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| 19 | How can I get “in state” faster? | Outer Game | maplemario | /r/seduction | 21/11/21 01:55 AM |
| 17 | In your experience, what are the best first dates? | Logistics | maplemario | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 10:23 PM |
| 4 | Where do you guys go to meet girls? | Fundamentals | maplemario | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 07:25 AM |
| 3 | How to respond to this answer to a cold read? | Conversation | maplemario | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 07:03 AM |
| 1 | Constant “how many lays” posts | Conversation | maplemario | /r/seduction | 10/10/21 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Best way to greet? | Escalation & Calibration | maplemario | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 08:42 AM |
| 0 | What the fuck is this shit | maplemario | /r/seduction | 03/05/17 06:59 AM |
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| 1 | Why do people insist men who have negative attitudes and misogynistic beliefs can't find women because of it when there are so many women who fall for disrespectful and bad men?Not at all, you can equalize looks in this scenario. The difference is WHY he’s disrespectful, entitlement vs. self pity | /r/seduction | 09/04/22 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Why do people insist men who have negative attitudes and misogynistic beliefs can't find women because of it when there are so many women who fall for disrespectful and bad men?Okay heres the deal. There are men who are disrespectful because they’re entitled and care more about themselves, and see women as objects they can have as much of as they want, and acknowledge that they aren’t logical but solve this by dominating and fucking them. Then there are men who are disrespectful because they’re bitter, hate women and see them as objects to be hated because they won’t dole out the divine pussy to them, and they aren’t logical and don’t have the values they should becaus… | /r/seduction | 09/04/22 01:59 AM |
| 2 | best option for letting a guy know I'm interested at the gymIt's tough to say if this is direct enough advice, cause the gym has a serious stigma around approaching girls. I would contest that "if he doesn't hop on that opportunity he's not worth it" for that reason alone. But its up to you | /r/seduction | 08/04/22 07:12 PM |
| 1 | When you're rejected, would you prefer the real reason or given a cliche easy let down reason?Maybe 1 out of 10 girls knows well enough what you did wrong and moreover what you could have done to fix it. MAYBE. Meaning the signal to noise ratio is terrible - you’d probably get misled more by asking for feedback from rejections unless you already have a decent theoretical grasp of advanced game enough to ask the right questions. Which is kind of a catch 22. Which is to say there’s no point in looking for explanations unless the girl has a specific one in mind already. | /r/seduction | 04/04/22 11:34 PM |
| 3 | How do you guys deal with STDs and testing?Well the dudes who fuck every girl in Miami on spring break probably have the testosterone of a horse and drastically improved immunity as a result, vs. a kid who's been with 3 girls in his life, eats processed sugar daily, stays up until 1 playing video games and is afraid to take a risk, so it's not THAT far fetched that they'd be a little less likely to catch something. | /r/seduction | 30/03/22 08:51 PM |
| 1 | How to cope with AA-Approach AnxietyHave a venue Have a go to opening line At a bar or cafe “what are you drinking” works every time. And then “is that actually any good” if it’s anything interesting, “how basic” with a smirk if it’s lame | /r/seduction | 28/03/22 03:33 AM |
| 1 | Focusing on self or focusing on game ?Always both, primary would be self. | /r/seduction | 28/03/22 03:32 AM |
| 2 | Afraid of coming off as creepyDelete the past. Anyone who knew the old you, either stress politely that you’re done looking to the past and only care about the present and future, or cut them out if they won’t listen Also, be genuine and remember you are training to be able to put a smile on the face of every girl you talk to. I’m assuming you don’t want to be a sociopath and you just want to have more fun with women. In which case don’t worry about creeping a couple of people out in the past. | /r/seduction | 28/03/22 03:30 AM |
| 1 | what do you think about this dating advice? (i want women perspective on this, but men is also okay)charisma on command YouTube channel | /r/seduction | 27/03/22 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Want to get laid fast? The easiest way to attract your local ladiesWay more important | /r/seduction | 27/03/22 07:05 AM |
| 1 | Want to get laid fast? The easiest way to attract your local ladiesGuys. Having a 6 pack is not the solution if you can’t talk to women. I’ve had one my whole life and it never compensated for my social skills at any point while I lacked them. Focus on the basics. 6 pack is a cherry on top. | /r/seduction | 27/03/22 07:05 AM |
| 1 | Why are women even on this subreddit?fucking with people is a noble pursuit | /r/seduction | 24/03/22 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Why are women even on this subreddit?It is and it isn't It's worth noting that listening to one girl's advice needs to be taken with a grain of salt because otherwise you will tailor your strategy to her inadvertently, and women are VERY different. One man's advice on the other hand will likely comprise encounters with tens, hundreds, thousands of women over a lifetime | /r/seduction | 24/03/22 04:35 AM |
| 3 | Don’t let your personal victories get filed away during periods of self-doubt and insecurity. Always refer back to what makes you unique and feel like a prizeThe most beautiful thing is when you’re able to feel value in who you are in between your accomplishments. not for your accomplishments but for who you know you are outside of them. | /r/seduction | 23/03/22 07:00 PM |
| 1 | HOW DO I APPROACH GIRLS AT THE GYM?Hm. Not what I’m doing. I guess I won’t get through on this. Sincerely, hope you have a good week! | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 11:52 PM |
| 1 | HOW DO I APPROACH GIRLS AT THE GYM?Alright I was def being toxic. But, hopefully you can at least think from this other perspective that it’s an extremely negative and emasculating mindset to automatically assume that anything that would inconvenience or creep out ONE girl is something that you should blanket avoid doing altogether. I know you mean well, and are probably looking out for other women, but in this case, it’s pretty selfish to assign so much importance to something that would make you a little uncomfortable. While I … | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 09:46 PM |
| 1 | HOW DO I APPROACH GIRLS AT THE GYM?😅😂 | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Girl flakes but invites me to a house party next day. Need some advice.If you don’t wanna be seen with her at a party. Don’t go to the party with her. Make up an excuse, suggest a day next week. Maybe Sunday? | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 07:21 PM |
| 8 | Lay-report from last nightCalisthenics gang rise up | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 04:44 PM |
| 3 | Just got rejected…? After a lot of green flags, this feels offVery smily full of love in an out of character way (ofc you can’t know this when you first meet her so that’s why we’re only guessing.) It could also just be that she was very drunk and out of character. Either way | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 11:44 PM |
| 2 | HOW DO I APPROACH GIRLS AT THE GYM?The idea is that you need to try to get better. Not exactly sorry if that minorly inconveniences your day - and a heartfelt thank you for furthering the exact type of mindset that made me a shell of the person I wanted to be for a good chunk of my 20s - you’re part of the problem. Yuck! | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 11:42 PM |
| 1 | HOW DO I APPROACH GIRLS AT THE GYM?Still better than doing nothing! Plus women are different | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 05:02 AM |
| 3 | Just got rejected…? After a lot of green flags, this feels offDude, she was probably on E. This happened to me too, not that extreme but yeah it fucked with my head for a bit. Helps to remember that people at shows are often out of their minds. | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 05:00 AM |
| 1 | Today I lost my V-card to a super hot(9+) girl who mocked my inexperience. I dont know if I should be happy or sad about itAh damn. Next time when she starts talking shit just show her who’s in charge. Like don’t do anything painful but just pin her down and close her mouth and stuff playfully. | /r/seduction | 14/03/22 09:20 PM |
| 2 | How To Respond To Old “Friend” Still See Me As Below ThemA half decent comeback would have been like “don’t miss me when I pass you on the way up” with a wink. The best comeback would be “good to see you again bro how you been?” You we’re just defensive. I get it, we’ve all been there. | /r/seduction | 11/03/22 01:20 AM |
| 5 | Guys, one of the most important things to women that is never mentioned here is having a HIGH VALUE FRIEND GROUP.Pete is super high value, he radiates a complete comfort with himself despite all his clear imperfections | /r/seduction | 05/03/22 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Keep getting better as a man and you will get more pussy with ageI don’t think he was being accusatory just doesn’t have events or might not know about events where he is | /r/seduction | 01/03/22 03:04 AM |
| 6 | How to not ruminate on what you did wrong?Hang out with people who don’t make you self conscious every day. | /r/seduction | 25/02/22 05:30 AM |
| 1 | friend is cheatingDude I'm gonna go against the grain here, these are two separate thoughts entirely. You act like this guy is your homie. Let me help you figure out how to address these two issues without fucking up your friendship or being a colossal dick. 1 - You don't approve of what your friend is doing. That's cool. The most stable way to handle this is to keep giving him shit for it but be funny about it, so he gets the point but you don't cause an all out escalation. Going out of your way to tell someone … | /r/seduction | 22/02/22 07:50 PM |
| 3 | If you ask someone out , they say yes, but….“I’ll get back to you on that”. I got that recently and I didn’t even know what to say to it. I think next time it happens I’ll just straight up go “wrong answer” and see how that works. | /r/seduction | 21/02/22 06:39 PM |
| 0 | She doesn’t care that you’re “nice” lolYou seem like a nice dude | /r/seduction | 20/02/22 12:34 AM |
| 6 | Rant: I don't see the point of doing night gameHard agree. But, there’s still something to be said for the lifestyle. No shot I could do this multiple times a week and still live the life I want to live personally. | /r/seduction | 12/02/22 06:24 PM |
| 1 | BE ADULTS. DATE ADULTS. (a rant)Damn dude | /r/seduction | 12/02/22 06:06 AM |
| 1 | How to respond to this answer to a cold read?I think you either got it wrong or I’m using the wrong term. I’m talking about when you go up to a girl and tell her she looks like she does X or enjoys Y or is a Z. The technique itself kills. | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 04:08 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to this answer to a cold read?Hm so try and coax out the answer? I just have no concept of how you’d do that weirdly enough. Like a teasing/playful “come on answer the question”? | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Are cold approaches inevitably a bit awkward?When someone says to make contextual observations they don’t mean the context of you wanting to bang a girl, they mean comment on the environment or something relevant to what you and her are doing right now so you speak naturally and interestingly | /r/seduction | 08/02/22 06:16 AM |
| 1 | Are cold approaches inevitably a bit awkward?Nah it’s totally natural. You’re overthinking it. At least for the you look like a XYZ thing You look like trouble is the one I can never bring myself to say unless it actually comes up and has a pretext | /r/seduction | 07/02/22 09:28 AM |
| 1 | Are cold approaches inevitably a bit awkward?I promise you can make the context, but the idea "the context is that I think she's attractive" is something you need to realize is wrong and unproductive, and quickly. I don't need to know any more about your game to know that that's your biggest problem. That's not a useful context at all. | /r/seduction | 07/02/22 07:09 AM |
| 0 | Are cold approaches inevitably a bit awkward?It doesn't have to be completely outcome independent to be primarily for fun. If your take on it is that talking to a stranger isn't entertaining, then you might have a mindset adjustment you need to make - which is no small feat, but would involve things like desensitizing yourself to approach anxiety through exposure, doing research on interesting ideas and techniques consistently and applying them until you find ones you actually like, and talking to other men about what works with them when … | /r/seduction | 07/02/22 07:08 AM |
| 0 | Are cold approaches inevitably a bit awkward?Wait damn it, is the "you look like X" an RSD gag? I thought I was being original. It works like a fucking charm too | /r/seduction | 07/02/22 07:06 AM |
| 2 | Getting ghosted after getting number.You have to learn to find a pretext before you ask for a number... this might seem like it makes getting numbers way harder but as you're learning now getting numbers is meaningless if they are not gonna respond. Put it this way. If you get 10 girls' numbers but you get them early on in the convo when she isn't clearly interested yet, MAYBE 1 responds or picks up If you chat up one girl and find a mutually relevant activity that you both want to do and identify a time and place to do it, then as… | /r/seduction | 07/02/22 07:05 AM |
| 1 | Here's my big sticking point. I need 'openers' to help with cognitive behavior therapy for my social anxiety disorder.You have the approach down. This is a classic theory of progressive exposure. I would start by making eye contact. You don’t have to open on every eye contact. Once you make eye contact try to think of something you can comment on. I like your necklace (boring tbh but better than saying she’s beautiful) You got the vanilla latte? Is that actually good? (Asked with a mix of disbelief/uncertainty/disdain) Damn I kinda wish I was at that ARTBAT show down the street right now (said at a club backsta… | /r/seduction | 03/02/22 08:04 PM |
| 1 | At what point is it okay to compliment a girl on her looks?During sex | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 05:05 AM |
| 0 | What do you think about a woman who is just as aggressive as you?Put it in her butt | /r/seduction | 21/01/22 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Subtle touch, flirting, teasing (not negging), and eye contact are key to being viewed as a romantic interest, not a platonic friendWhy thank you | /r/seduction | 21/01/22 01:32 AM |
| 240 | Subtle touch, flirting, teasing (not negging), and eye contact are key to being viewed as a romantic interest, not a platonic friendEye contact is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo easy and powerful. If I had to pick one dating life hack - it's eye contact | /r/seduction | 20/01/22 05:33 PM |
| 0 | Every first date that ended with a kiss on the cheek/forehead has wen to a 2nd date. 100 percent of the timeCome back to me in a few months | /r/seduction | 16/01/22 01:52 PM |
| 2 | I hate my own stupid faceFor acne, You’re gonna have to do it the hard way and figure out what works for your skin. There’s a lot you can do for acne (I personally dealt with shit acne back in the day). eliminate triggering foods (diet) reduce stress skin care research all of these. Dairy is a common trigger. So is sodium and alcohol. Stress is awful and lowers your overall immunity. Skin care, don’t overdo it, there are a lot of harsh chemicals and bullshit products out there. | /r/seduction | 15/01/22 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Question: How to drop a girl? (Or how to deal with attention seeking)Call her | /r/seduction | 15/01/22 02:09 AM |
| 1 | If you’re on an ‘unofficial’ date and another girl comes up to you asking for your number, what would/should you do?I’m a DJ, so I always have this cute excuse of “you’re a fan and you want to hear what I make” when I ask a girl to swap IGs if she’s on a date with another dude. I’m not sure if this applies generally but it might inspire an idea on how to make it into double speak so that it’s not so obvious to the other person that you’re clearly trying to keep your options open. I mean either way it’ll be obvious, girls aren’t stupid, but when you add that layer of double speak for some reason it makes it AL… | /r/seduction | 15/01/22 01:37 AM |
| 1 | pickup lines for girls with masks onI like the way you smile with your eyes Your eyes are adorable Etc | /r/seduction | 15/01/22 01:31 AM |
| 4 | Do you think it's harder to attract women if you wank reguarly?Yea, it's definitely that. I notice that my standards "go down" (I don't like that way of putting it, but it is essentially true) when I stop watching porn and spend time with real women. I think porn teaches you to look too much at the external attractiveness of a girl by omitting the pheromones and general physical sensations of being around a woman, and breaks the sexual stimulus system for some (maybe all) people. | /r/seduction | 13/01/22 02:17 PM |
| 17 | Do you think it's harder to attract women if you wank reguarly?Here’s my experience. Whether or not I’m around women regularly affects this WAY more than simply wanking or not wanking. In fact when I’m around women more often but am not sleeping with them for whatever reason, my sex drive still goes through the roof as if I was sleeping with them, and this makes me wank more. Where I draw the line is porn… any time I’m using porn for more than a few days it feeds habits that make me lose interest in women, which is bad, and I can go for days or weeks at a t… | /r/seduction | 13/01/22 01:57 AM |
| -4 | Every first date that ended with a kiss on the cheek/forehead has wen to a 2nd date. 100 percent of the timeIt will be over once everyone gets it and it is circulated as a common cold, and it’s not bullshit but but the way it’s been handled absolutely is. Obviously, you now understand we disagree lol. Why even pick the fight and call what I said dumb? There’s literally no point - anyone with this POV has heard it a million times. Not to mention it’s just one small thing I said in passing… best to get used to this viewpoint as it’s becoming more and more common homes | /r/seduction | 10/01/22 04:56 AM |
| 3 | Every first date that ended with a kiss on the cheek/forehead has wen to a 2nd date. 100 percent of the timeThe edit on the post makes me weak too haha. He owned up fair fucks | /r/seduction | 10/01/22 04:55 AM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]I’d give it a 4. Little too obvious. I guess peoples standards are different | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 11:09 PM |
| 4 | i need to escalate but can't figure out how.Picturing this made me feel some type of way. Absolutely love this idea | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 07:26 PM |
| 233 | Every first date that ended with a kiss on the cheek/forehead has wen to a 2nd date. 100 percent of the timeI’m dead LMAO. Covid safety. You just breathed on each other for an hour without a mask homie. Like absolutely no judgment, I believe this Covid bullshit needs to be over, just hilarious you mentioned that. It makes no difference. | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 07:08 PM |
| 1 | TESTED SECRET WEAPON Used By HIGH STATUS MEN UnconsciouslyYou don’t visualize yourself into higher status. You affirm that you deserve to display behaviors that make you more confident which allows you to achieve higher status more reliably, quickly, and comfortably. I feel like you misunderstand visualization and affirmation so fundamentally you shouldn’t speak on it. Not trying to be harsh, but it’s so confusing to see your take on it immediately being that you can’t visualize yourself into higher status. Obviously, that’s not the point. | /r/seduction | 08/01/22 05:58 AM |
| 37 | i need to escalate but can't figure out how.Hand hold seems like a great option in this situation | /r/seduction | 08/01/22 04:05 AM |
| 1 | TESTED SECRET WEAPON Used By HIGH STATUS MEN UnconsciouslyI’m confused. I read it as the guy is saying to visualize it so you can innately develop behaviors that display non attachment and knowing your worth. That’s not fake. Those are high status behaviors that you can adopt regardless of your actual status. | /r/seduction | 07/01/22 11:59 PM |
| 2 | The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Detailed Summary)It's good to recognize that reading books about things that you "already know" can still be useful, unless you are already consistently implementing those things. I would truly bet money that YOU, and 85% of the people who would say the same thing, are actually NOT constantly being proactive, planning ahead, setting goals, and working hard. Yet, those are the key to life. You can run away from it and hope for a new, easy way all you want. You do you. EDIT: Put less harshly - recognizing a concep… | /r/seduction | 07/01/22 10:48 PM |
| 2 | TESTED SECRET WEAPON Used By HIGH STATUS MEN UnconsciouslyAffirmations worked for me, but only while simultaneously taking action on them. I'm not sure if I believe in energy attracting energy - maybe it's true - but even if it's not true, there's still inherent truth to the act of moving your focus to something by listening to spoken words encouraging you to do it. It makes it easier to act and to remember to act in the first place, and action as we all know begets results. | /r/seduction | 07/01/22 10:46 PM |
| 2 | TESTED SECRET WEAPON Used By HIGH STATUS MEN UnconsciouslyWhat a disingenuous way to not only approach this but also to signal to other people to approach this. It's not a dichotomy of either you're on copium or you're actually working. If you're working on your status from the bottom up without visualizing or "faking it til you make it" from the top down, you are wasting a lot of time. Period. Do both. Don't waste your time. | /r/seduction | 07/01/22 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Is height really that important?Chihuahua energy, when you’re a beady eyed fuck who’s way louder and shriller than he needs to be and can’t breathe properly. | /r/seduction | 07/01/22 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Is height really that important?Weight classes exist for a reason | /r/seduction | 07/01/22 12:42 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I don’t think this is good advice. I think the way he wrote it is ideal. This is completely indirect and unattractive | /r/seduction | 06/01/22 12:38 AM |
| 7 | Girl just went cold on meIt sounds like the only thing to do is to move on, regardless of why whatever happened | /r/seduction | 05/01/22 03:40 AM |
| 7 | nice guy obstacles to attraction and expressing intentI also grew up without a strong male role model, my father is definitely more of a reserved man who owns his agency but not in a way that is obvious or that he ever transmitted to me. Something that nobody seems to mention: behind every man who struggles with owning his masculine agency are the people who undermine it for him. Unfortunately, for some people, this is immediate family. It sounds like you don't live with your family, so you have it much easier. Figure out who you feel insecure arou… | /r/seduction | 05/01/22 01:18 AM |
| 2 | I don't understand what this girl I am dating wants and it's driving me crazy. Need advice regarding dealing with a girl with social anxiety disorder.Is it honestly worth the pain if she’s leaving in a month? This sounds like a relationship I would just get out of. | /r/seduction | 04/01/22 08:21 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]You could probably do it better. | /r/seduction | 04/01/22 08:16 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Are you looking for a real answer? Absolutely. You can’t read these things over text, I bet you’re wrong half the time about mixed signals or hard to get or especially the last one. | /r/seduction | 04/01/22 02:54 AM |
| 0 | I used to think I had to be into "manly" things to get with girlsYes. But you can’t be into no masculine things at all and expect to succeed. Ever. | /r/seduction | 04/01/22 02:44 AM |
| 12 | First date, lots of kissing and kino - she didn't want me to walk her home. Did I mess up?Pressing wouldn’t have been good… you could have been more assertive to start though, “Let me walk you home” with the right intonation and eye contact might have gotten you there. Or not. Sounds like you guys hit it off | /r/seduction | 03/01/22 06:22 AM |
| 1 | [HELP] Where do I start?The only people who deserve my negativity are negative people | /r/seduction | 28/12/21 09:17 PM |
| 1 | [HELP] Where do I start?Damn your comments are so positive | /r/seduction | 28/12/21 07:04 PM |
| 6 | I just asked a tinder girl out.It’s good to next. In the future when you have more prospects than you can bother to unmatch, you might leave the channel of communication open for the 1% chance anyway. | /r/seduction | 28/12/21 12:40 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Jesus Christ | /r/seduction | 27/12/21 03:56 AM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]What a stupid comment. Both will increase T. I would wager Muay Thai, in theory, would be better because it’s also competitive and you’re fighting other men, which should boost testosterone even more. Clearly the Muay Thai suggestion is another “actual suggestion for increasing T”. *Coming from a weightlifter / calisthenics guy who doesn’t do Muay Thai. | /r/seduction | 26/12/21 09:26 PM |
| 4 | Movies, concerts, and shows should be avoided for the first several dates. If your attention is diverted, it’s more difficult to establish an emotional bondYeah concerts can be reallllllly good if you're both into the artist(s) playing because it's a shared experience of bonding over your passions | /r/seduction | 24/12/21 10:01 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]You're massively missing the point here You don't leave them on read forever when you leave them on read You leave them on read until you have something relevant to message them about. Figure out how to find things to message women that are relevant to both of you and show at least some kind of value. If you know she's into fitness, send her a video of yourself doing something impressive. If you know she's into wellness, send her a nice pic of a healthy meal you made. If you're both into fucking… | /r/seduction | 24/12/21 09:41 PM |
| 14 | Men of Reddit, what body language you notice when you make eye contact with a woman?Great move, the jackass hair drag. | /r/seduction | 24/12/21 06:57 PM |
| 3 | My little bro has had more sexual experience than me…It’s really not… sorry | /r/seduction | 23/12/21 11:16 PM |
| 3 | My little bro has had more sexual experience than me…Yeah, because men are typically prized for traits other than looks much more so than women. For example, a 30 yo guy with a clean shaven head who is muscular and tatted, with some eye wrinkles, will be perceived more attractive by a good chunk of women than a 25 year old with a baby face and perfect hairline who looks like a boy toy. Women get objectified because men are attracted primarily to looks. Men get less objectified because the substance of their lifestyle and personality matters more, … | /r/seduction | 23/12/21 08:14 PM |
| 1 | My little bro has had more sexual experience than me…Generally, women do tend to start to look worse in terms of traditional beauty standards around that age. You sound defensive. *He's obviously leaving out that women get more mature and emotionally attractive. But yes, you and that "90%" of women will decline physically around that age. | /r/seduction | 23/12/21 07:33 PM |
| 5 | My little bro has had more sexual experience than me…Yeah. He's (likely correctly) insinuating that his brother's life was crippled by focusing a disproportionate amount of time and energy on women vs. himself and his career. He would know a lot better than you would. He's not saying don't sleep with women. He's saying don't fetishize it because plenty of people with amazing game lead shit lives. | /r/seduction | 23/12/21 07:31 PM |
| 1 | My little bro has had more sexual experience than me…No way a generation that went through their formative years avoiding being outdoors while getting stimuli from a screen is going to be more risk-friendly... | /r/seduction | 23/12/21 05:40 PM |
| 10 | My little bro has had more sexual experience than me…How to tell someone has no charisma^ | /r/seduction | 23/12/21 05:39 PM |
| 8 | Honestly, Im tired of pretending to be someone im not just to get laidBeing confident is not fake. Being confident is about being at peace the majority of the time, being able to return to your center after facing adversity, and being generally of the opinion that things are going to turn out alright. The same confidence that makes you irresistible to women is one of the skills that will serve you more than any other in life and in your interpersonal relationships. You have a very unproductive take on this by attaching the idea of confidence to the idea of being f… | /r/seduction | 22/12/21 09:51 PM |
| 3 | Under what conditions do you cancel a date?1 - Also, the younger a single woman is, the less desperation has set in already. | /r/seduction | 20/12/21 11:01 PM |
| 3 | Should I try to contact her again? Or just let her go?You have to do something assertive to rescue it. Say something overt that will make her jaw drop. It sounds like you just bored her. Hoping for your sake she hasn't already found another guy who's giving her what she wants. | /r/seduction | 20/12/21 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Are women the most driving life force (for you) ?You should be honest about this with yourself! It’s important. Yes, we all want women around, even the people with the best game. That’s why we do all of it. The key they are trying to get across with the advice of being happy with yourself is to rather spending time alone than debase yourself to spend time with a woman, if push ever came to shove. Everything else sort of follows from that principle. Nobody wants to be alone, but if a woman is testing you, you have to be able to willingly flirt … | /r/seduction | 20/12/21 07:22 AM |
| 2 | "Just get off the apps and go out and meet people bro"Throwing themselves at you is a different situation. Had you phrased it that way I would have definitely understood faster. But still, you can’t use this as a way to talk yourself out of it. If a sports player has one bad game, he doesn’t give up. You should always be smart, only go with girls that seem to have genuine interest in you and you need to work a bit to get them back to your place, but don’t lock yourself out of it because your friends were stupid and/or unfortunate a few times. | /r/seduction | 17/12/21 04:19 PM |
| -1 | "Just get off the apps and go out and meet people bro"Why the fuck are you wary of someone who will go home with you? That’s the most insane excuse I’ve ever heard about night game. Sounds like you’ve just psyched yourself out of night game at every level. Either get over it or stop complaining. You remind me of myself when I was an elitist prick about people and women with the way you talk. | /r/seduction | 17/12/21 02:03 PM |
| 4 | What to say if a girl says “I think you’re cute”?"Don't talk to me like that" playfully | /r/seduction | 16/12/21 11:08 PM |
| 1 | I’m talking to this guy rn and I don’t think he knows how to flirt with me or seduce me in any wayI think you might get bored with him but it’s worth a try in case he does open up that way. Just don’t break his heart if in the future you realize you really aren’t feeling it there’s no point in letting it drag on. He sounds like he doesn’t have enough experience to understand how girls operate and might give himself a hard time if something you do confuses him. | /r/seduction | 13/12/21 06:46 AM |
| 0 | I’m talking to this guy rn and I don’t think he knows how to flirt with me or seduce me in any wayYes and it’s also how guys are. Welcome to the game | /r/seduction | 13/12/21 06:44 AM |
| 1 | When and how to reignite the conversation after she doesn’t reply to you?I love the way Todd V describes this, what you want to do is basically don't force yourself to text anything to her, give yourself a few days, and when you find an opportunity to, "send value into the void". Send her something cool that she will find interesting, don't make it so that she seems obligated to respond, counter intuitively this will make her more likely to respond. (This is where you have to be able to read your audience, for example I meet a lot of girls through the music scene and… | /r/seduction | 13/12/21 02:39 AM |
| 1 | Single guys, if you were set financially, what would you do with your life?Yeah, the best way to be is rich and disciplined. Rich and lazy sucks and broke and disciplined sucks too. | /r/seduction | 10/12/21 01:32 AM |
| 1 | Single guys, if you were set financially, what would you do with your life?Been there, gets old really fast :/ | /r/seduction | 10/12/21 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Single guys, if you were set financially, what would you do with your life?Actually, this is pretty simple for me. A lot of stress is put on my brain and my joints/muscles/back specifically by my coding job, and this also directly and indirectly prevents me from putting in as much time as I want in the studio. If I could remove this, I would - Spend 4 days a week on music - Travel to see natural wonders and get inspired consistently - Buy the cleanest, natural supplements that I can use to improve my joint and muscle function, hire a nutritionist/dietitian, and with my… | /r/seduction | 10/12/21 12:02 AM |
| 2 | What to say when a girls friends ask where you stand on her?I think she’s cool. That’s a really good one. | /r/seduction | 09/12/21 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Is finding a girls instagram without asking her creepy?Nah | /r/seduction | 09/12/21 01:27 AM |
| 0 | Fuck the gameStop focusing on this indefinitely. you’re clearly mind fucked by it | /r/seduction | 08/12/21 08:51 PM |
| 26 | No, I won't dress up like a fuccboi!There are elements of wanting to have your own style but I think it’s unproductive to look down on what girls want to see and rebel against it. It’s better to be in tune with yourself though than pushing a style you don’t want onto yourself. More power to ya. | /r/seduction | 05/12/21 09:42 PM |
| 5 | Increase this 1 thing to get laid more often 🍑👉👌It does come off the way you’re saying. But with regards to deep voice a lot of people COULD be using a deeper voice without sounding unnatural if they practiced. I have a massive range depending on how in tune with my voice I am, if I was talking in my excited nasally voice all the time ((which tends to happen if I’m not intentional about speaking from the chest) then I’d be getting a lot less attention. | /r/seduction | 05/12/21 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Im new to this, i have a question: masksWhat city are you in? Even in LA, bars and clubs are sites of mass noncompliance - no one wears masks even though it’s technically required. Makes night game much easier. | /r/seduction | 01/12/21 10:15 PM |
| 1 | I met this girl which in my opinion is way out of my league? I literally backed off and acknowledged you were right. No embarrassment here. | /r/seduction | 28/11/21 12:46 AM |
| 1 | I met this girl which in my opinion is way out of my leagueLol. I’m just saying you’re full of shit. In England, proper English would dictate 1,93m is right. Proper English has nothing to do with if you use a comma or a period to delineate your decimals. You seem American because Americans are super self centered about their way of doing things being right. Edit: well I looked it up and looks like you’re right technically since even England uses periods. Anyway, I still think your prescriptive line of thinking is super unproductive. Millions of English … | /r/seduction | 25/11/21 10:19 PM |
| 1 | I met this girl which in my opinion is way out of my leagueI think proper English was the wrong turn of phrase there. You seem more American than Canadian to me. | /r/seduction | 25/11/21 03:56 PM |
| 1 | I met this girl which in my opinion is way out of my leagueI’m telling you now, if a European person writing in English writes 1,93 m, you should be able to understand that and not correct them. | /r/seduction | 24/11/21 07:35 AM |
| 2 | I met this girl which in my opinion is way out of my leagueMy penis is 193 cm | /r/seduction | 24/11/21 03:17 AM |
| 0 | I met this girl which in my opinion is way out of my league1,93 m is the right way to write it. Or 193 cm | /r/seduction | 24/11/21 03:15 AM |
| 1 | How can I get “in state” faster?What’s RSD stand for anyway? | /r/seduction | 22/11/21 01:58 AM |
| 3 | How can I get “in state” faster?This is my fav one so far. This is a trick that I can relate to having had better nights when I followed it in the past | /r/seduction | 21/11/21 05:23 PM |
| 3 | How can I get “in state” faster?Interesting perspective. By this logic, any flow state would also be a fallacy. When a musician is in a state of flow, how would you explain that? It’s the same state, I’ve been in both. | /r/seduction | 21/11/21 04:59 PM |
| 4 | How can I get “in state” faster?Maybe the trick is just acknowledging you need the warm up and being more mindful/intentional with how you go about it. | /r/seduction | 21/11/21 03:23 AM |
| 36 | Type of women you can attractYeah demographics are key, if you want to have the most success possible it's good to have an idea of who you're going for and subtly tailor your image to them (as long as it's something superficial you're truly comfortable tailoring, not going against your values and certainly not fundamentally changing your personality to please women.) | /r/seduction | 21/11/21 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Message for the guys that feel like giving upEven better if you have a friend who can show you how to use a gym that $60 could be 2 months of a membership too with access to all the machines and a quasi trainer. | /r/seduction | 18/11/21 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Message for the guys that feel like giving upThat’s what I mean. From one skinny guy to another you have the ability to look shredded if you put the time in. Like I do now. Game changer | /r/seduction | 18/11/21 04:45 AM |
| 2 | Message for the guys that feel like giving upYou’re skinny or you’re athletic? Get the hell out to the gym and start eating. You’ll be a 7 in a year | /r/seduction | 18/11/21 02:45 AM |
| 9 | Don't decide for others that you are not good enough and thus disqualify yourself prior to even trying.Damn you must have had good photos. I had the opposite experience. Got fucked up by online dating and thought I was worthless because of lack of attractive matches and lack of responses. Once I started approaching irl, I realized I could punch way above where I thought I could before. | /r/seduction | 17/11/21 02:51 AM |
| 1 | How to stop being so seriousYea I get you but I think that’s just a little extreme of an opinion. I’m not talking about bending over to please everyone. I’m talking about doing something that’s perfectly healthy in moderation to cast a wider net. I feel like a lot of non drinkers have this weird thing against drinking socially, I know I had it when I was off the sauce for a bit because of overindulging during the early pandemic. | /r/seduction | 17/11/21 12:18 AM |
| 1 | How to stop being so seriousSure but you never addressed the way other people react to you not sharing the experience with them. Not getting drunk is great. Turning down the offer for a drink is more or less off putting if not a little insulting for quite a few people. | /r/seduction | 16/11/21 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone else lost girls because you didn’t chase her enough?What you’re talking about is probably just not showing enough interest. Fine line between showing interest and chasing | /r/seduction | 16/11/21 07:14 PM |
| 1 | How to stop being so seriousOh, ok. You’re right and I agree, but drinking in moderation is completely possible and has pretty minimal health effects. You could probably optimize your diet or sleep habits to make a big gain in your health and reintroduce alcohol while being net neutral. I realize people seem to agree with you more than with me, but fundamentally, it doesn’t matter what you wish about alcohol as an institution because it is and always will be a crucial piece of the social puzzle since it increases camarader… | /r/seduction | 16/11/21 05:50 PM |
| -3 | How to stop being so seriousYour best bet might be to work toward a healthy relationship with alcohol so you can go back to drinking socially, it really helps by making other people more willing to bond with you vs. when you're not sharing the experience with them (which, soberingly, is inevitably how you come off to 9/10 drinkers when you are a non-drinker) | /r/seduction | 16/11/21 06:14 AM |
| 3 | {15 } I was so excited that she was going to be my first girlfriend. My heart was pumping out loud and could not wait for our first date. But little did I not know……Dude if you’re thinking about it this way at your age and able to even form a coherent post about it after the fact you’re good to go. That would have made me way more embarrassed than it should have | /r/seduction | 11/11/21 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Calling it a day for once.Go for a couple of pro photographers and see if any of them can work with your looks to get you a better photo spread for your profile. Someone will likely have some idea that's better than what you have now. Once you do, experiment for 2 months with rotating your photos and bio every week or two. After that, whether or not you find a situation you like, just stump up for a month of Tinder Platinum and see how it goes. You'll automatically get put farther up in the queue. It costs like 4 bar dri… | /r/seduction | 08/11/21 09:32 PM |
| 4 | Calling it a day for once.Actually being a perfectionist can have a really negative impact on game. Putting an expectation on yourself to perform to your full ability (or close to it) in every interaction can shoot you down before you begin, and in more genre-specific terms, can be a huge source of approach anxiety. Everyone has bad sets and bad days, it's best to be okay with that which is tough as a perfectionist. | /r/seduction | 08/11/21 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Calling it a day for once.Well it sounds like you're on the right path and you definitely still have time. Life is about making these tough calls though when you feel in your bones you need to change something. You can always go back to focusing on women in a year or 5 if you want to. Always take care of your mental and physical health first. | /r/seduction | 08/11/21 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Can I ask for casual sex?No, I’m not and I don’t. Your assumption is way off base. Stop talking shit. You want me to do the same thing you did? Well, I assume you’re not an attractive individual that other attractive individuals simply enjoy being around, which is why you have a shitty viewpoint on this, you just can’t conceptualize it. Be a man, learn how to be good to women and have healthy multifaceted relationships while still having sex regularly. Extremely insecure viewpoint and initiation of a personal attack her… | /r/seduction | 06/11/21 07:59 PM |
| 9 | Can I ask for casual sex?Bruh what. No way. Be friends with girls you find attractive. If someone can’t handle that, I’d say look either at how many dates you’re getting, or farther inward, the answer probably lies in your insecurities. You should have both attractive dates and attractive friends. I actually see what you’re saying if you’re ONLY friends with girls you find attractive and don’t have regular man to woman convos. Then it’s bad. | /r/seduction | 06/11/21 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Is it worth pushing yourself outside your comfort zone to meet people?I used to get this same issue when I was less social, because I spent too much time on computers growing up I had to sort of heal my social disorders I developed from that | /r/seduction | 05/11/21 04:12 AM |
| 2 | Is it worth pushing yourself outside your comfort zone to meet people?You don’t need a signal for a grocery store approach. If she’s looking at ramen, recommend her Shin Black. If she’s looking at eye of round steak, tell her to make sure she’s gonna stew it. There’s some conversation to be had over anything. It might sound stupid or not lead anywhere but you can always try. | /r/seduction | 05/11/21 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Was messaging a girl I met at a party, high sexual tension. Then I crossed the line a bit, which bothered her and killed tension. Interest was very high so it's salvageable, but how to bring back tension after fuckup?Idk dude. It’s not very sustainable to want things to escalate over text before you do things irl. | /r/seduction | 05/11/21 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Girl took a picture of me and sent it to a group chatProbably more likely she was a fan of the team or the bar is one of her fav spots than she thought you were cute in a mask. Unless you’re obviously ripped or something | /r/seduction | 04/11/21 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Girl took a picture of me and sent it to a group chatWere you wearing a graphic tee ? What kind of hat was it? Could she have just taken a photo of what was behind you ? | /r/seduction | 04/11/21 12:15 AM |
| 1 | It's a sad state of affairs when the only attractive girl I interact with on a weekly basis is the graduate assistant to my speech language pathologist.You gotta focus on getting out of the shit situation first. Right now you’re like 99% handicapped in the fight you’re fighting, spend half the energy you spend now on thinking about or trying to talk to women on a job search. Don’t change industries, you don’t want to date at work anyway, change where you live. You work at an engineering company, presumably you’re on a good salary? why do you live with your parents? | /r/seduction | 04/11/21 12:13 AM |
| 10 | Males who are great at texting and get a lot of results using text, what are your tips and advice ?I just came up with that on the spot but I’m sure 99% of the time it would be along the lines of “omg I need a nap so bad rn 😩” which I guess opens up a few avenues | /r/seduction | 03/11/21 12:20 AM |
| 49 | Males who are great at texting and get a lot of results using text, what are your tips and advice ?The single biggest improvement I made was when the convo isn't going anywhere or is in friends territory I just wait a little bit (long enough to forget about the convo while doing other stuff) and when I remember again I throw in a ranodm fucking non sequitur instead of answering the last question she asked. Just picking the first thing I can think of. "I just took a nap and I feel amazing" it can be whatever | /r/seduction | 02/11/21 06:45 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]I can corroborate that from my own personal experience with myself. Much prefer to look at cold approach as a way to just inject a nice convo into someone’s night on a good day. | /r/seduction | 25/10/21 12:40 AM |
| 2 | Idk if she likes me or notYes as a rule you shouldn’t ask if she likes you more than as a friend over text. Leave that for in person if you’re gonna do it at all. But anyway, do you want a pen pal or do you want to spend time with a cute girl next to you? Ask her out sooner rather than later. | /r/seduction | 24/10/21 03:18 AM |
| 4 | Would you say anything in this situation? Or just not reach out again?If you have to ask the question. The answer is usually move on In this case… explore other avenues come back in a month or two. These things change quickly with women when you take time off from giving them attention and focus on yourself or other women instead | /r/seduction | 24/10/21 02:54 AM |
| 7 | [deleted by user]Sounds like she’s either crazy or the sex is bad. | /r/seduction | 24/10/21 01:54 AM |
| 6 | How to handle compliments from women?"thanks, I try" with a smirk/smile is my go to for most compliments. A silly smile and shrug goes a long way too | /r/seduction | 24/10/21 12:39 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]It’s possible you just already had what was described in models. It’s the purest form of attraction. Lifestyle and presentation. It’s what makes attention from girls renewable and makes it possible for people who have a hard time learning game to actually learn it. | /r/seduction | 23/10/21 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Kind, fun, responsible, yet dangerous. Women are drawn to men with elements of polarity to their personalityOk, so you just have no idea of the ethos behind martial arts or took some super aggressive one. | /r/seduction | 22/10/21 03:43 AM |
| 0 | Kind, fun, responsible, yet dangerous. Women are drawn to men with elements of polarity to their personalityMost martial arts are explicitly meant for self defense. | /r/seduction | 22/10/21 03:43 AM |
| 1 | PSA: Get vaccinated against genital warts, penis cancer and HPV positive oropharyngeal cancerI certainly don’t think I’m thinking about it the wrong way. It’s a different style of thinking to you, but I believe it’s the correct way for me. I don’t see the need to worry about a crazy low chance I’ll get cancer or die from HPV, if I even get it. I’d rather not willingly risk side effects from something that effectively protects me from a human meteorite strike. This isn’t COVID. This is HPV. | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 09:01 PM |
| 4 | PSA: Get vaccinated against genital warts, penis cancer and HPV positive oropharyngeal cancerGenerally, when Europe bans something they are ahead of the US. In the US, too much influence is exerted over policy by lobbies. Really it’s up to your own discretion, personally, when I see a country in Europe bans a drug or vaccine, I’ll avoid it. The problem with vaccine info, which is the counter argument to yours about scare tactics from anecdotal evidence, is that causality data with vaccines is extremely muddy and there isn’t a lot of impetus to actively find long term effects of vaccinat… | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 07:17 PM |
| 13 | Girl keeps sleeping over but won’t have sex?If you dont do it off the bat it becomes really hard to recover. One time I didn't have sex with a girl who slept in my bed for two reasons: After having a beer she literally fell asleep as soon as her head hit the bed while I was brushing my teeth. I was too inexperienced and embarrassed, and fumbled the recovery completely when we both woke up later in the night. After that no matter what I tried I could no longer get her interested, so I learned my lesson and moved on. Looking back on it she … | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Why is being social media inactive a huge turn on for womenJust going to say, because people vote that way on a poll it probably means more that’s what they want themselves to prefer than that’s what they actually prefer. Attraction is really subtle and often subconscious. Also, maybe they are thinking about badly curated IG feeds, where it seems like you’re both trying too hard and missing the mark. Lastly might be an age or demographic question. You’ve posted one girls IG poll. | /r/seduction | 19/10/21 02:26 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]He’s just a narcissist and probably fantasizing because of it. | /r/seduction | 19/10/21 02:32 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Wait, you keep a list of your lays with dates? Damn lol. | /r/seduction | 19/10/21 02:31 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]I called this dude out on another thread and some guy jumped to his defense. Clearly a narcissist | /r/seduction | 19/10/21 02:30 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Notable exception would be models. Plenty of legit people will recommend it and with good reason. If you’re literally looking to become better with women (none of this PUA shit) you will benefit tremendously from it. | /r/seduction | 19/10/21 02:28 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I mean the thing is being pretty isn’t the goal being a man is the goal. Sure some girls go after pretty boys but I think you would actually appeal to more women than you think because you literally just look like a proper man | /r/seduction | 18/10/21 04:31 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Your build is great and your facial features are striking. You don’t exactly have a pretty face but that doesn’t really matter when you have the other two things and charisma. | /r/seduction | 18/10/21 01:03 AM |
| 0 | How to stop staring at breastsHe’s not deciding it he’s hypothesizing lmao | /r/seduction | 18/10/21 12:39 AM |
| 1 | "Art Of Seduction" Is AmazingNeither of you is more right than the other in this case, you just have different values. In this example, your main value is honesty while his main value is encouragement. | /r/seduction | 16/10/21 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Something I learned about Chemistrythe Cyrano de Bergerac reference omg | /r/seduction | 16/10/21 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Cute cashier slipped me her snapI won’t counter it. It’s solid advice. I got no issue with what he’s saying. He’s just a prick about actually saying it | /r/seduction | 15/10/21 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Cute cashier slipped me her snapYeah, still makes you a fucking tool. I'm gonna stick with my original call: He thinks what he has to say is more important than it actually is | /r/seduction | 15/10/21 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Balding attraction killerCardio is good it probably means you’re not getting fat. But, if you really focus on your muscle groups (push - chest, shoulders, triceps; pull - back, biceps; legs) you’ll slowly start attracting more and more eyes. Speaking of eyes, I hope your eyes are at least kind of pretty. I think that works wonders for women in general regardless of hair. | /r/seduction | 13/10/21 10:56 PM |
| 0 | Cute cashier slipped me her snapDude it’s the way he types. Who the fuck uses bold. And that amount of caps. (People who think what they have to say is overly important) | /r/seduction | 13/10/21 08:09 PM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]Where banan | /r/seduction | 13/10/21 12:19 AM |
| 5 | How Many Girls Do You Cold Approach A Week?Single digits. Maybe 3 most weeks, a big night out at the bar it could be up to 10, but they’re not high quality. (I don’t mean the women lol. I mean the approaches will be when I’m pretty drunk if Im doing that many) | /r/seduction | 12/10/21 10:38 PM |
| 10 | Balding attraction killerI’m not bald but 1) Grow a beard 2) Get buff Those are the two life hacks to looking hot when you’re bald. If you can’t do the first one at least do the second. | /r/seduction | 12/10/21 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Night at the clubs resultsKeep talking to other girls too. Once you find a cute woman that’s less of a pain in the ass you won’t want to spend another minute with the one with personality issues. Generally, if people have personality problems that show themselves when they get drunk, it won’t go away because most people don’t stop drinking. | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 01:47 AM |
| 18 | Night at the clubs resultsThat's dope. Steer clear of that girl who was blowing up your phone lol. Or don't. Either way you'll figure it out. | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 12:00 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Please just find a reason to hang out with him and move yourself closer to him. And make eye contact. That should do the job without any fancy anxiety inducing BS. | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 12:19 AM |
| 3 | quick, I need a response for "Are you always so funny?"Best one on here | /r/seduction | 08/10/21 02:56 AM |
| 2 | Cold approach is like body building, if the approach doesn’t scare you, you are not growing.The dude you’re replying to is a mongrel. Don’t look up to him. | /r/seduction | 08/10/21 02:49 AM |
| 5 | Apart from paying for the services of an escort, what's a good plan of action for an average looking guy to lose his virginity?It's not your fault in the same way it's not the fault of someone who has a natural predisposition to putting on weight, but doesn't really take serious charge of their diet, that they're fat. Basically, you have an excuse for why you haven't had sex yet, and you truly shouldn't beat yourself up about it. But you should never, ever use that excuse as a reason why you don't put effort into improving. My advice is to attack this from both sides: everyone says focus on yourself first but you and i … | /r/seduction | 05/10/21 07:27 PM |
| 1 | A girl invited me to visit her city. How do I escalate?It’s hard when she’s your host. But try brushing her arm or whatever a couple of times and see if she’s receptive. Give her lingering eye contact and a coy smile. Just small stuff like that. Don’t ask her if she wants to have sex unless she’s like oblivious to that stuff IMO. | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Im mostly attracted to intellectual ladiesI was this way, try pushing your comfort zone and chatting with other girls until you understand that emotional intelligence is as important or even more than traditional intelligence. | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 07:46 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Man weight classes exist in all levels of fighting for a reason. This really isn’t to put you down but it’s just a cold hard fact, someone bigger with less training might still have an advantage. | /r/seduction | 25/09/21 01:57 AM |
| 0 | My favorite quote from models "She is rooting for you"Bruh. | /r/seduction | 08/09/21 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Sex for Guys Living W/ Parents?It’s probably your wallet talking, but it might be true if you live in New York, or something. | /r/seduction | 08/09/21 03:52 AM |
| 5 | How do I reply to this?She sounds either fucking stupid or fucking hilarious. I’d go for it on the off chance she was fucking with you. I love that sense of humor lol | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 07:09 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Can you post a screenshot of your texts with her? | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 03:43 AM |
| 4 | How to shoot my shot with a girl I barely know?This might be the most or the least helpful advice but just talk to her. You don’t need a line if she’s showing interest like that | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 03:43 AM |
| 1 | For guys what piece of advice has always worked with you?Prob better than longer and thinner honestly, you can fill her up well. | /r/seduction | 04/09/21 07:12 PM |
| 23 | [deleted by user]Forgot the throwaway | /r/seduction | 04/09/21 01:52 AM |
| 1 | If you were to go from a 7/10 in attractiveness to a 5/10, would you rather this decrease be ENTIRELY due to a decrease in your height or ENTIRELY due to a decrease in your facial aesthetics?Face. | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 05:18 AM |
| 3 | Field report first time approach 10 women.How’d you know the number was fake? | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 05:13 AM |
| 4 | I (20 m) can't tell if I'm being judgmental of my mom (38 f) or if she's really trying to seduce my friendsI’d say to lay down the law with your friends being disrespectful, let them know they can shut up or stop hanging out with you. Your mom is your mom. | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 03:05 AM |
| 1 | Is it typical for women to avoid eye contact in public these days?Goddamn. | /r/seduction | 17/08/21 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Is it typical for women to avoid eye contact in public these days?I feel like this is a self fulfilling mindset. You’re gonna come off weird if you think you’re being a burden to someone by the simple act of chatting to them. I would focus on the potential to make someone’s day or enrich their life a little bit. | /r/seduction | 17/08/21 04:13 AM |
| 1 | Is it typical for women to avoid eye contact in public these days?Bruh | /r/seduction | 17/08/21 04:12 AM |
| 0 | Is it typical for women to avoid eye contact in public these days?It’s sensationalized media - same reason COVID got everyone in a total frenzy and spiked anxiety to all time highs. | /r/seduction | 17/08/21 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Is it typical for women to avoid eye contact in public these days?I really just don’t understand the problem here. There are still plenty of girls who are happy to talk to guys. Like I’m sure there are girls who don’t want to hold eye contact but that’s the point of making eye contact - screen for those that do. Where are people living that they can’t even find a girl who wants to make eye contact at least a couple times a day/week ? | /r/seduction | 17/08/21 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Is it typical for women to avoid eye contact in public these days?Not huge on that dog analogy. That’d 100% be an irrational fear to keep into your adult life, and I promise people would think it was at least off putting. | /r/seduction | 17/08/21 04:10 AM |
| 1 | Is it typical for women to avoid eye contact in public these days?Look it sucks, but if she doesn’t want to talk then just move on. Some people got trauma and we don’t need to make them feel worse. | /r/seduction | 17/08/21 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Is it typical for women to avoid eye contact in public these days?I’m not taking a side here, but i think it’s silly to act like it’s preposterous for there to be 13,000 women who force men into noncon sex a year. That seems completely rational to me. Now, there are probably even more men, but knowing the stigma, and the likelihood with which a female perp would actually be convicted, I would be incredibly intrigued to see that only on the order of a hundred rapes are committed by women annually. There’s another side to this that it sucks to see people ignorin… | /r/seduction | 17/08/21 04:06 AM |
| 0 | Approaching at night?I think you need to at least be more careful, make sure she notices you approach, give her a bit of a wave and let her nod you over. It’s just way easier to be creepy or make her uncomfortable and probably not gonna be as effective of a strategy anyway which is why most people would just avoid it outright. You want to make women feel safe when you approach them, otherwise it’s bad for both parties, and in a park at night you have a much lower starting level of comfort. | /r/seduction | 16/08/21 08:36 PM |
| 0 | Competition anxiety is the key to getting/keeping the girl you want.What a fantastic example of black and white thinking. Creating a little bit of competition to display value is apparently willingly making someone jealous. | /r/seduction | 14/08/21 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Poor timing lolThat’s a bad strategy | /r/seduction | 13/08/21 11:12 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Use your eyes | /r/seduction | 13/08/21 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Every girls is rejecting me for no reasonyoure absolutely, positively fine to keep trying. Just, make your approach intentional. Do two things each week: make one change to how you approach girls, and do one thing in your own life to make yourself more valuable to girls. It's huge already that you are trying 150+ approaches etc., you got the balls you just have to apply the strategy now Also, few things: never approach from behind a girl, and make good eye contact when you walk up | /r/seduction | 13/08/21 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Every girls is rejecting me for no reasonDo you live in a small town in Missouri? If not, it doesn’t matter. | /r/seduction | 13/08/21 06:57 AM |
| 1 | Every girls is rejecting me for no reasonNope they do | /r/seduction | 13/08/21 06:55 AM |
| 6 | Where to meet women if don’t drink and no online apps?Single most important thing you can have, tied with physical health. Good thing such an asinine comment is getting downvoted. | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Where to meet women if don’t drink and no online apps?…zero friends? I don’t care for friends? That’s a gaping red flag. | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 06:53 AM |
| 2 | Where to meet women if don’t drink and no online apps?What the fuck does I don’t care for friends mean? Actually I know what it means because I used to be that way, but I’m trying to illustrate a point, snap the hell out of that attitude. You are better with people around you than without, start treating people that way. | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 06:52 AM |
| 17 | [deleted by user]Tbh it’s actually good advice though. | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Lifting....Changed everythingI’ve seen the opposite from him on BF%, saying you shouldn’t be going for the crazy single digits but like mid teens. | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Lifting....Changed everythingI know everyone has haters, so I hesitate to even ask, but you wanna enlighten me on why he’s a hack? | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 05:54 PM |
| 7 | Lifting....Changed everythingNothing like being able to throw on one of those videos with lunch or something to get a little more hyped and learn something new too. | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 06:02 AM |
| 17 | Lifting....Changed everythingSeconded and thirded, that guy is a life hack | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 05:56 AM |
| 2 | Lifting....Changed everythingFriend friend friend friend friend | /r/seduction | 09/08/21 05:56 AM |
| 3 | They say "just have good posture" like its easy but here's how you actually do it. and get rid of that hump neck/backLike the other guy said you need tone in the right muscles for posture. You can’t just fix it with a corrector unless you already had that tone. | /r/seduction | 07/08/21 05:55 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Any way to fix that is step 1! | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 07:00 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]If you have highly technical friends pull away from them. Start hanging out with your less rational friends. You’ll find they are probably smarter in general life anyway. | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 12:22 AM |
| 16 | I think my boss wants to fuck meHow much do you need the job ? | /r/seduction | 03/08/21 11:10 PM |
| 1 | New to this sub but just want to point out some tips from what I’ve read so farNice points, but 2 just doesn’t work, as a man youre leaving money on the table if you never get comfortable with leading interactions and never get over your anxiety to go over and talk to girls. That’s what this sub is about. And 1 is just you telling us what kind of girls to be attracted to, I don’t get it. Guys like looks. It’s biological. | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Maybe cold approach works really well for some, and not for others. I've seen posts recently either criticizing or supporting cold approach. But the question's not "Is cold approach a good way?" The correct question should be "Is cold approach a good way FOR ME?"This is a very long winded way to say lean into your strengths if you don’t want to improve your weaknesses. Most likely you weren’t perfect at it and would enjoy it a lot more if you would grind and improve at it. Personally I dislike dating in social circles because things can get messy. | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 04:30 PM |
| 2 | I kissed someone last night!That’s a Reddit thing tho, not everyone is in tune with that stuff. | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 05:52 AM |
| 1 | What do you guys think of the book Models by Mark Manson?Don’t really connect with no more mr. nice guy. If you don’t struggle with literally crippling nice guy syndrome (where it’s fucked up years of your life by staying in bad relationships), you won’t connect either. Just read models. | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 05:39 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Man, I bet if I had your head of hair I’d probably be close to a 10/10. It’s not just your height. You just gotta make what you can make work; work. | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 01:08 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]It’s just a signal you’re not a 10/10. It’s okay not to be. I’m not either bc of my forehead and nose, but I have nice eyes. | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 01:03 AM |
| 4 | One of the worst things a girl you've just met can say to you is "You don't listen, do you?"WHAT?! I CANT HEAR YOU | /r/seduction | 25/07/21 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Is it really possible to "make" someone attracted or is it decided before an approach is even made?Well i would start by approaching a lot and notice what signals they make to you, body language, eye contact etc. When you find one that’s easy to talk to, remember what signals she made. Associate that and you will be able to spot interested girls. | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Is it really possible to "make" someone attracted or is it decided before an approach is even made?Neutral -> interested Yes, this is by having game, but will obviously not work anywhere near all the time Disinterested -> interested Exceedingly rarely But it’s better to just go for interested girls, unless you’re trying to make your game better more than being with girls. | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 09:40 PM |
| 3 | Approaching girls who give IOI’s when surrounded by peopleIf a girl is sitting in the cafe and smiles at you, go over and say hey on your way out. Ask her about the book she’s reading. If an Apple store worker smiles at you, don’t hold them up, they have shit to do. If a bartender smiles at you, at a bar that’s not too busy, go in with the expectation she’s PROBABLY just being nice, but chat her up anyway. Bartenders love to talk as long as it’s not like a club bar where they have people lined up asking for a drink at all times. | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Dark side behind tinder boost function and membership - why you should never buy their stuffWhat’s POF? | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 08:16 PM |
| 0 | What I’ve learned from dating apps as a Male.I mean I’m not replying to the paragraph of you just being dense. | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 06:39 AM |
| 0 | What I’ve learned from dating apps as a Male.You really should re-read if you think I was accusing you of gaslighting. | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 06:12 AM |
| 1 | What does it really mean if drunk guys hit on you?He’s just saying to keep your wits about you, it’s solid advice. Don’t let a drunk dude who can lift you up corner you. | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 05:42 AM |
| 2 | What I’ve learned from dating apps as a Male.I’m sorry, wait, did you just compare stock photos, professionally taken of models, to what I said which is a blurry photo of a hot guy holding a fish and a pic of him with his sister? You missed the point by a country mile king. I’m speaking from experience you evidently don’t have, but feel free to feel gaslit 😘 | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 03:48 AM |
| 2 | What I’ve learned from dating apps as a Male.Or… he has a good profile. A 6 with box-checking photos, and a good bio, will get infinitely more matches than a 9 with a blurry photo of him holding a fish and a photo of him with his sister whose bio says “dtf”. He also admitted to not being picky, which 10xes your matches. Not sure what’s far fetched about this. E: Also, gaming the app by changing filters occasionally, swiping during peak hours, etc. - making sure you get shown. And maybe he was paying for platinum which shows your profile to… | /r/seduction | 23/07/21 02:42 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Oneitis is when you get attached to a girl when it isn’t working out. Generally it’s to be avoided so you can date around and check out your options before going into a relationship with an awesome girl for a while. Getting into a relationship is not oneitis. | /r/seduction | 22/07/21 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Question Regarding Female Psychology When faced with a Romantic Confession from a Man ?Two simple things. These are generally applicable. Telling a woman you have feelings for her instantly turns your relationship from fun to serious. If you’re ever at a point you feel the need to say that, then it’s too early in the relationship to make it serious and take out the fun part. | /r/seduction | 22/07/21 01:24 AM |
| 1 | I don‘t get clubbing.It’s acceptable after you guys have been dancing together. How do you start dancing with a girl? That’s a nuanced topic. | /r/seduction | 22/07/21 01:18 AM |
| 3 | I don‘t get clubbing.Then you don’t get it. You have to enjoy the vibe in clubs or you won’t get anyone. I love clubs. Try going to clubs that play music you enjoy for starters. | /r/seduction | 22/07/21 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Isn't "the game" just a way to manipulate someone?Yes, what game coaches teach you is inauthentic. There’s an important distinction between “game” as in learning lines, and “game” as in becoming more satisfied with who you are as a person, in tune with your masculine nature, and learning how to make girls feel comfortable and happy. If you sort through the chaff you’ll find a decent amount of the latter here and that will obviously translate to when you settle down. | /r/seduction | 21/07/21 11:10 PM |
| 1 | approach on facebookDon’t | /r/seduction | 21/07/21 07:23 AM |
| -1 | Are There Any Dancefloor Game Experts Here?So you come out here, ask for advice and immediately trash the advice you get (which was pretty good). Consider reading Models. | /r/seduction | 21/07/21 07:23 AM |
| 0 | Are There Any Dancefloor Game Experts Here?It’s actually great advice | /r/seduction | 21/07/21 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Are There Any Dancefloor Game Experts Here?It’s actually great advice | /r/seduction | 21/07/21 07:22 AM |
| 5 | Hey guys confusedTake time off and talk to other women | /r/seduction | 21/07/21 06:46 AM |
| 2 | Another night of approaches and eventually found the oneThis is basically the premise of the first part of models. | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Interesting snap shot into mind of woman who cancelled on me.That’s actually hilarious | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 07:20 PM |
| 1 | [Update] Girl blocks me on social media, then wants to re-addDude yeah if she ever goes off on you just ignore it make it clear you’re not here for that shit… if she shows that’s her only modus operandi beyond a reasonable doubt then just cut her out. Same as I would do with a guy btw. This is basic humanity | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 06:12 AM |
| 2 | How do I get over this girl ASAP!!!Do NOT tell her why you’re feeling depressed whatever you do. This is a workplace and that’d be super unprofessional. Other than that the advice in this thread is good. | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 06:10 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]She sounds a little unstable man. I think you made a mistake getting into that relationship because she was so nice. When someone is too nice at the beginning of something, it can actually be because they feel like they have to compensate for their nature. I think I’ve been this person before too, when I was more jaded and less stable. | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 05:18 AM |
| 7 | Matched with a girl I see in the gymLike the other guy said just use it as an excuse to chat her up when you see her next! Assuming she’s not mid set etc. you know the etiquette. You’re blessed here to already have the in person opportunity, don’t blow it by texting. | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 09:52 PM |
| 2 | Guys who got fit and muscular, how did that help with girls?So far the main thing I’ve noticed is that girls at clubs get very comfy resting their hands on my upper body. Generally speaking, without me even escalating first. But it tends to be the chunkier ones. | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 08:48 PM |
| 3 | I approached my first girl ever yesterday and got her numberNah fam he just called me a boy, he’s clearly more mature than that. I’ll give him 14 | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 08:15 PM |
| 10 | I approached my first girl ever yesterday and got her numberNo one gives a shit | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 10:27 AM |
| 2 | I don't want anyone having the power to control my emotions like this.Sorry, but she sounds insecure and like a total dick if she’s telling you shit like he was even bigger than you are. Cut it off and let her grow up before you rekindle anything with her. She should know better than to talk like that to a guy, that’s just basic understanding of a man’s mind. That’s not negging or fun, it’s pretty shitty. You wouldn’t say the same thing to a woman about melting into another girl’s ass that was bigger than hers for example, for the same reason. I don’t think there’… | /r/seduction | 17/07/21 11:30 PM |
| 4 | 31 male no girlfriend. Hardly any friends. Lonely AFAlso just a stupid viewpoint. Plenty of awesome people and women at bars. | /r/seduction | 17/07/21 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Startle preventionLike the other guy said make eye contact first, if you don’t have that opportunity then get in her field of view first. Think like coming up next to her at the bar on the side she’s facing. | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Impossible to be friendly or have normal conversation on tinderWhat are some examples of second messages that you sent? | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 10:13 PM |
| 2 | The WORST ADVICE that I have EVER HEARD (and that you are told everyday)He recoiled at how much you misinterpreted the intent generally given behind the quote. Not many people interpret that the way you do. The fact you do is actually a big advantage for you in terms of inner and outer game. | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 08:17 PM |
| 1 | A horrible (or so I thought) cold approach turned into a date. Always ask for contact info even if it doesn't seem like it's going anywhereNot to mention I'm pretty fucking slim (still early in the process of bulking up) so I'm kind of worried about a dude going off if he's bigger than me. Especially the places I hang out, lots of pretty girls with overprotective rich dudes. | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 11:04 PM |
| 36 | Girl invited another dude?The context is important here. You’re going to a concert. It’s not like you guys are going for drinks and she invited another dude. I’ll admit my gut reaction was to tell her to fuck off. But I re read your post. A concert isn’t a place you just go to get to know another person, it’s an event that people want to go to for the music as well. So it’s somewhat understandable if someone decided to tag along. It doesn’t necessarily mean she even invited them or wants them there. My advice is simple. … | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 08:17 AM |
| 1 | A horrible (or so I thought) cold approach turned into a date. Always ask for contact info even if it doesn't seem like it's going anywhereThat last part i can really relate to. I get super thrown off when girls have guys in the group. It’s my own biggest self-cockblock. | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 08:12 AM |
| 1 | Cold approached a cute girl on a hike yesterdayOoh she was for sure fishing for you to do the next hike with her. But good call on not doing the same hike twice | /r/seduction | 11/07/21 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Girl goes cold after I try to set up second date.Wait why did you withdraw the offer? Just make the other plans and cancel on them if she follows through. It sounds like she was still down. | /r/seduction | 10/07/21 08:50 AM |
| 3 | How to Pick up Girls at a Beach? (at night)Serious answer: Yes, With a group. Offer them beers. Don’t ask if they want them though. Just say we brought you beers. Don’t tell them they look good, let your eyes say that | /r/seduction | 10/07/21 08:43 AM |
| 2 | why do i attract the same type of womanI don’t want to be that guy but… the first 30 pages of Models by Mark Manson talks specifically about why some guys only attract insecure girls. | /r/seduction | 10/07/21 08:35 AM |
| 3 | Ladies and Gents... My worst pickup lineThis is absolutely fucking hilarious. | /r/seduction | 09/07/21 07:35 AM |
| 1 | Do you ever get over regret of not taking action in College?Disagree. It’s natural to feel off as a dude for not being able to deliver under pressure in a romantic situation. Doesn’t imply what you said at all to me. | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 02:13 AM |
| 2 | Do you ever get over regret of not taking action in College?Oh yeah totally got over that. Had a lot of regrets from college but I don’t care anymore cause I’ve built a nice life and, more importantly, had success with women since then. | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 02:12 AM |
| 1 | How do you talk over messages?I think the collective wisdom here would be you just don’t. Move onto other girls and re engage her after. | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 02:09 AM |
| 3 | Gym crush "NEED SOME ADVICE"Nah you already have half the battle won which is seeing her regularly. So you don’t need to worry about rushing anything like exchanging info. Be happy to see her next time and say hi if you catch her at a time she isn’t too in the zone. | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 08:38 AM |
| 6 | how to escalate when cuddling?I find it a little tacky to go straight for under the shirt and to the tits but maybe that’s just a style thing. I much prefer to give her some rubs on the thighs or small of her back. I also feel like I won’t escalate to fingering unless she’s really excited. This is just my 2c. | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 06:35 AM |
| 4 | My sexual preferences make me incompatible with most women who are attracted to meMove to San Francisco. The pool of girls there who like/want submissive guys is massive because of the social dynamics of having a gigantic competing population of dudes in tech. | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 08:36 PM |
| 5 | Sex won’t make you happyLegit, all it is is playing the numbers game, not being filtered out. If you're too thin, fat, or even extremely ripped, you are reducing the pool of women who will be choosers. Just get to the point you look built and don't go crazy over it. | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 08:33 PM |
| 5 | Sex won’t make you happyHahaha I was gonna say | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 08:32 PM |
| 17 | Sex won’t make you happyIt was "spits everywhere" that did it for me | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 08:31 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]As for what to say: If you have a concert coming up you’d like to invite her to, try to fashion an opening and mention it. Don’t just bring up that she hasn’t texted you or whatever. | /r/seduction | 02/07/21 01:44 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Dunno. As long as you pick a good time. Just put your phone in her hand and make it clear its so you can let her know when you need a +1 to a concert. | /r/seduction | 02/07/21 01:42 AM |
| 5 | Thoughts on this post?This is something you can absolutely do if you’re not actually trying to get with girls. I’ve been here, all about the mystique of being the guy who doesn’t do it like everyone else, etc. It’s not worth thinking like this, like you’re a burden on the girls you meet. It’s actually borderline toxic and self disrespectful. | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 04:03 PM |
| 1 | 12 Dating Principles For Young MenGood deal man. Nice points. | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 07:29 AM |
| 1 | I hate the fact that men have to play games with women to get them interested. It's so exhaustingMeh, it’s fun. | /r/seduction | 27/06/21 07:23 PM |
| 3 | What are the best cars for picking up gold diggersI would have too. | /r/seduction | 06/06/21 04:58 AM |
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