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| 10 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeDamn girl, that mask came off real quick didn’t it? So are you saying you’re not anti-racist? I’ve not once mentioned my race or yours. My race seems to bother you more than your race bothers me. All I said was you were privileged to not have to experience the impact of conservative led movements. I never once brought up race or racism to you. You mentioned “white supremacy” before I did. You clearly have an agenda ma’am. And since you want to quote Dworkin, she also said about “right women”: “S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:33 AM |
| 15 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeIf you can’t understand, for the love of God, why some women are vehemently anti-conservative then you are privileged my dear. But honestly, you could just pick up a fucking book and figure it out yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 03:35 AM |
| 20 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeThis is an oversimplification of an extremely complex issue. Your privilege is showing. There is so much more to conservatism than abortion issues. But like most things in feminism, intersectionality means nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 03:19 AM |
| 44 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 31 - Female Political Strategy: We're Coming For You (feat. Elle)I said on the other post and I’ll say it here. There’s no way a 1st generation African immigrant can speak on US politics through the lens of a black woman in America. Her family has experienced none of the effects of being black in America for the last 400 years. African American women vote in the interests of our community. Elle is not a part of that community. She is of the black diaspora but she is not a Black American. Her elders didn’t experience Jim Crow America, Mass Incarceration, War o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 03:08 AM |
| 33 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeExactly. And African Americans culture, ideals, and values and identity was shaped through the lens of slavery. We are 6 to 7 generations removed from Africa. Africa is a continent with 54 countries , besides her being Muslim we have no idea where she’s from and how her own personal values were shaped. How can she speak for all black women in America? “Just because I’m black doesn’t mean I have to vote liberal.” Ma’am you’re not an African American, you can’t speak for us. White supremacy has ki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 02:58 AM |
| 77 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeI’m not feeling it. They got a black female conservative to “lessen the blow”. It doesn’t. We don’t vibe with Baby Candace. This was gaslighting. As a black woman, I’m disappointed. She’s speaking on political values in America and she’s factually wrong. Google is available 24/7. Where does she stand on CRT? Where does she stand on healthcare? The pandemic? Climate control? She spoke all opinion and stated it as fact. Why didn’t anyone fact check her? Baby Candace can take this shit and go. If y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 02:15 AM |
| 20 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 31 - Female Political Strategy: We're Coming For You (feat. Elle)This. I can complain all day about mistreatment of black women by black men, but it would never ever be something I’d share with a conservative. Get a therapist or a friend who have shared experiences and can understand you. Do not seek their validation. They have no interest in acknowledging your experiences, they just want to validate their hate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:41 AM |
| 13 | I need men to stop acting like heightism actually existsAnything to feel ✨oppressed✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 11:43 PM |
| 58 | Whose child is this? And she proposed at her brother’s wedding of all places?! 🤦🏽♀️ please do not mistake this as “gEnDEr EqAuLiTy” 😑Yeah I think they’re young kids! I also read from the comments they’ve been together about 7-8 months 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 06:50 AM |
| 73 | Whose child is this? And she proposed at her brother’s wedding of all places?! 🤦🏽♀️ please do not mistake this as “gEnDEr EqAuLiTy” 😑Completelllllyyyyyy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 06:49 AM |
| 197 | Whose child is this? And she proposed at her brother’s wedding of all places?! 🤦🏽♀️ please do not mistake this as “gEnDEr EqAuLiTy” 😑Yeah his body language and everything. If he’s not posting the videos “OMG IM SO HAPPY” then it was a miss sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 03:04 AM |
| 19 | So trueI like her on Tik Tok. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 03:02 AM |
| 6 | treated myself simply bc i can ✨I thought it was the nails at first but then I saw the ring 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 02:57 AM |
| 16 | I’m happy to see women on social media (mainly TikTok) speaking out about the dangerous glorification of sex work. She’s speaking facts!I bartended for many years part time. It’s so similar to sex work in many ways. You have to look sexy to be tipped. You have to entertain drunk, aggressive men sometimes for HOURS. When I worked at a neighborhood bar I’d have “regulars” who’d want to talk to me about their interests for my entire 8 hour shifts and god forbid if I had to walk away for a second. There were times I had to ask my now exHusband to meet me and walk me out to my car. The money was great but I felt so hurt and disrespec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 03:57 AM |
| 45 | I’m happy to see women on social media (mainly TikTok) speaking out about the dangerous glorification of sex work. She’s speaking facts!You woke up today and chose to speak facts! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 09:43 PM |
| 139 | I’m happy to see women on social media (mainly TikTok) speaking out about the dangerous glorification of sex work. She’s speaking facts!Promoting young teens, particularly young women to engage in “harmless” online sex work is in my (possibly hyperbolic) opinion akin to sex trafficking and grooming. It’s not empowerment, it’s trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 09:42 PM |
| 68 | I’m happy to see women on social media (mainly TikTok) speaking out about the dangerous glorification of sex work. She’s speaking facts!*and glamorization | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 07:11 PM |
| 41 | Male fantasiesIt’s time to serve eviction notices. Install Ring Cameras, get a guard dog, and a shot gun. Get these key hole peeping scrotes off my lawn! But really, this piece seriously tore a hole right through me. It’s so accurate and profound. Margaret Atwood is the GOAT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 10:58 PM |
| 25 | For real though.Omg some guy said to me “I can tell you’re beautiful under that mask” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 10:54 PM |
| 9 | Don’t...give men your number while out anywhere!Don’t give them a fake number either if you aren’t 100% sure it won’t lead to the harassment of another woman. I’ve had that happened before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 04:12 PM |
| 1 | An analysis of toxic masculinity. Do you agree?I asked what did you think of his reasoning behind toxic masculinity. I said nothing about kudos. It was for discussion purposes only | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 07:22 PM |
| 17 | I want to be friends with her. 🤔It’s like they all read and practice from the same book of Audacity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 04:53 AM |
| 44 | I want to be friends with her. 🤔You’re welcome! 😄 i saw it originally on BuzzFeed and then saw the orinal post was just 6 days ago titled. The question was “what’s the rudest thing someone ever said to you?” 😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 12:02 AM |
| 30 | “You know what makes a woman worthy of protection? Her birth.” 🙌🏼 preach!Yup! And also learning at a very young age “you go together, you leave together” and if you drop your friend off, wait until she gets inside with the door locked before pulling off. Also, we share our locations with each other 24/7. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 01:05 AM |
| 52 | “You know what makes a woman worthy of protection? Her birth.” 🙌🏼 preach!I 100% agree with you. I think this video is responding to the comment “i only protect women who are mine” and the idea that if a woman is scantily dressed, she’s not worthy of protection. The way I interpreted the second part is protecting the group that is being abused is just basic human decency | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 11:24 PM |
| 57 | “You know what makes a woman worthy of protection? Her birth.” 🙌🏼 preach!I respectfully disagree in that the 2nd man in this video is saying that it is a man’s job to protect women from other men. Which I agree. Other men should speak up and protect women. It’s their job to check their own, yet we’ve taken on the burden. It’s their fucking responsibility. And it’s for men to tell other men to grow the fuck up and protect women. It’s not about celebration. It’s about basic human decency. Protect those who are being abused. Yet, many men, especially black men like to c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 09:39 PM |
| 4 | Correct me if I’m wrong.. but isn’t this like textbook definition of a “pick me”? Was my advice really that terrible?For me, I decided I no longer wanted to be a victim. I was tired of being a victim of how badly someone else was treating me. I could just stop taking their dysfunction personally and match the energy of those around me. There’s no law that says I have to do more. Also, listen to “how to give less fucks” course on the Sanity and Self app. It’s amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:56 PM |
| 19 | Correct me if I’m wrong.. but isn’t this like textbook definition of a “pick me”? Was my advice really that terrible?I didn’t mean to insult her. I was more so describing my behavior. Or at least I thought I was. But thank you for your insight | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 01:44 PM |
| 7 | Correct me if I’m wrong.. but isn’t this like textbook definition of a “pick me”? Was my advice really that terrible?I don’t think I used it in that way or at least didn’t understand it to be malicious. I was more so describing the behavior I had and how my expectations disappointed me. But I do understand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Correct me if I’m wrong.. but isn’t this like textbook definition of a “pick me”? Was my advice really that terrible?I guess I didn’t realize the connotation beyond literally doing everything and anything to get picked. And if we point out like “hey that’s pick-me behavior” then we’re just point out that you’re not necessarily a pick-me but your behavior is. But thank you for the insight and I will keep that in mind for next time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:40 AM |
| 5 | Correct me if I’m wrong.. but isn’t this like textbook definition of a “pick me”? Was my advice really that terrible?I’m glad I could help ((hugs)) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 02:36 AM |
| 22 | Correct me if I’m wrong.. but isn’t this like textbook definition of a “pick me”? Was my advice really that terrible?Yup!!! You’re 1000% correct (Edited cause I didn’t think the third image posted) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 02:33 AM |
| 16 | Correct me if I’m wrong.. but isn’t this like textbook definition of a “pick me”? Was my advice really that terrible?Ahh.. that makes sense. Funny because I never really heard of a “pick-Me” beyond FDS. But it could also be because I’m old lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 02:32 AM |
| 21 | How to raise a hvm....I just bought both of my sons (elementary age) kid Garmin watches. The steps counting thing is nice but I can assign chores and give them stars. It’s just fucking stars and they love it. They want to clean and take care of the pets and help cook. They need to learn how to be functioning adults. I refuse to cater to them beyond being a loving, supportive mother. I’m here to support and guide, facilitate your growth into adulthood. Not do that shit FOR you 😤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 02:30 AM |
| 7 | Ladies y’all need to be grateful to go to the SOUP KITCHEN! 🥴😩Who’s going to tell him he’s too broke to date? Where’s the second date? Red Lobster’s dumpster diving? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 02:24 AM |
| 3 | I got an A in my graduate level accounting class so I decided to reward myself. Ft. my cat.Congrats!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 02:21 AM |
| 2 | This is genius. But it’s sad men need visual representations (they probably still won’t watch 😒)It’s funny because he has a video where he’s trying to teach his mom that men are trash and his mom responds “not all men” 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:39 PM |
| 14 | This is genius. But it’s sad men need visual representations (they probably still won’t watch 😒)Yeah I think so. He also has one for “men not believing women” men not believing women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Who wants to guess the gender of the higher earning spouse? (Hypothetically) The audacity... 🤭According to this post, it doesn’t sound like a pet project. Both of them have businesses, one is just more lucrative than the other. The less earning spouse takes a $40k salary but we don’t know if they have other employees working for them, etc. The post says that the less earning spouse actually works harder. So if the higher earning spouse isn’t working as hard, do you get to just sit back and chill because you have more money? I don’t think that’s fair unless you plan to hire help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 09:30 PM |
| 29 | Who wants to guess the gender of the higher earning spouse? (Hypothetically) The audacity... 🤭I totally agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 06:43 PM |
| 37 | One of the comments on this post said “porn is ruining sex” and I couldn’t agree moreI used to be a major “omg nothing is wrong with porn!” Type woman until I dated someone who was addicted to porn and hid it. Erection issues were at an all time. After research and some serious eye opening I judge my former self 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 11:03 PM |
| 159 | And here we have NVM/LVMs who whine about paying for a first date huhI buy tons just in case students need them. I was in Dominican Republic in the middle of a rainforest on an excursion when I had some unexpected heavy breakthrough bleeding. A random woman gave me a tampon and saved the day. I was trying to use wads of tissue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:18 PM |
| 8 | I hope they picked her. 😒😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 04:41 AM |
| 2 | As a mother of two sons, I wholeheartedly agree. Stop training girls to “take care of their men”. Teach your sons how to be men and take care of themselves and their families. No more raising pick-mes. Queens only.She doesn’t mention women. I mention myself in the OP because I am a single mom (divorced) who refuses to let my sons be coddled. It’s my responsibility to raise them to be providers and contributors not only financially but also around the house. And understand the onus is in them to keep the relationship together. They are NOT the prize. Man the fuck up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 08:26 PM |
| 77 | It’s the colorism, misogyny, ageism,and blatant disrespect for me. Black men are taking a full on L for this one.I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again.. I have never been more disrespected, disregarded, and mistreated by any other group than by black men. Also.. I’m about 100 times hotter at 35 than I was between 18-24. It’s a whole new level of sexy in your mid 30s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 10:02 PM |
| 3 | It’s the disrespect for me. It’s the gaslighting for me. A friend shared this with me. SMH. (Rocket ship is slang for “great sex”) but at least the trash took itself outGot it. I’m going to delete mostly because she’s not here to defend herself and while I understand she’s not following the handbook, she’s also not a FDS follower. Doesn’t sit right in my soul calling her a LV and I know her, although I get WHY you’re referring to her as such. 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:43 PM |
| 16 | I think she discovered FDS.. better late than never 👑The comments of that thread should be required reading for why we should never accept coffee dates.. cause this is what the scrotes really think of women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 03:33 AM |
| 14 | Aww he’s mad I didn’t respond to his coffee date invite 😢We met at functions from mutual friends, but we had pretty good conversations both times. So I think we’re past the grande soy vanilla latte stage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:25 PM |
| 3 | Dating as a man when mother lives with you?No❤️ -signed Afro-Latina | /r/askFDS | 18/09/20 06:58 PM |
| 20 | Aww he’s mad I didn’t respond to his coffee date invite 😢Yep. And the really fucked up part, we’ve met in person twice before so there’s no reason why I’m being offered an OLD style coffee date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 06:55 PM |
| 67 | Aww he’s mad I didn’t respond to his coffee date invite 😢Lmao right?! I read it this morning like “childdddd.. anyway 🙄” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 02:37 PM |
| 12 | Man once again panicking after getting a reality check about open marriages“I might come off as the bad guy.” Lmao when will they realize we are 100% more effective at shit like this than they are? Clearly he didn’t know who tf she was. She is clearly is out of love with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 11:30 AM |
| 1 | What do you guys think? Did I make the right choice?You did it wrong. It’s the one that says lookup/call and you have to verify with captcha. Click 🔎NAME LOOKUP It takes 10 seconds (it’s a countdown) and yes it’s accurate. | /r/askFDS | 18/09/20 04:02 AM |
| 3 | What do you guys think? Did I make the right choice?It was a number with the same repeated digits. Like 678-6786 which was my first clue. And I’m in my mid30s, so men my age and older usually have had their phones for yearrrrsssss. You can use this link too number lookup (Don’t use the spokeo search, that’s an ad. Use the one below it) | /r/askFDS | 18/09/20 03:45 AM |
| 11 | Ladies, stop devaluing yourselves and shying away from proper dinner dates! A nice restaurant is not intimidating, a dinner date is not too much pressure, and if you really feel you don't want to eat a meal with someone, you shouldn't be accepting a date with him in the first place!I will say most men in my experience offer dinner dates. But I will say there’s no guarantee whatsothefuckever that a man takes you more seriously just because he offered one. Now I’m a little older than some of you and trust me when I say... a dinner date doesn’t really mean shit especially if he blows $100-$200 on bullshit on a regular basis. So yes, get your free meal sis but don’t read anything else into it besides a free meal. Now with that said I will only go on dinner first dates because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 03:36 AM |
| 9 | It’s amazing that so many “red pilled” men think women can’t take accountability for their actions and yet these scrotes can LITERALLY ABANDON CHILDREN and somehow make it women’s fault.I left my ex-husband after two kids. He wasn’t holding his weight financially. Got rid of him and doing wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy better financially as a single mom, with two kids. I wish a man would. I’d pay him to leave me the fuck alone ✌🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 03:27 AM |
| 3 | What do you guys think? Did I make the right choice?The number was perfect and I Googled it. Which I usually do to make sure it’a registered to him. | /r/askFDS | 18/09/20 03:07 AM |
| 4 | What do you guys think? Did I make the right choice?A. The number was too perfect B. I googled the number, when it doesn’t hit back a name.. it’s a burner. | /r/askFDS | 18/09/20 03:06 AM |
| 7 | Yesterday we agreed that Pisces men are wack, what about other signs?My ‘I aM a NaRCiSsISt” post was from my aries ex 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 01:33 AM |
| 15 | The kind of 50/50 I can get behindExactly.. hair, makeup, nails, the whole 9. I spent close to $150 one day to get ready for a date. He complained about a $130 bill a few days after the date. Safe to say we didn’t go on a second. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:52 PM |
| 23 | The kind of 50/50 I can get behindI agree. The minute a guy wants me to go Dutch on a date, I’m wearing my hair in a messy bun, t-shirt, sweat pants, sneakers, no makeup at a 5 star steak restaurant like 🤨 “I thought a broke ass said something” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:49 PM |
| 13 | Seeing memes like this makes me feel hopeless. Who fucking makes these miserable text memes? Do you want what you're writing to be true? If you are like me and get sad when you see this kind of fear inducing trash meme quote, what do you do when you are feeling hopeless after seeing shit like this?A billion times this. I won’t engage with a man who uses the term “female”. I always ask “do you think of your mother as just a female or is she a WOMAN to you?” Most say “yeah, my mom isn’t just a female.” It’s synonymous with “bitch” in my opinion And it’s used by scrotes and pickmeishas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:40 PM |
| 5 | Dear Reddit LibFems: Nobody died and made your self important asses the gatekeepers of feminism. We're not "fake feminists" because you don't agree with us, nor are you as inclusive and non-judgmental of women's choices as you pretend you are.gathers pieces of broken mic after drop | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Reminder: if you get messages from male lurkers and want to post them please use r/FDSSuperFans. Ask to be an approved user in the comments.Approve user please!!! I have one to post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 10:26 PM |
| 5 | My LVM sent me this mestoday after weeks of no contact. 4 years on and off, lived together, and I moved out a few months ago after I grew tired of playing wife and not getting my needs met. Leave these LVM the fuck behind sis, it’ll have him questioning his whole existence.Thank you! I did more for him than I did my ex husband. Literally threw all my boundaries out the window. I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. He met me a few months after my divorce. I was broken and he took full advantage of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 03:59 PM |
| 6 | UPDATE: We’re retiring the “Seeking Advice” flair and redirecting all personal relationship questions to r/AskFDS. Only Approved Commenters may answer questions.Approved commenter. I love helping women overcome LVM and codependency.my last post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 11:57 PM |
| 7 | My LVM sent me this mestoday after weeks of no contact. 4 years on and off, lived together, and I moved out a few months ago after I grew tired of playing wife and not getting my needs met. Leave these LVM the fuck behind sis, it’ll have him questioning his whole existence.Yep. That I can agree with. He needs to learn how to treat people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 11:04 PM |
| 8 | My LVM sent me this mestoday after weeks of no contact. 4 years on and off, lived together, and I moved out a few months ago after I grew tired of playing wife and not getting my needs met. Leave these LVM the fuck behind sis, it’ll have him questioning his whole existence.I replied with what he does for a living because the post said he needed an education. He’s drunk. I was replying specifically to that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:59 PM |
| 70 | My LVM sent me this mestoday after weeks of no contact. 4 years on and off, lived together, and I moved out a few months ago after I grew tired of playing wife and not getting my needs met. Leave these LVM the fuck behind sis, it’ll have him questioning his whole existence.Right?! I couldn’t even respond. I’m mad at myself for forgetting to block his iCloud email address. He said it. When he feels down he wants attention, I’m not giving it to you. Find a new victim buddy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:48 PM |
| 18 | My LVM sent me this mestoday after weeks of no contact. 4 years on and off, lived together, and I moved out a few months ago after I grew tired of playing wife and not getting my needs met. Leave these LVM the fuck behind sis, it’ll have him questioning his whole existence.So true. His sisters who are the “epitome of love” they love him so much. And he’s like 😑 to them too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:46 PM |
| 22 | My LVM sent me this mestoday after weeks of no contact. 4 years on and off, lived together, and I moved out a few months ago after I grew tired of playing wife and not getting my needs met. Leave these LVM the fuck behind sis, it’ll have him questioning his whole existence.Oh trust me I know. I was diagnosed with OCD two years into our relationship because I couldn’t stop obsessing about our relationship and having compulsions. He made me think it was me. He told me I needed therapy because I was too sensitive and emotional. I suffered with ibs, hair loss, rashes, etc. I literally thought I was going crazy. I got into multiple arguments with friends over him. Pushed literally everyone away and isolated myself from people. I used to call out of work because I was s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:44 PM |
| 9 | My LVM sent me this mestoday after weeks of no contact. 4 years on and off, lived together, and I moved out a few months ago after I grew tired of playing wife and not getting my needs met. Leave these LVM the fuck behind sis, it’ll have him questioning his whole existence.In all fairness he’s a firefighter, a lieutenant, 15 years in, very financially stable. But yeah he needs years of therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:36 PM |
| 16 | My LVM sent me this mestoday after weeks of no contact. 4 years on and off, lived together, and I moved out a few months ago after I grew tired of playing wife and not getting my needs met. Leave these LVM the fuck behind sis, it’ll have him questioning his whole existence.He’s probably drunk 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:30 PM |
| 119 | My LVM sent me this mestoday after weeks of no contact. 4 years on and off, lived together, and I moved out a few months ago after I grew tired of playing wife and not getting my needs met. Leave these LVM the fuck behind sis, it’ll have him questioning his whole existence.This is 100% true. And the thing is he love bombed me. Did everything you’d think a HVM would Do at the beginning of the relationship. He slowly shifted the power dynamic and before I knew it I was running around like a crackhead trying to keep us together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:23 PM |
| 16 | My LVM sent me this mestoday after weeks of no contact. 4 years on and off, lived together, and I moved out a few months ago after I grew tired of playing wife and not getting my needs met. Leave these LVM the fuck behind sis, it’ll have him questioning his whole existence.I accidentally deleted the word “ex” it said “my LVM ex” 🤦🏽♀️ but I can’t edit 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:21 PM |
| 6 | Ask WHY a guy likes you - and pay attention to the answer.Also adding: it literally says it in the handbook “When men see a woman is smart, confident in herself, knows her value , knows the game/mens BS like the back of her hand & will erect boundaries or leave if they try some..they're going to come at you differently. They will be happy to pay for you & chase you because they see you are high value/in demand & that you have options/ sense about you. “ When you know your worth, you don’t need lip service. He👏🏽will👏🏽know👏🏽 In your mind you may be strat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 03:58 AM |
| 3 | Ask WHY a guy likes you - and pay attention to the answer.There’s a difference between him demonstrating that through real actions of love and affection vs. asking “why do you like me?” to analyze his answers. So if you don’t like his answer then what? Are you going to dump him? Like, what does one really do with that information? What if his actions demonstrate that he values you? How do you respond then? Most women aren’t going to do a damn thing with a response they don’t like , they’re going to stay with him and lose power. There’s no real strategy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 03:45 AM |
| 88 | When men say they wish women would ask them out...Bingo! It has nothing to do with looks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 01:41 AM |
| 19 | I know FDS generally doesn’t approve of Bumble but here’s a little workaround.I’ve been on 4 dates this week all dinners, all planned by the men. But they super swiped. But my demographic may be different than most. I’m 35, looking for men 36-45. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 01:03 AM |
| 3 | Whoever wrote this is a king 🤴I posted the whole blog post above. He talks about his wife and everything. Of course all the LVM ran into the comments section to tell him how wrong he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 11:00 PM |
| 11 | One trait does not make a man high value, evaluate the entire man (over time) and watch for consistency in behaviorYep! This is so true. He was obsessed with me, literally. Everything went as planned by the FDS handbook. We were in a relationship within a month. Dinners, trips, gifts, the whole 9. About 6 months later, I started noticing little things. Little protest behaviors that draw small wedges in between you and intimacy. They slowly turn the tables and you don’t even notice it because it’s a little bit at a time. Before you know it, theyve managed down your expectations and you’re like BUT HE’S STILL … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 10:59 PM |
| 30 | One trait does not make a man high value, evaluate the entire man (over time) and watch for consistency in behaviorI just also want to say that some men (my ex in particular) treated people and animals who had no expectations of him like royalty and the people who did like shit. So just because a man treats other people well, doesn’t mean he will treat YOU well. People who are love and intimacy avoidant will treat the cat, dog, mailman, little old lady down the street like the best thing since sliced bread all the while ignoring the hell out of you. It’s not that cut and dry unfortunately. All you can do is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:42 PM |
| 19 | Feeling the need to dump your trauma is a form of codependency. Don’t tell romantic interests your traumas until you’ve vetted them with time and patience. Best case scenario is to never tell them at all.Yup! Or due to your trauma you will shut down and not open to receive HVM love because you’ll be so busy questioning and analyzing everything to the nth degree. Having hobbies and hitting the gym is great, but it’s just a bandaid and another distraction from really becoming acquainted with yourself. I wish we spoke more of that here. You can play the game but the game will eventually play you. There are a lot of really young women on this forum and they’ll find out as they grow older. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:34 PM |
| 17 | Ask WHY a guy likes you - and pay attention to the answer.I would never ask a guy “why he likes me”. That almost means that I care. If he’s there and doing what he needs to do, I don’t need the analytical reasons behind it. Words mean nothing, I need actions. That does nothing but make you seem as if you are dependent on his responses and need reassurance. I would be so annoyed if a man needed me to give him a detailed list of why I like him. I don’t have time for needy shit. If you’re a HVW you don’t need a man to tell you why he likes you, you alread… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:27 PM |
| 32 | Feeling the need to dump your trauma is a form of codependency. Don’t tell romantic interests your traumas until you’ve vetted them with time and patience. Best case scenario is to never tell them at all.I’m the codependency troll because literally most of the LVW shit we do is out of the fear of rejection and/or abandonment. Somehow manipulating situations and conversations to be picked, to be accepted, to gain sympathy. So I constantly urge women to learn more about it because honestly we can follow the FDS handbook to a T, but if you get in a relationship and don’t heal your codependency, you will never be fulfilled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:20 PM |
| 5 | Whoever wrote this is a king 🤴I may have commented because I read the entire post. It’s the FDS mindset that we look for in a HVM. Should’ve linked it. But duly noted 😊man up men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:10 PM |
| 3 | “You helped him become the man he was supposed to become, so he could get the wife he wanted”One word: codependency | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:32 AM |
| 5 | Divorced Queens with no kids, do you talk to your ex?Yeah. Then this is an easy fix! Get him out of your system. He will be the reason you will never level up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:24 AM |
| 34 | LVM find women so easily and it’s infuriatingBecause going to grad school and learning a new language isn’t going to heal your trauma bonds. You have to recognize that you developed a codependent relationship (trust me I know, on and off for 4 years creates this type of bond) you were traumatized by hot and cold, not having your needs met, and probably obsessing over the relationship, completely losing yourself for him There’s no advice to give you to feel better. You have to seek therapy to understand why you would enter a relationship li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:21 AM |
| 35 | Need a pep talkI think that WAS the pep talk. Rejection hurts but it has nothing to do with you personally. You did nothing wrong, and he did you the favor of not stringing you along. So yes, the rejection part sucks but learn how to reject the rejector and realize who TF you are! “You offered a man a million dollars. He didn’t want the million dollars. So what are you going to do about it now? Cry because he doesn’t want a million dollars?” Fuck him and go to the next one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:16 AM |
| 45 | Lazy, low-effort "date" suggestions got me like...Drinks at Friday’s. Boy.. FU and your artichoke dip sucka | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:07 AM |
| 15 | Divorced Queens with no kids, do you talk to your ex?Who cares what’s a red flag for dudes?! But.. it’s a red flag for you if your ex husband was a shitty person.. I don’t see why I’d want to be friends with a shitty person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:05 AM |
| 1 | What are things that you would do for your husband but not for a boyfriend?Walt.. why am I doing anything again?! 💅🏾 My energy should be all that he needs to keep him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:04 AM |
| 5 | Don’t fall for the “send me a pic” bait he tried it. 😒 we planned a date and exchanged numbers. He immediately sent me a pic as the first message “JuSt cOnFiRmiNG iT’s Me” And sent the pic at 5:36pm but his watch says 6:28pm, so this pic confirms nothing. boy bye.😑And they’re ashy 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 05:30 AM |
| 2 | Advice needed: Dealing with personal insecurity in relationshipThere’s no quick fix to this. If it’s really just your own perception, you probably do need to speak to someone. I always suggest the Sanity and Self app because it’s cheap and has someone really good “therapy” series about an array of topics. I would look into building your own self esteem. But I would bet money your insecurities are evident in other ways.. and I question any man who sticks around with a woman who knowingly struggles with her self esteem. Insecure men who like to cheat and tria… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 04:01 AM |
| 1 | How long to wait to tell him I’m divorced?I’m divorced. I tell them if they ask. I married young. Here’s the thing, I keep shit to myself out of the pure fact I just don’t offer information about myself. But if asked, I tell the truth. I have nothing to be ashamed of, and neither do you. The issue is to say you’re divorced but then act as if you’re some broken goods. It doesn’t natter. A divorce doesn’t define you.. you define you. And the great thing is you can change that definition whenever the fuck you want! Him: so have you ever be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 03:56 AM |
| 2 | Need help getting over LVM shitBuild your own self esteem. Start with the Sanity and Self app. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 03:50 AM |
| 1 | Any FDS songs that don’t mention guys?Golden, Jill Scott Keep Going On, Vivian Green | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 03:49 AM |
| 6 | Are video calls even safe?Tracked to do what? Go ahead and track me... and get your fucking feelings hurt, time and time again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 03:44 AM |
| 4 | Boyfriend of two years doesn’t want me to visit his homeHe sounds extremely distance avoidant, and has a lot of mommy issues. You will spend your life making excuses for why he doesn’t fulfill you. Your needs will slowly not get met, he has shit to deal with it. And him not wanting you to be around his family is indicative of that shit.. he’s not available to be in a relationship with you because he has yet to work out the toxic one with his family. He could be a HVM somewhere in there but who’s got time to be peeling the layers of an onion? That’s j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 03:37 AM |
| 19 | Never forget who you are!remember who tf you are | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 03:29 AM |
| 32 | Don’t fall for the “send me a pic” bait he tried it. 😒 we planned a date and exchanged numbers. He immediately sent me a pic as the first message “JuSt cOnFiRmiNG iT’s Me” And sent the pic at 5:36pm but his watch says 6:28pm, so this pic confirms nothing. boy bye.😑Lmao!!! Just making up any excuse to send a pic. Anything to get you to reciprocate, ugh! I noticed the background was sunny in this pic he sent me. It was raining all day here. We live in the same city. You literally used this as an excuse to send me some random, bad pic on his phone. His face is to the side, and his hand covers half his face. His pics on the app are mostly candid pics or pics someone else took of him. No selfies or anything close up. I’m glad we video chatted. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 03:18 AM |
| 35 | Don’t fall for the “send me a pic” bait he tried it. 😒 we planned a date and exchanged numbers. He immediately sent me a pic as the first message “JuSt cOnFiRmiNG iT’s Me” And sent the pic at 5:36pm but his watch says 6:28pm, so this pic confirms nothing. boy bye.😑Lmao safari nonsense, a whole alligator Dundee ass scrote | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 03:11 AM |
| 117 | Don’t fall for the “send me a pic” bait he tried it. 😒 we planned a date and exchanged numbers. He immediately sent me a pic as the first message “JuSt cOnFiRmiNG iT’s Me” And sent the pic at 5:36pm but his watch says 6:28pm, so this pic confirms nothing. boy bye.😑He answered the phone with a bird chest. Then told me to hold on in a high pitched hyena voice while he went to put on a shirt. Then he came back with these little kid chapped ass lips and teeth look like he just ate a bag of hot Cheetos. Like when kids sit there and pick the skin off their lips 🤮 His voice is the epitome of scratching nails against a chalkboard ☹️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 03:09 AM |
| 146 | Don’t fall for the “send me a pic” bait he tried it. 😒 we planned a date and exchanged numbers. He immediately sent me a pic as the first message “JuSt cOnFiRmiNG iT’s Me” And sent the pic at 5:36pm but his watch says 6:28pm, so this pic confirms nothing. boy bye.😑We just video chatted and 🤢 this is going to be a no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 11:22 PM |
| 7 | Any success stories from women 35+ who found a HVM? Any tips for us single ladies?Then to be honest as long as you are putting yourself first, honoring your wants and needs, and not letting your age or past deter you then you are technically doing every thing your possibly can to find a HVM. ETA: and waiting for men to prove their worthiness to you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Don’t wash a mans shoes on the first date. Why would he wear those? Her page is about cleaning which would make her a target for men who want to use herAnd he probably offered to pay half for the date and hasn’t yet asked for a second | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 01:06 AM |
| 56 | Any success stories from women 35+ who found a HVM? Any tips for us single ladies?I’m 35 and I haven’t found a HVM yet but my advice : Heal. Heal your heart, wounds, and any codependency that exists in you. We were born during a time where we watched our mothers become the martyrs for the family. Heal all of that first, because until you do you won’t be able to weed out the LVMs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 01:00 AM |
| 14 | How did a conversation about working out turn into me cooking for him? That’s so cute, the lil’ baby wants something for nothing.🙄 (I have a food blog.)Honestly I stopped mentioning it at first but really why should you stop telling people about YOUR HOBBY?! It’s their responsibility not to exploit it. One thing I’ve learned is to no longer suppress me and my feelings for the sake of a desired outcome, especially when it involves a LVM. Just get practice telling guys “no” if they ask you to cook for them. Or completely ignore the statement. I usually do the latter. And if they push, it’s not the guy for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:41 AM |
| 12 | How did a conversation about working out turn into me cooking for him? That’s so cute, the lil’ baby wants something for nothing.🙄 (I have a food blog.)🥺🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:37 AM |
| 83 | How did a conversation about working out turn into me cooking for him? That’s so cute, the lil’ baby wants something for nothing.🙄 (I have a food blog.)Plot twist: I don’t even own a private chef business 😂😂😂 I’m just a hobby food blogger and he’s some random personal trainer that follows me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 08:57 PM |
| 150 | How did a conversation about working out turn into me cooking for him? That’s so cute, the lil’ baby wants something for nothing.🙄 (I have a food blog.)So I replied with “when you send me money.” Him: 😂😂😂 oh that’s all it takes? Me: yes, my business provides private chef services and if you’re interested, I’ll have my assistant contact you about scheduling, details, and payment. Him: oh ok cool. Ha he tried it! 😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 08:18 PM |
| 25 | How did a conversation about working out turn into me cooking for him? That’s so cute, the lil’ baby wants something for nothing.🙄 (I have a food blog.)Aww thank you!! I really appreciate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 08:14 PM |
| 32 | How did a conversation about working out turn into me cooking for him? That’s so cute, the lil’ baby wants something for nothing.🙄 (I have a food blog.)Right? Hello?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 07:42 PM |
| 22 | My nudes were leaked and I feel like my life is ruined.No. Unblock him and keep a record of his harassment. As long as you have his number, you can find info about him. Google his phone number, you’ll get his info or at least the person who owns the phone line. Then make a police report. It’s illegal to leak nudes. Don’t suffer in silence. Eta: oh you’re a minor too? Oh yeah fuck that! Call the police. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 07:30 PM |
| 69 | Tips to stop yourself from texting him firstYup! Don’t save any of their numbers. And delete the thread after every conversation. We make no memories, we have no history. So when he texts you again you spend the first 5 minutes trying remember who the fuck he is. Matter of fact, don’t even bother to learn their names. When your worthy to be saved in my phone, that’s when I’ll remember your name. I go on whole dates not knowing their names. For now you’re sir and you. “hello sir!” And “hey you!” 🙋🏽♀️😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 07:14 PM |
| 42 | Do not date "newly single" or "recently separated" men. You are not an emotional support animal.Also, do not date men who are within their first year or two of divorce. And make sure they had at least one long term (6+ months) relationship since then. Men do not recover well from divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 06:23 PM |
| 28 | Got pretty angry at the guy trying to mansplain how women feel about sexual assault, and are often afraid to turn men down because we're scared of what they might doHe wasn’t worth your energy Queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 06:21 PM |
| 9 | My nudes were leaked and I feel like my life is ruined.I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I think you need to hire a lawyer have that man run.you.your.check!!! Your parents will get over it. You’re a victim in this situation, don’t let people shame you. You didn’t do anything wrong, he’s the one who deserves the shame. And yes, sue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:51 PM |
| 8 | A LVM trying to convince me why our third date should be Netflix and chill. I told him it’s not going to work out and I hope he finds the woman for him.Yeah when I read that I was like “the fucking audacity 😟” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 04:14 PM |
| 19 | A LVM trying to convince me why our third date should be Netflix and chill. I told him it’s not going to work out and I hope he finds the woman for him.Lmaooo for the drain i died | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 04:12 PM |
| 4 | A LVM trying to convince me why our third date should be Netflix and chill. I told him it’s not going to work out and I hope he finds the woman for him.Truer words haven’t been spoken! 💯💯💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 04:11 PM |
| 10 | A LVM trying to convince me why our third date should be Netflix and chill. I told him it’s not going to work out and I hope he finds the woman for him.Yep. I agree 100%. It’s a shame too. We work in the same field and have the same networking circles. He chased me via IG for WEEKS before I even gave him a response. And he still took the immediate fuckboy route. This man is 38 years old... ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 03:45 PM |
| 19 | A LVM trying to convince me why our third date should be Netflix and chill. I told him it’s not going to work out and I hope he finds the woman for him.Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 05:17 AM |
| 5 | Just a vent I guessYou’re moving forward. Cut yourself some slack and realize that any progress is good. You’ve got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 04:34 AM |
| 33 | A LVM trying to convince me why our third date should be Netflix and chill. I told him it’s not going to work out and I hope he finds the woman for him.I agree with you. However I don’t even look at the courting phase as “chasing”. I see it as I say to a man I want XYZ in the man that I’m dating. And X happens to be a man who will plan interesting dates and demonstrate a consistent effort in me. It’s an expectation. I’m not running from that.. so there’s no chase. It’s just what I want. Fuck chasing, me and him are no longer in the same playing field at this point lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 04:31 AM |
| 99 | A LVM trying to convince me why our third date should be Netflix and chill. I told him it’s not going to work out and I hope he finds the woman for him.He offered me the Netflix and chill date. I told him that “I’m only interested in men who put more effort into dating. What’s of value that’s easily acquired?” And that’s what he responded with. Eta: I also knew once he offered the Netflix and chill I was going to dump him. This is too much work and he’s not the only guy I’m seeing at the moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 04:17 AM |
| 14 | *Potential* HVM Ready to hear his thoughts on GF statusAnd yes, it always needs to be said IMO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 02:49 AM |
| 7 | *Potential* HVM Ready to hear his thoughts on GF statusThis, say nothing. At least then you’ll know 100% he wanted the relationship and it wasn’t anything you coaxed him into | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 02:48 AM |
| 4 | Just a vent I guessI’m sure he isn’t worth all this thought and energy. And not to say anything bad about you.. he’s just seriously isn’t worth it. Have you ever looked into codependency? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 02:44 AM |
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