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STFU during some argument bait with the wife over the last week. This has been a weak spot for me as I have been doing some major projects around the house. ​ Doing the BLS program since Jan. Getting to the gym 5 days a week and working on a slow bulk from my cut down to 10% BF. Main focus here is progressive overload on keeping the bulk slow and clean. I highly recommend the Bigger Leaner Stronger book and workout. ​ Received a 90 day ban from posting in Askmrp. Apparently asking questions in a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 02:16 PM
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This was the entire point of my post and the example. It was never about how she organized the entryway. It was the fact that it never got done when I gave her the chance. I then made the decision myself. She got fucking pissed but I ignored it. End result my solution to the problem is still there to this day. Even though she swears she hates it. I tried to make her a first officer by involving her in what I considered a trivial decision. Spend the coin theory. What I have found with my wife is …
/r/askMRP09/03/19 02:30 AM
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Which is? Looking like an idiot?
/r/askMRP08/03/19 11:13 PM
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I appreciate your analogy and agree with it. And I do give less fucks. The point was having a mess bothered me. I offered her the chance to remedy that problem and she didn’t. Therefore I took care of it myself and she fought against it. But yet the decision has remained. I don’t care about the rack. It could be plastic., green, gold. Didn’t matter to me. Didn’t have to get a rack. Could have gotten a bin or simply put shit away in another room. My goal and my expectation is an organized home. Y…
/r/askMRP08/03/19 10:56 PM
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RP tells you not to move in together before getting married. Do not combine finances especially until you are married. After you (like me) don't follow rule number 1. You need to make sure you make a plan for the purchase of the house, the financing, the required saving, when it's going to get paid, which bank you're going to use, what insurance company you want, how much to spend on furniture, how regularly to maintain and who is responsible (hint: it's you), emergency savings for water heaters…
/r/askMRP08/03/19 05:47 PM
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This is exactly right. Dread might have some factor but ultimately it’s this paradox and it falls back on me to own the relationship I’m in and the decision I make to be in it. She is coming along to my lead and I still have work to do on myself however this is excellent insight for improving my mental approach to the relationship, decisions, and my surroundings.
/r/askMRP01/03/19 02:42 AM
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I’m with you here. To the novice mind I think we give their shit test more credibility, ie: “intelligent and rational”, than they really are. We’re still too sensitive or in their frame that everything is a challenge to our new “alphaness”. RP makes you aware of them as challenges but not to be taken seriously. It’s like a mosquito. It’s going to show up. It’s going to bite. You’re going to swat some and others you won’t notice. However when it starts to itch do you scratch or remember that it’s…
/r/askMRP27/02/19 02:16 PM
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Good reminder. Battling shit tests like crazy and looking for an end. It'll never end. Although I think guys look for retreat or submission on occasion as a sign that tests are being passed. When that doesn't happen it becomes taxing
/r/askMRP12/02/19 02:36 PM
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I've seen a few of my friends respond to their wives with tone and words that they aren't going to put up with their shit. I think the constant nit picking can get old especially when you no longer are looking for validation or don't give a fuck what she thinks, you're simply just tired of hearing it. ​ I've been recomping my body for the last month and a half. BF down to 10%. Disciplined not to miss a workout. Wife told me that her friend even commented to her that I'm looking jacked. Didn't se…
/r/askMRP12/02/19 02:10 PM
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Going off my experience I wouldn't be worried about her using a vibrator. To me she is clearly making sure her needs are met and isn't dissatisfied with you but rather being OI and finishing her business. She's aware of her sexuality. On the other hand, you could take it from my perspective and be completely unsure if she is satisfied or unsatisfied because my wife rarely gives any outward sign of her sexual preferences, desires or pleasure. I try not to worry about it and assume if she needed/w…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/18 06:56 PM
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I agree. This is a great post. I had found the proverbial "zone" for about a month with my wife..whatever she threw at me couldn't shatter my frame and our sex life and overall life was much better because of it. Then she flipped out when I came on her stomach (a day before shark week) and cracked my frame. Sometimes it doesn't bother her and other times she loses her mind. For me this "act" comes down to four things, I have done it with plenty of other girls in the past and it was never an issu…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/18 06:42 PM
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I initiated the other night and she came at me with all her rules, doesn't like to be fingered, put a condom on to finish, isn't much of a kisser, no bj. Dick went limp fast. Put my clothes on, she was protesting, told her that all these rules are a turnoff, and left to watch the game. Haven't really initiated since. My reason is that I don't really care. I've got plenty of other stuff to do and I'm not interested in her lazy sex. Whether she thinks I deserve more from her or not I don't fucking…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 06:09 PM
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Go do the stuff you got planned. Ride out the storm. You didn’t do anything wrong. Her silent treatment is her problem. The sun will still come up if you stand your ground and let her play the silent game.
/r/askMRP13/10/18 01:50 PM
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I’ll think on this for a while. It would seem to me that you can lose actual desire once you have opened your eyes to the big picture. Bringing it back to the main question of “what value does she bring?” I understand this better in that I chose low value. I no longer desire low value. I chose to put up with it. I go about my daily business but I don’t desire the other person sharing space with me.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/18 01:46 PM
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Look I'm new to this too, so YOU have to realize YOU are the most important. Would you put up with a waitress that never came back to take your order after bringing water? NO you would leave. If I would have walked away in that situation and left, then she would have known 100% that I was upset and that I was just going home to prove a point The only difference is don't be upset with her. You have to not give a fuck. So she sits down and starts texting another dude during a movie. You simply get…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 06:24 PM
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OYS Week 2 STATS: 6'5 210lbs. Bench 225, Squat 265, DL 265 Body fat sub 15%. might be 14.999 MISSION: Execute new investment strategy before 30. Live original through adventure, abundance, and fiscal responsibility. Dread Level: 2 working on 3 Sidebar: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP. podcasts of family alpha. regular reads of Rollo's blog, LAST WEEK: Pook ​Background: Disney movie believer. General "nice guy". Bend over backwards for girlfriends, thought a steady girlfriend was a status symbol of having …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/18 04:22 PM
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—-Women are more intuitive than you think. She knows, she's just not saying anything.——- So I assume then she thinks she’s winning. ——You've already set the expectations more than once and she has dropped the ball. Talking isn't the answer, because you've already done that. The question is, what are you going to do about it?—— Continue to handle business. I don’t have any other answers. Spend less time around her/with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 10:17 PM
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I never found it to be a problem in the past. Especially with prior girls. I’ll get to reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 08:28 PM
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OYS Week 1 STATS: 6'5 210lbs. Bench 225, Squat 265, DL 265 Body fat sub 15%. might be 14.999 MISSION: Execute new investment strategy before 30. Live original through adventure, abundance, and fiscal responisbility. Dread Level: 2 working on 3 Sidebar: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP. podcasts of family alpha. regular reads of Rollo's blog. ​ Background: Disney movie believer. General "nice guy". Bend over backwards for girlfriends, thought a steady girlfriend was a status symbol of having your life toget…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 03:52 PM
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Saw this and read through some stories. Eye opener. Must read.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 07:45 PM
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what actual consequences are you purposing without being butthurt? take her birthday away? OK remove attention and affection but if OP is at the park with his wife and kid and she pulls that..what's he going to do; get off the teeter totter and go sit in the car? Yea THAT won't look like butthurt temper-tantrum. Continue to go about the event. Go home and then remove yourself from her presence the rest of that day until the hamster comes asking why you just bounced? What is an acceptable, enforc…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 03:01 PM
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especially if that anyone is my wife trying to figure out whether what has been completed could be completed in a better way. Who fucking cares? You're a grown ass man that survived just fine before meeting and marrying her. REMEMBER oldest child. Ignore that shit. I just laugh in my head now and keep on working...give her a raised eyebrow look of "you want it your way step right up otherwise shut up" Change your mindset. Lose the ego. You're not an idiot she just needs something to fucking harp…
/r/askMRP11/09/18 01:40 PM
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Solid response by u/UEMcGill. I had the exact same question/situation in my first post..sad to look at. I take care of anything that annoys me around the house. Dishes, bed, bathrooms, laundry, groceries and she's starting to pick up on it..SLOWLY. Been at it for 3 months..still new. End of the day I'm not living like a slob. I'm not having dishes laying around the house. I'm not having clothes laying around everywhere. THAT's for me. I don't like it. (no i don't do her laundry, i just throw her…
/r/askMRP07/09/18 01:43 PM
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I put up with a lot of stupid/beta shit but when it comes to money there’s no fucking around. Money=freedom. No debt = freedom. My wife has an allowance of $150 a week. She can spend that money however she wants. The rest of her paycheck goes to our joint account. I showed her the spread sheet of all the bills including her car payment and insurance. All paid between her salary and mine. I did it this way because I don’t want to get into a pissing contest over her wanting a new purse. Or some du…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/18 07:18 PM
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Bingo. Good reminder to bring it back to frame. I’ve heard a lot of dumb conversations usually everyday at work from the same person. I’ve slowly decided to engage in a tactful smartass response. They can’t tell I’m being overtly smartass and I’m having a fun little game of how stupid is stupid. And if they can tell I’m smartass the conversation ends. Win-win
/r/askMRP25/08/18 12:47 PM
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Yea. The worst is knowing your right but remembering logic doesn’t work with them. Fog more
/r/askMRP23/08/18 05:04 PM
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Yes the ovulation is a big indicator as she was just wrapping up ovulation on the lingerie example. You asked “why do you freeze up?” The answer is simple. I don’t view myself as the prize enough, validation, and taking this shit (or her reaction) way too seriously. Add all those up the answer is confidence. Although I confidently and somewhat playfully told her to shut up and start sucking, when she didn’t and went harpy on me I lost it all. In my head “she shouldn’t refuse me. Just the other d…
/r/askMRP20/08/18 07:09 PM
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“I don’t suck your dick enough” that’s rewriting in my favor. I suppose more acta is the prescription
/r/askMRP17/08/18 02:35 PM
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Ya. Made huge strides in short time but still along way to go. Mostly to stop taking the shit tests personally. Some days deflection comes second nature other days I’m a punching bag. Got caught up in an alpha victory or moment a few days earlier and thought I had control. I was serious about my request (probably too serious) but it was still taken as demanding (her words) maybe even degrading. Next time I need to make it more fun.
/r/askMRP17/08/18 02:29 PM
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Fear
/r/askMRP17/08/18 01:00 PM
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Got wrapped up in my earlier alpha victory and validation that RP Is working. Expected that after one really good situation, even trying new things (toys) would make blowjobs seem like a non issue. Expectations suck. Or another covert contract. Either way im stuck
/r/askMRP17/08/18 12:35 PM
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Shark week coming up in the next couple days.
/r/askMRP17/08/18 12:31 PM
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Got to get better at making a joke of this. I didn’t hard initiate for 3-4 days since lingerie. Sure I gamed and flirted but didn’t escalate. I was busy and didn’t feel like it. Got hit with this left hook and didn’t see it coming. TKO
/r/askMRP17/08/18 12:30 PM
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This is a good point. I care because her accounting is so off it’s downright fraudulent and it pisses me off. Otherwise i don’t have a good answer.
/r/askMRP17/08/18 12:13 PM
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Froze up. Had nothing clever to say just whiney bitch thoughts. I fake chuckled emphasis on fake.
/r/askMRP17/08/18 11:18 AM
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No and I didn’t ask her about her day.
/r/askMRP17/08/18 11:11 AM
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Exactly. My attitude and experiences have been noticeably more rewarding for myself. I don’t need her (or really anyone) to validate shit and that’s fucking freeing. Getting this concept was a major milestone for me. Pair that with I can’t control what she does, how she acts, and how she feels and the weight is lifted. I can initiate and be fun about it. If she says no. Her problem. I can’t control that. Same with her being a teenager. That concept is a game changer too. She gets all ornery and …
/r/askMRP03/08/18 02:26 AM
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RP is always watch what they do not what they say so assuming her wanting a captain is the case her actions should start matching those words/thoughts. Small shit but I’m almost always ordering her food for her now when we go out. She pretty much does what I ask of her around the house and is following the budget...all those things I take as a good sign of accepting direction. Lots of shit testing along with it though.
/r/askMRP28/07/18 12:26 PM
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Did he ditch the wife? Last two posts were “odd behavior” then 7 months later “ forgot to get the plate a birthday present”
/r/askMRP27/07/18 07:09 PM
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Ironically part of OMS was make the bed. Make sure it’s done every morning. She’s started doing it too. Never even said a word.
/r/askMRP27/07/18 02:58 PM
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Yea it’s good shit. Easy to comprehend and straight forward. Still have a few more of his posts to go.
/r/askMRP27/07/18 02:46 PM
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Shit tests rain down but I’m taking her words that it’s not a lost cause and she’s AWALT. Looking for a leader. The ship is changing course and the lead will be tested
/r/askMRP27/07/18 02:44 PM
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“Develop a tendency” is well put. Not going to do it right every time, just be less of a bitch everyday and it’ll come around. Tendency; brilliant word choice. Eliminates the Black/white of needing to do it absolutely perfect.
/r/askMRP18/07/18 10:59 AM
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Congrats on winning the home run derby last night.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 03:45 PM
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The grunts and ass slaps example is how I’ve already begun to see RP the way i did with how to win friends. Taking it way too literal and a fear of if I talk to her I’ll be the tampon. Or give the impression of falling back into line. I think this is why so many guys say don’t get married. We’re all about the chase and I can chase with the best of them. But once you got what you were chasing you’re just a cat playing with a dead mouse.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 03:31 PM
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It sounds like the theory is I should have stopped dating her once the enthusiastic sex slowed after the first year? (We’ve been together going on 4 years) Caveat: that’s prior to redpill and being pretty betabux. In a vacuum or perfect world then every guy moves onto the next girl as soon as enthusiastic sex slows.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 08:35 PM
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It’s LTR lazy sex. We usually don’t go more than a week without it but it’s generally vanilla. Yes the context prior I was pissed about disrespect. I was making what I thought were leadership decisions. My first post on cleaning i mistook RP for as one user put “cheat codes you enter and boom you get a result”. After that it looks like I got more assholeish in my approach to things. How do you AA/AM negatively assert/inquire about someone being forgetful or blowing off a meeting? That’s not in t…
/r/askMRP16/07/18 07:31 PM
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It was a holy shit it’s happening moment. Shes getting the dread and saying it word for word. So what is the proper comfort? Again I gave her a hug at the end and held her for a while but I’m sure there is a better response. “I’m with you because I don’t want to have to do things?” Lol just typing that I can clearly see I don’t get it. Wow
/r/askMRP16/07/18 07:05 PM
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I read your posts. Some twice already. It makes sense when I read it but comes out all wrong at application. Thanks for the highlights. I put in comfort at the end of the episode but guess it was too late. Being pissed and a dick is how I’ve been acting no matter what tone of voice I use. Not a good look.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 06:50 PM
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I’ve read his posts. And the bluepillprof on dread. Again. I’m being an idiot and going Rambo and autistic anger. I re read my posts and I see that I’m not doing things slowly. I’m all over the place. Going to move ahead with a positive attitude. Not sure what else to post it either gets shot down or into a pissing contest. Continue reading, lurking and chill the fuck out.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 06:37 PM
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Lol I can’t be that late to the party
/r/askMRP16/07/18 12:59 PM
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Ok
/r/askMRP16/07/18 03:43 AM
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For reference: you posted a similar scenario 2 years ago. So take off your white wig and then judge me. “Did it look like retribution because I left....not butthurt” Fucking kettle.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 02:55 AM
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For reference: some kids practice in a nice gym, Some practice on black top with chain nets. Either way the ball has to get dribbled and to the net. Since you seem to be of a simple mind: the theory and attitude needs to be changed and practiced so might as well work with what I’ve got. I believe that’s called frame around here. I’m choosing to put the RP into practice for my current situation.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 02:50 AM
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Best way for me to mentally think about activities is this. “I’m going to xyz do you want to come with?” The experts will tell you whether this is quality or not but this morning I said I’m going for a trail run. Went. Had some mental clarity to myself. Purposely didn’t invite her. Didn’t ask. Just said I’m doing.. Later in the afternoon I told her “I’m going to a xyz college football game this fall. Do you want to go? “ She said yes. Great I’ll get tickets. By saying “I’m going to....”and then …
/r/askMRP16/07/18 12:22 AM
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Like you I’ve only been on this for just over a month. It’s incredible what you notice once your viewpoint changes. Movies, music, dumbshit your neighbors say.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/18 11:36 PM
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The weaponization could be a direct response to me starting to give less fucks. My posts are the worst of my interactions with her. There are numerous actions that go favorably albeit very minor and if you aggregate all the less fucks I’m giving it would come out to a net less fucks seeing has she’s all butthurt about giving up the sex. Staying unphased by the weaponization can lead to a crack in her armour; that I’m not a victim of that circumstance anymore. It’s like sales...you make your pitc…
/r/askMRP13/07/18 03:34 PM
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Yes it is sexual weaponization. In the past I responded by getting pissed off. Since RP I have initiated with OI and if I get shut down smirk or whatever and go about my business. I haven’t been doing any covert dread?...like your example of “I’m giving you first crack at it” my main focus is not to be butthurt. Your response with the cocky attitude will not come off butthurt and I need to implement more of this. No I don’t expect things to magically change in marriage. For my current state of m…
/r/askMRP13/07/18 03:22 PM
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I'm not following you here
/r/askMRP13/07/18 01:12 PM
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My entire life I've been told men/women inherently respect and are attracted to taller people. I've never internalized it. I've never felt like a tower of power over people but just a normal dude...except when shirts or pants don't fit. This is part of my lifetime problem; 6'5" frame with a 4' mentality. Like the 300lbs lineman that's afraid of a mouse.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 01:10 PM
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It’s a combination of the two with a little more emphasis on option 2. She’s had a pretty easy life overall with little in the way of consequence/punishment if you will. The potential is there as she has planned a few good birthdays and other events but yes a lot of it is lazy someone will bail me out attitude. Re enforced by myself included of “it’s just easier if I do it anyways” I’m not worried about the fighting anymore if I don’t bail her out. The oak mentality helps see past that. Im getti…
/r/askMRP13/07/18 11:27 AM
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I agree. You’re dead on. She’s also a product of me. Being a huge pussy. This didn’t happen over night. And wasn’t like this when we started dating but I did end up huge in her frame.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 09:47 PM
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I agree. You’re dead on. She’s also a product of me. Being a huge pussy. This didn’t happen over night. And wasn’t like this when we started dating but I did end up huge in her frame.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 09:47 PM
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Someone is living up to their username.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 09:36 PM
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This is the nail on the head. Yea I’m aware of game. A chick gave me her number in front of her mom after I mentioned I had a fiancé several times just yesterday. When I’m at bars and shit I have a great time. Get shut down like anyone else from time to time but also get sought out and flirt with 7-9s. I try and game her but sometimes just don’t feel up to it. Mostly due to anger phase probably and to your other points of she doesn’t want “you to 10 second kiss her” it’s not from lack of trying …
/r/askMRP12/07/18 09:22 PM
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6 weeks. Can’t disagree with you about wanting the results. My questions come from putting in the work but properly putting it in. I could read this stuff and then just Rambo. Or stfu completely. Or quit after the first two shit tests because “it’s not working”. I’m not claiming in of those ideas. I’m asking to get better. To execute handling these situations properly to move forward.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 07:52 PM
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I’m working on myself. I read. I build. I lift. I clean. I cook. I fish. I party with the boys (lowered my alcohol consumption). I walk the dog. I invest. I set the budget. I fish. I golf. I found a new revenue source for my company. I have improved my attitude. I complain less. And it’s only July. I’m taking things slow but clearly struggle to properly implement what’s being taught here.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 07:43 PM
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Lol no shit
/r/askMRP12/07/18 07:22 PM
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If I wanted to go on a treasure hunt I would rent a metal detector.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 07:14 PM
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Yea borrowed Dwight’s gaydar. Didn’t go off.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 07:10 PM
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I own my shit and it’s get me run over. Owning my shit was getting the sessions scheduled. House is clean. In fact I told her to have the castle clean while I was gone at a bachelor party last weekend. She did it. Last night I got groceries. Got home told her to cook the specific meal while I went to do other shit. Came back to a cooked meal. I’m not a secretary though.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 06:02 PM
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This is brilliant. I just connected some dots on how to make boring adult responsibilities fun for the wife. Lately I’ve been telling her to take care of the castle when I’m gone but this is much better. Now I need to get her to put more effort into housecleanistan National pastime: mouth hugs
/r/askMRP12/07/18 01:01 PM
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So in your opinion I should forgo paying for anything wedding related if her parents are on board to pay for it all. And should forgo any planning other than questions directly towards me that need a response. Like the fact she wants a trolly for transportation but continues to put off calling them for a quote. Guess if it’s important she’d call them. However in my mind transportation is important so if i decide to call a regular party bus company because that’s what I prefer then that’s what we…
/r/askMRP11/07/18 03:36 PM
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Thanks for the link. I’m still missing the point and will have to study it more. In some instances enforcing a boundary of being on a cellphone when I’m trying to talk to you is as simple as just leaving the room and moving on to something else. However when I assign you a task and you don’t follow through. Putting her clothes away. That’s a disrespect boundary. How do you enforce that? Pile them all up at the garage door so she has to step over them when she walks in?
/r/askMRP11/07/18 03:23 PM
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I understand the first portion of your comment. Enforcing the boundary becomes the issue. Is the only way to enforce a boundary to withdraw presence and affection? And do it without appearing butthurt. NMMNG talks about boundaries but doesn’t give much for examples of how to set them and enforcement. So back to your kids example how do you enforce the boundary of them cleaning their room? Ground them? Take away a favorite toy? I can’t “ground” my fiancé. I can be the favorite toy and remove myse…
/r/askMRP11/07/18 01:18 PM
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No I want her at the meeting. However I should have just done what the majority is saying and went, handled it, and move on
/r/askMRP11/07/18 10:53 AM
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Talking about practice man. Practice? Hahaha perspective is everything
/r/askMRP11/07/18 10:51 AM
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You’re probably right
/r/askMRP11/07/18 03:20 AM
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Lol I’m not dying. Either I decide and that’s that. Or I decide and she’s pissed and that’s her problem. Unless I physically got killed by her in mysleep. In that case I couldn’t give an actual fuck.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 03:11 AM
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If it wasn’t for guys like me your internet time and comments would be severely reduced. Lol Enjoy the show. My brother was in a similar situation (married the princess) He seemed to handle it very well. Yea I’ve been beta with her. I can get out of it. The question is do you do it slow and 1000 foot rope 1 month for 1 year or do you Rambo a princess? We’ve been together 3-4 years so it can’t be that bad.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 03:06 AM
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Heard that. Gets you wet and scratched and not in a good way
/r/askMRP11/07/18 03:00 AM
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And of the last 20 minutes “I’m acting like a jerk to her”(I just chuckle) “you didn’t ask me to walk the dog with you” (Didn’t want her to go to be honest. And she didn’t ask so I went) finishing reading WISNIFG. Athol is up next. Feel like a main event is about to happen. And period starts next week.(shouldn’t the alpha “jerk” be causing the tingles according to Rollos hypergamy schedule?) Trying not Rambo but this shit is getting irritating.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 02:59 AM
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Yes princess syndrome. Family is well off. She’s down for planning the wedding for the first meetings. Not the it’s time to pay for it, finalize details part. Exactly I’m pulling the slack in an effort to lead. And effort to OYS. to be honest I could careless how this thing gets paid for and what it looks like. It’s her job. However the side affect becomes a beta hole of no financial responsibility to dig out of once we are married. And my standard is being responsible for my family. Meaning in-…
/r/askMRP11/07/18 02:50 AM
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This makes sense. I thought about just going to the meeting myself and making the decisions. I’m sure there would be a fuck storm waiting to happen after that but I could deal with it.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 02:41 AM
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That’s what I’m asking. Would the better have been to just blow off the meeting all together? The one that I set up? Or just adapt and get it handled
/r/askMRP11/07/18 02:39 AM
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It’s for her wedding flowers. She wouldn’t schedule the meeting so I took care of it. Maybe beta maybe OYS because I need to get the budget numbers to her parents. I read on another post that “would you trust a 5 year old planning your vacation” no so the man does it. I’m not implying that totally implies to a wedding however I don’t trust her to make sound financial decisions let alone actually schedule the meeting. So which is it? DGAF and then hear about how no one knows the cost or what’s go…
/r/askMRP11/07/18 01:56 AM
1

Into what?
/r/askMRP11/07/18 01:19 AM
5

Lol I hired her. She’s a female
/r/askMRP11/07/18 01:19 AM
1

I see your point.
/r/askMRP21/06/18 06:48 PM
1

Will be checking out that post
/r/askMRP21/06/18 02:01 AM
1

Dude. I was giving some backstory a little context to the night. Literally my last sentence was can’t do anything about rejection. I’m more concerned with the shit test and comfort test. Getting those right. I’m cleaning because I want a clean house. I’ve been beta for a long as time. I didn’t clean to get fucked. I cleaned because I want the shit organized and I’m not in a position to just start bossing her around. Obviously. I’ve got a chick in the house I’m going to try for sex. The point was…
/r/askMRP20/06/18 10:14 PM
2

lol probably. man why didn't I see that by letting her leave the house increases the probability of her seeing, talking to, or interacting with another man (human). should have kept her locked in the basement. useful stuff here champ. She can bounce at any time. My life will go on.
/r/askMRP20/06/18 05:49 PM
1

read through that link and feminine mystique...can you expand your comments further. I'm missing something. All that talk was just talk (hamster spinning) over me not being as emotionally available as I normally have been. I get that part..let it spin itself out. What are you saying with the push and pull? And is Rollo's point that you need to focus on what women do not what they say? So in this case she said she felt all this nonsense but in reality just sat on the couch in a pitty party (the r…
/r/askMRP20/06/18 04:22 PM
1

Amen. cheat code reference is dead on
/r/askMRP20/06/18 02:58 PM
1

Agreed on marathon. Love bj's as much as the next guy but more focused on getting the respect and alpha baseline established the rest will take care of it's self. Being more DGAF and getting shit done for myself because I want it that way is already shocking her system. Gotta take it slow and avoid the DEER at all costs...
/r/askMRP20/06/18 02:19 PM
1

Yea working on first level dread just going about my business as I see fit. Always replying that I'm busy and got shit to do..which is fact. Not the same orbiter, let her know I'm about to inhale and then exhale, from a few weeks ago so you're right; to her something is off.
/r/askMRP20/06/18 01:56 PM
1

Yes
/r/askMRP16/06/18 06:56 PM
1

That’s the point of my question. I never had my own frame to begin with. I just went with the flow. Now I’m getting versed on frame and boundaries and learning about the hamster and emotional drama. It’s like learning to skate with your head up. You don’t get fucking lit up as much. I took the job because it’s a career field I enjoy. It offered a very good schedule and good money. Built my book of business very quickly and created a new service for the company to capture a huge revenue stream th…
/r/askMRP16/06/18 04:25 PM
1

She’ll clean but it takes some serious prodding sometimes. A couple times she’s done it when I’ve been gone for the weekend with the boys. It’s a matter of making it a habit. I come home and cut the grass without thinking. Same should apply bathrooms for her. Pick a day but once a week.
/r/askMRP16/06/18 01:47 AM
2

Well put this makes a lot of sense. Appreciate it
/r/askMRP16/06/18 12:51 AM
1

Thank you. Get the shit cleaned up myself a few times to get the standard clearly in place visually and verbally explain it. Then start to slowly hand her the reigns
/r/askMRP15/06/18 08:30 PM
1

I can't argue with that. My question pertains to how does one go about setting higher expectations? or more along the lines of if I focus on keeping my house how I like it will it be off the table later on for her to handle it? There's an old saying along the lines of never do well what you don't want to do often.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 07:37 PM
1

Tell her I need her to clean up once a week. If she does..reward. If not stay busy and let the mess pile up? That's the part I'm confused on.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 07:26 PM
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I look at it as a challenge. I can implement the RP changes. My eyes are only just opening to being the relationship leader.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 07:24 PM
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I keep her around because I would like to have a family. The sex was good before I went beta and the first week of red pill it was back on track. Credit that to dumbass luck but now I have a taste of getting what I want. I enjoy her company and we have fun together.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 06:31 PM
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