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| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 27, 2022Thanks for the question. Psilocybin microdose pills. They've helped me get off of 15 years of daily medication which I otherwise needed to take for a mood disorder (bipolar 1 diagnosis). Been taking them for over 2 years now. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/01/23 11:05 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 27, 2022OYS Dec 31 Me: 39, 5'11, 180lbs, 2 kids under 4, Lifting Schedule: Non-existent Finances: I go broke every month despite bringing in good revenue; I never ask my LTR to contribute. I run my own business and do decently at it but could do better at bringing in business. I am concerned for the coming tax season and liabilities owed. Reading: Have read a lot of the pickup and main TRP sidebar stuff, including NMMNG but only made it part way through the MMSLP and WISNIFG. Mental: Today was a good da… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/01/23 09:59 AM |
| 3 | Fucked up my 20's, i am a 30yo loser.For men who have slept with more than 21 partners, they were 15 percent less likely to say they were satisfied with their relationship. a 15% drop is nearly a statistical error. I totally would totally play those odds, and have. Besides, it's important to stay social: According to the National Institute on Aging the health risks of prolonged social isolation are equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day... | /r/TheRedPill | 27/12/22 03:30 PM |
| 7 | Why Play The Game?If you 'open' everyone, and just get in the habit of easily opening and closing trivial and playful conversations with others, regardless of their lay-potential, for the fun of it, it will all make more sense. You're not risking anything because you're not wanting anything apart from some good old human interaction. If they're cold to your approach, they're either having a bad day, or they didn't gel with your vibe at this minute -- either way, no big deal. ### It's like learning to surf. Don't … | /r/TheRedPill | 26/12/22 04:32 PM |
| 3 | I'm dating a girl. I see no point in relationshipsWe can't talk about our problems without them thinking were a beta pussy True. A challenge, especially a challenge that has to do with people and personalities, is something that most women will happily hear about and comment on. They are natural pseudo-psychologists that like to break down people's personalities. But they certainly don't want to hear about problems, especially technical problems that are unrelated to people and personalities. It's a harsh truth but an important one. what do we … | /r/TheRedPill | 26/12/22 06:23 AM |
| 2 | I want to like my wife againFor sure. Wishing you the best. Also, is she connected with her 'source', her joy de vivre, her passion? Her not doing that may also be a reason for you to lose attraction. Long term attraction, I believe, depends on both people being connected with life in a meaningful and energizing way. | /r/askMRP | 25/09/18 08:33 PM |
| 3 | I want to like my wife againI would say this is not a basic question. This is the epitomy of hard mode. What do you do, when you no longer feel like doing all the things from the sidebar, when you no longer are hot for your woman, and this eats you up inside? This is an advanced-user question IMO. As you said, you have over 100 lays and still you're stumped on this one? One classic blue-pill answer is actually not half-bad: do something novel. This can include going on a vacation getaway, going go-kart racing, bungee jumpi… | /r/askMRP | 16/09/18 06:54 AM |
| 2 | Other common MRP acronymsBravo Edit: Can we get this post linked to from the /mrp sidebar? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/09/18 06:28 AM |
| 1 | The new set of rules and the importance of frameA&A = Agree and amplify. AM = ? Thanks for the post. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/09/18 09:33 AM |
| 1 | Swallowed the redpill a few years ago, but for past year all hookups have only been on tinder etc. I think i lost my cold approachLol. | /r/askTRP | 13/09/18 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Girl wants to wait till birth controlArrange to hang out, either at hers or take her out. You could tell her that you're not interested in getting physical and make up a cocky/funny excuse as a false disqualifier. E.g., "Let's go out tonight. But no sex okay? It's that time of the month for me." Do this before she gets on the pill. Don't wait. Don't make your hanging out with her a calculated logical affair. That's a turn off for her. Then tease her verbally and physically, foreplay her, get her in a tizzy, etc and see what happens… | /r/askTRP | 13/09/18 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Swallowed the redpill a few years ago, but for past year all hookups have only been on tinder etc. I think i lost my cold approachYup. Tomorrow's another day though. | /r/askTRP | 13/09/18 12:56 AM |
| 4 | Swallowed the redpill a few years ago, but for past year all hookups have only been on tinder etc. I think i lost my cold approach>Am I just a bitch who rejected himself? Sounds like it. You lost confidence, which you never do on Tinder because you know they swiped right and so you know they are interested. In real life situations, cold approaches, you have to assume interest and defend that assumption with your entire being. You have to assume that you are desirable and that they should want you, and bring them into your frame. You have to hold the frame that the tension you feel between you is sexual tension and not nerv… | /r/askTRP | 12/09/18 08:13 PM |
| 2 | How to stop being scared of people?Eat a big breakfast. Eat protein every two hours. Lift. Meditate. Open everyone. Force yourself to talk to random people. Force yourself into difficult situations that make you grow. Find a good therapist that can train you in developing assertiveness. This is assuming you've read the sidebar. Have you read the sidebar? ---------> | /r/askTRP | 12/09/18 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Confronted about dreadThis is correct. If she makes you break your frame, she's not a good fit for you most likely. Game other girls. Gain confidence. Be able to handle shit tests better. | /r/askTRP | 12/09/18 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Girl wants to wait till birth controlDon't go 'full alpha' and try to push her against what she wants by force. That's dumb. She gave you a BJ? Great, that's a good sign. Hang out with her, make out with her, suck her nipples, tease her, play and get her in a tizzy so that she can't wait until she's able to fuck you. Maybe she will change her mind half way through the teasing/foreplay process. More than likely she will abandon all 'rules' once she's sufficiently turned on. That's how women work. They're not logical. They are, by na… | /r/askTRP | 12/09/18 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Life absolutely sucks and I feel like I want outGet in touch with a good therapist. Your primary care physician is really only going to help with getting you a referral to a therapist, if you need that for insurance purposes. In the case of my insurance, mental health services are self-referral, so talking to the GP about mental health issues is a waste of time. I have had the most success with a Somatic Experiencing Therapist and an Internal Family Systems therapists. The book "Self Therapy" by Jay Earley is a great book that will start you … | /r/askTRP | 12/09/18 07:53 PM |
| 2 | [FR] First date since I married some 6 years agoBest kind of initial kino contact point is the shoulder IMO. Like faux pushing or slapping someone by hitting them in the shoulder with the back of your hand. Then move to similar movements for the forearm. Then move to the wrists and hands, by inspecting bracelets, tattoos, rings. Then hair. Work the extremities and work your way in. You gotta warm them up. Sounds the same for your 'direct comments.' Sounds like you did good by pushing yourself outside your comfort zone and being willing to g… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/09/18 07:39 PM |
| 4 | I work with a woman who hates me and loudly laughs at everything anyone says about me, even if they are just joking and she isn't on it. How do I shut her up???Yesterday she purposely tried to talk to my other team mate instead of me, even when I asked her something. Like, "let me know when X is ready please", and she would let "us" know when it was ready (not me), and try hardto look at him and not me. In this case, I would interrupt her and ask her to look at me when she speaks. I've done that before working with Millenials who can't keep their eyes off their phones. You just have to pull rank and say something like. "Stop. Will you please look at me… | /r/askTRP | 12/09/18 07:13 PM |
| 1 | Interesting hobbies?Good you're searching. Glad to hear you're seriously considering BJJ. Boxing or kickboxing is also good. Anything where the consequences for not paying attention are pain. The other thing is finding a way to help people and make a positive difference. That is the basis of being an entrepreneur. Find a need and fill it. Find a way to enjoy being productive and moving your life forward. Cultivate appreciation for that kind of pleasure, the way you might cultivate a taste for stinky cheese or somet… | /r/askTRP | 09/09/18 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Worst date everOkay, whatever. Sounds like you are happy with your decision. | /r/askTRP | 09/09/18 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Setting Boundaries: Man to ManYou're very welcome. | /r/askTRP | 09/09/18 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Random woman at the club scratched my backSure thing | /r/askTRP | 09/09/18 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Worst date everShe gave a IOD to indicate that you were moving too fast. Always keep moving one step forward at a time, until you get an IOD, then take two steps backwards and a pause. You just left the date in the middle? What a douchey thing to do. | /r/askTRP | 08/09/18 11:53 PM |
| 2 | What are the biggest things that set you apart from other men at 31.Hmm. You want them to fall head over heels in love with you, or you want them to get into bed with you? What's your goal here? Sounds to me like your goals are too high to start with. You shouldn't want them to fall for *you*. You don't exist. You are an amalgamation of parts and subpersonalities, flesh and bones, hair and sinew. You are not anything. You are a vehicle onto which women can project what they want. If you are making them feel happy, tingled, etc, then they will want to be with you… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/18 10:29 AM |
| 5 | Random woman at the club scratched my backShe thought you were hot, but she also had somewhere to be, or some girlfriend she was with that wouldn't have let her ditch for a boy. Either way, it's an indicator that she was interested in you, and simultaneously not interested in making anything happen that night. It's the equivalent of a guy whistling at a hot woman walking down the street. Take it as a compliment, smile, and move on with your life. | /r/askTRP | 08/09/18 10:23 AM |
| 1 | I did not makeout with my classmate.Lol, this exactly. I didn't hear the part where you were fighting down a mad attraction. If an HB8 was rubbing herself on me, I know that my "I don't shit where I eat" rule would be hanging by a thread. Also, that quote is meant to apply to the workplace, because your place of work gives you money, which feeds you and puts a roof over your head. You don't want to end up losing your job, the money, food, and housing it provides, because you fucked the secretary. At school, things are differen… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/18 10:21 AM |
| 2 | Older woman tinder [screenshot]Exactly. "I'll tell you all about me over drinks. " Keep your responses short, pithy, and dripping with tension. Your last response was verging on verbose, for Tinder. | /r/askTRP | 08/09/18 10:14 AM |
| 1 | I cried after a long timeBro. Good for you. Sounds like you did the right thing all the way through. It's a learning curve. You will have learned a lot from this. The best thing anyone ever said to me when I was going through my first big breakup was what I'm telling you now. It may not seem like it now, but this will pass. This feeling will pass. Time really does heal all wounds. | /r/askTRP | 08/09/18 10:12 AM |
| 4 | "I don't want to lead you on... I'm not looking for a relationship or anything right now."This is correct | /r/askTRP | 08/09/18 10:08 AM |
| 7 | Hitting on Girls in University.Alone on a bench, I'd say no. They've purposely gone out of their way to sit there, and it would be awkward. Rather than that, I would just say "Hi :-) That looks like a nice spot to eat lunch" and then keep moving. Practice opening always, but you don't need to hang around. That's just uncomfortable making. For the girl sitting alone at a table, absolutely go up and sit down next to her, and say a nice big hello, with a smile. Wait a moment. Then make a comment about how beautiful the day is, o… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/18 10:04 AM |
| 1 | Interesting hobbies?You need a high-adrenaline sport. Don't do chess. That shit can be legitly addicting and is really no better than vidya. Look into high adrenaline sports, like Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, MMA, Boxing. Even Crossfit seems to have an adrenaline junky crowd. Also, skateboarding (downhill, or trick-boarding) surfing (preferably big-wave surfing). Lift weights. Plyometrics. Meditate intensively. Travel to other countries. Join the WOOFing program and work on an organic farm anywhere in the world. Go work ho… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/18 09:52 AM |
| 28 | Setting Boundaries: Man to ManDon't make it a confrontation. Assume good intentions. Maybe he thought you were treating him? Maybe he didn't have cash on him. Maybe he was being a little weasly and seeing what he could get away with. Either way, no harm no foul. NO thing is worth losing your cool over. Next time you see him, you could just say "Hey bro. You owe me 10 bucks." Wait for his response. If he says "Why?", say "I bought your lunch last week. Now you owe me." He will likely say "Oh, sure. No problem, I'll get that t… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/18 09:46 AM |
| 1 | Best approach on this (text game)That sounds like a lame try-hard text. Try something more classic like. "My bros and I are going to do [this really cool fun thing] tonight. You should come." If she doesn't want to or can't come, but is still interested in you, she might respond with something like "Oh cool. Have fun. Let me know when you get back. I'm doing X/Y/Z with my friends." Or she might be down to join you. Or, she might not really know what her schedule is going to be that night and where she's going to be. She might b… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/18 09:39 AM |
| 2 | Girl asks why I don't like her anymoreAh. Got it. So, in this case it seems like her nagging you about this question is an attempt to continue to suck you into her orbit, by asking you to answer her question. It is a request, and by complying with the request, you are ceding a bit of power, which is what she is seeking. What's the latest development? Have you continued to not text her back? Not seen her again in public? Assuming no new developments, in this case, where a power trip is likely in play, I would suggest continuing to no… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/18 09:32 AM |
| 1 | Girl asks why I don't like her anymoreAs a matter of interest, why don't you like her anymore? | /r/askTRP | 07/09/18 07:26 AM |
| 2 | Girl asks why I don't like her anymorewhat /ahackercalled4chan said is perfectly reasonable: ghost. Don't respond. Because responding to her texts is an indicator of interest. If you feel compelled to respond, or if you've already responded, at some point just say something cocky/funny. Something like, "I've changed. Now, I only like girls with really big tits, tiny waists, about 120 pounds, blonde, and they give me unsolicited massages in public. That's a baseline" You can say it in a way that feels cocky/funny to you and that make… | /r/askTRP | 07/09/18 12:27 AM |
| 3 | Break dry spell and gain abundance with chicks below your standards?If you lower your standards low enough, they won't be below them ;-) . Even fat girls get horny and deserve a little love. Actually, having sex with 'less than top tier' women was one of the ways I got my mojo back after my big Dvorce. I saw that these girls were quite anxious and insecure and not at all the raging harpy entitled bitches that my ex was and that all the other 'hot' women I was going for were. I friendzoned a couple and they're some of the best friends I have, still. Do it. Go low… | /r/askTRP | 06/09/18 08:58 AM |
| 1 | Rough sex girl, but no orgasmIf she's into rough sex, and you're only giving her 20-30mins, she's not going to come. It sounds like she will need a couple hours of good fucking before she's going to let loose. [edit: warning: I talk about ejaculation a lot in the text below] In that case, let me introduce you to erotic sexual denial, specifically "ruined orgasms." This is what has helped me most. Well, two things actually: The first thing I did was to practice not cumming ever. I would always pull out before cumming. … | /r/askTRP | 06/09/18 08:50 AM |
| 6 | I have a female roommate and I know she likes me how do I avoid her attempting to pursue something with me and keep things on friendship level?Turn her into an orbiter. Do not give her the cold shoulder or try and be aloof, as that will attract her more and then possibly make her get vengeful when she feels you not giving her attention. "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned..." I remember this one very attractive young woman at my old workplace; she was dating the chef and she was just my type, just 10 years younger than what I thought was 'proper' at the time. And so I just kind of ignored her and hoped she'd go away. Turns out, s… | /r/askTRP | 06/09/18 08:34 AM |
| 1 | LTR has super low self-esteem. What's TRP perspective on the matter and does/should it affect me?Thanks for your positive feedback. I'm happy to be helpful in easing any angst in the world. You asked several questions. I'll try to answer. I wonder how did you deduce it? Which of my comments gave you this impression? It was just the tone of this: Other than that I just go around my bussiness (yep, even with her crying beside me). Sometimes I hug her to let her know I see it but then I return back to my bees. I consider this to be a challenge for her to overcome, not for me to solve for h… | /r/askTRP | 06/09/18 01:47 AM |
| 2 | LTR has super low self-esteem. What's TRP perspective on the matter and does/should it affect me?Hi. Great question and you've given some great replies to comments below. Apart from "telling her that she's the best girlfriend you've ever had", you seem to be doing good with 'doing your own thing' and not letting her uncontrollable crying affect you too much. As you mentioned, telling her that stuff, about how great she is to you, is a signifier that you are ready to witness some of her demons. Everybody has demons. Everybody wants witnesses. Peter Levine, an expert on trauma, says that "t… | /r/askTRP | 05/09/18 05:51 PM |
| 5 | Field Report - All that matters is what she is feeling NOWThis exactly. Something that many men don't understand is that women aren't *consciously* toying with men, or *consciously* giving them shit tests, most of the time. They are motivated by internal battles happening inside themselves, between their primal parts and their less primal parts. You have to make every. single. step. of the process, each moment, enjoyable and enticing for them. If they don't want to get down, it's because you failed to elicit the right emotions. It is all about how th… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/09/18 09:26 AM |
| 11 | LTR went through my emails. How to proceed?Sounds like her insecurity is the real problem. We at TRP often focus so much on dread game and cultivating power in the relationship that we leave the flip side totally unaddressed. What do you do with an LTR who is insecure as hell, anxious that you'll leave her, afraid she can't live without you, and afraid that you could easily live without her? First of all, this is not a fun person to live with. They will go through your emails and constantly seek reassurance in different ways. Secondly,… | /r/askTRP | 05/09/18 08:45 AM |
| 3 | What nobody tells you about marriage, from a married manHey dude. I want to give you some personal feedback after going through a similar situation. This really worked for me. Try it out and see how you feel. I was also going through a phase of "oh fuck, what have I done?" I was no longer physically attracted to my SO at a level that I determined to be acceptable. So I developed a new goal. My aim was to build sexual tension in the relationship, even though I was no longer finding my SO to be that attractive. I rationalized that I needed that sexual … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/09/18 07:50 AM |
| 1 | On cultivating the right SpiritsYour comments are insightful, and not just because it validates some of my points. The troubling part of conversing about anything other than the physical with the gray area of interpretation Why is that troubling? Honest question. If we only stick to the physical realm, it is very likely that we can get stuck into huge arguments about what is right and what is wrong. I find that when we move into the metaphysical, the discussions become much more nuanced and become a matter of multiple minds wo… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/08/18 06:46 PM |
| 1 | On cultivating the right SpiritsThanks for your response. I didn't write that people emphasize lifting too much, but rather they emphasize "getting fit" too much. The higher purpose of lifting isn't too look good, it's to feel good and to feel strong in the long term. What's an internet-daddy? JP has got some seriously interesting and intelligent things to say and the quote I excerpted should easily stand on its own merits as being self-evident and not relevant simply because of its source. You said Try to verbalize what act… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/08/18 06:35 PM |
| 4 | Self Compassion: Become Your BestI have no problems showing "vulnerability" and talking about my problems, but I prefer to do it with RP people, and let's face it, RP people are almost non existent nowadays.. Sounds like you're not getting a chance to process through some of your problems. This is problematic because if you can't find a way to direct compassion towards the parts of you that are having problems, its going to create tensions in your mind-body system which will compromise your ability to achieve and succeed. It's … | /r/TheRedPill | 20/04/18 05:34 PM |
| 2 | Field Report: Asked a girl out while she was workingYou said you walk by her all the time and were tired of passing by her without ever saying anything, you got up the balls to approach, delivered a clean shtick and felt good about it. Great. Sounds like you're satisfied with that approach. Next time you're in a similar situation you could try another strategy: approach, engage in small chat and flirt a bit. Show her right then and there what its like to be on a date with you. Show her you are socially competent and can engage in social exchanges… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/04/18 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Bullet Points 2: Ending a Good RelationshipThis is a great analogy. In the Internal Family Systems psychotherapy model, they suggest that strong emotions are owned by internal parts or aspects of one's self. The general suggestion is to identify when a part of you has been triggered into having an emotional response, then pause and take the time to try to understand that part and its concerns and fears, and then returning to a more stable part of yourself, from where you make your decisions. Our emotions, or the parts of ourselves that a… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/04/18 04:46 PM |
| 3 | How do you both determine and address if someone is being disrespectful towards you?I don't want to just always be strong and tough around people because this will just push them away and have them not want to be around me. This is your problem. This thought process. The fact that your personality is rather shy/timid/weak is what makes people dislike being around you, and is what causes them to say and do things which you perceive as disrespectful. If they were better friends, they would say things that were overtly rude and disrespectful in order to get you upset, so that you … | /r/askTRP | 18/04/18 09:13 PM |
| 2 | Girlfriend keeps open the possibility to ask for FB password in futureIf it were me, I'd avoid answering the question and playfully distract from it or else agree and amplify to make it clear that you're kidding (e.g., "Of course; I'd do anything for you; if you need my left arm, I'll cut it off so they can stitch it to your body"). If she's really serious about it and is like NO! I need a serious answer. Then just look at her with calm and compassionate eyes and tell her you're sorry that she's feeling so insecure. Then ask her about her insecurity and allow her … | /r/askTRP | 18/04/18 08:54 PM |
| 2 | Field report - AWALT, but be careful to not be a dick.Dude. Nice post. Yes, it is rageful-causing when you realize that someone you pedestalized is using their attributes to greedily try and get things for themselves. Could it be that the true source of the rage is with the fact that you are assigning value to this girl for the same thing that she is then attempting to use in an abusive and manipulative way? (her sex appeal) The value that we assign to women, just for being sexually attractive, may be the root of anger we direct at them, because we… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/04/18 06:32 PM |
| 2 | Pulling It Out: Imposing Your Will on The WorldWhat an interesting post. It reads as someone who is really intelligent deferring to the use of basic, (one might even say crude) and powerful language while periodically alluding to some deeper insights – which dare not be elucidated because they might be attacked. Rather you, as the author, are tangientally suggesting ideas with the hopes that someone will try to pick up what you're putting down, rather than take issue with your insights directly and challenge you, as u/blackbull did below. I … | /r/TheRedPill | 18/04/18 06:04 PM |
| -1 | If you don't like being even more Inferior to Women regarding opportunities then stop watching Porn!2-3 hours every second day is far too much time to spend. However, recently, I've been spending 10 minutes every morning perusing photos at www femangels DOT com. They are high quality, classy "nude art" and they give me a bit of a testosterone boost and sexual charge that I can then parlay into the rest of my day. I find myself more attracted to my LTR and more generally charming and on-point after I've allowed myself my morning primer. It's kind of like having a sexy woman poster hanging on th… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/04/18 06:52 PM |
| 1 | The Creep – Part 1bioenergetics How would one get involved with bioenergetics or stretch therapy, having no clue where to start? I've studied various forms of bodywork, have trained a lot of jiu-jitsu, have done qigong and meditation and have worked with a somatic experiencing therapist, who works with the body's signals to support release of deeply somatically held tensions and issues. Agree that the body is the medium through which the deeper stuff gets worked out. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/11/17 06:46 PM |
| 2 | The Creep – Part 1Feeling yourself being felt is the fundamental building block of connection, because by definition you are having a shared experience. Beautiful words; succinct and effecive. My problem with the word connection is that for me, very often, the connection is quite one-sided; I can read them and they can feel themselves being read, but they can't read me apart from the big "tells" or communications I'm spending a lot of energy to give in a way that they can feel. As a socially inept person for a wh… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/11/17 08:53 AM |
| 6 | Why should I pursue women ?Reported to the mods. All personal questions go to asktrp. But while you're here... won't a truly strong man be able to overcome these biological impulses? No. If you don't pay attention to the inner animal and its needs, it will break you. It is stronger than your more recently developed (evolutionarily speaking) pre-frontal cortex with which you now seem to identify as the seat of your "I", your ego. Read the sidebar, lift, get out in the field, fake it till you make it, read the fucking sideb… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/11/17 08:41 AM |
| 9 | The Creep – Part 1This is the best comment here, and provides more value to me than the original post by Tomassi, no offense intended. I'm familiar, by now, with the trope that its "unfair" when girls call guys creepy, because if an attractive guy did it, it wouldn't be creepy. However, socially aware men have a basic understanding of how they are perceived socially by the people and women around them. For example, working in an office as a data analyst nerd (tucked away in the butt-end of the office, paid wages … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/11/17 08:13 AM |
| 2 | Hunter Drew (The Family Alpha) full video interview on The 21 ReportTTB to TFA? Not sure what that is. Just catching on to you now, TheFamilyAlpha. Was great to see your authenticity come through in your video. I know how GLO is and so am not really surprised that he would rampage against you for trivial stuff. Cheers | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/17 06:47 PM |
| 2 | How do you stop needing to feel validated by having sex with women?So, I think you may have the diagnosis wrong. It's not that getting laid is validating, per se, but that you only feel good about yourself after you've banged a hotty. There is an important difference. Why do you feel shitty about yourself normally but feel good about yourself after sex? Is it really "validation?" Or: The endorphin and other chemicals rush that you receive after sex, coupled with the fact that the idea that this rush was earned, makes you feel really good. And, after it wears of… | /r/askTRP | 29/10/17 06:26 PM |
| 2 | How do you stop needing to feel validated by having sex with women?lol. Hilarious. I think they accidentally thought /u/markdumte was disagreeing with you. | /r/askTRP | 29/10/17 06:18 PM |
| 1 | LMR or comfort test?Knowledge is power, and with power comes responsibility. Their ignorance protects them from the moral weight of destroying betas, whereas if you know that you're emotionally torturing someone for your own gain; if you know that you're using the power of your understanding to gain sexual gratification at the expense of a woman feeling used, manipulated and never able to trust men ever again, then that knowledge may haunt you. If she also accuses you of rape, then that could haunt you too. I'm in … | /r/askTRP | 29/10/17 06:15 PM |
| 1 | LMR or comfort test?Maybe it will end him up in the boyfriend zone, which may be what it takes to get these women to go the whole way. Most women will be willing to go all the way if they think there's a possibility for a relationship in it. If they think the guy is only in it for the sex, 100%, then they will not usually go for it unless he's top 1% status. You have to remember, they're psychoanalyzing us too, trying to think what the guy is thinking. I don't think it's moral, actually, to trick a girl into thinki… | /r/askTRP | 28/10/17 07:33 AM |
| 1 | LMR or comfort test?Sounds like you are good at continuing escalating no matter what: I smile and continue. Normally I say something dumb and continue escalating. and I say me neither I don't enjoy that sort of thing. And continue escalating And the result is that they stop you with a final, loud NO. My guess is that if you actually slowed it way down when they started up with the LMR, it would be good for you. Transition back into bar-room level conversation (the same vibe you were on "for a few hours already") Th… | /r/askTRP | 27/10/17 05:01 PM |
| 8 | FWB developed strong feelings for me, I'm not interested. How do I make this clear without messing her up?Are they very strong feelings? You're concerned you may mess her up because you can see she's in deep and you actually care about her enough to not want to psychologically scar her? Coming from experience, end it cold, amicably, completely, and stop hanging out at all for at least six months or until one of you is in an LTR. She's no longer a plate; she's a liability. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. If you continue to have crazy good sex with her, while telling her verbally that you're n… | /r/askTRP | 27/10/17 04:43 PM |
| 5 | How do you respond to personal accusations among your friend group?TL;DR: Cocky/Funny attitude always; E.g., Agree and Amplify So you failed that live social interaction test. It's okay, brush it off. In my workplace (restaurants), I see people get called out all the time for shit they've done that is sometimes really big fuck ups. The people who you want to keep as friends in the restaurant do not get quietly butt-hurt, nor do they get mad or whiny/defensive. They are dedicated to a positive upbeat social exchange, and are also dedicated to believing that they… | /r/askTRP | 27/10/17 04:35 PM |
| 1 | "It Just Happened"Solid post, And I want to add something in regards to this: Then we get horny, so our radar clicks on... The problem is that the bitch can tell when that radar starts up. And she dreads that ping. and When a woman has to make sexual decisions (e.g., do I accept this man's offer to slobber up his cock right now?), she will feel the weight of responsibility as the one wearing the sexual pants....your wife doesn't want or need that responsibility... While it's true that the feminine prefers to be l… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/10/17 09:24 AM |
| -1 | "Me too". How women are simultaneously attention whoring and garnering sympathy.But these women do have a choice. They can find another way into Hollywood, or, better, they could try getting a non-showbiz job. If you told me coal mining was going to hurt my lungs but there's a nice payout... it isn't abuse if I can choose not to do it. I think we're missing the piece where a conflicted mind ("do I want to do coal-mining?") gets put in the same room as a conflicted body ("my body seems to want to do mining, I have no idea why; I don't think it's a good idea" [body wants to d… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/10/17 08:25 AM |
| 2 | "Me too". How women are simultaneously attention whoring and garnering sympathy.When I finally was able to put the situation to bed and realise that I wasn't crazy and that I could in fact trust my instincts a lot of things slotted into place and I became a much more complete and confident man. This is the primary wound I think the majority of TRPers are here for; for having been gaslighted by manipulative girlfriends and wives. It's the result, in my opinion, of a fucked up social dynamic which hurts both men and women. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/10/17 08:04 AM |
| -1 | "Me too". How women are simultaneously attention whoring and garnering sympathy.because who knows what innocuous shit they're even referring to by joining this kind of bandwagon. Have any of the girls on your thread recounted their stories? Because mine have, and its fucking appalling. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/10/17 08:02 AM |
| 1 | "Me too". How women are simultaneously attention whoring and garnering sympathy.This. What the fuck, guys? Are you all so fucking vapid, conceited and fragile as to believe that #meToo is an attempt to harm your pitiful excuse for an ego? Our women, our girls, are getting traumatized by men who follow and chase them, say disgusting things, who grab them, chase them, rape them. Are you really going to turn your head and laugh, scoff and blame? [warning: this is a long post by someone who is the victim of both sexual abuse and a false rape accusation; I address the latter at … | /r/TheRedPill | 19/10/17 03:58 AM |
| 2 | Why it's important to Forge Your FrameSolid post. Frame is born from confidence, which is born from accomplishment and success, which is born from doing things every single day that are scary or uncomfortable or tiring. While it's true that this is one way to build frame, this is not what OP is identifying. The strongest frames, according to OP, come from deep conviction about the rightness and righteousness of one's view of reality and one's resultant purpose within it. The smaller victories and bigger victories don't matter and do… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/09/17 01:18 PM |
| 1 | AbundanceThis post is a shining example of why I routine /r/marriedredpill. Qualities that really stood out were the absence of anger and reactivity, and the emphasis on identifying and reinforcing deeply optimistic, appreciative, rational and character-building lines of thought. Cheers. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/09/17 07:08 PM |
| 3 | Angry Sex - Lessons LearnedFirst, thanks for your quality reply and the insights. Sounds like you have (or have had) a real bitch on your hands. I was married to a power-hungry controlling woman once who also fit this schema you describe: The short story is they prefer misery where they get to exercise power over pleasure and surrendering some of that power. The addiction/craving/need for power was complete. However, she was also a sweet person, "underneath it all", and did not go to the stage that you are describing: you… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/09/17 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Angry Sex - Lessons Learnedit's as much that they don't know what they want, as it is they don't know how to get there On point. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/09/17 02:05 AM |
| 9 | Angry Sex - Lessons Learned"Women who deny sex routinely." I have an issue with this phrasing of words. Women aren't denying sex. That's too high level of an abstraction. As u/GargantuaBlarg29 said in his recent post, "Be a Good Partner", you've got address things at the concrete, non conceptual level. Women never deny "sex" outright. They love sex. They would all love to be fucked by a dominant Alpha Male, almost any time, right? So why is she denying sex with you? It's not because of you or who you are as an Alpha/Beta … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/09/17 08:34 PM |
| 5 | Angry Sex - Lessons LearnedHave you ever been married before? Planned out the rest of your life with someone, for real? You don't just destroy something that big for something as small as a kiss, or even a "I fucked up, I'm so sorry" ONS. Ending a relationship of that magnitude should be done without undue haste. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/09/17 08:26 PM |
| 5 | Angry Sex - Lessons LearnedMeds help with that but as women age,they become more co-dependent, more anxious, more emotional, more despair, more drama (just not the teenage type drama), certainly not less drama. Not necessarily true, but maybe true in your case for her genetic reasons or because the relationship is not actually healthy for her. Ideally, both people in a relationship will improve in mental, spiritual, emotional health and wisdom as they support each other to engage in life more authentically. High anxiety i… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/09/17 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Pet Theories and New/Unfinished Ideas Megathread August 14Women are just so I agree that women, and all humans, have an animalistic craving nature that responds reactively to basic-urge-triggering stimuli. A lot of the shit we've seen go down that is 'unacceptable' is the realization that all women (AWALT) have this animal and all are susceptible to its urges under the right (or wrong conditions). My feel, however, is that some women are better at controlling these urges more often and in more contexts. Pulling women towards us, primarily through heavy… | /r/TheRedPill | 19/08/17 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Buddha said, “The past is already gone, the future is not yet here. There’s only one moment for you to live.” We spend most of our lives getting sucked into the past or projecting ourselves into the future. When the only moment is NOW. The best practice to live in the NOW is meditation [method]I'm impressed with your knowledge of the scriptures. Much greater than mine. I'm in the process of dropping away from the Tibetan Buddhist practices and more fully focusing on the basics. Samatha, Vipassana. Just fresh back from a 10-day Goenka Vipassana retreat. Looking forward to re-establishing a serious daily practice, twice daily. I feel like there's things I want to ask you but not sure what. How's this. What are you doing here on TRP? Looking to bang more hot chicks, looking to increase t… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/17 08:24 PM |
| 2 | Buddha said, “The past is already gone, the future is not yet here. There’s only one moment for you to live.” We spend most of our lives getting sucked into the past or projecting ourselves into the future. When the only moment is NOW. The best practice to live in the NOW is meditation [method]You're saying you've experienced the Jhanas and can identify when you were in which ones? My training has told me to be careful about craving for these states and yet I'm curious. What texts or tutors did you use as your guides to supplement your direct experience? | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/17 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Buddha said, “The past is already gone, the future is not yet here. There’s only one moment for you to live.” We spend most of our lives getting sucked into the past or projecting ourselves into the future. When the only moment is NOW. The best practice to live in the NOW is meditation [method]Gold fucking reply. Deep wisdom in and between your words. It's my hope that the TRP red pill will eventually lead more and more men to this realer red pill, as you call it. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/17 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Never forget, she does not desire YOU. She desires the image you have put forth.Great post. Going through similar thoughts and concerns. My recent post in the "Pet Theories" stickied thread points to the fact that the problem you're facing isn't a problem ipso facto with all women all the time. We are living in a society that is increasingly accepting of craving-based behavior. "I want this feeling. I need this thing to give me this feeling. I will go and get it." This behavior is the engine underneath a strong capitalistic society. It is also what drives women to go after … | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/17 08:01 PM |
| 32 | Pet Theories and New/Unfinished Ideas Megathread August 14Potentially controversial: Many of the strategies we discuss and employ attract the worst kind of women and the worst parts of women. Once you've gotten your dick wet a few times and banged some hotties, it's time to broaden and deepen the level and manner in which you connect with the other gender so it is more mutually enjoyable and wholesome for both. Dread and fear-based tactics are something we can aspire to leave behind and not rely on. | /r/TheRedPill | 14/08/17 07:43 PM |
| 3 | 4 Rules for a good conversationGreat post. IDGAF mentality, alpha status and being socially dominant/competent generally has a lot to do with having good social-interaction skills, conversation of which is a major part. Not enough content out there about this. I know a lot already about how to be good at social interactions. If I want to, I can turn the charm on at the drop of a hat. What I'm looking for now is how to enjoy it. I don't want to die a lonely fuck and yet I can't stand a lot of the boiler plate conversations tha… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/07/17 10:32 PM |
| 5 | Meaningless SexThank you for being willing to bring up a novel and important perspective. Sex is, intrinsically, not meaningless. It is the act which brings new life into the world, creating children, families and blank templates for new culture. It is also something which causes us to experience intense chemicals in the brain. The way we think, feel and act is changed by the chemicals released into our brain in anticipation, execution and after experiencing sex. To treat sex like it is meaningless is to be ig… | /r/TheRedPill | 21/07/17 10:56 AM |
| 2 | When Confronted About TRPWell written. Never break frame. You know you're doing it right if you're relaxed, smiling, having fun and they're engaged -- whether or not they're happy with you, angry with you, curious about you, whatever -- you have their interest and you're having a good time. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/07/17 11:48 PM |
| 2 | What to do about orphans?Work at a kids camp as a counselor, in a summer program, as a "Big Brother". Engage with kids via this forum. "Boys" camps and programs (and even mixed-gender camps with boys-only courses or programs) are good places for boys to learn what it is to be a man. You just have to be the man. Be the example. And then be somewhere where kids can see you. Support organizations where manly men are engaging with kids (e.g., Outdoor Adventure programs, etc). There is hope, and you can make a difference. We… | /r/TheRedPill | 20/07/17 09:12 PM |
| 11 | Don't be afraid to tell a girl straight up that you like her or find her attractive. They love that shit if it's coming from a place of confidence and non neediness.Sounds like you actually like this girl. Intellectually stimulating as fuck? Great. You told her you liked her and then she jumped your bones? Sounds like she was more interested in you than in your game. Not a normal plate. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/07/17 09:08 PM |
| 9 | The Only thing you can control is your EmotionsYes. The Red Pill teaches you the logic of why it's a bad habit to fall into, but intellectual knowledge does not actually break the habit. To break an emotional addiction loop requires a fluid mind. So how does one put this intellectual knowledge to use? How does one develop a "fluid mind?" The answer is that you have to put in work, effort, expenditure of energy doing tasks which will mold your mind to be different, to exist in a different state. Meditation, specifically Vipassana meditation, … | /r/TheRedPill | 07/06/17 03:29 PM |
| 166 | The best sex I ever had was after I stopped giving a fuck about themYes, great post and definitely true for flings, plates, girls who are just sex-outlets. Not great for LTRs all the time though. My LTR once took 2-hours preparing herself for me when I got home. She shaved and waxed and plucked and did her hair and picked out nice clothes and put on candles and incense. We'd been exclusive for a couple months, and all I ever really did was power-fuck her. Well, this evening, she was looking so hot, I just grabbed her, threw her on the bed and power-fucked her wi… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/06/17 05:05 PM |
| 26 | My Girlfriend Is Explaining and Confirming TRP Concepts...I think what we're playing with here are power dynamics. Women are very often privy to positions of large amounts of power within the sexual marketplace. This power is unearned. What happens to people who are given a lot of power that they didn't earn? They abuse it. See The Last Emperor TRP wisdom put another way is that women don't really want to fuck or even really settle down with a man who they can control like a puppet. They want a real man who cannot be toyed with so easily. That's pretty… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/06/17 10:37 AM |
| 3 | NLP: Stop asking questions, make statementsRegarding your second paragraph, the response "I haven't decided yet" would be autistic and rude if it was said straight-faced. But if it was said with humour, with a rye smile and a charming look, then it would be taken as a joke. It could be taken as a soft "ask"; it could be taken as you saying that you want to make the decision and you will, if she doesn't stop you first. You're daring her to stop you from taking control. It's a game. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/17 10:13 PM |
| 2 | NLP: Stop asking questions, make statementsSeconded. This is next-level breakdown of social interactions that are great to see discussed here. Thank you. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/17 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Instead of deliberately trying to make yourself seem busy and unavailable to women, how about you actually do stuff with your time and let that behavior come naturally?This is why I read TRP. For posts like this. In Summary: Keep in mind the bigger perspective always. By striving for big goals, we accomplish smaller goals naturally. As the reverse cannot be said to be true, we must always stay most focused on what matters most --what we make of our lives. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/17 09:57 PM |
| 1 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Hate fucking is about expressing the cognitive dissonance that comes with sharing emotional and sexual intimacy with someone who you have ambivalent feelings about (i.e. Both hate and love). It is about punishing her for having a hold over you. Thanks for the on-point reply. The above is exactly what happened between this other female and me 1.5 years ago. She was so hot, and she was so into me and I knew there was no relationship potential and that she was trying to fuck me into a relationship,… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/10/16 08:20 PM |
| 1 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"The kids would have been out-of-control strangers... Yeah. I get this concern. If you're not home to raise them, how are you going to give them the right vibration? I'm currently working on figuring out how I can spend at least some time working from home, and how I can work much less than 40 hours per week. Much much less. And am also thinking about doing some sort of home-schooling to avoid my kids getting indoctrinated by the system. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/10/16 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Learning to Slow Down... I ask the question to her because I would never ruin a chance at a girl I might hook up with. I just want to point out that this line of questioning would not ruin your chances with a potential HB. If anything, it's actually a great, emotionally charged opener. From there, depending on your mood, energy level and the quality of your positivity, you can roll right into talking shit, self-entertainment stuff that also carries her along for the ride. And even if she is only a 3, guess what? She… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/10/16 07:08 AM |
| 2 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Thanks for your thoughtful replies uncle. I read them and reflect on them thoroughly. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/10/16 02:36 AM |
| 2 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Great to get a women's RP perspective on this. This is why women nag so much. I think they are just trying to cause anger in hope it would translate into rough sex. I think you're onto something there. a healer. I am there to suck up all the negative energy and heal him. He's supposed to spill all his shit on me (not literally) and feel better after seeing me. Sometimes it's emotional stuff and I will listen. With rough sex it's about him letting out his frustrations and anger out by being aggre… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/10/16 02:32 AM |
| 4 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Buddha says that Life is Dukkha (fundamentally unsatisfactory, or suffering) for all beings and that we all seek to be free from it. A desire for strength and power is a way to escape from suffering. As Anakin did, he used fear to propel him on his quest to gain power and control over his environment. However, this strength and power, rooted and propelled by fear and pain, is called the dark side for a reason. Followers of the dark side do, in fact, accrue power for themselves by twisting the fo… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 09:33 PM |
| 1 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Read the first half. About to start on the second half... | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 09:28 PM |
| 6 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Nah. It's not that she had a big hangup, it's that she wasn't emotionally in a high enough state for you to escalate the verbiage that intensely. Depending on how charged the word is for her, depends how elevated a state she needs to be in before she can accept it. And then, it will be super powerful... | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 08:23 PM |
| 4 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"I couldn't continue being incoherent. So since women demand disrespect, I hate them for being so contemptible.... Buddha I thank for helping free me...and passion leads to power. I understand this struggle so well. How can I be happy if I am powerless and abused and unable to get sex and companionship? So then you use anger to generate power. But then your power is married to anger, and so the happiness you seek will never be yours. If we view it like Star Wars and see that path as following the… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 08:18 PM |
| 2 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Resources? books, links? Thanks | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 08:11 PM |
| 3 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Resources? books, links? Thanks | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 08:11 PM |
| 3 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Whoa whoa there, /u/EminemMiniME. Let's "constructively" criticize the behavior, not the person, eh? My verbiage is cringey? Yes. Too cringey? Perhaps for you. However, I'm in a relatively precarious position here (with an LTR) trying to encourage mainstream TRPers to consider a thought process which might get me labeled BP (how to not think misogynistic thoughts when railing my gf). In order to advance this line of thinking, I feel have to show some credibility by demonstrating my willingness t… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"No. Haven't fallen in love since my wife woman, but that was head over heels stupid shit that left me with no power. I'm slowly, slowly allowing my heart to open to this new woman, after 4 years of empty, though often fun, sex with dozens, including some strippers ;-) | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 05:03 PM |
| 7 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Thanks for the quality reply bro. Appreciated greatly. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 05:01 PM |
| 39 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"Shit. Not the message I wanted to get today. I've recently started taking refuge in the Buddha, Dharma, Sangha as my path. In terms of building a better life for myself, I don't give a shit about having lots of money or a great career, like a lot of guys here (no judgment). I want to work on consistently improving the quality of my character and my attitude so I come closer and closer to the idealized "enlightened state" where I see all of life as rainbows, where I am genuinely super jazzed and … | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Agreed. And yet he was a genius at uncovering principles and this particular principle resonates and reflects my experience. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 04:45 PM |
| 17 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"One way is to make her tell you she loves it. That she wants you to do it. E.g., "Tell me to fuck you." Her: "Fuck me" ... "Tell me you love it." Her: "I love it" But that only goes so far. The other way is to make sure she doesn't have regrets or reservations after the fact. Your job of framing the situation isn't done until you can frame your sexual encounter, no matter how rough or degrading, as something she thoroughly enjoyed and appreciated you putting her through. That work happens immedi… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 04:43 PM |
| 5 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"I'm digging your reply. do you even care about her, do you even see her as a human being? do you understand what it is that she needs, why she needs you to put her hands on her throat and why it makes her feel loved? or do you just wanna put the dick in. Yes, goddamn it. I do care about her. Hence me trying to figure out how to give her what she needs without mind-mantra-ing hateful words. However, it may be true that I'm not authentically passionate enough about her to give her the love-based t… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 04:29 PM |
| 24 | "I knew I could trust you when your hands were around my throat and you were choking me"'Promotion zone'? I've been out of it for a while. Maybe send me a link. Don't think it was in the sidebar last time I read it. Will check out BDSM sub. Edit: Re oneitis and her status: I've vetted this one over the course of 4 years. We've been sexing for 2 years and in an exclusive rel. for the past 6 months. Only reason I moved it to exclusive is because we're both mid 30s and I want someone who I can build and share a life with, and she's pretty awesome, but not because I think she's a unico… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 04:12 PM |
| 0 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Sure. here | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 02:45 PM |
| 4 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Point taken. Talking about feelings is often counter-productive. Expressing them, however... Mystery used to say that a real alpha freely "emotes" and that this emotional expression is a turn on to women, who like to see and feel feelz. This seems true to me. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Nah, Go back and read it. He talks about the importance of having genuine emotions yourself. Not as many emotions as her, but real emotional connection. Because she will easily read if you don't have emotions for her and will go out looking for that somewhere else. He doesn't say you need to talk about your emotions, but only that you should have them. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"How I came to the living arrangement? I said, "Hey, it would be great if we could spend more time together, like if you lived in this city. I bet you could find a room nearby, or perhaps there may be a room in my house opening up soon. And perhaps one day we could lease a house together and sublease out other rooms in the house but each have our own respective rooms." I made it clear at every stop of the way that she would always need her own room and I would always need mine. I never checked in… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Thanks. We were together first, and then moved into a town-home together, consciously choosing to habitate separate rooms. Still risky, but less so than banging the random across the hall. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Different rooms. I'm trying to build a life, not just slam poon. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"I will never not have my own room again. I made that vow to myself after my first marriage broke up. We were living in a small one bedroom studio. You need physical space from your lady to be able to truly energetically disconnect. And you need to be able to energetically disconnect in order to choose to engage in a positive way. There's no way to dread her or deny her of your awesome company when she's being bitchy if you can't physically get away from her. The cost savings are only half what y… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/16 01:27 PM |
| 2 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Right, exactly. It's not my fault that they're like that. It's my fault that I forgot to act accordingly. Thanks for the reminder. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"No. She told half truths to significant members of my extended family-friend network which implied that I might have sexually assaulted her. Including my mom. She's permanently out of my circle. Luckily, my mom and I have a good relationship now and I told her every last detail about what a lying deceiving bitch this girl is being. She is severely emotionally traumatized and is acting out by trying to hurt me in any way possible. The only option is to freeze her out, and wish her the best on her… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 08:39 PM |
| 13 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Thanks for the avuncular advice. Much appreciated though your comments are now haunting my thoughts... So, this woman admittedly has issues. Lots of issues. Usually she hides and represses her irritation out of a desire to please and be pleasing. And when we were first getting together, I appreciated that about her. Then I started to encourage her to feel her feelings and express herself, to stop hating herself for having feelings. Now, I'm starting to have to deal with the repercussions... We'v… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 08:34 PM |
| 3 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Slow burn. You move through enough women, you'll probably find a few semi-decent ones. Slow burn them and see if your life styles and priorities line up. Do you both want to live in the same city? Do you both want to work at life with the same level of intensity? Check it out cautiously... | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Did she try to infantilize me? Not consciously. If that was her subconscious intention, I never fell for it. My feel is that by doing the dishes and by doing my part to make sure I'm contributing -- by doing the cooking and by cooking for myself from time to time -- I retain my independence and assert my power and ability to take care of myself (and us) if needed. I refuse to take all that is offered without paying back something into the relationship. To do otherwise would put me in her debt. I… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 05:10 PM |
| 4 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Edit: I answered in a lot of fucking detail. This issue is obviously on my mind. But anyway, here it is: Good question. I came home after drinking, sobered up a little and told her why I got upset: "[My female friend] (who I was out at the bar with) said it would be good for me to tell you why I was upset...So, this morning, I was expressing how I felt about something and it seemed you disagreed with my view on how I wanted to deal with things in my own life. That upset me and made me want space… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"You have to inject drama into the mix...or she will, and you will not like that. So true. And I don't think they can help it. She keeps saying, "I don't know why I'm being so edgy with you recently." And in my head, I'm knowing, "it's my fault" | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"25 and 50 plates in 3 years is impressive figures. You've seen a lot. You have a lot to compare this girl too. 25 is also young. But never should yourself. Do what feels right. The longer you know someone and the more of your life you can share with them over time, the more meaningful that relationship will be. There's whole blocks of my life that were super enjoyable that I can't really positively reminisce over anymore because that relationship is over (the bitch cheated). My super slayer guy … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Great I make sure it is her that opens up the most though, not me. I like to stay kind of a mystery to her. Perfect. Glad it resonated. Putting my phone in flight mode, do-not-disturb mode and leaving it in other rooms are things I do all the time now. She's gotten used to this fact of life. From SGM: In order to create strong emotions in a woman, you must also feel strong emotions yourself. Women are naturally more emotional than men, so it is alright if your emotions are not quite as intense a… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 04:26 PM |
| 2 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"No more fear of growing old with no one to take care of you. Yes, because being taken care of by someone who is only around you because of money, when you're on your deathbed, is comforting. They're the kind of people who will cause you pain on purpose once you go mute just because they can. Friend of a friend is a multi multi millionaire, slowly dying alone. None of her children will come and look after her because of the pain in the ass she's been her whole life. Her caretakers despise her. Sh… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 04:21 PM |
| 4 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method""Emotion" in the SGM is about giving her emotions during sex, Not quite true. SGM explicitly describes the necessity of genuine emotion on your part. "...if your level of emotion is significantly lower than hers, then this is a problem. She will sense that you don't feel as strongly as her as she does for you. She will then subconsciously curtail her emotions to avoid being hurt. Now don't expect to fall in love with every girl you have sex with. That's not the way things work... But, if you've … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 04:08 PM |
| 5 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Never said you couldn't. Never said I didn't. And yet that fact is still meaningful. Piss off. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 03:54 PM |
| 9 | Don't Get Lazy - How I (Nearly) Fucked Up My LTR Implementing "The Sex God Method"Yeah, I did that once, to a really beautiful and sweet young girl who was just "discovering" her sexuality at 25 (I'm mid 30s) and who's really one of the purest, kindest, spiritually inclined people I know. I fucking ruined her --Alpha Widowed for sure-- and she's still hurting about it a year later in a serious way. She happens to be in my wider circle of friends/family and so I've had to deal with some consequences, including her telling people I know that I was emotionally abusive; most peop… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/16 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Why you shouldn't lean on her with your problems, even though the world is telling you toThanks for this. Appreciated. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/16 09:45 AM |
| 2 | Mission Report Monday: Post your FRs here!Edit: Sorry for the long post. The TL;DR is I was worried this girl thought I sexually assaulted her because she started actively avoiding me. I initiated conversation, we had drinks, talked it out, and then went back to mine and had more awesome and rough sex. Finally banged this 22 year old girl again last night. Fucked her for the first time three weeks ago and since that time, she's been completely avoiding me, whereas before she was always trying to get on my nuts... I was beginning to get … | /r/TheRedPill | 22/02/16 08:47 AM |
| 1 | Red Despair over AWALT and LTRsReferring to the side-bar. Nice. It's been a while since I reviewed those so good to do it again. I like Rollo and eagerly digested his first book and most of his seminal posts. One of my close friends once told me that it's folly to think that your friends should be there for you no matter what. From her perspective, it makes sense that you need to put effort into relationships if you expect to see your friends "act like friends." To do otherwise is ignorant and selfish. To put effort in means … | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/16 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Red Despair over AWALT and LTRsthe strategy for cultivating a strong relationship (within which lots of fun and high quality sex can occur) is qualitatively different from the strategy for cultivating tingles. I disagree... I would argue that they do not exist independent of each other. All the information in the world on interpersonal communication means jack shit if you don't give her the tingles. I respect your disagreement and I'm coming around to your view that tingle generation must go hand in hand with relationship bui… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/16 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Red Despair over AWALT and LTRsYes. Definitely definitely with that caveat. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/16 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Red Despair over AWALT and LTRsThanks for your thoughtful reply. However you ought to keep in mind that you have to get to the loins of the girl quickly otherwise someone else shall. Absolutely true and a good reminder. The old fashioned way of wooing a woman built a strong emotional bond, which provided a good basis for marriage. Sex came afterwards so as not to interfere in the process of selecting a good husband/wife; sex brought additional bonding. This is the sound way of proceeding. But it is impossible to practice nowa… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/16 09:09 PM |
| 6 | UPDATE - My date with the brunette.Sounds like everybody had a good time. Nicely played. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/16 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Red Despair over AWALT and LTRsThere are no TRP strategies because TRP is a discussion of all sexual strategies (the salad bar analogy). So far, the classical TRP discussions looks something like this: "Women have a dualistic mating strategy, so be more alpha and you'll lay plenty of chicks." All of the sexual strategies discussed fall within how to take advantage of one prong of that sexual mating strategy dualism. The question I'm posing is how do we authentically connect with female humans in a way that engenders a strong … | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/16 12:56 AM |
| -1 | Red Despair over AWALT and LTRsGood of you to make an appearance. While I agree that you absolutely want to be able to make your LTR "your slut" and step one is to "increase your chances" and put yourself in a position where "you have the most options to choose from", the strategy for cultivating a strong relationship (within which lots of fun and high quality sex can occur) is qualitatively different from the strategy for cultivating tingles. The latter can be approached through what I'm calling "classical TRP strategies." F… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/01/16 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Red Despair over AWALT and LTRsThe answer for this is simple: Start a relationship with a low partner count girl, and make it not just about sex, get to know her...etc. I think this is at least half of it. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/01/16 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Red Despair over AWALT and LTRsThere is no "TRP sexual strategy" /u/redpillschool says: The red pill is a discussion of sexual strategy...and building yourself into the version of you with the highest chances of sex. So TRP itself isn't a sexual strategy, but it is a discussion of sexual strategy. And the only sexual strategies currently being discussed revolve around becoming the kind of man which appeals to women's baser urges - to one prong of her biologically-programmed mating strategy. Am I wrong? IMO, the "green flags" … | /r/TheRedPill | 25/01/16 10:29 PM |
| 3 | Red Despair over AWALT and LTRsYour red pill fervor is great, if a little simplistic. I had a girl who used to give me fresh baked goods like cookies (chocolate mint), brioche, and other miscellany. She actually went to culinary school to be a baker because, in her words, her biggest desire in life was to be a house wife who did a lot of baking so she thought she might as well get good at it and maybe have a career in it until such time as she found a man and started in on her 5-children family plan. She didn't wear bonnets b… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/01/16 09:53 PM |
| 3 | Red Despair over AWALT and LTRsYeah dude. That sucks. Big time. But like I said, it's easy for girls to show restraint if they're not turned on. Blue Pill guys don't know how to turn women on and don't even realize it's important. But if you are Red Pill, high SMV and you've proven it to yourself by riding the poon-tang carousel, and if you then are left wanting something more, that's when it makes sense to consider women who do not throw themselves as easily as the grand majority. Is it because you don't tingle them? Move on… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/01/16 09:40 PM |
| 4 | Red Despair over AWALT and LTRsNow, that you seek out a very selective and particular kind of girl that is responsible, self-employed, takes care of herself, and you go in knowing very well that you will have a masculine role to play, and that you remain in frame and remain the prize, then I think this level of thought is Red Pill. This "level of thought" regarding LTRs is definitely Red Pill but the classical Red Pill methodologies (edited) don't support achieving it IMO. I agree with you in that the modern feminist movement… | /r/TheRedPill | 25/01/16 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Red Despair over AWALT and LTRsRollo has said and I agree, sex that you have to wait for isn't worth it. If you're only in it for the sex, then it is definitely not worth waiting for. If you are looking for a committed partner, then I think it make sense to appreciate a woman who can show restraint. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/01/16 09:16 PM |
| 1 | I have noone to talk to...Patch up with your old friends. It will take some work, and you'll have to get over some guilt for being such an ass and allowing your missus to push you to alienate them. But, in my experience, they will take you back as a friend just as long as they get to bad mouth your missus as much as they like. | /r/askTRP | 22/01/16 08:01 PM |
| 42 | To enjoy the decline, or to start a family, that is the questionI see this sub evolving through posts like this. And I like it. The Chinese say: An ugly wife is a treasure at home In the Chinese culture, while young men vie and compete for the most attractive women, older and wiser men choose women as wives who are not necessarily the most attractive but according to the qualities which make them good partners and mothers. A less attractive woman is less likely to have the options which would precipitate her cheating or otherwise misbehaving and is also less… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/01/16 10:06 AM |
| 6 | To enjoy the decline, or to start a family, that is the questionHaving kids and getting married are not one in the same. And having children is not a zero sum gain. The path to family is through it's creation. Through being the chief in command of one's own tiny nation. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/01/16 09:47 AM |
| 18 | Basics of GameYes AND It is always upon YOU to approach. The role of the male is to act. Having a great lifestyle, having meaningful goals that you are duly achieving is great and most important. But when you're approaching and leading a social interaction, it makes sense that we ought to learn HOW to lead a social interaction. Lifting weights and making money doesn't teach you how to manipulate the mood of a conversation and make it enjoyable for you and others. Many people come here as social retards and I … | /r/TheRedPill | 19/01/16 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Basics of GameNot sure if this post is partly response to my post earlier calling for more discussion of game here, but either way I appreciate it. A discussion of Game - the proactive element - is an important counter-balance to the IDGAF and Stoic imperative (rightly) pushed on noobs. Thanks. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/01/16 08:14 PM |
| 10 | Basics of GameAbundance Mentality is that in Game you might lose and don't care, but in Frame you must never lose. I like that. I like that a lot. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/01/16 08:13 PM |
| 4 | How would you approach this girl in highschool?This is what I would do. Approach the group directly so they see you coming confidently. Acknowledge girl 2 with eye contact and head nod if appropriate. Then lock with girl 3. Me: Hi Girl 3 Her: Hi. You: It's really cold today isn't it? (some bull shit commentary that she sort of has to agree with) Her: Uh, yeah. I guess it is. (when she agrees, it drops her into your frame if only a little and gives implicit permission for you to continue) Me: Yeah. On days like this I wear my wool socks. They… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Went to movie with friends, plate asks "was it a date?"Right. I get how you would use that as a deflection question and it makes sense, but doing that by expressing interest in her life will be a turn off. After reflecting on other user's comments, perhaps even replying to the "playful comment" with a "playful comment" of your own was "bad." TRP advocates texting for logistics only. I like to be playful and have a little bit of back and forth with texting. But again, texting isn't my strength. Luck. | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Bold yet stoic?Great question. | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 07:57 AM |
| 1 | Went to movie with friends, plate asks "was it a date?"Yup. At this point, say nothing. At least for a few days. She's probably butt hurt that he "went on a date with someone else." Either she'll get over it and text him or she won't and she'll think she "lost him" since he hasn't contacted her in such a long time. This is why after 4 days or more (if she hasn't contacted him) I think a harmless DHV text along the lines of "Man. Just had a great work out. #feelingBuff" would be good. Let's her know he's still thinking about her but not super concern… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 07:38 AM |
| 2 | "Is this a shit test? How do I deal with it?"This is anti-slut defense at it's best. She doesn't want to admit that what is happening is happening - namely, she's being a slut. Make it not her fault. Be persistent and give her an excuse. Perhaps silence and a little freeze out is appropriate as per /u/AFPG. But then arrange to get back into isolation with her and alcohol. Once she gets a little tipsy she won't have to take responsibility for her actions and her inner slut can release. It just has to be very clear that you and her definitel… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 07:04 AM |
| 1 | Went to movie with friends, plate asks "was it a date?"Correct. "So it was" is not playful. That's bitchy. As per my feedback: After she said "So it was." That's when you go silent. Her: Playful question Him: Playful non response Her: Non playful accusation Him: Punish with silence Her: Changes topic That's how the interaction should have gone. | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 06:59 AM |
| 1 | What Hand-to-Hand style should I study first?Yup. Find an MMA gym and train Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu (BJJ) and/or boxing, preferably Muay Thai kick boxing. BJJ #1. | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Went to movie with friends, plate asks "was it a date?"Nah. She was being playful with the question. He responded with a playful non-response. Perfectly played IMO | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 06:52 AM |
| 2 | Oneitis at its bestHa. I'm in a similar situation right now with a work friend. She's cute. We vibe. She tells me she's not committed to her occasional fuck buddy and she's going to drop him soon... (but I consciously know that anything sexual that happens between us would not be worth the fall-out because of our mutual life-long friends and because of our workplace situation) You're right. It fucks with your head. "a confused state of mind." This is our biology fucking with us despite our rational pre-frontal cor… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 06:48 AM |
| 1 | "I Just Want To Be Friends"That's pretty good advice right there. | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 06:30 AM |
| 2 | Would you date a girl with black ex-boyfriends?Haha. Funny stuff. I heard a woman once say that she thought life was punishing her because she used to date all these black guys and then had to transition to white guys with small dicks. A big dick is a powerful weapon. There's power in the penis! But women will always go with their best option. Be their best option. At the end of the day, you shouldn't feel threatened if some other dude was able to penetrate her more deeply. Well, maybe a little bit. But, really all you should care about is a… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 06:26 AM |
| 1 | Serious dilemmaCope = Next her. Complete silence forever. That's really unforgivable behavior, I don't care what past you have. The painful part will be when she doesn't come running after you apologizing. Sorry dude. She'll likely continue to send you extremely fucked up texts telling you that you're being selfish and that you're an asshole or that you don't care for her at all and that she loves you. But if she actually loved you and cared for you, she wouldn't say all those mean and hurtful things. She woul… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 06:19 AM |
| 0 | Went to movie with friends, plate asks "was it a date?"I went to a movie tonight and she says "You went without me?! Was it a date ;)?" I said "Wow, you're so nosy." "So it was." All good so far, IMO. Your fuck up is to enquire after what she's doing. So far, you've got her chasing you, asking what you're up to, who you're hanging with, what you're doing that's so cool. Why can't she be hanging with you right now? You have to maintain that image that everything you do is fun and fantastic and she would be so lucky to be a part of it. Let me ask you … | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 06:12 AM |
| 2 | Growing Pains (Shrugging Off the Blue)should I let her know I’m not looking for a long-term relationship and completely expose my true feelings? Never discuss serious things seriously. That's a rule. But do make your viewpoints known through humor and observations. E.g., "Relationships suck!" "I think relationships are just a clever invention that women came up with so that men would buy them things." "I never break promises. That's one thing about me you should know. [pause] Of course I don't make promises either, so... but minor d… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 06:04 AM |
| 2 | Only confident around those that are lower than me on the social pecking order.We're social animals designed to respond to social hierarchy much more than looks or success. For you, personally, it seems you either have to be the leader of the interactions or you feel an outsider. You have a real need to set the tone and you don't feel comfortable trying to fit in to a social hierarchy where you're not at the top. I was a lot like that too before I developed better social skills and realized that sometimes it's okay to be part of a social interaction without being the boss.… | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 05:38 AM |
| 2 | The Next Step?After you get the girl's number, while you're still talking to her, bring up an idea of something you'd like to do that is fun that she should join you for. E.g., a hike or a camping trip or a particular bar that you like to go to. Send 1 text that same night along the lines of "Sarah, Good to meet you. Hope you made it home safe. -[your name]" Send another a few days later along the lines of "I'm doing this fun thing that is fun. You're welcome to come." | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 04:56 AM |
| 3 | Bringing it back from a stupid mistake - specific question related to 2 plates and me.Laughing at this. It's been 4 hours so obviously the conversation has progressed. What's the latest? Personally, I would completely ignore it until she brings it up. And when she brings it up you need to show absolutely no shame and also be able to shut down the conversation quickly. Whatever achieves that. Do not discuss over text whatever you do. It will take tremendous effort for her to bring it up in person. She will want to either make you apologize or make you the enemy so she can justify … | /r/askTRP | 19/01/16 04:42 AM |
| 3 | IDGAF attitute and lack of patienceGreat post. Running away from difficulties in seduction process isn't quite the IDGAF you're looking for. Yes. It's too easy to let IDGAF turn into giving up too easily. a perfect addition and counterbalance to guys exaggerated IDGAF attitude is patience. Along with patience, I would add effort. The seduction process as you call it. Other people call it game. Patience means that you're willing to put these efforts on hold and not give up on them completely. When taken correctly: DGAF Doesn't Mea… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/01/16 09:26 PM |
| 2 | Beyond The Basics (long post; ~1,700 words)You're probably not going to listen to that, so Laughing at that one because, yup. Don't worry for me though. This is a 'fun job' and not my career (front of house restaurant) and I'm willing to take my lumps if I fuck up. And these girls are legitimately attractive, legitimately fun and legitimately giving indicators of interest. I can't not play a little... Often, I've discovered that she only gets the attention locally because she is surrounded by 4-6's Great thing about hospo work is that th… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/01/16 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Beyond The Basics (long post; ~1,700 words)Thanks man. Appreciate that. | /r/TheRedPill | 18/01/16 12:24 PM |
| 2 | I'm doing everything right but I still can't get laid!As said above, please ensure you have implemented TRP basics first. E.g., you're lifting, you're meditating, you're reading, you're building your frame. Then, as you read this stuff try to think: "why would an Alpha male do these things?" Most of the literature out there is primarily concerned with "why is this thing attractive to females?" Approach it from both mindsets simultaneously as you read it. With that caveat: "Double Your Dating - Attraction Isn't a Choice" by David Deangelo Synopsis: … | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/16 07:03 PM |
| 2 | I'm doing everything right but I still can't get laid!Everyone wants to be a true Chad. Beginners are helped by having things broken down into their component parts, no matter what discipline you're discussing. "Have fun with cute women" is not actionable advice for a noob. Push-pull is. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/16 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Cheated on my girlfriend, feel like shit, can feel my behaviour changingThis is actually how relationships have historically worked with men of great import, for example in Europe. Mistresses were commonly accepted as something that prominent (alpha) males had. They were meant to keep these mistresses a secret (even if an open secret) out of respect for the commitment to their primary wife, their legitimate children's mother. | /r/askTRP | 15/01/16 06:49 AM |
| 1 | Still overcoming bluepill and translating womaneseWhat, specifically, did you say that you think she took as being 'full on'? | /r/askTRP | 19/12/15 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Cheated on my girlfriend, feel like shit, can feel my behaviour changingAnother thought here. From a TRP perspective, she probably doesn't want to know and doesn't really care. My ex once firmly told me that if I ever fucked up and cheated, she did not want to know about it. Women only care about commitment. If you're still committed to them, it really doesn't matter. Sexual fidelity is, by evolutionary design, much more important to men because of the whole "is this my baby?" issue. Don't confuse your priorities with hers. | /r/askTRP | 19/12/15 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Cheated on my girlfriend, feel like shit, can feel my behaviour changingIf he were continuing to cheat on her and feeling bad about it. That would be different. But you can't change the past. You can only make choices about how to make the future better. | /r/askTRP | 19/12/15 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Cheated on my girlfriend, feel like shit, can feel my behaviour changingWhat will be gained from telling her except that he would relieve his own guilt? | /r/askTRP | 19/12/15 06:36 PM |
| 4 | Cheated on my girlfriend, feel like shit, can feel my behaviour changingSeconded. Do not tell her. To tell her would be selfish - an act to try to alleviate your own guilt. Telling her would not be compassionate to her. What would be compassionate to her is to use your angst to commit, very strongly, that you won't do it again. Channel that angst energy into being a better partner to her from here on out. She doesn't need to know that you're compensating for what you did. Let her believe it's just because you love her that much. This will make your relationship stro… | /r/askTRP | 18/12/15 06:30 AM |
| 1 | What are the best resources to learn about meditation/staying in present (articles, links, etc), and what's the best media form to learn it (videos, audible, charts, ? ) ?Free 10-day silent retreat Vipassana courses. This is the best way to get a solid introduction to the art of meditation: https://www.dhamma.org/en-US/index | /r/askTRP | 17/12/15 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Can Trans-women be sued for Sexual Assault?That's not what I said and that's not what I believe. Male and female brains work differently. And I understand this idea that transgenders have the brain chemistry of the opposite gender. Still, transgenders naturally deceive others into thinking they have different genitalia than what they have or what they were born with. And if they carry this deception all the way to the bedroom... Whatever. Perhaps it doesn't matter. The idea of thinking I accidentally had sex with a guy really really both… | /r/MensRights | 24/11/15 11:13 AM |
| 2 | Woman jailed for 8 years for sex deception. No suspended sentence, no mention of her mental health issues, no glamour pics in the Daily Mail. What happened?dangerous to criminalize deception resulting in sex Yes, UNLESS the deception is regarding the sexual identity of the person you're having sex with. Causing a man to unwittingly engage in homosexual activities could easily lead to rage, murder and/or suicide, especially in the case where one's religion comes into play. You tricked me into having sex with a fatty because you were wearing a corset? Fair play. You tricked me into having sex with a guy? That is not okay. | /r/MensRights | 13/11/15 10:33 AM |
| 3 | Woman jailed for 8 years for sex deception. No suspended sentence, no mention of her mental health issues, no glamour pics in the Daily Mail. What happened?Yes. Transsexuals ought to disclose their gender history before sex. You have a right to know the true sex of the person you're having sex with. It's not that complex. | /r/MensRights | 13/11/15 10:29 AM |
| -1 | Can Trans-women be sued for Sexual Assault?Of course they're pretending. Pretend: to make it appear that something is the case when in fact it is not. They may have a good reason for it (and one I can empathize with), but if they are not biologically female and they are making it appear as if they are, then this is deception. And that deception could be considered a serious violation of trust, couldn't it? Shouldn't it? Personally, I would feel very sick to my stomach if I thought I had sex with a girl and then realized later (or was tol… | /r/MensRights | 13/11/15 10:20 AM |
| 0 | Women aint shitHey. Want to thank you for your lengthy reply. But I'm not going to kiss her at work, obviously... Don't see the point in following her to another bar. I think she just wants companionship and validation, by which I mean an expressed male interest. What's the point? You're right. I am tuned out. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/10/15 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Women aint shitshe's not actually looking for commitment... She is a feelz addict, from what I can tell. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/10/15 12:32 AM |
| 0 | Women aint shitShe's been casually dating this guy "Eric" for about three years. I met her about a month after she started dating this guy. We were both "groomsmen" at a mutual friend's wedding. Hit it off really well. But I've been in another country all this time and just come back to start working at her same restaurant (she hooked me up with the gig)... She's got three kids. She's super sweet in many ways. But... there's so many things here. I don't want to be led on. I don't want to fuck with an establish… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/10/15 12:17 AM |
| 1 | For your own sake, don't consume shit that's not designed for you.LPT: If you haven't watched it already, check out BoJack Horseman on Netflix (watch it for free here). It is made for us and it's a terrific show. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/10/15 10:20 PM |
| 0 | Notes from the field - the value of gaming everyoneJust fyi, I am actively not pursuing relations with females because I am focusing on other more important things, so it's not like I'm thinking "Now I'm in there!". Also, she's a co-worker, so out of bounds. But something DID happen. What did happen is that she took notice and her feelz levels spiked a little bit. It was a little bit of a flirty interaction from her and definitely more than the ZERO interaction we had otherwise. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/10/15 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Employ Yourself vs Being Employed by CultureHey kid. Good for you for actually thinking these things through. My experience has been that if you find something that excites you, life is okay. If you don't, life is terrible. Sometimes you can find something in a job that excites you. Sometimes that thing only lasts a little while, and then it's time to move on. Launching a business is the epitome of getting involved in work on one's own terms and it's something I highly recommend trying. If you're passionate about something, you'll have en… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/10/15 08:14 AM |
| 173 | Man who found out his girlfriend gives happy ending massages decides to stay with her.I wouldn't really give a fuck what a nerd virgin congregating on a sub of closed minded nerd virgins say This reminds me of RedPillSchool's big post when we hit 100,000 members. The way that society condemns men who are working to improve their chances with women is by calling them bad with women. Stay the course boys. Get through the anger phase. Get better with women. Get better with social interactions generally. Get better at life generally. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/10/15 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Putting women in the friend zone - yes its possibleFair re the favors; it's important to be careful. Take more favors than what people feel good about and it will reflect badly on you for sure. Better to always keep everyone sweet. I worked in real estate and the guys selling commercial office buildings were assholes, which is to say that the scumminess of sales reaches into some of the highest levels of the industry. B2B sales, though, might make sense - something where there's a relationship that needs to be maintained so you don't profit from… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/10/15 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Putting women in the friend zone - yes its possibleYes, people should be treated with respect and fairness. Exploiting people is bad. Completely. But doing favors for friends is completely natural. And sometimes people like you so much that they want to provide you with lots of favors. Of course, it's bad form to ask for a favor which is a burden for others (leeching). At the same time, if someone likes you so much they want to do something for you, it's bad form to disallow it. It's not so much about "extracting" value, but about guiding people… | /r/TheRedPill | 16/10/15 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Putting women in the friend zone - yes its possibleOkay Eeor. If that's what you want to believe, then it will become your reality. However, there are other realities to choose from. I did a post on what charisma is and how to cultivate it here. The top commenter provides great specific examples. The TL;DR is that charismatic people possess three main qualities: presence, power and warmth, and that there are ways to cultivate these. Also, see my comment in another part of this thread for a more detailed response. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/15 10:46 PM |
| 0 | Putting women in the friend zone - yes its possibleTo be fair, that woman was very overweight. However, she had a fun personality and I was able to "vibe" with her. I got to know her through a school project and over time, she developed a strong attraction for me. However, we both agreed to pretend like she wasn't sexually attracted to me and that she just really liked me like a good friend. Just remember, whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/15 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Putting women in the friend zone - yes its possibleDid a post on that here | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/15 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Putting women in the friend zone - yes its possibleI did a post on what charisma is and how to cultivate it here. The top commenter provides great specific examples. The TL;DR is that charismatic people possess three main qualities: presence, power and warmth, and that there are ways to cultivate these. Edit: See my comment in another part of this thread for a more detailed response. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/15 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Putting women in the friend zone - yes its possiblePower dynamics are at play in every human relationship. Whoever likes the other person the least has the most power and has more leeway in the relationship to do and say what they want, and even to extract favors. "Friendship", in my view is just a relationship in which people provide mutual value to each other in some capacity. In the best friendships, the value provided is high, and that value comes entirely from personal qualities originating authentically from each individual. In your case, … | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/15 04:55 PM |
| 2 | Putting women in the friend zone - yes its possibleI did a post on this recently. Find it here. Cliff notes: King describes charismatic people people as possessing three key traits: presence, power, and warmth He suggests a path similar to method acting. Imagine a character who you want to be like and ask, "How would they be in this situation?" and then just play the role. (edit: To the extent possible, try to think the thoughts they would think and try to feel the emotions they would feel). u/All__fun hijacked the post with some great specific … | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/15 04:38 PM |
| 0 | Reply [Fraternity]Yes. I was actually thinking of calling it a monastery and making it only open to men in monk mode, but then I wasn't sure if I was ready to make that commitment myself for more than 6 months or so... | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/15 08:44 AM |
| 0 | Reply [Fraternity]Yes. I resonate with that vibration. Except with less mayhem and decrepit buildings. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/15 08:43 AM |
| 4 | Reply [Fraternity]Like u/michael_wilkins, I also do not want to be associated with a redpill brand IRL. However, it would be great to belong to a 'boys club' and it would be great to live in a bro house. Rules for the house would be simple - no women and no bullshit. Actually, I have been thinking of starting a bro-house in ..., as early as Jan 1st, 2016. Rent is as expensive as fuck and so getting roommates makes sense. It would make a lot of sense to get something like a 4-bedroom house and then bunk 2 to a roo… | /r/TheRedPill | 13/10/15 06:34 AM |
| 1 | Thought experiment for BP: If Elliot Rogers and that Oregon guy got unlimited access to pussy, do you honestly believe they'd still shoot up places?Everyone's a potential terrorist! Look for where the most pain is and that's where you'll find people turning to violence as a solution. True for black and other minority gang culture. True for incel males. True for women who kill their own children. When people are really unhappy, they do crazy stupid destructive things. Personally, I'm quite happy with my life and how it's going. I have no intentions of ever doing anything violent or encouraging anything violent (are you listening FBI?). My co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/15 05:28 AM |
| 1 | Thought experiment for BP: If Elliot Rogers and that Oregon guy got unlimited access to pussy, do you honestly believe they'd still shoot up places?The article I linked to was not based on the James Prescott article. The article I linked to, by Christopher Ryan (here it is again), was an opinion response to an article by Dr. Stephen Diamond. Christopher Ryan, in his opinion response, cited data from the Prescott study as supporting evidence, alongside several other references to outside information. The thrust of Ryan's article is found in the last sentence: If we accept that our species is and always has been optimized for a highly sexual … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/15 03:31 AM |
| 3 | Thought experiment for BP: If Elliot Rogers and that Oregon guy got unlimited access to pussy, do you honestly believe they'd still shoot up places?Wow. Really? Even after OP acknowledged my comment as the best response? That's bold. Who are you protecting exactly? You must really not like TRPers at all! Haha. Oh well. Doesn't matter. OP put my reply right in the main post. I win. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/15 02:52 AM |
| 2 | Thought experiment for BP: If Elliot Rogers and that Oregon guy got unlimited access to pussy, do you honestly believe they'd still shoot up places?First of all, I'm not sure if you're purposefully being misleading or just extremely confused regarding that quote: The guy this article quotes concludes with the following For all of the above reasons, I have concluded that... That "For all of the above reasons..." quote comes from a completely different and unrelated author and source (find it here). Secondly, regarding the interpretation of this quote: Criminologists have long known that unmarried young men commit the bulk of the crimes My in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/15 01:06 AM |
| 2 | Thought experiment for BP: If Elliot Rogers and that Oregon guy got unlimited access to pussy, do you honestly believe they'd still shoot up places?Women don't and can't understand the intensity of the internal pain that is male sexual frustration. It manifests as feelings of intense simultaneous anger and shame. There is a biological basis for this. It's supposed to be inspiration to man-up and do something worthwhile. Unfortunately, some men can't translate that anger-energy into constructive action. They can't find any outlet for this anger-energy. And when there is no outlet for pressure, things explode. It's really stupid to speak cond… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/15 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Thought experiment for BP: If Elliot Rogers and that Oregon guy got unlimited access to pussy, do you honestly believe they'd still shoot up places?Oh yeah, well I don't think you understand humor! Proof | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/15 09:31 PM |
| 3 | Why increasing number of women don't want to be identified as feminists anymore, and as humanists instead, because of how fucked up feminism really has becomeI consider myself a masculinist, which is to say I support men in having a healthy view of themselves and their masculine qualities, despite all the fucked up hate speech that feminism preaches against men. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/10/15 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Why increasing number of women don't want to be identified as feminists anymore, and as humanists instead, because of how fucked up feminism really has becomeFeminism as a movement has obviously deteriorated into man hate-speech, and that's sad. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/10/15 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Why increasing number of women don't want to be identified as feminists anymore, and as humanists instead, because of how fucked up feminism really has becomeClearly these actresses are intelligent to make millions of dollars. Um, no. The ability to act well does not necessarily confer intelligence, just for the record. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/10/15 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Charisma, method acting and the reason for the harsh tone of this subHmm. Yeah. I get that, actually. I think that my parents fighting a lot when I was a kid was very mentally stressful. It has made me stronger in the sense that when people fight, I'm very good at mediating conflict, but I think my dad is stronger mentally than me because he grew up sort of on the streets in a fairly dangerous 3rd world country. Physical danger and challenges, and the positive effect they have on your mental toughness is much greater than mental stresses. Agreed. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/15 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Charisma, method acting and the reason for the harsh tone of this subInteresting. Then red pill may not be the best place for you! This place is all about power and presence generation. Generating warmth, without becoming beta, is a tricky thing but totally doable. It has to do with cultivating a genuine interest in people, rather than trying to make people happy. Each person has a unique story and world-perspective. Each person re-constructs the entire universe according to their own view and when they die an entire universe dies with them. When you are really p… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/15 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Charisma, method acting and the reason for the harsh tone of this subStress is stress. Whether it's external or internal, it's all internal ultimately, and it all makes you stronger. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/15 05:58 AM |
| 2 | Charisma, method acting and the reason for the harsh tone of this subGreat. Let me add to that. It may be better to ask "how would they react to this situation?" Don't just think about their physical reactions, but think about their mental and emotional reactions as well. What sorts of thoughts and feelings would they have in this situation and how would that direct their actions? Then search for those thoughts and feelings inside yourself. They may be faint, but they'll be there, and just lock tight on them and don't let them go. They are your new you. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/15 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Charisma, method acting and the reason for the harsh tone of this subFeeling your frustration here AND, the past 10-15 years? Really? The Game was published in '05 and Mystery Method in '06, so... Don't get me wrong. I studied the fuck out of Pick Up in '12 and '13 and I think that anyone who is looking to get laid and who has NOT studied pick up, is an idiot. There are great tools there. And to be honest, I haven't gone in-depth with the more recent pick up stuff (all coming out of RSD, right? Are there any other significant camps? I would like to know). I may g… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/10/15 05:52 AM |
| 1 | Charisma, method acting and the reason for the harsh tone of this subOne should learn to embrace pain Agree. Your childhood physical struggles definitely will have made you stronger and people's soft jobs will definitely be making them weaker. Agree. Building charisma is about building power (and presence and warmth) and building power requires you to face and overcome challenges and resistance. The harsh tone of this thread, towards each other and towards women is part of the methodology for increasing our power and thus our charisma. Charismatic, powerful peopl… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/10/15 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Charisma, method acting and the reason for the harsh tone of this subIt's about the focus. In method acting and in TRP your focus is on becoming the role, embodying the character, attempting to feel into the persona so that you think, talk, feel and act like that character, that better, more attractive man that you are aspiring to be. In much of PUA, the focus is often on tactics you can use to manipulate other's feels. Of course PUA has powerful insights and techniques, but they are only effective if you are truly using them in order to internalize the internal … | /r/TheRedPill | 06/10/15 11:32 PM |
| 6 | Charisma, method acting and the reason for the harsh tone of this subThanks for hijacking my post. But seriously, great notes and specific examples. I'll just add my favorite piece of specific advice. Wiggling your toes, as you say, is a good way to stay present. The reason it's good is because it brings attention to body sensations, which are always occurring in the present moment. What I find useful whenever in the least bit feeling awkward is to do a full body scan, Vipassana style, bringing awareness and acceptance to all the body's sensations at once. Accept… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/10/15 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Charisma, method acting and the reason for the harsh tone of this subyou cannot expect a group of alpha male's to be kind and consider your feelz Doesn't matter if alpha's are doing it to help you or just because that's their way and they don't care - the reason it's good for you is because it gives you something to push against. I prefer my take on it because it gives me license to be blunt with people without thinking of myself as an actual asshole who doesn't care about other people's feelings at all - because this would interfere with a view I like to have of… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/10/15 05:53 PM |
| 3 | Relationships are restaurants, not banks.The treats are the positive feelz and the swats on the butt are the negative feelz. is correct because swats on the butt were a reference to the original post: swatting its ass with that newspaper when it shits on your carpet ... | /r/TheRedPill | 06/10/15 06:43 AM |
| 5 | Relationships are restaurants, not banks.What the crap are you talking about? You make her laugh - she feels good. You withdraw attention or pretend to get mad at her - she feels bad. You throw ice at her - she gets worked up and feisty. Here's a great example of fucking with people's emotions, from the immortal classic, Goodfellas. Video Link | /r/TheRedPill | 06/10/15 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Women Have Dating/Sex Problems Too. They're Just Not YOUR Problems.No, you're right. They really do get lonely. Good reminder. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/15 09:12 PM |
| 6 | Women Have Dating/Sex Problems Too. They're Just Not YOUR Problems.Fair point. But really, even as a fairly attractive guy, I've gotten very very little 1st contact from women of any sort. For rudimentarily attractive women, they get lots of attention. They do have abundance. They just don't see it as abundance because they don't see betas, or losers as you call them. If we had abundance of fat women, we'd still not be happy, because we don't see fat women, and we'd have a similar problem to women. But that's not actually the way of things as they currently sta… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/15 07:05 PM |
| 14 | Relationships are restaurants, not banks.Since a Red Pill post wouldn’t be complete without comparing women to dogs It's amazing how much basic behaviorism can be applied successfully to interacting with women. The treats are the positive feelz and the swats on the butt are the negative feelz. It's said that the best workout is the one you keep doing. And one of the best ways to stay committed to something is to enjoy doing it. In that vein, the more fun and joy we can take in pushing women's feelings around up, down and sideways - jus… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/15 06:47 PM |
| 8 | Women Have Dating/Sex Problems Too. They're Just Not YOUR Problems.they are overwhelmed by messages from losers. Right. I hate it when I go on online dating and I get overwhelmed by messages from loser women. Oh wait. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/15 06:35 PM |
| 1 | 30 Day Challenge #3: HIT THE GYMToday, Monday, is a rest day. So just 10 hindus, 10 squats, 10 standing crunches. Plus standard 3 sun salutations and 4-rep chi gong movements. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/10/15 06:03 PM |
| 1 | 30 Day Challenge #3: HIT THE GYMtoday was 80 hindu pushups, 80 standing crunches, 80 calf raises | /r/TheRedPill | 04/10/15 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Lessons from the Oregon gunman... for the mainstreamAgree. This sub is not responsible, and it's not about blame. It's about what we can do to make the world a better place for young men - our brothers - who've been mentally fucked over by our increasingly misandristic society. Constantly calling each others betas is bullshit because it's just fuel for the fire of self-hate that already burns brightly for so many... | /r/TheRedPill | 04/10/15 02:04 PM |
| 1 | 30 Day Challenge #3: HIT THE GYMToday was 60 hindu push ups, 60 jumping squats, 80 muay thai knees, 80 standing crunches. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/10/15 05:38 PM |
| 0 | Lessons from the Oregon gunman... for the mainstreamThe only solution is to form a world-wide boy's club. Women gathered forces under feminism and through the power of persuasion and through simply asking for it, gained power. Imagine how strong men would be if we gathered forces, supported each other and did not ask for power and respect, but rather we collectively demanded it. The power of men in society would rise. It's time for the masculunist movement, the counterpoint to the feminist movement... | /r/TheRedPill | 03/10/15 05:36 PM |
| -1 | Lessons from the Oregon gunman... for the mainstreamPeople break when they don't have social support. You don't see murderous rampages like this in other parts of the world because no other country is so god-damn isolating. Yes, if he had been better supported, if he had felt there was hope, if he had seen evidence of it after he was pushed by peers to do the work necessary, he would not have broken. Instead he got turned off by the intense rhetoric by some people on this sub - believing that he was forever doomed to be beta - that his lot was fi… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/10/15 05:31 PM |
| -1 | Lessons from the Oregon gunman... for the mainstream"if he just had a girlfriend" having a girlfriend isn't something you buy like some videogame at a store it's a experience The sub par existence he had on this planet would be above par if he implemented TRP principles to improve himself and the quality of his interactions with women. His sub par existence would be better if he was able to improve himself to the degree where at least ONE female took a romantic interest in him. All those experiences of "being in love" are just positive bonding ch… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/10/15 05:28 PM |
| 2 | 30 Day Challenge #3: HIT THE GYMDid 70 hindu push ups this morning, something like one hundred squats, something like 60 muay thai knees. Will count better tomorrow. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/10/15 10:10 AM |
| 2 | Lessons from the Oregon gunman... for the mainstreamCompetition for what? There are enough women to go around, especially if we properly educate men about the value of not committing. Incels whose frustration levels are so high that they are induced to suicide or manslaughter - that sucks. I want to help my fellow man. If we men don't start looking out for each other, the "women are wonderful" effect is going to really mess us up. The competition is, if anything, between the genders not among them. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/10/15 10:08 AM |
| 4 | Recently angered or distressed? Hitting the gym serves more purposes than boosting confidence and general fitness."lifting works as fine as meditation." True. Moving meditations are some of the purest. Sitting meditations require more mental effort to reach states of zen. Moving meditations get you to zen with very little mental effort. And that's not at all a bad thing. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/10/15 09:16 AM |
| 1 | They don't want to know your struggle, so don't let them see it. The "Aspire not Desire Framework"Yes. This is the TRP revolution. It's not that PUA doesn't have real insights into human behavior. It's that the methodology encourages self-judging and self-conscious feelings of awkwardness. TRP teaches to act from a place of confidence and see where you can go. Find your feelings of confidence and then, from that base, go exploring to see what sort of reactions you'll get out of women when you do this or that. It's all a game. That's why its called playing the game. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/10/15 08:33 AM |
| 2 | Just observed a metric fuck ton of RP truths in the past 24 hours. There's no way I can ever turn back now. This is the way things areGood job not fucking the girl in event 1. Sounds like you made the right choice with the "I've hurt you in the past, so we're just going to be friends." She's coming to you for comfort and you're a good man to not leverage that desire in exchange for sex which you know will emotionally traumatize her further - something for which you will also pay a cost. Also, doesn't feel good to hurt another human being, even if they are being a complete idiot. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/10/15 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Your struggle and pain? Women neither understand nor give much of a fuck.My explanations of red pill truth come in red pill format. E.g., Her: You're so arrogant. Me: You love it. Her: (giggles; hits arm playfully) Me to my plate: Women like a strong man. Don't you like my muscles? Her: (stroking my arm) I do... | /r/TheRedPill | 02/10/15 06:25 PM |
| 7 | Women don't crave drama. They crave the data and power drama gives them.The less information you give about yourself, and the more you're able to collect from others, the more power you have. This is why being stoic is such a powerful tool. In the less than fortunate situation where a woman has the power, my experience has been that flirting with them (making them smile, making them laugh, teasing them, joking with them, taking an interest in their opinions and thoughts on things; indicating you agree with their opinions and are emotionally "on their side") is the b… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/10/15 07:26 AM |
| 2 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelUgh. Really? How many people in this forum would have the capacity to accomplish what my FOAF accomplished completely unaided? How valuable, then is that insight from him? How valuable am I, then, for bringing this insight to this community and expanding the shit out of it based on my own experiences and based on complex understandings of the latest social dynamic theories? How positive is it that the comments demonstrate that I've facilitated new understandings and inspired insights and aha mom… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/08/15 07:49 AM |
| 24 | Every unhappy wife is a rape victimThis discussion doesn't lend itself well to oppositional debate. OP isn't trying to make an "argument of fact". I think the main point of the post is to point to the uncomfortableness around sex that women often feel. If committed (blue pill) men were to really understand and empathize with this uncomfortableness, they would understand that the most kind and compassionate thing they can do for the woman in their life is to become real, burly, masculine, weight-lifting, not-giving-a-fuck manly me… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/08/15 07:04 AM |
| 43 | Every unhappy wife is a rape victimThe beauty of this post is that it is painfully clear in its explanation of a woman's perception of events. Rather than focusing on the "cold hard facts" (e.g., "it's not rape if she agreed to it"), you focus on the subjective experience of the event for women. You obviously don't condone sending married men to prison for these types of interactions. But what you are doing is making married blue pill men (who read this) very uncomfortable with their heretofore unassailable logic as to how to get… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/08/15 06:34 AM |
| 1 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelCheating is always wrong because it is a transgression of trust which causes great pain. The success of our species as a whole depends on us maintaining trust with each other and each breakage of trust is another drop in the bucket of human misery. I'm not trying to blame women for being worse human beings (though it's arguable) or give men an excuse for cheating. I am, however, trying to get everyone to understand the fact that when a woman engages in sexual cheating, allowing herself to get pe… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/08/15 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelThanks for the backup. Correct. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/08/15 05:57 AM |
| 2 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelThat post has been deleted... so I don't know exactly what it is that you're trying to say except, I think, that you think my post isn't based in any real world experience and is simply theoretical guess work. It's not. It is based in real world experience - though not entirely my own. What is my own is the level on which I grasped the truth (rooted in my fundamental understanding of social dynamics, based on my real world experience) and the way in which I could point to this truth by referenci… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/08/15 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelwhat is the act that creates the transgression. With women it's the sexual act, with men, it's the act of promising commitment and provisioning to another woman. You could argue ditching a loyal girl and committing to another is just as cruel as a female's sexual transgressions. Spot on. men care more about sexual cheating, while women care more about emotional cheating And since sexual cheating is the kind of cheating we generally refer to when we say cheating... Anyway, it's not a competition … | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/15 08:59 PM |
| 6 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelWhat I think makes it cruel is that women know or should know what an incredible violation of trust it is to let someone else fuck her senseless (ONS scenario), bending her over, sticking cock in her mouth or butt. When a woman cheats in the primal ONS style, she is giving her body to that other man to be used. When a man cheats and fucks another girl senseless (again in a ONS scenario), he is the one doing the fucking and not the one getting fucked. The difference between penetrating and allowi… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/15 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelHaha. Fair point re Nascar fan mentality. And though I still disagree with the point in your first reply, your comments about sex and commitment both being rare currencies is a great analogy. By this analogy, men will get more hurt if their woman engages in physical cheating and women will get more upset if their man is actively considering leaving. I think the main point of all of this is to understand and empathize with the fact that, for a man, it is qualitatively a much different (and worse)… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/15 05:04 PM |
| 3 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelHmm. You're adding something valuable to the conversation. That type of cheating - e.g., with the bag boy, a non alpha, to scratch an itch one way or another - is something an older "committed" woman might do and the type of alpha targeting cheating I'm referring to may -as you say- be more applicable to the younger naive crowd. The former is the same type of cheating which men generally engage in (just to scratch an itch) - the latter is a much more real and damaging violation of trust. So ther… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/15 04:28 PM |
| 7 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelYou must be a woman to think this is true, because this is how women's brains operate. The qualities that the new target has, for a man, is generally novelty and that wears out almost immediately. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/15 04:14 PM |
| 2 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelI appreciate you being at least somewhat civil in your disagreement. I think there's just a miscommunication here, not a true disagreement. You are mistaking my use of the word reason with another. Attraction is not a choice - the urges for sexual action with someone else are not rooted in any human based logic. The reason for these urges are rooted in evolution. The reason for women's urges are specific - I.e., a woman will feel the urge to have hot extra martial sex only if her man isn't being… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/15 03:57 PM |
| 9 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelYes. This is what I try to tell my adepts. Be wary of women. They are inherently better at this than you are. They are better communicators and are better at reading facial expressions. They are better liers and deceivers. They are more skilled in almost every measure of social interaction. Respect that and keep it always in mind. Our stoicism and inner strength is our greatest asset though - they can't stand to not know what's going on inside our heads. Point well taken - be wary of the less ob… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/15 07:14 AM |
| 1 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelThanks man. Ha ha. No hope, huh? That's a good mentality to have. To make it work, you really have to not care if there is any hope of your woman regaining respect for you. I'd like the married and ltr saps out there to feel that there is some hope. If you actually man up and become boss of your household again, then your woman might get wet for you again. Just don't count on it. And /u/tpfr is probably right - don't hope for it either - that will not serve you. Either way, I think the take home… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/15 07:05 AM |
| 4 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelYes, woman, all your relationships are more "heartfelt", sexual or not. You are the more nurturing sex. That's exactly what makes it more devastating. A man having a ONS is just getting his dick wet. A woman, while trying to scratch that same primal itch, is having a "heartfelt" connection with the Chad who's deep throating her. The reason for her desire to have good sex is rooted in a desire to be with a man who is more manly than her man. That's what hurts. Would a woman on the prowl for good … | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/15 06:22 AM |
| 30 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelGood advice here. Ignoring her and working on yourself is, in fact, one of the best ways to walk away. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/15 06:07 AM |
| 34 | Men Cheat and Women Cheat - But when women cheat it's way more devastating and cruelYou're saying that you can still love your woman if you fuck sluts on the side. Fair enough. That's exactly like a female saying 'you can still leech off money from your beta while getting alpha cock on the side When a woman cheats on but doesn't break up with her man so she can leech off of him, she is using her man. When a man cheats on his woman with a slut, he is using the slut. That's the difference. When women feel horny for another guy, it's because there's something about the qualities o… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/08/15 05:43 AM |
| 4 | I watched five minutes of "Trainwreck" so you don't have to.Guys, Amy Schumer is totally going to Google herself and find this thread... | /r/TheRedPill | 02/08/15 12:37 PM |
| 2 | Sexual Tension Is Currency - Beware of the economic meltdownI appreciate you trying to get on board with the analogy but think that we are viewing things a bit differently. I'll make another post with more details on the sexual tension as currency idea as I see it. I have no doubt you have a complex understanding of male/female interaction dynamics but don't think your message comes through very clearly above. I'll keep an eye out for theory posts from you, however, as it seems you are giving the topic plenty of thought. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/07/15 12:23 AM |
| 2 | Indian men are beta because it was a sexual strategy that actually WORKEDYou can chalk the entire difference up to the fact that the family, and not the woman, is choosing the husband... | /r/TheRedPill | 27/06/15 08:07 AM |
| 3 | Anti-Slut Defense isn't about not wanting to be a slut. ASD is their way of making sure you're worth showing her slutty side to.ASD is just another form of flirting. Two steps forward, one step backwards. Girls like that shit. Escalate, escalate, escalate, pause, distract, come back to escalation. If you do it right, you do the escalations and the pauses naturally without her having to stop you. You take control of the action: the escalation and the pauses. Cycle this over and over again, with each cycle getting more intense. Can continue this process after you've started having sex as well, to make the sex progressively… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/15 09:14 PM |
| 2 | The Red Pill is Not PUAONE THING PUA DOES WELL - It teaches techniques for how to have effective social interactions. You can be as good looking and confident as you want. If you don't know how to talk to women, you're going to have a bad time. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/06/15 09:01 PM |
| 12 | The Uncanny Valley Between Alpha And Beta MalesThere was this one office chick... At the office I had relatively low social value just due to my position as an analyst and due to the fact that the sales guys had categorically more status (real estate office). That chick never really gave me the time of day. I eventually quit that job and started working behind a bar. One night, I was out with one of my guy friends and we see this office chick in the smokers area, so I say hello. I know my confidence, game, and style was much tighter, and I w… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/06/15 08:28 PM |
| 2 | Women in Education: A Reflection from my Career as a TeacherWomen largely are not aware of the fact that their understanding of their surroundings is filtered through her emotional state, and therefore she is not able to put her personal feelings aside far enough to make decisions for the sake of the group. This is the the scariest truest thing I read. This is why the timing of any interaction with a woman is so important. The outcome depends much more on the emotional states than on the facts involved. The facts are only a very small contributing factor… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/05/15 02:55 AM |
| 12 | If women used to marry for stability and security, what did men marry for?Here's some reasons men used to (and continue to) get married: Feelings of love (e.g, oneitis) To quell feelings of loneliness Guarantee of sex To guarantee survival of their offspring This last one is evolutionary and as such provides the biological basis for the feels which support the other three motives. The evolutionary perspective also points to a possible dualistic mating strategy for men: Option one is to scatter your seed far and wide, sleeping with as many women as possible. Option two… | /r/TheRedPill | 27/05/15 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Buddhist perspective on unicorns, passions and purpose in lifeInteresting, for sure. Drugs help you get high and see the scenery. But then you come down and have to do all the footwork yourself. The higher you get, the more you realize you've been missing and the more drastically you might be thrusted into the dark night, but also the more motivation you'll have for spiritual development. The pros and cons of drug use :-) | /r/TheRedPill | 26/05/15 02:13 AM |
| 2 | Buddhist perspective on unicorns, passions and purpose in lifeI have stopped trying to show compassion for assholes and thinking that "their attitude stems from inner suffering" bullshit. No, when people are fucking dicks towards me these days I give them back 110% and people have finally started to treat me with respect. I am actually much more happy now. Yes! I totally agree here. Being raised by Buddhist parents I learned to suppress my own feelings and to not push back when people were stepping on them. After my wife cheated on me, I really learned the… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/05/15 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Buddhist perspective on unicorns, passions and purpose in lifeNothing is good enough for you, is it? My ex said the same thing to me :-) Ha. I think we're wired differently us men and women. The masculine strives to achieve, improve, explore, conquer. The feminine strives for harmony, unity, beauty. Expecting any woman to get as excited as you do about an adventure (material world or spiritual) is probably a recipe for not getting your expectations met. And there's definitely a need to protect any LTR female from feeling that we are trying to change her or… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/05/15 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Buddhist perspective on unicorns, passions and purpose in life"let go of all things" buddhism Yeah. There's a problem here. The solution to suffering is not "let go of all things". That is a problem with translation from the East to the West. Here's how I think about it: 2nd Noble Truth: The source of life's unsatisfactoriness (suffering) is craving desire (attachment) Mistaken Conclusion: Just get rid of all your attachments and desires and you'll become enlightened! 3rd Noble Truth: There is a way out of suffering (and it's not just a simple negation of … | /r/TheRedPill | 26/05/15 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Buddhist perspective on unicorns, passions and purpose in lifeBuddhism gives an easy way out into apathy. How do I know? I've been there and it sucked. I agree with you here; it does suck. It sucks enough that some people call this stage "the dark night of the soul." The koan might be accurately adjusted to read like this: Before Enlightenment: Chop wood, carry water; During the Dark Night of The Soul: Become hopelessly apathetic, depressed and useless After Enlightenment: Chop wood, carry water Ha. And some people never make it through the dark night. Som… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/05/15 01:44 AM |
| 2 | Buddhist perspective on unicorns, passions and purpose in lifeI haven't. I will take a look. Thank you. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/05/15 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Can a girl be alpha widowed to a terrible person?Her dad murdered her mom Fuck. I'm not going to forget this little tidbit of internetting. That is so fucked up. She'll be messed up, for sure. She'll be needing love and more than you or any one human can give. Hopefully she finds meditation or other form of spiritual development. And yeah, don't pin your future to her. | /r/askTRP | 23/05/15 09:31 AM |
| 1 | Ltr pissed cause I'm goin out with buddiesgood advice here already... | /r/askTRP | 23/05/15 09:28 AM |
| 1 | New to TRP mentality. Give me any piece of advice/wisdom you've got.It's called the sidebar. | /r/askTRP | 23/05/15 09:26 AM |
| 6 | Sooo... This just happened...Yup. Radio silent. You don't contact her. She won't contact you. Use this as fuel for the future to make yourself more memorable and desirable in your initial interactions. | /r/askTRP | 23/05/15 09:25 AM |
| 1 | Chaeting ex came back...Is it bad if I want to play with ex's feelings a bit? The pain we intentionally inflict on others always comes back to us. However, if you can't help it, you can't help it. Do what feels authentic. | /r/askTRP | 23/05/15 09:21 AM |
| 2 | Went to the gym and listened to NMMNG on audible, author recommends joining a support group or seeing a counselor.This is true. I guess guys would have to be vetted on the basis of previous comments in their account's history. I want to get a group of guys together in the bay area who are going through monk mode, at the very least for weights, maybe for discussion or meditation. I remember the PUA community used to have "lairs". I wouldn't share an apartment with just anyone - way too likely they'd be a SJW, blue-piller, white knight, and/or feminist. But a reasonable post-anger phase RP room-mate or two mi… | /r/askTRP | 23/05/15 09:17 AM |
| 1 | Went to the gym and listened to NMMNG on audible, author recommends joining a support group or seeing a counselor.I just did some reading on The Mankind Project's "Warrior Training" weekend. My plate has been recommending this to me for a while because it helped her ex-husband get in touch with his masculine side (though not enough to prevent her from tricking him into an open relationship and falling out of love with him...). There are lots of words written about this thing online. Most of them (not coming from the official website ) are very derogatory (and very long). My synopsis: It's a bunch of guys dr… | /r/askTRP | 23/05/15 09:11 AM |
| 2 | Went to the gym and listened to NMMNG on audible, author recommends joining a support group or seeing a counselor.That said. Are there any physical locations where TRP guys get together, e.g., to lift weights ? | /r/askTRP | 23/05/15 08:51 AM |
| 3 | Brooding to be stoicEither that, OR I have my own unique perspective based on real-world experience which corresponds with and extends beyond truths that TRP philosophy has uncovered. I'm not making this up. I'm here to help people based on my own past experiences and insights into what works. Seems you're the one trolling me at this point... I'm over it. | /r/askTRP | 22/05/15 08:18 AM |
| 2 | Modern-day LTRs and MarriageWow. You're young. I got married at 24 and that was too young in my case. I'd also already had sex with 7 other girls and, well, it seems like very precious little experience that you two are both basing your relationship on. That said... -Your description of her sounds very sweet. -The quality of the relationship you have is very special. It would be hard or impossible to ever get what you've got again. -You'll never be happy if you're always playing the "what if I'm going to want more later" g… | /r/askTRP | 22/05/15 08:11 AM |
| 2 | Brooding to be stoicGreat question. The trick is to smile and laugh when there's actually something to smile and laugh about. Examples include: -Smile genuinely when seeing someone for the first time that day (assuming you like them) -Laugh loudly and confidently at a funny joke or funny story, especially your own. A man who fluctuates quickly and purposefully between affects demonstrates power. It shows you are willing to express yourself and unafraid of what other people think. It shows you are fun to be around. … | /r/askTRP | 22/05/15 07:50 AM |
| 2 | Caught LTR in a stupid lie, got an unexpected reaction.Maybe I shouldn't have had sex as a reward but at the moment I saw it more as comforting since I kind of interrogated her and then gave her some space and then returned to console her and allow her to open up to me and subsequently apologize. Let me know what you think though. Nah. I think that was right on. You let her know that you wouldn't put up with unreasonable behavior. She threw an emotional fit and made like she was going to leave. You stood strong. She stalled. You let her know that yo… | /r/askTRP | 22/05/15 07:44 AM |
| 0 | Caught LTR in a stupid lie, got an unexpected reaction.Dark Triad is not a social strategy, it is "an immoral trifecta of personality traits... To be more specific, it is composed of three “anti-social” mental schemas which work in tandem to form “the dark triad.” " Cultivation of those mental schemas is what it means to be Dark Triad - there is no ability to use those mental schemas for good because those schemas are necessarily amoral (and usually immoral by most all moral contexts) by definition. I'm not sure about what the feminist label argumen… | /r/askTRP | 22/05/15 07:37 AM |
| 0 | Caught LTR in a stupid lie, got an unexpected reaction.How the fuck am i trolling? You're the one getting moralistic over reasonable behavior. His girl was straight up lying to him about what she said five minutes previously - and he didn't stand for it. Your original argument is the same one a SJW would use. In any case, I'm sure I'll always have irreconcilable differences with someone who thinks good sex advice is "Think of baseball and dead children during sex." Go fuck yourself and think of dead babies, dipshit. | /r/askTRP | 22/05/15 07:32 AM |
| 1 | Caught LTR in a stupid lie, got an unexpected reaction.Regarding "inflicting emotional damage". This is something that when talked about rationally seems cold and sociopathic to outside observers. Yet, if OP truly does care about this person, as he says he does, and is working to try to improve the relationship (e.g., greater goal), then it's appropriate. The languaging that others prefer to use (e.g., white knights, SJWs, Blue Pillers, therapists), is instead of phrasing it, "inflict emotional pain", say "let them know you're upset." The problem th… | /r/askTRP | 22/05/15 04:21 AM |
| 0 | Caught LTR in a stupid lie, got an unexpected reaction.He's not an asshole. Labels are generalizations and all generalizations are wrong (see what I did there? :-) ). You don't think his actions were useful and think they were not fair to her or useful to his overall goals. That's what you're trying to say when you call him an asshole, though I think this phrasing is a bit more useful and less arrogant. And what's this that you think there is such a thing as "good dark triad?". Are you kidding? Dark triad personalities are about as fucked up as you … | /r/askTRP | 22/05/15 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Caught LTR in a stupid lie, got an unexpected reaction.I am going to concisely summarize the meat of my earlier reply and then elaborate with some actual advice. Bringing up the fact that she minimized the window rather than closed it would only be useful if you phrased it as a joke - because you really shouldn't care that much about that and I don't think you really have the right to tell her to close it rather than minimize it. You don't, in fact, own her. Breaking her balls for lying about what she did and then lying about what she just said is e… | /r/askTRP | 22/05/15 03:57 AM |
| 3 | Caught LTR in a stupid lie, got an unexpected reaction.Hey dude. You're getting a lot of hate on this thread and I feel for you. When I was married my wife wouldn't turn off the tv so we could talk. She would only want to talk in the commercial breaks. So, I feel you for wanting her to get rid of the window. But that's really what you should have said, "get rid of it", because minimizing it really did fulfill your objectives at the time if I understand it (you wanted her attention). It was her right to go back to reading that article later and women… | /r/askTRP | 22/05/15 02:35 AM |
| 1 | On top of my SMV... now what?I think that the concern with the word "charm" in the manosphere has to do with the effort that may be implied. Beta men try very hard to be charming. My dad is naturally charming. He loves being a charmer. He makes comments on women's clothing, on their bodies, on sexiness as a general topic, constantly. He compliments women constantly. But he does it from a place of strength. He is obviously doing it to try and get these women riled up, in a good way, and he succeeds. They are absolutely charm… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/05/15 09:22 PM |
| 1 | The end goal is to be fun, not stoic.It seems you have a lot of knowledge to share. Can you point to your FB fan page? Providing the opportunity for women to have fun as opposed to "being a fun guy" is a worthwhile distinction. Thanks for that. I believe strongly in the importance of having fun and enjoying oneself, but I think it's good to identify "having fun" and "facilitating fun" as two separate activities. There is danger in simply promoting the idea of "being a fun guy". Hadn't really clarified that in my head before this. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/05/15 07:35 PM |
| -1 | Let's talk about sex, babyI don't believe in shame, to start. What's your point though? What's got you so upset? | /r/TheRedPill | 07/05/15 10:41 PM |
| -1 | Let's talk about sex, babyThanks for letting me know that I didn't cover up her name enough. I've removed the post. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/05/15 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Why So Serious? - How to enjoy life in one easy step2 nerve-racking days. I got probably 15 rejections before I entered a bar and the owner just happened to be there and looking for someone. I took notes after each encounter of the name of the bar, the time I went, and the name of the person I talked to. So the next day, when I went around again, I could be like "I was here yesterday afternoon taking with Sarah..." - It sort of gave me some social proof. You want to talk directly with the bar manager or owner if possible, but NEVER at the expense… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/05/15 08:28 PM |
| 0 | Why So Serious? - How to enjoy life in one easy stepIf you're currently concerned with shoring up your ability to provide for yourself financially - food and shelter - then now is not the appropriate time to practice having a good time. But keep it in mind as a future self-improvement activity. Money can't buy happiness. Happiness comes from your brain. Training your brain circuits to release happy-feeling chemicals is definitely a worthy goal... AFTER you've shored up the base of your Mazlo's hierarchy pyramid. May the force be with you. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/05/15 02:47 PM |
| 2 | Why So Serious? - How to enjoy life in one easy stepHey. That's my pleasure. Take some slow deep breaths bro. It is going to be alright. Everything works out in the end. It always does. As long as your breathing, you're winning. Release thoughts which concern things you can't control. Release those thoughts entirely and immediately! If it all burns to the ground, you'll be there to pick it up. And life will keep going. It always does. Thanks for the thanks. Makes the whole post worthwhile. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/05/15 02:33 PM |
| -1 | Why So Serious? - How to enjoy life in one easy stepWhy are you so intense? The pain you feel, that is driving your intensity, is right on the surface. I respect men who relentlessly improve themselves. I am one of them. "Ability to have a good time" is a valuable life skill that is often overlooked by self-improvers who take themselves too seriously; not all self-improvers; just most of them. Cultivating this ability is a part of self-improvement that is often overlooked by self-improvers because there's an unstated understanding that self-impro… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/05/15 02:25 PM |
| 2 | Why So Serious? - How to enjoy life in one easy stepI found a two-week long bartending course and enrolled in it. They were night classes. The hardest part was writing my resignation letter. I think the key is to commit to yourself over and over that you're going to do it. Then, one day when you're really feeling fed up just write the whole resignation letter and submit it. Quit your real job first and get your bar job second. You need the pressure to push you to go out there. Getting a bar job is about walking from one bar to another with your r… | /r/TheRedPill | 06/05/15 02:14 PM |
| 30 | Why So Serious? - How to enjoy life in one easy stepWould love to hear more about the skills you picked up from this experience. The general skill set I'd characterize as "being an expert at having a good time". The specific skills within this skill set are ridiculously simple to understand conceptually, yet difficult to master practically. Just quickly, some strategies I noticed from the most socially fun and awesome people: DO NOT TALK ABOUT YOURSELF. Talking about yourself and your mission and your life goals and blah blah blah is serious talk… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/15 06:59 PM |
| 4 | Why So Serious? - How to enjoy life in one easy stepCash can be taken from you at the turn of the economy. Cash is not a part of you. If you have your ego wrapped up in your bank balance you are in line for a rude awakening some day - hopefully sooner than later. Your character and outlook on life - your way of interpreting events - this is the only thing that cannot be taken away from you. It is the essence of your personality. Everything else is fluff. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/15 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Why So Serious? - How to enjoy life in one easy stepYou are in a great position to learn to have a good time because you are so wealthy - you will be able to create opportunities for yourself. The key for you is going to be to practically understand the essence of having a good time. Even without money, what is the essence of enjoying the moment and how do people trance themselves into it? How can you trance yourself into having a good time with others? I've personally found that the only way to really learn this is by observing and interacting w… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/15 06:39 PM |
| 14 | Why So Serious? - How to enjoy life in one easy stepHe isn't displaying alpha behavior in context of the greater society. Alpha behavior is, by definition, the behavior exhibited by the male at the top of the social hierarchy. However, he is displaying alpha behavior within his own solipsistic reality (namely, confidence). Most importantly, however, (and the real reason he gets laid so much) is that this theoretical artist exudes supreme enjoyment of and passion for the mission he's placed himself on (conveying emotion through his art, or whateve… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/15 05:44 PM |
| 14 | Why So Serious? - How to enjoy life in one easy stepYour post has vitally important social ramifications. Here's some key points you made about how we are in fact at war: The war is in the minds of man and it's being waged on two fronts: - Individuality separates us from the tribe and shifts our values so we get a IDGAF attitude. - Equality invents this idea that striving to be better is a bad thing /u/kingofpoplives also had an interesting comment: I feel we're in the midst of a spiritual war being fought beneath the surface of external reality.… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/15 05:20 PM |
| 1 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male CuckoldingHa. My ex had an affair with a woman as well. It was part of the way she was able to rationalize ("She's just a friend! I'm straight!"). But the truth of it was that this lesbian girl was giving her all the attention vibes that my ex was craving. I'm so glad I got out of it just 1.5 years before our planned "get pregnant" date. ThankYaJesus! | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/15 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Hodgetwins answer a question about an Alpha WidowThose guys are hilarious and have good advice. Be a man and don't bring up stupid shit with your chick. Hit those sugar walls like you the man because you are the man. Learn Sex God Method. Don't bitch to your missus about stuff she can't change. That's stoopid yo. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/15 03:23 AM |
| 1 | FRAME CONTROL SERIES - Anger OutletsYou may need to modify your perception of what the anger inducing behavior means. As a major part of constructing reality involves creating associations and ascribing meaning. This demonstrates a very good understanding of reality. This idea is the foundation for powerful spiritual rituals (e.g. voo-doo rituals). Great post and great advice. Thanks. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/15 03:19 AM |
| 2 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male CuckoldingYou are correct. There is no designer. "Evolution" is not a being which makes conscious decisions about how to design biological organisms. The point of significance is that biological organisms exist in the form they do as a result of evolutionary pressures. This is what's meant when the phrase "evolutionary design" is used. Here's a much more scientifically stated sentence: As a result of evolutionary pressures, human biological organisms have most likely evolved to favor females whose bodies … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/15 03:10 AM |
| 1 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male CuckoldingHighlights: There is no doubt that trance is key to all forms of magic and manipulation; and sex, with all the energy inherent in that act, is a power center of mystical activity. there is a great deal of danger in approaching this subject from the dark side. Guys that use dark "mind fuck" seduction techniques, while certainly effective in certain contexts, end up creating loads of shit karma that they are stuck working through. I'm especially interested in skillful management of the de-escalati… | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/15 02:56 AM |
| 1 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male CuckoldingAll your points are well taken. I like to keep everything on the up and up and avoid any lies and deception. And, at the same time your other point was well taken, re the fact that a lot of guys do themselves a disservice by being so loud and vocal about "no commitments" right up front. This leads me to the following idea: -It's best to communicate your understanding of the relationship covertly/indirectly, through the way you speak and act. Women understand covert communication very well and re… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/15 11:21 PM |
| 1 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male CuckoldingRegarding the “new wrinkle in between plate spinning and established LTR game” - It could be called “Girlfriend Screening Game” if you're giving them a fair shot at your commitment or “Lead Them On Game” if you're knowingly leading them on in order to get better sex. I'm interested in discussing the details of how this game is best played. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/15 09:01 AM |
| 1 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male CuckoldingI'm referencing the evolutionarily designed dualistic mating strategy that is embedded in the female human organism - an accepted part of the red pill philosophy. I'm suggesting that the biology of the female human organism has been constructed in such a way as to promote the biological imperative through the way in which it gives that organism experiences of pleasure. The how and why of what gives a woman intense sexual pleasure will necessarily be dictated by evolutions attempt to induce a dua… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/15 08:44 AM |
| 1 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male Cuckoldinga lot of guys are short changing themselves by opening up with a hard no commitment policy out of the gate. Definitely This is what women really want -- to get lost in the idealized fantasy of "commitment" and absorbed by the ecstasy of entrainment. Yes When the entrainment high wears off and their idealized fantasy of commitment is replaced by a real agreement, with real constraints, with an all-too-real and no longer idealized man, many times these "commitment loving" women are the first to ju… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/15 07:40 AM |
| 1 | Why do the red pill imagine they understand female sexual response?Ah. Yes. This makes sense. Even if you had a vagina, you wouldn't really be able to say why you were feeling this. Though, if you were paying close attention you might be able to comment on the timing of these feelings in relation to the timing of your cycle. Ladies? I've seen women who are super-aroused, absent any actions from a male. Their eyes dart around real actively. They smile and laugh a lot more. They're more energetic and expressive with their bodies. They initiate kino and hitting mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/15 12:47 AM |
| 1 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male CuckoldingFrom my perspective, Brad Pitt left Jennifer Anniston because he got entrained by Angelina Jolie. But anyways... I think locking a woman's DESIRE down for a whole lifetime or any extremely large duration is just a pipe dream and we should all accept that every single girl out there can at some point lose desire for us. Ultimately, it comes down to asking why you would want a woman in your life for a lifetime. If you're doing it just for the awesome sex chemicals, then yes, you'll have to be prep… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/15 12:30 AM |
| 1 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male CuckoldingYou do a good job answering you own question here. Pair bonding sex is high risk, high reward. Much higher highs, but much more potential emotional wreckage. Ha. True. I see TRP as a sort of anti-entrainment social technology. Once you're aware of the mechanics of the process and cycle through it a number of times, it become less and less likely you'll self delude and get wrecked. Okay. This makes sense, AND I have some feedback here. The anti-entrainment social technology being taught through T… | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/15 12:02 AM |
| 2 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male CuckoldingThanks for the support on this theory and also your critical feedback based on your own experience. Everything you're saying rings true and it's well said. The following was well written: Once the entrainment stage runs its course and the neuro-imprinting is complete, a second stage begins where both partners feel out how strongly the imprinting took hold. When the imprinting takes, both sexes will continue to do partner pleasing and relationship strengthening things. If it takes for both, you g… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/05/15 11:35 PM |
| 3 | Why do the red pill imagine they understand female sexual response?men don't seem to understand that often, 'tingles' are building way before any man walks into the room, often to the point of internal 'blue balls' that need release. This is the most interesting line in your post and one I'd like you to elaborate on further, please. Why do the red pill imagine they understand female sexual response? TRP has seen that certain types of guys exhibit certain types of behaviors that routinely elicit sexual interest from females. TRP has developed theories about what… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/15 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Who all here can admit that they are a human capable of making mistakes, being wrong, and feel empathy for the pain of others?My story involves my wife cutting me off from my family and my friends and inducing me to move countries against my better judgment, then having an affair and lying about it for months, using my depression diagnosis as leverage for her point that I was imagining things. I have a feeling that men typically do more damage before relationships (or in the process of avoiding them) and women do more damage in them (or in the process of leaving them). TRP's rants section has lots of accounts of women … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/15 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Let us assume that a portion of young men aspire to fuck as many women as possible with as little investment as possible. I can name a few helpful Red-Pill techniques for this (which I stopped using, after experimenting to prove to myself that they work). Can ANY Blue-Pill strategy help?This right here. Women don't understand the strength of the urge that young men feel and so they demonize it as a "shitty goal". The suggestion to find a hooker is a good one. However, prostitution has largely been made illegal. If women and the blue pill universe don't have any other good response for men than "shame on you for having this urge", then more and more men will be using red pill techniques to satisfy biologically natural urges. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/15 01:59 PM |
| 8 | Why do the red pill imagine they understand female sexual response?there are guys who really think that all women are attracted to completely selfish douchebags. Selfish douchebags are much more likely to engage in fun and playful teasing and flirting than are the conscientious, "want to say the right politically correct, sensitive and funny thing" men. Men who value having a good time are fun to be around. However, you might find this behavior selfish. Men who speak their minds without caring what others think are attractive because they're authentic. However,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/15 01:52 PM |
| 2 | Why do the red pill imagine they understand female sexual response?Exactly. Cocky and funny. One reason that women hate the red pill is because the posts there are very analytical and because they lack the cocky/funny presentation necessary for garnering female interest. Banana! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/15 01:22 PM |
| 1 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male CuckoldingWell, an alternative explanation for the more "difficult" (really just more time consuming) female orgasm I'm not looking for an explanation for the more difficult female orgasm. I'm looking at the more difficult female orgasm as a product of evolutionary adaptation. It is, in part, through the peculiarities of how females orgasm (read: experience intense sexual pleasure) that evolution promotes a dualistic mating strategy in women. Also, if you think that the only skill needed to give a woman a… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/05/15 12:41 PM |
| 3 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male Cuckolding(quickly, I want to say thank you for the quality of this dialogue) However, I wouldn't agree that it's more difficult for a woman to orgasm, it just takes longer (there's a difference). I agree that there is a difference, and I agree that it takes longer, and I still believe that it is more difficult to induce a female orgasm, if you were to judge things on an objective scale. This is based on my experience with dozens of women, based on the sexual and masturbatory anecdotes these women have sh… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/05/15 12:19 PM |
| 2 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male CuckoldingAccording to one large-scale survey of American adults, women have about one orgasm for every three that men have. | /r/TheRedPill | 03/05/15 12:57 AM |
| 10 | The Biological Basis For Routine Male CuckoldingClose, but the orgasm isn't what's driving this. It's genetic diversity You are right about why the female is incentivized to act in the way she does. The post is about how she is incentivized - which has to do with the unique characteristics of the female biological organism. Some of these differences are hidden from view in the complexities of neural networks and how they interact with female hormones. However, the relative difficulty involved in giving a woman an orgasm (as opposed to a man) … | /r/TheRedPill | 03/05/15 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Mate Hunting Vs Sperm Hunting - A theory...Right. But you'll only lose an hour of fidelity or so. She'll get fucked senseless. But if any of her sense returns afterwards, she'll not make a habit of it. Unless, of course, she's totally financially secure. In which case, she will only really be interested in toy boys. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/04/15 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Mate Hunting Vs Sperm Hunting - A theory...You're right. The term is player. Thus, we can define a player as a physically attractive male with game (charm, confidence, ability to stir emotions, etc...) Women have a dualistic mating strategy - they want to pair-bond with the most alpha provider and they want to have ONS no strings attached sex with Players. Good analysis of what the effects on society are likely to be, though personally I don't really care what happens to society as a whole. I'm more interested in maximizing quality of li… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Mate Hunting Vs Sperm Hunting - A theory...women don't find providers sexually attractive. I'm going to reply to that again to make a slightly different point. My experience is that the following is women's experience of love (Note that I'm a huge empath and have had intimate relations and life-story conversations with dozens and dozens of women, so I feel I have a real view into their perspective. This is also based on my integration of all the AWALT stories I've read here): A lot of women do "fall in love" with their Alpha provider mal… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Mate Hunting Vs Sperm Hunting - A theory...women don't find providers sexually attractive. This doesn't ring true. When talking about AWALT and lizard tendencies, women can only understand their Lizard's intention/desire according through the lens of their own perceived sexual attraction. So, when they see a big alpha provider male - one with lots of money, power, cars, and social status (e.g., a prince or military commander or seriously well-connected politician) - she gets physically aroused. There is a "disgust for women" here surroun… | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/15 07:09 PM |
| 3 | TRP without abundance mentality?TRP means being always confident and secure in who you are and in your options. Let's say there's precious few options in your small town or whatever. Then fuck it. Honeybadger don't care. Honeybadger will jack off and enjoy his life anyway. The goal is to maximize happiness. | /r/askTRP | 12/03/15 09:54 AM |
| 2 | critique my failureDude. First of all, good job on getting in the door. Second of all, always be escalating. Always be leading. She wanted you to fuck her, and instead you fucked it up. Kino escalation is essential and movement is conducive to touch. Sitting on a couch talking is not. Bounce her on a walk, punch her in the shoulder, tussle her hair, give her a shoulder rub, tell her to take off her shirt, unclip her bra, massage her clavicle and upper chest, gently rub into the spot on the skull under her ears, te… | /r/askTRP | 12/03/15 09:42 AM |
| 1 | How are you around women you aren't interested in?Always be flirting. Always be cocky funny. Always be interesting, and with good energy. Then the world will be a more fun place for you and the people around you. I like having girl friends I'm not interested in. They do things for me out of impulse, and are happy when I accept. It's a good deal. | /r/askTRP | 12/03/15 09:32 AM |
| 3 | When your plate wants to "hang out"She is sweet, but I get bored with her quite easily unless we're watching a movie, hanging out with other friends or having sex. The idea of being alone with her in nature is painful because we fail to connect conversationally. | /r/askTRP | 12/03/15 07:14 AM |
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