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Courtjdprime/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 10:53 AM
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Getting Startedjdprime/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 02:12 PM
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Getting Startedjdprime/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 04:10 PM
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Courtjdprime/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 09:09 PM
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I am noticing changes. I really think I pulled in on myself over the years and shut down little by little to keep the peace. And would you know it she attacked me as if it’s all my fault. So you’re giving me hope.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 12:51 AM
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I would like to know that as well. I got divorced last month and she is still looking for a place to move into. Soon she will be out. I hope to lose some weight.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 12:47 AM
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I took pictures down in the house and I deleted all pictures from the phone camera roll onto an encrypted external hard drive and deleted the ex from the camera roll. No need to keep her there. I am not a big social media user but I am also not going through that to clear out anything I did put in there. And the best part, the PITA is still living here causing me trouble while house hunting. The judgment gave her 4 months to secure a place and move.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 01:49 PM
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What is the state laws, what did your lawyer say, can she be forced to bring them back?
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 10:50 PM
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I managed to build a solid divorce settlement that the ex agreed to. Went to court and judge signed. I built a machine with my lawyer to run incase I was falling apart. Once she signed an agreement, I kept a low profile until court. 3 June it was granted. She is now looking for a place to move to. So I am keep a low profile and redesigning the living room, basement and bedroom using AI to my tastes. It’s been telling to see home much of myself was overridden by my ex. What’s coming out is my tru…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 10:49 PM
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Your situation is almost a mirror to mine. I have her 120 days but she is motivated to leave. The 120 days was to balance out some other things I wanted and eliminate FOC.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 12:40 AM
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I put it so I would not have to waste time with the courts going through eviction. This is the eviction notice and I just go back to the lawyer if she is not out and they take it from there.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 10:44 PM
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I feel you on that. Intimacy was treated as an unwanted chore and then withheld or strung along for days before laying a guilt trip and pushing away. It’s one thing I won’t miss. I hope you find peace and recovery. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 10:12 PM
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You are 100% on that. I am just taking it one day at a time and once she is out, I expect a rough patch because the one who both hurts and soothes my nervous system is no longer present and I am adjusting to life on my own.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 10:10 PM
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It was less than 5 minutes and 6 questions. It’s over and now I start the process of getting her out. She has a ticking clock to be out by. I had it in the judgment so there is teeth. Now there are a million loose ends to tie up that were waiting on the judgment. May yours be as smooth. Because it was uncontested I was dropped from 6 months to two months. She did not even need to show up.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 10:07 PM
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Tonight, I’ll raise a toast to the both of us being successful in court and in our new lives.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 11:25 AM
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Thank you brother. I am re-orienting my mind and energy to detox her out of my system and move on. She found out since it’s uncontested she does not need to show up. So I go alone to put in the work while she continues with her sunshine and rainbows life. Wait until all that machinery behind the curtain that I tried to teach her about over the years needs some upkeep. My phone will be silenced.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 11:19 AM
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She is not being nice. Her only care is herself. You are the responsible one, the one who keeps things running and solves the problems. Of course she is going to try and keep you doing that. As long as you allow her into your space it will always be a problem. Mine cheated on me and the divorce is almost completed. She wants all of the fun and good times without the responsibility or effort to make it happen. I apparently wasn’t providing what she wanted so 30 years down the drain. I blame the G…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 10:27 AM
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She may know the laws. I am looking for how it’s perceived. Especially since I was the only one with a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 10:25 PM
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under no circumstances do you move out of the marital home until ordered by the courts. Get a lawyer and shoot for an amicable divorce if possible.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 05:48 PM
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Just going to add to this. Try to determine how much of marital funds she spent on him. Some states allow you to get that money back. Could be off set against any assets she gets. For example, she spends 10K to take him on vacation, the judge may decide that’s 10K less on home equity you have to pay her. A lawyer and forensic accountant can definitely help if you suspect she has been spending money on him or even hiding money.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 11:16 PM
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We truly are not even fighting. Just look at options and seeing how others have handled this. Our teen definitely will have input. We are parting on good terms and nothing is being argued so that’s a plus for now. At best we have arrived at no clue what’s best so the three of us will figure it out as we go. Most likely will start with one week and adjust as needed.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 11:37 PM
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It’s a process. Call three attorneys and explain things to them and see what they have to say. Consults are usually free. I would expect all three answers to be the same do you. This is not the time to just hide your head in the sand. Lawyer up and do not let your enemy draft your plans. I guarantee she is hoping you do just as you keep saying you will do. Don’t believe me. Go look up your local divorce filings. It’s all public record.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 10:10 PM
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If you don’t show up or fight for yourself, the court is likely to grant her the entire kingdom. Get a lawyer. If no other reason than to have them look over the judgement/settlement. I would bet she is using a lawyer already.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 10:07 PM
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Thanks for the input. Divorce is amicable and we are just exploring custody arrangements.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 10:03 PM
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It’s a balancing act. I plan to see how my child reacts and adjust the split custody schedule based on that.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 01:10 PM
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Much as I will miss my kid. They are a teenager so it’s basically the stage of I don’t to really hang out with you. My adult child will come and go as they please depending on preferences and college schedule and house proximity to campus once the divorce is complete.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 01:09 PM
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100% this! Remarriage means if you pass away, your spouse gets everything you worked to build/rebuild and can spend it all on herself and her children or contest in court and take the estate if a will is present. Either way, your children/family can lose all you worked to build.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 01:35 PM
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Keep that in your pocket. Especially if you can prove she spent marital funds on trips and gifts for him. You can try to claim that back or use it to stop her from over reaching. Put all evidence on encrypted drives and on a thumb drive and place in your desk at work or somewhere safe.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 10:50 AM
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Who ever said cheaters never win was never married. My STBX cheated and gets to walk away with a nice payout as well. It should be zero for cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 09:57 AM
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Can I get a t-shirt?
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/26 10:16 AM
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Make sure you record dates and times and length she takes the kids and keeps them from you. You lawyer can advise on how to record these incidents. Let her behavior be her undoing, especially when it comes to custody agreements. If she does this, what prevents her from keeping the kids from you after divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 05:09 PM
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Do not leave the home. Leaving equals abandoning the home and family in the courts eyes and you sink any chance you have in your divorce case. Either a court order sends you out of the home or you live in your home and sleep in your bed. If wants the divorce she can go sleep in another room or leave the home. Ask your lawyer what the protocol is for when she try’s to take the kid and cut you off for days as she stays at her partners. Also, get an Apple Watch or smart watch that with the voice me…
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 11:18 AM
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It’s starts small and grows. Before you know the elder men(those that survived and reached the other side of divorce) are starting groups and knowledge is shared. The reason there is so much support for women is that they share knowledge and get to together to consolidate. Men not so much and we need to change it. I am only starting my divorce so I feel you on the lack of supports.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 01:50 PM
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There is a guy named Robbie I found on the meet up app. He created a support group base on his experience of not having support when he needed it most. It’s called: Men’s Divorce Support: Thriving to Surviving
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 01:31 PM
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Seems Hallmark Channel strikes again. Most of what she tells me could come straight from any one of their movies. Can’t tell them you forget the struggles when sitting comfortably on the path to success. Stop romanticizing the we were better when we had noting scripts. I guarantee she would not be happy if we had noting scripts. I guarantee she would bail faster if we had nothing. Like those movies, they show success and then make it magically fixed in under 30 minutes. It seems we are just ther…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/26 03:56 PM
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I am just getting started. Mine dropped the I am done speech on me. We were in marriage counseling, it went in a few sessions from I am committed to reconnecting and rebuilding to I am always feeling attacked and I can never do anything right and you are inflexible and make me nervous in social settings. I know I can be inflexible at times, it’s how you build a life and retirement. I know I have a more gallows burner mixed with health sarcasm and can be a bit confusing to the more average humor.…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/26 11:55 AM
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AI is a good tool for organizing thoughts and polishing language. But I also tell my children, it’s a tool. You better know the subject you are working with or at least researched a basic understanding because the AI will get a lot of things wrong and you need to be able to identify and correct. I am currently using it to tighten up my divorce settlement language before I give it to a lawyer. It gives some awful suggestions but an also pull decent references to look into and others things it doe…
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 12:18 PM
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I hope you come out better on the other side. I am going to start going to local activities and see what social events are there to just get out. Not interested in dating. Just a place to let off steam. Perhaps a cheap set of clubs and I’ll take up golf.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 11:37 PM
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I am sure she feels the same way. The rift had been growing, I was just blind to it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 11:34 PM
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Sound advice. Stabilizing first. Then figure out what’s next.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 11:33 PM
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Vacations will be more fun, I can do some of the more adventurous things with the kids she would not allow.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 10:07 PM
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Probably won’t work for us. I can do it, tight margins but I can do it. Not a very handy guy but I don’t mess with plumbing and electrical. But can do most of the small repairs my self.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 10:06 PM
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I am seeing the piles of junk and clothing everywhere, so I feel you on that. I know either of use could keep the house on a tight margin and it would be great for the kids. One in university and the other finishing middle school next year. Plus there are a lot of great reasons to keep the house rather than move to an apartment or downsize a bit. So I just have to get stable enough to really crunch numbers and see where things shake out.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 10:04 PM
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I know what you mean about chat gpt, I use it to journal some other stuff I am having issue with. I’ll be tuning up more chats for divorce now.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 10:00 PM
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It most likely did. I met her right out of high school and have been with her for 30 years. So I did not for an identity on my own in my 20’s.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 08:25 PM
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Your novel really helps. I will work to pay down my debt so I come out low to zero. Fortunately it sounds like it will be uncontested. I guess keeping us evenly matched in everything has one silver lining. Nothing to take except for the house and splitting furnishings.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 08:23 PM
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It just sucks coming later in life. I wanted to coast the last decade into retirement and start living life free of the clock. Not looking so rosy now. I know I will survive, but the path is starting out rough.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 08:17 PM
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New normal will be several months out. Still have to get the divorce filed and then into separate houses after the judgment for divorce is signed
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 04:07 PM
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For sure. But I will have to rediscover that part of me. It fell into disrepair over the last few years.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 04:06 PM
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I feel you there. I am trying not to think to far ahead. There really needs to be more divorce support groups for men.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 03:25 PM
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Friends group is pretty destroyed for me now. Over the last few years of this rift growing, I became more of a home body and isolated down to a few close friends. Now I will have to figure out who I am and that’s also scary while being a father at the same time.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 03:23 PM
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Did stabilizing through the divorce and afterwards look better in practice than on paper?
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 02:41 PM
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I guess I am looking for success stories. This is ground zero for me and I don’t know how it’s going to go.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 02:41 PM
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It’s already. We have a family cruise scheduled in January. Not sure how that will go. I was going to reconcile thinking maybe it’s menopause and we grew apart. But that’s off the table. Marriage counseling is scheduled in two weeks. So I’ll use that to just stabilize the ground so I don’t scorch it. Going to be a wild ride, whether I confront her or not. Just waiting for the lawyers input. Therapist say confront so it stops tearing me apart. Plus if being exactly equal right down to the penny, …
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 12:37 AM
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I am not denying support. In fact by the calculator since we are even in all aspects. She would owe me a a few hundred a month. My offer removes that and is 100% fair. It’s a perfect 50/50 split.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 09:04 PM
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I am not denying support. In fact by the calculator since we are even in all aspects. Shoe would owe me a a few hundred a month. My offer removes that and is 100% fair. It’s a perfect 50/50 split.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 09:03 PM
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I will have that answer once I confront her. I have seem emotional breaks over the last two weeks that tells me something is off and it’s been months since shine have been able to see him. Being separated by a few states. But I am also prepped for the worse. My lawyer already know about the reason for filing and to day I messaged her about confrontation, I don’t want to approach in a way that she say it’s over and now you are extorting me or something else. Plus is ammunition in a no fault state…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 09:30 PM
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Having slept on things, I am just going to see what the lawyer has to say. I at least was thinking. Clearly there and retained on the day after I found out
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 11:06 AM
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I follow. But I feel she won’t admit, so in a divorce, it’s a real good piece of ammo to make her sign a fair settlement that does not hurt either of us and prevents her from going after child support changes later. I am willing to work things out if it’s an online I feel alive again but nothing more. But instinct tells me otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 11:02 AM
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I am sure I will start to see more clearly as the few emotions settle but for now, this is what the heart seems to want and I at least want to try and get some closure one way or another.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 01:57 AM
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I appreciate the insight. My letters have conveyed what’s in my heart and now the conversation needs to take place. I am thinking of letting her confess and if not then divorce goes through with out bringing up so we can split as amicable as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 01:55 AM
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Thank you. The two letters have said all I need them to say about how I feel. Now the conversation of moving for dad’s and how it will look need to happen. If not, I was planning to confront in a few days but I may just let it go and have the divorce proceed as amicably as possible
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 01:52 AM
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That is a truth but I also believe that just because it’s broken that it cannot be repaired. Not unless it’s truly broken beyond repair and counseling is a great way to explore that if she is willing to go
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 01:50 AM
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Thank you for that. I still want to try. I am dealing with her infidelity and a trauma that has had a part in us getting to this point. Even still I would never cross the lines she has crossed.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 01:48 AM
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I have been using chat gpt to create check lists, pros and cons of actions both personal and legal as well and looking at future effects of current actions. For example, what would reconciliation look like for me if the other spouses affair was online only vs physically sexual The AI generated all sorts of useful information and I could tell it to make changes as needed and regenerate the check lists, letters or documents for download to my computer. It really is a great tool.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/25 02:09 AM
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If you can keep the place and it’s a good local and rent reset then try to do so. Just make sure the emotional toll is something you can get through. I will be in the same boat as you literally on the same time line. If you ever want to vent or a sanity check feel free to PM me
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/25 04:24 PM
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This hits hard. I just filed last week and am waiting for her to get served. It will be an uncontested divorce. Get a lawyer and let them work for you. It’s usually only a couple grand but, the lawyer will handle the paperwork and make it as air tight as possible. Protects you from having her try to come back after you for something. As long as the division of assets/property is fair, one lawyer is all you need. But remember at the end of the day they still work to protect your interests. Keep t…
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/25 11:33 AM
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Do not do that. If she has a consult scheduled, then you are now in competition with each other. Move back into the home now and do not move out u til ordered by the courts to do so. If you start disclosing more information, she will use it in the divorce proceedings. Looking at porn is not a big issue but I would let that stay unspoken for now. She knows about the 10k spent so just address that for now. The porn site probably is not an issue unless you actually acted in a way that is infidelity…
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/25 03:58 PM
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I was always adamant that we have separate checking accounts with each other on as full partners. My reasoning was if the account got hacked then half our cash flow would still be intact while working to recover it. As for everything else, we really don’t have anything there to split except credit card debt. I will tell you this, if only one is serious about reconciling then it will fail. We tried and it fell apart fast. If you do pull the trigger, do not leave the family home. This will be used…
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/25 02:35 PM
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Sound advice, I have a meeting scheduled with the lawyer in a couple days and a plan of attack. I definitely won’t be dating anytime soon and will be spending my time turning the house into what the kids and I want
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 06:41 PM
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I feel you brother. I just signed a retainer for my lawyer and in two months my 22nd anniversary arrives.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 01:45 PM
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