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I would probably suggest waiting for her to return and doing a nice, small gesture to show your support (card, cup of coffee, etc.). Calling would be appropriate if you had already gotten her number from her, rather than from the directory. If, heaven forbid, you actually do call her (or it comes up in a person-to-person conversation), there are a few points to mention in talking about death: People do not want you to fix their situation--it is unfixable--the best way to approach it is to simply…
/r/seduction28/12/15 04:26 AM
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It is not that there are a lack of classy women, it is that they are not attracted to you.
/r/seduction28/12/15 04:14 AM
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To appropriately answer this question, you must first ask yourself: Do you think you will be interested in pickup once you have established yourself into a career? Likely not. I think nursing might be the optimum career for pickup; disclaimer, I am a nurse. In nursing, I have learned to interact with my female classmates/coworkers on a day-to-day basis. I am not intimidated as I once was. Additionally, you learn a variety of communication techniques to talk to your patients, and they are actuall…
/r/seduction28/12/15 04:11 AM
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Flirting is about gradually increasing how interested you seem to be--while she gradually increases her interest as well. It is a mutual process, similar to trust. If you go too fast, it will come off as desperate; too slow comes off as uninterested.
/r/seduction28/12/15 04:00 AM
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The women in California are WAY different from the girls here in Ohio. Totally different game.
/r/seduction29/11/15 05:17 PM
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Recent breakup means conflicting thoughts about meeting/being with new people. During the day (sober) she doesn't want to go through with that stuff again, but when she has had a drink or two, her inhibitions are lower and she texted you. This means she is attracted to you (obviously). But it seems like her behavior towards you when she is sober is a bad sign. The things she did that "seemed like such girlfriend stuff" are simply the things she is used to doing with her previous boyfriend. Do no…
/r/seduction18/11/15 02:08 AM
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We usually just find a good spot on the dance floor around a few different groups of girls. If a girl wants to dance, she will glance over at you periodically (or just come up to you!).
/r/seduction18/11/15 01:59 AM
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Just a thought, but as a physician you will be conversing with people about their health, and need to do it in a way in which they understand. Accordingly, you need to learn how to use simple plain language with people. It will benefit you professionally and personally. Source: I am a nurse.
/r/seduction18/10/15 03:20 AM
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The risk of contracting HIV, per unprotected vaginal sexual act, is less than 1%. Wearing a condom brings your relative risk to approximately zero. Just be consistent with your condon usage and you can hold peace of mind. Additionally, there are rapid tests for HIV, that are effective within less than two weeks of exposure. Source: I am a nurse.
/r/seduction13/10/15 12:42 AM
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Real life is low volume, highly effective...Online is high volume, minimally effective. It works for some, but has its own unique set of challenges.
/r/seduction11/10/15 10:12 PM
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I've developed a similar heuristic for objectively analyzing potential relationships. It is relatively crude, but it actually does a nice job of quantifying my past relationships, and gives a good idea of compatibility with new girls. For those who are interested. I welcome feedback on it.
/r/seduction11/10/15 02:48 PM
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Please stop saying "I ate her boobs." I'm willing to bet that when she isn't on her period, you will have a green light.
/r/seduction03/10/15 12:24 PM
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I find dates are much more likely to happen if you have something specific in mind when you ask them out. For instance, I've had more success with things like "would you like to get coffee tomorrow morning? My favorite cafe has incredible chai lattes and you have to try them" and less success with things like "wanna get coffee sometime?" How you present the date to them can significantly reduce flaking.
/r/seduction16/09/15 03:19 AM
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Fear leads to anxiety. Fear of not knowing how the interaction will go is called Approach Anxiety. This is something that I think everyone feels, especially at first. There are a variety of ways/methods/tricks to reduce or even eliminate AA, but there is one main concept that helps the most (to me): outcome independence. Outcome independence is the ability of a person to separate themselves from how the interaction goes--good or bad, it doesn't matter, the success is that you approached. Do not …
/r/seduction16/09/15 03:14 AM
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"Hey, I enjoyed meeting you but I want to be honest with you and state my intentions: I just want to be friends."
/r/seduction14/09/15 02:13 AM
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The sooner the better. You can always meet somewhere, it doesn't have to be at your house when you are home alone. I think that actually sends the wrong signal.
/r/seduction14/09/15 02:12 AM
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Do not fall into the "interview" conversation--i.e. "whats your name? where are you from? what are you studying?" No one at a party wants to sit down and be interviewed about their life, and no one wants to talk about what they are studying/their major or any of that. House parties are designed to get away from class. Try this: If you see something going on at the party (guy hitting on a girl, people doing a keg stand, girl having a rough and emotional night), and there is a girl that you want t…
/r/seduction14/09/15 02:10 AM
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I think there is "good" oneitis and "bad" oneitis. "Good" oneitis is when you meet a girl who you really connect with, she is into you, and you think it may develop into a relationship. You should feel this way about someone you intend to be in a relationship with. "Bad" oneitis is when you meet a girl who seems perfect for you, and you fall for her, but there is no flirty/mutual attraction between you two, and it is unlikely to develop into a relationship. This often speaks more to someone's pe…
/r/seduction02/09/15 03:23 AM
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Nothing scientific, but I think it lowers your value. When I am with anyone in a social setting, especially a date, my phone is nowhere to be found. It shows the person that you are present with them and that you do not need the constant stimulus of the Internet. If she shows up and you are on your phone, you are setting the tone for the rest of the date.
/r/seduction20/08/15 03:09 PM
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Sounds like it is about the chase...which is probably more about self-validation than anything else. As soon as these attractive girls showed interest, it was validating for you, and you decided that you could look for someone else. You are attracted to what you cannot have.
/r/seduction20/08/15 04:24 AM
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Go home, you're drunk.
/r/seduction20/08/15 04:11 AM
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While I agree that being nice is important when interacting with women, I do not think it should be the primary focus of an initial encounter with a woman. In the context of seduction, women do not want to feel appreciated, they want to feel attractive. The term "nice guys finish last" exists not because women are looking for douchebags (although some actually do, for some reason), but because "nice guys" often fail to frame the interaction as flirtatious. Conversely, a lot of douchy guys are se…
/r/seduction20/08/15 04:06 AM
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The problem with Facebook, and attempting to attract people that you already know, is that these people have already cataloged your role in their life. The benefit of meeting new people is that you have the ability to define your role in their life. This is not to say that Facebook-game cannot be done, but you will have to overcome this barrier, and redefine yourself in their eyes.
/r/seduction20/08/15 03:42 AM
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There is no time like on time. If you are early, don't look at your phone. Please do not go to Starbucks unless there are no other options. Why specifically have you chosen coffee dates? Coffee is good if you are looking to find a girlfriend, because it is very much a setting where you can talk to each other and get to know them. Coffee is less flirtatious than drinks, and less forward than dinner.
/r/seduction20/08/15 03:32 AM
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Initially texting for me only consists of setting up plans that I have already proposed when I get the number. To get the number, say something like "Hey I would love to grab coffee, let me get your number so we can set up plans tomorrow." If she is receptive to your idea of grabbing coffee, you will get the number, and I am willing to bet she will not be as flaky.
/r/seduction10/06/15 01:00 AM
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He means to say that girls do their make-up and get dressed up for beach parties (and other parties/bars/etc.) to meet other people and to have conversations. That is the point, for both men and women.
/r/seduction10/06/15 12:55 AM
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Something to be mindful of though, do not ask too many questions...it is not an interview, but too often it becomes one.
/r/seduction10/06/15 12:54 AM
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I used to play a lot of video games. What made me stop was the realization that, with the time that I spent in front of the screen playing video games, I could have been pursuing some of my real life goals. "Accomplishments" in video games can only ever exist inside that game, but accomplishments in real life are tangible and can really impact your life for the better.
/r/seduction10/06/15 12:50 AM
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I think the most valuable advice on this one is to not become complacent when you are dating someone. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you can stop trying.
/r/seduction20/03/15 10:41 PM
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If you are into someone and you would worry that she is going to find out, it sounds like you should just pursue that girl instead of doing this hookup.
/r/seduction20/03/15 10:38 PM
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It sounds like you have significant depression. I am (almost) a nurse and I have experience in mental health. I have also had depression in the past and I know it is hard to cope with. My advice is to seek some counseling for your depression. I know that this may not sound appealing to you now, and it is hard to admit that you may need help, but professional counseling will help you with your feelings right now. By sorting through the depression, and getting into a better state of mind, your lif…
/r/seduction20/03/15 10:28 PM
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She was hosting the party so her mind was probably more centered on that than it was you. Sounds like she was being a little zesty with that sleeping with other people comment...I totally wouldn't have appreciated that and would've made that known. Sounds like you two need to have a talk.
/r/seduction01/01/15 11:36 PM
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Relax. Wayyyyyy over thinking it. It is NYE. Need I say more? Enjoy your night in her company, make effort to get to know her, show some affection, and get a midnight kiss. Done and done.
/r/seduction01/01/15 01:08 AM
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That's great. Meeting someone really provides perspective. Another thought: if this is how it feels to be with a girl while you are pursuing her, do you think it will feel any better if you're with her? The answer is likely no. It'll be the same shit, and it won't make you happy.
/r/seduction27/12/14 03:11 PM
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Snapchat also helps to prevent being Catfished. You can see what the other person really looks like.
/r/seduction27/12/14 02:46 PM
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I went through this a couple of years ago. Upon reflection, I realized that my depression was more closely related to other factors in my life, and the oneitis exacerbated this for me. What got me through it was interactions with others. A different girl showed a little interest in me, and it made me realize that there are others out there just as "perfect" as the one you are after now.
/r/seduction24/12/14 08:18 PM
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Be careful when establishing FWB. Successful FWB has three components: overriding attraction, dynamite performance in the sack, and an understanding by both parties about the situation. You cannot/shouldn't con or manipulate a girl into this. It is an agreement between both people. For the post-hookup text, I usually text about 30-60 minutes after we separate. I find that girls often want to communicate about the night, but leave it up to the guy to engage in the conversation. If you are shootin…
/r/seduction10/12/14 10:45 PM
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Invite her over for a movie night. Pick a movie that's worth watching, but not so exciting that her attention won't be directed towards you. Have a bottle of wine for you to share. Let nature do its magic.
/r/seduction14/11/14 03:11 PM
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Girls like when guys go after what they want. If she isn't interested, move on.
/r/seduction14/09/14 03:16 AM
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This works wonders for me at the bars. When the dance floor is just starting, but there is no one really dancing, me and a buddy always go into the middle and go NUTS. We have a great time, involve everyone around us, and dance like we know what we are doing (we don't). Usually good outcomes.
/r/seduction10/09/14 09:20 PM
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You've gotta be fucking kidding me.
/r/seduction02/09/14 07:02 PM
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The great thing about starting from scratch is that you have nothing to lose. Just force yourself to approach someone and make conversation. So what if it doesn't go well, you'll still be in the EXACT SAME SPOT as you are right now, but with a tiny bit more experience and a tiny bit more confidence. Treat everything as a lesson.
/r/seduction11/07/14 04:17 AM
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Being in a bar with a water in my hand and constantly needing to pee emulated how it feels to be drinking. It felt very similar to drinking, and it allowed me to relax and focus without having any alcohol.
/r/seduction09/07/14 02:34 PM
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I was DD for some friends about a month ago, so when we were at the bar I had only water. Always having a cup in your hand to sip from, and being so hydrated you need to piss every 15 minutes, actually helped get me into the pickup mindset. I had an awesome time. Try it!
/r/seduction09/07/14 12:34 PM
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Well said, you really nailed it.
/r/seduction09/07/14 12:32 PM
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Every relationship requires three things: 1) Physical attraction, 2) emotional connection and 3) the proper situation. You two live in different cities. You are lacking the third component. While the whole "long distance" thing works for some people, you have to be able to build your foundation for the relationship IN PERSON, before the distance happens.
/r/seduction10/06/14 05:20 AM
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This plays way more to self-improvement than pickup, but I think the two topics are one in the same. Follow your passions, and integrate them into your pickup. For instance, I am passionate about running and medicine. When you meet someone, you feel each other out until you find something in common...this is normal. When I meet a girl who is interested in running or medicine, I immediately have something to talk about to springboard the conversation. Portraying your passion to others elevates yo…
/r/seduction03/06/14 09:23 PM
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The best way to develop your ability to interest others is to find things you are passionate in. Girls do not like guys who are generally uninterested with their own lives. Find activities you love and pursue them. Doing things like mountain biking, woodworking or cooking will boost your confidence, give you something to talk about, and make you a generally happier person.
/r/seduction03/06/14 09:15 PM
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Why do you hate it? Being in good physical condition is essential to being healthy. This doesn't mean you have to be a meathead.
/r/seduction03/06/14 09:12 PM
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To get a girl to talk first, you have to be interesting. Moreover, she has to be interested in YOU. You have to establish yourself in a way that they will desire you. Girls will go for the things they desire.
/r/seduction03/06/14 09:10 PM
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Underused? Possibly. Underrated? There are tons of existing threads on /r/seduction about the importance of eye contact.
/r/seduction05/05/14 03:00 PM
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Remaining friends because you are afraid of screwing things up is PRECISELY what the friend zone is. Go for it.
/r/seduction08/04/14 02:21 PM
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You sir, are an asshole!
/r/seduction04/04/14 05:26 PM
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Because he was able to get into the right frame. He was having fun. He was confident from kissing the first girl. He handled the trans situation with grace. He danced with the model. These things all perpetuate one another. People notice that you are having fun and they are drawn to you because of that. Confidence (even fake confidence!) is SO huge. Especially with bar-game. Also, he showed he wasn't trying to get in her pants but not going for the kill that night. By far the quickest way into s…
/r/seduction04/04/14 01:44 PM
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Dude, you cold approach and got her number! That's awesome. It sounds like it was honestly a really good experience. She is now being flaky. That's the truth. My personal philosophy with this is as follows: "You do not want to be involved with someone who isn't just as excited to see you as you are excited to see them." I have a slightly similar situation. I hooked up with a girl that I've known for about a year, and always thought she was super cute. She stayed the night with me and we had an a…
/r/seduction04/04/14 01:33 PM
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When you start out, it's not necessarily about the confidence factor. You will not be confident on your first approach. You just have to willing to force yourself to go up to someone and say hi. Doing this a few times will help build your confidence. Even if you "fail," you will learn a lot about yourself and be even better for the next time.
/r/seduction04/04/14 01:23 PM
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Relationships being the key word. OP is talking about hookups.
/r/seduction04/04/14 01:18 PM
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Don't be a fuckwit, that's what. An IMPORTANT rule is to always leave a girl better than you found them. This means being a gentleman. Also, you had to drastically change your behavior to be successful with women...real pick-up is about being attractive to girls in your own frame. Not by acting like a douche.
/r/seduction04/04/14 01:17 PM
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"I never think about her." This post determined that THAT was a lie /Maury To me it sounds like you've convinced yourself that you've taken her down from the pedestal. But you haven't. Also please direct posts like this to /r/askseddit
/r/seduction04/04/14 01:12 PM
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Glad to see a fellow Bearcat! Go get 'em!
/r/seduction30/03/14 12:06 AM
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We have our fair share! That's for sure.
/r/seduction30/03/14 12:02 AM
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As others have said, you are thinking WAY too much about Tinder. Real life is way more important. My profile was a compilation of witty jokes and things to make girls laugh, and I constantly received compliments about it. Verbatim: "It has been 107 days since I've had real human interaction. I am Tinder. My primary methods of communication are smoke signals and carrier pigeon. All of my photos are actually extraordinarily detailed drawings. I only kayak in creeks because rivers are too mainstrea…
/r/seduction29/03/14 07:56 PM
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It really depends on the person, honestly. My bar game is strong, but I almost never day game. It's all about your frame of mind.
/r/seduction21/03/14 09:08 PM
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I would try something like "Hey, can you help me find someone?" Describe her exactly and give her an understated smile. Similar outcome but more fluid.
/r/seduction21/03/14 08:43 PM
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So I am going to assume that you and your long term GF are in an open relationship?
/r/seduction21/03/14 08:38 PM
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As the other guy said, talk to her after class. I would say something along the lines of, "I love these 5 minute talks we have but I'd like to get to know you better. Let's get coffee sometime this week." If she agrees, get her number. Say something like, "Awesome! Let me get your number so we can set something up." At this point, if you are comfortable talking on the phone, CALL her. Texting is okay, but calling is more powerful. I would text/call her later that night after dinner time. Find a …
/r/seduction20/03/14 07:19 PM
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Begin by reading sidebar content. Just remember, "To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing." That's some Aristotle shit right there.
/r/seduction20/03/14 01:54 AM
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I think you are digging a little too deep here. Developmentally, it was likely between the ages of 6-12 (the school years) which is defined by Erikson's stage: Industry vs. Inferiority. In this stage, children need positive reinforcement to promote their success in different areas. A lack of positive reinforcement leads to comparing oneself to others and feeling inferior. As for a fix to your problem, you need to identify your positive strengths. What are the things that you like about yourself,…
/r/seduction16/03/14 08:10 PM
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This is me. It really is. I have noticed that for me, my upswings are closely related to my diet and exercise. I've been eating right and training for a marathon for almost three months, which has boosted my confidence a lot. And I think that when you start gaining momentum with women, your confidence soars. Which women notice. When makes you more successful. I was on a dry spell for most of January and February...it seemed like nothing was going my way with women. In the past 7 days I've #/k-cl…
/r/seduction16/03/14 07:50 PM
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In this situation, where there is another guy dominating the situation and you cannot get a word in edge wise, find a girl in the group who isn't buying into the other guy. Her eyes may wander, maybe fidgeting her fingers, etc. Make a nonverbal connection with her using your eyes and body language. Make it clear that you are interested in her and you aren't buying the other guy's routine either. Pick an opportune moment and ask her to step outside for some fresh air to escape the other guy's ram…
/r/seduction16/03/14 06:03 PM
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Great content! You are right, the meat and potatoes of seduction is the theoretical template of a seduction interaction. I believe that there are frequently posts about openers, escalation, etc. because some people are really starting from the beginning and have to build social/conversational skills––to do this, they need examples to really drive the points home.
/r/seduction27/10/13 11:57 PM
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It's about digging deeper than a simple "interview." For instance, begin by introducing yourself: "Hello, my name is _____." From here, they will respond, and you can ask them a basic question: "What is your major?" <response>. This is where you dig deeper. She will probably say, "Oh, my major is <blank>, you?" DO NOT RESPOND WITH YOUR MAJOR. Ask her another question about her major, "What made you choose that?" or "So in five years, when you are a <blank>, what will life be like for you?" These…
/r/seduction20/10/13 01:11 AM
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I think it's a great idea to bring this type of content here. I am growing very weary of the AA posts and k-close FRs that currently dominate this sub. Awesome!
/r/seduction19/10/13 10:30 PM
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Born and raised! I'm at UC now though, so I cannot wing with you. I think campus is fine, just don't be creepy and respect the law and your general sense of morality. Best of luck, mate!
/r/seduction19/10/13 10:27 PM
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This sounds like the beginning of some serious oneitis.
/r/seduction17/10/13 12:04 AM
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Good content, I think this is a pretty decent description of confidence. I think that some users will really benefit from this.
/r/seduction17/10/13 12:02 AM
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This is a poor attitude, sir!
/r/seduction14/10/13 03:25 AM
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Outcome independence is huge in building report. A confident person having fun is way more attractive than any sly talking or pickup lines.
/r/seduction11/10/13 02:43 PM
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Approach anxiety. You are comfortable with the people you know, and uncomfortable with approaching new people. It is very common and happens to everyone. But it is important to remember, everyone starts somewhere. Search for other posts about approach anxiety and read what other's are going through with that, it will be very helpful. There is also a link in the sidebar about approach anxiety
/r/seduction11/10/13 02:30 PM
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It is too quick. Everything you do is good (or least okay), but you need to time it appropriately. I like the phone comment, it is a favorite of mine. I feel like it has to be paired with a sarcastic smile, followed by a genuine smile. You are too challenging, too intense. Your humor is good, but it is followed by another challenge. Stop challenging all the time. How I would do it: Me: I noticed you from across the room. I couldn't help but to talk to you. Her: Oh thanks, my name is HB. Me: I al…
/r/seduction11/10/13 02:25 PM
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This is decent. The conversation needs to be situational. However, be wary of idol banter. It needs to be interesting.
/r/seduction11/10/13 02:10 PM
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If this works for you, go for it. Just be aware that as you gain experience in approaching/talking with girls, you should rely less and less on this. Eventually, the AA should diminish. If it doesn't challenge yourself to come out of your comfort zone in new ways.
/r/seduction11/10/13 02:07 PM
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I don't follow.
/r/seduction11/10/13 02:06 PM
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So much of seduction involves no seduction at all. Working out, eating right, gaining confidence is so KEY. Not everybody is born with a good body (I was not), but everyone can achieve one with hard work. Once you have that foundation, everything else seems falls into place. Side note: I absolutely dread burpees.
/r/seduction11/10/13 02:03 PM
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I actually kind of like the idea of the cupcakes; HOWEVER, if it were me, I would have brought a single cupcake for the birthday girl. I agree, it is their responsibility to include you. If they fail to do this, just be patient and try to engage your girl in a brief solo/side conversation to reengage yourself.
/r/seduction11/10/13 01:56 PM
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The playground you play in? The next time you are going to the city she lives in, invite her to drinks with 2 weeks notice. Followup/confirm with a week before your trip and again the night before. As for dating, unless you are willing to relocate for her (do not do this, it would be weird), it's a no go. LIVE FOR YOU. Seriously. There are a lot of women on this earth. My guess (pardon me for presuming), is that you have AA and aren't great at opening with people you do not know, and therefor yo…
/r/seduction11/10/13 01:50 PM
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I'm not sure this belongs in /r/seduction. However, if it were me, I would probably have been honest upfront. "Some things never change. You'd think your date could be on time for JUST ONCE." He would reply something like "Oh yeah. Been there, done that." To which you say, "Help me pass the time. What're you drinking?" Buy a round. Just remember, don't initiate kino with this one. Save that for the date.
/r/seduction11/10/13 01:44 PM
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I see you have handcuffs, Officer. Why yes, I HAVE been a naughty boy.
/r/seduction11/10/13 01:36 PM
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Kiss her.
/r/seduction11/10/13 01:35 PM
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Scripted? Yes. Able to be analyzed and used as inspiration for a PUA? Also yes. Don can be interpreted as the villain, but I see him more as a fatally flawed hero...you hate to love him.
/r/seduction22/09/13 05:06 PM
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Well said. Nothing should ever be forced and when things are just an "act" it never works. You have to adapt the characteristics of Don that could improve your outcomes.
/r/seduction22/09/13 04:40 PM
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Stop focusing on it for a while. Spend that time reading or running or something fun. It will come back to you.
/r/seduction13/09/13 02:31 PM
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Build rapport, kino-escalation ladder, keep it interesting and spontaneous. Also, do not make the "date" about the hookup. Do something fun out and about and then come back to serenade her. It makes it way more casual and relaxed. As for the gas, avoid whole grains and spicy foods, and take your time when you are chewing.
/r/seduction13/09/13 02:28 PM
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The longer you wait, the more it becomes a friendship. Remember that. The only way to fuck it up is to NOT do it.
/r/seduction13/09/13 02:20 PM
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Yeah man, absolutely. It feels like shit to go through that, I've been there. I started reading about buddhism just to find some inner Zen again. It gets better. Way better.
/r/seduction21/08/13 02:07 AM
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I had a similar(ish) situation in the fall last year. Your problem is your attitude: the whole "I want you but I always want to have you in my life so I'm not going to say anything about my feelings" attitude. Here is why: if you never say anything about your feelings for someone, all of your interactions with them will leave you feeling empty. You will always want more from it, and it won't lead you to happiness. Now let's take a moment and consider if you do tell her your feelings: she will ei…
/r/seduction20/08/13 11:28 PM
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Bitches love secrets.
/r/seduction05/08/13 02:52 AM
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"You can't touch me like that" was a shit-test that you failed, and it's the point that your game unraveled. Also, when she left for her first cigarette break, you should have tried to involve more people (as /u/ackshunpact stated). K-closing is easy when you are dancing, especially if you were grinding: just turn her around so she is facing you and start front-grinding, initiate triangular gazing, k-close. Instead of saying "well how can I see you again?" (AFC), say "then I'll give you mine." I…
/r/seduction04/08/13 03:38 PM
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Forgot the name of the girl I met on Wednesday night... Needless to say, introducing her to my friends was awkward. I finally found it out when she put her name in my phone.
/r/seduction29/04/13 03:29 AM
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Had a situation like this on Friday. As soon as I entered the room, a girl made eye contact with me and approached me. We each grabbed a drink and started talking. After 5 minutes of shooting the shit with decent kino, my line: "So when are you going to kiss me?" Worked like a charm. As for the introversion/antisocial aspect: to give, you must receive. There is fundamentally absolutely no difference between this and your normal sets EXCEPT she has shown initiative and you are not longer responsi…
/r/seduction26/04/13 11:03 PM
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How fast were things progressing? I had a similar situation. Girl was flirting a lot with me, initiating plans, etc. One night I had her over for dinner, I cooked. We had a great time, but the next day things just stopped. STOPPED. Nothing happened other than she felt things were progressing too quickly. tl;dr Sometimes it's a slow burn.
/r/seduction30/03/13 07:12 PM
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Ideally, you want to learn and grow to the point where your brain doesn't have to catch up. The 3 second rule is great for beginners, but as you grow more experienced/confident, it should not be necessary anymore.
/r/seduction04/02/13 04:59 PM
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I am an ambivert, so I have a pretty balanced level of extroversion and introversion. I deal with my introversion at parties/bars by taking a step back and observing people. It saves me from constantly interacting and you can survey the floor and plan your next move.
/r/seduction29/01/13 07:57 PM
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I personally like to hold eye contact longer than the other person in MOST situations, but not all. Sometimes I like to hold eye contact for 1-2 seconds to show confidence, but look away before the girl and smile to myself while looking off a little to the side and a little downwards. It doesn't come off as strongly as "winning" the eye contact battle, and portrays a subtle shyness that I think some girls like. This is especially true for the 2nd or 3rd time I make eye contact with a girl (in a …
/r/seduction29/01/13 07:30 PM
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I love using/reading non-verbals. A slightly forward lean towards the person you are talking with gives them the impression that you are interested and engaged in the conversation.
/r/seduction05/01/13 12:43 AM
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What about having a casual drink while on a date? I would think that it would make your date uncomfortable if they ordered a drink at dinner/at the bar and you didn't as well.
/r/seduction05/01/13 12:37 AM
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Sweet mother of god. That is the ultimate first-text-to-girl-who-you-just-got-her-number. ULTIMATE. Well done, fine sir.
/r/seduction05/01/13 12:36 AM
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Introspect and find the root of your obsessive behaviors towards her. Really find the root and source of it all. Often times, the real reason for attraction like this is not attraction at all, but rather something within yourself that you have felt is missing––something that she, for the time being, seems to fill.
/r/seduction04/01/13 02:21 PM
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My best advice is to find a passion other than girls. Channel your energies into that passion. Find something that you are equally as excited about and pursue it. Not only will it open up new opportunities to you, but it also comes full circle: girls love driven, dedicated, and passionate men.
/r/seduction04/01/13 02:16 PM
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I think that maybe the term "oneitis" is best to describe a situation where you meet a girl, pick her up, have a couple of dates, and she becomes your focus rather than still playing the market. I don't think it is necessarily a term to describe your situation. Sounds like you two have a long and rich history together. Understanding that the end of most/all relationships is heartbreak, sometimes you just have to say "fuck it" and go for it. Cherish the good times and treat all mistakes/pain/hear…
/r/seduction03/01/13 10:05 PM
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Me and my best friend have a routine together. It is great fun to go out with him and wing for each other. Like /u/sparkydoomscat said, its more about male bonding time than it is the actual girls. When I am actually looking to pick up a girl, I operate alone. Your best "wing-man" is your own confidence and ability to adapt the conversation to the situation.
/r/seduction03/01/13 08:18 PM
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I think kino honestly depends on the girl for you. Being a "good-looking guy" means that most girls will be receptive to kino from you. However, if we are talking about an HB9 or HB10, I think that being too forward with the kino could be a turn off. With girls that attractive it is almost always a game, and you have to play it correctly if you want to "win."
/r/seduction03/01/13 08:10 PM
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I think it comes down to what you are looking for at this point in your life. Are you looking to remain single? Are you willing to settle for a while and start a monogamous relationship? I think the fact that this girl has been able to bring your rules and personal mantra crashing down is worth considering. There are other factors to consider as well. You are currently a senior in high school, perhaps looking to go to college next year? This can complicate the situation DRASTICALLY, especially i…
/r/seduction03/01/13 07:48 PM
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