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Awesome video man. Seriously good stuff. I spent a good chunk of my youth in an infantry unit and knew guys that were true alpha males and leaders of men. Confidence in spades. One guy, despite not being particularly great looking, managed to hit the century club(100 girls) despite not having easy access to women and being deployed a lot. This was also in the 96-06 time frame, so there was no tinder and there wasn't the hook up culture that there is today. Again, not a particularly handsome guy …
/r/seduction24/02/20 03:09 PM
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Have you cut out inflammatory foods? Dairy makes me break out. If your derm is worth a shit you've probably already tried this.
/r/seduction24/02/20 02:44 PM
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Here's a quote from a post you recently made: "Besides, the implication of trying to impress women is that YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH as you are. Ultimately, that's the mindset you want to shift here. Because YOU ARE ENOUGH. And when you sub communicate this to women, you can more easily melt into each other, relax and truly connect.⁠ " So which is it? Should guys think that they are enough and have confidence in themselves or should they think that confidence is something that they need to work towards…
/r/seduction21/02/20 10:21 PM
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Maybe she was being polite. Maybe she was interested, but she realized what a massive douchebag you are. "She smiled at me and then wouldn't give me her number when I asked for it. I hope she gets her heart broken" I'd tell all my female friends to stay the fuck away from someone that is that toxic. Maybe she picked up on it?
/r/seduction18/02/20 09:59 PM
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Well that's a shit attitude and if that's the state of your inner game I guarantee that's coming across. The human mind is insane in it's ability to see things and react. Scientists have found that flashing addicts a picture of cocaine for just 33 milliseconds Sparks desire. They might be saying no because of how you're making them FEEL. And maybe later they're even questioning themselves, "he seemed nice, why didn't I want to give him my number?" Or maybe they have a boyfriend. Or you're not th…
/r/seduction18/02/20 09:45 PM
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You think they decided you weren't interesting, and maybe that was the case. But it's also possible that they either thought you weren't interested in them or just straight up pussied out, got nervous and decided to bail. I think we all have a natural inclination to assume that we're the problem, or "not good enough". It's insane the number of posts I've seen where guys and girls both totally miss obvious signals. I'm not saying that to mean that you DID act interested or that you should have do…
/r/seduction25/01/20 10:12 PM
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My last comment was kind of harsh. ​ I understand how you feel. She sounds like a really cool girl and obviously you guys have some connection. The thing that you have to understand is that attraction isn't a choice, we are wired a certain way - all of us. That's why you can really want to fuck someone that you otherwise don't really like. And why you can really like who someone is as a person, but have no interest in mating with them. When you put your feelings out there like that, it is an ins…
/r/seduction25/01/20 08:43 PM
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Saying that you have a nice hat is predatory behavior? That is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. And what you just said doesn't make sense: they "chose" to end the conversation, but you were instantly turned off? Either you're not being honest and you were attracted to them or they read you accurately and decided not to try for a date.
/r/seduction25/01/20 08:26 PM
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You don't know shit. You gave her a Hallmark card telling you that you love her. That had like 0.001% of having any outcome that you'd be happy about. You're not in love, you're infatuated, Google it. Also, she wants sex. Because she's human and that's what humans do: we fuck. Are you like 16? You've got a lot to learn man.
/r/seduction25/01/20 08:16 PM
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And then you proceed to go on the internet to complain about it and call it predatory behavior. If one of them had been cool, taken you out and gave you an amazing experience how grateful would you be that he came up and asked you to take your headphones off? That he had the courage to do that? Did they decide they weren't interested or did they later make a post on this sub saying "I met this cute redhead today. It seemed like it started off well, but I ended up just ending the conversation and…
/r/seduction25/01/20 08:08 PM
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And I didn't realize being on your phone was any different than doing any other activity, like say, reading a book. Obviously if she's furiously typing, looks super stressed out, concerned, etc. Then don't approach. But if a girl is casually looking at her phone SO WHAT
/r/seduction25/01/20 07:54 PM
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I feel like you're intentionally twisting what I'm saying. So to be perfectly clear: I don't think women should do, or "owe a guy" anything more than politely end the conversation, and then only if the guy was polite and not creepy and leaves when she politely declines. That's just called being a decent fucking human. I don't think being irritated makes you socially inept. What I said was that it will make it LESS LIKELY that a girl gets annoyed if she has good social skills. I get that people h…
/r/seduction25/01/20 07:49 PM
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This was an interesting post of yours: "So, the r/seduction subreddit is where LVMs go to share manipulation techniques to get women into bed or be a 'alpha male who keeps his lady in line' or whatever nonsense. To be fair, the occasional well meaning guy will wander in there trying to get some advice on how to work up the courage to ask out a woman he has a crush on or something. But, then you see a crap ton of dudes give him advice that would send any woman on this sub running in the opposite …
/r/seduction25/01/20 07:33 PM
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You're acting like kissing a girl is slutty behavior. If you're drunk at a bar at closing time, yes. If you're walking down a sidewalk after having dinner? Not so much. And I wouldn't want to hook up with a chick that is put off by kissing in front of other people. Obviously, you don't stop her in front of a busy restaurant with 80 people watching you, though.
/r/seduction25/01/20 06:58 PM
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Most people use their phones for dumb shit like endlessly scrolling social media. A lot of people are uncomfortable just being present in the moment, so they whip their phones out. The OP asked specifically about approaching women in situations where you can't gauge interest prior to the approach. If you see a cute girl on her phone, what's wrong with going up and saying "Hey, you're cute and I wanted to say hi"? If she's not interested you'll be able to tell pretty quickly. At which point you s…
/r/seduction25/01/20 06:54 PM
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For sure! It took a lot of failures and missteps. Hell, I still screw up plenty and I'd definitely consider myself "intermediate"
/r/seduction25/01/20 06:30 PM
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How many times has this led to sex?
/r/seduction25/01/20 05:18 PM
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You're nervous. You need to relax. She's meeting you because she's attracted to you and probably wants to get laid. She's hoping that you'll be someone she likes. SHE'S ON YOUR SIDE. relax and have fun
/r/seduction25/01/20 05:14 PM
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This is a fucking awesome post. I love the concept of will power cost. OP - this dude is right, but check my post history. I just did a write up for a strategy I think would be perfect for you.
/r/seduction25/01/20 05:12 PM
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"I have a job interview in 40 minutes, any advice?" Not a whole lot of info, eh?
/r/seduction25/01/20 05:10 PM
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A lot of people are on their phones because they're either addicted or they aren't comfortable just being present, so they hide in their phone. Lack of eye contact and smiles does make approaching harder, but it just means you're going to have a higher rate of failure since you have no way of gauging interested. If you can accept that, then you're good to go. As long as you don't say anything totally stupid or stick around longer than she wants you to, a woman would have no good reason to feel a…
/r/seduction25/01/20 05:09 PM
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Good post, but who cares if people are around? I've had many first kisses with plenty of people around.
/r/seduction25/01/20 05:02 PM
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You should read the book Open Her by Karen Brody. She breaks down attractive masculine behavior into 7 archetypes. What you wrote touches on two of them: the Warrior (someone who has something they are passionate about and fighting for, her example was a guy that got involved in PETA I think) and the Director - basically having a vision and making it happen. Could be a date, sex, etc.
/r/seduction25/01/20 03:23 AM
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I've been told I'm a great kisser more than a few times by women that knew what was up, so I'll give this a go. Floss and brush well before. Tongue scrapers are good too. Before you go in for the kiss swallow all your spit. Kissing is jazz, it's always different and everyone does it differently. Some moves I like: Grip her top or bottom lip with both of yours and pull away gently. It should be like a caress. Move your head around as you're doing it, so your mouth is moving. Head tilt should be p…
/r/seduction24/01/20 06:40 PM
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That's a lot of very good info in 4 minutes, nicely done!
/r/seduction24/01/20 06:10 PM
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My game improved dramatically thanks to Todd V. If I ever run into that dude he won't have to pay for any drinks. He's able to break down and explain why certain things work or don't work. His video on blueprints made me look back on several interactions and realize that had I had that knowledge then I would have done X and it would most likely changed the outcome. I get maybe he's not your favorite or you don't agree with every single thing he's said, but in my honest opinion anyone that doesn'…
/r/seduction24/01/20 05:34 PM
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You can't use reason and logic with someone that refuses to consider that they're wrong and is generally an asshat. I've read your other posts, at least some of them. You understand game somewhat, but I'm guessing that you're young and relatively good looking. Your success is largely due to that, not any wisdom, knowledge or skill. You probably used to suck with women. Then you found your balls and started being more confident, but you still clearly have some real issues when it comes to connect…
/r/seduction23/01/20 07:53 PM
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LOL I'm saying that's when "sex" starts, psychologically. You're obviously young and immature. You also sound like the kind of guy that is not only clueless about pleasing a woman, but also doesn't care. Have fun being a dipshit fuckboy
/r/seduction23/01/20 07:43 PM
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Your definition of seduction is narrow and shallow. Seduction is about attraction. That can range as far as her "falling madly in love with you" if a LTR is your goal, or just a FWB that thinks you're sexy AF. I'll pose this question to you: when does sex start? Is it when you put it in? When you start touching genitalia? Kissing? For me it starts when the conversation turns man to woman. I look at a woman the same way I will when I'm on top of her. You sound like you're at most 22?
/r/seduction23/01/20 03:56 PM
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Dude... If you don't think flirting and having fun are two of the KEY ELEMENTS of seduction then not only are you a Grade A douchebag, but you have no business giving anyone advice. There's two sides of seduction: one where you give a girl an amazing experience and both of you come out ahead and one where you use tricks and gimmicks to get laid. I have zero respect for the latter, which is clearly the category that you're in. And you're shooting yourself in the foot by being an asshole, because …
/r/seduction23/01/20 07:25 AM
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There's a difference between doing "what you need to get laid" and maximum enjoyment for both people involved. "Just using me for food and sex huh?" Said to a girl that I made dinner for, prompted a positive and fun reaction. That's what I mean by teasing and breaking rapport. And nice try on playing keyboard psychologist, but I made fun of you because you keep bringing up incest and come off as a douchebag. Just because you can get women to fuck you doesn't mean that you understand seduction or…
/r/seduction23/01/20 02:46 AM
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I think you're missing the idea behind thinking of it that way, and maybe you're right that that isn't the best way to think of it. What I was getting at is that you need to not put her on a pedestal or hesitate to tease her / break rapport. Or laugh at her / tease her when she's upset over something silly. I've also seen the advice of giving her shit the same way you would your guy friends. Obviously that is also in imperfect way to look at it, since that doesn't fully capture what the dynamic …
/r/seduction22/01/20 07:53 PM
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Dude.... Obviously I'm joking. Obviously my original comment had two parts to it (the bratty sister comment and the making things sexual comment) and my example was an illustration of the latter and not the former. Have a down vote for being intentionally dense.
/r/seduction22/01/20 02:59 PM
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Nah, she's not that hot
/r/seduction22/01/20 04:15 AM
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This dude fucks
/r/seduction22/01/20 04:12 AM
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You're texting until 3AM and you "may" have a date lined up? Make sure you plan the logistics for your next date so that sex is possible. Meaning: don't take her to dinner and a movie and then drop her off at her house she shares with 3 judgemental roommates.
/r/seduction22/01/20 03:29 AM
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I agree he probably needs to pull back a bit, but it sounds like she's into him. I wouldn't say that's Terrible. OP - you need to hook up with this girl this weekend though.
/r/seduction22/01/20 03:26 AM
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Have a get together with guys and girls. Invite her over and tell her she can bring her BF. If she says she doesn't have one say "even better" Or just keep the invitation simple (hey, having a get together this weekend if you're free) and see what she says. Normally I wouldn't invite a girl out on a first date where it's all people only I know... But for some reason her living so close to you makes me feel like it would be cool?
/r/seduction22/01/20 03:21 AM
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Todd V has a good video on YouTube about flirting. Basically treat her like she's a bratty sister, not that different from the way you give your friends shit. Also, make things sexual. One girl told me I was a gentle giant. I looked her in the eyes, smiled and said "not all the time"
/r/seduction22/01/20 03:18 AM
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I feel your pain, as this is something I've experienced as well. The one thing that I have realized is that attractive girls match with A LOT of guys. All of those guys are starting conversations based on the same information.... Which means if you go with anything obvious she can probably scroll down her matches and find a dozen other guys she had the exact same conversation with, maybe even that week. What I've found works a little better is if you can find something less obvious, or you can f…
/r/seduction22/01/20 02:59 AM
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Where are you from? As far as American sense of humor... I guess watch stand up? Bill Burr and Dave Chappelle are my favorites. Joe Rogan's "strange times" is good too. There's a bunch, find stuff that is your style. Be yourself! Maybe some comedy movies like Step Brothers, Talladega Nights, Old School. If it were me I'd use my accent to my advantage as part of the joke, or as the joke. Or speak your native tongue in a certain way at the right time... Don't be afraid to make fun of yourself.
/r/seduction22/01/20 12:20 AM
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You're from another country and you have an accent. You're different and that will immediately make you more interesting. Be yourself - sense of humor and all. Go watch some videos on polarization. You don't need every girl to think you're okay, you need one (or a few) to think you're AWESOME. You can't be awesome if you're like everyone else.
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:48 PM
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Blueprints. Todd V has a great video on this.
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:44 PM
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1 is dumb and that you intentionally started typing "victim" is autistic as fuck and creepy. Definition of victim b: one that is tricked or duped, a con man's victim Just enjoy her company and be someone whose company she enjoys. If you have to take her on roller coaster rides to get her to like you... Jesus. The rest are okay advice, but your whole post is.. weird. what kind of first dates are you going on where you need to set boundaries? Just curious - how many first dates have you been on in…
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:33 PM
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Stop watching porn entirely. Just stop. It ruins sex even for guys that don't already have issues. Though in this case, I don't think that's your problem. Are you really attracted to these women? Both physically and as a person? Do you feel an emotional connection? Also at this point just the fear that you won't be able to get it up is going to fuck with your shit. Go to your primary care doctor and get a sample of Viagra. You don't need much, only like 5mg. So if they give you 10s cut them in h…
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:21 PM
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Every girl is different and it also depends on what they're looking for and their timeline. Build more rapport. Either make her laugh or find something that you're both interested in. You need to make her feel confident that she's going to enjoy going on a date with you. Then ask her on a date. I've had it happen in 10 minutes over a total of maybe 10 messages and I've had it take a week.
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:15 PM
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How much did you talk between setting up the date and the date itself? Did you not text at all that day? I'm kind of guessing that they forgot, thought you'd blown them off, etc and then they got a text from you like "hey, I got us a table in the back" At which point they needed an excuse...
/r/seduction21/01/20 06:02 AM
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I think that this is generally good advice... But I'll share some recent experiences I've had with a sort of experiment I've been running on tinder. It started when I read that you should match with girls if you have Tinder gold and they pop up as having liked you, it helps your score or whatever. So I had these 6s(and a few 6.9s) that I wasn't really interested in meeting up with... So I said fuck it and just tried different shit, trying to escalate as fast as possible. I cannot believe how man…
/r/seduction21/01/20 05:55 AM
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Yeah... Being naked and having her body oiled up and rubbed down makes a girl sleepy or "too mellow" "It feels like a bag of sand" - OP
/r/seduction21/01/20 05:29 AM
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You're going to friend zone yourself because you don't have the guts to escalate things to where SHE wants them to be. I know this is hard for you to believe, but trust me when I say this: women want sex just as badly as men. She was probably hoping that you'd do something and then wondering why you didn't. She was probably giving you signs that you missed. Bumping into you, eye contact, biting her lip... Or maybe not. Maybe she is awkward and inexperienced too. Or maybe she's not interested in …
/r/seduction21/01/20 04:34 AM
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Think about how you interact with a girl after you have amazing sex. Confident, playful, sexual. Now be that way from the start, only be smart about it. How do YOU want to interact with a woman? What's most FUN? In a hot tub with a girl I literally just met while traveling for work, talking about Vegas (we weren't IN Vegas though) "You seem a little naughty, I bet you'd be a lot of fun in Vegas" (we ended up getting drinks and making out in her car. Didn't hook up since she had to get up early, …
/r/seduction12/11/19 07:48 PM
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You can get women to sleep with you, so you're off to a good start. Some of this could be random, in the sense that there's nothing you could have done differently to change the outcome. But that it's happening this much means there's probably some things that you ARE doing wrong. How to be a 3% man is a great book. Open Her by Karen Brody would also help you tremendously. Women are like flowers. You've got to get them up open up, and it takes time. But if you can make them feel safe, appreciate…
/r/seduction12/11/19 06:39 PM
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"Last night was fun" and that's it. That's like all it takes. She WILL text you back and agree. That's when you can act like a guy with options by not texting her anything else. Because you've established two things: first, you like her and you'd like to see her again and two, it would be perfectly acceptable for you to send her another text that day. And then she wonders why you didn't. Plus, you've got her thinking "yeah... Last night was fun"(positive emotion) instead of "is that guy ever goi…
/r/seduction12/11/19 05:30 AM
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I actually came here to write something similar to what hellisnow did. I've hooked up with girls and then after the fact realized I never really wanted to see them again. I'm not an asshole and just like a woman that's uninterested will "have a boyfriend" I usually find myself telling her what a nice time I had, how sexy she was, whatever. I'm being polite, but I won't go as far as making plans. if she asks about hanging out again soon I'll say sure, but the next couple of weeks are crazy. Then …
/r/seduction12/11/19 04:38 AM
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Lol This is the dumbest fucking comment.
/r/seduction12/11/19 04:23 AM
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I'm curious how OP asked if she needed to get back to studying. Asked with a playful smirk, as if to say "I'm enjoying this, but do you actually need to be studying right now?" And it's an invitation for her to chase. "No, it's okay" and the unsaid, but felt : "I'd much rather be talking to you" Asked with a lack of confidence or playfulness, as if to say "would you like me to leave?" And it's an invitation for her to say, "yes" because you are trying to escape the conversation. Either because s…
/r/seduction12/11/19 04:18 AM
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The Greeks put the phrase "Know Thyself" on the sides of temples and had a story about a hero who was invincible save for one small part of his body.
/r/seduction11/11/19 05:25 AM
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Women find eye contact attractive because it established dominance. Think about how much the topic is discussed on here. Don't look down, hold contact, etc. So if you're just staring someone down in conversation you're basically establishing dominance. Now, that's not always a bad thing, but yeah I find myself doing it too sometimes. The same way we learn to use eye contact to seduce women we should learn to use it to put people at ease.
/r/seduction07/11/19 03:35 AM
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This is really good. Thanks for writing it.
/r/seduction02/11/19 03:32 AM
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Human connection is human connection and if it brings joy into his life then I wouldn't judge. That being said, there's a big difference between girls in the 4-6 range and girls in the 8-10 range. And OP even admitted that he can't keep them around. Was a post letting people know that you don't need a social life to have sex with extremely average women necessary? Lol Humans are inherently social creatures. That's why we have cities and rocket ships. Healthy women like being social. It makes the…
/r/seduction02/11/19 02:47 AM
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For prep: Oral hygiene is important, but that doesn't mean your breath has to be perfect all the time. Flossing is good. If you guys eat don't feel like you need to brush. Do have something to drink and make sure there's no chunks of food haha If you're shy, you can just go along with things. If you want to make it more fun for both of you let him know you've never kissed before. 97% chance he thinks it's cool and is excited to be your first kiss. Plus most people are insecure. Your inexperience…
/r/seduction02/11/19 02:05 AM
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I feel you on the having a hard life thing. You've been online dating for years, but how much have you studied seduction? Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. I think what I said in my original comment is even more applicable than it originally was, as far as books and where to focus. I'll also ask this: do you have friends that you have fun with and can make laugh? Meaning, do you have friends that would describe you as fun?
/r/seduction01/11/19 11:22 PM
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Dude, chill. Don't say shit to her about friend zones, getting your head straight, etc. You will never hear from her again. 80% chance she invited you over to fuck You need to establish that you're interested in her as a woman. Be more sexual in general and meet her in person and escalate. Quit being a pussy
/r/seduction01/11/19 07:16 AM
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But what have you been doing to get better? We get feedback when we interact with other people. They laugh, they get bored, they feel awkward or don't like your energy. You should strive to use that feedback. Example: Girls don't like when you over text them. Why? Because it makes you seem needy. But the goal isn't to not over text, the goal is to become not needy. Why don't women want a needy guy? Because a needy man is one that isn't comfortable with himself. People that aren't comfortable wit…
/r/seduction01/11/19 06:27 AM
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There are so many variables that how long I've been doing game is irrelevant. If you can consistently get Tinder dates with girls that you are attracted to, you're already doing the hard part. And you theoretically have an endless stream of girls to practice with. I don't learn much from dates that go well. It's my failures that I've learned the most from. Also realize that sometimes you can do everything right and she still doesn't like you. If you take Game somewhat seriously and really work o…
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:31 PM
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I'm 6'3, combat vet, I bow hunt, etc. As far as compliments go, I'd say close to half are some form of "you're cute"... If they're attracted to you, I don't think it's an issue. Now if you regularly have girls patting you on the top of the head and patronizingly telling you that you're "cute" that's a different story. I've known plenty of guys around your height that I wouldn't want to fuck with. You can't control your genetics. You CAN control how well you make the best of them.
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:18 PM
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At the same time don't be the yappy neurotic dog that's compensating for their size...
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:13 PM
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"Text me to remind me" AKA you're not important enough for me to remember. I actually haven't had a girl say this to me yet, but I think I'd try to follow the advice in How to be a 3% man and basically tell her to either commit to meeting me or not. How you do that is a matter of style. I'd probably tease her and say something like, "You're not one of those super flaky people that make plans, but always bail are you?" Said teasingly with a smile. Then when you did text her she had thing she forg…
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:01 AM
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I'm in my early 30s and while I'm not yet having threesomes with super models I do pretty well(pretty much strictly 8-10s that are smart and cool). Humans have been around for 220,00 years. Up until about 10,000 years ago we lived as Hunter-gatherers in groups of 50-150 people. Not only was it really important to have a mate that you could really count on, but you also knew everyone intimately. Our brains are still wired pretty much the same. And things that make you attractive to women also mak…
/r/seduction31/10/19 07:40 AM
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How long did you wait after the initial meet to text? When she told you she was busy, how much effort did she put into letting you know she wished she wasn't? E.g. "I really wish I could, I had a lot of fun last time, but I work that night 😭😭" vs. "I'm really busy this week" this isn't 100% accurate, some girls prefer brief texts, others are just really nice and expressive. Also, when you asked her out again were you specific (have dinner with me on Saturday) or wide open (hey I'm pretty much fr…
/r/seduction31/10/19 06:58 AM
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I got out of a 10 year marriage in February. The first thing I did was find a sexy nympho that was more than happy to help me fuck the pain away with the expectation that we'd eventually be just friends (and we are now.. well still kinda FWB haha). In all seriousness though, the human connection was good. Dating is good. Being social is good. Working on yourself is good. Working out is good. Basically everything related to being better with women is GOOD, especially coming out of a relationship.…
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:50 AM
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I was married for ten miserable years. So I understand how awesome it is when a woman gives you attention. Here's a reality check: she has a family. You have a family. If you try to make something happen and it backfires you're fucked. If something does happen and one of you fucks up, you're both fucked. And most likely she DOES find you attractive. And it gives her a thrill to flirt with you. But there's a huuuuuuuuge difference between flirting and fucking. One's harmless and the other fucks u…
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:20 AM
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I think part of it is an age thing, too. If I was 19 I might be "fkn clever w words and emotions!!" But being in my early 30s I'd sound like a fucking retard writing like that. Language is definitely important, though. It's important to express your thoughts precisely, but also to be able to use language poetically. And yeah, chics dig it. Elegant use of language shows intelligence and an appreciation for not only language itself, but life. There's a great book called Open Her by Karen Brody wit…
/r/seduction30/10/19 11:42 PM
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How much are you relying on techniques and gimmicks, as opposed to more natural conversation? How much are you letting them talk? 50/50? Are you steering the conversation to be exciting, playful, fun and sexy? Or are you covering birth place, college, work history, travel history, favorite TV show, etc? After the date, what's your text game like? At what point do you bring up a second date? How old are you, physical attractiveness and what kind of women are you taking on dates?
/r/seduction30/10/19 03:09 AM
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Think about how you look to her right now: you officially broke up with your girlfriend and then immediately texted this girl like "yo, I dumped her like you told me to. Can we fuck now? Like, tonight?" So just chill. Don't text first. When you see her at work pretend like nothing happened. Have the same energy you had after you guys made out, but obviously adjust as needed. When she brings up your girlfriend, mention something about how you're glad it's over, you knew it was over before, she re…
/r/seduction30/10/19 02:59 AM
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Hard to say without seeing/watching you, but I would bet your energy is very feminine. That is what I notice when I'm picking up gay vibes from a dude. Watch queer eye for the straight guy or something and then watch a Bond movie. Try to be less excitable, giddy, emotional, etc. And more relaxed, calm and non reactive. When you do get excited don't try to talk like girls, "oh my gawwwwd, that's amazing!" It's also okay to just be amused about their excitement instead of joining in, depending wha…
/r/seduction28/10/19 03:14 PM
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Or maybe hook ups are an audition and you haven't been getting the part.
/r/seduction27/10/19 10:19 PM
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I don't really agree with this line of thinking. If I'm hanging out with a beautiful woman, especially if we've made out before, it's because I want to have sex with her. I know it. She knows it. That's my intent. What else would it be? "Oh you know, hehe, you're pretty cool I guess, and fun to kiss hehe, I might make you my girlfriend" Intent is for before you've decided if you like her. The idea being you haven't had time to decide whether or not to like her yet. Because if you liked her purel…
/r/seduction27/10/19 09:24 PM
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Best piece of advice I've ever gotten: Go twice as slow as you think you should. I prefer to make women cum at least a few times before we even start fucking. Women are, generally speaking, the opposite of men: the more they cum, the more turned on and excited they get. Which means you can take her on a roller coaster of pleasure, if you have the patience and skill. Read about pussy massage, the g spot, the a spot and various techniques to make a woman squirt. In my experience, I won't go too ri…
/r/seduction27/10/19 09:09 PM
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Honestly man the fact that you can could have checked the box, but haven't, says some good things about you. I had a buddy who waited awhile and had really high standards. He's one of the best humans I know. Personally I don't see any value in waiting. You're going to pass up a lot of opportunities not only for joy, but also to grow as a person. Also, how long do you want to wait before you start working on your sexual skills? Being good in bed is a really good thing to be good at. But ultimatel…
/r/seduction27/10/19 02:32 AM
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After reading through all of these comments and replies, I think you are looking for a trophy. You want a girl to hold up and say, "look! she's perfect! And she was only interested in me! And I had to work for it!" You're defining your own value based on your perceived value of her. OR because it'll be your first time you want her to be completely perfect. And the way you are valuing women makes you sound like a little boy. "She kissed me right away" - so? Kissing is fun. Maybe she does that all…
/r/seduction26/10/19 11:10 PM
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Haha So many posts about first kisses lately It sounds like she likes you. She will probably be thrilled to have you kiss her. Don't be a pussy. Worst case she doesn't... Be respectful and chill and move on.
/r/seduction26/10/19 10:54 PM
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You've never had sex. Which means your only experience with it is porn, hearing people talk about it and feeling like you've been on the outside looking in, as far as being part of the group of people that have sex. Which probably has made you feel like shit for not having it. I'm also guessing you were raised in a house where sex was treated as a "bad" thing. There's a fantastic book called Sex At Dawn that I think would be perfect for someone looking to gain a new perspective on human sexualit…
/r/seduction26/10/19 08:04 PM
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This is one of my favorite posts. Thank you for writing this. If you haven't read Open Her by Karen Brody, I think you'd like it.
/r/seduction26/10/19 07:42 PM
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It sounds like all of the women in your life came to the through your social circle, or your friends helped you with cold approach. It sounds like you suck at cold approach. So either have a social circle that results in meeting new girls or learn to go up and talk to girls. My guess is you previously let all of your friends do the heavy lifting and you were never nervous. Now you're nervous and it shows.
/r/seduction26/10/19 07:35 PM
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It depends on a lot of factors, but one of my favorites is a playful back of the hand tap against her hip. I have been waiting for an opportunity to trace my finger up and down a girl's forearm as an initial move. Unusual does not automatically mean awkward. A cute blond walks up in a sexy dress and says "hi handsome" her voice oozing sex. How often does this happen? What guy wouldn't want this to happen to them? It's okay to be sexy
/r/seduction26/10/19 06:35 PM
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You always have some kind of plan, by mostly you improvise and go with the flow. A man walks into a bar.... How many ways can this story go? That's what makes going out solo an adventure. You're going to pass up soooo many opportunities to talk to people at first, especially if they're a beautiful woman. And that's okay. It takes time to build the skills and confidence to take advantage of every opportunity. Know what Women find attractive? A man that's comfortable with himself. It's not weird t…
/r/seduction25/10/19 11:36 PM
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First dates are fucking awesome. You never know what is going to happen. The tension is high. And honestly they are a bit challenging, since it's on you to lead. Game isn't that much different than leaning to ski or surf. Last year I started skiing. I sucked ass. I kept falling. I think I legit got a concussion. But after a few days of practice I had gotten the hang of it. I was doing parallel turns and hockey stops and it was fucking awesome. What an amazing feeling to be flying down the mounta…
/r/seduction25/10/19 11:18 PM
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Like others have said, the main variables here are: how good is your cold approach game and how many attractive women are in your (extended) social circle. If you're in college, social circle is probably a good option. Personally, I don't rely on social circle game at all. I'm only really interested in dating truly beautiful women, that are also smart, kind, funny and successful. They're rare and the ones I've met through social circles all have boyfriends. That being said if you're a good dude …
/r/seduction24/10/19 09:29 PM
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Bruh. You're watching TV together. I literally don't think it gets any easier in terms of kino escalation. She should be leaning on you as you watch TV. Semi cuddled up to you. If she's not tell her to "come here". Your hand goes on her thigh. Above the knee at first. If she's cool with that, move it up some eventually. Eventually caress her thigh. After a bit of that kiss her. Then just insert Part A into Slot B.
/r/seduction24/10/19 06:55 PM
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Oh and if she gives you the "I like you as a friend" speech just laugh and keep it fun. "That's alright. Girls make the best wingmen"
/r/seduction24/10/19 06:43 PM
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Because it takes away the mystery and forces her to make a decision about you. Start by rubbing elbows, playfully bumping into her when you are walking, or standing talking. If she's touching back or doesn't pull away you're good to go. You could also just grab her and pull her close to you (DO NOT make it seem like you're going for a kiss unless you actually are) and say something like "you're pretty cute" Recognize that when you do that you are essentially saying I find you attractive as a wom…
/r/seduction24/10/19 06:40 PM
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Read How to win friends and influence people X2 on most of the other advice here. Development is about way more than looking good with your clothes off. Be a man of substance. There should be things about you that when a girl eventually finds out makes you more attractive. I say eventually because these things should NOT be used to initially build attraction. They should be pleasant surprises as she gets to know you better and learns more about you. You need to have some depth. And the goal shou…
/r/seduction24/10/19 06:00 PM
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There's a chance that she'd get off on a guy she's never met before being sexual/physical from the start. More than likely though, she's going to want/need at least some amount of comfort building before you start getting physical. I think what I'd do is probably simultaneously play it safe AND use it as an opportunity to build more attraction before things do get physical. If you can be very confident, convey your sexuality with your body language and eyes and drop a few choice comments she'll …
/r/seduction24/10/19 05:09 PM
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Open Her by Karen Brody. Highly recommended. Other books that I liked that are recommended on here frequently: how to be a 3% man, Models and How to win friends and influence people I'll also throw out a couple of my personal favorites: Happiness is an inside Job and 12 Rules for Life. I believe that the very core of game is to become the most excellent person you can be. And that has very little to do with money. Yes, learning about IOIs, escalation, frame, etc. Are useful tools. But they are j…
/r/seduction24/10/19 12:14 AM
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Yeah fuck yeah dude. I call this the "best day ever vibe". Like you're having the best day of your life and your fun is contagious. I haven't specifically done this, but I'm guessing all of this is done in a really fun and playful manner? Like you're just amusing yourself?
/r/seduction23/10/19 04:28 AM
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I think the key thing here isn't the compliment, it's the appreciation behind the compliment. There's a great book called "open her" that has chapters on both appreciation and compliments. The more I learn about "game" the more I feel like I'm running game all of the time, because a lot of it is just understanding people. And it's not being manipulative, it's being a leader in terms of setting the vibe. That's done by being dialed in, considerate, charismatic, funny, confident, self aware, etc. …
/r/seduction23/10/19 04:23 AM
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I'm not "being a nice guy", but I have put a lot of effort into being a good human. Good humans are attractive. Good humans are attracted to other good humans. Having good humans in your life is good. Look, you came here for advice. I'm legitimately trying to give you advice that relates to deep, inner game. If you just want to be a ghetto fuck boy then have at it
/r/seduction22/10/19 06:29 AM
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Ever had a drop dead gorgeous woman show up to your apartment wearing lingerie under her coat? And she wasn't even my girlfriend. You seem to think there's something manly about treating women like they're just a piece of ass. There isn't. There isn't anything manly about putting them up on a pedestal either. Women have evolved to smell bullshit. Be the man that's confident and fun, but one they can feel safe with.
/r/seduction22/10/19 05:54 AM
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Yeah you fucked up. Just give her some space and play it cool for a bit. I seriously doubt you're dead in the water, though
/r/seduction22/10/19 05:45 AM
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Rule 1 is don't stick your dick in crazy. That being said, the above is the best advice here. "I don't like when he looks me in the eyes" "Well that's kinda weird that eye contact makes you uncomfortable". Said as if she's being a total weirdo, but in a playful way The next time she plays footsie calmly pull your feet away and with the biggest grin look at her like she's being a total weirdo. I would put my hands up like "what the hell?" Too. Then if she's rude again you can tease her about not …
/r/seduction22/10/19 05:38 AM
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You sound like you have zero respect for women and have no interest in them beyond what's between their legs. I can pretty much guarantee that comes across pretty clearly when you interact with them. Instead of "tryna fuxk" why don't you start by finding a girl that you enjoy spending time with and enjoy making happy and then share a great experience with them? If you can do that in a confident, non needy, fun and playful way you'll have more women than you know what to do with.
/r/seduction22/10/19 05:27 AM
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This is like going on a sky diving reddit and asking for advice about freezing in the door. You're going to have to just jump man. But baby steps, like someone else said.
/r/seduction21/10/19 08:03 PM
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This response is perfect. X10. I'm just add that it sounds like you misread the smirk in this instance, but you could have the same exact thing happen again and have it be the right move to go for a second kiss.
/r/seduction21/10/19 06:32 PM
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What's "stinky" ? Are we talking like a strong feminine musk or like gag inducing odor?
/r/seduction19/10/19 06:55 PM
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This is solid advice, but I'll add my 2 cents... Be yourself. That does NOT mean making the same jokes you'd make to your nerdy guy friends... That means making jokes that YOU think are funny and that you think she SHOULD find funny. Same goes for opinions. Don't agree with her on everything. Be a man and show conviction in your beliefs. If you want her to be attracted to you you've got to show her your personality. There's a chance that in doing so she'll decide she isn't attracted to you. Eith…
/r/seduction19/10/19 06:53 PM
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Comfort and attraction. Some guys can build those in minutes, others it could take hours. It will also depend on the girl. Personally I wouldn't use a game to set up the first kiss. But I've reached a point where I actually ENJOY the tension of a first kiss and will intentionally go in very slowly and intentionally. It's a thrill... For both of you if you do it right. But it took me awhile to get there.
/r/seduction19/10/19 06:43 PM
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Play video games with her. When you do find a way to sit next to her so that you're making physical contact. Even just your knee touching hers. If she's into you she'll maintain contact or even actively seek it after you've made initial contact. Find a way to touch her with your hand. On the arm, playfully like "oh shit, nice!". You can tap her with the back of your hand. Since you're a total noob I'm not going to recommend going for a kiss. Unless she's leaning on you. If she's leaning on you w…
/r/seduction19/10/19 06:36 PM
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Decide what kind of life you'd ideally like to have and what kind of person you want to be. Then figure out how to get there and ACTUALLY DO IT. Want to be comfortable in social situations? You're going to have to spend dozens of hours being UNCOMFORTABLE. Want to be able to meet women by just walking up and saying hi? You're going to have to approach dozens of women and it's going to be UNCOMFORTABLE. Want to have a more athletic physique? ... You get the idea. Nothing worth having comes easy. …
/r/seduction19/10/19 06:23 PM
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I agree with the general principle of not wasting resources on women until you're fairly certain that things are going somewhere, but I think you've taken it a bit far. If you can convey high value / build enough attraction to skip going out and invite her straight to your place then do it. But let's look at some limiting factors: 1) physical attractiveness - if you're tall and handsome you've got it easier than short and fugly(nothing but love for my height challenged brothers haha) 2) her comf…
/r/seduction19/10/19 01:34 AM
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Sounds like you're getting nervous when it matters to you. Maybe try thinking of it like racing bikes or something that gets your heart going. The thrill is part of the experience, so just move into the discomfort and embrace it. I had a girl that I knew somewhat that was in my social circle look me dead in the eyes and rub my thigh. I have zero interest in her, but it didn't bother or offend me. If a girl I'm not that into is touching me I just find it flattering.
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:39 PM
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I dunno, you said that when you're not as attracted it's not an issue, nor once you've started having sex... Sounds like just plain old nerves to me. How much experience do you have with men in general? Because if you read this sub you sound like every guy on here.
/r/seduction16/10/19 05:01 AM
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You use your lips and tongue to do fun shit with her lips and tongue without drooling in her mouth or hitting her teeth with yours. Don't get too sloppy. Don't go totally insane with your tongue. Those are pretty much all the don'ts.
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:55 AM
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So I was recently given some advice regarding this that shifted me even more toward not really caring about environment. The first kiss doesn't have to be a make out session. Think wedding kiss: sensual and passionate, but not horny teenagers in a dark basement. Environment matters, but not nearly as much as you think. Pretty much any side walk, anywhere that people are drinking, in a restaurant, etc. Are probably fine. Obviously there are probably situations that aren't great, like on an elevat…
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:47 AM
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"ooops I didn't mean to touch you tee hee :0) " How about you just look her in the eyes and put your hand on her arm or knee. Just fucking say it(non verbally) man, don't be a bitch. "I like you as a woman" that's all you're saying when you do that. Then she'll react and you'll have your answer. That's the human mating ritual. The ones that are unafraid of performing the dance are the ones that take home the most mates. Escalate and pay attention to IOIs. If she's into you she most likely wants …
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:35 AM
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How do you know a lot of girls don't like it?
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:07 AM
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She'll go along with whatever vibe you set. I like to think of them as an old lover I haven't seen in awhile. Hug her when you meet her (if you have the confidence to pull this off without making it awkward). Ask her about her day. Let her get comfortable and then just let the conversation go where it goes. Whoever is asking questions is leading the conversation. That's your job. Let her do 70-80% of the talking. Don't be afraid to disagree with her. Avoid serious topics and anything negative. L…
/r/seduction16/10/19 04:00 AM
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Women are selecting you as a mate. On a biological and deeply psychological level they need a man that will protect and care for them while they're with child and for the family afterwards. You give up when a girl tells you no. And I get it, it IS hard. But if you want to attract, and keep, women you need to become a confident man. Work on yourself. Read 12 Rules for Life. Start setting goals and working towards them. Become the kind of man you'd want your future daughter to date. And accept tha…
/r/seduction11/10/19 04:15 PM
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If you describe yourself as fat, it's not that girls are shallow, it's that: discipline, self respect and personal pride are attractive being healthy is attractive jiggling all over during sex is not
/r/seduction11/10/19 05:02 AM
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Your success rate is going to depend on how good your game* is, how much you're reading women before you approach (did she make eye contact and smile vs. just going up totally cold) and to some extent how attractive you are. The last one is debatable, but a 10 in the looks department will, on average, have a higher success rate than a 6. In this instance "game" includes everything like your confidence, body language, eye contact, posture as well as what most people would think of as "game". Ther…
/r/seduction10/10/19 08:42 PM
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Women don't care nearly as much about looks. It's about how you make them feel. You're being insecure.
/r/seduction10/10/19 12:33 PM
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Straight up the height thing is a disadvantage. But dude, your competition knows fuck all just like you and here you are educating yourself on how to be a man that women enjoy spending time with and find attractive. Play your cards right, continuously work on yourself and by the time you hit college you'll be at the beginning stages of being a rock star. By the time you leave college... Lol Work on yourself as a man: I think 12 Rules for Life is a good place to start Work on your understanding o…
/r/seduction10/10/19 06:09 AM
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Too old for what? Fulfilling adolescent fantasies of fucking cheer leaders? You're never too old to find joy. And I've met plenty of fucking amazingly sexy women that are 28-34 And honestly it's not unreasonable to aim for hooking up with the hottest of women. But you've got to be the man they choose over all the others. And becoming that man will take time.
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:55 AM
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I also want to say this: even if you never become a player extraordinaire, I promise you that you will find plenty of cute girls that are great in bed and whose company will bring you great joy. That is very very attainable. Inner game is talked about a lot and as someone that is in my early 30s and had a rough life, the book happiness is an inside Job really helped me a lot. Stoicism is also good. I think you'd also really benefit from 12 Rules for Life.
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:51 AM
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Brother, there's no reason to fold your hand and if you're going to play it, make the most of it. You're in grad school. Which means at some point in the not ridiculously far future you're going to have a great career. You're aware of your short comings and seem to be willing to try to fix them. If you work on all aspects of your life, in a few years you'll be the shit. It's going to take a lot of effort and you better be ready to be uncomfortable a lot. Learn to thrive off discomfort. Research …
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:45 AM
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Something I had to learn/realize was I had this expiration date, must have now, mentality. Yes, sometimes prompt action is absolutely required. But sometimes you've got to let things play out. Also at this point to her you're just a cute guy that seemed nice. She'll maybe give you a shot, but try to be there confident guy she enjoys picturing fucking her brains out, cuz that what she wants. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/darwins-subterranean-world/201910/the-end-sex
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:33 AM
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Dude you make it sound sooooo serious haha He tried to escalate and for whatever reason it didn't work. By acting like it wasn't a big deal you 1) establish that it wasn't and 2) give her the option of how she wants it to play out. She may just need time for more attraction and comfort. She may stop paying attention to you entirely because she was never interested in the first place and you've made it awkward. I'm curious, though, was the joke sexual in nature (that's what she said) or more pers…
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:22 AM
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I get trying to play it cool, but personally when it comes to sex I drop some amount of the bullshit/game and I'm just person to person with her. "You weren't just a piece of meat, I appreciate you as a human" that's the message I'm trying to, in the chillest of ways, convey. And this may sound judgemental AF, but the way you described her, strong odds she has self esteem issues and feels objectified by men, especially if she's hot. Edited to add: when you say party girl I think raver. rock clim…
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:10 AM
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This is good advice and the hotter she is the more true it is. You need to stand out. I'm a little older and generally go for women that appreciate language, so this would work for me: "you've got very kissable/feminine/delicate/sexy shoulders". YMMV and I think each of those comes across a little differently
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:00 AM
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Uhhh you've just described how each sex basically values the other. It's well understood. The way you phrased it made it kind of sound... Weird
/r/seduction10/10/19 04:54 AM
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Personally, I almost always text a girl the day after we hook up, but 100% if it was the first time. everyone is insecure to some degree. So if I enjoyed it I'll let them know in a sexy fun way. Everyone likes to hear they're good in bed. That makes them feel good. When you have a lover sex is all of your interactions. Plus it gets them thinking about it and they experience it again to some degree and it helps build sexual tension for the next time. It's all a dance My guess would be that "after…
/r/seduction10/10/19 04:46 AM
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To add to this: your mentality should be that they are willing to have sex on the first date. Not that they are there just to fuck you and leave. You still need to do all the normal stuff: have a few drinks, get to know each other, kino, escalate, etc. If it's a hook up date all that is just on easy mode. This includes girls that I'd sexted with about some freaky shit prior to meeting up. Letting the sexual tension build will make it better for both of you. Personally I enjoy spending time with …
/r/seduction10/10/19 02:30 AM
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Also, since you mentioned what to do: just go say hi and be prepared to lead the conversation initially. If you're getting looks you don't need any advanced game, and as a beginner you just need to get comfortable approaching. "Hey, how's it going" and then find something to talk about. If she's interested she won't give a fuck what you say, as long as it's not awkward. Stop being logical, women aren't (and that's what makes them fun). It's how the conversation makes them feel. And that is 10% w…
/r/seduction09/10/19 10:01 PM
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I'm 6'2 and I've really worked on posture, body language, etc. The result is everyone notices me. At first I was like WTF and wanted to be self conscious about it. Then I realized I had accomplished what I set out to do: project a confident masculine energy. It's not that much different than being a beautiful woman - everyone looks. If I was surrounded by women between the ages of 18-22 and I cared enough to be on r/seduction I'd care enough to take the extra 10 minutes a day and be presentable.…
/r/seduction09/10/19 09:51 PM
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18 already and school just started? Red flag. Honestly it sounds like you're thinking with the wrong head. But sometimes the wims of the little fella can't be ignored, so: The awkwardness of checking her ID is worth it to avoid potentially becoming a sex offender. If she is 18(which I doubt, honestly) don't give her alcohol. Probably ever, but definitely not until you've already hooked up at least once. Yeah yeah.. if she was 18 and in college it would be a little different. But if you "provided…
/r/seduction09/10/19 01:33 AM
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In the last 6 months I've been on about a dozen first dates. 11 ended with at least a kiss. The 12th... She kept bringing up hanging out again, but when I went for a kiss told me "I don't kiss on the first date". There was another one where we just didn't vibe. Still kissed, but she wasn't super into it. Those two weren't even in the more attractive half of that 12. I know a woman that dodged kisses until the third date, then dated the guy for like 4 months. If you're being genuine you won't vib…
/r/seduction09/10/19 12:44 AM
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So man, I honestly have been thinking about making an account to start "giving back" so to speak and your post finally made me do it. I'm fairly new to game, but I feel like I've learned a lot in the last year or so. I struggle with depression and suicidal thoughts. I get it. It's not logical. It's not rational. But when you start spiraling down and feeling low, it's like "what's the point?" Women, well people in general, pick up on your energy. If you approach a girl and her rejecting you is go…
/r/seduction22/09/19 03:53 AM
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