Dealing with LMR - Tips?

norwegiandoggo · 2025-01-28T22:16:58+00:00

LMR is a deeply problematic concept from old school PUA times that has this idea behind it that you need to "overcome her resistance"

See the problem with that mindset? She doesn't want to have sex and you're going to use manipulation to convince her otherwise. It's a messed up way to think that ignores her desires.

The solution to your "problem" can be dealt with in multiple ways without manipulation.

You can find other women who want casual sex as quickly as you do. Screen for them. Don't go out with everyone - go out with those who seem into the whole casual sex thing.
Give them more time or make them feel more comfortable with you. You can also just ask them their preferences around sex. When she feels ready for sex she will have it. Or if she doesn't want sex - then that's also cool. That's her preference and you need to respect it. Simple as that. The irony is that when you have this mindset that "not having sex" isn't a big deal - they are way more likely to want to have sex with you.

liftingnstuff · 2025-01-28T21:44:43+00:00

I don't think you're providing enough detail. Are you successfully bringing these girls back to your place? What does the escalation look like on the dates?

rich_god · 2025-01-29T01:46:59+00:00

Basically patience, honoring their boundaries and making them feel safe and welcome in their pace. If they didn’t contact afterward it’s probably that they felt some kind of pressure or urgency in having sex, when it was not their rhythm. When women don’t feel safe, unless they have some weird attachment issues, they will step out of the connection.

But the opposite is true, so if you manage to make them feel safe and also holding your desire and being clear in your energy that you want to have sex with them when the timing is right, it’s a huge turn on.

Patience (and not passivity) means you’re secure and not famished of sexual interaction. It’s very attractive.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-01-30T04:22:54+00:00

Could be the frame your setting. Late 20’s or early 30’s girls usually want a relationship. If you’re setting that frame then trying to just ‘close’ them they’ll think that’s all you want. Even if it really is. Either go back to younger girls that don’t care so much or just make it more subtle about trying to bang

Ryan_the_Scion · 2025-01-30T06:33:04+00:00

Norwegiandoggo speaks words of wisdom. Otherwise if you OP already have come to a place where you're making out, you've come quite far and sparked some attraction. Earlier in the date you should've found something you GENUINELY LIKE about the girl. When making out give those compliments.

Title	Dealing with LMR - Tips?
Author	tigerwoods92
Upvotes	3
Comments	17
Date	January 28, 2025 9:32 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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