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INSIGHTFULonacasserole/r/RedPillWives15/02/17 06:10 AM
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You go girl! Just focus on one goal at a time :) Do you journal? You might find it helpful for clarifying your goals and tracking progress!
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 12:00 AM
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I think they're tacky and outdated. If you like the polished look of fake nails I recommend getting a gel manicure.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 11:56 PM
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I'll weigh in as an older married lady (10+ years with the same man). I agree that sex is super important in a LTR, for women and men. However, in a true longterm relationship there will be ups and downs with sex. If you're going to be together potentially for 40, 50, 60 years, of course there will be periods of time when you're more partners than lovers. The test of a true relationship is whether it bounces back to being lovers or just stays as platonic/roommates. For example, after DH lost his…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 11:54 PM
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You need to separate what you can control and what you can't control. Would it be nice if this were all happening and you were having these realizations at 19? Sure! But life happens, and you are where you are now. If you don't work on yourself now, you'll be typing a similar post at 35, so even though you're freaked about dating in your 30s you have to address the real issues first or no relationship will ever work the way you want it to. I think it's also good to look at personal goals in a re…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 05:26 AM
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Yeah I've never understood the concept of sitting down and having a big chat about things that should be apparent. If you have to have the talk to see if he wants commitment, he probably doesn't. Men are fairly territorial in my experience, unless they're just playing around.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 05:18 AM
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It's so frustrating to watch, isn't it?
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 05:15 AM
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I don't ever try to argue about relationship dynamics or try to have that conversation, I just side step it. I think the best defense is showcasing your happiness, being open about how proud you are of your husband (I brag on my man all the time), and expressing enjoyment over their "concerns". So like, "does HE ever cook for YOU??? gasp" and then I say, "oh no, I would hate that because I love to cook. actually he just surprised me with a new knife set out of the blue!" That kind of thing. I fi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 01:07 AM
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I was always this type of woman. I went through life in a liberal arts college in a large city where every woman I knew mocked me for catering to my boyfriend and being monogamous. At age 19 other girls laughed at me for wanting to bake cookies for my boyfriend, when I was just trying to be sweet and nice. None of this was a conversion for me, I was always like this! My mom is a gold star feminist who didn't allow me to have dolls or shave my legs, the end result for me was hiding Vogue magazine…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/18 03:50 AM
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I think formerly "independent" women feel like a burden on men when they take from them because they don't really understand what they have to give. Every "independent" woman I've known has had no issue taking advice and emotional support from her girlfriends, money from her parents, advice from a teacher or mentor, guidance from a therapist, etc. Just think of all the people you have accepted help from, why were you ok with that? The thing is, what we as women seek from men is not identical to …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/18 12:46 AM
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The first time we saw each other I had this intense feeling of my stomach dropping, almost like being on an elevator in free fall. My heart rate skyrocketed and I just had this thought of, "that's him". Then we got to know each other and it was like being on a beautiful blurry carousel of experiences. I just respected him as a man in such a genuine non-forced way, which then made him even sexier to me but also safe and stable, like I could depend on him from day 1. Now it's honestly even better …
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/18 03:37 AM
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Be up front. Men like direct communication but hate desperation, that's the difference you're looking to define. Tell him, "hey, I've loved this thing and this thing and this other thing about you/we did, and I like hanging out with you, but for me to continue on this path, I need for us to be exclusive. I understand if that's not what you want, and I respect that, but that's a non negotiable for me. I'm cool with whatever you decide, I just want to know where you stand." Any man who isn't a tot…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/18 05:05 AM
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If you know yourself, physically, in a sexual way, then you won't have any trouble translating that to your sex life with a man. Women who have longterm trouble with sex, in relationships, are women who can't get themselves off. These are usually women who are so self-conscious they can't make themselves orgasm or enjoy pleasure even when they're alone. This has nothing to do with the number of sexual partners someone has had. You don't have to go have sex with random men, that's crazy! Here's w…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/18 04:57 AM
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I love a good red velvet cake with cream cheese frosting.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 04:47 AM
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I feel like you have two issues. You don't sound like someone with a drinking problem, although I encourage you to pass on drinks if you don't want them. I often point out physical size difference as reason I'm not having more. I find that a lot of the time gregarious guys are just trying to be fun loving when they buy rounds of shots, but if you point out your size they sorta snap out of it and realize that of course you can't drink as much as they can. Just do it in a jokey light way, people u…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 04:45 AM
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Is this the hill you want to die on? You don't want to clean because he needs you to clean, you want to clean because, "It feels like he's taking away my way of taking care of him." Find other ways of taking care of him, keep your own stuff as tidy and clean as possible, and if you see him re-doing your work--just ask him! Maybe he's just very particular, maybe he likes to clean as a de-stress (my husband can get like that with deep cleaning stuff or re-organizing things), or maybe he's just in …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 04:35 AM
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I think for us ladies the issue is rarely that we're not doing enough, and more often that we're trying to do too much or doing the wrong things. Keeping stuff clean, cooking, staying out of his workspace, not bugging him about long hours...all good! Being understanding when he needs some alone chill time...excellent! But really, anything beyond that is overstepping unless he asks. You don't want him to think that YOU think he can't do it. Of course, some of it is knowing your man also. Like, if…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/18 04:28 AM
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No no no! You are worth being treated! This isn't settling a bar tab or splitting takeout with a roommate. Learn to accept gracefully, because men really appreciate it. In your head you're like, "he paid for dinner, so i should offer to split the next thing because that's considerate." In his head he'd be like, "i paid for one dinner and now she wants to split our next date. i guess she thinks i can't even afford one dinner out."
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/18 04:31 PM
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I think speaking well starts with listening well. People who are a bit brash or blunt almost always have poor listening skills. I can always tell when, while I'm talking to someone, they are just thinking of what they'll say next and not really listening. I recommend being more in the moment and really becoming a skilled listener. It's ok for there to be a slight silence in a conversation. The more you learn about reading body language the better too. Blunt people are able to continue being blun…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/18 04:27 PM
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Are we married to the same man? We have the same setup! Two bedroom apartment and the office/spare room is his room. It's his space so just let it go. This is one of those times where both people can't get their own way, and as much as I get that it bugs you just think "is it worth being a nag?" ---nope. He's not drinking too much, overspending, flirting with other women, etc. He's just a bit messy, and only in his personal space. When DH's office started really spiraling out of control I just n…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/18 04:17 PM
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I've been a sahw in the past. Personally, and this is just me, I was a bit bored. Even after cooking and cleaning and all the household stuff I felt like I had a lot of downtime, but not quite enough for a 40-hour a week job. We also have a small apartment not a big house with property so I could totally see that being part of why I got bored. If I had gardens and stuff it would be different. Anyway, now I work part-time from home, about 4 hours a day, and for me and DH that is perfect. The mone…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/18 04:03 PM
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DH and I used to live and work together. It wasn't an issue because we were in different departments (i.e. neither of us was reporting to the other, but our teams worked together a lot) and we already had a very firm relationship in place at home. For us, working together was a bonus. However, I admit that we are unusual and that many couples do not enjoy a work relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/18 07:40 AM
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If you want a man who is genuinely masculine and dominant, you have to be genuinely feminine and submissive. Being feminine isn't just wearing skirts and heels and makeup, it's having a feminine demeanor. When you move through the world, how do your mannerisms seem? Would people describe you as elegant, composed, sultry, hospitable, and flirty...or would they say you are confident, aggressive, combative, outspoken, and competitive?
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/18 07:06 AM
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Have you ever gotten upset or angry or agitated about something you really love talking and thinking about? Me neither. You are asking two different questions. The first question is general and about how to become marriage material. The second question is how do you get your man to be receptive to marriage talk. First off, from what you've said, it sounds like you talk to his friends and family about what he says about marriage. How else would you know that he talks about this stuff to other peo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/18 07:00 AM
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First I'd say take a beat, allow yourself to be bummed about this and forgive yourself! You have to get over this first to be able to move on, and that's totally ok. There's no need to beat yourself up over a mistake you know you won't make again, so cut that out girl! The good news is that even though you've had a misstep, you're super young and totally willing to focus on self-improvement, and that's fantastic! I got out of a very up and down relationship (as a hardcore feminist/angry person) …
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 05:12 AM
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Absolutely, and it works in reverse too. For example, when I was dating I knew I wanted to marry a man who was a good earner and a hard worker. However, if I went on a date with a guy and his only passion in life was work, for me that was a dealbreaker. Some ladies can be super happy with a guy who loves to work constantly, travels a lot, etc. I know myself pretty well, and while I admire men who are career driven, for a spouse I wanted someone who also desired some work/life balance.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 05:03 AM
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You make it clear by leaving. That is the answer. You keep talking about setting and figuring out your limit, but your problem is that you have no limit, and he knows that. He is manipulating you very effectively. He can treat you like garbage, then apologize and everything is fine. You are signaling to him that it is ok for him to do this, so he will keep doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 09:04 PM
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Really? What would you call abuse? If him shouting at you and deliberately calling you horrendous names isn't abuse, what is? He's verbally abusive. He won't stop when you plead with him to stop. He is unwilling to go to counseling. Those are the facts. If you stay it will not get better.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 09:03 PM
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Men respect women with a life. My husband doesn't care that I'm not super career driven or 100% madly passionate about what I do for a living. I like it well enough, I'm just not a #girlboss type. What my husband DOES respect is that I have a life outside of him. If he has to work late I'm not pacing the house wringing my hands and waiting for him to get home. I have lots of hobbies, solid girlfriends, I'm super physically active, I read a lot, and because of all these things I have lots of new …
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 08:38 PM
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There are lots of lingerie sales right now. I like Fredrick's of Hollywood and yandy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 08:26 PM
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If you took away the financial element, what would you have between the two of you that constitutes a relationship?
/r/RedPillWives11/12/17 01:59 AM
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Losing weight is mostly done in the kitchen, so I wouldn't even worry about a workout routine at this point. Have you ever tried a whole 30? I also failed when calorie counting. I was hungry constantly and would lose and gain the same 5 lbs. over and over again. Turns out I don't need very many carbs/sugars. Now I eat a modified version that's way less strict, but to actually lose weight I just stuck to whole 30 rules. Might be worth a look.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 01:44 AM
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I'll focus just on the weight part and not the relationship issues. What have you tried to lose weight in the past? Why haven't previous attempts worked? Why are you overweight? Do you just eat too much all around, or are you and emotional eater, or do you have a sweet tooth? It'll be easier to give advice if I know what you've tried (I'm a lifelong athlete).
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/17 05:26 PM
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This. This guy is into you because you're young and pretty and you make zero demands on him. He's got a great thing going with you, and I suspect quite a few others like you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/17 05:22 PM
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This has a really easy answer, you're making it way too complicated! Take the risk and stop initiating all the time. Give him the chance to make the first move! I know you're worried that if you don't initiate you won't hear from him...but do you really want to be with a man who is just going along with hanging out with you and who doesn't even care enough to reach out first? The rest of your relationship seems fine, so odds are he's just used to you taking the lead on reaching out, but if you s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/17 06:57 PM
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If your hyper perception is a result of past trauma I'd strongly recommend addressing that core issue.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 04:50 PM
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It's so weird that we've never met and yet apparently grew up in the same house.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 04:49 PM
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I think it's good to keep in mind that this is also what works for you right now. At one month (really up to a year or so in my opinion) in you're really just dating and getting to know each other, even if you are exclusive. So, I think it's smart to play things close to the vest and not overextend with helping him (if not asked), etc. I also think this is an excellent opportunity for vetting. When you give zero input into solving something, what does he do? How does he figure it out? I think th…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 04:43 PM
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Yes! I noticed on our first date that DH left a large tip, and we were both really young/broke at the time. Definitely got my attention in a good way!
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 04:37 PM
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Maybe he was just misusing the word immoral? I agree that it's not a moral issue, but it is probably unrealistic to think you won't end up with someone who is divorced and/or has a child. It's just an age thing. In some ways I'd be a bit suspect of a 40 year old guy with no past marriage and no children, because to me that screams bachelor for life rather than, "things just didn't work out how I'd hoped". Also, I don't put too much stock in this type of unsolicited advice from people. If DH tell…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 04:31 PM
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I Remember You (not the one you're thinking of) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1w83thBtDkE I can't really think of anything. Sometimes he's kind of grouchy after work, which I think is a waste of time, but I just leave him alone until he comes out of his funk. I'm trying to get into meditating. Organizing our old pictures. I know I have to do it, because they're piling up, but it's never quite urgent enough for me to commit. Saturday (It's Monday now.)
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/17 09:13 PM
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I've been with my husband over a decade, and I cannot imagine being married to someone who I didn't fall in love with. I don't have days where I feel like I have to choose to love him, because my love for him runs so deep, but there are moments where I choose to react in a loving way even if I'm tired/stressed/whatever. I think it's easier to choose love in moments of stress when you already have a well of it, and I think it's very difficult to sustain a fantastic sex life and relationship over …
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/17 09:05 PM
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It sounds like this guy doesn't follow through on his word, plus he's a poor earner, and he's unrealistic about what needs to happen to attain goals. You say he's frugal, but you're in debt together and he spends large amounts of money against your wishes. He is not capable of being the captain of your finances and I'm not sure why you would trust him with that role before you've married AND before he's even entered a career. The whole family with money fallback is a huge red flag to me also, an…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/17 02:52 AM
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Being clingy or desperate is totally different from loyalty. Clinginess is generally unattractive on both sexes, and desperation often belies another issue like co-dependence or low self-esteem. Clinginess is needing something from another person to make yourself feel better, regardless of how much they're willing to give. Loyalty, on the other hand, is what you offer a worthy man who has already earned your trust (and IMO who you're in a LTR with at minimum). It's little stuff like listening to…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/17 06:41 AM
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I recommend doing lots of good daily and weekly habits and then seeing how dirty things get. With just you living there you may not have to deep clean all that often, this is my schedule, Things I do every single day (that's the important part) that make my life easier: Empty kitchen garbage can, even if it's not full. Wash all dishes and put away, never dirty dishes overnight. Sweep kitchen and dining area. Wipe down kitchen counters and stove. Wipe down bathroom counter/sink. (But not a full d…
/r/RedPillWives03/12/17 01:46 AM
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I'd like to join! This month: Pantry month! I need to cook as much as possible from what I already have because I want to cut our grocery budget. Once I've cleared out old stock (probably next month) I'm going to try a new shopping strategy that I think will end up saving us around $150 a month. I started meditating every morning on December 1st, my goal is to continue doing so and eventually get up to 20 minutes every morning, right now I'm at about 5 minutes. I want to try a new workout routin…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/17 01:28 AM
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Ohhh, got it. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/17 11:21 PM
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Sorry, I'm totally confused here. What's the issue with a Girl's Night Out? Is it the assumption that such a night would involve super heavy drinking and clubbing? I think of any time out with my girlfriends as a girl's night out, but usually it's more like boardgames and wine or going to dinner or the corner pub.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/17 09:25 PM
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I'd focus on learning how to receive graciously! Don't act like you've placed a huge hardship on him or constantly apologize, because that will make him feel like you think he's incapable/not able to handle it. Instead just treat him like your hero and take care of everything at home! Don't be angry when he's doing all he can, just show him with your actions how much you admire him doing this.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/17 12:17 AM
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Agreed. She should leave now. I have a theory about the flawed thinking behind this post. I think some beta guys read TRP and internalize it to mean (I agree that this is NOT what TRP is saying, I just think it's a misunderstanding that's common): "Once I get older I'll have all the power to get stunning 20-somethings forever, and that will be more important than any character traits or what I bring to the table as long as I have a job. Oh, and all women over 30 will be instantly desperate for a…
/r/RedPillWives25/11/17 08:29 PM
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I think there is a baseline of standards (not entitlement, because I think that's a different thing) all women should have, like he doesn't cheat, abuse, steal, he is employed, etc. Beyond that, I think you can create additional standards, but if you date for years and no one meets them, your standards are too high for what you bring to the table. I'm not sure what you mean by "how entitled should we be about what we want?" What do you consider an entitled way of being or acting? I had high stan…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 05:31 PM
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This is an interesting dynamic. What do you do to foster fun and excitement in the relationship? I'm not talking about sex, but just fun in general. What's your personal life outside of him? Do you have hobbies, friends and activities? It's hard to have lots of fun banter if you never have fun together. When I was first with DH I worried about his extreme introversion and home-body nature because I'm a bit more outgoing. After a while, I figured out that he just hated planning stuff, so I starte…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 10:27 PM
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I think therapy is a good option in your case. You've tried your best to figure it out yourself and it's not working, so getting an outside perspective is a good idea. I'd just make sure your therapist isn't a new age "you deserve the moon and the stars and all men should kiss your feet for showing up at all" type.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 10:18 PM
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I'm getting DH a gadget I know he wants, some jokey gifts (which he always loves) and a bunch of mail order jerky. DH love jerky and he's never had the good stuff, so I thought that would be a great gift. I also like to get him lots of candy :) because he has quite the sweet tooth. My basic equation is 1 really nice item i know he wants, 2 less expensive things i know he'll like, a wild card gift that i'm pretty sure he'll like, and junky candies and fun stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 10:16 PM
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I don't have a problem with DH opening up and showing his emotions, I think that's a human need everyone has (to varying degrees). I would guess that most women who can't handle any emotion from men are generally selfish and dominating (their feelings and thoughts matter but his don't). That said, I think there is a new breed of man that's sort of overly emotional, but it's not the emotions that are the problem but the overall vibe they send out. One guy I work with (single in his 30s, high earn…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 10:11 PM
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Not at all! The hipster cities (Portland, Seattle, SanFran) are super liberal, but there are plenty of conservatives in Oregon and Washington.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 01:05 AM
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If you're in Portland, OR, you're less than 10 miles away from Vancouver, WA, which is a much more moderate/conservative town. Maybe you can get involved in some activities there and expand your friend/community search!
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 12:12 AM
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Absolutely. I think it's impossible to advise you on what to do, since you haven't addressed the core problem yet. I think you should wait on the relationship decisions until you address your real issues first. Once you do that, I think you'll know what you actually want in your relationship. My comment wasn't meant to be snarky, just to be illustrative of the fact that currently you don't have any idea what you want. You thought you wanted to get married, then you thought you had misgivings, th…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 08:02 AM
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No problem, let us know how it goes!!! Best of luck :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 07:56 AM
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I think you need to explore why you ignored your natural intuition as well as the third party advice you got here.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 07:54 AM
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Hey! I think you're in a great position to find a guy. You're super young and you realize what your flaws are, and that puts you ahead of a lot of women already. I get where you're coming from (let's just say I've owned more than one 20 sided die...and maybe even a monogrammed velvet pouch, don't judge, lol). I was also raised in a way that didn't encourage femininity. I know from experience that shyness is a thing you can get over if you force yourself into situations that make you confront it.…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 05:31 AM
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I think it's nice to ask him to hang out, just be ok with his answer, or leave some of the decision up to him. One thing I did with DH when we were dating, because he also asked for all the dates/hang outs, was tell him I really wanted to cook dinner for him some night and that he should tell me when would be good for him. That way I could show him I wanted to hang out too, reciprocate and do something for him, but still leave the plans and convenience up to him! I'd also ask if he wanted to han…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 05:09 AM
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Have you talked candidly about what you want and about sex specifically? Being RPW doesn't mean shutting up about all of your major needs, it means shutting up about minor stuff that doesn't matter and accepting the answer you're given on major issues. I personally wonder if something is going on with him around sex. Perhaps he has experienced some trauma in his past. Maybe he has kinks he doesn't feel comfortable bringing up. Or, it's possible he just has a low sex drive and is 100% happy. I wo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 04:28 AM
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Whenever I get home I take my shoes off by the door, so gradually all my shoes migrate from my closet to our entryway. For a long time it drove DH crazy, but no matter how much I tried to get better about it I would always just fall back and eventually shoe mountain would show herself, lol. After a while DH stopped asking about it and so I brought it up with him. He was like, "oh yeah, I gave up on that dream years ago, I literally think you have shoe blindness". Lol, that's married life. Meanwh…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 08:04 PM
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Ahhh, got it. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 06:35 PM
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Your dinner comment made me laugh! I've been with DH since I was 21 and for probably two years I would constantly ask what he wanted for dinner. It. Drove. Him. Nuts. Like you, finally I realized he never had an answer because he just didn't have any interest in thinking about that. Eventually I just asked him if he would like it better if I just figured it out and never asked him about it and he was like, "OMG YES PLZ". Well done you for figuring it out faster :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 06:12 AM
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Sorry I missed this one ladies, can someone please explain the significance of "sandwiches"?
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 06:09 AM
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Fun thread idea! I do lots of little things for DH. When he comes home I like to have the house at least picked up, so there's not clutter (this is a big deal to him specifically, he actually has much higher "neatness" standards than I do), I pack his breakfast and lunch every day for work, I cook dinner every night, I light candles often but not every night. One big thing I do for DH is encourage him to do what he likes. I have known too many men who would rather work late than go home, which t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 06:05 AM
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Pliable just means flexible. I think you're confusing confidence with arrogance. An arrogant woman cannot be pliable, submissive, or easy going. She believes she is always more correct, smarter, better, faster, than anyone. Her way is the right way and her man is a moron. A confident woman believes he has inherent value in who she is. She knows she deserves to be treated a certain way because of what she brings to the table, but she can still be humble. She can still ask her husband for advice a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 05:56 AM
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Your problem isn't dating, it's all the underlying distrust of men. I have had the personal displeasure of going on a couple first dates with men who clearly had issues with women. Even though they weren't rude to me or physically intimidating/scary, I picked up on that vibe loud and clear. You will not get commitment from a high value partner if you're sending out this vibe. I think this forum is great because it gives women a strategy for operating in the world and especially in relationships …
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/17 05:48 AM
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Infatuation isn't really a problem if you're on the same page. I was infatuated with my husband when we started dating, and he was infatuated with me, which is pretty standard falling-in-love stuff! The issue here is you're with someone who isn't offering you what you want. Not sure if others will disagree, but I believe that if a man wants exclusivity with you, he will do everything in his power to make that happen. That's true even if you've never even kissed him! If a guy wants you and he's n…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 01:33 AM
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We wear ours 24/7. As far as I can tell men don't notice rings on women, or they notice and don't care. I feel like I get the same amount of come-ons with or without them, but I think it would deeply bother DH if I didn't wear mine, and I feel the same way. I also like jewelry and my rings are my favorite pieces of jewelry, so it's not exactly a hardship, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 01:22 AM
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Totally! I feel like it's kind of like when I cry at a dumb movie because I'm PMSing...I'm not actually sad, and he didn't make me sad, and I'm not mad, I just need to let it out!
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 01:18 AM
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Yes! This method basically just prevents you from buying something you can't pull off, lol. I am totally guilty of trying to wear trends that just don't ever look good on me too ahem peplum skirts ahem.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/17 03:33 AM
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It doesn't matter what value you can bring to his life if he doesn't want the same life you want. You want a monogamous relationship with him. He wants to date around and sleep with you here and there. That's the end of the story. You really don't have to delve into and accept TRP, you just need to move on. Everyone is entitled to want whatever they want, but you two don't want the same thing and that's pretty much a dead end. Every minute you waste continuing to engage with this man (hanging ou…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/17 11:56 PM
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My style is definitely evolving. I think it often ages people when they choose a style in their teens or twenties and then stick with it forever. I shop based on color, fit, and feel. First clothing has to pass my color test, not just that it's a color I like it actually has to be one of the colors that looks best with my skin (soft summer). If it doesn't pass the soft summer test I don't try it on. Then it has to make my body look good (which includes being the right size, without alterations n…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/17 05:58 PM
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I just let him swear his way through it, leave him alone, and don't take it seriously at all. Then we both act like nothing happened and I thank him. Only took me like 3 years to figure out that was the solution, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/17 05:40 PM
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This is great! I think sometimes we get this idea in our heads that our "self" is some immovable thing that can't be changed and that if we're a certain way that's "just the way" we are. That's totally false! You can decide what kind of person you want to be! Congrats!
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 09:01 PM
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Is surgery an option for you? If this loose skin is truly the problem it may be worth looking into getting it removed (after you have your baby of course, congrats!). Talk to your husband. He needs to know about this, bring him your problem and see what he says.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 08:51 PM
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Awesome! Congrats!
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 03:51 PM
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I might be the most liberal gal on RPWi... Amy Schumer isn't funny. I love stand up comedy. I love comedy! I love lady stand up comedy! I love raunchy stand up comedy! Repeat...Amy Schumer isn't funny. I must be an Alt-Right troll.
/r/RedPillWives22/03/17 05:38 AM
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I'm not super career driven, I'm actually working now because a great opportunity came my way and it's a great chance for my family to really get ahead financially. Here's my (a little bit) older lady advice :) Do not go insanely into debt. It is 100% possible to earn a bachelor's degree without digging yourself into a hole. Community college for two years is dirt cheap, then you can transfer all of those credits to a public 4-year school. Where you go to school is much less important than what …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/17 04:12 PM
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lol, yeah it's clearly fake
/r/RedPillWives17/03/17 02:33 AM
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Yes, and it snowballs into their relationships. I think it's part of why so many SJW types, especially straight ones, have trouble finding fulfilling LTR. If as a woman you really believe men are the enemy, out to get you, and incapable of understand/respecting you...then that trickles into your relationships with men. You either go for a total beta guy who you can push around or you don't and there's constant conflict.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 04:10 PM
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Haha, so specific. You've got a high, weird bar there lady. :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 04:05 PM
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People are allowed to have preferences, it's not a personal attack. Some guys don't like really petite women, many guys don't want to date a woman who towers over them, lots of guys have a preference for a slender frame but larger bust/butt. Also, this thread is referencing the top 20% not the average man. If I asked you to describe a woman who in your opinion is in the top 20% in terms of attractiveness I can't then get angry when you don't describe an average woman.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 03:58 PM
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Haha, I hope "not an asshole" isn't the bar for the top 20%
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 03:52 PM
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Classic Good Looks, High IQ, High Earning Potential, Physical Fitness, Wit, Sex Skills, and the ability to handle himself in a variety of situations without missing a beat/becoming awkward (changing a tire, going to the opera, meeting with parents, dealing with a disaster, etc.). To me one of the biggest turnoffs when dating was a guy who just couldn't handle himself or adapt to new scenarios quickly. Like, if we're out, and it's nighttime, and the car breaks down, I don't want you to turn to me…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 03:49 PM
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This. Taking to heart what a really angry guy who has likely been recently hurt by a woman says about AWALT is silly. Both sexes can be irrational, and most people are at their least rational when they're hurt and angry. The victimhood thing goes both ways too. SJW feminist types definitely claim victimhood as their own, but some men on T/MRP do too. Many move through that stage and continue to evolve, but some get stuck and really make themselves at home in that angry space.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 03:40 PM
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Honestly I was just really unhappy. I was on a journey of self-improvement anyway, and that came with throwing out a lot of old things I once thought to be true. I think that made it easier, because I was changing a lot of things about myself. I don't think there's much you can do to logic someone out of being a perpetual victim. They basically just have to get sick of it and want to be happy more than they want to be angry.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 03:33 PM
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I think this is part of it too. There was also so much more hands on housework to be done and a lower expectation level of interacting with kids (because work had to get done). My grandma talks about how all the moms would drop in on each other, do mending together, chat, help each other clean, and check in on the kids playing outside every couple of hours or so. Way different.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 03:22 PM
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I think it's more a boring people thing than a SAHM thing. I've been a SAHW and a working wife and I never fell into this kind of trap, but I have also worked with women (full time employees) who were 100% like this. Drama with co-workers, drama with babysitters, drama with housekeepers, drama with in-laws, drama with holidays, etc. All the while basically every "drama" or "story" was totally humdrum and honestly not even worth recounting. I know this sounds super judgmental, but I think this is…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 03:19 PM
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For me it's mostly about (i love how laura doyle puts it) "keeping my eyes on my own paper". If I do my best at everything and put in effort then that's all I can really do! I don't really think of it as something I do to make my husband look good (he already does that anyway, lol) but to make myself feel good. I think women's emotions are more naturally variable than men's, but I also think a lot of that can be evened out by just staying on top of things. For example, I totally connect with the…
/r/RedPillWives10/03/17 03:23 PM
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As a former waitress who used to do this I can tell you "no". It does not stop men from hitting on you/trying to hook up...all it does is INCREASE the number of married men who hit on you. I actually quit wearing my fake ring when I was single because so many married men suddenly came onto me, they liked that I was "married" because they thought it would be safer for an affair I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/17 04:57 PM
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:) Me too! The more extreme the left became the more the logical side of my brain wanted to fact check and see if things were really how they said. The more I researched and realized how unfounded so many of their claims were the more I realized how full of crap it all was.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/17 04:55 PM
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same
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/17 04:40 PM
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The thing is so much of this can be blamed ON modern feminist rhetoric. I have a bit more compassion for people in this camp than some here, because I was raised by a super liberal SJW. Imagine being told from a young age that men always oppress women. I think I was about 7 when I first got a talk about male teachers and to never be alone with one JUST IN CASE they did something (it scared me). I was warned about strangers (valid) but also basically any male in proximity including relatives/neig…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/17 04:37 PM
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Hah, yikes.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 10:34 PM
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I love this and totally agree with all of her points! I would say two additional things, which she sort of touches on. The first is that once an issue is resolved it is not brought up again. No throwing things in the other person's face or holding onto resentment. The second is no keeping score, which she also sort of touches on, but no measuring who does what or mentally keeping track of who is "winning".
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 10:20 PM
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This is a great video explanation, too bad I can't send it to anyone I know IRL...lol.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 10:04 PM
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YESSSSSSSSS.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 09:51 PM
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Right now I'm looking into taking on some work! I am mostly a SAHW but I take on a few freelance projects each year to stay current. Right now I'm sending in applications for full time work because the husband and I really want to max out our savings and pay off a house. I'll probably stay working for around 1-3 years, which I'm good with. I've enjoyed the last few years at home but I'm ready to get back out there because I know it'll really help us with our financial goals.
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 12:20 AM
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The absolute best oven pulled pork recipe: http://www.tasteofsouthern.com/pulled-pork-bbq-in-the-oven-recipe/ I recommend budgetbytes for easy and quick recipes on the cheap, and goodcheapeats for fantastic resources on meal planning, sale shopping, and pantry building. I like thekitchn for any cooking technique questions. I like frugalwoods and the simple dollar for basic home money stuff and fun reading.
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 12:16 AM
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Thanks for the tip! I'm always trying to up my cleaning game.
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 12:12 AM
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Haha, thanks! I'm all about pragmatism ;) Working as a line cook part time is actually a pretty good idea while you're in school. The hours are usually late so that would work with a student schedule, and you will be way better than most home cooks. I actually did restaurant work when I was in my teens and early 20s too, and I learned a LOT. On the appearance side, you're probably right. It's worth it to keep yourself looking your best, particularly at this stage of your life. My college had a f…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 04:28 PM
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Don't worry about vetting too harshly if you're still in your sexual prime and attracting plenty of prospects. You are essentially interviewing someone for a lifelong job contract. LIFELONG. It's ok to be super picky...I'm really glad I was! Over vetting tends to really be women who don't have that much to offer pining over dudes who are 10 in looks, super rich, etc. basically just unrealistic options. If you're attracting men who you are attracted to and get lots of offers you can afford to be …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 03:38 PM
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Amaranth, couscous, bulgur, millet, and farro are all favorites in my house. Not sure if he'll like any of them though if he thinks quinoa has that strong of a flavor. Couscous is basically pasta so maybe try that?
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 03:27 PM
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Seconding budgetbytes. It's great for people just starting out cooking/meal planning on a budget. Also, goodcheapeats.com
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 03:25 PM
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I think this is a vetting issue.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 03:21 PM
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I pack my husband's breakfast and lunch during the week. For breakfast I usually make two mini breakfast sandwiches and for lunch one wrap. I have a meal planning cycle which I tweak as our tastes change and the seasons change. On weekends I do larger more elaborate meals and always a huge breakfast of eggs, bacon, toast, hash browns, etc. FYI- you can see multiple things listed on my meal plan, below my husband's lunch sandwiches you'll see another breakfast item, that's my breakfast for that w…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 03:11 PM
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A lot about this is confusing to me. Why does he live two hours away from work and school? How does he get there if he can't drive? Why two apprenticeships/vocational training AND school (presumably one decent major would be enough, I don't get why he does both)? Is this a major that's actually going to make money or more of a passion project? How long will this whole degree program last? The other thing that comes to mind is that it doesn't sound like he has a problem with any of this. He seems…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 02:25 PM
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SAHW here! I have a lot of down time, which is pretty awesome, I do work from home sometimes but right now I'm not taking on any projects so I'm super free. When I have a work project my schedule is basically the same plus about 3-4 hours of work. Still totally doable but a bit less luxurious. Wake up late (10:00ish), make bed, coffee, breakfast, dress, check email, send husband quick hello message :) Work out for an hour to an hour and a half, come home, shower, clean kitchen. 1 hour of at home…
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 05:11 PM
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This is a great tip! I'm a big believer in daily (or almost daily, haha) journaling for this reason. It's so much easier to be grateful for things when you have them all laid out in front of you!
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 05:38 AM
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The Indian In The Cupboard is a great series!
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 05:21 AM
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OP, this advice about noticing beauty in other women is GOLD. As women we're naturally judgmental about our own looks, but part of it is that we're also judging other women's looks. When you pass strangers and try to pick out one thing about them that's lovely you start to realize that no one sees the little stuff that you agonize over in front of the mirror. Just today I interacted with a middle aged woman in a store, if we're being objective I suppose she was a little overweight and she looked…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 04:40 AM
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He was kind enough to be upfront with you and tell you exactly what he wanted. He wanted a FWB, you did not want that, he basically said "ok cool, have a nice life". That's it. I think you need to reflect on why it's so easy for you to get attached and fall head over heels in love with someone who you had such a fleeting experience with, and who clearly does not want to date you seriously. Being too eager and falling too quickly in love can not only turn off excellent prospects but also just hur…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 04:34 AM
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I think it depends on the person, and I also think that people in general tend to over-moralize past generations. People were sleeping around before marriage in the 1950s too, it was just kept a bit more quiet. Some women sleep around a lot for a long time, some women sleep around a lot for a short period of time (college...lol, this was me!), some women are serial monogamists, and some women are a bit older when they have their first intimate relationship. It depends on the person, the area the…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 04:30 AM
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Thank you!!!
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 10:21 PM
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Don't cross that bridge until you come to it. Nothing you've done changes what your next steps should be on the path to self-improvement. If you're like many women here you'll never be asked about your sexual history, and if you are you just have to hope he's understanding. I think you're worrying about all this prematurely though. A decent mature man will honestly probably be more concerned about what it means to be with someone with managed bipolar than the number of people you've slept with.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 04:34 PM
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If you're talking relationships then yes, but to be honest it's probably not something men have to worry about that much. Most women will automatically vet out men who don't reach their "match/compatibility" criteria anyway. I do think men sometimes don't understand this and assume they've been rejected for some minor surface reason, when often it's a much deeper personality or incompatibility issue. Source: One guy thought I rejected him because he wasn't a high earner, it was actually because …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 04:18 PM
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When I'm cleaning or doing major food prep I'm definitely in casual clothing. Housework can be pretty grimy so I just go for cute workout clothes that showcase my body. I don't care if they get dirty or wet and I can just strip them off afterward and jump in the shower.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 04:25 AM
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Yes! I would kill for gloves that are easy to actually move and clean in. They're always so awkward.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 04:22 AM
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Skip the gap years but work on homemaking skills in your own time while going to school. That puts you at 22 when you graduate college and get your first job. I think the real key for you is maximizing your working years and saving as much money as humanely possible. I'm also into personal finance and passive income. Live with roommates beyond college, slash your budget, save everything you can. I guarantee you that living this way for a few years will give you a better crash course in homemakin…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 04:06 AM
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I saw something once that was a Q+A and a woman was complaining that her husband didn't do enough around the house. The advice was to get a chore wheel, and once a week each of them spins until all the chores are accounted for. Then you put the chores on a chart and use STICKERS when you each finish them. I mean, who wouldn't want to fuck after that?
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 03:58 AM
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I feel like this is some sort of ploy from the saran wrap industrial complex.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 03:55 AM
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If he wanted a LTR you would know, because he would have brought it up ages ago. There's no need for a relationship conversation because basically there is no relationship, you're just FWB. He's feeding you super typical lines, he can't give enough to a relationship, he feels guilty, he's so busy! He's just spinning you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 03:51 AM
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When you're at work you are the captain of your career. What's important is that you don't stay the boss when you get home, but at work...go for it! You don't have to be a jerk or intimidate people, friendliness is hugely rewarded, but definitely pitch in and offer help when people need it, take initiative, work as hard as you can. Your future husband will appreciate a wife who is a hard worker, whether you keep working longterm or not! A strong work ethic is an asset and it's totally different …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 03:42 AM
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I think most women adhere to the big 5, but to different degrees and not to the exclusion of other desired traits. The way different women measure the big 5 is important too. I only dated men who were taller than me, but I'm 5'2"...so for me a fairly short guy is still definitely tall enough, I don't need a guy who is a 6' tall. On the flip side I'm really fit, so I value that in a partner and I never really dated a less fit guy. My point is it's not as if every datable guy must be 6'4", crazy s…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 03:23 AM
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I think you're making yourself crazy! You're worried he's praising you for something masculine (running) but in the same breath you're upset because you want to control the way he praises you. :) Gender roles aren't just lists of who does what it's the actual role you play in the relationship. Your role is to be receptive, and he's paying you a compliment! Maybe he just had fun with you, maybe he's happy to be with a woman who stays fit, maybe it does make him proud that you finished a goal you …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 02:51 AM
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Beauty trends definitely change over time, not just with weight but also with ideal skin tone, eye color, hair color, etc. In the USA in the 1960s the ideal look was pale, blonde, thin lipped, narrow hipped, and very thin. Now the ideal is medium skin, brown hair, full lipped, full hipped, and slim but with lots of boob/bum. I guess you could still argue that both ideals fall within generally healthy body weights, even if there are some extremes (heroine chic) that push the envelope.
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 01:20 AM
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Same here! I hated feeling too skinny. I didn't feel like a woman and trying on cute dresses that just sag around your boob and butt/hip area is a bit depressing. Late bloomers unite :)
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 01:17 AM
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Wow, imagine if this had been written for men. Ladies would be up in arms about it calling the guy who wrote it an ungrateful dirtbag.
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 01:10 AM
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Fair enough on the mortgage approval, it just seems to me like the root of this issue is a lack of real in depth communication about the specifics of financial planning.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 11:08 PM
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Even if they keep things separate though his financial status will impact her. If he has awful credit they might not get approved for a mortgage (or have to settle for a ridiculous rate). It just seems very dangerous whether you combine or not.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 10:57 PM
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It makes sense that his parents have been enablers too. Are you sure it's too soon to talk about buying a house and having kids? I think that's the kind of thing you should definitely have figured out before marriage especially at our age. It can take years to save up for a down payment so even if you don't plan on buying a house now it's still pretty relevant.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 10:56 PM
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You've set up a pattern where you jump in and financially save him when he falls down, so he's essentially not learning from his mistakes. It's almost like a trust fund kid who can't manage money, but then when he runs out he just calls mom and dad and the problem goes away. I would personally be very concerned about someone who cannot manage money on such a generous salary. Are you going to combine finances? Is he opposed to you handling both of your finances? $3k is a huge amount of rent on an…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 09:00 PM
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Mmmmm...casserole.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 08:53 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 07:19 PM
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The chase is definitely a mindset and a bit of a game! You're both testing each other and sort of trying each other out. I get not regretting the gf stuff because you enjoy it, I enjoy it too! I love cooking and shopping for my husband and even doing laundry and stuff. BUT I would seriously caution against doing this prior to commitment. It's really important to not play wifey when you're not committed yet because to a guy it just screams desperation. I'm not saying you are desperate, I get that…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 07:15 PM
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No problem! Feel free to PM me questions, I'm always happy to share my experience with single ladies :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 07:13 PM
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Yeah I mean I'm all for helping build my husband's career. My husband (he's said this himself) would not be earning as much as he does if it weren't for me. My support allows him to focus totally on his job, but part of why I'm willing to invest in his career is because we're both investors in one shared future together...we just have different roles. In OP's case she's investing in the future of a separate individual. I've just seen the "playing wife" thing go wrong so many times.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 07:09 PM
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This was great! I especially like the bit about job inequality. On the flip side, feminists also never complain that there are so few male nurses (well paying profession that's high demand), or male psychologists (even higher paying and higher demand), but they gripe all day long about women in STEM. All of my feminist friends post constantly about the inequality of women in STEM...none of them work in STEM.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 07:06 PM
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username checks out :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 06:43 PM
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If it's so hard for you guys to stay together that you need counseling and you regularly talk about breaking up AND you've only been together like 2 years...there's no way you'll make it longterm. I can't say whose fault it is, probably a combination, but either way you guys just don't sound like a stable match whatsoever. It shouldn't be this hard. Is this your first boyfriend?
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 06:42 PM
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Are you sure your friends aren't just worried about you? You have put yourself in a somewhat precarious situation where you're acting the part of a wife but you're not a wife. You have no legal protection whatsoever, which I'm sure is good for him, but could be really bad for you down the line. I guess it's just hard for me to understand why someone would not want to get married after nearly twenty years of being together, but perhaps that's just my own bias. This scenario would make me uncomfor…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 06:39 PM
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Yeah...this.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 06:35 PM
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That sounds like a great blend :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 03:06 AM
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I did not wait for marriage to have sex, but I absolutely respect people who want to do that. If you want to wait to have sex in marriage that's totally fine, what isn't great is your view that your virginity is your single biggest asset. Sure, virginity is important to some men and perhaps enticing to all men, but it's not everything. I think you need to work on your confidence, because in a way you're saying the best thing about you is having not done something. I'm sure you bring much more to…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 11:28 PM
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I never paid on dates, though I always politely offered to split the bill on the first date I never had a guy take me up on it. Like I said in another thread, when I invited my guy (now my husband) on a simple going to the park and eating sandwiches date (after other dates he initiated) I offered to pay for both of us, he declined and paid for both of us. I think it's nice to offer, because it shows you're not entitled, but to be honest I think most men (or at least the kind I dated when I was s…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 11:20 PM
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I think the key for you is to not age yourself with your clothing. You're 18 so your feminine style shouldn't be the same as mine (and vice versa)! You don't have to be super dressed up to look really femme. The other hair advice here is good so I'll give you some fashion-y recommendations that are girly but not so formal you'll look odd among your social group: http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?BR=f21&Category=dress_casual&ProductID=2000226535&VariantID= http://www.forever21.com/Pro…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 09:15 PM
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Was there any chase happening? It sounds like you went from casual date to treating him like a Captain (on demand sex, gifts, not bringing up your relationship goals, etc.) super quickly. I feel like most men, regardless of what they say, don't like when it feels too easy. They want to feel like there's a bit of a chase at the beginning. Once you're in wife mode you have to be 100% loyal and there for him no matter what, but before that point it's totally ok to be a bit cool, to have a bit of yo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 08:55 PM
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What the fuck? Are you serious? If this is a real post you need to get out of this relationship and get into intensive therapy ASAP while reaching out to friends and family. This is weird, fucked up, abusive, and just all around strange and not normal.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 01:19 AM
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Exactly! I had gone on dates with 4 different guys in the last month when I met my now husband. The second we met I just knew. We started hanging out more and more and I broke it off with the others and explained that I wasn't up for dating anymore. It's interesting because a lot of young people are totally ok with sleeping around but they don't date around. Casual dating is the best way to meet lots of different types of guys, it really showed me what I wanted and what I definitely didn't want.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 06:16 PM
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Just because you're not into getting your face eaten off doesn't mean everyone is against it. I'm #triggered by your response. Stop #judging me. ;) jk, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 04:41 AM
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I think the best way to rectify this situation is for you to plan a date and pay for both of you. When he offers his 50% of the bill, you can just tell him, "don't worry about it, i planned this date, but you can get the next one!" If he's insistent that this arrangement is not something he's ok with...then I think you know he's a guy who wants to account for everything 50/50. If he kind of smiles and says ok, and then later asks you out and covers that date for the two of you...then you get wha…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 04:27 AM
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This might be unpopular on RPW, but my vote is yes. When I was single I regarded myself as a free agent. This doesn't mean I slept with a bunch of guys (or led on guys who I wasn't interested in), but it does mean I went on dates and befriended a lot of guys. Doing this allowed me to not only vet lots of men quickly but also made me comfortable around guys AND gave me insight into the type of guys who are just players.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/17 04:08 AM
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Yay! I love reading this! I think personal responsibility is one of the most powerful and underused resources around.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 04:35 AM
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Every woman has a different sort of feminine power. It sounds like you might be equating feminine power with being a super sultry woman who knows exactly what to say to a man, and while that's definitely a type, it's not the only type. Some women are quick witted and endlessly entertaining, some are quiet but fantastic listeners and good at making a man feel important, some are adventurous and full of energy, and some are reserved and elegant. Don't try to be something you aren't, if you're a bi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 04:33 AM
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Yay, congratulations! Dress pics when you go shopping?
/r/RedPillWives21/02/17 04:23 AM
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Hi hon! Welcome! The best way to fight your insecurity is: Continue working on yourself, which you're already doing. That's great!!!! Seriously focus on flexing your gratitude muscle. I know this idea might not be appealing right away, but it will help. Maybe you hate your hips or thighs or something, whatever your body thing you don't like is try and imagine if that body part ALSO didn't fully function. How would a person in a wheelchair like to have your body? How would someone without access …
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/17 02:47 AM
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All you can do is continue your path to self-improvement. Men tend to be pretty forgiving, and he stuck with you through your non-rpw phase, so I think he'll honestly just be happy to see the positive changes. At the risk of sounding like an older woman lecturing a younger woman, you've only been with this guy for two years...assuming you don't have infidelities, massive lies, children from previous relationships, or ex-husbands/ex-wives...I highly doubt the "baggage" is as extreme as you feel l…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/17 02:39 AM
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I know! I'm really surprised!
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 10:57 PM
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I'm one of these too! :) hi!
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 07:53 PM
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Tell me what the texture is like on the fat bombs!
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 04:29 AM
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I love old fashioned potato salad! I make mine with new potatoes, minced celery, hardboiled eggs, homemade mayo, salt, a bit of dijon, smoked paprika, onion powder, and garlic powder.
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 04:21 AM
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I just text the husband while he's at work and ask if he's free for the night and then hint that I'm planning something. I pick out a couple of movies in advance for him to choose from and do a big spread of food that's ready (clean everything early) so all we have to do is hang out. He loves when I create an at home taco bar with lots of different fixings and some drinks chilled in the fridge. Attitude has a lot to do with making a night feel special and not just like the usual day to day. Dres…
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 03:46 AM
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I came from a rough family background and as a result had LOTS of character defects throughout my teens. In addition to the high conflict I grew up with I was also raised by a SJW type mom who was actually very abusive and manipulative. Naturally, I became like that too, but luckily I realized it when I was around 19 and started a serious self-improvement project that involved support groups, therapy, journaling, self-help books, meditation, etc. I basically just delved into anything I thought w…
/r/RedPillWives18/02/17 12:00 AM
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This is an adorable RPW lady buddy comedy in the making.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 11:53 PM
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This woman is a gold star moron. Modern Western feminist women are so terribly weak. They have zero sense of personality responsibility. They want everyone to take care of them, but only in the specific way they want, and they don't want to be reminded that they're getting help. Basically they want to be treated like children "Wow! Good job! You did it! You tied your shoes! What a big strong girl are! You can do anything!!!" But also no one can expect anything of them. It's so gross.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 11:39 PM
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It was written as Twilight fan fiction. True story.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/17 04:23 AM
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We're not active in the BDSM lifestyle but I suppose categorically we would fit most into the dd/lg sphere. You know how guys can be great leaders and captains without knowing about TRP? I guess that's like us and the whole dd/lg thing. I just learned what that even means in the last year or so, but it does fit us pretty well (minus age play). I think it's just a natural function of our personalities, he's so caring and always guiding me but also stern when he needs to be and I am naturally a bi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 10:44 PM
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I agree with you on the beta play-acting as an alpha, it seems to be a common trend where I live.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 10:42 PM
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Agreed. I would also argue that women-only environments can lead to much worse social behavior/treatment among women. Even workplaces I've been in as an adult that were nearly all female were horrendously catty and divisive compared to more evenly gender-split offices. Predominantly male environments are also typically problematic and can lead to increased rates of violence, drug/alcohol abuse, aggressive bullying, and a host of other things. The real world isn't segregated by gender and I don't…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 10:20 PM
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The main thread running through your problems is that you don't feel good about yourself and that it's making you insecure. I think the best thing to do is focus on doing things every day that will make you feel better about yourself. You haven't mentioned any examples of him actually giving you reason to be worried about your relationship. I think you just feel crummy about yourself and so you can't accept that he wants to be with you and is happy with you. Maybe stop analyzing your relationshi…
/r/RedPillWives16/02/17 07:39 AM
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I'm so sorry that you're going through this, I've been there. I dated a guy who I was madly in love with in college and I basically destroyed the relationship by being a crazy person. I felt like someone punched me in the stomach, every morning I would lurch awake and feel and awful lump in my throat. But you know what? The end of that relationship spurred me to address my internal issues and really work on myself. I delved into a period of self-improvement, I forced myself to get out of the hou…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 05:14 AM
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The problem with this kind of thinking is that it reduces complex people into a set of traits. For a while I dated this guy who I was totally enamored with because he was a genius (literally) and also a musical prodigy. I was in love with the idea of him, but in reality I wasn't dating his intelligence or his talent, I was dating HIM...and HIM was an asshole. Having standards (athletic, intelligent, good job) is perfectly fine but you also need the other part. You need the chemistry, you need to…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 10:12 PM
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Yep, my thoughts exactly. He sounds like an insecure controlling jerk, definitely not Captain material.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 10:06 PM
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I've though a lot about this subject too. I didn't read 50 Shades (so poorly written), but I know the plot and plenty of ladies I know are obsessed. I think it's funny that they claim they want 50/50 relationships but then get off to Alpha-style romance books. I think they justify it in their minds as being "bdsm" and therefore "alternative", when in reality it's just traditional gender roles plus descriptions of sex. I notice this in real life too. Most of my girlfriends are opposed to traditio…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 08:50 PM
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That's so sweet, sounds like a truly memorable Valentine's Day!
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 08:38 PM
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Congratulations!!!!! Time to change your flair ;)
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 08:37 PM
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My husband bought us opera tickets and gave me the go ahead to purchase a new dress, shoes, and makeup ahead of time. He knows me so well! He also came home with a lovely bouquet of flowers. We had a great night out, but I couldn't stop thinking about you RP ladies because the way the majority of people (men and women) were dressed at the opera was unbelievable. I live in a major city so it's not like it was some little local theatre, but women were there in jeans, frumpy shirts, etc. I was gett…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 08:36 PM
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rod and bag? come on dude, a bit of decorum.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 05:01 AM
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Seared scallops are absurdly easy and always impress people. Serve with creamy polenta and mushrooms!
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 07:03 AM
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Would you keep eating at a restaurant that gave you food poisoning three times? Me neither. NEXT.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 02:22 AM
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Awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 05:53 PM
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Oh wow, that's awesome you got to see that! Oklahoma should definitely be on there, and Brigadoon!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 05:52 PM
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Me too. Plus Gene Kelly...mmm...haha.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 05:52 PM
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I love old movies. Some ideas off the top of my head: Musicals West Side Story Singing in the Rain Silk Stockings My Fair Lady On The Town The Music Man Non Musicals How to Marry A Millionaire (fun + girly) Ten Little Indians (mystery) Dial M For Murder (thriller) The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio (from 2005, prob most red pill movie I can think of)
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/17 03:17 AM
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This is what I call a 5:00 Friday idea.
/r/RedPillWives11/02/17 06:13 PM
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Is he confident or insecure? He was attracted to you when you were dressed up and wearing makeup, attracted enough to want a LTR. Now that you're together he wants you to dress in sweatpants with no makeup AND without your hair done all the time. Something about this seems a bit off, especially combined with his comments that he is with you for your personality almost exclusively. Not to be rude, but are you a lot more attractive than him? Is he a confident type guy or does he need lots of reass…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 05:44 PM
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Oh yes, that's what I meant! I think you can convey that you want a LTR through your profile (what you write and the photos you choose) and through the way you interact. But I think sitting down to a first dinner date and just saying "I'm looking for a LTR" is a bit too much. Haha, sorry if that wasn't clear!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 05:38 PM
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Submission is earned. I submit to my husband because he proved himself worthy of my submission. I trust him to act in my best interest at all times, and he does. If my husband raised a hand to me my submission would disappear in a second and I'd be gone, just like I'm sure he'd be gone if I was suddenly a raging bitch or cheating on him. You need to seek professional counseling NOW. You have a child. What will seeing this dynamic do to him/her? What type of relationship will he/she grow up to ha…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 03:51 AM
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It's all about numbers. You need to just keep dating, and I think you should put your religion on your dating profile. Better yet, have you considered a Christian focused dating site? You might have an easier time finding guys who aren't looking for one night stands. For what it's worth I am very happily married, been with my husband for 10 years, and if I just do a quick count in my head I think I went on about 25+ first dates that had no second date because I wasn't interested. In addition to …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 03:44 AM
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I worked full time for years in a variety of sales and marketing jobs, and before that I worked service jobs (waitress, retail, bartender). Now I work from home taking on random marketing jobs a few times a year. I like having a little bit of paid work and a lot of flexibility, and I like knowing that if something awful happened (husband got hurt or sick or something) I could jump back into the full time realm because I keep my portfolio current.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 09:09 PM
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Great post! I think you really drove home the point that different relationship dynamics work for different women. There is no one-size-fits-all perfect mate for all of womankind.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 09:06 PM
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My husband is particular about how stuff is done. I don't feel like he's directly told me to change something, but that's probably because we've been together since I was really young, so it wasn't like I had a solid routine yet. He'll also ask me to change things food-wise, like he'll tell me when he gets tired of something I pack for lunch or if he wants something more veggie-based or higher carb or whatever. There have been a couple of outfits that he's vetoed, but probably like 4 in our enti…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 08:44 PM
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Haha, that's what I always say!
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 08:38 PM
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That's true, those are all good points and I'm definitely not trying to hate on her. I think professionally she is a great role model, I guess I could just see a lot of men being a bit turned off by her media persona, but maybe I'm wrong about that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 08:32 PM
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I don't think she's at all likable. She's very aggressive and domineering. She speaks in a constantly condescending and all-knowing tone and her facial expressions/physical expressions are equally condescending/argumentative. I think someone like Dr. Laura is a better example. She's a professional who earned a doctorate, published multiple books, and has been married since the mid-80s. She's a trusted authority in her field, but she doesn't seem instantly defensive.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 05:45 AM
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This is specifically why I don't "hate" feminists the way many people do. I can't hate someone who I have compassion for, and I can't be anything but empathetic towards people who are actively thwarting their own futures based on everything they've been taught (from parents to teachers to bosses to friends). I feel awful for them, because they're not happy and most of them never will be, and the worst part is they're just doing what their entire world tells them to do. It's sad.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 05:42 AM
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The best thing we can do is lead by example, do what makes us happy, and then spread that happiness. I know you know that and I'm not trying to lecture, it's hard for me to watch this dynamic play out too. I feel like the best I can do is just support my friends and give them honest advice when they ask for it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 05:40 AM
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Exactly. A cousin of mine (age 40) is a big deal lawyer and makes upwards of $400k a year. He married a woman (age 36) with a very respectable career in HR who made around $90k a year. She has a masters degree, she's stunning, speaks 3 languages fluently, likes to cook and clean, keeps fit, and basically is fine with his demanding schedule and running the rest of their life. My cousin never would have married a freeloader or uneducated and uncultured woman, but he also didn't need a heavy hitter…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 05:27 AM
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Agreed. She's just so lost and it makes me sad. I feel like she's probably a decent human being but she's just been fed so much BS that she's floundering instead of finding a nice guy who will actually make her happy (and making herself someone a nice guy would want).
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 05:22 AM
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Right? It's so insulting to everyone involved. And if my comment rubs you the wrong way, that's not your fault, it's THE PATRIARCHY! P.S. Who is the patriarchy?
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 05:20 AM
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Well I'm not saying you can't date. I'm just saying that if you're not naturally meeting anyone at school, and you're about to presumably move to another area for college, your time may be better spent doing other things.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 01:15 AM
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Haha, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 07:20 PM
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Ask trusted friends or family members for honest feedback about your personality! Tell them you're going through a phase of self-improvement and you want to know if there are any bad/rude/off putting habits you have.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 07:06 PM
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You probably don't want to hear this but I think you should just focus on yourself right now. Get as in shape as possible, nail your style, try new hobbies, keep improving yourself, etc. You're a senior in high school so you'll be in college soon enough, and there you'll have so many opportunities to meet guys. For now just enjoy the preparation phase! :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 07:01 PM
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Oh wow, just had to add this because I got curious about the author and it's soooo sad, you can click on her author link on the piece if you want to see all of her stuff. I think this is a pretty telling lineup of article titles that really shows how feminist women struggle to tout the party line while dealing with their own real emotions and what they actually want. It's sort of heartbreaking. A list of her recent pieces: If You Threaten My Independence, We're Never Going To Work Out 11 Things …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 06:57 PM
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Yes! I also don't get why the whole feminist branch decided that work=real goals and love=silly goals. But then in the same breath they talk about the patriarchy and its role in capitalism and how evil corporations are, and the glass ceiling, and the pay gap, and micro aggressions, and being too busy, etc. So...everything's terrible? I honestly feel bad for my ultra feminist friends. None of them seem happy.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 06:46 PM
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Can I add in the ones you didn't do? Because this article is hilarious. They're a little weird To me this just means you have horrendous fashion sense/hygiene. Guys love weird senses of humor and I've yet to see a guy get turned off by a niche hobby or interest, weird means gross. They're intense They are absolutely certain that their way is the only way to do something and that if their directions are not followed the entire world will fall apart. They take everything extremely seriously and do…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 06:43 PM
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The best thing you can do is be honest. When single women gather and talk about guys they tend to just reassure each other that he's great, he'll call, he was just busy, of course he's into you! If you're just the one male voice of reason that can go pretty far. You could also introduce her to Dr. Laura's books, she writes for men and women so you could easily claim you know about the books, and IMO her work is a softer introduction to RPW values but will still probably be pretty earth shatterin…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 05:11 AM
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I agree with leading by example. I give money to charities I care about and do what I can to volunteer in my community. I bring my own bags to the grocery store, don't use disposable things like paper towels, and use moderate heating and cooling. We generally try to fix things instead of replace them. I also like to cook from scratch and avoid processed foods, I buy as seasonally/locally as I can. We live frugally and invest our money wisely. I'm sure I seem totally apolitical to some people but…
/r/RedPillWives06/02/17 04:25 AM
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lol, airtight logic
/r/RedPillWives03/02/17 11:01 PM
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Holy crap could the second post be any more condescending? Also the whole "you didn't do anything to get these rights" argument...well YOU didn't either, because this stuff happened in the past and we weren't alive.
/r/RedPillWives03/02/17 09:07 PM
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I totally get that, but I'm sure at the same time that you don't turn your frustration on the actual baby/child...you turn it on the parents. That makes sense. :) We all have our blind spots. Yours might be parents of overactive kids, mine is probably people who complain/seem ungrateful. I have trouble being compassionate towards those who seem to lack gratitude, it's something I'm working on all the time. I also have trouble with people who I view as weak or not resilient. I don't think any of …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 05:38 AM
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Not to be an insensitive dude about the situation (I am a woman btw, lol) but are you possibly just PMSing right now? If you are I would just chalk it up to crazy hormone surges. If not, maybe you need to journal a bit. Journaling is a great way to work out your emotions without spewing them at another person. When you feel like this maybe write out your own weird quirks that he puts up with happily. Write a list of things you love about him to remind yourself why you put up with the little anno…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 05:06 AM
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I'm so with you on this. Compassion is a supremely powerful force that's totally underestimated these days. Compassion is a skill just like any other skill, and in my experience the more you practice it the more naturally and easily it comes to you. No one knows the life story of everyone around them, and acting as if the world is all reacting to you individually is the epitome of being egotistical. I feel so much love for all people that it's almost hard to describe. I guess the best analogy is…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 04:24 AM
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Oh wow, that sounds super fun! Never heard of it before, thanks for the reference!!!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 10:31 PM
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How much was their rent? Where did they live? What did they eat? How often did they go to restaurants? What were their work hours? What type of car did they drive and how many cars did they have? Did they go on vacations when they made $5/hour? How much was their phone bill? Did they have cable? What kind of neighborhood did they live in? I just feel like you're comparing yourself to others without seeing the full story and then assuming they all had it easier than you did. I paid my rent making…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 10:25 PM
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Well if you're supporting yourself you don't need your parents approval to move in with your SO, I think that's one of the best things about being an adult. You can also move in with female roommates if you want to wait to live together for marriage, I did that for a few years.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 10:18 PM
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No, you are comparing your standard of living as a 20 something to your parents standard of living after decades of their hard work and saving. That's why there's a disconnect.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 06:26 PM
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You need to learn way more about frugality and personal finance. Your vision of how much money you need is way off base. Most people who have money issues don't actually need more money...they need more information about managing money. You need to stop comparing your life to people who already put in the grunt work. Also, you don't need to go to grad school to make money. Everyone starts as entry level. Neither my husband or I have beyond a bachelor's degree and we make a great living. You need…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 06:19 PM
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Do you have any advice on getting into crafts? I'm not at all naturally talented at crafting and I didn't grow up doing it. I have no clue of where to start, any tips on easy first timer projects? Bonus points if it's for home decor!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 06:45 AM
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She could always go for a sigma linux type.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 06:13 AM
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What types of scented oils do you use? I'm so boring when it comes to fragrances and I'd love to switch it up!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 05:30 AM
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I loooove candles. I always have them around and it just adds instant cozy points to my home. I also love skincare and I'm a big fan of at home spa days. I take luxurious baths all the time and I dip in nature spas and take in steams every chance I get. I'm also a big fan of doing my nails, sorta, I hate doing my toenails (but I do them anyway) but I like doing my fingernails. I think I hate doing my toes because they're so damn tiny. I paint damn near half of my pinky toes each time, stupid nai…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 05:28 AM
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LMAO, how's she going to get a man now???
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 05:22 AM
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Yay for coming home soon! It's so nice to cook and just enjoy life :) I've never been to an opera so I'm really excited :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 05:21 AM
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Aw, you're too kind. I definitely don't have it all figured out, lol, but my skincare routine is pretty on point. I don't have the issue with smile lines or eye lines, it sounds like we might just have different skin types. I have heard that retinol is good for preventing lines, but it can also dry your skin and make you more likely to get sunburns. I'd definitely try talking to others with more acne prone skin, I'm guessing a lot of my products would make you break out and maybe ideal products …
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 05:15 AM
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Are you familiar with budget bytes? Her freezer meals are easy and pretty foolproof!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 02:56 AM
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Thank you for this! I'm an excellent cook/hostess. My husband loves having friends over and we've definitely become the fun house where everyone wants to come an party. I love it and I just adore waiting on people, showing off my culinary skills, and making sure everyone gets pleasantly drunk :) When I send out an invite for a dinner party or BBQ I get immediate responses and people are so excited, which makes me feel awesome. I'm adaptable. I'm just a laid back kind of person so it's easy for m…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 02:43 AM
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Oh I agree, I think I misunderstood you initially.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 11:07 PM
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YES. I don't understand why practically every RPW post is about appearance lately. The type of person you are matters hugely, but there seems to be little to no focus on that. Internal work is so much harder and has such a larger impact on overall happiness than appearance does.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 09:15 PM
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I know! It makes me feel like I'm smashing my head against a...uh-oh.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 09:10 PM
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:) I thought I spotted a fan :) I love her recipes!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 08:47 PM
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I don't think that's true. Most single and never married women would prefer a male partner who is also single and never married. Having a divorce on your record, possibly shared custody of children, and one or a string of failed LTR (or years and years of just sleeping around like crazy) absolutely diminishes a man's RMV in the eyes of other women. Basically, a guy with baggage or loss of confidence will read as a guy with baggage to all women, not just to his wife/partner. Age affects RMV in me…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 08:41 PM
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Totally true on the shortie front. I'm a total of 5'2" with my hair done up BIG, lol. I'm probably closer to 5'1" in reality. The only real disadvantage of being a short woman is that even minimal weight gain looks huge on your frame. If you're petite you really have to watch your weight. If I gain 15 pounds I suddenly go from looking like a lanky ballerina to looking stocky. There is no "sexy and voluptuous" if you're short. Taller women have a bit more leeway with weight because they can carry…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 05:35 AM
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Another quick question, on your master to-do list do you include longterm and short term to-dos? Like, is weekly dusting on the list alongside reorganizing winter storage?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 05:29 AM
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More than the avatar thing I've seen the overly flattering selfie thing IRL. I belong to a professional marketing group that has meetings from time to time. For a while I couldn't make any of the meetings in person but was still friends with many of the women via social media. They are mostly SJW feminist types. When I finally went to the first meeting I hardly recognized any of the women, because they had made themselves look so much slimmer, younger, and more attractive on social media than th…
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 05:17 AM
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Ahhh, I remember the good old days of second life. When everyone was looking for weird avatar sex and selling fake digital tapestries...
/r/RedPillWives31/01/17 05:11 AM
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Focus your attention inward. I assume that any RPW reaching her last prime years already takes care of herself physically, presents herself in a feminine way, and stays as fit and attractive as she can with the genetics she was given. What many people ignore (male and female) is the internal life. My husband was undoubtedly attracted to me because of my looks. It was my appearance that drew him in and made him want to get to know me, be around me, and romance me. I was also initially attracted t…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 05:02 AM
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I agree with you, but wouldn't you say that this means the lack of sex isn't the primary problem but merely a massive side effect of a larger issue?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 04:36 AM
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I think this is true in relationships that are under a certain period of time, like maybe 3 years or fewer. If you're just in the "dating" phase I think this could be especially true, but with longer term relationships I think lack of sex is usually a symptom of a broader issue rather than the issue itself. So maybe he'll complain about lack of sex, but she's not in the mood because he turns her down a lot, and he turns her down a lot because he's not attracted/doesn't feel respected/some other …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 04:34 AM
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What's the thought behind barbecuing bacon vs. other cooking methods? I would think the fat content would lead to leaping flames/burning every time. Just curious btw, I'm a big fan of smoking and BBQ!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 04:32 AM
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Ooo, I love chickpea "chicken salad". Are you a fan of ppk? Tons of great vegan recipes!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 04:28 AM
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I've been trying out a new thing where I make two proteins and four veggie sides twice a week. For the second half of last week I made Chinese Pork and BBQ Chicken, plus Garlic Broccoli, Roasted Carrots, Roasted Cauliflower, and Rainbow Swiss Chard. The husband was so pleased with having so much pre-prepped that I decided to do it again this week! I'm going to do Flank Steak and Chicken for proteins, plus pesto bell peppers, mushrooms, leeks and carrots, and dill potatoes. For the husband's brea…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 04:27 AM
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Aww! I know the feeling <3 so adorable.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 04:24 AM
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That's a great idea!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 12:54 AM
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Honesty time! Haha! I have trouble sticking to to-do lists. I feel like there's always one or two things I just don't complete. I wish I were just a little more organized and driven. I have a really laid back personality, which is good in a lot of cases, but it also means I can be a little complacent. I'm not good at dedicating time to hobbies outside of cooking and fitness stuff. I want to develop more skills (sewing, etc.) but I can't do that if I don't put in the time. I'm mid transition with…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 08:19 PM
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Ah I understand, that makes sense. You still have time to move out post-graduation and meet someone. It's good that you're thinking about a new plan and addressing things now instead of thinking it'll just magically happen.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 08:06 PM
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I think you need some independence and life experience. I also think you need to form your own world view outside of your mom who sounds frankly a bit mean and a bit sheltered. Why don't you live on campus? Most guys don't want to date a 22 year old woman who still lives at home and has never lived on her own. It's a lot to take on, because even if a guy was interested what would happen? He'd have to come to your parents house to pick you up and drop you off? I can honestly see that being a pret…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 12:16 AM
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Yes, literally just a removable window unit AC. Crazy, right? And all of these guys were mid-late 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 12:07 AM
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Oh wow, that's crazy! I've never been in a dance class that was even 50/50, must be regional.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 06:54 PM
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Hahaha, this is all amazing.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 07:08 AM
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Dancer here. Most dance classes are primarily female. In a ballroom type class (like tango) I'd guess that even in a diverse metropolitan area you'll have a ratio of about 8 women to 1 man, and the majority of men will not be playing for your team. The only exception may be if you are in a Latina/Latino dominated city where dancing is the norm for most adults. By all means tango your heart away, but it's probably not the best place to meet eligible men. I'd focus on meetups and groups that are g…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 06:54 AM
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I love this! Women really do set the tone in the relationship. You gave a little and he gave back to you tenfold! Well done lady!!!!
/r/RedPillWives28/01/17 06:46 AM
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Congratulations love! Hope it's all smooth sailing :)
/r/RedPillWives28/01/17 06:44 AM
2

Thrilled reading all these GG theories and responses! I was happy to watch the reboot, to see my old friends again, but Rory...WTF happened to her? It's like time stood still, and reading about ASP now I understand that more. I get that Rory had the crazy irresponsible period, but I would've thought with her personality, ambition, and background she would've grown into more of a woman by 30. It would have been so much more interesting if she had turned out more successful. Like, she comes home b…
/r/RedPillWives28/01/17 06:37 AM
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YOU! Yes! This would have been so much better.
/r/RedPillWives28/01/17 06:25 AM
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This is so great to hear, especially as someone who doesn't have direct role models in their family :) Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 05:34 AM
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Aww, you're so sweet! I know this is kind of an extreme solution, but have you considered relocating? I've only been to Atlanta briefly, but if it's as rough dating there as you say maybe it's worth it to move to a city with more diversity in terms of type of people, goals, lifestyles, etc. Is that something you've thought about? I know I would've never met a man like my guy in my hometown.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 05:29 AM
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I think a lot of this gets easier the longer you're with someone. When my husband and I were first together many of his delegations made me nervous, because I didn't have a lot of experience and I didn't want to screw up. What I learned is that if I deliver on the time agreed upon and do my best, he's good. He gets that everything isn't 100% perfect all the time. One thing that comes to mind specifically is our first big vacation. He wanted me to just plan all of it. I was so nervous because it …
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 09:23 PM
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I live in a major city. I'm not single but I definitely know what you're talking about. A lot of men here are what my husband and I jokingly call "babymen". I know it's mean, but it's so true. A funny story is before my husband and I lived together I was sharing an apartment with 4 other girls. Three of them had boyfriends and it was getting really hot outside so the three boyfriends were tasked with installing the large window AC unit. I kid you not, these three guys stood around nervously talk…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 09:03 PM
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Well said. The Wall is an important concept because it's counter to what popular culture/aka feminism tells women, which is basically that you're equally hot at 50 as at 20, equally hot at 110 lbs. as 300 lbs., and equally hot in sweatpants and a t-shirt as in a cocktail dress. That's all BS, obviously. I think The Wall is basically a corrective theory to remind women that, yes looks matter, yes age affects your looks, and no it doesn't matter if you think that's fair or not. Capitalizing on you…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 08:48 PM
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Haha, thanks...I got a little worked up there!
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 08:25 PM
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your handle is the best
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 11:42 PM
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I'm a big believer in trial and error for your specific skin type. I strongly recommend that women in their early 20s pursue finding their skin care regimen in a way that's semi-scientific. I think doing it in your teens can be tough due to crazy hormones and puberty stuff that's still going on. Try new methods and products, keep track of them, never try more than one new product at a time, take notes on your results, and adjust. I know it sounds absurd, but I'm almost 32 and have no fine lines …
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 11:31 PM
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I am so with you on this. I've noticed that negative posts on social media get sooooo many more likes and comments than positive posts. So if you say, "having a great day doing x!" with a photo, you'll get like 5 likes. If you say, "omg, some days I don't even know how I'll get through. anxiety, blahblah, wahhhh!" all the sudden there are hundreds of likes and supportive comments. I think people want to feel downtrodden because it gives them a hero/martyr mentality that excuses their childish be…
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 10:56 PM
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Wow, I feel like I could have written this word for word. Maybe that's why I feel like we never left the honeymoon phase...because my version of it was more like what you describe. I was also reserved with my trust and also dated with purpose. My husband was also the first (and last) person who had me breaking my rules/reconsidering things. I also think it's sad to think that the most fun relationship is one where you hardly know your partner/have no idea what's going to happen. I didn't mind th…
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 08:12 PM
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I've always heard about this honeymoon phase thing...I'm still waiting for it to end after 10 years together, 5 of them married. I actually think our relationship is better and more romantic now. Our sex gets better every year! I feel like when you first get together there are just more little things that come up, you're still getting to know each other and learning to communicate. At this point my husband and I don't really ever have disagreements because we know each other so well. It's adorab…
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 07:57 PM
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Gah! I can't find it now!!! Will search.
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 07:51 PM
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When I see those videos it's almost always teens/early 20s overweight people. You know why? Because by the time they get older their knees and ankles can't take it anymore. They start to throw out their backs all the time and have all sorts of complications. To an extent being slim is utilitarian in dance, it's easier to jump and be lifted and balance on your toes if you weigh less. Physics...it's a thing.
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 07:48 PM
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You're so welcome. It took me years to realize this. Whenever I am stressed or discontent I start to journal. I write through all the changes I've been through, all the things going on, etc. After a couple of days I'm usually able to pinpoint a few things I can do to change how I feel, and often they're not the things I started out thinking were the issue.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 07:35 PM
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I second all of this. No one has every advantage, if you don't have the advantage of attractiveness then work with what you have within your sphere to snag a genuinely good guy who will appreciate you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 07:31 PM
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I'm not going to argue with you on your appearance (or hitting the wall at 23) because I know it's all set in your head. Let's say you are actually extremely unattractive and hitting the wall. Even if that's true, I think you're using that as a massive excuse. RPW is about making yourself the best version of yourself. Some people luck out, and yeah of course it's easier to date if you're a solid 7+, but you know what? I see average looking and unattractive couples ALL THE TIME. If what you were …
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 07:29 PM
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I'm a SAHW and I love it, but it's not for everyone and many RPW prefer to (or need to) have a part-time or full-time career. It doesn't mean they aren't RPW. I also want to point out that you have had lots of major life changes. Try not to confuse your emotions about different things. You're a newlywed, that's big, you moved to a new place and it sounds like it's not a place you love, you quit your job...that's a lot of stuff. I'm guessing you don't have a great group of friends where you are y…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/17 07:11 PM
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How in touch are you with the physical in general? Are you coordinated and aware of your body? I'm thinking that maybe more comfort and appreciation for the physical might help with this. Fitness or dance/yoga classes that don't focus on using weights/machines but just focus on body placement may be helpful for you. I've always been very comfortable physically with myself and with touch-based affection, and I think a lot of it comes from being a dancer and acrobat.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 06:51 PM
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Oh, and has anyone else seen the video about how a fat SJW was "triggered" by (wait for it) an advertisement that used professional ballet dancers. Why? Because the PROFESSIONAL DANCERS were in shape and not obese. Dear God.
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 07:28 PM
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Harsh, but also funny and true. I'm in a major area for HAES and fat acceptance. I don't get it. I would understand something like disability acceptance, to increase visibility and respect for people with disabilities, because, you know, they can't change that and they're actually discriminated against. But fat? You have control over that. That is optional. I felt so bad for the women in this video. Why on earth would they want to be compared to super models? I'm a conventionally attractive girl…
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 07:22 PM
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Hm, haha, there goes that theory!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 06:45 PM
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Everywhere! I know this isn't RPW approved, but I actually did meet my husband at a bar. I was with a group of friends and one of my friends knew him and waved him over. I think going to bars with friends in your college years is a bit different from bar hopping well into your 20s and beyond to try and find a Captain. Especially if the bar is mostly a college-kid bar, it creates an atmosphere that's more like a party than a bar and chances are most people there will sort of know each other (like…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 06:44 PM
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Is there any way you can get out of managing your SO at work? It's extremely difficult to have the woman in charge of the man at work and then shift to having the man be the captain at home. To be fair, I also think it's tough for the man to be the boss of the woman at work. It's simply better to either be co-workers or not have mixed professional lives at all. It's hard enough for men and women who don't work together, but in this scenario (when you add in the depression and anxiety) it seems l…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 01:44 AM
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I think the sibling who is gay is happily married and kind of ambivalent, while the two straight and single siblings are the ones who are against OP's SO. Perhaps a bit unfair to describe the married lady (who likes ladies) as a bitter cat lady.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 01:11 AM
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Makes total sense. They're pissed that you're cute and young and in love. Unhappy people will do anything to make themselves believe that happy people are living a lie/have some dark secret.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 05:04 PM
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One thing kept coming to mind while reading this, maybe I'm way off base, but are your older siblings single? If they're like 31 and 35 respectively (and still single) and you're 21 and happily engaged...could this just be an extreme jealousy thing? I'd be concerned if your parents also didn't like this guy, as they might be seeing something you can't see, but since your parents like him and it's just your two older siblings who have issues...maybe they're just having trouble being happy and sup…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 04:31 PM
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I think it's great that you're starting to define the difference between real vulnerability, which does involve opening up and sharing who you really are, and fake vulnerability where you're just sort of a blank nodding stepford wife. Sounds like you've played this masterfully so far and now you're getting closer to each other! That's fantastic, well done!
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 04:27 PM
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I'm not sure that you should be suspicious, but if you're not attracted to him at all there's not much of a point in maintaining the "friendship" (unless he's gay and truly just wants female friendship, could that be the case?). You don't have to tell him why you don't want to hang out, just get busy and don't make further plans if you're not interested.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/17 01:54 AM
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He's such a hard worker and I really admire that. He's also excellent at handling my emotional ups and downs, he just sort of shrugs it off. It's great :)
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 10:50 PM
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Yeah agreed, this article wasn't very well written or researched. The author ignores the fact that most women who get abortions are women who have already had children. Linking abortion with random sex seems like kind of a desperate move, especially when there are lots of legitimate things to dismantle regarding this women's march, like the false pay gap/false rape stats/false domestic violence. The author also ignores people who are married but want access to contraception, it seems like in her…
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 10:46 PM
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yep, same boat. i would look crazy unnatural with blonde hair.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 10:23 PM
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Totally agree.
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 03:50 AM
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I've seen both cases to be honest. I'm not saying all guys who are 32 dating a 22 year old are being manipulative, but there absolutely is a type of man that specifically only dates much younger women in succession. I was just trying to caution her to make sure it's a genuine connection, otherwise she may end up wasting a few years of her youth on an older guy only to get traded in for another 22 year old. I wasn't debating that youth = attractiveness as I think that's a pretty broadly accepted …
/r/RedPillWives20/01/17 09:56 PM
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I think most people who are like this have parents who are like this. It's almost something you can't teach unless you grow up with it. It doesn't surprise me that these girls had rough backgrounds, one reason I was so adept at manipulating and lying was because I basically had to do that on a daily basis at home (to avoid repercussions/minimize incidents).
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 05:28 AM
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Do you dress significantly more modestly than most women your age in your area?
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 05:24 AM
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To be totally honest this describes a young me pretty well. I grew up in a rough house and manipulation came naturally to me since it was all I observed. Early in my dating life I was absolutely like these girls. The thing is I didn't realize that what I was doing was strange, I thought it was how everyone operated. I controlled everyone around me with very little effort, but it was isolating. Like the girls in this story I also found it easy to have sex with no attachment. Eventually I realized…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 05:18 AM
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Yeah he doesn't sound like an alpha or a good potential Captain to me.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 07:54 PM
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Welcome! This community is fantastic. I know it sort of sucks when you're in the realization period. I remember feeling very angry that basically everything I had been taught was wrong. The good news is you're here now and we can all help you adopt the RPW ideals that suit your lifestyle. I've seen massive positive changes in my life thanks to this sub. <3 hope you stay a while!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 07:48 PM
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Oh I didn't realize you had no time set. Just text asking, "hey, what time are we meeting tomorrow?"
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 01:39 AM
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Assume you're still on since you haven't heard otherwise. He came through for the first date so I see no reason he wouldn't show, and if he "forgets" or bails...he's not a good potential anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 10:58 PM
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Ah, got it. Thanks for the links, makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 07:26 PM
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Me too! I wish they revealed more about the questions they ask the potentials. It seems like a lot of the bad matches come down to people thinking they want something they don't actually want, or failing to outline a major requirement.
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 03:59 PM
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It's a delightful train wreck. Married at First Sight is good too, like bad good.
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 02:51 PM
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Does anyone else watch Seven Year Switch? Asking for a friend...slash I'm obsessed with it.
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 02:17 PM
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You need to educate him on spongebob immediately. Total deal breaker/clearly not captain material. ;)
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 02:14 PM
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I'm 31 and my husband is 35, so when we met I was 21 and he was 25. I like our age gap. I think at 23 you should focus on guys who are in the 26-29 range, obviously with some flexibility. IMO that late-20s age group tends to be more marriage minded than early 20s guys. I'd be a bit cautious about dating into the 30s as single men in that age group may want you specifically because you ARE young, as a way to relive their youth, and because men who remain single well into their 30s are often still…
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 02:09 PM
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Even if the numbers have leveled off it's still true that most people in this demo say they want marriage. So they're either lying, planning on marrying later, or just delusional about what they actually want vs. what they should want.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 01:55 PM
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Right? I can't imagine.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 01:52 PM
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Handling this situation gracefully will only re-prove to your man how much better you are. Approach it from that standpoint rather than what she thinks about you. She's never going to like you anyway, so that should take the pressure off trying to make a genuine connection. Keep it simple, be kind, smile warmly, ask a question or two about her and her new boyfriend "where did you two meet?" and then just move along. If she gets crazy all it will do is validate your boyfriend's decision to leave …
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 01:50 PM
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I agree. The way she talked about him was so...giddy? Made my red flags fly immediately.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 01:44 PM
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I don't disagree with your points at all. Just wondering, why do you think there's a gap between what young people are doing and what they are saying they want? http://www.gallup.com/poll/191462/gallup-analysis-millennials-marriage-family.aspx While marriage is at an all time low for millennials, with just 27% being married, the analysis also says, "a 2013 Gallup poll found that 86% of single/never married Americans aged 18 to 34 (roughly equivalent to the millennial generation) wanted to get ma…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 01:39 PM
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Look at it another way. He's been with other girls, and he STILL chose to be in an exclusive relationship with YOU. He's not in a relationship with them, is he? He's not taking them on dates and having long talks and doing romantic things for them. You beat out the competition, so clearly he thinks you're a catch. I agree though that if you don't want to hear about his exes you can just say so. He's being slightly insensitive and probably has no idea it bothers you. Just tell him, if he cares fo…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 01:29 PM
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I agree. What keeps me from wanting to cheat or trade in my husband is the earnest belief that he is the best man in the world for me. Getting back to that level of respect and admiration would totally counteract any negative side effects of hypergamy in women.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 01:23 PM
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Why would you hold back if you're single? I think this post is more targeted to people in LTR. If you're single you should be mingling and being friendly with the opposite sex.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 01:07 PM
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Great post! I actually just watched this happen with a married female friend of mine. She got closer and closer to this guy at work, I kindly warned her that straight men and women in committed relationships shouldn't be BFFs. She threw back a load of BS about how gender is a construct and he respects her relationship and blah blah blah. Long story short, she cheated on her husband with him for like two months, annnnd that's when we pretty much stopped being friends.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 01:05 PM
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I agree completely. I think the best takeaway of the whole wall concept is the idea that when you're young you have the most choices in partners because more people your age are single, you don't have much baggage, you have easy access to a full social life (school, clubs, etc.), AND you're not competing with younger women for the attention of men. The deck is stacked heavily in your favor when you're dating as a young woman, so you should optimize that time to find the best potential relationsh…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 12:41 PM
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So many factors contribute to aging. Women of certain ethnicities age better than others, some women have better genes, and I do think super attractive women may notice the wall less. I've written before about how the whole wall thing is overblown. I do think there's something to what you're saying about attractive women not hitting the wall as severely. Here's my guess on why that might be the case, from my own observations/experiences: Woman number one is 19 years old, reasonably fit but not a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 11:10 PM
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Good! :) hugs
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 10:49 PM
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:) glad it helped! I totally get that urge to just do it so it's done :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 04:36 AM
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I've been cooking all day because my husband is having a few guy friends over tomorrow night. They're going to watch these kung fu movies (no idea which ones, but apparently it's a big deal?) and I'm making a big Dim Sum spread. I did lots of prep today but tomorrow will be lots of cooking too. I'm making (from scratch) scallion pancakes, dumplings, egg rolls, pork buns, and spare ribs! It's my first time making a few of these dishes so i'm excited to see how it goes! I love that we're the hango…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 04:35 AM
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I agree with you to an extent, but I also think there's a culture (especially in major cities) of men bragging about not knowing how to fix anything, build anything, or lift anything. It's like a point of pride to not be a "typical guy". I think both men and women have changed. Men are now taught that they should want a high powered executive lady as a wife, and they believe that's what they want, but in their minds they still also want a loving nurturing woman who will put the family first. I t…
/r/RedPillWives16/01/17 03:02 AM
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Absolutely!
/r/RedPillWives16/01/17 02:50 AM
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Pump the breaks! You're 23 and single, not 40 and single. Three big things stand out to me in what you've written, and it could be that a combination of these factors is keeping eligible men away: You have little to no experience being friends with men other than that one guy. Do you know how hard it is to go fishing if you've never seen fish, or water, or a boat, or a fishing rod? I know RPW teaches that men and women can't be friends, and I agree to an extent. However, being friendly and hangi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 02:34 AM
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Maybe you would feel more feminine inside if you acknowledged all the ways in which you are naturally feminine. You're quick to list the ways that you're more masculine, but not the ways you're more feminine. Femininity isn't a single disposition or list of traits, there are lots of types of feminine women! You've adopted RP ideals because you care deeply about making your relationship wonderful, that's feminine thinking. You say you do genuinely desire being feminine and that you do love beauti…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 02:19 AM
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Let it go. You're just stressed out because you know that you could already have this settled. I'm like you, I don't like those up in the air in-between periods of life. However, you're not going to end up with no place to live. Realistically all this will do is add a bit of minor stress to your life for a few weeks.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 02:10 AM
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That first one, man, if you replaced She with He every woman would be like "this is emotionally abusive! what a jerk!"
/r/RedPillWives15/01/17 03:14 AM
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congratulations!!! :)
/r/RedPillWives15/01/17 03:12 AM
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I have a sales and marketing background, so for a lot of my career I made money from my ability to confidently relate to people who I knew nothing about. You don't have to be the life of the party to engage people and showcase your kindness and interest, and if you're introverted this behavior will come off as insincere anyway. Asking questions is a fantastic way to put the conversational heavy lifting on another person, while making them feel important. This only works if when they ask you ques…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 03:07 AM
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I think it gets much easier over time. When you're in a new relationship it's just a bit harder to easily weather storms. Of course it still affects me when my husband is unhappy, whether it be about a job or something that happened (etc.), but because we've been together so long it's easier for me to handle. I know we've been through stuff before and we always come through it together. In a way I remind myself that it's unreasonable to expect that my husband will never encounter any difficult s…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 02:56 AM
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Is it possible that now that you're implementing RPW, STFU, etc. that he's finally comfortable telling you how he feels? Maybe he always felt he wanted more friend time but thought he couldn't say that. I'd give him space, seeing each other 3 times a week is a lot when you don't live together. I think it's smart that you're thinking about what you want in the future, and I appreciate that you don't want to waste your time. But, at 23 and two good years together I think you can afford to try it h…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 02:47 AM
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A few clarifications. Where are you meeting most of these guys? How do you dress/present yourself? What field do you work in? How old are you and how old are the men you're dating?
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/17 08:54 PM
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Lots of fun things are coming up for me! Two of my really good friends are getting married (yay!) and I'm in the wedding party. They're getting married at the university we all went to, so it'll be double fun to go visit our old stomping grounds. My husband and I are planning a big trip with a bunch of our friends for the summer too. We'll be staying at this gorgeous home in the mountains and most of the people coming are friends we've had since we first got together (10 years ago). Now we're al…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/17 08:35 PM
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I really connected with, "Consequently, many Dismissive types are often quite good at dissimulating, that is, appearing to share their innermost thoughts, while in reality, they are simply appeasing others without ever letting them come close."
/r/RedPillWives14/01/17 08:10 PM
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I got 55.6% relaxed, "completely in the middle between Engaging and Avoidant". I think that makes sense because I have a great relationship with my husband that's super super open, and I have maybe 3 close friends, but beyond that I'm quite guarded and private. Most people I am friendly with believe they know a lot more about me than they do. In reality I know way more about all of my friends than they know about me. I think I'm smack in the middle because I'm very comfortable socially, and I en…
/r/RedPillWives14/01/17 07:58 PM
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AMEN.
/r/RedPillWives14/01/17 07:45 PM
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Yes! The thing I don't understand is it's totally optional to host. Like if you hate cooking and buying drinks and preparing for guests you can just opt to not do it. We could just meet at a restaurant or a bar or something instead. It's so odd.
/r/RedPillWives14/01/17 07:44 PM
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Oh man, I love avocados. I eat them almost every day.
/r/RedPillWives14/01/17 07:40 PM
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I'm not really demanding what someone does with their free time, just expressing a silly opinion I have. I'm sure some people would think many of my hobbies are a total waste of time, haha. It's just a compatibility thing, different strokes and all that. I'm sure some people wouldn't understand why I don't like video games, or hunting, or why I like making my own condiments and thrift store shopping. I just don't get the appeal of gaming as a primary hobby, but obviously it's not hurting anyone …
/r/RedPillWives14/01/17 07:37 PM
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Yep, I went on the pill at a very young age, not for preventing pregnancy, but for regulating my period. I was about 14 when I went on the pill, because I used to get my period twice a month. I had insane mood swings...for years. I finally got off the pill when I was 18, and suddenly I had no depression, anxiety or other weird symptoms.
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 03:51 AM
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This is such valuable advice. Everyone has some activity that just makes their heart sing. Prioritizing that activity is not selfish, quite the opposite. I feel the way you describe when I pursue my own passion projects, and all it does is make me more interesting and desirable to my husband. Just like I want him to do the things he loves, he wants me to do the things I love, and when I do those things he is so much more proud of me, interested in what I'm doing, and just generally supportive. I…
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 03:44 AM
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I'm almost 32, so I'll do a bucket list for before I hit 35. So far I've hit all my previous goals. For pre-35: I want to be paying down a mortgage and not renting. I want to have a more specialized spot in my field of freelance. I want to get even better at making new friends and getting old friends together. I want to see at least 7 new countries. I want to significantly add to our savings and pay off our first home so it can become an investment property.
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 03:39 AM
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Me too! Every time we come over she's like, just finishing up folding her laundry. Then after a couple hours she has to run out for wine or other drinks. Then she's like, "ohhh, are people hungry??? should I get some food???" of course no one is going to say yes, instead people just leave early.
/r/RedPillWives13/01/17 03:33 AM
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Good point.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 07:29 PM
1

Oh, wow. Haha, awesome article!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 07:28 PM
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I understand what you're saying to a degree, but IME guys who love movies and tv (my husband loves movies) still maintain an active life with other hobbies outside of those things. Gamers who are hardcore game constantly, it's their main hobby and the only thing they pursue. I could totally respect a guy who liked to play video games 2-5 hours a week, but that tends not to be the case.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 06:18 AM
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Yep, it's the typical beta way of trying to get attention.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 06:04 AM
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Sounds like a beta-dog trying to neg in the hopes that it will make her so insecure that she turns to him, and it's kind of working because he's so in your head. In the real world high value men don't do this sort of thing, because frankly they don't care. All the "sexism" I've encountered has been from bitter low-value dudes who can't pull. It's old guys who are desperate, unattractive/unstable guys who can't maintain a relationship with a high value woman, and total asshole guys who think the …
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 05:39 AM
2

This! Totally agree. My husband handles the major financial tracking and decisions...because he has a math degree and I have an english degree. But, by the same token, he hates researching things. I actually research and find most of our investment vehicles. I find what I think is the best option for us and then turn it over to him to run the numbers. He's secure enough to know that I'm way better at researching than he is, and I trust him enough to know that he'll figure out the details and det…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 05:30 AM
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Yes! It is absolutely worthwhile to dress/do makeup/hair as well as you can for who you are today. The biggest problem with being overweight is resigning yourself to it or convincing yourself that being overweight is outside your sphere of control/normal. You're working hard to lose weight, and that's fantastic, but why shouldn't you look as good as you can now? Sure, if you're heavy and dress impeccably and have perfect hair/makeup you still might not draw the best of the best in terms of guys,…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 05:19 AM
3

Yes! She's fantastic!!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 05:02 AM
2

I can't speak to the official RPW stance, but I can tell you my personal makeup approach. I have three different makeup looks: Natural/Invisible. This is my most common makeup style. I use it basically to mask imperfections and very very slightly enhance my look. I never use foundation on my entire face, I have pretty good skin in general but I have genetic dark circles under my eyes (always have) so I expertly blend a bit of concealer and foundation right under my eyes to eliminate that. I leav…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 04:47 AM
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Oh man. When I see the teenagers being forced into tiny houses...all I think is, welp, y'all are about to get real familiar with the sound of nearby masturbation. #tinyhousefail
/r/RedPillWives12/01/17 04:34 AM
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Clearly I have a filthy mind that must be cleansed. I shall replace the smut in my brain with unicorns and throw pillows.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 04:31 AM
2

Totally. When I was 19 I briefly dated a guy who was very fit, handsome, wealthy, and 33 years old. I dated him, had fun, and accepted the nice meals, gifts, and star treatment...but after a couple of months I was out. I wanted the hot guys who were closer to my own age. After that I ended up dating a 23 year old for about a year. The 23 year old was old enough to be sophisticated to me and young enough for me to feel like we were on even footing. I never saw a true future with the older guy. My…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 04:27 AM
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LMAO!!! That's amazing. I would've thought the tannins would make them super bitter. Looks like you accidentally stumbled upon the perfect Valentine's Day scallop dinner!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 04:20 AM
2

Girl, don't even go there on the tiny houses. It's always a couple that clearly has issues and thinks living in a tiny house will bring them closer together and force them to reprioritize their lives. It's like they think it will change the core of who they are. Then they're all "Oh, the appliances aren't full size! There's no bathtub!" OMGGGGGGGG
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 08:24 PM
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Crazy!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 08:07 PM
1

You may well be a bit above average if you got an alpha type to commit and you have orbiters who are high value betas. If that's the case I'd guess you're at around a 6-7.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 07:32 PM
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Agreed! A lot of women just totally give up and gain weight once their metabolism slows down. Once that happens they stop dressing in an attractive way and it just sort of snowballs (cutting hair short, etc.). I noticed it start with some of my friends when we hit our mid-20s. I love looking to Italian and French women for fashion inspiration and models of dressing well at every age. The difference is incredible compared to most Americans. The bar is so low here, and really no one looks better o…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 07:20 PM
3

Oh wow, I had no idea it was anything other than a hookup app.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 07:05 PM
3

Yes! And remember when everyone wanted granite and dark cabinets? Now it's all white kitchen with farmhouse sink! Oh, and another one of my favorites is the person who wants lots of character and an old home...then gets inside and complains that it needs work and doesn't have a completely open floor plan. Haha, getting worked up just typing this.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 04:42 PM
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Oh I totally agree. I just don't think average 50 year old women are in constant competition with 20 year olds, because really the rich dude who dates models isn't going to date her anyway, and the men who are willing to date her are either unable to get 20 year olds or don't want them. You can't be in competition with someone who is un-gettable/unwanted.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 04:11 PM
1

This is hilarious. Were they super bitter?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 03:33 PM
1

I think you've found your calling.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 02:49 PM
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Hindenburg Eisenberg? Why are you so good at this?
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 02:38 PM
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If I never see another flowy tunic top again I'll be happy.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 02:35 PM
4

I think romper is french for bathroom inconvenience.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 02:28 PM
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Agreed. I think it's a turnoff for me because it reminds me of a little boy and not a grown man.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 02:26 PM
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Oh, I thought of another one! It drives me crazy when people are unprepared for hosting but still insist on doing it. Why would you invite people over and not prepare some food and have some drinks ready? Like, you've met other humans before, you know people get hungry and thirsty!
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 02:24 PM
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Um...everything every person says on House Hunters makes me want to smash my tv. Also, vinegar on french fries is delicious. I don't know why it's not a thing everywhere.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 02:22 PM
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Hahahahaha, I'm dead.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 02:14 PM
2

Tinder was always intended for hookups, it was started as the heterosexual version of Grindr.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 02:10 PM
3

I also lost interest and couldn't finish this article. Sounds like a woman who deep down feels like she settled and is trying to feel ok about it. She sort of sounds like a terrible wife. I totally disagree with the idea that boredom and lack of passion are inevitable in a LTR. My marriage is full of passion and my husband still surprises me and keeps me on my toes. He's interesting, smart, hilarious, he's always learning, we never run out of things to talk about, and our sex life is ridiculous.…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 01:59 PM
3

I read this and immediately imagined a circlejerk with everyone using their left hands. What is wrong with me?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 01:52 PM
3

Dr. Laura might be a good option. She has a book called The Proper Care And Feeding of Husbands, but if you think she'll have a knee-jerk reaction to the title (WHY JUST HUSBANDS???) kind of thing you could try The Proper Care And Feeding Of Marriage. The trick to getting her to read it? You read it. Just leave it on your bedside table, I guarantee you she'll read it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 01:49 PM
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Bondage is fun :) so is dressing up. Also, sex in public spaces if the moment is right!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 01:46 PM
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Haha, so true. Everyone is about 3 points lower the second they set foot in New York or LA.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 01:41 PM
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I agree, it's so pointless. It's also totally overblown here versus IRL. As for increasing SMV 30+, as long as you take care of your skin and stay fit things don't change that much, aging is gradual. I've said it before but I'll say it again, I have not noticed any drop off in male attention from age 20 to now (31, almost 32). In my experience men react very differently when they're ranking women in a hypothetical way (online, models, talking about famous people) than they do in real life. The m…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 01:18 PM
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Does that actually happen though? I feel like the number of men in their 50s and 60s who have the ability and desire to date 20 year old women isn't nearly as ubiquitous as TRP would like to believe.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 01:13 PM
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You know your SMV based on how men react to you and treat you. Do you get asked out a lot by super attractive guys? Do high value men quickly want exclusive relationships with you? When a guy plans a date with you does he phone it in or go all out? Do you get special treatment from men when you're out and about? If the answer to all of these is yes then you have a high SMV. To be totally blunt, if you're not sure what your SMV is you're probably average. If your SMV was super high you would have…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 01:10 PM
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:) no problem.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:24 PM
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Yes! I think the reason it's so cringeworthy to see a man or a woman clinging to youth is because there's something so publicly self-conscious about it. It's like sending out a signal that you aren't happy with where you are and that you're not self aware.
/r/RedPillWives10/01/17 04:49 AM
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Why do you think he's with you out of insecurity? I feel like you read TRP and totally freaked yourself out and now you're on the verge of ruining a good thing! Keep in mind that TRP is a very small subset of men, many of them are young, many of them are super pissed off, and many of them have yet to have a successful longterm relationship. I think all of this changes the lens through which they hypothetically view women. From what you've said you have great sex together, get along well, make ea…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 03:52 AM
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Aw, yay! I love to hear this type of thing.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 02:26 AM
1

Agreed! I love style but I don't enjoy being in homes that feel museum-like, where you can't really relax.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 03:24 AM
2

I work in marketing, but I did not start my career as a freelancer. Your field is obviously different than mine, so I'm not sure if this will be the case for you, but everyone I know who freelances started in a 9-5 office job post-college. I gradually built up my freelance business while I worked full time and eventually I quit my 9-5. After that I freelanced from home full time for a couple of years, and now I freelance only occasionally as my husband earns a lot more.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/17 05:41 PM
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Yep, this. Guys think they universally hate plastic surgery/cosmetic alterations because they only notice the awful ones. I think the key IF you get something done is to strive to look like a healthy and beautiful (insert your age here) woman, rather than trying to look 21 when you're 40...which just isn't going to happen.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 09:44 PM
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Hm, I'm not sure. I think it would depend on why he isn't happy with the planning you're doing and maybe how you guys communicate. This hasn't been an issue in my relationship, but maybe some other RPW can chime in?
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 08:26 PM
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This is a fantastic idea! My husband is a total pizza guy. I might use this for nights when I just want a light salad and I don't feel like cooking an entirely separate man-meal for him!
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 07:30 PM
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standing ovation
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 07:05 PM
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Not a big fan. He's basically just following the standard shock jock handbook, but he's gay, and that's really the only unique aspect to what he's doing. I feel like he's either got some serious self-hatred issues and/or doesn't care about anything but is in it for the money. That's fine, but either way it feels played out and disingenuous to me. No shade on people who like him as entertainment. I'm just not really into it.
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 07:03 PM
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I have at different times tested INFP, INTJ, and INFJ. I think I'm a blend of all three as aspects of each apply and don't apply to me. I don't care about interracial dating. I don't think it's a very big deal, especially since so many people are of mixed ethnic backgrounds. Most Americans have no idea what their actual genetic background is, so I'm not sure why (other than just pure racism or negative personal experiences) someone would draw the line at a certain race/ethnic group. I do know a …
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 06:51 PM
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You don't need to worry about being the perfect partner for him, because he doesn't want a LTR. You're basically giving him the perks of having a LTR or even wife with zero commitment. No offense intended, but this is a terrible strategy. I'm older than you and basically have what you want. I also didn't want kids, and to be honest, I did not find that to be a major obstacle at all. In fact, in my dating days I only encountered ONE guy who said having kids was a deal breaker, most guys were luke…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 06:21 PM
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Yes. I dated two of them. One I dated for a very short period of time as I quickly discovered he already had a girlfriend who was out of town. The other I dated for about a year while in college, but it just didn't work out (not because he was a jerk or anything, we just weren't a great match, we parted on good terms). I ended up marrying a guy who is super fit, very handsome, and a high earner in a STEM job, but he's not a team sports/watching sports/fraternity kind of person. He's more into pu…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 06:15 PM
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No problem, best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 02:34 AM
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As long as our home is comfortable and functional my husband pretty much lets me do whatever I want. We have a big comfy couch that he absolutely loves and plenty of throw pillows and soft blankets (which he mocked at first and now uses constantly, lol). He buys me flowers a lot so I always put those out and I love candles so I have lots of those as well. The art on the wall is pretty 50/50 between stuff I've selected and stuff he's selected, we purchase art together as well and some is my own o…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 10:25 PM
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Have you read this? http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 08:31 PM
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I think you should just act the way you always do. Overcompensation might read as distress to him. Just be normal, adore him, be interested in him, and don't give him any sense that you're concerned or distressed. If he complains about his work, reassure him that you're with him all the way and that you know he'll figure it out because he's smart, capable, and a super hard worker.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 06:31 AM
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Sleep is huge. I also highly recommend (since we're the same age) using 100% pure argan oil as a moisturizer, doing a honey mask at least twice a week (literally mix the highest quality honey you can get with a tiny bit of water, spread on face, and remove after 15 minutes), and exfoliate twice a week (I use pure brown sugar mixed with olive oil).
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 02:19 AM
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No I don't agree. I agree if he's like that in person, but some men just aren't subtle. They may not know another way to convey attraction or interest via the Internet other than saying "You're gorgeous, you're beautiful, you're sexy, etc." For full disclosure, I never did online dating, but I do know men.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 02:16 AM
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Thanks, it's something I've been thinking about a lot! I also agree with PP that these things really don't come up that often. I think women who want a Captain/First Mate relationship are typically very choosy about finding a husband and end up selecting someone who they're very compatible with. You know, as opposed to the whole opposites attract thing.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/17 12:07 AM
1

What about seeing a dermatologist and getting facials?
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 11:57 PM
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Are you sure you actually look haggard? It could just be the shock of seeing such a slimmer face, I mean, my face is not as full and round as someone who is 60 pounds overweight, and if it were it would look bizarre. Maybe take a year to get used to it, used to doing makeup with your new face shape, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 10:43 PM
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In my relationship submission and delegation (Captain/First Mate type of deal) go hand in hand. Some real life examples of both delegation and submission: DELEGATION OF TASKS My Relationship: We choose a vacation destination and time of year to travel. Captain says he doesn't want to bother with the details. He asks me to take care of everything, including the sights we see, as long as it includes the 2 major things he wants to visit (and I stay in budget he sets). I take care of everything happ…
/r/RedPillWives04/01/17 09:07 PM
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Hm, I don't know if others will disagree, but I think you're being incredibly harsh. Online interactions are no substitute for IRL dates. It's hard to sense chemistry online, some guys have incredibly sexy voices, sexy ways of moving and interacting with the world, or super obnoxious ways of moving through the world, etc. But, when those guys are online they can't use a quick touch of the arm, a smile, or anything else to convey how they feel, they have to use language (which for many men is not…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 08:32 PM
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I'm glad it helped, let me know how your meal planning and cooking goes! As far as entertaining, it really depends on the type of event you're hosting. Organizing a casual buffet style party for 60 is completely different from hosting a formal sit down dinner for 12. If you want to get really fantastic at hosting I recommend starting with a casual yet elegant dinner for about 6-8 people, and make the invitees friends you feel comfortable with, so there's no big added pressure. Without writing a …
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 08:03 AM
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Believing you are hopeless, that other girls have the instant advantage, that no matter how much you improve your appearance it won't matter, that no one can overcome a dysfunctional home...THAT is your actual problem. In reality, that is a far bigger issue than anything you've been through, than your hobbies, even than gasp your appearance. As bad as your past was it's far worse to allow that past to project into your present and your future. I am not trying to be mean here, I say this with abs…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 07:07 AM
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Can you explain the needy/desperate signs in more detail? It's hard to advise without knowing what you're exactly turned off by.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 07:34 PM
5

laughed @ "cupcake"
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 07:30 PM
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My thoughts exactly.
/r/RedPillWives02/01/17 10:00 PM
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Well I like how you put it. :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 09:46 PM
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I jokingly call myself an "international feminist", by which I mean I believe there are many countries that do desperately need a dose of feminism. I think men and women should have equal rights in the eyes of the law and equal protections within their communities (yes, I am aware that that's never 100% the case). I think if women want to identify as feminists they should focus their attention on women living in countries where they are literally treated as property and have very few rights. I k…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 05:23 PM
1

Absolutely you could, and that man doesn't have to be damn awesome...all he has to be is sexually attractive to you, personally. Well, at least in theory. In my many years of having plenty of different lady friends I've found there are 3 different camps when it comes to casual sex and women (i.e. sex with a guy you don't know that well/haven't known very long) : There's the camp that equates sex and emotions, always. Some women, FOR SURE, cannot have sex with a man without also having other emot…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 05:59 AM
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I was very unattractive as an elementary school and middle schooler (bullied, actively mocked, very few friends, etc.) and for the first half of high school I had a couple close female nerd friends, which was actually pretty great, but I was pretty much invisible to guys due to acne and having kind of a late puberty (I had bad acne and was very scrawny/lanky/undeveloped). I had a bizarre ugly duckling/swan experience my junior year of high school. By age 17 I was pretty and gradually got more at…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 04:37 AM
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I agree with Willow-Girl and SouthernAthena. I'm sure some women are prone to form a strong emotional bond with any sexual partner, but that certainly hasn't been my personal experience. It's possible that I'm an outlier, but I never found sex and emotional connection to be inextricably linked. I also don't think having sex diminishes a woman's power or necessarily switches the power dynamic. Men want sex, true, but they don't want it just once. If you are excellent in bed having sex with a guy …
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 01:05 AM
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Traditions: We have a couple of funny ones. Ever year we each buy the other person an ornament of our choice, BUT it must depict or be made in the shape of a food item. We've been doing it for years and our tree is hilarious, people love it when they slowly realize that every ornament is food. Our other unique tradition is Croque-Monsieur for Christmas breakfast. I did it the first year we were married and just sort of kept doing it. It's really nice. Oh, and we send out New Years cards, it's ni…
/r/RedPillWives01/01/17 01:48 AM
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I want to be more diligent about maintaining a workout routine. I'm good about being active but I tend to just do lots of random things, I think having more structure would be good for me and help me actually get better at the things I want to do. I want to finish at least 6 pieces for gifts using the new patterns I have (I do embroidery). I want to keep upgrading my wardrobe. I've always been a very feminine dresser, but in the last couple of years I've been transitioning, style wise, a bit. I'…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 01:28 AM
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They're not only corn and chicken feed fed (and given hormones) but also pumped up with water. It actually usually says on the packaging that water has been added, this allows cheap food companies to add weight to their chicken breasts (and you pay per pound). I believe it's part of why so much chicken is dry and overcooked in the USA, because the water quickly evaporates and there is little natural fat/bone to flavor things and keep things moist. If you purchase chicken breast that is organic y…
/r/RedPillWives31/12/16 05:37 AM
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I just want to express my gratitude for this community. Thanks to all of you for pushing me to be the best version of myself!
/r/RedPillWives31/12/16 05:33 AM
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Thanks! I have some wonderful female friends, who really do have a lot to give, but who just put sooooo much into a relationship that's not there. One girl I know stayed with a guy because he called her to make sure she got back to her house safely. I mean, he ditched on plans with her on multiple occasions, never said they were exclusive, and was very hot and cold, but because he was sweet and would occasionally inquire about her well being she took that to mean he was a soul mate. There's no b…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 04:56 AM
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I can only speak to my own experience, but it may help you a bit. I always knew I never wanted children (my Captain is the same way, I was always very up front about my tendencies when dating), and most women I've met who are still childfree and happy about it at my age (30s+) are similar. We have spoken about how it's as if we were simply created without that mommy urge. I've honestly never had it, at all, no pangs at all. I babysat for years, had younger family members I cared for, etc. I had …
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 04:32 AM
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welp, now i know that exists.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 04:21 AM
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I can give you some tips on the cooking front! I'm a very good home cook and frequently entertain large groups. Here's my secret: 80% of being a good cook is planning and time management, 20% is practice and flexibility. I'm a SAHW and I love to cook, so I frequently tackle difficult recipes that take hours, for me it's fun, BUT you don't have to spend a crazy amount of time cooking to make healthy and delicious meals. Keep in mind that when you first start cooking it will feel as if each meal t…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 04:02 AM
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I feel like you'd also have to include questions that depend on external feedback. Things like, how often do you get asked out by someone you hardly know, how long have you been friends with your best friend and how often do you argue., have you ever had a falling out with a close friend or family member, how often do you feel life hands you stressful and unpredictable circumstances, do you often find yourself shocked by the behavior of others, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 03:39 AM
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This is absolutely an indication of how your future with him will be.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/16 05:23 PM
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Haha, to be honest it was one of the best meals of my life...food wise. Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/16 12:03 AM
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I would be direct yet polite. When the person in question says something passive-aggressive, say "I know you're joking, but you keep bringing up X when we're around each other, it kind of makes me think you're still upset with me, are you?" Most often people will just backpedal like mad. Honesty is the best way to diffuse passive aggression.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 09:25 PM
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Me too! I like roasted veggie salads. My favorite is roasted carrots, roasted purple yams, arugula, tomatoes, and mozzarella, dressed in raspberry balsamic and olive oil.
/r/RedPillWives26/12/16 09:06 PM
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This was an oddly titled article, don't you think? I felt like it was more about head versus heart when it comes to saving money, and hardly at all about nagging. Still a super interesting read, but I'm not seeing the connection with nagging.
/r/RedPillWives26/12/16 08:18 PM
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I. ATE. SO. MUCH. I see lots of soup and salad in my future...
/r/RedPillWives26/12/16 08:03 PM
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Trust what a man does, not what he says. He honestly doesn't sound like he was that into you. He's overwhelmed by his own situation and he's using it as a reason to get out of this relationship now. Don't be a defeatist and say you can't date another man now. You've had to multiple times confirm his interest with him, navigate mixed signals, and wait while he doesn't return your calls. You're only seeing what you want to see, this isn't the perfect relationship you've made it out to be in your h…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 07:49 PM
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Oh man, this totally gave me a flashback to one of the WORST dates I ever went on. This guy was so hot, like, ridiculously hot. He was also really well off and took me on a crazy extravagant date...but the conversation was like pulling teeth. He didn't pick up on sarcasm or humor at all, and he answered questions with one word responses. It was so painful. By the end of the date I didn't even think he was cute because I just wanted to GTFO of there.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 07:41 PM
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I think what helped me avoid this (despite sleeping with quite a few people before meeting my husband) was reserving my emotions during the dating process. I can have a great time with a guy, think he's smart, and be attracted to him (even sleep with him) without falling head over heels immediately. I have female friends who "fall in love" so easily it boggles my mind. If they go on a couple of dates, have a decent time, and there aren't any red flags they start picking out wedding china. I was …
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 07:15 PM
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I agree that therapy is often BP. Have you read "Bad Childhood Good Life" by Dr. Laura? It helped me immensely and speaks to lots of the type of issues you've lived through.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 06:50 PM
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There's only one reason I never dated anyone who I didn't want to marry: it potentially leads to missing out on other better partners. You don't want to be in a relationship when you actually meet Mr. Right, and your odds of meeting him at all are much higher if you're single.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 06:27 PM
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I think I'm understanding you a bit better now, thanks for being patient with me :) I have a few questions: Do you feel like you get any relaxation or fun time? Do you and your husband do anything fun/romantic together? I'm wondering if you'd feel less resentful of him being "lazy" if you also had time to recharge. Something simple like making time to work out, taking bubble baths (if that's your thing) or going out to dinner just the two of you might make a world of difference. I get the sense …
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 06:19 PM
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It depends on the person. I like my setup (obviously, lol) basically I'm a housewife now but my job prior was working from home on a freelance basis. I still pick up projects a few times a year, we don't really need the money, but it keeps my resume up to date. When I'm working on a project it's MAX 15 hours a week. I don't so much worry about supporting myself, but I like to have the option to work just in case he would get injured or something like that. On the other hand, since I don't have a…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 06:08 PM
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:) thanks! it really helped me come to terms with the fact that my nagging was totally unwarranted.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 11:45 PM
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I mentioned the money thing because you referenced feeling overwhelmed with the amount of work you have to do (kids/housework/and a part time job) and you mentioned money being tight. I just thought maybe that's where some of this dissatisfaction might be coming from, apologies if that's not the case. I know you say you don't think he's inferior, but you also say: "I fear that if I make it through these next few years and work on my issues (RPW), I'll be so over the top amazing woman (sorry but …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 10:12 PM
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hahahahaha
/r/RedPillWives23/12/16 08:44 PM
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Whew! I have to say I'm a little confused about why you're so dissatisfied. You describe yourself in a pretty unflattering way (lazy, lied about some things early on, jumped into motherhood w/o much of a plan), yet believe your husband is inferior and will become more so if you continue to improve. It sounds like your only direct gripe is that he doesn't help with kids/housework. Is that correct? You've written a lot of words but I feel there is very little actual information here. You say he pu…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 08:23 PM
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Has anyone seen this commercial? It always makes me think of you ladies, lol. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=esvvVsX7TEQ It's like a snapshot of who not to be. I always think it's funny how the same independent gurl feministos who argue that everything we say is wrong...still experience and showcase exactly what we're describing.
/r/RedPillWives23/12/16 07:51 PM
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Yes! The sheer number of options seems to have catapulted some people into thinking they have to do as much as possible. I call it the cult of busyness.
/r/RedPillWives23/12/16 07:47 PM
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Yes! My phrase for asking for things is totally stolen from Laura Doyle, I say either, "I'd love if you could/would be willing to/would ...xyz", or, "I can't do/finish xyz, can you help me?" Works like a charm!
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 06:12 AM
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In my opinion, you're trying to be something that you aren't yet. It's his house, it's his lawn, that means it's his decision. You spend so much time with him that you feel pride in how the house/lawn looks...but you shouldn't, you don't live there, you're not a member of that household. That part aside, I think if you do continue with this relationship you must accept that what you're seeing is who he is. You've already said he doesn't want to do chores unless it's absolutely necessary, that's …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 05:00 AM
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I'm confused. 4-5 times a month is at minimum once a week, unless it's spaced out strangely? How long are your typical dry spells? While I admit that once a week is not ideal, it's quite different from having regular 10 day dry spells. Edited to add: How often do you give blowjobs? Who initiates sex? Do you feel he is not physically attracted to you? When you very first got together did you have lots of sex or was it still rare?
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 04:36 AM
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All I think when I read this is LAUREN BACALL. She's so powerful, she's not meek and helpless, but she's also ridiculously feminine and so sexy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 04:16 AM
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I agree, inspiring a man can move mountains, nagging him will move him...away from you. On another note, I fall into the category you described as having a massive SMV shift, which I believe is partially why I was able to find a great Captain so early on, and keep him. I met my husband at 21, and while many of my other female friends also had great boyfriends at that time, they tossed these awesome men aside while I stayed with him. I knew how rare a man of his quality was. When you go from bein…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 04:13 AM
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:)
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 10:27 PM
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thanks, i never meant to intimate that all people must do any one thing or another. i definitely don't think of rpw as a set of strict rules,lol, i certainly wouldn't meet all the criteria if it were. i'll be more delicate with phrasing in the future to indicate that it is only representative of my own specific experience and not a reflection of anything else :) thanks!
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 08:04 PM
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I completely agree with all of this. I think the misunderstanding stems from the fact that I was trying to speak in broad sweeping generalities. In the future I'll just keep it to my own personal experience and hopefully that will cut down on lack of clarity. It can be tough to adapt to using all of this sub's terminology and language usage is very much dissected here, so sometimes I get frustrated and feel like I shouldn't post for fear of being misunderstood. I think it's part of why I lurked …
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 07:54 PM
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ah, ok. i'm a bit confused about the bit where you say you don't want to tie actions/dressing as a RPW way to do things. isn't that a lot of what this sub is about? if RPW is about sexual strategy then i think semantically it makes sense (just for clarity) to reference what an RPW stance versus bluepill or other stance might be. i feel like i frequently see people write about the "RPW" way of doing things here, but maybe i am totally missing something?
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 07:42 PM
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Sorry, I feel like I wasn't very clear. I wasn't trying to say that dressing sexy is bad, quite the opposite. I'm a pretty sexy dresser myself. I was trying to illustrate (poorly I guess, lol) that just as you might show cleavage without having sex with someone, you can also show your RMV skills without submitting 100% prior to a LTR. I also wasn't trying to say that all RPW don't have sex with men quickly, but I thought it was generally believed that usually that's not an ideal route to take.
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 07:32 PM
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I'll speak to the bonus question part. I do NOT think women should submit before they have a serious LTR or marriage. You can still do things for a guy, like cook dinner, showcase your homemaking skills by keeping a clean home, be sweet, not nag, let him take the lead on calling/planning dates, be supportive, give him some cookies, etc. But, I've seen way too many women treat recent boyfriends or even guys they're just dating like husbands. They clean their houses for them, do their laundry, pac…
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 07:20 PM
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Is it really .1% of the time? Be honest, how many times a month are you having duty sex? If it's an issue like you say it is I can guarantee it's not that rare! I almost always have sex when he initiates even if I don't feel initially into it, and I initiate as well, however, every once in a while I just don't feel physically good. I might be bloated from PMS or being sick, have a migraine, or whatever. Honestly, I'd say I turn him down about once every 3 months, so 4 times a year, and because i…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 07:02 PM
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Fantastic post! What first attracted me to RPW was that it was all about personal responsibility and self-improvement. I also think it's funny how people get so up in arms about RPW and TRP. To those who do I have a question: do you agree with every single user and every single post on every reddit sub you are a part of? Yeah...that's what I thought. Most RPW info has helped me improve my relationship immensely, some of it doesn't apply to me, and I think a small percentage of it is flawed/incor…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 06:29 PM
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This resonates with me so much. I grew up with lots of nagging and naturally became a nagger too. I also felt my little quips were "useful/helpful/needed"...lol, nope. I think you really got to the root of nagging when you said, " She doubted my judgement." The honest to goodness root of nagging is the earnest belief that you know better than everyone you nag, which is pretty gross. Part of how I stopped nagging was thinking before I spoke. When I had a "tip" to share I would picture myself firs…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 06:07 PM
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I say leave it alone, based purely on the fact that you're "at a new workplace". Don't muddle your work life by dispensing relationship advice, especially relationship advice that most people don't want to hear. If she was a good friend for years it would be different, but this is first and foremost a co-worker.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 03:11 AM
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I think part of the reason for this is also because now people live above their means and have way more access to (and insight into) the trappings of wealth. Homes have literally gotten larger, middle class families didn't used to take vacations on airplanes across the country, or send their kids to private college, or own two cars, or enroll their kids in dance/soccer/hockey/lacrosse/tutoring. People were financially more stable 60 years ago because they lived within their means (it was very di…
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 02:53 AM
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I love winter! I have two pairs of nice black leather boots (one ankle and one calf length, both pikolinos), and then I have a pair of intense outdoorsy snow/hiking boots (vasque). I pair those with dresses and tights and skirts/tops. I have a brown suede skirt that's kind of '60s looking and a black leather pencil skirt that I love. I also have a few form fitting but not revealing dresses. I don't look good in that 50s hourglass style so I go for a more fitted pencil skirt or mini skirt 60's vi…
/r/RedPillWives22/12/16 02:15 AM
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I value my intuition and innate understanding of human interactions. I'm introspective but also outwardly compassionate, which allows me to easily navigate other people's feelings. I think these qualities are all more common in women than in men. I think women are more anticipatory by nature and pick up on little things. I also love feminine beauty, not just my own outward appearance but valuing beauty in all things. I instinctively want to make the things around me lovely and when I do things I…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/16 04:50 AM
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Aw, I love that! It's so nice to be able to make something from scratch that people enjoy.
/r/RedPillWives20/12/16 09:35 PM
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I think this series is particularly interesting, it's a bit long but worth the read. There is some BP stuff in it, but the takeaway is pretty clearly RP if you ask me. It's all about these hyper ambitious women and how most of them, after a few years in the workforce, either scale back or opt out completely, and how those who try to "have it all" are the most unhappy of all the groups. https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2016/12/the-ambition-interviews-a-table-of-contents/510848/ I thin…
/r/RedPillWives20/12/16 07:31 PM
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If you always have to initiate I feel that's a sign that either A. he isn't that interested. B. he isn't a very proactive man. Neither option is good in my opinion. Lots of guys spinning plates take this approach, they'll respond but not initiate. This is also something I've seen guys do when they want to let a girl down easily. And of course, it's a fairly common move among guys who are just completely not go-getters. I strongly disagree that it's a fear that he'll be labeled a rapist, in a way…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/16 06:26 PM
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Today I'm going into Christmas overdrive! I'm baking about 12 dozen cookies and sending out all of our cards! Last year, on a whim, I made cookies for my husband to take to the office and all of his co-workers freaked out, like "your wife BAKES?" haha, he said two different single guys in the office came up to him later and asked where we met and expressed that they wanted a wife too! It made me feel so good and I could tell it made my husband feel super proud. He asked me to make cookies again …
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 09:11 PM
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Thank you!!!
/r/RedPillWives19/12/16 03:15 AM
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That sounds fantastic! I love Mexican cuisine!
/r/RedPillWives18/12/16 05:27 AM
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I feel stupid typing this, but is there a guide for using an IRC/how to get to the RPW space and log on? I've never used one before so I am noob to the max.
/r/RedPillWives18/12/16 05:08 AM
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Hi! :) cheers
/r/RedPillWives18/12/16 05:06 AM
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Thanks! It's wonderful to be here!
/r/RedPillWives18/12/16 05:06 AM
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I laughed so hard at "If you play your cards right, your sensitive, goateed dad/boyfriend/professor will reward you with a pair of socks made out of his extra sweater sleeves."
/r/RedPillWives17/12/16 08:09 PM
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Bonjour! I'm newish to having an account and posting but I'm a longtime lurker. Most of RPW theory fits my relationship/personality and reflects what I believe to be true. I've been married for 5 years and was with my husband for 5 years before that (exclusive LTR). I like the vibe here because people are direct but it's all in the spirit of improving each other, that's pretty cool. Also, like many of you, I can't really talk relationship dynamics with my IRL lady friends because they'd probably…
/r/RedPillWives17/12/16 12:56 AM
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This makes way more sense. I like "desire game" as a name!
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 10:37 PM
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I definitely see your point! I think I did focus mostly on basic stuff without considering more advanced techniques. I guess in my head I was imagining a non-RPW who is already married and then finds RPW? Haha, I have no idea why that's the only scenario I pictured. I'm psyched too, definitely want to keep discussing!
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 10:24 PM
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Yep. This is where the twist in the storyline is and you find out this whole thing is like that awful movie The Lake House except they're both you and it's on the interwbz, hahaha.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 10:18 PM
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Oh I agree it doesn't really need to be 12 steps, I just thought it would be kind of an interesting experiment to try to match it up. I also think this would be way shorter for a single woman looking for an LTR because leaving is such a more readily available option. I also agree that this wouldn't increase tension in the way male dread might, but I don't think that's the goal for most women who are in relationships that are struggling. I think if the guy is already withdrawn adding more tension…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 10:12 PM
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If I could build a house of mashed potatoes and live inside of it, I would. Maybe add in a gravy moat too.
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 07:04 PM
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Absolutely! I'm also UMC and growing up I traveled internationally for summer programs, as did my friends. I never hooked up at any of them! Those summers were all about girl bonding and perfecting hobbies.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 06:36 PM
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I so agree with this article. It's funny that you posted it now because just this week my dysfunctional mother called to rant about some lies my father told her. It sounds uncaring but I honestly wasn't surprised at all. I lied to her constantly growing up because the cost of telling the truth was so high. She freaks out at everything, rants and raves, and tries to control everything...then acts shocked that her husband lies. If you want people to tell you the truth you have to be the type of pe…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/16 06:22 PM
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Haha, it's kind of funny too because it's often really young single guys telling us ladies who are already married that n-count/some other criteria is so vital you basically can't find a quality guy if you're over some set number/they only want to hook up with you. If my husband is just in it to hook up with me he's really invested a lot into this 10 year con.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 05:22 PM
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Yeah I've absolutely never understood the travel thing. I've always wondered if that was somewhat class based, like maybe people who are lower or lower middle class and have very little travel experience think travel = random sex? If you're upper middle class or above the odds of anyone over the age of 18 having never been away from home without a parent is virtually nonexistent.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 05:17 PM
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Thanks for the detailed response! Your criteria seems like a pretty good way to determine lots of positive/negative characteristics in a potential partner.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 11:48 PM
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Well said. I think the cardiologist analogy is perfect because it also deals with high stress, gore, and life and death. At the end of the day you can do the job or you can't. If women are good enough, and I'm certain some are, then they should be able to meet the previously set standards. If you can't meet the standards...YOU CAN'T MEET THE STANDARDS.
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 11:17 PM
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Aw, thanks! :) Ten years together (total) and five married, so far smooth sailing! Best of luck to you as well!
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 11:08 PM
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Hahaha, I see what you did there.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 10:50 PM
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What's the criteria/approach you use for assessing what a woman's n-count is without asking her? Also, how do you confirm that your system of hypothesizing is accurate when you don't actually ask?
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 10:44 PM
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THIS. I think you hit the nail on the head. It makes a lot of leftist's brains spin when they have to try to rationalize multiculturalism and mash it into their western view of rights.
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 10:41 PM
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I have this same situation. I have to eat small portions and avoid too many carbs to maintain my figure while the husband can eat crazy amounts of food. I make lots of pasta sides, garlic bread sides, couscous sides, rice stuffing sides, classic stuffing, double serving of mashed potatoes, double serving of sweet potatoes, lots of extra cheese on his plate. etc.
/r/RedPillWives15/12/16 10:37 PM
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8 including my husband, no idea what his number is. We met when I was fairly young, so if I'd happened to not meet him until mid or late 20s my number would have been even higher.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 10:15 PM
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Maybe extremely rude wasn't the right word choice. I guess it would just be considered invasive and maybe reflect negatively on the asker, like it might lead the person being asked to think the asker was insecure or judgmental. Invasive is a better descriptor.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 10:06 PM
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This is one of those rare areas where I don't see TRP theory in my actual life. I admit that it may be about region and culture, I'm not saying n-count isn't important across the board. I can see how if you live in a small town especially everyone would know everyone's business, and you don't want to constantly run into people you've slept with. In real life I've never been asked my number by anyone (not even a girlfriend!). In my social sphere that would be considered extremely rude and people …
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 06:13 AM
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The thank you card tip is genius. They might pass out from the shock of someone with social graces.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 05:03 AM
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Always bring a gift! You don't have to spend a ton, and make sure it's something to either consume or that's small enough to pack. A host gift is always a winner. Also, offer to cook dinner for everyone one night! Just tell them you'd really love the chance to cook dinner, that you love cooking, and that it would be fun for you. When I phrase it like that I've literally never had anyone turn me down. Just act like it's zero trouble and a given! Those two things will go a long way. Since the fami…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 05:02 AM
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Congratulations Mama!!!!
/r/RedPillWives14/12/16 11:11 PM
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I am grateful for my amazing husband who just got a raise at work. I'm so proud of him and so honored that he wants to take care of me. I'm grateful for my warm home. I see so many people on the streets where I live, and as the weather turns cold some of them will freeze and die. I am so lucky to have a warm and safe home. I'm thankful for my own resilience. I see so many people in my life who are unable to move past traumas, unable to take personal responsibility for their lives, and have no id…
/r/RedPillWives14/12/16 11:11 PM
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Being empathetic has nothing to do with giving advice. True empathy is understanding someone else's feelings and needs and experiences. Have you heard that the golden rule is "treat others as you want to be treated" but that the platinum rule is "treat others as they want to be treated"? Repeat the platinum rule to yourself when you feel the need to give unsolicited advice. True empathy should allow you to see that when your man is frustrated what he needs is someone who gets him, someone who no…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 07:51 PM
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I suppose when I was dating and single I discriminated against men who weren't smart, funny, handsome, and compassionate. What a monster I must be...
/r/RedPillWives14/12/16 04:34 AM
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Fair enough, you can discount the studies completely if you feel they are unsound. It sounds like you still generally agree that "people are generally attracted to those with similar intelligence levels".
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 04:00 AM
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Studies on assortative mating and intelligence.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 07:12 PM
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Talking about the future doesn't mean much if the present isn't even established yet. If it's too early to even bring up being exclusive then it's probably too early for sex if you're actually interested in a LTR. If you're cool with a FWB scenario then you may as well go for it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 06:27 AM
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Yes to this! I think being able to joke about it makes it more of a fun thing than anything that invokes jealousy. Some of that probably comes with years of being together and feeling secure, but I'm amazed by other couples who get in a snit if their SO thinks another person is attractive. Like, if your LTR is that fragile there's another problem brewing.
/r/RedPillWives13/12/16 05:05 AM
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For years we would trade off Thanksgiving/Christmas between my family and his. After the last disastrous pre-Thanksgiving travel experience we decided to do that holiday at my family's house (much closer by) and visit his family every January. Surprisingly everyone was fine with that, so now we get to spend Christmas at home! Usually we just open presents, eat lots of candy, and I make something more gourmet than usual. It's fun!
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 04:23 AM
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Good: I've been keeping up with housework and investing in my friendships more. Had fun at a holiday party and husband got a big bonus at work, yay! Bad: Sink is broken and I've been dealing with the runaround from plumbers all day. I can't cook because it's the kitchen sink and when I turn it on water leaks out the bottom! Gah! Ugly: I haven't been keeping a good schedule at all. Left to my own devices I turn nocturnal, which isn't so bad because I'm a housewife and the husband doesn't mind at …
/r/RedPillWives12/12/16 09:33 PM
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For one thing you stop dating fixer upper type guys. Date men who you like "as is", not who you might like if they address a laundry list of items. You can't make someone change and you shouldn't be in charge of someone else's (especially a man's) development and improvement. You've repeatedly said you think the issue is your location. If this is actually true, and you have no fault in any of this, move. People move from areas without good jobs to larger areas with more options all the time. Tha…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/16 07:03 PM
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I don't think a man sharing his feelings is a turn on, but I do think it's necessary for a successful LTR. It's kind of like how men aren't "attracted" to intelligence in women, but still usually end up with someone close to their IQ. Logistically there are going to be problems in a relationship where the man has an IQ of 150 and the woman has an IQ of 90. It's simply unlikely to work. By the same token some level of expressing feelings is necessary for most women. Being with a man who is so sto…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/16 06:39 PM
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I think that as a new product it will be niche. There are already highly realistic sex dolls, and they are not only expensive and niche, but also seen as generally socially unacceptable. I think before there are typical at-home sex bots there will be virtual brothels where people can rent their time with a sex bot. I wouldn't be surprised if in the future (I'm talking 30-50 years from now) most people have their "first time" with a sex-bot. However, I don't see that as being as far off from porn…
/r/RedPillWives10/12/16 05:12 AM
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I'll add a comment to include the two questions in the edit. I am certain there are (straight) outliers for whom traditional gender roles don't apply. I have no doubt that there are happily married couples where the wife is the breadwinner and decision maker and the husband stays home and acts as a support system. However, I also believe there are patterns in human behavior, and I don't think most couples who follow this mold are happy in the longterm. I think most (straight) women want a certai…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/16 04:26 AM
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Politically I'm pretty far left (plus athiest). This forum isn't directly about politics; it's about real world relationship dynamics. Right now the concept that (straight) relationships can actually be improved by understanding inherent gender differences causes a knee-jerk negative reaction in a lot of liberals. So, it makes sense that many people who are open to this concept have a conservative outlook. I personally don't have any trouble being pro-choice, supporting gay and trans rights, and…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/16 11:11 PM
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I may be wrong but what you describe sounds to me like a FWB scenario, or as TRP might say "being plated". It doesn't sound like you go out on dates, he hasn't made it clear that you're his girlfriend and the relationship is exclusive. I'm not sure how to bring up serious future plans because you're not in a relationship now.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/16 08:32 PM
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Yikes, I don't mean to disparage but my experience with trust fund guys has not been positive. When people have unlimited money (that they didn't earn) it can have very negative effects. In my opinion an alpha man would probably not even touch his trust (except to invest it), content to make it on his own instead. To be honest, the women I know with trust funds aren't any better off. They tend to flounder, rarely work, quit things when they want to, etc. Many of them seem to be depressed and fla…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/16 10:52 PM
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I was dealt a pretty rough hand at a very young age, so I sort of had to come to terms with the fact that life was unfair. I think in a way that's made life much easier for me than most people. I guess I'd suggest not focusing so much on how unfair life is and focusing more on how insanely lucky you are. If you're alive now, and you're in a developed country, you are wealthier and safer than most people who have lived throughout history. You have more options than most people throughout history.…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/16 10:32 PM
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Agreed. I think some of the comments about the wall come from really young men (like 20 year olds) who think 30 is soooo old. They also assume they can point out a 33 year old in a crowd of 26 year olds, but that's not been my experience at all. I still get asked my major (as in college, lol, I graduated 10 years ago) on a regular basis and get carded by men and women alike.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/16 10:25 PM
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It can be difficult to find something that pays well from home right away. I worked in an office full time for a few years (while dating). Then I switched to working full time from home. We got engaged and I went down to part time, after he started earning more and I didn't need to work anymore. My path probably isn't replicable for everyone, just one of many ways to get there!
/r/RedPillWives08/12/16 05:01 AM
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I didn't, until I met my husband. Once I met him I just knew I wanted to be with him forever. He felt the same way, hence we got married.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/16 03:50 AM
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I would encourage her to find paid work that she can do from home. This not only offers her the chance to get out of the workplace and be home all day (to make sure she likes it!) before finding a man, it gives her more options as a homemaker in the future. After she's dating someone for a while (once she has an at home job) she can bring up that she'd love to go down to part time work someday in the future. His reaction will say a lot. Some guys will scoff or think she's lazy and some will reac…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 10:31 PM
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This is really helpful. My problem with resentment is that I sometimes don't recognize it until it's too late. I think some of this comes from being a people pleaser and having to grow up very quickly. I'm used to just "sucking it up", so to speak, but in a relationship that's not a good thing if it breeds resentment. I'll definitely be using your Am I Resentful? questions, I'm so guilty of...all of them. Haha.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 10:04 PM
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Aww! Yay! This is fabulous.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 04:07 AM
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Giving to others is always a good way to build gratitude for your life! If you make yourself into the best version of your self you have nothing to fear. There are many women who are prettier than I am, there were when I was 18 as well. I'm also prettier than a lot of other women. I'm smarter than some people, less smart than others. I'm more emotionally evolved than some, but not all. I'm a great cook, but there are better home cooks out there. My point is, no one has everything. That girl who …
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/16 06:47 AM
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I think it's great that you're thinking about all of this in advance because I totally didn't! We split our household tasks in a pretty stereotypical way, which works for our personalities/strengths. What you do beyond the basics really depends on your lifestyle and your husband's tastes/needs. These are my standbys: I pack my husband's breakfast (including coffee) and lunch every day. He loves it, and it saves us a ton of money. All it requires is a little extra time and meal planning! I learne…
/r/RedPillWives05/12/16 04:56 AM
2

And I you! It sounds like you're on the right track to hit all of your ER goals! (I'm a MMM reader as well!)
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 08:29 PM
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If I could speak to my younger more insecure self I'd tell her not to worry so much about aging. I'm addressing the looks thing since that seems to be what's bothering you the most. I was terribly afraid of getting older and "losing my looks". The truth is, it isn't some sudden drop off unless you really don't take care of yourself. I'm sure if you placed a high-def photo of me at 18 next to one of me now you would see some differences in skin quality, I'm not saying there aren't any changes. Ho…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/16 06:21 PM
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I love the idea of vetting through a financial frame!
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 08:00 AM
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This is a fantastic post, I couldn't agree more! Getting serious about money early on will save you a boatload of stress later. I feel so blessed that my husband and I lived frugally from the start of our relationship. While many of our peers were spending like crazy through their twenties, going on trips they couldn't really afford, and racking up credit card debt on top of their student loans, we had a blast eating dinner at home, entertaining, going to free events, and indulging in the occasi…
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 06:45 AM
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:) aw, thanks!
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 04:12 AM
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Can't wait!
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 04:12 AM
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I have a thought that hasn't been expressed here yet. I've been with my husband for 10 (almost 11!) years, so we've been through quite a lot together. I have learned that him being able to vent to me is extremely important. Is it at all possible that this was merely personal venting that you are seriously blowing out of proportion? I know the way my husband (and I think many other men are similar) talks about things is different than how I talk. For example, he has this one co-worker who he real…
/r/RedPillWives04/12/16 04:05 AM
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Oh I agree that in a non-serious FWB way that can happen. I was talking more about a serious LTR where the bedroom goes totally dead despite initial attraction.
/r/RedPillWives03/12/16 05:05 AM
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You think he should just get past the fact that he'll be judged by your family and that he's nervous about being alone with the kids. He thinks you should just adapt and visit a different time. To me, this is an ideal opportunity to submit. This is the type of argument that blue pill couples spend hours dissecting and talking about and measuring. This is the yielding aspect of being RPW! You want one thing, he prefers another, it's an impasse. You either let go a little, acknowledge that maybe y…
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 07:11 PM
2

And with that the ghost of Christmas future cast a vision into the sky, "this," he said, "is what will happen if you don't seek out TRP."
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 06:28 PM
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Agreed. Women like your sister find the idea that gender exists to be really threatening to their own identities. Also, I find that often women like that (she sounds like a friend of mine) often marry men who they wouldn't have married if they were looking for a Captain. They drive the ship because they don't actually believe their guy is capable of doing it, and frankly he might not be. As RPW we would simply pass on a guy who didn't seem capable of leading in that way. Opening up the whole gen…
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 06:23 PM
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My husband would never treat me this way. What you're describing isn't Captain/First Mate behavior at all. He has two train wreck relationships in his past, that's pretty telling. Let me guess, they ended completely because of the girls, right? Nothing was his fault? Trust me, that's never the case. I think during your first few months he was on his best behavior, now you're seeing the real him, and the real him is stunningly insecure, combative, overly sensitive, and frankly kind of mean. Being…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 06:09 PM
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This times a million!
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 04:51 AM
1

It depends on the type of manly guy you want! Can you describe what a masculine guy is to you and what type of masculine personality you like? Just like there are different types of feminine (mother type who loves to knit, art gallery assistant who loves fashion, bookish girl who is a great supportive listener, etc.) there are different ways to express masculinity. I think most masculine men are take charge types, can handle any situation, put your safety first, and like traditional roles, but t…
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 04:49 AM
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Yes, this is the basic explanation I was taught. I was told there isn't any real difference in the genders, and that any apparent differences were due purely to social conditioning.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 04:40 AM
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This thing with kids is so true. My parents were very anti gender rules. I wasn't allowed dolls and my brothers weren't allowed guns. Well, they used wooden blocks as fake guns, and I tied a blanket around my head (for princess hair, duh) and started sewing my own dolls. Both brothers ended up in the military and I ended up in ballet, lol.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 04:38 AM
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Totally agree. Anytime I hear married/partnered women (or men) talk about how love isn't ideal, how marriage is "hard work", how there's no such thing as fairy tales, how all passion fades and that's not how "real life" is...it just makes me sad. All that stuff about how when you leave the honeymoon period everything changes, it just sounds like a bunch of people defending their terrible partnering decisions.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 04:34 AM
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I think I know what you mean. In response to the deadbedrooms example, I think that men are able to feel their sexual desire despite other stimuli. Like, a guy can have a high conflict relationship with his wife, and still want sex. Whereas once a woman stops respecting a guy, no matter how physically hot he is or how great he is in bed, she just won't be in the mood.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 04:28 AM
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One of the most rewarding things about RPW principles for me isn't just what they've done for my relationship but what they've done for me as an individual. I had a very solid relationship before, and RPW boosted it and made it spectacular, but the difference in my life as a woman is a world apart. Reading on RPW (and other self help books mentioned frequently here), I feel like for the very first time I got access to a manual of my own emotions and brain. I was raised in a dysfunctional home, a…
/r/RedPillWives02/12/16 04:07 AM
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Yes. IMO, he most likely met/started seeing someone else. Childhood trauma isn't really a great reason to be a dysfunctional adult, and I doubt that was the case here.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 03:55 AM
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This, absolutely. I'd like to thank you for being a regular male poster who consistently posts useful responses. OP, "commitment" is not a solid object that is identical the world over. The issue with any theory of relationships, including TRP and RPW, is that it cannot account for every personality or scenario. The aims of a divorcee who is 30, a widow who is 60, and a single girl who is 20 will not be the same. Religion, socioeconomic status, and culture come into play as well. The purpose of …
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/16 05:59 AM
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Aww, I love this! I can't WAIT to have a big kitchen for just this purpose. Super sweet story!
/r/RedPillWives01/12/16 04:35 AM
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haha, yayyyyy!
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 11:57 PM
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I feel you on this. We eat 80% primal in our house, but I definitely need the occasional carb party.
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 11:56 PM
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Crab Alfredo? Wine? Gilmore Girls? puts shoes on I'm coming over.
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 09:35 PM
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This is fantastic! Isn't it amazing how far being a little sweet and understanding goes? Sounds like you're doing a great job at balancing being catering without overbearing. A+!
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 09:33 PM
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Lately I've been keeping a household planner and that has really helped! Since you said you don't like organizing I figured I'd share my method :) maybe it will help! I started organizing by making a master list of every single task that needs tending to (frequent and infrequent/seasonal), from cooking dinner to dusting to sending Christmas cards. This list will be huge, don't freak out. It might take you a few days to add everything to your list. Once your master list is done make categories, I…
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 06:46 PM
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Agreed. If this is a continuing thing, OP, you need to move on. This is a massive character defect IF this is how he typically handles conflict. I understand that this may just be a one off. In general, he should we jumping in to take care of problems as they arise, and taking initiative without prompting. Sulking is not Captain behavior. I think RPW can be confusing in situations like yours, because basically you're going to any length possible to improve yourself in this situation. That's a go…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/16 06:25 PM
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haha, serious skills.
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 03:43 AM
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Hahaha, are we married to the same man? That's totally something my guy would do.
/r/RedPillWives29/11/16 07:24 PM
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I think there are a few different factors here. I met my husband fairly young, so naturally it was way before his peak financial years. To be honest, he still hasn't peaked in his career. His lack of immediate financial success when we met never mattered to me, because I knew everything would work out fine. Here's why I wasn't at all concerned: He had a plan. He wasn't at the finish line yet, but he also wasn't just flailing around. A guy with zero motivation is very different than a guy who isn…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 07:13 PM
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I used to ask for confirmation that things were ok. I told him I knew it was silly, but I also had flashbacks and nightmares for a while, so sometimes I was a bit disoriented and I'd just sort of repeatedly ask, "everything is still ok, right?" He was ridiculously patient with me, but the majority of the work had to be done on myself internally. All the support in the world won't make those inside scars heal, you have to really dig into how this stuff works and then practice re-wiring your brain…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 06:54 PM
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You have a few issues at play here. The first is that you feel "ugly" despite being fit and having a job and your own place. You need to work on your self esteem. I'm not saying you're a supermodel, but maybe you have great hair, a nice body, a cute face, great legs, etc. Figure out your strengths and highlight them! I'm not going to say you're actually a perfect 10, maybe you're a solid 4...well, that's ok! There are plenty of great supportive guys who would love a solid 4! The key here is that…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 04:16 AM
2

I have experience with something similar. What you're describing sounds to me like a PTSD response. The best course of action is to treat it just like any other malady. When you learn more about PTSD and how it manifests it becomes much easier to control the response. One thing I found helpful was having a phrase to say to myself. My phrase was, "this situation feels the same as my past trauma, but it's not the same. this is not the same situation. i am safe now." These things take time, just li…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 02:30 AM
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So, you're having mind blowing sex with a guy who used to be spinning plates and who now only wants to be with you? To me, his words and actions seem indicative of a man who is highly taken with you and wants you to feel comfortable and confident. Plus, you've only been together a few months. This behavior is not a bad thing at this point. Now, if he's a complete pushover, get's lazy and soft, starts looking to you to make every decision, etc, begging for your approval, exhibiting feelings of je…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 02:25 AM
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I think marrying before age 24 is a bad idea, but keep in mind you will want to date a few years before getting hitched. I think you're in the best spot to meet a potential Captain when you're 20-25, which would generally have you getting married in your mid to late 20s. That's not only statistically ideal in terms of divorce rates, but also holds up anecdotally among myself and my friends. Nearly all of the women I know met their eventual partner in their early or mid twenties. I know one who m…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 12:37 AM
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I went through this exact experience during our first Christmas in our own household! I bought a high quality reusable tree, a wreath for the front door, stockings and lovely stocking hooks, a few yards of pretty reusable garland (so cheap), and some candles for each window. It prettied up our home without breaking the bank, and it left us with plenty of room for acquiring ornaments and decorations. IMO after you're officially coupled you'll get bombarded with holiday decor from family and frien…
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 01:53 AM
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Mine too! He does numbers stuff for his job too, so it comes with the territory. He loves making multiple graphs, charts, etc, for our personal finances, haha. I love it.
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 01:39 AM
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Totally agree with this! I am also the head chef, household manager, shopper, cleaner, and definitely the head organizer! My husband would rather work on the weekend than have to comparison shop for sofas or plan the itinerary for our next vacation. My husband is the head financial analyst, money maker, lifter/dirty job/outdoor job guy. If I had to sit and do spreadsheets tracking our financial progress and then get the hair out of the drain and clean up the yard, I'd probably cry...but I'll whi…
/r/RedPillWives28/11/16 12:58 AM
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Hello! I pack my husband's breakfast every single day (and have for years) so I have LOTS of ideas. I think searching around is the best way to find recipes that work for you. It's a little tough to suggest specific recipes because I don't know what you like to eat, what's available to you, or what your price range is. I can give you a few of my favorite recipe sites and a list of my favorite breakfast dishes, so you can pick and choose and search around! recipe sites: budgetbytes, tasteofhome, …
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/16 12:50 AM
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A goal without a plan is just a wish. Perfect is the enemy of good. Life is too short to be taken seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/16 12:34 AM
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I don't think it's harsh because these are just general types and not actual human beings. The descriptions of these types on male blogs are pretty raw as well. Besides, no man is all one thing 100%, people are far more nuanced than that. I think types are helpful for recognizing patterns, but obviously they're pretty sweeping.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/16 01:59 PM
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I don't have any resources, and obviously I'm not the best person to ask about male strategy. In terms of sweeping archetypes, I guess I think of the female equivalent of a Sigma to be the best fit. So, not the head cheerleader who throws parties every weekend, but the ballet dancer who sticks with a small group of friends. Not the girl who joins a sorority, but maybe the girl who works on the school newspaper. She doesn't buy every single trend just because her friends are, but she's also not s…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/16 01:51 PM
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I think it's almost impossible to analyze this because people are so unreliable at both self-assessment and judging the looks of their partner (who they presumably love/are highly attracted to). There's a different forum filled with ladies that had a thread a few months back, and the idea was to post a picture of your husband alongside the celebrity he most resembles. Ladies, it was hilarious. There were guys who I literally would rank as a 1 or 2 looks wise, and their wives were absolutely, ear…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 07:52 PM
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No problem! Best of luck, let us know if you discover some unique nuances!
/r/RedPillWives25/11/16 05:35 AM
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Um, NO. This is not ok. Not in any world. I am ok with deferring to my very masculine man for decisions. I am ok with him being the leader of our family. I am ok with serving him and being the absolute best first mate possible, I love waiting on him. I will do anything that makes him happy. I'm not a stupid feminist, I believe strongly in supporting my man to make him the best possible version of himself. What you are describing is not RedPill...it is abusive. This man hasn't hit you...yet. He w…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 05:00 AM
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You can't achieve everything at once. I suggest making a list, like you did here, of everything you want to eventually do. Then, rank each item on a 1-5 scale (1 being not that important, 5 being highly important). Rank each item based on multiple factors (in a chart), like immediate happiness, longterm happiness, personal passion, moral/personal obligation, relationship benefit, immediate feasability. When you're done doing that, add up all the totals and figure out your top three scoring goals…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 04:32 AM
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Yes, an Omega male can hold down a job, even a high paying job...at first. A man can be intelligent and be an Omega, however, it is often the case that he won't advance very far in his career (or as far as he could) due to what he might call "political reasons". Every girl an Omega has dated will probably be described as "insecure" and "crazy". Every boss he has had has been unfairly prejudiced against him. It's never his fault. The truth is that the Omega man makes a lot of people uncomfortable…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 04:17 AM
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Love this, but I've definitely known younger betas in their early 20s! I think it's just that it's hard to spot a true beta until later years, because they often can't land longterm relationships at younger ages and/or seem to have more potential but then never develop it. For example, an old college friend of mine seemed pretty beta, but then did very well in school and got an impressive high earning job out of college. For a minute there it seemed like he was a real go-getter! Of course, now, …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 03:47 AM
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I agree with this assessment. OP, the type of man you marry depends largely on your own needs and personality. I am married to a true Sigma guy, and for me that's the perfect fit. He is not very social and does not have a big group of dude friends, he doesn't like sports. He doesn't engage in smalltalk or a**kissing at work, but still makes a great income because he's extremely intelligent, gets results, and is polite. He intimidates a lot of men because of his intense energy, but women are gene…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/16 03:02 AM
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I think it depends on your ages/experience levels. Being together for a year when you're 30 is different than being together for a year when you're 17. In our first year of dating DH definitely brought up marriage, but he was an experienced 25 year old and I was an inexperienced 21 year old. I wasn't ready to be married yet, even though he told me he knew he wanted me to be his wife! He told me to let him know when I started thinking about marriage, and when I was 25 years old I told him I wante…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 05:19 AM
2

Don't be too hard on yourself, it happens! When I randomly and without warning fart (which is rare but definitely happens from time to time) I always jokingly turn to my husband and exclaim, as if I'm shocked, "I love the trumpet! Is that Dizzy Gillespie I just heard???? Amazing!!!" Lol. He thinks it's hilarious.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 04:29 AM
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I agree with StingrayVC! You should try to replace your anxiety over missing your Captain with gratitude that you have a man who is so wonderful that you miss him! If you're doing all the things you say, like staying fit, seeing female friends, exploring hobbies, etc, I think that's great! When you start to feel that twinge of missing him, just say to yourself, "i am so lucky". When I worked in an office I frequently heard married men and women lament going home, dread seeing their spouses, and …
/r/RedPillWives24/11/16 03:32 AM
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Me too! I am also a pile-maker and not naturally fantastic at housekeeping. What has helped me is making lists and creating weekly plans. I have a few things I do daily (make bed, quick 15 minute cleanup...which I strongly recommend, do dishes, pack breakfast + lunch for the husband, sweep, wipe counters, make dinner, care for kitty, etc.) Then I have my weekly tasks (dusting, windows/all glass, floors, bathroom, laundry, grocery shopping is twice a week). I like to divide my housekeeping into t…
/r/RedPillWives24/11/16 03:03 AM
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When my husband goes into this kind of "recharge mode" where he is a bit more sullen and wants to be alone I think the best thing I can do is continue to be light and cater to his alone time. If he's camped out in front of the computer working I bring him a little appetizer spread, don't require him to take off his headphones and talk, just set it down and give him a quick kiss on the cheek then walk away. If he's watching a movie I bring him some popcorn and then go about my business with a smi…
/r/RedPillWives23/11/16 09:05 PM
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I second this, I think we could have an entire post about the qualities that reflect true femininity (that have nothing to do with "girly" consumerism). I'm a longtime lurker (like years), but new poster, so I'm a bit nervous to start a new thread that's in compliance with the rules.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 07:20 PM
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That looks so good! I love her recipe for braised short ribs.
/r/RedPillWives23/11/16 06:56 PM
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Yes! I think femininity is portrayed in a negative BluePill light (like Jess on New Girl), so it's easier for women to reject it. In media being feminine basically means being a helpless, shallow, gold digging, wildly emotional, useless, dummy. I also think masculinity is dumbed down in media to represent either a guy who is a totally sexist, mean, abusive, cheating pig, or an inept idiot who only cares about beer and football and can't do anything for himself. Of course, there are fantastically…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 04:50 AM
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Thanks! It's honestly a two birds with one stone thing for me, because it makes my guests happy but it also gets tempting leftovers out of the house/prevents them from going bad!
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 02:10 AM
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I don't think being feminine requires you to check every single box on a form. The fact that you would write something like this that analyzes your friendships and evaluates your own feelings in such depth is extremely female in itself! I am also highly logic minded and have a very small group of female friends who are similar to me, so I understand what you are saying. I've never had a huge gaggle of girlfriends. Lots of things about you are feminine, you say you: -Are a sahm -Like to wear the …
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/16 02:08 AM
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Gratitude is the antidote to dissatisfaction. It's good that you're receptive to making gratitude a larger part of your life! It doesn't all have to be gratitude for your husband either (though of course some of it should be) it can also be gratitude for your home, your body, your children, your intelligence, your community, anything! The happier you are, bottom line, the better your relationship will be. I also strongly recommend reading "The Surrendered Wife" and "First Kill All The Marriage C…
/r/RedPillWives22/11/16 05:00 AM
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I love to entertain! In my view the best hostess should put her guests at ease and make the evening feel effortless, not stressful. Here's how I approach hosting for Thanksgiving or any occasion. Hosting Tips Make a one week timeline. The week leading up to the event includes lots of little prep stuff. Make a master list of everything that needs to be done, and then parcel it out over the week long lead up. Be detailed, include items like "buy napkins" and "make mashed potatoes". Shop two days b…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/16 04:22 AM
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Perhaps you should spend more time working on yourself before trying to have a relationship? It sounds like you still have a lot of anger and resistance and misunderstanding. You were being super rude and dismissive to this guy, essentially your reaction said, "you're too stupid for me to even listen to", so it's no wonder he got offended. Men like relationships with women who are honest and direct (which is different from being ASSERTIVE), that's true, but too many rad fem types mistake honesty…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/16 05:57 PM
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You're unlikely to meet your Captain in high school, so now is the ideal time to focus on yourself in a productive way. Develop female friendships, delve into hobbies that make you more interesting and attractive, and stay super fit! Work on body weight style strengthening and flexibility training (dance, acro, silks, etc.), that's what makes the difference between being in or out of shape when you're older. Learn to cook, join clubs at school, and while you do all these things practice patience…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 11:42 PM
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I find it difficult to hang around anyone who complains a lot but takes zero personal responsibility, whether it's about relationships or not. She's not your husband, so you have zero obligation to be her soft place to land. If you've tried honest suggestions, changing the subject, and not piling on, and none of that works...might be time to find some more content friends.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/16 09:01 PM
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I don't understand why thinking about finances takes up so much of your time/mental energy. If you are on the same page and have a plan in place it shouldn't be that huge of a daily burden, but maybe I am missing something? You can start to break the lazy cycle by making a list of everything you'd ideally like to do in the course of a week, and then break down tasks into daily schedules. You don't have to spend 5 hours cleaning on the weekend if you do a little cleaning each day. Similarly, shop…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/16 12:03 AM
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