maya_elena Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
25	The meaning of morality for women	DISCUSSION	maya_elena	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/16 05:26 AM
23	It's Not a Power Struggle!	INSIGHTFUL	maya_elena	/r/RedPillWives	06/08/16 12:06 AM
12	Some studies on divorce and marital conflict	THEORY	maya_elena	/r/RedPillWomen	24/05/16 02:24 AM
1	Discussion: woman's role in improving a relationship or marriage		maya_elena	/r/RedPillWomen	16/04/16 06:16 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
6	"you only care about yourself" But he at least owes her the information in a timely manner, if only because he is the captain and needs to communicate the family direction. Just like if you said you'd pick up the kids from school, and you can't, you owe her that information ASAP, not 10 min after dismissal.	/r/MarriedRedPill	17/10/16 05:59 AM
1	A woman's perspective I guess. It depends on the timing of his deterioration (did marriage flip a switch?). I thought he only got fat in ten months. Well, best of luck to that relationship anyway....	/r/MarriedRedPill	17/10/16 04:59 AM
1	A woman's perspective Yeah but there are still degrees of depravity. (Edit: spelling)	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/10/16 07:08 PM
3	What would you suggest a guy look at to differentiate a "fair weather woman" vs a "for better or for worse woman"? I guess you can't know unless you go through adversity with a person - and see how they fare when their job sucks and yours does and you have no money and a sick relative to care for. Don't set it up, but you can see a person show their true colors under such pressure. I'd also say that someone who can constructively voice their opinions, be supportive, not gainsay your or embarrass you in public, is a good first set of diagnostics.	/r/RedPillWives	14/10/16 06:35 PM
7	A woman's perspective No. Not good. Not a nice girl. Even if you are a future fat sex-denying harpy with only average ethical standards, you should 1) feel embarrassed enough at your husband's failures that you don't talk about it at work, and 2) make a good-faith effort to scold him into improvement before giving up and handing out your phone number. You complain to girlfriends, not to men, and not at work. Even under the paradigm of husband-as-child (not recommended, but common), you the parent are the one responsi…	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/10/16 06:25 PM
1	Woman in a boys club I think how a girl blends into a male group depends a lot on some intrinsic charisma - maybe it's unaffectedness, or confidence, or openness, or who knows what, but it's hard to put a finger on. Nonetheless, I've seen this type of girl: every guy inner group respects her judgment, behaves himself in her presence, has only positive things to say about her, and will defend her to detractors. I other words, she is welcomed with open arms. Another type of girl can try but will never manage it. Maybe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/16 02:42 PM
1	What's the most common mistake people make when choosing their spouse? - by /u/LaTuFu Re: #4 - isn't that the goal - effective captain-first officer dynamic, when the having fun and giving value to each other just happens without conscious daily strategems? The "phase 4" of MRP?	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/09/16 09:08 PM
3	Be a man, not a boy. From my personal experience, I'd get annoyed at innuendo if it was particularly crass and came across like a plea/demand for sex RIGHT NOW, without putting in any effort to seduce or be romantic, especially if I'm in the middle of doing something like laundry, dishes, cooking, etc. Also, maybe -depending on how prissy or prim the paritcular flower of femininity is - she might judge the innuendo for lack of subtlety or cleverness, purely on aesthetic grounds? Though I feel like this alone could g…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/09/16 09:38 PM
1	Am I crazy to breakup with a hot girl I like because she talks too much but I like every other thing about her? So I could well be in your girlfriend's shoes: I like to talk and have probably annoyed many a gentleman caller with it. I asked my husband about it, and he told me two things: 1) he tunes me out when I run on too much, and 2) If he didn't already like me for other reasons, the prattle would be a deal-breaker, in spite of an otherwise impressive "resume". Maybe you just viscerally don't like this girl, even though she looks good on paper?	/r/askMRP	25/08/16 06:59 PM
1	dealing with your history... I don't think ex being an ex per se is enough to elicit consistent jealousy and stress to the extent described in OP. If ex was a complete washout and slob, I don't think SO would care as much. He might think less of OP for dating said slob, but ex wouldn't be a credible rival. So in the case that OP is behaving appropriately, shutting down advances, etc., we ask what is it that's stressing SO. Is SO less somehow out of his element in these "work/social" settings? Does ex put forth some kind of …	/r/RedPillWives	16/08/16 09:09 PM
1	Feedback from your Ex Yeah you're right... I never actually gave the feedback. Just really wanted to. Anyway, the guy is now happily married to someone much better matched to him than college-age me. :p	/r/RedPillWives	16/08/16 06:03 PM
0	dealing with your history... Hmm, I wonder what about your ex makes your SO uneasy. It's not just about ex being flirty - if a creepy old guy on the bus was flirty with you, SO might be protective, but not jealous. So whence the insecurity? E.g., ex dresses flashier, SO thinks ex is smarter, SO has a weird hangup about a mole on his arm .... You might need to assuage that specific insecurity, by reassuring him, or making your shut-downs of ex more obvious, or even sharing a few dirty details ("his mom did his laundry") - th…	/r/RedPillWives	16/08/16 05:58 PM
4	Nag-jar :) Awesome idea! Need to start carrying cash now :p Not the same with IOUs I'd bet. :)	/r/RedPillWives	16/08/16 05:34 PM
1	RP Guy Needs Advice From experience, I find that, if not getting my way sucks, it sucks WAY more to have just enough evidence to support my illusion that he is OK with what I want (if not ecstatic), only to find out otherwise at the last moment. I will feel shitty either way for a space of time, but sensible people get over that. Ans that's without any consideration of what is right, honorable and logical in your specific situation.	/r/RedPillWives	16/08/16 03:46 AM
2	Feedback from your Ex This kind of turns the question on its head, and -not sarcastically - have any of you wanted to provide your ex feedback? At least on those last moments before you hit the eject button (not revisiting the relationship years later, obviously)? I am thinking of one instance in which I took the easy (cowardly) way out initiating the breakup - "distance is hard, not working out, different paths, blah blah", and then I regretted it and felt I should have been honest and said what bothered me.	/r/RedPillWives	10/08/16 10:23 PM
7	Feedback from your Ex I wouldn't do it. It only puts you in a weak position and costs you any dignity you might have salvaged in the breakup. Maybe in a few decades, if you, your spouse, he and his spouse are all good friends having a few drinks on the porch while your teenage kids make out in the basement thinking you don't know. :p	/r/RedPillWives	10/08/16 04:02 AM
4	Submission as a Commodity I think education gets such a bad rap because people think it can replace qualities that historically correlated with education, but are not a consequence of it. For example: open-mindedness, wisdom, thoughtfulness, good manners. It's the difference between being educated and "well-bred".	/r/RedPillWives	10/08/16 01:06 AM
3	Submission as a Commodity PS I also think your point about respect is particularly good. At a recent wedding I went to, the priest emphasized this a lot - how respect must come before love. It wasn't my wedding or my church, but I think I took the message more to heart than the newlyweds.... Respect above all.	/r/RedPillWives	10/08/16 01:02 AM
5	Submission as a Commodity It's interesting you use the word "commodity". It is often used to describe goods where one unit is interchangeable with another, and so competition is only on price (e.g., crops, oil). Interpreted that way, sex is the commodity - and a cheap one at that. To carry the market analogy: traits like thoughtfulness, sensuality, kindness, solicitousness, breadth of mind, poise, etc., are rather a woman's differentiators and competitive advantages in the sexual marketplace. The feminine qualities eleva…	/r/RedPillWives	10/08/16 12:59 AM
3	6 Feminist Myths That Will Not Die I don't think you read very carefully. The rebuttal quotes the study authors as saying that the actual number of victims pressed into sexual slavery probably numbers in the hundreds - that's orders of magnitude less than 100,000. The last sentence of #2 also acknowledges the seriousness of the issue.	/r/RedPillWives	09/08/16 04:35 PM
3	Amazing things can happen when you let your captain lead :) The internet chatter around the Internet bounces between her being an abuse victim or a doper. I HATE that - when people see a good thing and try to tear it down any way they can. Say "awesome swimmer, awesome relationship" and be on your merry way. But I suppose that that is what I get for reading comments to news articles. (Thankfully the originally posted article doesn't have a comments section.) (Edit typo)	/r/RedPillWives	08/08/16 10:42 PM
2	Can Personality be Changed? That's a hard one. I'd expect most people can get "very good" at most things (including sports, music, math), given enough time and effort. But nothing's free, so you have to do the cost-benefit analysis. Maybe the best way to define personality specifically, would be to see what outlooks, thinking patterns, and approaches do you default to when my guard is down and you're not trying? There are clearly innate differences, and different roles in society (e.g., lab scientist vs. doctor) are better…	/r/RedPillWives	07/08/16 04:50 PM
3	I finally did it. Congratulations! I gotta ask though: were you your own midwife when you gave birth? ;)	/r/RedPillWives	07/08/16 05:04 AM
2	It's Not a Power Struggle! Thank you!! Will try not to disappoint! :)	/r/RedPillWives	07/08/16 04:47 AM
1	[FR] – Using MRP and RPW in a marriage RPW or something similar can benefit a girl if she spends a lot of time in a feminist echo chamber (say, her friends from college): imagine finding a community of women who are anti-feminist, but also confident and (gasp) literate!	/r/MarriedRedPill	06/08/16 12:19 AM
2	Advice please: Difficult in laws to be & my family oriented SO For all my and others' dire words, all might not be so bad. How often have you met his family? If you use the next few visits to cultivate a more cordial relationship, heck, it might work out, especially if you take everyone's sage advice and take steps to minimize unwanted friction. Also, a thing often forgotten is, we do not act in a vacuum. Your boy is presumably intelligent and observant and sensible. If he's high-quality, he'll periodically be okay when you are less engaged in family stuff,…	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/16 10:48 PM
2	Advice please: Difficult in laws to be & my family oriented SO You are right, which is why it's only a potential red flag. But taken to extremes it can turn into them not being able to fo anything apart for any extended period of time, though they may need to (eg business trip, mandatory event they can't both afford to go to, bachelor/ette party weekend). The conversation might go like this: Him: "I know we visited last three weekends, but I want to go again this weekend!" Her: "Go ahead! I'll miss you, but this way I can catch up on some girly time! :) " H…	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/16 05:55 PM
2	Date Ideas Megathread Waltz is hard. Swing is hard. Start with 4/4 count dances! Folk-type dancing is less formal, is all in multiples of 4, and they give instructions. There's also contra-dancing (a la Pride and Prejudice).	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/16 04:51 PM
4	Advice needed [Note : the following assumes your husband is not an evil asshole or serious abuser.] Edit: grammar and spelling. I think one of the biggest favors a woman can do herself in Western society today is to stop seeing her interactions with the world like a power struggle. Obviously, there are some exceptions (e.g., if your boss is blackmailing you for sexual favors), but that lens should not be the default. It is just a rhetorical strategy that pressure groups use to poison what are otherwise honest…	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/16 04:50 PM
2	Date Ideas Megathread Swing dance rocks! Consider more choreographed dance (e.g. square) if he is afflicted with extra left feet.	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/16 03:11 PM
5	Advice please: Difficult in laws to be & my family oriented SO I think /u/BellaScarletta nailed it in her response. I'd also like to emphasize two pitfalls for this relationship. 1) As someone coming from your SO's perspective (I'm the one with the bigger and closer-knit family in my relationship), I'd expect the "SO vs. family" dynamic to continue, playing a bit of that tug-of-war for the rest of your life if you marry him. He will be constantly mediating between you and MIL for the rest of her life, especially when the kids come. And it's not clear to me …	/r/RedPillWives	05/08/16 03:07 PM
2	When it comes to friends and their influence where do you draw the line? Yes! I agree completely! There is one other category of friend: someone whom you support through hard times, even if you've drifted apart, in memory and for the sake of what you have shared for many years.	/r/RedPillWives	03/08/16 04:20 AM
1	[FR] It does get easier I think that OP's response was top-notch, and that is how I prefer to be leveled with when feeling resentful. And I think any reasonable wife would too. On the "you should have spoken up if you wanted to leave" point though (and I don't think this is OP's situation, but still worth pointing out): if in the past the guy had a habit of responding to her "speaking up" with negative reinforcement -acting annoyed, lashing out, etc. - it may take more encoencouragement on his part before she trusts hi…	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/08/16 12:10 AM
1	Excellent analysis of the "Duluth Model" and how it affects RP relationships With this type of demagoguery, one must ignore the details and go straight for the agenda. It's completely cynical and disingenuous, so there's not even point in arguing against it. (Although you can come up with plenty.) But suppose it's true that, to some extent, men think beating women is OK because Society. Suppose some subset of men even explicitly beat their wives "because it is their male prerogative". So what? Why frame it in terms of class struggle? The goal, of course, is to subvert th…	/r/RedPillWives	01/08/16 03:30 AM
3	Name one thing you'd like to change about yourself to improve your relationship? I can relate! And you reach the point where fake deadlines don't work anymore....	/r/RedPillWives	28/07/16 09:48 PM
2	Help me decide my best living situation for the next year or so? Which of these is on a metro stop, besides your dad's place?	/r/RedPillWives	28/07/16 09:23 PM
6	Name one thing you'd like to change about yourself to improve your relationship? Congrats on your progress! I noticed for myself that a week doesn't seem like much, but it is hard to maintain a resolve or a routine even over that time period. 1) Less time on time-sucking activities like TV and internet. This damages my relationship in that I fall behind, feel guilty when reminded, and tens to lash out a bit. 2) Get more sleep. Otherwise I need to stay at work work later if I wake up later, less time at home for time-sucking activities, I stay up later..... Vicious cycle.	/r/RedPillWives	28/07/16 06:07 PM
2	"The Hypocrisy and Cruelty of the Leftist Feminist" I sometimes wonder what would have happened if feminism had taken after the ideas of women like Ayn Rand and Isabel Patterson, instead of soaking up prettied up Soviet propaganda.	/r/RedPillWives	28/07/16 02:19 PM
1	Miss-matched energy levels? PS when I feel really ignored (read: video game day), I think about what it would be like if he was, say, a trucker or drafted in the military, as could happen in the good old days of yore in the US and in most other countries on this green earth today.	/r/RedPillWives	28/07/16 02:14 PM
2	Miss-matched energy levels? Edit: finished writing. First, ascertain whether he realizes a problem exists. Passive aggression is wasted on guys, in my experience at least. If all you need to do is nicely ask him to be more present, and he will oblige no problem, your problem is solved. Even if you need to ask a dozen times before it happens naturally. But in general, I say that yeah, accept it for the most part. He would not be himself without passion for life and work, without other interests, without caring about doing a…	/r/RedPillWives	28/07/16 01:54 PM
2	Miss-matched energy levels? Well if his periods of inattention occur once a month or less, for a week or less, put up with it like he puts up with your PMS. The thing you want is his attention. (I can sympathize, being an attention hog myself at times.) Because of this, a lot of the advice - getting new friends or hobbies - are really just distractions. They are important to have, and they will tide you over, but they likely won't kill your resentment if he becomes less ans less attentive and brings work more and more into…	/r/RedPillWives	28/07/16 03:42 AM
7	Will this certain feeling of fakeness pass? Am I too far gone to ever be a RPW for him? Since you have only been at this a week and haven't established expectations, I'd say you settle into a level of "feminine" and "neat" that you can realistically maintain, and maintain that. I think you should keep "faking" it on not being nagging or negative, but have flexibility in how "cheerful", feminine, and "neat" you can be, I think you should keep working through "nagging" front the hardest because negativity is not attractive and - even if it's an innate part of your personality - any a…	/r/RedPillWives	24/07/16 04:29 PM
2	An RPW Breakup, an RPW fresh start, and a fresh hello to all my RPW ladyfriends (: I don't need to reiterate the other 30 comments. I concur that you acted correctly. Your description of HB reminds me of a short story - "A Jury of Her Peers", by Susan Glaspell. I don't want to give spoilers, so I won't say more, but encourage you to read it.	/r/RedPillWives	22/07/16 09:59 PM
1	Can I get some RPW advice on a delicate financial situation? I'm having trouble being a good first mate! Didn't advocate mutiny. But I think the concerns need to be voiced tactfully but without much delay.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/06/16 02:03 PM
1	Can I get some RPW advice on a delicate financial situation? I'm having trouble being a good first mate! Ok. So a few questions to start with. 0) Under the circumstances, your first six months of marriage will be stressful in any case, so gird your loins. (Ok this one wasn't a question.) 1) Did you bring up your concerns to him in any way yet? Particularly about the health insurance? How did that transpire? 2) Is there some leeway on the timing of your move? Could you get an extra month or so? 3) Is commuting farther to your job each way or working at home an option for you? 4) Has money been a pro…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/06/16 06:56 AM
5	Can I get some RPW advice on a delicate financial situation? I'm having trouble being a good first mate! Oooh I'd disagree. Raiding the "house fund" - if that's what they agreed it was - is not sound financial management, and being without insurance is also risky. If Danny posted that in the men's subreddit, he'd catch flak for that. While the matter is really delicate, and OP absolutely shouldn't throw her gift of loan repayment into his face, Danny is still not doing his job. I need to think some more on this situation, but this much seems clear...	/r/RedPillWomen	15/06/16 06:48 AM
1	Ayn Rand On Femininity I would start with We The Living. It's smaller and written earlier.	/r/RedPillWives	14/06/16 07:54 PM
10	sketchy theory of body autonomy and dead bedrooms; bear with me. Edited for grammar I don't disagree that doing it even when you "don't feel like it" but feel guilty is not rape, and insults real rape victims. But from a historical perspective, I do think it's naïve to think men didn't get denied by their wives and didn't sleep around as a result, especially in aristocratic circles where marriages were arranged, and without contraception. (Otherwise how did they only manage to have one or two kids??) Marriage for love wothout financial advantage only really b…	/r/RedPillWives	13/06/16 05:28 PM
1	Beauty, Fashion, and Makeup Megathread Anybody here have trouble buying tops ans dresses because of being short-waisted (I.e., you have to get petites, and even then something fitted might be too long?)	/r/RedPillWives	13/06/16 01:55 PM
3	What does your social life consist of? Here's a list of my activities, to give you a data point. For context, I live in the US in a fairly large city. I am an extrovert, but drinking-based events were never my scene, so college was mostly a lonely affair for me. But I got lucky - some friends from my past moved into my area; I visited my family in a nearby state often, and also traveled whenever I could: every long weekend and opportunity work afforded (out-of-state clients, conferences, recruitment, etc.). I went out to various danc…	/r/RedPillWives	13/06/16 05:56 AM
1	Age gap and sex talk, red flags? (x-post from redpillwomen) Fair enough. I apologize for being presumptuous.	/r/RedPillWives	12/06/16 10:44 PM
1	Ayn Rand On Femininity The hard part about the above is, if you as a woman are in a relationship you hate, with a man you feel contempt for, it is you who compromised your values for mean short-term comfort, and your unhappiness is to a large degree your fault, not just your man's - and you must have the courage and fortitude to either help him to become better or leave him. I wonder if that is part of why hard-core political feminists don't like Ayn Rand - even though her views on it were pretty empowering to women.	/r/RedPillWives	12/06/16 10:40 PM
1	Ayn Rand On Femininity Indeed. And I feel that she is more approachable than Dagny, if you were looking at her in a discussion of what virtue means.	/r/RedPillWives	12/06/16 10:21 PM
1	Age gap and sex talk, red flags? (x-post from redpillwomen) If you have no experience and have never had a boyfriend, how do you know what your fetishes are? Do you have a lot of casual sex? Because liking a type of pornography doesn't mean you will like it in real life.... And making yourself really vulnerable to someone who is already showing signs of being a very good manipulator of young girls is realllly risky. (Note: I'm assuming that in the D/S situation you're looking to be the S.)	/r/RedPillWives	12/06/16 05:08 PM
2	Ayn Rand On Femininity Yes!! And from this admiration comes "the pride a woman is supposed to experience at being granted the title of wife" (this one's from Atlas Shrugged). It is so poignant and uplifting - what it means, or should mean, to be someone's wife: the double pride of earning the reward and granting it simultaneously. And it is legitimately hard to keep that exalted feeling alive and in your thoughts even as age, the drudgery of daily life, the degeneracy of the outside world, and your own missteps threat…	/r/RedPillWives	12/06/16 04:47 PM
2	Ayn Rand On Femininity I like Kira in We the Living and Dagny in Atlas more. Dominique's behavior was less convincing for me.	/r/RedPillWives	12/06/16 03:31 PM
1	I want to visit my SO, but am not allowed. Eh. I disagree with everyone's "he who pays the piper calls the tune" approach. Letting you stay in your old bedroom, especially if you pay for other expenses yourself, is not typically enough debt to give them legitimate control over where you travel. But first off, I bet they'll take it perfectly calmly if you jsut as calmly, without emotions or tantrums, tell them you got tickets and are going next weekend, giving them some alone time (wink wink). They might disapprove, but any reasonable par…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/06/16 03:10 PM
2	Repost from /r/redpillwomen: Help with my mindset? How much should I be giving him when we're not married but we already have sex? Balance b/w proving I'm wife-material but not giving him everything. Hmm, I'd posit that the core issue in your relationship is that, fundamentally, you do not trust him.Why not? Are you being irrational? Or is he giving off subtle warning signals that he doesn't want to be with you long-term? Let's look at the Facebook incident as an example. You feel resentful because you made a sacrifice and he didn't acknowledge it properly. (Covert contract!) But did you actually need to make that sacrifice? Did he know you made it, and does he know what he's supposed to do …	/r/RedPillWives	07/06/16 04:19 AM
1	Help with my mindset? How much should I be giving him when we're not married but we already have sex? Balance b/w proving I'm wife-material but not giving him everything. This one: "I resent the fact that it took so long" is all on you. Unless his ex-girlfriend had the patience to show him her preferences, and her preferences match yours, you're most likely going to have to bite the bullet and be happy he fixes a problem on his own time, or leave him if you think it's taking too long and the problem is too serious. With every reasonable minor thing you would like ("please take your shoes off in my house", "please take me out on a date, any date, once in a few mon…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/06/16 02:54 PM
3	Growing up with an Alpha father. Introspection with questions and observations about The Red Pill. This post really resonated with me and my feelings toward RP material. I generally stick to MRP and he women's subs now. But I like to think that what one sees on the Internet is a caricature: out of context and without nuance. Like runway fashion: what you get in real life is a wearable, watered-down version of a concept, not the exact concoction the model has on. These guys all have lives, feelings, complexity to their relationships that we don't see - and so I wouldn't be trying to guess and …	/r/RedPillWomen	06/06/16 03:52 AM
1	Thoughts on deference and the need to be right I like this attitude. It may sound trite, but at a certain point, you have to count your blessings. It's like when you pine for a life in a cooler city far away: is it really worth the lost time with friends and family, for example, and the hardships of not having anyone close near you?	/r/RedPillWives	04/06/16 05:41 AM
1	Thoughts on deference and the need to be right Indeed! And a person who is as sensitive and judgmental as your internal negativity-fueled auditor is is not worth your time anyway, at least not in general.	/r/RedPillWives	04/06/16 05:38 AM
0	She probably HAS told you what she really wants This is so true! But I think a lot of the time what we women say is not so much said as hinted at, subtly. And then we're upset when the hints fall on deaf ears. But on rare occasions, the wise among us say point-blank what we like, many times. "I like THIS sexual position; please take me to a sushi restaurant on my birthday." This takes all the romance and mystery out in the short term, but in a couple of years, when you go to that restaurant, it will be your initiative, no longer her instructi…	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/06/16 04:25 PM
3	Thoughts on deference and the need to be right At my most negative, I have kept score to make sure that I did more - paid for more, did more housework, whatever - to ensure that my righteous anger and injured innocence were legitimate. Most of my hurt, defensive arguments with my husband (playful games or arguments don't count) came from a place of insecurity - insecurity about my family, my friends, my political beliefs, my professional or academic competence, my appearance, his estimation of me, his perception by others. Three things in ou…	/r/RedPillWives	02/06/16 05:56 PM
1	Wedding Stories! You can set one up for free - weddingwire.com or theknot.com are the sites I know of. Very easy to do and very handy for posting information and getting RSVPs online - something many, if not all, of your guests might prefer. Not the best platform for managing guest lists or budgets, but useful.	/r/RedPillWives	02/06/16 05:52 AM
2	Wedding Stories! Realizing that this is a bit out of scope for this sub-reddit, but one cannot have enough useful advice for events like these. Therefore, here is some of mine, based on my experience (which went quite well): 1) Designate an obmudswoman (mom, maid of honor) who will triage any and all problems Day Of. 2) Have a set of low-priority things that enthusiastic people can help out with (flowers, guest book, seating people, etc.). 3) If you're doing it indoors or with a dance floor (not beach or grass),…	/r/RedPillWives	02/06/16 03:01 AM
4	Wedding Stories! I don't think that's a good idea.... let people get what they get. There are a ton of forums on the Internet (weddingbee, thenknot, weddingwire, etc., etc., etc.) that dissect the etiquette of gifts, registries, invitations, dress codes, etc.etc. etc. etc. I'd say the fine line between not insulting your guests' generosity and seeming entitled is to have a registry at some mainstream place (Macy's, Amazon) with items of different expensiveness, tastefully referenced on your wedding website and n…	/r/RedPillWives	02/06/16 02:34 AM
2	Christian Author Claims he Saved his Marriage with Choreplay I think it was a fish - this story: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Fisherman_and_His_Wife	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/06/16 02:26 AM
3	BBQ/potluck season is upon us From scratch? Ha! No - unfortunately, my abilities and counter space are much too humble for such an undertaking. I usually get Pepperidge Farm puff pastry sheets. Roll one out and cover about 1/3 of it with apples, or stuffing (like a thanksgiving turkey), or tuna (mixed with spices and egg and bread crumbs to absorb moisture, of course), then roll the sheet up again into a nice snake. Drizzle with something to make it tantalizingly golden-brown (e.g.egg, oil), put on a greased baking pan, and …	/r/RedPillWives	01/06/16 02:42 AM
3	BBQ/potluck season is upon us Re dessert: Yes! Puff-pastry sheets are your friends!	/r/RedPillWives	01/06/16 02:08 AM
2	Dealing with being kicked back for acting in an RPwives way. That's really weird that your in-laws made that comment. Was it specifically your mother-in-law or father-in-law? If the former, does his mother generally try to control or belittle your husband in other instances? For me, I never get outright scorn from my feminist girlfriends - more like "well, if you're sure that's the path you want to take.....". The great thing about a hyper-tolerant, politically correct society is, they aren't allowed to be intolerant of any views, including your retrograd…	/r/RedPillWives	01/06/16 02:05 AM
6	Women Should Have A Legal Guardian On a more serious note, I don't think the men advocating this truly thought it out. In today's feminized society, there is a lot to tempt a man: easy sex, no requirements of chivalry, no need to be the sole provider, no angry father or brother for 'dishonoring' a girl. With the return of "high-octane patriarchy", these responsibilities are likely to come back full-force, and I don't think these men are prepared to handle them. Maybe it's the women's fault for raising men that way, but it is what…	/r/RedPillWives	01/06/16 01:48 AM
5	Women Should Have A Legal Guardian I think Roosh's proposal is just a half-way measure, because it only regulates women and not men. Women have spent centuries refining the art of subtle manipulation, using a man's desire and children against him. Heck, even in ancient Greece we have plays like "Lysistrata"! So what does Roosh propose we do to mitigate the effects of female manipulation on weak males? What remedies will society have against a man who effectively rubber-stamps the decisions of the females under his guardianship, r…	/r/RedPillWives	01/06/16 01:27 AM
4	Women Should Have A Legal Guardian Minor point, but most Iranians are not, in fact, Arabs....	/r/RedPillWives	01/06/16 01:15 AM
1	When your wife openly flirts with the man you're trying to become Can't this be her (in her view) playful and delicate way of telling you to get bigger pecs?	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/05/16 06:51 PM
2	Women Are Now Cheating As Much As Men, But With Fewer Consequences They didn't even get the term right - it's 'heteronormativity', and means a belief in the existence of natural and distinct male/female gender roles, and that heterosexual relationships are the standard for normal relationships. Positively heterodox!! And that's just one example of ridiculous humanities academic jargon seeping into the mainstream.	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/05/16 06:05 PM
3	Why is it so hard for us to cut the BS? Hmm, the difference in communication styles is one good theory - especially because it leads to misunderstandings! You think he said he would do it, and he was just nodding without listening. He thought you meant "come see a show with me", and you meant "come, dress nice, and take me to dinner after". And the like. Another theory related to communication is if you don't 100% trust each other - ("Is he ignoring me on purpose? Is him forgetting to do X a sign of disrespect?" Etc.) But you get over…	/r/RedPillWives	26/05/16 02:20 AM
2	WWRPWD? Staying with his parents My red flag is that you seem to have no personal time apart from him! Maybe your lack of alone time is a blessing in disguise, because in the long term, being joined at the hip is sure to kill the germ of erotic fire between you! I'm reading a book (recommended in this and related subreddits) called "Mating in Captivity" by Esther Perel, and it's about just that - closeness kills eroticism! But I also agree with other posters that it's on him to act as buffer between you and his parents, especia…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/05/16 12:35 AM
9	What do YOU want to do? Also, the divorce rates vary a ton based on what your family circumstances were like, so the 50% is almost as misleading a figure as "women earn 70 cents on the dollar compared to men".	/r/MarriedRedPill	21/05/16 02:34 AM
1	Advice for a friend "Let's see other people" sounds like she's being demoted to plate... They might have some more fun together (depending on how healthy their relationship is) - but I doubt there's long-term potential. Unless he's into polyamory in general, in which case they wouldn't have been exclusive to start with. Thus I'd caution your friend to be ready for an impending breakup in spite of her improvements. (Not that she should stop them.) An important thing to check for is whether her boyfriend acquired any…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/05/16 01:43 PM
3	What makes wife-material and how does her career factor in? I don't think that's a general attitude on this particular subreddit. People here value capable, intelligent, and accomplished women. What I think most of the people here would agree on, however, is that a woman who is very competitive and ambitious in her career aspirations is more likely to suffer from 1) unwillingness to compromise said career to properly care for her children, and 2) desire to postpone marriage and kids until she is 'ready' - which might not happen until she is past 30, whic…	/r/MarriedRedPill	19/05/16 05:11 AM
1	Moving in mother-in-law's house after the wedding That does sound stressful! In that situation the power balance is against you. ("Ungrateful witch! Insulting poor old Mrs. Box! In her own home!") And if you have no reliable support from your husband - your main ally - there's almost no way you can win.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/05/16 03:09 PM
1	Moving in mother-in-law's house after the wedding Out of curiosity, when you lived with ex-MIL, did you live in her house, like OP, or did she come to live with you?	/r/RedPillWomen	17/05/16 02:29 PM
1	We can have different friends right? Is your daughter also his daughter? If not, is he just using squirrelly means to keep his social circle from learning about her?	/r/RedPillWomen	17/05/16 02:20 PM
5	Moving in mother-in-law's house after the wedding So this advice is based on my own experience with my MIL, my eminently wise mom's advice and example, and observations of other families where the women play man-tug-of-war. First: To some degree, some of this is on your SO. He must enforce the boundaries and not be a dogged wretch caught in a tug-of-war between two alpha females. So when he's present I think his leadership can keep things civil, if he "maintains frame" appropriately. When he ia not present, one of the following things that migh…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/05/16 08:49 AM
2	Does this prove that some girls are still RPW at heart Hmm, I'm concerned about the original poster's (in the link) desire to not work at all, ever. Maybe I'm reading into her post too much, but I feel as though that kind of attitude means that she will resent her husband if she ever does have to work.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/05/16 10:56 PM
1	Co-worker with girlfriend That's great! (And I was being a little tongue-in-cheek. Video games are okay once or twice a year. :p) Yeah... and especially if he likes to tell you his problems or stories but doesn't listen to yours, you know it's a hopeless case anyway. Good luck!!!	/r/RedPillWomen	14/05/16 10:37 PM
1	Co-worker with girlfriend You are probably are right, sir. Perhaps I just have a mean streak. :)	/r/RedPillWomen	13/05/16 10:04 PM
3	"Why don't you have a boyfriend?" I wonder how long before keywords like "Red Pill Man" or "Red Pill Woman" start appearing in OKCupid profiles....	/r/RedPillWomen	13/05/16 09:14 PM
1	Conspiratorial over Critical I agree! One might also call it "picking your battles", and vetting your own emotions to decide what's a reasonable expectation and what's not, and what matters and what does not (e.g., wrong brand of yogurt, broken plate). The exception would be if the mistake is a Big Deal, and it's not a joke anymore. If it was something truly hurtful or egregious, I think it deserves a serious - honest, measured, not-a-tantrum, but still serious - comment on why whatever-it-was wasn't okay. Edit: IS a big de…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/05/16 09:11 PM
4	Co-worker with girlfriend So I agree that he might be manipulating you. He might not be 100% TRP (as detachedbymarriage suggested), but even still, I'd be wary. Now, how to dampen those feelings you have for him? I've found that a good technique for nipping unwanted incipient crushes in the bud is to turn up all of the negative thinking that turns women into bad girlfriends and wives. Turn on the most judgmental aspect of your personality. Contemplate his looks and find fault in his dress, hygiene, and physical appearanc…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/05/16 08:55 PM
1	Wife has agreed after next child I will be seeing other women. Advice for those that have been or are in similar arrangements. I'm pretty sure his comment was sarcastic.	/r/askMRP	13/05/16 02:34 AM
2	Coping with extended periods of stress Have you ever wanted on a girl getting ready? Or timed the length of girls' showers? That's what I mean :p (Or else you could just hole up in there with a book. :D)	/r/RedPillWomen	12/05/16 02:17 PM
1	Coping with extended periods of stress 1)This is a bit Machiavellian, but if you want to get on his family's good side, you can be the long-suffering girlfriend, and let your boy be the one to get sick of his brother's presence. (Especially if his presence in anyway negatively affects your all-wekend-long sexy time.) 2) For de-stressing, I'd get the hell out of the house. Dancing is great - swing, line, hip-hop, Indian, whatever. Social dance is fun and great for practicing your social skills, including tellingpeople you're not avail…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/05/16 04:44 AM
9	I have a question. Do you dress attractive even when you have a boyfriend or do you not because you don't want other men flirting with you? Hmm, I'd think the reason women stop dressing up when they enter a relationship is not to protect modesty, but because they've already secured their man and don't think they need to put in the effort. (As to how true this assessment is, well, that depends on your gentleman's preferences.) I tend to be on the casual side, choosing comfort and expediency over fashion, unless it is a moderately special occasion. I have yet to become as accomplished as, say, French women are said to be - hair, makeu…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/05/16 02:09 AM
2	Who grew up in a RedPill household? I like it. :) But there is something a quite fearsome and awe-inspiring about a parent who 1) is eerily always right and 2) gets her way eerily often.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/05/16 07:16 PM
2	Who grew up in a RedPill household? Was that difficult to grow up with?	/r/RedPillWomen	09/05/16 04:41 AM
7	Who grew up in a RedPill household? I was unusually lucky with my parents. I can say that in all my years with them, I never observed a single major fight, or the kind of infantile behavior in either sex that RP is supposed to try to mitigate. And I can also say (though I won't share how) that they definitely do not have a dead bedroom. They are neither of them into fitness and they do not have their own "me-time" outside of work - they travel, go out, and hang out with friends together 99% of the time. But my dad is confident and…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/05/16 04:26 AM
7	Staying home vs. Staying interesting I have a few questions. Did he spring the move abroad as a surprise on you, and is it permanent or long-term? First, I think it is imperative to acknowledge the risks: it will absoltuely be difficult adjusting to being a housewife. You will almost certainly be isolated and disoriented in your first few months, and it will likely affect your conjugal happiness in the short term. Also, people in your new country may not accept you or be friendly. Immigration is not tourism. You can mitigate the ef…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/05/16 01:51 AM
3	Your thoughts on naked selfies? Worst comes to worst, plead the "it was photo-shopped!" excuse. "Darling, if mine were that big, I'd topple over!" (Just kidding of course.)	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/16 03:28 AM
2	The meaning of morality for women Anyway, random disjointed thoughts. TLDR Most virtues which apply to men apply to women. Few differences exist based on sex alone. Being virtuous isn't the best strategy for happiness and doesn't make sense today. On the contrary. Today is the most important time to be virtuous - when the restrictions on behavior are as lax as they have ever been (in the West at least), we can only be virtuous by choice, not because others police us. That said, virtuous does not necessarily mean law-abiding. A l…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/16 03:22 AM
1	Married and struggling with husband (5y) subscribing to red pill philosophy. Looking for experience and advice. Yes he does. He first shared Red Pill material with me in a very neutral way, in the form of specific posts on the TRP subreddit about instances of truly appalling female behavior. (Warnings of "don't be like that"? Who knows?) I had a "what the hell is this BS?!" reaction at first, but then got interested and started reading more on my own. I cannot say with certainty how active DH is on the MRP subreddit, if at all (I do not police his online activity), or exactly where he is in his applicatio…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/05/16 03:14 AM
2	Married and struggling with husband (5y) subscribing to red pill philosophy. Looking for experience and advice. I couldn't speak for their prcise reasons, but there are a few posts over on MRP about SOs getting wind of their male counterparts' red pill activities and flipping out in various ways and degrees - and then, "unhappy wife, unhappy life". My sense of the consensus on MRP was that domestic tranquility is best served by the Mrs.'s ignorance of how the sausage is made. I personally don't share that opinion, since obviously I hang out here and read about this stuff.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/05/16 03:26 PM
1	The meaning of morality for women I have some answers for myself, and make do as best I can. I do not claim to have all of them. ("If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.") But I was curious what kinds of thoughts related to morality other women have - what questions, what values they've identified for themselves, etc. I think it is important to think about, for yourself, on a very fundamental level, what you should be doing. Is it enough to putter along, carried by inertia, being reasonably nice, pretty, and n…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/05/16 01:52 AM
1	The meaning of morality for women What an apt quote! How many of the nonsensical and destructive issues ([post] modern feminism as one example) of modern society stem from the softness and boredom of living in paradise for too long!	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/16 05:24 PM
4	Married and struggling with husband (5y) subscribing to red pill philosophy. Looking for experience and advice. If he didn't trust you or was really dissatisfied, would he be telling you about his reading on red pill? I think the general consensus among men who practice red pill is to not tell their wives or girlfriends about it, particularly because the outcome is often less than desirable for either.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/16 04:46 PM
2	The meaning of morality for women I think that was in the later books ("Foundation and Empire", "Second Foundation"). In " Foundation", solution after solution hinges on one leader's ingenuity.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/16 03:23 PM
3	Issues with being a feminine woman. Help? 1) Maybe you can pick longer skirts and higher necklines? Depending on where you are in the world, above-the-knee will get you more than a few predatory leers and comments. (For example, I had an experience in one un-named country, walking with my parents, dressed in summer clothes, with people asking my dad "how old's your daughter" - this, without being a particularly attractive teenager). 2) I live in the US, with experience traveling mostly in westernized countries. Also, I am not terrible-l…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/16 07:53 AM
7	The meaning of morality for women My own favorites from literature: "If", by Rudyard Kipling (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/If%E2%80%94) is one of my favorite poems and a great statement of morality that I try to live by, if not always successfully. For female characters, I like Dagny Taggart in Atlas Shrugged, Elizabeth Bennett and Jane Eyre (and I used to think they were opposites too!), Margarita from Mikhail Bulgakov's "The Master and Margarita". I've also always liked the concept of someone being so competent that the rules…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/16 07:04 AM
1	Married friends jealousy, anyone experienced this? Yeah.... unless you are actually flirting, or unless you have a special relationship with these husbands in a sphere the wife has no access to (e.g., you were in the same study group in college, and she never went to school), I'd think it's the wife's own insecurity acting up.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/16 06:44 AM
2	The Final Exam I'd have to agree with this post, even though some of the corollaries ("you will not get a relationship unless you sleep with him") may not sit quite so well. I'll also add that the manner in which a man expresses his sexual desire and wears his "horny glasses" is one of the criteria on which we judge him. Men's loyalty and women's affection both have to be earned - and to the extent that either one is failing to earn the value he or she seeks, the value must not be granted.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/16 06:39 AM
1	Quote Thread "A good man must be crafted by hand, not bought ready-made." - Translation from Russian Movie Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears Original quote: "Хорошего мужика надо самой делать, а не готовым получать." К-ф 'Москва слезам не верит'	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/16 06:22 AM
1	I've started hating my fellow woman. I would personally call them out from a place of understanding and well-meaning. I really like that statement. Being circumspect and tactful applies not only to men, but also to other women. Also, a lot of girls behave these ways more out of ingrained habit than ill will; they might still be good, loyal friends to you.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/16 06:14 AM
1	I've started hating my fellow woman. Eh, "luckily", many people divorce (get it?) their theoretical and political beliefs from their actions. I have little tolerance for social justice warrior types, but I find among my friends that even women with professed "feminist" or "gender-studies" views use their feminine wiles, take care to look attractive, and follow many a stereotypical path that their ardent feminist sisters would condemn. (E.g., choose psychology instead of math.) And that makes them so much easier to live with.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/16 06:04 AM
3	Lasting Romantic Love Hmm - the "maintaining illusions" one would probably be the most contentious. Isn't red pill about taking women off a pedestal developing an "abundance mentality"? That said, in my understanding men tend to come to red pill after they experience difficulties in their relationships (I'm not sure what the trend is for women here), so perhaps there is some selection bias. I'd guess that long-time couples who arrived at a good dynamic naturally have all of those traits. Anecdotally, from watching my…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/05/16 05:53 AM
1	Martial arts Judo! Designed to be more sporty and less injurious, and you get to spar and grapple very quickly after starting.	/r/askMRP	23/04/16 07:06 AM
4	Looking for guidance on self control So for me, I don't like the gym (still working on motivating myself), but I've done well with non-structured classes - e.g., a competitive/performance dance (ballroom, Bollywood) or a martial arts group. Since you are probably on or near a college campus, there may plenty of such clubs open to you on a free or low-cost basis. (It's also a great way to meet people! :p) I also found that the best way hands down of controlling diet for me is not buying the bad stuff. Especially if the grocery store…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/04/16 01:44 PM
2	Buying homewares as an adult I don't have much of an eye for good decor, but for me three things signal classiness: art, a piano, and cases upon cases of books. All of these represent someone who likes beautiful things and cares about their house. On the outside, I'd also add Christmas lights (in winter) and gardens. Basically, I like it when the house looks to be an extension of the dweller's soul. College vibe comes in two varieties: One is a sparseness - in color (everything in brown- and gray-scale), furniture, and acce…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/04/16 02:14 AM
8	Should I plan on buying a card or small gift for my boyfriend's(of one year) mother on Mother's day? I personally would get at least a card and send a Facebook message, text, or call on the Day Of if you don't see her right then. If you have reservations about doing it yourself, get your boy to participate. Ask for his input - "we should buy your mom something for Mother's Day! Does she like chocolate?". If he resists, get something neutral yourself, but make sure that the gift is from HIM as well as you ("Wendell and I wanted to wish you a happy Mother's Day!"). If she is a wise woman, she'll …	/r/RedPillWomen	21/04/16 01:24 AM
0	22-Never had a boyfriend, and am feeling completely lost. I've always liked that particular sound bite - the visual makes me laugh each time I hear it. While it is true thst women generally treat uncritical and besotted devotion with contempt, I do think that relationships don't work if the man doesn't value his woman for qualities fundamental to her (such as her mind, moral profile and overall disposition), not just the ephemeral ones quantified in appearance grades. OP already knows she must maintain standards of attractiveness, but where she falls, …	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/16 06:05 PM
1	Don't want to visit GF's family for a week Hello gentlemen, I am new to the sub-reddit, and female to boot. But I have had some experience being on the other end of this conflict (though perhaps less severe), until my husband (also in grad school) implemented a successful resolution, which I hope may be of use to you. Here's what worked for us: 1)Giving me ammunition of excuses to use on my mom - explicitly telling me it's okay to to blame early departure squarely on him (so I could say, "he has so much schoolwork to do!", "we promised t…	/r/MarriedRedPill	20/04/16 03:44 AM
0	22-Never had a boyfriend, and am feeling completely lost. As they said in Juno, "the right person is still going to think the sun shines out your ass." But only to a point though. You probably want a man who calls you out when you do something that, deep down, you know is unbecoming of you.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/16 03:18 AM
1	Been with my boyfriend for 5 years and I really hate the fakt that I have started to think about other men There's a great movie I would recommend watching - it's a Woody Allen movie called "Vicky Cristina Barcelona", and it puts your dilemma into good perspective. Anybody else seen it?	/r/RedPillWomen	19/04/16 02:08 AM
3	Stop making excuses! That's a hard question. I am a very much a procrastinator, and feel like a lot of things I do are done on auto-pilot and at the last minute. I'm working on trying to improve that, but it's not an easy thing to fix. I find that outside demands - true outside demands, not fake self-set deadlines - and a sense of obligation to people I love or respect help motivate me. When I shared an apartment with housemates, I kept the common areas scrupulously clean, even if my own room was terrible. When I ex…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/16 11:44 PM
2	Introductions and a quick question I have trouble forming deep new friendships with women, but have no problems finding companions for gossip, girl-talk, and shopping trips. (The really personal stuff is left for my one or two best friends from high school and back, often over Skype.) I have also drifted apart from some of my long-time good friends as our lives, jobs, problems, and politics diverged - even though I do not have kids. That said, these women you mention just sound sub-par - maybe you just need to find a new group. E…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/04/16 06:54 AM
2	A Note on Plates I can see that. Of course, a cold, calculating wife may be an asset if you are a professor or politician. It's also interesting how the advice on dating from someone older, say (mom, grandma) loses its utility for modern women because sex is much expected in dating, when it wasn't before.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/04/16 12:35 AM
2	A Note on Plates I can't disagree and concede the point.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/04/16 05:00 AM
3	Has femininity helped or hindered you in the workplace? I'm not in a super-competitive field in which the tabloids like to cover alleged sexism (investment banking, software development, academia), so perhaps my experience may not be indicative. I never felt like I was treated differently in a professional sense. I have only experienced difficulties in that particular kind of meeting where you have to really speak up if you want anyone to let you speak your piece - something I don't generally like to do. I don't know to what extent that's a gender-ba…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/04/16 12:59 AM
2	What are you doing to improve yourself today? e.g. cleaning up after myself Is one of you "the organized" or "the clean one"? It's harder when both partners have a tendency towards the untidy....	/r/RedPillWomen	16/04/16 12:42 AM
3	What are you doing to improve yourself today? My accomplishments this week (because today was uneventful): -Less negativity, complaining, and talking in general. (To quote Wash from Firefly, "Terse? I can be terse! Once, in flight school, I was laconic!") I've had success with the first two. :p -Go to sleep at a reasonable time! Failed miserably last "night", but was good about it the night before. -Started a new book and broke through writer's block on one of my long-time pet projects. (Edited for formatting)	/r/RedPillWomen	16/04/16 12:37 AM
9	A Note on Plates I'd have to respectfully disagree. Words are words, but they act as a screening tool. Yes, you can't and shouldn't police his activity away from you - and you shouldn't assume exclusivity by default or try to control him, etc. But (unless you're ready to handle being a plate) in your first few dates, assuming the guy isn't into lying (in which case he might not be your best option anyway), I think he's more likely to be up-front with you. I think it's fairer to tell him what you want and let him…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/04/16 01:46 PM
16	A Note on Plates Hmm - in my rather limited experience, and more from reading TRP posts, I'd guess that the jump from plate to partner for a girl is about as likely as besties to bedfellows is for a guy. I'd love to ask some men about this... But I'd also say that not having sex until you're explicitly exclusive would be a workable solution....	/r/RedPillWomen	14/04/16 03:32 AM
3	A Note on Plates I can understand the reason behind spinning plates, but If I were in that position, I would probably find it very difficult to swallow. Unless you unconditionally and wildly worship the ground beneath the guy's feet, an "open relationship" of any kind either seems like an excuse for the girl to sleep around, or you come out feeling like you do from a one-night stand: a bit sullied, a bit used, and a bit hating yourself for letting it happen. As a future post, it would be interesting to discuss, …	/r/RedPillWomen	14/04/16 02:46 AM
2	Better to, or not to, tell boyfriend about best friend hitting on me? Hi! I've been a lurker both here and on "married red pill" for a while, but I am a first-time poster. However, I would like to add my two cents to this discussion. I agree with the side that says you should be honest and tell your boyfriend, but I think you should do it diplomatically and approach it with caution. I find this situation really interesting because it tests your ability, as First Officer, to diplomatically manage your relationships with people close to him. In the given case, you n…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/04/16 03:55 AM