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| 1 | Camilla/Leo situation has nothing to do with you, and we need to have harsh conversations about itUm yes I feel great now? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/22 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Camilla/Leo situation has nothing to do with you, and we need to have harsh conversations about itIt’s not the fact that he dates young that annoys me. All entitled vapid rich men do this. It’s the fact that he conveniently discards them at 24 that squicks me out. It’s just…. weird to have an arbitrary number like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/22 04:00 AM |
| 3 | If men are expected to put up with women's hormones, why aren't Women expected to put up with men's hormones?lol this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/22 03:35 PM |
| 3 | If men are expected to put up with women's hormones, why aren't Women expected to put up with men's hormones?lol this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/22 03:35 PM |
| 17 | If men are expected to put up with women's hormones, why aren't Women expected to put up with men's hormones?Yes, I apologize to my husband every time I snap at him whether it’s hormones or not. It’s not an excuse to act like a bitch as you said. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/22 03:34 PM |
| 2 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?Well more like successful in the dating game since I’m married | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 07:13 AM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?I guess this is just one of those “Reddit is determined to misunderstand me” days 💀 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 01:23 AM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?In a roundabout way, sure. But what I'm getting at is more along the lines of.... Someone saying they want a wife who never says no to him, has sex on demand, makes him delicious food, keeps the house clean, and shuts up. That's...very self gratifying. Versus someone who says they want a wife who calls him out when he's wrong, has her own opinions, stays active,...and she might also be great in bed and a good cook, but what he likes about her isn't JUST "ways that she serves me directly" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 12:10 AM |
| 3 | Why is there a discrepancy in what men believe how women respond to men crying in relationships compared to what women believe how women respond?this is the truest answer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 11:51 PM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?Starting to wonder if anyone read the OP 🙃💀 I said IN ADDITION TO those traits. Are there things you like about women that don’t DIRECTLY benefit you? Direct benefit: good at blow jobs Not a direct benefit: loves puzzles (but you like it anyway because you think it’s cute) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 11:02 PM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?I don’t know, because you like them as a person? You like who they are? Wild. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 08:56 PM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?My husband loves that I cook amazing food. My husband loves that I collect childhood books and toys. The first directly serves him. The second not only doesn’t serve him, but is a financial loss. The first he loves because he likes eating good food. The second he loves because it’s part of who I am, and he loves that about me. That’s all I’m talking about. I’m sure he could find a way that the second thing could be considered self gratifying, but it’s not directly beneficial. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 05:02 PM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?Maybe I guess. Do you hold yourself to the same standards? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 04:53 PM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?That’s not even remotely the point of this post 💀 And yes, there’s an enormous difference if you married someone for their huge boobs vs if you married someone because they’re kind. My intention was simply to find out if there are things ADDITIONALLY that men like in women that aren’t immediately and directly self serving. Anything can be indirectly self serving. for example, my husband LOVES what I do in bed. He LOVES that I cook great meals for him. Great! He also LOVES that I collect toys fro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 04:51 PM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?/sigh Yes. I simply meant “Are there traits you like in a woman that aren’t DIRECTLY about serving you?” Anything you like can indirectly serve you in a way. But there’s a difference between “I like women who are amazing at blow jobs” (which is fine, I’m not knocking that) and “I like that she’s passionate about ancient Mesopotamian art” SURELY you can see that those aren’t exactly the same thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Men dont age betterYou let people’s opinions run your life? 🤨 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 04:53 AM |
| 4 | Men dont age betterYes but I’m a woman, almost 30, and I too look much better than I did at 20. That doesn’t disprove OP | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 04:49 AM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?What? So then I guess the solution is for women to live the above hypothetical arrangement - never go anywhere or do anything and wait for a guy to come along? Do you really want that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 10:57 PM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?That's a good one! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 09:55 PM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?okay, I'll assume you're bored and trolling at this point. Have a nice day | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 09:52 PM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?Obviously those two things are not the same. Neither of them is better than the other, but they're different. Surely you can see the difference between A) something that is beneficial to someone else and makes them happy but has the side effect of also making you happy B) something that someone does purely FOR you, that may or may not make them happy, that is literally solely for your benefit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 09:39 PM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?Explain to me how listening to someone talk about their passions is self gratifying. Explain to me how it's exactly the same as receiving a blow job. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 09:16 PM |
| 5 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?Really? You're not attracted to someone who, say, volunteers to help the homeless. Only when it directly benefits you? At least you're honest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 09:07 PM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?Well doesn't that depend on what you mean by independent? Because I could straw man you right now and say "You'd rather be with a woman who's never left home, who lives with her dad and mom because she's not allowed to work or hold a job or drive, who depends on her parents for everything and will be clingy to you?" Obviously that's not what you want. You want a woman who has been places, who probably owns her own car, who works and possibly has her own place, is capable and can get things done … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 09:07 PM |
| 0 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?I literally never said it was bad to like the self-gratifying things. I literally said those words in my OP. We all do it, otherwise we'd marry the first rando who came along because we wouldn't care if they "served" us in any way. IDC what your self-serving preferences are. We all have 'em. I'm just asking, in addition to those things (which get talked about a LOT in the sub) I'm curious if men are interested in aspects of women that don't directly serve them. There's nothing wrong with liking … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 08:58 PM |
| 3 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?Yes, I do know what it means. And like I said in my comment, we do (ALL) look for mates or dates with self gratifying features. But what I mean is, are there things about a person you like that don’t directly serve you? For example, I like my husband’s hobbies. They don’t serve me in any way, but I’m glad he’s happy. I want that for him. I’m sure I could twist it around and find some sort of benefit for myself in it, but that’s not why I’m glad he has hobbies. I’m taking about liking personality… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 09:07 AM |
| 5 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?I don’t even know what you’re talking about | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 07:55 AM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?I’ll repeat what another commenter said: “I get how everything people look for in a partner is self-gratifying in some way. It’s something you want after all. However, I also think a lot of men are missing the important difference here. Pretty sure OP is talking about traits that directly serve men, vs traits that are more about the woman herself. Who she is vs what she can do for you.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 06:53 AM |
| 2 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?I’ll repeat what another commenter said: “I get how everything people look for in a partner is self-gratifying in some way. It’s something you want after all. However, I also think a lot of men are missing the important difference here. Pretty sure OP is talking about traits that directly serve men, vs traits that are more about the woman herself. Who she is vs what she can do for you.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 06:53 AM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?I’ll repeat what another commenter said: “I get how everything people look for in a partner is self-gratifying in some way. It’s something you want after all. However, I also think a lot of men are missing the important difference here. Pretty sure OP is talking about traits that directly serve men, vs traits that are more about the woman herself. Who she is vs what she can do for you.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 06:53 AM |
| 2 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?I’ll repeat what another commenter said: “I get how everything people look for in a partner is self-gratifying in some way. It’s something you want after all. However, I also think a lot of men are missing the important difference here. Pretty sure OP is talking about traits that directly serve men, vs traits that are more about the woman herself. Who she is vs what she can do for you.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 06:52 AM |
| 1 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?I’ll repeat what another commenter said: “I get how everything people look for in a partner is self-gratifying in some way. It’s something you want after all. However, I also think a lot of men are missing the important difference here. Pretty sure OP is talking about traits that directly serve men, vs traits that are more about the woman herself. Who she is vs what she can do for you.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 06:52 AM |
| 2 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?I’ll repeat what another commenter said: “I get how everything people look for in a partner is self-gratifying in some way. It’s something you want after all. However, I also think a lot of men are missing the important difference here. Pretty sure OP is talking about traits that directly serve men, vs traits that are more about the woman herself. Who she is vs what she can do for you.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 06:52 AM |
| 3 | What NON self-gratifying things do you look for in a woman?thank you. Someone gets it! lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/22 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Women who have a height standard - at what point does it become marginally insignificant & what can possibly make you drop it?He’s also not “tiny” lol. He’s muscular and broad, not a dehydrated shrimp. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Women who have a height standard - at what point does it become marginally insignificant & what can possibly make you drop it?Uh, no. We’ve been married almost four years. He’s been vulnerable before. I haven’t lost attraction for him. When I say confident I don’t mean he’s literally ironclad and stoic to a fault, I meant he’s never walked around self conscious about being short. He doesn’t have little man syndrome. I mean he’s confident in his own body/looks, which makes other people notice & respect him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 04:58 PM |
| 0 | Women who have a height standard - at what point does it become marginally insignificant & what can possibly make you drop it?I’ve Always preferred taller, but I married a man my height, 5’5”. He’s insanely confident so you don’t even notice lol. He’s also handsome. I wouldn’t prefer a short un-handsome man to be honest but then I wouldn’t prefer a tall un-handsome man either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 03:50 AM |
| 1 | How big of a deal breaker is sharing your man?Immediately no. I always joke that if I were in a polygamist situation, I'd kill the other wives. Kind of joking, kind of not. I'm not the type to share my man. Surprisingly, I'm not overly jealous/suspicious though. I don't care if my husband talks to other women, I'm not paranoid, and I'm very exclusive in my marriage, but not in a neurotic way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 05:01 PM |
| 2 | What issues do you actually feel for women about?There are some really truly ugly people in the world, though, including women. I usually only see one a week or so, so it's a small percent of the population, but some people are just unfortunately permanently unattractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 07:39 PM |
| 2 | The reason that the disparity in sexual privilege between men and women is so obfuscated not because there's any real doubt about it, but because of the solutions it impliesso strike already and let us live in peace (I'm married and have lots of men in my life that i love. this is directed towards the complainers who swear they'll GTOW but don't" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/22 07:59 AM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadEveryone in this comment section is a hypocrite. Because men don’t want overly emotional women any more than women want overly emotional men. So when you say “you just can’t handle it when things get tough” that’s 1) not true and 2) I’m about not wanting to date or marry someone who is too emotional (out of control) OR completely emotionally constipated, and men don’t want that either! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 12:55 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI’m sorry if you’ve had your vulnerability used against you in the past. That sucks. But my husband has shared the deepest messiest parts of himself with him and I’m taking those things to the grave. I’ve held him while he cries about things. He’s revealed insecurities that he’s had. And guess what? I still love him, respect him, desire him, and look up to him. I guess this makes me a magical perfect unicorn according to all the men on here. But I like to believe that GOOD women (not awful women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 10:29 PM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat Megathreadshow me where I said that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 07:12 PM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI mean, I'm not a licensed therapist but I'll listen to everything my husband has to share and try to help him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 07:12 PM |
| -1 | Daily Community Chat Megathreadnah | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 07:12 PM |
| -2 | Daily Community Chat Megathreadshow me where I said that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhen we women say we want men to show their feelings to us, we don’t mean we want them to be emotional, sobbing messes 24/7. We mean we want our men to trust us enough and feel that we’re a safe enough place to be at least a little vulnerable with their thoughts, worries and dreams. Intimacy is built through vulnerability. I can’t get close to a guy who’s totally stoic and puts on a front all day, every day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 06:04 PM |
| 4 | Women ‘initiate’ 70% of divorces because women do most of the households admin tasksI'm just saying, "women file for divorce more often" doesn't MEAN women leave their marriages more than men do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/22 07:17 AM |
| 46 | Women ‘initiate’ 70% of divorces because women do most of the households admin tasksI have a close family member whose husband abandoned her and the kids. Then he had her do all the proceedings and paperwork. This checks out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/22 10:26 PM |
| 2 | How true is this statement: "Women dress to impress other women...I'm married, so I hope it's obvious that I undress for my husband..................... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/22 06:53 PM |
| 1 | How true is this statement: "Women dress to impress other women...I dress for (and each category and subcategory is depending on the day/how I feel/etc) —myself: comfort/to feel confident/ to wear an outfit that I consider aesthetically pleasing —my husband: things he finds sexy or cute/ to be a good “representative” of him (he’s generally well known & well thought of in our community and sometimes I feel embarrassed if people know I’m his wife and I look like crap lol but I also recognize that’s technically for me and my vanity) —when I was single, sometimes … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/22 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNot if you use it correctly. And it's not period tracking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/22 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Through a red or blue pill perspective, how should this scenario be handled?He definitely doesn’t have to be. It could be a dealbreaker for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/22 03:43 PM |
| 3 | Through a red or blue pill perspective, how should this scenario be handled?Yes this! I'm a Christian and I'd never consider marriage with a man who wasn't also. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/22 07:31 AM |
| 1 | Through a red or blue pill perspective, how should this scenario be handled?I'd say you HAVE to view this through the lens of her newfound religion. I'm a Christian myself, and a serious one, and I truly believe sex is only for marriage. Both my (now) husband and I stuck to this rule and didn't have sex till our wedding night. If either of us had become Christians AFTER a life of premarital sex, the other one would understand that this is a new lifestyle and that the past is just that - the past. It makes no sense for Shawn to assume that Sarah will go back to her F-bud… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/22 07:29 AM |
| 3 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadBecause women don’t acknowledge that they have sex drives. Women don’t prioritize sexual attraction when they get married or into LTRs for some reason. Someone days I feel like a freak for having held out for so long for someone I thought was hot. For some reason the average woman pretends not to care about looks when they get married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/22 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadBut it’s RP people who care about the wall | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/22 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIdk why declining fertility is even talked about here, because 1) the wall is only mentioned in regards to looks and 2) RP men do NOT care about having children or starting families, they’ve made it very clear that they want a lifestyle of pump and dumping so why would they care if a woman is fertile or not 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/22 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhich is hysterical to me because RP men don’t want children so why do they care?? 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/22 05:04 PM |
| 7 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI think 'the wall" is nonsense BS. Do some people hit it? Sure, some people age remarkably badly. A lot of people - men and women alike - let themselves go in marriage and gain weight. But people on PPD act like all women are suddenly obese hags by 26. Here's the truth: if you're an attractive person, unless something drastic happens (huge weight gain, lots of smoking/drinking/drugs/hard living) you're going to be generally attractive for the rest of your life. As an attractive 45 year old woman… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/22 08:01 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat Megathreadyes do it again | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/22 11:04 PM |
| 4 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadMost people here need to touch grass. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/22 11:00 PM |
| 2 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?It takes effort to stay in shape as a woman. Our metabolisms are slower. It’s not impossible, but it’s not always as easy as just “don’t eat very much” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 08:30 PM |
| 3 | how confident are you with your body? does it affect your sex life?You act like “not letting yourself get too overweight” takes zero effort 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI do. I like how I look and feel with hair removed. I just don’t like the work. For some women it’s worth it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/22 06:16 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThis is the dream lol I hate the maintenance of hair removal!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/22 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Should feminine men become more masculine?Hmm, well I certainly have an expectation that women shouldn’t be insecure and weak and timid either. Men and women should both be gentle, but it’s going to look different on everyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Should feminine men become more masculine?We’re not talking about what expectations women are subjected to? That’s not the subject at hand? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Should feminine men become more masculine?That has nothing to do with what I said | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Should feminine men become more masculine?That’s not gentle or feminine, my dude. That’s insecure and weak. I wouldn’t even want a woman to be unsure, make herself small, apologize for the inconvenience of existence. That’s not what gentle means. Like the other commenter said, you can be gentle 99% of the time but still be able to protect your loved ones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 06:32 PM |
| 5 | Should feminine men become more masculine?Even in a ballet huh 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 07:19 AM |
| 6 | Should feminine men become more masculine?That’s pretty much what I was objecting to. Wearing a tutu? Feminine. Not having a dominating personality? Not really feminine, either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 06:32 AM |
| 29 | Should feminine men become more masculine?What grinds my gears is dividing these things into feminine and masculine categories. Like, if you’re a guy who wears pink tutus, yes that’s pretty feminine. But if you’re a man who’s gentle, you’re not a feminine man…you’re a gentle man. Likewise with women. Yes if you’ve shaved your head and you’re swaggering around TRYING to be manly yeah that’s masculine. But if you’re a logical woman, it doesn’t make you a masculine woman…it makes you a logical woman. So unless you’re saying “feminine” men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 02:38 AM |
| 1 | women are attracted to both looks and personality.I don’t remember, this was like 10+ yrs ago | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 12:18 AM |
| 1 | women are attracted to both looks and personality.Uh what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Q4W Can you describe/show what “attractive men” look like to you?Short answer: I tend to be attracted to men who look like Bible characters 😂 Srs tho: My taste is for dark hair, handsome face (most important part to me) and T shaped body with some muscle definition, tho dad bod is perfectly fine. Height doesn’t matter if he’s handsome and confident. Handsome face can have a variety of meanings but generally I like dark, expressive brows, bigger/sharper nose, dark eyes, big smile/toothy smile. Edited to add: my celebrity crushes have included Hugh Jackman, Chr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 08:18 PM |
| 12 | Q4W Can you describe/show what “attractive men” look like to you?Yeah this! To me a good face is the most important thing with physical attraction | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneAnd like I said hours ago, YOU don’t know that the women who wanted him were “LV” you’re just literally assuming that because it fits your narrative 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneYOU just said he has to be in high demand. Which he was. There’s more ways of being high value than rich and tall. If by your logic, high value means excessive l everyone wants him, then what does it matter what his bank account looks like? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneAnd that’s exactly what I said he was, so…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneOkay buddy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneYou don’t know what kinds of women were interested in him 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 06:10 PM |
| 0 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneUnless you’re like 50 and still single, you probably just need to give it more time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/22 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneI’d also like to point out that I don’t think there’s an “abundance of good women”. I think I’m the modern dating landscape there’s plenty of awful women. But I don’t see a lot of women complaining on this subreddit so I wasn’t addressing them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/22 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneokay that's fine. You don't know us. You don't know that my husband has been unemployed in our marriage and I've had to support us and I didn't leave him because I still cared. I'm guessing you've never been in a long term relationship or else you would understand that relationships have an element of give and take - as in I appreciate him providing for me and he appreciates everything I do for him. That's how it should be. he also "uses" me for all kinds of things, like making food, having sex … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/22 01:52 AM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneAnd your evidence of this is - ? Go ahead, I’ll wait. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/22 12:45 AM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneWhat are you smoking? Seriously, you haven’t actually given me evidence of my not caring about my husband beyond just “you listed things you like about him” 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 11:56 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneWhat are you even talking about? If I sat down with a doctor who asked me why I’d brought my husband in and I told him “my husband has a back problem and his stomach is acting up” the doctor could be like you and say “WOW so you think your husband is nothing but health issues???” Umm, no. We’re just talking about his health issues right now. Likewise, when I have the space of a paragraph to describe the bare bones of what I think is attractive and masculine about my husband, obviously you’re not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 11:19 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneWow that’s a lot of big words from someone who’s never met me or my husband 😂 It must be Opposite Day because I can’t remember the last time someone listing (just some of) the things they love about their partner = being a slimy bastard who doesn’t love them 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneThen stop stopping to their low standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 08:49 PM |
| 7 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThank you for this. Additionally, people who are like “schools are set up for boys to fail, so mean, boys need activity and fun, schools are for girls these days 😤” bro seriously show me girls who are THRIVING in the modern school environment? Shouldn’t that be ALL kids need play and activity instead of sitting on their butts all day, being expected to memorize facts? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneYou do also realize I’m talking about basics right? These are the basics that make a man masculine and attractive. Of course preferences vary. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneFrankly I can’t fathom the kinds of circles you must be running in. Where I live, women are happy to find good men with stable jobs or men who are pursuing dreams. I guess people are more down to earth here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 07:27 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be onethey shouldn't have settled then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneOkay this isn't a thread about the neurodiverse dating landscape so it's irrelevant to my main point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneWell then ignore those girls who are clearly losers. You wouldn't want to date them anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneNot irrelevant if you're up against a man who is missing these things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneGreat you've found a hobby that works for your lifestyle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneOkay I've been married for less than four years so it's not like the dating market has drastically turned upside down since 2017. Promiscuous modern women want all kinds of unattainable random stuff. That doesn't make you high value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 05:20 PM |
| 0 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneWell I'd like to think my husband and I are "more than just friends". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 05:19 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneI thought FDS was gone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneGood grief. No. Obviously I don't think "the only way for any given man to be attractive is to place himself in harm's way of a knifeblade that's about to end his life" I'm saying if there were two men who were equal in every other way and I were at a bar and an aggressive drunk was harassing me and trying to assault me, I'd be 1000000000% more attracted to the man who stepped in and said "leave that woman alone" (despite potential risk) than the man who just sat there and blankly watched like i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 05:17 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneYou think having a job and interests and goals in life is a magical top 20% of men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 05:12 PM |
| 3 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneYou got me there. online dating is a cesspool of selfish people who bring nearly nothing to the table. I think that's pretty obvious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be onewhat gives you that impression? can you give examples of where I didn't talk about him as a person? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneLet’s be honest, though. A homeless drifter who somehow still gets lots of sex still isn’t a high value man, is he? It’s sad that men see other men’s value = how much sex he gets rather than how he contributes to society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 01:49 AM |
| 3 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneI agree that I prefer a good looking man (my taste) over one I don't find attractive. That's obvious. Everyone prefers attractive people. But I'm telling the defeatist men in this sub that they don't have to be Christian Grey to land a girlfriend. Is rich random man more "attractive" than poor random man? Maybe. Maybe not. Poor random man might be a poor artist and some find that more attractive because they love the passion and the creativity more than the money. Is poor random man working reta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneEveryone has different standards and preferences. But you'd be surprised at the sheer volume of men can't even reach these standards. I also think that these things should be default for menfolk (and women too, TBH) but it's kinda more and more rare these days. Besides, I'm addressing the RP crowd and I'm just trying to bring in some common sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 12:47 AM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneWell that's unfortunate. And you aren't going to be attractive to everyone, and that's okay (I'm not either, no one is) but it sounds like you're getting attention, and that's a good thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 12:44 AM |
| 3 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneI do care about my SO's safety. I would rather he live than anything else. I don't want him to be a soldier or go to war or start fights or anything like that. But I think there's something off about a man who's completely unwilling to stand up for people who are weaker or more vulnerable than he is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneWay to miss the entire point. Protection, like I said in my OP, is about more than just physical altercations. And that wasn't the gist of my post anyway, but okay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 12:42 AM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneAgree, but I don’t think I’ve ever seen a post on here with women complaining about dating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneIt would probably impress you if it ever happened to you. But I agree with you that protection doesn’t just involve fighting, and in fact often does not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneYou’d be surprised how few men actually meet these standards 😉 even men here are telling on themselves by complaining that these standards are impossible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 10:18 PM |
| 7 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneWell it depends on the woman of course. But I’d like to think a high value woman is one who is hardworking in every area of her life, not lazy, knowledgeable, a good conversationalist, enjoys sex (that of course depends on her partner somewhat), has numerous life skills (can take care of herself and other people) is emotionally steady/intelligent, is confident, sexually appealing to HER partner (she doesn’t have to be universally appealing but I think people in a relationship should be attractiv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneI think you’re talking to yourself at this point…. I already said that it’s extremely rare to need protection from physical altercations and that there are many various ways of being protective/brave etc. you’re kind of just repeating what I said back at me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 10:13 PM |
| 3 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneIt’s useless to argue against this defeatist mindset. I also have lived with seeing hot, perfect women getting asked out all the time and getting all the male attention. Guess what? That’s life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 10:11 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneOh boy. Ok. Well, I’d like to think protection goes way beyond just fights (how often do this happen in daily life??) but other areas as well, like just his physical presence, standing up for you etc. You might not always NEED it but knowing he’s there and willing to step in if necessary is a masculine trait. I’m not attracted to men who just passively sit by while vulnerable people are harmed, physically, emotionally etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneOf course that plays a part. I’m just saying it’s not the only important thing or that you can just expect to get into a relationship because you look good, Period. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneWhat do you mean started off extremely unlucky? My standards for partners has always actually been very high. I’m trying to encourage men here. I’m trying to tell men that they still have a chance even if they’re not the most successful, handsome, rich man in the room, they can still have success. Again, otherwise the human race would be extinct. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 09:27 PM |
| 3 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneI never said physical confrontation….. protection is different. Starting a fight is NOT what I’m talking about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 09:25 PM |
| 0 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneIt depends on the other men. Are they the RP definition? All tall supermodels? Are they allowed to talk and get to know each other a little bit? Too many variables. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneBut this means you think you’ve got a “aha!” gotcha moment. “Right so he’s married because he’s charismatic! Which negates the other points.” I’m saying charisma is great for being attractive and getting to know people, but these other four points are what makes a man valuable in RP terms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 09:04 PM |
| 4 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneStrike the rich part and that’s what my husband is. These things help, but they don’t provide value beyond just being sexy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneThere are situations in life where there is no bouncer or police. Having a man who’s willing be in danger to save you is attractive. If it’s not attractive to you, okay…. But I think most women would disagree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneOvercome his pitfalls and end up with someone 😂 he’s not a hunchback who was lucky to finally beg someone to marry him after fifty years of isolation. Yes he’s charismatic and interesting and handsome, but those things ALONE do NOT make you high value, man or woman. If ALL you’re bringing to the table is your looks and sex appeal, that’s not providing VALUE. A house is not valuable if it looks nice but it’s rotting away. A human isn’t valuable *solely in terms of the dating market since every hu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:59 PM |
| 4 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneOkay but men are stronger than women so good luck with that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneWhat? I was taking about when he was single. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:41 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneBut if you put my husband in a room with five other average men, he’s already above them because he’s confident, doesn’t care what they think, personable, has loads of integrity, is passionate about his job, loves his work and treats everyone around him with respect. He stands out no matter what crowd he’s in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneProtection is cringe? So if I’m a married woman it’s cringy if I want my husband to try to protect me in grr event of a break in? 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneI don’t think that having a life plan, interests, and self improvement have anything to do with not being yourself or killing yourself 😳 these things are all attainable…. Remember how I said it’s important to work on these things, not be perfect? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneThen why were so many women interested in him? 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneAnd most neurodiverse people will end up in relationships with other neurodiverse people so that’s not a problem/not who we’re talking about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be onelol I live in California 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:34 PM |
| 6 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneThere was at least one instance where a bar fight was breaking out and he put himself between me and other men even though they were bigger than him. That was brave and attractive to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneBecause I knew his values? if someone is looking for a job and has a good work ethic and is looking for a wife or LTR you can assume it means he’ll do his best to be a provider…. He’s not going to just keep all that money and say “well? How are you going to eat this week?” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneI’m not even talking about money btw (I thought that was clear when I said I married a relatively poor man) - I just mean someone who’s willing to work, not expecting the woman to work for him or be past his whole life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneYou don’t care about protection? So if a man got in your face at a bar and was threatening to assault you, you’d be okay with your husband sitting by just watching and sipping his beer? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneMy husband is also handsome and we share a lot of interests and values, so that helps obviously. But as he stands alone, those are the things I think give him value in the traditional worldly sense. He’s also short and we were virgins, which are apparently two death strikes according to the RP community but that didn’t exactly scare the women away. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:59 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneNo 🙄 but he was on a life trajectory for it. He was going to school and had ambition and plans. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneMost women aren’t having sex either? 😂 it’s not like 1% of all men are having sex with 99% of all women. Both sexes are lonely, both sexes find love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:39 PM |
| 5 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneBro women aren’t lusting after apathetic basement dwellers either. You have to admit that being a self respecting man with passions in life is attractive across the board, LTR or not. Why do men care what crazy airhead women who have sex with garbage men think?? Ignore those useless 19 year olds. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:38 PM |
| -1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneI was not with my husband at the time when he displayed these traits. It was part of what drew me to him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneYou’re a broken record at this point, repeating RP talking points that have nothing to do with what I said. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneWhat? I didn’t say it’s not hard to fight off an assailant 😂 I just said the willingness to try to protect a woman is more attractive than if a guy was like “you’re on your own, good luck trying to fend off a r*pist” My husband is short but back when we weren’t even dating he put himself between me and a bar fight that was breaking out. Could those men have killed him if they wanted? Sure, probably. He was outnumbered too. But the fact that he was willing to protect me was extremely attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneDisagree. I’ve put a lot of effort into self improvement. Yes random men have always hit on me, but I didn’t get real interest from HVM until I put effort into maintaining weight, looking good, being a good conversationalist, having many passions in life, etc. I’m married now because I have a lot of value beyond my looks. Men have been interested in me beyond just my looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:32 PM |
| 7 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneOk 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:15 PM |
| -1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneHmm but then how are they in love? 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:15 PM |
| 0 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneMost women don’t desire most men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:11 PM |
| 3 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneYou didn’t fully grasp my post then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneThen ignore those women. I’m above a 6 and I can tell you right now that unless you grew up with millionaires and impossibly high standards, most reasonable women (again, ignore the crazy ones) are looking to date men who are protective, passionate and have interests in life. And before you say “that’s only for LTR” again, I’m literally talking about what makes a man masculine & attractive across the board, not just marriage material. (Unless you can point me in the direction of the thousands of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:10 PM |
| -5 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneThen how are so many men who meet this description dating, having sex and getting married 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:04 PM |
| 4 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneWow. So it’s unattainable to simply have a job and interests in life? 🤔 this is supposed to be helpful because this list is attainable for all but coma patients. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Women love "high value men", but it's not actually that hard to be oneNo, these are the traits that made me want to date my husband in the first place? I’m saying it’s attractive to have a job, interests, and passions in life, and that’s what makes you a high value man universally. Guys who want to date don’t have to be millionaires, otherwise the human race would be extinct by now. Also I’m not an older woman but thanks 🙄😂 I’ve only been married for a few years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 06:55 PM |
| 1 | What are some popular opinions commonly held by people of your own gender here that you not share?Exactly! I’m surprised so many women are hung up on height. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 12:27 AM |
| 3 | What are some popular opinions commonly held by people of your own gender here that you not share?Ok | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 12:26 AM |
| 3 | What are some popular opinions commonly held by people of your own gender here that you not share?Thank you for this…handsome face trumps height for me every time too! My husband is short but he’s hot and that’s good enough for me! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 09:08 PM |
| 4 | What are some popular opinions commonly held by people of your own gender here that you not share?Hobbies don’t matter as in “she’s so interested in my hobbies and likes me because I’m into welding”. Hobbies matter because they show you’re a man who fills his time with challenging, self improving activities. A man whose hobby is welding > a man whose hobby is scrolling on his phone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 09:01 PM |
| 5 | Q4W: What do women mean by a guy being emotionally mature/intelligent?Being able to “read the room” is essential and basic. All humans should be able to do this. Basically - if someone is sad, don’t get joky. If someone is mad or there’s tension, don’t ask them for favors. Just understanding what the people around you are feeling, even on a basic level, goes a LONG way. You’d be surprised how many men see their wives overloaded with chores and stress and come into the room obliviously asking things like “So when are you going to clean our room???” Bro. Being able … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 05:19 AM |
| 1 | We know gym can really fix fat/skinny guys into a more attractive version, what about the rest.Beards can work WONDERS | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Why do women often hate men playing videogames?My dad has always been a gamer. It has negatively impacted our family. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 09:15 PM |
| 2 | Why do women often hate men playing videogames?It’s just the addiction, honestly. I don’t mind if it’s a hobby in moderation like anything else, but the hours of video game time, taking away from better things (quality time with your spouse for example) is why it’s a problem. And yes I realize the same can be said fire social media usage. I’m working on that issue in myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 07:45 PM |
| 1 | how would you women feel if men wore as much makeup as you?The thing about makeup is that it enhances femininity. Makeup adds to feminine features that are already there: large eyes, pink cheeks, full/red lips, long eyelashes. Considering that 1) what makes a man attractive (to hetero women, which is the group this question is presumably aimed at) is generally masculine features, and 2) the only makeup that could MAYBE make a man “more attractive” is contouring, and 3) that might give him 1 extra point (so going from a 4 to a 5, not a 4 to a 9) I’d say … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/22 02:27 AM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?Okay bro 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 06:47 PM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?lol not fat but not thin. Depends on the dress, but I’m generally size 6/8 on top, 12 on bottom. I have a very hourglass shape | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 06:52 AM |
| 3 | How often do you get hit on?That’s what I’m discovering from this thread! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 04:49 AM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?I want you to know I don’t blame women for being harassed or catcalled or anything. I’m asking because SO MANY women complain (which they have every right to do) about this being a daily thing, or happening more times than they can count etc. and I can recall the times it’s happened to me and it’s probably been less than ten times in my life. I wondered what the common denominator was. So far my findings show that it’s mostly women that live in big cities or densely populated areas, which I gues… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 04:47 AM |
| 2 | How often do you get hit on?Haha you’re so sweet, that’s kind of you to say! I don’t feel down about it - I’m also happily married so I’m not looking for random male attention. I just grew curious after seeing comment after comment on here and elsewhere on the internet about women who were tired of men harassing them daily, asking them out every time they leave the house etc. I noticed that rarely happens to me, despite being a reasonably attractive woman, and wondered if the common denominator was living in a big city, or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 04:45 AM |
| 2 | How often do you get hit on?That’s an interesting take 😅 I’d like to think that I’m somewhere in the ballpark of Jennifer Lawrence when I’m at my BEST but I guess not 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 02:26 AM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?That’s the kind of thing I’m talking about! Thanks for your input! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 12:34 AM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?Okay interesting! Would you say you live in a densely populated area? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 12:26 AM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?Interesting. I like to think I’m slightly above average, at least in makeup (which I admittedly don’t wear very often, at least not like in that photo) But the last two times men hit on me in person I was makeup free. Online it was because they’d stalked my Reddit profile. It’s still an extremely rare occurrence, which I could, in truth, chalk up to looking average without makeup….. but then it doesn’t happen much when I’m IN makeup, either. I think the common denominator is simply where you liv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 12:04 AM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?Maybe, maybe not. I could be average to some, above average to others. It all depends on the day, the person, etc. if you’re wildly curious my photos are on my profile via other posts. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 11:16 PM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?See this is where I think you’re wrong. I’ve certainly been hit on in my life, and I consider myself to be fairly attractive, but I don’t get hit on in the volumes these women claim. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 10:59 PM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?That could be it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 09:18 PM |
| 2 | How often do you get hit on?That’s why I don’t think it’s solely being attractive. I’m an attractive woman in my 20s (late twenties now but my experience was the same in my early twenties) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 09:12 PM |
| 6 | How often do you get hit on?Interesting, thanks for your input! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 09:08 PM |
| 5 | How often do you get hit on?I’m not saying it’s in Top Ten discussions at all, I’m just saying I’ve lost count of how many women have claimed in this sub (in fact all the internet) that they are “constantly” harassed and hit on by men…. Just today in another unrelated topic in this sub a woman claimed that changing her hair would “guarantee” that she’d get hit on “as soon as she walked out her door”. Really? I just am trying to find the common denominator for women who get male attention 3-4 times a day, when I’ve NEVER ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 09:07 PM |
| 2 | How often do you get hit on?Okay interesting! I’m rarely friendly in public so I probably scare people away, which is for the better | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:57 PM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?My mom used to suggest that when I was a teen/young adult and it was DEFINITELY not true then 😂 maybe I just have RBF 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:56 PM |
| 4 | How often do you get hit on?Women do mention getting hit on constantly….a lot | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:55 PM |
| 2 | How often do you get hit on?Sooooo interesting to me. I can still go to big cities with friends (or when I was single) and almost never did men try anything with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:54 PM |
| 2 | How often do you get hit on?That’s too bad 🙁 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:54 PM |
| 2 | How often do you get hit on?Interesting, i bet your job has a lot to do with it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:53 PM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?Interesting and did you live in a small or large town? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:53 PM |
| 4 | How often do you get hit on?I’m not sure women specifically initiate the topic most times but it’s mentioned a lot | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:53 PM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?Really! A small town or big town? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:52 PM |
| 3 | How often do you get hit on?Do you live in a small or big city? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:52 PM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?Ahh that makes sense that you live in nyc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:52 PM |
| 3 | How often do you get hit on?Would you say you live in a big city or a smaller town? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:51 PM |
| 3 | How often do you get hit on?Do you live in a smaller town? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:51 PM |
| 7 | How often do you get hit on?You misunderstand, I don’t feel left out - I want to see if the women who get hit on “every day” live in big cities or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:50 PM |
| 2 | How often do you get hit on?I’ve lurked plenty in the last few years. I get the gist of what people are saying over and over. I don’t lurk daily or often enough to know if someone posted a very specific post a few days ago. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 08:43 PM |
| 2 | How often do you get hit on?Maybe, I don’t lurk here enough to keep up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 05:50 PM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?This made me lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Who’s a celebrity that you find has an attractive personality?I like confident, talented men both modern and more old timey. Gene Kelley and Hugh Jackman for example. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 05:28 PM |
| 1 | How often do you get hit on?Interesting! Do you live in a big city? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 05:21 PM |
| 3 | How often do you get hit on?Interesting. There’s probably a correlation! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 04:36 PM |
| 10 | How often do you get hit on?Interesting. Does it happen every day/once a week? Do you live in a big city? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 04:34 PM |
| 4 | How often do you get hit on?That is unfortunate. Do you live in a big city? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 04:33 PM |
| 2 | How often do you get hit on?I have always wondered if it’s overly exaggerated…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 04:33 PM |
| 2 | How often do you get hit on?That’s what I mean tho, if men are so indiscriminate and thirsty, you’d think I’d have men throwing themselves at me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever get insecure when artificial women are considered beautiful?Nah. I’m not perfect, but I’m reasonably pretty. If anything, it’s actually an ego boost to know I’m attractive WITHOUT all that fakery. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/22 02:21 PM |
| 23 | Q4Bluepill: In your opinion why do you think more Women iniate divorce than men?I can second that first point. My cousin’s husband just left her and the kids one day and then made her initiate the divorce proceedings because he didn’t want to do the work. Charming. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 04:57 PM |
| 2 | Women don't age like MilkI feel like people ignore genetics on this sub 😂 Don’t forget there are people out there who just LOOK YOUNG no matter what. I’m going to turn 30 this year and could EASILY pass for 20. I don’t smoke or drink or so drugs, sure, and that helps, but I also just have a very young looking face and personality. I’m starting to appreciate it now lol. There are people who just WILL look younger forever. It’s in their genetics. (My parents are in their 50s and look 40 tops) my brother in law has the you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/22 05:03 AM |
| 1 | Are Many of the Subs Here on Dedicated Accounts for PPD Rage-Bait?It’s just fun interesting discussion. I also have other interests, and lurk in many subreddits/post content in a few. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 07:01 PM |
| 2 | Your partner gets paralyzed from the neck down, do you stay?Absolutely I would. I would grieve but I’m in this thing till one of us dies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/22 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Why do a good amount of women like being degraded by men in bed?yes but then if it's not asked for or consented to, then it's r*pe. I like the feeling of being so desired my husband "loses control" so to speak, but if he ACTUALLY lost control and hurt me or did something I didn't like, it would make me lose trust and scare me. it's gotta be consensual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 07:21 PM |
| 1 | women are attracted to both looks and personality.I had a crush on a guy who was not particularly attractive and had acne and acne scars. He was funny, that's what did it for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Most men present themselves poorly in public.perfect! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Most men present themselves poorly in public.Guys who are like "I'm not wearing a tux to get gas" are missing the point. the point here is to find out what clothes look GOOD on you, even casual stuff. there's a good looking version of even the most casual clothes. find out what shapes and fits suit YOUR body, face, etc best and build your wardrobe around that. that'll make a great impression no matter where you are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Most men present themselves poorly in public.yes it's acceptable and even attractive to wear jeans and a tee shirt, but not if they don't fit you or look wierd. learn what tee shirts actually look good on your body. find out what kinds of jeans work for your legs. don't just buy default baggy jeans and a too-long tee shirt. you won't stand out against the guy in jeans that fit him great and a perfectly-sized tee. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Most men present themselves poorly in public.to be fair, I think a lot of these observations, from BOTH sexes, are subconscious. I would never analyze the details of a man's outfit and think "he's not for me - his watch is gold instead of silver" or some other superficial nonsense. but all together, seeing a man who knows what looks good on him and knows what fits his body well, the total package, is going to make a great first impression over a man who's sloppy and careless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 06:43 PM |
| -5 | Most men present themselves poorly in public.yeah and you're not attracted to them. this is advice for if you want to be attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Most men present themselves poorly in public.I read this whole thing and almost fell off my chair because that entire list - minus the money and providing part - is what women are expected to do for men, down to the last detail. lol Get it? men and women both have to make an effort to attract each other. it's normal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Most men present themselves poorly in public.But, if those jeans and sweaters fit you well, and the look suits you, then that's all you need. No one's asking you to put on a tux for a first date - just know what looks good on you and what doesn't. once you've acquired a basic wardrobe of clothing staples that fit you well and show off what's great about you, you don't have to think when you get dressed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 06:38 PM |
| 0 | Most men present themselves poorly in public.yes this, exactly this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Most men present themselves poorly in public.The point is just to assemble a wardrobe that you know looks good on you, not to wear a James Bond suit every time you run out to get gas. A smart tactic is knowing what shapes and clothing items tend to look good on you and what things to avoid. Then get rid of everything that looks awful on you. That way you can have casual clothes in shapes that are flattering and with zero effort, you'll always look good. For example, I know I will NEVER look good in a baggy tee shirt. So I just got rid of a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Most men present themselves poorly in public.True, which is why I made sure that the man I was interested in* saw me both dressed up and way dressed down. I wanted him to know how great I could look and also how awful I could look lol. That doesn't mean I didn't make a basic effort to look good, though, generally. It really does help. He made that effort too and it's part of why I was drawn to him. *we're married now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?Yesssss I know this feeling 😁 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 08:19 AM |
| 3 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?lol why would I give a taller guy a chance if I’m already married? I’m not delusional, I know people get older and that’s okay. We’ll get old together and find each other attractive as we age. The important thing to me was to find someone I was honestly attracted to, and wanted to have sex with without forcing myself. I’m thankful I found him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 08:18 AM |
| 1 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?https://www.bodybuilding.com/images/2016/may/cary-higginbotham-transformation-header-v2-830x467.jpg The guy on the left. He’s got a bit of a dad bod, squishy stomach, but he’s got a good shape overall (broad shoulders instead of narrow) and if he flexed it did anything manual with his arms you’d be able to see muscle. Obviously isn’t ripped but has strength. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 08:16 AM |
| 0 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?What? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?On what planet is short such a negative that it cancels out EVERYTHING else, like good looks, muscles, money, charisma etc?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?This is by far the crux of the matter | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 09:31 PM |
| -1 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?How on earth does that not make reasonable sense?? Man A is shorter than average but otherwise attractive in every other way. He can expect to still attract women overall, though not as many as if he’d been tall. Man B is shorter than average but unattractive in every other way. Can he assume that he’s being reject SOLELY because of his height, or is that just part of why he’s unattractive? Please show me where I lost you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?Yes I know this helps. That was the whole point of my post. Would women reject an otherwise attractive man who was short, thereby proving that women ONLY care about men being tall? Or are other factors at play, such as the simple fact that perhaps the short man has other undesirable qualities? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?I have no idea why I’m getting downvoted on this. Does it not make sense that an attractive but short man has a reasonably good chance with most women and that an unattractive short man can expect that it’s not JUST that he’s short as the reason he’s being rejected? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?Nah I just like fairly muscular men (he’s not jacked; he’s just in good shape) who are handsome, regardless of height. I always knew I had to marry an attractive man Because sex appeal is high on my priority list. It’s just that height doesn’t factor in there if he’s otherwise Good looking | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 06:27 PM |
| -6 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?I’m average height for a woman so yes he’s pretty short. My point is, would a woman REALLY reject a man JUST because he’s short? I’m saying if he was attractive (to YOU) in every other way but still short, would you reject him? As in, he’s amazing but short so it’s a no-go? If i rejected him because he was also ugly and boring and cruel, it would not be BECAUSE he’s short. That part would be incidental | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 05:58 PM |
| -1 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?If he was ugly, boring, mean and homeless and also short, I wouldn’t have dated him. But it’s not the fact that he’s SHORT that would have turned me off. It was all the things. The shortness is incidental at that point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 05:54 PM |
| 4 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?Are you a woman? Asking if this is your personal opinion AS a woman or if this is something you’re assuming for the whole sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 05:53 PM |
| 3 | These days, women don't hit the wall until they're 40I’m sorry but I’m going to have to disagree there. Unless someone drastically ages in an unflattering way in that length of time, I can’t actually think of a 20 yr old who looks BETTER than a 30 yr old, provided they take reasonable care of themselves. Think about Scarlett Johansson at 20 vs 30. She looks young and fresh and fit at both ages (so you can make the excuse that she aged or got fat) but at 20 she looks kind of pudgy and babyish and at 30 she looks womanly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 05:10 PM |
| 0 | Dual Mating Strategy: Why men need to be aware of TRP it's teachings even if they don't agree with it.Yes, agree, that’s an essential component of my Marriage. But I don’t see where she says to him “I’m not attracted to you” The fact that 20 yr old version of her would have have swiped left on a photo of him on an OLD site Ten years ago means exactly nothing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 09:24 AM |
| 4 | These days, women don't hit the wall until they're 40Idk about that, soooo many actually get MORE attractive. I was a baby faced woman with greasy skin and awkward as heck bangs at 19-20 yrs old. Doubt anyone wanted me at that age. Now at nearly 30 I’ve mastered flattering makeup, wear bras that fit me, know how to complement my shape, I’m unafraid to wear the skin tight red velvet dress etc. guarantee the average American male would choose me now vs me at 20 because the whole package is confident and sexy Vs insecure and awkward. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 09:20 AM |
| 6 | These days, women don't hit the wall until they're 40“Aged decently into their 30s” 💀 Legitimate question: are you a teenager? Because genuinely no one thinks people, men OR women, are in any way “aged” in their thirties unless they’ve smoked a pack a day since they were twelve. Most 30 something year olds look way younger than they are. 30 something year olds that look their age are still generally…attractive? Normal? Not old or dumpy looking? I’m going to be 30 at the end of the year and I could pass for 22, no questions asked. And that’s not ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 09:14 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe that you're the prize?Nah my husband is, hands down | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 09:09 AM |
| 1 | Dual Mating Strategy: Why men need to be aware of TRP it's teachings even if they don't agree with it.I see where she says she wouldn’t immediately want to go out with him if she just saw his face but idk how that’s at all related?? So she get to know him irl and loves him for who he is? Instead of just his face? I guess since I’m not 12 I don’t see how that’s a problem | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 09:06 AM |
| 1 | Dual Mating Strategy: Why men need to be aware of TRP it's teachings even if they don't agree with it.Where did her OP say that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 09:05 AM |
| 0 | Dual Mating Strategy: Why men need to be aware of TRP it's teachings even if they don't agree with it.This post is beyond stupid. My husband was in “better shape” before I knew him. He liked other girls in better shape than me before we got married. Who cares? For everyone who says “if you thought your boyfriend was not generous but could live with it, then found out he had been generous to girlfriends before, you’d flip out!” No I wouldn’t. Why was her generous before and not now? Was he richer then? Was he actually being wasteful and foolish with money back in the day and now he’s learned to b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Q4W How would you react to your SO losing a fight in a really pathetic way?I'd think he was delusional and wonder what possessed him to be interested in the first place (he's a guy who thinks MMA fighting is STUPID so it would literally have to be an alien in his body for this to happen) But if it DID happen, I'd be embarrassed for him, but I'd still love him and comfort him. Him not winning an MMA fight wouldn't make me lose respect for him; someone has to lose the match and it doesn't matter who it is. It doesn't make you any less of a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/22 01:42 AM |
| 2 | Being "hookup material" is better than being "boyfriend material"Y'all realize you can be both, right?? My husband was both amazing husband/boyfriend material AND hot enough to be hookup material. It doesn't just have to be one or the other....some men have good personalities and qualities for a relationship AND are hot enough for sex! who knew right? /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 04:46 AM |
| 1 | Now that women have been sexually liberated, most men will always be sexually frustratedfor sure, for sure....but we're not talking about high class victorian women struggling to make matches, I was referring to OP (of the thread) who claimed that men aren't getting dates because society sees all men as disposable bodies to ship off to war. I told him (her?) that can't be the case because during WWII, that was LITERALLY happening to men (and it's not at all happening now) and yet there was no dating crisis and men were finding plenty of dates and wives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/22 12:25 AM |
| 2 | Now that women have been sexually liberated, most men will always be sexually frustratedIs it 1942 or....? Because during WWII, America lost TONS of her "disposable" men yet many of them were married, had girlfriends etc. I don't think the problem is that society just looks at a man and thinks "ship him out to fight the war!" (what war?? when is this happening today?) because back when it WAS happening, most men were getting plenty of women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Men should validate/lift up other men to combat the epidemic of loneliness and desperationand 5. male validation (from one straight male to another straight male) means that it's a non-sexual thing - they're validating their friend just for who they are, or how they look, or their good qualities, etc - not because they want to get in their pants! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/22 04:19 AM |
| 21 | "Men struggle to find dates because they expect someone hotter than them" is patently falseI definitely agree with this premise; the world used to be ALL about organically meeting other people. Communities were smaller, but everyone had marriage in mind and it was easy to meet folks within your league and social status just by going to the store, going to church, meetings, having close relationships with your neighbors, etc. It's really hard for people these days. Women, too, but I think men have it harder because men are just very unpicky. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 06:50 AM |
| 3 | If you wouldn't commit to a woman that had a high n-count, you cannot complain when women "withold" sex before commitment.Still interesting that you think "lavishing someone with love attention and affection" is exactly the same as "having sex" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/22 04:51 AM |
| – | If you wouldn't commit to a woman that had a high n-count, you cannot complain when women "withold" sex before commitment.interesting that you equate "lavishing with love" with "having sex as early on as I want". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/22 04:47 AM |
| – | If you wouldn't commit to a woman that had a high n-count, you cannot complain when women "withold" sex before commitment.So men never sleep around when they're younger and settle down when they're older? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/22 04:43 AM |
| 2 | How Much Does Height Have An Impact On Dating Success? (For Straight Men)I’ve noticed that short guys tend to be more charismatic and I think it’s because tall guys “coast” on their height. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/22 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Anti Porn People: where do you get new sexual ideas/positions/activities from?Gosh what did people do before porn was invented? I guess only ever have boring starfish sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/21 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Average men in long term relationships critiquing people who are single.20% dead bedrooms is far from inevitable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/21 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Average men in long term relationships critiquing people who are single.You have proof that every marriage has resulted in a dead bedroom? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/21 05:30 AM |
| 4 | Average men in long term relationships critiquing people who are single.Inevitably? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/21 09:58 PM |
| 7 | Why do young women seem to like feminine looking men?When I was 13-15 I was into pretty boys like Hayden Christiansen and Orlando Bloom. When I got to about 16 years old I started liking more rugged, masculine men who were hairy and had beards, like Gerard Butler and Hugh Jackman. I’ve liked that type ever since and can’t even imagine liking pretty boys anymore. Very young girls are more drawn to younger looking men. If you’re a woman tho and you’re attracted to those guys Idk what to think | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/21 05:57 AM |
| 3 | The communication gap between men and womenMy husband and I are best friends. As in: we talk about everything, enjoy each other’s company, love to spend time together, love to do things together, prefer each other’s company to anyone else’s, etc I feel sad for people who think this is weird or unattainable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/21 10:12 PM |
| 6 | If you believe the core tenant of masculinity is the subjugation of others, you can’t be upset that many thus associate masculinity negatively.Atticus finch had it easy? SAMWISE freaking GAMGEE has it easy and was a product of easy times? 🤯 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/21 11:32 PM |
| 3 | I don’t think “bad boys” are attractive at all. They’re attractive to immature insecure women but not mature onesTIL that 26 year old women are old 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 10:08 PM |
| 2 | What are Your Physical Deal Breakers in Guys ?I find that interesting because my husband has always smelled “right” and we couldn’t be more genetically/genealogically different! We literally have nothing in common DNA-wise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/21 03:22 AM |
| 2 | Why do you think younger women (gen Z) tend to like more feminine men, meanwhile older women tend to like more masculine men?I was into pretty boys when I was a young teen. Orlando Bloom and Hayden Christiansen were my main crushes. A few short years later and I couldn’t believe I ever was into them!! I swung hard into the other direction and only had crushes on guys like Hugh Jackman, Gerard Butler, and the like. I’ve been that way ever since. I think it’s a universal thing. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/21 07:17 AM |
| – | What are Your Physical Deal Breakers in Guys ?It’s usually not personal when someone isn’t attracted to someone else. So that’s a good thing to keep in mind. ☺️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/21 06:37 PM |
| 14 | What are Your Physical Deal Breakers in Guys ?Yeah, maybe also only women can actually smell the opposite sex? Women have much higher smell abilities than men do, period. So it could also be a case of men not even being able to smell women lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/21 05:03 PM |
| 11 | What are Your Physical Deal Breakers in Guys ?I think what is being overlooked here is that MOST of us women probably want someone who we are sexually attracted to. It’s pretty simple. And a lot of guys just don’t meet that description despite there being nothing wrong with them. Just not our type. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/21 04:24 PM |
| 25 | What are Your Physical Deal Breakers in Guys ?Oh it’s very real. YEARS before I even dated my husband, I realized his “body smell” (not his sweaty BO but like just how his skin smells) was ridiculously appealing and good and it still is. And other guys, no thanks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/21 04:22 PM |
| 6 | Men - would you be satisfied with a lifetime N=1 if she was N=1 as well?It’s weird because he has a GF and is still wishing he could sleep with over twenty other random women 😳 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/21 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Unpaid Labor Mega ThreadYes but usually you can tell. And sometimes the couple is equal in labor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/21 02:16 AM |
| 5 | Unpaid Labor Mega ThreadIsn't it the obvious answer that it depends based on different couple's situations?? The mental gymnastics are unnecessary. If the couple is: a stay at home wife with no kids + a husband who works 60 hrs a week at a lumber mill, I think it's obvious who works more. If the couple is: a stay at home wife with five kids whom she homeschools + a husband who's a receptionist at an office, I think it's obvious who works more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/21 06:29 PM |
| 3 | What is the ideal male body type?A little bit of fat, even to the point of squish is still totally attractive if the underlying body SHAPE is good. A man with broad shoulders and chest and a narrower lower body is automatically going to carry weight better than a guy with skinny legs, narrow shoulders and a beer belly. My ideal male body is just starting off with that “Dorito” shape, everything else is just kind of a nice bonus. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/21 06:47 PM |
| 6 | The uncomfortable truth in the dating realm: women have to be, men have to become.That I can totally agree with! You gotta define success in your own way and use your own methods (within reason lol!!) and that’s going to look different for different people (and there is probably a dividing line between the genders at least a little) I think we agree, but I perhaps didn’t understand your premise. My bad! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/21 02:31 AM |
| 2 | Q4M Do you appreciate a woman's personality/hobbies/achievement?My husband cares about my hobbies (to a reasonable extent - they are MY hobbies after all, not his) and talks with me about them. He’s proud of the things I complete and accomplish. He says it’s endearing how passionate I am when I talk about them and listens attentively. I guess he’s my girlfriend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/21 01:34 AM |
| 17 | The uncomfortable truth in the dating realm: women have to be, men have to become.This is an interesting perspective. I don’t consider myself super ambitious, but I also don’t think it’s necessarily better to “rest on your laurels”, so to speak, as a woman, and just “enjoy” coasting through life on your beauty and charm. it would be to my detriment to pretend that beauty, youth, charm and sex appeal are irrelevant (for myself or other women) and raging against that reality of biology is unproductive. But I don’t believe it’s always bitterness when a woman DOES want to reach f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/21 01:18 AM |
| 185 | If a woman is allowed to define a man loving her as him buying her flowers, taking her out to restaurants, spending quality time with her, then a man is allowed to define a woman loving him as cooking, cleaning, and fucking.I think the main issue when men say “I want you to cook, clean, and have sex with me” - is not that it’s too much, it’s that it’s not enough. Let me explain: those irritating memes that women post are the exact equivalent. “I just want tacos and for you to tell me I’m pretty”. The thing that sucks is if you boil the relationship down to the bare things you want from your partner - sex, food, shelter, compliments, money, etc. the relationship starts to feel like a transaction only. It makes you f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/21 12:43 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Most debate on manosphere subs is just lonely dudes trying to "out-alpha" each other with their philosophiesNot really. There are folks in my life who unironically believe these things and I can’t engage with them about it anymore (long story) so I seek clarity elsewhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/21 02:54 AM |
| 5 | CMV: Most debate on manosphere subs is just lonely dudes trying to "out-alpha" each other with their philosophiesNope, I’m in a happy relationship. I’m here because I’m trying to understand the twisted minds of these people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/21 08:06 PM |
| 3 | Why are so many men complaining about women not being as pretty under the makeup when our society has put so much emphasis on their beauty and their need to maintain it?Amazingly, if women then stopped wearing all these artificial deceptions- makeup, heels, hair products, etc men would women why we all let ourselves go. A degree of dressing up is involved in both sexes as part of presenting themselves as attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/21 02:26 AM |
| 3 | Reasonable skepticism of the opposite gender that neither seems to understandWe’re just going to go in circles. How many men meeting a tinder date in the city are afraid their female date is going to rape them? It would seem odd for a guy to do that because it’s unusual but it shouldn’t be offensive to check up on a stranger regardless of gender. And yes women meet up with strangers on dates all the time. Have you heard of tinder???? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/21 06:29 AM |
| 2 | Reasonable skepticism of the opposite gender that neither seems to understandYou just said most rape happens from strangers on the street and then when I said it’s usually family members you basically said “yeah exactly” so which is it? It’s really blowing my mind that you’re against women doing background checks on strangers before meeting them alone in person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/21 05:59 AM |
| 0 | Reasonable skepticism of the opposite gender that neither seems to understandHow old are you? Because date rape is extremely old and it’s very much a myth that rapes and kidnappings and murders happen from random strangers. Usually it’s within the victim’s own family. I don’t think it’s at all weird or overly cautious to look into a stranger before meeting up with them and frankly people of either gender who have a problem with that raise some red flags. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/21 04:41 AM |
| 9 | Reasonable skepticism of the opposite gender that neither seems to understandHow many men are regularly kidnapped, sex trafficked, murdered or raped by women on “dates”? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/21 12:52 AM |
| 1 | If being poor/low income is what makes a man a loser in women's eyes, is there a singular (near) universal thing that makes women a loser and undatable in men's eye's?Yes it is, and indeed is my only language! lol silly me I forgot we weren’t allowed to make small mistakes on the internet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/21 11:50 PM |
| 2 | If being poor/low income is what makes a man a loser in women's eyes, is there a singular (near) universal thing that makes women a loser and undatable in men's eye's?When has that been a BP piece of advice? It’s red pill folks who tell you to get rich to get women because they only care about $$$$$$$ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/21 01:46 AM |
| 2 | [Q4ALL]Whats your thoughts when you hear “dating down” or “dating up”?Dating down to me ALWAYS makes me think of someone who’s kind and good hearted dating an a-hole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/21 01:22 AM |
| 5 | If being poor/low income is what makes a man a loser in women's eyes, is there a singular (near) universal thing that makes women a loser and undatable in men's eye's?Truth. I married my husband when he owned like $6 because I love him and I was attracted to HIM, not his bank account. Apparently that’s rare. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/21 01:15 AM |
| 1 | CMV: the alpha beta distinction is a false dichotomy that leads to frustration. There’s no such thing.Kinda erases the validity of that statement if he changed his mind tho 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/21 04:55 PM |
| 1 | CMV: the alpha beta distinction is a false dichotomy that leads to frustration. There’s no such thing.Well even so it erases the previous claim that he has sworn off relationships....... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/21 12:46 AM |
| 1 | CMV: the alpha beta distinction is a false dichotomy that leads to frustration. There’s no such thing.What??? Elon Musk is in a LTR with a famous musician who’s pregnant with his baby..... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/21 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Why are women doing "body enhancements" seen as normal but men doing it are seen as "insecure"?I think it’s insecurity and compensating and lame no matter who does it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/21 06:14 PM |
| 3 | Women aren't attracted to dad-bods. Women are unattracted to the expectations of fit men.Fidelity = 🤯 to these guys | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/21 05:08 AM |
| 0 | Why is it more socially acceptable for women to want stereotypical men than vice versa?Wait how does “wanting a masculine man” line up with the “men are bad” mindset? How does frowning upon wanting a feminine woman line up with a “women are good” mindset? Sounds like the opposite to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/21 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Do women underestimate the strength of smaller men?I don’t remember what I thought before I was married but my husband who is my height (5’5”) is unbelievably strong and I think it surprised even me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/21 07:47 PM |
| 2 | We should revive the stigma towards divorced parentssuddenlyfascist | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/21 04:39 PM |
| 2 | BluePillers, what makes you still believe the bluepill? Have you gone from red/purple pill to blue pilled?This | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/21 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill/Alpha strategies are only effective when used like clothingBut even if a guy is comfortable about wearing a suit 24/7 and it becomes like breathing to him, it doesn’t mean the woman in his life enjoys it. Maybe she wants him to loosen up every once in a while. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 11:21 PM |
| 2 | Red Pill/Alpha strategies are only effective when used like clothingYou know what I mean 😊 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 11:18 PM |
| 2 | Red Pill/Alpha strategies are only effective when used like clothingAbsolutely, getting the red pill stands for is exhausting. Just be yourself is my top advice always. But it’s also fun to do spicy things in bed, go on a date and dress up, etc. it’s when you require yourself or others to be that ALL THE TIME to fit some arbitrary standard that’s unnecessary | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 10:44 PM |
| 2 | This sub talks a lot about low value males, but what about low value females? What are they like and what do you think their life is like?I guess I just have different parameters for what makes a human valuable then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/21 06:19 PM |
| 2 | This sub talks a lot about low value males, but what about low value females? What are they like and what do you think their life is like?Totally fair! No worries here, just trying to parse out the difference between “these are things I don’t like in a man/woman” and “what makes a LVM/F according to RP standards “ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/21 01:49 AM |
| 5 | This sub talks a lot about low value males, but what about low value females? What are they like and what do you think their life is like?Illness doesn’t impact value at all. Compatibility, maybe, but not value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/21 10:36 PM |
| 7 | This sub talks a lot about low value males, but what about low value females? What are they like and what do you think their life is like?Oops I have a short temper and I’m generally messy lol Thankfully I make up for it by being a good communicator, excellent cook, being kind, etc. I think a LVM isn’t necessarily defined by behavioral traits and I don’t think LVFs are always either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/21 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Is your current boyfriend in the top 20% of men looks wise?People tell him he looks like Hugh Jackman unprompted, so take from that what you will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/21 09:47 PM |
| 3 | What was that one moment where you felt sympathetic to the opposite sex's dating struggles? A moment that made you go, "I may not fully agree, but damn. I understand that must be rough."My heart aches for all the invisible people out there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/21 04:11 AM |
| 4 | Would women consider a man with a low N-Count more desirable?I prefer low. It was definitely very very special being each other’s firsts when we got married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/21 05:46 AM |
| 1 | What was that one moment where you felt sympathetic to the opposite sex's dating struggles? A moment that made you go, "I may not fully agree, but damn. I understand that must be rough."Um... killing women, threatening them, accusing women of being snakes, etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/21 03:20 PM |
| 14 | What was that one moment where you felt sympathetic to the opposite sex's dating struggles? A moment that made you go, "I may not fully agree, but damn. I understand that must be rough."So many things, really. (I’m a woman) The idea of being expected to initiate relationships and doing “the asking out” - I’d never be so brave. Y’all are amazing for having the courage to ask women out, especially frequently and with lots of rejections. I feel bad for guys who just want a stable, traditional relationship with the date/marry/kids timeline since it’s legitimately rare to find women with those values these days (it’s rare to find anyone with those values so I feel equally for women … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/21 01:43 AM |
| 1 | There is no gender strategy and people should just work on themselves & understand their value.I just noticed autocorrect made a few things awkward- he “also” loves women (not Aldi loves women 🤔) and he’s not at all ASEXUAL but autocorrect said he’s not at all sexual. Yikes, two different things there! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/21 09:06 AM |
| 2 | There is no gender strategy and people should just work on themselves & understand their value.My husband is into those things and isn’t gay 🙃 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/21 04:54 AM |
| 2 | There is no gender strategy and people should just work on themselves & understand their value.You remind me of my husband so much! Good natured, loves musicals and Disney and such AND also loves women! He’s not asexual at all though lol. Hey the right woman is out there for you! My man found me and we mutually love and appreciate each other. Ignore the people who just assume you’re gay because you like musicals and beautiful things 🤨 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/21 04:53 AM |
| 1 | Men often claim that they don't care about women wearing make-up and that only other women care about make-up, styling etc. However, girly girls who wear make-up, style their hair and have a skincare routine seem to be pretty popular among men. Do men care about these things more than they think?I love my purse. Pockets are for hands when you feel awkward. All women secretly know this. That’s the only reason I like pockets. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/21 09:37 AM |
| 1 | Are you able to see a girl as a “sex toy” and value her as a person in a relationship context?This is what marriage is for 🙃 You can have the relationship, do the cuddly things, be cute together, AND have hot wild sex, because you are building that long term relationship together and that includes trust and respect. A ONS will never have the things marriage has - of course a casual fling won’t respect you, they just want sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/21 07:11 AM |
| 14 | CMV: Men need to embrace “toxic masculinity” if they wish to be successful in life.Wow this is exactly what I was trying to get at, thank you! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/21 02:26 AM |
| 4 | CMV: Men need to embrace “toxic masculinity” if they wish to be successful in life.You’re right I don’t get horny when my husband cries snot something sad but that’s part of life, I don’t get horny when he’s vacuuming either, and he doesn’t get horny when I’m peeling potatoes. It’s almost like life isn’t supposed to revolve around sex 24/7 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/21 02:24 AM |
| 7 | CMV: Men need to embrace “toxic masculinity” if they wish to be successful in life.EXACTLY this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/21 02:20 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men need to embrace “toxic masculinity” if they wish to be successful in life.how many times do I have to say you’re right, it’s not arousing when your partner cries about their dead mother but not everything in life is about being arousing! I’m amazed I have to say this! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/21 02:15 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men need to embrace “toxic masculinity” if they wish to be successful in life.I think confusion and heartache arise from misunderstanding in this area: I would call my husband more emotional than the typical man and yet I'm not disgusted by him. I'm actually very attracted to him and specifically admire his emotional healthiness. Why? How is this possible? It's because he's able to emote at the appropriate time in the appropriate way. For example: crying or shedding a tear because you're moved by the beauty of a live music performance, or a sunset, or because you're touch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/21 01:44 AM |
| 0 | "Unconventionally attractive" is still conventionally attractive6 inches is big? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/21 08:06 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of Sigma males?I think your approach would be successful if you cut out step 1 from your two-step system. Look at step 2 - it’s really all you need. If you start with step one, you’re starting with generalizations and assumptions about humans that you’ll overlay on every subsequent interaction with women. Just cut straight to step 2 - know yourself and the personalities of the women you engage with. (And yes I’d give the same advice to women. It’s useless to generalize about men beyond the very very broadest a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/21 07:01 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of Sigma males?Agree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/21 06:56 PM |
| 2 | What do you think of Sigma males?Oh I agree. I think this entire thing is unbelievably stupid. I’m trying to get others to see it by pointing out that the people who invented the whole alpha/beta “system” also have invented other “types” of males, I.e. it’s not just two types, even according to the inventors of A/B. My overall point at the end of the day is that everyone is an individual and this A/B nonsense is just that - nonsense. But I wanted to point out that even within the system, it’s acknowledged that there’s more than… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/21 06:55 PM |
| 0 | What do you think of Sigma males?Fully agree with you there! I’m trying to get a discussion going about the absurdity of such cut and dried descriptions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/21 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Why does marriage kill sex drive?My guesses are: The thrill and the tension of courtship is gone. You got ‘em and now you’re no longer chasing each other. Effort is now zero. You know boring intimate details about each other now. The mystery is gone, and now you know all about their farts and annoying habits. Domestication is a boner killer for both sexes. You’re not wild and free anymore, you’re doing mundane, unsexy things together 97% of the time. It’s hard to see the carefree biker your husband was or the mysterious artist … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/21 10:18 AM |
| 10 | How do men want women to behave?Obviously men want different things. The problem is that red pillers claim there’s a magical formula to understand both men and women and act accordingly. Whereas I’ve been saying the whole time that different men want different things and I get shot down and slapped upside the head with generalizations | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/21 07:09 AM |
| 1 | Arguments against Alpha Fucks Beta BucksOk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/21 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Do you want to be the “ pretty “one in your relationships ?No no no no no!!! I have always wanted a HOTTIE don’t care if he’s hotter than me at all. I’m decently attractive so it’s not like I’ma hunchback woman looking for a male supermodel. I’ve always thought my husband was way more attractive than me and I tell him this regularly. I think when I make an effort with my appearance and don’t do the hobo thing (that’s me on a regular basis) were pretty evenly matched attractiveness-wise, but I’ve never been insecure about if he’s more attractive than me … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/21 05:15 AM |
| 0 | If women are just as horny as men, why don't women pay for 10/10 chad male prostitutes?Women are typically most horny during ovulation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/21 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Are late bloomers basically screwed?Depends on the person, as with every hypothetical question on here. I didn’t have a date till I was 25 and then married him. Worked great for me, may not work for others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 04:37 AM |
| 5 | Q4W: Are you attracted to bad boys?No, bad boys are unstable and usually thoughtless or cruel. Pass. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 04:32 AM |
| 2 | Women don't want or care about nice or kind traits in men. They want nice and kind behaviors from attractive men.Well, you DID say that women don’t want men who are nice to everyone, and I was disagreeing, saying that I was drawn to to his niceness/kindness towards everybody. “ Women don't want men who actually are nice and kind. They want men who act nice and kind to them, and them only. They don't care how he acts toward anyone else. In fact they hope he treats everyone else like shit, and reserves his "nice and kind" act for them, and them alone.” No. If I was with someone who treated everyone “like shi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 02:39 AM |
| 7 | Women don't want or care about nice or kind traits in men. They want nice and kind behaviors from attractive men.You’re both wrong and right. I was attracted to my husband partly because of how kind he is to EVERYONE. But you’re right in that I wasn’t attracted ONLY to his kind traits, I also found him sexually appealing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 05:41 PM |
| 19 | Women tend to be more interested in taken men.It’s the opposite for me. When I was single, the minute I realized a man was attached to someone, the attraction dried up. Probably a paralyzing inner fear of being a home wrecker. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 05:37 PM |
| 2 | Women DO NOT want you to share your emotionsYou’re right, not every emotion is sexy. But I’d rather have my husband share his true feelings with me so we can work through them together. Sex can happen later. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Purge week proves that RP is incelHey I have a fan 😍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 03:34 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?I’m talking about MRP not just this post | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 08:10 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?But what if the wife doesn’t want an open marriage? You can’t force her to comply with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 08:10 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?The sexless wives aren’t giving any indication of being unhappy with the situation though.... in fact your whole premise is that these wives are perfectly content to be sexless. So these RP men should put their money where their mouths are and walk out if it means that much to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 07:33 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?If RP guys were so brave with their "dread game" which they talk up constantly, they'd divorce their sexless wives and go back to the bachelor lifestyle. The truth is that RP men like the convenience of the marriage lifestyle (someone to take care of the kids, the house, etc) but without the vulnerability that comes with real intimacy so they'll find a way to justify what is, to them, the best of both worlds - staying married to their live-in mommy-maids while having sex on the side with as many… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 06:37 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?I not so secretly agree with that theory lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 02:52 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?Yes, it’s clear he was conditioning her. Perhaps she enjoyed it, it’s not explicitly clear. But it feels icky because she didn’t ask for/consent to a D/s relationship ahead of time. Adding the physical wrestling stuff to “keep her in line” just makes me go hmmm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:33 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?It won’t take long to find examples for yourself | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:24 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?Yeah gross | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:23 AM |
| 2 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?Agree to all this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:22 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?It’s not clear she was enjoying it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:22 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?Nah I’m okay with preferences and incentivization going BOTH ways, it’s just the nature of any close relationship. You learn each other really well and act accordingly. Buuuut this isn’t that. This is consciously training your spouse like a dog, something I find abhorrent for either husband or wife to do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:21 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?Ok | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:19 AM |
| 0 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?Or at all, I’d argue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:18 AM |
| 2 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?Thank you, a sane person 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:17 AM |
| -1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?It’s stupid stuff like this that makes me think, yep, TRP is just a pile of abusive, narcissistic a-holes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:16 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?Hmmm I agree and disagree both. I’m not stupid, I know things like a good body require work and effort. I may not be exited to hear every detail of how a guy got fit but that’s only because it’s a boring conversation. I don’t naively think he woke up like that. I’d also be impressed if he had a drastic before and after since that would take dedication and discipline. However you’re right about not wanting sexy things to be too complicated. Some guys need to learn how to be sexy and confident and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:14 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?There’s also divorce if you don’t want to be married to someone??????? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:05 AM |
| 2 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?And honestly I don’t see anything BUT men like that in RP circles. The second you suggest something helpful or beneficial to the wife, you’re shot down by RP men calling you a faggot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:03 AM |
| 2 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?As one smart commenter said, the stuff exclusive to RP is dangerous and harmful to relationships. The stuff that’s genuinely good advice you can find elsewhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 01:02 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?Feeeeeeeeemale | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Is it fair to say most women wouldn't have swiped right on or hooked up with their husbands?I definitely would have. I - no joke - think my husband is the most attractive and sexy man I’ve ever met and I’ve thought this about him for years before we ever dated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 07:12 AM |
| 2 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?YES THISSSSSSSS | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 01:57 AM |
| 2 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?I guess if you read it as fanfiction it can be hilariously sad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 01:53 AM |
| 3 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?What does this comment mean? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 01:53 AM |
| 9 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?Hey I don't have a problem with the whole dominance in bed thing, that's fun and sexy and most women like it. Keeps things spicy. But I'd be exhausted and lose all respect, trust and relationship with my husband if he played those BS red pill games with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 01:53 AM |
| 2 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?Hard to tell sometimes! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 01:52 AM |
| 2 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?Yeah but this is one instance of many. Another guy has "trained" his wife be withholding orgasms from her and it's not like it was part of a consensual kink - he's conditioning her, not participating in a kinky game they both like. It's gross. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 01:51 AM |
| 8 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?I read that post!! lol such insanity. I guess I should have known a lot of it is probably fanfiction and fantasizing. The whole thing is just so sad, especially since it has a lot of followers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 01:36 AM |
| 1 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?sure ain't nothing wrong with kinks or anything, but you have to read more than just the clip I included to understand that this is an unironic lifestyle these guys espouse.....their focus is on breaking their wives and getting unlimited sex from them no matter what. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 01:33 AM |
| 6 | What do people think of using RP strategies for marriage and LTRs?the 37,000 subscribers of the Married red pill sub would beg to differ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 01:32 AM |
| 13 | Who are these women that aren't getting asked out?There are millions of unattractive women. It’s not just men who suffer from the feeling of not being attractive to the opposite sex. Just go out in public and you’ll understand that there are quite a few men and women who probably don’t get a lot of attention. It’s really really sad and it really really sucks for both genders. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/20 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Are women attracted to more feminine men? If so, why?Nah. I like masculinity. Beards, muscular bodies, body hair, men’s clothing, deep voices, etc. HOWEVER there are things that a lot of people here would consider “feminine” that I appreciate in a man: gentleness, good fashion sense, compassion, etc. My husband is a male dancer and dresses somewhat flamboyantly but he’s still masculine rather than feminine and I appreciate that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/20 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Men aiming for marriage should avoid women with high N counts. How to recognise them?Women who are promiscuous don’t like virginity in men. Women (like me) who value exclusivity in sex and want to save sex for marriage want a man with the same worldview. It’s simple - stay in your lane. If you wanna be a hoe, expect to hook up with hoes. If you want a virgin, expect to adhere to those values as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/20 10:16 PM |
| 0 | Do women who don't get asked out exist?Here’s the thing - I’m a reasonably attractive woman with a curvy figure (I mean hourglass, not just chonky) and I rarely got asked out or hit on when I was single and even less now that I’m married. Why is this so? Maybe it’s a vibe I have, maybe because I generally aim for comfort rather than sex appeal when getting ready for the day, either way, TRP men claim I should be swarmed with men begging to have sex with me but tbh I got very little male attention when I was single. Not every woman is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/20 10:09 PM |
| 1 | If you care about low n count or no n count, what are you doing to attract a person like that?Okay you didn’t use the word pretend but you said men wanting virgins is “the truth” and the church “frames” it as being God’s will to make it more palatable... isn’t that exactly what “pretending” means even if you didn’t use the actual word “pretend”? 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/20 10:47 PM |
| 1 | If you care about low n count or no n count, what are you doing to attract a person like that?Okay then we fundamentally DON’T agree on the premise at all. You: men want virgins so they pretend it’s what God wants too Me: actually some people believe that’s legitimately what God wants and live accordingly You: that’s what I said! Me: 🧐 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/20 10:29 PM |
| 1 | If you care about low n count or no n count, what are you doing to attract a person like that?Excellent that we agree then! I figured we thought the same basic things but the part that tripped me up is where you said that the actual truth is that men want virgins but that sounds pervy so the church makes it sound like you’re doing it for the Lord..... did I misunderstand that part? Here’s what you said: Growing up Christian, the women aren’t taught to “be virgins for a future husband because that’s what he sexually desires.” That’s the truth. But framing it that way is quite repulsive to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/20 09:38 PM |
| 2 | If you care about low n count or no n count, what are you doing to attract a person like that?A few points I want to make here: I was a virgin when I got married at nearly 26 years old. I am what you’d consider “religious” and the whole part about the church pretending that virginity is “for the Lord” while it’s really for men needs a like more discussion. Certainly historically, and even now in ultra conservative circles, women and girls are made to feel like sex objects because they’re told explicitly that they have to remain pure to ATTRACT a godly man. As if that’s the highest goal o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/20 09:16 PM |
| 6 | is it a dealbreaker is a man watches pornThank you!! I can’t believe this double standard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/20 11:26 PM |
| 1 | is it a dealbreaker is a man watches pornMega cringe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/20 11:26 PM |
| 9 | The women on this sub don’t accurately represent the women in the real world and definitely not the women the men here want to dateWhoa. I’m here because I like reading and participating in conversations and debates about gender issues. Idk if I’m the kind of woman that “men would want to deal with” but I’m happily married to a man who loves me, so there’s that... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/20 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Asking for consent is sexy, change my mind.I think in a LTR where both parties have given overall consent to each other to do whatever (within reason) to each other, spontaneous, ravenous kissing is so so sexy and my favorite. But if it was someone I barely knew or was just dating me, I’d rather them ask first especially if it was our first kiss together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/20 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: When women say "personality" matters, what do you think she means by personality?Not what flirting means but ok | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/20 04:01 AM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on PornHub recently removing most of it's content ?I’m so excited. I’m waiting till porn is illegal! That’s my dream. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/20 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: When women say "personality" matters, what do you think she means by personality?Nah, flirting literally implies interest, even if not “I want to marry you” kind of interest flirt /flərt/ verb 1. behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions. You can flirt with a woman if you’re not interested in her - it’s acting. But you can’t ACT like you’re uninterested and call that flirting. That’s literally the opposite of flirting lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/20 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: When women say "personality" matters, what do you think she means by personality?So then... you DO care, gotcha 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/20 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: When women say "personality" matters, what do you think she means by personality?So if you don’t care about a woman why are you trying to greet with her? This makes no sense. Do you care or not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/20 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: When women say "personality" matters, what do you think she means by personality?That hasn’t been my experience so obviously it’s not a universal rule. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/20 09:43 PM |
| 5 | Q4M: When women say "personality" matters, what do you think she means by personality?Hard disagree here. Flirting is appealing and sexually attractive and it can’t be done when a man is acting like he doesn’t care about a woman. I agree that a man throwing himself at a woman is unattractive but there is certainly a middle ground. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/20 03:44 AM |
| 7 | Why would a young, virgin woman want to marry a man over 30 who is not even religious?There are marriages like this in my family. They are not awesome marriages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/20 02:56 AM |
| 2 | Why would a young, virgin woman want to marry a man over 30 who is not even religious?If RP is all about NOT getting married then why is there a “married Red Pill” subreddit with 20k members?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/20 02:44 AM |
| 5 | Men don't age like wine. They hit the wall at the same exact time women do.I'm 28 now. I was CERTAINLY not more attractive at 21 than I am now lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/20 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Men don't age like wine. They hit the wall at the same exact time women do.username checks out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/20 05:34 AM |
| 4 | Men don't age like wine. They hit the wall at the same exact time women do.Hmm, can't agree - I've never found men in their 20s to be as attractive as men in their 30s. I think generally humans look good in their 30s unless they've let themselves go. Men and women alike usually have lost baby fat, have grown into their features, know what looks good on them and have a confidence that's missing in your 20s. A lot of men have better facial hair in their 30s as well :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/20 05:30 AM |
| 3 | Men don't age like wine. They hit the wall at the same exact time women do.I don't know about that. There's a confidence that can come with age. A knowing of oneself and what looks good that can be missing when you're 22. I know I looked a little awkward at that age, and now at 28 I look more mature and womanly. I'm also evolving my clothing and makeup skills. Granted, I have a youthful looking face so I could pass for early 20s still at this age, but I know plenty of women who take good care of themselves who at the age of 35+ now possess a confidence and self-knowled… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/20 05:29 AM |
| 2 | What exactly is pair bonding?Why this insistence it's only for women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/20 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, what masculine qualities/male traits do you find attractive, and what are repulsive when it comes to dating & mating?Okay I must not have seen them. Haha I just thought it was hilarious that you seemingly zeroed in on the penis topic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/20 07:16 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, what masculine qualities/male traits do you find attractive, and what are repulsive when it comes to dating & mating?Attractive: GOOD facial hair (not patchy or stringy stuff, and not the Duck Dynasty type beards either. Just reasonably groomed), body hair (but not too much), muscular and hairy forearms, nice hands (and by that I mean hands that look like artwork, NOT wreck-it-ralph hands lol) huge smiles with "lots of teeth" (hard to explain lol), I'm a fan of noses on the bigger side (little bunny noses don't do it for me at all), I love dark, expressive eyebrows, broad shoulders, a decent amount of musculat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/20 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, what masculine qualities/male traits do you find attractive, and what are repulsive when it comes to dating & mating?I'm amused that this seems to be the only comment you've replied to on this thread. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/20 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone actually love anyone for who they are?This is getting all rather too metaphysical for me, but simply put, yes, I love my husband for who he is. It helps that he knows who he is really well and is comfortable with it. That's part of the key - it can be harder to answer the question if you're floundering around or being "someone else". My husband is unabashedly himself and I've loved him for it for years before we were even dating. There were people in my friend circle who also found him attractive and other people in my friend circle… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/20 06:55 PM |
| 7 | CMV: Women who get pumped and dumped just haven't worked hard enough on themselvesI don't agree with OP's premise. The problem isn't that women aren't "good enough" to not get pumped and dumped and there isn't anything that those women can "work on" to avoid having that happen to them. They're just having sex with the wrong men. They're at cross-purposes. The solution is to NOT have casual sex and wait for a guy who also is interested in a LTR. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/20 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: "androgen loss, porn, and weebdom has made people worship excessive neoteny to almost pedophilic levels"Wow you said everything I was thinking 👏🏻 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/20 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Did you have high standards of physical attraction for a mate and then "settle" for someone you're not attracted to?What I’m saying is my husband would never intentionally flirt with another woman to make me jealous. That’s immature and gross. He’s a naturally friendly and gregarious guy so his interactions with other people could be taken as flirting if I were insecure, but I know he’s just being himself. I only feel secure because I know he’d never INTENTIONALLY flirt with another woman. Seeing other women attracted to him is sexy, but not the other way around. Neither of us is into that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/20 04:45 AM |
| 3 | Did you have high standards of physical attraction for a mate and then "settle" for someone you're not attracted to?It’s thrilling when I realize other women find my husband attractive, yes, but him flirting with other women is gross and a form of needless mind games and manipulation that leads to insecurity and resentment. I like my man to be faithful in word and deed and find that plenty appealing. There are other ways of being spicy and sexy that don’t involve him making me feel smaller than a mouse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/20 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Did you have high standards of physical attraction for a mate and then "settle" for someone you're not attracted to?Oh my gosh so true. Thank you. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/20 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Did you have high standards of physical attraction for a mate and then "settle" for someone you're not attracted to?The salt in this comment is sending me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/20 03:15 AM |
| 0 | Did you have high standards of physical attraction for a mate and then "settle" for someone you're not attracted to?Hear, hear! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/20 03:14 AM |
| 2 | Did you have high standards of physical attraction for a mate and then "settle" for someone you're not attracted to?Totally agree that these questions are basically BS. I’m not red pill and I hate these gross generalizations, the point of starting this thread was to disprove this theory that marriage = women settling for men they’re not sexually attracted to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/20 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Did you have high standards of physical attraction for a mate and then "settle" for someone you're not attracted to?Aaaah so good to see criticism of porn on here or indeed anywhere on the internet! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/20 03:10 AM |
| 5 | Did you have high standards of physical attraction for a mate and then "settle" for someone you're not attracted to?So the solution is to share him with other women? I agree that it’s attractive to have your man (or woman TBH) not cling to you constantly, doing their own thing at least part of the time! But people get older and get less sexy over time no matter what. And usually that doesn’t matter to them all that much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/20 03:08 AM |
| 1 | Did you have high standards of physical attraction for a mate and then "settle" for someone you're not attracted to?Haha no 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/20 03:05 AM |
| 3 | Did you have high standards of physical attraction for a mate and then "settle" for someone you're not attracted to?I like that you’re running around this thread trying to validate what women find attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/20 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Did you have high standards of physical attraction for a mate and then "settle" for someone you're not attracted to?Same lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/20 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Did you have high standards of physical attraction for a mate and then "settle" for someone you're not attracted to?What | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/20 07:25 AM |
| 2 | What's with the stigma against tattoos and coloured hair?Thank you 😊 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/20 06:09 PM |
| 5 | What's with the stigma against tattoos and coloured hair?Omg the premise is that colored hair is undesirable by good high value men and it speaks to psychological problems and daddy issues... you’re overthinking it, my friend. Some people, like me, get it done because it’s FUN and interesting, not as a chance to rebel against dad or make oneself unattractive to men as I pointed out when I said that my dad was fine with it and my husband loved it.................... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/20 09:18 AM |
| 6 | What's with the stigma against tattoos and coloured hair?Huh, I had pink hair a couple years ago...I was homeschooled, I’m a devout Christian, love my dad, and did it because it seemed fun! I’m thinking of doing it again, maybe a different color... oh, and my husband encourages it because he thinks it would be cute and fun! Colored hair and/or tatts don’t ALWAYS mean that. What do you think about men with tattoos? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/20 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumOkay so you know how the sentence “I’ve been working in this office for ten years,” doesn’t mean you don’t work there anymore? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/20 04:45 AM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexyWe’ve known each other since we were kids. Yes we’re religious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumNo I mean you’re definitely using incel terms | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumYikes, okay well all my female friends I’ve talked to about it think it’s kinda silly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumYou literally call yourself a volcel | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumCould you be more pedantic? I’ve been AND continue to be attracted to him... as in, it’s ongoing 🙄 my example also was not supposed to be positive or negative, just an example of how guys can be totally different from each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumHonestly this sarcasm is giving me LIFE 😂 I’m sorry you’re a hag and you’ve hit the wall, that must suck. I’ll be there soon. Sorry your bf is a beta-cuck-shrimp-loser....sounds sad. /s The only reason I ever got married was by luring my poor husband in With promises of lots of sex and then as soon as he started treating me nicely (aka SIMPING like a beta) I lost interest and haven’t had sex with him in years. Also /s Really the RP world has a few general points but is mostly a sad fantasy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 07:58 AM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumI’m 28 so I’m basically a corpse right there with you. It doesn’t matter that I look 22 and have a sexually fulfilling life with my husband whom i love more than anyone else and who loves me the same way, because I’m basically 30 and my husband is short so he’s a beta cuck and I’m obviously cheating on him behind his back. /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 07:44 AM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrum"beta cucks" is 100% incel talk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 07:01 AM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumIt means "change my view" - I didn't want this to be a CMV post but it was forced on me by a mod lol. Yes there's plenty about my husband that would be considered beta by probably every red piller in existence but I've been sexually attracted to him since I was a teenager (we're about 28 now) so IDK what to tell people who think that only mega-alphas are getting laid.............. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 07:00 AM |
| 2 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumOOOORRRRR, since I actually know quite a few women who are in the same sort of boat that I am, perhaps, JUST perhaps, there's a wide variety of what is attractive to people and it can't neatly be summed up in two little boring boxes? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 06:59 AM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumSeriously tho how is it my husband has always been sexually appealing to me even while he had no money AND is sexually faithful to me? Isn’t that some kind of red pill impossibility!? I wouldn’t call him an alpha at all, neither would I call him a beta. He’s worthy of so much more than derogatory generalizations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumHaha I thought incel talk was banned here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 03:34 AM |
| 2 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumNah. You can be sexy and exciting without treating people like garbage. You can be responsible AND interesting. Confident AND kind. Sexually attractive AND financially stable. *surprised pikachu face * | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 03:33 AM |
| 3 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumCorrect which is why it’s unfortunate that there’s such a glamorization of “alpha” men - they’re usually just a-holes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumAlso any man who calls himself an alpha or uses the words “alpha” or “beta” is automatically not alpha, just saying | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 03:29 AM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumWhich is why the classification is 100% BS | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 03:28 AM |
| 2 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumWhat I’m more accurately trying to get at is that I think the majority of men are a pretty equal blend of the two. I rarely see men who are “alphas” and men RPers would consider “betas” are actually just normal men learning normal lives, not sexless losers like TRP makes them out to be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 03:27 AM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumI guarantee you, zero women call men alphas or betas 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumThen why are men divided into alpha and beta men??? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/20 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumThat’s not remotely what I’ve seen of RP | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/20 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Alpha and Beta are a spectrumRPers don’t 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/20 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Arguments against Alpha Fucks Beta BucksHere’s the thing: TRP is an extremely pessimistic view of relationships. Not without reason, since there are SO MANY failed relationships out there and so many awful people and the dating pool is shallow and muddy, so I understand. But the premise is based on the idea that women are totally mercenary. And while it makes sense to protect your heart by believing that no women will accept you for who you are and it’s all a game of who is the sexiest or richest (since it appears that way), unattract… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/20 05:27 PM |
| 3 | Not everything has to be sexyI guess I can’t really explain what I’m talking about. You said all you want is for your wife to be sexually attracted enough to you to want to top your clothes off at least a few times a week. Naturally! I feel that way about my husband, and he feels the same about me. My whole point is that TRP says that there are certain things you can’t or shouldn’t do because your sexual attractiveness will diminish and I’m saying that’s the natural ebb and flow of life...I don’t want my husband to feel lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/20 04:38 AM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexyOf course you want that. Everyone does. That’s how I feel about my husband. But I’m not “on” ALL THE TIME nor do I have to be to prove that I find him sexually appealing. I don’t feel like ripping his clothes off every minute of every day. Sometimes my mind is on something else or I’m tired or whatever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/20 04:13 AM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexyThat’s what I mean tho, I have a baseline of sexual attraction to my husband. Him getting sick or crying or being injured or losing his job doesn’t make him less sexy in my eyes. Also those things aren’t a turn on either, but it doesn’t matter because I am always attracted to him and always up for sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/20 02:49 AM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexyBut it’s exhausting to be turned on all the time so it’s more realistic that sometimes a woman won’t be feeling horny... but it doesn’t mean she’s overall not sexually attracted to you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/20 02:42 AM |
| 0 | Not everything has to be sexyAhhh you mean women don’t want sexual attention from random men unasked for. Yep I’m the same way. But from our partners, husbands, etc? It’s the best!!!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyThat sounds like a sad, fake, life with no real intimacy. My husband and I do chores together. Also, my husband’s parents celebrated their 41st wedding anniversary together (they have six sons) and his dad has always been open with his emotions as well. They are very happily married and with six kids it’s not like they had a dry sex life lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyI agree both parties should make an effort to be appealing to each other and not just give up, but arguably that shouldn’t get in the way of being human. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyThat’s understandable, I think it’s obviously wise not to pour out your heart when you first meet someone and that’s definitely not what I’m suggesting here. It’s more for RPers in LTRs who refuse to open up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyI’m sorry that’s happened to you. I think in this day and age, so many people are unwilling to get vulnerable, men and women alike, and aren’t looking to foster lasting life relationships between the sexes but just want a fast paced hookup lifestyle and anything genuine gets too “human” and makes people run away. If you’re looking for real connection and a LTR, keep looking. She’s out there somewhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexyYeah I know it’s rich coming from me, but honestly one of the things that attracted me TO my husband when we weren’t even dating yet WAS his ability to express his emotions. Again, not to be a whiny, slobbering mess, but he didn’t try to repress or hide them to impress me to appear stoic or sexually appealing and I found that to be very refreshing and attractive and I suspect I’m not the only woman in the world who feels the same way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexyThanks, we do have a great relationship. :) But if that’s the way women are, then I guess 99% of women are lacking compassion, empathy, understanding and a tender heart, and that’s pretty sad. When I see a man express true emotion, my heart goes out to him. I don’t despise him. But as I’m learning as I read this thread, I’m the only one who feels this way? I guess then it’s good my husband and I found each other because according to you, any other woman would hate him for who he is. :-/ (Also, q… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyWell that is sad and that’s really too bad that that happens - the way we treat and perceive men who display a healthy amount of emotion really needs to change. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyUmmm no? Idk what women you’re hanging out with but no | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyOf course, I’m talking about being free to be as emotional (or not!) as YOU want to be. Some people just aren’t very emotional naturally. That’s ok. But I don’t like any mindset that says you’re not ALLOWED to be emotional or share your heart. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 09:41 AM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexySure you don’t have to cry all the time, that’s not really appealing in anyone, even women. But I’m talking about being vulnerable, not necessarily only crying. In that situation where the guy cried because someone was mean at work, that would be unappealing because it’s kinda whiny, but if he had a chat with his wife where he said, “you know what, there’s someone at work who’s really been getting me down and as a result my mental health hasn’t been great lately, I could use some encouragement o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 09:39 AM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexyNah my entire point is that life is full of unsexy activities and people need to get over it and get to living instead of worrying if they’re sexually appealing all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 09:32 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyYeah I didn’t go to middle school so I didn’t experience what it’s like. Here’s the thing: men and women all have emotions! It’s just men that are encouraged to stuff theirs away because it’s “unappealing” when they express them. I think it’s mostly the fault of society and women alike for shaming men when they choose to express their emotions. And yes, other men. It’s not feminine to experience or express emotion, it’s human. My statement about my husband crying 6x a year is just an estimate, i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 09:30 AM |
| 0 | Not everything has to be sexyOr he can actually discover who HE is without all the role playing and be HIMSELF and find a woman who loves HIM 🙃 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 09:19 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyBut oh my gosh that’s exactly my point. Everyone loses sex appeal eventually. Life isn’t an endless carousel of sex appeal. Do you lose so-called masculinity by being a good dad? Maybe! But who CARES is my entire point. There’s more to life than being manly and sexy all the time! Sometimes to be practical and live life you gotta drop a few “masculinity points”. Do you think women are tantalizingly sexy while they’re bloated and bleeding after childbirth? No, but that’s part of having kids. Ya ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 09:14 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyWho says? You don’t HAVE TO base a relationship off of casual sex for goodness sakes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 09:08 AM |
| 0 | Not everything has to be sexyMen are taken seriously when they’re angry and it’s the only emotion they’re allowed to show. I’m okay with the whole range - unbridled joy, sadness, depression, insecurity, etc. I promised to love through sickness and health that that includes emotions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 09:06 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyI’m sorry you feel that way. My husband has been vulnerable around me plenty of times. He’s not a crying, emotional wreck, but he’s opened his heart to me and he’s admitted mistakes and told me about the dark things in his past. He’s cried. And obviously I’m more emotional overall than him. He may cry 6x a year and I’ll cry 6x a month. But he’s ok with showing his emotions because he’s secure in his masculinity. I’m not disgusted by him. I’m not turned off by him. I don’t feel like he’s not stro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 09:02 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyWell good luck lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 08:57 AM |
| 3 | Not everything has to be sexyThe whole premise is that you can’t do anything that’s unsexy. I’m saying life is full of unsexy activities, so get over it. That’s it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 08:56 AM |
| 3 | Not everything has to be sexyNope, we didn’t have sex till we were married. And I let him see me without makeup when my attraction to him was still one-sided! It’s almost as if there can be a tangible benefit to being yourself around the person you love if the two of you are mature. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 08:55 AM |
| 3 | Not everything has to be sexyYeah but I do think makeup is fake lol and I’m a woman. I rarely wear it and when I was initially interested in my (now) husband and we weren’t dating yet, I intentionally spent plenty of time with him in no makeup and regular boring clothes (we traveled together so he saw me in sweats and dirty hair) so that he’d know the REAL me, in addition to times he’d seen me dressed up or with makeup. I didn’t want to be with someone who liked me for how attractive I am with makeup or have to keep that st… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 06:42 AM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexyWell that is really sad and I’m sorry for anyone whose partner uses their vulnerability as ammo for attack... that’s borderline abusive and not ok. I’m not talking about that tho, I’m talking about people who refuse to open up because it doesn’t make their partner horny... the point I’m making is that life is chock full of things that don’t make our partners horny and that’s just how life goes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 06:29 AM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexyK reread my OP, I’m not talking about the first time you meet someone, obviously everyone tries to make the best impression there. Zero men go into a first date thinking they’ll score if they wallow in self pity and wail and sob on the floor. I’m talking about daily life in a LTR | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 06:24 AM |
| 5 | Not everything has to be sexyNo investment into a lasting relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 06:23 AM |
| 4 | Not everything has to be sexyNotice I didn’t say anything bad about being sexual.... it’s just valuing sex appeal over other more practical, realistic concerns. “Can’t cry, that’s not sexy.” “Won’t way the dishes, that’s not sexy.” “Must never appear without makeup, that’s not sexy” Honestly it just sounds like extreme insecurity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 06:16 AM |
| 0 | Not everything has to be sexyAt the end of the day my point is that it’s not sustainable to live TRP lifestyle - its basis is basically to not be yourself or show your true self at all and that’s no way to live. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyMaybe you’re picking the wrong people to live with or marry????? Remember I’m talking about LTRs here not a casual ONS | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:55 AM |
| 3 | Not everything has to be sexyThat was your takeaway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyThat’s true! What a way to live | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyOkay good for you! You know the point I’m trying to make. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyBut that’s all RPers talk about 👀 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:41 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyI said in my OP I’m not talking about ONS I’m talking about LTRs | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:41 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyHey that’s awesome! You seem to be someone who really has actually found contentment in doing your own thing and living your own life. That’s something to aspire to. Oh and I love cooking :D it’s just that not every meal is a sexy, gourmet offering lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyWell yeah constant whining is unattractive in anyone, adult, child, man, woman.... obviously I’m not talking about that. What you’re talking about is a person being so afraid of not being seen as sexy all the time that he’s willing to stuff down every emotion and become repressed And probably explode at some point....... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:37 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyYeah there’s nothing wrong with making an effort for your spouse at all! But I could never keep up with they level, it’s too exhausting. Fortunately, my husband knew this about me ahead of time and doesn’t care! But of course do what you like best :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:34 AM |
| 10 | Not everything has to be sexyI mean who doesn’t want to be desired sexually? What do you do when you’re 80 though and alone because your life was only about sex though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:31 AM |
| 4 | Not everything has to be sexyThen they will never know true intimacy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:29 AM |
| 0 | Not everything has to be sexyI guess I’ll never understand a life devoted to nothing higher than getting laid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:27 AM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexyMy OP covered that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyWell it’s stupid if anyone decides not have sex with someone because they had to do real life things like chores or work. So I’m sorry if that’s happened to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:26 AM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexyBut some days consist of crying, cleaning, pooping, changing diapers etc. If you and your partner decide you can’t have sex anymore because real life is too unsexy, maybe you should live alone together in a mansion in the wilderness where robots keep the house clean. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:25 AM |
| 5 | Not everything has to be sexySo watching someone swishing toilet makes you horny? I mean, no kink shaming here of course but that’s kind of unusual..... The point is, him cleaning the bathroom doesn’t MAKE me horny, but I still want to have sex with him anyway. It’s not sexy to watch him wipe a kid’s nose but should it be? Not really, not if I still want to have sex with him regardless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:23 AM |
| -1 | Not everything has to be sexyYeah no. These people need to grow the f up and realize that they’re seriously emotionally stunted if someone being honest with them makes them never want to have sex with them again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 05:18 AM |
| -1 | Not everything has to be sexySucks that some people would never do chores as a result of being afraid it makes them unsexy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexySo be sexy at sexy time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 02:20 AM |
| 3 | Not everything has to be sexyWomen can’t see what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 02:20 AM |
| 2 | Not everything has to be sexyThe analogy doesn’t work. Being a Christian is a way of life. Being sexy is - or should be - only a portion of life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 02:19 AM |
| 4 | Not everything has to be sexyYou had me in the beginning, not gonna lie | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Not everything has to be sexyBut you can’t never poop for the rest of your life because pooping isn’t sexy... I’m saying the premise - to GET SEX at the expense of all else - is ridiculous and unrealistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 02:01 AM |
| 10 | Not everything has to be sexyNot true. It just means the response will be more INTIMACY, not more sex. Doesn’t have to be less sex either. My husband is one of the most emotionally healthy/expressive men I know. I am always up for sex with him. When he’s crying? No, but that’s not what crying is about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 02:00 AM |
| 4 | Not everything has to be sexyOf course not but we’re discussing TRP aren’t we? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/20 01:39 AM |
| 2 | Women misunderstand male psychology when they shit testHere’s a novel idea: don’t play stupid mind games with your partner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/20 08:58 AM |
| 1 | How Many Here Have Experienced Good Relationship(s)?I’ve been in one relationship. It’s a very good one. My husband and I meet when we were kids and got together almost three years ago. We just celebrated our second wedding anniversary. We’re both 27 (almost 28). Started dating at 25. We’re both saves sex for marriage and it’s been an amazing thing for us. We wouldn’t have any other way. Bad experiences have absolutely made me into the person I am today. I’ve changed a lot in some ways from puberty but I’m still very much “myself”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/20 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Do redpilled men look for childlike faces and childbearing hips in women?I’m confused why men comment on this sub when women aren’t welcome in RPMen subs? | /r/RedPillWives | 17/09/20 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Happy long-lasting LTRs generally only work if you're really good friends with each otherYikes okay don’t get married or age at all and you’ll be okay 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/20 06:09 AM |
| 1 | Happy long-lasting LTRs generally only work if you're really good friends with each otherYeah totally, but the point was that eventually most people stop having sex when they’re old..... is that a legit reason to divorce when you’re 80? Because you’re not getting any? Believe it or not, most people that age don’t really care anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/20 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Happy long-lasting LTRs generally only work if you're really good friends with each otherSo why did you bring it up 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/20 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Happy long-lasting LTRs generally only work if you're really good friends with each otherYes but the comment you were replying to was making the point that sexual desire wanes with age and won’t always be a part of the relationship and you stated that’s a reason to leave a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/20 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Happy long-lasting LTRs generally only work if you're really good friends with each other“Over time, the frequency of sex decreases in every relationship, often to the point where you're barely having it or not having it at all. ‘That is no longer a romantic relationship and it is a legitimate reason to leave it. Fuck that shit.’” You realize that sexual desire wanes as you age and that’s not a reason to get a divorce, right? 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/20 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Happy long-lasting LTRs generally only work if you're really good friends with each otherYou realize that a lot of old married people who stay together and really love each other and would die in each other’s arms aren’t having sex, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/20 07:17 AM |
| 2 | Happy long-lasting LTRs generally only work if you're really good friends with each otherGood post. I always said I wouldn’t marry someone I wasn’t best friends with first. My husband and I were friends and then best friends before we got married. We’re also sexually attracted to each other. I think both things are very important, but it’s insane to think that sexual attraction is the most important part because believe it or not, people aren’t raging horndogs for the entirety of their lifetime. Many people are quite content to have less frequent sex as they get older, and if sex is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/20 07:10 AM |
| 5 | Q4W: Should men care about a woman's financial status?I don’t care what men think, but it seems that RP men generally want women to be housebound eye candy and yet are disgusted by women without jobs. They want to be a breadwinner but they have a tantrum when a woman doesn’t contribute financially. Which one is it, fellas? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/20 02:52 AM |
| 12 | Women are better off without men & most women don’t understand male nature.Wow what a really great, measured reply! I have nothing to add except that I just enjoyed your response. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/20 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Do you lose friends when they get into serious relationships?I lost a friend over this. Most of my friends understand this is how things go when you get married (like I did two years ago) but one of my friends was so hurt? Maybe? That she stopped talking to me entirely. She did the same to a mutual friend of ours that got married last year. It sucks, especially since every other person in my life GETS it and once things evened out, we’re able to make more time for friends again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/20 11:32 PM |
| 8 | The change in beauty standards amongst womenI think it’s because the thick look is actually attainable. For the first time in a while, what’s trendy/desireable is what’s actually realistic for a lot of women. When I was a girl and a young teen in the years when being very thin was in (think of Mean Girls and Regina George with her thighs as big around as an upper arm in micro mini skirts) I felt VERY body conscious and very much hated my body. I’ve always had curves - legit curves like bigger bust and lower body, small waist (no matter ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/20 06:35 AM |
| 1 | Why do women lie about not liking muscles but will be honest about heightI checked the rules and didn’t see that...I must be missing something. | /r/askTRP | 02/09/20 02:02 AM |
| 1 | Why do women lie about not liking muscles but will be honest about heightWhat rule? | /r/askTRP | 02/09/20 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Why do women lie about not liking muscles but will be honest about heightWell it’s a relevant opinion. | /r/askTRP | 01/09/20 11:58 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Finding someone objectively attractive doesnt mean you find them sexually attractiveMore unique faces. The supermodel/Superman look doesn’t do it for me at all. I more lean towards people like Hugh Jackman and Lee Pace and Gerard Butler. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/20 05:41 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Finding someone objectively attractive doesnt mean you find them sexually attractivelol of course I’d be flattered but I’m faithful to my husband and wouldn’t “go for it”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/20 12:18 AM |
| 9 | CMV: Finding someone objectively attractive doesnt mean you find them sexually attractiveI agree. Literally everyone had their own taste, even among objectively attractive people and it’s hilarious that TRPers insists that everyone would f anyone attractive. Nope. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/20 11:45 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Finding someone objectively attractive doesnt mean you find them sexually attractiveNope not interested at all. Not only would I not because I’m married but he’s not to my taste. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/20 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Do RPers not understand that life has its seasons??Exactly this. You nailed the mindset right on the head. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/20 09:26 PM |
| 2 | Do RPers not understand that life has its seasons??No, no shame for wanting those things. But there’s a lot of disdain aimed from TRPers art anyone who’s satisfied with being average and happy and I think a lot of TRPers are actually average people who are unwilling to accept that is possible to be both average and fulfilled. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/20 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Do RPers not understand that life has its seasons??Hmm I thought this could be a discussion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/20 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Do RPers not understand that life has its seasons??Explain how | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/20 09:21 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men are more emotional than women. Women are more emotive than men.Oh gee PMDD is horrible, I know how you feel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/20 06:18 PM |
| 1 | What is your definition of cheating?To me it’s when either party gets what they need from someone else of the opposite sex. And of course anything sexual with someone who isn’t your spouse. To expound on point one: if I were to intentionally get affection from another man, or if my husband were to intentionally get validation from another woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/20 06:07 PM |
| 2 | How real is the double standard ?No, gross, can’t stand those guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 05:06 AM |
| 2 | Do women actually like men?I like men in general. I don’t like the ways in which society has historically catered to men. (I said historically, so don’t get your panties in a wad.) I like some very specific men very much. I don’t demonize male historical figures for being imperfect as seems to be the trend. I don’t think men are better than women or vice versa. I strongly dislike specific men and specific attitudes some groups of men have. It’s as simple as that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 05:04 AM |
| 1 | What do women really think about MGTOW? Should society care?The problem is that MGTOWs don’t do the “GTOW” part, so yes, it’s a disturbing little pocket of society that’s good to keep half an eye on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/20 04:08 AM |
| 2 | What are the pros AND cons of being in a relationship with you?I’m married. Pros: cuddly, love sex, hourglass figure, reasonably pretty, quick/witty, LOVE to cook and bake and am good at it, been told I’m funny, want kids eventually, love Star Wars AND Trek, history nerd. I sew historical clothing as one of my hobbies. I love to read. I am versatile, flexible (physically too lol) agreeable, great at easygoing leadership/delegating, creative and artistic. Oh good days I dress mostly femininely and with personality. Cons: rarely wear makeup. Forget to shower.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/20 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Men can and do fake orgasms. CMVOkay goody lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/20 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Men can and do fake orgasms. CMVI can’t tell if you’re being sarcastic lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/20 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Series of CMVs that I would like y'all to challenge.That’s literally all I’m getting at lol My preference would be that everyone saves sex for one special person and stays loyal for life. Obviously that’s not realistic. But if you’re gonna be promiscuous don’t whine about other people doing it. Unfortunately the whining is a pillar of RP ideology. And no I wasn’t being manipulative. I said everyone can have a totally different experience of sex but I will agree with you that it’s more likely that men won’t form emotional attachments. You put word… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 09:05 AM |
| 3 | Series of CMVs that I would like y'all to challenge.Sure anyone can have a different experience with casual sex. I’m even willing to accept that biologically men have an easier time being promiscuous with zero emotional attachments than women. But when, as a RP man, you say “I can have sex with whomever I want and as many women as I want and then settle down with a young hot virgin” and then turn around and say “but women can’t do the same thing.” That’s the double standard. I couldn’t care less about the biology of it. When it gets into people s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 08:49 AM |
| 2 | Series of CMVs that I would like y'all to challenge.I don’t get your point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 08:16 AM |
| 6 | Series of CMVs that I would like y'all to challenge.I have NO problem with men being insecure about women having a high body count.... as long as it’s okay for women to be insecure about men having the same. I’m a believer in both people saving sex for marriage so you’ll get no argument from me about marrying a virgin being preferable, but only if it’s both the man and the woman. It’s the double standards in TRP that I hate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 07:46 AM |
| 1 | Men can and do fake orgasms. CMVMaybe that would work for a guy who only makes like a quarter teaspoon of semen at a time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 03:47 AM |
| 3 | Men can and do fake orgasms. CMVBut the clear stuff is precum, not real semen. You saying that when you’re tired you just change tactics isn’t faking an orgasm at all. Everyone does that - they get tired and say let’s try something else or I want it to be your turn. That’s.... not the same as pretending you’re having an orgasm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 03:45 AM |
| 2 | Men can and do fake orgasms. CMVWomen getting wet is arousal, not orgasm. Women can and do sometimes squirt but more often do not during orgasm (I personally never have but I have orgasmed hundreds of times). Just like getting hard for men is arousal, not orgasm. Women can fake orgasm because there’s no reliable outward sign that she’s orgasmed. Men really can’t because ejaculation isn’t something you can fake. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 03:41 AM |
| 6 | Men can and do fake orgasms. CMVWomen getting wet is arousal, not orgasm. Women can and do sometimes squirt but more often do not during orgasm (I personally never have but I have orgasmed hundreds of times). Just like getting hard for men is arousal, not orgasm. Women can fake orgasm because there’s no reliable outward sign that she’s orgasmed. Men really can’t because ejaculation isn’t something you can fake. You can get hard and not orgasm as a man and you can get wet and not orgasm as a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!I agree that all those examples are horrible and yes men get screwed over all the time (I’d also like to suggest that maybe courts wouldn’t “favor women/mothers” so often if society hadn’t been insisting that women be the caretakers of children 99% of the time... what do you think is going to happen when all of society has conditioned people to think that raising kids is a woman’s job - obviously more moms will win court cases) I don’t think all women are generous and kind and selfless etc etc a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/20 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!But what if you’re really attracted to THAT girl? Girls aren’t required to put out and there is such thing as self control. Not in the RP universe apparently 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Yeah but I’m not talking about all men or all women. I’m saying the concept of THE RED PILL and its relationship stratagems is selfish, deceptive, hypocritical and all about pleasing yourself 100% of the time. RP men openly admit this! So when I say it’s obvious RP men don’t have what it takes to be in a successful LTR - things like selflessness, generosity, love, kindness, compassion, etc - I mean quite literally that specifically RP men don’t have the capacity for those virtues or choose not t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!lol my husband and I were both virgins when we got married and he had about $12 in his bank account on our wedding day. So yes, both a gold digger and a slut for sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!I’ve proven that I’m lying about being a gold digger? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!It’s just hysterical to me that RP men think women rack up an “ugly” n count but of course RP men are entitled to the exact same lifestyle... of course for them it’s not ugly, it’s ideal. No I don’t think everyone will be happy married and I get why a lot of men (and! Women!) don’t want to get married these days. Marriage takes maturity and sacrifice and clearly that’s something RP men will never understand, so I get it. But you can’t say “all women are sluts who want to drain your bank account … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Well my husband is pro marriage too, maybe because he loves me and I love him and we respect each other and actually care about each other..... buuuut I guess I don’t exist so idk what to do now. :/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!That didn’t answer my question in the slightest but ok. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Most of the people who aren’t marriage material aren’t looking to get married anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!No this question was asked by a happily married woman who just doesn’t understand whiny men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!I said RP men on this sub, not men in general. Most men are more reasonable than RP men. ;) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!But when women do this exact same thing it makes them sluts. Gotcha. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!I didn’t with my now husband. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Not necessarily. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Okay | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Me? I’m a married woman but thanks? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Yep but RPM say it’s not okay for women to do the same thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Nope, I’m actually very pro marriage. I’m pro men and women saving themselves for marriage. That’s what my husband and I did. I love being married. But guys can’t think they’ll make a great husband if they’ve been F-ing around all their 20s. Same with women. It’s just that TRP is based on the idea that men can F around all they want and then marry a virgin to serve them and expect her to be OK with that but women absolutely can’t have the same lifestyle because that makes them ugly dried up slut… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Unsurprising | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:27 PM |
| 2 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Are you a woman or a man? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Could it have to do with PEOPLE in the West not being marriage material? It’s not a heavenly realm filled with perfect marriageable men and wasteland of gross sluts..... humans overall are getting less marriageable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!“I don’t agree with all of TRP, but the quicker women realize that they’ve slept with tons of dudes without a LTR, and that they are less fulfilled every time, the quicker they will be forced to work on themselves and change into someone worth pursuing for a LTR (if that’s what they want).” So why can’t RP men apply this to themselves? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!I think you get it lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Which is the premise of AF/BB right? Why is that lifestyle ok for men but not women according to RP men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Yeah but RP men are wildly hypocritical about it. And you don’t have to say “tHeRe’S nO LAw aGAinSt bEiNg a hYpoCritE” because duh of course not, but you do realize that makes anyone who believes such things look ridiculously stupid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Cute. I could make such a wildly inaccurate statement about men, too, but that’s lazy. I guess I just don’t get the double standard RP men have for women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Yeah nice but a big talking point of RPM is that women shouldn’t do the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!I cannot respond to everything here but I’ll hit the main points. I woke up to over 500 comments. Thanks for your input, folks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:15 PM |
| 2 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Interesting. But RPM whine about women doing the same thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Do RP men want marriage/LTRs or ONS? Pick one, fellas!Yeah because RP men tell women they can’t do the same thing. Massive hypocrisy. Pick. A. Lane. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 05:24 PM |
| 5 | Discussion: Are breadwinner wives emasculating or a threat to stability?That’s true though. My husband is short, my height in fact, and I’ve always found him attractive. He’s confident and doesn’t care that he’s short. I find short men who are whiny and mopey incredibly unattractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/20 04:46 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: For attractive women, is dating in any way mysterious to you?I consider myself to be reasonably attractive, but the whole male/female dynamic has always been a little mysterious for me for multiple reasons. One, without makeup, I’m invisible to men. So I’m not usually approached unless I look AMAZING. (I.e. a ton of effort put into my appearance) so in public I have the choice to be attractive or unattractive to men. I’m usually in a rush so it’s often the latter. Two, I’m intensely awkward so everything about dating has always been fraught with mystery f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/20 07:21 AM |
| 1 | What are your proposed solutions to make dating fair?Yes! This! Well said. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/20 11:21 PM |
| 1 | What other aspects of physical appearance do you focus on the most, if at all?Love dark haired men. Beard or the ability to grow one. Lots of body hair but not TOO MUCH (there’s a happy medium). Big smiles. Broad shoulders. Thankfully I got ‘‘em all in my husband! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/20 08:12 AM |
| 2 | What is your body count? Questionnaire.I’m pretty much the same! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/20 08:03 AM |
| 1 | Do you think more Christians are RP or BP?Definitely not plate spinning, that’s morally reprehensible | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/20 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Do you think more Christians are RP or BP?Yeah that happens sometimes, but the solution isn’t to become RP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/20 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Do you think more Christians are RP or BP?Wow how do we do it! Naive and yet scrupulously avoiding dangerous people! 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/20 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Do you think more Christians are RP or BP?Thank you for saying TRP goes against Christianity. You’d be shocked how many professing Christians believe the exact opposite and it makes me sick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/20 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Do you think more Christians are RP or BP?Confused now because I constantly see RP men say they want to be promiscuous as much as possible and that’s VERY unbiblical.... RP men also whine about monogamy constantly so I don’t see how promiscuity and polygamy are possibly blue pill | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/20 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Do you think more Christians are RP or BP?Interesting because I think the Madonna-whore complex is strictly RP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/20 05:20 PM |
| 2 | MGTOW, TRP etc. all bitch about Hypergamy, yet men are just as hypergamous...Wow It’s almost as if both sexes are equally capable of being selfish and greedy and promiscuous and neither TRP nor radical feminists can claim that the opposite side is worse 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/20 08:12 AM |
| 1 | If men are not capable of attracting younger women then why do you fear becoming a "starter wife"?I never found “older” men creepy just by virtue of their being older, unless they acted creepy. I’d always been attracted to older men. (Like, men in their 30s and 40s when I was in my late teens and twenties... with the occasional even older guy like 60 your old Sean Connery) I think women aren’t saying they can’t be attracted to older men, but if they’re going about their daily life and a guy old enough to be their dad hits on them, their instinct isn’t “oh wow hot” it’s more shocking. I think… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/20 08:09 AM |
| 12 | Women don't NEED to be successful, funny or interesting to be a valuable partner. That's the difference.I think you nailed it when you said FOR YOU those things aren’t important. I mean, to each their own. But you can’t speak for all men. My husband values me for being interesting, easy to talk to, supportive, and a myriad other things including attractiveness and - get this - being funny! Saying you want to be THE funny one is, again, your personal preference and I can’t change your mind (nor do I wish to), but one of the things my husband said drew him to me and was one of the MOST attractive th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/20 08:01 AM |
| 1 | Is it the same group of men who simultaneously look down on women for having casual sex yet also expect sex within the first three dates?AHHH you read my mind I was getting on reddit to post just this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/20 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Men should cut their focus on women in half and instead focus on becoming a winner in their own life.Hmm I might just have to nitpick right back lol....ummmm the performance I mentioned was when my NOW husband and I were both 19. We didn’t start dating till we were 25 and got married at almost 26. I’m saying he was just an acquaintance of mine when I first found him attractive at the performance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/20 04:38 PM |
| 8 | Men should cut their focus on women in half and instead focus on becoming a winner in their own life.Passion is attractive, if it’s something you’re passionately good at, even if it’s not lucrative. My husband is a dancer and he’s passionate about it. My huge wake up moment to realizing I was attracted to him was during a performance where he did an exceptionally good job. To this day, I’m most attracted to him when he’s performing because he’s so good at it and he’s so talented and he puts his whole self into the performance. Even though it’s not a financially successful career or lifestyle, i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/20 05:35 AM |
| 2 | Men should cut their focus on women in half and instead focus on becoming a winner in their own life.This is good advice minus calling “most men” losers.... Honestly, life shouldn’t be about chasing the opposite sex for anyone. Definitely focus on work, healthy, non romantic relationships, family and friends more and the right person will quite possibly come along but even if not, you weren’t wasting your whole life in pursuit of women or men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/20 05:31 AM |
| 1 | Redpill is still the fastest and safest way to get a girl in your bed, girls just wanna have funWow that entire comment was just one air horn sound effect after another. One of the all time beat comments I’ve read on PPD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Okay | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Okay | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Okay | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?No it’s okay, I get it fully 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?This comment explains so much, so fast 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?That’s okay I don’t need to know anymore. I’ve seen literal red pill Christian men make videos about how they withhold affection from their wives to make them behave which is sick. No spouse should do that to the other. If deliberately going out of your way to reassure your spouse that they’re secure with you is blue pill, I’ll be blue pill all day. If you’re claiming RP doesn’t espouse junk like this, then you’re not really adhering to RP beliefs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 05:47 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Thanks kind stranger. I wish you could know the true peace I’ve found with Jesus, it’s never too late to follow him and not people! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Isn't girls "learning from their mistakes" inherently better or more desirable than women who habitually choose "bad" men?Thank you, I tried to illustrate this in a comment regarding a post I wrote last night but it fell on deaf ears. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 03:45 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Thanks! Genuinely kind advice. Yep, I’m more about the relationship with God than about pleasing people. My husband is as well so it’s all good. He’s a great man and I’m very grateful for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?No, it’s a figure of speech. I feel lucky, that’s all. I guess it’s all “by chance” that you find the right person but i don’t believe in chance. Here’s the thing. When I hear someone say “your advice is shit” when I suggest treating people like individuals, I automatically think, “okay, so this person thinks everyone is exactly the same and treats them as such”. And that seems like bad advice to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?No, my husband and entire family are Christians so I’m gonna keep doing it. But I do understand that your advice is kindly meant. I agree there’s a fine line between going out of your way to be taken advantage of and being smart and that’s where discernment comes in. :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?You’re darn right I won the lottery with my husband, I feel insanely lucky and blessed every day to have him!! I wouldn’t have him now though if we had played the RP game. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Nah I’m actually making the effort to dive deeper into my relationship with Christ, but thanks for the warning. Yeah, being good to people who use you is one of the core beliefs of Christianity and it feels sucky sometimes but you never know how that may impact someone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Hmm but I’d be instantly turned off by my husband if he decided to flirt with the waitress to seem more alpha, so maybe RP stuff doesn’t work for marriages? I mean great if it works for you but I’m kinda sad for your wife now? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?I did mention elsewhere that a promiscuous lifestyle does tend to make people less discerning or choosy....I guess if it has hole that’s good enough! But this convo is more about trying to get a LTR. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?I for sure am. We both are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?So you agree that different people are to be treated differently. Interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 02:51 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?I mean it does sound crazy. But then, as a Christian, I’m used to what I believe sounding crazy. It’s what Jesus teachers and it feels impossible because it is. That’s why I need Christ. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 02:50 AM |
| 2 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?I can respect that! 👏🏻 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?So you treat your mom the exact same as your wife. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?I do love that advice! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?😂😂😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Okay tell that to my husband who is exactly my height at 5’5” and has always had an endless stream of both women and men interested in him. Maybe, just MAYBE assumptions (“short men ARE undesirable”) are just excuses. maybe it’s more like “short men who think they’re entitled to women and do the bare minimum to try to get female attention and then fail and blame it all on their height are undesirable” 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Yes, what I’m proposing. Treat each human as an individual. Your mom is different from your sister. Your grocery store checker is different from your hair stylist. Your doctor is different from your lover. It may require thoughtfulness, effort, and a small degree of putting someone’s needs above your own, but if that’s being blue pill, then get me whole bottle of them because I’ll be popping blue pills every day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Yeah people do that but it’s not right. If I said “hey it’s not good to murder” You can’t say “but some people really hate other people and want them to die” and pretend that was a mic drop lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Nah no one should be generalized against. Hence my post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Nah just starting a convo amongst the people. It’s enlightening | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?I know, I’m one of them evil wymyn | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?“A certain amount of classification is of course, necessary for practical purposes: there is no harm in saying that women, as a class, have smaller bones than men, wear lighter clothing, have more hair on their head and less on their faces, go more pertinaciously to church or the cinema, or have more patience with small and noisy babies... What is unreasonable and irritating is to assume that ALL one’s tastes and preferences have to be conditioned by the class to which one belongs.” —Dorothy Say… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?lol every jaded person who has read this quote has left out the last part of it that really qualifies the entire thing. It’s amusing. Please reread my quote before you comment again. “what as human beings they want, my good men, exactly what you want yourselves: interesting occupation, reasonable freedom for their pleasures, and a sufficient emotional outlet. ———What form the occupation, the pleasures and the emotion may take, depends entirely upon the individual.———-“ That last bit there. I don… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Yeah that’s kind of just how life is... your chances of dating are lower if you’re totally unattractive and that’s unfair. But that doesn’t mean that every woman is exactly the same as every other woman or that every man is the same as every other man. Ugly people get married ALL the time. There are more average to ugly couples than really attractive ones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?🥱 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Yeah that’s kind of just how life is... your chances of dating are lower if you’re totally unattractive and that’s unfair. But that doesn’t mean that every woman is exactly the same as every other woman or that every man is the same as every other man. Ugly people get married ALL the time. There are more average to ugly couples than really attractive ones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Sure there are basic social rules; I’m not pretending there aren’t. Yeah men like to chase, women like to be chased, (generally) but still that doesn’t mean you get to just apply a formula to anyone you want to date or marry. Hypothetical situation for if you’re a guy (apologies if you’re a RPW but you still get the picture): Say TRP said all single moms are trash (wait that’s exactly what TRP says...) TRP says that if you raise another man’s kid you’re a cuck. With that mindset, you’ll never se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:18 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Excuse me but TRP is almost exclusively based on assumptions. That’s what it’s built on. Men always do/want this. Women always do/want this. Single moms are trash. Short men are undesirable. It’s all based on assumptions and gee doesn’t that make life easier? Yep up until you actually have to be in a relationship with a real human being. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Yeah but that’s not an argument | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Obviously not. If something is wrong we have the duty to oppose it, but i I find people are happy to embrace doing wrong when their personal enemy is doing right. Anything to do the opposite of what people you don’t like are doing 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 09:02 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Sad life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?There’s the issue, the venn diagram of incels and red pill people is a circle lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?“A certain amount of classification is of course, necessary for practical purposes: there is no harm in saying that women, as a class, have smaller bones than men, wear lighter clothing, have more hair on their head and less on their faces, go more pertinaciously to church or the cinema, or have more patience with small and noisy babies... What is unreasonable and irritating is to assume that ALL one’s tastes and preferences have to be conditioned by the class to which one belongs.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?“What is repugnant to every human being is to be reckoned always as a member of a class and not as an individual person.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Thanks friend | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Hoping they can change!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?lol now that’s funny | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:49 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Yeah sadly it’s hard to be objective when you’ve been burned and I have sympathy for that but it’s no excuse to be lazy or mean | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Thanks lol good to see sanity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Yikes good luck. I suppose I should just start treating my husband like “every other guy” (whatever that means ) so I don’t have to put in the work of treating him like the individual human man that he is. You’re right, that’s less work. I’ll report back to you when our marriage fails because I wanted less work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:47 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?That’s fair and could be said for some men as well. Both men and women have some unrealistic mental pictures of what they want that will sadly blind them to someone who is perfect for them they might not consider. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:46 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Thanks happy birthday | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Sure that’s human nature, doesn’t mean you can stop doing the right thing tho | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Wrong. People need the same basic things but there will always be variations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Yeah you lost me there. This is where’s I get frustrated - reactionary measures people take. Just because the media and political sphere is making it cool to act like people are humans doesn’t mean you have to run the other way to just make a point and pretend to be tough or edgy lol Do the thing whether everyone is doing it or no one is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Good thing life isn’t about getting laid eh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Okay I guess my husband is a cuck. These comments make me lol because the people who say these things seem like they’re twelve. Benefit of the doubt? Everyone wants that. I’m not saying “stupidly pretend everyone is an angel who has your best interests at heart” - I’m saying there’s no magic formula for predicting what any given person is going to find attractive or date- or marriage-worthy. Men and women alike should treat everyone as a uniquely different persons with different backgrounds, upb… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Yep exactly. I mean, I have the advantage of having known my husband since we were both pre high school, so it’s not like I had to get to know him over tinder, but we truly value each other for who we ARE as people. (In addition to sexual attraction) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:37 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?I’m sorry, that’s sad. Doesn’t mean what I said isn’t true though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Okay sure if your goal is to have sex with a hundred beach babes before summer is over you’d be a fool to think that’s happening while playing video games in mom’s basement, but I’m talking about getting to know someone, not just being promiscuous, obviously with that mindset you’re not going to e as discriminating nor are you going to care that the person you’re screwing is a human. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?lol then call me a bad feminist. I’m also pro life! Mega bad feminist | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:33 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?I mean I’d be lying if I said he wasn’t handsome as well - his face would do great on a tinder profile but as you’re yourself, there are women who’d meet him in person and run as far as possible in the other direction because he’s short. There are also women - like me - who wouldn’t care. It’s useless to just assume ALL WOMEN are unattracted to him because he’s short. It’s useless to assume ALL WOMEN are attracted to him because he’s handsome. As for categories: “A certain amount of classificati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:33 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Yep. The problem is when you just assume that if you were taller you’d have zero problems getting a date. Or richer, or more muscular . As if that’s all women care about. (Or to flip it: women wishing they had bigger boobs or were cuter etc) My husband is SHORT and he’s always had tons of attention from both sexes of all ages. Women and gay men ignore me when he’s around. Does it help that he’s handsome? Yeah but he’s not ripped or rich or tall at all and he wears glasses. He’s caring and attent… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Hmm curious. You think there’s no variation between what people find attractive? I disagree. If you showed me photos of 200 of the most “attractive” male celebs, I’d probably be sexually attracted to five-ten of them. Pick another woman and she’d have a different, longer list. Pick another woman and she’d have a shorter list. Sure a tall ripped guy is going to be generally seen as more attractive than a short doughy guy, but it’s not like there’s zero hope for guy #2. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:26 PM |
| 0 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?“A certain amount of classification is of course, necessary for practical purposes: there is no harm in saying that women, as a class, have smaller bones than men, wear lighter clothing, have more hair on their head and less on their faces, go more pertinaciously to church or the cinema, or have more patience with small and noisy babies... What is unreasonable and irritating is to assume that ALL one’s tastes and preferences have to be conditioned by the class to which one belongs.” —Dorothy Say… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:21 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?I mean, that sucks. It doesn’t free you from the responsibility to do the right thing though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:20 PM |
| 4 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?“A certain amount of classification is of course, necessary for practical purposes: there is no harm in saying that women, as a class, have smaller bones than men, wear lighter clothing, have more hair on their head and less on their faces, go more pertinaciously to church or the cinema, or have more patience with small and noisy babies... What is unreasonable and irritating is to assume that ALL one’s tastes and preferences have to be conditioned by the class to which one belongs.” —Dorothy Say… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Well that’s the problem right there. You’re the type of guy who would punch a drunk man for shoving you but give a drunk woman some slack. Honestly? I don’t think you should punch any drunk person for shoving you, man or woman. I don’t think you spoiled give women special treatment, I think you should refrain from punching people of both sexes, get it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 06:13 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?I just want everyone to be polite and kid to each other. And gee I hope you’d be polite and helpful to a man the same as a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 03:50 AM |
| 2 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?What? It proves my point - that none of these things that RP men whine about constantly matter AT ALL to some women. Yeah some women want a tall guy. That’s okay. Some women don’t care (like me). That’s okay too. You just gotta find the right person who likes you for who you are regardless of height. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 03:49 AM |
| 2 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?Hence treating them like unique individuals ;) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?That sounds a little too rAdiCaL if you ask me /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 12:15 AM |
| 13 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?And it’s baffling. One only has to people watch for twenty minutes to see this isn’t true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Is it natural for women to dislike being reassuredShe dislikes it when you comfort her by being there for her? There’s something off about that. It might be trauma or emotional damage. Also the fact that not being there for your SO is red pill behavior is one of the many many reasons I hate red pill nonsense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/20 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Would you be satisfied in a relationship if your SO was your only friend?I’ve slowly and unintentionally distanced from a lot of my friends since getting married. (Partly due to living outside of the country for the better part of our first year of marriage). My husband is my best friend and I never get tired of him. I find myself getting tired of other people much more quickly and impatiently waiting till he and I can be together again. I would prefer to have other relationships as well (mainly my family since I’m very close to them) but if I were stranded on an isl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/20 07:29 AM |
| 1 | Are you good at sex?You don’t need sex first to have a great relationship. I met my now husband when we were preteens. We became friends in our early twenties and got married at nearly 26 years old (we’re the same age). We both saved sex for marriage. And we have fantastic, hot, sexy sex often. How is this possible? Communication. Hard work. Experimentation. Being open and free in bed. Not being shy. Willing to try things. Wanting the best for each other sexually. We love our sex life even though we were virgins wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/20 08:50 AM |
| 1 | Are you good at sex?Sounds like lust then, not love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/20 08:45 AM |
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