I’m fuming because I have made a realization as to why a girl that was into me has suddenly ghosted.

Mistake #1: On St. Patrick’s Day weekend I got entirely too drunk with a group of friends and let slip to someone that I had been dating this girl. Most of this group consists of married couples and they pounced on this information. Especially since I am typically reserved when it comes to divulging my romantic life. (Should’ve remained that way.)

Mistake #2: My birthday was the following weekend and we gathered to celebrate. Soon, they all began to ask where she was. I had specifically not invited her because my instinct was that we were not to the point where we should be meeting each other’s friends. We had been seeing each other once a week or so and I had just seen her the previous night. Ultimately I succumbed to peer pressure and called her to ask her to go out with us. She said no, but wanted to see me the next weekend.

Mistake #3: Her and I hung out the next week as planned. She came over and I cooked, we drink wine, watched a movie, and made out. But I got the sense near the end of the night that she was cooling on me. The vibe was just off. When she was leaving, I asked her about hanging out Sunday. “Can we play it by ear?” ...First blatant red flag. That weekend I have some friends in town that wanted go out. I invited her. She declined... The cherry on top was the text I sent her to ask her out was needy as fuck. Typing this out is making me feel like such a dumbass.

As of typing this, we really haven’t spoken to or seen each other in over 2 weeks.

“You should ask her!” “Text her!” “ It’ll be fine!” All bullshit I was repeatedly told by friends and ultimately, they got in my head and I made mistakes. I looked way too interested, and wayyy too available.

I should have never contacted her. Continued hitting her up and hanging out once a week until she was chasing me. Hang out, have fun, hook up. Instead, I got over eager and lost frame. I lost an opportunity with a woman that I genuinely enjoyed spending time with and was sexy as fuck. Oh well, onto the next. I’m just irritated that I let myself fuck me over.

Never again.

Edit: it has been a little over 20 minutes since I wrote this post and I have checked for comments/upvotes 5 times. I think I value others opinions too much. I seriously don’t know what to do about that.