with you that it is a problem to tell women they should fix men. I feel that given anyone that is a good influence can help others points to how that should not be a gendered statement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:05 PM
11

Well, yes really. Men can also be good influences, to women or to other men. It just isn't romanticized like it is for women, which is the problem. Everyone can do it but only women are told it is something they will be rewarded for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:55 PM
8

I mean sure sometimes a good influence will help to change someone's toxic behaviors, but that can be said of any person, not just women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:41 PM
5

He's totally going to commit financial abuse throughout the whole marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 09:52 AM
3

This is why you never support men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 09:44 AM
14

Thank you! More like a few hours during that day TBH. He's like a literal child in his mannerisms regarding partnership. Funny how that didn't come to light until after we moved in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 11:08 PM
26

My now ex recently was in a bad mood and getting frustrated while on his phone. I was just like well why don't you do something that makes you happy. He looks at me and points to his computer and says "That makes me happy but you won't let me." because it was the weekend and I had asked him to prioritize time together on weekends, which is why he was in a bad mood in the first place. This was right before he called me boring because "all I ever want to talk about are responsibilities." This man …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 11:02 PM
4

Absolutely. When they write the rules of behavior they are the only ones that will follow them "correctly".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 08:41 PM
11

My ex does that as well. He's the most sensitive man I've ever met yet has no problem mocking and ridiculing me, because it's different when I'm upset because I'm making up the things he does....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 02:00 PM
5

Yes! My ex then replies "I don't yell, I just have a loud voice. YOU are the one that's yelling. It's different." Moving out Wednesday. Thank God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 01:58 PM
5

My ex will frequently say something shitty and rude and when I point out how it was hurtful he'll just say "I didn't say any of that, you're putting that meaning behind it." As if anyone on the planet wouldn't know exactly what you were inferring, sir. "It was just a joke" FOH with that you gas lighting troll. He'll then become enraged and scream and try to drown me out when I don't just shut up and accept that I was mistaken and am being sensitive, because I'm just saying untrue things and he "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 01:56 PM
22

A rant: I was in a strictly casual relationship with a man for a couple years. I kept things very closed off for most of that time because I knew things would not work out regardless between us. It was fun and he was the perfect one night a week distraction. Towards the end when he stopped working for a year and I had moved past my life stressors he started getting more involved. I'm thinking "weird and probably a bad idea but whatever, it's fun and I need a break from life and we get along well…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 02:12 PM
5

Good sex is so rare and so wonderful. Damn shame it so often comes from subpar men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:31 AM
16

Thank you! Saw this on Instagram yesterday and had this same thought. Nothing wrong with admitting you were with someone for the sex. A lot of people have been there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:46 PM
11

Had a man who had been lurking all night grab my pussy while walking by me while I was dancing with another guy. I punched him in the head as my immediate reaction. He actually said "What?" And looked genuinely confused. There is no hope for men 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 07:29 PM
23

Oh my God the anxiety excuse! Need to be coached through every interaction or decision because "anxiety" but unwilling to seek help because they prefer to put all the legwork on you so they can blame you when you "don't handle their problem well enough" 🙃 Talk about entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:01 PM
4

Sent this thread to an ex. Thank you for calling this out. Perfection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:06 PM
10

Preach 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:18 PM
12

I'm going with yes. Most of my exes I'm friendly with or ambivalent to, but one... he was informed under no circumstances is he allowed to contact me again. No sneaking back into my life sir.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 08:47 PM
3

Just watched this again the other night. Cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 10:58 PM
3

I was getting heated until they finally brought it back around to the truth 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 10:56 PM
2

I've had quite a few that just do this for years but one in particular has been more odd than the rest. Was seeing a guy long distance for about 6 months (met in Chicago through OLD then realized he was only there visiting family and had just gone back into residency to switch specialties and was actually living in Kentucky for it) He's been emailing & texting me for years ever since I dumped him. He keeps adding me on insta and Snapchat. At first I would block him, but then he'd just add me aga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 10:42 PM
7

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:09 PM
34

They always have a reason their work is harder/more stressful. If I worked my ass off for years to get into a job that is easier when you dicked around and didn't I sure as hell don't have sympathy for you. I'm not rewarding your laziness with the ability to be even more lazy. I paid my dues and had all the housework on me at the time. Grow the fuck up and do half.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:20 AM
138

Fuck those so hard. I've told two of those men I'd rather eat sandwiches for dinner than ever clean up after their messy hobby like they're my child. "BuT I CoOkEd" Oh you got to play in the kitchen and not have a care in the world and feel the warm glow of praise for your brilliance while feeling guilt free about leaving me with a goddam bio hazard to deal with while you relax and rub your smug belly? Get. T. F. O.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 02:16 AM
27

Considering the sex isn't even ever good we really end up with nothing. They are more likely to have enjoyable sex than a woman is even though we have more opportunities for sex. Nice how they pretend that isn't a factor at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 08:58 PM
35

"It's just sex that likely won't even be enjoyable for you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 08:54 PM
3

Even when I'm fully honest about it and explain in detail the nature of the changes and just ask that they be more kind/considerate for a few days it's totally unacceptable to them. As if I don't have to do that for men all the time. As if when I get upset on my period it's not for something totally legitimate and the only difference in my reaction then is that my hormones are overriding my conditioning to shrug everything off instead of speaking up. Basically, "No I will not accept that for a f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:16 PM
20

I've put up with ADHD, bipolar, Asperger's, who knows what else. I get moody around my period and I better watch myself though 😑🙄🤬 Hypocrites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:49 PM
2

Well I've had a couple so far so I have my fingers crossed for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:09 PM
3

Lack of curvy figure (hip to waist ratio) Nose, Stretch marks, Slightly longer yet still blonde lower back hair, Breast size, Size of butt, Freckles, Fair skin, Hairs that are growing in again that stuck straight up at my part line because they're too short to lie down yet (seriously), Noticable veins under my eyes, Sparse eyebrows, Blonde eyelashes, Elbows, Toes, Head shape, Cheeks, Hair on butt, Nipples, Chin, Eyes, Dimples above butt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 03:55 AM
3

👏👏👏 Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:39 AM
5

Spot on! So many exes I could send this quote to...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 01:49 AM
27

Also meeting ones that are adept at PIV sex. Those are the ones I miss most. Ones that know how to read someone else's body language and can treat sex like a dance together rather than them just actively doing things to someone. It definitely does make me resent the vast majority of lazy detached men that either don't try, try by doing what they see in porn, or expect you to "tell them" what you want. That last group is doubly frustrating since they never can handle the truth. They half ass, get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:45 PM
17

I wish this were true. I've had a couple fantastic sex partners in my life, including my first. Great sex is out there, it's just rare statistically, which I think is even sadder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:36 PM
5

I agree. I think he already knows what he's doing and is hoping someone will fall for it. I very much doubt you letting him know you're not with this line of bs is going to make him try harder to trick women. He's just going to continue putting in as little effort as possible with as many women as possible in the hopes that he'll get lucky often enough to be sustainable. This way you at least get to tell him off and he knows you're grossed out by his behavior. The more women that treat these men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:27 AM
2

I'd suggest trying out the Meetup groups in your area. I've not done it myself but a few men I dated who had moved from a different country/city found them really helpful in creating a circle in their new town.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:36 PM
13

In my last live in relationship I was very clear about my preferences and expectations. He knew, among other things, that for me to be happy in a relationship and to consider it something sustainable long term (which he very much wanted) I needed a partner that was willing to keep our home at a reasonable level of cleanliness (which he witnessed at my own home and we discussed prior to move in). Guess how that went over? This and every other boundary of mine were thrown out the window. I'm certa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:50 PM
14

Using sex will likely fail since so many of them would rather continue their slovenly habits and either use porn or cheat or a combo of the two. They've already got you and if they're lazy and entitled enough to slack on the house they no doubt will do the same with sex. They feel they are being wronged when they are expected to choose between sex and laziness. How dare she withhold sex over something so petty! Obviously it's her with the control issues and lack of sex drive, so he will find ano…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:38 PM
6

It's such a lame cop out. I'll spell things out exactly and still they don't remember. It's never about whether they were told well enough. It's about whether they actually care enough to listen and remember or not, full stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:34 AM
1

Cannot agree more lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:28 PM
5

Exactly. To me, this reads as "I want a financially stable partner because money is necessary to live and be safe". Maybe there is a bit of exaggeration on her part but dammit I'm sure she's frustrated. It's warranted. Men always go straight for the most outlandish conclusion though. "You just want a millionaire sugar daddy you gold digger." It's the same garbage bs they pull when you get legitimately upset about something they did and they say "I'm just the worst you should leave me I'm awful."…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:13 PM
8

An ex of mine argued with me that it was wrong to carry one of those eye gouging keychains with me in case of rape because it was wrong to permanently blind someone. No amount of logical explanation got through to him. It was legitimately disturbing. Like I'm not going to accidentally use it on an innocent man. There is literally no other reason I'd be attacked besides something that is threatening to my life and safety. Men really do think their existence is more valuable than ours. Stay woke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:03 PM
2

Exactly. I dated one man who had no body odor at all. He was still a very clean person but he legit didn't need deodorant. And not in the "artsy natural hippy" sense. He was a type a surgeon who would come home from super long rotations in his residency with literally no odor. He'd still shower for obvious reasons but I've been close enough to know there was just no smell at all. I could never do this. I just stink. I wish I could forgo antiperspirant deodorant because I have to put it on after …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:53 PM
4

This. I was seeing one guy casually for a couple years who was the pinnacle of hygiene. We'd even talked (after we'd known each other a while and we're comfortable) about how he appreciated how clean I was too and that some women don't try that hard and how he didn't understand. He just was naturally that neat and thought it should be the norm. It was sadly one of the reasons I stayed with his damaged ass so long. Almost all other men I've known have devolved into greasy teens after becoming the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:47 PM
1

I mean, I'm glad that has worked for you and it is legitimately a bit uplifting, but I am very open about what I want and and expect but it's been mostly to no avail. I know logically there are men out there that are better, since I've been with them, but the pool I've experienced has been so subpar that it makes me rethink whether it's even worth it to keep trying. I've mostly been in relationships or at least dated around my whole life so for me the idea of being alone for a while isn't really…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:32 PM
6

The fake orgasms one is so pervasive. I didn't even know how ubiquitous this was until a few years ago when back in the dating scene. I had a couple really long term relationship during most of my adulthood with breaks in between filled with pretty solid amounts of short term flings. Cue to the last long term thing ending and I am finally able to try OLD out. Damn there were so many men that seemed legit confused and hurt that I wasn't cumming from the stuff they see in porn and that I didn't pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:20 PM
2

I usually just look at them with a quick look of disgust, like, "ew why is this subhuman creature in the same room as me" and that seems to help. Not a long hard angry stare or anything that lets them think I'm trying to engage or react to them. It has to come off as an involuntary response. As if your brain has it's gag reflex triggered just by catching this person looking at you. You aren't even dignifying their existence with a response. Reason being is so many enjoy any response even if it i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 03:03 PM
9

Ugh, how men like this can have the audacity to eye fuck you because they don't have the guts to just politely say hi if you happen to look their way to see if your interested is beyond me. Like, they have to know you notice them perving on you and one would think having that rejected would be more of a blow than you not engaging with them after a friendly greeting. Just smile and wave, don't stare into my soul. It's not that complicated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:56 PM
8

I get this all the time and it is not the same as staring off into space. They absolutely have a very different and creepy intense expression when staring at you. It's leering intently and being engaged, not disengaged and lost in thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:52 PM
4

"Enjoy the terrible one sided sexual experiences being thrown at you en masse while you can." Yeah at this point I choose being home alone over this crap, and I'm a very sexual person. It's been pretty hard to transition to this because I am missing something I enjoy but after all the disappointments I've had over the years I just can't anymore. I even can "take care of myself" as it were but men continually do not allow that by repeatedly trying to stop my rhythm or just taking over. They seem …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:47 PM
13

I think if they did meet a woman who they truly felt they wanted they'd go for it and they don't want to be completely alone but don't want to say this. Easier to string women along for company if instead of saying "You're not who I want." you say "It's not you, it's me." How their standards work I'm not sure of though. I prefer men not settle or try too hard to be in a relationship because of the pressure to be in one, like they did in previous generations. The problem I think we all notice is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:34 PM
126

"Die mad." 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:15 PM
65

I've gotten a couple but they were bordering on nonsensical. Creepy and sad for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:21 PM
15

I literally dated one of those men that was paid very well to hardly lifted a finger at work and didn't do much of anything at home. To his credit, he did cook for me and pay most of the joint bills, which is why I even was in the relationship. He definitely held it over my head though as if he was really willing to do a true 50/50 and move to cheaper housing, start eating frugally, stop going out to places I couldn't afford, and start doing half the housework. He would have never done this but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:00 PM
3

Yes! I read this article a while back and came away with the same feeling. I don't know if he truly thinks there is nothing wrong with letting the house devolve or thinks that it never got this bad or if he feels men are incapable of understanding that people don't like to live in filth and it's totally valid and if they're like me they made their standards known before they were then disappointed because the man lied about being in board, but you're right, it's never one stupid glass. It's a wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:44 PM
3

You should try to be healthier for you. You will feel better and by extension look better just because you feel better. It will improve your life regardless of whether a man is in it. It doesn't hurt to get tips or help on your appearance from friends/family/women working in beauty or retail stores. Most would enjoy giving advice on how to make you feel better about yourself. I am sure there are even groups in Reddit that help with these questions. Any person man or woman is helped by dressing a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:24 PM
3

I don't see this ending well. I've been in this situation multiple times as have friends of mine and nothing seems to work. I don't know if there actually are men out there who reliably want sex in a relationship at this point. It seems the only ones that do just want it because their partner doesn't want to give it up. Faced with a woman who enjoys it they end up complaining about that instead. I think they just like feeling victimized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:23 PM
10

I understood your point just fine. No language slip up IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:24 PM
25

Were they ever all that abundant? Lol. Sex for women has unfortunately mostly been not for our pleasure. A sad thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:08 AM
31

Exactly, it's an actual job if you want it done right. On top of that the woman looks pretty well manicured, which is going to be expensive and more time consuming. I'm good on putting forth all that effort for nothing. What have you done for me lately?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:51 PM
171

I'd need more than a ring for that. Give me a fat allowance and/or some bomb Earth shattering dick on top of it, then we can talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:08 PM
6

😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:47 PM
8

This happened to me the first time I had sex. Dude was a real Prince. Thankfully he was really small.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:48 AM
6

Physical touch is mine, but I don't bring it up on first dates. Definitely weirded me out being asked about this early on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:45 PM
39

All generations were jokes. This one though is losing it's stronghold so instead of all men being able to force women to do what they want all they can do is cry over the loss of power and take out the fact that they are no longer allowed to literally own us like Dad/Grandpa/all ancestors did on any woman willing to put up with it. I believe somewhere down the line men could be so far removed from the influence of having lost control they won't be so sadistic and cruel over this, but that's goin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:57 PM
12

Pretty much everyone enjoys eating. Men who complain about women not eating are so incredibly unaware. Like, you think she's not eating because it's fun? It's very easy to look like you're the fun girl that goes for burgers. You just have to deprive yourself whenever you're not with your man. Again, how men do not realize this is a thing is beyond me. Women are smaller and needed less calories. So expecting them to eat/not eat/stay thin/be healthy all at once. Jesus And her opinions on food have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:47 AM
22

I don't know if you meant to say boring twice, but I like it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:21 AM
17

I read previously something about the problem with therapy in abusive relationships because the abuser knows to act differently in front of the therapist and will not be honest, while the victim will. This ends up with the victim taking the blame because they are the only ones trying to actually solve the problem and own up to their flaws which allows the abuser to hold even more over them and the victim ends up believing they are more at fault themselves even. Apparently not a lot of therapists…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:05 AM
17

I can cum from sex and have had some very skilled partners but that is a small percentage of the total men I've been with. Knowing that men can be good sexual partners is so frustrating because if they just were self aware enough to try and learn and not get caught up in their "inexperience" and if women were appreciative so long as men were actually trying things would all be sorted out. However, this is the real world, so I totally understand why you are completely over having sex with men :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 04:17 AM
7

I'd add to that to advocate for and put your vote towards universal healthcare and a strong social safety net since so many struggle with mental or physical issues that lead them to these kinds of situations. Many need help to get to a place where they can achieve rather than put up with someone just to survive. Many others are not ever going to be able to so have to choose between poverty and settling. My own mother is in this boat. She has always had severe anxiety and depression and found out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:45 PM
8

The only time I could understand settling is if you're not doing well yourself and you're not in a place to where you can elevate your life on your own, be it due to circumstances or trauma or whatever. Not saying it's right or the best way to handle the situation, but really the only reason I could conceive of this. Just needing someone there as an emotional/financial crutch. Sadly I see this often on both ends, but at least I kind of get it. Settling just for the sake of reproduction though, o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:09 PM
8

On the flip side I usually date younger men or within a year or two older sometimes. I once dated a man 7 years older and he constantly was insecure about how I'd want someone younger than him. I swear men find any reason to be insecure lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:04 PM
3

You're welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:04 PM
16

He's doing about the same. Not great but not objectively any worse. I don't think my ex will ever get the karma coming to him for what he did to me. I've made peace with that and try to avoid dwelling on it as much as I can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:48 AM
2

Only answer to his question is remove yourself from any woman presence for the rest of your life. What a tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:18 AM
2

I assumed she was asking about the views of this sub. Or whether it is just bad in general... But maybe I'm mistaken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:01 AM
8

I'm not sure what the hair loss connection is? I've not heard this statement made. It's generally fine for anyone to masturbate, so long as it's not something that becomes compulsive, and if you're in a relationship it shouldn't come between you and your partner's intimacy. The stance against porn in this community is spelled out in one of their initial statements somewhere but I believe the general sense of it is that it's detrimental to women due to the dangerous and generally negative conditi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 08:52 AM
5

I believe this sub is only against the porn industry, at least from what I've seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:39 AM
25

Literally yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 07:26 AM
3

Yeah it's too bad some of us are so hard on ourselves that we end up in this position. I'm glad you were able to move past this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:40 AM
11

Well call me crazy but I can only climax in reverse cowgirl. Only being able to see his pale ashy spindly hairy legs and poorly maintained peeling cracked feet while he awkwardly keeps trying to grab me and control my rhythm while also thrusting out of sync, Pure 👏 Heaven 👏 Edit: Almost forgot to add the pleasure of him poking at your butthole with his dirty ragged fingernails. What could be better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:26 AM
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Yep. Since I am one of these women, as I've gotten older I started feeling less like these men are not aware of their neglect and inability to work towards improvement and more like they realize they are using women who are disadvantaged purely because they can. They're just selfish and only motivated to have their needs met. I'm sure there's quite a bit of self delusion going on for them to be able to so easily act in this manner, but our society is built on men not admitting their faults and m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:45 PM
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They also want to enforce the fact that they don't need to take care of themselves. (Everyone knows that's gay you know /s). No one brings up the fact that of course during sex it's harder for women to enjoy, not only because of the location of sensitivity of the anatomy, but because the placement of our anatomy itself doesn't allow us to see any "action". I shocked and disturbed my male friend and roommate when I told him not only men enjoy seeing what's going on down there. What? You think I j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:21 PM
8

While cheating is obviously "bad", the psychologist damage this does is real. I felt like a completely different person when I was in this situation before. If you're dating someone you have no intention of treating like a romantic partner that is sick and wrong and honestly I feel no compassion for them. It's not like women in these situations don't tell them what the (blatantly obvious) problem is. Trapping a woman into being your crutch/companion/caretaker by manipulating her care for you is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:13 PM
14

It's easy to accept someone else's flaws when you yourself are flawed. A lot of women who do this have unresolved issues of their own and from what I've seen it ends up with them trying to fix men to make them feel like they are accomplishing something because it's easier than being vulnerable enough to fix themselves. God knows none of those men are willing to help the women but they are all too willing to accept help from them, so long as they're not expected to actually improve. Would be love…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:59 PM
7

"ohnononono" https://youtu.be/NOaSdO5H91M
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:41 PM
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Oh my God the amount of times I've replied "So am I", and been met with shock, disbelief, and argument, far too high 😑 For anyone who follows astrology at all, this is one reason I keep liking Virgos 😂 The only issue is instead of ignoring your needs like most men they end up taking them so to heart that they develop a complex instead of just replacing the damn underwear and calling it a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 10:38 PM
3

Absolutely. I was trying to dance around that because she just seems to be misguided, but honestly now that you've said it plainly I think it is something that needs to be stressed since it has such a negative downstream effect. Thank you! 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:37 PM
3

The discharge! I had that for so long. They don't tell you about that, but then again they leave out basically all the information you need other than that it prevents pregnancy. And if you do bring it up to a doctor or medical professional they go straight to STI being at fault. Of course they needed to look into it, but the only time I was able to find anything out about this dude effect being from the IUD was via women's discussion boards online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 04:22 AM
1

Thank you. They are. I had to make some real concessions and unpleasant decisions, but after enough time it gets better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:40 PM
1

Thank you 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:22 PM
12

I feel that you might be onto something there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:13 AM
13

You're so far removed from the types of situations that lead into women being pressured/coerced into having a child you clearly have no insight. It's laughable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:50 AM
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I wish I'd been able to stand up for myself regarding this. It turned into years of worsening abuse and having him sabotage my life as a way of punishing me (literally told me I've not suffered enough in life and needed to learn, from him obviously) and even after we finally split (he threw me out and had the (main) woman he'd been cheating with there that same night and they then became an item) he still harassed, tormented, and punished me every chance he got. I was his default excuse for his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:48 AM
1

I've had an ex do this, multiple times, in increasing amounts🤦 Felt bad keeping the money but my friends rationalized I earned it for dealing with him so long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:46 PM
4

That is a valid reason for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:30 PM
14

This. I practiced this most of the time throughout my dating history, since I just trend more this way automatically. I rarely consider anyone important enough to get worked up over (when I do that's where I lose all footing, likely because I'm not used to it.). So many men fall all over themselves for me. So many accused me of being cold simply because I was not fawning and fretting over them before they gave me any reason to. They are both drawn to this behaviour like a moth to a flame and cur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:10 PM
6

Can't wait to trick her into being with me by making promises I'll fail to keep once she's committed, then gaslight her into thinking it's just her being "high maintenance".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:06 PM
8

So true, but even then I'm kind of over dealing with projects, even if they are self motivated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:22 PM
4

This was a hard thing to internalize for me. After being stuck in an abusive relationship very young I was able to really believe this though. A shame it to took such a horrible experience to instill this in me, but now it's a lot easier to just pull back when someone is obviously not going to see your point of view as valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:18 PM
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This is why those that can pay for sugar babies, and then ignorantly, or predatorily, try to convince these girls to somehow actually enjoy them for them. Dude, women your own age don't even want you. Why would a young attractive woman want you, barring severe "Daddy issues". Take better care of yourself. Be honest about your current mental state and how you treat women. Do some self improvement. If at the end of all of that your wife doesn't come around then maybe you'll find someone that does …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:14 PM
9

I dated one very successful man who was an extremely hard worker as far as education and his job went who actually was embarrassed at his lack of day to day knowledge. He was raised in a foreign country with a servant and a mindset that men, especially successful ones, didn't need to know these things, so just never had the opportunity. It is the only time I've been faced with a male who was actually interested in learning how to best do these skills, now that he had the the time and energy to d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:05 PM
15

I am skeptical of this whole situation as well. I don't follow celebrity culture enough to make an informed decision, but the small amount I've seen in my daily life about her and this situation make it hard to jump on the bandwagon. Leaving the Royal family seems like a pretty big decision and while it's very possible that it's something that he wanted for good reason, it just feels kind of icky. Typically women are told that if they are being isolated it's an abusive tactic, but in this case i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:56 PM
4

They're conditioned to think this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:42 PM
14

Exactly. I had feelings as well but as long as both of us played by the rules I was ok with the situation. He had real OCD/possibly spectrum tendencies and I was not realistically thinking would change, but then of course he couldn't help himself from bringing up inappropriate topics and talking about his difficulties with trying to handle his feelings and his indecision, plus his inability to handle my dating around at the time. It was inevitable that things would go this way. The strings were …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 02:49 AM
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As a woman who has been caught from something found on my phone, not for one second did I consider trying to put blame back on him for looking. I took the blame fully and apologized with zero caveats. Men know that it's not a valid argument to go off about their privacy, but so many women accept it because they are more remorseful than their male partners. Enough so that they somehow find looking in your cheating partner's phone worse than literally cheating. It's awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:39 PM
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The only no strings attached partner I had that was ever satisfying was actually very emotionally attached, but not emotionally capable of a relationship. It was almost good enough to be worth the many disappointing men and the difficulties the feelings brought to get it, almost. I had to make a strict no contact rule and be pretty mean to feel confident he'd not break it finally, because considering most are so bad, I do not want to risk getting caught in that trap again. So yeah, all in all th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:28 PM
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This is all over the place. I'm with him on "you can't buy love". I do appreciate that he's warning women, or anyone really, not to try to be too giving hoping it will "convince" someone to care. But he makes it clear he's entertaining these types of encounters while "in love". So he's also inadvertently announcing that even if you do find a man that feels he loves you, he might just go out and treat you like shit by allowing other women to woo him. It's an interesting cautionary tale at the ver…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 07:10 PM
11

This is only valid if he lets get know up front that this is the case, then let's her do/ask him to do anything and everything she wants/needs to try to finish before he "tries" to cum, considering for most men it is just easier due to anatomy and secondarily due to lack of open discussion/info/acceptance of women getting theirs. Obviously dude is awful and in the wrong regardless, but I've heard too many statements that are less obviously awful where the guy tries to claim "not my fault" when t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 07:02 PM
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Don't feel dumb about the kiss if it's what you wanted to do. You didn't lose anything be kissing someone you wanted to kiss. I do not believe that would have changed things much of at all one way or the other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 06:48 PM
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Same here. It really is a vicious cycle that you know some people exploit. Put in just enough effort to keep her guessing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 04:32 PM
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Having them tell you this with a straight face really is something else. You thought that would sound good why???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 04:31 PM
3

I'm so sad I can't comment on any of these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 03:54 PM
3

I do vaguely recall this. I wish there were more men out there like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 04:44 AM
9

👏👏👏🥺🙏👑 I'm saving this comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:45 PM
18

This is a great idea. I'll keep it in mind myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:25 PM
57

My God The guy should at least have the decency of cleaning off his own mess. Who would allow that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:18 PM
1

The first one it took a while, like a year or two. He had a hard time finishing and it was a lot of work that I was almost always up for, but at a certain point he just stopped wanting to go through all the work of it, plus I'm sure other issues, but I was the first long term partner he'd had so I think that's why things kept up as long as they did at first. The second one was pretty early on. I know I have a high sex drive so at first in the second one is was just more me trying to be proactive…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:54 PM
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I get why they wouldn't want to admit their addiction, I'm sure it makes them feel pathetic that they've fallen victim to this money making trap that has hijacked their ability to be sexual. Their pride is the only thing stopping them from getting over this. It's easier to blame the woman for not trying hard enough to fix some made up problem than it is to just say "I became addicted to this thing that was created to be addictive, and I'd like to get help." Knowing women I can't imagine more tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:15 PM
7

Yeah if I'd have known about it at the time I'm sure I would have either posted or at least perused for help. Just now I don't want to dredge up fresh wounds too much. It's great to have community for people because it's easy to say just walk away because it's best but faced with the same situation i still tried again. That's an awful shame about those two. It's like it doesn't matter what you say or do they will find a way to make it your fault in the end. One thing I will say about all of this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 05:54 PM
2

If you do still want to try it, let me give a bit of background info, I did this at my lowest weight, which was pretty small. I didn't have much fat for them to attach to, so on one side they actually froze part of my hip bone. That was what almost led me to pass out. The fat freezing part is painful, but the bone was the killer. It was pretty unpleasant after too, but in the end it did make a difference. I do wish I hadn't done it when I was so small though because if I'd been larger at the tim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 05:40 PM
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I'm sure they are trying to be helpful, it's just even seeing other people talk about it is a bit too much for me right now is all. It's still very fresh. That's interesting that you'd point out how soon after you'd be in the same situation. The second one for me I noticed there was possibly going to be a lack of sex drive on his end and made it very clear early on that this is a top priority for me and that I'm not interested in going through what I went through before and how much it hurt me. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 05:35 PM
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I agree. They've never found how to be stimulated other than by more and more obscene acts. Then when they try to have sex they don't know how to even enjoy it. There are so many ways to get enjoyment from sex besides the visual depravity on screen. You shouldn't need all that if you actually learned how to be in the moment and feel things. The reason porn has to become so gross is because all they have to work with is visual. These men have never truly experienced what sex feels like because th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 05:16 PM
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Yes as someone that has always had a soft spot for the underdog I've often ended up dating men that were more outcasts or teased or had issues of some sort growing up. I didn't want to exclude them just because of things that were in their past. I have found that this just ends up with me being their stand in therapist though. It's not a real equal partnership.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:51 PM
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I guess my point is I don't have a lot of hope for those situations and it is healthier for women to just drop it at the first sign of the things I've mentioned. I don't doubt the men I dealt with had true issues, but they should be solving them themselves. I get that you can put forth a great deal of effort and sometimes it can possibly work, but in the end usually that will not be the case. This group seems to be about self preservation and valuing yourself, so my point is this type of situati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:36 PM
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This is exactly my experience. Has happened twice now. They won't admit porn has any involvement in the situation. I feel they just want to stay exactly as they are and never intend to become involved sexual partners so just string women along telling them it will improve so that they don't have to be alone. They are so broken and unwilling to admit it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:19 PM
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This is complicated for me. I won't go on there because it hits too close to home after dealing with this twice, where my male partner was the one who stopped almost all sexual contact. Just my POV, trying to look good and being supportive and being there for them just didn't work. Both times they had emotional and sexual problems that I wasn't aware enough of until it was too late. However, of course, since they are men, they both were fully capable of using porn, but would claim it's "so hard …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 04:10 PM
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This resonates with me. I pretty much always bring the party. The most men really have ever done is finance it (pay for the dinner/movie/etc.). Interestingly, the one man who put in the most effort to entertain and pull his weight was by all other measures the biggest fuck boy (self proclaimed bachelor just wanting casual relationship but of course couldn't handle my being casual as well, leading to a lot of difficulty). Sadly this is the reason I stuck with that so long. No one else puts in tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 03:52 PM
3

Preach. I went the route of laser hair removal finally, not cheap. I had other reasons (propensity for ingrowns/cysts) besides just cosmetic, but obviously still this only exists because of the cosmetic aspect. I then tried coolsculpting, holy hell. I almost passed out. Some of the worst pain I've experienced. All for men who for the most part stop bothering to groom regularly once they have you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 05:17 AM
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Always the best response to this kind of comment. 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:33 PM
10

Not in the mood to go out I see? I got your all you can eat bread sticks right here 😇😜🍆💦🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:27 PM
16

No trip to Olive Garden on the company card for you then. Your loss 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:15 PM
6

No dinner at Olive Garden on the company card for you then. Your loss 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:14 PM
17

😂 Of course. "I stopped putting in effort with my wife because she's old news so she doesn't want to touch me anymore. You're new though so no worries I'll treat you right while I'm in town 😃"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:09 PM
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Not that women should have to do this, but a lot of us do spend a great deal on looking desirable, which a lot of men prefer, even if they say it's not necessary. No matter what if I'm going on a date with someone there is a much higher cost associated than for the man meeting with me. Honestly more than a lot of dinners. I don't think it's fair that I put in the effort and the cost to look the way I do and that I should be expected to pay for pizza. They saw what I look like before the date and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 03:34 PM
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I'm sure his wife "never pays him any attention at home" and he's "just trying to feel a connection with someone to help sustain him through this hard time". She might even have kids at home with her that he can blame her lack of sex drive on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 02:10 PM
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Wow this is so sadly true, and I live in WI. Having a youthful appearance has a dark side that isn't mentioned enough 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 01:56 PM
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I've not yet had a situation where this didn't happen, which has made me less interested in marriage or long term relationships over the years. I have tried to be open to opportunities and take dating for what it is and look for the lessons from it, but this aspect seems to remain true. I can't think of a worse way to spend my life than with someone that doesn't value me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 01:54 PM
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I had one tell me he was worried about when he gets older he'll no longer be desirable to me so he didn't want to get in that position where I (or any other woman) would leave him. Also however said that if he was ever to marry someone it would be in at least (pretty much exactly) 5 years (once he is sufficiently undesirable), and it would be to me. I made sure to let him know that he is not to be contacting me in 5 years, or ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:14 AM
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It's interactions like this that kept me from ever considering websites that allow any man who wants to to message you. Just the idea that someone I had zero interest in even gets to enjoy saying something like this to me is too much for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:06 AM
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Hoping you'll want to match or, even better, one up this kind of interaction. If other women are giving him this then I had better up my game!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:03 AM
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I doubt most of them would describe themselves as empaths and I think a fair amount of them do describe themselves as givers, but I feel it's mostly in situations like yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:45 PM
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Wow I skimmed right past the bisexuality aspect. I can't imagine the ways she's humiliated herself with him she'll no doubt eventually regret because of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:11 PM
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I personally would never go to a strip club with any man I was seriously interested in. I'm not interested in going with anyone in general, but considering the circles I run in I've been out and outvoted. I do find women attractive. I'm not opposed to possible experimentation in theory, but this is not the way. I'm not interested in being unpaid labor. I'm not interested in giving overly catered to men any more sexual gratification than they already have. There is no man deserving of this fantas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:02 PM
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I'm assuming you were calling the men braindead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:47 PM
8

Are they just trolling us at this point? Do they think women actually sound like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:04 PM
2

Wow, I've been saying this forever, love it. It's one of the reasons I hated Bumble and always discouraged female friends from it. It just made it easier for men to not try, making women talk to them first. I never approach men in public and once I started online dating I almost immediately realized what a waste it was to message a guy first. It's not like I was short on messages from men who actually were interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:09 AM
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Well put.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 01:01 AM
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