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Question for BluePill and people on the fencenopbeentheredonethat/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 06:17 PM
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Discussionnopbeentheredonethat/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 07:14 PM
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nopbeentheredonethat/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/14 01:42 PM
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It is not negative, it is just the nature of the beast. Either we accept it and work with it or we suffer the consequence.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/15 05:48 PM
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I'm going to give you my best advice from the perspective of a man who as been married for more than 20 years. Thing WILL get better once you start doing thing for yourself. Gym membership secured. Good, do that and follow through. Make no exception for no one about your gym time and do your routine with discipline. Your wife, boss will try their best to get in the way at first and take you away from your personal time BUT you have to carry trough your objectives. This will bring your spirit up.…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/15 01:29 AM
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Being a father myself to 4 boys (two teen and 2 tween) I can tell you that the best you can do for them is show some spine! Be someone they can respect. The only way you can do that is to respect yourself first! I understand that this is a hard decision but you have to respect yourself if you want your boys to look up to you and not down on you. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 05:15 PM
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Get over it! This type of PC crap bring nothing of value to the conversation. We are not here to please or to be nice with each-other.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 11:18 AM
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No fucking shit things are harder. But so is being upper management. So is building an organization. So is being a leader. It's easy being a boy without any real responsibilities beside looking after your own ass! It's hard to be a good husband and father. It take work and commitment!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/15 01:22 AM
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I have a copy close by for my sons when they turn 18. :D
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/15 03:01 PM
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Read up! Love: When Women Turn Into Beta Males Just enjoy the ride my friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 01:55 AM
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We have discussions about red pill topics on occasion (I try to get her to see the matrix) with varying amounts of success, mostly because I find it stimulating to talk to her. This is really fun to do. For example, in response to texting her that some ladies were checking out my buddy and I at the gym, she once responded "How positively dreadful for me :P" Well you better up your game then. Since my wife also know the "playbook" I found out that the best way to go about it is true action.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 07:31 PM
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^ This is pretty much where I'm at right now with my marriage. Still some more work to do, but It's going in the right direction. (22 years marriage 5 kids 6 month MRP) I would not have it any other way now.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 06:10 PM
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This is why The RedPill Primer for boys exist. My oldest son liked it very much and the younger one will be expose to it when they come of age.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/15 04:01 PM
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Lucky for you you don't have any kids with this woman, so your option are still open. I love this woman and really believe that she could be a good wife if I succeed in getting her in line and making myself a respectable man along the way You know what she is not the only woman out there. You REALLY need to kill this onetis of your before you decide to do anything permanent. The bigger question for you is this: Do you want to continue a relationship with this woman? If you met this person today …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/15 02:54 PM
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Indeed. Going against a woman reproductive imperative is like trying to convince a brick wall to be soft.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 12:46 PM
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From women in love from the RedPill side bar we ought to realized that a woman’s love is contingent upon our capacity to maintain that love in spite of a woman’s hypergamy. By order of degrees, hypergamy will define who a woman loves and who she will not, depending upon her own opportunities and capacity to attract it. To sum this up, two thing. She has to see you as the best she can do for herself, and she as to like it in order for herself to be happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 12:42 PM
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Congratulation Dad! "After the cycle, attempts can be made to start getting pregnant although it may be advisable to wait for the first normal menstrual period after you stop taking your pills," he says. But this precaution is not essential. Some women conceive within a week or two after stopping birth control pills. Before I had my vasectomy I barely just had to look at my wife the wrong way to get her pregnant! If she WANT (Need) another kids nothing will change her mind. Either you step up or…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/15 06:05 PM
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"I can be as awful as I want and you can't do a fucking thing about it" card. Nope, Set boundary my friend! She do not have to be the most nice and agreeable during this time but she as to respect you. When she go over the line you have to make your position clear. You: "No you don't talk to me this way...." Her " I can be as awful as I want and you can't do a fucking thing about it" You " Grab your stuff and go out of the house (no contact, no phone!) " You have to make it clear to her that you…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/15 02:42 PM
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No exception, no excuse! You can't go to the gym because reason X, Y, Z (I live in a pretty remote place so....) Yes you can absolutely work out at home. Build yourself something like this if you have to. Buy the equipment that you need, and do it! Your just starting out? Get yourself a pull up bar and a weight vest, and be creative. You will love yourself for doing it. Your kids (especially if you have boys) will really get into fitness with you. I can't wait to build my power cage with my two …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/15 12:51 PM
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those are a must for the side bar!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/15 03:15 AM
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Look I could explain it for you, but I cannot understand it FOR YOU! You have to make an actual effort you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/15 07:59 PM
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You know what go read some of the side bar material. Your commenting on theory you don't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/15 07:51 PM
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He is a fucking Billionaire.... Now do you have a real question?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/15 07:30 PM
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This is great advice!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/15 06:49 PM
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Her attraction to you depend on only one thing. How she perceive you. For her, part of you are still the same old guy she use to know. Maybe some DREAD would be a good prescription for this kind of situation. Also how are you on the "outcome independence" front?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/15 06:47 PM
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Recently I am at the point where I don't really give a shit. Good! now we are getting somewhere! Outcome independence is the most important mindset you will need to be able to deal with her. She is super worried about me or anyone who would follow any advice on here. I have had shit test after shit test and am quickly getting my shit together like never before. Good!! Like I said any advice on tricking a woman who knows all the tricks would be great! Big mistake here! This is not about tricking …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/15 01:08 PM
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Good for you!!!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 06:58 PM
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Ok she is pregnant and an emotional wreck? That's just the way the world work. Now what can we do as men during this important period in any married men life. Set boundary and take initiative (lead), and hit the gym. Just doing those 3 thing will set a solid foundation for the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 06:06 PM
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It's like watching a train wreck in slow motion. You know how bad it's going to hit and you are powerless to do anything about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 06:01 PM
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So very true.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 03:07 PM
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Question: What does your wife think of all this? Maybe she can be an allied? or not?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 12:16 PM
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If your looking for a good one on BDSM look up "New Sensation- Submission Of Emma Marx" It's a lots more fun to watch than 50 shades.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 03:02 AM
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I certainly have received an abundance of the latter since I first crossed over to TBP to try to talk some sense into them 2 months ago I hope you learn your lesson :D
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/15 01:35 AM
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We even went to marriage counselling, where the counsellor and my wife tried to convince me that we needed more “date nights” and that I needed “to help her more around the house,” whatever that means. I'm sure that's stuff really work /s Just go for it life is short!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/15 02:18 PM
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This is great! She is looking forward to a fun and loving relationship with you! This is very positive. In her own way she see herself being happy and fulfill with the freedom that you provide for her. You set the frame and she is running with it. Have fun. Looking together in the same direction is a great way to move forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/15 04:25 AM
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It's a great text with a lot of hyper link that would be hard to share without all the context. I don't want to tell you something that would not work for your couple. So I will ask a you a few question first. Do you have any kind of discussion with your wife about the difference between gender? Or about relationship and intimacy? In our home we never shy away from a good discussion on those topic so my experience is much closer to BluePillProfessor. If you want to start an interesting discussio…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 06:41 PM
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The trick I try my best to be at is this. Lead like a good father. A good father will lead and be the dominant force in the relationship, but he loves his wife and his family. He care about them and he love them. It's Ok to show your loving and caring side. You don't do it from a frame of submission but because you care and love your wife. It's an equilibrium and it does take time to find the right balance.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 02:41 PM
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10 day oh boy......
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 01:28 PM
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Your probably right. But she does take him for granted, And I might even say that she even do not take him seriously. He has been focusing on himself for a reasonable amount of time (According to him almost 6 month). I think he can step up his game.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 01:14 PM
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One of the things she said she wanted was texts. Which sucks for me, because I'm busy at work all day. I don't have time to remember that crap. So I wrote a program that I load up a database of sexty / love messages to her, and at random times in the morning WTF!!! That made my day!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 12:46 PM
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How does she react to dread..... She is taking you for granted. Applying Dread would be my next move.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 12:38 PM
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I got a frustrated yes from her(meaning that duty sex is imminent) and then I said, "that's why I didn't want to have sex for a few weeks." I then kissed her cheek and went to sleep. I felt good that I said no to bad sex at first, but I also realized that I DIDN'T get what I wanted. In your situation, right now, take whatever you can. When the sex get more regular as your game improve, the duty sex will naturally transform into something better. But the first step in all of this is to have sex! …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/15 07:06 PM
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Nahh you really got lucky. It's the nature of the beast. This is a translation of one of Jean de Lafontaine famous fable So great is stubborn nature's force. In mockery of change, the old Will keep their youthful bent. When once the cloth has got its fold, The smelling-pot its scent, In vain your efforts and your care To make them other than they are. To work reform, do what you will, Old habit will be habit still. Nor fork nor strap can mend its manners, Nor cudgel-blows beat down its banners. …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/15 04:34 PM
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Interesting dynamic you have there, Very stoic and rational. Mine is on the other side of the spectrum. No wonder I had a hard time understanding your dynamic. I'm so use to the irrationality that I can now use it to my advantage. (English is not my first language)
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/15 04:21 PM
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Pretty much everything else is negotiable, but the idea of our marriage absolutely is not. In other relationships, this is different. For me, this is an absolute. We have something similar between me and my wife about infidelity. I value my marriage to her too much for her to screw around with it. I hope you are aware of this big red button you are carrying on your back. Because when the shit it the fan (And it will, it always does) she will fucking press it!
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/15 03:49 PM
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My poor friend. We know that women lives theirs lives true the prism of theirs emotion. And when you use emotion in an argument, like they do, you will fight dirty and go for the emotional trigger of the other person. So yes it is possible that your wife use this tactic on you to test your resolves and strength of character. When she use something like this this marriage isn't going to work....... You can use agree and amplify OR if your really good and can use emotional arguments with impact (T…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/15 02:36 PM
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You have the right to be offended and we all have the right to not give a shit about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/15 03:53 PM
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The sub is public, with 100 000 user so sure your going to see a bit of everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/15 12:15 PM
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It would be a lot more interesting discussing this with you if you actually took the time to understand the basic concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/15 03:27 AM
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No that's not dread game. Dread game use the "preselection" female instinct to trigger attraction. You should REALLY read up on the TRP material. The RedPill Primer for boys is a good place to start.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/15 02:53 AM
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If you can actually pull this off I see a very long future for both of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/15 12:14 AM
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"treat women like children and threaten to end relationships because the man doesn't get his way." Nuance... my friend. The "treat women like children" advise is sound when they ARE behaving like little brats. threaten to end relationships because the man doesnt get his way This one here show how much you need to actually read the side bar material and at least try to understand it. You don't threaten to end the relationship, you end it when you see that your getting nowhere or that she as diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/15 06:11 PM
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Oh yeah !
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 06:03 PM
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Her: "well, we're having sex, so we can close it after we're done." Me: "Oh. Well you didn't do what I said, so...no." And I rolled over. Oh Crap! banging my head on the keyboard! The proper response would had been Me: "Damn right we are having sex............" At some point you need to keep that ball rolling, you know? Don't expect perfection or even full on cooperation, just do it FFS.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 05:39 PM
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Oh...... I think you already know what you HAVE to do to protect your financial sanity. Do you fear her reaction when you effectively take control?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/15 06:03 PM
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Yep been there done that......and fix it. If your wife is a SAHM then she SHOULD be doing most of the house work so that both of you can relax when you have time together. It is not fair for you to spend all your week-end cleaning the house + all the "man" traditional work. That will leave you very resentful and exhausted! I had a epiphany one day after my wife when to take care of her grandmother for a month. I had a full time job + all the house work + 4 BOYS. Guess what? My house was clean an…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/15 02:47 PM
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It's going to go faster than you think. I was pretty surprise my self in my case. Just continue what your doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/15 07:54 PM
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You got it! Keep the course. the next few week will be very interesting for both of you. I see a lot of "sexy" time in your future my friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/15 07:30 PM
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Because women (And you probably know this already) use sex as a power tools in a relationship. By dismissing this type of comment, like OP did you render her treat useless. This piss you off because in your blue pill day something similar to that happen with your wife. (Your not alone) being use to jump true all kind of hoops to get sex was the norm in our "bluePill" days. This of course build a lot of resentment over the years.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/15 02:51 PM
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You have to make a stand. Tell your daughter that your fiancé is not going anywhere and that she better get use to it! Same for your fiancé. That's it, really nothing more nothing less. Better do this while they are in the same room arguing with each other, for impact, and leave the room! I did something similar in the past (My mom and my wife) it worked pretty well.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/15 02:45 PM
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My 14 Yo is very glad I showed him.
/r/TheRedPill05/02/15 02:47 AM
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the future of TheRedPill on Reddit Download this The RedPill Primer for boys It's great material for teenager boys.
/r/TheRedPill04/02/15 04:41 PM
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Is she aware of this?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/15 06:25 PM
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Just a quick question when you get married is it your parent that will make the choice of your future bride for you? And how is that going to work long term with your present LTR?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/15 05:59 PM
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When she act like that you have to make a stand by being more distant and demonstrating that she is with you for the ride and not the opposite.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/15 05:58 PM
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what is acceptable by her standards You need to change your own perspective. She is not your mother. She is not your judge. Go with what acceptable by your standards and own it!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/15 02:35 PM
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Just keep it simple, no stress.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 07:15 PM
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edit: I've seen guys say to be more beta during pregnancy, but that's confused me. Look in the last stage of pregnancy you don't push for everything. And just after the birth it's even worst.... BUT You are not powerless. What you can do right NOW is build a solid foundation for the rest of your marriage. By setting boundary and taking initiative. YES she need a lot of "comfort" at this stage and for the next few month, but she as to respect you. You are setting the tone, You have to take initia…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 06:15 PM
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In this particular instance if Gentleman needs me to be more explicit than telling him and behaving interested, If that's what he is use to then why would he think otherwise? If your gentleman is use to a certain pattern and you change the rule of the game without telling him he will continue to play by to old rule. Logic isn't it? Question is he aware of the new rule of engagement for sex??
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/15 02:29 PM
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2) Let him decide the sexual schedule and do not ask or physically initiate. Do not take the lead in suggesting naughty ideas, activities, etc... No surprise blow jobs or aggressively mounting him. (Explicitly not okay with Surrendered Wife) I'm afraid that if he is not aware that he as "carte blanche" with you he will interpret this passiveness on your part as you not being interested, If he is use to you being more assertive in your sexual need. So just make this clear and you will be able to …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/15 12:59 PM
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I like this K.I.S.S (Keep it simple and stupid) kind of advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 12:46 PM
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Before giving you any advice I need to understand your couple dynamic. Does she respect you in your house? Does she still nag you? Who wear the pant in your house? etc... Have you made any change in the couple power dynamic lately?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 12:37 PM
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This I never know how to deal with this mainly because I am so scared of rocking the boat or hurting her. This is the key to your problem. You need to stop caring about hurting "her feeling" when you are doing nothing wrong. That's how she manipulate you. She use her "feeling" to trow you off. The problem with that is that her "feeling" are serving a purpose and that purpose is control. So stop to give so much importance to it. When she use her feeling to hurt yours, does she care, does that sto…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/15 04:28 PM
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Man keep it up, That's a lot of improvement all at once! We are here for advise and support. Don't hesitate to come back. Don't expect perfection and be ready for some failure. Just never give up it will get better.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/15 04:12 PM
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Indeed but they don't need to know about ALL the details.... They are boys after all. It is more important for boys to understand how the "game" between the sexes really work.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/15 04:04 PM
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It is pretty good indeed. Since we don't have any SEX ED where we live I took on the task of educating my sons on the subject. Boys do not need to know about ALL the detail of the physical plumbing like girl do. But they do need to know about the basic rule of attraction and how the game between the sex is played.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/15 07:01 PM
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but now I've tended to try and show her the reasoning behind my decisions Bhahahahaha! Are serious? Trying to reason with a women in a fit of rage is just plainly asking for it! (I have been married for more than 20 years.To a women who use to have huge fit of rage, Been there done that) Your wife is feeling the dread very strongly! That's what going on. Explaining to her how much you are "committed" and not interested in other women will not do it because she won't "feel" it. Some might disagre…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 06:47 PM
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She erupts and screams at the top of her lungs that I think this is funny and she THROWS HER iPad AT ME! She then threw a vase, a coaster, and a TV remote. Ahhh the good old time! Before I say anything I want to ask you first a question. When she trow a fit like that, do you A: Get mad right back at her. B: Stay stoic and unresponsive. C: Plead for forgiveness or acceptance. D: just nope the fuck out of there!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 06:00 PM
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I don't see this being possible in the context of a family with children. Just imagine the look on the face of the little one when mommy is fucking "chad thundercock" while Daddy is on the computer jerking off to porn o_O Or seeing theirs Dad making out with one of mom "friend" while mommy is out hitting the bar scene. Now if a childless married couple want to "explore" this type of thing I don't really care. For me a childless marriage is pretty much just a living arrangement between 2 consenti…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 05:52 PM
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It will also likely result in their expulsion from college, if not a jail sentence, since the TRP definition of "rape" advocated in that primer is considerably more narrow than the legal one in most Western countries. Une chance que le ridicule ne tue pas!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/15 05:43 PM
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That's why in the case of a nice guy friend who is oblivious to any notion of how REAL attraction work The RedPill Primer for boys would be a true revelation. I can say that my oldest teenager is having a lot of fun in high school ;) with this knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/15 05:04 PM
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Good question. In fact without good male role model a young man will believe the "matrix" narrative and genuinely think, that being nice and sensible and a all around nice good guy he will be attractive. We can't really blame them for thinking that because that's the main narrative in our society. Those "chill" guy don't put pussy on a pedestal like the "nice" guy and they don't buy your shit. They have boundary and enough confidence to tell you to go "Fuck off" if you ever to become mean, bitch…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/15 04:28 PM
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The best advice I can give you from experience is that you have to set yourself some priority. Work, Home life, sleep. Keep it simple. You need your sleep more than you think to be able to set boundary and be efficient. Your wife after the kids are born is going to be a tired emotional mess. So you need to be that Rock for her. Forget about your other activity for the time being if you don't have the time, either to be well rested or taking care of your family. Later when the "storm" as pass the…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 03:15 PM
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I second that motion! It summarize the objectives of this sub so well.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 03:03 PM
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If I may. It's all about knowing her strength and weakness. If she is very organize and don't mind doing the "tedious" work of figuring out all the option etc... In the end she has to present it to you, get your input and them YOU decide with her what to get. If she ignore you or keep you in the dark well then your in trouble.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 01:21 PM
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For example, the furnace went down and the next day she had a spreadsheet with 3 options and 3 different models of furnaces, 3 different financing plans all worked out with the monthly payment. This is so like us. Last years we had to change ALL our windows, that was a very expensive investment in our house. While I was at work, for a full two week she contacted a dozen contractor got all the info, price model etc.... You know all the gruelling and tedious stuff all figure out. Then I made the d…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 01:17 PM
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I agree with a lot of your point. But I have a different perspective on this. A feminine women excels in a role where she has defined expectations from her. This is very important. A lot of men are afraid to set clear expectation because they are afraid of being perceive as a tyrant. But it is extremely important for both party involve that clear expectation of you of her and of her of you be regularly reevaluated as time goes by. This is something that will prevent resentment and misunderstandi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 01:10 PM
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This is an area I'm working on defining more myself. I've failed in creating clear expectations early on, that festered resentment. Well it's better late than never! First figure out what you are comfortable with in order to have a good starter position and go take a long walk with her and address the issue. Are you afraid of her reaction if you give her your expectation??? BTW If you have expectation from her you will have to address also her expectation from you! You know, give a little take a…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 12:42 PM
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Let's keep this simple. Be attractive, turn her on + some level of dread. = Hamster spin (fear of losing the man that turn her on, so why not give him another child to lock down his commitment.) Your welcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 12:36 PM
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From HER perspective the fact that you are not able to "pick up" girl in the native language is kind of a safety for her. (Well he can't go out and pick up girl just like that?) But now that you are getting more and more fluent that safety is fading away in her mind. So yes it was a comfort test but context and body language is everything. Any suggestions for how to respond when you're not sure it's a comfort test or shit test? That's a good question. Keep thing playful at first, Amuse mastery, …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 12:29 PM
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Jenny is actually a freakishly short girl from Peru who took a beating from the ugly stick, but I'm leaving that part out. Dread is all about letting the hamster do the work for you. Subtlety work better than anything else in this matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 12:18 PM
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If you ask him and he propose to split, share some task he will be in a better position to actually do what he as decided himself to do that if it is impose on him. Just my two cent.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/15 05:11 PM
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Those thing take time. I'm sure you know that women cycle as a huge influence on her mood and libido. Noting we can do about it. Beside adapting our game (Beta/Alpha) behaviour to match her needs (Cycle). Now let's start with the most important thing you need to work on in YOUR situation. Her libido/attraction/flirtiness is almost nonexistent, though, and she routinely does things that show that she doesn't fully respect me...which is what brought me to MRP in the first place. This my friend is …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/15 04:41 PM
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Damn Your in a bad situation. You know the saying where there's a will there's a way Well if you don't even desire your wife and don't even see her as a lover anymore I cannot see how this could be good for both of you long term. Anyways Lawyer up and plan your exit.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/15 01:10 PM
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From the outside those little field report look so naive and without much importance. But for us who have been true YEARS of bad interaction and submissive behaviour this stuff show how thing change little by little.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/15 03:51 PM
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Not Canada, they will pursue him there if he is American. Of all the official independent 195 countries on the planet, only Australia, Canada, Czech Republic, El Salvador, Finland, Hungary, Ireland, Netherlands, Norway, Poland, Portugal, Slovak Republic, Switzerland, The United Kingdom, and Northern Ireland have support enforcement treaties with the U.S.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/15 02:49 PM
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However, I don't think she knows how to increase her SMV for me at all. Whenever an opportunity presents itself she just gets sad and stares at the wall. Never flirts. She has no feminine charms (except of course the sex). It's almost like I was (am?) her buddy that she would bone. Which, don't get me wrong I would love the fuckbuddy dynamic except we live together in an exclusive relationship and are engaged. I love this paragraph from you. It tell a lot about the way you see her and the way sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/15 12:56 PM
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This as to be on the side bar!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 04:49 PM
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What I found out for myself is that decades of bad interaction and frustration will play trick on your subconscious. You "might" be in a better place now relationship wise, but the old pattern are still very real in your mind. When I feel angry I try to catch myself (Sometime after the fact) and try to figure out the source of the emotion.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 04:47 PM
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You are very confuse. THIS is not verbal abuse. It's called teasing. Live a little.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 01:59 PM
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The only thing that work for me is focusing on what I want and making that a priority. Accept that the women in your life are there's for the ride and that you are driving your life where you want to go. Just look toward to the future man, and let the past rest.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/15 05:02 PM
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But I didn't realize until nearly a decade into marriage my wife is not my equal. Don't worry He got it. Those thing take some time.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/15 12:49 PM
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I'm not sure dread game will fix that situation. You have no idea how much, setting boundaries and improving yourself can do wonders for a woman like that. Anyways bettering yourself never hurts. Once he finally internalizes the concepts of frame and outcome independence she will turn around 180. If he ever realizes he is to good for that woman, well he will be on is way to a better life anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/15 03:39 PM
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So - do I just wait it out until I am in shape? Setting boundary is very important. It is important for you, for your wife but it is the most important for your OWN kids! "Try" to stay calm and respectful when you do it (You will not able to do this "nicely all the time, I know been there done that) And it is normal and not a big deal. (I guess she does also the same) But by setting new boundary it will make her hamster spin in overdrive. When that happen you can always come here for more help a…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/15 11:42 PM
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Some people/couple are more stoic some more "passionate" If you are in a more stoic situation then a moderate demonstration of emotion will have a big impact. If your couple is more "passionate" in it's interaction then a more stoic display will show of as either weakness or acceptance, compliance. It all depend on how you can handle yourself under a more passionate exchange. Women see life true the prism of theirs emotion and if she do not "feel it" it will not matter what your logical argument…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 06:47 PM
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Oh yeah a incel virgin SJW would be the right flair for a troll.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 12:23 PM
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I I'm jealous of your writing skill. Your analysis is spot on.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 08:16 PM
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did you misunderstand my original post about where they went? Nope and It do not really matter. Because it's only talk and talk is cheap, It could be true or not. Maybe they are just covering for each other, maybe not.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 07:37 PM
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That's what they say to cover their story, is it true??? Do you believe it? Her friend according to you is a 5, maybe a 6 and your wife is a 8.... Do I REALLY have to draw you a picture? The guy in question is a self made millionaire? AWALT Edit WORD
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 07:29 PM
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Damn right she is begging for a reaction! She want to know if her husband is a fucking Beta that can be easily manipulated and with how much she can get away with without consequences. This guy is a young, attractive self made millionaire HELLO!!! Branch swinging at the horizon! Ding, ding, ding. This guy is going out with a 5 and his wife is a 8! Do I REALLY need to draw you a picture??? AWALT!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 07:26 PM
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Look I don't think every time your wife goes out she is having sex with a guy who hits on her. This is not the same thing The girls went back to her friends apartment for about three hours before my wife came home at about 2 am (on a work night!). Answer this please. Would your wife be Ok and only think that "only flirting" happen if you came home at 2 AM from a the apartment of a pretty 24 yo??? Please tell me how she would react? If you don't know just ask her, for shit and giggle. This is not…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 07:14 PM
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Would your wife be Ok if you came home from the apartment of a pretty 24 yo at 2 AM on a work week?? Ask yourself this question. I have been married for 22 years and if my wife pulled a stunt like that on me I would send her back to her mother in a heart beat! Do it and observe her reaction, let her make her case, show that you are not to be mess with and that your commitment as a price. STOP BEING afraid of not being seen as a "nice guy". It's Ok to be an Ass hole in this situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 06:39 PM
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You know what it's ok to be passionate about something like this and let your anger shine! This is not about "losing frame" this is about being royally piss off and emotional! How the hell is she going to take your seriously if you don't show your anger! It's Ok to tell her to pack her bag and even without proof to show her the door. Let her make her case then! Show that you are not the be mess with. Would your wife be Ok if you came home from the apartment of a pretty 24 yo at 2 AM on a work we…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 06:15 PM
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Seriously would your wife be Ok if you came home from the apartment of a pretty 24 yo at 2 AM on a work week?? Men in general are so naive it's pathetic! Wake the fuck up!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 06:10 PM
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Yeah Flipping out is the right answer! Being passive aggressive is not! Showing that you are NOT going to take it in the ass like a good little beta and being rightly piss off is the right thing to do in this situation! Showing anger in this situation is the only "Alpha" move. Showing that your commitment as a price is the only way to be taken seriously. How else is she going to take you seriously if you just ignore this??? You have to show some passion if you want her to "feel" that you care ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 06:04 PM
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However I don't think anything happened other then flirting. Unless your wife has a history of it. Yeah right! Think about it this way. Would your wife be Ok and only think that "only flirting" happen if you came home at 2 AM from a the apartment of a pretty 24 yo??? I think not! You know what? this is not about being insecure, but about setting boundary. So maybe some passionate argument and some justify indignation and hanger is the right thing to do in this situation. Just make it clear that …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 05:54 PM
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You know what I retracted my previous post. Some of us do show a very vulnerable side of themselves when they come here for help. And I think that tolerating BluePill SJW icel virgin, giving advise to married men having serious issue and in need of serious advice would be a VERY BAD IDEAS!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 05:49 PM
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The girls went back to her friends apartment for about three hours before my wife came home at about 2 am (on a work night!). Oh shit. I would really like to be optimistic about this with you..... but that would be very dishonest of me.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 05:10 PM
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RedPillwomen
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/15 01:23 PM
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No unless it's with an Hitachi wand then you are going to turn into a slut in no time!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/15 04:15 AM
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That's life for you. I have 5 kid and since my daughter (20YO) had a little girl we still change diaper..... Children are the gift that keep on giving.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 01:48 AM
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Is that a serious question?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/15 12:51 AM
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Do you think that the reason there are few men in his comments is because men aren't interested in dating advice from a leftist/feminist perspective, and prefer places (like TRP and Seduction) more focused on getting inside a woman's panties? No, men don't care that much about politics, they care about result. They don't care either if the advice given to them make them feel good or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/15 04:02 PM
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I'm more of a big picture kind of person, it's hard to give proper advise when important information is missing. I keep repeating myself but this is so important. Treat her like a lover. Show her that you do desire her, hold her by the hips, hug her and feel her ass at the same time, take the time to kiss her, then go about your day. Do that every day at any time you can. This will change the way she see you from the man that just live with her to her lover.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 03:09 PM
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That's good! So how is the Sex? For some light dread just tell her that some girl at work just keep bumping into you for no good reason..... anyways improvise don't make a big deal out of it and let her imagination run for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 02:58 PM
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Maybe some tips or advice. Like I said it just feels good to talk about it with others that may be in the same situation. Let's start from the beginning. So how your interaction with your wife, do she still respect you? Are you "fit"? Are you active?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 02:55 PM
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Question, are you still fit? Are you still active?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 02:51 PM
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I really don’t know how to approach this impending conversation with her without it blowing up. Me neither... Look it's Ok if she blow up or if you blow up. It's Ok to feel passionate about such important issue. Stop being afraid of a fight! Yes it will get messy (So is having children BTW) The discussion about having a family is something that can make or break a relationship. It cannot be ignore.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 01:47 PM
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This is a good advice my friend. Do treat her as a roommate. That mean that you don't cook for her, you don't do nothing for her anymore. And you start to go out .... alone and have some fun. If you don't have fun it's not important, what is important is that she think you had fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 01:28 PM
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Here's the problem: sex life is still in the doldrums. Try this, it's simple and it will give you a good idea on how she see you has a sexual partner. Start treating her like a lover when you are with her. Grab her by the hips and bring her close to you, when you hug take the time to feel her ass, Grab her from behind for no reason and kiss her behind the neck..... Do those thing when you are around her, at home for no other reason than to show her that you do desire her. If doing that with her …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 01:19 PM
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TL;DR - This is not a joke and my wife wants me to stop putting on muscle or she will be less attracted to me... Bullshit!!! My wife had a little freak out to when I started training. (This was out of character for me so I do understand why she was feeling the "dread" )
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 01:12 PM
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I used to be afraid of that, but I'm fine with that. I have made plans for all those options at it helped me a lot to feel more in control. Well good! Man I think that what your doing is awesome, your mastery of the subject really show in your post.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 12:25 PM
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Wow nothing at all? Never though of recording one of her episode, you know for later? Anyways good luck your a Good man to put up with her behaviour.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 01:52 AM
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I hope for your sake that her "episode" reduce in frequency and in intensity. Does she do any kind of introspection on her own behaviour or is she oblivious to it? Can you address this issue with her (During her good day) without a freak out?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/15 06:39 PM
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Maybe your man is really good at calibrating to your emotions so that it's smooth sailing and you don't even realize you were starting to get emotional. Oh yeah right on the money my friend ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/15 02:36 AM
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Do what we do for our teenager. When they come home from school. We give them a snack and then they are order out of the kitchen!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/15 08:18 PM
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This should be on the side bar!!!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/15 07:19 PM
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Better you tell us that stuff than her!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/15 07:01 PM
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Yep... doing more than that would be a BIG sign of weakness.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/15 06:28 PM
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Stop making diner for the kids and her just for once......... and let her deal with it. Now be ready for a shit storm, that you can now ride with a big shit eating grin on your face!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/15 06:08 PM
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My best advice is to: Carry on and stay calm! Your not perfect, she is no unicorn bla, bla, bla you know the drill. You screw up, you own it and you move on. The worst you can do now is dwell on it and wait for her approbation, you wont get it either way anyway. Don't do anything special beside improving yourself and that's it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/15 06:05 PM
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Let me summarize what BluePiller are saying: Nope, nope, nope avoid debate...... You should try posting this on Twox just for shit and giggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/15 05:50 PM
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I can see that this man (The Pope) as extensive experience dealing with women! /s
/r/TheRedPill19/01/15 12:44 PM
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Maybe I am too focused on her satisfaction... I use to be like that..... Not giving a fuck is win, win for me now.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/15 12:50 AM
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They sell some lockable luggage at Walmart ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/15 12:48 AM
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If I may. Throughout the week you have to interact with your wife like she is your lover, mistress. Yes she lives with you and takes care of the daily life routine. But never forget that she is also your lover. Grab her by the hips, hold her from behind, give her a good kiss etc.... Treat her like someone you desire sexually. Then it will be a lot easier for her to be available for sex with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/15 12:11 AM
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Love is all good and fine BUT Respect is mandatory!
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/15 02:19 AM
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It's a challenge I can say! But it's do able ;) Pro tip: Zinc supplement
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/15 07:33 PM
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Holy shit man that last sentence was scary to type. You know what yes it's scary but it is necessary! And yes do talk to her about your expectation, this is the only way to go if you want to be fair.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/15 07:26 PM
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Part speaking from experience and RP on this one. Having a family is VERY time demanding for ANY woman. And the desire to be there for your children when they grow up is a very real thing. Knowing that, career wise I would strongly advise that, yes find something that you love, but find something that not going to jeopardize the financial health of your future family (Raking up huge student debt) and that is not going to be a time drain on your family (You don't want to be working 60H a week). I…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/15 06:26 PM
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We are having two conversation in parallel You don't make any sens.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 08:06 PM
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That is your first response. So what if your goal in life was to treat women as equals and understand that they themselves are a complex group of people, and not monolithic? Or to be nicer in general, and take what other people think of you into consideration? It's all very nice and full of feel good stuff but it is not very practical. So what is your life objective regarding the application of sexual strategy. Do you want to raise a family? do you want to do it alone or with a man? Would you ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 07:54 PM
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I would like to point out an important nuance that your not aware of. And a lot of disagreement come from that little simple nuance. The Plate lifestyle and the LTR lifestyle. For men the important thing not to give out easily is commitment. For the Plate lifestyle a man do not give his commitment, and if he is not an ass-hole he will be very clear that he is fucking other women. For the LTR lifestyle the man will give his commitment to a woman that he will take the time to judge that she is wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 07:43 PM
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What I'm saying is state your life objective as a woman and then I can give you a sound RedPill advice that fit your objective. What you stated in your first response was NOT a life objective (Raising a family or being more career oriented etc.... ) is one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 07:31 PM
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That's not a goal that's just a fantasy. But since you are convince of this So what if your goal in life was to treat women as equals and understand that they themselves are a complex group of people, and not monolithic? Or to be nicer in general, and take what other people think of you into consideration? Then by all mean go ahead be my guest. You will get burn very bad if you seriously try this. Or you could take the time to put your ego aside for a moment and listen to other men who have made…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 05:52 PM
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RP theory is not a one size fit all solution. (Mary a virgin be buff and be happy). It's more of a tool set you can adapt to your own life objective. Give me an example of a life objective that is relevant to YOU and I will do my best to give you a RP advice to reach that goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 04:17 PM
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The ideal RP wife is "submissive, young, stay-at-home, virgin, fit" according to a lot of RP men. Ideal are just that "Ideal" Reality is very different. It's important to know what you want out of life and then make the right choice to get you there. For a woman making that choice early can be a blessing for her and her future family. You want to be a mother and have lot's of little children then some life choice like raking huge student debt for a career you would barely participate in would no…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 03:54 PM
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Hmm let me think. It was before TRP last spring when my wife went away for a month to take care of her grand mother. I had the boys (4 kids going to school/high school) + working full time. I really liked the fact that I was able to pull it off on my own without her. It made me realize that I did not had to put up with her "shit anymore" and that I could handle being alone with our boys on my own. This made me outcome independent. During that time My wife realize how unfairly she was treating me…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/15 02:00 PM
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I was not aware of the time frame of your transition. (about 1 month) For me and my wife who is on-board from pretty much the beginning It took around 5 month to come to "marital bliss" And that for a 20 years marriage that was fill with huge fight and disrespect. But she is not BPD and she work on herself like I did. I'm telling you this so that you can have an idea on how long this can take for you (Just adjust for the higher degree of difficulty in your situation) Maybe other can give us exam…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/15 01:38 PM
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There is a parallel conversation in this tread. One is about the TRP anger phase and the other is about showing anger in day to day life.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/15 01:14 PM
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I admit I feel tired emotionally from all this, but I know I must keep frame and stay strong. For how long? ...... You know life is short. I'm not sure if your masochistic or a saint...... So for how long are you willing to put yourself THROUGH this madness? I would Highly suggest to set yourself a limit so that you don't become a victim of habit. For the RP and behaviour stuff you are a pro therefore I don't think you can humanly do anything more to help her than what you are already doing. Edi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/15 01:12 PM
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This is a very good discussion. A lot of men when they are Blue Pill are either too angry or avoid showing their own anger to avoid confrontation. Finding a good balance is the key.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/15 12:27 PM
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Just an observation: When your angry your being honest with yourself and with her. Women see life true the filter of their emotion. And when you show that emotion she feel it on a visceral level. She then know that you do really care about the issue at heart because she can feel it!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/15 02:27 AM
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Your funny, we would need to fight every damn day for that! We use to fight quite a lot in the past. Yes we where not great with each other... but that passion we had never faded away. It's just that I have a hard time imagining being in a marriage for so long without the occasional burst of passion.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 08:17 PM
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But you forget about the make up sex that come after ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 08:05 PM
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Of course not but it is something that in my opinion can happen and sometime should happen. Otherwise life would be really boring.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 07:32 PM
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Do you really think that yelling, arguing, and anger are parts of a healthy relationship? YES, YES IT IS!!! It's good to let loose of all those emotion sometime... like a safety valve. I don't make an habit of it but YES sometime a passionate exchange is something I would not be afraid of. If I had to bottle up all my emotion (And it's the same for her) we would both be divorce after the first years of marriage. Edit Reference
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 07:09 PM
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Oh that's cute..... now go live a little you young padawan you will see that life is not all black and white. What YOU interpret as disrespect is in fact doing what need to be done in order to either keep the flame alive and well (dread) and making sure the ship do not run out of control (Getting around shit test)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/15 06:45 PM
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Never ever had a fight? Or be mad because of an expensive unplanned purchase etc....... You have to give me your secret.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 06:17 PM
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What??? Never been angry at her at all for the last 5 years, no fight no nothing.....Are you two avoiding confrontation intentionally? If it is the case that can't be good.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 06:13 PM
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Well it still happen to me sometime... but it never last very long. I use to be a lot more angry and I use to play along her insanity, not anymore. Some people, culture are more stoic some other are more passionate. My experience is the point of view of a more "Latin" kind of interaction It is Ok to be angry and show it. BUT you better have a good reason for your anger. Some time a good demonstration of passion is a lot more effective, for her, than a stoic display of reasonable arguments. Women…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 06:11 PM
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The answer you are seeking from BluePiller is out of there reach. They cannot see past theirs own preconception and emotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/15 02:11 PM
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Are you serious?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/15 02:04 PM
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You say men have long loved women who don't do anything, but I'm not sure why you're saying that. The why is not really important. Just go take a look at r/deadbedroom and other relationship sub this fact is very easy to check out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/15 02:04 PM
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Forget about the chart for a second and let's get real. You really want to know what make for a "stable" marriage? I'll tell you from experience. This advice is mainly for men (Sorry lady but I cannot give advise on you gender specific marriage issue because after all I'm only a man) Before putting a ring on it, I would greatly advice to be able to have significant and meaningful discussion on all kind of touchy subject. This is to know before hand what are the common value that you both have in…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/15 12:51 PM
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You know what if you are going to put a ring on "it" I would recommend that you start right now discussing all kind of touchy issue. You don,t have to agree but just learn how to deal with touchy subject. It's a fun thing to do and when thing WILL get rough in the future (And they will) you will have built a good tool set to deal with it. Take care.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/15 02:40 AM
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Do you mean that you have a common set of values? Sure and I'm talking about the important stuff. And even then you really don't have to have ALL the same. The most important thing in my opinion is you both need to be generous with each other. If you have different value it is still possible to get along just fine if you two are able to have good conversation about it. The only thing that would really be a red flag is if you can't even discuss those "touchy" subject without going nuclear. For a …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/15 11:59 PM
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I'm going to give you a different way of seeing this challenge. It's a bit of a mix of comfort and redirection. For example me and my wife don't have many interest in common BUT we do share a lot of value (And that's what is important) We are also able to discuss pretty much anything (important for me and for her) You see here the twist is to put the focus on the similar value that you both hold and let the particular interest be.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/15 08:13 PM
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I'll never understand why it's entirely his fault that a woman goes off about something stupid. I will try my best no to sound to harsh. But this reality of the Red Pill can be misleading when you don't understand all the concept behind it. The basic is that women subconsciously crave security from theirs man. The more sign of weakness a man show the more anxious the woman become. It's a vicious circle. She will give him shit in the hope that he will "man up" and literally stop putting whit her …
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/15 06:26 PM
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Are you talking about the RedPill or the men of Reddit who frequent the sub reddit r/TheRedPill?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/15 04:53 PM
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Hey Sigma the way I see it is that you have to at least put everything you can on your side, within reasonable limit. If I had to be the most alfafa all the time and not being able to have actual discussion with my wife on all kind of topic (Even the RedPill) I would go find somebody else to live with. AWALT is true but it is a question of degree. Some are worst than other and some will tolerate a more "beta you" before they bail. Anyway if you put a ring on it you better know what type of women…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/15 01:38 AM
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This is not rocket science. Men do not look to be provided for in a relationship. Pregnancy and raising children take a lot of time. Somebody has to do it and WE MEN are more than happy to provide even if that mean having a crap job or having to make personal sacrifice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/15 11:45 PM
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My statement was a generality..... But have you ever herd of the following statement? Damn she is so hot with her post doctorate in women study.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/15 08:18 PM
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Most men DO care about a woman's job. Red pill guys are a little subset that want traditional women only. You don't live in the real world. Losers or leeches? Hardly. Just men who want to get ahead and buy a house in a nice neighborhood. A single woman at age 30 who doesn't have a decent job might. She could be a clerk at walmart or a lawyer and no men would judge her for that. Career do not make you more attractive for women. In fact it can even become a problem if the job is to time demanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/15 02:34 PM
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4) What helps you maintain frame around someone you had been severely BP around before entering LTR. I have experienced progress but would like your insights. One the thing that you HAVE to do is to become outcome independent. There is no other way about it. Our wife know us better than ourselves and they will smell ours bluff in a instant. So what is the solution? Simple, don't bluff! Figure out what you need out of your marriage to be happy and be willing to let it go if you don't see it happe…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/15 01:24 PM
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Next time just smile, pick up your coat and go out without a word.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/15 01:07 AM
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For women respect and admiration is pretty much all you need. http://therationalmale.com/2011/12/27/women-in-love/
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/15 01:06 AM
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My wife's attitude towards me is right now bewildered and confused... But that contempt is gone. She will get use to it, and she will even love you for it! With time and experience you will learn how to balance Alpha/Beta behaviour to perfection. This is where I'm at after 6 month. You will make mistake and go to much in one direction but don't sweat it. Life only get better from here. Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 08:12 PM
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With this RP knowledge in mind I think you are going to be just fine! I'm sure she love the "new" you.... as long you can keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 05:50 PM
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That's because that not the way to do it. He pull some Dark triad shit on her, you need to turn to a supplicating beta and within a week she will tell give you the "It's not you it's me" speech.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/15 12:24 PM
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This is so weird watching theist going at it. It's like watching a bunch of nerd at a Star Trek convention arguing about the True design of the albuquerque warp drive. I will let myself out on this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/15 03:36 AM
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That's why I always advice the new guy's coming here to get outcome independent first. Once you are your whole mindset change and your frame become Solid like a Rock.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/15 06:56 PM
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First of all YOU did NOT fucked thing up she did!! Get it! Now it's time for some outcome independence and for a lawyer. Think about you first and foremost and again: YOU did NOT fucked thing up she did!! She is a crappy wife having the affair NOT YOU.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/15 06:50 PM
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The trick is frame... Yes sleep is very important without good sleep it's almost impossible to hold frame without great effort. I got to bed early last night, have some firewood ready , and plan to urge the kid to bed early and lay on the interest thick. Good! Kino her good today and play with her emotion (tease) and you should both be good to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/15 05:57 PM
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What work for me is teasing her..... a lot. Not so much as "game" but more of acting out like when we where kids, being playful and not to serious. I still have to pinch myself how much fun we can still have together, even after 21 years of marriage with responsibility and kids and now grand kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/15 04:58 PM
1

May I suggest you take the Mojoupgrade.com quiz with your wife to spice thing up. We have already done it a few time and every time new kinky stuff become available ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/15 04:28 PM
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Relax FFS This is not so bad. Bad habit take time to sort out. You are aware of it NOW and before you know it you will be able to be aware of this "What is that thing in me that feels the need to come clean and verbalize every thought and expect to be loved because of that?" Before it happen again. Just Relax your on the right track.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/15 04:00 PM
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I want to be a park ranger and hunt and camp year round. Is this something realistic for you? You are one of the rare man who have the opportunity to change career and go do something that you really like. My wife is a SAHM, I love it but I cannot go out and change career like I want. I work in IT right now for the last 6-7 years but compare to MY real profession (Foundry metallurgist) this job is quite boring. I would love to have a wife that could "support" my family while I reinvent myself in…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/15 12:30 PM
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That would be really fun to watch. not with the gender reverse but as it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/15 02:30 AM
3

Question, What do you want to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/15 02:16 AM
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U think u can ask me to do u a favor and when I'm not up for it u stomp around and slam doors and act like a child? I wont encourage that sort of behavior. Thats what i told her verbatim. And then she stormed back into the bedroom and went to sleep. Good! Keep this up. Set boundary and don't play into her "insanity" She needed to hear that from you. Look Pregnant women really need back massage it does hurt (I have 5 kid BTW). But if your always nice and compliant and she give nothing in return s…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/15 02:12 AM
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Check this out http://www.npr.org/2011/01/13/132908098/new-gene-test-screens-nearly-500-childhood-diseases
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/15 01:23 AM
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Good! You have to be able to know in your heart that you can walk away. I know that it is not what anybody here want but you have to go there to be truly outcome independent.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/15 08:38 PM
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If you think that you are riddle with genetic defect. (Not your fault) I have good news for you! We are in 2015 and for a few 100$ you can get a good quality genetic test. This is a legitimate concern of yours and you can push this angle with her. You can even get both tested to see what are your real chance to get an healthy child together. Maybe you'll get lucky and you and your wife are good to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/15 08:27 PM
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Why do you fear so much having an handicap kid?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/15 07:48 PM
1

One of the most important step to REALLY improve your frame is outcome independence. You have to be able to figure out what you want out of your marriage for your own happiness and if your not getting it you have to be able to walk away. Once you understand this you will be free from the fear of loosing her. Her emotion wont affect you the same way and you will be a lot more solid in front of her.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/15 05:59 PM
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Do you know why God created yeast infection? So that women can know what it's like to live with an irritable cunt once in a while! :)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/15 01:15 PM
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For starter I would have a go with Men in love and women in love from the r/RedPill side bar. If you can have a rational discussion about it that would be a good start. Talking about the book itself..... it's your call. I did not read it. I'm not a big reader. I don't think that the reading material is mandatory if you do your research. But everybody is different.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/15 01:09 PM
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Seriously having more sex sometime does that. It's life. We are also in our 40. I can still go like a 20 years old but the wife not so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/15 01:56 AM
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My English is terrible even the spell checker can't save me. I'm a french speaker and I do my very best.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/15 12:11 AM
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Question When you ask a service from her does she comply? If the answer is yes then don't be an ass hole! If not then she need to reciprocate before you can do her errant.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/15 08:29 PM
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If you want this to not happen to you just never forget who you are and want you want out of your marriage. Don't allow yourself to be "domesticated", Stay fit, keep your hobby, your friends etc... Don't put up with her shit when she is out of line (yeah that's right) do not negotiate sex ( I'll be a nice boy and then maybe she'll reward me type of attitude)
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/15 08:22 PM
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Time to be an "ass-hole" How can I avert this? You brake the loop. When she start questioning your decision just tell that you did not ask for her advice. Next time she say " That you never take her advice" Tell her that she is right and anyways your wasting your time discussing this with her. (She want a fight well give her one) She is attacking your frame by insinuating that your are incompetent well show her that you have none of it. And of course hold frame and don't get into an argument jus…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/15 08:07 PM
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Well it all depend if you are ACTUALLY trying to have an honest discussion or not,
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/15 03:50 PM
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Because that's what happen in other subreddit when dare to say something out of the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/15 12:27 PM
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Because it all depend on what you want! If you don't want a LTR and just casual sex spinning plate make sens and you can be a lot less picky with the women that you choose to bed. But if you are serious about relationship and want to be a dad then you will be looking for someone who as the same value. This is not rocket science you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/15 12:24 PM
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is she your mom? Look it's normal to have "some" bro time. Don't ask for permission just do it. She is lonely and that's understandable. Maybe she can do some volunteer work or other stuff in your local community. That would be a good way for her to make new friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/15 02:10 AM
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I have read somewhere that our emotion is like a zoo. I think she need... no crave to see the lion. She need to feel your passion to realize to you do care about her. Anyway you must have balls of steel to be able to handle such woman. Think long and hard if this is worth it to you. PS: (have you tried holding her in your arm while she is exploding like that?)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/15 06:00 PM
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You must have an "interesting" couple dynamic by now.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/15 03:55 PM
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Nahh that's not what I mean. You have a weird style to say the least. Being an ass-hole is fine once in a while. Between a needy beta and a ass-hole women will go for the ass-hole every time BUT between an ass-hole and a strong father figure women will choose the father figure every time. All I want to say is that you can do better. I get it that she was a pain in the ass for a long time and that now the table are turn. (Power dynamic) it's up to you to use that power to achieve the long term go…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/15 02:29 PM
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How long ago was your divorce?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/15 12:48 PM
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Ok I get it. In the context of your marriage it make sens. She was like that with you for years etc....... Now you having fun giving her back a taste of her own shit. You have to think of the end game here. What's your goal? In my honest opinion I think it's time to give her some comfort before she panic and bail on you!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/15 12:28 PM
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Well married 21 years sure helps! We where young 21-19 with a baby on the way. We had it rough for way to long but even in our worst we stick it out together. I was "Blue pill" and my wife had huge control issue. We lost our tamper way to often (Epic fight and plate trowing etc...) I had enough last spring and I was ready to sink the boat. I'm still here and our marriage has never been this good. This RP stuff does work.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/15 02:05 AM
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there you go http://disinfo.com/2011/02/one-out-of-ten-people-werent-fathered-by-the-man-they-believe-is-dad/
/r/TheRedPill05/01/15 07:54 PM
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Are you married? Tell us your story and then we can start. The Basic concept are not that hard to grasp. I have been browsing and participating in this sub since this summer. (Use a different alias then) And the advice is always the same. This is not Rocket science I'm a big proponent of the K.I.S.S method. (Keep It Simple and Stupid) So I'm gonna lay it out for you. Most men fall into the same trap when they are married for a long time, they allowed themselves to be "domesticated" by their wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/15 06:38 PM
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To make matters worse she is just about to deliver our new baby. I still haven't gotten a grasp on how best to handle this pregnant situation. More beta comfort?? Or just stick RP as usual?? If I may. My wife pregnancy (5 time!) where horrible! Hormonal roller coaster + self image issue + insecurity. She need, no crave comfort and security from you. Just don't get caught up in your old way. Stay calm and emotionally warm toward her. My prescription: Lots of hug and cuddle and don't let her drive…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/15 12:37 PM
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You can try to argue about the effect of gravity all you want it's still going to be there. You can show vulnerability and weakness to the women of your life and they WILL loose attraction to you. You don't have to like it or agree. This is how it work.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/15 04:32 PM
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I get the resistance from the other members here on this sub. It all depends on the level of honest communication that you can have with your wife throughout your marriage. If you have chosen to marry a women with whom you never discuss anything with beside the mundane I really don't see how you can talk about couple dynamic without sounding like a fool. But for others like myself and BluepillProfessor we can actually have a decent conversation with our wives on all kind of touchy subjects, we d…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/15 04:29 PM
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Nobody other than TRP and backwards individuals sees emotions as weak It do not really matter. That just how the world work. You don't have to like it or even agree to it, it's still will be the way the world work tomorrow has it as always works this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/15 06:20 AM
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.While I never hit her, I have raised my fist and threatened her on a # of occasions. I also used to scream obscenities and names at her whenever we fought. I would also demean and belittle her by attacking her intellect and abilities fairly regularly. So let me guess you had regular "passionate" fight with your wife? Thing where said that should not have been said. Let me guess she was also screaming back obscenity at you at the time and pushing ALL your button to get a reaction??? Been there d…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/14 12:43 PM
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Here it is. That was the night my wife kicked me out and accused me of having an affair with some chick I have spoken with 3 times in my life. It was total bs but it appears subtle dread game worked a little too well in this case. This is what going on. It doesn't matter that you did not cheated on her. What matter is what she believe. You reinforce her belief by: moving out of your own house! trying to appease her and accepting her term for the relationship. In her mind an innocent man would ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/14 12:31 PM
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I also need to take this over from my wife because, quite frankly, she sucks miserably at it. This is how I did it for our house. First I had the opportunity to have the house and the 4 boy's to my self for about a month (send your wife for a "well deserve" vacation to your in-law if you have to. Once you have the kid for yourself you'll get about a week to get thing straight in out and IMPOSE a routine. They are going to trow a fit and be very hard to control for the first few day. Impose punis…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/14 06:19 PM
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"give" him your worst client. You know the type of client that waste your time and do not know what he want (therefore is never satisfied). Tell him (lie) how much money this "client" made you in the past etc......
/r/TheRedPill29/12/14 04:54 PM
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The way I understand it and apply it in real life is the following. I'm more of a big picture kind of guy, Sex is only a part of the marriage dynamic. And being "outcome" independent is more than not being affected by sex or the lack of it. It's about knowing what you want out of your marriage and being ready to let it go for your own happiness if you don't get what you want out of it. Once you stop being a slave to your own marriage you whole outlook change. Yes you want your marriage to work..…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/14 03:40 PM
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I bet she is crying because she thinks you are disappointed with her performance or something like that. THIS guy's is something that we tend to forget. Our wife get very, very self conscious about those issue and it feed a bad cycle that make thing worst and worst. Time to break that cycle and get creative, Vibrator (Hitachi magic wand) Red wine, weed whatever you can get to lower her inhibition. I'm 99% sure she want to be sexual but she is caught in a vicious cycle.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/14 12:32 PM
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That the way I see this concept : "Be the best father you can be" A good father will lead and give a clear sens of direction but he will not be a tyrant. He will show his love in a caring manner. He will listen and be an active part in his wife and children life. He will not bend to every demand but he will do what need to be done when it's appropriate. Once in a while he will do something "nice" to show his appreciation when it is deserve. That's how I try to balance my Alpha and Beta in my hom…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/14 03:18 PM
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Indeed having the actual knowledge of the RedPill will help put the missing pieces together. It sure help us me and my wife put the whole couple dynamic back on track. I would start with women in love and men in love (From the main sub side bar) and have a good discussion with him about it. I'm sure that if you start your marriage by being able to have "sane" and "respectful" discussion on such issue you two will go far. Anyway good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/14 12:30 PM
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Well it depend on a few thing in my experience. How at ease are you about talking about serious issue with your wife? What the "quality" of your communication? I pointed out to my wife after 2 week of "RP" women in love and man in love from the RP side bar. She found those two article very enlightening. We had a few solid discussion on gender role and how men and women see the world differently since then. But I never shy away from a good "philosophical" discussion with my wife and we are use to…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/14 02:55 PM
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I actually love the female perspective on this sub. It's easy to fall into a circle jerk when everybody has the same perspective. I like the feedback and in real life and on the net I have no problem having my position challenge. I think that a woman who ask for advice and or comment on a strategy is really not the end of the world. Even the question can be a window into their reality and that can give us a privilege insight into what women go true themselves. I I'm not afraid for this sub. The …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/14 01:11 PM
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I'm a big proponent of the K.I.S.S method. (Keep It Simple and Stupid) So I'm gonna lay it out for you. The majority of married men I've met have this attitude, and it strikes me as half-wise, half-pathetic and supplicating. That's the trap most men fall into when they are married for a long time, when they allowed themselves to be "domesticated" by their wife! Now this is how you don't fall into that trap and actually get the kind of relationship that you and your future wife want. Figure out w…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/14 12:58 PM
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Having said that, I've always fought about the 'doing it her way' BS. How about doing it your way.... If she protest just tell her to hang on and enjoy the ride!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/14 08:25 PM
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This "sex" stuff as I see it now is more than just the act itself. Frame (Don't be a doormat) Be attractive (Stay or get in shape) Be sexually dominant (grab her during the day, kiss her, hold her...) Run the level of dread that is appropriate for your situation (Make sure she do not take you for granted) Those are the ideal that you should strive for. You don't need to be perfect but you have to go in that direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/14 08:22 PM
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No the difference is that women think they have better self control. They really don't do better then men, even worst sometime. They rationalize their behaviour so that they have no responsibility in the affair. In other word (It just happen so it really doesn't count.)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/14 03:45 PM
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Abundance mentality my friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/14 12:07 PM
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It depend on the level and quality of communication that you have with your wife. Will your wife try to challenge you at first? sure she will but it's up to you to power true those challenge. Is it easy having your wife in the know? It will make for some very interesting conversation I'll tell you. Look If your brave and if your not afraid of the challenge I say go for it. It will make thing a lot faster if you can navigate true the initial resistance. It sure did put my relationship with my wif…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/14 04:51 AM
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Hmm.... You got me thinking here.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/14 06:58 PM
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Man you need a time out! I'm reading your story and I can actually picture myself arguing with my wife in our car!! Once it was so bad I even busted the dash with my fist! Pregnant woman can be REALLY bad, mine had her hamster on speed and the way she describe it to me (After 20 years of marriage and a lot of introspection on her part) is that it was something Primal and even if she was aware that she was over the line she couldn't not stop herself. With experience all I can give you to lessen t…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/14 01:19 PM
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This is so much similar to our story that it's freaky! Anyway like you said in the beginning one the weirdest part of BDSM play is that has a Dom, for a man who has never been fully dominant in the bedroom you have to change your whole mindset, you have to find your "Alpha" core. I had to give myself permission to be selfish, and to go over line that we have never been before. In preparation to our first BDSM play I had read domination for nice guy's we also did the Mojoupgrade quiz and we talk …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/14 12:56 PM
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There seems to be an awful lot of hating on homemaker wives as being lazy, useless freeloaders on TRP. Nahh, who do not appreciate to have a good home cook meal when they come home from work. Most of the guy's in there 20 have not been married yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/14 12:30 PM
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It's not that bad. Different culture different custom. But you can be damn sure my kids have my name!
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/14 03:24 AM
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Some people like rule and live in a very organize way some don't. I am in the later category and my wife is the organize one. What is important for a person like me and probably also for your wife is to have clear goal and expectation. Don't bother on the how, let her figure it out for herself focus on the what. The kids need to be on the bus on time well dress and with a proper lunch. How she do it is her problem and she will figure it out. Put the emphasis on what need to be done and she will …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/14 05:48 PM
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It's what I have observe all true out my life. Call it human nature or whatever you want. A woman that is force to work out of necessity to support her family has to make a personal sacrifice. She is not the one raising her kid and it is something that she will regret and have resentment over. And of course she will (Probably unconsciously) blame her "man" for not providing enough to free her from this responsibility to be able to live this role. A man on the contrary will be very happy being th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/14 05:40 PM
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The problem is not that. The problem is that women en-up resenting their husband for being the "bitch" We men don't resent our wife for being at home and taking care of domestic affair.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/14 04:46 PM
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I made a schedule/behaviour chart for my kids that they need to tick each item as they do it. ie. Get up on time - tick ... Get dressed - tick For the last 3 days I've told my wife that they need to tick each box as they do something, but every day nothing is ticked. Is your wife on board with this idea or did you impose it on her? Now has a father of 5 kids I will tell you straight up that this idea is really not practical in real life.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/14 04:41 PM
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I'm pretty sure she would be fine going outside the budget to get some new furniture. Damn right she is!!! But she is trying her best to fight that desire....... Look she is trying and that's a very good thing, it mean that she is on your side.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/14 02:15 PM
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You know what don't sweat it. She is probably going true some issue on the money side herself and she wanted to impress you on how much she is a "good girl" with money (By saying that she want to put the money aside and trying to show that she is not materialistic). It's probably just a miss-communication on her part and on yours that escalated for nothing. The apparent disrespect in-front of friend is something that she need to address. I'm sure she is also fighting with her own demon and that …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/14 12:53 PM
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That's one of the reason we talk about outcome independence so much. When the love is gone and you don't even have an interest in saving that marriage anymore there not much that can be done. When there is a will there is a way but without will there is no way. Good luck and get a lawyer!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/14 01:54 AM
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Not so bad for a bunch of misogynistic Ahole!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/14 07:19 PM
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If your an heterosexual man and you intent on not living alone... You better learn game. Some dread once in a while to make your point that your not to be taken for granted is not such a bad thing to do. Anyway women have no scruple doing it to us so why should we not fight dirty once in a while.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/14 06:49 PM
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And they keep you unemployed ;)
/r/TheRedPill15/12/14 06:14 PM
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Nahh don't be a pussy. Having a wife and a family come with it's reward. Everything that is worth something demand time and effort. Now that you know the rule of the "game" and that you know how to play that game you can get married and stay on top.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/14 06:10 PM
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The power dynamic is changing and you and her are going to love it! Good luck and enjoy, that's the good life.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/14 04:16 PM
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Don't worry she will win to. She will be in a marriage where both partner are happy and getting what they want. She will be with a good husband and lover who will stay in shape and keep her attracted and happy for years to come. He will have the respect and love from his wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/14 12:54 PM
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I'm not worry about this. He still love his wife. They will come to a common understanding that will be good for both.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/14 11:26 AM
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His wife appears to be desperate for attention and really struggling Damn right she is! But not for the reason that you think. She is loosing control and her man is not responding anymore to her constant flow of bullshit. That's why she is freaking out. Don't worry, this part of the transition last just a few week. And it get better from there.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/14 03:46 PM
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This is why I'm looking for input. I don't know how to change the dynamic of the relationship. I know this sound harsh but It really come from a good place. You have to let him fail. You really have to stop acting like his mother. There is no other way. YOU cannot make him "Alpha" he has to do it himself. The only way you can genuinely help him in this path is by giving him all the responsibility. He will struggle he will make mistake. He might even give up. But if you really want to be with a "…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/14 03:39 PM
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One of the first thing we talk to new people here is outcome independence. That mean that in order to save your marriage and get the relationship that you want you need to be able to let it go. I know it's sound counter productive but once you are there your whole mind set change. If you want your man to change you HAVE to STOP being his mother!! Let him fail! let him struggle! He will either fall flap on his face or he will become a better man. BTW the book suggestion on this site is very appro…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/14 02:43 AM
1

Are you trying to say that because a person knows they have a risk of getting raped, if they get raped, its not rape? Of course not. I'm talking about two "drunk" individual who happen to have consensual sex but regret have it the next morning. What the court here will try to figure out is the intent. Did the guy in this story got the girl drunk on purpose to rape her? Again the prosecution will have a hard time making the case either way without any witness.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 08:02 PM
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Of course having sex under the influence (By that I mean with a very high blood alcohol level) is a bad idea. But it will happen nonetheless. This is not rape, it's just poor decision making. Woman have to understand that the only thing protecting them from this type of situation is their good judgment! Getting impaired will put you at risk of abuse and that's a fact!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 07:37 PM
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Yep in person. When you come home just say that you will talk about this later. Do your routine. And when thing are settle (kid in bed etc..) then listen to her quickly then set up boundary and what kind of relationship that you want. Keep it calm and respectful. If she go full "retard" and make a fit don't antagonize her. Just remove yourself from the situation (leaving the room etc...) do not participate in the fight. Women live true their emotion and sometime it get the better of them. Don't …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/14 02:18 PM
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Heard of this saying "Give a little take a little" Now it's time to have that discussion. Don't make to much of it. Talk about boundary and respect. Stay calm and to the point. She made amend and realize that using sex in that way is a bad thing to do. Reward that with a kind gesture. You went full radio silence on her and applied soft dread. Now she need some "comfort" It's a balancing act. Instead of an apology just said that this "silly" situation went overboard and that you should have handl…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/14 01:43 PM
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I like the way your thinking ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/14 12:48 PM
1

It happen.... nobody is perfect and sometime I'm pretty sure he do pick up after his wife!! I know that I do sometime and some time she does pick up after me! It's life! She wanted a stand off over petty stuff ... well she sure got one! And now she is figuring out that her man is not having it! She want to use SEX has a bargaining tool and he is not buying it. Using SEX like that in a relationship HAS consequence! She will find out that he won't be manipulated like that anymore and that the powe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 12:38 PM
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You know full well that in those type of situation Both party are under the influence. So when nobody is able to give "legal consent" you cannot have a rape case.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 11:23 AM
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admitting his mistake, thanking her for cleaning up his mess, apologized for leaving it there in the first place, had sex and got on with his life? Because he did NOT do NOTHING to deserve to be treated like that. And his wife is using SEX as a power tool! He went out for good reason. What the point of validating such crappy behaviour on the part of his wife? By going out and doing his own thing he showed her that she did not have that kind of hold on him anymore! He his aware of the manipulatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 11:20 AM
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Are you admitting that women have no agency of their own? You ask someone, a girl is drunk as hell and horny, and asks you to fuck her, is that rape? Regret sex is NOT RAPE!!! it's just bad decision making.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 10:44 AM
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His wife was starting a silly power play for mundane stuff. He showed her that it was not going to work on him anymore. This stuff happen when the power dynamic is changing. It's not all rose and pretty. But thing will start to get better pretty fast from now on. and refuses to acknowledge her unhappiness at the situation. Nope she use sex as a power tool to get her husband to submit to her. And he is not having it anymore! Either she stop that or he is going to do his thing alone!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 10:42 AM
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Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/14 10:37 AM
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It's kind of a shock! when it happen for the first time.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/14 04:29 PM
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Before I was royally annoy... now I just don't really care anymore and she know it. Then it all stop. My wife has an OCD side. So when thing "have to" be her way I just let her handle it on her own and do my own thing my way.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/14 04:27 PM
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When the most common advise is divorce it mean that the quality of advice that those sub have to give really suck! We do talk about "outcome independence" on Married RedPill. But the goal of this is not to get a lawyer but to be able to put everything on the line so you can change to power dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 03:35 PM
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Yes we do talk about outcome independence on this sub. And there is a good reason for it. For a man who feel trap in his relationship (Work, House, kids etc...) he cannot change the power dynamic if is his afraid of his wife! He has to be ready to let it go if it come to that. But once he is ready to let go he can then change the power dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 03:25 PM
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Just go on RedPillWomen and ask away.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 03:11 PM
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Sure... They are asking for help.... and divorce is the best option. That's how they "fix" their relationship on r/deadbedroom!!! and r/relationships Don't believe me? just go check it out for yourself!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 02:58 PM
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I don't see much success story on r/deadbedroom and on r/relationships so you can think whatever you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 02:41 PM
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Actually they do. And for some it's a last ditch effort to turn thing around.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 02:27 PM
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Nobody is perfect and sometime life trow you a shit sandwich that YOU HAVE to eat! Get in shape, learn game and get your shit together! Does it take time and effort? It all in your hand if you want to. Are the subscribers of /r/theredpill deluding themselves to think they can be alpha? Can they all be the that top 10% of men?..... No, but they sure can always improve themselves and get better lives. It's up to you to work for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 01:41 PM
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Sure like I said for mundane stuff that's fine. But when the SHIT hit the fan! When you have to make a hard choice about money etc.. I'm talking about the hard stuff that couple fight about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 01:35 PM
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Life experience! I have been married a very, very long time. And I have seen it in other people marriage to. Don't fool yourself there is always somebody who make the final decision in any relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 01:24 PM
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I really don't think you can do much on your own. Because the change for him has to start from HIS will to be more dominant in the relationship and he has to be at peace with this idea. (The Matrix is that strong) This is a long shot and I think another participant on this sub had the same kind of transformation. I can relate to him, I would have never dare to be more dominant, in my blue pill day, because it is something that I always find repulsive and the conditioning that I had growing up we…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/14 01:20 PM
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I really like your point of view on this subject. Fixing what's not working is a lot more important than an ego boost.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/14 12:59 PM
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It never work like that. NEVER When push come to shove the man or the woman have to be the dominant one. When mundane stuff is involve it might not show much but when financial decision and hard priority have to be set those power dynamic are in play.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 12:46 PM
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I personally don't like it. But some (Almost all) married women use sex as a power tool in their marriage. This kind of behaviour as to stop if they want to have an intimate relationship with their husband. Sex for men in a marriage is a lot more than a simple release, It's their way to create bond and be intimate with their wife. When a woman use sex in that way it does a lot more damage than she think to her relationship with her husband. It create a distance and a lack of trust. It will also …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 12:34 PM
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Just take a good look you will get your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 04:48 AM
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We work on the power dynamic in the couple. So yes thing "might" look like a battle ground on the surface but there is a lot more than that going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/14 04:46 AM
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The difference is that I don't really care. For me all that matter are the end result! When the power dynamic in a couple is all one sided in the woman" direction it's never going to end well. We teach men to get back to their old self and start leading, which is a more "natural" and sustainable model. This is not mainstream and very controversial. But it work!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 08:29 PM
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Well your are mistaking the tree for the forest. Those guy's are just starting and are making progress. They make mistake in the process and are getting good feedback. Stick around to see how their marriage transform in the coming week. Or just read some feedback from older post to have a better idea of what's going on. Read this female perspective and the reply the men gave her. http://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2nzvqz/female_perspective_on_rp_transition/
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 08:20 PM
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I'm not talking about simple hook-up and ONS. I'm talking about fixing dead bedroom, bringing back a marriage from the brink of divorce, getting respectful interaction. This is concrete stuff that even the best marriage therapist have problem fixing. This is not a small achievement that can be dismiss by simple generality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 08:05 PM
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It's more than that. When you actually take the pill and apply it in real life. It just work!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 07:30 PM
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You know what I doubt it. It's a very small community and people have an history to hang around.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 07:28 PM
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You know what my wife was aware of the RP stuff pretty much from the second week. We did have a good discussion about it and she did actually read some very interesting stuff that help her out. (Side bar material Women in love and men in love and Appreciation) That material show her a perspective that she was not aware of. Anyways it's not all bad if your wife find out about it. It all depend on how you can handle a solid discussion with your wife. And it can be pretty fun and formative.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/14 07:24 PM
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In my case it was a question of misplace PRIDE for my wife. And the fact the she also came to the realization that thing needed... no had to change. Our wife do not submit to us (I really hate the word submission in that context) but when they truly love us they actually look up to us. That make it a lot easier to say sorry to a man you respect and admire than to a man you don't even respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/14 06:31 PM
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You can actually apply RedPill theory and be fully genuine (Stating your intention clearly) and having very good manner. It all depend on context and the type of relationship that you want. Being RedPill is a lot more than being a "glorious Asshole" You should get the time to read (The Red Pill Primer for boys) it will help you sort it all out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 06:25 PM
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Ok.. Sure not every BP is a "nice guy" but you know full well that he has the same need and desire than the rest of us. So what would be the BP approach to trigger sexual desire and attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 06:07 PM
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BP type of interaction that can trigger sexual desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 06:04 PM
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I would be more afraid of a BP man who after , expensive date, gift an lot's and lot's of investment would feel that he is entitle to sex. Than a RP man who would be aware of the law of attraction that actually create desire. A RP man would just move on in the case he is rejected. Both man the BP and the RP have the same desire and need, but only the RP man actually know what the fuck he is doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 05:53 PM
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Give me some counter example please.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 05:42 PM
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He is very married
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 04:03 PM
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you think a woman with the wealth of bill gates would have trouble getting sex? If she is as "attractive" YES! She would HAVE to pay for it!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 03:57 PM
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and men are not born attractive? attractiveness benefits males too Yes it does... but it is not as important (within reasonable parameter) just think of Bill Gate as an example. there should be endless evidence for your argument if it's true as you say and yet that's all you can muster. This is so self evident that if you did not see it in day to day life already you really need to get out more and live a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 03:44 PM
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Some do and some don't. But it not has much of a necessity for women if they are born attractive! Women and men SMV parameter are different. This truth is evident like a nose in the middle of a face. You can check the okcupid The Mathematics Of Beauty if you REALLY need evidence of this. This is so self evident that it would be silly to debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 03:11 PM
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You want to know if I'm like this (are you physically attractive, considerate, and developed as a person?) Well yes. I have been married for 20+ years in my early 40 and still very much fit. I actually look like I'm no more than 32-36 and women jump when I tel them my real age and that I have a grand daughter. Look if your a man you have to work on yourself to be attractive. That's just the way of the world. If your a young man don't hesitate to work out and work on your career and to learn game…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 02:34 PM
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Sometime they are interested at first.... sometime they don't. But if you royally turn BP on them well let's say your odd don't look so good. what does that say about who you are as a person, depth wise? Well suit yourself. There is a new World of Warcraft extension coming for the holiday.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 02:19 PM
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It's not only done to impress. It's a lot more practical than that. Women basic need for security demand of their man that he can make them feel safe, provide a safety net (Even if the woman as a career because of pregnancy and the time and resource it take to raise children) The consequence of all this is that men have to strive to better themselves to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 02:08 PM
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Oh no she was interested... at first but you fuck it up treating her like a princess and poring all your "feelz", and asking question like: Is it ok if I kiss you? Can I touch you here? etc.....
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 02:00 PM
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"treated girl i liked that seemed interested in me like a human being, she liked it. But I still didn't get laid " FTFY
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 01:40 PM
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Can wait to see their field report.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/14 12:57 PM
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Hmm your getting solid advice here. If you want to know more about what kind of "stuff" she is open to you can try this: http://mojoupgrade.com/ I have done it a few time with my wife and each time some "new" interesting stuff become available. Edit: word
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/14 02:35 AM
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In the very early day of my marriage we went to visit my mother. We had our first child with us at the time (maybe 6 month old). Out of the blue My mom criticize my wife about some stupid stuff about baby formula and my mother said some very hurtful stuff to my wife. My wife was having none of this and she was getting ready to pack up and leave! (3 hour drive in the middle of the night!) I just told my mother that she is better get use to (her name here) because she is my wife and she is not goi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/14 04:22 PM
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I'll try not to mess this joke in the translation.... When God created man he said it was good. Later he created women and he said... Well she can always wear make-up.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/14 06:31 PM
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This type of interaction might work short term but... it's really not the right way to solve this problem long term. How is the rest of your interaction with your wife? (Does she respect you?) Who wear the pant in your marriage? Tell us more, because the lack of sex is not a cause but only a symptom. Are you fit? Do you let her talk down to you? Are you employed? how is your work situation going? How do you handle shit test? Are you Dominant in your interaction or submissive? Tell us more.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/14 06:22 PM
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Yes your at the right place. I wish this place existed 20 years ago. First read this is a good summary of the RedPill in the form of PDF slide. Even if the intended audience for this material are teenager boys it will save you a lot of time. You need to bring that attraction back and get your "shit" together. You will need to get around shit test that you go true "probably everyday" without even being aware of them. ( Shit-test 101 improve yourself--- Get back in shape --- get your professional …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/14 01:19 PM
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Well that's because TRP advice actually work and make sense. The rest is cheap talk that's just "feel good" hamstering for the mass.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 12:45 AM
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I am grateful for my wife's fitness tests, her hypergamy, her constant pushing of my boundaries. These things force me to strive every day to be a better man. There is no such thing as unconditional love- there is no such thing as a free ride. If I fail to perform at work, I will lose my business. If I fail to perform with my children, they will lose respect for me. If I fail to perform with my wife, she will leave me. I know these things are true. I accept them, and I act accordingly. This ^ sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/14 04:52 PM
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No they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/14 06:39 PM
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Hey at least your honest with her. Not an ideal way of dealing with this, but it's a lot better than just keeping it inside. Seriously you two need some vacation, or some time alone. Sleep deprivation is the worst that can happen to a couple. When you don't sleep enough, you get impatient, even rude. You don't think straight and you can't be that Rock that she need because you can barely handle yourself emotionally. (I know been there done that!) I'm assuming just try turning her on earlier woul…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/14 12:32 PM
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Oh yeah shit test 101. Get some humour in your interaction. Make it fun (for you) and she will have fun with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/14 12:25 PM
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Thinking women will leave their BFs/husbands whenever a 'better option' arises is, however. It's a trait common enough that if had to place a bet on it I would. This tendency is present in ALL women but like in all biological system it's a question of degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/14 08:05 PM
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When you see a common trait like this that can be shown to exist in all human kind all around the world independent of it's time in history... well It's pretty strong evidence for a fact!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/14 07:47 PM
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Oh yeah it is very attractive. You don't want to be with a man that bend to your every emotional tantrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/14 12:24 AM
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I think you mean he won't be a loser? Okay, fine. I mean he wont be a "nice guy" who will put up with her shit! So she will be stressed the rest of the time? Nope she will pull her weight around the house like she should! He pull his weight and she should too. But he his not a tyrant and he can understand that sometime life can be overwhelming.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 07:58 PM
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This is a topic for a debate in it's self.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 07:44 PM
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I will help you describe what a RP husband look like and what it actually bring to a marriage. He will keep the attraction going for years to come. He will not be a doormat. He understand that his women need him for her emotional stability. He his her Rock. He will not let himself get complaisant and will strive to better himself. He will worry about all the hard decision and accept responsibility for it. He will be faithful. (Yes he will. When a RP man give his commitment it is not something th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 07:43 PM
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(Along with RP we've been developing a 24/7 D/s relationship. RP & BDSM has helped save our marriage) Yep that how it started for me. D/s relationship help me unleash my core self and RP help me put all the missing pieces together. Those two really work well together.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/14 05:48 PM
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She was flirtatious or something along those line. This girl was laughing at my silly joke all days at work... Just adapt to your own situation. The point is your getting female attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/14 03:24 PM
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Some soft dread would do the trick. Make sure she doesn't know what you do ALL the time when your out. tell her how a real or imaginary women made a pass at you today...... without going into to much detail, just a few hint here and there.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/14 03:11 PM
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"no, do you not respect me?" I think it's high time for some dread my friend. You could have said this. " you see this man in the mirror? If your not fucking him somebody else will!"
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/14 02:57 PM
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I just use it to enjoy my insignificant (to everyone else) life. People have different version of value and wealth. I'm not a rich man, I make just enough money to keep us afloat. But I am wealthy. I own my house, I have a loving wife, 5 kid and even a grand daughter. In a few years I estimate that at least 15 to 20 people will come to my house for Christmas (if you count all the wife and boyfriend, girl friend and grand kids.) So I might not be rich but I'm am wealthy, and my life and my legacy…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/14 02:55 PM
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Sometime I just hit my head on my keyboard when I read stuff in r/deadbedroom or r/relationship. This subreddit really does actually work.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/14 02:39 PM
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The key here is to stay calm. (I know that not always easy when you have somebody who know how to push ALL your button) This is where the good old adage of "Hold your fucking frame" is require. That's all it take, Hold your frame. It will do magic.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/14 02:29 PM
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The Women of RPW are either looking for LTR/Marriage with children or are already married or in LTR. Some of the men on TRP are looking for casual sex, LTR and Marriage. So yeah you won't find on RPW trick for gaming men to have casual sex. But both subreddit use the Red Pill to sort out relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 02:26 PM
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But it is the most important part of the process. If you want to get rid of your "beta way". Once you have figure it out you will be able to stand up for yourself with ease.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/14 02:11 PM
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I'm a big proponent of the K.I.S.S method and I'm not a big reader. (Keep It Simple and Stupid) So I'm going to lay it out for you. First thing first, set boundary. Do not allow her to disrespect you anymore. Don't get mad, just say that your are not to be talk like that, and if she persist leave the room even the house if you have too, to let thing cool down. (VERY important step!) The Red Pill Primer for Boys This will give you the basic in one quick swoop. Get your head around shit test And d…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/14 12:34 PM
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Indeed but that women look so "fucking" happy! Maybe she on to something ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 12:10 PM
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Well it's been working for me and my wife since may I think.... And we would not have it any other way. You know it's more than sex. It's about intimacy and opening communication channel. It's hard to be bitter and distant when you have the chance to be intimate with your SO every day. My main love language is touch so for me this really help me feel connected to my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/14 12:59 AM
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Man the r/RedPill is that way!! Woman will tread you like dirt when you let them. It's not because they are evil it's just how they work. Stand up for your self and she will respect you for it.
/r/MensRights02/12/14 08:21 PM
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What Happened When My Husband And I Had Sex Every Day For A Month Just take a good look at that woman in the video in the link.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/14 07:43 PM
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My wife is always cold in bed (specially in winter) after a good "ride" she is not cold anymore :) And it does bring us closer together.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/14 03:46 PM
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One of the thing that I think we do not talk enough, is how much our wife are also miserable with us. Once you have found back your old self again it is important to actually "hire" your wife as your first mate. When you hire somebody you don't do it covertly. You clearly state what you want, yours expectations, and what are your responsibility. By having your wife fully on-board with you she will be able to help you deal with issue that will come from your past. When you are in an older marriag…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/14 02:26 PM
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Believe him It sure was a turn on for me. You will only be producing milk for a short period of your life .... so let him enjoy it while it last ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/14 12:12 PM
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as milk letdown during orgasm..... I remember those... My wife tasted so sweet back then. That was so sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/14 12:52 AM
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Very married 42 More than I can handle!!! 5-7 a week and shark week is a well deserve rest! ** Enough already!! ** I'm good!! ** 8 Still exploring new territory after 22 years I would not have it any other way. We tried the sex once a day couple therapy back in the spring and we never look back!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/14 12:43 AM
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Before deflating the situation with humour like that you could..... Fake that she "might have cheated on you a little" just to play with her head a little. A Beta would never dare to pull a stunt like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/14 04:47 PM
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how would I respond? She and i know its mine Agree and amplify!!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/14 04:16 PM
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It's all in the attitude. And sometime a Woman will ask for way to much favour. Just to test if she is genuinely abusing just ask for some of her. Honey can you do this or that for me. Is it one sided?? Gauge her reaction when you ask something of her.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/14 04:11 PM
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I guess I'm not sure where to start. Just start with shit tests? Yes that's a very good start. By not agreeing to play her game you will demonstrate right away that you are not her "puppet" This will be a major change in the power dynamic and she will push back! But that's normal. One thing that will really help you change your outlook on the relationship is being outcome independent. What it mean in real life is that you have to know what kind of relationship you want with this woman, and if yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/14 04:05 PM
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Well it's a start. Now try not to tolerate disrespect anymore. And by that I mean NEVER. You have to stay calm (I know that's the hard part), Stay respectful and hold your ground. Keep a paternalist attitude, not an asshole attitude. When push come to shove, leave and wait for her emotion to calm down by themselves. This is probably one the best tool in the box to regain control of your marriage and self respect. She will love you for it. Now get back in shape, don't tell her your doing it, just…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/14 03:09 PM
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I understand her reaction, This was out of character for me so..... It doesn't take much to get the hamster spinning it's wheels sometime.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/14 02:12 PM
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Wow you really don't understand this concept. I'm going to use the getting back in shape example (True story BTW) I'm in my forty, still fit but not very active (Beside cutting my own wood for the winter I did not do much else) So I started to train with my boys, (build myself a pull-up bar got some weight etc..) The first visceral reaction that my wife had was " Why are you doing this? Are you trying to get with other women?" That's dread, my friend. You don't even have to go out and cheat, jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/14 12:53 PM
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I think you misunderstood the concept of dread in the context of TRP. Applying dread mean that you are demonstrating to your lover that you could have the possibility to go elsewhere. It can be just very lite hint like : Getting back in shape, buying your own underwear (for a man), hint that some other people shown you interest, innuendo about where you "could" have spend some time with somebody else, etc... The point your trying to make with "dread" is the following: "If your not fucking me oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/14 12:43 PM
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My 14 yo did that to his mom.... It's was funny to watch but amuse mastery and agree and amplified have their limit when your mom is asking you to do the dishes. I had to told him to stop that. I told him straight up "Do you intent to go out with your mother?" ....." then stop gaming your mother like one of the girl from high school!!" That was funny.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/14 04:40 PM
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But some men are. Some men are wired differently than other. It does happen. Edit: Get out more they are out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/14 04:36 PM
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Indeed It's all the RedPill theory in one swoop!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/14 04:35 PM
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Go for it I wish I had known this stuff 20 years ago myself!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/14 05:52 PM
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Yeah your probably right. I was in that frame of mind myself at one time.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/14 05:38 PM
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You don't have to tell her anything or ask for "permission". You just order it, read it and do whatever you want. You don't justify or explain you just do.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/14 04:52 PM
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Just look around you. They do exist in nature you know. The bears Alpha Are the type of men who are consume by theirs careers or passion. The Wolf are the dedicated family men, And the bull are the perpetual bachelor.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/14 04:50 PM
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Actually no. Those are very real type of personality trait. Some men will not want to commit because that's not what make them tick.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/14 03:48 PM
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Just stop hiding! Do it and hold frame. Seriously she might give you shit about it or not. Anyways you can always say that you are trying to better yourself. I have only once very briefly and in passing mentioned to using seduction techniques and hinted I used them on her, when we first met, and what little I remember, she didn't take kindly to it and it discouraged me from bringing it up again. Shit test 101 man! it's on the RedPill side bar get on it fast.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/14 03:44 PM
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Some men are just bull Alpha. They enjoy their Independence and freedom more than actual relationship. If you want to learn more take a look at the tree alpha type
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/14 12:26 PM
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When they come of age and they are actually interested in girl for more than "friendship" Show them the RedPill Primer for boys those are in the form of Power point presentation. They cover ALL aspect of the RedPill from the most basic concept about the SMP, SMV and a rational perspective on relationship and a very good introduction to "game" My 14 Yo is having a field day in high school . Being dominant in his social circle and of course gaming girl on his TERM. I wish I had the same opportunit…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/14 12:20 PM
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On the contrary, Divine authority is a cop out that once it is dismiss has being made up, completely destroy the base for your "moral" code. Once people start doubting your "divine" it's all gone!
/r/TheRedPill28/11/14 04:02 AM
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Sorry but I cannot take you seriously. To truly believe That a book like the Bible has any bearing on reality is pure folly. Beliefs are important That's why I choose to believe thing that are base on reality, you know stuff that is actually real!! Not made up end of the world prophecy.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/14 03:58 AM
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So in conclusion for a woman, even if she is outright repulsive, she still can get laid.... It just take more beer. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/14 12:45 AM
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if the sex isn't hard to attain, is it still impressive? Well that kind of answer itself doesn't it. Some people do win the genetic lottery.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/14 07:43 PM
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Since man and woman can both behave like "sluts" the consequences for this kind of behaviour should be the same? This kind of question just show off ignorance of human sexuality and all it's implication.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/14 07:24 PM
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Sure the end of the world!!! How stupid of me. Which end of the world are talking about anyways. The one that where "suppose" to happen in the past or the one that are "suppose" to happen in the future. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_dates_predicted_for_apocalyptic_events Please tell me I'm getting confuse here!
/r/TheRedPill27/11/14 07:12 PM
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Yes they all where. Because they where all written after the fact for the most part or so vague that they become irrelevant. If you can make any substantial proof of anything supernatural The James Randy foundation has 1 000 000$ waiting for you.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/14 07:01 PM
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Look men (in general) are raging slut. If your not outright repulsive all you have to do is buy him a beer (optional) and grab him by the balls! He will follow you in bed no question ask. That's not much of an achievement.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/14 05:45 PM
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I's because this question use a false premise to begin with. Women and Men have different biological imperative. Women biological imperative demand that she find the best man available to mate with (You know the whole concept of hypergamy and women are the guardian of sex). A man biological imperative is to either spread his seed and or lock down a woman to raise HIS children. Slut's might be fun in the sack but they are to risky to commit to. (Men are the guardian of commitment) There is a real…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/14 05:01 PM
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The problem with your question, an the lack of clear answer for it, derive from your own misunderstanding of one of the most primary concept on human sexuality. Women are the guardian of sex and men are the guardian of relationship (commitment) Women reproductive duty impose that she choose the BEST possible mate available to her. Therefore a woman who has lot's of sex with different partner is degrading herself in order to enjoys purely hedonistic pleasure. A Man can have two biological imperat…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/14 04:50 PM
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This is a perfect situation if your actually hunting for the future mother of your children. Has a younger woman she will have better attachment to you than an older women who has rode the CC for the last 10 years!
/r/TheRedPill27/11/14 02:55 PM
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Yeah but for a man who claim to be "unplug" from the matrix it is a bad thing to believe them yourself.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/14 02:49 PM
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Some religion are benign other are downright dangerous. Take a guess into which category Islam fit. It's time to grow up, Fairy tale and myth are for kids.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/14 06:01 PM
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For those who have teenager growing up I highly recommend it. My oldest son is having a great time "navigating" the SMP in high school. I wish I had this material early when I was growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/14 12:13 PM
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If you find a prophecy the Bible got wrong, feel free to dismiss it. Of course I dismiss it. They are not accurate, and it would be pure folly to believe them to be. The research on bible prophecy has already been done by respectable scholar and historian and they have all been debunk. Just look it up for yourself.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/14 11:54 AM
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Thank you for making my point. If a woman leaves you because you've been unemployed for a year, it's not because you're not making any money: It's because you've demonstrated that you are not the man she once loved. It's because you've proven that you are, in fact, a lazy fuckwad who is incapable of taking care of himself and doesn't give a shit if his own wife is struggling to keep him afloat while he sits around and plays World of Warcraft all day. Well you know your right but if a women decid…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/14 03:08 AM
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This is an old argument that theist use to justify their moral authority on other. Sorry but I won't bite. Making up rule and calling them "divine teaching" do not make for better society. You should really try to have this conversation on /r/DebateAnAtheist/ just to see how fast your argument get shot down. This is not the place for such a debate.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/14 03:03 AM
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It do not really matter. Anyways that's not the right question. Why should the Bible or any "holy" book be followed, like it has any more truth than any other work of fiction?
/r/TheRedPill26/11/14 02:57 AM
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There is more to TRP than the basic, get in shape and get your shit together kind of advice. The most important part that I think is unique to TRP is the Relationship material. How women love men differently then men think they do. That the Disney version of "True love" is a fiasco in our modern time. How to get around "shit test" How to accept women for what they really are and not what you wish they where. And how to deal with it in a sane way that's beneficial to you as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/14 08:23 PM
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My husband and I have allowed ourselves to be open and vulnerable, and yes it has increased our emotional intimacy, and forged a much stronger bond. I do not view him as 'weak' for opening up to me, in fact it's a sign of strength, security, and trust in the relationship. But I guess since I'm female, I must be evil and I'm gonna gouge his heart out and eat it front of him or something. My wife would say pretty much the same thing and truly believe it. But I know from experience that it is a lie…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/14 06:43 PM
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People here are trying there very best to give you an honest answer.... but your just a troll. To bad, Instead just read a bit more instead of a knee jerk reaction.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/14 05:55 PM
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Maintaining BluePill beta in line is what religion is for. You cannot be a Free man and believe in those silly superstition from the bronze age.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/14 04:54 PM
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But on a more serious not, Do YOU really need religion to be able to have the kind of marriage that you and your wife want and need? I surely don't. For me belief matter. They are important because they shape our life. And since belief matter so much to me, they have to be base on reality.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/14 04:53 PM
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In no way what so ever is Christianity more RedPill than any other religion. Submission to the Lord, to the church authority, having your most intimate behaviour dictate to you by religious dogma and tradition that has no bases on reality, Is the antithesis of living a like a free man! I rather face the hard truth, than embrace the folly of religion. I do not need to be told what to do or what to think to apply RedPill teaching in my marriage.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/14 04:46 PM
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One is about the theory ---> go and read the material in the RedPillPrimer for boys. The RedPill itself is not immoral or evil. It all depend on what you do with it. The other is a subreddit where they discuss the material and how they apply it in real life. Since the theory is amoral you will find a little bit of everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/14 12:17 PM
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You are mixing a sub-reddit with the RedPill itself. I make for a very distorted discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/14 03:08 AM
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Nahh it's more than that but hey what ever float your boat. Are you sure you want a terper or an mra for a son? Absolutely!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/14 01:59 AM
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Oh your cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/14 05:38 PM
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Yes I did have my "shit together" but the power dynamic in the couple was all one sided. Because of that we where both very unhappy and on the verge of divorce. This is where TRP advice on how to view relationship help me to put thing in a more healthier perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/14 04:38 PM
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LoL You should not personalize a debate like that. But hey! Whatever float your boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/14 03:47 PM
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Well it work! And to think that women do not use the same on men you have to be really naive. Sometime a frigid wife need a good metaphorical kick in the ass to stop using sex as a power tool in the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/14 03:10 PM
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It's a lot more than that. It's in the how it's done. How to take back control of your marriage to get what you want out of it. That you won't find anywhere else. How to get that attraction back. Contrary to a lot of the mainstream advice that you can find this stuff actually work! The men on r/MarriedRedPill are not only saving there marriage but they are improving all aspect of the relationship to the benefit of the whole couple. I know because I did it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/14 02:00 PM
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Actually the married RedPill community is mostly about saving marriage. They don't just bring back dead beedroom from the dead they actually change the couple dynamic. I have done it and me and my wife would never go back to our old ways. If it was not for them we would be divorce by now.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/14 01:26 PM
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It all depend on context, My boys and your boys live in different environment and have face different challenge. My boy deal with "difficult" girl at school with "amuse mastery". It's super effective and keep thing light and funny (he also did a lot of improvisation in theatre class which help a lot) . You can teach him how to deal with "shit test" he will have a blast with it. And it will help keep thing respectful without sounding needy or weak. It work well on sister too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/14 12:56 PM
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Red pill thinks men only really care about sex That's not true and you know it. Sure some look for casual sex other are looking for LTR and other are actually looking for there future wife and mother of there children. Waiting until a third date for sex is not "clearly not attracted". Again it all depend on what is his and her objective.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/14 12:45 PM
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Look no matter how you can phrase it, every boys can be victim of a false rape charge. Unless he record the act itself. Now about your consent example. Imagine a follow up of the scenario above: Now thing are getting really REALLY hot. In order to verify consent the boy could ask the girl to DO the following: To get fully naked (He DO NOT undress her, he let her do it for herself) To undress him To put a condom on him Etc..... The point being making the girl an active participant in the sexual a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/14 10:53 PM
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There is way to make REALLY sure of consent. Do you need example?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/14 07:38 PM
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Indeed. At 14 he started showing an interest in girl so that's why I showed him the primer. His younger brother will be expose to it next year and so on for the rest of the gang.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/14 07:34 PM
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No really, a blue pill guy would NOT move on. He would be patient and continue to hope for her to change her mind.... Because that's what men struck with onetis do. And that kind of behaviour can be extremely destructive. You should take the time to read the material that is the subject of this discussion. Your comment would be a lot more useful if you did.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/14 07:32 PM
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Your right about one thing the Subreddit r/TheRedPill is way out of line. But The RedPill Primer for boys is not the same thing. My oldest is having a blast with this material. And since I had to translate it in French I was able to filter out some of the Anti-feminist rant that was not pertinent to him. Anyways Read it for yourself before passing judgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/14 07:30 PM
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Indeed you are missing a lot of thing. That not how it work. What you teach them is to look for clear sign of attraction, and "compliance" most women will not say out loud that they want there lover to take charge (Because that would beat the purpose of a man taking the initiative if you have to ask for it) EX1: During a pickup the girl in this scenario is cold and she is not returning kino (touch) Or even worst when you try to move closer she move away. Well guess what buddy she is not into you…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/14 12:07 PM
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My ideas was to show this material early enough in order to avoid the anger phase. Soon after he began showing an interest in girl. So instead of being led on right into the lie he was RedPill from the get go.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/14 02:16 AM
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Regarding your first link (Beware of the flakyness) If we men always took women to there word there would be A LOT of very frustrated women out there who would just say (He just didn't get it!|) And yes that's how it work A lot of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/14 02:11 AM
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No your not victim blaming and this is solid advice. Try saying the same thing on r/twochromosome just for shit and giggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/14 02:06 AM
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Indeed it's just the apply theory without all the Butt-hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/14 02:04 AM
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He surely appreciate it. He was skeptical at first but after the first week (Dad That stuff really work!)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 08:36 PM
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A blue pill guy accepts that some girls dont want to have sex on the second date. Some want to take things slow, and that doesnt rule them out as good potential partners. Well actually a blue pill guy as exactly the same need and want than a RedPill guy. But he will pursue a romantic interest with a girl even when she is CLEARLY not attracted to him. That's no joke and a that will lead to a very frustrated chump and to a potentially dangerous situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 08:34 PM
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This isnt correct. TRP states that if the girl is NOT WILLING TO FUCK YOU, you move on and stop wasting your time. Its nothing to do with attraction, its purely whether you can get your desired outcome out of it. Well that's the point. A "blue pill" guy's will linger and continue to invest himself and fail to generate attraction. But he will not be aware of this. And in shear frustration after (expensive date, gift etc....) will feel entitle to sex. (That's dangerous!) A RedPill boy will be awar…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 07:58 PM
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Unfortunately as you've introduced your son to red pill thinking (which is essentially the glorification of selfishness, narcissism, amorality, sociopathic and other "dark triad" traits, looking down on women as lesser than men, manipulation, sex as the main (or indeed only) relationship goal for men etc), you've taken a big step away from these "respect women" fundamentals. First of all your opinion on this matter is really distorted by your own prejudice. And because of this your conclusion ( …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 07:46 PM
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Yeah but that's really not the right way to go about it. Those kind of submissive attitude toward women will only lead to rejection and frustration..... which will lead some men to actually commit rape!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 06:38 PM
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Indeed. I know your sarcastic, but physical appearance does matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/14 06:25 PM
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We went away the following weekend. We fucked 3 times in the first couple hours before dinner. She's been much better since, including moving forward on getting her medical issues resolved. I guess her excuse just vanish... We all know that some women use sex as a power tool in relationship. Some blame men for using tactic like dread in a relationship. But a woman who is withholding sex as a power lever in a relationship that's Ok.... What they are not aware is how much damage they create by beh…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/14 03:16 PM
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Some men like a challenge other .... not so much.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/14 02:47 PM
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