On "Cheating"

Coz7 · 2011-07-17T22:40:08+00:00

For me it's only cheating if you hide it. So one night lays, multiple open relationships, multiple fuck buddies, multiple friends with benefits are all good.

On the other hand NO ONE can answer this question but you. It's a morality issue, you have your own morals.

ImKumarYo · 2011-07-17T22:29:09+00:00

That guy sounds like an insecure douchebag but he does have a point about how women react to you having options. Personally, I sleep with multiple women without cheating. Problem solved.

2011-07-17T23:41:25+00:00

Don't cheat. Be honest.

Edit: These two are not mutually exclusive.

l3fth4nd · 2011-07-17T23:28:56+00:00

I didn't read the whole article, but I think the idea is to have the option of being with other girls, not necessarily actively taking advantage of it. Cheating sucks, don't do it.

2011-07-18T01:04:21+00:00

For me, cheating is impossible unless you are in a committed monogamous relationship. If I have five different fuckbuddies, I am under no obligation to tell any of them about the others (or even a one night stand I might have). Similarly, women are under no obligation to tell me how many guys they are fucking . . . And I could care less.

At the same time, don't lead a girl on. I usually disqualify myself as 'bf material' early on by explaining i how I won't have time for an actual gf for a few years, due to grad school. No expectations = lots of fun for everyone

rhicks21 · 2011-07-18T20:05:35+00:00

in my opinion if you're single, or in an open kind of relationship, or really anything without that "boyfriend/girlfriend" label, any amount of girls at any certain time is A-OK! if you're in a relationship, talking and flirting innocently, to keep your game sharp, or something like that is ok, but acting on it constantly isn't really cool in my opinion. it is always good to have options, unless you want to be 100% invested in your SO.

nonatal · 2011-07-17T22:41:13+00:00

Puzzles But isn't this just the abundance mentality rephrased and in a coarser form? If you already know you have options there's no need to risk upsetting your whole relationship -- assuming you are monogamously inclined -- by having an actual mistress. You'll just be secure in the knowledge that if the relationship ends you can easily find another just as good.

InferiousX · 2011-07-18T10:38:56+00:00

IMO you can have options and still be in a good monogamous relationship. Because that's all they are. Options.

Having the inner confidence to know that you can go meet someone new automatically removes a lot of the insecurities in guys that end up sabotaging relationships.

You have the "option" of going and meeting someone new. But you don't because you choose to be with the woman you're with. This is a very liberating and powerful mentality.

2011-07-18T15:31:49+00:00

Cheating isn't as bad as it's made out to be. It's a crappy symptom of monogamy and unfortunate for those who subscribe to monogamy. It's a burden for those who are attractive to constantly turn down forward attention for decades just because they are "married".

blackdevildisco · 2011-07-17T23:38:49+00:00

Yeah, having options means sleeping with multiple women, or at least knowing you could on short notice.

(If I were in a monogamous relationship, for example – not that I think I ever will be – I would still do approaches, get phone numbers, and even have platonic dates, to keep my options open and my skills sharp.)

Cheating is bullshit, as far as I'm concerned. You shouldn't need to be dishonest to get laid, especially when more and more women are open to NSA sex, FWB situations, or open relationships to begin with.

Title	On "Cheating"
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Date	July 17, 2011 10:08 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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