Hi,

This will be my second post here. I am the now 21F who posted about having 9 sexual partners at age 20 (now 10). Only one of those partners was a very short lived relationship where things were made official. If you’re wondering how short it was, we were officially dating for all of 3 months but were ‘talking’ for 8 months. It was a pretty toxic relationship as well and I ended it because I found out he was cheating on me. I know that this is a huge red flag for men that are looking for a relationship. When I think about dating and getting to know someone it scares me to discuss this with them because I know it’s very off putting. I am not going to voluntarily offer this information but it’s likely to come up when I’m dating as things progress with someone.

My question is how should I address my relationship experience? There’s no way to make it sound appealing but is there any way to frame it so it’s not a total dealbreaker?

Edit: I’ve come to terms with the number of sexual partners I’ve had, for the most part. I’m not willing to give any man who’s concerned about that the time of day because we’re fundamentally incompatible. My concern stems from the one relationship I did have. I believe men who have been in long term relationships will see this as a red flag because I don’t really know how to be in a stable relationship. Would there be a way to phrase my lack of experience to ease their concerns? Or it something I would have to prove through my actions?