How do I start flirting with strangers

Possible-Draft-4403 · 2025-08-12T20:50:11+00:00

Walk up to said stranger. Say “hi, how are you. Your (Insert a noticeable thing about her) caught my eye and I had to introduce myself.”

Try to notice something unique, your uniqueness in noticing and stepping up to say hi. That’s what ladies are intrigued about (don’t just mention her body features, have fun, don’t force it) it takes time to develop an easy conversations with strangers.

ImpossibleBritches · 2025-08-13T00:14:48+00:00

Cold approaching is its own skillset.

It is good to just start doing it without knowing anything about how to. Thats a great start.

But there are a lot of online resources, some paid some free that are very useful in terms of how to not be boring, how to carry the conversation and that kind of thing.

About 99.9% of advice on this sub is garbage flr cold approaching. Youll even get lots of commentors telling you not to do it.

liftingnstuff · 2025-08-12T20:52:21+00:00

You flirt with the girls you go on dates with right? Assume attraction and flirt with them like you're on a date. If they give you an indication they're not interested, you can just say "it was nice talking with you/nice to meet you, have a good one." Otherwise look up cold approach guides.

New_Banana3858 · 2025-08-13T06:28:16+00:00

this might sound weird, but the person who fumbles when they approach and have no clue what to say.
Stands out more then the person who doesn't approach at all.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-08-12T22:05:16+00:00

Flirting comes from internally feeling honry, feeling desire, feeling what you'd like to do to her sexually and just blurting it out unapologetically as a self-expression that is real in order to create sexual tension.

The basic structure is "i feel this feeling/desire for you right now". For example:

You need to create sexual tension in your interactions which can be done in the following ways:

Holding eye contact just a bit longer than usual while biting your lip suggestively, glancing at her lips like someone who wants to kiss her but hasn’t made up his mind yet. So she feels desired… but isn’t sure if you’ll actually act on it.
Saying something with a double meaning, something that could be interpreted as both innocent or sexual.
Breaking rapport, not as punishment, but to spark curiosity and tension.
Showing restraint right when she expects you to make a move, shifting the tension back onto her.
Acting like you’re about to kiss her, only to pull back at the last second, leaving her wanting more.
Looking at her lips suggestively, while you bit your own bottom lip to insinuate your desire without verbally saying, so she feels tension.

It can also be done verbally for example:

“If you keep looking at me like that, I’m going to stop pretending I have self-control.”

It’s playful, flirty, suggestive… and clear.

It’s about implying desire, not declaring it. In other words, communicating desire between the lines:

Instead of: “I want you.”

Say: “There’s something about you that makes it really hard to behave.”

Instead of: “I want to sleep with you.”

Say: “I probably shouldn’t be thinking what I’m thinking right now.”

That way, you make her feel you’re having sexual thoughts… without saying it outright.
It opens the door to playfulness, flirting, and gives her room to respond without feeling cornered.

Or when you want to go for a kiss:

"You know i was just trying to concentrate on what you were telling me, but im gonna be real with you, im trying so fucking hard not to kiss you right now. It's just how i feel and i'm not gonna hide it".

This is what flirting is, it's being willing to create sexual tension, by expressing without shame, without timidness, your desire for her as a woman.

Not that it's not about giving her compliments. This is not what i said and the example i just gave is not a compliment to her. It's a feeling, a desire. Now she can say whatever, she can say we barely know each other, or try to rationalize why we shouldn't or even say "she doesn't want to do that", that she is not feeling it, and that's fine. That's part of the risk of flrting because yes flirting is supposed to be risky and create a lot of tension and be polairising and even throw women off balance a little bit.

If she says "we don't know each other much" that's not necessarilly a no, but it's not about you negotiating neither. It's about agreeing with her, and doubling down by saying "i hear you, and i don't normally feel this so fast, but right now i just know this is how i feel, I can't help it".

That's it. She either leans into that vibe or not. Depending on other factors like whether she feels judged by her friends or not, she may or may not.

In any case, you have to be willing to take the risk because sexual tension can only be triggered when there is risk. Those who try to avoid risk, just come across as bland and boring and thus no sexual tension is created which leads to being friendzoned. No risk, no win.

epimpstyle · 2025-08-13T08:01:20+00:00

I’d like to be able to see a girl I find cute and go up to them and strike up a conversation whilst flirting with them.

Until you flirt, there are other things to do:

Strike up a conversation
Create a topic for talking
Read social cues and spot when she is "hooked"
Escalate to "flirt"- this is easy once she is "hooked" and the good thing is that in case she isn't hooked you don't need to flirt, flirting is the last thing on the checklist.

Because you said "I didn’t have the courage to try to move to girls like that" ... this is tricky because not everyone is the same, but the idea is that you need to feel good about yourself. This way, it is easier to achieve the right attitude that pushes you to approach a girl.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-08-13T15:09:38+00:00

Push away. Don't show interest, but show intent. Show you're not afraid of escalation, and that you love flirting. Most importantly, play. Find games to play and engage people with them.

Glum_Rhubarb_3175 · 2025-08-20T14:23:47+00:00

Dont be a stranger

Title	How do I start flirting with strangers
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Date	August 12, 2025 8:44 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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