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Can't imagine you're learning anything new from instruction videos watching 30 min per day + having done 1000+ approaches. Would drop the video studying. Stay in conversation longer. False time constraint is a tool. If the set is very hooked, setting a time constraint is making it worse. Longer sets are better sets. Go for instant dates The girlfriend thing is very weird. Don't see how it's useful. Your routine sounds a little rigid. Having a general routine can be used to a beginner to keep the…
/r/seduction17/09/25 11:21 AM
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Make sure you don't give them an orgasm that way their brain won't release as much oxytocin. Girls being attached to guys they have sex with is just biology. There is nothing you can do to prevent it.
/r/seduction17/09/25 05:53 AM
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https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8133465/#:~:text=Not%20only%20are%20males%20more%20likely%20than,dependent%20on%20the%20planned%20mating%20duration%20%5B16%5D. On average, females rate age, education, intelligence, income, trust, and emotional connection around 9 to 14 points higher than males on our 0–100 scale range. Our relative importance analysis shows greater male priority for attractiveness and physical build, compared to females, relative to all other traits. Your attitude and m…
/r/seduction14/09/25 09:18 AM
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Soft close a date before getting socials. Have a good profile. First message should include a callback to some emotional high point in your conversation. But yes a large % of your contacts will not result in another meetup. Which is why you should be trying to pull same night as much as possible
/r/seduction14/09/25 04:04 AM
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Break down long term goals into smaller goals over shirt time frames
/r/seduction12/09/25 01:45 PM
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Your risk assessment is uninformed. Your chances of getting a STD while using protection with a heterosexual non IV drug user are virtually zero. Just as it would be unhealthy to be neurotic about getting into a car accident every time you drove, I would advise seeing a doctor for OCD.
/r/seduction12/09/25 05:17 AM
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His reason isn't totally wrong, but also isn't capturing the full picture. Are you enough to pull her away from other potentially safer Friday/Saturday plans? By picking Friday/Saturday night you take away one of the two best night game nights.
/r/seduction12/09/25 01:44 AM
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Your attitude towards STDs is extremely neurotic and atypical and I genuinely believe you should seek professional help about it and any similarly held attitudes on other things. Sharing std test results is not a big deal but it indicates a lack of trust, and sleeping with someone usually requires some trust
/r/seduction11/09/25 11:53 PM
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Would you go on a date with someone you found ugly? Why would you expect a woman to go on a date with someone they found ugly? Women are attracted to non-physical characteristics more than men are. Your attitude is repulsive. Everyone who read your posts and comments can see it. Any woman you go on a date with is going to sense it. They lose any physical attraction they had beforehand.
/r/seduction11/09/25 11:50 PM
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You should get treated for OCD. STDs are extremely rare if you avoid certain demographics - gay men, black women, IV drug users. HIV is almost impossible to get through vaginal sex.
/r/seduction11/09/25 07:21 AM
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Go to the sidebar. Search "how to flirt" "flirting guide". Do the same for YouTube. She's giving you all sorts of green lights to escalate and you didn't escalate so she found someone who did escalate. Most women do not give you this many obvious green lights to escalate, even if they want you to.
/r/seduction11/09/25 07:05 AM
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they found you attractive enough to match and to go on the date. And then your behaviour and attitude are unattractive on the date and you don't do anything to create emotion or attraction and they tell you they didn't feel a romantic connection.
/r/seduction11/09/25 07:01 AM
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"How to cold approach" "cold approach guide" into YouTube, Google, Reddit search bar for this sub. Guys have been sharing advice about this for 3 decades on the internet. You are on a forum specifically dedicated to sharing advice about this topic.
/r/seduction10/09/25 05:14 PM
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Def don't bust out the notebook in person lol. Lookup book in the side bar for book recommendations. What you're looking for is called an approach ladder. Google approach pick up artist or approach ladder cold approach. Where you practice progressively more difficult approaches until you get more comfortable. Ladder usually goes like Not attractive target m or f - ask directions or recommendations Not attractive target m or f - random compliment Not attractive target m or f - opinion opener Attr…
/r/seduction10/09/25 04:29 AM
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Why don't you just look up info and guides that have already been posted dozens if not hundreds and thousands of times instead of asking people to spoonfeed you?
/r/seduction10/09/25 01:15 AM
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Ok the basics are opener. Say something that gets you a conversation. There is nuance and different styles but you asked for the absolute basics. Display intent. Say things that make it clear that you are interested in the woman. Create/build attraction Build comfort All the while you need to be escalating at the appropriate time and pace. Escalate physically, verbally, or logistically.
/r/seduction10/09/25 01:03 AM
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Never turn down an invitation to something if you don't have a better social activity to do. The more social events you go to, the larger your social circle will go. Doesn't matter if the event isn't great or there are no attractive women in the immediate invitation. There will likely be friends of friends or randoms at the event that you find attractive. Plus you will meet people who can get you invited to better events in the future. If you're trying to lead a social circle you have to be dili…
/r/seduction06/09/25 11:42 PM
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Try different venues. Especially as a black guy. You don't need IOIs to approach. It increases your success % but don't only approach women giving you IOIs. Lose the blackpill attitude. It's bleeding into your vibe and confidence and is a self fulfilling prophecy. Change your style. Even if you don't think you're facially attractive your height and race will be alluring for some women. Find a look that accentuates your best features and personality. Stop caring if you get rejected/blank reaction…
/r/seduction06/09/25 11:20 PM
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Spend longer in the interaction. Don't ask about school or major. it's boring, not man to woman, and she's already had that conversation multiple times that night and a million times over the last few years. Flirt more instead of asking for socials right after a compliment. You're not going to get numbers - especially not solid numbers, if you don't spend time in the interaction. Unless she's already incredibly into you.
/r/seduction06/09/25 11:11 PM
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If a girl is making eye contact with you multiple times and circling back for conversation she's on some level interested. It's on you to take it from there
/r/seduction06/09/25 11:00 PM
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Girls do not make repeated eye contact and talk to people they aren't interested in. Especially in a social setting. They didn't respond because you didn't seize the moment. Assume attraction and let them prove you incorrect.
/r/seduction05/09/25 11:50 PM
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Your personality is not immutable. Just keep working on getting better with flirting. "niceness" isn't the issue. Not being masculine enough is the issue. You can have "asshole" game without being an actual asshole.
/r/seduction05/09/25 07:54 PM
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Check your tone. You're probably not being playful and sound like you're serious, which makes you come off as if you're actually insulting
/r/seduction05/09/25 07:16 PM
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Even with declining birth rates the vast majority of women will give birth to at least one kid in their life. If you're vehemently child free that reduces your dating pool. If anything, you need to expand your dating pool because you're looking for a small % of women but not all the child free women will be on the apps. So yes, dating apps will allow for easier filtering but cold approach allows you to meet more women, some of which will be child free. Imo there are other benefits to doing cold …
/r/seduction05/09/25 05:27 PM
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Bringing up kids on a first date is a little early. You don't have to explain to every girl why you're not interested in another date. Is it any more of a waste of time if you go on the date and find out about a different dealbreaker? Isn't the whole point of dating to find out if you're compatible?
/r/seduction05/09/25 04:36 PM
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No one knows what you're doing wrong except that your text game is bad and your date game is bad. Look up texting/text game guides. Look up date/flirting guides.
/r/seduction05/09/25 02:56 AM
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Stop pedestalizing her. You can find something to tease her about. She's not some perfect being
/r/seduction04/09/25 10:44 PM
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That's what whispering in her ear is for. Makes it even better because you're increasing the tension and making it a secret for the two of you. I wouldn't bother waiting. Strike while the iron is hot
/r/seduction04/09/25 07:20 PM
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She already had to outsource to a friend to get you to notice she likes you. Now you're waiting for her to do all the work? The vast majority of women want the man to lead the interaction. Her inviting you back if front of all your friends invites the possibility of reputational damage for her. Just ask her to hang out. Lead the relationship where you want it to go
/r/seduction04/09/25 06:36 PM
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Fewer compliments. More polarizing with negs/teases/disqualifiers. Really hot girls get a lot of compliments. A lot of pedestalizing. Being willing to give her shit makes you stand out.
/r/seduction04/09/25 06:24 PM
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Do you think that is remotely equivalent to placing your hand on a girls back in a real life interaction?
/r/seduction04/09/25 02:24 PM
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How are you going to practice kino escalation with a chat bot? Practice by doing approaches in real life
/r/seduction04/09/25 02:02 PM
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Boyfriend/married will sometimes be "not interested but need a way to de-escalate to discourage persistence" How are your conversations going beyond the opener? Are you flirting? Is she flirting back? Are you proposing a date before you grab the number? Have you tried going for instant dates?
/r/seduction03/09/25 06:28 AM
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My thoughts are that you only go for the number when necessary. Friend dragging her away? Take number. You already screened for logistics and want to move on because it's not good? Take number. She's not high priority vs other girls in the venue for you? Take number. Otherwise it's better to stay in the set and escalate. Plus some girls won't give you their number until they're more comfortable and asking early can kill the vibe even if they have some level of interest. If you can create enough …
/r/seduction03/09/25 05:04 AM
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There are no breakthrough moments you can plan out in game. You stack incremental improvement over and over. All you can do is try and get better every single approach and do as many approaches as possible
/r/seduction03/09/25 12:08 AM
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You are approaching game the wrong way. There is no one trick to stop psyching yourself out and fix your self doubt. Having one successful approach ending in getting laid on your last night of vacation won't make you never have a problem with game again. Being outcome dependent on one night going well will only make your game worse. Reframe your mindset to enjoying the process of putting yourself in difficult situations and enjoying the learning you get from both your successes and failures navi…
/r/seduction02/09/25 11:28 PM
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I can't vouch for the veracity of the claim but in the pickup space there has always been the idea that getting rejected by your local group in early human existence pre-civilization would lead to being isolated from the group and thus death to the elements.
/r/seduction02/09/25 07:22 PM
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Dating inflation or "hoe inflation" as it's more commonly known refers to the inflation of women's standards as a result of social media/dating apps increasing women's optionality by a large degree and a lesser effect of women being a larger part of the labour market resulting in the percentage of men who out earn women going down. Pre-social media/dating apps, a woman's options were limited to men in local community groups that she was a part of, whoever was in the bar/club at the same time as …
/r/seduction30/08/25 03:38 AM
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Yes you can do night game outside in the city's nightlife section. But I would recommend trying some quieter bars or lounges before that if you don't like louder clubs. Lots of different types of nightlife venues and just like when you first started learning daygame its all about putting yourself in uncomfortable scenarios and learning. Are your standards hypocritical? Sure, maybe. But does it matter? If you have abundance you can afford to be picky. Your standards being hypocritical doesn't mat…
/r/seduction29/08/25 07:39 PM
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Never ask a girl you're interested in if she has a boyfriend. Flirt enough and she'll tell you if she has one. Asking directly is displaying interest in a boring logical way when you want to be fun and exciting. It also makes it basically impossible to use disqualifiers later. Your follow-up line is also bad.
/r/seduction28/08/25 08:25 AM
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I hate it when a woman asks this and guys who are too scared to approach/care too much about rejection tell her to take the initiative to approach. Just shows a complete lack of understanding of male/female dynamics. Most women's "direct approach" game is bad which isn't surprising but I've even talked to some attractive guys who have said it can be a turnoff. Some woman wrote a substack post about how to make yourself available, how to drop hints that are actually hints etc. but I can't find it…
/r/seduction27/08/25 08:49 PM
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Conversion rates might be low but I don't think it's that much lower than other funnels of meeting women where you don't have pre-established connection. Think about the average conversion rate of online dating to dates. To improve your date conversion rate, I'd recommend trying to setup the idea of a date before you get contact info. The purpose of getting the contact info should be because you need to organize the logistics of a date she has already sort of agreed to. I'd also try for instant …
/r/seduction26/08/25 05:40 PM
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You're results orientated not process orientated. If you only focus on the results, you will get demoralized when things aren't going well, you won't be able to identify what you're doing right and wrong, and you won't be able to focus on your weak points. Be honest in evaluating your approaches. What did you do well? What did you do poorly?
/r/seduction21/08/25 12:19 AM
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Brother there are literally countless posts on this Reddit, on other random forums, YouTube videos, even books about how to flirt. Do the bare minimum of trying to look for it.
/r/seduction19/08/25 12:32 AM
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Flirt with them at a party/when you go out as a group.
/r/seduction19/08/25 12:17 AM
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Make friends through hobbies/work wherever. Ask them what they're doing on the weekend. If they're doing something social and they like you theyll invite you. If they don't like you enough to invite you out or they're home bodies find different friends. When you go out with them, make sure to meet as many friends of friends as possible. Put out positive energy. Or go out a lot. If you like a particular scene become a regular at certain spots. Talk to guys, girls. In every interaction try to make…
/r/seduction19/08/25 12:13 AM
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A little too complicated, could easily be misunderstood. Also you're still kind of asking permission for the date. Imo asking a girl out is better when you start the sentence with "We should". Just make sure the conversation is at a point where you think she'll likely agree anyway.
/r/seduction18/08/25 09:22 PM
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You just need to improve your game in-person. Look up some cold approach guides, day game guides, night game guides. You're probably not doing enough in the interaction to solidify the numbers you get.
/r/seduction18/08/25 04:26 PM
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You can follow up the opener with something like "that just piqued my interest", "I had to find out if you're as quirky as your fashion sense". Basically anything that follows the non-physical appearance compliment/observation to indicate that you're interested, but need to find out more to see if she has other attributes that you're looking for. And you should be inserting flirting into the conversation right after the opener. You want to make it clear that you're here to flirt with her on the …
/r/seduction18/08/25 04:21 PM
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Tailor your dating app profile to showcase more of your interests and the interests that you want your fwb to have. You might get less matches overall but it should increase your matches who are closer to what you're looking for. Go do in person game, focused on venues and social circles that have women with qualities that you want in a fwb.
/r/seduction18/08/25 04:03 PM
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Go to speech therapy for the stutter and then learn game like everyone else by looking at the past content guides posted. Speaking slowly and through your diaphragm is already part of game and I'm pretty sure that's good for your stutter too.
/r/seduction18/08/25 03:57 PM
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I think there's a cold approach exercise from back in the day where you do the approach and then do something ridiculous to get blown out intentionally. The point is that it gets you out of your head and makes you realize getting rejected is not that serious. I don't think I would consider it as a complete beginner. Ofc getting rejected sucks. It sucks less over time but it doesn't stop sucking. You have to take pride in the process and getting better, even if you get rejected. This means focusi…
/r/seduction15/08/25 08:20 AM
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Look up Flirting Disqualification. Basically playfully pushing her away. If she says some hot take about food or music taste or whatever. "I can't believe you just said that." "That's such a red flag, it's a shame. I was just starting to like you". It has to be playful. Smirk while saying it. Pretend to call for the cheque as if she's committed some huge faux pas. If she stumbles or spills something. "Wow are you always this much of a klutz?" "She cleans up nice but you can't take her anywhere".…
/r/seduction15/08/25 12:44 AM
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Look up dealing with LMR or Last Minute Resistance. Happens when you didn't create enough comfort or didn't create enough tension. Or both.
/r/seduction15/08/25 12:26 AM
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Being upset at ingrained behaviour through thousands of years of history and millions of years of biology is going to get you nowhere. Fix your approach of framing yourself as the prize and having her win you over with other methods.
/r/seduction15/08/25 12:23 AM
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Yup. Even if there are multiple guys hitting on her at the event, that doesn't even compare to the number of guys in her texts, DM's, Hinge, etc.
/r/seduction15/08/25 12:14 AM
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Right so would you be upset if you paid and she went home with you? Or if you guys started dating? The issue is you're not flirting well enough on the dates. Yes there are going to be dates where you don't click, esp if you meet online. So work on that. Look up guides on flirting and teasing. Pick better date spots. If it's drinks, don't spend the entire time drinking at the same bar. Have one or two drinks and if it's going well move to a second venue like walking to get icecream or something. …
/r/seduction15/08/25 12:13 AM
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There are other ways to frame yourself as the prize that don't give a large percentage of girls the ick. Tease her, give her shit, challenge her to prove herself to you (playfully) during the date. Ofc it's a green flag if they say thanks/offer to pay, esp for someone you might consider for a long term relationship. But this is a bad principled line to take. You're going to lose so many opportunities if you force the girl to split the bill every first date. A date could be going amazing, she's w…
/r/seduction14/08/25 11:58 PM
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You're not clearing the excitement bar in her DM's. Possible your text game is bad. Possible she has other options DMing her that are more exciting for her. When you see her at some event in person. She's in a sociable mood looking to have fun. She's not trying to DM some guy who she may like more than you at the function. She's looking for excitement in the moment. Don't waste these opportunities in person. You have so many advantages over DM. She has some familiarity. She's in a social mood. Y…
/r/seduction14/08/25 11:52 PM
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If you don't pay you're going to miss out on a ton of girls who like you but got an ick that you didn't pay. If it's too expensive pick cheaper spots. It's part of the game. For the example of girl 2, pick a venue where you are more isolated so you can talk about sex. Either that or take it as an opportunity to whisper in her ear. Not being willing to talk about it makes you look prude, and will make her self conscious. The girl is not obligated to have sex with you if she holds hands or flirts …
/r/seduction14/08/25 11:45 PM
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Get in better shape. Wear more feminine clothing. Remove any face piercings that aren't the ears. Develop a more pleasant personality. Learn to flirt in a feminine way. Re-evaluate your standards.
/r/seduction14/08/25 09:45 PM
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You can open less direct if she's with someone who could plausibly be a boyfriend. Early on in the interaction, "ask how do you all know each other?" If the guy says they're together or she says they're together you can de-escalate by saying "You guys look great together" and move on.
/r/seduction13/08/25 06:41 PM
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If you spent so much money on the courses/bootcamps, surely you have some grasp of what the theory says you're supposed to do. You even wrote a book about analysing your interactions. What do you think you're not doing/doing poorly in these approaches? What did the coaches on these bootcamps tell you about your approaches? For the dates that you did go on, what went well and what went poorly on the dates?
/r/seduction13/08/25 06:38 PM
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The way to develop confidence is to put yourself in difficult situations that you gradually become better at handling. Go out and practice a lot. As you put yourself in more situations, your brain realize that the responses you get aren't nearly as scary as what your internal anxiety projects them to be. Fake it til you make it is real. I would recommend slowing down your speech. Breathe deeply and talk through your diaphragm so your voice is deeper and slower.
/r/seduction13/08/25 04:54 PM
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You flirt with the girls you go on dates with right? Assume attraction and flirt with them like you're on a date. If they give you an indication they're not interested, you can just say "it was nice talking with you/nice to meet you, have a good one." Otherwise look up cold approach guides.
/r/seduction12/08/25 08:52 PM
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Is your post about this trend in general or about a specific girl you were into not reaching out when you put the onus on her to reach out? If it's in general then you need to recalibrate your standards and also improve your looks/style/status/lifestyle/flirting skills. If you're into a specific type of girl whose "type" you don't really fit then you need to adjust for that. If it's about a specific girl you need to move on to the next. There are lots of reasons out of your control that may have…
/r/seduction12/08/25 06:34 PM
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I try to help out for the love of the game, not some fake internet points. All good.
/r/seduction12/08/25 03:51 PM
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The questions you should be asking is why do you want the girl to be the one to initiate? The vast majority of women don't like initiating the escalation. It takes them out of their feminine energy. They want you to lead the interaction. Sure if they like you enough you can drag it out and let the sexual tension build and until she's so frustrated you aren't initiating that she initiates, but you risk turning her off, and if it gets to that point where she does initiate, she would almost certain…
/r/seduction12/08/25 03:40 PM
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Take imrpov comedy classes. This podcast episode has a few exercises/drills that are good for practicing/understanding how to come up with teases https://open.spotify.com/episode/1kvF8wk2oVhxg5vsxhP2dE
/r/seduction11/08/25 04:18 PM
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Why would you text 100+ girls without the intention to actually meet any of them?
/r/seduction11/08/25 04:15 PM
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>That means wear sunglasses, look tough and mean, and don't look into the camera (you're too cool for that). And of course throw in a shirtless pic in there showing off your six pack abs and big arms for good measure. You have a cigar, a nice beer, a big gun, the moose you just killed, or a cool car? None of these things are what women consider masculine except the physique/looking tough. Having a cool car photo with you in it can improve your profile if the photo shows status and lifestyle. Hav…
/r/seduction11/08/25 03:45 PM
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Look up online dating/texting guides in the search bar/YouTube and fix your text game.
/r/seduction05/08/25 02:52 AM
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Terrible advice. Girls know which friend is the least attractive one and are usually not going to be receptive to you switching your attention away from their friend who never gets attention from guys. + You're putting yourself in a provider frame before even getting to know them by buying a drink that early on
/r/seduction05/08/25 02:46 AM
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Look up how to approach groups of girls on YouTube or group approaches.
/r/seduction05/08/25 02:37 AM
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You can be direct but some men don't actually react well to directness. Learn how to give indicators of interest to guys who you're interested in so they're more likely to approach you. If they're not taking the hint, go make the approach yourself.
/r/seduction02/08/25 08:52 PM
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Stop doing dinner dates. She's unlikely to agree to come home unless you've done some flirting during the date. The other comments about seeding the pull are correct.
/r/seduction02/08/25 02:20 AM
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You can do ok if you optimize your profile and are average looking/above average. Lookup guides on how to make a good online dating profile. You're going to have to ask friends to get good photos of you or hire a dating profile photographer to take some optimal photos. Lookup online dating guide to learn how to message effectively.
/r/seduction01/08/25 05:02 PM
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Coldreads/statements. Just lookup guides, this info is all out there.
/r/seduction31/07/25 05:15 PM
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just look up texting guide or online dating guide in the sidebar/youtube >It’s really hard to get to that stage when the woman I’m talking to replies with very short answers or barely ask any questions back. I can already tell you're bad at texting. Asking questions is really unengaging conversation unless both are fully invested into the conversation.
/r/seduction31/07/25 05:04 PM
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You're probably not as good at interesting text conversation as you think you are. Vibe/flirt -> get number -> set up date. Get to know her on the date.
/r/seduction31/07/25 04:39 PM
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Only an issue if she makes you wait significantly longer than she makes other past partners do. If you get to the 3rd or 4th and she's making you wait, that's when I'd start getting concerned.
/r/seduction31/07/25 04:36 PM
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Not every girl will have sex on the first date, but a good portion of them will. Picking dinner makes it harder. You're probably also not escalating smoothly. But changing your first dates to drinks is the obvious thing you should fix.
/r/seduction31/07/25 03:03 AM
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Dinner is a bad first date for sex. Hard to escalate physically. Big commitment, food can make her feel bloated and unsexy.
/r/seduction31/07/25 02:11 AM
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You should set smaller goals where you can focus on more specific areas to improve vs just targeting a large number over a large time frame. Examples: Week one goal - get comfortable greeting random people on the street Week two goal -give random people on the street unique compliments Week 3 goal - approach and ask girls for restaurant/bar recommendations Week 4 goals - approach girls with good direct openers Week 5 goals - approach girls with good indirect openers Week 6 goals - do lots of pus…
/r/seduction30/07/25 12:57 AM
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This girl is not interested in you, but you there is no reason for you to be approaching someone in your social circle through DM's. Flirt in person, if she flirts back ask her out.
/r/seduction25/07/25 05:14 PM
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Just look up a texting/online dating guide and follow the concepts about texting.
/r/seduction25/07/25 05:12 PM
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Get better condoms. Jerk off less. If you're on SSRI's or other medication it can stop you.
/r/seduction24/07/25 09:56 PM
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Set up a date.
/r/seduction23/07/25 06:59 PM
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nice glowup dude
/r/seduction23/07/25 04:23 PM
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I would read Models by Mark Manson if you haven't already and then look up some cold approach guides. You earn confidence by getting better and you get better by pushing yourself out of your comfort zone over and over and self reflecting on the progress.
/r/seduction23/07/25 12:06 AM
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It's much less likely. I'm not on socials either anymore but they really are the best tool for passive value demonstration without looking try hard. Unless you run in the same circles and will end up seeing her out and about, you're in tough. For whatever reason, she's already made a decision that she's not interested. You won't be able to logically talk her into giving you a second chance. You need to remind her of the emotions she felt when you guys were getting along. But it's impossible to d…
/r/seduction22/07/25 10:19 PM
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This is way too needy. Go out and do some fun, high value things. Post a few insta stories of you living a fun life without her. Wait a little bit and if she's watching your stories, send her a casual invite to do something fun. Don't mention the way she broke up with you or any of the circumstances. Just, Hey I'm doing ____ at ___ time. You should come. And leave it at that.
/r/seduction22/07/25 09:54 PM
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You can just talk to people and then stop talking to them if they don't want you to talk to them. Then find a different person to talk to.
/r/seduction22/07/25 09:45 PM
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Just go out more?
/r/seduction22/07/25 07:02 PM
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Cold reads are a conversational technique where you observe something about a person based on their appearance/personality/behaviour and make an assumption. You can take basic get to know you questions and guess what her answer would be and say "You seem like ______" instead of asking the question. You can often make cold reads or the follow up conversations flirtatious. It's much more engaging than asking questions. Use the search bar and youtube to look up text game and how to flirt with cold …
/r/seduction21/07/25 09:02 PM
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25 minutes is definitely way further than ideal, especially if it's close to her. Activity close to yours into cooking dinner suggestion towards the end of the activity would be my recommendation if you think she wouldn't respond well to inviting her directly over to cook.
/r/seduction21/07/25 07:39 PM
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It sounds like she's at least lightly flirting with you but you're failing her shit tests pretty badly. If you take a lot of your responses and turn them into statements where you're assuming attraction, you're going to sound a lot less like you're seeking her validation. >Just as handsome? This is a decent misinterpretation but it works better but lands even better as a statement. Instead you could say something like "I didn't know you found me that handsome" with a smirk. >Her: Well, I'm not t…
/r/seduction21/07/25 07:36 PM
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You could pick some sort of activity close to your place in the late afternoon that doesn't take too long and then casually transition to grabbing a bottle of wine on the way home to cooking dinner together. Disagree with the other commentator suggesting asking her to plan a date. Vast majority of women are going to feel better following vs leading. You want to be in control of the logistics too. Her picking somewhere far away or not intimate is not what you want. There's plenty of time later in…
/r/seduction21/07/25 06:31 PM
2

Invite her to cook a meal with you at your place. Tell her to pick up a bottle of wine. Make sure it's a recipe you're familiar with. Preferably not something too heavy. Read the vibe on how far you can escalate but it's good to have some kind of activity you can do at your place after eating in case she gets nervous about escalation so you can pull back.
/r/seduction21/07/25 06:03 PM
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Hi as an opener is terrible you're lucky even to get a first message back. Your 2nd message is a boring question. Your 3rd question is redundant (you matched with a distance filter). Your 4th question is value seeking, you're asking her to provide the value to the conversation without providing any yourself in a conversation where she's clearly not invested. You then reply with an insult and a lack of self awareness that you're also boring. Doubled down and tripled down on the insults because yo…
/r/seduction21/07/25 05:45 PM
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Leaving your number on a receipt does not work if she is not extremely interested in you. Women do not like being the pursuer. They might also forget, lose the receipt, or a whole other host of reasons she doesn't end up texting you. Take the burden of responsibility by getting her number. Smiling at each other is not enough. You need to flirt with her. Make sure you don't get her in trouble with her boss by keeping her away from her responsibilities. Don't go during peak hours where she has to …
/r/seduction21/07/25 04:37 PM
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You basically soft asked her out without doing any flirting beforehand or even having interesting conversation that would spark emotions. If you are interested in a girl in a non platonic manner, you have to have a non platonic conversation.
/r/seduction21/07/25 04:17 PM
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She is not heavily invested in you. It's very difficult for a girl to be invested without having met you in person.
/r/seduction21/07/25 03:20 PM
1

Just look at approach anxiety guides. Practicing low stakes approaches with women you aren't interested/male strangers is good, increasing the difficulty by eventually approaching hot girls for innocent reasons like restaurant recommendations, and then finally doing actual approaches. Another good one is to give your friend $100 or some amount of money at the start of the night and they give $20 back to you every time you do an approach.b
/r/seduction19/07/25 04:29 PM
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Escalating further would have been awkward. You could have tried turning up the flirting earlier in the conversation, but escalating right at the end when they've said they're going to bed is going to be uncomfortable at best. Offering to light a fire so you can stargaze would have been a way to keep the interaction going. Yes it's totally normal to have interactions with no expectations.
/r/seduction18/07/25 08:31 PM
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You need to flirt more to create attraction and build tension before asking for the number. Try and soft close plans before you ask for the number if it's going well. Some % will not respond/meet up but if you have longer interactions and soft close plans first you'll have a better success rate.
/r/seduction18/07/25 07:11 PM
5

You're not supposed to get to know someone over text. Text him "So when are you going to take me out?"
/r/seduction17/07/25 05:56 PM
12

Did you have a good sex life before the breakup? Are you out of shape? Is she? Did she start any new medication? Is she depressed? If it's not a hormonal issue, she just isn't that sexually attracted to you. You probably aren't dominant enough. You shouldn't be in a relationship with someone who isn't into you sexually. You're 22. Hit the gym and find a new girl.
/r/seduction16/07/25 06:06 PM
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If OP wanted advice from a LLM he could've asked there. If you can't give advice without copying an essay from chatgpt you shouldn't be giving advice at all.
/r/seduction16/07/25 06:03 PM
2

Rec sports, gyms, farmers markets, through your friends, out and about in the city - parks, malls, shopping districts, social hobbies.
/r/seduction16/07/25 04:50 PM
6

Don't flirt with women is perhaps the most retarded advice I've ever seen about dating. Yes the guy who has waited until 30 to learn how to date should wait for them to pick him.
/r/seduction16/07/25 03:35 PM
2

If a girl asks you what you're up to, she is at the very least open to hanging out. If a girl is attracted to you while you guys are hanging out/talking, but you don't make a move, she often loses respect/attraction for you and/or feels insecure about herself.
/r/seduction15/07/25 08:20 PM
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Stay in the conversation for an extended period of time, flirt, get to know her, soft close plans for a date, and then get contact info.
/r/seduction14/07/25 08:05 PM
2

You are not likely to get into an argument/fight/kicked out of a venue for approaching a group of girls come on dude.
/r/seduction14/07/25 08:00 PM
1

Society is not stopping you. You can just do things.
/r/seduction14/07/25 04:15 PM
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Malls/parks/beaches/boardwalks/large tourist squares/shopping districts are better than just random streets. Anywhere where girls might spend their time. Use sidebar/YouTube/Google lookup "cold approach groups" for how to deal with friends. If they look busy you can still open them. If they're not interested/actually busy it takes them like 15s to reject you. If you say the rejections don't bother you there's no downside. Don't limit yourself. If they're actively in a conversation or look distre…
/r/seduction11/07/25 09:39 PM
3

You can be dominant by leading the conversation where you want it to go instead of letting her take the conversation onto topics that aren't useful to you.
/r/seduction11/07/25 09:33 PM
3

You should escalate on first dates. Not escalating indicates disinterest or lack of confidence to girls. For your first dates, don't just go on walks. Makes you look cheap/broke. Drinks or grab coffee/smoothie/bubble tea and then go walk around. Can add new stops if the date is going well. For second dates I offer to cook a meal but if your first dates are just walks you should do drinks for a second date.
/r/seduction11/07/25 09:21 PM
3

Listing a girl's weight requirements in your bio is more likely to get your profile reported and banned than it is to get you more matches.
/r/seduction11/07/25 05:18 PM
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It won't get you more matches but you can filter for qualities you find attractive and compatible lifestyles. Frame it as a playful challenge. You want a girl who can keep up with how spontaneous you are or match your dedication to the gym or who can handle being outdoors. "I bet I'm a better cook than you". Don't explicitly filter physical characteristics (weight/height/race). Use physical activity as a filter for weight but frame it in a playful way.
/r/seduction11/07/25 05:16 PM
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You can include standards in your profile but they should be values/personality/lifestyle orientated. They should also be light-hearted/challenge the girl. Yours sounds like a job posting. Screening for salary is a low class indicator. Screening for height is insecure short guy/woman coded. Screening for weight will make women think you're shallow and also shows a huge lack of social calibration. Screening for race makes you look like a race fetish guy and is also not socially calibrated and you…
/r/seduction11/07/25 05:06 PM
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Don't be emotionally dependant on the outcome (whether you get sex or not). It bleeds through your personality and is unattractive. If you feel worthless then you should do things that are worth doing. Improve yourself - gym, grooming, fashion, social skills. Job/career/education. Increase your competence in a hobby, something creative and/or something that also provides socialization opportunities. Do all this and practice talking to women at the same time.
/r/seduction11/07/25 03:12 PM
2

More polarization. Push/pulls, teasing, negs to trigger shit tests and then pass the shit tests.
/r/seduction10/07/25 06:19 PM
2

Laugh it off, try to do better with the next approach.
/r/seduction10/07/25 06:06 PM
6

Call back humour to something in the conversation (non sexual). -> setup plan to meet. I would probably send something like "Let me know the next time you break your phone again but if you don't want to wait that long we should grab a drink together".
/r/seduction09/07/25 09:30 PM
1

I wouldn't say it's common. I think the few times it's happened for me have involved social proof.
/r/seduction09/07/25 05:09 PM
1

The 5 minute thing on day 3 is a 5 minute phone call. Not an in person meeting. You didn't ask but nowadays you shouldn't wait multiple days after getting the number to reach out. There's too many other things that could distract her.
/r/seduction09/07/25 05:05 PM
1

Little bit of column a, little bit of column b. I've had approaches where the girl starts off very engaged/interested and I make mistakes and fumble. I've had approaches where the girl is cold/bitchy/not paying attention and I win her over.
/r/seduction09/07/25 05:02 PM
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Having your friend ask for her number and say that you're shy/nervous is terrible advice.
/r/seduction09/07/25 04:31 PM
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>I know a lot of people will give the advice of “just have fun with your friends, and women will come when you’re being your natural self” but I’ve been doing that for a very long time and never had any sort of success. This is bad advice. Especially if you're average looking. It's your job to do the approaching. It's your job to initiate conversations that are non-platonic. It's your job to flirt to build attraction. If they're not interested after you've already flirted, just say "have a nice …
/r/seduction09/07/25 04:29 PM
6

Dating profile photographer + city
/r/seduction09/07/25 04:13 AM
8

Eye contact, physical touch, your intonation/voice, the conversation topic, creating a man-to-woman frame. Sexual tension is built off of attraction, but you have to do things to make the interaction non platonic. She can find you attractive but if you are acting platonically, there is no tension.
/r/seduction08/07/25 07:23 PM
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Pull something from her profile/story and tease her about saying it's a red flag is an easy one. You don't need to flirt a lot, just re-establish a flirty vibe and then go for a meetup. Hard to go straight to getting a date unless she's already very bought in.
/r/seduction08/07/25 06:14 PM
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Flirt a little bit in the DM's. Not too much but enough to remind her of your vibe in person. Try to softclose the date in person before getting the IG. This gives you a natural reason to ask for contact info and creates a soft commitment,
/r/seduction08/07/25 05:33 PM
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Moving the girl around the venue, and especially to a second venue creates a lot of trust. Makes the whole experience feel like more of a date/adventure. Having a non-sexual reason for her to come back with you like meeting your pet, showing her some hobby, making her a cocktail etc is also useful because it gives herself the plausible deniability she might need.
/r/seduction03/07/25 07:48 PM
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Look up cold approach groups/ how to approach groups/ cold approach group dynamics on youtube/google. You need to be meeting her friends and getting on their good side earlier in the interaction. It's also possible you aren't creating enough trust/comfort for the girl to go home with you. Try moving her around the venue more, finding an intermediary venue like another bar or late night food spot that's on the way to your place.
/r/seduction03/07/25 07:20 PM
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She isn't sending you mixed signals. She sent you positive signals - invited you directly over to her house, brought up sex in conversation by mentioning her period. You responded by light flirting and very little escalation. Then you sent flowers to a girl you haven't even slept with yet. 10 hours is not a lot of time for someone to not respond but you need to lead the interaction with a girl who likes (liked?) you.
/r/seduction03/07/25 07:12 PM
1

Agree with a lot of what you wrote except: >"hey, you realized that we have so much in common? it would be a shame if we didn't see each other again, don't you think" Both the "We have so much in common" and "don't you think" is way too validation seeking. Something like "I'm a bit surprised at how much I've enjoyed talking to you. We should (insert date idea here)" is a lot better.
/r/seduction03/07/25 03:25 PM
1

Women on reddit are going to skew more neurotic. Women who post on city subreddits complaining about guys cold approaching is not a real representative sample of women in your city. If you clear a minimum bar of attractiveness and are not creepy/don't harass them, women like being cold approached. There's actually data to suggest they wish men would approach in person more often than they do.
/r/seduction30/06/25 03:36 PM
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Go out into a social situation. Set a goal where you have a conversation where you say/do 3 flirty things. You develop confidence through improvement, and you improve by practicing gradually more difficult things. Confidence is unlocked by competence. You don't need some hidden switch to believe in yourself. You need to admit to yourself that your social skills and flirting skills are not up to par with the rest of your abilities and then practice until they catch up.
/r/seduction26/06/25 09:12 PM
1

You can find out if an approach is working in 3-10 minutes? And if it lasts any longer than that it's probably not a waste of time. Going on a date with someone and not sleeping with them is not a "waste of time". There are data sets 45% of men 18-25 have never approached a woman in person. If you take a beginner, tell them to read up on the basics do's and don'ts of cold approach and then have them do 50 approaches while reflecting on what went well and what went poorly they would absolutely im…
/r/seduction26/06/25 04:19 PM
2

Really telling that the only way you frame success is sleeping with the girl. The only consequence of getting rejected is to your ego. Most beginners haven't even approached 50 women ever. The median total sexual partners for men in their 20s is like 6.1. Getting rejected feels way better than feeling regret for being too scared to approach. Taking enjoyment from the process of getting better through failure and incremental improvement is immensely satisfying. The ceiling of results from cold ap…
/r/seduction26/06/25 03:01 PM
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You likely don't flirt/escalate on the date.
/r/seduction26/06/25 02:34 PM
2

IOIs are just indicators of higher probability of success. You should still approach who you want to even if it's a lower chance. The purpose of qualification is to frame yourself as the selector in the interaction, but she's only going to be willing to fall into that frame if you demonstrate enough value for her to entertain the notion in the first place.
/r/seduction25/06/25 07:26 PM
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Using that line as an open requires some sort of IOI. If you use it randomly you need to be very high value or it requires you to deliver it in such an arrogant way that you will get some sort of shit test response that you can respond to.
/r/seduction25/06/25 06:23 PM
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Are you escalating verbally while/before escalating physically? It doesn't make a lot of sense to be escalating physically while talking about boring get to know you stuff or platonic conversation topics. Escalating physically is about increasing connection, so you should be escalating during moments when you're creating an emotional peak. I would suggest flirting/teasing more and you'll likely be surprised at how much more natural inserting physical escalation in during those moments feels.
/r/seduction25/06/25 03:53 PM
2

Try to soft close plans before getting a number. And then get the number as an extension of sorting the logistics for those plans. Makes you stand out far more.
/r/seduction20/06/25 03:31 PM
2

> I get matches but barely any real conversations, let alone dates. If you're getting matches but having conversations that don't lead to dates, your online messaging skills are probably bad. Look up an online dating messaging guide.
/r/seduction18/06/25 05:05 PM
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You're displaying a huge amount of neediness and insecurity. You're not displaying confidence in leading the interaction. Took too long to propose a date, didn't show leadership in setting up the logistics of the date. She's not even playing games. You just displayed a bunch of unattractive behaviour and she got the ick so she flaked on you.
/r/seduction16/06/25 03:24 PM
0

YouTube has a lot of content. Look up something like set up Instagram for dating/text game
/r/seduction15/06/25 04:14 AM
3

Unironically practice with non pretty girls and dudes. You'll get better at time.
/r/seduction15/06/25 03:40 AM
0

You don't. It's a really bad thing to ask when you approach. Just flirt with her. You should be flirting enough where if she does have a boyfriend and isn't interested, she'll tell you.
/r/seduction13/06/25 04:33 AM
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Most girls aren't getting approached that often. Most of the YouTube/tiktok brainrot clips involve some kind of gimmicky line or they ask for the insta right away. Your typical approach shouldn't resemble the clips you see.
/r/seduction12/06/25 10:20 PM
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There are few breakthrough moments in game, and in life in general. It's about stacking incremental progress. The fastest way to practice is to do lots of cold approach, like you said. Try to have small goals in each approach like focusing on your tonality or working in lots of teases.
/r/seduction11/06/25 07:31 PM
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Assume she is. Gradually ramp up the flirting with her. If she's receptive you increase the flirting, if she's not you lower the level of flirting with plausible deniability.
/r/seduction10/06/25 08:03 PM
8

Shirtless selfie is fine if you have a very good body but a candid shirtless pic is far far better
/r/seduction10/06/25 06:45 PM
1

Study the principles of comedy. Watch some comics who are good at crowdwork (it's the most similar to being funny in a social setting). Take an improv class. Then just practice integrating it into conversation with strangers, friends, and women you're interested in.
/r/seduction09/06/25 03:30 PM
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It's your responsibility to make the conversation more than friendly. People don't go out because they want to make small talk. You have to tease and flirt with the girl to indicate that you are interested in her, and to build attraction and sexual tension. There are lots of cold approach guides you can look up.
/r/seduction06/06/25 03:56 PM
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Is it a good strategy? Sure if you don't care about flaking on people. Getting flaked on sucks. Be the change you want to see in the dating market. You can always just go out and do night game if a date flakes on you.
/r/seduction05/06/25 05:10 PM
1

It's ok if used flirtatiously during the middle of the interaction. But using that line when the lights come on and you haven't already figured out the logistics is horrible. You're going to have her friends already ordered an uber or not convinced to go to the next location. Too often, the girl will take the path of least resistance (and also the safest, both socially/physically) and leave. Then you have the flake rate of follow ups too.
/r/seduction03/06/25 04:55 PM
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No opportunities to? You can literally tease in every single conversation you have, man or woman. Teasing is just playful banter. Sure, you can achieve attraction without it. But avoiding learning how to use it would be wildly inefficient. Like asking how to build a big chest but avoiding the bench press. It's something you can get better quickly just by practicing. Look up guides on how to flirt/tease. You can practice by yourself coming up with teases for common answers to "get to know you que…
/r/seduction03/06/25 04:50 PM
1

Asking "what are you trying to do tonight?" is a shit move. Girls don't want the ball in their court. They want you to lead the interaction. Figure out her logistics earlier in the conversation. Come up with a reason for her to come back with you that gives her the plausible deniability she needs to not feel slutty. You're going to miss out on a ton of same night pulls if you're asking "What are you trying to do tonight?" instead of casually leading her back.
/r/seduction03/06/25 04:43 PM
1

Go out to venues and look at guys who are with a hot girl/multiple hot girls. What are they wearing? Copy their style. Whatever clothes you wear will look better if you're in shape. >I want yall opinion on this. Should i go out solo more?(i get more attention and feel comfortable) because i am tired of the clowning and coaching from these people I known for only 2 years. Yes. If your friends are giving you bad advice and can't even pull women of quality you should seek advice elsewhere. >Should …
/r/seduction02/06/25 03:50 PM
1

You flirt with her and see if she reciprocates. Sure she might be going along with the flirting to try and get a better tip out of you but depending on how she reciprocates you should be able to figure out if there's any actual interest. If it's going well, you should soft close date plans. "I'm surprised at how fun you are to talk to. We should get a drink some time." or something adjacent is how I like to transition into soft closing a date after an emotional high point of the conversation. Es…
/r/seduction02/06/25 03:10 PM
1

Say the compliment in the middle of saying something else. Say you're telling a story or having a conversation and you're speaking. Pause whatever you were saying even if you'reid sentence and then say "I just noticed your xxx". And then deliver the compliment. then go back to what you were saying. Makes it extremely casual and observational. Wait until later on in the conversation where shes already bought in and likes you a little before giving the compliment. Makes it less needy and even if i…
/r/seduction01/06/25 03:29 AM
1

Go ask a friend who's into photography to spend a day taking good dating app photos. offer to buy them dinner or lunch or pay them if they won't do it for free. Or pay a professional. There are specific dating app photography services.
/r/seduction01/06/25 03:19 AM
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Your pics and profile are likely bad. It's unintuitive how to setup an attractive dating app profile for most guys. Look up dating app profile guide and get a friend to help you get some good photos
/r/seduction30/05/25 03:15 PM
1

>Everyone liked the date it was "friendly" but often they said there isn't a connection. This means you aren't escalating/flirting enough. Learn how to flirt/escalate. You're in university. Walk outside the CS department. Go to house parties/bars/clubs, join activity groups that interest you, approach girls at the university gym. Make friends who will introduce you to their friends.
/r/seduction29/05/25 06:55 PM
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no sex before marriage is a large dealbreaker for a large percentage of men and you should explicitly communicate this to anyone who shows interest in you to avoid wasting both of your time.
/r/seduction29/05/25 03:56 PM
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It is ok to have a conversation that doesn't end in a date. Your focus in the interaction shouldn't be to ask her out. It should be to move the interaction along to a point where her agreeing to go out with you is just a natural conclusion to the interaction. If you ask the girl out early on in the interaction you haven't had time to show her your personality, create tension, flirt. All she has is a short initial impression and even if it's a positive impression, it might not be enough for her t…
/r/seduction27/05/25 07:14 PM
13

Conveying that you have a high value life full of interesting things will increase attraction yes.
/r/seduction27/05/25 04:19 PM
2

Scroll through her recent posts/story. Find one that you can come up with a tease about and tease her about it. If she responds positively, say that "we should definitely catch up over drinks". Get her number to sort out the logistics.
/r/seduction27/05/25 04:13 PM
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>They reject me because they're not attracted So become more attractive. Get in shape. Cut your hair in a flattering way. Fix your skin. Wear flattering clothes. Develop competence in an impressive skill. Become a leader. Achieve a rich social life and cultivate status. Develop wealth. Your mentality bleeds through every comment you type. You're bitter, self pitying, you refuse to take responsibility. Those are incredibly unattractive traits. Your mentality affects how you consciously and subcon…
/r/seduction26/05/25 06:34 PM
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Informal surveys suggest women overwhelmingly want to be approached more in person than the amount they are currently being. You have a dogshit mentality. If you approach expecting rejection and failure women can see it immediately in your body language and the way you speak and are immediately turned off. Its your role as a man to approach. That's the way humans evolved as a species. You can bitch and moan about how unfair it is that women don't approach you often or you can deal with reality. …
/r/seduction26/05/25 05:01 PM
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If she still wants to go on a 3rd date and is hinting that her parents are out of the house it's a pretty green flag for you. Suggest that you should cook dinner and split a bottle of wine at her place. Greet her with a hug so you're re-establishing physical contact right away. Cooking is a great activity to naturally establish gentle contact. You can grab her waist, touch her lower/upper back while moving around the kitchen, touch her arm, playfully grab her arm to stir whatever's in the pot/pa…
/r/seduction26/05/25 04:22 PM
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Use the search bar/youtube. Look up flirting guides. Look up cold approach guides. Look up social circle game guides. Look up texting guides/online dating guides. Watch/read the content. Go out and practice. Fail. Reflect. Practice again. Repeat until success.
/r/seduction26/05/25 04:09 PM
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Be playful and start more subtle with flirting/teasing. Look for positive IOI's to your light flirting/teasing before ramping up the flirting. If you get neutral/negative responses to your flirting pull back immediately. Understand what constitutes workplace sexual harassment under your company's HR policy and your country's labour laws. Your flirting should come no where close to violating those rules. They can't fire you for playfully teasing a co-worker unless you're doing it repeatedly and s…
/r/seduction26/05/25 03:25 PM
1

I don't think you've gotten much useful feedback in the comments so far so I'll try to help you out. Some of the lines you used are a little cringe. Others are fine/good. The issue is you read the line in the book or video or whatever, but you don't understand what the purpose of the line is. You're supposed to be setting up a certain frame when you say these lines. If you don't understand what frame you're supposed to be setting up, you won't be able to say the line with the proper tonality, en…
/r/seduction26/05/25 01:35 AM
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You went on 3 dates with a girl before making any physical contact? Like none at all? If she liked you enough to go on 3 dates with 0 physical contact (and she clearly liked you if you dated 5 years), surely she would have been ok with physical contact well before the first date
/r/seduction26/05/25 12:43 AM
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https://datepsychology.com/risk-aversion-and-dating/ At 4:20 of this podcast the guest talks about an informal survey of 10000+ women she conducted https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arNOCN263Ds Women like being hit on, it validates their ego. Every female friend I've talked to about being approached has told me they liked it.
/r/seduction22/05/25 07:04 PM
1

Stop asking for the instagram/number right away. Have a conversation, flirt, suggest a date, then close the number/instagram.
/r/seduction22/05/25 03:40 PM
1

Surveys conducted on whether women want to be approached more in public indicate that the overwhelming number of them do. You don't have to be 10/10 but you have to be put together.
/r/seduction22/05/25 03:35 PM
3

New York city is basically the easiest western city to get laid in as a guy. Most favourable male to female ratio. Tons of parks for day game. Nightlife of all sorts. Huge number of transplants meaning people are more open to meeting new people/making new friends because they have fewer established friend groups.
/r/seduction21/05/25 08:15 AM
2

Winter day game is much worse in places where winters are cold and worse in places that are rainy a lot. Also there are fewer people going out at night in cold weather places during winter. People cuff up in relationships during the winter.
/r/seduction21/05/25 02:02 AM
1

Remind yourself that part of it is in your control and the other part is largely random variance. Refocus on the process. Reflect on if your process has slipped. Take satisfaction in working on the process. Build your way back up. Don't forget about standards but also don't do super challenging situations where you only have a chance if everything is on point
/r/seduction20/05/25 10:26 PM
1

Overrepresented vs general population. More women attend undergrad and postgrad than men.
/r/seduction20/05/25 08:04 PM
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Yeah walkability increases the number of girls walking around that you can approach doing day game and makes transitioning to instant dates a lot easier. Also makes it easier to take a girl from one venue to the next if you meet her at night. Age of the city's population matters a lot too. If it's a city with universities, women are overrepresented in higher ed.
/r/seduction20/05/25 06:30 PM
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Weather, male to female ratio, location/accessibility/affordability in the neighbourhoods closest to the city's nightlife district(s)
/r/seduction20/05/25 05:11 PM
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You guys have been dating for a couple of months and she's flaking on you without even giving you a heads up. Move on bro. That's just disrespectful
/r/seduction18/05/25 02:40 AM
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Escalate at the venue. You should be settling for numbers when no further escalation is possible. little bit of complimentary flirting from both side You're probably not flirting polarized enough/not enough teasing. Your opening message is pretty bland. Ideally you can call back to some inside joke from your conversation and/or include some sort of tease.
/r/seduction18/05/25 01:18 AM
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Get their attention first. You don't want to deliver an opener when they aren't even listening. Start with a pre-opener. Something like "Hey!" and then pause, or "scuse me". Preopen loudly and assertively to ensure you have their attention, then say whatever your opener is. The hook is whatever you say that gets them to stop doing what they were doing before and not only focus on talking to you but being invested in what you're talking about. You want solid eye contact, smile/smirk, breaking rap…
/r/seduction16/05/25 06:39 PM
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Pick busier venues. Going out solo is really only an issue if its such a small venue that girls will see you alone in between approaches or if they can tell you're just doing laps around the venue doing approaches. If you feel you need to, you can start the night early looking for a mixed or mostly male friend group to befriend/adopt you as a group of people you can touch base with. Have good energy and maybe make up a story about how you were supposed to hang out with your boy but his girlfrien…
/r/seduction16/05/25 04:20 PM
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The hottest/most valuable women aren't on the apps. Getting good at cold approach will make you better at converting dates from apps into sex/relationships. It'll make you better in a situation where you're introduced to a girl at an event by friends or with a girl you meet at some hobby. In terms of efficiency you can't beat the apps if you're decently attractive and have a good profile but the journey of improving at cold approach is incredibly rewarding from a self improvement standpoint and …
/r/seduction16/05/25 04:05 PM
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As opposed to her giving you her number? Sometimes girls will take your number with no intention of texting you or simply forget to text you. You can text yourself from her phone after putting the number in. Focus on making the interaction solid so the number is solid. If you can soft close a date, then transition to getting a number, the numbers you get will be less flaky
/r/seduction16/05/25 06:28 AM
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Switch venues if the vibe is bad. Try to open indirect or with an opinion opener. Have a wing or girl friend with you for social proof and open together.b
/r/seduction10/05/25 09:58 PM
1

If it's the first time you see her it's cold approach. If not it's warm approach
/r/seduction10/05/25 04:46 PM
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Calibration is all about reading the girl/situation and adjusting. Do you have her attention? Is her body language tense? Is she smiling, laughing, playing with her hair? Is her torso lined up with you? Is her voice nervous, uncomfortable or relaxed and engaged? If she's uncomfortable, escalating is going to get you rejected, potentially harshly. So you need to get her comfortable/interested. Doing high value things, story telling, connecting with her, etc until she isn't tense and is engaged. O…
/r/seduction09/05/25 09:13 PM
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If an interaction is going well, you should be escalating. physically, verbally, emotionally, logistically. Small steps at a time, two steps forward, one step back. Light physical touch, more intense eye contact, pulling her in to whisper, touching her hair, kissing, figuring out where she's staying, getting her alone, moving her around to a different location. If you're getting hesitation, pull back, get the vibes good again, try again. When you escalate gradually, you rarely get harsh resistan…
/r/seduction09/05/25 08:16 PM
2

If you've been seeing a girl for a month and haven't slept with her I don't think you know how to make a move.
/r/seduction08/05/25 06:52 PM
1

Is it the highest % chance vs other techniques? No. But you can definitely get numbers and dates opening direct.
/r/seduction08/05/25 06:45 PM
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"This is a a bit forward" is better than "Kinda random" "Kinda random" you sound unsure of yourself. Slow down, breathe, speak slowly and with your diaphragm so your voice is deeper.
/r/seduction08/05/25 04:09 AM
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Opening direct is fine for a beginner.
/r/seduction08/05/25 04:07 AM
2

Your profile is probably bad. Post it to a profile review sub and also look up dating profile/online dating guide in the sidebar/YouTube. Your dating app Elo may be cooked from years of a bad profile so when you figure out how to fix it consider starting a new profile
/r/seduction07/05/25 09:30 PM
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You can consciously practice attractive behaviour. Through repetition and self reflection, behaving in an attractive way becomes part of who you are. It becomes more natural. You can go out and make it a focus to have extended eye contact in all your interactions. You can warm up by having eye contact with men or women you aren't interested. Yes you will slip up while practicing and reveal some behaviour that indicates incongruency. It might cause the girl to lose attraction. That is part of the…
/r/seduction07/05/25 07:20 PM
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Girls will almost never take the initiative until you've already slept with them. It's your job to lead by setting the terms of how often you want to see this girl. Failing by doing nothing is far worse than failing by trying.
/r/seduction07/05/25 07:11 PM
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Look up some texting/online dating guides in the sidebar and youtube. Unfortunately just based on the level of attention women get, it's very difficult to get them more invested in you to the point where they're pursuing you before you meet them in person.
/r/seduction07/05/25 06:28 PM
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You understand the behaviour that is attractive but it doesn't come naturally to you. That's ok. This behaviour isn't immutable part of who a person is. Yes some people naturally develop it. But it's learnable behaviour. When you practice the behaviour and get positive feedback/don't get negative feedback to it, your brain is subconsciously learning that the behaviour is low risk. I used to be really bad at eye contact too, but you just do it over and over again. Never had an interaction go poor…
/r/seduction07/05/25 06:24 PM
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Get an uber if it cuts the time to 30 min or less. Or go out closer to where you live. Yes you can have approaches that are so good that the girl will put up with bad logistics but if you have good logistics the bar to close an approach is way lower.
/r/seduction07/05/25 06:12 PM
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You need to move the conversation off the apps onto a phone number and then get them out on a date asap. A few messages establishing flirty vibe -> soft close date -> get number to establish logistics for date -> 1-2 texts to reestablish vibe on new platform -> logistics for date. You can't keep a girls attention over messages if you've never met before. She is bombarded with attention from other guys IRL, other guys on the app, guys she's met before etc.
/r/seduction07/05/25 06:08 PM
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Just approach them anyway. Yes if you smile at them after eye contact and they smile back your chances are higher of a receptive approach. But you can just start a conversation and walk away if she isn't receptive.
/r/seduction07/05/25 05:58 PM
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If you work from home, but especially if you work at home and your girl is also work from home/stay at home, leave the house for other reasons. Go to the gym, go do some of your work at a cafe. There's an ick girls can get when they don't see you leaving the house to be productive even if you're being productive at home. Congruence is not putting on a mask to seem like something you aren't. Having natural game vs scripted routines. Not pretending to have an attractive personality but actively wo…
/r/seduction07/05/25 05:56 PM
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Improv is probably better. Never heard of anyone taking a story telling class before.
/r/seduction07/05/25 04:48 PM
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You show romantic intent by flirting with the girl - compliments, teasing, push pulls, disqualifiers. The latter 3 are types of polarized flirting. Polarization is the act of doing something that will result in either a positive or negative outcome. If you don't polarize when you flirt you end up in small talk conversation that goes nowhere. Polarizing flirting is good because you want to trigger an emotional response. It gets her engaged in the conversation. Being bold and comfortable enough to…
/r/seduction05/05/25 08:29 PM
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You flirt with her in person. If she reciprocates beyond the typical "service industry employee working for tips" level, you escalate the flirting, if she continues to reciprocate, you say "we should keep this conversation going over a drink when you're not working". If she's interested, you set up the date, if she's not, you move on. If she doesn't reciprocate the flirting you can just not escalate further. The awkwardness of "flirted with a server at my local bar and she didn't flirt back" is …
/r/seduction05/05/25 04:35 PM
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You likely aren't being polarizing enough. You need to show romantic intent through flirting, and polarize to build tension. Having safe friendly conversations will not get you a romantic partner. You need to lead the conversation towards romantic topics. Start the interaction with a mindset of "You piqued my curiosity but I'm not sure if we're compatible". Use push pulls, teases, disqualifiers to create tension and get her to qualify herself as interesting enough for you. At the start you weren…
/r/seduction05/05/25 04:24 PM
2

It's not about not feeling like there was something to take advantage of. More like just being emotionally open (different from vulnerable) and try to connect more with the girl.
/r/seduction30/04/25 07:40 PM
1

Look up Conversational Threading
/r/seduction30/04/25 06:58 PM
2

Could be blind leading the blind here bc I have somewhat similar issues. While I am less focused on looking for something long term, when I do go on a date with a girl who ends up being someone who I would consider long term, the rate at which I successfully follow up is much lower. I think it's mainly a mindset issue that is subconsciously revealed through behaviour. It's about feeling self assured that you are would be a value add to their life and behaving like it. Re: the self sluttiness pol…
/r/seduction30/04/25 06:50 PM
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You can lead into a conversation with humour without stepping into a frame where the girl is some rare object, even if it's sarcastically executed. Let's pretend this is a neutral quality opener. Telling a beginner to use it is terrible because it slips into being a bad opener if he doesn't say it with the right tonality and frame.
/r/seduction30/04/25 06:38 PM
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Wait time doesn't matter too much. I would guess that when you meet a girl you actually like you slip out of a fun value frame and into a chasing frame. Also possible that when you sleep with these girls, you're fun and high value on the date but not doing much connecting, so in the days after the encounter the girl remembers virtually nothing about who you are as a person, and thus has an internal self sluttiness policing
/r/seduction30/04/25 06:02 PM
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Opening direct can be good for beginners, who often have trouble displaying intent in the approach. Complimenting style/outfit/energy/tattoos is much better than complimenting looks. Complimenting too much skews the interaction, you want a push pull of giving her light shit playfully. If she's with a guy you can open more indirectly and then transition into "How do you guys know each other?"
/r/seduction30/04/25 05:43 PM
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Terrible line/frame. Puts her immediately in the frame of being this rare valuable thing you're chasing.
/r/seduction30/04/25 05:37 PM
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Possible you could be following up too eager. Possible you aren't doing enough genuine connection on the dates.
/r/seduction29/04/25 11:37 PM
1

Just look up a cold approach guide. Advice for college girls specifically? Don't ask her major until she's asked you, and have a tease about her major ready if you do ask.
/r/seduction29/04/25 04:02 PM
1

Open body language approachable. Closed body language, less likely to want to be approached. Doesn't matter either way. Approach who you want, if they're not interested you'll find out quickly and can just walk away
/r/seduction29/04/25 03:59 PM
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You had one approach over DM's fizzle out and you're giving up? Why didn't you approach her in person if you guys have a mutual friend? You probably spent too long talking online and should have gotten her out on a date asap. You did all this self improvement work on stuff that makes you more attractive but didn't practice flirting with a girl once. I think you should learn do cold approach. You should treat it as low consequence practice on how to flirt in person. The practice will help you in …
/r/seduction28/04/25 08:54 PM
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By paying the ticket/cover price. Or networking socially so you become friends with nightlife/promoter adjacent people in your city's nightlife scene. The single women in your city aren't just staying home doing nothing. Go out and figure out what they're doing.
/r/seduction26/04/25 10:07 PM
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Cooking classes, dance classes, Pilates are all activities that skew heavily female. If the bars you're going to are all dudes pick a different bar. Go to a more upscale venue that controls the crowd it lets in.
/r/seduction26/04/25 08:35 PM
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You need to pick better venues if you're outnumbered 10-1
/r/seduction26/04/25 06:55 PM
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Really disagree that competition is the biggest thing holding guys back in night game. Constantly seeing guys just standing around not doing approaches. Or guys who already know the girl and like her but don't know how to escalate. Sometimes I'll be in the vicinity and just listen in on an approach and the average dude is so bad.
/r/seduction26/04/25 12:02 AM
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It's useful to have fallback lines/concepts memorized but ultimately understanding the theory behind a line is more useful than knowing the exact order of the words in the line. Even with an opener, which is the most structured/repeatable part of an approach, knowing why you are using the opener you pick and how to deliver it is more important than the exact words. The problem with giving specific answers is that people just end up taking the line and then delivering it out of context, or withou…
/r/seduction22/04/25 02:54 AM
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I'm saying in general. Once it's going good you need to start solving logistical issues, which include satiating any cockblocking friends.
/r/seduction21/04/25 01:49 AM
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You need to get on her friends' good side. Specifically the leader of the group or her most important friend.
/r/seduction21/04/25 01:05 AM
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Spend longer in the approach before going for a number. If it's during the day, see if you can pull an instant date first. If it's at night just stay in the interaction and see how far you can move it. Get the number when you don't see any other path forward. Softclose a date before you grab a number. Throw out the idea of you and the girl hanging out again, if you do this after attraction has already been established, she'll likely agree enthusiastically. Then you can plan out a date right ther…
/r/seduction19/04/25 06:46 AM
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Shit tests are indications of interest, not disinterest. If they aren't interested they are just going to reject you outright or give you nothing of substance. Also if you walk away from a girl who gives you a cold response, or if she isn't engaging, that's not you rejecting her, that's walking away from a failed approach. You rejecting her would be doing the approach, having it go well with her being into you, and then walking away because she did something that made you no longer interested.
/r/seduction18/04/25 10:43 PM
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First one is ok, could be phrased slightly better. Last one is good. Middle 3 are bad imo.
/r/seduction16/04/25 07:07 PM
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Just say "let's do something more intimate" and then suggest drinks somewhere. If she agrees she's into you, if she doesn't she isn't. The way you've described it, it sounds like she is into you and realized she was coming off like it could be misinterpreted that she's just trying to milk you for a tour commission but that she doesn't want you to misinterpret her genuine intentions.
/r/seduction16/04/25 02:58 AM
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Just pickup the conversation and quickly transition to setting up a casual date.
/r/seduction16/04/25 01:57 AM
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Don't feel too bad about not knowing what to do. It's a very unintuitive situation if you haven't seen it before. You have to read her actions too. If she felt scared or threatened or disgusted by you, would she have asked you to stay over? When it happens in the future with her or anyone else, pull back, create good vibes again, and re-escalate. When you're nonchalant about the initial "rejection", it shows her that you're just enjoying spending time with her; it build a lot of comfort.
/r/seduction15/04/25 06:50 PM
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When a girl has last minute resistance but wants you to stay she is looking for you to either step up and lead the sexual tension in a way where she gets turned on enough and changes her mind and/or reassure her enough that it will be ok for her emotionally if she sleeps with you. It's usually not great if you fail this test by not doing anything. But set up another hangout and go from there.
/r/seduction15/04/25 06:13 PM
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For example you go to play with her hair and she tenses up, going for a kiss as a further escalation step is a disaster. When you try to "mirror" her and emphasize your similarities you're seeking her approval. You're selling yourself to her. You want her to sell her attractive qualities to you. Now she's chasing your approval, qualifying herself to the standards you implicitly set when you talk about what you value and challenging her on if she meets those standards. If you make an escalation m…
/r/seduction15/04/25 05:53 PM
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"Hi, have we met before? I thought you looked familiar but wasn't quite sure" "I noticed you checking me out so I thought I'd come over so you could get a better look" *any other opener you would normally use"
/r/seduction14/04/25 09:30 PM
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Half of your date specific advice is bad. >making her feel that you are similar to her Straight women who are attracted to men because they are men. Not because they are similar to them. >making 80% of the conversation about her this is way too much of the concentration being centred around her. A large percentage of this should be dedicated to evaluating whether (or not) you and her are compatible for the relationship you want. >conversation that matches her interests You need to lead the conve…
/r/seduction14/04/25 08:19 PM
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Negging as a concept might be on a smaller percentage of girls' radars but a properly executed neg will go undetected by almost any girl. The majority of guys who try to use negs are executing them horribly.
/r/seduction14/04/25 06:12 PM
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This is slightly more advanced so I wouldn't recommend it as a beginner but there are plenty of girls at events/clubs/bars with dudes who are not actually boyfriends but just friends or dudes in the friend zone. I don't approach girls who are obviously with dudes who are boyfriends but you can approach a girl who you aren't sure is there with a boyfriend with a more indirect or observational opener, vibe a little quickly, introduce yourself to them both and then ask "How do you guys know each ot…
/r/seduction14/04/25 05:14 PM
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Struggling to think of a place in a western country where there aren't any women interested in a "bit above average men" with tattoos. Learn how to cold approach. The skills you can gain from learning to cold approach carry over to every other type of game. Improve your online dating/social media game by learning how to take good photos/hire a dating profile photographer. Learn how to build a good profile, and then learn how to message effectively. Put yourself in social activities with women wh…
/r/seduction14/04/25 04:48 PM
1

She already likes you lol. Your job is to be high value enough that you don't end up just as a pure rebound.
/r/seduction14/04/25 04:25 PM
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Predate phone call/ft reduces flake rate for sure but girls will sometimes flake for reasons entirely out of your control
/r/seduction14/04/25 02:02 PM
1

You are jumping to suggesting drinks without building up a vibe first. Tease her about something on her profile, challenge her a little, flirt, and then suggest a date. And your emoji usage is pretty cringe.
/r/seduction12/04/25 12:53 AM
2

Do not get her a rose. You should just ask her on a date lol
/r/seduction12/04/25 12:48 AM
2

You need to change your mentality. Think about being an interesting and fun person and making the girl's day more interesting and fun by having a spontaneous conversation.
/r/seduction11/04/25 03:08 PM
2

Don't hand her your number on a piece of paper. She has a phone lol. >We had chatted about how busy the place was, Doesn't sound like there was any flirting. Don't expect to get numbers that text you back if you don't flirt with the girl. >She appeared flustered (maybe I put her on the spot?) You did put her on the spot. You were having a platonic conversation in line. Ended the conversation. And then re-opened the conversation by asking her out with no build up of flirting inbetween. You want t…
/r/seduction09/04/25 07:03 PM
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https://www.gameglobal.net/every-shit-test/ try google
/r/seduction09/04/25 06:52 PM
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Girls who use dudes for attention and drinks at a bar/club aren't "flakes", you've just failed to properly generate attraction and lead the interaction where you want it to go. Be polarizing enough to generate attraction and make it clear that the interaction is about you and her in a sexual or romantic context. Impossible to detect "flakes" ahead of time when dating. Either they're into you and will prioritize their attention towards you or they're not and you won't get their attention. Your jo…
/r/seduction09/04/25 05:13 PM
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I'll start a bunch of random conversations with strangers during the day or give out compliments to random people during the day if I'm going out later that night. If I'm ubering to a venue I'll chat with the uber driver, I'll get dropped off 10 minutes away and start doing warmup approaches on the walk to the venue.
/r/seduction08/04/25 07:31 PM
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Hinge is better than Tinder. But it depends on what part of the world you're in. Try out every app. Your messages probably suck if you are getting matches and not getting replies. Look up online dating guides for how to send good messages etc.
/r/seduction07/04/25 03:03 PM
1

If a girl gives you choosing signals, especially if she's doing it consciously not not just subconsciously, and you don't respond, she's going to assume you're not calibrated enough to understand the choosing signals (ick), or that you're not interested (could be bad or good depending on the girl.
/r/seduction04/04/25 04:31 PM
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Yes. Within 2-4 days is best. Try to never schedule longer than a week away. Reduces your flake rate significantly. Can be fine if you guys already know each other but if you don't really know the girl well it's very bad. Would try and talk/flirt with her and when it's going well, say something like "I know the event is in a few weeks but let's do x this weekend".
/r/seduction03/04/25 06:46 PM
1

Your dating goals should be your own. STD's are an overstated risk, the STD prevalence is highly concentrated in certain demographics. Don't sleep with low end sex workers, intravenous drug users, and gay dudes and your risk of STD's is virtually none. Add in protection and it's even lower. Hookup culture is only toxic on an individual level if you make it toxic or seek toxicity. I would say it's difficult to find a life partner with virtually no experience because you have no real understanding…
/r/seduction03/04/25 02:32 PM
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Look from one eye to the other to her lips forming a triangle. Used to create tension for a kiss.
/r/seduction03/04/25 02:24 PM
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Generic direct compliments are a ticket to the friend zone. They're forgettable and put you in a frame of being the one chasing. Creating emotional sparks through teasing, cold reads, and push pulls generates tension. You're showing intent by indicating that you're there to evaluate her, not just compliment her.
/r/seduction03/04/25 02:20 PM
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Living close to the nightlife district is the best for an active social/dating life.
/r/seduction01/04/25 07:48 PM
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Go out into the world and have low stakes conversations. Old school diners and quiet bars are places where it's part of the staff's job to converse with you. Ask random strangers on the street for recommendations. You don't have to be attracted to the person, it doesn't even have to be a woman. Compliment strangers' outfits. Super low stakes just for practice, then as you get more comfortable, up the stakes slightly.
/r/seduction31/03/25 10:36 PM
1

Well you need to learn to make the process fun for you or you'll be extremely limited in your opportunity to do approaches.
/r/seduction31/03/25 06:43 PM
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Most women are turned on by talking about sex - just look at the way they consume erotic/romantic literature - but it's far more effective to talk implicitly rather than explicitly. Talk about picking them up and throwing them around, teasing them, caressing certain parts of their body, etc. That's far more stimulating for them than explicitly telling them how you want to have sex with them. There are several techniques to steer a conversation towards sex. Talk about sex adjacent topics. Travel,…
/r/seduction31/03/25 06:30 PM
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You want to show romantic intent by showing that you're attracted to her, teasing her, flirting with her, escalating physically, building tension. You don't want to show romantic intent by confessing feelings. Being bold is flirting and escalating, being needy is confessing your feelings with the expectation that she reciprocates verbally or validates the confession. You should be honest if she asks you if you're a virgin because most virgins can't pull off the lie and because it won't matter if…
/r/seduction31/03/25 04:05 PM
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Do you not find the process of talking to girls fun? Even some of the approaches where I get rejected are fun. I go to a lot of raves/clubs that play EDM and do the majority of my approaches at these events. When the music is extremely good I actually end up doing fewer approaches because I just want to focus on the music but I never view it as wasting fun.
/r/seduction31/03/25 06:37 AM
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Ok so if you let it ruin the vibe of the night because you can't deal with rejection you'll end up with a very limited pool of options bc you're only willing to approach girls that give you IOIs.
/r/seduction31/03/25 05:14 AM
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You can approach girls who don't give you indicators of interest. You have a better chance with girls who give you IOIs but that doesn't mean you have 0 chance with girls who don't or that you have 100% success rate with girls who do give you IOIs. Rejection is fine and to be expected.
/r/seduction31/03/25 05:08 AM
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You're misunderstanding the point of the non sexual excuse to invite the girl back. It's not supposed to be deceptive. It's supposed to be nonchalant. She is supposed to know what you mean and also is supposed to understand that you're smooth enough to keep things ambiguous.
/r/seduction29/03/25 01:15 AM
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Ideal date location is a short walk away from your house. If it goes well it's a lot easier to convince her to walk a few minutes to check out your cool _____ back home than to convince her to get in a vehicle. Picking someone up who you don't know isn't a great environment to flirt in when you have to keep your eyes on the road.
/r/seduction28/03/25 10:51 PM
2

That's really interesting. I've done mall approaches before but never just sat and people watched so intensely.
/r/seduction28/03/25 08:00 PM
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She may give off IOIs but if you take too long you look unconfident which is unattractive. Or the way you opened wasn't up to par. Now she may be unsure of her interest and give you shit tests. If you pass the shit tests, she will be interested again.
/r/seduction28/03/25 07:56 PM
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You can totally say this in a library or food court btw. Just with a smile or smirk. It is in fact legal to flirt with a woman outside of a bar.
/r/seduction27/03/25 04:01 PM
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You can't live life in fear of being in an uncomfortable situation. Yes you've been told by society that "harassing" women is basically sexual assault. You have to understand that as long as you know how to take a hint for when to exit, and as long as you aren't rude, any discomfort you could possibly cause is superficial. Ever been in a conversation you didn't want to be and feel a little uncomfortable? Did you have any lasting trauma from it? No? It's now fine to go talk to that girl even if s…
/r/seduction27/03/25 03:59 PM
2

Stop with the pity party. You should learn because putting in the effort to improve and gradually getting better at something is just about the most rewarding things about being alive.
/r/seduction27/03/25 06:57 AM
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"Do you want to come up for a night cap?" If you have a balcony, invite her for the view. If you have a pet, tell them they should meet it. If you guys talked about smoking tell them to come have a smoke. Any sort of nonsexual excuse is good. If you've done two venues you won't need an elaborate scheme if she's feeling comfortable around you.
/r/seduction27/03/25 03:40 AM
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Your problem is you lack agency. Wahhh I got rejected wahhh modern society and social media have changed the way dating works. Wahhhhh it's not fair I can't succeed. Dating is a skill. To improve at any skill you have to apply structured practice, swallow your pride, and pursue uncomfortable but achievable microprogress. Break it down into smaller tasks. You're not going to get better at "getting women" in one swoop. You're going to get better at opening a conversation. Better at holding eye con…
/r/seduction27/03/25 03:30 AM
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Well there are the celebrities, athletes, influencers, oil princes, very well off etc who do fly women out specifically for sex with an implicit or explicit understanding that they are being flown out for sex. There are wealthy men who are not very successful with women so they use their wealth to attract women who they do not otherwise have the ability to court. Whether these people expect sex isn't 100% but they're certainly hoping for it. There are extremely, busy wealthy men who do not have …
/r/seduction26/03/25 07:58 PM
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She's moved on. So should you. Triple texting this also reeks of desperation. Triggering trauma from an ex is a huge thing that you almost never recover from.
/r/seduction26/03/25 07:01 PM
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As long as you guys are communicating about the expectations I think it's fine. Best of luck.
/r/seduction26/03/25 06:23 PM
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>how true is it that when you don’t think about sex/making out with a girl you’re with that it happens? not true at all. As the man, it is your job to escalate. If you're not thinking about escalating, it's unlikely you're going to unconsciously escalate. Most girls will not take the lead if you aren't and the ones that will would have gone along with it if you had escalated far earlier. I would say it is far more common for men not to escalate enough than to escalate too quickly. Some men don't…
/r/seduction26/03/25 05:11 PM
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The type of person who flies a woman can vary drastically. I think it would be both polite and responsible for you to outline the expectations of the date and relationship to this person before you agreed to be flown out.
/r/seduction26/03/25 04:57 PM
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Appearing too eager is when she isn't invested or hooked yet. You guys both like each other. Don't overthink things.
/r/seduction26/03/25 04:29 PM
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Girls do not want a texting buddy. "You know you're worth the wait" is pedestalizing her. You want her to think she's missing an great opportunity by not meeting you. You will not be able to compliment your way back into a date. Polarize or move on.
/r/seduction24/03/25 07:13 PM
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Could be a number of things, ex is back in her life, found a different date she finds more attractive, actually busy, lost interest in you. When a girl is flaky, I tend to find being more polarizing is more important than making her feel comfortable. It's unlikely that she isn't comfortable enough to meet you in a public establishment for a casual date. You want to reply with a cocky/arrogant frame about the idea that she's missing out on a great opportunity. Can sometimes include some light sex…
/r/seduction24/03/25 06:42 PM
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Why are you asking a mutual friend to tell her you like her instead of talking to her in person yourself? That's like elementary school stuff. She's single but not open to dating someone who doesn't have the confidence to flirt with her in person.
/r/seduction23/03/25 08:23 PM
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Need the rom com where you try to out clingy a girl but you guys just keep one upping each other until you fall in love
/r/seduction22/03/25 07:40 PM
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So hitting on women in a somewhat professional setting requires experience, calibration, and being reasonably attractive. You want to subtly flirt with the ability to plausibly deny that you are flirting. This means being less polarizing than you would normally be when flirting, waiting for more IOI's than normal to escalate. When you do set up a future meeting though, you need to be clear that it's not for professional purposes. Wouldn't recommend it for novices, your calibration really importa…
/r/seduction21/03/25 07:37 PM
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Search bar, youtube videos for how to flirt. Put a little bit of effort in looking for the information.
/r/seduction20/03/25 02:15 PM
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You didn't flirt or escalate so she likely won't be interested in anything further. It's good that she was asking you questions but the overall conversation sounded like boring surface level get to know you small talk.
/r/seduction19/03/25 05:35 PM
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Flirt and escalate earlier. Escalating earlier when you aren't as familiar as each other is more polarizing, so look for indications of interest and reciprocal flirting if you want to be careful about losing friendships
/r/seduction18/03/25 10:48 PM
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They don't post the rejections. They have thousands of attempts of practice. They are very outcome independent and women can tell. The guy in the first link is very attractive. If a girl finds you attractive enough and you spike some emotions right away, it's not hard to get a number. Much harder to get numbers that don't flake/will actually convert to dates.
/r/seduction18/03/25 05:01 PM
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She gets handsy with you and has given you lots of IOIs. why don't you think she would be interested in hooking up? You should ask her on a casual date and then try to hook up with her.
/r/seduction17/03/25 03:54 PM
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Bar/club numbers are always flakier than normal. Possible your insta profile is poorly set up. Fix it or use phone #s. Try to pull same night. Much less likely to get ghosted if you have sex with the girl, esp if it's good sex. If you can't pull same night, soft close a date before getting the number/insta. "We should get a drink alone sometime" Coming up with an inside joke while talking to a girl is great for spiking high levels of connection and emotion. If you do this, you can also call back…
/r/seduction17/03/25 03:52 PM
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NYC, Miami, Vegas, LA, Chicago
/r/seduction16/03/25 09:00 PM
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Introvert/extrovert are not immutable characteristics. As you get more comfortable going out, it will start being more enjoyable. You might find that as a natural introvert you actually enjoy being in a 1 on 1 conversation with a girl. Pick quieter venues like lounges. Find venues with music you like.
/r/seduction16/03/25 08:59 PM
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I mean ideally you guys have the social awareness if you're scaring the hoes. But you can come up with code phrases and then just come up with some excuse, bathroom, talk to another friend, etc.
/r/seduction16/03/25 07:38 PM
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get a better wing Have a discussion that if his set is going to torpedo your set he needs to exit gracefully and vice versa. This doesn't mean giving up at the first sign of adversity Do a little more group dynamic stuff to show her friend that you're chill. Can get her friend to qualify her for you or ask her friend what her red flags are etc
/r/seduction16/03/25 04:39 PM
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If you're consistently getting bland answers your ability to prompt interesting answers is not as good as you think it is. Look up online dating messaging guides/texting guides.
/r/seduction15/03/25 11:52 PM
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Find venues that you enjoy with music you like. If you're having fun, starting conversations is easier. Other than that it's just practice until you get more comfortable approaching sober
/r/seduction15/03/25 08:48 PM
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He only replied to the comments reaffirming him that it's the world's fault and not the ones saying it's on him to approve noticing
/r/seduction14/03/25 09:01 PM
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He only replied to the comments reaffirming him that it's the world's fault and not the ones saying it's on him to approve noticing
/r/seduction14/03/25 09:00 PM
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If you are also bored at work lol.
/r/seduction14/03/25 08:54 PM
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You're a pretty above attractive asian dude (no homo lol) This dude doesn't look bad either, could use a better haircut. I just get annoyed when people complain about a lack of results when they either haven't put in the work to get better or are working so inefficiently. As someone who also started from scratch social skills wise I couldn't imagine where'd I'd be now as someone with ~intermediate/advanced success if younger me didn't have access to all this free info.
/r/seduction14/03/25 08:53 PM
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Honestly it's so bizarre because opening is usually the biggest sticking point for most beginners but he just direct opens, doesn't do any of the fun engaging conversation and then tries to number close. Maybe it's an ego thing where if he goes for a quick close and gets rejected he can blame it on his looks but if he actually engages the girl and gets rejected it says something about the rest of him.
/r/seduction14/03/25 08:43 PM
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There is high quality free material on the internet though. He's most certainly aware it exists, given he's posting on dating and pickup forums. He's not actually following any of the advice though. He's doing a canned bad approach over and over again and bitching about not getting any results. The # is far lower than thousands imo if someone is actually implementing the advice and practicing in a consistent fashion.
/r/seduction14/03/25 08:31 PM
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How are you a dating coach suggesting that it takes thousands of rejections to get any results? Maybe if you had no social skills and are literally teaching yourself, learning by pure trial and error. We know what works in a successful approach. As a coach it should not take thousands of approaches for any of your clients to learn what works.
/r/seduction14/03/25 08:19 PM
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I replied to him twice about it lol. I can't put myself in his shoes. Can't imagine not pausing and wondering why I wasn't getting better or getting any results and reflecting on whether I was doing something properly after just a few tries. Let alone 400.
/r/seduction14/03/25 08:12 PM
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He could do a lot different. If you look at his older posts he's doing the same bad approach over and over and wondering why he gets the same lack of results.
/r/seduction14/03/25 08:05 PM
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Reposting my comment to you in another thread because you didn't respond: I looked at your previous post about how you cold approach and your approach is incredibly bad. Props on being able to open that many times but you need to go back to the drawing board. Look up posts and videos on how to do cold approach and learn how to do it properly. Learn how to flirt. Your tinder photos are not good either. Look up posts/videos on how to setup a good dating app profile and look up online dating messag…
/r/seduction14/03/25 08:03 PM
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Friends are made through proximity and common interest. Don't understand the extroverted but not into parties. You can party without drinking. It's a bunch of people trying to socialize and have fun. You need to find places/hobbies where there are people your age. Local intramural sports. Maybe pick up a part time entry level job that other young people work at.
/r/seduction14/03/25 04:09 PM
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It's possible but when you've started on kind of the wrong foot you need to polarize. You need to polarize a little bit here to get her attention back and also to indicate that while your first few messages were boring, you can actually be interesting. Think your easiest path forward would be to use the "you're cute but x is definitely a red flag" from the big online dating messaging post from a day or two ago. It's a good format.
/r/seduction14/03/25 03:02 PM
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I looked at your previous post about how you cold approach and your approach is incredibly bad. Props on being able to open that many times but you need to go back to the drawing board. Look up posts and videos on how to do cold approach and learn how to do it properly. Learn how to flirt. Your tinder photos are not good either. Look up posts/videos on how to setup a good dating app profile and look up online dating messaging guides. Imagine you are trying to learn how to cook and instead of lea…
/r/seduction14/03/25 06:58 AM
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Just use the sidebar and search for hinge messaging or texting tips. Your texts are boring and not about anything relevant to the girl.
/r/seduction14/03/25 06:45 AM
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I've kissed a few girls who've told me later that they don't usually kiss guys on first dates as well as slept with girls from clubs/bars/first dates who say they "don't usually do this" or "have never done this before" (Can usually tell if they're being honest about it lol). If you build tension and attraction and also do lots of smooth mini escalation before the kiss to build up her comfort level, she will forget about their logical rationale for not kissing on the first date and give in to al…
/r/seduction13/03/25 04:33 PM
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Yup just think about it. The girl is taking time out of her life to go on this date with you. She's prioritized this time for you instead of any other guy and anything else she could be doing. She wants it to go well. So when it is going well and she's responding positively to flirting she almost always is open to a kiss. Lots of youtube vids and posts on how to naturally escalate it.
/r/seduction13/03/25 04:02 PM
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Don't ask her how her saturday was lol. When you're not dating/friends with someone, asking them how their day was is saying "I'm really bored right now. Hopefully your life is exciting. Please send over some excitement so I'm less bored". Should have texted about making plans to see her again. Also escalate more on the date. It sounds like you didn't kiss her? If a girl is flirting back with you on a date that she agreed to there's like 100% she's down to kiss you. If there's flirting but you d…
/r/seduction13/03/25 03:25 PM
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Would not recommend it after she removed you from insta.
/r/seduction13/03/25 01:25 PM
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Asking a girl if she likes you while alone with her is approval seeking. It makes you look insecure and unattractive. This girl did like you she told her friend that she liked you enough that your friend left you two alone. If she didn't like you initially she wouldn't have put herself in that situation with you. You escalated poorly, were needy and unconfident so she got the ick. Then you asked to kiss her, she gave you a soft rejection and you kissed her anyway. Then you tried to escalate to s…
/r/seduction13/03/25 01:07 AM
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Just ask her on a real date that's not running? Coffee, mocktails, smoothie, bubble tea. There's a chance you blew it by not acting in the moment but can't change that now so you should just vibe a little bit over text and then ask her out.
/r/seduction13/03/25 12:56 AM
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Week is way too long. We're talking about a one night stand he didn't even sleep with.
/r/seduction12/03/25 10:56 PM
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You have to learn to take satisfaction from the process of improving instead of being focused on the outcome. Women can sense that you're outcome dependent and it's highly unattractive. Ironically by focusing on improving, you actually improve and it will lead to actual better outcomes. You can do this by focusing on a smaller number of skills that you want to work on during each session of approaching or each approach. Ex. You really want to focus on having good push pulls tonight so during eve…
/r/seduction12/03/25 08:05 PM
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Right but you actually have to practice in a structured way where you are honest about your mistakes and what you did right to improve rapidly. Cold approach is a skill that encompasses a huge number of smaller skills from eye contact, vocal tonality, teasing, showing intent/premise, kino, dressing well, being in shape, opening, building rapport, story telling, disqualification, polarization, figuring out logistics etc. You have to try to get better at each individual skill to get better as a wh…
/r/seduction12/03/25 07:24 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=london+daygame+approach+infield
/r/seduction12/03/25 07:11 PM
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Doing 600 approaches but you can't even articulate or reflect on what you did well and what you did wrong. Like going to the gym for years and never adding any weight or muscle. Read posts/watch videos by people telling you how to do a good cold approach. Try to apply the techniques during an approach. Take a moment after the approach to reflect on things you did well during the approach and things you did poorly. Write it down in a notebook or on your phone. After you're done approaching for th…
/r/seduction12/03/25 07:00 PM
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Have a few default openers in mind that you can fall back on when you can't come up with something unique to the girl/situation.
/r/seduction12/03/25 06:06 PM
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Why don't you just ask him? This seems like a fairly normal thing to ask a friend. Anyways you can funnel your matches towards coming over as the first meeting but you will lose some % of matches who would have gone on a date and then hooked up with you. This strategy can be fine if you have a high # of matches, and are not too fussy about your own standards. Ie women who are less attractive relative to yourself are more likely willing to skip a date. Be attractive. Send polarizing flirtatious m…
/r/seduction11/03/25 06:10 PM
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Consider not getting fired/suspended/expelled over a girl who you don't even know likes you. Be cool and fun and hit her up when you are not her RA.
/r/seduction10/03/25 04:50 PM
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There's different types of breaking eye contact. Shy, flustered moving the eyes away (usually + or neutral for your chances) and avoidance with hips/shoulders facing away from you (active lack of interest). When you close the distance on a girl you've been making eye contact with, it's still on you to open the conversation. Rarely is the girl going to open the conversation for you. You can go in cocky - "hey I noticed you staring at me so I thought I would come over and let you get a closer look…
/r/seduction09/03/25 10:39 PM
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You can just practice speaking in front of the mirror. Breathe through your diaphragm and speak slowly. Your voice will naturally be deeper that way. Do it a lot and it will start to be how you normally speak. Flirt and escalate. When you show intent it removes any doubt on whether you're gay or not.
/r/seduction09/03/25 08:06 PM
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Yes dressing feminine is another important thing I forgot to mention. Doesn't have to be revealing but you need to give off feminine energy. Like I imagine if you started a conversation with a guy who you found physically attractive, but they had poor social skills, you would lose a lot of your attraction to that guy. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, that's my perception and understanding of how it would go based on experience etc.
/r/seduction08/03/25 12:20 AM
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It's easier to be physically attractive for women than it is for men. "Don't be fat" gets a woman a lot further than it does a man. Being socially calibrated enough to work into social circles is also easier for a woman. Providing feminine energy has value in itself. Not every man who does game is a cheater. You can say what you'd rather have but I find it difficult to believe you'd be attracted to a socially uncalibrated man.
/r/seduction07/03/25 06:28 PM
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Male dating strategy and female dating strategy are not the same. They often conflict. The advice you're seeking isn't really available here. Frankly a lot of the female dating strategy on the internet is really bad. >There’s a lot of “be a good man and women will come” talk. This is not correct. Men almost always have to do the approaching. Being "good at game" is just being socially calibrated + attractive. Think you're lying if you don't want that in a partner. My advice for any women trying …
/r/seduction07/03/25 05:28 PM
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If she's the one bringing up sex, a disqualifier is great here. If you're trying to keep things casual, lean into a enjoying each other's company in the moment and letting the serious decisions play out later frame. If you're open to seeing her again more seriously you can say that you'd be open to seeing her again and then add a disqualifier like as long as you aren't hiding your red flags.
/r/seduction07/03/25 05:14 PM
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High end haircut with full consultant. Then take pics from all sides so you know what to ask cheaper barbars for. Improv comedy over public speaking course. The skills taught are much more relatable to effective conversation with women. Dancing is a good skill to have for night game but dance lessons and cooking classes are actually great places to meet women so consider delaying until you improve a little bit. Therapy for confidence is kinda retarded imo unless you have some legitimate traumati…
/r/seduction07/03/25 01:31 AM
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You have to be more polarizing with super hot women to stand out vs a normal guy hitting on her. Super hot women are used to being hit on all the time and they have probably dated really high value men. So you have to be more polarizing to show that you don't consider her out of your league. Fewer compliments, more push pull. You can just eject when things are not going well but you ideally you stick it through until she overtly rejects you. If you can make it through the initial round of shit t…
/r/seduction06/03/25 09:27 PM
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Small group environment where you see the same people over and over again means the most important thing will be having high social status. Get to know everyone and then organize outings like going to the bar after work together. If you're the one bringing everyone together to socialize that gives you a ton of value socially.
/r/seduction06/03/25 06:55 PM
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It actually ends up being a pretty large difference. A larger % of the male population is gay relative to other cities so that further skews it. I've only been out once in NYC but have friends who have lived there and the total population size + ratio means there are always attractive women everywhere.
/r/seduction06/03/25 05:09 PM
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ratio of men to women being massively in your favour fixes this
/r/seduction06/03/25 04:43 PM
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Asking a girl about her relationship status while hitting on her is bad. Asking her about her type while hitting on her is bad. Planning out a flowchart of responses to your bad question is bad. Thinking that you've shifted the seller/buyer power dynamic in favour to you after asking a bunch of needy questions and not saying anything interesting is bad. You can just flirt with the girl and suggest a date when the vibes are good instead of when the vibes are not good.
/r/seduction05/03/25 05:27 PM
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Ask her in person, and flirt before asking her so it's obvious that it's a date.
/r/seduction05/03/25 05:04 PM
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Have you tried talking to them?
/r/seduction05/03/25 05:03 PM
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The thing about doing cold approach is that you're actually supposed to reflect and improve. Doing the same thing 300x without doing the work to actively get a little better every time is the part that isn't working
/r/seduction03/03/25 02:55 AM
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Have at least one photo showing off a good physique. Design your profile around adventure, fun, and spontaneity. Travel photos, maybe skip the photo with a nephew or niece.
/r/seduction28/02/25 11:43 PM
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This is not good advice. Risks women reporting your profile. Filters out a ton of women who would hook up with you if you had been more subtle about it.
/r/seduction28/02/25 11:39 PM
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Don't want to repeat what others have said so I'll add a unique and maybe controversial one. Explicitly leading a girl on about the terms of a relationship so that you can keep seeing her. Think it's a pretty shitty thing to do dangle commitment so you can keep seeing/sleeping with a girl when you don't have any intentions.
/r/seduction28/02/25 11:12 PM
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Don't worry about it. Everyone fumnbles. Your follow-up was cringe but still tame on a crash out scale. Don't get hung up on one girl. You're on a campus full of women. Take the lessons and try to avoid the same mistakes
/r/seduction28/02/25 03:30 AM
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Lesson one is to always get on good terms with the most important friend of the girl you are hitting on. People are protective of their friends. You need to make sure she isn't feeling left out and make her feel comfortable about potentially taking the target home. Your follow up is pretty bad. You're asking Lola to help set you up but in a dancing around it way while you didn't get on her good side and she was actively pulling Stacey's attention away. Play it cool. Pretend like you didn't follo…
/r/seduction28/02/25 01:10 AM
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Do not ask a girl who you see regularly in person on a date over text/online. It shows a lack of confidence and you also can't vibe before asking to increase your chances. Flirt with her in person and if she's receptive suggest doing something together.
/r/seduction27/02/25 08:30 PM
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The purpose of socials is to passively convey your lifestyle and then flirt quickly to set up an in person date. Flirt more and then ask her out.
/r/seduction27/02/25 08:27 PM
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You have to understand that it is ok to respectfully show interest in someone as long as you don't harass them and take a hint when they aren't interested. You need to show intent and make the conversation about you and her way earlier. Your conversation sounds very platonic and then you hit her with suggesting to hang out but in a bad frame at the end. Also don't suggest an activity where she has clearly superior ability than you. It's not an attractive frame. Just suggest that you should get d…
/r/seduction27/02/25 05:39 PM
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Women get turned on differently than men. Try building more tension and leading earlier on. You might be giving off boyfriend vibes/frames. Lean more into fun, casual, spontaneous getting in trouble type vibes/frames. Get better at foreplay.
/r/seduction27/02/25 05:28 PM
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How is anyone supposed to take your advice seriously on having engaging conversation in real time if you can't even write out your thoughts coherently without AI?
/r/seduction25/02/25 08:10 PM
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Try to close same night more. Not only will you actually succeed more of the time, but you'll stand out more in their mind. If you can't same night close, try to soft plan a date instead of just grabbing a phone number. By soft planning the date, the number actually has purpose to it. In your first text or two, make a call back to an emotional high point in your conversation - some tease or inside joke. She's more likely to remember who you are and that she was having fun in the conversation. So…
/r/seduction24/02/25 01:09 AM
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Who is telling you that you are escalating too quickly? You want to escalate as quickly as possible without making her feel uncomfortable. This is done most effectively with a two steps forward one step back pacing. If you're getting lots of dates but not converting to sex or a relationship then clearly your escalation on these dates needs work.
/r/seduction23/02/25 03:09 AM
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You're not escalating enough. You won't hold her hand or hug her until the second date? You leave it at a hand squeeze for the first date. That is middle school level escalation dude. Escalate more. Pull back and then escalate again. You should be escalating to a kiss on the first date at a minimum. Honestly you must be well above average looks wise if girls are even giving you a second date after such a lack of escalation.
/r/seduction23/02/25 02:58 AM
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Pulling a girl same night is all about identifying and eliminating any emotional and logistical roadblocks proactively. Screening her early on for logistics (who is she here with, where does she live relative to you and the venue, what are her social responsibilities). Getting her friends on your side, finding a guy to distract her friend/not make her friend feel left out. Creating comfort between you and the girl through conversation, venue changing to build a greater sense of familiarity. Thes…
/r/seduction21/02/25 09:04 PM
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Don't agree with waiting multiple days to text. Girls are getting attention all the time. Strike while you're fresh in their memory. But it's your job as a man to follow up again. Escalate during the date. The date shouldn't end on the high note unless it's ending in sex. She liked you enough to go on the date with you. You should be able to escalate in steps to a kiss. Escalate to light touching of the hand, shoulder, lower back, face and to a kiss during the date. I will always try to escalate…
/r/seduction20/02/25 10:02 PM
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Cold approach allows you to practice your social skills, flirting, escalation, problem solving, story telling etc at a higher volume than anything else. The skills you learn from practicing cold approach make you better at dating via dating apps, via meeting people through friends etc. Doesn't mean you shouldn't use dating apps or other ways of meeting people but practicing cold approach with intentionality is the most efficient way to improve.
/r/seduction20/02/25 06:55 PM
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Also ratio of women to men more skewed than any other city in the world
/r/seduction20/02/25 06:49 PM
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Your job with the opener and early on in the conversation is to get their attention and then get them invested in the conversation with you. If you're asking them questions and they're not asking you questions back it's a clear indication that you're more invested in the conversation than they are. You should avoid questions early on until they're hooked and asking you questions. Stick to Cold reads, DQs and teasing like one commenter said until she's invested in the conversation. Questions are …
/r/seduction19/02/25 05:49 PM
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Lol. "Not many like her" about a girl whose phone number you don't even have. There are plenty of women like her. There are women better than her. You're pedestalizing her because you lack perspective.
/r/seduction19/02/25 05:41 PM
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You can't be crashing out over a girl you've had a crush on but didn't make a move for 3 months. Pull yourself together. If you couldn't make a move for 3 months you definitely don't have the ability to steal her.
/r/seduction14/02/25 06:41 PM
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Ok man you can play by your hallowed principles or you can play by the rules of reality. You're going to miss out on a ton of enjoyable second dates and potential relationships with girls who would happily see you again if you just made plans but you want your ego stroked more than you want your dick stroked.
/r/seduction06/02/25 04:55 AM
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Yes you should follow up again. It's your role to be the pursuer as a man. If you know you aren't going home with the girl on the first date but it's going well, you should start throwing out ideas for a second date during the first date.
/r/seduction05/02/25 09:10 PM
1

Eye contact, smile, bite your lip, if he doesn't do anything after that he doesn't get it or is a pussy or isn't interested.
/r/seduction04/02/25 06:00 PM
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Just ask for shorts/sweatpants from the guy.
/r/seduction01/02/25 02:29 AM
1

It would be useful to provide details about how your dates go and how you plan them so people can say what you're doing well/wrong.
/r/seduction31/01/25 04:52 PM
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Are you going to build a better connection over text or face to face? There is so much communication that gets lost or misunderstood over text vs in person. You have the date agreed to. All you need to do now is periodically remind her you exist in a casual, fun way until you actually meet. Just because she agreed to a date does not mean she is deeply invested. That's why she isn't asking questions. Once you're on the date is when you actually get her to invest. '
/r/seduction30/01/25 04:07 PM
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You can just practice coming up with teases. Google most common female jobs and go through the list and come up with a tease for all of them. Do the same for female hobbies. Scroll through your social media feed/a collection of random girls' photos and come up with a push pull. The vibe and format for all of these are roughly the same, you just have to fill in the gaps.
/r/seduction30/01/25 03:58 PM
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Good conversation does not revolve around questions. When you ask a girl a question, especially early on, you're asking them to provide value to you in the conversation when they're not invested yet because they have hundreds of matches and guys DMing them etc. Turn your questions into cold read statements. You want to establish a playful vibe with some tension about why you and her would/wouldn't work well together and then pivot to setting up a date. You do not want to do more get to know you …
/r/seduction30/01/25 03:18 PM
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Ok obviously not having your own place changes things. Try planning 2nd and 3rd dates close to their place. Especially with girls in their late 20s/early 30s they're going to see a car hookup as immature. You could try to do some framing about the excitement of hooking up in a more public spot like a car or qualifying for spontaneity/adventurousness, "craziest place you've had sex". Probably have to indicate through storytelling/behaviour that you're non-judgemental/open sexually.
/r/seduction28/01/25 09:57 PM
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I don't think you're providing enough detail. Are you successfully bringing these girls back to your place? What does the escalation look like on the dates?
/r/seduction28/01/25 09:44 PM
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Escalate partially at the bar/club. Inviting her back to your hotel for drinks, especially if last call is over is fine. If there's a late night snack place near the hotel you could make an intermediate stop.
/r/seduction28/01/25 05:01 PM
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No you shouldn't mention it. Just assume it went fine. If she wants to see you again she'll agree if she doesn't she'll ghost or say she's not interested.
/r/seduction24/01/25 07:27 PM
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You don't have trauma. Please be serious. You were temporarily embarrassed and your ego hurts because you had a bad reaction from an approach. Reframe your mindset. The next girl you approach has no idea about how you got rejected. You are going to get rejected. Sometimes you'll even get blown out. That's ok, there are other women. >But then my approach rate to date rate is very low, I only asked out 2 successfully. That was probably due to texting, but I felt like I must have been using a bad a…
/r/seduction22/01/25 10:00 PM
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You have to assume the burden of carrying the conversation until they start asking you questions about yourself or otherwise start engaging in the conversation.
/r/seduction17/01/25 05:55 PM
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I think it depends on the context. Is the girl a young college student with no money? Then being willing to travel an hour to meet someone is clearly some level of investment. If she's established with a job then it's more of red flag.
/r/seduction16/01/25 06:15 PM
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Most of the content overlaps and it matters more that you actually go out and try and practice vs just watching all the videos.
/r/seduction15/01/25 05:53 PM
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It's possible you pedestalize the women you actually like. Get them to qualify more, do disqualifiers, more push pulls.
/r/seduction15/01/25 05:23 PM
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Think the other comment is not useful advice. Hitting the gym doesn't fix your problem. You're attractive enough to get the date in the first place. Not getting second dates is a sign you're not standing out enough. Either because there's not enough value or comfort or both. Are you building sexual tension and getting your date to qualify? Are you escalating to a kiss or sex? Having good sex instantly makes you memorable but even having mid or bad sex makes you stand out from all the other dates…
/r/seduction15/01/25 04:17 PM
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Look at her profile and pictures and make observational cold reads instead of asking questions. You then want to be able to pull on other conversational threads like if "x is true about her then y must also be true" in an exaggerated and flirty direction.
/r/seduction13/01/25 09:34 PM
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When you set boundaries and people break those boundaries, you end the relationship. That's the point of the boundaries.
/r/seduction13/01/25 07:28 PM
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Mature people do not tolerate immature behaviour like ghosting their bf/gf. You failed to set the boundaries of your relationship and are now mad that she is disrespecting it when you failed to command the respect. If you love each other why is the relationship on and off? Why is there a lack of respect? This behaviour isn't a shit test. It's just disrespectful/toxic behaviour.
/r/seduction13/01/25 06:30 PM
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You're already cooked lil bro. She told you the vibe is dead because she told you to fuck her and then didn't. >i plan to tell her that i just act inadequate when i like a girl and ask her if she feels the same about me if not we can just continue separately. She already knows this. I would say it's better for your self development to cut her off. Otherwise you'll struggle to move on/think you still can fix it. Learn from your mistakes with the next girl.
/r/seduction13/01/25 06:12 PM
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Dating off and on for two months at age 36 while saying you love each other is insane behaviour. You guys are not mature enough for a serious relationship and you should drop her immediately if you want one.
/r/seduction13/01/25 06:00 PM
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Asking a girl out over the phone/online when you have the opportunity to ask her in person is a huge mistake. Just flirt with her in person and calibrate. If she's reciprocating ask her out. If not, keep trying to build rapport over time or move on. It's only awkward if you make it awkward by proposing the date without calibrating for mutual attraction first or act awkward after a rejection.
/r/seduction13/01/25 05:56 PM
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>I'll usually ask them simple stuff like what their ideal night out is (sometimes lead to dates, usually ghosted), why they moved here (boring ass answers leading to ghosted), it's pretty basic conversation stuff, like what they do, if they enjoy it, what they wish they could do which I don't have going on for more than like 5-10 messages before I ask them out if I haven't already. This is pretty bad conversation. No girl wants to have a boring conversation about their job with a guy who they ha…
/r/seduction12/01/25 10:28 PM
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Your tinder conversations should not be long conversations. The purpose is to set up a date asap. Flirt/establish good vibes, propose date after vibes are good, get phone # to establish logistics for date and to stand out from the rest of her tinder conversations.
/r/seduction12/01/25 07:20 PM
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me: hey how are you not cold in that (outfit) blah blah response >me: yeah we're not used to this weather down here You're supposed to pivot her response to her and her outfit not the weather. You want to be talking about three things. Her - specifically what she has to offer besides her looks, you - why you're an interesting and attractive person, and you and her - the dynamic of why you should or shouldn't be together. Add in flirting techniques and physical escalation while talking about thes…
/r/seduction12/01/25 07:07 PM
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Stop focusing on rejection ratios or the rejections themselves and focus on the process. Unless you are exceptionally attractive physically and have good game you are going to get rejected a lot doing approaches. Also if someone has a better ratio maybe they don't approach the most attractive girls, maybe the only approach the ones who are by themselves bored without headphones, maybe they only approach after getting warm eye contact. Are you wearing good outfits while doing daygame? Are you bei…
/r/seduction12/01/25 01:37 AM
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Moving near your city's downtown/nightlife district would have a larger impact than anything else listed in this thread. Next would be paying a professional photographer to optimize your online dating profile - there are even photographers who advertise this service, and paying for boosts etc when your profile is optimized. In terms of actual self improvement: stylist, dentist, dermatologist, improv, dance class, gym membership if you don't have one.
/r/seduction11/01/25 09:23 PM
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Yes it needs to be obvious. You need to make it obvious you are interested in her through flirting during your approach. If you're getting rejected when asking for the date it means you're not creating enough attraction before proposing the date.
/r/seduction10/01/25 05:18 PM
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You're likely not establishing enough attraction before taking the instagram. Establish attraction/vibes in your approaches to the point where it would make sense for her and you to go on a date to continue hanging out. Seed the idea of a date before getting the contact info. If you get her to agree to a date during the approach, the next logical step is to exchange contact info. Take a number/whatsapp over instagram.
/r/seduction10/01/25 04:48 PM
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Just avoid the easy get to know you topics and assume you already talked about that stuff.
/r/seduction10/01/25 04:41 PM
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"You guys look great together. Sorry to bother you. Have a good one" It's that easy
/r/seduction09/01/25 04:27 AM
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Yes. Take a question you want to ask, assume the answer, and then just say it as a statement. You can also then branch off with another assumption based on the stereotype of the first cold read. This type of conversation is far more engaging because you're offering your opinion instead of asking for her to provide value to the conversation. She will either refute your cold read or you'll be correct and instantly build a bunch of rapport. Either way she's now engaged in the conversation.
/r/seduction08/01/25 07:13 PM
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Asking questions when there is little to no investment is dry conversation. Make cold reads instead of asking questions, offer opinions, be more polarizing. Pivot quickly to setting up a date once you get engagement.
/r/seduction08/01/25 07:04 PM
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You should grab a drink after the movie. Will let you actually flirt and escalate. There are inbetween steps between kissing and sleeping with a girl.
/r/seduction08/01/25 06:30 PM
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Nothing in what you described is an IOI
/r/seduction08/01/25 01:28 AM
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I mean there's "no harm" in doing an extremely crude sexual opener during cold approach. It's the same idea here (except worse because you can do way more approaches than go on dates so you run into the positive side of being this polarizing more frequently). You don't have to do a polarizing gimmick to break the monotony of an average date. The average date is so boring if you know how to flirt/escalate and pull off a venue change you're clearing the bar by a lot.
/r/seduction07/01/25 11:37 PM
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>Can she deal with consequences of her actions? Is she risk averse? What’s she like when things don’t go her way? What’s she like when something good comes her way? These are not things I need to know about a woman on a first date. Most women are risk adverse - more so than men. It's biologically wired into them. Your 3 options are not good options. >do nothing and have a normal date A normal date except the date is with a guy who would propose a weird gambling minigame before the date. >Win and…
/r/seduction07/01/25 09:00 PM
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Need to see how uncalibrated it is.
/r/seduction07/01/25 07:29 PM
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You are in a delusional parasocial online relationship. Touch grass.
/r/seduction07/01/25 05:15 PM
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Could be any number of things. Her ex reached out again. She found someone better. She lost attraction. Try to escalate earlier. Why didn't you kiss her on the first date?
/r/seduction06/01/25 06:54 PM
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Far more downside than upside. There are times where you can do it though but if you're not sure, just play it safe. You can just escalate and kiss her mid date though.
/r/seduction06/01/25 01:50 AM
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If you're getting matches but getting no replies then your opening message is bad. Google online dating guide, there are lots of free and paid guides telling you how to structure opening messages for high reply rates.
/r/seduction04/01/25 01:30 AM
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Identify the archetype of girl you like. Think about what type of activities they might participate in. Put yourself in proximity of those activities. Approach them there. If you work remote get a laptop and go to a cafe in a trendy neighbourhood
/r/seduction02/01/25 04:24 PM
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Stop centring your identity around being a virgin. Set small and attainable goals on improving your attractiveness and social skills every day. Learn to love the process of improving.
/r/seduction31/12/24 06:20 PM
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Not too soon to text. >some comment on how I’m glad me cursing and talking about my friend fighting a midget in tai-land didn’t turn her off This is a pretty bad frame because even if your story isn't cringe (depends on how you told it tbh), you're seeking her approval with the frame. Callback to the date is good though but callback to something you teased her about. >forgot to ask, whats your insta? You have her number and took her on a date. You don't need her insta. >End game was getting her …
/r/seduction30/12/24 07:18 PM
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Pick better venues. You want to go to a cafe with seating where you can sit next to her with good lighting/music/privacy, not starbucks. Disagree that you can't kiss in a coffee shop if it's the appropriate venue. If it's going well, changing venues to a more intimate venue is also on the table.
/r/seduction30/12/24 04:51 PM
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You can actually just build enough tension for sex in 1-2 dates. Dragging it out for 3-4 dates that you are usually paying for where she could lose interest for a variety of different reasons inbetween dates makes no sense.
/r/seduction30/12/24 04:49 PM
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Sounds like you have an extremely unhealthy parasocial relationship with a girl 20 years younger than you who already has a boyfriend. You don't have the ability to attract this girl. Ironically, the process required to gain the ability to attract this girl requires you to get to a point where you wouldn't even want to pursue her.
/r/seduction20/12/24 09:21 AM
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Sexting a girl before a date removes any of the sexual tension which is where a lot of the excitement and fun is. It also creates the implication that if you meet for drinks, sex is expected. This is really bad for the girl because 1. She feels like a slut because the sex is expected instead of something that "just happened" 2. she doesn't actually know you. You've built no real in-person comfort. But you've seen each other naked. 3. Because sex is an implicit expectation, if she meets you and d…
/r/seduction19/12/24 02:56 AM
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No. Pick women who are less materialistic or grind harder.
/r/seduction18/12/24 09:46 PM
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Once you become funny, masculine, confident etc those personality traits are no longer a facade they are just part of your personality. You can just do things.
/r/seduction18/12/24 07:26 PM
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NGL it's over. You didn't do anything except make out with her. She's not invested because you didn't have sex and you probably didn't do enough for her to be emotionally invested. Then you waited 2 days to text her. Feeling betrayed and disrespected is embarrassing dude. She doesn't owe you anything. She lied to you saying she doesn't remember because it's more polite than just saying that it was fun in the moment but an unremarkable and meaningless night. (assuming you didn't rage out at her o…
/r/seduction18/12/24 07:21 PM
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Somewhere you can sit next to each other is always preferrable. I eat beforehand. Saves money. If she wants to get one fine whatever. You don't want her feeling bloated/fat. Depends, is there another phase of the date. Different bar/club? Activity? Ice cream, walk, park, scenic view? Back to your place or hers? Ideally you have a plausible 2nd phase scouted out if it's not going so well that you just go directly back to your place or hers. Yes offer to walk her back to her car/take her home/walk…
/r/seduction18/12/24 07:12 PM
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You don't have to bend over. You have to stand out. It's really not hard to look up effective OLD openers that make you stand out over the rest of the "Hey"'s and other bad openers.
/r/seduction16/12/24 09:32 PM
3

You've had conversations multiple times but have never flirted to the point where asking her out makes sense. Shit or get off the pot.
/r/seduction16/12/24 05:50 PM
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If the bored girl is the one you're interested, polarize the conversation about her. If the bored girl is the friend of the girl you're interested in, make the conversation about the relationship between her and her friend, and use it to set up flirtatious frames. Examples such as talking about how the bored friend is the responsible one while the one you're interested in is the crazy one/trouble maker. Have the bored friend tell an embarrassing story about the target girl. Say you think her fri…
/r/seduction16/12/24 04:23 PM
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If you're dancing and flirting just kiss her. Escalate accordingly from there. If you have to separate at some point for whatever reason, suggest an activity/date that you should do together, then tell her to give you her number so you can plan out the details if she agrees. This is best done off an emotional high point in the interaction. Separating and then asking for her number when the vibe is lower is not going to work nearly as well. When you randomly walking up at the end and asking for h…
/r/seduction09/12/24 05:59 PM
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The point of approaching is not to get a number. The point is to have fun and connect with a person. Once you connect with a person, getting a number is trivial because you both agree that you like each other enough to spend time together again.
/r/seduction03/12/24 07:57 PM
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Because "preferred dog breed" is not something to qualify a woman over. Qualifying a woman is about indicating that you have standards and challenging her if she meets them or challenging her to indicate that she will try to meet those standards. What breed of dog she likes is not a standard.
/r/seduction03/12/24 05:17 PM
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Nothing wrong with having a complete beginner open with "hey I thought you were pretty/cute and wanted to talk to you".
/r/seduction03/12/24 04:55 PM
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A week is far too long. Take the lead. Be upfront about setting the terms of the relationships you want.
/r/seduction02/12/24 07:55 PM
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Any cold approach lead you don't meet up with in 5 days is pretty much dead. 3 days or fewer is ideal. A 2 week old lead that's already rejected you once is very dead. If you do reach out again your only chance is to be extremely polar. Given you guys go to the same college the potential social ramifications of going extremely polar are not worth it. Set up/seed the idea of a date before you get the number in the future.
/r/seduction02/12/24 07:21 PM
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Doesn't matter. If you want to see her again just tell her you should get together for another date. If she doesn't want to see you she'll decline.
/r/seduction02/12/24 07:15 PM
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Tonality, delivery, and balance. It's ok to be cocky, even arrogant but actually being mean spirited or rude is not effective. You want to say polarizing things with a smile or smirk. It's also a great opportunity to touch her arm/hand/shoulder while you say them so she knows you're being playful and not actually arguing from a place of anger/insecurity. For the same reason you have to have relaxed body language. It's ok to look a little like an asshole sometimes.
/r/seduction29/11/24 06:15 PM
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More teasing, push pulls, disqualifiers, inserting a small amount of context appropriate profanity, shifting the conversation focus to more risky/adventurous/sexual topics. If you're getting "You're sweet" early on in the conversation, you're probably being too complimentary and agreeable to start.
/r/seduction29/11/24 06:05 PM
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I've slept with plenty of girls who've called me sweet. But you should take it as a early warning that you probably need to polarize more for balance.
/r/seduction29/11/24 05:00 PM
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Be polarizing, tease more, push pulls, disqualifiers etc.
/r/seduction27/11/24 05:29 PM
1

>but the conversations often feel insincere, revolve around basic topics like school, and fizzle out with awkward silences. It can be fine to talk about school/career when approaching but you have to frame it in an interesting way where you either tease them about it or get really personal about why they made the choices they did. The latter only works with smarter/more aspirational/unique career girls. Talk about what makes her interesting at first (most women's career/major is not close to the…
/r/seduction25/11/24 05:38 PM
7

I've never heard anyone competent say to mirror a girls posture. You want to be confident but relaxed.
/r/seduction22/11/24 07:27 PM
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Have a flirty conversation the next time you see her in person, then ask her out. If she likes you, she'll say yes. If she doesn't, she'll decline.
/r/seduction20/11/24 07:15 PM
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Most relationships right now are started from people who meet on dating apps. Dating apps filter primarily for physical appearance. How is that significantly different than a cold approach "rooted in lust"?
/r/seduction19/11/24 05:08 PM
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Selection variety and quality, compatibility. Super high quality women are mostly not going to singles events because they have a life where they don't need to. Approaching women at events/co ed hobbies often filters for social class, shared interests etc leading to higher compatibility.
/r/seduction14/11/24 11:37 PM
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I disagree that women going to a singles night event are just looking for validation. They just happen to be receiving a lot of validation and that validation feels good and makes it hard to stand out. You can meet women looking for relationships anywhere. Nightgame, day game, social media, dating apps, co-ed hobbies, work, through friends etc.
/r/seduction14/11/24 06:56 PM
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Women at singles nights are probably overwhelmed with attention from the people they meet there, not to mention additional attention they might get from dating apps/social media. If it's going well, set up the idea of a date - probably something a little unusual/unique to stand out before taking the number. You could also try taking a selfie with the girl and texting it to her when you take a number.
/r/seduction14/11/24 04:32 AM
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I've heard dating in NYC is easier for guys. Heavily outnumbered by women. Lots of people with less established social circles because so many are from outside the city.
/r/seduction13/11/24 10:05 PM
2

Energy/volume levels, more group dynamics at night.
/r/seduction13/11/24 07:36 PM
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You responded in a way that has very little (if any) upside for you with very big potential downside when you could have just thought of an idea for an ideal first date. When you guys started talking about dates and she asks this question she is looking for you to lead and setup your first date.
/r/seduction07/11/24 08:20 PM
2

Earlier date during the day. Back to your place. Offer to uber/drive her back.
/r/seduction07/11/24 06:59 PM
2

She isn't going to care about your opinion on her makeup unless she is invested in you. You could compliment her when she has a more natural style/level of makeup on.
/r/seduction05/11/24 08:28 PM
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Getting good at cold approach is not a magical solution. It's about putting in the work to get incrementally better. If you have poor social skills and social anxiety the only way to fix that is through practice and desensitization, and cold approach provides a huge opportunity for consequence free practice. It's not supposed to be easy. It's supposed to make you better. Getting good at cold approach makes you better at online dating, social circle game, social media etc.
/r/seduction05/11/24 07:23 PM
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Clean up your profile, get better at sex. Stop worrying about the ones that unfollow.
/r/seduction05/11/24 07:06 PM
1

Getting her full attention, making the conversation about her, making the conversation about you and her, kino, hinting at the idea of you and her hanging out in the future. Is she engaging back positively at every step? Move the conversation along.
/r/seduction04/11/24 08:40 PM
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Why don't you just maintain friendships with people you actually want to be friends with?
/r/seduction04/11/24 07:21 PM
1

There are a lot of intermediate escalation steps you should do before asking them out. If you escalate with those intermediate steps you will find out at some point whether she's interested enough. You also give yourself a lot longer of a runway to build compliance gradually.
/r/seduction04/11/24 06:23 PM
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True it's not even a fumble bc matching with a girl and then getting her Instagram isn't even close to anything. Texting is for bantering, building a little tension, and then making plans. You're not trying to get to know someone over text. Take it as a lesson and learn from it instead of denying that you didn't make mistakes.
/r/seduction29/10/24 11:54 PM
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Your text game is probably bad. Probably over complimentary, over invested, not polarizing enough, doesn't move things forward. >Hey I see you don't seem very engaging and I don't feel the vibe. Is it the exams? If you are not sure about this. We can save each other some time and unfollow right now. Don't do this it's a very bad frame. You're probably cooked already tbh and need something very polarizing to have even a chance at salvaging it. Move on and fix your texting game.
/r/seduction29/10/24 09:12 PM
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Preselection is about girls seeing you with other girls in the moment. Your history doesn't matter unless you have no experience. Having the same behaviour as someone who has been selected for in the past (confidence, escalating properly, etc) is more important. That part is literally fake it til you make it.
/r/seduction25/10/24 06:21 AM
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No guy with multiple options is going to be invested in a long term relationship with a girl he slept with once/went on one date with. You sound far more invested than he does. You're not going to be able to compete with other women who are actually physically available to him given your lack of shared history. Wait for him to get back and hit him up again if you're still interested.
/r/seduction15/10/24 07:02 PM
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You need to make sure you win over her friend earlier on or you'll end up with a lot of situations where the friend pulls her away or stops her from going with you. "hmm the problem is I only want to have a son, no girl" This was bad. You basically fall into her frame and agree that you would fall into her template of a LTR. Better responses: Let's just be in the moment and make the adult decisions in the morning. Slow down, I don't even know if I like you yet. You need to reframe what they're l…
/r/seduction10/10/24 06:20 PM
2

Why would you think she's into you after she didn't reply to your text? Bc you made her laugh a few times? Take the hint.
/r/seduction02/10/24 08:21 PM
0

Because it prompts a response that effectively filters out the quality of the person she's talking to.
/r/seduction19/09/24 06:25 PM
0

When it comes to cold approaches, it feels unnatural to base the interaction purely on physical attraction. Is dating generally supposed to start with physical attraction and then move on to personality? Why wouldn’t it work the other way around, where you get to know someone’s personality first? Part of your cold approach is quickly showing off your personality in conversation. I’ve read that being upfront about your intentions is important to avoid the "friend zone." Is it true that women perm…
/r/seduction03/09/24 05:46 PM
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You were way more invested in her than she was in you, she sensed it, and is probably less interested now. Having two luxury cars and one regular car is the opposite of not someone who is flashy btw, even if it's a relatively small % of your net worth.
/r/seduction30/08/24 09:48 PM
1

You probably want a prop or some excuse for why you're on campus as a non-student but 23 wouldn't raise any eyebrows. Fitness classes, dance classes, bookstores, coffee shops,
/r/seduction29/08/24 06:09 PM
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Exercise. Warm up during the day by talking/giving compliments to strangers, even without the intention of doing game. If I'm ubering to the venue I'll chat with the uber driver. Sometimes I'll uber a ten minute walk away from the venue and talk to people on the way there.
/r/seduction28/08/24 05:24 PM
2

Take whatever question you have about the girl. Guess her answer. And then just say what you think her answer will be in the form of a presumptive statement. ie "I bet you're an artist", "I have a feeling you're adventurous", "You look like you played soccer growing up". You can also add on a tease based on the cold read.
/r/seduction23/08/24 07:30 PM
1

Just go to any decent quality resort, hit up the resort evening bar and approach. Women have to worry about being judged less for sleeping with someone because they're on vacation so it's easier.
/r/seduction23/08/24 07:03 PM
3

Don't ask where they're from. If you're curious about their background take your best guess and then transition it to a tease about girls from that area of the world (don't get racist).
/r/seduction23/08/24 06:52 PM
8

Talking to a woman for a month without meeting up is a waste of time
/r/seduction21/08/24 02:56 AM
1

Workplace dating worked for decades in producing a huge % of overall relationships. It sorts for general interests, class, location, and other factors. As it gets harder and harder for most people to meet new people in person, cutting off a quarter of the hours where you are around potential partners is a huge mistake. The downside is people gossiping and potential awkwardness. Who cares? The upside is you meet your life partner. As long as you're calibrated and not a superior it's a huge value …
/r/seduction21/08/24 02:24 AM
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"So put in your two weeks notice and let's get drinks after that" I don't know why reddit users are so against dating co-workers. Maybe bc the userbase skews neurotic/rule following. As long as you follow the flirting/sexual harassment meme and are not a superior, there's nothing wrong with dating co-workers.
/r/seduction20/08/24 07:36 PM
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If they did not consider you somewhat attractive they would not go on the first date/makeout with you. You need to work on escalating gradually/building tension and also building trust/comfort. And stop putting yourself down. That's an unattractive behaviour.
/r/seduction20/08/24 03:37 PM
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You created a brief moment of excitement but did very little to create any lasting connection/any reason for her to be invested long term. You should be doing longer sets, trying to establish enough trust/connection/attraction to the point where you can take her home that night instead of settling for a number. If you establish that for whatever reason she can't go home with you that night, you still need to establish a connection, and then seed the idea of hanging out again before you get her n…
/r/seduction16/08/24 07:02 PM
4

Please stop trying to game your counsellor.
/r/seduction16/08/24 04:45 PM
3

Moving to a more central part of your city and upgrading your wardrobe are far better uses of your money in terms of improving your dating life.
/r/seduction16/08/24 04:44 PM
3

You never acted towards her as anything but a friend so she does not view you as a serious sexual option. The move is to learn how to display intent in a non-needy way for future interactions and stop obsessing over any one single girl
/r/seduction07/08/24 06:45 PM
1

She was attracted enough to you to be comfortable alone at her house with you. You didn't escalate. She liked you enough to ask you out again. You didn't escalate again. She assumed from your lack of escalation that you don't have the experience and/or confidence to escalate and thus lost attraction.
/r/seduction06/08/24 06:15 PM
5

Nature/nurture, he's had a life of hedonism and large variety in sexual partners and wants to keep living that life/doesn't know any other life.
/r/seduction31/07/24 04:22 PM
12

You're 27 and already caught him cheating once. Don't delude yourself into thinking you can fix him. Or that you should.
/r/seduction31/07/24 04:12 PM
1

Cold read about how activists are passionate or obsessive or any other stereotype and then relate that to how that type of personality might affect a relationship.
/r/seduction30/07/24 06:32 PM
3

Totally disagree. They matched with you, they are at least slightly attracted to you. If you disagree with this sit with a female friend and have them swipe through profiles. You'll be shocked at the quality/quantity of guys she swipes left on. Being good at texting will dramatically increase your response rate, your conversion rate to IG/phone number, your ability to convert into dates. I matched with some cute girl the other day, almost her entire profile was about her activism (She didn't spe…
/r/seduction29/07/24 07:05 PM
3

The range and expected value of meaningful good outcomes of approaching is almost always higher than the range and expected value of meaningful bad outcomes. Even if it went well and your life got too messy, it would be perfectly fine to honestly tell her that you have other priorities with everything else going on.
/r/seduction29/07/24 05:55 PM
9

You should be pulling back first after kissing/making out/escalating. Then you can rebuild tension before escalating further. This lets you escalate further than if you just tried to linearly escalate and also has her seeking your approval to keep escalating. Making out for 15 minutes at the date venue is way too long. Unless you've found a type who wants to get it on in the bathroom, there's nowhere to comfortably escalate further. There's no further momentum, it just flattens out. If you don't…
/r/seduction29/07/24 05:50 PM
1

Yes it is possible to lie and manipulate women into sleeping with you. It's probably very difficult to do if you are autistic and can't read social cues. Most "players" understand that building emotional comfort is part of the process. Not lying and being genuine instead works more effectively, especially for long term/repeat interactions, is arguably easier, and isn't morally wrong.
/r/seduction29/07/24 05:33 PM
1

Reading your posts and comments you come off as deeply insecure and very agenda driven. It doesn't seem like you make an attempt to be vulnerable and genuine to build an actual connection. Guessing you get away with it early in the interaction because you escalate decently early and are good looking but the women pickup on the insecurity and insincerity as they spend more time with you.
/r/seduction29/07/24 04:58 PM
3

Conversational skills/conversational flirting is part of what makes you attractive. If you aren't working on this and just assume it's your fitness/fashion/money you are holding yourself back.
/r/seduction29/07/24 03:51 PM
1

If you don't get the sense there's a high probability she'll go directly back, venue changing can be very useful. It's a lower level compliance ask than just asking her to go home and it builds familiarity, trust, and a sense of adventure/spontaneity. There's very little downside in going for a venue change provided you ask/lead when the vibes are good. If she says no you can always stay and keep vibing and then try a different venue (diner or ice cream or late night food near your place).
/r/seduction20/07/24 12:25 AM
2

Or you could stop playing petty power dynamic games and just set the expectations for your relationships. You're seeing her every 3 days on average, it's good for her to have a life outside of you. You're getting upset and insecure over a girl who clearly likes you given how much time she wants to spend with you. If you continue doing that it will push her away.
/r/seduction19/07/24 08:31 PM
1

You guys have seen each other 9 times, you're not exclusive, and you're cutting her off for not making plans next week when you slept with her last night? If she flakes on you, tell her you expect to spend x amount of time with her and drop her if she doesn't meet that level.
/r/seduction19/07/24 08:12 PM
1

Would have definitely tried to take her to another bar/club. You also want to have some kind of excuse to have her back to your place that isn't sexual. Like "come look at my balcony view/rock collection/pet/smoke weed etc". If you're sensing resistance you should be the one to pull away first and bring up an objection like "you can't keep me up too late" or "I don't want to rush into things" when suggesting the non-sexual thing that you guys are going to do back at your apartment. You have to g…
/r/seduction19/07/24 08:02 PM
3

Make sure you have their attention first before saying what you want to say. Some will ignore you anyway.
/r/seduction27/06/24 04:15 PM
1

phenibut. Has it's downsides too. Don't overuse. If you do use it, don't use it every time you plan on doing approaches. Make conversation with random dudes/girls you aren't interested in to warm up before you do approaches.
/r/seduction31/05/24 09:20 PM
1

If you can't keep your shit together talking to a girl she will not find you attractive, even if you are physically attractive. You said this yourself. Girls usually lose interest in me when they realize that I'm being a bitch. My advice is to get practice talking and flirting with a large number of women to get better at talking and flirting with women. You could start with this girl, but given your lack of experience you'd probably fuck it up. Which is fine. Stop focusing on one person when yo…
/r/seduction31/05/24 07:16 PM
2

I doubt that you have the ability to accurately gage whether a girl has a thing for you if you have extreme anxiety and no experience.
/r/seduction31/05/24 06:44 PM
0

Assuming you are not delusional about her actually liking you - big assumption, invite her to do things with just the two of you. Don't frame it like you're asking her out. If she likes you, she will agree to hang out one on one. Escalate from there. Frame it as being casual. You can escalate it to being more serious later.
/r/seduction30/05/24 05:26 PM
0

Asking for consent to start a conversation is terrible advice. Just start the conversation. Asking for consent makes you look unconfident and uncalibrated. If they don't want to continue the conversation you can easily politely and quickly abort. You're not going to get a "bad reaction" unless you're far too polarizing on the open.
/r/seduction30/05/24 04:13 PM
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