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1) I didn't think it was particularly confusing, either. 2) Sarcasm does not translate very well when it is not spoken aloud. 3) Let's just focus on women now
/r/seduction13/05/13 05:19 AM
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I'm not quite sure what you mean by that except to suggest that my comment was eloquently written, which it doesn't particularly seem to be
/r/seduction13/05/13 01:10 AM
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All how you frame it, just say something like "just because I can't drink doesn't mean I don't like to have fun with my friends"
/r/seduction13/05/13 12:23 AM
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I usually say something like "Hey, I'm talking, put that away." Most everyone seems a little surprised by the bluntness, sometimes I see their eyes light up in discovering I am not a doormat, sometimes they are a little offended that I called them out. I don't tend to find the latter group as interesting anyways, so it generally works for me.
/r/seduction10/05/13 10:54 PM
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American; I don't know that I've ever heard someone use shooter
/r/seduction19/04/13 11:15 PM
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This is the crux of MM: 1) be aloof/the center of attention, then when she is attracted 2) build rapport, 3) seduce. Don't overcomplicate it.
/r/seduction19/04/13 11:10 PM
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I've heard that when making associations to remember things, your brain will remember them the more sexual they are...eg, if you want to remember to buy cottage cheese on your way home from work, picture Mila Kunis bathing in cottage cheese and you won't be likely to forget. Sandy Cheeks is playing off of that, so nice work! Feel free to get even dirtier--you'll be able to remember more!
/r/seduction18/04/13 10:29 PM
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Some great advice in here. Additionally, two things to keep in mind: 1) use the three second rule if you have trouble working up the nerve to approach someone. Once you see someone, you have three seconds to approach. Otherwise you must cut your dick off. (there is no otherwise). 2) amp yourself up, and warm yourself up by talking to people you aren't trying to get with. Talk to the bartender, to the dude next to you ordering a drink, to the fat girl hanging out with her friends. Say hi, talk fo…
/r/seduction14/04/13 08:04 PM
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I think you need a greater sense of the "abundance mentality". When a guy has a greater handle on his actions, he will be attractive to girls that he will not be particularly attracted to, or at least not over the moon for. Hit on more than one girl at a time, and you will not automatically be interested in any girl that shows you interest, because you're not starved for attention, and you're able to pick. This will, in turn, help you be more outcome independent--you should have been more forwar…
/r/seduction09/04/13 03:28 AM
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Your social proof was near perfect, you were having a lot of fun, which is a good start...but you didn't escalate, you didn't seem to talk to her all that much even. Really solid game would have been initiating a longer conversation at the party, bantering and teasing and touching, making her qualify herself to you, and isolating her. She wanted you, maybe she does now still, but you had her and you waited. Being "aloof" at the party would have meant making your intentions clear but not letting …
/r/seduction09/04/13 02:08 AM
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This is the attitude you need. Assume nothing will ever happen and look elsewhere. What you are doing now isn't working, so no need to repeat it. She might warm up to you later, but try to seem not interested even when she shows you interest. Took me several iterations to realize that a little show of interest is just to keep you close, but not at the forefront. Fuck that, all or nothing.
/r/seduction29/03/13 03:06 AM
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Ah. Teasing has to be done very tactfully, sometimes I do it a little too much as well. The hard thing is too much will depend on the girl, and if she gets offended too quickly then she probably has lower self esteem than you thought--teasing works best with girls who know they're beautiful, because they know that you can't be serious. I forgot what exactly I said to repair this when it has happened, but it was something along the lines of "you know I'm not being serious, chill out". If you can …
/r/seduction28/03/13 01:57 PM
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Relax, have fun, and treat her like she's average looking. Wear a slight smirk like she has a big turd on her face.
/r/seduction28/03/13 07:44 AM
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Communication should be left to in person except for logistics until they already like you. If you're set on this, joke around a bit, but don't talk to her too much. Keep some mystery to you. That being said, there are a ton of women that are really close to you right now. Traveling to a different state in a month to see a girl you met over spring break sounds like locking in on one girl awful quickly without knowing her well. Just live in the moment, have fun, work out, play guitar, whatever.
/r/seduction28/03/13 07:41 AM
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Sure, but ice cream may not be the way to go. If you're thinking about someone too much, you aren't flirting with enough women, and you should do it in front of her. It will take a lot of conscious effort, but you can't show a oneitis that you're into her at all for a while if this has been going on for a while. Hang out with some friends at a bar, invite her, and own the room. Don't talk to her much until everyone is looking at you all glowy-eyed. Good luck.
/r/seduction28/03/13 07:34 AM
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That's why female friends are hard to gauge. If you were friends before you started reading about PU and then all of a sudden you have a drastic change in how you interact with girls, to her you are still the same old guy. It's true she was being flirtatious, but friends do that sometimes. You have to be crystal clear, because if you ask them to hang out, they don't know that they should expect anything more than that
/r/seduction14/01/13 04:47 AM
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I know you probably have stuff going on, so just curious when you think you will be able to get to the rest of the series. I'm anxious to read them
/r/seduction31/12/12 12:08 AM
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Your pros are good, I don't like your cons. 1) Her flirting with you gives you solid social proof. If you show enough interest in your targets and don't act like Kate's boyfriend, then this should only help you. 2) You don't need to tell her, just say you're going out to have some fun. Or tell her and just frame it as going out and having some fun. 3) Girls don't really need to be taught how to wing, because they don't need to act like a male wing. She'll attract the men so they shouldn't bother…
/r/seduction22/12/12 11:08 PM
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Really just the one way is all we're looking for
/r/seduction21/12/12 02:26 AM
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I see what you're saying here, it feels a little off, can't quite put my finger on it. The takeaway that is important, though, is to not be awkward about it afterwards. It's wasted energy, plus, it's funny to see their faces when they get confused as to why you aren't sniveling in the corner.
/r/seduction07/12/12 01:04 AM
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I'm actually the first combination of a psychoanalyst and psychiatric therapist. I guess that makes me an a-NAL-ra-pist (analrapist).
/r/seduction23/11/12 03:52 PM
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I haven't witnessed black Friday firsthand because I like to sleep, but judging from the fact that last year there were a few reportings of pepper spray usage in order to take an item from another customer, I think I understand that black Friday is full of people that are very, very rushed in an attempt to get everything off of their list. I think any pickup in the middle of the rush will be fighting a very uphill battle. Shopping in general seems like a good idea, or maybe talking to people lat…
/r/seduction20/11/12 06:58 AM
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Wow, that was extensive. Nice!
/r/seduction20/11/12 04:34 AM
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Watch the one with Cajun, he's the real deal
/r/seduction18/11/12 06:12 PM
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A lot of good contributions on this topic. I'd like to add this: often times, we're so wrapped up in worrying about what other people think about us that we forget most people are busy worrying about what everyone else thinks of them. If you have already been talking to a girl for a little bit and she didn't hate it, ceasing to talk will usually get her to try and fill in the gaps. If you assume you have to fill them in, you demonstrate lower value by needing to "entertain" the girl. If you don'…
/r/seduction16/11/12 04:37 AM
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That's kind of odd, maybe more information would help. My friends and I have been known to karaoke a little wildly, and it seems that I tend to build attraction that way, even though I am a terrible singer. The trick is to look like you're having the most fun and to try and get people involved (the latter works better in those private rooms, but when in front of a bunch of people, try and engage them somehow, if possible--clapping, dancing, something). This way you seem really fun to be around a…
/r/seduction11/11/12 11:26 PM
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It's fine, stop overthinking it and go say it
/r/seduction28/10/12 11:54 PM
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This is not the same thing as one of Style's opinion openers: it's not so specific that it's clearly a "PUA" technique. Tons of guys go around telling girls that they look cute, both PUAs and AFCs. What makes you different is how you deliver it. Also, sometimes you do everything right, and it still doesn't work out. Move on.
/r/seduction28/10/12 11:51 PM
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Solid dude. Don't have to wait too long, go ahead and set something up
/r/seduction17/10/12 03:18 AM
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Look up 5.0's videos on escalation from the Love Systems DVD "Beyond Words". He has a few things he shows about dancing. But really the key is to enjoy yourself and take charge. Can't find it streaming. You can probably find it as a torrent or something, or buy it.
/r/seduction05/10/12 05:12 AM
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You have my approval to do whatever the fuck you want, baby ;-)
/r/seduction03/10/12 02:19 AM
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Haha, no. Knowing it and not giving a shit about what they think is much more attractive than pretending you don't know it
/r/seduction03/10/12 01:01 AM
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If that's what you're saying, you should learn the song (Space Cowboy - Nsync)
/r/seduction02/10/12 07:07 PM
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What he said
/r/seduction02/10/12 07:01 PM
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A good Halloween costume sticks out, makes people laugh, and makes it easy for them to initiate a conversation with you. Which means: it is important to see your face. Don't pick that creepy costume if you want to hit on women. A friend of mine has dressed up in a banana suit for a couple of Halloweens. He's not a PUA, and a little on the timid side, but not on Halloween. He just goes crazy and dances, and everyone loves it. They cheer him on. Bonuses: Having a costume like a banana suit can bri…
/r/seduction02/10/12 08:47 AM
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That's a good point, you can be friends without being "friendzoned". A little of a delicate balance though
/r/seduction01/10/12 07:08 PM
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Sounds like you could have gotten more than that! Nice work though
/r/seduction01/10/12 01:00 AM
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Female friends can be cool, particularly for social proof if we're relating this to the game. The thing is, like 95% of my female friends are girls I started hitting on but fell into the dreaded "friend zone" by not being confident enough and other AFC bullshit. There are a few girls I became friends with without that whole process, but they are few and far between, and I tend to not be as close to them. As a man, I feel drawn to girls that, among other things, are visually stimulating. I don't …
/r/seduction01/10/12 12:48 AM
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As far as being a wingMAN goes, giving a guy room to do his thing is about the best you can hope for, otherwise you might steal his thunder a little. However, a wingwoman can be much more proactive. Basically, pretend like you are super interested in your wing, be flirty, touchy feely, etc. Particularly if you are attractive and dressed well, this will give him social proof and your display of interest will increase the interest other girls have
/r/seduction28/09/12 09:45 AM
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It's good that you didn't try and explain yourself, but I feel like admitting to not "fighting" it is sticking to her frame. Ideally, you would frame it so that that kind of flirting is the norm/not a big deal. She should be so lucky.
/r/seduction28/09/12 05:45 AM
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Unfortunately, I don't think there's a perfect solution to everything. It is annoying how money can mess up simple logistical things. It seems like you need to live outside of downtown, though, based on what you've said. So, when picking up girls, you'll have to either take a cab home, convince her to go back to her place, find a motel/other "seduction location", try and pick up girls closer to home, or some secret other option I haven't thought of. The point is, none of those is particularly id…
/r/seduction28/09/12 02:13 AM
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Good shit dude, keep it up. One note about karaoke: getting the courage to sing in one of those karaoke places is like overcoming AA, it may freak you out, but in the end you're only limiting yourself by the belief that you can't do it. I am an absolute terrible singer, and it took me a long, long time to be comfortable singing in front of other people. But i pressed through, and now, I'm the biggest mike hog in the room. Like anything else, the tone you set is how everyone perceives something. …
/r/seduction28/09/12 01:58 AM
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Depends how you respond. If you tense up and be like "SHIT! She found me out!" then it's probably not so good. But if you make it seem like not a big deal, and possibly respond with some sort of joke that teases her, then you should be in good shape.
/r/seduction28/09/12 01:44 AM
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You're right, it's definitely not the only option. I think OP's point, though, is that for those that have trouble moving from funny to sexy, sexual humor may be an easier stepping stone to building sexual tension. That being said, you definitely have to gauge what jokes are appropriate for what situations, but also remember however you deliver whatever you say, joke or not, has a huge impact on how it is received.
/r/seduction28/09/12 01:42 AM
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It's okay, you can try it for free! He may be a little too generous about how universal it is, but it's definitely a good strategy for building tension.
/r/seduction28/09/12 01:37 AM
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I love the analogy of thoughts to our senses and how they are not are own. Great stuff. Was just listening to Versetti talk about something similar, he said when he was trying to overcome negative thoughts, he would wear a rubber band on his wrist and snap it every time his brain tried to send a message regarding some avoidance of pain that he needed to reverse the way evolution taught is to think. That way, instead of "she might reject me and I will be the laughing stock of the tribe and unable…
/r/seduction28/09/12 01:29 AM
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I've been there. Something I find helps down the road is to be intentional about the way you interact--set the tone with the next one so that if you don't want that to happen again, it won't. Stay strong, have fun.
/r/seduction26/09/12 10:16 PM
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I'm not sure how long you dated or why you broke up, but I suspect that whatever reasons for the breakup back then probably still hold true. Exes are a tricky thing, and especially if you're feeling lonely/horny, they seem like an easy, viable option. But the two of you broke up, so unless there's been some drastic change (which I doubt there has) any relations you have, while fun, amount to backsliding, which is evidenced by the shell of a man you have reverted to. So put aside your short-term …
/r/seduction26/09/12 09:31 AM
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Some useful things for getting over AA (these may need to be altered a little when AA is no longer a big concern): Go to a party with the intention of hitting on girls, and keep your wits about you. It's fun to drink a lot of alcohol sometimes, but it's best that you hold off while trying to erase your AA. Use the three second rule. When you see a girl and make eye contact, you have three seconds to approach her, or she will think you are creepy. This also doesn't allow you the time to second gu…
/r/seduction26/09/12 09:22 AM
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Idk how expensive the whole getting-licensed thing is, but from what I've heard the time I went, the cost per jump dramatically falls once you are licensed. At the place I went to, it drops from $260 to $24 a jump. I believe they said you need like 50 jumps or something to be licensed, though, but don't quote me on that
/r/seduction25/09/12 10:39 PM
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Congrats for starting off well. It seems like you went in the right direction with your conversation, but you tried to settle for less. Opportunities like this are few and far between! And remember, the crux of this subreddit is self-improvement. If you "couldn't" get with a girl like that before, that doesn't mean you can't now, and you should sure as hell at least try! Failures are just learning opportunities. Keep on keepin' on. If you feel inclined to give the name of the model, btw, I sure …
/r/seduction25/09/12 12:11 PM
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Okay, I think with a few tweaks, you'll have an easier time than some of us. Women are attracted to the center of attention, the "alpha male", the social orchestrator, the man who validates other people (and not the other way around). You seem to do the majority of that already. The trick is to integrate into your conversational repertoire certain skills that will capitalize on the initial attraction that the "alpha" thing does. This means you should be very flirtatious, all the time. That is wh…
/r/seduction25/09/12 12:05 PM
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MFA can be useful, but they tend to cluster around a certain style, which not all of us appreciate. However, there are some useful lessons in there. As others have said, fit is really important. And above all, style is your own. So make it your own. Mystery was a big proponent of "peacock theory" and sticking out of the crowd, and I've heard other people attest to this. I try it a little bit, but not to the extent of some others. I have a cool Native American piece I wear around my neck, it's un…
/r/seduction25/09/12 11:49 AM
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I had a similar experience to this recently. I became too focused on "having fun" and demonstrating social proof that I forgot to go back to a girl I had been talking to. And I did have a lot of fun, but I would have preferred my night had included a k or # close from that girl. In the end, it's good to remember why it's helpful to have fun: it increases your social proof, it makes you outcome independent, etc. Think first about having fun, but don't forget about why else you are there. My socia…
/r/seduction24/09/12 04:19 AM
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That's what she said. Could be it's false, and it was an excuse to say no. Or, if it's true, she probably has a lot of trouble trusting people or is super clingy or something, in which case you may want to avoid her anyways.
/r/seduction24/09/12 04:11 AM
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The "bros before hoes" rule is what should keep your friend from stealing girls you talk to. It should not keep you from being upset that he stole a girl from you
/r/seduction24/09/12 04:03 AM
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I put the "sensual" in "nonconsensual".
/r/seduction19/09/12 07:59 PM
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You had a rough night, but I think it was super impressive for you to go and keep talking to people, especially after not doing much in high school. Most people warm up and talk to some random people to get them in state and ready to talk to people as outgoing as they can be. You just had a string of rejections and kept moving. Props for that. Things don't get amazing right away, but you have shown you can keep pressing on. So keep on approaching and learning and improving and before you know it…
/r/seduction17/09/12 03:00 AM
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Overall, I think your attitude is a bit too deferential. You are not lucky to sit with her, she is lucky to sit with you. Don't be arrogant, but when you ask if you can sit with her, you have to act like you know she's going to say yes. Otherwise she feels like she has a greater ability to say no, and she probably will if your delivery is the way most people would say "sorry to bother you..." and such things.
/r/seduction17/09/12 02:33 AM
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This may have something to do with who is smiling and who isn't--smiling isn't like a golden ticket into a girl's heart (or pants) if you don't back it up with other things, eg confidence. If the stoic guys seemed more sure of themselves, then they may very well have had more luck. That being said, smiling is definitely something you should be doing. I can't tell you how often girls have told me that they really find smiles attractive. One of my friends dated her last boyfriend, who was not very…
/r/seduction14/09/12 11:03 PM
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The memory thing is good. I've read that if you do something that involves a rush of adrenaline (eg, stealing something from a bar, skydiving) the person will equate that rush with you, even though they got it from doing the activity and not from being around you. Obviously, some things are more practical than others (although one of these days I think it would be funny to try skydiving as a first date) but I think it's helpful to keep in mind.
/r/seduction14/09/12 10:57 PM
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I was watching a Love Systems video and I saw 5.0 and Cajun talk about a nice mindset to be in to check in where you are. Not really a compliance test, but a useful tool for beginners: The gay-bar IOI. If you were at a gay bar and were talking to a gay guy, would you be doing what the girl you're talking to is doing? If yes, then you're at square one. If no, then she probably likes you. I like this because it helps me get out of my head and not over analyze the situation. Abundance mentality hel…
/r/seduction14/09/12 10:24 PM
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If that's your most embarrassing night, count yourself lucky. Also, important note for future, similar situations--your reaction to such an event sets the tone for how they treat it. Thankfully they seemed pretty cool about it, so not too bad--but if you are too apologetic, you make it seem like too big a deal. If you kind of dismiss it, treat it like a molehill instead of a mountain, that will frame how they think about it, too.
/r/seduction09/09/12 09:43 AM
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As other people have mentioned, you are not describing introversion, but shyness/social anxiety/what have you. Introverts recharge their emotional energy by being alone, while extroverts recharge their emotional energy by being around people. Now that that is clarified, I am an introvert that used to be the shyest mother fucker around. Not kidding. I could not start a conversation for the LIFE of me. It takes a bit of effort to get over this, over time, but you can do it. I'm not sure what exact…
/r/seduction05/09/12 06:15 PM
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Haha. "Can't you move it?" But hey, if she wants to come over, it doesn't really matter a whole lot what the reason is
/r/seduction27/08/12 02:28 AM
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I agree with this completely. I'd just like to add that this shouldn't be an excuse people use to not have fun--a friend of mine spends so much time trying to find the right spot to have fun that he never relaxes and has a good time. And that's not what you want
/r/seduction27/08/12 02:11 AM
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That was worded a little weirdly, haha, but also a valid point
/r/seduction26/08/12 11:44 PM
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Okay, so look up those lists I mentioned
/r/seduction26/08/12 08:23 PM
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Read the sidebar, it pretty much breaks down a curriculum for you
/r/seduction26/08/12 06:48 PM
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Attraction varies from guy to guy, but in general you can count on the general trend that slimmer girls will get more attention. While you may find a guy at least marginally more attractive because of his wealth, men don't factor that into how attractive someone is AT ALL. If money is a consideration, which it rarely/never is, it is purely a conscious thought, most likely with the intention of using a girl for her money. Long term attraction starts with, first and foremost, physical attraction. …
/r/seduction26/08/12 06:47 PM
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There are plenty of dates you can go on that don't involve money/very little money. If you're sure she's into you then you can get away with a little bit more (eg coffee is more acceptable) but I'd still say try something fun and lighthearted. One of the best ideas I have heard was to go to an open house (to buy a house) and pretend to be a couple interested in buying it. It allows you to be playful and Kino is a must (you should walk around the house with arms locked as you call her honey). Oth…
/r/seduction26/08/12 06:40 PM
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Your friends hit on girls you hit on? I try and keep these two groups separate
/r/seduction26/08/12 09:58 AM
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That sucks, I hate when friends bail. I would encourage you to not let something like that inhibit you too much though. I let myself make excuses over stuff like that sometimes, and maybe I have a semi valid point, but it's best to just not let yourself make excuses. Don't have any social proof? Go make your own
/r/seduction25/08/12 10:32 PM
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Have you ever had more than one girl show up?
/r/seduction25/08/12 10:24 PM
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Its funny, because this guy utilizes some tricks of the trade I've learned on seddit: -whenever possible, tell a girl the time and place you are meeting, don't ask (be in control) -don't be intimidated by pauses, don't feel obligated to fill them (show you are comfortable in your skin, add some sensuality when possible) -change locations, if possible take her on an errand--she'll feel like she's a part of your everyday life (establishing comfort) -utilize a time constraint to make seeing your pl…
/r/seduction24/08/12 08:46 AM
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Lol, I guess that does sound fairly assclowny. I only meant to encourage people to jump in the pool instead of sticking a toe in.
/r/seduction24/08/12 06:14 AM
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Glad to hear it. Try your best to just get out there and make mistakes when necessary, too many people waste away their high school days not doing anything because of some stupid social boundaries. Don't fall into that trap this year, make us proud.
/r/seduction24/08/12 12:57 AM
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It's easier to dress up as a guy than as a girl, because the average guy puts a lot less effort into looking good than the average girl. Therefore, with a smaller amount of effort, you can stand out. Check out r/mfa as puaCurveBall said. One of the most important elements of style is fit. Jeans can look really nice depending if they fit you well or not. MFA likes Levis a lot, particularly the 511s I think. I have a pair of those, and the 514s. They're a decent denim, and the fit (for me, at leas…
/r/seduction24/08/12 12:08 AM
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You answered your own question. It doesn't matter, so why do you need to know? Look up some canned routines if you can't think of anything to say. But just say something.
/r/seduction23/08/12 11:56 PM
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Honestly, just check out other FRs and discussions on here if you want success. If you want the thrill of doing something crazy, that's one thing, but if you want success with the ladies, I'd say just look at what's already here.
/r/seduction23/08/12 11:51 PM
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Welcome to seddit. Notice how at the top it says read the side bar? Do that. I'll mention a few things, but you really need to read it. Most of us have been there, (and that's why we're here) but now it's time to leave the insecure days behind and get your shit together. You're too available is the main issue here, in more ways than one. If she doesn't text you back, don't keep texting her. You give her all the power by showing her you're desperate and that this doesn't happen often. If you set …
/r/seduction23/08/12 11:49 PM
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I wish, I WISH I could go back to high school knowing what I know now. Alright: In high school, everyone makes a bigger deal about who's "cool" and who's not than most places you will find. It's too cliquey, but that's only because you let those boundaries get to you. You are below no one. So be friendly with EVERYONE, and you will be able to jump between groups as you see fit. High school can be a good place to snag a hot girl a little easier than in college and beyond. In high school girls dea…
/r/seduction23/08/12 11:33 PM
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That makes sense. So how do you deal with multiple people at a bar or something that you have rapport with? Just try and find a dark corner if you want to k-close?
/r/seduction23/08/12 11:20 PM
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Hah, maybe I just notice it more when people say that because I'm not skinny. I guess I saw it more in high school, idk. But hey, act like it doesn't make a difference, and for the most part, it won't. Also, enjoy that diet man, jealousss. I have to be super careful about what I eat, there's genetic weight issues on both sides of my family
/r/seduction23/08/12 11:17 PM
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Dude, that seemed pretty solid until you didn't show them how it's done. You'll get 'em next time.
/r/seduction23/08/12 10:30 PM
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Have her go out with you to a bar. A hot girl hanging out with you that thinks you're cool will help give you a lot of social proof. Also, not that you should be hung up on her, definitely assume nothing will ever happen--but in the event that her boyfriend and her break up, if you've been laid back and talking to other girls around her, who knows, maybe she'll take a liking. But primarily do this for reason 1.
/r/seduction23/08/12 10:26 PM
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Baby steps are good. If you aren't used to getting any numbers, than one number is an improvement--as they say, no matter how slow you're going, you're lapping everybody on the couch. As for your attitude about tanning salon girl--not a fan. If you expect this, you will have a hard time coming across as a fun, playful guy with confidence. Instead, you should be outcome independent--you are not affected by how people react to you. You are the shit, you think hey, she seems like a cool girl, I'll …
/r/seduction23/08/12 10:02 PM
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Perhaps. Except I do have other things that day, heh
/r/seduction23/08/12 08:08 PM
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Good advice in this thread, don't let her saying that upset you. It's also a chance to throw in a playful comment if you want--someone told me this today actually , I said something like "no worries, I've got other things to do, too! ;-)" then not only are you showing you aren't phased by what she said, but you flipped it on its head--now instead of feeling like she might have to convince you she has to leave, she might have to convince you to stay
/r/seduction23/08/12 06:37 PM
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Congrats on the progress, keep up the good work! Something that helped me to reduce AA is to practice talking to people at places where you're supposed to. Going to a club meeting is a great place at a university to help facilitate this, because you're supposed to be meeting people. This may not be as readily available depending on where you go to school, but I've also found that going to networking functions is helpful. There's a lot of relatively young professionals that are there to meet peop…
/r/seduction23/08/12 06:31 PM
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Women's taste for good physique vary a little. Of course there may be the rare chubby chaser, but in general, I've noticed women prefer a few different types of things. Some like really lanky guys--although I often see that paired with guys that wear skinny jeans and go to punk shows. Some women like the football player kind of body. But what I see most is women attracted to the soccer/swimmer type of body--being overly bulky is a bit much for some of them, and so they prefer someone healthy and…
/r/seduction23/08/12 06:21 PM
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What this guy said, exactly.
/r/seduction21/08/12 04:42 AM
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If someone is in the middle of a workout, I'd say don't bother them. Like you said, it would annoy you. If they're walking around, smile and be helpful, but don't do too much overt flirting unless you get a positive response first--otherwise she can report you and you can lose your job. And jobs are important.
/r/seduction21/08/12 04:22 AM
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If you're not attracted to her, then no. Don't waste your time with people you don't have any inclination towards. Also, I would say her response is negative. If she doesn't want you to touch her, then 99.99% of the time, she doesn't like you.
/r/seduction21/08/12 04:19 AM
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It's easy to make rejection a big deal when you don't talk to girls much--it makes up such a large portion of your experience up to this point that it can eat at you. Just keep talking to girls and this will be easily forgotten. Also, try and work on your AA...if that girl recognized you on the train, she was probably a little off-put that you waited so long--this mainly just works in romantic comedies. Try and get to the point that you talk to someone you are attracted to within a few seconds o…
/r/seduction17/08/12 07:44 AM
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Couple notes: In college, no one cares about how popular you were in high school. Sounds like you won't have too much trouble making friends, just don't act like you're entitled to the same treatment. Contrary to popular belief, it isn't that difficult to tell if a girl likes you in 95% of cases. If her body language is responding positively to you when you flirt with her, then she's attracted to you. If not, then probably not. The best thing you can do at the beginning is talk to everyone. Meet…
/r/seduction12/08/12 07:16 PM
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Approach Anxiety. There's a glossary in the sidebar.
/r/seduction08/08/12 07:34 AM
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Eh, no one follows the Geneva convention anymore anyways
/r/seduction08/08/12 01:40 AM
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