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| 953 | Your self hatred = profits for old white men. LOVE YOURSELF TO SPITE THE PATRIARCHY | MOOD FOR LIFE | midge_rat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 08:47 AM |
| 88 | When can I relax? | SEEKING ADVICE | midge_rat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 12:28 AM |
| 53 | I “caught” him ring shopping | GREEN FLAG 🟢 | midge_rat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:44 PM |
| 0 | When your boyfriend is auditioning to be your husband... | How-To High Value | midge_rat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 08:35 PM |
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| 2 | Men that want to teach you about stocks, real estate, investing or house flipping are con artists“I too read wallstreetbets “ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 10:19 AM |
| 23 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.This this this. My ex-h would constantly complain about everything but he never did a damn thing about it. Current bf- wants to get engaged, so he applied for a promotion at work and I noticed he’s been paying off a bunch of annoying little debts he had hanging around so he can save more. He talks about the future with me, but he’s also making moves towards it. Its a sight to behold after getting love bombed and eloping with my ex. Ugh. Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 10:09 AM |
| 37 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.Right? My boyfriend and I talked about what we were looking for on our second date. I’m not wasting my time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 09:58 AM |
| 33 | Dear male lurkers: FDS is coming for your girlfriends.Facebook! I’m in so many women’s groups. I’m always spreading the word! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 10:17 PM |
| 28 | boy BYEAh yes the old relationship jurisprudence... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:40 AM |
| 27 | Keep it real out thereYep. I lost my virginity at 14 to an 18 year old senior. Looking back he totally took advantage of the situation even if I did “consent”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 06:46 PM |
| 61 | I just got flashbacks of a bearded man on a "date", talking about his beard for 45 minutes, while stroking his beard... also why do they make that facial expression?One must have a chin to earn a date with me 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 06:39 PM |
| 2 | Here is a picture of the men who stormed the Capitol building today:r/beholdthemasterrace | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 09:14 PM |
| 10 | Dump that trash!This sounds like my boyfriend. Just an all around gent who’s love language is acts of service! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 02:39 AM |
| 9 | It do be like thatMy blue collar boyfriend has two wardrobes: work and not-work. All his work clothes look like this 🤣 Thank god he cares what he looks like on his off hours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 09:45 PM |
| 23 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.OFW is the only way I will talk to my ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:11 PM |
| 13 | FDS has led me to fully embracing how much I care about height and it feels sooo good! Boy bye 👏Yup. I’m 5’9”. I love wearing super high heels. You better believe I want a guy who’s taller than me when I’m wearing 4” shoes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 03:46 PM |
| 15 | Porn acting is notoriously bad, except for when it portrays extreme degradation of women, then suddenly it's "not real, they're just acting"My wings are always open! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 07:40 PM |
| 107 | Porn acting is notoriously bad, except for when it portrays extreme degradation of women, then suddenly it's "not real, they're just acting"This this this. I’ve never been with such an attentive man. He says his first “porn” was stealing his mom’s romance novels. Lol He admits to reading erotica here and there, but not really since we started dating. He jokes around that he’s my Fabio 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:26 PM |
| 42 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresLived. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:19 AM |
| 15 | Which of you saved this girl?Saaaaame. Well, he spent my savings - I let him do it. 🤦🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 02:48 PM |
| 5 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotI do all this, but it ain’t for him 💅🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 04:48 PM |
| 8 | Don’t ask me if I can cook unless you’re prepared to replace my brakes and do an oil change on my car.I’m admittedly a little trad... found me a guy who rotates my tires, changes my oil, snakes my drains, knows how to put up dry wall and change out a light fixture. But he never complains about cooking, he folds laundry, runs the vacuum at least once a week. I’m all about that non-toxic masculinity!!!! I’m happy to cook for him. He loves what I make and it honestly feels great to cook for someone who appreciates it after my shitbag ex who bitched about everything but didn’t work and didn’t lift a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 04:23 AM |
| 56 | Women hit a wall..??!We were VS models together. She got swooped up with him after he broke up with Bar Rafaeli. The paparazzi hounded her every where, he was constantly seen with other women even though he promised her they were exclusive. We spent a weekend in Vegas with him and his friends... they were total shit heads, did tons of coke and Molly, kept disappearing on us. It was chaotic and the opposite of fun. He also constantly negged on us even though we were fucking Victoria’s Secret models and she was an ang… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:06 PM |
| 102 | Women hit a wall..??!He is. A dear friend of mine dated him. He’s profoundly LV. He treated her like complete shit and it took her years to get over being abused by a man so powerful and respected. He’s absolute trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 05:46 PM |
| 3 | Being (rightfully) cautious around men is enough for women to be called misandrist. But even men don’t trust other men.Yessss!!! Solidarity with Rojava!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 02:01 AM |
| 70 | Being (rightfully) cautious around men is enough for women to be called misandrist. But even men don’t trust other men.This is why women (especially in the US) should buy guns and get trained. God forbid it ever comes to it, but men aren’t going to liberate us. We’re going to have to liberate ourselves. Google pictures of female Sandanistas. Get inspired. Get radicalized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:27 PM |
| 31 | ✨Y’all heard?✨God that man deserves economic justice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:03 AM |
| 6 | Let's talk about gaslighting for a secThis is how my current bf is. I was coming off a gnarly divorce, he was coming off a pretty big heartbreak. He’s never said anything about his ex besides that they were ultimately incompatible. He was super sad to see her go (she needed to move to a warm climate for a professional opportunity and he just didn’t want to leave the cold and his family), but he knew the long distance wasn’t going to work. Even the ex who cheated on him and got pregnant hasn’t been labeled as crazy. He just said he “… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 04:26 PM |
| 7 | Let's talk about gaslighting for a secLadies be especially aware of “sensitive” types. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 04:12 PM |
| 9 | We should all be like this!!!!This. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 11:52 PM |
| 26 | Your self hatred = profits for old white men. LOVE YOURSELF TO SPITE THE PATRIARCHYAll men benefit. White men profit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 03:02 PM |
| 28 | Your self hatred = profits for old white men. LOVE YOURSELF TO SPITE THE PATRIARCHYCapitalism is killing our spirits and our bodies. Change my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 01:43 PM |
| 15 | "Where can you lead me? Not up."BUT 🍆 !!!!!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 04:04 PM |
| 3 | What are the little red flags you look back on and realize you should have paid more attention to?My ex was alll of these. Except he was an ok dresser | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 01:55 PM |
| 22 | For real thoughRight!? I’m 35, and most guys I’ve been with were pretty diligent about pleasing me. Not all were good at it or capable, but damn if most didn’t give the old college try! But then again, guys my age were just getting access to home internet in high school, and smartphones weren’t a thing. Their porn exposure was sneaking dad’s playboy or a Victoria secret catalog. I could image some of these guys 10 years younger than me have some fucccked up ideas about sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 12:47 PM |
| 18 | I buy myself flowers for no reason & any time I feel like because I am the most important person in my life.If I could send you flowers, I would. 💐 🌸 🌺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:03 AM |
| 37 | I buy myself flowers for no reason & any time I feel like because I am the most important person in my life.Flowers are part of my grocery budget. I buy a big cheap bouquet at the Trader Joe’s or Kroger, divide it up and supplement with cuttings from outside. You can always have flowers for yourself even if you’re on a budget. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 04:36 AM |
| 10 | I buy myself flowers for no reason & any time I feel like because I am the most important person in my life.I always have fresh flowers on my dresser and kitchen table. I deserve it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 04:35 AM |
| 18 | Shout out to all the invincible mommas out there cause the way society is set up...living life like Rihanna is looking REAL appealing lately ☕️Mom of two and this looks fucking delightful right about now. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 11:02 PM |
| 50 | Mixed signals means he’s not interestedEffort is him mowing my lawn. Effort is him planning fun dates. Effort is him working extra hours so we can go on a trip. Effort is not: constant texting, inviting me to “hang out”, telling me he “was gonna buy me flowers” 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 12:01 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with shame of being a pick me in the pastI have no shame. It’s all part of who I am now. I had a lot of fun in my pick-me days, ngl. The caveat being I ended up marrying an absolute shit-head who stole my youth. But I’m not ashamed. I’ve grown, I’ve learned. Honestly, I needed to hit my 30s for my self-esteem to fully blossom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:34 PM |
| 23 | It's time to decenter men in your life, period.Lonely > unhappy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:27 PM |
| 2 | The Abusive Man in ArgumentsYou can do it!!! This book + therapy got me out of my marriage. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:50 PM |
| 2 | The Abusive Man in ArgumentsAhhhh life with my ex husband. I always say Lundy saved my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:47 PM |
| 11 | Women these days have it so easy!This is why I will only date/marry a homeowner. Show me you can manage your money and your home. Current bf owns a duplex, Has a tenant upstairs whose unit he keeps well maintained, and keeps a really nice house and garden. He works crazy long hours but still manages it all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:44 PM |
| 30 | Why do Men lack Emotional Depth ?There is a really good book called Raising Cain- Protecting the Emotional Lives of Boys that explains how society (read: the patriarchy) constantly punishes boys for having emotions beyond anger and frustration. It punishes them for have intimate friendships with other boys. It punishes them for showing physical affection. Etc. it’s an important read imo. Especially for parents of sons, teachers, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 09:39 AM |
| 6 | Yes, relationships REQUIRE effort...Being hv doesn’t mean being perfect all the time. It means when you make a mistake, you own it, fix it and never ever do it again. And prove over time that you meant it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 09:19 AM |
| 20 | I used to give men the benefit of the doubt when they’d say this, thinking they were just insecure or ‘didn’t know.’ But I know. And this is not what I want. Byee 👋Ugh. Get yourself a man who doesn’t just want to “hang out”. Get yourself a man who plans DATES or even WHOLE ENTIRE DAYS of stuff to do!!! My HVM makes sure we have a plan pretty much every time we hang out. He also seems to have paid pretty close attention to what I like to do AND the cadence of my errands so he even takes that into consideration. (I like to go to mass on Saturday evening, I grocery shop on Wednesdays etc). And guess what? It takes very VERY little effort on his part to know t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 03:02 AM |
| 26 | How many times I used to say this 😩 🤡Those demon dicks will get ya | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 02:09 PM |
| 14 | I “caught” him ring shoppingAbout 7 months | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:35 PM |
| 16 | BasicallyMilwaukee! Lol I feel like there are a lot of people like this in the Midwest. He also works 2 jobs and claims he doesn’t have any time to video games or anything. We occasionally watch Curb Your Enthusiasm or The Office and that’s about all the screen time we have around each other. It’s fucking LOVELY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 10:24 PM |
| 3 | Woman har her jaw dislocated during sex w/ fiance. Doesn't want to tell friends in case they think bad about him.....The only link I’ll tolerate is pegging. 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 07:30 PM |
| 13 | I don't get why LVM shame women for wanting expensive weddings or wedding rings3 months salary used to be the rule. The world has gone crazy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 06:55 PM |
| 96 | BasicallyFind thee a man who is internet illiterate. My HVM has a Facebook with less than 100 friends who are mostly family and people he’s known since elementary school. That’s his only social media. He doesn’t own a computer (just a basic smartphone), and he never does internet stuff beyond googling stuff and shopping. It’s so refreshing. After my ex who was just steeped in porn and internet trash talk. Luddites 4 lyfe! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 06:49 PM |
| 3 | My no.1 tip for vetting narcisstic guysHaving a good family was one of my absolute dealbreakers. My HV bf has like, the most wonderful dad. He’s silly and sweet and an incredible caretaker to his wife and kids. And guess what? He passed all those qualities on to his sons! Eta: my ex’s parents were total pieces of shit. His mom was emotionally / verbally abusive and his dad abandoned the family. I should’ve known better! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 03:25 PM |
| 19 | Just a reminder 😉Coughs Jay-Z coughs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Pickme female musical artists?I feel like Janelle Monáe needs to be on this list!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 06:07 PM |
| 14 | Got banned from r/Feminism for saying that you don’t have to accept a dude’s Instagram model obsessionGet yourself a man without an Instagram. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 05:39 PM |
| 54 | In order to not end up miserable, you should keep leveling up to derive power and self-esteem from other sources than LVM validation.35 and feeling FOINE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 05:31 PM |
| 24 | If you want motivation not to settle for a LVM, google “how to fix your marriage by alone.” There are 305 million results and most results are aimed at women.Been there. Done that. Got the divorce t-shirt. Spare yourselves the trouble ladies. READ THE HANDBOOK. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 05:30 PM |
| 49 | How can you ever truly know if this is what's actually going on or not? I know this is a meme, but seriously. What is the point in being with someone if you can't ever know for sure if they are honest or not? I don't want to live an illusion in a relationship. I don't want to be lied to.This!!!!! I bought myself a house. Got a promotion. THEN let a man into my life. Guess what? The guy respects the shit out of me. He encourages me at every turn. He sees my worth. He strives to be a man good enough for ME. Not the other way around. I’m still cautious. I put my kids, my family and my girlfriends first. So far my guy is a wonderful addition to my life. But he is not my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 05:26 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, if you're in your early 30s, how old is too old?Run!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 04:19 PM |
| 14 | I think we have all dated one of theseI just downloaded the audiobook. It’s chilling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 09:59 PM |
| 10 | I think we have all dated one of theseLundy saved my liiiiife!!!!!!’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 08:44 PM |
| 8 | Well ain’t that the truth... (not my original meme, found it floating around on fb)🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 08:20 PM |
| 8 | Seeing how marriage is such a joke nowadays how many of you guys think you will still get married?I’m surrounded by loving wonderful marriages. My parents, my brother, my aunts and uncles, my boyfriend’s sister and his parents, my coworkers etc. Just because mine didn’t work out (ensnared by a narc, NEVER AGAIN!) doesn’t mean that i won’t give marriage another chance with a man that proves himself to me. My pick me ways are long gone - and I’m ready for a partnership that takes me into old age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 01:55 PM |
| 1 | When your boyfriend is auditioning to be your husband...Ladies, get yourself a man that will snake your drain! 😉 We don’t live together. This isn’t his house. He’s just proving his value every day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 08:37 PM |
| 2 | I wonder if my(23f) bf(21m) is lying?There are other fish in the sea. Keep swimming!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 07:42 PM |
| 0 | Is it a red flag if a man in his late twenties doesn’t speak to his mom ?Having a good relationship with his parents was an extremely important non-negotiable for me. I’m very close to my family and want my future husband to have the same sort of dynamic that I do. My closeness with my parents and siblings was a constant source of issues with my ex and I will not go through that again. And his toxic parents made him a toxic person too. NO THANKS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 04:45 PM |
| 3 | Even non-swipe based apps are uselessI had great luck with Hinge, but I’m in the Upper Midwest of the US so maybe that has something to do with it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 02:54 PM |
| 46 | What’s the best way to portray yourself online?On Hinge I never posted any overtly sexy pictures. But I did post pictures that showed my personality. My main was me at work shoving a piece of pizza in my face. Then I had a picture of me with a big smile in sunglasses and a sunhat at a concert, a silly old modeling photo of me blowing a bubble gum bubble, and then a waist up picture of me in a one piece bathing suit on the dock at my lake house. I was not making a sexy face in any of them. I was smiling or laughing in all of them. I think I s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 02:14 AM |
| 4 | When can I relax?This is exactly what I needed to hear. I’m going to keep my skeptical side! I just have to let go of the feelings of guilt surrounding it. A lifetime of conditioning give a man my all is sooooo hard to undo. If anything, he’s the perfect guy to do this with. He really asks nothing of me, so why should I feel bad that I’m not giving him something he didn’t even ask for!?!?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 01:24 PM |
| 6 | When can I relax?Oh believe me I know. Lundy saved me from my marriage. I’ve kept my “trust issues” close to the vest (basically between my therapist and I), because I refuse to offer an exploitable weakness. And would definitely say my therapist isn’t a pick me. She’s a pink-piller and I’ve told her about this sub!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 01:21 PM |
| 20 | Jenna Jameson is recounting how she was groomed and trafficked into the sex industry and scrotes are having a meltdown in the comments. They’re always mad when the truth interrupts their fapping.Saaame. I was on the road as a model traveling all alone. I watched other girls get trafficked right before my eyes. I’m so fucking lucky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 02:48 PM |
| 11 | Just a reminder that being a “girly” girl is totally awesome and valid and to shame girls for being feminine is to give in to a patriarchal culture that demonizes femininity because it’s largely associated with womanhood in a world that hates women. We can be feminine for ourselves, as well!Top shop usually has some pretty cute dupes of Chanel. Also look at the Halogen brand at Nordstrom :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 02:38 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else been polishing their looks lately?If you don’t like makeup, that’s fine. Take incredible care of your skin. Pamper the shit out of your hair. Channel your inner Alisha Keys!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 06:43 PM |
| 54 | It's so simple, it might just work!!! - Seriously, though, you are under no obligation to fulfill anyone's sexual fantasies or compete aesthetically/physically with virtual women. If he's porn sick, it's time to dump him.It’s impossible to compete with porn. I was a pretty major model for a while and it didn’t stop my ex from choosing porn over me. We never had sex even though I was the “Impossible beauty standard” Now, despite having had 2 kids, my HVM boyfriend can’t keep his hands off me. Our bedroom life is amazing, caring, and fun. It’s NIGHT AND DAY!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 02:20 PM |
| 3 | A HVM will find your standards and boundaries attractiveYes!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 11:51 PM |
| 5 | I want a man, not a baby smhI want a manfriend, not a boyfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 03:26 PM |
| 3 | How many dates should he pay for?This is how my current guy is. I like to pay for ice cream or a night cap at the end of the date, but he never ever expects me too. He picks up the tab for everything, otherwise. Car service, food, even bullets if we go to the range. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Y’all this guy is mansplaining my job to me. I’ve only done it for 15 years, but thank you Bumble man for telling me how to do it.HR is Chaos in job form. Lol I know. I do it every day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 06:33 PM |
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