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6

So spot on. Sexual chemistry is a big part of this as well. She can’t fuck your GPA.
/r/seduction28/05/19 05:58 PM
3

Absolutely. She should be chasing you back. Before, I’ve done all of the chasing and make things waayyy too easy for her. Over availability communicates that I don’t have options or more important things going on. The transition I’m making now is to be a man that ACTUALLY has better things to do. Not just pretending for “the game.”
/r/seduction28/05/19 05:18 PM
15

That was the only interaction they had. Just an interesting observation for me because I have a similar sense of humor and that “exotic bird” story is exactly the kind of goofy bullshit I would say around friends. Instead, I often try to “play it cool” when I’m really interested in a girl and I think I come off as boring. This situation enforced some recent revelations about how I care too much about the opinions of others.
/r/seduction28/05/19 04:43 PM
23

Exactly, he didn’t latch on to her compliment. Just continued having a good time.
/r/seduction28/05/19 03:48 PM
1

Thanks for the book recommendations. I’ll add them to my list. Just this afternoon, I was just thinking about starting a meditation regimen. I’ve tried it before but was never consistent. It’s crazy how much this experience is opening my eyes. I’ve been hyper aware of all the habitual bullshit I exhibit daily. Striving for daily progress now.
/r/seduction25/05/19 05:38 AM
1

Thanks so much for your thoughtful replies. you include a lot of great insight that I will definitely reference. My whole reply to you included the “end of the story” so I ended up adding it to the post as a final update to give any readers resolution. We just didn’t work out and that’s fine with me. You make a great point She seems like a wonderful person that I’d be lucky to have as a friend. However, I don’t think I should entertain that for a while. I want to make sure that I’m pursuing only…
/r/seduction24/05/19 05:04 AM
1

You could choose to put the juice box down and give it a shot buddy. hooray for consistent juice box/insecurity metaphor! Geez dude. I get it, you're feeling down because women are not returning your affections. Congratulations, you came to this sub for the same reason as 90% of men here. You are not special. Take a second to look at some posts on here. Guys blame all kinds of things for why they don't have success with women. Race, income level, height, penis size, hair loss, etc. You spun the …
/r/seduction24/05/19 12:39 AM
2

Well obviously...I mean you have a fucking juice box at a party. That’s literally the first rule of having game. Rule 1: “Thou shalt never approach a dame with sugary beverage in hand” source: seduction sidebar No one knows why. I think it stems from Paganism.
/r/seduction23/05/19 11:32 PM
1

I really can’t say what “the norm” is. Ideally,I think someone would learn from it and grow. Did you improve yourself in order to win over a certain girl? Or, was it after she rejected you that you got your act together?
/r/seduction23/05/19 11:16 PM
2

Wow... you’re right bro, my bad. Instead, you should go buy a bunch of classy ass invitation cards. Send them to all of your male model buddies and their perfect, beautiful, women. Next, really go all out and get some badass entertainment (Ex: DJ and cage dancers.) Hire a caterer, get some booze, and have a decorator spice up your place. Make all of the prep work public on social media to build excitement. When the night comes around, everyone will show up at your place and be in awe. The energy…
/r/seduction23/05/19 11:03 PM
2

All you can do, is do the best with what you’ve got. You can control your physique, your grooming, and your wardrobe. Just learn about each, and then it’s about daily repetition and habits. It’s probably your attitude though.
/r/seduction23/05/19 09:44 PM
1

Sage words my friend
/r/seduction23/05/19 05:07 PM
1

Perfect explanation.
/r/seduction23/05/19 02:20 PM
1

Thanks lol. I think I’m at the realization stage. The silver lining about this whole situation is that it’s made me examine my issues on a deeper level. I realize that I was just using bullshit and regurgitated PUA info to convince myself that I was someone I wasn’t. I totally agree with you, the reality is that I’m deeply insecure, desperate, needy, etc. It’s going to take work to get to actualization.
/r/seduction23/05/19 01:59 PM
1

Thanks for the kind words. I’ve actually got that book on audio. And I listened to it once half heartedly. For now I’m just going to focus on having fun every day and doing positive things. I’m still going to talk to girls but now I’m just going to try to not have any expectations and enjoy the moments.
/r/seduction23/05/19 01:53 PM
1

Well said
/r/seduction23/05/19 01:48 PM
1

Thanks.
/r/seduction23/05/19 01:48 PM
1

You are not being too critical. Myself and many other men in this community do make things unnecessarily complicated. We blame our failures with women on not understanding “the game.” The harsh reality is that there is something deeply wrong with our fundamental personalities that women find unattractive. That doesn’t apply to everyone here. But, I think it is the truth for far more of us than we would like to admit. At least for me.
/r/seduction23/05/19 06:40 AM
1

Thank you for pointing out my manipulative behavior. I wasn't trying to get back at her by seeing other girls. I just remembered "abundance" and thought that it would solve my problem with being too attached to a girl who, I knew, was less attracted to me. You are exactly right, the only reason I wanted to friend zone her was to keep her around so maybe one day she would give me a shot. I knew where this was going, I just couldnt let go. I never wanted to be her friend, and I freaked out when I …
/r/seduction23/05/19 05:01 AM
1

Wasn't exactly a good message. Update under the original post.
/r/seduction23/05/19 03:32 AM
1

Well shit... Guess who texted me.
/r/seduction23/05/19 02:29 AM
3

Wow... well said. This is really helpful. The concept of "shit tests" is one that I think I have approached incorrectly. I thought of them as only overt challenges to your frame. It's common sense that women would be judging all of your behavior against your frame at all times. ​ In my case, she wasn't a very aggressive person. For her to challenge me verbally would be out of character for her. Because of that, I'm sure she put even more stock in my behavior. After all, I've learned a lot and ca…
/r/seduction23/05/19 02:07 AM
1

This is a great point. Meeting a girl like that is a GOOD THING. I think that you should just enjoy her company and have fun. After all, having natural chemistry (intellectually, emotionally, sexually) with someone makes for a great interaction. But, just because she is ticking all of your boxes doesn't mean that you should put her on a pedestal. In my case, I started to prioritize her opinion of me over everything else. That just isn't healthy.
/r/seduction23/05/19 01:52 AM
2

Exactly. Not in a rude way, just don't go out of your way to talk to her. Treat her like just another person in the gym.
/r/seduction23/05/19 01:41 AM
1

I disagree, hitting her up 3 times in a week is a lot. Especially when she didn't respond the first 2 times. You don't need to be more direct or spill your guts about all the fuzzy warm things you think about her (terrible idea at this point). You asked for her number...she knows what that means. In fact, her not answering almost confirms that she knows you are interested. Just move on, but leave the door open for her to change her mind. Most of everything below is based the book How to be a 3% …
/r/seduction23/05/19 01:39 AM
4

Most girls don't care as long as you're taller than them. Yes, being 6'5'' is attractive, but it shouldn't disqualify you in most cases. ​ Also, stop caring about shit you can't change.
/r/seduction23/05/19 12:42 AM
1

In my limited experience it's mostly about a vibe you give off. Girls are looking to feel it fairly early on in an interaction. Confident/sexual eye contact and voice tonality/pace are great places to start.
/r/seduction23/05/19 12:34 AM
6

Buddy, your issue is your self worth. You're gonna have to work on yourself. If it's something that you don't think you can handle alone, seek out a professional. There is a lot of great information on seddit. I suggest looking up posts on "inner game." I'm struggling with it as well. As far as your looks go, I would say you're average looking but unkempt. Checkout r/malegrooming It's a great community.
/r/seduction23/05/19 12:28 AM
2

Typically, you would be right. However, I tricked the system... On the "useless fucking questions" portion of my job application, I made sure to check "NO" when asked if I used common or community relevant terms like "side hustle," and "oneitis" even though I do. They totally bought it... Idiots. Now Im the CEO of Dale's Bobblehead Emporium. I replaced Dale who had to be committed after cracking under pressure. I tell ya, this business, its cutthroat.
/r/seduction22/05/19 11:41 PM
2

Idk what the original comment was, but your reply made me lol.
/r/seduction22/05/19 08:22 PM
1

Good advice. This holiday weekend is the perfect opportunity.
/r/seduction22/05/19 08:19 PM
1

Sounds badass. I’ll get there one day!
/r/seduction22/05/19 07:21 PM
5

I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong by keeping her around. Just don’t fall back into old patterns that affect you negatively. I’m going to keep my distance from this particular woman for a while because, I don’t trust myself. But if you can handle it, fuck yeah.
/r/seduction22/05/19 07:19 PM
3

Thanks for the support. I couldn’t give less of a shit about internet points. This started as a throwaway to ask how to win over a different girl. Since then I’ve used this, mostly, for self reflection. I’ve found that this is a great community full of men trying to improve themselves. There’s a few angry trolls but, mostly everyone is supportive. One day, I’ll probably delete this account or just never log back in. But until then, I’m hoping it helps keep me accountable. It may seem pretty novi…
/r/seduction22/05/19 07:13 PM
1

I know it’s not a very long time. I too, have had girls that completely blew me off just to hit me up weeks later. But, if she texted me, I would be immediately available to reply. I would probably wait a couple hours just to seem “cool” but be counting the minutes until I could talk to her. My point is, she is in the front of my mind and I am on her back burner. My problem is not that I want success with this particular girl, it’s that I want to heal this fucked up mindset that I have. I wrap u…
/r/seduction22/05/19 07:00 PM
5

Sorry bro. Learn and grow
/r/seduction22/05/19 06:45 PM
2

I read somewhere that, as men, our greatest gift to a woman is our commitment. Because, once a high quality man is committed to something/someone that person/thing directly benefits from his strength and ambition. (At least in a traditional masculine/feminine relationship.) Basically, your commitment to her is the prize. If it’s to easy for her to get, it must not be that valuable. Still working on this myself.
/r/seduction22/05/19 06:34 PM
3

I don’t have “goals” pertaining to her anymore. My only goals now are serving my health and my ambitions.
/r/seduction22/05/19 06:25 PM
1

I think it’s about your intentions for providing. If you are doing things just to gain favor from your partner and she takes advantage because of her lack of respect for you, that’s “beta.” However, if you are stepping up in your role as a man and providing for people because it’s your responsibility/purpose and not to “win points.” I think that is alpha as fuck.
/r/seduction22/05/19 06:22 PM
44

This is a great point. I may have jumped to the whole “shit testing” thing. Looking back, she wasn’t overtly testing me as much as I think. Ultimately, I think her attraction faded because of my needy behavior.
/r/seduction22/05/19 06:14 PM
5

Thanks man. I’ve really gotten a lot of support from this community. Even though this post is not high level seduction stuff, I’m glad I could give something back.
/r/seduction22/05/19 06:08 PM
7

That’s my hope. I’ve had my heart crushed before but, I responded far differently in the past. The old me would have double or triple texted. I would have fallen apart and acted desperate. This is a milestone.
/r/seduction22/05/19 06:03 PM
1

Yes
/r/seduction22/05/19 05:59 PM
1

True. I added a link to your post in an edit. I think your info would be great for other ppl in my situation.
/r/seduction22/05/19 05:57 PM
1

Great point. Last thing I want to do is return to old bad habits.
/r/seduction22/05/19 05:56 PM
2

Partly. To me I think it’s about overall mental health. “Inner game” is probably just a term someone coined to sell some PUA course. However, it’s the most common descriptor in this community.
/r/seduction22/05/19 05:51 PM
1

I was curious so I went to check out the post you are talking about. Turns out I had already read/upvoted it lol it was good content. Sorry you didn’t get the attention you wanted.
/r/seduction22/05/19 05:47 PM
3

I think of it as self worth, true confidence and independence.There’s plenty of posts about it if you want to read more.
/r/seduction22/05/19 05:44 PM
1

Since Monday and yes
/r/seduction22/05/19 05:41 PM
15

Nothing weak about providing, brother.
/r/seduction22/05/19 05:11 PM
1

Holy shit lol. This is a lot longer than I thought.
/r/seduction21/05/19 02:42 AM
11

it was like $100USD. She picked up the bar tab though.
/r/seduction05/05/19 07:17 AM
1

So far, Ive been getting results on hinge. Bumble is still strong as well.
/r/seduction05/05/19 07:16 AM
10

Agreed! go for it when the mood strikes instead of when it's the end of the night.
/r/seduction05/05/19 07:14 AM
5

Why? I haven't had good luck with coffee shops with online dating
/r/seduction05/05/19 07:13 AM
1

Personally, no. I don’t even bring up that I had a good time in person. If she says it then I will reciprocate but otherwise I remain ambiguous. “Women are attracted to men who’s feelings are unclear.” Maintain mystery.
/r/seduction05/05/19 06:05 AM
1

I disagree. If she doesn’t want to kiss you she won’t. She will turn her head or back up. If you’re doing the groundwork before hand making a move shouldn’t be a problem at this point. Fortune favors the bold.
/r/seduction04/05/19 08:18 PM
1

His one about escalating is pretty good too Sort of cringe at one part but overall helpful
/r/seduction03/05/19 11:14 PM
-4

Haha, fair enough
/r/seduction03/05/19 11:12 PM
2

To give her time to miss you. Only contact once a week to set up a date. She won’t want to wait for you to contact her so she will start reaching out and chasing you. When a girl is chasing you, she’s not dumping you. VIA: Corey Waynes “How to be a 3% man”
/r/seduction03/05/19 09:17 PM
2

Interesting, I’ve been reading Corey Wayne and he basically preaches the exact opposite. Only use the phone to set up dates in the beginning. What’s the logic behind your approach?
/r/seduction03/05/19 08:41 PM
1

I agree, good read
/r/seduction03/05/19 07:55 PM
1

Lol, I’m BY NO MEANS an expert and completely unqualified to give anyone advice. That being said, I just focus on being interested in what’s being said vs having canned questions to ask. It’s never really been a problem for me. I think he talks about it in that video though.
/r/seduction03/05/19 07:55 PM
1

YOU LOOK FINE, AND YES YOUR PHOTOS ARE FINE. Looking at your post history, you should get to the root of why you’re so insecure about the way you look. Honestly, I think you’re above average.
/r/seduction03/05/19 06:53 PM
5

Not yet, I don’t plan on contacting her till Monday or Tuesday. She will probably hit me up before then and we will plan something.
/r/seduction03/05/19 06:47 PM
0

I did not but I could’ve. I had work today so I needed to get some sleep. Posted the link in my reply above.
/r/seduction03/05/19 06:46 PM
3

https://youtu.be/b-a1jXgAsQI
/r/seduction03/05/19 06:43 PM
1

Just go for it. If she kisses you back, great. If not, then you know she’s not interested.
/r/seduction03/05/19 06:12 PM
4

I just finished it. Apparently, I need to read it 10 more times like he says.
/r/seduction14/04/19 04:27 PM
3

Oral, but no PIV, first happened on the third date. Been on 6 total. Nothing past kissing since. Also, she brought the wine.
/r/seduction14/04/19 04:01 PM
5

Will do
/r/seduction14/04/19 04:46 AM
5

How do I transition to being a man with no expectations? Right now, I over analyze and obsess about the future. I typically have no trouble getting dates but, I always end up in a situation similar to this.
/r/seduction14/04/19 04:45 AM
8

I hit her up 2 weeks ago to hang out last weekend. She said “school is hitting really hard right now so I actually won’t be free till next (this) weekend” I said, “no worries, study hard! Give me a call when your schedule frees up.” She replied, “thank you so much for understanding, and I will!” Radio silence since, I texted something about Coachella this evening at about 9:15 CT and haven’t heard back.
/r/seduction14/04/19 04:16 AM
9

Relationship. Although it is still a little too soon for me to know if she is someone I want to be in a serious relationship with. But I feel like I’ve missed out on the opportunity to find out.
/r/seduction14/04/19 03:48 AM
1

I don’t “need” 3. I’m just giving a current example of how abundance is affecting my life. I used to have a different mindset that was rooted in neediness. Through hard work, I’ve been able to remedy that. Hence, my current situation.
/r/seduction11/04/19 05:13 PM
3

I’ve seen your posts a lot recently. Always angry about something and always sporting a throwaway username with random letters. I’m sorry that you are so upset. I get it, our society wraps up a lot of self-worth in relationships and it’s hard to be happy when you feel rejected. I hope you realize that, independent of a woman’s approval, you are enough. ❤️
/r/seduction09/04/19 03:34 PM
3

I mean, they’re not. Seen em.
/r/seduction29/03/19 10:40 PM
1

Yup, lol. That sort of makes it worse.
/r/seduction29/03/19 10:40 PM
0

The fuck?
/r/seduction29/03/19 08:23 PM
1

Hmmm possibly.
/r/seduction29/03/19 08:20 PM
3

I fail to see the humor
/r/seduction29/03/19 08:19 PM
1

I’m not saying that those aren’t possibilities. I’m just curious if something I’m doing is making her feel insecure or nervous.
/r/seduction29/03/19 08:13 PM
1

We had been teasing each other for the last 4 hours. I was constantly getting aroused and then not getting off. Hence, blue balls. When sexy time came around, my balls hurt and were swollen, I was nervous, she wasn’t helping out w/her mouth or hands because she was nervous, and I ultimately couldn’t get it up. First time it’s ever happened.
/r/seduction29/03/19 07:36 PM
2

Yeah, on this sub you typically have to separate the good from bad. Not looking to manipulate or trick anyone. I’m not a good enough actor anyway lol.
/r/seduction29/03/19 06:18 PM
14

Escalation ladder... huh, interesting. I’ll have to look this up. Really good stuff. Thanks for taking the time to share your advice!
/r/seduction29/03/19 05:35 PM
3

I mean, I did tell her that I thought she was sexy after she said that. I probably could have done better though.
/r/seduction29/03/19 05:29 PM
1

Interesting, What is LMR?
/r/seduction29/03/19 05:24 PM
7

WHAT!? But that’s my signature move.
/r/seduction29/03/19 04:55 PM
3

No, but she is pretty inexperienced. She’s only been with one guy. Plus, she’s reserved and I think she has some insecurities. She’s communicated that she doesn’t think she’s sexually attractive more than once.
/r/seduction29/03/19 04:55 PM
8

It’s the internet, I expect no less. Lol thanks for your advice.
/r/seduction29/03/19 04:52 PM
2

You’re not wrong
/r/seduction29/03/19 04:39 PM
1

The first time? I think that was a large part of it.
/r/seduction29/03/19 04:38 PM
1

This
/r/seduction29/03/19 04:37 PM
3

Idk why you’re getting hate. I think this is valid. I think I rushed things this time around instead of taking the time to get her in the mood. I was sort of like. “Okay, movie is over. Now have sex with me.” Now my problem is that there is a weird pressure on having sex. Think I should address it with her?
/r/seduction29/03/19 04:36 PM
2

Interesting, I think you’re right. Looking back, I didn’t really take the time to get her warmed up.
/r/seduction29/03/19 04:28 PM
1

I think you’re right. I am worried that it’s because of last time but I’d rather not seem needy and insecure by asking/talking about it. However, idk if there’s another way?
/r/seduction29/03/19 04:26 PM
2

I was in some serious pain. Plus, she was nervous then as well and not really helping much. No mouth, no hands, nada.
/r/seduction29/03/19 04:16 PM
1

They were off. Plus, I’ve already seen her naked.
/r/seduction29/03/19 03:54 PM
12

Thanks, I’m wondering how I can make her feel sexy. I generally stay away from generic compliments on looks but maybe in this girls case, I could give her an ego boost. I just don’t want it to come off as disingenuous, like I’m only complimenting her looks to get her in bed.
/r/seduction29/03/19 02:58 PM
3

I’m guessing that you get similar treatment from many of your peers, not just females? First of all, it sounds like you’re in high school and that just sucks. The whole “best days of your life“ thing is bullshit. Better days are to come. If her comment was genuinely negative, this all boils down to a lack of respect. She felt that saying something hurtful to you was low risk. That doesn’t mean that you should be intimidating. Just work on being completely centered in who you are, and exude that …
/r/seduction22/03/19 01:43 AM
1

You have good insight. You’ve commented on my posts before. Your comment isn’t showing up on the original post for me. Damn, would’ve liked to read.
/r/seduction19/03/19 10:40 PM
7

Just go on living your life?
/r/seduction18/03/19 05:10 PM
2

Suprised surprise, she texted me today asking to hang out again. :)
/r/seduction13/03/19 04:31 AM
1

Ugh
/r/seduction12/03/19 01:46 PM
1

He’s probably interested and just nervous about talking to you. If you can get him to make eye contact, smile and see what happens.. OR it’s the complete opposite lol but I would bet on the former.
/r/seduction11/03/19 08:12 PM
1

Thanks for the advice. I’m new to this thread and I see”IOI” often. What does that stand for?
/r/seduction02/03/19 05:04 PM
1

It’s not that I have “no intention.” I’m attracted to her, it’s just not intense. If she loosened up I think there may be something there and I’m willing to find out.
/r/seduction02/03/19 05:29 AM
1

Her: I’m at work, sorry! Me: lol, I didn’t mean now. What’s your schedule look like? Her: I have a friend coming in this weekend. She definitely doesn’t seem interested. I must have done worse on this date than I thought. Plus, years ago when we hooked up, I was thinner and more confident. I don’t want to close the door on this, but I also don’t want to come off as needy. I was gonna send back “okay, some other time.” And hit her up in a week or two. But something feels off about that. Maybe jus…
/r/seduction28/02/19 10:22 PM
1

Great, I’ll back off for a week or so. Then I’ll call and let her know I’m going to the aquarium (she mentioned it on our date) and invite her to come with. Thanks for the advice! Anything else to keep in mind?
/r/seduction22/02/19 07:27 PM
1

I keep learning this the hard way.
/r/seduction22/02/19 06:57 PM
1

Earlier, you said a week till I call her. Why so long?
/r/seduction22/02/19 06:55 PM
1

Lol I’m probably making a bigger deal out of this than it actually is.
/r/seduction22/02/19 04:33 PM
1

Good info, thanks! One thing this experience highlighted for me is just how miserable dinner is for a first date. You have a table between you and you’re nervous. Next time I’m definitely doing something more active.
/r/seduction22/02/19 03:50 PM
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