One trait does not make a man high value, evaluate the entire man (over time) and watch for consistency in behavior

Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2020-09-12T14:21:23+00:00

Important reminder to all. I see many posts claiming that the guy is HVM when they've only known him a few weeks. Sis, that is not nearly enough time!

kittykittywoofwoof · 2020-09-12T15:42:31+00:00

I just also want to say that some men (my ex in particular) treated people and animals who had no expectations of him like royalty and the people who did like shit. So just because a man treats other people well, doesn’t mean he will treat YOU well. People who are love and intimacy avoidant will treat the cat, dog, mailman, little old lady down the street like the best thing since sliced bread all the while ignoring the hell out of you. It’s not that cut and dry unfortunately. All you can do is create boundaries and enforce them.

throwaway64857 · 2020-09-12T14:55:52+00:00

Yes. Sometimes even years isn't enough to be totally sure. Some men only have their LV and abusive behaviors be known after they rope you into commitment that can't be undone easy (living together, marriage, etc.). There's no way you're going to know if hes HV in 2 dates and a week of texts.

reina_nova · 2020-09-12T15:58:30+00:00

Preach, queen. You cannot categorize a man as HVM until many months have passed (maybe 6-7?). I can't help but roll my eyes when a borderline pickme posts saying something like "I've been dating my HVM for 3 weeks." Sis what????

preppykat · 2020-09-12T19:25:06+00:00

I agree. It takes a lot of time for them to show their true colors. I’ve even started fights just to test their responses. The overly toxic guys get REALLY pissy and it’s fun to watch their mask fall.

Title	One trait does not make a man high value, evaluate the entire man (over time) and watch for consistency in behavior
Author	eng2fly
Upvotes	122
Comments	18
Date	September 12, 2020 12:19 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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