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The extent of thought you’re putting into this issue is exhausting from a reader’s perspective. You harping on this issue will be more of a problem than your body count quite frankly. Sure, in red pill spaces they’d count 7 as a high body count. I see it as on the low end because you’re under double digits. At your age, I was already in the double digits (low teens) and also thought no guy would ever love me if he knew about my past. It’s just not true. I’m in a relationship with a man that know…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/25 05:03 AM
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That's the thing, I try to be thoughtful and do things for him that I know he will appreciate. Bringing food over to his place occasionally, when I spend the night sometimes I will wash his towels or clean his bathroom. I do that because he has expressed to me that it makes him happy and I want to make my man happy. It really hurts that I'm getting pushback over flowers and it's frustrating that he does not seem to understand where I am coming from.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/25 02:08 AM
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how can we be on the same team if you demean women who have different life goals than you? we don’t want to be on your team, honestly.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 10:16 PM
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It could indicate that she likes to spend a lot of money and if the man is very frugal, I can see why he could see it as a yellow flag.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/25 04:50 PM
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To clarify, he would have a problem if it was just any other date but is okay for Valentine’s Day because he could see that I was excited to wear it but him being uncomfortable with it is rubbing off on me. I don’t necessarily think that’s a bad thing and I guess you are correct that I’m overthinking it. The last thing I’d want to do is let society’s perception interfere with my relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/25 12:12 AM
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I wouldn’t be wearing a bra with this dress and I would say it’s a bit more than cleavage. My chest looks exactly like this woman’s which I think is correctly classified as boobage haha ‘Boobage’ Edit: I’m not sure why this got downvoted lol the dress is made to be worn without a bra, wearing one would make it look weird.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/25 12:08 AM
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I have to add my 2 cents because we have similar dating experiences. I'm also black, just turned 23, have a body count of 13, have a very shapely figure and I'm 5'7 (kinda tall). I have 2 previous posts in this subreddit in which I am reaching out for advice about a similar predicament. I've had one boyfriend and we were only officially together for 3 months and it ended when I found out he cheated on me. Hindsight tells me it probably wasn't even the first time it happened, just the first time …
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/24 07:42 AM
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It sounds like you may have had experiences that have made you mad that even so called hoes don’t wanna fuck you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 04:26 PM
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I like how you worded this. I will be using it in the future. It doesn’t come across as rude but is very straight forward. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 03:24 AM
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Nothing you try to say to clean up your boyfriend’s image to us will work. It is clear he is verbally abusive to you and that should be enough for you to want to leave the relationship. You’re only one year in, there will definitely by more of this behavior if you stay with him. Think about how he makes you feel when he verbally degrades you. Someone who respects and cares about you would not want to make you feel so low. Being single should be a dream compared to the nightmare relationship you’…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 04:05 PM
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What kind of question is this? You can be anything you want to be…it has nothing to do with race. Only if you make it about it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 09:37 AM
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It says something about both the man and the woman. That man is a liar who has low integrity and poor character. The woman has poor vetting skills and places too much trust in a man she’s still getting to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 09:43 PM
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6ft former athletes...I think if my girl game was on point, yes. I don't specifically seek out men that have high school athletic backgrounds but men at or over 6ft in general within a reasonable weight is my ideal for sure. I've also slept with and been on dates with men around my height (5'7) so I’m not disqualifying shorter men (5’9+). It just so happens that most of the men I’ve felt the strongest connection to happened to be tall and had an athletic background like me. I understand that it …
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 11:35 PM
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Yeah, I’ve never had a guy express interest in locking me down. My ex wanted me to be ‘his’ but he didn’t have the same standard for himself lol. I was definitely doing a lot of Netflix and chill situations when I was sexually active in high school but I require a man to take me on dates now. The ex-fling I blocked yesterday would take me on dates even after we had sex which I really enjoyed. There was a lot of PDA (moreso make out sessions…) but we never connected emotionally. At face value, it…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 05:20 PM
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Thank you. This is great advice.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 04:09 PM
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My self esteem has been in the toilet for many, many years. Probably since 6th grade. From a physical standpoint, I’ve grown to really like my looks but at times I still don’t feel like I look good enough to be in a relationship. Me now at 22 realizes that I’m very attractive to men from a sexual standpoint and that kind of attention has gotten quite annoying to me. Although, I’m not sure how to separate that sexual energy in the early stages because I feel without that they’d lose interest in m…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 04:08 PM
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I’ll take that into consideration, thank you. My ideal man would definitely be 6’0+ but I don’t mind dating a man that’s 5’9 or 5’10. My ex-flings have mostly been over 6ft, have athletic backgrounds and are decently attractive facially. I don’t look in the direction of ‘pretty boys’ anymore after my ex. I’d consider him an 8/10 and there was too much cheating and disrespect on his behalf. I’m 22, I don’t like to date men over 27 and none of them are established. No kids, they still live at home…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 03:54 PM
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I feel stuck. I’ve realized I don’t like casual sex through experience and I no longer want to have it. If someone new I’m entertaining asks about my past I’m never going to lie but I also don’t want to continue those behaviors that led to my high body count. Is there something I can do in the future to show I am not my past and be the girl he does want to be with? Without continuing to have causal sex?
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 11:11 AM
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I think that ties into my communication struggles. If I’m getting to know someone and dates are going well, I feel bad abruptly ending things. I also struggle with how to do it in a amicable way. I tend to put other’s feelings and needs before my own which only results in my feelings getting hurt.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 06:26 AM
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This made me cry, you are too sweet. I’m 22 and just so tired of being sad and resentful about situations that haven’t worked out. I really don’t have any business dating right now but when I do, I’ll keep your very wise words near to my heart.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 06:01 AM
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Sadly, no. I’ve been trying to have better communication with my family but it hasn’t been too effective as I believe that’s the source of my terrible communication and boundary setting. The ex fling I mentioned is the only person I’ve slept with under the influence. There’s been an instance where I just really did not know how to say no. Other than that, I would have sex soon because I stupidly thought that’s how you get a man to commit.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 05:54 AM
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Thank you for your reply. I am so glad you found the relationship you desire! It helps me believe that my dating future is not completely hopeless. You hit the nail on the head. If I go on a date with someone I’m attracted to and their personality blends well with mine, I’m definitely head over heels by the end of date 1. I will make them a priority in my life when things are still very fresh and new, even to my own detriment. I’m realizing that I need to de-center male attention in my life and …
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 05:24 AM
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Plenty of people stick to dating/marrying within their race and it works out perfectly fine. I’d say it’s pretty common actually and it’s not exclusive to minorities either. It works for me which is why I mentioned it, it’s just something OP can think about.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 02:20 PM
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As a black woman, I honestly don’t think this would be the best space to ask this question as most responders here are non black women. They don’t have the same experience we do and I don’t see how they’d be able to offer insight on such a topic. But, the men you are talking about who are attracted to different races are just not compatible with you. There are still plenty of masculine men who are interested in black women, I wouldn’t pay any mind to the ones that don’t. I know it’s easier said …
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 03:18 AM
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I’m not sure why some men would lie and make it seem like their body count is lower than it is. It’s definitely happened to me with several men. Not saying that this is what is happening in OP’s situation but I don’t think it’s that uncommon, at least in my experience.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/23 05:04 PM
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6-6.5 as a straight 21F. I have a cute face so I’d say I’m a little bit above average but I don’t stand out in a crowd strictly because of my facial features. I do have a great body (hour glass figure) although I could stand to lose a few pounds… But that does get me a good amount of male attention. I have a few pics on my profile to verify my claims if anyone’s curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 05:43 AM
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What number is too much for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 03:12 AM
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Over the last couple years, I have watched plenty of videos (too many) and read extensively on why men are turned off by women who have high body counts (even if his is high as well), it’s an innate thing. When I think about it from a guy’s perspective, it makes sense to not want to date a promiscuous woman because there’s more risk the relationship will fail, potentially catastrophically. It’s the same thing for women with guys who have been with prostitutes. It’s an ick I get when I think of a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 07:11 AM
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There are plenty of women with high body counts that still think men who resort to prostitution are quite disgusting. Me being one of them😂 I cannot help to view that type of man as inferior. I’m just being honest. It’s the same for guys who have high body counts who’d never date a woman who also has a high body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 03:20 PM
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So you would suggest a former promiscuous woman to just keep sleeping around to make herself even more undesirable long term?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:56 PM
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I’d say I’m a little above average. Definitely couldn’t be a model, but I think I’m fairly attractive. I have a very nice figure that compliments me in all the right places. I’d honestly say I’m a 6-6.5 which I’m not satisfied with. I have some good facial features but some not so good features that drag my attractiveness down a level or two. I’d be content as a 7 and I’m working towards that as I’m hoping it will open my dating pool to more men that I’m highly attracted to. I have pictures in m…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 08:47 PM
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From a woman’s mind, it’s crazy to me that you still wouldn’t date a woman with half the body count of yours. Personally, it comes across as hypocritical and shallow. But at the end of the day, I’ve just learned to accept that’s an innate feeling in men and to adjust accordingly. I’m curious, at what number does a woman’s body count start to become a dealbreaker for a long term relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 07:55 AM
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Yes, anyone would choose the better and more attractive choice if it was attainable. That’s human nature
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 06:44 PM
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That’s true as well but I’m not seeing any major flaws that make those women below average… Below average implies they are slightly ugly or flat out which they are not. Most of them are normal, average looking people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 06:42 PM
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Lolol I definitely think you are rating some of them too hard. The ones that are not overweight are average looking but I’d have to agree the ones that looked overweight are below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 03:59 PM
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I’m a 21 black woman, I’d say I’m slightly above average (pics on my profile if you’re curious) and I get hit on at least once or twice a month? This goes for everyday life - work, running errands, working out not including going out because it happens more frequently then. When I go out, I get hit on multiple times throughout the night but that’s common for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 02:19 AM
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Redacted = act like you’re the most sexually open minded man in the world to have sex with her and dump her afterwards
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 11:59 PM
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At least you’re honest 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 10:48 PM
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okay and it’s shitty when both genders do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 01:08 AM
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Could you elaborate on the tattoo removal issue? I have a few that I would like to get removed in the future - only one has color in a very small area. I’ve seen some before and after pictures where the tattoo practically is nonexistent so I’m bummed to hear it didn’t work for you. I’d love to hear about your experience with it
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 03:45 PM
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Who’s they? And how are you so sure “they” all know someone is going to attempt to manipulate them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:11 PM
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Women with low body counts can cheat as well. The probability is not be as high that they will but the risk is not zero. I have a high body count and I’ve never cheated on anyone because I don’t have that desire. A lot of cheaters are just shitty people that have no regard for others feelings. You’re entitled to your preferences but to think avoiding high n count women makes certain you’ll never be cheated on isn’t sensible.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 05:58 PM
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Keep that same energy if you ever get cheated on or when women cheat on men. Yeah, she should have cut that relationship off but he should have had the integrity to leave the relationship if he wasn’t happy instead of continuously cheating. In that scenario, they both look like clowns staying in a situation that isn’t making them happy. Let’s not act like every relationship plays out the same. People can be good to their significant other for years in a relationship and then down the line they d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 02:24 PM
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Okay then don’t.👍🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 05:30 AM
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What would you say to a man who’s wife cheated on him and he filed for divorce? You would tell him he’s responsible for picking a horrible woman and that he’s not a victim essentially? You have zero empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:43 PM
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Why are all of your comments so negative? This sub is not for you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 07:30 PM
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I’d be fine with a man that doesn’t want to know or one that does and is accepting of my number. Though I would prefer to find a man that knows my number because it’d bring me a sense of relief to get it off my chest and I’d feel he is accepting of all of me, flaws/mistakes included.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 08:02 PM
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Sorry, I should have been more clear. I am definitely not going to tell anyone how many sexual partners I have been with unless they ask, but I think it is more common for men to ask about previous relationship experience. Since the one relationship I had was so short lived and toxic, I think it would be a red flag for men that have been in an actual long term relationship. They may believe I do not have the skills it takes to maintain a healthy relationship. In this regard, how should I explain…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 07:25 PM
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You must be unattractive lmao. I think this should be common sense…why would a woman try to change a guy she’s not attracted to? Same thing goes for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 06:08 AM
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Does he have a past himself? I think it’d be pretty valid for a man who did not sleep around to have these feelings. If he has however, I think it’s hypocritical that he’s having such a hard time moving past this if he’s had the same past.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 01:00 AM
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Then it’s acceptable for women to lie about their body counts right?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:55 PM
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mods PLEASE ban this man child.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 02:17 PM
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go back to TRP✌🏽
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 02:14 PM
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Yeah it’s 9. Going forward I am definitely going to be more selective with who I choose to have sex with for many reasons. My previous experiences have shown me it’s really unfulfilling when it’s with someone I don’t share a connection with.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 06:18 PM
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What advice would you give for young women that have already messed up in past and have been promiscuous? Im 20 years old and am just now becoming aware of the consequences my promiscuity will have in my romantic relationships. If I work on self improvement is there hope that I can attract and have a relationship with a high quality man or should I lower my standards?
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 05:17 PM
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Looking for a male’s perspective as a woman with a high body count. What timeframe are you referring to as withholding sex? If she has sex with you 3-4 dates in is that would you would consider withholding sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 09:21 PM
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Number of people you’ve slept with
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 09:18 PM
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That’s true. I say I missed out on a special bond because my dad was a great man. Everyone that knew him was absolutely gutted when he passed and to this day when they talk about him get choked up because he was the type of man to leave a positive, lasting impact on whoever he met. Makes his loss for me so much harder.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/21 02:42 AM
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Extremely. I feel cheated because I had such a special bond that I feel was stolen from me so young and didn’t have a father figure to advise me on things like this.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 10:11 PM
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Okay, I understand. Thanks for your input
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 09:50 PM
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So basically quality men see it as a big deal, since that’s what I’m looking for. Low quality men won’t care?
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 09:41 PM
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I am glad you found your happily ever after :) and thank you for your kind and well thought out response. I'm gonna focus on loving me and figuring out what things in life bring me joy before trying to love someone else. The saying is so true that you cannot love anyone else until you love yourself first.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 01:00 AM
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