Do LV men change?

stillcantsee · 2021-02-26T15:23:40+00:00

Maybe, but probably not. I certainly have no intention or interest in sticking around to see if it happens 🤣

LordDunderhead · 2021-02-26T13:14:10+00:00

Certainly possible, but only after hurting someone else in the process and never while being with the person they're currently dating.

They might be HV for the next person after undergoing some degree of self reflection.

There's just no way of knowing if maybe he'd been shit in the past and it definitely helps not getting too attached too quickly lol. I guess that's the sad part about dating any HVM.

okeyda · 2021-02-26T11:13:23+00:00

I'd like to remain hopeful. But since it's something they're gonna have to want themselves, it's not going to happen. Enter fds informing women to not putting up with shit anymore.

MelatoninNightmares · 2021-02-26T15:59:06+00:00

It's technically possible, especially if the LV traits were due to something like immaturity, addictions (incl porn), or a LV friend group. For example, a 21yo party guy who grows up, sobers up, and gets serious about his life at age 26 would probably have been LV when he was partying, but might be HV after sobering up and choosing to lead a more ambitious, healthy life.

However, a LVM will probably never have the self-awareness and humility to make that choice. So I think the issue is more accurately framed as "men of HV character can make bad choices and fall into LV behavior," rather than "LVM can become HVM." I think that's a more fair and accurate way of putting it. Good people can make bad choices, but bad people rarely become good people.

That said, we'll never know from the outside which is which. And we aren't Bob the Builder chicks who stay with men who exhibit LV behavior in the hopes of "saving" them.

Title	Do LV men change?
Author	dancedancedance83
Upvotes	16
Comments	9
Date	February 26, 2021 8:01 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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