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I'm just wondering if this would work for me when I'm an old lady.
/r/seduction26/08/11 08:14 PM
2

It sounds like you need to separate your dislike of someone's opinion and what you think about that person. If you violently hated licorice, would you hate a person who loved licorice whips?
/r/seduction24/08/11 03:38 AM
2

I'm so confused. Let me see if I understand you correctly. You have a female friend that you have romantic feelings towards. You expressed those feelings in a text. She has not responded. Previously you would eat lunch together every day, but something happened that made her stop. Could you give a bit more detail?
/r/seduction23/08/11 09:14 PM
1

She's an adult and can make her own decisions. However, don't be the ass who makes her think the two of you are a couple just so you can "take her V-card" because you like the idea. That's scumbag behavior. That said, if she just likes your company etc, simply go about like you would for getting any girl into bed. Her being a virgin might just be because she's not been into a guy enough before to go all the way/there's not been an opportunity/etc a million reasons.
/r/seduction22/08/11 01:53 AM
4

Do you want a relationship with her, or just getting into her pants?
/r/seduction19/08/11 05:47 AM
7

Sounds like a "I am not a slut because I was not responsible for my actions" defense due to mentioned friends being there and knowing you guys had knocked boots.
/r/seduction07/08/11 09:20 PM
-1

26/2+7=20. No. She's too young. Also you're neighbors, so if things go to hell you'll be in an uncomfortable situation. Cultural differences doesn't cover this one. She is looking for a daddy substitute, not a FWB.
/r/seduction04/08/11 08:15 PM
4

You get your inner frame back by not going after her right now. Find ways to occupy yourself. If she's interested in you she will come running after you one way or another.
/r/seduction04/08/11 12:39 AM
2

I'd say that'd be one hell of a display of high value. You're not just a guy who can cook, you're a chef at a classy French restaurant. If you can keep it as a surprise do so, otherwise flaunt it.
/r/seduction01/08/11 07:14 AM
1

I read that as strong, manly, mouthwash and couldn't decide if that meant gargling Old Spice or what.
/r/seduction31/07/11 11:43 PM
1

Dude. You've never listened to Sisters of Mercy? ... welp, now I feel old again.
/r/seduction31/07/11 03:44 AM
1

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WU84x3XgHMc and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1xrNaTO1bI etc.
/r/seduction31/07/11 01:47 AM
2

My husband's what you guys call a natural. As such he's dismissed what he's seen of PUA since he's never needed any techniques like this to be successful. For myself, though, PUA's both helped me figure out how to work on lessening my rationalization hamster, know what shit tests are, why I'm giving them and better ways to address my needs, and also how to increase my sex appeal in his eyes with makeup and cleavage and so on.
/r/seduction30/07/11 01:15 AM
1

Yes. :D PUA stuff's been good for my marriage.
/r/seduction30/07/11 12:50 AM
1

curtseys You're quite welcome. :D
/r/seduction30/07/11 12:15 AM
3

Psst. Intelligent.
/r/seduction30/07/11 12:06 AM
10

It's an unhealthy infatuation where you put this other person on a pedestal and glorify them. You find no fault with them. It's one-sided obsession.
/r/seduction28/07/11 07:34 PM
2

I don't see how you could've made a huge ass of yourself. You were ignorant about chinese cuisine, yeah, but it's not like you rampaged drunk through the place and demanded mac'n'cheese. Her extreme sounding reaction right here "my stomach hurts from laughing so hard..." makes me think shit test more than anything else. Not sure, though.
/r/seduction28/07/11 03:16 AM
3

I'm with Calibration. You're on here, you're obviously intelligent, you know you're in trouble so you're working on it. This after my initial girl-kneejerk reaction of shrieking in terror at the idea of lunch/chocolate = dude thinks he's in love with me.
/r/seduction26/07/11 02:32 AM
2

I admit I couldn't quite stomach reading the whole thing. Is he really trying? Was there hope somewhere in that miasma of these-wounds-will-never-heal and you-defriended-me-how-could-you?
/r/seduction26/07/11 02:25 AM
9

I'm a girl, and reading it made my ovaries try to crawl up into my ribcage all "get away get away RUN FOR THE HILLS".
/r/seduction25/07/11 03:47 PM
16

Holy shit this guy is omega.
/r/seduction25/07/11 02:22 PM
3

Hmm. Could it be an extreme example of "I'm not that kind of girl"? It does sound like her background might be super-conservative if her dad and sister were waiting in the car for you to bring her back.
/r/seduction22/07/11 06:52 PM
2

Have you checked out http://www.reddit.com/r/pickup4dykes/ ? It's kind of dead, but there's some good information in there too.
/r/seduction22/07/11 08:44 AM
1

Nope, that's part of why it sucks when dumb people tell you to just get over it etc. Hm. It sounds to me like you are just in the grieving process of your relationship. It's not oneitis/obsession/etc, it's just that you are hurt on the inside and it's going to take a while before it goes away. Think of it as a wound that noone else can see (I know I know, sounds horribly emo) and treat it accordingly. It seems to me that trying to date while you're still in this phase is rather like exercising w…
/r/seduction21/07/11 01:51 AM
1

I think that's pretty normal, if you had a really bad breakup after a very long relationship. It takes a while to get past that kind of hurt. And no no, I was wondering if you're feeling this soullessness outside of the dating scene as well. I.e can you interact normally and have empathy with your friends and it's only something that happens when you're in the dating scene, or is it something that happens in any socialization?
/r/seduction21/07/11 01:09 AM
2

I didn't know you were obsessing over her. My reply was based on your original post of a bad breakup followed by "feeling soulless" -> it did not sound like you were having any fun at all and were just following the motions. Full disclosure that might lead you to ignore my advice: I'm a married monogamous woman who's just lurked in the seddit/PUA community for a while. Other posters here may have very different advice. All that said, given the fact that you are able to have fun but just can't fe…
/r/seduction20/07/11 06:29 PM
2

Yep! The fact that you're still able to have fun, though, tells me it's not quite as bad as your original post made me think.
/r/seduction20/07/11 06:23 PM
4

Basically you've gone through such a highly stressed and emotionally vulnerable and emotionally turmoil filled time that your emotional battery's run low. You need time to recharge in order to be healthy. The way you dehumanize others when engaging with them is a telltale sign. You subconsciously feel you can't afford to extend yourself and give/open up to others, hence why interactions end up feeling so shallow.
/r/seduction20/07/11 05:49 PM
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Yeeeeep. Sounds like you have a bit of depression/emotional burnout going on. I think you should keep from dating for a while, so as to avoid wasting both your own and their time.
/r/seduction20/07/11 05:39 PM
1

Specifically this part: "Non-monogamy, not to sound to polyanna about it (and, yes, that misspelling is intentional, people (they all are!)), should come from a place of abundance, WE, not a place of desperation. It should add something to your primary relationship, and strengthen the sexual bond you share with your primary partner, not paper over cracks."
/r/seduction20/07/11 06:57 AM
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Oneitis = putting them on a pedestal/one true love with no equal/I could never find anyone better. Healthy relationship = this person is the bees knees and makes me very happy, but is a flawed human being just like myself and any other.
/r/seduction20/07/11 05:03 AM
6

Have you considered changing social groups to one where you'd find the conversation to be stimulating?
/r/seduction20/07/11 01:27 AM
1

Hrmmm. Could it be that her poor English made her misunderstand what Y was going on about, and then the coin finally dropped before your date?
/r/seduction19/07/11 06:19 AM
2

Cheers to that! :D
/r/seduction18/07/11 06:42 PM
4

Excellent idea. Besides, even if you don't get with anyone that way you'll be more limber from it. Win all around!
/r/seduction18/07/11 06:08 PM
11

I'm going to have to echo the others. The fact that you were willing to go to that effort to make the date => some part of her brain went "he's too eager!" => you found out early on how flaky and rude she if there's even a hint of non-uber-alpha about a guy => count your blessings that you found out about it this early and not, say, a year into the relationship like some poor bastards.
/r/seduction18/07/11 05:36 PM
1

Puzzles But isn't this just the abundance mentality rephrased and in a coarser form? If you already know you have options there's no need to risk upsetting your whole relationship -- assuming you are monogamously inclined -- by having an actual mistress. You'll just be secure in the knowledge that if the relationship ends you can easily find another just as good.
/r/seduction17/07/11 10:41 PM
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Yeah, that makes me even more suspicious. I'd wonder if your gossip-source didn't intentionally try to sour things right off the bat, just because. I.e the gay remark was much more innocent than how she told it to you. And aha, now I see! Yeah, it sounds like you got her on the defensive. Kind of understandable if you go on my theory above, though if she really hadn't meant anything she would've gone 'No, <explanation>'. Hm. Anyway, it's a bummer that happened to you. Next time Mrs Gossip tries …
/r/seduction17/07/11 07:12 AM
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I'm not parsing this part. What does "then responded negatively about how I was looking at her" mean? It all sounds a bit immature. So you come up in conversation, she says something about thinking you're gay, and then someone decides that it's a great idea to go tell you that because...? A mature person would've gone 'Oh you got that wrong' or the like and never mentioned it to you. Because really, what good is supposed to come out of gossiping like that?
/r/seduction17/07/11 06:51 AM
1

That total blowout.. I'm wondering if they were talking about something serious as in a loved one died recently or the like. That's the only reasonable thing I can think of for that kind of behavior.
/r/seduction16/07/11 10:42 PM
7

"laid the most succulent kiss on her forehead" had me laughing out loud for real. Write more! :D
/r/seduction16/07/11 08:10 PM
1

Nice work! :D Hm. Reading that you have had problems with LTR in the past, have you read http://www.marriedmansexlife.com/ ? Most of his stuff (as per the name) focuses on married guys who are so deep in beta mode that they're not getting any sex any longer, but he has a lot of good overall advice for LTR.
/r/seduction16/07/11 05:00 PM
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Hrm. Did you happen to give him the impression you wanted a relationship? Obviously he's still thinking you're cool or he wouldn't be contacting you every other day even though you never contact him first.
/r/seduction15/07/11 07:58 PM
2

Female redditor here, slightly belated response but. I don't call anybody a slut or a whore or whatsit. I'm a pretty private individual and so I don't consider who is humping who how frequently any of my beeswax. It also makes me uncomfortable to link having sex with something bad.
/r/seduction15/07/11 06:27 PM
1

How did you act beta?
/r/seduction15/07/11 02:26 AM
3

There's a pun about motorboating in here somewhere..
/r/seduction14/07/11 11:09 AM
1

I posted my question in RelationshipsPlus, if you have any advice I'd appreciate it! :D
/r/seduction13/07/11 11:20 PM
2

Oooooh! Thank you for this! I was debating posting a 'LTR Game For Married Women?' question here, but I'll shoot that over there instead. You rock, thank you! :D adds to her frontpage
/r/seduction13/07/11 10:08 PM
2

And so the conversation goes full circle back to religion.
/r/seduction13/07/11 01:52 AM
1

I think that specific approach is awesome. Ee, romantic! You will also win more fellow-human-being-not-creepster points if you somehow manage to throw in nerves, like you are worried that she is a potential psycho. I think most any woman would have sympathy for that, so her shields would be lowered further. And you've of course never done this before yadayada shucks ma'am I'm just an innocent country boy.. Err, what were we talking about?
/r/seduction13/07/11 12:56 AM
2

I absolutely did not mean to sound like there's no way. :( I meant my comments as just more being impressed that the OP and other guys are even trying this. I generally try to avoid immediately posting what comes first to my mind, after becoming aware of just how active a rationalization hamster I do have. If you scroll down the comments you'll see I did think of one opener, i.e making the HB laugh. Do you think that's bad advice for a guy?
/r/seduction13/07/11 12:16 AM
1

I'm actually a 300 lbs trucker living in my mom's basement. Shh.
/r/seduction13/07/11 12:13 AM
2

... sudden realization one can not slam door and lock it on the internet ...! dawning horror D: Uhm. Look! Over in that other subreddit! They're giving away free temple garments! deletes account
/r/seduction13/07/11 12:13 AM
2

One thought occurred to me as I was off working. There is one way to crack through that public street armor. If someone'd make me laugh, my guard would be lowered even if just a little. I mean laugh out loud funny, though, so you need to have a really killer joke or something else that's hilarious. I'd be more likely to see that person as a person rather than a potential threat.
/r/seduction12/07/11 11:39 PM
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Us married women can learn too. :D Oh! And I suspect you already know of this but http://www.marriedmansexlife.com/
/r/seduction12/07/11 10:37 PM
1

Yes, exactly! Because my own experience has been that nine out of ten people who try and stop me in the street are some kind of creepster, and the tenth is usually a tourist. So yes, it takes a helluva lot of nerve as well as some very very strong "I am a nice normal human being" social work. .. I think even then I'd expect Amway or something. Damn big city paranoia.
/r/seduction12/07/11 09:52 PM
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You get kudos just for trying. Really, from my (female) perspective trying to hit me up when I'm walking along the street in a big city is like you trying to get across flowing lava. My shields are way way high, I'm prepared for anything from getting mugged to being approached by ye-random-creepy-cultists. Flirting's so not on the list, even if I wasn't married. Now if you're in a small town and it's a nice day and your HB's just out doing errands and enjoying the sunshine, much easier.
/r/seduction12/07/11 07:46 PM
2

Ah, she sees you as boyfriend material! You need to get out of that box. I'm not knowledgable enough in seduction technique to offer a cure, though.
/r/seduction12/07/11 08:05 AM
3

For seduction in LTR go and read http://www.marriedmansexlife.com/ -- yeah, his focus is on marriages that have more or less bombed, but read through his blog from the start and you'll find all kinds of overall LTR improvements using PUA techniques.
/r/seduction11/07/11 10:47 PM
0

sends you cookies for being awesome
/r/seduction11/07/11 07:46 PM
2

Huzzah! :D And yay for bonding over etiquette!
/r/seduction11/07/11 07:45 PM
2

Yeah, I figured the "Remember the origin of the term, from knights" would be misconstrued as that. But I was too sleepy to bother editing it to something clearer, and my point came across as I hoped. :D Ah, the anger at having a door opened for you. I never understood that. But extremists of either kind can get kind of silly, like men who get angry if I hold a door open for them. Can't we all just get along and enjoy others being polite? :(
/r/seduction11/07/11 05:03 PM
0

You got it! You're doing it because it's what you feel is right.
/r/seduction11/07/11 04:59 PM
1

It's mostly a matter of attitude. It's a bit late in the evening for me right now so I'm sorry if my answer is fuzzy, but really it comes down to that. Your tone and your body language. It's like how showing someone respect can vary from subservient to a meeting of two equals, if you follow. And I'm so sleepy I don't even know if this example is useful or just me babbling, but. One of the hottest dates I ever had back in college started because the guy swept me off my feet in a very bold, romant…
/r/seduction11/07/11 07:42 AM
4

Speaking as a woman, chivalry can be pretty damn hot if done properly. Basically, you're treating her like a lady, someone to be protected, and you're asserting control. Remember the origin of the term, from knights, i.e aristocratic soldiers. You're showing your value as a man who knows proper manners and etiquette, as well as someone who is strong and can defend her.
/r/seduction11/07/11 06:50 AM
1

It doesn't sound like there's anything to work out. She has issues with commitment. She is obviously attracted to you, but odds are she will continue randomly breaking things off whenever and wherever. I'd normally tell you to break it off totally, but.. Offer her an open relationship, see how she responds.
/r/seduction11/07/11 06:40 AM
1

I've been all over, but I would most highly recommend Denmark, Norway, Holland, Belgium. They're just nice and friendly. I won't share any stories, but I think you'll have a nice time. :D
/r/seduction11/07/11 03:30 AM
1

They'll probably think you're pretty fine too.
/r/seduction11/07/11 03:29 AM
2

Indeed!
/r/seduction11/07/11 01:19 AM
3

Try European countries where English isn't the main language.
/r/seduction11/07/11 12:52 AM
1

Of course it works both ways. I think in general the basic concept of romantic mystery can be boiled down to all of us still being curious monkeys. We chase the elusive, we get bored by the known.
/r/seduction09/07/11 07:39 AM
1

What everyone else said. Plus just saying you're busy = mystery = female catnip. For all we women know, you might be skiing down a mountain backwards while shooting Russian spies. cues up Bond music
/r/seduction08/07/11 09:46 PM
6

Hah! HB8 got interested because you stopped chasing (however slowly and nicely casual you were about it) and she realized you were walking away. Also damn you, now I want bubble tea.
/r/seduction08/07/11 06:45 PM
1

Try less meatmarket-y social spots. Cafes, bookstores, music stores, libraries, farmer's markets etc. Basically go for places where all kinds of people have reason to mingle. The reason the majority of girls who aren't after sex end up homely is because they aren't after sex. Hence, why bother being attractive when they don't actually want to attract anyone? It makes sense when you think about it. :-) What you want is the female equivalent of yourself: a girl who isn't after sex but still wants …
/r/seduction06/07/11 06:51 AM
2

So don't go that far and don't go after girls who are after sex. It's entirely possible to do PUA as part of regular social stuff. Here: http://www.marriedmansexlife.com/
/r/seduction06/07/11 06:29 AM
1

.. Now I'm even more puzzled. That sounds like it should be a source of attraction! Hrm.
/r/seduction06/07/11 04:35 AM
3

It's summertime. Take her on a picnic!
/r/seduction06/07/11 03:06 AM
2

Speaking as a woman, guys who are upbeat and laugh a lot are pretty sexy. It's a show of confidence, IMO, as long as it's not the 'desperate court jester' type which it does not sound like you fall into. So I'm not sure that'd be the reason why you're bombing, unless there's more to it?
/r/seduction06/07/11 02:28 AM
3

It depends on the girl. Personally I wouldn't be bothered by silence unless you didn't talk to me for a week-ish. Unless there was an argument! But really, if you just had a regular conversation with her I don't see that you should feel forced to. But why don't you text her that you want to talk in person?
/r/seduction04/07/11 02:49 AM
1

Kissing was too emotionally intimate = felt like cheating whereas groping etc didn't cross that barrier for her. Her silence speaks volumes, meaning exactly what you said: she wouldn't. If I may don my armchair psychologist hat for a moment, I think she is still in love with her boyfriend but whatever's got their relationship in such turmoil has her feeling resentful. But not quite resentful enough to full on cheat on him while sober. She'll probably continue doing this little dance with you unl…
/r/seduction04/07/11 01:47 AM
1

DHV = display of high value. I.e what do you bring to the table? What makes you rock?
/r/seduction02/07/11 05:59 AM
2

"This user restricts their profile to OkCupid members only." = no advice from me. :(
/r/seduction02/07/11 03:17 AM
1

I thought that paper was about the more marked the cupid's bow the more likely they were to orgasm?
/r/seduction01/07/11 04:16 AM
2

I'd say you have a pretty good shot at her. I'd only make sure it is the end of her relationship + booze that made her break down instead of something more permanent.
/r/seduction28/06/11 02:18 AM
2

As a married, monogamous woman I second this advice. MMSL is pure awesome.
/r/seduction27/06/11 01:40 AM
1

Some of them were, some weren't. I tend to go more by what a guy's face looks like than his body as far as attractiveness goes.
/r/seduction24/06/11 06:14 PM
2

Sounds like you've gotten stuck in a habit of not coming on to her because that was how you had to act in the past. So you have a bit of a mental block to overcome. Try easing yourself into it. Throw in some casual flirting of the friendly teasing variety.
/r/seduction24/06/11 04:31 AM
9

Speaking as a 5'10" tall woman who's dated short guys, it's not the height but how you carry yourself.
/r/seduction23/06/11 09:56 PM
1

How about 'Challenge accepted. Tomorrow night, bite to eat at X followed by Y at Z'.
/r/seduction23/06/11 09:53 PM
3

This. If she's not looking, don't bother: there's plenty more fish in the sea.
/r/seduction23/06/11 09:51 PM
2

Wait until next week and send her something funny. If she really is interested that should be enough of a hook.
/r/seduction23/06/11 09:41 PM
2

How cool is your friend? If HB's 8.5-ness is enough to outweigh her flakiness in your eyes, you could ask your friend to let you know if they're going to hang out again. Then you can do the 'are you stalking me' bit.
/r/seduction23/06/11 09:12 PM
1

Off the top of my sleep-dep'd head, I believe it has to do with the impression of mystery vs openness. I.e a happy face makes you look like a good buddy, a serious face is more open to interpretation => us ladies will have thoughts of James Bond et al rather than 'damn that dude looks like no fun'. Likely also ties into ideas of submission vs dominance. Big happy smile = I am no threat. Serious face = I might be a threat, you never know. There might be an exception in there for a wolfy type of s…
/r/seduction23/06/11 11:19 AM
1

Speaking as a girl. It can be a turn off if it's something creepy, so be careful with your sense of humor there, but in general it means nothing or can be a little bit of an extra plus if it's clever. Punny (pervyhobbitfancier) or obviously nonsensically random like your cat walked over your keyboard (kjertkjerkjt) or you just strung a row of things together (appleblueboatchicago) would be one way to go.
/r/seduction23/06/11 02:45 AM
2

I second this. Body language always wins.
/r/seduction23/06/11 02:33 AM
3

Time and training or therapy. You should be able to successfully train your mind away from that kind of worry by just charging ahead over and over and over again. Eventually your subconscious will catch up to the fact that there's no danger involved, and your anxiety should gradually go away.
/r/seduction23/06/11 02:31 AM
1

As long as it's a good bar, socialization should happen pretty much on its own. I.e think pub-vibe rather than skanky beer and angry old men vibe. A lot of the nicer places will also have theme nights a la karaoke/live band/trivia which are great for showing off your talents.
/r/seduction23/06/11 02:22 AM
1

As far as dating site photos go, you might find this article useful: http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/ In general though, a profile shot (look away from the camera) with a serious face against an interesting background while wearing something nice but basic ought to do ya. Or a truly spectacular shot of you doing something cool a la scuba diving/wind surfing/saving puppies from a burning building while riding Sleipner should do it. As long as you're not smili…
/r/seduction23/06/11 02:18 AM
2

I like the 'are you stalking me?' option too. And if she's NOT there then you can do the texting of 'Drinks at X time at Y bar' option.
/r/seduction22/06/11 11:25 PM
1

It could also be that you are subconsciously trying to make sure you do NOT fall for girls. Hence suddenly putting them up on pedestals that are obviously impossible, ensuring that they crash and burn in your eyes. The mind can be irritatingly dumb about these things.
/r/seduction21/06/11 11:57 PM
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