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If I understand correctly, you have a mutual agreement on taking a break. Whatever was the reason you did this should be the understandable reason. I can't see any understandable reason though. If he wanted to be with you, he would. Same goes for you.
/r/askFDS06/10/21 11:06 AM
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I can relate to all of this! Always questioning myself if I'm "self sabotaging". But I'm starting to think that might just be yet another gaslighting technique to make us question ourselves, which of course benefits men. I know that the one narc who all but fucked my life over often would point out I had a "self destructive nature". Maybe I did, maybe I didn't, but I sure as hell don't anymore. Yet I still wonder if this mythical self-destructive nature of mine is why I'm losing interest in this…
/r/askFDS08/05/21 09:23 AM
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Aww thank you. Yea that's true. I guess I just have to be consistent with it for awhile, which is not going to be a problem!
/r/askFDS06/04/21 10:39 AM
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Anyone think the song Doll Parts by Hole is about this? Regardless, I love that song.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:27 AM
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I should maybe have specified that for me it's about having been stupid with money, not being independent, and not being able to get a low stress, dealing with few people, routine type of a job. So I'm going back to school to find a job to fit me and my disorder, not to increase my income. I simply just need an income haha. I agree wholeheartedly with everything you said. Income doesn't have much to do with being HV. That goes for both women and for men. It's nice to hear you say it. This sub ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:10 AM
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The biggest one for me was to take a hard look at myself and realizing I'm not a HVW yet. I don't have my finances in order, a stabile income, or a decent living situation. I knew I was HV in all the other ways, even despite having a mental disorder. That's because, after I got diagnosed with bipolar 2, getting better was my number 1 priority. I've now got that shit figured out. But I'm still poor and in an insecure, dependent situation. It was a tough pill to swallow that I needed to level up m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:30 AM
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I hate that we've been indoctrinated into thinking only men are visual creatures. Could have saved me so many bad dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 10:38 PM
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That's exactly what the LVMs are thinking! Only they're going "if I actually had value I would have asked you out". Well, they might not think that, but somewhere deep inside, they know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 09:24 PM
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It's a good idea to say you appreciate larger size dicks. That would fit very good into conversations about sex, which I like to have beforehand. Asking straight out feels a bit intruding to me, so that's a great compromise. Then, if he doesn't pick up on it, during foreplay and getting to see it, it would be easy to amicably tell him it not going to work out. Thanks! And thanks for calling people out too. I wasn't comparing dicks to boobs per say, and agree they're not the same, just the shamin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:01 PM
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Nah, don't want to feel anyone up. That's why I ask. To be able to gauge maybe by other means, or if it's okay to ask them or let them know it's something you appreciate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:51 PM
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I think it's okay to have preferences too. But I don't agree with shaming those with smaller packages. It's not like it's a choice. It's the same as shaming women for their boobs or something else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:50 PM
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I don't want to feel anyone up or grope. Size is important to me though. And I thing I'm justified in that. I've had bad experience with smaller sizes even though I've been open minded. I think the best advice in here is to be open and rather stop things once intimate based on how it's absolutely okay to stop at any time. But to mods, I understand if it gets taken down. I don't want to advocate for sexual assault either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:08 PM
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I want an average guy with an above average dick. My great dating sadness is not knowing their size before investing time. I doubt my trick of mentioning I'm a size queen does any good. But it's all I got.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:10 AM
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and he didn't compliment my appearance which was on point. I'm over it immediately if a guy doesn't compliment me like that. Fuck outta here with that obvious negging. So happy you decided not to go
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 08:32 AM
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One I dated later told me he lived with his ex. Sure, whatever, leases and all (pre FDS lol). Then they moved to a new city together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:05 AM
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Vibrator, dildo. If you need intimacy or cuddles, call a friend to watch a movie or something. All of that is better than mediocre sex without feelings.
/r/askFDS17/03/21 07:28 PM
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Same. For several years I had to endure sex for at least an hour to be able to cum else he'd have a fit/shame me. Fucking hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:05 PM
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The details of his murder are insane. So aggravated and hateful. Thanks for sharing. I'm building an arsenal of articles and stats to have serious backing up when men, and women, say not all men or try to diminish facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:23 PM
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Holy shit. This is heartbreaking. 110, I assume in Britain?, killed by their partners while in lock-down. Fucking hell. How do they hate us so fucking much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:16 PM
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It was fucked lol. First: one of the guys. Then a pickme. Then a kinkmeisha. While kinkmeisha, Jordan Peterson views got mixed in and I believed men to be better than women. Then kinkmeisha. Then, gender critical. Then regular plain Jane. Then FDS and radical feminism. Now there's no turning back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:10 PM
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Good! I hope they're decent, treat you with respect and take it as seriously as it should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:08 PM
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It's crazy how family, married and taken men I'm around (I'm often in guys' company cause I hang out with my brother) hit on me, flirt with me, or straight up joke about hooking up with me or point out others I need to be "careful around". I'd enjoy it if they were single though. I'm flirty as long as I don't feel uncomfortable. I'm also 30. Do they think it's more okay and less depraved since I'm older?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:07 PM
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Do you have a link on the anal one? Here are some of my favorites! I hope it's cool I have three favorites. This one about the neurological consequences of BDSM: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/lxnxwt/the_negative_neurological_consequences_of_bdsm/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share This fun idea on the origins of patriarchy: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/lr3mwx/im_convinced_that_men_invented_patriarchy_because/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_sour…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:10 PM
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Nobody's a bad texter unless they live a no smartphone type of life. I've used this excuse so many times myself, and it's always because I'm not that interested. I got blocked once though! Mad respect to the dude.
/r/askFDS11/03/21 11:04 AM
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The lack of support and awareness from friends because we've all been so brainwashed is detrimental. Many of my friends have unconsciously gaslit me when I've dated some scrote, telling me maybe I'm the bad one, that I've misread signals, or that I need to have some compassion and understanding. I think of FDS as the older sister I never had, and all of you as enlightened and supportive friends. I don't need help finding a man. I need help respecting and valuing myself while staying out of harm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:51 AM
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I feel like an abused dog that can't bring itself to resent anyone, who will still cautiously approach when called hoping it's to be pet rather than kicked. But for her entire life it's been nothing but the latter. What a beautiful way to put it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:44 AM
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Yes. I'm a grump and don't like tiktoks at all. There's been a lot of them lately and most of them are low quality. Info and messages posted here by members is always a hundred times better and, well, authentic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:09 PM
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I didn't listen and went on to read all top comments. Disgusting. One even called her a narcissist?? The fuck is wrong with people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:52 PM
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Awful first date with a scrote. Agree to meet up just to put on clown makeup. Leave. I might have to do this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:52 PM
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What the others said. First: don't watch porn again, ever. When you masturbate, it's okay to recall certain scenes or scenarios you find arousing. If you can't finish, don't, but try again another time. Keep doing this. Eventually you should be able to find you need less and less kinky stuff to orgasm. Taking a long break from porn and masturbation altogether could also work. Say you go a few months without. You might even be aroused just by your vibrator by then. The final step for me was breat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:07 PM
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She got to “experience” another man inside of her, so the universe kinda owed him one. I feel physically ill. That's exactly right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:17 AM
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Want to share? What was his occupation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:37 AM
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Thank you! I like to fuse leveling up with optimism. Oil and offshore, for instance, is a different story from men in business. My friend's HVM husband, whom I've known since primary school, works in oil. He went into the field while dating his now wife. Always been HV. But I have heard bad stories from contractors. It's interesting to see what people think and why. It's good to be cautious. But I have a feeling not a lot of women on here live rurally or in small towns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:59 AM
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Fuuuuck that. I'm so sorry. What an absolute tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:31 AM
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The only time my ex ever, ever "cried" was when I finally got the guts to leave. I went back. A few weeks later I escaped. No point r e s p e c t f u l l y breaking up in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:10 PM
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TW. I used to be porn sick. I've never considered this. I was involved with bdsm culture and practice, and definitely fused the two together. I also watched porn since I was young. I'm not proud of it, but I developed a serious addiction. I only recognize it now in retrospect. I don't know how it worked with my brain, but I rid myself of it. I guess by detoxing similarly to any other addiction? My main motivating factors were hating myself for watching and being dependent on fantasizing during r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:08 PM
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My free wholesome award will also be awarded, despite it being the opposite of wholesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:59 PM
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What even is a friendship with sex added good for? I can maybe see how a sex only relationship could work (although they most likely won't), if no hanging out or texting was involved. The only problem is that I can't think of anyone who'd want that. Even scrotes want more out of the girl they want to fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:54 PM
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insecure blob men Blob men lmao. But seriously, who do they think they are? I hope the comments aren't ridiculous agreements, but I'm sure the majority is being supportive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:50 PM
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Well that's not good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:49 PM
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I'm almost thirty and my parents are still, although a whole lot less than when I was younger, a bit bothered by me not showing off my figure. The only thing that led to was me developing more and more of an androgynous style lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:47 PM
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That's exactly it. Where I want to live and settle down, these jobs are incredibly common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:34 PM
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Definitely did not consider this scenario. That would be impossible to know from the get go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:50 PM
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Ohhhh this explains so much. Note to self: don't have guy friends over during ovulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:30 AM
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Empath = master manipulator, causes a lot of emotional pain to his victims BEWARE BEWARE BEWARE. These dudes will also psychobabble you to exhaustion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 12:16 AM
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Hell yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:43 PM
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This used to be me 🤡🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:32 PM
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I'm a bit freaked out by this. We have such ridiculously similar stories! I had so many lovely plans when I was 19/20. Then, online, I randomly started talking to this dude. He was ten years older. I was a teen. I was also vulnerable, naive, and he love bombed me. After a while, I got emotionally invested. He was divorcing. I felt guilty. We talked for a year. I sent a lot of, umh, homemade porn. Then I felt stupid, scared, and like I definitely needed to see him, since he had all that shit. So …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:36 PM
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I wonder how many other girls he's contacted and if any of them has responded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:54 PM
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Rant. Gratitude. Wanting to share. I've been single for six years. But I only found FDS last year. Even though I didn't look for anything serious with anyone, because all of them had shitty relationship material, I've had a lot of fwb situations, and still wasted a shit ton of time on OLD. I didn't want to be picked up for commitment after my abusive relationship. Not because I thought I had value, but because I was terrified of being trapped or "picked". But I was definitely a major kinkmeisha …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:53 PM
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Snuggling on a level too weird for my friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:25 AM
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Do any of you get stuff for your SO for Valentine's? What's the take?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:09 PM
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I'd like to remain hopeful. But since it's something they're gonna have to want themselves, it's not going to happen. Enter fds informing women to not putting up with shit anymore.
/r/askFDS26/02/21 11:13 AM
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Because you're socialized to. It's in our culture. I didn't fully get over this until I dated the scrotest of scrotes (I was blinded by his looks), after years of dating more subtle lvms, and being tired of being fucked by men who didn't prioritize my orgasm, and finding FDS. Honestly, it stared with me getting over my kinkmeisha ways and wanting a fucking orgasm lol. If they get to, I get to. Then it snowballed from there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:06 AM
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Pretend a friend of yours has every bit of ambission, grit, and good qualities that you have and bring to the table, and ask yourself what you think she deserves. Pretty sure you'd find her to be too good for any and all lvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:47 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing! This is how everyone in a relationship with someone they (claim to) care about should be. It's ridiculous how it's a rare thing. I'm so happy for you to have found someone who shows these lovely qualities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:53 AM
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don’t externalise your insecurity of not deserving your needs being met to your current boyfriend, and if you have been, stop. I'm in the very beginning of dating a guy, and have been trying my damnedest to show no weakness. Thanks to FDS, my confidence in what I deserve and should expect is strong as fuck. But since I'm starting to trust him, I find myself wanting to tell him all kinds of shit that my ex nvm forced me to. I've felt pressure to share very private stuff, even though it's pretty h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:47 AM
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Yes lol. I'm gonna imagine a foul smell ruining his objectifiaction now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:15 PM
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I only snuggle up to my female friends. If a guy friend decided to up and touch me, I would immediately joke around and make a remark. Like hey dude, what do you think you're doing snuggling up on me like that - we haven't even gone out to dinner! Maybe lightheartedly push him off me to make it known I'm not comfortable with the situation, and hoping he'd take the hint. If he's high value and interested, I think he would. It'd also show him you're not down for intimate touching as just a friendl…
/r/askFDS23/02/21 10:55 PM
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Jabba the Husband Jabba the Husband lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:03 AM
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These assholes want us to accept them as they are, warts and all. Lmao this is how I ended up with an std.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:53 AM
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You sound like a fucking queen already. I could feel your beautiful, sparkling energy through your words. Now, let the healing begin! You deserve nothing but the best the world has to offer. I'm so glad to hear you're walking away with a wonderful relationship with his daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:45 AM
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As harsh as it sounds, I think perhaps you dropped the ball when you told him that you wanted to be exclusive within a month of dating him. But that's okay! Shit happens. We all make mistakes. But he knows he's got you hooked, and can feel safe that you're sticking around. So don't stick around. Don't let him breadcrumb you. You've made it clear what you want, and he didn't pick up on it. Drop him. Do something else. Date someone else. Learn from this and keep your cards further up your sleeve. …
/r/askFDS23/02/21 08:23 AM
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One way I vet guys is asking what their thoughts on open and poly relationships are. It's not of any value to me to be with someone who is going to want to be with others as well. So a HVM would be one that wanted to be with me exclusively.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 05:23 PM
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Now I know many young women here would see this as dream date. No. This is normal baseline good manners and how dating should be. I feel called out lol. This, with the addition of some flowers, is absolutely my dream first date. Saving this. Finding new standards and expectations is making me strangely positive about my future dating life. Not because I think this stuff will happen any time soon, but because I'm looking forward to be a badass like you and serve up some "nuh-uh"s at poor attempts…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:02 PM
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Too true lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:52 PM
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Sweetest you, I'm so sorry. I second all the other women in here. Please be smart and safe while you get the fuck away from this man. But FUCK YES, great job! This was an emotional read. I can't wait to see your next post on how much you're thriving without this deadweight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:49 PM
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And rimming without consent! That's the most jarring experience I ever had. I think I straight up kicked him away with my feet. Surprise anal, choking, slapping, and hair pulling, as well as "hey wanna watch porn together" questions became normal while I was porn sick and brainwashed. But rimming.. Holy shit. That was so out of my comfort zone it made me realize that I did indeed have boundaries. It was my wake-up call. It made me reflect upon what I actually wanted in bed. Turned out, it was no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:33 PM
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Fucking Black Mirror hell. This theme could make a good episode if someone incredible and FDS minded made it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:09 PM
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Oh damn. This gave me a chuckle. How pathetic. Don't know if it's "once he started spending money, he 'cared'" or "he finally cared enough to keep you around, so he started spending money" or "he's spending money now so that you'll stick around".
/r/askFDS22/02/21 03:01 PM
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I think this goes for everyone. If my skin stayed clean and hydrated with just water, and if I never wore makeup, I'd do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:56 AM
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I absolutely agree. I'm so happy to be seeing a tide turning! All I'm saying is it's no secret that men stalk, harass, grope, rape, hold captive, and do a whole number of things to women to get off in some kind of way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 11:51 PM
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Because of incel mindsets. Can't imagine if they get even more of a following
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:49 PM
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Many men will be single, and hate it. They will have many fewer women to have sex with This scenario hopelessly terrifies me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:57 PM
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They have conditioned their brains to protect itself. I sometimes even wonder if the the part of their brain that is wired to protect children and partners has been hijacked by porn. This is the exact same logic and reasoning pedophiles use. If you listen to the podcast "Hunting Warhead", which is about uncovering the biggest pedophile ring on the darknet, "condition their brain" is exactly what a lot of them do. Compartmentalizing to avoid facing how truly horrible they are to children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:58 PM
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You're an inspiration!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:32 AM
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Maybe sensing his ego in trying to make you come over a genuine affection for you making him want to make you feel good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:34 AM
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This is so important. I can hardly believe how long it's taken me to realize this. Whenever I've ran to friends and family for advice saying "my gut feeling is not good" most of them will be like GIVE IT/HIM A CHANCE - there's no such thing as gut feels! Never again listening to others and forever listening to my gut when it tells me something ain't right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 08:09 PM
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'OH CRAP didn't mean to hurt you, u okay? Thought you were an intruder! You startled me!'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 08:00 PM
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I get such a creeped out feeling reading this. Back in my early twenties I was such a Pickme I'd sleep with scrotes even after incriminating comments like "this is all I wanted - fucking a girl like you" lmfao thought this man wanted to marry me in the future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:39 AM
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This is probably the number one thing I'd never realize hadn't I found this place. I've turned down men I thought were "too attractive" because I figured a less attractive man would appreciate me more 🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:35 AM
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Can confirm. What a twat and all his comedian friends would neg alongside lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:42 PM
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Lmao 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:21 PM
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Umhhhhhhhhh. First of all that's illegal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:14 PM
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This is something that drives me up the wall. Like................................ I'm so angry hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:07 PM
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I bring this up to every man that asks me about prevention and I get NOTHING in return. Even my female friends don't wanna talk about it. All is dismissed as "oh well can't do anything about it". The fuck we can! Men just don't want to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:39 PM
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"To avoid feeling vulnerable, we may retreat from all intimate involvement, mistaking sexual and emotional anorexia for recovery." This list of characteristics is smacking me across my face. Definitely, painfully, helpful to me. Thank you! This place is becoming a venue for serious self discovery/improvement. Don't think I'm gonna be looking for no HVM for some years lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:55 PM
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I love your energy 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:01 PM
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🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:50 PM
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