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| 272 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴Similar to this- I was getting a blowout yesterday and they were playing A Walk to Remember. I grew up with seeing this movie in movie theaters in high school. As I was watching, no wonder I grew up with such skewed expectations for how a man was supposed to treat me. Bad boy changes fuck boy antics when he meets the right/nice girl. NO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:10 PM |
| 119 | A guy who is sending you mixed signals is just using youAccurate. I met a friend through a friend and he wanted my number. I told him I don’t give out my number unless we’re both interested in seriously getting to know each other. “Oh I’m serious about you. You can ask mutual friend that I’m always asking about you” Against my better judgement I gave him my number. After an agonizing time texting where I’ve asked Atleast 3 questions and he’s asked me zero, I was done. He just wanted to talk to someone new about himself 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 01:37 PM |
| 54 | Questions on Social Media & Cyber StalkingI deleted my personal Insta back in June and have 0 regrets. My true friends noticed (no need to make any announcements) and reached out and I’m so at peace without it. I never realized how many men were still watching my stories that I have history with. It just feels nice that they don’t have easy access to me, my life or my goings on anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:06 AM |
| 398 | Why it always seemed like that one mean friend always gets the best boyfriend…In my pick me days, I was always so baffled by this. “Why doesn’t he know he could be with someone nicer like me” 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:21 PM |
| 12 | Keep an eye on your male friendsAbsolutely! I was dating a man when his friend + friend’s gf played a prank on the man I was seeing and it impacted me. He didn’t apologize and deflected- “it was the GF and not my buddy who thought it was a good idea” Hang with monkeys, you start swinging from trees. I told him if this is the type of company he keeps, I wanted nothing more to do with him. Blocked him and haven’t spoken to or seen him in over a year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:17 PM |
| 90 | Anyone watch Indian Matchmaking on Netflix?Pre FDS I didn’t like her. I thought “well if you’re having to come on a tv show to find love, you should be okay with someone who meets 90% of your wants” 🤡🤡 When you know better, you do better. She should get everything she’s looking for and more! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 12:52 AM |
| 4 | Beware the ones who “forget their wallet,” ladies.OMG. I was asked to breakfast by a male friend who had a well known crush on me. Figured “hey free breakfast” so I went. He shows up so hungover he can’t eat so I’m just picking at my food. He forgot his wallet and he’s like “I’m so sorry, I’ll Venmo you”. I hear the alert come through, don’t look and go ahead and pay for our $22 breakfast. HE VENMOED ME FOR HIS BREAKFAST ONLY. $22 total and I got a Venmo for $15. We are no longer friends. My girl friends would absolutely not hesitate to pay for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 02:07 AM |
| 23 | When a man cancels on the first date, don’t reply and just delete him. Learn from my mistakes.Oh. Hell. No. I hope you ate it, ate his meal for leftovers and reminded yourself of all of your accomplishments while he’s begging for “exposure” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 03:27 AM |
| 61 | When a man cancels on the first date, don’t reply and just delete him. Learn from my mistakes.Exactly! I can’t imagine just being somewhere else or at home like “be there in 5min!” and ghosting. The actual audacity of these scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 07:52 PM |
| 12 | Once that honeymoon phase wonders off, she will (hopefully) see things differently.Also 2 HOURS?! I have shit to do. My vibrator can be done in 2 MINUTES | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 06:11 PM |
| 160 | When a man cancels on the first date, don’t reply and just delete him. Learn from my mistakes.I feel this! I got stood up by a guy while waiting to meet him outside the place we agreed on the other week. He said he needed 5min so I sat on a bench people watching and… he never texted again about needing a couple more minutes or bothered showing up. I waited about 10min, left, and blocked him. I could lie and say I didn’t take it personally, but I did in the moment. I’m in a better headspace about it now and glad I didnt text or call him asking where he was- good riddance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 05:45 PM |
| 60 | Don’t Date Insecure Men! I LIVE For This Goddess’ Channel.I have NEVER been treated worse or made to feel shitty about myself more than when I was with an insecure man who frankly wasn’t up to my level. When a man starts making comments to you about what he doesn’t like about you, his preferences especially if opposite from you (ex: an ex told me he thought hip bones were sexy so I developed disordered eating to attain them face palm), making fun of your interests etc PLEASE LEAVE. An ugly/insecure man will NEVER treat you better because he’s grateful … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 03:43 PM |
| 80 | Found this gem on TwitterI saw a really great video on Tik Tok about a woman who is child free and when asked “don’t you want to raise children” (rude,but for another convo) she said “I like being a part of the village”- she adore her nieces and nephews, helps her friends with their kids, volunteers to work with children etc. It truly takes a village and I’m happy to be a part of the village with the freedom of being child free! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 01:58 PM |
| 14 | Why being string along in a relationship is bad idea.Whew that first sentence! Looking back at my last relationship, my ex never cared, but I figured he must like me just a little bit or else he’d break up with me right? I would throw loads of laundry in while visiting his house, clean up his kitchen while he slept late, run errands for him and of course be his bang maid…of course he wasn’t going to dump me no matter how much he didn’t like me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 12:42 PM |
| 8 | Murder vs. menstruationUnfortunately it was funded... by a male investor | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 11:40 AM |
| 6 | Murder vs. menstruationLook up “Pinky Gloves” on YouTube and you can see it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 11:36 AM |
| 160 | Murder vs. menstruationHave y’all seen this bright ass pink glove 3 men created and went on some kind of European version of Shark Tank to pitch? It’s so women can use a glove to touch their own bodies and wrap their sanitary products in a pink plastic glove instead of toilet paper so men don’t have to see it. They claim they lived with women and the products in the trash smelled bad. Dude, take out the trash if your nose is so sensitive! Also the environment doesn’t need more plastic because you’re so obsessed with w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 10:09 PM |
| 3 | Found this on Facebook...I kept waiting for the punchline but instead it kept getting worse. I hope she got chosen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 07:50 PM |
| 49 | What’s the most important thing you’ve learned since discovering FDS?Yes all of this! Energy matching and not making up excuses for why a man wasn’t doing XYZ to meet my needs (because he would if he wanted to) has saved me so much trouble and made walking away easy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 07:18 PM |
| 22 | You need to hear this to be able to LEVEL Up. Also that ending had me rolling.I wholeheartedly agree. Don’t be afraid to tell her you need time away or if you want to continue the friendship that her dating life is off the table to discuss. If not, you’re going to resent her for sucking your energy and having power over your emotions (feeling frustrated/exasperated/angry) when she continues not to listen. If she values the friendship she will straighten her act and be respectful, and if she doesn’t, well then you’ll save the time and emotions by ending the friendship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 01:27 AM |
| 81 | 1 wife + 2 Fiancé’s + 17 Girlfriends= 100 reasons why men ain’t shitHe’s telling them that he’s overseas in Iraq or needing to go help with the Nashville bombing... meanwhile he’s just bed hopping and visiting his illegitimate children | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:43 PM |
| 80 | 1 wife + 2 Fiancé’s + 17 Girlfriends= 100 reasons why men ain’t shitI’ve been watching this story unfold on Tik Tok for the last few days. More and more women keep showing up with receipts showing they’re also his girlfriend. Oh and he has children with some of these women as well. His wife found out about this in real time with the rest of us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:38 PM |
| 26 | The importance of learning to think "not my problem" when a man tries to make you responsible for any of his issues or mess or dickGIRRRRRRL. An ex and I went long distance... when he realized he couldn’t get anything from me (sex and a maid) he dumped me. 🤡 Boy bye! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 02:02 AM |
| 37 | Yes. We don't owe men anything.Ugh no. My old PickMe self would try and be cute and flirty like “let’s go take a shower” so I could make sure they’re clean 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:45 AM |
| 36 | Yes. We don't owe men anything.I can be done in 2min with a guaranteed orgasm and I don’t have to have a penis in mouth in the process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:37 AM |
| 41 | Although OLD is a dumpster fire, let me highlight the new way scrotes can cheat!Bumble is garbage anyways. Once they found out women were seeking conservative men and finding out information if they participated in the insurrection 2 weeks ago and turning them into the FBI, Bumble turned off their political view filter. Bumble literally out here protecting terrorists and fragile male egos 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 05:49 PM |
| 16 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.Yes she wants nothing more than to marry him and have babies! She lets everyone give him the “so when are you two getting married” spiel like maybe if she’s not the one nagging about it, he’ll finally realize how he’s acting and change his mind. It’s soooo reckless. I’d rather him give the excuse while she’s still here and hasn’t sold everything she owns and quit her job to go, than for her to get over there and then he does it and she’s alone there trying to get back here. Perhaps the actual wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 05:28 PM |
| 27 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.I snorted! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 05:55 AM |
| 35 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.He’s from the Netherlands | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 03:22 AM |
| 161 | From Men’s Mouths to Your Ears. Don’t be a forever girlfriend.I have a friend who has been with her BF for somewhere like 8-10yr and they’ve been living together for something like 5yr. She just turned 40 so her entire 30s has been with this dude. He came to the US on a student visa and then has been able to stay on work visas until his expires this summer. His options are to marry her and get his green card or go back to his home country. He has so little desire to marry her (he’s told her he doesn’t believe in marriage eye roll), he’s planning on packing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 12:01 AM |
| 10 | If I’m happy and I know it, start dating? No thanks!It’s ALWAYS the married and LTR friends!! My single friends always agree that they’re better now than they were in their last relationship when they stop and think about it. The post breakup glow up is real! I think as women we’ve been trained for a certain level of complaining about spouses and their quirks that annoy us or the downright disrespect. I don’t think it occurs to them that it doesn’t have to be like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 01:41 AM |
| 3 | If I’m happy and I know it, start dating? No thanks!YES. Exact same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 12:03 AM |
| 25 | If I’m happy and I know it, start dating? No thanks!I’m in the house buying process and I sure have thought about doing this as a housewarming 😂 “Hey Becky remember when I spent $2000 to attend your bachelorette party in Vegas, bought the bridesmaids dress/makeup/hair for your wedding and hosted your bridal shower and you said you’d do the same for me except you now have 3 kids? I’ll just take the KitchenAid stand mixer and these $100 coasters from Crate and Barrel please!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 11:25 PM |
| 3 | If I’m happy and I know it, start dating? No thanks!Always will be | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 11:22 PM |
| 9 | If I’m happy and I know it, start dating? No thanks!Soulmate by Lizzie and SUPERBLOOM by MosterWives are anthems in my life. Some “roll the windows down and sing at the top of my lungs” music and not care who is watching! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 11:22 PM |
| 5 | If I’m happy and I know it, start dating? No thanks!Adding to my watch list! Also, happy cake day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 10:31 PM |
| 27 | If I’m happy and I know it, start dating? No thanks!Aint that the truth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 09:44 PM |
| 119 | If I’m happy and I know it, start dating? No thanks!I can’t date anyone until they make my life exceptionally better. It can’t even stay the same, because then I’m still taking time away from myself/family/friends to give our relationship time. I’m not willing to do that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 06:55 PM |
| 127 | In case you ladies were in need of a good laughter on this lovely Sunday morningI read the first sentence and thought “oh no baby what is you doing?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:00 PM |
| 8 | In case you ladies were in need of a good laughter on this lovely Sunday morningI looked at the picture before the title and I’d let out a little snort of laughter 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 04:59 PM |
| 11 | What's the most misleading thing a man has said to you before he told you he wasn't interested?OMG you hit the nail on the head! My last ex replaced me pretty quickly with someone who shared a lot of the same physical features as me. When he started posting her on socials (I blocked him at this point) it was the same captions he’d used with me in the months before 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 04:35 AM |
| 25 | What we’re not going to do is...Completely agree! Sometimes I’m in the comments and I’m like “Yas, fellow FDSers!” and other times it’s “oh no. Girl what is you doing. Come find FDS” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 03:34 PM |
| 89 | What we’re not going to do is...So many pick mes in the comments about why they NEED to give the gift or send the text | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:58 AM |
| 49 | Stop over explaining yourself. LVM don’t care about your feelings, and nothing you can say will change that.I get what you’re saying but I think where true power lies is in the “block and delete” part instead of the paragraph. You’re not still hanging around him or trying to “be his friend” to prove how chill you are. You’re simply taking your power and energy and placing it back in yourself and the scrote will literally never hear a peep from you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 01:33 AM |
| 68 | “Don’t You Miss Sex??”Agreed! My vibrator is quick and always satisfying and I never have to choke on a dick or make sounds of satisfaction when it’s anything but! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 07:25 PM |
| 32 | I felt my brain cells vanish after reading thisI literally LOL’d at the audacity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 06:42 PM |
| 15 | Anyone else deleting and redownloading dating apps?I’ve lived in Seattle for 5 years and a man has never asked me on a proper date. They’re passive aggressive as fuck and so cheap despite making multi six figure salaries. They use Seattle as being “Liberal” to mean they can take a backseat and let women pursue them because we’re iNdEpEnDeNt. All of that to say, there are many articles about how Seattle is one of the worst cities for dating in the nation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 03:03 AM |
| 13 | Daily Reminder: There are far worse things than being alone.A couple of married/very settled into relationship friends have asked me about getting back into dating soon because it’s a foreign concept to be single and not want to date. I’ve told them I have other goals I want to focus on that are better without a man distracting me (cross country move, buying a home) and that right now I’d rather have a root canal than download a dating app. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 07:20 PM |
| 23 | Not even forever gf but forever tenant 10 years and she gets this, can someone explain to her she needs to leave ?!Me outloud after reading the part about them buying furniture together: “girl, absolutely not” Don’t you dare help this scrote build equity in this house. If he wanted to buy it with you, he would have have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 02:42 PM |
| 22 | eHarmony been lurking 👀I legit cackled at the field reference | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 04:55 AM |
| 11 | We have a list of demands. 1. Clean sheets.Y’all... a male coworker and I were chatting one time and I brought up how I wash my sheets weekly. THIS COLLEGE EDUCATED, WELL OFF, GOOD LOOKING MAN SAID HE WASHES HIS SHEETS EVERY FEW MONTHS 🤢 He constantly had various women over and all I could think is “this poor woman is sleeping with you in your literal crusty sheets”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 11:57 AM |
| 21 | OLD strategy for unacceptable datesI went on a picnic date and I HAD TO BRING THE BLANKET and he then had the audacity to ask “oh you didn’t bring anything to drink? We discussed having drinks and people watching”... I should have made him get off my blanket and left right then | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 05:54 AM |
| 6 | I know FDS is true because ... (a message for those not-yet-sold and those who deny FDS altogether...)My ex loved to tell me how in love me with he was after a few drinks, whispering he loved me before bed etc. The next morning I’d tell him I loved him before leaving for work and he’s tell me straight faced “I’m not there yet”... I should have trusted my gut that kept telling me to break up with him but my clown ass stayed for 1.5yr 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 06:55 PM |
| 99 | Don’t fool yourself into thinking he cares or has changed his mind about being with you!Always! In my PickMe days, I thought it meant something and would post stuff just because I knew they’d see it. Block and delete! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 09:40 PM |
| 16 | Am I just being a prude or is this too much for someone who has only spoken to me for 5 minutes? #datingwhenyoure30My rule is, “if I have to ask” then I need to trust what my gut is saying. NEXT! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 01:37 AM |
| 128 | I was deleting pictures off my phone and I found this gem. So glad I deleted my OLD profiles. It was just too much effort.I audibly said “ew” as I was reading 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 02:29 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered August 20 2020I completely understand the feeling! Ever since finding FDS and reflecting back on what past me tolerated in relationships, I deserve to give the love and care I was giving to LVM to myself. I’m using my time alone to level up and hit goals for myself without the distractions of potentially LVM! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 02:33 PM |
| 35 | I wish I had this Queen energy when I was 13, but finally have it at 33!This is an episode of The Babysitter’s Club remake on Netflix! Really good feel good show with a lot of female empowerment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 06:35 PM |
| 18 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Gemini! The first time I heard the Lizzo lyrics to Soulmate: “yeah the old me used to love a Gemini. Like a 3some fucking with him every night, a lot of 2 face people show me both sides” I felt it in my soul. He’d get drunk and tell me how much he loved me and how incredible I am, and in the morning he claimed he didn’t remember saying any of it but that he wasn’t ready to say he loved me yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Don’t date potential, let alone marry potentialChecked before posting and it was it showing! I’ll delete! So long as the message it out :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:32 PM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020Here has been my experience with men on their heights OLD vs real life: OLD: 5’11 Real life: 5’8-5’9 OLD: 6’0 Real life: 5’9-5’10 OLD: 6’1 Real life: 5’10-5’11 Typically at 6’2 they’re usually not exaggerating (not always because dudes are 🤡). I’m a 5’8 lady and would always set any filters to 6’2 and above after I went on too many dates with 5’9 men who claimed to be 6’0 and ALWAYS commented I must be taller than I say I am. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Why chase men when we can chase the bag instead?I’m currently shopping for a new spin bike. Instead of focusing on finding a partner, I’m putting all of my time and energy into myself and becoming my best self physically, mentally and emotionally. My next partner will be someone who has also put this effort into themselves as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 04:09 PM |
| 12 | Sicko of the day award goes to Randy (: Why cant you be 10x younger???Age for filter: 37 Age in bio: “I’m actually 45. Not sure why it says 37” 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 09:10 PM |
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